I truthfully love how casual this is. There’s literally no stupid questions because there are so many preconceived notions..and she is answering them by acknowledging where he is coming from and sincerely metin him where he is at in his sexual journey and insecurities then empower him through sound advice and Also deconstructing prior biases or notions. I wish my college sexual experience class was taught by this woman.
And that body count doesn’t matter cause who I did is not who I am. Yeeeeah if you did it with 900 people though I get a gist of what kind of person you are 💀
yeah her whole story of meeting her husband after 20 years of being a stripper story made me able to guess what her answers were gonna be before she said them, using like half of this stuff as advice is bad
Based on her Twitch, it seemed like she’s (Elle) with someone. There seems to be good chemistry between Derek and Elle, but don’t get stuck on her. I’ve been down a kind of similar situation (not OF, just a crush) and nothing really came of it. It was mostly infatuation on my part and a lack of options. Also, I agree with the Castle in the sky analogy. It’s what I went through in that same situation.
This intriguing video serves as a poignant reminder of the heartache I've been enduring since my 7 year relationship came to an end 4 months ago. My cherished partner, the love of my life, made the difficult decision to part ways, leaving me consumed by thoughts of him. Despite my earnest attempts to win him back, I find myself facing frustration and an overwhelming sense of emptiness, unable to envision a life without his presence. Despite my efforts to move on, I'm compelled to confess my lingering feelings and longing for him here.
The process of releasing a loved one can be an uphill battle. I can relate, having navigated a similar journey when my 8 year relationship dissolved. Despite the heartache, I refused to relinquish hope and embarked on a quest to win her back. Turning to a spiritual counselor for assistance, I found guidance that ultimately led to our reconciliation.
I was suposed to fall asleep to this but ended up enthralled by the conversation. Lots of things to learn. And these two are funny in their own different way haha.
This is another great video especially for my generation. What she said about going from talking to sexual was so true and is probably why younger generations have terrible dating experiences. I love this channel
Who you did is exactly who you are. If women can judge men based on their watch or shoes or car as indicators, then who you had s3x with is definitely indicative of your values.
I’m going through a terrible break up right now where my boyfriend behind my back, cheated on me and got engaged to somebody else, and I found out when I talk to her mother and it was a nine year long relationship. I still cannot wrap my head around the fact why would somebody do this to me? However, while I try to calm myself down and trying to keep myself alive. This library show episode really healed something in me. When she said that the person who actually loves, you shows you that they love you and no amount of condition can break that. And that’s I guess what I needed to hear in order for myself to understand that whatever happened did not happen because of me but because eventually they wanted to do something like this. it’s scary to go back to the world where you feel lonely and scared after such a long time of being with someone you feel like you have to re-learn how to walk again without a support. True love is indeed, very very hurtful and very very calming. At the same time depends upon the other person, how they use it for themselves.. I wish I could do so many things again which I did wrong but one thing I know for sure time heals everything for everyone and I am grateful that I found this episode in the time of need. I will definitely keep coming back to this to remind myself to be grateful and that there is better things waiting for me
I like this channel and the conversations. Show clearly has his flaws, but is trying to work on them and that's the main thing. As a fellow guy with flaws who is trying to work on them, it is refreshing and reassuring to see conversations where people dont try to be perfect but just better themselves
I saw a short clip about being with someone who gives nothing untill the relationship is about to end, or giving lots at first before doing nothing. I found myslef in both of those situations with the man I am currently with. Your wording of it was just so simple and straightforward that it made it so much simpler for my brain to process the disconnect between my head and my feelings. Thank you, I will be using it in therapy
This is my first video for this dude. I've seen the clips on socials but when I saw this lady's clip I was like "HOT DAMN. I LOVE HER, I LOVE HER ENERGY, I WANT TO HEAR EVERYTHING SHE HAS TO SAY." and so when I saw the thumbnail i was like "ooooooooo!!!!!!! It's her!" I'm 2:00m in and already so fucking glad I clicked.
omg when he was talking abt online girls thinking hes short and him saying "only a couple" and the close captions saying "only a thousand" am i the only one that noticed that 😭
" I dont want to tell someone how I like things" " That is stupid. How else are they suppose to know" Jfc thats so validating... My ex would give me so much crap for not just magically knowing how to cater to all his likings/dislikings and get annoyed/upset/dissatisfied with me for it. It made me feel like I failed as a lover and that I was falling short.. because he's the person I love... I SHOULD know, right? Wrong. Uhg, this among many other things have opened my eyes and made me realize I wasnt as crappy of a lover that I thought I was and that I just glorified and made excuses for him while I allowed myself to be drug through the dirt and demeaned daily because i wasnt somehow perfect in every way he wanted me to be...*sigh* at least its over now and im free.
