Just want to say: I used 90 days as an example of a manageable amount of time to make a change. But there is nothing magical about 90 days specifically, and I actually don’t like that type of thinking, which I’ll talk about in the next video ;)
The only TH-camr video im looking forward on my notification, the only notification i set it on. No woo woo (i have no idea what it means). Simple and encouraging for self review for improvement
One of the greatest pieces of advice I have ever gotten is "5 years will pass regardless so if you keep saying you want to learn something just learn it now, in 5 years down the road you'll either have learned the skill or learned you didn't want to learn that skill"
@@jdubs2113 it is but it also isn't. It's 60 months or 20 periods of 90 days. It flies by faster then you think it will. So if you want to do something but keep putting it off start it today. Keep with it even if you suck at first. You'd be surprised at the progress you make when you stop putting excuses up.
90 days ago I was depressed, falling back into smoking weed and drinking alcohol after being sober for so long, now I'm happy, sober, hopeful for the future, consistently working out, eating healthy, spending a lot of time working on my self improvement TH-cam channel, stepping out of my comfort zone, and going to be enrolling for college soon, if you're down right now, keep moving, it will get better as long as you don't give up
90 days ago i felt inspired and full of energy, but 45 days ago i had a deep apathy. Today i feel fairly optimistic but in 45 or even 10 days will have apathy and no willing for life again, and in a month more i will feel enthusiastic for starting a new life again. And it's an endless situation.
I live in a part of the country that gets constant rain and little sunshine this time of the year. There’s tons of fog and clouds as if I turned my render distance on Minecraft down to 1. I generally find it difficult to get out which makes this time of the year challenging for me because I love exploring and being outside. To hear you speak these powerful messages inspires me and makes me want to work every day to be a better man and help those around me. You’re changing peoples lives bro 🔥
New Englander here, this time of year is awful for me too. It’s dark when I wake up and dark when I go home. The sun starts to set around 3pm so I get anxious and it throws my sleep cycle off. It’s so draining how this time of year is. I also tend to not be as active because it’s too cold and dark outside the mornings and evenings are below freezing and there’s ice everywhere. Seasonal depression sucks and I’m sorry you’re going through it.
Hi @TDBRICKS, From your videos, it sure looks like you are living quite an awesome life. I'd love to be in your position, and I'm sure a lot of other people would like to be too. You put in the work to make an awesome channel. If you still have any extra LEGO, I'd appreciate some LEGO technic or whatever you have left.
Few things that helped me understand what needs to be done to actually achieve what I truly desire: Stop believing in motivation, depression, boredom, days off (not counting the gym, muscle needs rest) Understand that you need to be present as much as possible, like handsome bald guy said, time really doesn’t care, it will still go by very quickly. It’s up to you to figure out if doing average things, therefore having an average life, is something that you can be satisfied with. With everyone so asleep in social media, this fake reality, not a lot of people will understand you, including your friends. So don’t second guess if cutting them off is the right thing to do. I don’t know you or your situation but it most likely very much is. Don’t waste your very limited time and energy on nothing and no one that’s not deserving it. Do 100%, 100% of the time. If you can follow these steps, you aren’t even gonna find this so hard to do. Since it would be way harder for you to settle with entropic ‘lifestyle’.
wow seeing that life chart and seeing a visual representation of a person's finite time on earth was kinda terrifying. definitely got a lot out of watching this video thank you
@@SydneyMadueke What's scarier is not everyone gets the entire chart. Yours, or mine, might stop suddenly halfway through, at like, Age 46. At which point, you'd spent far more than 50% of your lifetime thusfar.
I’ve been working towards switching careers for years but finally got into school three weeks ago. I am 31 and I was studying algebra and writing essays all summer, it sucked but it worked out. My last day is tomorrow, I’m FINALLY leaving the career I’ve loathed for years. Never give up on what you want, life is way too short for that
It's important to learn marketable skills of some type that will give you a decent job, and never stop learning. I didn't do that. The only 2 reasons I didn't go to college or further my education was because of my struggles with math all throughout K-12, and some social anxiety issues as well. I was probably the worst student of anyone I knew at math from multiplication onward. I struggled to memorize times tables or do simple mental math, which made everything afterward very, very hard. I barely passed high school because of how horrible I was at math. I think the only reason I did graduate is because it was a very tiny school and the teachers seemed to like me, and probably took it easy on grading my math exit exam so that I could graduate and move on. I did develop skills in my particular industry, but it requires long hours, and unusually long commutes in my particular situation. (it's complicated, too much to explain here) I've been sick and tired of the commuting and lack of home time for years, but have been stuck because I don't know anything else. I figured I would have found an apprenticeship or someone willing to train me for a different field by now, but I haven't. So I'm gonna have to figure out something to get out this rut somehow or other.
I am 30 and am trying to get into math again. I gave up due to past trauma from a professor. Thanks for sharing, it helps. It is not as easy with bills to pay but we are going to age regardless and life is indeed too short.
90 days ago, I was at the beginning of the police academy, full of dread, anxiety, and facing a complete culture shock and having to adjust to it. Spending most nights wondering if I can continue. And 90 days before that, I was in the selection process and spending every day and night wondering if I was going to be selected and getting ready for the academy. And 90 days before that, I was applying for that department, thinking "there is no way I'm getting selected, but what if they do?" So I did and now I'm actually at the beginning of the career I have always wanted. It's insane, I could've never seen myself here. A year ago I was devastated, depressed, severely overweight, had no ambition, was heartbroken, and would spend every day doing nothing. So, for anyone out there struggling, know you can change your life around if you want to. Take a risk and continue to always keep going forward.
I remember how I was feeling exactly 90 days ago, it was a very difficult time for me and all I wanted was for time to stop. Nowadays, I feel some peace towards the situation I was in, but I haven't really done much to make my life better either. 90 days from now, I will have celebrated my 26th birthday and I refuse to be stuck in this same spot!!! Thank you for waking me the fuck up yet again Joey. I'm holding myself accountable publicly commenting this and I hope to have updates worth sharing from here on out 🙏
My main problem is, that I do not form habits, or rather, I form them too easily. It is basically equal. Because once I build a habit, I have it, until I build a habit that un-does the previous habit. And while in many cases, the period of time I did something might have been too short to build the habit, I have many examples in which the period of time was enough. Like Being vegan for 9 months, before slowly drifting away from it for no reason. Or not playing PC games for 6 months, and slowly drifting back into it. Or losing 60 pounds over a period of 7 months, only to get all the weight back. Or finding time for active hobbies like sailing, hiking and riding horses, only to drift away from it for no reason... The struggle never ends, there is no 90th day at which I can savor the results... not meaning savor results as in seeking mindless pleasure, but just from the acquisition of a new, better habit. Because the habit is never safe. There is no "result". Every day is the first day and no day is the 90th day... at least for me.
