This is why all kids should be taught bravery, and healthy lack of trust of anyone, especially people in authority. You can trust someone right up to the point where they start acting suspicious or out of norms, but always ready to throw that trust away when people start acting sketch, no matter who they are.
Age 5 I was molested by my 15yr old babysitter and the age of 7 I was molested by my 14yr old God brother for years I thought it was my fault ... I am 36yr old man now and I realize a lot my anger stems for these traumatic events that took place In my childhood ...
I don't know you and I can't really help you but I wish you to overcome one day all difficulties linked to this traumatics events! It wasn't your fault
Alain borgrave theres a difference between victim culture and a culture that allows people to talk about traumas that can mentally damage someone, leading to potential physical self-harm, or behaviors that can be detrimental to others.
I (female) was assaulted at 18 and I am 33 now and heres the few pieces of comfort that I can give you. 1. The human body is incredibly resilient and can heal in incredible ways when the mind is ready for the healing to take place. 2. It strengthens you in ways that end up becoming a unique type of strength. Trauma overall one day becomes yet another tool in the toolbox to handle situations and connecting with people in a unique way. Your sons might end up saving the lives of other people to being something good out of their trauma to turn suffering into purpose. 3. I have a happy and healthy marriage, so future is not ruined. You can be there for them if they need you to be there but try to not look at them with eyes of pity or guilt. It will be a sore reminder that you look at them differently so just try to bring as much normalcy as possible and feed their confidence by building their good traits and abilities. You can compare it as rebuilding the village after a tsunami, and while rebuilding what broke takes time you end up loving what you build with your own hands in the end. I wouldn't have loved myself the way I do today if I hadn't fought for mental freedom of not letting him steal any more lifetime. Let your sons be proud of themselves and the trauma will matter less and less because they will value the now and the future more strongly than the past. 💙
It’s not about missing it, it’s about not wanting to see it, not wanting to believe that someone could do something so horrific to the children we love.
Thank you. Had a melt down from something I’ve held onto since I was 5yrs old. Never told anyone and always blocked it out. Yesterday it hit harder than it ever did and I told my mother for the first time.
Ones innocence and natural chance to find our own identity was stolen, to be left on the outside of life with hidden pain and tears. The path I / we should have taken distorted by shame and self-blame. After 51 years with help I've learnt We cant change the past,,,, we have to learn to look at the past differently without self blame. The crime against me does not belong to me it belongs to the abuser.
You deserve to be free from it! You deserve to be happy and who you were meant to be! You deserve freedom and happiness! I know that it is hard but you must free yourself. Take baby steps. Start with counseling of those who have experience with this. Let the little boy inside grieve and become empowered! Do not allow the criminal to have control of your entire life. Tell him/her, NO MORE! My husband just revealed the same to me and my heart hearts so much for him. My grief has turned into righteous anger towards the perpetrator and I have become protective toward that little child inside; and I will fight for my husband to break free from the bondage! He deserves it, and YOU deserve it! Love to you. 💗
Pat Cassin you and I and those of “us” who have experienced this level of heinous.. we’re a family. Hi brother 😊 Our painful memories are special. We grow up. We have families and children and jobs. We meet people who may never learn our experience because we don’t tell them. I’m so happy you’re here today. I’m happy that you have been persevering and healing all this time. As a woman who was molested as a child, we (women) don’t consider much the pain of you guys, and for that, I am so sorry 😔 But I’m happy you are here 😙
*As a woman, I support and applaud each and every man coming forward to heal and share their trauma. You are valid and important. I am grateful for your strength*
I was abused by my older brother from about 2 years old until I was nearly 12. Then, every year when we would go on vacation, my parents would make it a point to visit my brother's house for up to a week of our vacation. This went on until I stood up to my dad when I was about 15. He beat me up, but I didn't have to go on family vacations anymore. Instead they had him come home fof the holidays several years before I moved away... They knew what had been happening because my best friend/neighbor told his parents that what my brother had been doing to the both of us. My brother was 18 when the police intervened, but my parents paid $20,000 to a lawyer to make it go away. The excuse was that his name is the same as my dad's. As soon as my brother moved out, my parents moved me into my brother's bedroom where a huge portion of the abuse took place. My parents still live in the same house and the family of the neighbor kid finally moved about 4-5 years ago. I am now 41 years old and have been facing this battle with therapy for about 5 years now. I am now entering a portion of therapy that is extremely difficult, but I know that it will be the most helpful. It is called prolonged exposure therapy. I just want to finally slay this giant and actually become who I am supposed to be and not all of the things that it has made me.
Thank you for being so vulnerable on here. I am happy to know that you are on the right path, its a long and arduous journey but its worth it! Thank you for being so open
Thank you for sharing. This is heart breaking that you didn't have any support from your family. So did I. I'm wondering if your brother was sexualy abused by your father. I am very suspiciosus about his explanation for paying the lawyer (The excuse was that his name is the same as my dad's). Maybe dad was afraid that your brother will say too much and they will both go to prison. I hope you are well. I wisch you best.
This is really empowering, considering I was a victim when I was 8 years old. It was done by a family member, and I tried my best to downplay the event. However, coming to terms with it and opening up to my family about it made a great difference
I saw a lot of people in the comments saying that "it is more important than ever that men become tougher and harder". So after watching this wonderful talk, your takeaway was absolutely nothing?
I still have a hard time grappling with my abuse at age 28. It’s led to failed relationships, feeling alone & a whole lot of mediocrity. When I told my Dad, I didn’t get the support I expected. But reading all these comments made me realize that it could be worse AND also that I’m not alone. A lot of times I do feel like I can’t get better but I think im ready to start therapy. Thank you all for sharing! You’re all so brave!
You are not alone, and its a lot of work but its worth it. Good job for taking those steps and finding this comment community. There are lots of people who are here to support you
I didn't for years, after court. I shut down in many ways. People asked me anything about my childhood, I was always in Disneyland. Ironically later in my teens, had a teacher saying boys/men can't be abused... I got suspended from school after telling she was f***ING wrong. After being silent for over 9 years I finally opened up. And wouldn't stay silent any more.
When I attempted to tell my parents, they blew me off-as my mother had done for all of my life-which lead me to the vulnerability which my abuser picked up on and took advantage of.
I always tried and still to understand why adults (parents, family members) have hard time accepting they made a mistake and not defend they're kids or nieces or nephew s and grandchildren or etc. Where are the advocate for the ones who cant defend themselves
I was abused by my father. I at a young age spoke up and told mum. I knew who I was at that age. It was from that point onwards I learned I was really all alone.. Mum asked if I excepted my father's apology. I said yes as I felt defeated. I aim for the same purpose in life. Unfortunately because of sharing my story it gave me no care in decisions I make most of times. I have no self control, no consistency in my life. I shared my story a few times over now and most people don't want to here it.
