Y’all leave that poor lady alone she should not be back w him the whole ep is literally showcasing how bro has to heal a lot of his own things to even think of a relationship
@@donDanDeNiro I really don't think they should, he really has some stuff he still needs to heal/work on before actually committing to a relationship again. He's definitely grown from where he was and shows self awareness, but he isn't there
He says in the beginning that they broke up because he wasn't ready to be a boyfriend. I felt that. Reminds me of my first relationship. I loved her dearly but I wasn't ready to be in a serious relationship either. I had a lot of growing to do and it wasn't her responsibility to teach me.
This is probably the rawest video ive seen in a long time. The maturity is next to the best ive ever seen. The acceptance, open-ness, the understanding and attitude to each other is amazing to see. Its not typical to see people who were once together be like this afterwards and to listen and accept the faults they had during the relationship. Its inspiring. such a great all round video. Thankyou.
No it's not. Not at all. One person is almost always still in love. Only young inexperienced people can think this is a good idea. If you're the one who still loves, then you only meet because you're trying to link up again. There's no other reason to call such a meeting. If you're the one who doesn't love the other person who did, then you're giving them false hope, or you ensuring you're going to do it to them again.
@@michaeldavid6832 Your not wrong that most of the time one person is still in love but, that's not true that it never happens I've known of multiple situations where two people are able to look at something retrospectively and laugh about dumb immature shit
apart from the comedy of it all this is such a serious and intimate conversation and putting it out there to see how much you both have changed and grown is awesome
@@sheepdog916 its the nature of the conversation thats intimate dawg yes they chose to to put it out there but at the moment it was definitely intimate
everyone's going on about how he's fumbled or some shit but the man is putting some of his biggest insecurities out here just for us to be entertained by. massive balls. i'm so glad y'all are friends though and can laugh about it now
Exactly.. people have me shit for not taking back my ex when she gave me a kidney.. she's a great person and we had a mutual breakup. Also, she never tried to get back with me..
Bro I was in one and it was one of the most tumultuous times of my life, I was working damn near full time at an engineering internship, in school full time, and trying to keep my gf happy all at once. I was losing my mind lol
I’ve been in a few serious relationships, but the one that I got in during Covid went on the longest and ended in the most dramatic way possible and the courts had to get involved. It ended a year ago and I realized oh I didn’t even really like him I was just lonely during Covid and it probably shoulda been a one night thing 💀
@@masoneverlast1232 same for me bro, after we finally ended things I realized I didn’t even like her that much, I just didn’t want to go through all of that alone. I felt bad about it but in hindsight I really did think I liked her while I was in it.
this is supposed to be an interview though, so it's not really supposed to be all about him; on his other videos, these supposed interviews would just end up with him talking all about himself@@macherfarfan1435
Great video! Sadly, my two year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.
Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't bear to lose him, so I did everything I could to rekindle our relationship. Eventually, I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who guided us back together.
Man this episode slaps! The chemistry, the honesty, the insights... Also really funny. I think we would all greatly beneftit from having these types of conversations with our past romantic relationships. Keep it up Derek, this video will pave the way for so many healing conversations!! (Also LOOOVE the book choices. So on point!)