It makes my brain hurt, how little I've accomplished the last 90 days, and what a tremendous shift my life took. I went through travel, crazy amounts of anger, fighting, but also forming relationships. I damn changed the entire stream of my life by deciding to apply for a different major, in a different country, because of these very experiences. What has kept me from accomplishing as much as I would have liked, in these past 90 days, largely has to do with the fact that I let my overwhelming expectations and anxiety, dictate and micromanage my every decision. Time pressure from school to study and turn in projects, as well as my parents acting like I'm a disappointment at every turn. I watched an old friend of mine who took off when I fell into a deep state of anxiety for months, take off and get into a really good uni, and right now, I even think I'm better off. 90 days ago, I'd think the "me" of today is crazy. My friend got into a top 50 school in the US and she's gonna be paying 80k a year on tuition, while I'm applying (and will probably get in) to a top 6 school in the world, and not even pay half that, just because I decided to abandon the mindset we both had. Evidently, the last 7 months of crippling anxiety are probably the best thing that could happen to me. 90 days ago, I was studying for a math test (procrastinating actually, but let's stick to the story here). Had I not done as well on that test, I wouldn't have gotten a top grade, and wouldn't change my future major from CS to Mathematics. Admittedly, despite my anxiety, had I managed my time and psyche better, I could be a lot further in many aspects of my life than I am now. I'm setting a reminder. I'll be back in 90 days
You’re doing way better than you realize. Just doesn’t feel that way when you compare to where you think you are supposed to be. I’m 43 now and wish I could go back to tell myself to enjoy myself. Really, you’re a beautiful person with a beautiful mind and you should enjoy getting to be you, instead of getting down on yourself. Everything is perfect exactly where you are now. All of your imperfections and seeming failures are also perfect. You are perfect. Meditate with that every day if you can. And if you can’t, don’t get down on yourself. LOL. Good luck to you. 💚
Its ok dude. Cus if you were perfect, then you wouldnt of even wrote this. Try and study the “dialect” by engels and marx, that might steer u in the right direction
90 days ago I was living through one of the worst periods of my life, constant drug use, couldn't get a job because I didn't have an ID or birth certificate. I was wandering through life without any plans whatsoever. Then I was forced to change, I was getting evicted and I had to move. Luckily my cousin has let me stay with her in this past 90 days. In this past 90 days I've gotten my ID and Birth certificate again, gotten my grades up, a girlfriend who loves me, I've enlisted in the Marines and I'm to ship out in August. This video helped put my last couple months in a picture, if that makes sense. I hope to make the next 90 days all the better.
"And I have a role to play to shape the next 90 days" This is so true!! Often we try to jump to new goals without looking at what we're currently dealing with and acknowledging our current 'momentum'. This is why transition is so powerful; we need to allow ourselves time to 'get there' and it starts with recognizing who you are today 🖤
After watching so many of these types of videos, I really do think this might be the only one that actually sat right with me and gave me a completely different way of thinking about my life and what I want from it. Thank you for this.
This video reminded me of a quote that I like from Hamza which I will paraphrase "Regardless of the discomfort, time will move anyways, so shouldn't you spend it on doing the habits that will make you proud of yourself?". This video is a lesson on making the most of the time that we are given and I appreciate your wisdom Joey.
Dude, your cinematography skills are some of the best on YT, period. The shots of you alone on the road perfectly convey the feeling of "okay, I've come all this way, and here's where I've ended up," and they're always so fkn clean and crisp 👌. Top-notch stuff, man - love every video more than your last, for real. Thanks for caring about this channel so much - it definitely shows in your work, and YT needs more positive, male "self-improvement" guys. Too many of them have this "Andrew Tate Lite" vibe that makes me worry about teen guys, and what effect that'll end up having on them, y'know? So just thanks for being so good at this YT thing that they can't ignore you, and putting out healthy takes on self-improvement and stuff - you're a real one, man 👊
I agree w/u Tuesday Nevins. He’s one of my favorite TH-camrs and I’ve learned from him. Hope he has helped u like me on your personal development journey.
Exactly 365 today I was infected with covid and have been ill since then. But as I look over the past 12 months I can see the ups and downs and really down times...breaking this up by 90 days or a month at a time actually helps me to see the progression. I am visualizing being even healthier 90 days from today. Thank you 🙏
Gonna loop this video a few times every day for 90 days and try to reshape some depressive thoughts I've been having. Forced me to get-up and do some things I need done.
Thank you for another year of brilliant content! The B-roll footage in this video was so cinematic and impactful. Goes very nicely with your helpful words. All the best for 2023!
I like the message which is “the life you live was already decided for you by you”. It’s probably the basic way of thinking to get to know who you are.
Time is such a strange beast, we perceive it to move both fast and slow. It does, as you say, tick onward with or without us, and what we do and do not do, although it does have an impact, doesn't dictate all that much; not really. To LET GO is powerful, but very difficult to do. All we can do is do our best to be intentional with our decisions and enjoy the ride along the way. Do this each day, and it stacks up rather nice.
90 days ago I was on track. Today my mood has tanked, has been declining over the last 3 weeks. I've got my gym bag packed today and told myself "Just do it, even if you don't want to. Do it for future Jess". Your timing is perfection. Thank you ❤️
I’ve been watching you for a while now dude and I’ve actually never commented from what I remember. Being that it’s about to be a new year may contribute to me being able to relate to this video so much, but thank you. This hit so close to home I had to make sure my doors were locked. 🙏
90 days ago i was very familiar with self improvement and everything surrounding it but it was near the beginning of my personal journey. 90 days ago i broke my addiction to vaping and weed. i broke my addiction to instant gratification. i broke my addiction to porn. i broke my addiction to everything negative in my life. I have been vaping since i was in 7th grade and i am now a senior in high school (don’t say it…i know… trust me… i know lol) and i have been smoking week since i was a freshman. i convinced myself that i smoked weed due to my severe anxiety but i was lying to myself to make myself feel less guilty. i was heavily addicted to porn and i would also heavily addicted to social media and youtube specifically. i would waste everyday watching youtube and tell myself i’m learning about stuff so that i would feel like i was being productive. anyways this past summer, something clicked, im not sure what it was but something clicked. i just knew i couldn’t keep living how i was and expect myself to be happy and successful. I changed everything in my life all at once which likely will not work for many people and i don’t know how it worked for me but it did lol. after bullying myself for a 1 week, i noticed all of my addictions were slowly dissolving and after a month, they were completely gone. I had an vicious desire to change my life and live the best way i can. and i was doing to so good. but one day, my desire began to fade. i never got back on nicotine, weed, or porn but i stopped working out, i stopped reading, i started watching youtube for hours and hours a day, and was just all around falling back to the lifestyle i knew i didn’t want to live. then out of nowhere, my desire came back. back to reading, back to dopamine detox, pushups everyday, going on a walk every morning, eating better, everything but again, my desire began to fade. it is extremely discouraging when this happens because even when i’m am in these “ruts” i still look at myself and criticize what i’m doing. i know i shouldn’t be eating chips and watching youtube for 8 hours a day but i just couldn’t seem to not do that. a lot of people say that those “ruts” just happen and just let it pass but i don’t want those ruts to happen. i am happy when i am productive, i am sad when i am not. so why do these ruts just happen if they make me sad? it seems like my mind should naturally avoid these periods and just simply continue and the productive path because obviously i would like to keep myself happy but it doesn’t do that. is there something i’m missing? is there a way to control this? it just seems like even though i don’t want to be self destructive, i still do it even though i have a choice and that just doesn’t make sense to me. i wrote a lot more than i thought i was going to so thank you so much if you actually read all that lol
90 days ago l was in a relationship with a man who l though he will be my future husband, now he getting married his ex next month ... That makes me think how much things can be changing in a very short time .. How much our life jumping a very big steps in a tiny period .. I spend the last years without any serious relationships, when l decided to enter in one in less than 6 months that's what happened !!. I will move on in the next 3 months and also gets the one who i really deserves, believing in that 🌷
Joey! Been watching for years man and I always make sure I carve time out of the day to sit, watch, and reflect whenever you drop something new. Appreciate all the guidance -
This is SO USEFUL. I'll be using the idea that "Time is gonna spit me out at the otther end of things, regardless of what I do' to keep me on track in 2023. Thank you. Blessings.
