It saddens me that so many boys and men have been so devalued. Thank you for speaking out. Sorry, I can't watch this whole presentation. It's too heartbreaking.
My dear son, CJ: I want to hold you reassuring you that you deserve my love, my support, my communication of safety and security. When you sense the trigger, go through your breathing meditation but, if you can, also do the imagery that I am holding you. I’m a vet, retired teacher, and in my 70s- but I know I am there with you so you are never alone! My son, my hero! You are saving lives and you are modeling for each of us in our discussions are compassionate, caring, kind, supportive as well as activist strength to suppirt mental health and abuse clinics. Thank you, CJ.
This man doesn’t talk about showing emotions, he does show emotions. He doesn’t merely talk about being authentic, he is authentic. The fact remains that our societies does not want vulnerability to be seen.
Great message CJ! Just today my son was getting his hair cut and the female barber was discussing how her boyfriend was physically and emotionally abusing her. She made a comment that this “never happens to men.” My son responded, “well actually let me tell you about CJ.” As he briefly shared your experience, it opened the eyes of these ladies. I know that will be just one of many eye opening conversations that’ll result from your message my friend!!
YWHW bless your son for real that is truly amazing and warms my heart from a cold place, I was SA by a woman and then not believed and actually had my life destroyed by her,, I had no recourse, no where to hide, and no one to talk to because no one believed me, everyday I was so sick to my stomach I almost quit work/everything I was doing at that time it was super difficult
@@Practicalinvestments it's sickening that this sh!t regulary happens to people and ruins their lives, you really deserve better. I hope you're okay now.
Powerful message on a topic that is normally ignored and treated like it doesn’t exist. Great job CJ on delivering it with poise and balance on a very public stage!
As someone who has been a victim of this crime when I was 13 and 15...it shocks me how common this sort of thing is in the athletic world. If you listened to the stereotypes of the media and all of that you'd think that male athletes were on top of the world and the least likely to have this sort of thing happen. Look up Kyle Beach. Sadly...it's more common than you think.
I would argue that it’s more likely to happen in the male athletic setting than anywhere else. Get a bunch of guys together and it can become a fight to the top of the proverbial caste system. We need to encourage people to keep their hands of each other and move forward
SA is a difficult subject to talk about, so often people avoid the subject completely. As the person in the video, I hope that I can be the one who talked about it so others don’t have to. We should encourage people to speak up if they are able, share experiences or messages of hope, and help others begin to realize that SA happens to men more often then we realize. Only then will society begin to make changes. I appreciate that you found my talk impactful!
he was the same age as i when it happened accept it was a male school teacher friend of family told no one till 30 and by then was a full blown alcoholic 21 yrs sober now and finally happy
I've never been in your situation and have never known anyone who has, but I sat here weeping as I listened to your story. Thank you. You are a hero, a wonderful role model and an inspiration. I wish you all the very best for your life.
Thank you very much. I’m stunned at the amount of people like you who become emotional from my story. It makes me so glad I decided to tell it on stage. Thank you for listening!
I’m so sorry this happened to you. It is extremely traumatic and I’m so proud that you have handle it so well! Absolutely, it is insane that even in a country like the United States, this subject is taboo.
I was assaulted at the same age in the 70s. I tried to tell two friends and a minister. None of them could handle it. I kept it all bottled up for 35 years. I tried to cover with accomplishments so no one would ever guess what was wrong with me. Finally I broke. You cannot imagine the humiliation of telling your teenage sones what had happened. With professional help, I am the happiest now that I have ever been. The next step is to stop mourning the lost yeras and live in the moment.