Jk guys it wasn't over. He clawed his way back into my life after I blocked him on everything and all it took was 1 month for him to turn my life upside down in the worstway possible. Literally no joke😭 I just need to stay single
The sharing analogy she can’t really compare polygamy with an undeveloped ability to share like a toddler. It’s normal to not want to share your partner intimately, that’s the whole point of monogamy. But that doesn’t mean you won’t share other things like your food, space, items etc.
True... the fact is, if he's open to casual sex, why is he looking for monogamy? He sleeps around but doesn’t like a partner who does OF thats very hypothetical
@@stevemattero1471 oh I thought he was looking for monogamy but open to accepting the fact she is a sw as a job, if he’s not monogamous himself then thats just stupid
@@ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach When asked if you would be okay with sharing you hesitated to answer. What was or would have been your answer? I also have a question about your views on people who "dont like sharing." Do you believe they are wrong to not want to share their partners when the whole point of monogamy is exclusivity and sharing is more associated with polyamory?
The tip thing, okay so I had a birthday dinner and this waitress was so cool and I wanted to be friends and so we exchanged numbers but then when I texted she was like “I honestly don’t remember you” and right there I realized “duh, she is nice and bubbly with each customer so she can get a good tip.” Honestly I hope she’s doing great in life❤️❤️
“Who you did is not what I am” but what you do is who you are. Base people off their actions if they are presumptuous and stuff like that it is okay to judge them off that because it’s in their nature they will never change.
I stood up straight and frowned when I heard her say it too. It’s not that I’m looking to persecute anyone for who they sleep with, but the actions you take in life are the purest expressions of who you are. Especially to everyone outside your own head. I want people to see me for my actions too, good sure, but especially the bad. They need to know who I am so we’re not operating under delusion.
Derek really just calls people into a library and then trauma dumps on them
living the dreeeeaam
"...I'm gonna hate myself"
"right, as you should"
lmao Now That's What I Call Therapy, Volume 37
New to this channel but im sold
"do you know who else is uncomfortable with sharing?"
"who? ...God?"
"-toddlers."
😭😭😭
not God lmaooo made me crack
Put me in my play pin then
I heard muscle man's voice for a sec
10:58
💀💀💀💀
“she wasn’t into you, she was into her tip” is genuinely the funniest thing ive heard someone say about one of his rejections 😭😭😭
his reply too 😭😭 the joke landed so well
LOL. Someone had to tell him!😂
@@ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach! LOVE U GIRLIE 🫶🏼
OMG YESS
This took me out 🤣
“I would hate myself” “as you should” broooo 😂
lovee her saying “boys are easy” while side eyeing the camera
Girls are too just not as easy as boys
Rich Amiri - One Call
Rich Amiri- Keep it cool
Thanks fro having me! I enjoyed our chat!😊
Loved you in this program, it was very insightful. Hope we can have you both again in another video 💗
You’re my favorite so inspiring! Just bought one of your books (:
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@@emmafoley7413 love love love this!!
we need more info on negotiating farting!! (just kidding but I absolutely loved this interview, your advice was amazing)
I BET IT MOVED BAHAHHAHH
I’m so glad you caught that 😂
literally what i scrolled down for 😭😭
I SCREAMED LMAO
immediately went to the comments 😂😂
15:50
I truthfully love how casual this is. There’s literally no stupid questions
because there are so many preconceived notions..and she is answering them by acknowledging where he is coming from and sincerely metin him where he is at in his sexual journey and insecurities then empower him through sound advice and
Also deconstructing prior biases or notions. I wish my college sexual experience class was taught by this woman.
😃😍😍 Let's do it!
"so much baggage, they wouldn't let me on the plane" I felt that one deep down
It's a great line. And I'm stealing it.
“Of course you wanna hop on for your 10 second seizure” this is a queen, and I need her on every episode 😂
HAHAHAH she said “10 second seizure”
💀
"Let me show you what I like" is incredibly powerful. Wow!
This needed to be an hour! She’s so good!
You're sweet! Thank you!!
huh..? she told her it's immature to not wanna SHARE your partner with other people 😭
And that body count doesn’t matter cause who I did is not who I am.