Thanks for this. I’ve been delaying going to the gym for over a year now because of fear. But going into the new year I want to change that. 90 days is a realistic goal and I’m starting bullet journaling to track this habit too. Also in 90 days I will almost finish my dissertation, so this video came at a perfect time.
@@theofficialpollothat’s silly some people don’t have the space and others like the environment, there’s a lot of motivation being in an environment where people are doing something healthy or productive. I used to go to the gym and then built a small at home gym over time during the pandemic. My local gym was talking about before hand anyways and their hours sucked.
90 days. It's strange to say that I think I've massively improved. I've finally fixed my sleep, I've been at the gym and pushing my limits, I fixed my diet fully, and I'm breaking free of my burnout.
Thanks buddy you really have a way with words. Been struggling with alcohol lately and I was almost a year sober and then relapsed but now is the time to stop this is definitely gonna help 😊
This has been something on my mind for so long now, and now you’re making a video on it, I love hearing your takes on things like this, they’re always very interesting and thought-provoking.
Another astonishing video at the right momento in the right time. Thanks for the 90-days visualization. Keep it up the good work, loved your minimalistic, beneficial and self-help content. Saludos desde Mexico.
I’ve been journaling 10 pages a day for the past 10 days, and I said to myself that I’ll do it until the end of the year, to enter the new year with a clean sheet, a clear mind. It’s working wonders thus far, I feel much better and actually start doing things that were impossible for me before. (I even thought this journaling thing would be impossible, lol) So I leave this message here for future Ray to see - in 90 days you have to have completed everything you wrote down you would. I’ll come back to this comment at the end of March, and reply with what I was supposed to, and what I actually ended up doing
@@walkingthroughpixels I just sit down, put on a Abao in Tokyo pomodoro sesh and start writing about my day, my thoughts, my fears, I pile up some questions, then I answer them. I’m currently listening to Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins and that book is amazing, something I couldn’t comprehend before was his “this scares me, which thrills me” mentality, but now that I have this daily challenge, I think I know what he means
Hey, great video (as always xd)! I appreciate the fact, that no matter what I've been struggling with ~90days ago, I'm still here. It makes the worries of now seem less, which is great (and moving). One extremely small detail, - 3:07 - I think you overcooked your broccoli :D Few months ago I was told, that when you prepare them (I was using hot steam), they're cooked best (with most nutrients still there) when they are vivid green (after like 5-8mins of prep). They still are crunchy, but delicious and nutritious (Maybe you'll find this information useful). Anyway, thank you for your effort you put in for us, I really love your *better* ideas. Your editing is great and fun to watch, and you sometimes produce the motivation, that is necessary to keep going. Have a great one, and see you in your next video!
This was an amazing video and much needed! I really had not thought about it that way. I have been meaning to get my own channel, this channel started, and I kept putting it off, for various reasons, and then justifying it. The choices I was making, led me to now, thank you Joey!
Love this. Great b roll and representation on this topic. Easily digestable and to the point for those with shorter attention spans. Well done. Love the catchy titles too, inspiring for the upcoming channel. ps. Also shocked you're only 26.. is it the bald head? Not sure, but I was sure you're closer to mid 30 my man. eitherway knowing we're the same age, you've come far. Love the content once again.
Please make a video about "how to get rid of affections". Yeah it sounds weird but I really got bored from facing such kind of bad situation. But I thank you for your such kinda useful advices 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
I find your videos to be relatable and very encouraging rather than watching some other guy with millions telling you to change you life all together right now
90 days from now will be March 29th. Thinking of it that way and it being the beginning of spring definitely helped to put things in perspective. I think mentally viewing things in terms of X amount of days even if it's only 30 can sometimes be too abstract but thinking of it as a set date helps. I've been dragging lately so I decided to make a goal list to work through over the next 90 days. Definitely some things I would like to have different by spring time.
Even though I've shared similar feelings throughout this year, it's reassuring to hear someone else say it too. We have all have so much time, and yet it can all vanish so quickly while you're distracted. I honestly believe building towards your goals can slow down your perception of time, weeks will start to feel like months because with progress comes many changes and valuable memories.
90 days ago I was 100% certain I would win, I had a perfect plan that made sense and everything in my life was under control. Now, I feel as if I’m living a hell of reality I feel lost I don’t know who I am anymore or what I’m doing I feel unmotivated and still I wake up every morning and clock in for work cus I got bills to pay. I know it can get better because I’ve been better so I’m in a stage where I’m just waiting doing what I have to do to survive and then maybe I’ll find myself again.
I've decided a new life a hundred times already. But never succeeded in attaching myself to some new habits or so for 90 days, not once. Maybe 2,5 months at best.
The only thing I disagree with is saying 90 days looks a tiny blip of life compared to 90 years in weeks….it’s actually quite a scary amount of time when you see it like that. 3 months seems like nothing but these 3 months add up. Before you know it your best years will have come and gone and you will be left wondering what have you done with all those 90 days and whether you made the most of the near limitless options you once had.
So, what was the point he was making? To be uncomfortable and put ourselves through pain because we won’t remember all of the pain and discomfort anyways??? I guess I need these take aways broken down and made very clear or they really won’t motivate me. I kind of wish he would give a very clear break down at the end. I still don’t know what his point was about comforting ourselves when we are feeling bad. Is it to not do it, because we won’t remember feeling bad or being comforted anyways? This is confusing and I’m not getting if he’s saying to avoid this for 90 days and just let yourself be in pain like a stoic 90 day challenge. I guess I like the idea of it but seems like he needs to flesh out the concept more, especially for people who have anxiety and spend extra time to comfort or console themselves just to be able to function. The idea of not doing that and just letting yourself be in pain and anxiety and do everything you’re scared of seems exciting, like a transformative challenge, but I wonder if it’s realistic. If anyone is doing this, please tell me more.
To the ones reading this: you're actually 88 years old but you have returned to your current age to take away all the regrets. So...life was not already decided for you. You can still make that change now, and enjoy your 80's without any regrets.
@@B----------------------------D Well only if your family has had dementia before, you have nothing to worry about. Also, look at the small percentage of people who do have it. What do they do? Keep living.
@@technoslavia nah bro, if I start going then I will just go to a country where I can get euthanised, living isn't something that I value without control over my life.
This kind of reminds me of the “End of History Illusion” which is a phenomenon where people *feel* like their life won’t change much from now into the future, even though they know it’s changed a ton in the past. It’s a very well documented psychological experience, and I find it very inspiring. If I ever feel like I’m in a rut and that I’ll just be stuck in it forever, I remember the End of History Illusion is what’s causing it. In a short amount of time my life will change, I’ll be given new opportunities, and things will be different.
It's the first time in my life being so terrified of my birthday this year. I'm afraid and scared of growing up to this age. I will be making 24 years old and i have to say i haven't accomplished anything in my life since 18. 6 years went to drain. I'm sitting right now in debt, low salary, busy job schedule, no girlfriend, living in rent, carefully how i'm spend my money otherwise i eat bread and water, wear the same clothes since high school, never had a serious relationship cause girls avoid me and i understand that since i have no dream and no love for myself. I have no worth and no point in life. Socially anxious, depressed sometimes. No qualities. i'm thinking to end it all at 30 years old and im writing this with a tear in my eye. I tried 50% of what it was to try and i failed and failed. The other 50% i don't have the courage. I find it difficult to "believe" tomorrow will be better or if there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I can say that.. my life is fucked and it's too late, the roots are already anchored in bad soil. Thank you for reading.