I’ll be 31 this year and I was 5 when it happened to me and I’m still in that bathroom my friend. Sometimes it’s difficult to even form a rational thought.
thanks for sharing your story. I wish you to overcome this, you have already so much strength to talk about this. I also got assaulted when I was 8. Even though it's tough, I'm trying to rebuild my life
This video is amazing, as a victim myself it helps a lot knowing that there are others who have been through the same thing I have. Thank you so much for sharing your story
(Male 55) I lived by myself I was attacked & Abused multiple times ( over 2 years)by a woman when i was 25 she was( 40) 9 retraining orders You feel so powerless to be used for someone else's pleasure. Police didn't help or understand they thought she was being harassed. My heart goes out to all victims , just do your best to get your life moving again, dont let it ruin your life
My dear son, CJ: by the way, forgot to mention that I was a high school and college speech teacher, so your Ted talk was wonderfully constructed, beautifully delivered, and demonstrated extreme courage and dynamic control as you expressed your message and your feelings. I’ve taught over9000 students so I have some empathy about what you struggle through. I also realize what your brief message holds as powerful impact upon others that is unforgettable in terms of the way in which you make us feel. I just bumped into a student the other day gave a speech in my class, some 30 years ago and I get almost related to him Word for Word. when we talked, that triggered remembering another speech, but a freshman, boy gave it a inner cities classroom in in Flint. It was one of the most courageous speeches about race discrimination, and I can recite every word of it. You, CJ, instill ed a memorable message that can be related to others for a lifetime. thanks again, from a man who loves you for who you are
Thank you for your kind words. I took a speech class in high school that had a profound impact on me. I salute teachers like you who leave lasting impacts on their students!
When people speak up, lives change! Hearing you share your experience is absolutely amazing. Your courage in talking about this once taboo subject is soooo needed! Forever negatively altering someone’s life is unacceptable, but your story will give others the much needed chance to finally heal!
Thank you for being strong enough to share this with us. I feel sick for you. There is no way that should have happened to you. Your strength in telling your story will have helped many many people. May you have the amazing life you deserve.
I was recently talking to someone about this very subject. I grew up in the '70s and early '80s. Whenever the 10CC song "I'm Not In Love", is playing, I (like millions of others) am instantly drawn to those haunting whispers of "...Big Boys Don't Cry ...Big Boys Don't Cry ...Big Boys Don't Cry ...Big Boys Don't Cry...", and how twisted that is for males who experience trauma.
You are such a brave man, CJ Krainock. I´m pretty sure many more people will raise their voices because of you. Life has been so hard to you, but look at you now.. You are helping, inspiring other to embrace their whole existence. ❤
Sadly, the victim is perceived as "less manly" while the perv is elevated. It blows my mind! I can deal with getting touched on the subway by a stranger but when knowing the person makes it so much worse
The courage you have, CJ is so inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you also for casting the light on those like your teammate and the female police officer that were heroes here too. So much pain and misunderstanding can really, really hurt - especially when people don't want you to feel through your feelings and process them. I am so glad that you're sharing this message and helping build up others in your day to day life.
They are the heroes of my story! I wish the world was full of people like them. Maybe one day it will be (or maybe it already is). Thank you for your kind words.
@@calvinkrainock9772I like that you added, "maybe it already is". I know it's easy to focus on the negatives in the world because we hear so much about them. I tend to believe, though, that there is much more good in the world than we are often led to believe.
CJ, I thought you were a powerful man before this talk and now I have no doubt. I know "powerful" might feel like too strong a word, but it seems perfect to describe your specific combination of drive, experience, and character. To push beyond an event such as this must've taken tremendous will and time. So I give you my condolences for your 14-year old self and my gratitude for being the person you are today shedding light on such a suppressed topic.
Thank you for talking about this you have given me the curige to report the place where I live these people must stop the pain that they inflict on others
People need to realize that men and women can be SA'D it's not just men that need to change it's us women too And it makes me sick that when men get sa'd People will be like you probably enjoyed it like who would enjoy that?! It's so unfair, and when a guy literally hits a girl when she starts it and she attacks a guy, people would be saying, "Bear" or be feeling bad for the girl even though she's at fault. I'm literally a girl, and even i think the "Boys can't hit girls" rule is ridiculous. If she starts it, then he can hit them
I don't agree that a man should hit a woman but I believe that a man should be allowed to restrain a woman if he's being attacked. If your just restraining someone your not really hurting them. There should be no charges in that case.
