I will be leaving in two weeks my job of 34 years. A couple years go I brought something up to my supervisors that I thought was wrong regarding a coworker. Well that was a mistake,. I relate to your theory do you want to be right or do you want to be happy. They turned my concerns around and questioned me about my work habits which was a lame attempt to shame me. Ever since then I have hated going to work, never really connected the dots that this was the trigger to not being understood and listened to. Also leaving because the co-worker I spoke about is a narcissist, loud and chaotic, and I can't take it anymore. I wish I could have told my supervisors why I'm leaving, but chose not to because they didn't hear me the first time. I choose to be happy not right,. Thank you for your service to our country, and thank you for this video, it's been very helpful to me.
I can relate. Im still in the job I don’t like. I can’t quit yet and its giving me anxiety. Financially im not ready to quit but the job itself is giving me nightmares. I self talk everyday while driving to work “im going to get through this day, it will be a great day” but it’s really not making any sense when i step in to the office. Not to mention my co wrker is self righteous. Pointing fingers and blame shaming. I always ask what can we do to make it right and find a solution but instead they still blame and not do anything to correct the problem. I hate that coz im an introvert. It’s pandemic and looking for a new job is hard. I dnt knw what to do.
You are so right. I am 47 and my son is 26 and now lives in Colorado. My husband and I live in Texas. It rips my heart out. Enjoy your baby boy. There are other jobs out there. Thank you for your service. No one should treat our former military that way. Will you link your books and where they can be bought? I love to read and would love to support your writing.
My mate and I have a designated cuddle time. An alarm is set and 30 minutes before he has to get up for work, without fail, we have cuddle time. Nothing but an emergency is allowed to come before cuddle time. We need that time together before the world gives us jobs that keep us apart. The relatives think its crazy. It doesn't matter what they think. We NEED that cuddle time to solidify our love and affection for each other. It's us against the world. We are a team.
Bravo Brother! I too am a combat veteran who suffers from PTSD, severe depression, and chronic pain. I've worked for a few companies before I was put at 100% service connected. Dealing with some of the tyrants who were bosses and many of the so called entitled people, was so overly stressful. I would have trouble with my anger management, and that built up stress would come out at home or around family. All of that would cause me to isolate more, because I didn't like the person I was, and didn't want to subject my friends and family to that side of me. You're making the best decision for you and your family. Having more money is nice, but there's no amount of money that could replace you, and the happiness that you provide your family. Take care Brother and may God Bless you and your family. Semper Fi, Doc Marc
Marc Lussier 🇺🇸 Marc, thank you for your service 🇺🇸 I hope that you and Kevin find exactly what you both need. I hope you find contentment in in your lives. God bless you and your families.
Just found your channel today. I enjoy listening to you. My family became debt free twenty years ago. I made that decision because of the way my husband was being treated at his job. I wanted to put us in a position where no one could hold our lives in their hands. It was the best decision l could have made! I dont think you will regret this move. I would also like to thank you for your enormous sacrifice to our country. It does matter and your well being matters. I commend your bravery in speaking out about getting help! Many thanks to you and your family for sharing your world with all of us. 💕 peace be with you
You're doing the right thing. There's never a reason to work for a person, or the company that allows them to behave in that manner. Ever. I'm sorry you had to go through that, and wish you and your family the best, as you discover what will REALLY work for you!
Listening to you was like sitting with an old friend with a story to tell straight from the heart. You are a good man with a heart of gold. God bless you and your family.
Awww I'm happy for you that you made the decision to be happy. Fortunately I was a few years from early retirement and my husband was already retired. I had to quit for my sanity and looking at my life presently. I know it was the right decision. God Bless You and Thank You for your service to our great Country.
Your beautiful family you have now, was from God, and you deserve it tenfold. You are an inspiration. You seem like a very descent human being. And your service means ALOT. I think maybe you should have your own show!
I AM RETIRED NOW I KNOW FRUGAL AND I ENJOY IT. NO ONE ON THE FACE OF THIS EARTH SHOULD EVER BE ALLOWED TO TREAT ANOTHER HUMAN THE WAY THIS WOMAN DOES. SHE IS BUILDING SOME NASTY KARMA AND IT WILL BITE HER IN BUTT HOPEFULLY SOONER THAN LATER. . GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
I support your decision 100%. I was 15 years in the job, transferred to a department I thought was a good move. I ended up working for a woman that was so abusive, a true definition of a psychopath. I was miserable to the point of contemplating suicide. I ended up walking off the job, marched over to HR and demanded early retirement as well as leave with pay until my retirement payments kicked in and I got it. Unfortunately HR did nothing to stop this woman from abusing others. The person that took my place ended up shooting himself in the head due to the stress and abuse. This prompted HR to investigate and relieve her of her management duties. You obviously are strong enough and understand how far you will be pushed before walking. Others may not. I hope HR evaluates this woman and releases her from management duties so that she doesn’t push someone over the edge to a very dark place.
I am right there with you. It is wrong for employers not to give their employees breaks and make the employees work days without a day off. I agree that you left this job and find something else.
First of all thank you for your service ... I have a son that was in the service and came home with PTSD and it breaks my heart to see him with his anger. Your video's are good keep them coming ... your boss will get her due in His time. Trust in God and He will help you more than you can imagine...I know cause He has helped me so much. I will pray for you and your wonderful family to give you true peace and happiness. Blessing to you and your family my friend.
Thank you for your military service. I was a field service tech 10 years ago. My son was just born. I ended up being late back to a continued service call from the day before because I stayed with my wife & baby an extra hour that morning. The new manager called me and proceeded to almost yell and say, “You work for me, I own you!” I said, “I don’t think I want to work for somebody who thinks they own me. I quit a few weeks after that. I’m also having problems now with depression & social anxieties combined with overtime & more responsibilities. I’ve been able to use some employee benefits. Doctors always want to just give me medications. Which I’ve tried but nothing takes away the real issue. I don’t want to take pills every day. I agree with you that doping people with drugs isn’t the answer. It’ll mask the real issue for a while but it always returns. I haven’t found a solution yet for myself. Great videos btw thank you.
Oh, wow ... we have so much in common (in certain ways) .... I first subbed to you when I watched your 'how to get rid of a bad neighbor' .... I'll tell you a little about myself: I'm now 45 years old .... and resigned from a position I had where I was truly miserable and had many of the same feelings towards the profession like you did with yours. I'm a teacher but the community/school where I taught were going against many morals I have personally. ... I started to have to do things in my job that I never agreed with deep within. (The school system is changing all over the world, really.) I am divorced with 3 younger sons (no daughters... but also now engaged with a man that has no kids) and thinking of myself at 45, I feel I should work for a school division that I feel happy to work with. ..... .. Another fact we have in common is that we own 32 acres of pristine land but there's nothing built on it (yet) .... We camp there a lot and hike and have fun. We'd LOVE to build there but wow .. starting from scratch is extremely expensive. (I live in Central Canada).... By the way: I know I'm not Canadian but thank-you for your service to your Country. I have family that also served (Canadians) and I am sure it's the same way for the USA, but the veterans should be honored and recognized a lot better than what they are. Thanks so much for your insight and inspiration.
You are a good family man!!!! GOD will be with you in your journey to a better life. Stay true to you. Thank you for sacrificing your life and liberty for our country. You are blessed!!!
Kevin, after hearing your miserable work experience. You are doing the right thing. Time with your family can never be replaced so cherish every single moment with them. Look forward to reading you book. Please make sure you let us all know when you get it published. All the very best to all the family. My thoughts are with you guys.
Thank you for your story. I am a disabled infantry vet as well (6 years army) and had a VERY similar situation at a company that I worked for for 12 years. I loved the place and a lot of the people made some friends that I still talk to today but had a manager at the end of my time that was exactly like yours. I tried a couple things like HR and other managers but nothing really changed so I decided to take that leap and resign taking a pretty much 50% pay cut in the meantime. Right or Happy. Work or Family. You are expendable to the job, but not to your family. I missed bonding with my last child because of said boss and I stuck with it as long as I did because I loved the place but my friends would remind me that if the roles were reversed the company wouldn't make the same effort. They were right. I am not doing as "well" but I am way more happy. You take care of you and yours, great story.
