Psychotherapist here👋🏼 Females on the spectrum have high levels of empathy and can feel other people’s emotions as their own, even when the other person is not being forthcoming with their feelings. Their nervous system is highly sensitive and that’s why they’re so sensitive to people’s moods and their environments. They also tend to be rebels or extremely independent, and stand up for the underdog. In our field we think it’s an evolution of the brain♥️🧠 I LOVE the autistic brain, they are the most intelligent people I’ve ever met in my life. So open minded, kind, gentle, and able to see connections between things that don’t seem to be connected. The more I work with people on the spectrum the more I see myself in them. I’m actually considering getting evaluated for this because I relate to the Autistic experience! There’s so much we have yet to learn about this neurotype, but I don’t see it as a disability because unfortunately our society is structured around neurotypicals. I see it as a difference in abilities and there’s a lot of strengths to having this type of brain. Fascinating! Look at the world right now. We NEED more empathy or we’re going to destruct ourselves as a species. Anyhoo… thank you for sharing your experience!
thank you for writing this. i am not sure im on the spectrum but as i learn more about neurodivergent brains i am for sure one. i am super empathetic and as i gat older i am becoming a misanthrope because so many humans are selfish and don’t actually care about anyone outside their families 😞
Thank you for sharing this and for just being you! I hope that one day your type of evaluation of the situation will pervade the whole profession so that all those with neurodivergent brains can be treated with the respect they have always deserved but never received and only served to compound their suffering. It would be beneficial to all humanity too. Peace.
always stand up for your right to stim wherever and whenever and for how ever long you want to. more stimming and self care will take the edge off the meltdowns. maybe read Elaine Aaron's book " the highly sensitive person". she's controversial with autistics, but you can still apply her wisdom to your circumstances.
It's been an adventure figuring out all my stims. I read that book a long time ago way before I knew I was Autistic so it would be interesting to read it again with this new knowledge.
I used to think for sure I wasn't Autistic because I don't collect or organize things. Lol..turns out it's not just trains and superhero figurines. I collect information on my head and enjoy organizing so many things!
Lol I rearrange the dishes the way I like them after my husband washes. I used to helicopter really annoyingly but now I just say thanks and fix them up when he’s gone to relax 😅
When the online tests ask, do you do things the same way, I answer no, but when I see people explain themselves, I'm like, I'm just like that, in my own way. The thing is maybe not the same, but our own way or our own thing is similar in how it is approached. Have you looked into cognitive functions? Into typology? MBTI? It also helps explain divergences. So much so that it can be hard to know if intuitive, or autistic or both? There are autistic sensors, but I think it expresses differently. It would, in fact, for each type, express differently. That wood will make some cozy fires.
Yes. I agree with you entirely and that was my response to learning about Autism at first too! I thought nah..that's not me until I started interacting with other Autistic people and was like hmm maybe it is. For example I knew my grandfather was Autistic because he likes collecting and organizing radios and learned Ham radio communication so he could talk to people overseas because regular communication was difficult for him. He was a classic presentation of an Autistic person. I never realized my mother had the same characteristics because her collections were more socially acceptable. She collects clothes and is obsessed with fashion. When I learned what Autism can look like in other people I realizes the four closets of meticulously organized and color coded clothing was a sure sign of Autism! So my mother is likely a sensor type. Hence more material collections that are socially acceptable. I am an intuitive type. Myers Briggs always types me as INFJ so my collection and organizing has a lot to do with intellectual pursuits of human behavior and researching anything to do with this and categorizing it in my brain. I don't often have physical manifestations of my organization and collecting with the exception of my wood piles and also I really like rocks and crystals and I do have a fascination with all things related to getting me into nature ( all sorts of skis and crampons and camping equipment). So much much different than your textbook Autistic person. What are your traits and what is your MBTI? Oh..I am also an ennegram 4. So I tend to really not want to do things that are "expected" of my gender and will oppose pretty much any trend 😂.