Yeah man, amazing! You are soo resilient and brave! So painful but in the same time so insightful for the boys who doesn't speak up. You give them strenght to talk and recover. Bravo! ❤
Thank you for sharing this story! I understand it must have been so hard to speak up. But I believe it has impact. For other people out there and hopefully for you too. The way you're able to speak about it, means that you've come a long way of working through this
People don't understand that men are human too. In a relationship, when men get emotional or have emotional reactions it's "we're being aggressive" or showing "toxic masculinity" or sometimes "being weak." When women do it they're being "strong," "outspoken," and "open with their feelings." There are these preconceived ideas we have for men too, it's not just women. And when we're human and break those we still get treated like we're not acting "as we're supposed to."
CJ Krainnock you are more of a man than those who hurt you and you are very brave as well as inspiring. Tears fall for a reason. They are a way to relieve pain, express how you are feeling to others, and show that you are hurting and need help. Seeing you in pain and on the verge of crying made me cry, and there is nothing shameful about it. 🥹
Thank you very much CJ for sharing your story. I also thank your 'hero' team mate who reported the 'horrible' incident to his parents. May God richly bless the work you are doing now to help other young men.
CJ, I don't believe in heroes but you are definitely a role model for everyone and how cruel some people and Society can be. Thanks for sharing your story. Also so sorry you had too suffer this pain. Wish The Best for you son.
Many people feel uncomfortable discussing this topic with their friends and family or on social media. But I promise you, more people have been affected by SA than we all realize. It is worth talking about!
OF COURSE CJ WAS NOT THE ONE THAT CAUSED ALL THE PROBLEMS, THE EMPTY HEADED VIAL ATTACKERS DID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU CJ FOR YOUR COURAGE! MY HEART & MY EYES WERE IN TEARS FOR YOU.
After years it's still so hard for him to talk about. "I didn't know what to do, so I froze." I don't believe this part is well understood by many, personally I've never heard it explained, I'm sure most people go why would you freeze instead of fighting back? It sounds like this irrational fear that grips you and you have no control over, and it doesn't let go, even when talking about it years down the road, you can see he was shivering on stage while recollecting the incident.
As a victim, 2 years ago I was an abusive relationship with a woman who did awful things to me, hearing this made me feel heard! Thank you CJ!
You are not alone!
As a women I support you also.
Samee here to ❤
@@HoangCung-lg3xmAt least you are not like them. society is ruining everything
I wanna thank everyone for the support. It's been a rough few years, but I'm still going on strong! 💯🙏❤️
You’re my hero, CJ. On behalf of all the boys and men who feel they can’t talk, you’re being a role model.
Comments like this are why I chose to do this talk. Stay strong and know you CAN talk!
@@calvinkrainock9772thank you cj I love you man
This man is brave and courageous. He is an excellent communicator.
Its a sick world we all live in ... well done for speaking out .
Thank you 🙏
Kudos to that team mate who told his parents and got this ball rolling. Love to CJ for talking about this and educating us.
He was the true hero in this story! He is now living an amazing life and is engaged to be married soon. I admire his persistence and courage!
It saddens me that so many boys and men have been so devalued. Thank you for speaking out. Sorry, I can't watch this whole presentation. It's too heartbreaking.
My dear son, CJ:
I want to hold you reassuring you that you deserve my love, my support, my communication of safety and security.
When you sense the trigger, go through your breathing meditation but, if you can, also do the imagery that I am holding you.
I’m a vet, retired teacher, and in my 70s- but I know I am there with you so you are never alone!
My son, my hero! You are saving lives
and you are modeling for each of us in our discussions are compassionate, caring, kind, supportive as well as activist strength to suppirt mental health and abuse clinics.
Thank you, CJ.
This man doesn’t talk about showing emotions, he does show emotions. He doesn’t merely talk about being authentic, he is authentic.
The fact remains that our societies does not want vulnerability to be seen.
