I agree with you 100% DBT is a very new type of therapy I think some schools are offering it. I know some prisons have their own form of it. I recently started Doing DBT at Columbia in NYC and i love it!
I couldn’t agree more! School mainly prepares us for a cut throat civilization of competition, but doesn’t do much to help us relate to each other in a healthy way.
kishigod looking back at my life, now at age fifty... I wish I would have gotten snappy... sure responding in the balanced ‘assertive’ way is good for most situations, but a lot of people or situations require ‘snappy’ to have an effect... and violence is also needed... especially for kids... if a kid is bullying and stalking another kid... if the kid being stalked punches the bully... it will get the bully to stop in most cases... I have done it twice and not sure, but there are examples on TH-cam where kids have had enough of being taunted and they whomp on the bully and the problem is solved... all this self control and win win stuff is great, esp. in marriage, family, biz partners etc... important skill... but don’t ever feel bad for getting snappy under some situations with some people... sometimes snappy is just what the situation calls for.
Kati Morton could you do a video on how to deal with friendship fall outs. My friend and I are more like family we have known each other since we were 3 years old (I'm currently almost 15) she had lots going on in her life and I supported her through very hard times and over the past few months she's been treating me horribly I have done nothing to hurt her in any way and I feel like her anger is being taken out on me. How can I move past this and not keep making myself feel guilty for her struggles when they have nothing to do with me?
Jessica A maybe you could tell her how you are feeling. Let her know that you are feeling bad because of how she has been treating you. Then tell her you love her and that you wanna be there for her but not if you will be attacked. and remember that her behavior isn't your fault.
Heyy Katiii. I love all your vidsss.. They are soo insightful, you are amazingg.. I do have a request for you... can you pls pls talkl about Dysparenuia/ Vaginismus.. I am not too sure if those terminologies are correst, but it is where you are irrationally and psychologically afraid of sexual penetration. I have it and it really does affect me often. I dont wish to have sex yet, so it isnt much of a problem now.. but i would want to one day.. i wish to recover from this as soon as i can..Plss help me
I'm a firm believer in DBT. Decades of inner healing n most psychological industry never suggested anything regarding HOW to work w that inner critic of someone else's abusive introjects. I've used DBT n CBT over a year and after 50 years of chronic abuse, I'm finally feeling my beautiful me without the abusers voice/thoughts in my brain. We should all advocate that our educational system teaches this and have better standards as educators.
I'm a person who doesn't notice that someone has crossed my boundaries til it's happened a couple of times with a few other ppl and when another person repeats the pattern one time, I go off because it's not that person, it's been several ppl that allowed to repeat the same pattern.I can be sensitive and can be easy going at times but if my anxiety or stress level is up-its on.
Wow! DEAR MAN is a 2011 throwback for me! UK adolescent mental health unit service user right here, who used this technique way back then! Good to be reminded of this 😊
I went through a program that taught me about this technique. I really wish I had this tool earlier. This is so useful to have a healthy inter personal communication.
I TOTALLY ADMIRE YOU. SO GOOD. I just realized that I have a severe borderline syndrome (since around I was 13, now I am 45) and that I have been / almost still am / but not really together with a man who has a total and clear NPD (narcissist). Oh my god, our kids are challenged full on for sure! I have tried psychotherapy before but for other reasons, and it always failed. Now I want to try it again with the type of it you have suggested. It is never too late, I am soooo tired of my life constantly being on the verge of collapse.
Hoping to get into DBT soon. I'm currently on a waitlist and I could really use it right now. I recently found your videos and I have been watching them non-stop and they are really helping me. Thank you Kati. ❤️
I did CBT the last year, not DBT, but in my sessions we talked about using I statements, mindfulness, and using assertive language. I found it especially helpful when I decided to get in contact with my aunt after a falling out. I've also been using these new skills in my everyday life, not just possibly uncomfortable encounters. This Dear Man sounds like another tool I can use when I'm not feeling so certain about a situation I want to be assertive in. when your mind might be going all over the place, it breaks it down into an easy way to remember. Thanks Kati!