@@christinadonnelly781 Hi, I'm sorry to leave our convo hanging there... I am having trouble being present for people. Having trouble organizing what I need to focus on to move forward and not drop intentions, which includes people. A couple weeks ago I was thinking 'why can't I level up? I don't even play video games, but my kids do, so... I thought you were INFJ. This morning I saw you even have a video about it, which I will watch later. I also am INFJ, so when I test and do see intentions and do understand people and can read interest and boredom and all that, it does down my score, I think because for autistics that are not either perhaps intuitive or INFJ, tests might have far more difficulty with this, and since sensors are a hefty majority in the world and INFJ's are not, the test is problematic in what it sees. That being said, I'm not sure if autism, even if it is likely, is where I need to focus, except perhaps to forgive myself for shutting down when overwhelmed. It seems an INFJ thing though, as well...hmmm. It's been 52 years not knowing though. In fact my child decided he is on the spectrum. He is INTP, very ,very introverted. I never thought anything was off about him and still don't... because I can easily relate to him. We are very similar. We both have trouble with ghosting and I have felt guilty about that for a long time, and yet autism would [and your video about avoidant attachment] would explain that, and honestly gives some relief that in fact I may not have been able to handle the overwhelms, and ghosting may be a coping mechanism, not a lack of love or care. As far as I can tell, though I've not studied the Enneagram as well as typology, I am 5/4/9 a tritype. Some don't think this is valid, but it's where I'm at until I figure out more. I eat information like cake. I relate most to 5, so I put it first. I collect Lego mini figures, baby dolls, Brio and Thomas trains which I like building tracks for my grandkids when I have time. Very particular about how I do laundry. Very interested in Archaeology/paleontology etc, early man discoveries. Also want to walk the PCT, intended to get my permit for this year, but got plantar fasciitis instead. Apparently the universe, or the universal me, decided I was not ready... so back to writing instead. Like your log piles, I like to have supplies for physical necessities, or apocalypses, lol. More in the past and especially when kids were younger I'd buy keep certain things that could be used in emergencies like buying huge bags or rice, like that, now I more buy things for being out in nature, for my hikes. I love knives. I've been here and there looking at videos of autism in women, masking... oh, yeah, swimming with my hands, like tapping or slapping thighs rhythmically and I pick at myself, like scabs or ingrown hairs. Always felt a little OCD, but not like intensely, just more particular in some things than most. And I can focus very well and for long periods, hours and hours, as long as it's something like writing, reading, anything I like. I hope you are doing well. Ciao for now.
@@tinyyellowtree4076 this is very interesting because I just made a video that I have not uploaded yet about how difficult it is to live in a sensor based world as an Autistic person. I also think that as an INFJ I have a better ability to mask so I flew under the radar for so long. It's funny you mentioned being prepared for emergency events. I used to have this feeling that I needed to be physical really fit in case I needed to rescue my children from a catastrophe. Like I would think about it a lot and train my body to be prepared. I have let that go mostly too because it was taking a toll on my body. I eat information like cake too! I for sure have a strong 5 wing tendency but I feel most closely related to the 4 at my core. I have no idea what my tritype is. And we have a similar interest in early man discoveries. I just started reading about these I can children mummies that were discovered almost perfectly preserved at the time of their death and it is known they were part of a ritual sacrifice. That's crazy to think of but very interesting. As I go along this journey it is nice to find like minded people. Thank you for commenting. I am also a skin picker. Ugh one of my worst habits really.
What makes me to think i am autistic is that i make a big system to run every careless task Something like draw a line in the middle of the paper it takes about 5 minutes, or more if I need it to a “official” task
30jan23 you and your grandad are very organized. What's wrong with that? Eveything has a place. A place for everything.I wish I was like that. Seems good life management. it must save hours looking for things. Keith Stevenson.