Yeeeeah if you did it with 900 people though I get a gist of what kind of person you are 💀
yeah her whole story of meeting her husband after 20 years of being a stripper story made me able to guess what her answers were gonna be before she said them, using like half of this stuff as advice is bad
@@ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach Agreed! Please return to the show : )
“I bet it moved” is WIIILD
not derek admitting he wants to date elle omg ❤
I was gonna comment the same thing
maybe not
if you look at the CC's, when he says "she", it is CC'd as "elle" :') (10:37) @@33nbb19
Based on her Twitch, it seemed like she’s (Elle) with someone. There seems to be good chemistry between Derek and Elle, but don’t get stuck on her. I’ve been down a kind of similar situation (not OF, just a crush) and nothing really came of it. It was mostly infatuation on my part and a lack of options.
Also, I agree with the Castle in the sky analogy. It’s what I went through in that same situation.
Yeah, right???
This lady is so polite, so well put together. I come back to this video time and time again. She gives huge ASMR vibes
10:32 not him writing elle's name in the captions 😭
i literally saw this😂😂
I knew he was talking about her, saw this comment and had to go back to check that 🤭
Aaawww que cute🫶🏼
We allll see that 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂
I like how she says "Okay" to any question he asks. Just an acknowledgement of what's been said without placing judgement on it yet. Very interesting.
This is my favorite talk so far, she had witty responses and gave some good advice
Aw! Thank you!! I have some videos on my TH-cam channel you might find helpful. 💖
This episode was educational and funny af. Chantal should totally come back. A very wise and open woman!
Whoever typed your closed captions deserves a raise
closed captions lowkey got me weak
They’re so subtle but get me everytime
Derek: "I feel like and idiot", Dating coach: "that is stupid"🤣
"I BET IT MOVED" IS CRODONKULOUS I CANT
love how self aware he is but still ask if it’s wrong 😭
the fact that every video is a therapy for him is cute
or like, a 'women's pov in life' class
every dudes should learn btw
What's the book about?
FOR YOUR TEN SECOND SEIZURE I CANTTTT AKDJSKSJSB
15:55 “i bet it moved” 😭
Mi shit moved with
It definitely moved 😂 I laughed for like 5 minutes at his reaction
When she talked about the breakaway kiss- “Let me show you what I like” brother STOOD UP. I melted a little inside.
She cooked this whole episode. 😮💨
derek's eyes widening after hearing "10 sec seizure" is hilarious
great guest btw!!
5:45 The way Derek thinks about the question like it's actually a math problem
LMFAOOOO
math is everything honestly
"of course you want to hop on me of your 10 second seizure" OH MY GODDDDDD
“I think you would send me down like a 6-month spiral” 😭😭😭😭😭
When he said “only a couple” the captions wrote “ only a thousand” . Had me dying 😢😢😂
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@@ItsJC-gu3jz0:57
this was the best episode yet. PLEASE bring her back again!!!!
Yes! She was so interesting and funny
This intriguing video serves as a poignant reminder of the heartache I've been enduring since my 7 year relationship came to an end 4 months ago. My cherished partner, the love of my life, made the difficult decision to part ways, leaving me consumed by thoughts of him. Despite my earnest attempts to win him back, I find myself facing frustration and an overwhelming sense of emptiness, unable to envision a life without his presence. Despite my efforts to move on, I'm compelled to confess my lingering feelings and longing for him here.
The process of releasing a loved one can be an uphill battle. I can relate, having navigated a similar journey when my 8 year relationship dissolved. Despite the heartache, I refused to relinquish hope and embarked on a quest to win her back. Turning to a spiritual counselor for assistance, I found guidance that ultimately led to our reconciliation.
Impressive! How did you manage to connect with a spiritual counselor, and what's the process for me to reach out to her?
Allow me to introduce Suzanne Ann Walters, a highly skilled spiritual counselor known for her expertise in rekindling past relationships.
Thank you for this invaluable information; I've just checked her out online. Very impressive indeed!
This is a marketing tactic for those who are reading the OPs comment
I wish it was longer. She was lovely❤
thats what she said
Not the first time I’ve heard that.
@@yoshikagekira4797heyyooooo
0:38 that cough was definitely to cover her fart 😂
Omg her voice is so relaxing
the difference between “so do you wanna make out” and “can i kiss you” IS SO REAL
“what are bollywockles?” 😭
Nuts and peen 😊
“Of course you wanna hop on me for your ten second seizure” I’m deceased
"She wasn't into you...she was into your tip" I AUDIBLY GASPED
Into her tip... meaning what she'll earn as a server if she's nice to him...
lol “that is stupid” in that tone is gold. I’m borrowing that.