Life is horrible so hookers and alcohol there is no point anymore everything is fucked up so enjoy the decline, i want to go out but my body is still functional but when i become useless i m going to leave this horrible jail.
Wow, how far we are but how similar! I live in India. Preparing for an exam for college. Just a week back I got the same realization I thought that whatever deeds I am doing in the present is my past like sacrificing stuff and my present is where I wanna go the college. So logically I am already there, I have decided my future (present)
90 days ago I was focused on finishing school and getting through the next 90 days. Today, I’m a college graduate who’s very excited to see what the next 90 days hold!
Linking a 'better you' to a (doable) time frame is very helpful to me. Otherwise, the effort required to reap a benefit just seems so difficult to maintain.
You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think. -Marcus Aurelius It's a powerful thing to remember that our time in this world is limited so we have to do things that we think will be good for us. Thank you for this Joey. I love your film making style. ❤️
I've been fascinated with these things like time, the end of life and our relationship to it. It's very interesting and I really like it. It's sobering
To change views on life is something good. But does it mean to change life itself or all changes will be limited with views only? I often know what is my best to do for now but don't do it.
@@helenivanova5440 so true. Tho it is undoubtedly in the mind that change first takes place. A very wise woman once said it this way; "what we think 🧠🤔💭 about is what we talk 👄🗣️💬 about, and what we talk about is what we bring about.🧭🌎🤲🏼"
Kinda feel like some outward force sent this video my way because I needed it desperately. My greatest fault in my fat loss and the general unfucking up of my body is that feeling you mentioned of extreme unease and anxiety. I've been doing good and my weight has gone down but I was hitting that wall again
Fun Fact, from the age of 20-70 you can only think of ''90 days from now'' 200 times. so every time you think of 90 days you should see it as 0,5 percentage of your lifespan. goodluck
Whenever I'm going through a difficult time I like to think that this moment, as bad as it is, could still be the best memory I have in the future. It gives you perspective. Thank you for the video =)
Thanks Joey! The Life calender is a nice tool for the mind monkey to see that our time is finite. Keep that bold head shard and shiny (like I do ;)) and see you in the next video :D
I was 187.2 when this year started. 5 months later, I’m 159.8 as of this morning. Every day in the gym for just an hour caused this. To see the amount of people who are severely overweight just jump the excuse patrol of how they “can’t” go to the gym or don’t have time just irritates me. They will no doubt be the first ones who will complain about having heart palpitations or have diabetes or can’t get out of chair with assistance. Just ONE hour a day changed my life in dramatic ways. Who you are today is a result of what you did a year ago. Who you will be a year from now, starts with what you do, today.
Ninety days or a season, yeah that's how I am starting to live and will next year. It's beautiful in its simplicity and elegance. A cycle four times a year. You can try again and again and again. I plan to get much fitter, to travel finally and to make more: music, a novel, painting, a book of poetry. And practice appreciation daily, be grateful for all the good but also learn from the 'bad'. Thankyou for uploading.
Do you feel grateful for the decisions you made 90 days ago? Are you proud of what you've made in the last 90 days? I want to come back here 90 days from now and thank myself for what I've done in the next 90 days. Haha bald guy from a far away land making me feel weird and kinda inspired again.
The importance of delaying one's gratification couldn't be explained any simpler than this. (Plus, watching this on the last day of the year I'm really tempted to start having 90-day objectives from now on that lead up to annual goals etc.)
I may not be the target audience here, but I've been willing the universe to send me a hint on how to live well with some of the chronic pain I've been experiencing and I think this is something like that. I want to look back and say I made the most of X amount of time whether or not I was in pain (so I can emotionally crumble under it or try to thrive despite it). The idea that the pain won't matter, but I will still have yielded certain results based on daily actions, is inspiring.
How odd I'm watching this video 3 months after you posted it? 90 days ago I was overwhelmed taking care of my elderly mom and while I'm heartbroken, she is in a nursing home now and getting much better care and I've found some semblance of peace back in my life, well that and loneliness
The rich stays rich by spending like the poor and investing without stopping then the poor stays poor by spending like the rich yet not investing like the rich
150 years from now you will have nothing to show for your life. Time to just relax and let go. Why all this striving against our nature to get something that You Tube tells you that you need. Just live. Desire is the origin of suffering. Just be happy. Stop comparing.
Watching this on January 1st is probably one of the best things that’s happened to me in a long time. I feel extremely motivated to be better and I will check back in with y’all in 90 days!
Just want to say: I used 90 days as an example of a manageable amount of time to make a change. But there is nothing magical about 90 days specifically, and I actually don’t like that type of thinking, which I’ll talk about in the next video ;)
It actually is magical in real estate as that's usually how long before a commission is paid out! :)
I can't wait to see it
The only TH-camr video im looking forward on my notification, the only notification i set it on. No woo woo (i have no idea what it means). Simple and encouraging for self review for improvement
Is the next video coming after 90 days?
I love the first question at start of this video. Great premise and it forces you to focus on it. 💙 Great channel!! :)
One of the greatest pieces of advice I have ever gotten is "5 years will pass regardless so if you keep saying you want to learn something just learn it now, in 5 years down the road you'll either have learned the skill or learned you didn't want to learn that skill"
5 years is sucha long time tho
@@jdubs2113 it is but it also isn't. It's 60 months or 20 periods of 90 days. It flies by faster then you think it will. So if you want to do something but keep putting it off start it today. Keep with it even if you suck at first. You'd be surprised at the progress you make when you stop putting excuses up.
@@jdubs2113 it is when you are 10-15 or even 20. But when you're 30, time flies so fast that it throws off a cap
@@TheADotRad ❤️❤️❤️
That’s like me and star Wars on Ps4, i’ll never learn how to do it. I’ll always be average 😂
90 days ago I was depressed, falling back into smoking weed and drinking alcohol after being sober for so long, now I'm happy, sober, hopeful for the future, consistently working out, eating healthy, spending a lot of time working on my self improvement TH-cam channel, stepping out of my comfort zone, and going to be enrolling for college soon, if you're down right now, keep moving, it will get better as long as you don't give up
Inspiring!! 🙏🙏🙏
90 days ago i felt inspired and full of energy, but 45 days ago i had a deep apathy. Today i feel fairly optimistic but in 45 or even 10 days will have apathy and no willing for life again, and in a month more i will feel enthusiastic for starting a new life again. And it's an endless situation.
@@helenivanova5440 we go through the waves, just keep surfing
@@TheDoomerGoGetter yeah, i keep, looks like this is the only option for me:). I think, i had faced it already.
@@helenivanova5440 I am so with you!! My therapist put it like this, and it’s stuck with me; “sunshine, all the time, makes a desert.”
I live in a part of the country that gets constant rain and little sunshine this time of the year. There’s tons of fog and clouds as if I turned my render distance on Minecraft down to 1. I generally find it difficult to get out which makes this time of the year challenging for me because I love exploring and being outside. To hear you speak these powerful messages inspires me and makes me want to work every day to be a better man and help those around me. You’re changing peoples lives bro 🔥
Broski I did not expect to see you here
Nah
Seattle citizen here experiencing The same feeling 🙋🏻♂️
New Englander here, this time of year is awful for me too. It’s dark when I wake up and dark when I go home. The sun starts to set around 3pm so I get anxious and it throws my sleep cycle off. It’s so draining how this time of year is. I also tend to not be as active because it’s too cold and dark outside the mornings and evenings are below freezing and there’s ice everywhere. Seasonal depression sucks and I’m sorry you’re going through it.