Psychotherapist here👋🏼 Females on the spectrum have high levels of empathy and can feel other people’s emotions as their own, even when the other person is not being forthcoming with their feelings. Their nervous system is highly sensitive and that’s why they’re so sensitive to people’s moods and their environments. They also tend to be rebels or extremely independent, and stand up for the underdog. In our field we think it’s an evolution of the brain♥️🧠 I LOVE the autistic brain, they are the most intelligent people I’ve ever met in my life. So open minded, kind, gentle, and able to see connections between things that don’t seem to be connected. The more I work with people on the spectrum the more I see myself in them. I’m actually considering getting evaluated for this because I relate to the Autistic experience! There’s so much we have yet to learn about this neurotype, but I don’t see it as a disability because unfortunately our society is structured around neurotypicals. I see it as a difference in abilities and there’s a lot of strengths to having this type of brain. Fascinating! Look at the world right now. We NEED more empathy or we’re going to destruct ourselves as a species.
Anyhoo… thank you for sharing your experience!
thank you for writing this. i am not sure im on the spectrum but as i learn more about neurodivergent brains i am for sure one. i am super empathetic and as i gat older i am becoming a misanthrope because so many humans are selfish and don’t actually care about anyone outside their families 😞
Thank you for sharing this and for just being you! I hope that one day your type of evaluation of the situation will pervade the whole profession so that all those with neurodivergent brains can be treated with the respect they have always deserved but never received and only served to compound their suffering. It would be beneficial to all humanity too. Peace.
always stand up for your right to stim wherever and whenever and for how ever long you want to. more stimming and self care will take the edge off the meltdowns. maybe read Elaine Aaron's book " the highly sensitive person". she's controversial with autistics, but you can still apply her wisdom to your circumstances.
It's been an adventure figuring out all my stims. I read that book a long time ago way before I knew I was Autistic so it would be interesting to read it again with this new knowledge.
I love collecting and storing/sorting firewood too. Different sizes, types... it’s a routine that I defo find calming
I used to think for sure I wasn't Autistic because I don't collect or organize things. Lol..turns out it's not just trains and superhero figurines. I collect information on my head and enjoy organizing so many things!
@@christinadonnelly781 ☀️
Lol I rearrange the dishes the way I like them after my husband washes. I used to helicopter really annoyingly but now I just say thanks and fix them up when he’s gone to relax 😅
Thank you.
When the online tests ask, do you do things the same way, I answer no, but when I see people explain themselves, I'm like, I'm just like that, in my own way. The thing is maybe not the same, but our own way or our own thing is similar in how it is approached. Have you looked into cognitive functions? Into typology? MBTI? It also helps explain divergences. So much so that it can be hard to know if intuitive, or autistic or both? There are autistic sensors, but I think it expresses differently. It would, in fact, for each type, express differently. That wood will make some cozy fires.
Yes. I agree with you entirely and that was my response to learning about Autism at first too! I thought nah..that's not me until I started interacting with other Autistic people and was like hmm maybe it is. For example I knew my grandfather was Autistic because he likes collecting and organizing radios and learned Ham radio communication so he could talk to people overseas because regular communication was difficult for him. He was a classic presentation of an Autistic person. I never realized my mother had the same characteristics because her collections were more socially acceptable. She collects clothes and is obsessed with fashion. When I learned what Autism can look like in other people I realizes the four closets of meticulously organized and color coded clothing was a sure sign of Autism! So my mother is likely a sensor type. Hence more material collections that are socially acceptable. I am an intuitive type. Myers Briggs always types me as INFJ so my collection and organizing has a lot to do with intellectual pursuits of human behavior and researching anything to do with this and categorizing it in my brain. I don't often have physical manifestations of my organization and collecting with the exception of my wood piles and also I really like rocks and crystals and I do have a fascination with all things related to getting me into nature ( all sorts of skis and crampons and camping equipment). So much much different than your textbook Autistic person. What are your traits and what is your MBTI? Oh..I am also an ennegram 4. So I tend to really not want to do things that are "expected" of my gender and will oppose pretty much any trend 😂.