That crayon is quite the weapon of choice! Still thinking you all need to start a bed & breakfast! As far as the ungodly job, you absolutely made the right decision, that is a hellhole nobody deserves!
Y’alls channel just popped up I’m happy I watched. I subscribed. Thank you for your service. My husband served & I still thank him all the time. I can not comprehend people that don’t appreciate our vets. It’s really sad. Thank you again to you & your beautiful family.
I had that kind of job once. I interviewed & was hired at another job (so it wouldn't affect my needing a recommendation), then, on the day I'd chosen, I walked into my old job at 8:00, resigned, and walked out at 8:15. Best day I ever had there!!! 😁
I can not express enough how important family is, but I can see that you know this truth. Not everyone has other options to leave a job, I'm happy to see that you do. I'm sure that your decision will bring continuous happiness and wonderful memories you will draw on over the years. I'm a little older (56) than you and am in awe of you, your wife and son, what a great family environment. Jesus be with you and yours always.
When was this video made? Today is 12 July 2018........by-the-way, I am a Vietnam vet (USMC) and was married to a Filipino for 18 years. I plan on moving to the Philippines this November. Anyway, I feel a kinship to you when I listen to you. Mag ingat ka.......Bob
Take care of yourself. My brother is getting a medical discharge this year after 13 years in the Army. He's having a hard time with it because he is so close to ranking up to E7. The psyche can only handle so much. Self-care is imperative.
I've been feeling the same lately at my job. I'm working on finding something better. Been afraid to leave but I'm so tired of the BS already. I just want to be happy. Just today I was working on my resume. So that's already a baby step. This video helps, thank you. Also, you sound like you would write a great book. I would love to start writing. Maybe you can write about the experiences at that job. Best of luck and thank you for your service.
Good for you! I did the same thing about 4 weeks ago, and I couldn't be happier! Most of my children are grown and gone, but I love taking care of all the animals and tending the garden, cutting the grass, canning up food from my garden, for the pantry. Just knowing that what we eat and how we live is sustainable and healthy is awesome. You and your family will be ok. Thank you for your service, and I know you will really enjoy being home more.
You could easily be an advocate for vets and what they deal with in the workforce. I’m happy that you decided to protect your mental health and your family and leave that job. I’m also grateful and proud to know you’ve rendered such support to our country. Thank you so much.
I'm new to your channel, so let me just start by saying, thank you for your service. My late husband was in Vietnam. He was a very proud man. Every service man or woman he would see, he would take just a second or two, and thank them for their service. He knew they at least deserved that much back. I'm proud of you for not only fighting for what is right for you, but also what's right for your family.GOD bless you in all that you do, in your family filled future. Take Care! Your new friend in AL.
I like what you have to say. I am glad that you love yourself and family enough to do what is right in 5 or 10 years I wonder how happy lady boss will be and her family
Sir, I gained A LOT from listening to your video! You describe my situation almost but without the overt aggression from my boss. He lays back or hints to others to do his dirty work. Nevertheless, I survive as a worn down spirit and soul. I will share this with my daughter who works for an abusive attorney, abusive in words, she has a English degree and wanted to write when she graduated from Liberty. We use to live in the Maryland Virginia are, but I came down to Alabama for the job. Keep doing what you do. Thanks for your service! And I will read your books. You definitely have a following. I'm looking to build up enough nerve to severe my job and get a farm with free range chickens, bees, a pond of fish and fruit trees. WE ARE OUT HERE!!! P.S. I'd love to meet you the next time I'm up in Virginia. Manny the Yup Yup Man!
I just found your channel about a week ago. I love your videos especially ones like this where you just share your thoughts and life experiences. Really helps me reflect on my own life and set my priorities in order for a happy life for me and my children. Thank you so much to you and your fellow servicemen and women for risking your lives in really terrible situations to give us Americans our freedoms and happiness that a lot of us can take for granted at times. You all are the protectors of our great nation and our freedom! It will never be forgotten.
You are a brave and courageous man. Brave and courageous for your service to our country and for posting this video. Until we stand up to the abusers in the workplace, our quality of work/life balance will never change here in America. Our priorities are upside down when family has to be put last in order to just earn a meager wage. Moving to a shared economic system will be the next movement in our growth as human beings. Love and peace to you and your family. Keep the videos coming !!
You are so very right about your decision to leave those working conditions. I chose to stay in a job that I loved where work conditions were unbearable. I worked there for nearly 5 years while being harassed and picked on, all while receiving great personnel reviews. I became physically ill while still coming into work and taking the abuse. I was then laid off with no explanation and I can tell you that day, while still in slow motion, was one of the best days of my life! It took me six months to emotionally and physically heal. I feel certain it would have killed me had I stayed there . I moved on to an even better job with a great work family and I'll never look back. Kudos to you for having the sense to move forward as well as the courage. I wish you and your wonderful homesteading family all the best blessings.
Well done! My son will soon be 21 and I had the opportunity to work for myself when he was little. It helped pay the bills and allowed me to be a "stay-at-home" mom. I am so grateful for the time and memories it allowed me. The moments and memories with our children are precious-not just for you, but him too. He will carry and treasure those moments in his heart his whole life too. God bless!
Oh, hell no. Oh I can't wait to hear about this company. I'm also a veteran, with similar qualities. So I can emulate. Lol, no way a delivery company is gonna order me around. BUT... We don't have a human boss, God is our boss. He guides our directions. My outlook on life changed drastically, in a positive direction, once I handed Him the reins. This isn't a religious comment at all; just a matter of perspective. Once you realize this small world no longer has a hold over your life, and you finally understand the scope of God's World and start receiving His Blessings, the burden on your shoulders falls away. Life begins to be fun again, and those around you start becoming more positive, as a reflection of your change. Your son watches how you react to what life hands you. Be mindful and find peace, with God guiding your steps, watching your back, and leading your life.
Stacey Holley you're welcome. I actually joined up for the right reasons. Some join for different reasons and then stay for the right reasons, some join for different reasons and get out quickly once they realize its actual purpose - to help save the country BEFORE foreign trouble comes to native soil.
I appreciate you very much. Many people are finding meaning in your vlogs. I have a lot in common with you. I am a parent and married with a filipina, too. It's amazing what some managers will do to employees to get their career and become inhumane. It can be depressing. You are good at what you do, and please just keep striving for truth. It's what people here, like. Very genuine. Being a man is not about being macho. It's more manly to be able to have feelings and do right things like you are, even if unrecognized and simple as they may be. Your character is showing, via your values and actions. Thank you for serving our country.
Congratulations on making the decision to put family first. Your priority of family first indicates that you have it right. We can never get back time, once it is gone it is gone. I can vividly recall hugging my son when he was a toddler, especially when he would fall asleep in my arms. That skin to skin bonding was very important to me and I am sure it was to my son as well. I believe it helps build a strength that over time becomes unbreakable. Best wishes for you and your family. YOU MADE THE RIGHT CHOICE. From the time we get up till the time we go to sleep we do one thing and one thing only ....and that is ...make choices ( when you break it down to its simplest form). Once again great choice.
I'm sure you have heard this many times, but I feel compelled to pass along my thumbs up. This is only my 2nd of your vids (neighbor crayon first). To me you seem to have your head on strait and are on the right path for you. I'm a few years older than you and can somewhat relate to the job stress so many have to deal with. I had nearly 25 years with a corporation through various mergers and buyouts. Two years ago I was RIF'd with 15 years seniority. Three months prior to that my department management had been transferred from one facility to another with the promise nothing really was going to change. I really miss working with and supporting the staff I serviced for 15 years, but in a large corporation there are the entities that only care out their vision. I was very angry at how I was let go, but have made the best of it. I'm comfortable with my current path and trying to enjoy how things progress. Keep up the good work and keep loving yourself and your family.
5winder had a boss that I work for two weeks and this gentleman contrasted myself so much that after two weeks I went for walk, walked back in after my lunch and said good bye and thank you. Walked in to get my very small check in my street clothes instead of business clothes. He said wow you look like a different person I wish I would have hired this person instead.
I can tell that you've learned to be respectful of others perhaps from childhood and being in the military helps. Because of this, you respect yourself and good for you not to let someone rule your life so you can't cherish much needed time off with family. Don't lower yourself to that certain subset of people who are inconsiderate -and you fought for those kinds of people too - thank you for serving our country you went through much more than most people realize. I love your videos especially when you're such a loving person.