I recently went through a breakup of 3 years and this really hit home. Thanks to both of you for being mature enough to have this deep conversation, despite all the history, and post it for all of us to see. I wish the internet saw more of this side to a breakup. So many of us are so quick to post a roast over some minor thing that got us heated and then get lost in the instant gratification of strangers. This video gives me hope 💚
i looooved this conversation! i’ve watched the majority of these videos and this one has got to be my favorite because of the sheer vulnerability. it’s so beautiful to honestly see a conversation reflecting on a relationship that has passed with such honesty and clear communication! and you guys are hilarious together and although you shouldn’t be together, the chemistry was off the charts
I absolutely love the raw honesty from her. It’s so refreshing. I definitely sensed the self absorbed nature from watching multiple videos, so I’m glad to know my instincts were confirmed. Bro definitely needs to be more selfless in order to have a more true bond with another person or else it will be a vicious, empty cycle. Nothing will be real or lasting if it’s all about one person & not both. ❤
I really like derek but I agree it shines through and he should work on it. But like even in this video and the couples therapist one he is honest about what he is lacking so at least he is self aware😅
Bro this is probably gonna get lost in the sea of comments but. I recently broke up (6 months ago) with an ex who I thought was the love of my life, kids, marriage the whole shazam. And A part of me watching this made me hope that if we never do get back together that I can have a convo like this with her. But the biggest part, and dont take this the wrong way... It made me realize how much more she has healed and worked on herself than you have. And Seeing 2 sides of the coin in 1 video. It really does give as a viewer perspective , and I am already working on myself, but again hahah, not to shit on you or anything, its really cool you did this, but healing and working on yourself isnt easy, but its nessacary, and I realized that and I realize that even more now with this video. thanks for doing what you do man. It does help alot of people.
@@totokoostudios Wow ye i left a shit ton of comments on videos like this I realize now, I think when your in the midst of it all you really just try to find outlets to express your feelings. What can I say. I worked on myself ALOT, after my breakup. Im currently pursueing a carreer I wanted to pursue previously for years, my social life is the best its ever been and my mental health faces new challenges, but in hindsight and something I do remind myself alot about is that the challenges I face now are just based off of fear and new territory. I do stick with what I wrote, heal yourself and WORK ON YOURSELF when you break up with someone that close to you. It was really rough, but im better now. And the ironic part of my comment is that, in my case. I did the healing , my ex didnt, and that has changed how we live our lives drastically to this day. To sum it, Im happy, and the love that i thought i lost wasnt lost, I just had to find it within myself. Best thing I ever heard after my break up was, "The love you gave didnt come from that person, it came from you , which means you can find that love again"
@@totokoostudios Wow ye sure, Its been a while. I guess to keep it short, I did alot of healing after seeing videos like this. I am so much better as a person and i feel mentally and physically alot healthier. I even can look back and think that the relationship I had was flawed as hell and nearly , feel relief that it didnt go any further. I think it gave me alot of perspective on alot of things with myself most importantly, but also now dating again (which i recently started doing) I feel like I can search for a partner who is more compatiable with me, but also me with them. I think the biggest take away a year later, Is basically , Love yourself, no one is going to love yourself as much as you will. If you can find that self love, forgive yourself and show up for you , everyday. You will feel a sense of peace that will make every relationship better, but every hardship easier.
Even having taken separate ways, I can see love and consideration in this relationship and made me happy to watch this conversation! It's so hard to talk about many of these things when you are dealing with a breakup, so having this "post mortem" type of discussion seems such a good way to learn from each other. Derek you also showed yourself more authentic and vulnerable, thanks for sharing
I like that you two are so confident talking about these difficult things, and the way that it seems like you have gotten over all this and just enjoy remembering those moments. Amazing. Thank you for sharing the experience with us.
From man man to man, thank you for being so open about your emotions and vulnerability especially online man, this really takes balls. And the fact that you are so honest with yourself really shows you’re a great person, regardless of what insecurities you might be dealing with
the emotional intensity of this conversation, this video was really very striking and it is beautiful to see the depth of their perspectives and how they deal with their own emotions
She's literally the one that got away because the wasn't at his best and this is so beautiful. The respect and tension that's still there while also both of them knowing they care about themselves and eachother too much to go there again is just *muah*
If you can talk like this with your ex then that means you did something right. To me a bad breakup means that there was always a hostile element in the relationship to begin with. This kind of communication shows that on an emotional level it was a good relationship, even if there were difficulties.
this is the first vid im seeing on this channel and i genuinely can only say that the communication style of this conversation is something i wish was a way WAY more common thing. direct, and vulnerable, but with a high level of maturity and understanding, as well as the acknowledgement that feelings about past situations and interactions arent an attack on the present character of a person. i LOVE this so much, notis on for the channel for sure.