15:56 “i bet it moved” LMAOO 😭😭😭
that shit had me DEAD
i loved the way ella give the straight explanation when people don't show you love so they don't loved you
hitting me soooo harddddd
that last car analogy was perfect i loved it so much
This must be THE BEST interview out of all the series, part 2 is a need
the castle in the sky metaphor….. my life is forever changed i need that book omg
I was suposed to fall asleep to this but ended up enthralled by the conversation. Lots of things to learn. And these two are funny in their own different way haha.
The knowing smile after « she wasn’t into you, she was into her tip” lmao
this is literally your greatest video ever, bring HER BACK
not him typing it in word for word💀 17:21
I thought that was so cute 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂 that was funny
She is such an ICON! Wow, the amount of patience & clarity. Every Gen-Z boy needs to watch this and do as she says! 👏
She told him to go date an OF girl
Nah I'm good
This is another great video especially for my generation. What she said about going from talking to sexual was so true and is probably why younger generations have terrible dating experiences. I love this channel
Who you did is exactly who you are. If women can judge men based on their watch or shoes or car as indicators, then who you had s3x with is definitely indicative of your values.
this was actually so insightful and funny. im glad Chantal has a beautiful sense of comedy and compassion
this was one of the funniest eps so far😭😭
I’m going through a terrible break up right now where my boyfriend behind my back, cheated on me and got engaged to somebody else, and I found out when I talk to her mother and it was a nine year long relationship. I still cannot wrap my head around the fact why would somebody do this to me? However, while I try to calm myself down and trying to keep myself alive. This library show episode really healed something in me. When she said that the person who actually loves, you shows you that they love you and no amount of condition can break that. And that’s I guess what I needed to hear in order for myself to understand that whatever happened did not happen because of me but because eventually they wanted to do something like this. it’s scary to go back to the world where you feel lonely and scared after such a long time of being with someone you feel like you have to re-learn how to walk again without a support. True love is indeed, very very hurtful and very very calming. At the same time depends upon the other person, how they use it for themselves.. I wish I could do so many things again which I did wrong but one thing I know for sure time heals everything for everyone and I am grateful that I found this episode in the time of need. I will definitely keep coming back to this to remind myself to be grateful and that there is better things waiting for me
thank you for finally posting i was getting withdrawals 😞🙏
I absolutely love this channel! All theses interviews are the perfect blend between seriousness and comedy!
Just them breaking the 4th wall, made this 100x more personable *chefs kiss 💋
“i bet it moved” WHAAAAAATTT😭😭😭😭
WRITE THAT DOWN WRITE THAT DOWN LMAO
I like this channel and the conversations. Show clearly has his flaws, but is trying to work on them and that's the main thing. As a fellow guy with flaws who is trying to work on them, it is refreshing and reassuring to see conversations where people dont try to be perfect but just better themselves
wtf is this only 25 minutes short?? awesome episode btw
I saw a short clip about being with someone who gives nothing untill the relationship is about to end, or giving lots at first before doing nothing. I found myslef in both of those situations with the man I am currently with. Your wording of it was just so simple and straightforward that it made it so much simpler for my brain to process the disconnect between my head and my feelings. Thank you, I will be using it in therapy
This is my first video for this dude. I've seen the clips on socials but when I saw this lady's clip I was like "HOT DAMN. I LOVE HER, I LOVE HER ENERGY, I WANT TO HEAR EVERYTHING SHE HAS TO SAY." and so when I saw the thumbnail i was like "ooooooooo!!!!!!! It's her!" I'm 2:00m in and already so fucking glad I clicked.
“And Elle has like a seperate business” bro I saw that caption 😂
Her answers were no bullshit and said in a way that really made sense to me. I appreciated that!!
We need a part 2!! She is amazing!!
bring her back this was lovely
“I was a stripper for 20 years”
“…ok”
Bro did not expect that 😂
There needs to be a part two!
“I bet it moved” IM ON THE FLOOOOOR LIKE ACTUALLY
This is so insightful! I appreciate Derek's self-awareness.