So many people are uncomfortable if I even bring up the subject of my Ted talk. Let’s break down those walls so people can speak!
@@calvinkrainock9772 Your speech is amazing, I'm sure your courage to speak up will help people in similar situations.
Great message CJ!
Just today my son was getting his hair cut and the female barber was discussing how her boyfriend was physically and emotionally abusing her. She made a comment that this “never happens to men.” My son responded, “well actually let me tell you about CJ.” As he briefly shared your experience, it opened the eyes of these ladies.
I know that will be just one of many eye opening conversations that’ll result from your message my friend!!
Respects to your SON❤❤. As a teenager boy, I agree. ❤
YWHW bless your son for real that is truly amazing and warms my heart from a cold place,
I was SA by a woman and then not believed and actually had my life destroyed by her,, I had no recourse, no where to hide, and no one to talk to because no one believed me, everyday I was so sick to my stomach I almost quit work/everything I was doing at that time it was super difficult
@@Practicalinvestments it's sickening that this sh!t regulary happens to people and ruins their lives, you really deserve better. I hope you're okay now.
Why was the female talking about that in the first place anyway. That's kinda creepy.
cool fake story.
Powerful message on a topic that is normally ignored and treated like it doesn’t exist. Great job CJ on delivering it with poise and balance on a very public stage!
As someone who has been a victim of this crime when I was 13 and 15...it shocks me how common this sort of thing is in the athletic world. If you listened to the stereotypes of the media and all of that you'd think that male athletes were on top of the world and the least likely to have this sort of thing happen.
Look up Kyle Beach. Sadly...it's more common than you think.
I would argue that it’s more likely to happen in the male athletic setting than anywhere else. Get a bunch of guys together and it can become a fight to the top of the proverbial caste system. We need to encourage people to keep their hands of each other and move forward
@@calvinkrainock9772 Why you never find me alone in a group of any ttype of men. They fall very quickly into pack mentality and there is no way out.
The amount of views on this video shows how society really is.
exactly!
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exactly bro
SA is a difficult subject to talk about, so often people avoid the subject completely. As the person in the video, I hope that I can be the one who talked about it so others don’t have to.
We should encourage people to speak up if they are able, share experiences or messages of hope, and help others begin to realize that SA happens to men more often then we realize. Only then will society begin to make changes.
I appreciate that you found my talk impactful!
he was the same age as i when it happened accept it was a male school teacher friend of family told no one till 30 and by then was a full blown alcoholic 21 yrs sober now and finally happy
So proud of you for having the courage to share your story and bring awareness ❤️
I've never been in your situation and have never known anyone who has, but I sat here weeping as I listened to your story. Thank you. You are a hero, a wonderful role model and an inspiration. I wish you all the very best for your life.
Thank you very much. I’m stunned at the amount of people like you who become emotional from my story. It makes me so glad I decided to tell it on stage. Thank you for listening!
you probably did, u just didn't know, goes both ways
I admire you so much. You are a decent man, thanks for your courage in speaking out this dramatic experience with such a posture and dignity. Respect.
Thank you for your bravery. It’s awful that, in this day and age, there is still such a taboo on men coming forward.
It’s getting better, but there’s a long way to go!
This is FREAKING HORRIFIC!!! HOW DOES THIS NOT HAVE MORE VIEWS?!? this POOR GUY! Wtf! I’m praying for you brotha🙏🏽 This left me speechless!
Somehow, people don’t like to talk about this topic. Start a conversation and you quickly see that someone will change the topic.
Appreciate you Johnny!
@@calvinkrainock9772 Appreciate you brotha!!! Thankyou , Be blessed 💪🏽💪🏽💯
Come on u know why. We all know why.
@@TheOne-xu5oy Because he’s a man? probably
So sorry this happened to you CJ. Thank you for bravely telling your story. You are helping a lot of people.
I am literally crying listening to this.