Hey! Well, I hope you can see in this comment section that many men have been through some abuse when they were younger, and I hope you are not feeling so alone. I thank you for sharing. I applaud you for being open and brave. My heart truly goes out to you. But I'll like to say this: I'm not sure if you are angry at God for what happened to you. If you are, I would like to tell you that He can heal your wounds, give you direction in your life and ultimately peace if you believe in his name and seek Him. He is the good Father you might not have, and one I certainly didn't have growing up. The Bible says that: He is a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1) And also this: Can a woman forget her nursing child, And not have compassion on the son of her womb? Surely they may forget, Yet I [God] will not forget you. (Isaiah 49:15) I don't believe in coincidences, I know that God led me to watch this video for a reason and when I was looking at the comments yours called my attention, and I knew I had to tell you that God cares for you and that there is hope and joy in Him. And that you are definitely not alone, people may forget about us, even our own mothers but He will not. Turn to God and believe and trust in Jesus Christ.
@Cody G that's not true. A lot of men seem to misunderstand feminism. I hope you learn more about real feminism, the feminism that gave women rights. I understand that there are extreme 'feminists' that want to be superior to men but those are a minor group, they just get more attention cuz they yell the loudest. I hope the world becomes a truly equal place one day, we still have a long way to go.
I absolutely love 💔broke my heart, one day a class mate talked about get assaulted in front of the whole class for a activist group he was in. They whole classed laughed at him. “Are you a man” “your strong enough to break her off” “how could a boy be assaulted”. I stood up and cursed out the whole class and let them know how much pain it is to go through it and they anyone can go through it. I got kicked out of class but I hugged him afterwards he deserved it this is an actual problem
@@maliciousedge6182 i think its because i cursed at them but they still had no right. The funny thing i after that the whole school became scared of me!!!
and then the rest of the school stood up from their rooms and came into yours to congratulate you, along with the president and about 15 celebrities coming down to ask for your autograph
I suffered abuse when I was a child, I don't remember exactly the age, however, I observe and understand all the emotional and mental consequences that happen today, because of that. Reading the comments, I felt encouraged to write a little about my story. Feel free to write yours too. Let's all become stronger and listen to eatch other! You're not alone! Thanks, if you've read this far, have a wonderful day! :)
Thank you so much for speaking out about this! DAMN, CAN I RELATE, and oh how often my story is belittled simply because I am male. THANK YOU!!! Something needs to change! Men and women get hurt, both need to help!
It's so bad how some women enjoy flip flopping from hopeless, weak victim to strang, indepandent wahmen When they want to be the victim they say that they are weaker than men When they don't want to look weak they say "women are as strong as men"
I can definitely relate too so im very sorry. Im glad this guy was helpful to you. My situation was so very different it didn't touch on enough of the issues I personally need hear. Im so greatful he is opening up discussions on this very sensitive subject. It made me realize how seriously I need someone to talk to about this. I hope uve been able to find peace my friend.
@trevor tanslely trevor i subscribed to you and hit the bell. Don't know if itll work but post just anything to get my attention so ill know u saw this and ill be glad to listen at least. I went thru it too so maybe itll be easier. I understand if u don't want to. Its really hard for me too.
I didn’t tell my family for so long years I’m 23 and I finally told my mother and she didn’t look down on me like I always thought she would. She’s helping me now and I love her so much
Me and my older brother, both were abused by our judo coach in our early teens, and we weren't the only kids this person abused. We've had friends that are no longer with us because they couldn't stand living anymore because of what happened to them at the hands of that very same person. That f...ing breaks my heart...what's left of it anyways. It took me 17 years to muster up the strength to tell anybody what had happened to me, and that at a time where I'd either kill myself doing all these drugs, or to tell my story and regain some measure of self worth. I'm so glad I managed to keep it together and to not give into desperation and depression. We're still alive even though we are broken, and that means there is still hope for salvation. Now I have hope and I won't let it go, ever.
I thank grandpa for showing me a man can be strong but also show emotion. He was strong, every day in winter he'd cut wood for the fire, he was always building something, he had an endless supply of tools out in the shed, he was tough and an outdoorsman and taught gun safety and was a boy scout leader. But I also remember him crying on many occasions and I never thought less of him. He wasn't ashamed to cry. Being emotional was part of who he was (he also had a temper). He would cry at movies. It's actually grandma that rarely cried. Mom and I got that emotionally from grandpa, rather than grandma's practical stoicism.
It started when I was 11 and it didn't stop until I was 14 and it was another 15 years before I told anyone. Take it from someone who knows guys if you don't deal with this from a psychological perspective it will always be in the back of your mind. It wasn't your fault it was nothing you did you need the services of a mental health professional not the bottle or the drugs or the pills. Its about understanding what happened to you because only then can you move forward. Stay safe out there.
Be a man! Be a man, a strong man, a tough man. A man who isnt afraid to share their feelings, a man who isnt afraid to cry at the end of "dog and boy" movies. A man who is strong enough to show himself in his weakest state, and tough enough, to not care what the world thinks.
Searching for male voices on this topic for several people in my life ... THANK YOUUUUUUUUUU for gifting us with this brilliant narrative. You sir are a courageous phenomenal human🙌🙌👏
A whole different higher level of being tough to expose an abuser. Much better than the typical stereotyped macho glorified image. ..Seth had nothing to hide & didn't hold back. God bless himm
@Cody G That's what we're talking about. No one needs the respect of a person who thinks being abused is victims fault. Masculinity should've NEVER been about you hiding your feelings and putting a mask on to look like you're the strongest. You're a human first, a fragile being, it doesn't matter if you're a man, you're still a human first. I agree so many people will belittle a man who's been abused, but they are the people who believe a man is only worth something when he's strong and never been hurt. Who even believes that? No one should.
I have been struggling with drugs and alcohol. Find it hard to work at places without feeling paranoid. I have trouble sleeping at night and have all kinds of security measures and several guns at the ready. I feel your pain man.
@@mikemerritt9969 my friend... after a year and half of counseling.... I don't have those fears anymore... I encourage you to get the help you need too... living without those fears has opened up so many doors and opportunities for me... my prayers for you brother 🙏💪
My partner had a similar experience. He tried to tell his brother once and was shut down. His parents still don't know. Yes, it is so important for anyone that is abused to report the abuse and feel comfortable with reporting. It is terrible that anyone who is abused will feel like they can't speak out. You are a true man! Appreciate your story
there is no such thing as a fake man. A person who is negative and toxic to our society shouldn't be associated to his/her gender because that reinforces stereotypes.
How have dealt with the connection to him? (Assuming you are male.) Male victims are viewed differently imo, we're seen as complicit and likely to turn into abusers ourselves. (Molested by my father also before the age of 5 so I know all about the self-loathing.)