Thank you . I'm glad i found you.My 13 year old Daughter Has been in and out of mental Hospitals for the last year. When she gets upset about something she just can't let it go. we are starting her in DBT Therapy next week I think it will help.PS i bought the workbook .
I learned DEAR MAN in a DBT group in ED residential. It made a lot of sense and was super helpful, but was so much easier in a safe group environment than in the real world! I needed this refresher though, I miss being able to do DBT weekly so much but it costs too much here now :(
@@AllTaxisRYellow It doesn’t work because the process is flawed? It doesn’t work because people don’t respond well to it? It doesn’t work because…why? DEAR MAN isn’t a magic spell. If it doesn’t work with a certain person then it’s time to set boundaries with that person.
this stuff just comes naturally to me i have noticed i dont even try i am just able to know exactly what to say to each one of my friends the problem is i know how to piss them off just as easily when i am not in a good mood (that was more high school) and i have the same friends so they didnt seem to really care or at least they understood
I have worked with people that use this technique and all it appears to do is put a mask on their inner hateful feelings. Everything you said is true and many people without a personality disorder will find it useful. However, when i speak with someone that is using this and has a PD, the sense of them trying to control me, usually to do something mean on their behalf to another person that disobeyed them, really comes through. The torrent of rage still shines through. Thanks for the video.
I have been in dbt, and I am so thankful for you. You are great at explaining what dbt is. I will be watching your videos to reinforce what I've learned. Thank you so much!
They videos are really helpful! Just wanted to float the idea that all things are 'social facts' and down to perspective. So an example here is that actually describing a person cancelling as 'flaking out' is a judgement. Sticking to 'the fact's would be to just descibe the behaviour as something like: 'You have cancelled our plans an hour beforehand 3 times', say. Many thanks for these helpful videos!
Am doing DBT right now- 1 day a week for 12 months (yes that’s correct - 1 year of it plus homework plus dairy cards that must get filled in) it’s really amazing. Thanks for the video Kati
for the last 3 months I've been going to a dbt skills based group and I really enjoy it. Although dbt was initially started for individuals dealing with BPD, it is now used for many other conditions. I highly recommend DBT for everyone, regardless of what they're suffering with. It makes life worth living.
Please make more videos on dbt! I might have BPD and I can't go to a therapist in these times. Please make more videos on how to utilise BPD. Thank you so much for being a support system!
Hi Kati! Thank you for this! I have been in DBT therapy for months and I am just not getting it! It has been so confusing! This made it so easy to understand!
I have borderline personality disorder along with bipolar disorder and I know every time I say I feel this way or I feel that way some people say I'm being a narcissist. so I got to point Where are afraid to say I feel the word I
Yes, for me, there’s also a balance between verbal and non-verbal communication, and matching levels of motion. One can say they are not assertive or aggressive while throwing hands about creates stress. And there is a good opportunity to discuss patience and balancing communications within the context of negotiations.
omg i haven't even watched the video yet and let me just say THANK YOU !! dear man is a technique i need to use a lot and explaining what it is is kinda difficult so now i have a vid to show people!@
I took dbt and a little something I want to add is that it's not always step by step process through the letters of dear man in order. Conversations can often be quite messy. Also, you did not fail if someone refuses to co-operate or act respectfully. Be kind to yourself, and reflect on how things went and could be done differently.
OMG this has been so helpful! Thank you for breaking it up in an easy to understand/clear manner. Im so grateful for all the knowledge and tools you provide us with. :-)
It makes me feel stupid and I know my actual potentials with out it. And the thing that made me say "stupid" because there's no therapists where I live, only psychiatrists which makes asking for help useless because there's no help simply and that makes bpd stupid ugly rude disorder. Bpd is unfair but when you don't have any access to therapy its unfairness is more than usual. I really try so hard not to think about it too much but because of your reply. Actually it's stupid because if you suffer because of things AND then you get bpd too???? Why both whyyyyy
Thats a lot to remember when put on the spot. Especially when someone has anxiety and can't remember anything when these situations come up. Good tips tho. Ty
#KatiFAQ I have three questions 1. What can you do if you don't feel ready for therapy, can you heal from sexual abuse on your own with The Courage to Heal workbook? 2. If not, do you recommend seeing your Dr. first, before reaching out to a therapist? As I'm really struggling. 3. Can you do a video on the Fight or Flight response, and coping strategies?