Hi @TDBRICKS, From your videos, it sure looks like you are living quite an awesome life. I'd love to be in your position, and I'm sure a lot of other people would like to be too. You put in the work to make an awesome channel. If you still have any extra LEGO, I'd appreciate some LEGO technic or whatever you have left.
Few things that helped me understand what needs to be done to actually achieve what I truly desire:
Stop believing in motivation, depression, boredom, days off (not counting the gym, muscle needs rest)
Understand that you need to be present as much as possible, like handsome bald guy said, time really doesn’t care, it will still go by very quickly. It’s up to you to figure out if doing average things, therefore having an average life, is something that you can be satisfied with.
With everyone so asleep in social media, this fake reality, not a lot of people will understand you, including your friends. So don’t second guess if cutting them off is the right thing to do. I don’t know you or your situation but it most likely very much is.
Don’t waste your very limited time and energy on nothing and no one that’s not deserving it.
Do 100%, 100% of the time.
If you can follow these steps, you aren’t even gonna find this so hard to do. Since it would be way harder for you to settle with entropic ‘lifestyle’.
wow seeing that life chart and seeing a visual representation of a person's finite time on earth was kinda terrifying. definitely got a lot out of watching this video thank you
That thing freaks me out. Like a lot.
@@SydneyMadueke What's scarier is not everyone gets the entire chart. Yours, or mine, might stop suddenly halfway through, at like, Age 46. At which point, you'd spent far more than 50% of your lifetime thusfar.
I have one on my wall. I used to try to motivate myself to do things that way, but it didn't really work. It freaks you out though.
and then i thought i was going to waste more years in college lol
Calculate the hrs, and thatll really scare you
I’ve been working towards switching careers for years but finally got into school three weeks ago. I am 31 and I was studying algebra and writing essays all summer, it sucked but it worked out. My last day is tomorrow, I’m FINALLY leaving the career I’ve loathed for years. Never give up on what you want, life is way too short for that
congrats man! This would be my dream moment in life
It's important to learn marketable skills of some type that will give you a decent job, and never stop learning. I didn't do that. The only 2 reasons I didn't go to college or further my education was because of my struggles with math all throughout K-12, and some social anxiety issues as well. I was probably the worst student of anyone I knew at math from multiplication onward. I struggled to memorize times tables or do simple mental math, which made everything afterward very, very hard. I barely passed high school because of how horrible I was at math. I think the only reason I did graduate is because it was a very tiny school and the teachers seemed to like me, and probably took it easy on grading my math exit exam so that I could graduate and move on.
I did develop skills in my particular industry, but it requires long hours, and unusually long commutes in my particular situation. (it's complicated, too much to explain here) I've been sick and tired of the commuting and lack of home time for years, but have been stuck because I don't know anything else. I figured I would have found an apprenticeship or someone willing to train me for a different field by now, but I haven't. So I'm gonna have to figure out something to get out this rut somehow or other.
Congratulations man!!
I am 30 and am trying to get into math again. I gave up due to past trauma from a professor. Thanks for sharing, it helps. It is not as easy with bills to pay but we are going to age regardless and life is indeed too short.
90 days ago, I was at the beginning of the police academy, full of dread, anxiety, and facing a complete culture shock and having to adjust to it. Spending most nights wondering if I can continue. And 90 days before that, I was in the selection process and spending every day and night wondering if I was going to be selected and getting ready for the academy. And 90 days before that, I was applying for that department, thinking "there is no way I'm getting selected, but what if they do?"
So I did and now I'm actually at the beginning of the career I have always wanted. It's insane, I could've never seen myself here. A year ago I was devastated, depressed, severely overweight, had no ambition, was heartbroken, and would spend every day doing nothing. So, for anyone out there struggling, know you can change your life around if you want to. Take a risk and continue to always keep going forward.
I remember how I was feeling exactly 90 days ago, it was a very difficult time for me and all I wanted was for time to stop. Nowadays, I feel some peace towards the situation I was in, but I haven't really done much to make my life better either. 90 days from now, I will have celebrated my 26th birthday and I refuse to be stuck in this same spot!!! Thank you for waking me the fuck up yet again Joey. I'm holding myself accountable publicly commenting this and I hope to have updates worth sharing from here on out 🙏
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How’d it turn out?
My main problem is, that I do not form habits, or rather, I form them too easily. It is basically equal. Because once I build a habit, I have it, until I build a habit that un-does the previous habit. And while in many cases, the period of time I did something might have been too short to build the habit, I have many examples in which the period of time was enough. Like Being vegan for 9 months, before slowly drifting away from it for no reason. Or not playing PC games for 6 months, and slowly drifting back into it. Or losing 60 pounds over a period of 7 months, only to get all the weight back. Or finding time for active hobbies like sailing, hiking and riding horses, only to drift away from it for no reason... The struggle never ends, there is no 90th day at which I can savor the results... not meaning savor results as in seeking mindless pleasure, but just from the acquisition of a new, better habit. Because the habit is never safe. There is no "result". Every day is the first day and no day is the 90th day... at least for me.
It makes my brain hurt, how little I've accomplished the last 90 days, and what a tremendous shift my life took. I went through travel, crazy amounts of anger, fighting, but also forming relationships. I damn changed the entire stream of my life by deciding to apply for a different major, in a different country, because of these very experiences. What has kept me from accomplishing as much as I would have liked, in these past 90 days, largely has to do with the fact that I let my overwhelming expectations and anxiety, dictate and micromanage my every decision. Time pressure from school to study and turn in projects, as well as my parents acting like I'm a disappointment at every turn. I watched an old friend of mine who took off when I fell into a deep state of anxiety for months, take off and get into a really good uni, and right now, I even think I'm better off. 90 days ago, I'd think the "me" of today is crazy. My friend got into a top 50 school in the US and she's gonna be paying 80k a year on tuition, while I'm applying (and will probably get in) to a top 6 school in the world, and not even pay half that, just because I decided to abandon the mindset we both had. Evidently, the last 7 months of crippling anxiety are probably the best thing that could happen to me. 90 days ago, I was studying for a math test (procrastinating actually, but let's stick to the story here). Had I not done as well on that test, I wouldn't have gotten a top grade, and wouldn't change my future major from CS to Mathematics. Admittedly, despite my anxiety, had I managed my time and psyche better, I could be a lot further in many aspects of my life than I am now. I'm setting a reminder. I'll be back in 90 days
You’re doing way better than you realize. Just doesn’t feel that way when you compare to where you think you are supposed to be. I’m 43 now and wish I could go back to tell myself to enjoy myself. Really, you’re a beautiful person with a beautiful mind and you should enjoy getting to be you, instead of getting down on yourself. Everything is perfect exactly where you are now. All of your imperfections and seeming failures are also perfect. You are perfect. Meditate with that every day if you can. And if you can’t, don’t get down on yourself. LOL. Good luck to you. 💚
who cares about top schools and things like that, there’s about a million things more important
Its ok dude. Cus if you were perfect, then you wouldnt of even wrote this.
Try and study the “dialect” by engels and marx, that might steer u in the right direction
"We all make choices, but in the end, our choices make us" - Andrew Ryan.