A lot of tears were shed preparing for it, as well. And I still cried during the speech! Thank you for hearing my message
@calvinkrainock9772 I hope that sometime I get to hear you live, if not meet you. You're doing something very necessary and powerful.
@@calvinkrainock9772just know that there are people who support you. Much love, much respect. ❤
I’m so sorry this happened to you. It is extremely traumatic and I’m so proud that you have handle it so well! Absolutely, it is insane that even in a country like the United States, this subject is taboo.
Societal expectations of men are deep rooted in our history as humans. Its time to move forward
I was assaulted at the same age in the 70s. I tried to tell two friends and a minister. None of them could handle it. I kept it all bottled up for 35 years. I tried to cover with accomplishments so no one would ever guess what was wrong with me. Finally I broke. You cannot imagine the humiliation of telling your teenage sones what had happened. With professional help, I am the happiest now that I have ever been. The next step is to stop mourning the lost yeras and live in the moment.
Absolutely. I am so happy you have come this far!
I’ll be 31 this year and I was 5 when it happened to me and I’m still in that bathroom my friend. Sometimes it’s difficult to even form a rational thought.
You can overcome this, you are warrior.
thanks for sharing your story. I wish you to overcome this, you have already so much strength to talk about this.
I also got assaulted when I was 8. Even though it's tough, I'm trying to rebuild my life
You can overcome this! Don’t be afraid to seek help!
This video is amazing, as a victim myself it helps a lot knowing that there are others who have been through the same thing I have. Thank you so much for sharing your story
Stay strong Andre! You’re not alone!
Thank you to all the men who have stood by and known about this with women of every age,race, class and religion, consistently and genuinely for ages.
Thank you for sharing your story with the world - society needs to hear your story, and countless other that go unreported and untold.
(Male 55) I lived by myself I was attacked & Abused multiple times ( over 2 years)by a woman when i was 25 she was( 40) 9 retraining orders You feel so powerless to be used for someone else's pleasure. Police didn't help or understand they thought she was being harassed.
My heart goes out to all victims , just do your best to get your life moving again, dont let it ruin your life
My dear son, CJ: by the way, forgot to mention that I was a high school and college speech teacher, so your Ted talk was wonderfully constructed, beautifully delivered, and demonstrated extreme courage and dynamic control as you expressed your message and your feelings. I’ve taught over9000 students so I have some empathy about what you struggle through.
I also realize what your brief message holds as powerful impact upon others that is unforgettable in terms of the way in which you make us feel.
I just bumped into a student the other day gave a speech in my class, some 30 years ago and I get almost related to him Word for Word. when we talked, that triggered remembering another speech, but a freshman, boy gave it a inner cities classroom in in Flint. It was one of the most courageous speeches about race discrimination, and I can recite every word of it.
You, CJ, instill ed a memorable message that can be related to others for a lifetime.
thanks again, from a man who loves you for who you are
Thank you for your kind words. I took a speech class in high school that had a profound impact on me. I salute teachers like you who leave lasting impacts on their students!
I feel stronger when others speak up. I respect you so much.
One day you’ll help others feel stronger too!
😥I can not imagine the emotional pain you went through, but I can applaud your getting through it and teaching others.
Thank you for the kind words!
What happened to him was horrible in every way. Grateful for all the people who helped him heal from it
When people speak up, lives change! Hearing you share your experience is absolutely amazing. Your courage in talking about this once taboo subject is soooo needed! Forever negatively altering someone’s life is unacceptable, but your story will give others the much needed chance to finally heal!
Thank you for courage and strength for sharing your ordeal. This horror must end for both men and women!
Thank you for being strong enough to share this with us. I feel sick for you. There is no way that should have happened to you. Your strength in telling your story will have helped many many people. May you have the amazing life you deserve.
Thank you for your honesty and candor. All the best.
Sir, you are a brave, courageous , honorable man. May your life be smooth sailing as a result of your bravery.