Thank you for this video Derek and Lisy. I broke up with a girl almost 4 years ago and what happend to us was very similiar to what happend to you guys the main difference being that we were together 3 years. You just made me realize that I'm a narcist and I still have a lot to work out. I haven't had any rebounds, hookups or girlfriends ever since and even now I stil think of her daily when I feel lonely because she is the only girl I have actually dated. Anyway, again, thank for showing such a vulnerable side of your personal life.
This was such a pleasure to watch even with the small tinge of discomfort that came from reflecting on the past. Thanks you two for being so vulnerable. Also, she’s beautiful. 😍
Can’t believe I watched the whole thing. I loved this episode and I realized that I have more healing to do. It’s so nice being able to see a more honest, representative picture to a relationship.
This was refreshing to hear two people have an elevated self aware conversation drenched in honesty. Not everyone is capable. You two are beyond your years❤ wish you both love & happiness
Broo this video was so good, it was so interesting to watch. I think it’s really cool how Derek just opens up about his flaws. You both sound so mature tbh
The clearance and understanding you bring to each other is touching my heart deeply. You both reveal each others weaknesses and yet they seem to be superficial, cause all that conversation is really about in every second is the willingness to be united and vibrate in the depths of it all. Here now, in love. Thats all that is. If you would take away the story of each other and the label of ex, it would be even more obvious. Only love left
16:33 this story is very real, because it’s someone hiding all their emotions then springing it all over you and the perspective shift is overwhelming, so ofc you can’t be friends immediately
beautiful conversation, i could relate a lot to what she said in the beginning of being so focused on how her partner felt and trying to be the best partner that she lost herself in the process.
what a mature and genuine interaction that reflected some of their qualms in their past relationships and I hope they find happiness in their future relationships
@@nicov6383do you not hear yourself 😭 why would you probe whether she thought her answer out thoroughly if it isn’t in an effort to shift blame? The assumption that she didn’t think her answer out is in itself a shift of blame
I just mutually broke up with my girlfriend of 4.5 years and this video is extremely therapeutic! good to see you two not mad at eachother, loving this conversation!
She literally called him the main character. Also she went for a guy after a week AND she has nipple piercing. she is not "everything" she is nothing and he is ken. she wishes they were together. don't act like he wasn't the price because he was.
At least he is aware of kinda how bad he was in the relationship. Self-awareness is important. She also recognizes how she wasn't herself in the relationship and enabled him. That's huge in personal development.
Love that you two didn't work out but are still able to talk and laugh and assess the relationship my ex moved on maybe 3 days after we split and we were together almost 5 years lol all my exes can burn 😭 glad you two have that connection still it wasn't wasted time ❤️🙏
I love how even after breaking up 3 years ago they're laughing together so much. Seems like a healthy breakup that shows you don't need to have any beef with your ex and they clearly are compatible even if that's platonically
It's always the one that you could be so real and honest with that ends up not workoing out beacuse of some odd situation or personal life. Its so bittersweet because you always have good opinions of each other but its just never gonna happen again.
This got me so emotional because me and my ex broke up really bad and I wish we could have had an honest conversation like this. I have a photographic memory so break ups are hard. Just imagining my life in this situation. But this video was healing for me ..... somehow.
I think its so cool how you actually do a lot of self discovery by doing these episodes. You constantly get confronted with your past mistakes and analyse what you did/do wrong. Great opportunity to become a better person from this.
I didn't know the existence of this show but thank you Derek I got addicted to it, your honesty and simplicity talking to the others is an example for me
Very illuminating. And I don't know either of these people. She nailed his red flag perfectly. And the fact he never even noticed one for her just proves her point. 29:08 was especially painful. He's still very much in his own head.
Cool video. Unfortunately, my 2 year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me. I still love him so much and can't stop thinking about him. I've tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail. avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
It's difficult to let go of someone you love. I was in a similar situation when my 12 year relationship ended. I couldn't just let him go, so I did everything I could to get him back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who assisted me in reuniting with him.