My son, your age as well (74) was in Iraq and Afghanistan, came back with disabilities, and refused all the meds also including pain meds, agrees fully to not taking meds. He also knows, as well as we do also, that in order to not take those meds you have to keep your health in order. Mind and body, both equally important. Lack of sleep causes dreams and they are ptds nightmares. Stress is a no no as you know. Hopefully, this book takes off as so many are in the same kind of jobs. Kudos for leaving. Keep sharing and if you need anything say so. TH-camrs have helped many in many kinds of support. Prayers sent. There's another guy I watch who wrote his first book and sells it both in non print and print options, it's been very successful, and he know reads a little to us giving more details, and it is so enjoyable to hear an author read and talk about his own creation. Praxxus55712, storytime
I found you through a desperate search for advice on getting out of an office position that is seriously impacting my mental health and well-being. Within the first minutes of watching, I found some solace in your words. Thank you.
I think you made the right decision. I'm currently in a situation very similar to yours and I'm thinking about doing something like you just did very soon. Being at a stressful job can hurt your health and your not even aware of it's damage till it's to late. I wish you all the best and thank you for your military service.
Hi from the UK. I have not served in the armed forces but my father did. I'm a bit older than you but you remind me of him. He was in the Royal Signals which as you most probably know equates to the USASC. Thank you for your candour, erudition and honesty. Like me, a lot of people can't understand what it is that service personnel do, it's impossible to empathise with the emotional pressure they're under day after day. Realising my ignorance, what I usually say to men and women in uniform is just "thank you". And so; thank you. I wish you all the best of luck and happiness.
Kevin, I remember my first couple of jobs that were tearing me up, and I walked out " telling them off in a nice way ....... by simply stated they could have this job ". I got in my car, turned on some rocking music, and had the best commute home that I had ever had. They called a few times asking the obligatory " What was wrong, and how can we help ? ", I said again, keep the job I'm going else where. Jobs are just a means to an end, and jobs don't define you ...... " You define you " !!! You can network with friends/coworkers and find better working conditions, you have taken the first step, keep on walking to a better life. Life is change, changing career directions, spiritual directions, and personal choices/changes. Always, Syn Silver.
Thank you for your service, I am a vet now on disability 100%. You do not have to put up with such from an employer. God has so much more out there for you and your family. Jerry
Congratulations!!! Treating employees with a little kindness and appreciation goes along way! Some bosses have the luv of power rather than the power of love. It destroys productivity and morale. God will make a way for you!
I truly find these videos so helpful. These are the things that are truly important in life. I love this. I love how you appreciate the precious moments. Thank you
I left a toxic job to get hired onto another toxic job.. The problem with both is that the jobs and tasks themselves were never really an issue, but management were and are terrible. Within the past week, I was threatened with termination because the account team framed me for something they screwed over. And it's been eating away at me over the weekend and even now. It's honestly embarrassing. And I feel like I've harped on this incident over and over again the past weekend, having the urge to binge on food, on alcohol, drop money compulsively.. anything. But I didn't. I knew that I'm incredibly upset and my anxiety/depression is flared up disastrously. I've been crying so much and want to quit so bad, but I am not financially sound to do so. It's so terrible.. Which is why I always find comfort in your videos. Your calm and genuine demeanor really helps to to ground me again and think the next steps.. It's so hard.. it's so hard. But I'm trying my best. And I'm thankful that I have someone at home waiting for me to come home..
I love your video's,.....please don't ever stop,...you touch my heart, knowing what a wonderful father you are, and how much you love your son, and to savor his every moment, and how you cherish your wife,...so very refreshing!!! time goes so fast. Always go with your instincts.....wishing you the best that life has to offer. PLUS I am learning a lot from you,....thank you,.....My dream is slowly coming true,.... I can't wait till my dream is a reality, and I will be full-time on a few acres, growing my own food, and taking care of animals and living a wonderful simple life (away from the craziness of society),...a good life!
I was really lucky I was a building contractor most of my working life and loved it ,I am retired now If you do not love what you do find something you do love life is short-------Thank you for your service to this great country!!!!
Thank you for your service and God bless you in this new chapter of your life! I had a similar experience a few years ago. My old boss literally caused physical illness (migraines in me from the stress, another guy had an ulcer...), plus assorted others on the team, miserable all the time. She had one 'golden child' (or toady, either term will work), and the rest of us were just a bunch of idiots, who were 'taking her time' with our 'foolish' decisions on projects. Funny thing was, we all excelled on other teams and projects before her, and after her. Working for her was the first time in my adult professional life that I moved from being driven to personal excellence on the job, to just doing whatever it took to not get verbally abused. Sucked all the pride of accomplishment right out of my work. I just kinda toughed that one out until the winds of corporate change blew me in a different direction, but I always wished I had the courage to do what you did here. I would have been a lot happier, I know that. So well done, you! Whether it works out just as you plan, or you have to do course corrections along the way, you're already a winner, and much better off! Oh, and dude, put up a website and get some merch going! I know I'd throw in on something, just because of how nice you all are, and how much my respect for you grows with every one of these videos I watch. Quality people have got to be supported! Give us some avenues to do that, so we can! :)
Thank you for your service. I've only seen a few of your videos and from what I have seen you seem like a very humble man who has worked hard for what he has. I wish you the best of luck and hope for the best in your endeavors in your home, family, and what else you may do.
First off - Thank you for your service! I'm in a situation that's close to where you are. The company had changed ownership after being there 13 years and the last year I was there was miserable. My wife was sick and I needed to keep the health care so I stayed on for another year. After nearly 20 years of marriage, my wife passed away just before the new year. I quit in march and have been living frugally and really rethinking what I want to do with the last half of my life. You'll find your own way, keep the faith!
It makes me angry to hear that any veteran has been mistreated. I’ve only recently found your channel but love what I’ve seen so far. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. My hat is off to you sir. May God bless you and yours!
I applaud your courage and agree that if your head and heart are in the right place everything else will work out. Love you and your family and this channel. I’m at that place too and it feels good. Good luck to you in your future endeavors.
Well said,you can never get that time with your kids back once there grown. I see your other video and was going to comment and suggest you do what your doing now. My husband passed away in 2001 and we both worked many hours supporting the family. The woulda coulda shoulda will never bring him back. Enjoy your family while you have them. 2 of my kids were young teens when my husband passed( they have kids of there own now) but when they talk of stories while rowing up I'm not usually in them as they say you were the paycheck and was always at work. I wished I could get that back but I can't so I make sure I have that quality time with my grandkids. I'm glad you made the decision that you did and I also believe it's spiritual growth
Smart move.i worked in a 24hr operation.for 28yrs 12hr shifts sometimes 12 days in a row.i missed a lot of my boy&girl growing up can't get it back.management really sucked I was injured on the job and can't work anymore.they didn't give a shit.i had a perfect safety record all that time.so I gave better part of my life to them for nothing.im happy now.good luck on your choice.you will make it johnny1 out.
Thank you for your service. New subscriber here. It is amazing how much of our lives we miss due to trying to suit society and gov. The time we loose with our family can never come back. Family needs to come before a job. It's the little things in life that make me happy. As long as there is enough income to pay for basic needs, everything will be ok. There is always a trade off, high income equals less family time. Thank you again for your service and videos. Keep it up.
Thank you. I'm sending these videos to my son. The oil contractor company he works for does the exact same things as what you have described in a different industry. Maybe, him hearing and listening from another person's take that's not personally involved as in family will help. Watching this video was like watching the same things he's going thru. And his co-workers I'm sure. But, he's my son. Your health and happiness should always come before a job. He loves the job it's not that, it's the way they are ran into the ground, even during off time, they don't get paid but have so much to do and are short handed that there is no break. The emails they get are actually threatening and demeaning not to mention the hang ups when you try to answer a question from the office manager on a regular basis. Very abusive, harassing and really, illegal. I think he will relate very well to the be right or be happy. He's been told he can't have both. I beg to differ, yes you can!! You can be right and be happy. In the last four year's he took 2 days vacation this July. Actually down your way, he drive straight thru to just get with nature and did some rock mining which he loves. And caving. Met some great people, but has paid dearly for that since. Catch 22. He doesn't jump job to job. That's not him. he's very dedicated too dedicated I think. And they see that and take full advantage of it. Thanks again on the video. Maybe it will help.