Interesting. I am not familiar with DBT, but this is really similar to NVC (Nonviolent Communication). 'Describe' is NVC 'Observation', 'Express' is NVC 'Feelings' and 'Needs' - "I feel ... because I need/value ..." And Assert is equal to NVC 'Requests'.
Hi Kati, I've been watching your videos for the past few weeks and I've been going through your past and present videos and for starters can I just say how amazing you are and how helpful all your videos are. I know you've mentionned this before but I'm now in the position where I'm really struggling with regards to my mental health. I've been like this for a while now but I can't push myself to tell my parents or go and see a GP about it. I'd rather go to a GP than discuss this with my parents but I just wondered as to whether you have any suggestions on how to persuade yourself to overcome this fear and to stop me becoming so anxious about the whole thing so I can try and push for the help I think need? Thanks again for all your videos Kati, they help so so much and you're such an amazing and lovely person for doing this channel to help so many people xx
Hi Hanna, I know I'm not Kati, but am a peer support advocate. I think part of getting over the fear is analyzing what it is that you are scared of. Additionally, you may not have to tell your parents everything, just that you are feeling really stressed with school/work and just need to talk to someone who can give you tools on how to handle that. If it's stigma that you're worried about, do your best to push that aside because worrying about what people think of you is never reason to neglect your own mental wellness. Best of luck to you! You can do it!
Hi Kati!! I have been having issues with health anxiety. I am a huge hypochondriac, and always believe I have some kind of irrational illness. My anxiety about diseases feels paralyzing and I feel triggered by everything. How can I help myself. Thanks!! #katiFAQ
That is one of my favourite ones too! I use it with my clients all the time because it's so easy to remember. Have you heard of STOP? That's a really good an simple one to use when we're feeling triggered or upset.
Lucila Bolof HALT is an acronym. That stands for Hungry, angry, lonely, tired. All things that make someone vulnerable to escalating emotions or things you are when you make bad decisions.
STOP is a tool when you're feeling emotionally triggered by something. It stands for Stop and take a breath, Tune into what happened, Observe what you are feeling, Proceed mindfully (I did a vid over on my channel on this aptly called: STOP! A Simple Way to Manage Your Emotions When Someone Makes You Really Upset).
I've done dbt 3 times and I have learned about dear man each time but a refresher is always good because I don't use the skill much(even though I should lol)
Hi Kati, thanks for sharing this! I was wondering if you could do a video on getting conflicting or multiple diagnosis and what you can do about that? Also, if you could do one on the different between psychotic symptoms and neurotic symptoms? Thank you!!!
Hi Kati. I've been watching your videos and also sharing them with my real life therapist. She loves your content too! I am learning so much from you and really appreciate that you take the time to share this and put it up on YT for people to learn these skills, and for free! That's very generous! I have a suggestion for your DBT vids (which are the vids I personally am studying) - I'm actually using my DBT workbook (the one that you reference) while watching your videos - it would be super helpful if you could, in the video, state which page / chapter you are on in the book - so we can follow along easier? Thank you so much for all you do! :)
As fantastic a weekend I had at VidconEU, meeting my friends and other creators. Hands down the most valuable thing was discovering you and your channel. Thank you.
I wish they taught techniques like this in school so that eveyone could communicate better its a very important life skill
I agree with you 100% DBT is a very new type of therapy I think some schools are offering it. I know some prisons have their own form of it. I recently started Doing DBT at Columbia in NYC and i love it!
spread the word!!!! in your schools
They DO, took a four year degree on it lol
I couldn’t agree more! School mainly prepares us for a cut throat civilization of competition, but doesn’t do much to help us relate to each other in a healthy way.
@@melaneyhuller12211 by school they meant basic school not grad school.
I'm in a DBT program! It's literally saving my life.
I need this. I'm a fucking MESS
I'm in DBT and it is definitely saving my life and improving, albeit slowly, my relationships both with myself and with others!
