Conflict Communication & Feeling Unheard or Misunderstood

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[@asummers3621]

I’m curious to hear your thought on how to overcome struggles with active listening. Specifically, how to manage being reactive when feeling defensive. I haven’t come across a video from you on this topic. Please let me know if you have already covered this topic. Thank you.

[@purplemoose6431]

Thanks Miss Gibson you are an excellent communicator

[@jaclynh9343]

I hear you fully on this however there are people that will say, my God, you are such an attention seeker even though you are being vulnerable. Saying your always try to seek validation like a narcissist or something. How does one overcome that? I have expressed such feelings in that way to someone -vulnerable, tactful and loving and still gotten defensive comments with shame-filled comments too... OMG you are just too sensitive, that is the problem, you are the only person I have these issues with meanwhile you just were being emotionally honest. SLAP IN THE FACE... now in my current relationships I feel extremely anxious about being that open.

[@nb5492]

Jaclyn H this is literally my relationship with all of my friends but especially my sister. I literally just try to explain in a very mature way that whatever in that moment was said to me made me feel some sort of negative way and IM NOT BLAMING I just want you to understand where I’m coming from.. OH MY GOD HERE WE GO AGAIN MS. OVERLY SENSITIVE! UHG WHY CAN’T YOU JUST LEARN TO LET THINGS GO OR JUST NOT TAKE THINGS THAT DEEP?!?!
Every single time I’ve been vulnerable and honest about it I’m always getting “slapped in the face” with a defensive comeback so I’ve learned to just keep quiet. I feel like I’m dying inside.. I’m not saying this will help but at least no one has to make me feel bad about how I feel anymore 😶

[@ariaphoenix9388]

That's emotional invalidation and it's a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

[@JacobCarlson-uq1my]

Absorbing 🙏🏼💜

[@HadashiMartialArts]

I wish there was a way to practice this. When I did some basic counselling skills once, we sat with a study partner and practiced things like how to active listen.

[@enterested3]

How do you get really clear? I end of getting really frustrated with myself at those moments when I know I need to express something clearly and I don't have the word yet I feel very strongly that I want the other person to know what I'm experiencing.

[@janejust8023]

I'm tired of holding space for everyone else. I'm going to hold space for myself.

[@adinubila]

not always true that when you say something vulnerably that the person will hear you/not attack you...all they hear is you didn't like something they did

[@primerdimers]

Such good material! Is there a way to improve the audio? My YT player and laptop are already on the loudest

[@sharonhii1099]

You want to be heard and understood but you don’t know how to put your emotions in words. So you go to your friends one by one till someone is able to affirm your emotions and put words into the things you are feeling.

[@JacobCarlson-uq1my]

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[@superlady2960]

[@emotlotus8017]

did you get hurt?