Slop
90 days ago I was living through one of the worst periods of my life, constant drug use, couldn't get a job because I didn't have an ID or birth certificate. I was wandering through life without any plans whatsoever. Then I was forced to change, I was getting evicted and I had to move. Luckily my cousin has let me stay with her in this past 90 days. In this past 90 days I've gotten my ID and Birth certificate again, gotten my grades up, a girlfriend who loves me, I've enlisted in the Marines and I'm to ship out in August. This video helped put my last couple months in a picture, if that makes sense. I hope to make the next 90 days all the better.
Hyd man?
"And I have a role to play to shape the next 90 days" This is so true!! Often we try to jump to new goals without looking at what we're currently dealing with and acknowledging our current 'momentum'. This is why transition is so powerful; we need to allow ourselves time to 'get there' and it starts with recognizing who you are today 🖤
After watching so many of these types of videos, I really do think this might be the only one that actually sat right with me and gave me a completely different way of thinking about my life and what I want from it. Thank you for this.
90 days ago I was in a much worse state then today , so I agree that 90 days you can make a lot of change.
This video reminded me of a quote that I like from Hamza which I will paraphrase "Regardless of the discomfort, time will move anyways, so shouldn't you spend it on doing the habits that will make you proud of yourself?". This video is a lesson on making the most of the time that we are given and I appreciate your wisdom Joey.
1:34 smooth transition.
Thank you for making this, again. Happy Holidays to you from Russia. Cheers
Dude, your cinematography skills are some of the best on YT, period. The shots of you alone on the road perfectly convey the feeling of "okay, I've come all this way, and here's where I've ended up," and they're always so fkn clean and crisp 👌. Top-notch stuff, man - love every video more than your last, for real. Thanks for caring about this channel so much - it definitely shows in your work, and YT needs more positive, male "self-improvement" guys. Too many of them have this "Andrew Tate Lite" vibe that makes me worry about teen guys, and what effect that'll end up having on them, y'know? So just thanks for being so good at this YT thing that they can't ignore you, and putting out healthy takes on self-improvement and stuff - you're a real one, man 👊
Omfg. I thought it was all stock footage. I just realized it's him!!! 🤯
I agree w/u Tuesday Nevins. He’s one of my favorite TH-camrs and I’ve learned from him. Hope he has helped u like me on your personal development journey.
@milesdoyle tldr?
Just found your channel and I HONESTLY appreciate you do much.
Exactly 365 today I was infected with covid and have been ill since then. But as I look over the past 12 months I can see the ups and downs and really down times...breaking this up by 90 days or a month at a time actually helps me to see the progression. I am visualizing being even healthier 90 days from today. Thank you 🙏
Gonna loop this video a few times every day for 90 days and try to reshape some depressive thoughts I've been having. Forced me to get-up and do some things I need done.
Thank you for another year of brilliant content! The B-roll footage in this video was so cinematic and impactful. Goes very nicely with your helpful words. All the best for 2023!
Always keeping it on that fine line of professional and “I’m just some guy makin videos”, love you brotha.
I like the message which is “the life you live was already decided for you by you”.
It’s probably the basic way of thinking to get to know who you are.
Time is such a strange beast, we perceive it to move both fast and slow. It does, as you say, tick onward with or without us, and what we do and do not do, although it does have an impact, doesn't dictate all that much; not really. To LET GO is powerful, but very difficult to do. All we can do is do our best to be intentional with our decisions and enjoy the ride along the way. Do this each day, and it stacks up rather nice.
90 days ago I was on track. Today my mood has tanked, has been declining over the last 3 weeks. I've got my gym bag packed today and told myself "Just do it, even if you don't want to. Do it for future Jess". Your timing is perfection. Thank you ❤️
I reckon most of us here know exactly how that feels... Just do it as easy as it is to say, is actually not so easy a lot of the time
0:52 you made the hairs on my neck tingle as you described me so completely.
I’ve been watching you for a while now dude and I’ve actually never commented from what I remember. Being that it’s about to be a new year may contribute to me being able to relate to this video so much, but thank you. This hit so close to home I had to make sure my doors were locked. 🙏
You got this, Ed. Keep it up, buddy.
I love the quiet but barely noticeable it’s just a burning memory playing at 5:19 as the life calendar disappears
90 days ago i was very familiar with self improvement and everything surrounding it but it was near the beginning of my personal journey. 90 days ago i broke my addiction to vaping and weed. i broke my addiction to instant gratification. i broke my addiction to porn. i broke my addiction to everything negative in my life.
I have been vaping since i was in 7th grade and i am now a senior in high school (don’t say it…i know… trust me… i know lol) and i have been smoking week since i was a freshman. i convinced myself that i smoked weed due to my severe anxiety but i was lying to myself to make myself feel less guilty. i was heavily addicted to porn and i would also heavily addicted to social media and youtube specifically. i would waste everyday watching youtube and tell myself i’m learning about stuff so that i would feel like i was being productive.
anyways this past summer, something clicked, im not sure what it was but something clicked. i just knew i couldn’t keep living how i was and expect myself to be happy and successful. I changed everything in my life all at once which likely will not work for many people and i don’t know how it worked for me but it did lol. after bullying myself for a 1 week, i noticed all of my addictions were slowly dissolving and after a month, they were completely gone. I had an vicious desire to change my life and live the best way i can. and i was doing to so good.
but one day, my desire began to fade. i never got back on nicotine, weed, or porn but i stopped working out, i stopped reading, i started watching youtube for hours and hours a day, and was just all around falling back to the lifestyle i knew i didn’t want to live.
then out of nowhere, my desire came back. back to reading, back to dopamine detox, pushups everyday, going on a walk every morning, eating better, everything but again, my desire began to fade.
it is extremely discouraging when this happens because even when i’m am in these “ruts” i still look at myself and criticize what i’m doing. i know i shouldn’t be eating chips and watching youtube for 8 hours a day but i just couldn’t seem to not do that.
a lot of people say that those “ruts” just happen and just let it pass but i don’t want those ruts to happen. i am happy when i am productive, i am sad when i am not. so why do these ruts just happen if they make me sad? it seems like my mind should naturally avoid these periods and just simply continue and the productive path because obviously i would like to keep myself happy but it doesn’t do that. is there something i’m missing? is there a way to control this? it just seems like even though i don’t want to be self destructive, i still do it even though i have a choice and that just doesn’t make sense to me.
i wrote a lot more than i thought i was going to so thank you so much if you actually read all that lol
90 days ago l was in a relationship with a man who l though he will be my future husband, now he getting married his ex next month ... That makes me think how much things can be changing in a very short time .. How much our life jumping a very big steps in a tiny period .. I spend the last years without any serious relationships, when l decided to enter in one in less than 6 months that's what happened !!.
I will move on in the next 3 months and also gets the one who i really deserves, believing in that 🌷
You deserve better.❤️ He wasn't meant for you
Top tier info as always. Thanks for the insight Joey! Love this! 🙏
Joey! Been watching for years man and I always make sure I carve time out of the day to sit, watch, and reflect whenever you drop something new. Appreciate all the guidance -
This is SO USEFUL. I'll be using the idea that "Time is gonna spit me out at the otther end of things, regardless of what I do' to keep me on track in 2023. Thank you. Blessings.
This guy has inspired me, very down to earth lad.
@Don't Read My Profile Photo ok
Thanks for this. I’ve been delaying going to the gym for over a year now because of fear. But going into the new year I want to change that. 90 days is a realistic goal and I’m starting bullet journaling to track this habit too. Also in 90 days I will almost finish my dissertation, so this video came at a perfect time.
You need no gym, excersise at home
Go today, you'll be a step ahead before January.
@@theofficialpollo a surprisingly narrow-minded comment.