Every time I see one of your videos I can’t wait to show my husband. You two have some things in common. Thanks for your work here, please keep it up, and thank you for your service. Also, thank you for sharing the beauty of your homestead with us wannabe “someday” homesteaders... God bless you.
I left a job of 17 years . I enjoyed the first 15 years but things changed at the company. I thought very carefully about it before I made a move. At times we have to choose what is really valuable to us , happiness or losing our soul. I left the company and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. You’re a good man and you will be better off. Thank you for your service to our country.
You have a good head on your shoulders. You have a good plan, nothing that you haven't clearly thought through. You are doing the right thing for you and your family. 💜🌞🌵
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Your service means everything to a true American. Thank you for your service. 🇺🇸 Those hours you were working, is to much for anyone!
THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE .I how it is i 'am working on some plans of my own it might take me a year but our joy at 45 is priceless especially with my wife and daughter .
Hi. I saw your video on your annoying neighbour, so I understand the significance of that crayon! I left my job working at a world famous school in the UK after 7 years because of bullying colleagues, and the management style of people who regarded themselves as supreme beings, so I know how you feel. After several months of getting my head straight I know that within myself I know it was the right decision, and I'm sure you know that you are making the right decision too. The most precious present we can give ourselves is time with our loved ones - no gravestone never said 'I wish I'd spent more time at work'! In a year's time my husband retires from the police, and we hope to start a homestead of our own, so I follow your TH-cam channel with interest. I wish you and your family every success on your new path to happiness!
I have been in a very unfortunate life changing scenario and i really do agree with what u are saying ..i worked for a mining company and was gone from my daughter son and wife for two weeks at a time working 12 hours a day underground driving ad45...i was brand new to the company and i had a six month probationary period...everything was going well i was 3 days from my probation and getting a raise until my supervisor asked me to dump some waste muck in a unknown corner of the mine where i had never been ...when i approached the heading a coworker that had been there for several years was scooping out another area..i then asked him for help he neglected to tell me how to get there and proceeded to tell me he was busy i took out my vent prints and tryed calling my supervisor for some advice ..no one awnsered i made my way to the end of the heading where there were signs blocking both areas i thought it was unsafe as i could smell the anfo powder that was freshly blasted across the sign soo i dump the muck in what i thought was the correct bay away from the signs and as it turned out i got my truck stuck and damaged it in the process ...the company fired me ..about a week prior a man died down there with 4 children ...it is apparent that these companys couldnt give a shit less about u and youre well being.
I'll be 35 next year and I hope to quit next year and do something else. Homesteading is one of the things I have in mind. I'm working on getting my own piece of land. Your videos are encouraging. Thank you. I can relate to many people being fed up with their job, 15 years is enough for me.
Thank you for your service. But even more so, thank you for your honesty about your life situation (even though this video is two years old), and I hope you and your family are doing well!
My God, when will you wonderful veterans get the respect you deserve? The bullies in charge need to go to the front lines! Thank you for your selfless service.
On thing before you turn in your letter of resignation... The year at the top is right, but the year at the bottom is 5 years ago, 2013... You might fix that before you turn it in. ... however, only because you said you like the work and you like your co-workers, do I offer the following: Your boss has let power go to her head. You might let the higher ups know what she's said to you and what she's doing now. They may not know how she treats people and she may get replaced, making your situation much better. It's up to you. I like temp work, it's always been good to me. Like you said don't compromise your health and happiness for that woman especially since you can be happier elsewhere. 💜🌞🌵
I feel your pain about the wrong g job for the right person. I was going to leave my company and they offered alot of money. I told them it was not about money but learning and mentoring to the new people coming in.....they told me everyone has a price - wrong answer. I informed them that is why I am leaving....they didnt get work balance. I am 45 years old and manager in manufacturing....I have came to the point in my life that I would rather live in a cardboard box with my family happy...then a mansion miserable. Thank you so much for your insight and wisdom....taken your words to heart.
Happy vs right! You just taught me something. I've been going through a nightmare of situations after situations.. Total bs but I've been calibrated for being right not happy yet what I'm wanting for myself is what you have gained. Peace and time to enjoy life. Thank you for your video! 😊
Stay strong and keep moving forward my friend. Thank you for your service. God bless you and your family. Your son is lucky to have such a loving Father.
I’m 28 and 2 weeks ago I walked out of my full time job because the manager and the managing director (married) are treating nearly everyone including customers like crap. The day I left the MD physically pushed me out of the way when I was asking an innocent question, which caused me to request a meeting on my terms at the end of the day that they couldn’t see their faults, so although I’m glad I’m not there anymore, I don’t have another job to go on to. I don’t have any friends or girlfriend, my family is a mess and they probably look at me as a failure, I’m finding it hard looking for another job and the background depression I’ve had for over 10 years has become very deep. I’m applying for jobs in an industry I don’t actually like (sales and customer service), but that’s all my CV history says and I’m feeling trapped that my actual interests in life are completely out of my reach. I just want to feel happy and respected.
If your company was big enough for a managing director and manager it should have had an HR office. Apply for unemployment. Get the information out there about the abuse. See a lawyer. See a counselor, get your head straightened out if possible in oher words take care of yourself because it doesn't look like anyone else will. Be proactive for yourself. Find something you think you want to do and pursue it. AND never make a decision without a backup plan, quitting is fine if you know you can survive at least for a while. In the meantime, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
Glenda Sheaffer I appreciate you reading my comment and making a reply. I’ve been in mentally worse places in the past but I don’t want to get that low again. Thanks and take care
I agree with everything you said and believe in your goals. I enjoy your videos and will continue watching. I will say this for everyone's benefit. The treatment your are describing for a very large entity means you have an HR department. While you may not be able to discuss the personnel side of the company there is recourse for this treatment. First, document, document, document all instances of disrespect, hostility (the note dropping in the lap and her being corrected), further schedule changes to reflect the short hours but 7 day schedule, observing co-workers breaking down, etc. If this treatment is company wide and accepted, contact the local/state employment or labor boards. Contact other government labor industries, labor lawyer, congressman, (I haven't had this experience so I'm not sure of the titles of these agencies). Don' t accept ungodly treatment at the hands of one person (HER). She's already been backed down once. Do not let these people run you off without taking responsibility for the impossible working conditions. Be proactive while you are employed and you may not have to leave with nothing (unemployment comp). You have the Dr. statement and they are not honoring it. See the other note about FLMB. You may improve conditions for others (and yourself) and earn of all a greater sense of accomplishment in making them change. Most importantly, you are smart enough to know what you need as does your family, what you want and you have a plan to make sure you survive anything confronting you. Congrats on whatever you decide.
Hi Kevin, your subscribers, especially me love to hear you chat away! You don’t talk to much, you are a story teller. And that’s a lovely thing, always enjoy listening. X 🌍 x
I agree about not being medicated in order to tolerate a job.
like in school these days?
I will be leaving in two weeks my job of 34 years. A couple years go I brought something up to my supervisors that I thought was wrong regarding a coworker. Well that was a mistake,. I relate to your theory do you want to be right or do you want to be happy. They turned my concerns around and questioned me about my work habits which was a lame attempt to shame me. Ever since then I have hated going to work, never really connected the dots that this was the trigger to not being understood and listened to. Also leaving because the co-worker I spoke about is a narcissist, loud and chaotic, and I can't take it anymore. I wish I could have told my supervisors why I'm leaving, but chose not to because they didn't hear me the first time. I choose to be happy not right,. Thank you for your service to our country, and thank you for this video, it's been very helpful to me.
chowceo I went through a similar situation just like yours so I can totally relate to your story.
chowceo...Wow! At least you know what a narcissist is...that puts you ahead of those who dont! God bless you on your knew journey!!!
I can relate. Im still in the job I don’t like. I can’t quit yet and its giving me anxiety. Financially im not ready to quit but the job itself is giving me nightmares. I self talk everyday while driving to work “im going to get through this day, it will be a great day” but it’s really not making any sense when i step in to the office. Not to mention my co wrker is self righteous. Pointing fingers and blame shaming. I always ask what can we do to make it right and find a solution but instead they still blame and not do anything to correct the problem. I hate that coz im an introvert. It’s pandemic and looking for a new job is hard. I dnt knw what to do.