I appreciate your kind words 🙏
Your strength is in powering!!!! Thank you for your courage to share your story. ❤❤
I was recently talking to someone about this very subject. I grew up in the '70s and early '80s. Whenever the 10CC song "I'm Not In Love", is playing, I (like millions of others) am instantly drawn to those haunting whispers of "...Big Boys Don't Cry ...Big Boys Don't Cry ...Big Boys Don't Cry ...Big Boys Don't Cry...", and how twisted that is for males who experience trauma.
We have come a long way since then. And there is still a long way to go!
I’m so sorry for what you went thru. Proud of you in every way. 🌺
You are such a brave man, CJ Krainock. I´m pretty sure many more people will raise their voices because of you.
Life has been so hard to you, but look at you now.. You are helping, inspiring other to embrace their whole existence. ❤
There’s more to life than a single bad experience!
Powerful talk. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you for mentoring today's youth. You are a hero!
We have a lot of work to do. Thank you for your kind words! 🙏
Bro you are incredible. you are a warrior and you can with everything, thanks from Perú.
You’re a brave man!!! You’re opened my eyes to something I have never heard of!!! Education is needed!!
So sorry and so moved by your speech
Thank you 🙏
This story really moved me. Thank you for sharing!!
Sadly, the victim is perceived as "less manly" while the perv is elevated. It blows my mind! I can deal with getting touched on the subway by a stranger but when knowing the person makes it so much worse
The reality of what was done to you is absolutely hart braking! God bless you for sharing, so that other survivors know that they are not alone. ❤
i love your bravery, vulnerability, honesty and sense of social justice for all survivors. bravo!
The courage you have, CJ is so inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you also for casting the light on those like your teammate and the female police officer that were heroes here too. So much pain and misunderstanding can really, really hurt - especially when people don't want you to feel through your feelings and process them. I am so glad that you're sharing this message and helping build up others in your day to day life.
They are the heroes of my story! I wish the world was full of people like them. Maybe one day it will be (or maybe it already is). Thank you for your kind words.
@@calvinkrainock9772I like that you added, "maybe it already is". I know it's easy to focus on the negatives in the world because we hear so much about them. I tend to believe, though, that there is much more good in the world than we are often led to believe.
I’m so sorry you went through that but your courage will help many, you are so brave thank you for sharing keep healing
CJ, I thought you were a powerful man before this talk and now I have no doubt. I know "powerful" might feel like too strong a word, but it seems perfect to describe your specific combination of drive, experience, and character. To push beyond an event such as this must've taken tremendous will and time. So I give you my condolences for your 14-year old self and my gratitude for being the person you are today shedding light on such a suppressed topic.
Thank you for helping others,who are going through this or worse. You help them come out with this sadness. 🙏
Thank you 🙏
Thank you for sharing your tough experience with us, and I'm proud of you for Reclaiming yourself and weakening your abuser with visibility
So much courage to speak up. You are definitely a hero!
Thank you for talking about this you have given me the curige to report the place where I live these people must stop the pain that they inflict on others
Way to speak up!
It's about time someone spoke up.
🙌
You are so courageous. Now your a mentor. Thank you for talking about this.
People need to realize that men and women can be SA'D it's not just men that need to change it's us women too And it makes me sick that when men get sa'd People will be like you probably enjoyed it like who would enjoy that?! It's so unfair, and when a guy literally hits a girl when she starts it and she attacks a guy, people would be saying, "Bear" or be feeling bad for the girl even though she's at fault. I'm literally a girl, and even i think the "Boys can't hit girls" rule is ridiculous. If she starts it, then he can hit them
I don't agree that a man should hit a woman but I believe that a man should be allowed to restrain a woman if he's being attacked. If your just restraining someone your not really hurting them. There should be no charges in that case.
Yeah man, amazing! You are soo resilient and brave! So painful but in the same time so insightful for the boys who doesn't speak up. You give them strenght to talk and recover. Bravo! ❤
Thank you!
Really vulnerable and powerful! Excellent talk!
