i'm struggling to be kind to myself
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ก.ย. 2021
- finding reasons to be kind to myself (even when it's hard)
I often wake up looking for something to be hard on myself for. Did I sleep in too late? What's on my to do list today and what have I done wrong to get in the way of that? I realize so many of us feel this way because we're conditioned to have unhealthy relationships with productivity, and therefore ourselves. I'm setting an intention to be kind to unlearn this behavior and start being kinder to myself, even in moments when it's difficult.
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We are not taught to give ourselves grace. We are taught to push ourselves to our limit and then applauded for getting through it. I always appreciate your vids because they are great food for thought. I love the concept of feminine and masculine energies and the respect brought to it that we need both. It's definitely something to think on as I learn to deconstruct some of the misogynistic work habits I had picked up on.
May this be a reminder to give yourself grace today ♥️
This is such an amazing and true comment!
bro I relate to this so freakin much. when I want to be kind to myself there’s this tension within me to be harder on myself because I’m not living to the expectations I’ve created for myself or are preexisiting in my mind and how I grew up. trying to grow in this way and learn some type of balance 🙂
I hope the more of us unlearn this the more society simply won’t put pressure on us to be this way😭 wishing you the best ❤️
same
Your videos are therapy. That’s all I have to say
Thank you🙏🏽
Learning to forgive yourself opens up so many doors because you're no longer held back by your guilt. It's freeing abd possibly the best thing you could do for yourself in learning to be kinder to yourself. Loved this, Lynette!👏🏽
Yes!!
"When I stumble, I understand that's just part of the dance".... Something I do when these thoughts start to surface is to Immediately start counting backwards (5,4,3,2,1) to interrupt the thought. It helps soooo much because it STOPS the cycle and allows your brain to understand that we are no longer thinking about that.
I love this. I’m going to start trying it, thank you❤️
“It’s easier to be judgmental towards other people when I’m being judgmental towards myself.” YES. Literally almost devastated my relationship with my man. I wasn’t giving myself grace and felt like I had to treat him the same way. We have to be gentle with ourselves otherwise it will affect how we treat others. So well said Lynette. ❤️
Girl…everytime I’m going through something it’s like you know and post a video about it 😭😭 ugh! grateful for you!!
Wow I’m so glad 🥺❤️
Yes it's like constant battle with ourselves because we want to do better each day. I'm also learning to just appreciate each moment and realizing that this thing call life is not guaranteed 🙂.
Really needed this
I really hope the more we normalize taking time for ourselves when we need it, the more jobs will give us room to do it. Wishing you all the best love 💗
Totally feel this!! I definitely become aware of when I judge myself, I judge others more. Reminding myself that none of us are perfect and jsut trying our best on this floating rock!
Yes!!
thank you for being our local online therapist. This was so needed.
Lol I’m so glad!!
Remember at the time we were small children no one celebrated our existance simply for just what it is, not for what it can accomplish or produce. Slow living and being present to all those small daily deeds has helped me so much realise I am worthy for simply breathing and treating others with kindness and respect. I still struggling but I've realised that it all lies within me to make the change. Lots of love from Athens, Greece
This is exactly what I’m working on. It’s like I know it in my heart but recognizing these everyday wins is a journey for sure. Thank you so much ❤️
Not being kind to yourself is like feeling like you don't deserve that's further from the truth
I learned in a mindfulness course to think of negative thoughts as bad passengers on the bus you are driving.
Eventually, they will get off your bus, but you have the control, you are the driver.
Such a great reminder. It's so important to be kind to ourselves and it gets harder and harder cause all we have to do is work and be so stressed, ugh I hate that!
this just came up on my recommended and it was such a SIGN holy. in past years, i was completely projecting all my insecurities/worries/fears onto others or judging them without even realizing what i was actually doing (or why i was doing it). it wasn't until i got into therapy this year that i learned all of this. it's still a working process to learn to forgive myself. im quick to forgive others for past mistakes or behaviors (given they've shown growth), but it's so much more difficult to forgive yourself 🤧
Sometimes, it's happen to me too. But when we allow ourselves to feel the feeling we feel and we accept it, that's part of our self-love growth.