Life is too short to ever let anyone or anything get between you and time with those you love.
or doing that which you truly love and can afford to do
your son will not be embarassed, he will be proud of you
Hes an awesome father....if only more father's were more like this man and knows what's the most important in life.
You are so right. I am 47 and my son is 26 and now lives in Colorado. My husband and I live in Texas. It rips my heart out. Enjoy your baby boy. There are other jobs out there.
Thank you for your service. No one should treat our former military that way.
Will you link your books and where they can be bought? I love to read and would love to support your writing.
My mate and I have a designated cuddle time. An alarm is set and 30 minutes before he has to get up for work, without fail, we have cuddle time. Nothing but an emergency is allowed to come before cuddle time. We need that time together before the world gives us jobs that keep us apart.
The relatives think its crazy. It doesn't matter what they think. We NEED that cuddle time to solidify our love and affection for each other. It's us against the world. We are a team.
You sound like a really sweet, NORMAL man... please never change...
Bravo Brother!
I too am a combat veteran who suffers from PTSD, severe depression, and chronic pain. I've worked for a few companies before I was put at 100% service connected. Dealing with some of the tyrants who were bosses and many of the so called entitled people, was so overly stressful. I would have trouble with my anger management, and that built up stress would come out at home or around family. All of that would cause me to isolate more, because I didn't like the person I was, and didn't want to subject my friends and family to that side of me. You're making the best decision for you and your family. Having more money is nice, but there's no amount of money that could replace you, and the happiness that you provide your family.
Take care Brother and may God Bless you and your family.
Semper Fi,
Doc Marc
Marc Lussier, je te souhaite d'être heureux et en paix quoi que tu fasses... :)
Thank you kindly for your service. I greatly appreciate it. 💚
Stacey Holley,
Thank You so much, and may God Bless you and your family.
Marc Lussier
🇺🇸 Marc, thank you for your service 🇺🇸
I hope that you and Kevin find exactly what you both need. I hope you find contentment in in your lives. God bless you and your families.
Just found your channel today. I enjoy listening to you. My family became debt free twenty years ago. I made that decision because of the way my husband was being treated at his job. I wanted to put us in a position where no one could hold our lives in their hands. It was the best decision l could have made! I dont think you will regret this move. I would also like to thank you for your enormous sacrifice to our country. It does matter and your well being matters. I commend your bravery in speaking out about getting help! Many thanks to you and your family for sharing your world with all of us. 💕 peace be with you
Thanks Chelsea.
You're doing the right thing. There's never a reason to work for a person, or the company that allows them to behave in that manner. Ever. I'm sorry you had to go through that, and wish you and your family the best, as you discover what will REALLY work for you!
Listening to you was like sitting with an old friend with a story to tell straight from the heart. You are a good man with a heart of gold. God bless you and your family.
Awww I'm happy for you that you made the decision to be happy. Fortunately I was a few years from early retirement and my husband was already retired. I had to quit for my sanity and looking at my life presently. I know it was the right decision. God Bless You and Thank You for your service to our great Country.
I'd rather feel bad some of the time than feel nothing all of the time - I love this
Your beautiful family you have now, was from God, and you deserve it tenfold. You are an inspiration. You seem like a very descent human being. And your service means ALOT.
I think maybe you should have your own show!
I AM RETIRED NOW I KNOW FRUGAL AND I ENJOY IT. NO ONE ON THE FACE OF THIS EARTH SHOULD EVER BE ALLOWED TO TREAT ANOTHER HUMAN THE WAY THIS WOMAN DOES. SHE IS BUILDING SOME NASTY KARMA AND IT WILL BITE HER IN BUTT HOPEFULLY SOONER THAN LATER. . GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
I support your decision 100%. I was 15 years in the job, transferred to a department I thought was a good move. I ended up working for a woman that was so abusive, a true definition of a psychopath. I was miserable to the point of contemplating suicide. I ended up walking off the job, marched over to HR and demanded early retirement as well as leave with pay until my retirement payments kicked in and I got it. Unfortunately HR did nothing to stop this woman from abusing others. The person that took my place ended up shooting himself in the head due to the stress and abuse. This prompted HR to investigate and relieve her of her management duties. You obviously are strong enough and understand how far you will be pushed before walking. Others may not. I hope HR evaluates this woman and releases her from management duties so that she doesn’t push someone over the edge to a very dark place.
I am right there with you. It is wrong for employers not to give their employees breaks and make the employees work days without a day off. I agree that you left this job and find something else.
First of all thank you for your service ... I have a son that was in the service and came home with PTSD and it breaks my heart to see him with his anger. Your video's are good keep them coming ... your boss will get her due in His time. Trust in God and He will help you more than you can imagine...I know cause He has helped me so much. I will pray for you and your wonderful family to give you true peace and happiness. Blessing to you and your family my friend.
Thank you for your military service. I was a field service tech 10 years ago. My son was just born. I ended up being late back to a continued service call from the day before because I stayed with my wife & baby an extra hour that morning. The new manager called me and proceeded to almost yell and say, “You work for me, I own you!” I said, “I don’t think I want to work for somebody who thinks they own me. I quit a few weeks after that. I’m also having problems now with depression & social anxieties combined with overtime & more responsibilities. I’ve been able to use some employee benefits. Doctors always want to just give me medications. Which I’ve tried but nothing takes away the real issue. I don’t want to take pills every day. I agree with you that doping people with drugs isn’t the answer. It’ll mask the real issue for a while but it always returns. I haven’t found a solution yet for myself. Great videos btw thank you.
Oh, wow ... we have so much in common (in certain ways) .... I first subbed to you when I watched your 'how to get rid of a bad neighbor' .... I'll tell you a little about myself: I'm now 45 years old .... and resigned from a position I had where I was truly miserable and had many of the same feelings towards the profession like you did with yours. I'm a teacher but the community/school where I taught were going against many morals I have personally. ... I started to have to do things in my job that I never agreed with deep within. (The school system is changing all over the world, really.) I am divorced with 3 younger sons (no daughters... but also now engaged with a man that has no kids) and thinking of myself at 45, I feel I should work for a school division that I feel happy to work with. ..... .. Another fact we have in common is that we own 32 acres of pristine land but there's nothing built on it (yet) .... We camp there a lot and hike and have fun. We'd LOVE to build there but wow .. starting from scratch is extremely expensive. (I live in Central Canada).... By the way: I know I'm not Canadian but thank-you for your service to your Country. I have family that also served (Canadians) and I am sure it's the same way for the USA, but the veterans should be honored and recognized a lot better than what they are. Thanks so much for your insight and inspiration.
You are a good family man!!!! GOD will be with you in your journey to a better life. Stay true to you. Thank you for sacrificing your life and liberty for our country. You are blessed!!!
Kevin, after hearing your miserable work experience. You are doing the right thing. Time with your family can never be replaced so cherish every single moment with them. Look forward to reading you book. Please make sure you let us all know when you get it published. All the very best to all the family. My thoughts are with you guys.
Thank you for your story. I am a disabled infantry vet as well (6 years army) and had a VERY similar situation at a company that I worked for for 12 years. I loved the place and a lot of the people made some friends that I still talk to today but had a manager at the end of my time that was exactly like yours. I tried a couple things like HR and other managers but nothing really changed so I decided to take that leap and resign taking a pretty much 50% pay cut in the meantime. Right or Happy. Work or Family. You are expendable to the job, but not to your family. I missed bonding with my last child because of said boss and I stuck with it as long as I did because I loved the place but my friends would remind me that if the roles were reversed the company wouldn't make the same effort. They were right. I am not doing as "well" but I am way more happy. You take care of you and yours, great story.
Oh, it is good you have a doctor that understand the need to not be medicated. Wish all VA hospital doctors understood that :)
That crayon is quite the weapon of choice! Still thinking you all need to start a bed & breakfast! As far as the ungodly job, you absolutely made the right decision, that is a hellhole nobody deserves!
Y’alls channel just popped up I’m happy I watched. I subscribed. Thank you for your service. My husband served & I still thank him all the time. I can not comprehend people that don’t appreciate our vets. It’s really sad. Thank you again to you & your beautiful family.