This is one of the first techniques that my therapist suggested that I tried on my parents and relationships in general and it has worked so far. :)
Lucero Ortiz still have no idea how to start the conversation
DEAR MAN really helps me actually!! it seems to be reallt effective because it stops me from getting angry and snapping at someone
kishigod looking back at my life, now at age fifty... I wish I would have gotten snappy... sure responding in the balanced ‘assertive’ way is good for most situations, but a lot of people or situations require ‘snappy’ to have an effect... and violence is also needed... especially for kids... if a kid is bullying and stalking another kid... if the kid being stalked punches the bully... it will get the bully to stop in most cases... I have done it twice and not sure, but there are examples on TH-cam where kids have had enough of being taunted and they whomp on the bully and the problem is solved... all this self control and win win stuff is great, esp. in marriage, family, biz partners etc... important skill... but don’t ever feel bad for getting snappy under some situations with some people... sometimes snappy is just what the situation calls for.
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Kati Morton could you do a video on how to deal with friendship fall outs. My friend and I are more like family we have known each other since we were 3 years old (I'm currently almost 15) she had lots going on in her life and I supported her through very hard times and over the past few months she's been treating me horribly I have done nothing to hurt her in any way and I feel like her anger is being taken out on me. How can I move past this and not keep making myself feel guilty for her struggles when they have nothing to do with me?
Kati Morton I love you Kati, your amazing and your bubbly personality I love about you ❤
Jessica A maybe you could tell her how you are feeling. Let her know that you are feeling bad because of how she has been treating you. Then tell her you love her and that you wanna be there for her but not if you will be attacked. and remember that her behavior isn't your fault.
Heyy Katiii. I love all your vidsss.. They are soo insightful, you are amazingg..
I do have a request for you... can you pls pls talkl about Dysparenuia/ Vaginismus.. I am not too sure if those terminologies are correst, but it is where you are irrationally and psychologically afraid of sexual penetration. I have it and it really does affect me often. I dont wish to have sex yet, so it isnt much of a problem now.. but i would want to one day.. i wish to recover from this as soon as i can..Plss help me
My therapist and I literally worked on this today!! I ended up having a really successful conversation with a friend as a result!
I'm a firm believer in DBT.
Decades of inner healing n most psychological industry never suggested anything regarding HOW to work w that inner critic of someone else's abusive introjects.
I've used DBT n CBT over a year and after 50 years of chronic abuse, I'm finally feeling my beautiful me without the abusers voice/thoughts in my brain.
We should all advocate that our educational system teaches this and have better standards as educators.
I'm a person who doesn't notice that someone has crossed my boundaries til it's happened a couple of times with a few other ppl and when another person repeats the pattern one time, I go off because it's not that person, it's been several ppl that allowed to repeat the same pattern.I can be sensitive and can be easy going at times but if my anxiety or stress level is up-its on.
same here :(
Wow! DEAR MAN is a 2011 throwback for me! UK adolescent mental health unit service user right here, who used this technique way back then! Good to be reminded of this 😊
I went through a program that taught me about this technique. I really wish I had this tool earlier. This is so useful to have a healthy inter personal communication.
I miss being in DBT. The acronyms are so ridiculous but helpful haha
I am terrible at interpersonal skills. This will really help me. Thank you so much. I really appreciate your
putting out such great content.
I TOTALLY ADMIRE YOU. SO GOOD. I just realized that I have a severe borderline syndrome (since around I was 13, now I am 45) and that I have been / almost still am / but not really together with a man who has a total and clear NPD (narcissist). Oh my god, our kids are challenged full on for sure! I have tried psychotherapy before but for other reasons, and it always failed. Now I want to try it again with the type of it you have suggested. It is never too late, I am soooo tired of my life constantly being on the verge of collapse.
I remember learning about Dear Man for the first time in treatment... It's honestly so helpful.
you're so gorgeous and kind-hearted kati💗 have a lovely rest of your day!!!!!