Y’all leave that poor lady alone she should not be back w him the whole ep is literally showcasing how bro has to heal a lot of his own things to even think of a relationship
real
Couldn't more agree
i mostly agree tho 3 years a lot of time to grow and reflect on yourself.
if he wants a relationship he should stop hooking up w random people constantly
"The whole ep is showcasing" is 1000 things, its actually so judgmental to say he shouldn't even think of a relationship as if you know him that well
"How to Apologise" and "No more Assholes". the book choices my gosh
i think no more assholes was also a reference to the last guest
@@golden9131why?
@@eypu999 the last guest was the woman who wrote no more assholes
'NO MORE BULLSHIT' Tim Heidecker
Sums up everything 😂
the whiplash of going from "aw they should get back together" to "woah, i'm glad they can move on" was craaaaaaazy.......
Ping...
Na, they can still get back together. It just cannot be with the same conditions that got em to break up in the first place.
@@donDanDeNiro I really don't think they should, he really has some stuff he still needs to heal/work on before actually committing to a relationship again. He's definitely grown from where he was and shows self awareness, but he isn't there
He says in the beginning that they broke up because he wasn't ready to be a boyfriend. I felt that. Reminds me of my first relationship. I loved her dearly but I wasn't ready to be in a serious relationship either. I had a lot of growing to do and it wasn't her responsibility to teach me.
@donDanDeNiro….correct me if am wrong…u going back is a red flag
This is probably the rawest video ive seen in a long time. The maturity is next to the best ive ever seen. The acceptance, open-ness, the understanding and attitude to each other is amazing to see. Its not typical to see people who were once together be like this afterwards and to listen and accept the faults they had during the relationship. Its inspiring. such a great all round video. Thankyou.
It's sad. He lost his love. Can he get her back? July 2024 USA
@@Jay-ef2ii🤨
couldn’t agree more!! it was so amazing and i’m happy for them as individuals
@@lovrboi Happy? Why you're guys finding this soon cool! And amazing! And happy?..
Must be something wrong with me.
Nothing hostile just human beings appreciating each other and raw honesty. This was a wonderful watch.
I think it’s so healthy to be able to talk about an unhealthy relationship later and laugh about it
Yeah samee
Please edit your comment
No it's not. Not at all. One person is almost always still in love. Only young inexperienced people can think this is a good idea.
If you're the one who still loves, then you only meet because you're trying to link up again. There's no other reason to call such a meeting.
If you're the one who doesn't love the other person who did, then you're giving them false hope, or you ensuring you're going to do it to them again.
@@michaeldavid6832 hmm i see what ur saying, but i think it is possible tho
@@michaeldavid6832 Your not wrong that most of the time one person is still in love but, that's not true that it never happens I've known of multiple situations where two people are able to look at something retrospectively and laugh about dumb immature shit
apart from the comedy of it all this is such a serious and intimate conversation and putting it out there to see how much you both have changed and grown is awesome
Intimacy belongs to two Persons, else it’s no longer intimate.
@@sheepdog916 its the nature of the conversation thats intimate dawg yes they chose to to put it out there but at the moment it was definitely intimate
@@sheepdog916 man shut the hell up
This video is a very good example of why it is so important to communicate and be vulnerable in a relationship 😭
Shut up dude
No
what do you mean no??
@@sylviejunkie he means that when you start showing vulnerability she stops liking you
@@Markizas.Karabasas yeah sorry patrick bateman pp guy but when you have mutual trust in a relationship its not always end like that
I can’t get over how the book in front of bro is “how to apologize” and hers is “no more assholes”. Martin Scorsese levels of set storytelling.
everyone's going on about how he's fumbled or some shit but the man is putting some of his biggest insecurities out here just for us to be entertained by. massive balls. i'm so glad y'all are friends though and can laugh about it now
Best take on this video 🔥🔥🔥 fully agree
I agree. He’s brought her on to fuck his shit up, and he’s so self aware about it all. Great video
Yeah he’s definitely not doing this purely because he knows it’ll get attention and views… just to be huuuuumble and brave like a lil church mouse
@@StrangerToEarth you know these two things aren’t mutually exclusive? You have to be so dense to think he didn’t think about this beforehand.