I had that kind of job once. I interviewed & was hired at another job (so it wouldn't affect my needing a recommendation), then, on the day I'd chosen, I walked into my old job at 8:00, resigned, and walked out at 8:15. Best day I ever had there!!! 😁
I can not express enough how important family is, but I can see that you know this truth. Not everyone has other options to leave a job, I'm happy to see that you do. I'm sure that your decision will bring continuous happiness and wonderful memories you will draw on over the years. I'm a little older (56) than you and am in awe of you, your wife and son, what a great family environment. Jesus be with you and yours always.
When was this video made? Today is 12 July 2018........by-the-way, I am a Vietnam vet (USMC) and was married to a Filipino for 18 years. I plan on moving to the Philippines this November. Anyway, I feel a kinship to you when I listen to you. Mag ingat ka.......Bob
You have to be happy with your job, if not, its time to change.
Take care of yourself. My brother is getting a medical discharge this year after 13 years in the Army. He's having a hard time with it because he is so close to ranking up to E7. The psyche can only handle so much. Self-care is imperative.
Enjoy your videos, thank you for serving! God bless you and your family.
Thanks for watching, Lisa!
I've been feeling the same lately at my job. I'm working on finding something better. Been afraid to leave but I'm so tired of the BS already. I just want to be happy. Just today I was working on my resume. So that's already a baby step. This video helps, thank you. Also, you sound like you would write a great book. I would love to start writing. Maybe you can write about the experiences at that job. Best of luck and thank you for your service.
Good for you! I did the same thing about 4 weeks ago, and I couldn't be happier! Most of my children are grown and gone, but I love taking care of all the animals and tending the garden, cutting the grass, canning up food from my garden, for the pantry. Just knowing that what we eat and how we live is sustainable and healthy is awesome. You and your family will be ok. Thank you for your service, and I know you will really enjoy being home more.
You could easily be an advocate for vets and what they deal with in the workforce. I’m happy that you decided to protect your mental health and your family and leave that job. I’m also grateful and proud to know you’ve rendered such support to our country. Thank you so much.
I'm new to your channel, so let me just start by saying, thank you for your service. My late husband was in Vietnam. He was a very proud man. Every service man or woman he would see, he would take just a second or two, and thank them for their service. He knew they at least deserved that much back. I'm proud of you for not only fighting for what is right for you, but also what's right for your family.GOD bless you in all that you do, in your family filled future. Take Care! Your new friend in AL.
I like what you have to say. I am glad that you love yourself and family enough to do what is right in 5 or 10 years I wonder how happy lady boss will be and her family
Sir, I gained A LOT from listening to your video! You describe my situation almost but without the overt aggression from my boss. He lays back or hints to others to do his dirty work. Nevertheless, I survive as a worn down spirit and soul. I will share this with my daughter who works for an abusive attorney, abusive in words, she has a English degree and wanted to write when she graduated from Liberty. We use to live in the Maryland Virginia are, but I came down to Alabama for the job. Keep doing what you do. Thanks for your service! And I will read your books. You definitely have a following. I'm looking to build up enough nerve to severe my job and get a farm with free range chickens, bees, a pond of fish and fruit trees. WE ARE OUT HERE!!! P.S. I'd love to meet you the next time I'm up in Virginia. Manny the Yup Yup Man!
Your service means something here!!!! Thank you, sir, for your service!
I just found your channel about a week ago. I love your videos especially ones like this where you just share your thoughts and life experiences. Really helps me reflect on my own life and set my priorities in order for a happy life for me and my children. Thank you so much to you and your fellow servicemen and women for risking your lives in really terrible situations to give us Americans our freedoms and happiness that a lot of us can take for granted at times. You all are the protectors of our great nation and our freedom! It will never be forgotten.
You are a brave and courageous man. Brave and courageous for your service to our country and for posting this video. Until we stand up to the abusers in the workplace, our quality of work/life balance will never change here in America. Our priorities are upside down when family has to be put last in order to just earn a meager wage. Moving to a shared economic system will be the next movement in our growth as human beings. Love and peace to you and your family. Keep the videos coming !!
You are so very right about your decision to leave those working conditions. I chose to stay in a job that I loved where work conditions were unbearable. I worked there for nearly 5 years while being harassed and picked on, all while receiving great personnel reviews. I became physically ill while still coming into work and taking the abuse. I was then laid off with no explanation and I can tell you that day, while still in slow motion, was one of the best days of my life! It took me six months to emotionally and physically heal. I feel certain it would have killed me had I stayed there . I moved on to an even better job with a great work family and I'll never look back. Kudos to you for having the sense to move forward as well as the courage. I wish you and your wonderful homesteading family all the best blessings.
Well done! My son will soon be 21 and I had the opportunity to work for myself when he was little. It helped pay the bills and allowed me to be a "stay-at-home" mom. I am so grateful for the time and memories it allowed me. The moments and memories with our children are precious-not just for you, but him too. He will carry and treasure those moments in his heart his whole life too. God bless!
Oh, hell no. Oh I can't wait to hear about this company. I'm also a veteran, with similar qualities. So I can emulate. Lol, no way a delivery company is gonna order me around.
BUT... We don't have a human boss, God is our boss. He guides our directions. My outlook on life changed drastically, in a positive direction, once I handed Him the reins. This isn't a religious comment at all; just a matter of perspective.
Once you realize this small world no longer has a hold over your life, and you finally understand the scope of God's World and start receiving His Blessings, the burden on your shoulders falls away. Life begins to be fun again, and those around you start becoming more positive, as a reflection of your change.
Your son watches how you react to what life hands you. Be mindful and find peace, with God guiding your steps, watching your back, and leading your life.
Roxyie Curone
Smart couple:)
Roxyie Curone Thank you kindly for your service. I greatly appreciate it. 💚
Stacey Holley you're welcome. I actually joined up for the right reasons. Some join for different reasons and then stay for the right reasons, some join for different reasons and get out quickly once they realize its actual purpose - to help save the country BEFORE foreign trouble comes to native soil.
Roxyie Curone Wow! Thank you for saying this. I am someone who really needed to hear it at this point in my life.
I appreciate you very much. Many people are finding meaning in your vlogs. I have a lot in common with you. I am a parent and married with a filipina, too. It's amazing what some managers will do to employees to get their career and become inhumane. It can be depressing. You are good at what you do, and please just keep striving for truth. It's what people here, like. Very genuine. Being a man is not about being macho. It's more manly to be able to have feelings and do right things like you are, even if unrecognized and simple as they may be. Your character is showing, via your values and actions. Thank you for serving our country.
Your service to this great country means the world to me sir!!! Thank you!!!
I'm adding you and your family to my prayer list.
Congratulations on making the decision to put family first. Your priority of family first indicates that you have it right. We can never get back time, once it is gone it is gone. I can vividly recall hugging my son when he was a toddler, especially when he would fall asleep in my arms. That skin to skin bonding was very important to me and I am sure it was to my son as well. I believe it helps build a strength that over time becomes unbreakable. Best wishes for you and your family. YOU MADE THE RIGHT CHOICE. From the time we get up till the time we go to sleep we do one thing and one thing only ....and that is ...make choices ( when you break it down to its simplest form). Once again great choice.
I'm sure you have heard this many times, but I feel compelled to pass along my thumbs up. This is only my 2nd of your vids (neighbor crayon first). To me you seem to have your head on strait and are on the right path for you. I'm a few years older than you and can somewhat relate to the job stress so many have to deal with. I had nearly 25 years with a corporation through various mergers and buyouts. Two years ago I was RIF'd with 15 years seniority. Three months prior to that my department management had been transferred from one facility to another with the promise nothing really was going to change. I really miss working with and supporting the staff I serviced for 15 years, but in a large corporation there are the entities that only care out their vision.
I was very angry at how I was let go, but have made the best of it. I'm comfortable with my current path and trying to enjoy how things progress.
Keep up the good work and keep loving yourself and your family.
If a job (or boss) makes you feel mentally ill... it's not wrong to call in sick. God bless you.
Yes. This is an excellent point. Mentally fatigued is sick.
5winder had a boss that I work for two weeks and this gentleman contrasted myself so much that after two weeks I went for walk, walked back in after my lunch and said good bye and thank you. Walked in to get my very small check in my street clothes instead of business clothes. He said wow you look like a different person I wish I would have hired this person instead.