Hoping to get into DBT soon. I'm currently on a waitlist and I could really use it right now. I recently found your videos and I have been watching them non-stop and they are really helping me. Thank you Kati. ❤️
For someone who’s never had a voice this is so hard!!!! I’ve never spoke like this before. First you have to regulate your emotions then use DM
I did CBT the last year, not DBT, but in my sessions we talked about using I statements, mindfulness, and using assertive language. I found it especially helpful when I decided to get in contact with my aunt after a falling out. I've also been using these new skills in my everyday life, not just possibly uncomfortable encounters. This Dear Man sounds like another tool I can use when I'm not feeling so certain about a situation I want to be assertive in. when your mind might be going all over the place, it breaks it down into an easy way to remember. Thanks Kati!
Thank you . I'm glad i found you.My 13 year old Daughter Has been in and out of mental Hospitals for the last year. When she gets upset about something she just can't let it go. we are starting her in DBT Therapy next week I think it will help.PS i bought the workbook .
I learned DEAR MAN in a DBT group in ED residential. It made a lot of sense and was super helpful, but was so much easier in a safe group environment than in the real world! I needed this refresher though, I miss being able to do DBT weekly so much but it costs too much here now :(
Right. It doesn’t work in the real world.
@@AllTaxisRYellow It doesn’t work because the process is flawed? It doesn’t work because people don’t respond well to it? It doesn’t work because…why?
DEAR MAN isn’t a magic spell. If it doesn’t work with a certain person then it’s time to set boundaries with that person.
You said Bpd content was coming, and here it is. Loved it, thanks a lot! ❣️ I hope you're enjoying Germany!
There's a fourth pillar of distress tolerance that's very important to DBT!
Katie Twyman I almost wondered if she was including it in emotional regulation which could make sense
Thank you Kati for putting up these DBT videos, I'm in DBT just over a year now and it's changing my life!
Im working on my DBT SKILLS and your videos make the exercises helpful. Plus, reinforce what I am learning.
What a well laid out video of the DEAR MAN skill! Thank you for sharing!
this stuff just comes naturally to me i have noticed i dont even try i am just able to know exactly what to say to each one of my friends
the problem is i know how to piss them off just as easily when i am not in a good mood (that was more high school) and i have the same friends so they didnt seem to really care or at least they understood
The version I learned was I think/I feel/I want/If not I will which is basically this. So helpful!!
I have worked with people that use this technique and all it appears to do is put a mask on their inner hateful feelings. Everything you said is true and many people without a personality disorder will find it useful. However, when i speak with someone that is using this and has a PD, the sense of them trying to control me, usually to do something mean on their behalf to another person that disobeyed them, really comes through. The torrent of rage still shines through. Thanks for the video.
I have been in dbt, and I am so thankful for you. You are great at explaining what dbt is. I will be watching your videos to reinforce what I've learned. Thank you so much!
I LOVE IT- best one for people who have generalised social anxiety disorder as well
Kati you are a blessing from God. Godbless.
I feel like everyone needs to watch your videos--just like how everyone should have greater self-awareness and be open to therapy!
They videos are really helpful! Just wanted to float the idea that all things are 'social facts' and down to perspective. So an example here is that actually describing a person cancelling as 'flaking out' is a judgement. Sticking to 'the fact's would be to just descibe the behaviour as something like: 'You have cancelled our plans an hour beforehand 3 times', say. Many thanks for these helpful videos!
Am doing DBT right now- 1 day a week for 12 months (yes that’s correct - 1 year of it plus homework plus dairy cards that must get filled in) it’s really amazing. Thanks for the video Kati
for the last 3 months I've been going to a dbt skills based group and I really enjoy it. Although dbt was initially started for individuals dealing with BPD, it is now used for many other conditions. I highly recommend DBT for everyone, regardless of what they're suffering with. It makes life worth living.
Thank you very much, best psychologist in the globe, all best for you
i love when you do dbt videos bc i can't afford a therapist. so, it's nice to hear dbt therapies explained out. you're good at explaining things. :)
I'm technically graduated but I continue taking this class. I know it help me a lot. Amen. Funny Class it's fun practice.
Thank you for elaborating and using examples to explain Dear Man
Kati Morton🌸 thankful you very informative! however it does NOT work with narcissistic individuals. like you said healthy & happy ppl only.
love your videos kati ! I'm taking a DBT class now, & listening to you is very very helpful! I also love your bubbly style! You Rock!