I am a 63 y.o male.and now and I hated him for many years. I have been in contact with him for most of my life but it wasn't until last year that I finally forgave him. I have several mental health Diagnoses. I have been suicidal for a long time; with anger issues. I have 3 daughters and refused to put them thru what I did. My mother denied it until happened to my younger sister too.
Your grandfather would be so proud and I’m sure with your bravery and courage to stand on stage and make that speech which has touched, changed and saved some man’s life, you are making a difference and that makes you a beautiful human being and a wonderful strong man. You’re changing lives, good for you!
I hate how people say "Men Can't Cry, can't show emotions. They have to be strong." Or "shut up, Women have it worse than you" or how it's 'always' men who are rapists, drug dealers, abusers. Men and Women are different and the same. They're both Human. So please kindly shut up if you think Men have it easier than Women. We need Equality
yes we really do. I was molested by my aunt a few times when i was a kid. I just buried it so deep i almost feel i did forget. as a teen i was drinking everyday, smoking weed, starting fist fights and arguments for anything. it got really horrible when i hurt someone for simply wanting to show me a better way and grow together. i hated her for loving me so i drank more because i was stuck mentally. i couldnt grow as a person because something was really wrong with me but i pretty much could never accept when my aunt i loved, respected, and TRUSTED hurt me the way she did multiple times! i regret hurting my ex so much with my anger and selfish ways. i cant ever have her back but i have been trying to heal since i accepted what happened to me. and i know ill never hurt anyone again in any way. i want to heal, help others heal, bond, and grow positively from my past trauma. and huge yes for that question we as men should be asking each other. "whats your story?"
its horrible when you have no one to tell because you are embarrassed or afraid or whatever. My mom abused me. I've never been able to trust people and get angry when anyone doe the slightest abusive thing.
@@TheFaySchoolKids I can relate. Not only does my own mother commit other forms of domestic violence, but my own sister does keep molesting me while practicing domestic violence herself. She does that to me, because she knew offends me.
I feel this, I'm 14 and it's been happening to me for months this year by a woman, and I've been trying to ignore it by watching TikTok all the time and I don't have any motivation but to lay in my bed. The worst part is I actually thought she was a good person. Then I found out she was grooming me, but I found out too late. I can't even tell my gf abt it because I know no one likes a guy who's emotional. Absolutely no one I know knows about it. I don't know what to do.
Most my friends are guys, and over time seeing them grow and and hearing what they hear about masculinity and what it means to "be a man" makes me more passionate about wanting to change the societal perception of men's emotions and ability to be victims just as much as women can be
Flame Emerald I’ve always wanted to change that. I can’t stand people and their perception of masculinity. My heart breaks thinking about all the guys that go through it. 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
The only reasons you "care" about these problems is because you claim to "care" about the men in your life... I guarantee that if (replace if with you already and remove the you in front of didn't) you didn't "care" about the men in your life, you wouldn't be saying this.
@@TheHelper151 What? I care about my friends well being's and they should be allowed to be as open about their emotions and experiences when it's generally considered taboo... um... what are you talking about?
@Cody G If you don't believe me, then that's your choice? You don't know me personally so there's no reason for you to take my word on something you haven't seen personally... It's just what I believe and in my life I've tried to give my friends spaces to talk about nonconventional topics (whether about taboo emotions, trauma, etc) if they want to talk about it. I'm sorry that happened to you though, people shouldn't lie about things like that and I hope you find other people in your life you can be more open and true to yourself with
I salute you sir! Thank you for sharing your story. You've given a lot of people who had experienced the same situation a voice. And a light to pull through.
I wish I could meet this brave gentleman. Your strength gives me strength. I wish I had half the courage as you- in front of the whole world no less. You sir are for sure a man and not a mouse.
Lord, please give this man peace and blessings! Reward him in every way for his willingness to be vulnerable. The truth about masculinity... is that it is totally honest! Amen.
Bravo! The picture of strength, overcoming, and being real. This is what courage looks like. He did nothing wrong...the message needs to change to "it's safe to share what happened to you!" Thank you, Seth!
It makes me feel happy to see men that are able to share and be vulnerable. This is so helpful to other men to see and maybe it can help them to speak out and heal.
Me too, my father sister son molested me at 7 years old and again when I was in 15 years, second time I teach him lesson. But this insident effected me mentally, I'm depressed and not talking any one,now I am 30 still I have fear to talk peoples especially men's if I'm alone and some one coming to me my heart beat increasing and getting too much fear it's effecting my personal life and professional life i tried but not helping me and most of the people's in my childhood behaving like deferent because in my childhood my body look like a girl every one commenting and some people's misbehave with me. Only the reason for my presence because of my parents, I'm living for them only .
I thought that too. Boys should be tough and being a victim is taboo. For several times I had to escape that reality and I have to move forward. But this trauma still hunts me. Healing to everyone who experienced it.
I was abused from 9 to 13 by a close family member. Still to this day I can't bring myself to speak up. At 29 year old the monster is still be protected by me because it will tear my family apart.
There is nothing so empowering, so spirit and self worth building... than when we find our voice. The journey of reclaiming our potential and our autonomy is myth shattering.
Seth you deserve to be commended. We need more men to come out and share their stories live and hopefully find that it helps them to move on to a more positive experience for the rest of their lives. A+++ to you Seth
From age 11 to almost 16 I was abused by one of my uncles. He kicked my dog who had just had a major hip surgery and I lost it. Took four grown men to pull me off of him because in my mind he’d already been hurting me and all be danged if he was gonna hurt my loyal dog in her elder years too. The years of rage and pain he put me through were released in that moment. When my parents found out what he’d been doing to me they understood it wasn’t just about him kicking my dog.
Seth, I applaud your strength for changing the narrative that kept the doors closed for you for so long! Your willingness to share your story provides a new foundation for family, friends, and community to forge a new understanding. It's so affirming that you confronted the overt and covert demons and came through the fire to proudly learn who you are and how worthy you are of love. Many blessings as you move forward through life; may you experience abundant love and joy!
Thanks for sharing your story Seth. I have found that sharing is a wonderful antidote to shame, and an opportunity to challenge those narratives we have been sold or told throughout life. Your told is a powerful exercise in courage.
societal narratives usually leave a TON of folks out (or at least don't accurately represent a lot of folks' reality.) so yeah, i'm all for challenging them and sharing what actually went down if somebody's emotionally ready to do that, because yes, sharing (to the right people at least) does tend to reduce the shame factor.
We need to realize that you should be able to have whatever masculine or feminine qualities you want. There is nothing wrong with being a stroke of one or the other.
Innocence is something we have to keep until a certain age they take it from you without not knowing the damage they do there is a future for us !! Thank you I was scared no one talked about this on TH-cam
Yes Men can be victims and women and even Mothers and Grandmothers can be perpetrators. I know from first hand experience. Men too !!!! Both my parents were perpetrators and that left no safe space anywhere.