I can tell that you've learned to be respectful of others perhaps from childhood and being in the military helps. Because of this, you respect yourself and good for you not to let someone rule your life so you can't cherish much needed time off with family. Don't lower yourself to that certain subset of people who are inconsiderate -and you fought for those kinds of people too - thank you for serving our country you went through much more than most people realize. I love your videos especially when you're such a loving person.
My son, your age as well (74) was in Iraq and Afghanistan, came back with disabilities, and refused all the meds also including pain meds, agrees fully to not taking meds. He also knows, as well as we do also, that in order to not take those meds you have to keep your health in order. Mind and body, both equally important. Lack of sleep causes dreams and they are ptds nightmares. Stress is a no no as you know. Hopefully, this book takes off as so many are in the same kind of jobs. Kudos for leaving. Keep sharing and if you need anything say so. TH-camrs have helped many in many kinds of support. Prayers sent. There's another guy I watch who wrote his first book and sells it both in non print and print options, it's been very successful, and he know reads a little to us giving more details, and it is so enjoyable to hear an author read and talk about his own creation. Praxxus55712, storytime
I found you through a desperate search for advice on getting out of an office position that is seriously impacting my mental health and well-being. Within the first minutes of watching, I found some solace in your words. Thank you.
I think you made the right decision. I'm currently in a situation very similar to yours and I'm thinking about doing something like you just did very soon. Being at a stressful job can hurt your health and your not even aware of it's damage till it's to late. I wish you all the best and thank you for your military service.
Hi from the UK. I have not served in the armed forces but my father did. I'm a bit older than you but you remind me of him. He was in the Royal Signals which as you most probably know equates to the USASC. Thank you for your candour, erudition and honesty. Like me, a lot of people can't understand what it is that service personnel do, it's impossible to empathise with the emotional pressure they're under day after day. Realising my ignorance, what I usually say to men and women in uniform is just "thank you". And so; thank you. I wish you all the best of luck and happiness.
Kevin,
I remember my first couple of jobs that were tearing me up, and I walked out " telling them off in a nice way ....... by simply stated they could have this job ". I got in my car, turned on some rocking music, and had the best commute home that I had ever had. They called a few times asking the obligatory " What was wrong, and how can we help ? ", I said again, keep the job I'm going else where. Jobs are just a means to an end, and jobs don't define you ...... " You define you " !!! You can network with friends/coworkers and find better working conditions, you have taken the first step, keep on walking to a better life. Life is change, changing career directions, spiritual directions, and personal choices/changes. Always, Syn Silver.
Thank you for your service, I am a vet now on disability 100%. You do not have to put up with such from an employer. God has so much more out there for you and your family.
Jerry
Congratulations!!! Treating employees with a little kindness and appreciation goes along way! Some bosses have the luv of power rather than the power of love. It destroys productivity and morale. God will make a way for you!
I truly find these videos so helpful. These are the things that are truly important in life. I love this. I love how you appreciate the precious moments. Thank you
I left a toxic job to get hired onto another toxic job..
The problem with both is that the jobs and tasks themselves were never really an issue, but management were and are terrible. Within the past week, I was threatened with termination because the account team framed me for something they screwed over. And it's been eating away at me over the weekend and even now.
It's honestly embarrassing. And I feel like I've harped on this incident over and over again the past weekend, having the urge to binge on food, on alcohol, drop money compulsively.. anything.
But I didn't. I knew that I'm incredibly upset and my anxiety/depression is flared up disastrously. I've been crying so much and want to quit so bad, but I am not financially sound to do so. It's so terrible..
Which is why I always find comfort in your videos. Your calm and genuine demeanor really helps to to ground me again and think the next steps..
It's so hard.. it's so hard. But I'm trying my best. And I'm thankful that I have someone at home waiting for me to come home..
I love your video's,.....please don't ever stop,...you touch my heart, knowing what a wonderful father you are, and how much you love your son, and to savor his every moment, and how you cherish your wife,...so very refreshing!!! time goes so fast. Always go with your instincts.....wishing you the best that life has to offer. PLUS I am learning a lot from you,....thank you,.....My dream is slowly coming true,.... I can't wait till my dream is a reality, and I will be full-time on a few acres, growing my own food, and taking care of animals and living a wonderful simple life (away from the craziness of society),...a good life!
I was really lucky I was a building contractor most of my working life and loved it ,I am retired now If you do not love what you do find something you do love life is short-------Thank you for your service to this great country!!!!
Always choose to be happy!
Thank you for sharing this story. It’s really encouraging to hear what you are learning and how you are putting your family first.
Thank you for your service and God bless you in this new chapter of your life!
I had a similar experience a few years ago. My old boss literally caused physical illness (migraines in me from the stress, another guy had an ulcer...), plus assorted others on the team, miserable all the time. She had one 'golden child' (or toady, either term will work), and the rest of us were just a bunch of idiots, who were 'taking her time' with our 'foolish' decisions on projects. Funny thing was, we all excelled on other teams and projects before her, and after her. Working for her was the first time in my adult professional life that I moved from being driven to personal excellence on the job, to just doing whatever it took to not get verbally abused. Sucked all the pride of accomplishment right out of my work.
I just kinda toughed that one out until the winds of corporate change blew me in a different direction, but I always wished I had the courage to do what you did here. I would have been a lot happier, I know that.
So well done, you! Whether it works out just as you plan, or you have to do course corrections along the way, you're already a winner, and much better off!
Oh, and dude, put up a website and get some merch going! I know I'd throw in on something, just because of how nice you all are, and how much my respect for you grows with every one of these videos I watch. Quality people have got to be supported! Give us some avenues to do that, so we can! :)
Thank you for your service. I've only seen a few of your videos and from what I have seen you seem like a very humble man who has worked hard for what he has. I wish you the best of luck and hope for the best in your endeavors in your home, family, and what else you may do.
Bravo! You are right in so many ways and I am proud of you for being able to make that decision for all the right reasons.
Thank you for sharing and especially thank you for your service. You are amazing.
First off - Thank you for your service! I'm in a situation that's close to where you are. The company had changed ownership after being there 13 years and the last year I was there was miserable. My wife was sick and I needed to keep the health care so I stayed on for another year. After nearly 20 years of marriage, my wife passed away just before the new year. I quit in march and have been living frugally and really rethinking what I want to do with the last half of my life. You'll find your own way, keep the faith!
It makes me angry to hear that any veteran has been mistreated. I’ve only recently found your channel but love what I’ve seen so far. Thank you so much for sharing your journey.
My hat is off to you sir. May God bless you and yours!
I applaud your courage and agree that if your head and heart are in the right place everything else will work out. Love you and your family and this channel. I’m at that place too and it feels good. Good luck to you in your future endeavors.
Good for you!! That is something your son will always remember with great feelings
God bless you and your family! Thank you for service!
Well said,you can never get that time with your kids back once there grown. I see your other video and was going to comment and suggest you do what your doing now. My husband passed away in 2001 and we both worked many hours supporting the family. The woulda coulda shoulda will never bring him back. Enjoy your family while you have them. 2 of my kids were young teens when my husband passed( they have kids of there own now) but when they talk of stories while rowing up I'm not usually in them as they say you were the paycheck and was always at work. I wished I could get that back but I can't so I make sure I have that quality time with my grandkids. I'm glad you made the decision that you did and I also believe it's spiritual growth
Smart move.i worked in a 24hr operation.for 28yrs 12hr shifts sometimes 12 days in a row.i missed a lot of my boy&girl growing up can't get it back.management really sucked I was injured on the job and can't work anymore.they didn't give a shit.i had a perfect safety record all that time.so I gave better part of my life to them for nothing.im happy now.good luck on your choice.you will make it johnny1 out.
Thank you for your service. New subscriber here. It is amazing how much of our lives we miss due to trying to suit society and gov. The time we loose with our family can never come back. Family needs to come before a job. It's the little things in life that make me happy. As long as there is enough income to pay for basic needs, everything will be ok. There is always a trade off, high income equals less family time. Thank you again for your service and videos. Keep it up.
I loved how you did your resignation letter. When I quiet my job that's how I'm doing it. Thanks for your service.