Yes❤️
Often times we think learning is most important when that is not true ... Unlearning is equally important... And the hardest thing to unlearn is fear while the hardest thing to learn is unconditional love not just for ones self but for others ✌️
This comment section is so pure and such a safe space i love itttt
It really is, I’m incredibly grateful for y’all 💗
I literally posted about this on my Insta - finding my flow since I recently quit my job. I have no structure & I’m at the point where time & days are literally merging (I also have an almost 2 month old who still wakes up overnight).
Finding the flow, the flow on just being right here right now. 🙏🏽 I’m a 200HR Reg. Yoga Trainer and the practice of Yoga, which isn’t just the poses & movement, but a full lifestyle is literally just that, flow. I’ve learned to schedule my days no more that 3 days ahead & Sun/Wed are my ‘check in days.’ I also have learned to just be flexible and if I have something planned & I ended up being called to do something else, I’ll just flow.
It’s hard, but def is possible. Sending love & light babe! Love you for always sharing your content. It’s been inspiring me to restart my channel. 🌟
This is so true - I’ve recently been more into yoga and it’s helping me understand that there really is a flow of life. Being able to make our own schedule gives us the ability to tap into that flow a bit more so thank you for sharing how you do that, I definitely want to try something similar ❤️ and thank you for the support, wishing you all the best!🙏🏽💗
i swear, every time you upload a video, i feel like we’re going through the same things at the same time. your videos are so incredibly timely and i love that you’re growing and figuring it out and sharing your journey because it motivates me to do the same. you may not feel it because we don’t know each other personally, but you have definitely been a BIG part of my growth journey and the path to finding myself.
I love your videos and i’m so happy I stumbled across your page in the past! ❤️❤️❤️
Good reminders. Thank you.
Ahh absolutely! I always close my videos telling everyone to be kind to themselves & others. I know it’s simple to tell people to do but the truth is it’s very difficult sometimes especially in this society! It took a lot of unlearning & learning like you mentioned. This is a great topic to discuss and I hope you soon find more ways to allow yourself to be 🧡
For everyone reading, take it one day at a time. Try to be lenient and patient with yourself ❤️
100%!
Why are you always in my head!😭😭 I just impulsively gave myself a self care spa night last night thinking exactly like this. I know that for me, investing in my appearance is part of my self care because it helps me not be lazy on myself (therefore, not be lazy/procrastinate on my work). It works all the time, but I just forget to do it often and wonder why I suddenly feel less accomplished lol. When I feel good and look good, I DO good! Idk maybe that’s just me lol, but thank you for always giving us these spaces to make these discoveries about our selves and keeping the conversation going, cause clearly we all need it! ❤️
your channel is heaven sent. I kinda teared up watching this because this is exactly what I do to myself 😢 thank you for your words.
Thanks you so much, literally saved my life, can’t describe how truthful that actually is. Helped me get over the daily grind of nothingness.
related to this video 100% ~ thank you for sharing, I think the more we talk about this openly we are able to honest with ourselves and others, which allows others to do the same.
I've been in councelling for stress and what really stuck with me was something the teacher said: humanbeings need to rest more than they are active.
so grateful for you!
I have these same thoughts at 30. I like listening to your videos - kudos to you for being so aware (and obviously smart) while being in your early 20s!
I needed this today. Thank you ❤️💛
Your energy is just gorgeous I love your take on spirituality its so nice to see someone speak on this without the spirtual bypassing and toxic positivity it really allows me to truly hear what you're saying.
I've really been enjoying these personal deep dives, you go girl
your videos are always great and educative, thank you!
holy fuck i relate to everything you’re saying so much agh, the entire process and all its parts
I'm working on this in therapy right now. She keeps reminding me that things aren't black and white and that im not every thought I think. It's okay to let go of negative thoughts towards myself and tell my brain "no, that's not true." It's definitely a process
Such a great needed reminder ! This just gave me relief and fresh breath of air!
I could listen to you everyday!! Love your content so much ❤️
This video was much needed. Thank you for posting this love!
Ugh thank you for this
This really spoke to me. I never that about projecting onto others around me. Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏾
The best vid gurl!! ✨❤️
I’ve been loving your content just found your channel definitely had to subscribe ✨
I swear I love the way you think you're videos make me speechless everytime I wish more ppl would realize some of these things!