@@StrangerToEarth like the reason this is going to get attention, like you said, is because it’s a compromising interview subject. It’s so obvious.
Guys stop saying he fumbled. Good people move on from relationships. You don't have to be with someone just cause they're a good person.
Agree
& you don't have to be with somebody just because you love them. relationships are strange.
Exactly.. people have me shit for not taking back my ex when she gave me a kidney.. she's a great person and we had a mutual breakup. Also, she never tried to get back with me..
im shallow and I was just looking at her boobs :)
@@jacobwheeler6136thats fucked up tho. Did u use her for her kidney
19:16 “it was you…” she’s so real for that. It was you she wanted to be with, no one else.
This man has the personality of Kuzco before he gets turned into a llama. 😂
🤣
Good anology
Yes
😂😂😂😂😂
Not as cruel but definitely has the ego part down
“it’s been 3 years i’m sure you grew” “😬” LMAO- i’d consider that in itself some growth
I've never really thought about how intense relationships must have been that were founded during covid
Bro I was in one and it was one of the most tumultuous times of my life, I was working damn near full time at an engineering internship, in school full time, and trying to keep my gf happy all at once. I was losing my mind lol
I’ve been in a few serious relationships, but the one that I got in during Covid went on the longest and ended in the most dramatic way possible and the courts had to get involved. It ended a year ago and I realized oh I didn’t even really like him I was just lonely during Covid and it probably shoulda been a one night thing 💀
@@masoneverlast1232 same for me bro, after we finally ended things I realized I didn’t even like her that much, I just didn’t want to go through all of that alone. I felt bad about it but in hindsight I really did think I liked her while I was in it.
Yeah also in the moved in with new gf at lockdown camp. Similar story
@@davidearle7209 Mine started right before COVID and it's been going. We even have a kid together!
'You're making everything about you' - brutal on your own YT channel
Literally on his little "all about him" safe place
When you have someone come to your space to "talk" then its not just a "yourself" space.
this is supposed to be an interview though, so it's not really supposed to be all about him; on his other videos, these supposed interviews would just end up with him talking all about himself@@macherfarfan1435
That's chill
The title literally says "My Ex"
Dude fumbled astronomically, he was dating björk 😭😭😭🙏
A saint ? You mean a flight attendant with both nipples pierced. That's no saint.
Mfs back seating relationships but won't have the courage to go outside
Nah he made the right choice her face looks hella manly
@@Kadz25braindead
@@imzykuincel
Great video! Sadly, my two year relationship ended a month ago. The person I thought was the love of my life decided to leave, and I’m still deeply in love with him. I can’t stop thinking about him, and despite all my efforts to win him back, nothing has worked. I feel so frustrated and can’t imagine being with anyone else. No matter what I do, he’s always on my mind, and I miss him terribly.
Letting go of someone you love is incredibly hard. I went through a similar experience when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't bear to lose him, so I did everything I could to rekindle our relationship. Eventually, I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who guided us back together.
Wow, that’s incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him?
His name is Fatherabulu, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in helping people reconnect with their ex.
Thank you for sharing this valuable info! I just looked him up, and he seems impressive.
What kinda name is that😂
Man this episode slaps! The chemistry, the honesty, the insights... Also really funny. I think we would all greatly beneftit from having these types of conversations with our past romantic relationships. Keep it up Derek, this video will pave the way for so many healing conversations!!
(Also LOOOVE the book choices. So on point!)
"I had your feet in my mouth, all the time. I- it was great." STOP I CRIED I COULD FEEL THE EMBARRASSMENT FROM HERE
Normalize having your girls feet in your mouth 2024
w bro
dude that is a crazy ass intro
😭😭
Felt like I walked in on something fr.
she doesn't even have small boobs. pornbrain
ONG LIKE WTF WHAT
no but she seems like such a genuine, good person
i think she grew a lot based on her answers
@@KYLETISZAI how to spot superficial people
She Is tho@@KYLETISZAI
@@KYLETISZAI What do you mean. Shes gorgeous bruv.