Thank you. I'm sending these videos to my son. The oil contractor company he works for does the exact same things as what you have described in a different industry. Maybe, him hearing and listening from another person's take that's not personally involved as in family will help. Watching this video was like watching the same things he's going thru. And his co-workers I'm sure. But, he's my son. Your health and happiness should always come before a job. He loves the job it's not that, it's the way they are ran into the ground, even during off time, they don't get paid but have so much to do and are short handed that there is no break. The emails they get are actually threatening and demeaning not to mention the hang ups when you try to answer a question from the office manager on a regular basis. Very abusive, harassing and really, illegal. I think he will relate very well to the be right or be happy. He's been told he can't have both. I beg to differ, yes you can!! You can be right and be happy. In the last four year's he took 2 days vacation this July. Actually down your way, he drive straight thru to just get with nature and did some rock mining which he loves. And caving. Met some great people, but has paid dearly for that since. Catch 22. He doesn't jump job to job. That's not him. he's very dedicated too dedicated I think. And they see that and take full advantage of it. Thanks again on the video. Maybe it will help.
Every time I see one of your videos I can’t wait to show my husband. You two have some things in common. Thanks for your work here, please keep it up, and thank you for your service. Also, thank you for sharing the beauty of your homestead with us wannabe “someday” homesteaders... God bless you.
I left a job of 17 years . I enjoyed the first 15 years but things changed at the company. I thought very carefully about it before I made a move. At times we have to choose what is really valuable to us , happiness or losing our soul. I left the company and it was one of the best decisions I ever made. You’re a good man and you will be better off. Thank you for your service to our country.
You have a good head on your shoulders. You have a good plan, nothing that you haven't clearly thought through. You are doing the right thing for you and your family. 💜🌞🌵
Your service means everything to a true American. Thank you for your service. 🇺🇸
Those hours you were working, is to much for anyone!
THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE .I how it is i 'am working on some plans of my own it might take me a year but our joy at 45 is priceless especially with my wife and daughter .
You sound like a really good Dad. Family always comes first. You are dong the right thing. God will provide you another job.
Hi. I saw your video on your annoying neighbour, so I understand the significance of that crayon! I left my job working at a world famous school in the UK after 7 years because of bullying colleagues, and the management style of people who regarded themselves as supreme beings, so I know how you feel. After several months of getting my head straight I know that within myself I know it was the right decision, and I'm sure you know that you are making the right decision too. The most precious present we can give ourselves is time with our loved ones - no gravestone never said 'I wish I'd spent more time at work'! In a year's time my husband retires from the police, and we hope to start a homestead of our own, so I follow your TH-cam channel with interest. I wish you and your family every success on your new path to happiness!
I have been in a very unfortunate life changing scenario and i really do agree with what u are saying ..i worked for a mining company and was gone from my daughter son and wife for two weeks at a time working 12 hours a day underground driving ad45...i was brand new to the company and i had a six month probationary period...everything was going well i was 3 days from my probation and getting a raise until my supervisor asked me to dump some waste muck in a unknown corner of the mine where i had never been ...when i approached the heading a coworker that had been there for several years was scooping out another area..i then asked him for help he neglected to tell me how to get there and proceeded to tell me he was busy i took out my vent prints and tryed calling my supervisor for some advice ..no one awnsered i made my way to the end of the heading where there were signs blocking both areas i thought it was unsafe as i could smell the anfo powder that was freshly blasted across the sign soo i dump the muck in what i thought was the correct bay away from the signs and as it turned out i got my truck stuck and damaged it in the process ...the company fired me ..about a week prior a man died down there with 4 children ...it is apparent that these companys couldnt give a shit less about u and youre well being.
I'll be 35 next year and I hope to quit next year and do something else. Homesteading is one of the things I have in mind. I'm working on getting my own piece of land. Your videos are encouraging. Thank you. I can relate to many people being fed up with their job, 15 years is enough for me.
Bless you and your beautiful family, Praying that everything works out for the best.
Thank you for your service. But even more so, thank you for your honesty about your life situation (even though this video is two years old), and I hope you and your family are doing well!
My God, when will you wonderful veterans get the respect you deserve? The bullies in charge need to go to the front lines! Thank you for your selfless service.
On thing before you turn in your letter of resignation... The year at the top is right, but the year at the bottom is 5 years ago, 2013... You might fix that before you turn it in. ... however, only because you said you like the work and you like your co-workers, do I offer the following: Your boss has let power go to her head. You might let the higher ups know what she's said to you and what she's doing now. They may not know how she treats people and she may get replaced, making your situation much better. It's up to you. I like temp work, it's always been good to me. Like you said don't compromise your health and happiness for that woman especially since you can be happier elsewhere. 💜🌞🌵
I feel your pain about the wrong g job for the right person. I was going to leave my company and they offered alot of money. I told them it was not about money but learning and mentoring to the new people coming in.....they told me everyone has a price - wrong answer. I informed them that is why I am leaving....they didnt get work balance. I am 45 years old and manager in manufacturing....I have came to the point in my life that I would rather live in a cardboard box with my family happy...then a mansion miserable. Thank you so much for your insight and wisdom....taken your words to heart.
Thank you for this ... I’m similar situation. Your giving me the courage to put my 2 weeks in.
This was so awesome 😎 god bless you and your family
Thanks for the comment Lesley. I hope it all works out for you, too, in your situation.
Happy vs right! You just taught me something. I've been going through a nightmare of situations after situations.. Total bs but I've been calibrated for being right not happy yet what I'm wanting for myself is what you have gained. Peace and time to enjoy life. Thank you for your video! 😊
Your son is blessed to have a man like you for a father.
I absolutely love your channel! It sounds like you're making a good life choice. Thank you for your service, sir❤️
Stay strong and keep moving forward my friend. Thank you for your service. God bless you and your family. Your son is lucky to have such a loving Father.
I’m 28 and 2 weeks ago I walked out of my full time job because the manager and the managing director (married) are treating nearly everyone including customers like crap. The day I left the MD physically pushed me out of the way when I was asking an innocent question, which caused me to request a meeting on my terms at the end of the day that they couldn’t see their faults, so although I’m glad I’m not there anymore, I don’t have another job to go on to. I don’t have any friends or girlfriend, my family is a mess and they probably look at me as a failure, I’m finding it hard looking for another job and the background depression I’ve had for over 10 years has become very deep. I’m applying for jobs in an industry I don’t actually like (sales and customer service), but that’s all my CV history says and I’m feeling trapped that my actual interests in life are completely out of my reach. I just want to feel happy and respected.
If your company was big enough for a managing director and manager it should have had an HR office. Apply for unemployment. Get the information out there about the abuse. See a lawyer. See a counselor, get your head straightened out if possible in oher words take care of yourself because it doesn't look like anyone else will. Be proactive for yourself. Find something you think you want to do and pursue it. AND never make a decision without a backup plan, quitting is fine if you know you can survive at least for a while. In the meantime, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
Glenda Sheaffer I appreciate you reading my comment and making a reply. I’ve been in mentally worse places in the past but I don’t want to get that low again. Thanks and take care
Thanks for sharing this, it may help many others. Best wishes and prayers today for open doors for better employment.
I agree with everything you said and believe in your goals. I enjoy your videos and will continue watching. I will say this for everyone's benefit. The treatment your are describing for a very large entity means you have an HR department. While you may not be able to discuss the personnel side of the company there is recourse for this treatment. First, document, document, document all instances of disrespect, hostility (the note dropping in the lap and her being corrected), further schedule changes to reflect the short hours but 7 day schedule, observing co-workers breaking down, etc. If this treatment is company wide and accepted, contact the local/state employment or labor boards. Contact other government labor industries, labor lawyer, congressman, (I haven't had this experience so I'm not sure of the titles of these agencies). Don' t accept ungodly treatment at the hands of one person (HER). She's already been backed down once. Do not let these people run you off without taking responsibility for the impossible working conditions. Be proactive while you are employed and you may not have to leave with nothing (unemployment comp). You have the Dr. statement and they are not honoring it. See the other note about FLMB. You may improve conditions for others (and yourself) and earn of all a greater sense of accomplishment in making them change. Most importantly, you are smart enough to know what you need as does your family, what you want and you have a plan to make sure you survive anything confronting you. Congrats on whatever you decide.
Hi Kevin, your subscribers, especially me love to hear you chat away! You don’t talk to much, you are a story teller. And that’s a lovely thing, always enjoy listening. X 🌍 x