Amazing dude! I started going to the Gym in September and I can promise it improves your confidence, health and focus. Don't forget legs tho ;)
@@theofficialpollothat’s silly some people don’t have the space and others like the environment, there’s a lot of motivation being in an environment where people are doing something healthy or productive.
I used to go to the gym and then built a small at home gym over time during the pandemic. My local gym was talking about before hand anyways and their hours sucked.
90 days. It's strange to say that I think I've massively improved. I've finally fixed my sleep, I've been at the gym and pushing my limits, I fixed my diet fully, and I'm breaking free of my burnout.
Thanks buddy you really have a way with words. Been struggling with alcohol lately and I was almost a year sober and then relapsed but now is the time to stop this is definitely gonna help 😊
This has been something on my mind for so long now, and now you’re making a video on it, I love hearing your takes on things like this, they’re always very interesting and thought-provoking.
yeah thats why you didnt even watch the video first XD
@@maruserpl there’s something called a title, which I read
@@mafifi360 oh yeah and you already knew what exactly will he tell you about just from the title
@@maruserpl yes? that’s what a good youtube video does
"Our life here on this earth is finite" is such a scary and helpful way for to get out of my comfort zone.
Another astonishing video at the right momento in the right time. Thanks for the 90-days visualization. Keep it up the good work, loved your minimalistic, beneficial and self-help content. Saludos desde Mexico.
Comfort and discomfort are temporary, but the results are permanent.
I’ve been journaling 10 pages a day for the past 10 days, and I said to myself that I’ll do it until the end of the year, to enter the new year with a clean sheet, a clear mind. It’s working wonders thus far, I feel much better and actually start doing things that were impossible for me before. (I even thought this journaling thing would be impossible, lol)
So I leave this message here for future Ray to see - in 90 days you have to have completed everything you wrote down you would.
I’ll come back to this comment at the end of March, and reply with what I was supposed to, and what I actually ended up doing
What do you write on 10 pages ? I struggle to fill one page
I wish there was a way to set a reminder on a comment to come back to it. Is there an app or something for that that you use?
@@tnijoo5109 save the video to its own playlist is something you could try? You will at least be able to find the video then
@@walkingthroughpixels I just sit down, put on a Abao in Tokyo pomodoro sesh and start writing about my day, my thoughts, my fears, I pile up some questions, then I answer them. I’m currently listening to Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins and that book is amazing, something I couldn’t comprehend before was his “this scares me, which thrills me” mentality, but now that I have this daily challenge, I think I know what he means
@@marcoraydiaz sounds awesome, time for me to try get into a good mindset too :)
This is one of your best videos. Thanks Joey! I really needed this right now.
This is a great way to think about every action that you do in life, thanks a lot for the advice!
Hey, great video (as always xd)!
I appreciate the fact, that no matter what I've been struggling with ~90days ago, I'm still here. It makes the worries of now seem less, which is great (and moving).
One extremely small detail, - 3:07 - I think you overcooked your broccoli :D Few months ago I was told, that when you prepare them (I was using hot steam), they're cooked best (with most nutrients still there) when they are vivid green (after like 5-8mins of prep). They still are crunchy, but delicious and nutritious (Maybe you'll find this information useful).
Anyway, thank you for your effort you put in for us, I really love your *better* ideas. Your editing is great and fun to watch, and you sometimes produce the motivation, that is necessary to keep going.
Have a great one, and see you in your next video!
Great job. Clear, concise, and visually appealing explanation of a great concept.
This perspective is brilliant! Thanks!
This was an amazing video and much needed! I really had not thought about it that way. I have been meaning to get my own channel, this channel started, and I kept putting it off, for various reasons, and then justifying it. The choices I was making, led me to now, thank you Joey!
0:51 HE LITERALLY CALLED ME OUT SO HARD!!! I gave up ow2 but that was exactly what I did 😭
Incredible video once again, both film and content wise - thank you Joey, you're a true inspiration 🙏
thank you very much for this video
this is my new life quote / motto
...90 days at a time
Love this. Great b roll and representation on this topic. Easily digestable and to the point for those with shorter attention spans. Well done. Love the catchy titles too, inspiring for the upcoming channel.
ps. Also shocked you're only 26.. is it the bald head? Not sure, but I was sure you're closer to mid 30 my man. eitherway knowing we're the same age, you've come far. Love the content once again.
Please make a video about "how to get rid of affections". Yeah it sounds weird but I really got bored from facing such kind of bad situation. But I thank you for your such kinda useful advices 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
I really enjoy Joey's videos, not only inspiring, but also so cinematic, really apreciatte your work bro, much love :3
This is a great perspective. Thank you for sharing it. Keep evolving and helping others do the same.
I find your videos to be relatable and very encouraging rather than watching some other guy with millions telling you to change you life all together right now
Nah zZz
2:10 it's not good if you reading when eating, you finish your meal and you read, or complete the book then you eat, don't do both
90 days from now will be March 29th. Thinking of it that way and it being the beginning of spring definitely helped to put things in perspective. I think mentally viewing things in terms of X amount of days even if it's only 30 can sometimes be too abstract but thinking of it as a set date helps. I've been dragging lately so I decided to make a goal list to work through over the next 90 days. Definitely some things I would like to have different by spring time.
Even though I've shared similar feelings throughout this year, it's reassuring to hear someone else say it too.
We have all have so much time, and yet it can all vanish so quickly while you're distracted.
I honestly believe building towards your goals can slow down your perception of time, weeks will start to feel like months because with progress comes many changes and valuable memories.
The moment I saw “eating takeout “, I immediately got off my couch and made dinner! Thanks Joey - you motivate us in a different way!!!
90 days ago I was 100% certain I would win, I had a perfect plan that made sense and everything in my life was under control. Now, I feel as if I’m living a hell of reality I feel lost I don’t know who I am anymore or what I’m doing I feel unmotivated and still I wake up every morning and clock in for work cus I got bills to pay. I know it can get better because I’ve been better so I’m in a stage where I’m just waiting doing what I have to do to survive and then maybe I’ll find myself again.
I’ve decided a new life for myself already. So excited for this journey on TH-cam!
I've decided a new life a hundred times already. But never succeeded in attaching myself to some new habits or so for 90 days, not once. Maybe 2,5 months at best.
The only thing I disagree with is saying 90 days looks a tiny blip of life compared to 90 years in weeks….it’s actually quite a scary amount of time when you see it like that. 3 months seems like nothing but these 3 months add up. Before you know it your best years will have come and gone and you will be left wondering what have you done with all those 90 days and whether you made the most of the near limitless options you once had.
So, what was the point he was making? To be uncomfortable and put ourselves through pain because we won’t remember all of the pain and discomfort anyways???
I guess I need these take aways broken down and made very clear or they really won’t motivate me. I kind of wish he would give a very clear break down at the end. I still don’t know what his point was about comforting ourselves when we are feeling bad. Is it to not do it, because we won’t remember feeling bad or being comforted anyways? This is confusing and I’m not getting if he’s saying to avoid this for 90 days and just let yourself be in pain like a stoic 90 day challenge. I guess I like the idea of it but seems like he needs to flesh out the concept more, especially for people who have anxiety and spend extra time to comfort or console themselves just to be able to function. The idea of not doing that and just letting yourself be in pain and anxiety and do everything you’re scared of seems exciting, like a transformative challenge, but I wonder if it’s realistic. If anyone is doing this, please tell me more.
Life is time and pain, you’ll learn as you grow failing is an opportunity
To the ones reading this: you're actually 88 years old but you have returned to your current age to take away all the regrets. So...life was not already decided for you. You can still make that change now, and enjoy your 80's without any regrets.