This was real pure male courage. It takes a strong person to admit this. Boys/Men often times get overlooked and it's sad. We grow up to drink and drug ourselves to numb the pain.
Thank you for this. By sharing this you heal every person that, for some reason, cannot speak up. By sharing this you listen to souls who don't have a voice. By sharing this you open up roads to a new life for many. God bless.
You said that you discovered who you were by telling your story, but that event happening should not define who you are or your worth. I do appreciated how brave you are to demonstrate that being vulnerable is part of being human and masculine.
my deepest condolences (i've been close to that point and managed to not go there but i can at least sort of understand why somebody else might). virtual hugs and/or kitty cuddles if you want them.
I don’t like the way society tells us that victimhood is a problem, trauma is a serious thing when someone does something illegal to you, it’s EXTREMELY stressful.
"Men are not machines. even if they were, they would still rust"
that is literally the other way for women
@@gaudy_pov_i_club_little_bl9836 yeah but people believe you when you say you get abused
@@gaudy_pov_i_club_little_bl9836 ? wdym
Na, men are stainless
@@bendover2684 i smell toxic masculinity
You sir, are not a mouse, but a very brave man.
Brave young men.
@@laylakin6518 tf
No poopy
@@meshman2763 😰😏😳
Tf did I type that
one out of 5 girls. one out of 6 boys. should be 0 out of all children.
This is why all kids should be taught bravery, and healthy lack of trust of anyone, especially people in authority. You can trust someone right up to the point where they start acting suspicious or out of norms, but always ready to throw that trust away when people start acting sketch, no matter who they are.
one out of 4 girls
preach
margaret johnson Amen! 🙏
@@paradisemurderer3783
Wow. The numbers just keep going up. It doesn't even really seem possible, like the statistics are being inflated.
Age 5 I was molested by my 15yr old babysitter and the age of 7 I was molested by my 14yr old God brother for years I thought it was my fault ... I am 36yr old man now and I realize a lot my anger stems for these traumatic events that took place In my childhood ...
I don't know you and I can't really help you but I wish you to overcome one day all difficulties linked to this traumatics events! It wasn't your fault
I’m so sorry man :,(
Jah Rashaad are the babysitter girl or boy?
@@rasabilo6164 it doesn't matter what gender is the abuser, the important thing is that he was the victim and was abused
@@rasabilo6164 why does that matter ???
The women and men who disliked this only disliked it because it proves their perception of reality being challenged makes them mad.
Adam Richard well said dear... Reality is the biggest truth of world
I disliked because I hate this victim culture that leads necessarily to a repressive culture.
how do you know why they disliked it?
@@alainborgrave6772 Are you suggesting that victims keep being silenced and our society becomes even more desensitized?
Alain borgrave theres a difference between victim culture and a culture that allows people to talk about traumas that can mentally damage someone, leading to potential physical self-harm, or behaviors that can be detrimental to others.
This is what courage looks like; this is what a real man is. Bravo, Seth!
"a real man"
What would a fake man be?
Bruh terminate me someone who replies to a post about a real man instead of applauding this speaker on his bravery
Too painful to watch as my 3sons were abused by their father. We put him in prison...but so many reprocusions.
Jen Bradley you’re an incredible mom.
I (female) was assaulted at 18 and I am 33 now and heres the few pieces of comfort that I can give you. 1. The human body is incredibly resilient and can heal in incredible ways when the mind is ready for the healing to take place. 2. It strengthens you in ways that end up becoming a unique type of strength. Trauma overall one day becomes yet another tool in the toolbox to handle situations and connecting with people in a unique way. Your sons might end up saving the lives of other people to being something good out of their trauma to turn suffering into purpose. 3. I have a happy and healthy marriage, so future is not ruined.
You can be there for them if they need you to be there but try to not look at them with eyes of pity or guilt. It will be a sore reminder that you look at them differently so just try to bring as much normalcy as possible and feed their confidence by building their good traits and abilities. You can compare it as rebuilding the village after a tsunami, and while rebuilding what broke takes time you end up loving what you build with your own hands in the end. I wouldn't have loved myself the way I do today if I hadn't fought for mental freedom of not letting him steal any more lifetime. Let your sons be proud of themselves and the trauma will matter less and less because they will value the now and the future more strongly than the past. 💙
How did you miss that, though? Were you abused? Alcoholism in the family?
It’s not about missing it, it’s about not wanting to see it, not wanting to believe that someone could do something so horrific to the children we love.
@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 what a scummy thing to ask. Total victim shaming.
Thank you.
Had a melt down from something I’ve held onto since I was 5yrs old.
Never told anyone and always blocked it out.
Yesterday it hit harder than it ever did and I told my mother for the first time.
Wow, thats very brave and must have been difficult and a release at the same time. Thanks for sharing
THIS made me cry. Happy tears though!
Thank you for trusting your mom and I hope she got the communication. ♥️
My older cousin abused me from 1998-2003. It hurts in ways you can't explain. 😞
Wh-
What happened in 2003
Brandon Honey *hugs*
What exactly happened if you don't mind talking about it?
I’m so so sorry this happened to you. I really hope you find the help you need. Please feel loved. Your story is worth telling
@@gregorymalchuk272 "exactly" is probably too much to know.
Ones innocence and natural chance to find our own identity was stolen, to be left on the outside of life with hidden pain and tears. The path I / we should have taken distorted by shame and self-blame. After 51 years with help I've learnt We cant change the past,,,, we have to learn to look at the past differently without self blame. The crime against me does not belong to me it belongs to the abuser.
Pat Cassin thank you brother
You deserve to be free from it! You deserve to be happy and who you were meant to be! You deserve freedom and happiness! I know that it is hard but you must free yourself. Take baby steps. Start with counseling of those who have experience with this. Let the little boy inside grieve and become empowered! Do not allow the criminal to have control of your entire life. Tell him/her, NO MORE! My husband just revealed the same to me and my heart hearts so much for him. My grief has turned into righteous anger towards the perpetrator and I have become protective toward that little child inside; and I will fight for my husband to break free from the bondage! He deserves it, and YOU deserve it! Love to you. 💗
Pat Cassin you and I and those of “us” who have experienced this level of heinous.. we’re a family. Hi brother 😊 Our painful memories are special. We grow up. We have families and children and jobs. We meet people who may never learn our experience because we don’t tell them. I’m so happy you’re here today. I’m happy that you have been persevering and healing all this time. As a woman who was molested as a child, we (women) don’t consider much the pain of you guys, and for that, I am so sorry 😔 But I’m happy you are here 😙
You are a good writer, well said and thank you very much.
Thanks for those words, friend.