Please make more videos on dbt! I might have BPD and I can't go to a therapist in these times. Please make more videos on how to utilise BPD. Thank you so much for being a support system!
I love the DEAR-MAN. You forgot about distress tolerance as a main part of DBT!
4th pillar, distress tolerance 😊 thanks for the video
Hi Kati! Thank you for this! I have been in DBT therapy for months and I am just not getting it! It has been so confusing! This made it so easy to understand!
I'm struggling with DBT too! My therapist is just not consistent ☹️
Good job mam ,
Keep it up ,
Thank u for sharing
I have borderline personality disorder along with bipolar disorder and I know every time I say I feel this way or I feel that way some people say I'm being a narcissist. so I got to point Where are afraid to say I feel the word I
Yes I am in Australia I have been through DBTS , in 2008 really helped with relationships mending them.
Love your DBT skill videos!
Perfect timing! We worked on this in my EDA support group last week ;)
idk if youve done one yet but could you do a video on emotional regulation in dbt please? 💖
Yes, for me, there’s also a balance between verbal and non-verbal communication, and matching levels of motion. One can say they are not assertive or aggressive while throwing hands about creates stress. And there is a good opportunity to discuss patience and balancing communications within the context of negotiations.
Thank you so much for sharing!!!!
I love DBT and I run a skills group, it has been effective in my personal life as well.
Hi Kati, I appreciate these videos thank you for all your time. I am currently attending a DBT Skills training group every week . Very intense.
I'm excited to practice this in boundary confrontations.
excellent!!! thank you for the enlightenment. very helpful. thank you Kati.
Thank you for posting
Kati, thank you - very valuable, and practical advice!
This was very helpful, it was nice to hear it out loud & broken down. thank you :)
omg i haven't even watched the video yet and let me just say THANK YOU !! dear man is a technique i need to use a lot and explaining what it is is kinda difficult so now i have a vid to show people!@
I took dbt and a little something I want to add is that it's not always step by step process through the letters of dear man in order. Conversations can often be quite messy.
Also, you did not fail if someone refuses to co-operate or act respectfully. Be kind to yourself, and reflect on how things went and could be done differently.
I love this! DBT has been so helpful thank you for sharing! you are a gem x
This was SO helpful! Thank you, Kati xoxo
I've been waiting for a day technique video! !! Loved this Kati!
❤easy to follow and understand. Thanks
Great video. Thank you very much Kati. 😁👍🏻
Thankyou Katie I have BPD this is helpful .
OMG this has been so helpful! Thank you for breaking it up in an easy to understand/clear manner. Im so grateful for all the knowledge and tools you provide us with. :-)
finally something about my stupid BPD
zozo Nothing stupid about it
It makes me feel stupid and I know my actual potentials with out it. And the thing that made me say "stupid" because there's no therapists where I live, only psychiatrists which makes asking for help useless because there's no help simply and that makes bpd stupid ugly rude disorder. Bpd is unfair but when you don't have any access to therapy its unfairness is more than usual. I really try so hard not to think about it too much but because of your reply.
Actually it's stupid because if you suffer because of things AND then you get bpd too???? Why both whyyyyy
zozo I feel exactly the same, stupid BPD makes me feel stupid all the time... I hope you will find someone able to help you with it, stay strong!
thanks for the video Katie.💞💞💓
you are awesome Kati!
Wow, really good technique Kati. Thx as always.
This really helped me, thanks Kati!
These videos are so helpful, and maybe even more helpful ten months later when you watch them the second time through :)
Thats a lot to remember when put on the spot. Especially when someone has anxiety and can't remember anything when these situations come up. Good tips tho. Ty
#KatiFAQ I have three questions
1. What can you do if you don't feel ready for therapy, can you heal from sexual abuse on your own with The Courage to Heal workbook?
2. If not, do you recommend seeing your Dr. first, before reaching out to a therapist? As I'm really struggling.
3. Can you do a video on the Fight or Flight response, and coping strategies?
Interesting. I am not familiar with DBT, but this is really similar to NVC (Nonviolent Communication). 'Describe' is NVC 'Observation', 'Express' is NVC 'Feelings' and 'Needs' - "I feel ... because I need/value ..." And Assert is equal to NVC 'Requests'.