I hope I'm dead at 80, don't want to live through dementia and all that shit.
@@B----------------------------D Well only if your family has had dementia before, you have nothing to worry about. Also, look at the small percentage of people who do have it. What do they do? Keep living.
@@technoslavia nah bro, if I start going then I will just go to a country where I can get euthanised, living isn't something that I value without control over my life.
@@B----------------------------D shut up
@@B----------------------------D take care of yourself.
This kind of reminds me of the “End of History Illusion” which is a phenomenon where people *feel* like their life won’t change much from now into the future, even though they know it’s changed a ton in the past. It’s a very well documented psychological experience, and I find it very inspiring. If I ever feel like I’m in a rut and that I’ll just be stuck in it forever, I remember the End of History Illusion is what’s causing it. In a short amount of time my life will change, I’ll be given new opportunities, and things will be different.
Everytime I struggle the most and my life is about to change drastically, you put out the right video for me.
Thank you for being out there!
everytime I struggle the most my life changes drastically
It's the first time in my life being so terrified of my birthday this year. I'm afraid and scared of growing up to this age. I will be making 24 years old and i have to say i haven't accomplished anything in my life since 18. 6 years went to drain. I'm sitting right now in debt, low salary, busy job schedule, no girlfriend, living in rent, carefully how i'm spend my money otherwise i eat bread and water, wear the same clothes since high school, never had a serious relationship cause girls avoid me and i understand that since i have no dream and no love for myself. I have no worth and no point in life. Socially anxious, depressed sometimes. No qualities. i'm thinking to end it all at 30 years old and im writing this with a tear in my eye. I tried 50% of what it was to try and i failed and failed. The other 50% i don't have the courage. I find it difficult to "believe" tomorrow will be better or if there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I can say that.. my life is fucked and it's too late, the roots are already anchored in bad soil. Thank you for reading.
Life is horrible so hookers and alcohol there is no point anymore everything is fucked up so enjoy the decline, i want to go out but my body is still functional but when i become useless i m going to leave this horrible jail.
Enjoy the present moment , no matter what you do the essence of time goes by , so make that change.
Fear and anxiety is holding me from EVERYTHING
Wow, how far we are but how similar! I live in India. Preparing for an exam for college.
Just a week back I got the same realization
I thought that whatever deeds I am doing in the present is my past like sacrificing stuff and my present is where I wanna go the college.
So logically I am already there, I have decided my future (present)
90 days ago I was focused on finishing school and getting through the next 90 days. Today, I’m a college graduate who’s very excited to see what the next 90 days hold!
Linking a 'better you' to a (doable) time frame is very helpful to me. Otherwise, the effort required to reap a benefit just seems so difficult to maintain.
Well done man! Thank you
You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think. -Marcus Aurelius
It's a powerful thing to remember that our time in this world is limited so we have to do things that we think will be good for us. Thank you for this Joey. I love your film making style. ❤️
I've been fascinated with these things like time, the end of life and our relationship to it. It's very interesting and I really like it. It's sobering
dude this guy has changed my views on life. thank you
To change views on life is something good. But does it mean to change life itself or all changes will be limited with views only?
I often know what is my best to do for now but don't do it.
@@helenivanova5440 so true. Tho it is undoubtedly in the mind that change first takes place. A very wise woman once said it this way; "what we think 🧠🤔💭 about is what we talk 👄🗣️💬 about, and what we talk about is what we bring about.🧭🌎🤲🏼"
@@helenivanova5440 wtf u talking about
@@Breakfastststst wtf do you mean by your rude question?
Kinda feel like some outward force sent this video my way because I needed it desperately. My greatest fault in my fat loss and the general unfucking up of my body is that feeling you mentioned of extreme unease and anxiety. I've been doing good and my weight has gone down but I was hitting that wall again
Thanks Joey and happy new year
Thanks for this moment of clarity. It's exactly what I needed to hear at this moment in time.
Fun Fact, from the age of 20-70 you can only think of ''90 days from now'' 200 times. so every time you think of 90 days you should see it as 0,5 percentage of your lifespan. goodluck
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Whenever I'm going through a difficult time I like to think that this moment, as bad as it is, could still be the best memory I have in the future. It gives you perspective. Thank you for the video =)
Thanks Joey! The Life calender is a nice tool for the mind monkey to see that our time is finite. Keep that bold head shard and shiny (like I do ;)) and see you in the next video :D
God bless you, bro. You make good content and with good intentions. Keep up the good work!
Those shio ramens though, definitely was part of time's decision ;)
Psych2go 😁!!!
I was 187.2 when this year started. 5 months later, I’m 159.8 as of this morning. Every day in the gym for just an hour caused this. To see the amount of people who are severely overweight just jump the excuse patrol of how they “can’t” go to the gym or don’t have time just irritates me. They will no doubt be the first ones who will complain about having heart palpitations or have diabetes or can’t get out of chair with assistance. Just ONE hour a day changed my life in dramatic ways. Who you are today is a result of what you did a year ago. Who you will be a year from now, starts with what you do, today.
In 90 Days I want to be in a millionaire
I will never give up. Suicide is not a option. I don’t want to hurt my family
Ninety days or a season, yeah that's how I am starting to live and will next year. It's beautiful in its simplicity and elegance. A cycle four times a year. You can try again and again and again. I plan to get much fitter, to travel finally and to make more: music, a novel, painting, a book of poetry. And practice appreciation daily, be grateful for all the good but also learn from the 'bad'. Thankyou for uploading.
EVERYTHING in this universe is cyclical. Paying attention to and living based on this cycles is the best way to evolve.
He has a lovely smile is not usual to see it on his videos ❤
Do you feel grateful for the decisions you made 90 days ago? Are you proud of what you've made in the last 90 days?
I want to come back here 90 days from now and thank myself for what I've done in the next 90 days.
Haha bald guy from a far away land making me feel weird and kinda inspired again.
The importance of delaying one's gratification couldn't be explained any simpler than this. (Plus, watching this on the last day of the year I'm really tempted to start having 90-day objectives from now on that lead up to annual goals etc.)
I may not be the target audience here, but I've been willing the universe to send me a hint on how to live well with some of the chronic pain I've been experiencing and I think this is something like that. I want to look back and say I made the most of X amount of time whether or not I was in pain (so I can emotionally crumble under it or try to thrive despite it). The idea that the pain won't matter, but I will still have yielded certain results based on daily actions, is inspiring.
How odd I'm watching this video 3 months after you posted it? 90 days ago I was overwhelmed taking care of my elderly mom and while I'm heartbroken, she is in a nursing home now and getting much better care and I've found some semblance of peace back in my life, well that and loneliness
The rich stays rich by spending like the poor and investing without stopping then the poor stays poor by spending like the rich yet not investing like the rich
This must be an investment with Mrs Margaret Kathleen
She has really made a good name for herself, please how can I contact expert mrs Margaret Kathleen.?
I'm a long term investor. I withdrew my profits of over £56,000 during the covid-19 pandemic
True. The funny thing is, the poor/middle class is not forced to spend for the rich. They just willingly wanting to spend
150 years from now you will have nothing to show for your life. Time to just relax and let go. Why all this striving against our nature to get something that You Tube tells you that you need. Just live. Desire is the origin of suffering. Just be happy. Stop comparing.
Watching this on January 1st is probably one of the best things that’s happened to me in a long time. I feel extremely motivated to be better and I will check back in with y’all in 90 days!