"In order to create healthy communities, we need to become healthy people" 13:02 -Seth Shelly December 13th, 2017
Thank you I am happy that what I shared resonated with you
@@sethshelley8953 Thank you for doing this speach! ♡
@@sethshelley8953 Where did you get help
mentally healthy people **
AMEN
*As a woman, I support and applaud each and every man coming forward to heal and share their trauma. You are valid and important. I am grateful for your strength*
I was abused by my older brother from about 2 years old until I was nearly 12. Then, every year when we would go on vacation, my parents would make it a point to visit my brother's house for up to a week of our vacation. This went on until I stood up to my dad when I was about 15. He beat me up, but I didn't have to go on family vacations anymore. Instead they had him come home fof the holidays several years before I moved away... They knew what had been happening because my best friend/neighbor told his parents that what my brother had been doing to the both of us. My brother was 18 when the police intervened, but my parents paid $20,000 to a lawyer to make it go away. The excuse was that his name is the same as my dad's. As soon as my brother moved out, my parents moved me into my brother's bedroom where a huge portion of the abuse took place. My parents still live in the same house and the family of the neighbor kid finally moved about 4-5 years ago. I am now 41 years old and have been facing this battle with therapy for about 5 years now. I am now entering a portion of therapy that is extremely difficult, but I know that it will be the most helpful. It is called prolonged exposure therapy. I just want to finally slay this giant and actually become who I am supposed to be and not all of the things that it has made me.
Thank you for being so vulnerable on here. I am happy to know that you are on the right path, its a long and arduous journey but its worth it! Thank you for being so open
@@the_shelleys thank you for your reply. I appreciate your response and kind words.
Thank you for sharing. This is heart breaking that you didn't have any support from your family. So did I. I'm wondering if your brother was sexualy abused by your father. I am very suspiciosus about his explanation for paying the lawyer (The excuse was that his name is the same as my dad's). Maybe dad was afraid that your brother will say too much and they will both go to prison. I hope you are well. I wisch you best.
Sending you love and strength :)
Você ainda tem contato com seus familiares?
This is really empowering, considering I was a victim when I was 8 years old. It was done by a family member, and I tried my best to downplay the event. However, coming to terms with it and opening up to my family about it made a great difference
What did she do to you?
Zaki we don’t know if it was a he or she, clearly he’s not comfortable sharing his full story yet.
No plzz share.......we can help u
Don't rely on your family to help or support. Do it anyway. Don't be shocked if they deny all of it.
@@zaki9804 Why did you assume that?
I saw a lot of people in the comments saying that "it is more important than ever that men become tougher and harder". So after watching this wonderful talk, your takeaway was absolutely nothing?
Beki wtf
@@skylovermc2146 ?
Maybe they meant to say that in going of things like that,after it is important that men become thoughter and harder mentally.
@@axellea1592 Harder and tougher means to endure through it themselves, instead of breaking through stigmas and seeking help from others.
I haven't seen a single comment like that yet.
I still have a hard time grappling with my abuse at age 28. It’s led to failed relationships, feeling alone & a whole lot of mediocrity. When I told my Dad, I didn’t get the support I expected. But reading all these comments made me realize that it could be worse AND also that I’m not alone. A lot of times I do feel like I can’t get better but I think im ready to start therapy.
Thank you all for sharing! You’re all so brave!
You are not alone, and its a lot of work but its worth it. Good job for taking those steps and finding this comment community. There are lots of people who are here to support you
I didn't for years, after court. I shut down in many ways. People asked me anything about my childhood, I was always in Disneyland. Ironically later in my teens, had a teacher saying boys/men can't be abused... I got suspended from school after telling she was f***ING wrong. After being silent for over 9 years I finally opened up. And wouldn't stay silent any more.
F**k that teacher bro
"had a teacher saying boys/men can't be abused." You'd sadly be suprised how many people believe it.
I’m proud of you for not staying silent over those years and now.
When I attempted to tell my parents, they blew me off-as my mother had done for all of my life-which lead me to the vulnerability which my abuser picked up on and took advantage of.
That's too bad :/ I hope you can live away from this toxic enviroment, and maybe forgive your mother one day, finding truth peace within yourself.
Tomoko Tdg that one day may not come.
I always tried and still to understand why adults (parents, family members) have hard time accepting they made a mistake and not defend they're kids or nieces or nephew s and grandchildren or etc. Where are the advocate for the ones who cant defend themselves
I was abused by my father. I at a young age spoke up and told mum. I knew who I was at that age. It was from that point onwards I learned I was really all alone.. Mum asked if I excepted my father's apology. I said yes as I felt defeated.
I aim for the same purpose in life. Unfortunately because of sharing my story it gave me no care in decisions I make most of times. I have no self control, no consistency in my life.
I shared my story a few times over now and most people don't want to here it.
Hey! Well, I hope you can see in this comment section that many men have been through some abuse when they were younger, and I hope you are not feeling so alone. I thank you for sharing. I applaud you for being open and brave. My heart truly goes out to you.
But I'll like to say this: I'm not sure if you are angry at God for what happened to you. If you are, I would like to tell you that He can heal your wounds, give you direction in your life and ultimately peace if you believe in his name and seek Him. He is the good Father you might not have, and one I certainly didn't have growing up. The Bible says that: He is a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1)
And also this: Can a woman forget her nursing child, And not have compassion on the son of her womb? Surely they may forget, Yet I [God] will not forget you. (Isaiah 49:15)
I don't believe in coincidences, I know that God led me to watch this video for a reason and when I was looking at the comments yours called my attention, and I knew I had to tell you that God cares for you and that there is hope and joy in Him. And that you are definitely not alone, people may forget about us, even our own mothers but He will not. Turn to God and believe and trust in Jesus Christ.
@@SandraLopez-xm6hs Amen
@Yoshiyahu Yisrael Hi, and no, I am a girl. Have a good night Yoshiyahu!
I’ll hear your story , I want to hear your story .
I will never tell
I am proud of you, it is a deep wound and millions of men are suffering and lack empathetic support from the society for healing.
Such a strong, intelligent guy. His message is an important one that needs awareness.
@Cody G that's not true. A lot of men seem to misunderstand feminism. I hope you learn more about real feminism, the feminism that gave women rights. I understand that there are extreme 'feminists' that want to be superior to men but those are a minor group, they just get more attention cuz they yell the loudest. I hope the world becomes a truly equal place one day, we still have a long way to go.
@@fugosfork7907 *FEMIN* ism. Female ism. Try again.
@@TheHelper151 uhhh, your point is invalid since there isn't one. It doesn't even stand for female but for feminine. Try again.
Mate I could listen to you for ages. So well said. I repressed my rapes and abuse for 43 yrs and just getting them back now to heal.
thank you, and thanks for sharing
I’m sorry for what you went through 🙏🏼 wishing you healing and peace
I am 29.bravo to u
I just want to hug this guy. This has happened to so many boys, they just don't talk about it. More are coming out about it.
virtual hug accepted, thanks for caring!