Lynette!!! I wish I had come to learn these things as young as you are learning them. Thank you for helping a younger generation connect to themselves and each other!
I love your content, appreciate your videos so real, thanks girl! you’re literally the only channel I follow every week on youtube😩🤍
This is exactly how i feel, putting pressure on myself to be productive and its so annoying
exactly what Im going through now. thank you for reminding that giving myself room for everything is THAT important:) 💜🦋
Lynette I'm so blessed and thankful that I found your channel
This came right ON TIME! I am learning this so much right now. It’s ok to be a human being, being kind to myself, forgiving myself and giving myself grace has allowed me to be in and at a peaceful space and peaceful state of mind and it has allowed me to be more kinder to others as well. 🌹
thank you for creating this type of content, been subscribed to u for a few months now and you were in the rotation of what helped me manifest more peace and beauty in my life. you're a vibe! sending you love energy.
I love these videos! they give me so much motivation and knowledge 💕
I’m so glad, thank you for watching!❤️
Easily became one of my favorite youtubers. You always speak to my soul 😭🤍
You are so open and relatable ❤️ thank you for sharing this video and being vulnerable with us x
Thank you for watching ❤️
So I watched and I would def say it sounds familiar to high functioning anxiety (which I struggle with)
Def when we judge others it’s time to go inward
Cognitive behavioral therapy (cbt) is such a good method of therapy to learn to give yourself grace.
Feeling great by David burns (the workbook) is a great one.
Thank you!! I’m def going to look into all of this bc yeah I always felt like that’s what it was
Thank you so much!! I really needed to watch this video❤️ Your videos always hit on time. 🙏🏾❤️
Wow I’m so glad 🙏🏽
these videos are always so helpful and just put everything into perspective. girll you NEED a podcast i would listen all the time
needed that!
It’s crazy how your videos always come at the best time. I’m literally tired now but it’s things I HAVE to do but imma take a nap first 🤦🏾♀️ I also agree with the how we treat ourselves is how we treat others. So when I’m super critical of myself I tend to project that smh so I’m trying to unlearn it.
Girl yes take that nap when you need it! It’s crazy how similar a lot of us are with this
I really enjoyed this video🧘🏽♀️💕✨
ur content is what the world needs
This video was so helpful. I can definitely relate! Thank you for sharing.
I’m so glad❤️
lynette, you are literally a mind reader. thank you for this
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This video came up just when I needed it,thank you❤️ I have been watching you for sometime now and I love you and your content🙏 keep doing you and thanks for all the advice 🤍
Thank you and I’m so glad this was helpful❤️
I have been feeling the same anxiousness when I wake up in the mornings. It definitely isn’t a fun feeling but I’m working to overcome it.
You are such a fluent passionate speaker, absolutely love your vids. 💗
This hit home. Thank you so much for sharing this. 🙌🏽🤗🙏🏽👌🏽💖
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i LOVE you girl
Yesss we are all so connected!! Thanks for watching and glad it was helpful 💕
Congrats on getting to 100k!
Thank you so much!❤️
This was beautiful! Thank you for being so vulnerable. Isn’t it crazy how we shame ourselves for not sticking to our self care routine?! The irony. The key is to not use self-care as an escapism but to do it because you truly want to and it feels natural. For some people, having a “routine” causes more anxiety due to the unnecessary expectation of doing something every single day. It sets us up for failure. I’m a perfectionist (recovering) and this is something I had to learn about myself. I no longer hold myself to a requirement, which leads me to anxiety, guilt, and self-sabotage. I do what feels natural and good in the moment. From the place of pure desire and love. Also, as you already said, self-forgiveness is where it begins.
Beautifully said♥️
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Hangxiety led me to (mostly) stop drinking when i was 24... life has been better ever since. Not perfect, just better, and i'm definitely more kind to myself. Meditation + cannabis help too. Makes me think so much about alcohol culture + i appreciate you sharing thoughts.
I definitely feel bad if I’m not productive or on the go 24/7… I’m in the process of learning and teaching myself it’s OK to take a minute and just breathe and take in life
I personally struggle with anxiety.