Dbt changed my life 💚xx
Hi Kati, I've been watching your videos for the past few weeks and I've been going through your past and present videos and for starters can I just say how amazing you are and how helpful all your videos are. I know you've mentionned this before but I'm now in the position where I'm really struggling with regards to my mental health. I've been like this for a while now but I can't push myself to tell my parents or go and see a GP about it. I'd rather go to a GP than discuss this with my parents but I just wondered as to whether you have any suggestions on how to persuade yourself to overcome this fear and to stop me becoming so anxious about the whole thing so I can try and push for the help I think need? Thanks again for all your videos Kati, they help so so much and you're such an amazing and lovely person for doing this channel to help so many people xx
Hi Hanna, I know I'm not Kati, but am a peer support advocate. I think part of getting over the fear is analyzing what it is that you are scared of. Additionally, you may not have to tell your parents everything, just that you are feeling really stressed with school/work and just need to talk to someone who can give you tools on how to handle that. If it's stigma that you're worried about, do your best to push that aside because worrying about what people think of you is never reason to neglect your own mental wellness. Best of luck to you! You can do it!
This is awesome info 👍👍👍👍
Very interesting, never heard of this before. We kind of assume people read our minds always :D. Thanks for this video Kati
Hi Kati!! I have been having issues with health anxiety. I am a huge hypochondriac, and always believe I have some kind of irrational illness. My anxiety about diseases feels paralyzing and I feel triggered by everything. How can I help myself. Thanks!! #katiFAQ
This is an incredibly helpful video, thank you Kati! :)
This was so very helpful!!!
And distress tolerance as a module!
SO MUCH YES KATI!!!!!!!!! Crushed it xoxox
Oh DBT and its acronyms.... so many acronyms. My fav is HALT.
That is one of my favourite ones too! I use it with my clients all the time because it's so easy to remember. Have you heard of STOP? That's a really good an simple one to use when we're feeling triggered or upset.
Julia Kristina Counselling + Kat Golightly what do these stand for?
Lucila Bolof HALT is an acronym. That stands for Hungry, angry, lonely, tired. All things that make someone vulnerable to escalating emotions or things you are when you make bad decisions.
STOP is a tool when you're feeling emotionally triggered by something. It stands for Stop and take a breath, Tune into what happened, Observe what you are feeling, Proceed mindfully (I did a vid over on my channel on this aptly called: STOP! A Simple Way to Manage Your Emotions When Someone Makes You Really Upset).
I loved TIPP
This was a really helpful video in relation to mu job.
Thank ypu Kati 🎀 been also following your trip Snaps and Instasrories they seem to be a lot of fun 😺😺
I've done dbt 3 times and I have learned about dear man each time but a refresher is always good because I don't use the skill much(even though I should lol)
Hi Kati, thanks for sharing this! I was wondering if you could do a video on getting conflicting or multiple diagnosis and what you can do about that? Also, if you could do one on the different between psychotic symptoms and neurotic symptoms? Thank you!!!
Why doesnt my therapist teach me this? It seems like they like to have you suffering so that u keep going. Thank you lady!
this is really helpful becuase i just got out of the hospital and am thinking about starting DBT
Hi Kati. I've been watching your videos and also sharing them with my real life therapist. She loves your content too! I am learning so much from you and really appreciate that you take the time to share this and put it up on YT for people to learn these skills, and for free! That's very generous! I have a suggestion for your DBT vids (which are the vids I personally am studying) - I'm actually using my DBT workbook (the one that you reference) while watching your videos - it would be super helpful if you could, in the video, state which page / chapter you are on in the book - so we can follow along easier? Thank you so much for all you do! :)
I love this video! I'm in DBT therapy right now and its all too familiar with me :)
Same
Great Video just what I needed to watch at this point in my work life. Thank you for the tips :-)
This is so helpful!
This is a really great video!
Super helpful!
As fantastic a weekend I had at VidconEU, meeting my friends and other creators. Hands down the most valuable thing was discovering you and your channel. Thank you.