I absolutely love 💔broke my heart, one day a class mate talked about get assaulted in front of the whole class for a activist group he was in. They whole classed laughed at him. “Are you a man” “your strong enough to break her off” “how could a boy be assaulted”. I stood up and cursed out the whole class and let them know how much pain it is to go through it and they anyone can go through it. I got kicked out of class but I hugged him afterwards he deserved it this is an actual problem
nya thoan thank you for listening to him in his vulnerability. The stigma is real
Thank you. Unfortunately men who get abused by women are the real silent epidemic. Keyword being silent.
Why tf would you get kicked out of class, thats some bs right there
@@maliciousedge6182 i think its because i cursed at them but they still had no right. The funny thing i after that the whole school became scared of me!!!
and then the rest of the school stood up from their rooms and came into yours to congratulate you, along with the president and about 15 celebrities coming down to ask for your autograph
I suffered abuse when I was a child, I don't remember exactly the age, however, I observe and understand all the emotional and mental consequences that happen today, because of that.
Reading the comments, I felt encouraged to write a little about my story. Feel free to write yours too.
Let's all become stronger and listen to eatch other! You're not alone!
Thanks, if you've read this far, have a wonderful day! :)
you are not alone, thats right!
Joao
I wish you peace and success as you go forward and become the man you want to be.
You're not alone. I'm 51 and a survivor. The resultant depression, anxiety, and PTSD I deal with every day.
Thank you so much for speaking out about this! DAMN, CAN I RELATE, and oh how often my story is belittled simply because I am male. THANK YOU!!! Something needs to change! Men and women get hurt, both need to help!
It's so bad how some women enjoy flip flopping from hopeless, weak victim to strang, indepandent wahmen
When they want to be the victim they say that they are weaker than men
When they don't want to look weak they say "women are as strong as men"
I can definitely relate too so im very sorry. Im glad this guy was helpful to you. My situation was so very different it didn't touch on enough of the issues I personally need hear. Im so greatful he is opening up discussions on this very sensitive subject. It made me realize how seriously I need someone to talk to about this. I hope uve been able to find peace my friend.
@trevor tanslely trevor i subscribed to you and hit the bell. Don't know if itll work but post just anything to get my attention so ill know u saw this and ill be glad to listen at least. I went thru it too so maybe itll be easier. I understand if u don't want to. Its really hard for me too.
trevor tanslely I also wish I had someone that went through similar only because the one therapist seemed just about money.
Lizett Alvarado how so?
I didn’t tell my family for so long years I’m 23 and I finally told my mother and she didn’t look down on me like I always thought she would. She’s helping me now and I love her so much
It's so precious to have a loving and sympathetic parent. I wish you every ounce of happiness!
You're so lucky, I unfortunately wasn't (my mother is convinced that my grandmother made it all up and filled my head with memories in my case...)
Me and my older brother, both were abused by our judo coach in our early teens, and we weren't the only kids this person abused. We've had friends that are no longer with us because they couldn't stand living anymore because of what happened to them at the hands of that very same person. That f...ing breaks my heart...what's left of it anyways.
It took me 17 years to muster up the strength to tell anybody what had happened to me, and that at a time where I'd either kill myself doing all these drugs, or to tell my story and regain some measure of self worth. I'm so glad I managed to keep it together and to not give into desperation and depression. We're still alive even though we are broken, and that means there is still hope for salvation.
Now I have hope and I won't let it go, ever.
wow, thank you for sharing this on here, what a brave thing to do. Hope. what an amazing thing!
I thank grandpa for showing me a man can be strong but also show emotion. He was strong, every day in winter he'd cut wood for the fire, he was always building something, he had an endless supply of tools out in the shed, he was tough and an outdoorsman and taught gun safety and was a boy scout leader. But I also remember him crying on many occasions and I never thought less of him. He wasn't ashamed to cry. Being emotional was part of who he was (he also had a temper). He would cry at movies. It's actually grandma that rarely cried. Mom and I got that emotionally from grandpa, rather than grandma's practical stoicism.
It started when I was 11 and it didn't stop until I was 14 and it was another 15 years before I told anyone. Take it from someone who knows guys if you don't deal with this from a psychological perspective it will always be in the back of your mind. It wasn't your fault it was nothing you did you need the services of a mental health professional not the bottle or the drugs or the pills. Its about understanding what happened to you because only then can you move forward. Stay safe out there.
Men need to show emotions, crying isn’t showing your weak it’s a way to release stress .
Be a man! Be a man, a strong man, a tough man. A man who isnt afraid to share their feelings, a man who isnt afraid to cry at the end of "dog and boy" movies. A man who is strong enough to show himself in his weakest state, and tough enough, to not care what the world thinks.
How society portrays crying ultimately angers me.
Thank you, Seth, thank you. With tears in my eyes, I hear your words and many of my own feelings are explained. Thank you.
Searching for male voices on this topic for several people in my life ... THANK YOUUUUUUUUUU for gifting us with this brilliant narrative. You sir are a courageous phenomenal human🙌🙌👏
Powerful communicator addressing a challenging subject.
A whole different higher level of being tough to expose an abuser. Much better than the typical stereotyped macho glorified image. ..Seth had nothing to hide & didn't hold back. God bless himm
Angel Face thanks!
@@the_shelleys You are welcome. God bless your life. Make the most of a great one.
@Cody G That's what we're talking about. No one needs the respect of a person who thinks being abused is victims fault. Masculinity should've NEVER been about you hiding your feelings and putting a mask on to look like you're the strongest. You're a human first, a fragile being, it doesn't matter if you're a man, you're still a human first. I agree so many people will belittle a man who's been abused, but they are the people who believe a man is only worth something when he's strong and never been hurt. Who even believes that? No one should.
THAT should be an updated definition of "being tough". That stereotypical macho-style kind of male is so 19th century!
It took me almost being homeless to get the strength to come forward and tell my story 💪
Glad you got your strength
@@nicolegibson5905 thank you... I started my recovery May 1st 2019.. I've almost found my true self and inner strength again 🤗
I have been struggling with drugs and alcohol. Find it hard to work at places without feeling paranoid. I have trouble sleeping at night and have all kinds of security measures and several guns at the ready. I feel your pain man.
@@mikemerritt9969 my friend... after a year and half of counseling.... I don't have those fears anymore... I encourage you to get the help you need too... living without those fears has opened up so many doors and opportunities for me... my prayers for you brother 🙏💪
This is exactly what happened to me!!!
My partner had a similar experience. He tried to tell his brother once and was shut down. His parents still don't know.
Yes, it is so important for anyone that is abused to report the abuse and feel comfortable with reporting. It is terrible that anyone who is abused will feel like they can't speak out.