You’re definitely not alone
I loved this! Please make a video about finding genuine friendships
Girl I’ve been considering not drinking anymore because of anxiety and being mad at myself
I’d recommend sobriety to basically anyone - I’m 7 months sober and it’s been life changing in such a good way!
@@Marina-wi3rs Congrats on 7 months!!
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Sobriety has to be the primary solution here. I observe denial
I feel like I am being really hard on myself too but it debilitates my productivity. Meeting a doctor next week to talk about it. I am in therapy but yea being kind to ourselves is so important even though it can be a struggle. End of the day we have ourselves and we are in charge of that temple.
I know that feeling too. It’s like I can get so hard on myself that I end up doing nothing or procrastinating bc I feel so down. Hopefully we can all learn and get out of that negative cycle
Thank you so much for this!
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Hey honeeey 🍯 can’t wait to watch later. Dropping in to say 👋🏽
Firstly, Lynette it’s wonderful to see you growing, I started following you when you had like 12k subscribers. Secondly, waking up thinking of what to hate yourself about is so real and I did not know others felt that way. It’s what fueled my willingness to get up and get going and be a high achiever for about 1.5 years. The accomplishments/fruits of my labor have been made clear. but, lately, it hasn’t been working. & Ive wondered why I am not able to psych myself out into working and grinding. I’ve thought to myself that my body & mind may no longer want to function off of fear and shame, but then I brush that feeling off, and try to go back into “tough love”-ing myself into being the meticulous and successful person I was just months ago. I’ve wondered, will I be able to work, grind, & produce excellence if I am kind and gentle to myself? Sometimes I feel like I can’t & I am too scared to find out and give it a try. Thank you for always sharing your experiences, you are never alone in them, which is comforting for both you and your viewers who can relate to someone. 💗 Best of luck in everything!
Omg that was me this morning ! That’s so crazy.. I woke up trying to talk myself out of my morning routine and working out because I got in a fight with my fiancé last night. I tried to use that as a reason to just give up and go back to bed but I had to talk myself back into positivity and loving myself.
We are conditioned since young while in school. I know this as a fact it takes me 12 hrs to do my schoolwork and it is frustrating. Every summer I feel free to take care of myself. then When I am back in school It’s the same thing over and over again. 7:00 - 6:00 school work. 😮💨
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Wow me in a nutshell!!!! This is my favorite video by you!!! 🌞🌱💛
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Love your sharing so helpful.
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Thank you for the constant support!!🙏🏽💗
@@LynetteAdkins Ofc 🕺🏽 happy I found such an inspirational channel to follow and learn from!
Damn this video was nice to watch. You're speaking exactly how I've been feeling lately and I really needed this reality check.
We are all a lot more alike than we think, it’s actually crazy! So glad this was helpful and wishing you all the best🙏🏽
Thank you 🙏🏽
Thank you!!!!
Ive been struggling with not to feel guilty for everything i do for myself because "i dont deserve it"
I’m literally the meanest person to myself, especially when I feel like I could’ve done sth differently. And it takes a long time for me to get over it, but I don’t like people really knowing what’s going on in my life, so I will actively put in effort to be nice, amiable & kind to people (put on a facade, albeit exhausting) because I know how horrible it feels to be on the receiving end of judgment. So yeah🙂🍃
Great video as always! My gf was literally taking to me about this yesterday, it’s a sign lol
It’s crazy we are all so connected lol
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You say everything my therapist does ☺️☺️
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When I use to have a glass of wine 🍷 every now and then and coffee ☕️ I was waking up with anxiety
Cut both off two years ago,life’s got so much better.
Anxiety when down big almost gone.
Jobs dont just take your time and energy, they take your soul thats why you feel drained when you come back home and dont have energy to do anything else.
You seem like you read often .. have you considered doing book reviews on here .. like a modern form- like annotating parts you think hit the most and kind of breaking it down and sharing with us . Also, reaction/review videos from you would be dope i think. Im sure you would put a reflective spin on it ! This Channel makes me think so much . Love it here man.
Thank you so much! I’ve actually thought about that and even starting a book club where we can maybe all talk/learn from each other. I would love that
Have u been reading my diary!? Lol this hit so close to home. On point as usual. Thank u
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