21:52-23:04 i saw this part as an ig reel, really needed that reality check
Yeah I ended up here looking for a clip of it bc I couldn’t download the instagram reel
I watch her lives on TikTok all the time. She’s genuinely a really intelligent person
omg when he was talking abt online girls thinking hes short and him saying "only a couple" and the close captions saying "only a thousand" am i the only one that noticed that 😭
" I dont want to tell someone how I like things"
" That is stupid. How else are they suppose to know"
Jfc thats so validating... My ex would give me so much crap for not just magically knowing how to cater to all his likings/dislikings and get annoyed/upset/dissatisfied with me for it. It made me feel like I failed as a lover and that I was falling short.. because he's the person I love... I SHOULD know, right? Wrong. Uhg, this among many other things have opened my eyes and made me realize I wasnt as crappy of a lover that I thought I was and that I just glorified and made excuses for him while I allowed myself to be drug through the dirt and demeaned daily because i wasnt somehow perfect in every way he wanted me to be...*sigh* at least its over now and im free.
Jk guys it wasn't over. He clawed his way back into my life after I blocked him on everything and all it took was 1 month for him to turn my life upside down in the worstway possible. Literally no joke😭 I just need to stay single
The sharing analogy she can’t really compare polygamy with an undeveloped ability to share like a toddler. It’s normal to not want to share your partner intimately, that’s the whole point of monogamy. But that doesn’t mean you won’t share other things like your food, space, items etc.
True... the fact is, if he's open to casual sex, why is he looking for monogamy? He sleeps around but doesn’t like a partner who does OF thats very hypothetical
@@stevemattero1471 oh I thought he was looking for monogamy but open to accepting the fact she is a sw as a job, if he’s not monogamous himself then thats just stupid
@@stevemattero1471 choosing to sleep around when out of a relationship isnt the same as doing corn in a relationship.
@@stevemattero1471HYPOTHETICAL?????????
WE WANT MORE OF HERRR 🩷🩷🩷
she has a crazy way of saying things i love it
Her essentially trying to guilt trip him into wanting to ‘share’ Elle hypothetically 😭 jus got me weak
This is me legit letting him know if anyone is too insecure, move on, nobody should try to interfere with a woman making her money. PERIODTT
@@ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach
You are disgusting.
When asked if you were okay with sharing what was/would have been your response to that since it seemed you hesitated?@ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach
@@ChantalheideCanadasDatingCoach
When asked if you would be okay with sharing you hesitated to answer. What was or would have been your answer? I also have a question about your views on people who "dont like sharing." Do you believe they are wrong to not want to share their partners when the whole point of monogamy is exclusivity and sharing is more associated with polyamory?
Holy shit. Best interview I have seen in a long time! My first video of yours and I’ll definitely be watching more
The intro made me love her already
“I don’t want to have to tell somebody how I like things.”
“That is stupid.” 🗣️
@Canada’s Dating Coach ♥️: If you want to know, my book is No More Asshloes 🥰
We all love you 🇨🇦🇨🇦
But I thought girls liked assholes
She was definitely gaslighting you with the “do you know who don’t like sharing?” 😭😭😭
this genuinely helped me decide things
the “i bet it moved” took me out ☠️☠️
8:52 that just healed something in me like my brain and soul wasnt ready for that I love her so much
“I bet it moved” is diabolical
I loved this episode! she’s amazing please have her back!!
Shout out to all the short kings out there, you guys are real ones.
This one is so good! I hate how so many tik tok accounts are impersonating you and reposting your clips. You deserve all the views and credit
The tip thing, okay so I had a birthday dinner and this waitress was so cool and I wanted to be friends and so we exchanged numbers but then when I texted she was like “I honestly don’t remember you” and right there I realized “duh, she is nice and bubbly with each customer so she can get a good tip.” Honestly I hope she’s doing great in life❤️❤️
“Who you did is not what I am” but what you do is who you are. Base people off their actions if they are presumptuous and stuff like that it is okay to judge them off that because it’s in their nature they will never change.
I stood up straight and frowned when I heard her say it too. It’s not that I’m looking to persecute anyone for who they sleep with, but the actions you take in life are the purest expressions of who you are. Especially to everyone outside your own head. I want people to see me for my actions too, good sure, but especially the bad. They need to know who I am so we’re not operating under delusion.
8:14: "Of course you wanna hop on me for your 10 second seizure" BRUH 💀
the farting thing is so true, being able to fart whenever you need to somehow makes the relationship way more comfortable
Oh my god “as you should” 2:32 took me OUT 😂😂😂
Ngl, the last 5 minutes were the best. Very informative and great pacing. Good job, much love brother