You are a true man! Appreciate your story
thank you for sharing your experience briefly on here, I appreciate it!
there is no such thing as a fake man. A person who is negative and toxic to our society shouldn't be associated to his/her gender because that reinforces stereotypes.
It's so brave for any victim of abuse to share their stories. Thank you for sharing and making others brave enough to share as well.
My father was my abuser. This started when I was like 5 and didn't end until I was 14.
simflyr1957 *hug*
Sending you a hug and praying that you find love and peace in your life
I understand, my family was abusive to me but I can honestly say I feel like my big sister and my father where the only ppl who loved me growing up
How have dealt with the connection to him? (Assuming you are male.) Male victims are viewed differently imo, we're seen as complicit and likely to turn into abusers ourselves. (Molested by my father also before the age of 5 so I know all about the self-loathing.)
I am a 63 y.o male.and now and I hated him for many years. I have been in contact with him for most of my life but it wasn't until last year that I finally forgave him. I have several mental health Diagnoses. I have been suicidal for a long time; with anger issues. I have 3 daughters and refused to put them thru what I did. My mother denied it until happened to my younger sister too.
It's some messed up people in the world and a lot of them closer to you than you think. Much love to the speaker for speaking his truth!
Tiffany Banks thank you!
They tried to bury us, they didn't know WE were seeds! Never ever give up, Brothers and Sisters!!
Thank you. Respect man. Respect
Maximus Ralte no thanks needed :)
I was 7-8 years old when it happened to me. I didn't tell my mom until I was 16 years on. Her response made me feel so alone.
im sorry to hear that, thank you for sharing
What was her reponse?
Your grandfather would be so proud and I’m sure with your bravery and courage to stand on stage and make that speech which has touched, changed and saved some man’s life, you are making a difference and that makes you a beautiful human being and a wonderful strong man. You’re changing lives, good for you!
Thanks for saying that
I cried through most of this talk. So incredibly important.
Same 😣
@@franciscorpus5924 wow, thanks for the emotional response. I appreciate the honesty
I hate how people say "Men Can't Cry, can't show emotions. They have to be strong." Or "shut up, Women have it worse than you" or how it's 'always' men who are rapists, drug dealers, abusers. Men and Women are different and the same. They're both Human. So please kindly shut up if you think Men have it easier than Women. We need Equality
it takes a true man to talk about being abused. god bless you, seth.
and blessing on you
Seth Shelley is a man to admire for his honesty, forthrightness, intelligence, and many other attributes; and of course for being a human being.
wow thanks for the glowing review! Of course, I am just like everyone else in real life.
Me too brother thanks for your courage. And so many of my friends have told me they were as well we are not alone we need to talk about this
thank you for the courage to say "me too"
yes we really do.
I was molested by my aunt a few times when i was a kid.
I just buried it so deep i almost feel i did forget.
as a teen i was drinking everyday, smoking weed, starting fist fights and arguments for anything.
it got really horrible when i hurt someone for simply wanting to show me a better way and grow together.
i hated her for loving me so i drank more because i was stuck mentally.
i couldnt grow as a person because something was really wrong with me but i pretty much could never accept when my aunt i loved, respected, and TRUSTED hurt me the way she did multiple times!
i regret hurting my ex so much with my anger and selfish ways.
i cant ever have her back but i have been trying to heal since i accepted what happened to me.
and i know ill never hurt anyone again in any way.
i want to heal, help others heal, bond, and grow positively from my past trauma.
and huge yes for that question we as men should be asking each other.
"whats your story?"
its horrible when you have no one to tell because you are embarrassed or afraid or whatever. My mom abused me. I've never been able to trust people and get angry when anyone doe the slightest abusive thing.
@@TheFaySchoolKids I can relate. Not only does my own mother commit other forms of domestic violence, but my own sister does keep molesting me while practicing domestic violence herself. She does that to me, because she knew offends me.
@@warrenbradford2597 are u fine man pls lodgr a complaint
I feel this, I'm 14 and it's been happening to me for months this year by a woman, and I've been trying to ignore it by watching TikTok all the time and I don't have any motivation but to lay in my bed. The worst part is I actually thought she was a good person. Then I found out she was grooming me, but I found out too late.
I can't even tell my gf abt it because I know no one likes a guy who's emotional. Absolutely no one I know knows about it. I don't know what to do.
Most my friends are guys, and over time seeing them grow and and hearing what they hear about masculinity and what it means to "be a man" makes me more passionate about wanting to change the societal perception of men's emotions and ability to be victims just as much as women can be
Flame Emerald I’ve always wanted to change that. I can’t stand people and their perception of masculinity. My heart breaks thinking about all the guys that go through it. 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
The only reasons you "care" about these problems is because you claim to "care" about the men in your life... I guarantee that if (replace if with you already and remove the you in front of didn't) you didn't "care" about the men in your life, you wouldn't be saying this.
@@TheHelper151 What? I care about my friends well being's and they should be allowed to be as open about their emotions and experiences when it's generally considered taboo... um... what are you talking about?
@Cody G If you don't believe me, then that's your choice? You don't know me personally so there's no reason for you to take my word on something you haven't seen personally... It's just what I believe and in my life I've tried to give my friends spaces to talk about nonconventional topics (whether about taboo emotions, trauma, etc) if they want to talk about it.
I'm sorry that happened to you though, people shouldn't lie about things like that and I hope you find other people in your life you can be more open and true to yourself with
@@flame_emerald I'm saying because of your nature as a female, you cannot care... Not to the level that is needed...
He should read audio books. He has a beautiful voice. What a strong man.
Wow!!! Within the first minute I could tell this guy is an awesome speaker. He’s so clear and articulates so well.
Finally someone understands 🥺
I salute you sir! Thank you for sharing your story. You've given a lot of people who had experienced the same situation a voice. And a light to pull through.
Thaddeus Paul Uyson I’m just one voice in the many, all our voices matter :)
Thank you sir!
“No healing without sharing”
You are one of the bravest man I’ve ever listened to. 👍
wow, thanks!
Wow, just cried like a baby. My partner just disclosed his story to me , and hearing this makes me hurt. This hit home. Thank you for sharing 💕
I wish I could meet this brave gentleman. Your strength gives me strength. I wish I had half the courage as you- in front of the whole world no less. You sir are for sure a man and not a mouse.
Lord, please give this man peace and blessings! Reward him in every way for his willingness to be vulnerable. The truth about masculinity...
is that it is totally honest! Amen.
Amen
Bravo! The picture of strength, overcoming, and being real. This is what courage looks like. He did nothing wrong...the message needs to change to "it's safe to share what happened to you!" Thank you, Seth!
Amazing... thank you so much for this incredible contribution. You are beyond brave for doing this, which is testimony to your true manhood.
It makes me feel happy to see men that are able to share and be vulnerable. This is so helpful to other men to see and maybe it can help them to speak out and heal.