I am sorry you have gone through this
Thank you for sharing this story! I understand it must have been so hard to speak up. But I believe it has impact. For other people out there and hopefully for you too. The way you're able to speak about it, means that you've come a long way of working through this
Told a woman 8x i did not want to go home with her and she bought me some beers and ruffled me. No one cared, no one seems to care still years later.
You have my support ❤ 🙌
It's because the world we live in is flawed
thank you for being brave.
Thank You So Much for this tedx
People should know this is possible .....
Thank you so much for sharing your story with all of us. I am so sorry for what happened to you.
thank you for your bravery in sharing. I wish you a continued good life.
🙏
People don't understand that men are human too. In a relationship, when men get emotional or have emotional reactions it's "we're being aggressive" or showing "toxic masculinity" or sometimes "being weak." When women do it they're being "strong," "outspoken," and "open with their feelings." There are these preconceived ideas we have for men too, it's not just women. And when we're human and break those we still get treated like we're not acting "as we're supposed to."
Learning to harness and control your emotions is definitely necessary, but to act like they don’t exist because you’re male is such a problem!
CJ Krainnock you are more of a man than those who hurt you and you are very brave as well as inspiring. Tears fall for a reason. They are a way to relieve pain, express how you are feeling to others, and show that you are hurting and need help. Seeing you in pain and on the verge of crying made me cry, and there is nothing shameful about it. 🥹
CJ, your story is heartbreaking, hiding in the washroom sounded very familiar. Happy you've become so successful 👍👍✨
Same thing happened to me.....U speak brotha..
Homophobia. Homophobia is why men don't file reports when they're assaulted.
Thank you very much CJ for sharing your story. I also thank your 'hero' team mate who reported the 'horrible' incident to his parents.
May God richly bless the work you are doing now to help other young men.
He is the true hero here!
You are going to save boys from this in the future! Thank you!
This guy is so brave, wow sharing this story
Thank you for your story.
Crazy courage to say this, honestly!
CJ, I don't believe in heroes but you are definitely a role model for everyone and how cruel some people and Society can be. Thanks for sharing your story. Also so sorry you had too suffer this pain. Wish The Best for you son.
Thank you 🙏
I hate how this is one of the least viewed videos on this channel.
It shows that ppl don’t care fr it’s sad
Many people feel uncomfortable discussing this topic with their friends and family or on social media. But I promise you, more people have been affected by SA than we all realize. It is worth talking about!
This is real bravery x
Thank you for speaking out. You are an amazing example and person. ❤️
Thanks for sharing your story CJ
😢💔 so sad. May God heal inside out and the friend that stood by you.👌🙏😇
Thank you for your story
Thanks for watching!
Thanks for your courage to tell ,it means a lot ❤
Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your story.
Thanks for sharing CJ.
Sick I hope you pressed charges!
The school did. I believe there were some harsh consequences
OF COURSE CJ WAS NOT THE ONE THAT CAUSED ALL THE PROBLEMS, THE EMPTY HEADED VIAL ATTACKERS DID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU CJ FOR YOUR COURAGE! MY HEART & MY EYES WERE IN TEARS FOR YOU.
It took me years to realize that it wasn’t my fault. What a simple thing that is so hard to comprehend!
After years it's still so hard for him to talk about. "I didn't know what to do, so I froze." I don't believe this part is well understood by many, personally I've never heard it explained, I'm sure most people go why would you freeze instead of fighting back? It sounds like this irrational fear that grips you and you have no control over, and it doesn't let go, even when talking about it years down the road, you can see he was shivering on stage while recollecting the incident.
This is awful. But, this guy has courage to come forward and tell this tragic story!
This happens a lot more than people think
I've never reported any of my assaults but It's possible and you are strong.
What stopped you?
I’m so sorry. You’re a brave man.
You are so brave and so very strong ❤
Thank you Kim!
Good for you speaking out
It takes a lot for someone to come out with a story like this.
Hats off. Respect............
Every one favors women it pisses me off
Ikr
Wht r u talking abt?
Men and woman and whatever should be treated the same
Dr Phil based mad lad