@@christinadonnelly781 Hi, I'm sorry to leave our convo hanging there... I am having trouble being present for people. Having trouble organizing what I need to focus on to move forward and not drop intentions, which includes people. A couple weeks ago I was thinking 'why can't I level up? I don't even play video games, but my kids do, so...
I thought you were INFJ. This morning I saw you even have a video about it, which I will watch later. I also am INFJ, so when I test and do see intentions and do understand people and can read interest and boredom and all that, it does down my score, I think because for autistics that are not either perhaps intuitive or INFJ, tests might have far more difficulty with this, and since sensors are a hefty majority in the world and INFJ's are not, the test is problematic in what it sees. That being said, I'm not sure if autism, even if it is likely, is where I need to focus, except perhaps to forgive myself for shutting down when overwhelmed. It seems an INFJ thing though, as well...hmmm. It's been 52 years not knowing though. In fact my child decided he is on the spectrum. He is INTP, very ,very introverted. I never thought anything was off about him and still don't... because I can easily relate to him. We are very similar. We both have trouble with ghosting and I have felt guilty about that for a long time, and yet autism would [and your video about avoidant attachment] would explain that, and honestly gives some relief that in fact I may not have been able to handle the overwhelms, and ghosting may be a coping mechanism, not a lack of love or care. As far as I can tell, though I've not studied the Enneagram as well as typology, I am 5/4/9 a tritype. Some don't think this is valid, but it's where I'm at until I figure out more. I eat information like cake. I relate most to 5, so I put it first. I collect Lego mini figures, baby dolls, Brio and Thomas trains which I like building tracks for my grandkids when I have time. Very particular about how I do laundry. Very interested in Archaeology/paleontology etc, early man discoveries. Also want to walk the PCT, intended to get my permit for this year, but got plantar fasciitis instead. Apparently the universe, or the universal me, decided I was not ready... so back to writing instead.
Like your log piles, I like to have supplies for physical necessities, or apocalypses, lol. More in the past and especially when kids were younger I'd buy keep certain things that could be used in emergencies like buying huge bags or rice, like that, now I more buy things for being out in nature, for my hikes. I love knives. I've been here and there looking at videos of autism in women, masking... oh, yeah, swimming with my hands, like tapping or slapping thighs rhythmically and I pick at myself, like scabs or ingrown hairs. Always felt a little OCD, but not like intensely, just more particular in some things than most. And I can focus very well and for long periods, hours and hours, as long as it's something like writing, reading, anything I like. I hope you are doing well. Ciao for now.
@@tinyyellowtree4076 this is very interesting because I just made a video that I have not uploaded yet about how difficult it is to live in a sensor based world as an Autistic person. I also think that as an INFJ I have a better ability to mask so I flew under the radar for so long. It's funny you mentioned being prepared for emergency events. I used to have this feeling that I needed to be physical really fit in case I needed to rescue my children from a catastrophe. Like I would think about it a lot and train my body to be prepared. I have let that go mostly too because it was taking a toll on my body. I eat information like cake too! I for sure have a strong 5 wing tendency but I feel most closely related to the 4 at my core. I have no idea what my tritype is. And we have a similar interest in early man discoveries. I just started reading about these I can children mummies that were discovered almost perfectly preserved at the time of their death and it is known they were part of a ritual sacrifice. That's crazy to think of but very interesting. As I go along this journey it is nice to find like minded people. Thank you for commenting. I am also a skin picker. Ugh one of my worst habits really.
I’m loving reading this thread! I got all excited haha. I’m an INFJ 6w5 and I think I’m autistic and ADHD, only discovered late last year!
That so it. Very similar here. 🌹
What makes me to think i am autistic is that i make a big system to run every careless task
Something like draw a line in the middle of the paper it takes about 5 minutes, or more if I need it to a “official” task
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30jan23 you and your grandad are very organized. What's wrong with that? Eveything has a place. A place for everything.I wish I was like that. Seems good life management. it must save hours looking for things. Keith Stevenson.