Me too, my father sister son molested me at 7 years old and again when I was in 15 years, second time I teach him lesson. But this insident effected me mentally, I'm depressed and not talking any one,now I am 30 still I have fear to talk peoples especially men's if I'm alone and some one coming to me my heart beat increasing and getting too much fear it's effecting my personal life and professional life i tried but not helping me and most of the people's in my childhood behaving like deferent because in my childhood my body look like a girl every one commenting and some people's misbehave with me.
Only the reason for my presence because of my parents, I'm living for them only .
you are important, dont forget
You are not alone and we are here for you ❤️
wow , so brave to share on here. Contact me on my website if you ever need to talk. You are not alone
I thought that too. Boys should be tough and being a victim is taboo. For several times I had to escape that reality and I have to move forward. But this trauma still hunts me. Healing to everyone who experienced it.
I am sorry that you experienced that, if you ever need to have support in finding resources to help let me know, I will do what I can
Thank you, Seth, for making the choice to offer your story to help,others find healing. Blessings to you.
Thank you for standing to empower others to tell their own story. Salute you man!
Thank you for sharing your story. It hurt my heart that you were so abused. I hope your healing is far along. Carol. Phoenix Arizona USA
Thank you and my healing is a journey but I am every day walking towards healing
When we replace one unique individual experience with someone else's narrative we loose a part of our community. Just amazing, thank you.
This man is the bravest, strongest and most courageous person i have heard on the internet. Thank u so much for helping me
You are so brave! What a courage! You are real men to me. Thank you for sheer your story.
hiromibee thank you!
I was abused from 9 to 13 by a close family member. Still to this day I can't bring myself to speak up. At 29 year old the monster is still be protected by me because it will tear my family apart.
@lonely wolf that's od insensitive
This needs tons of views
Cody G Feminism is about parity, the one you are talking about is misandry. Please, inform yourself before saying this things
@@mariellasirangelo6216 he's not wrong, society is having mentality of thinking Men are always the bad ones
Power on, Seth your a winner.
There is nothing so empowering, so spirit and self worth building... than when we find our voice. The journey of reclaiming our potential and our autonomy is myth shattering.
Thank you for speaking on behalf, of us.
Seth you deserve to be commended. We need more men to come out and share their stories live and hopefully find that it helps them to move on to a more positive experience for the rest of their lives. A+++ to you Seth
I was captivated this whole talk. What a strong, aware, REAL man.
Seth.........
you are a real man.
Someone to look up to.
You are a man's man
Thank you Seth for your bravery and honesty.
Well, I assure you I am just the same as every other. Thanks for the encouragement.
@@the_shelleys
Proud of you man.
Wishing you a blessed new year
You're so brave and have so much strength to talk about your story. Thank you! 🙏🏻
From age 11 to almost 16 I was abused by one of my uncles. He kicked my dog who had just had a major hip surgery and I lost it. Took four grown men to pull me off of him because in my mind he’d already been hurting me and all be danged if he was gonna hurt my loyal dog in her elder years too. The years of rage and pain he put me through were released in that moment. When my parents found out what he’d been doing to me they understood it wasn’t just about him kicking my dog.
Seth, I applaud your strength for changing the narrative that kept the doors closed for you for so long! Your willingness to share your story provides a new foundation for family, friends, and community to forge a new understanding. It's so affirming that you confronted the overt and covert demons and came through the fire to proudly learn who you are and how worthy you are of love. Many blessings as you move forward through life; may you experience abundant love and joy!
Thank you!
As a survivor of many years of childhood abuse thanks for sharing. There's a huge stigma on men sharing their story.
You’re an amazing man Seth! It is so important to speak out!
If you're a mouse, you're the manliest damn mouse I've ever seen. God bless, Seth
lets pitch it to Disney "Manley Mouse: Mickeys Ukrainian cousin"
Thanks for sharing your story Seth. I have found that sharing is a wonderful antidote to shame, and an opportunity to challenge those narratives we have been sold or told throughout life. Your told is a powerful exercise in courage.
societal narratives usually leave a TON of folks out (or at least don't accurately represent a lot of folks' reality.) so yeah, i'm all for challenging them and sharing what actually went down if somebody's emotionally ready to do that, because yes, sharing (to the right people at least) does tend to reduce the shame factor.
Uttermost respect for this strong man.
We need to realize that you should be able to have whatever masculine or feminine qualities you want. There is nothing wrong with being a stroke of one or the other.
Accept yourself without being critical of who you are.
Completely agree with you there 😊
Innocence is something we have to keep until a certain age they take it from you without not knowing the damage they do there is a future for us !! Thank you I was scared no one talked about this on TH-cam
Thank you! I am grateful that the more we share the more others share :)
Men Too!!!!!
Yes Men can be victims and women and even Mothers and Grandmothers can be perpetrators. I know from first hand experience. Men too !!!! Both my parents were perpetrators and that left no safe space anywhere.
Keith Bigelow Men Too!!!!!! Thank you so much for sharing your story this is very important and needs to be talked about 🌹
Yep
Me too!
Raghav Varma I’m responding to the “Me Too” movement. It’s about speaking up regardless of gender.
This was real pure male courage. It takes a strong person to admit this. Boys/Men often times get overlooked and it's sad. We grow up to drink and drug ourselves to numb the pain.
self medication is dangerous
Yes, my siblings and I endured every kind of abuse. I lost my brother to alcoholism
Thank you for this. By sharing this you heal every person that, for some reason, cannot speak up. By sharing this you listen to souls who don't have a voice. By sharing this you open up roads to a new life for many. God bless.
At 50 I finally told about my abusor and got help it's been a year now I don't feel different it still feels like I'm hiding from him and everyone
So glad I saw/heard this. I totally agree with this young man. Everyone should tell their story.
You said that you discovered who you were by telling your story, but that event happening should not define who you are or your worth. I do appreciated how brave you are to demonstrate that being vulnerable is part of being human and masculine.
thank you
I salute this guy, it take balls to stand up and say I've been abused .
You are a Brave and Articulate and sensitive and Sensible Man sir.. Respect
Why thanks!
Thank you for sharing. My husband died of suicide on 9/9/19
Bonnie Smith I’m so sorry to hear
A lot of good you did for him.
my deepest condolences (i've been close to that point and managed to not go there but i can at least sort of understand why somebody else might). virtual hugs and/or kitty cuddles if you want them.
@I_Slayyy_demons-through_GOD 444 you okay there buddy ?
@I_Slayyy_demons-through_GOD 444 Speak to someone please. Please
Thank you for talking about this and helping others.
I don’t like the way society tells us that victimhood is a problem, trauma is a serious thing when someone does something illegal to you, it’s EXTREMELY stressful.
You are very brave. Thank you for sharing your story.
We can learn so much from your experience.