@@KYLETISZAI I say this in the most respectful way possible but I think you're gay brother.
I recently went through a breakup of 3 years and this really hit home. Thanks to both of you for being mature enough to have this deep conversation, despite all the history, and post it for all of us to see. I wish the internet saw more of this side to a breakup. So many of us are so quick to post a roast over some minor thing that got us heated and then get lost in the instant gratification of strangers. This video gives me hope 💚
i looooved this conversation! i’ve watched the majority of these videos and this one has got to be my favorite because of the sheer vulnerability. it’s so beautiful to honestly see a conversation reflecting on a relationship that has passed with such honesty and clear communication! and you guys are hilarious together and although you shouldn’t be together, the chemistry was off the charts
I absolutely love the raw honesty from her. It’s so refreshing. I definitely sensed the self absorbed nature from watching multiple videos, so I’m glad to know my instincts were confirmed. Bro definitely needs to be more selfless in order to have a more true bond with another person or else it will be a vicious, empty cycle. Nothing will be real or lasting if it’s all about one person & not both. ❤
It's the right disposition to get more famous, just not more happy.
I really like derek but I agree it shines through and he should work on it. But like even in this video and the couples therapist one he is honest about what he is lacking so at least he is self aware😅
The self centered conversation was amazing self awareness on both ends, wow. LOVED this convo.
The way the self-centeredness revealed itself throughout the video 😂
From who?
Did you watch the video ?@@andrewoid4711
Yeah i noticed that even in his other videos, the conversations will always circle back to him and his problems
Yea it definitely showed itself through out 😂😂 I think if he works out that aspect he would improve a lot for another relationship
but its his podcast @@RoB-nc5ns
Bro this is probably gonna get lost in the sea of comments but.
I recently broke up (6 months ago) with an ex who I thought was the love of my life, kids, marriage the whole shazam.
And A part of me watching this made me hope that if we never do get back together that I can have a convo like this with her.
But the biggest part, and dont take this the wrong way... It made me realize how much more she has healed and worked on herself than you have.
And Seeing 2 sides of the coin in 1 video. It really does give as a viewer perspective , and I am already working on myself, but again hahah, not to shit on you or anything, its really cool you did this, but healing and working on yourself isnt easy, but its nessacary, and I realized that and I realize that even more now with this video.
thanks for doing what you do man. It does help alot of people.
Respect 👍
Its been 8 months since you wrote this, do you want to give an update? 😬
@@totokoostudios
Wow ye i left a shit ton of comments on videos like this I realize now, I think when your in the midst of it all you really just try to find outlets to express your feelings.
What can I say.
I worked on myself ALOT, after my breakup. Im currently pursueing a carreer I wanted to pursue previously for years, my social life is the best its ever been and my mental health faces new challenges, but in hindsight and something I do remind myself alot about is that the challenges I face now are just based off of fear and new territory.
I do stick with what I wrote, heal yourself and WORK ON YOURSELF when you break up with someone that close to you.
It was really rough, but im better now. And the ironic part of my comment is that, in my case. I did the healing , my ex didnt, and that has changed how we live our lives drastically to this day.
To sum it, Im happy, and the love that i thought i lost wasnt lost, I just had to find it within myself.
Best thing I ever heard after my break up was, "The love you gave didnt come from that person, it came from you , which means you can find that love again"
@@totokoostudios Wow ye sure, Its been a while.
I guess to keep it short, I did alot of healing after seeing videos like this. I am so much better as a person and i feel mentally and physically alot healthier.
I even can look back and think that the relationship I had was flawed as hell and nearly , feel relief that it didnt go any further.
I think it gave me alot of perspective on alot of things with myself most importantly, but also now dating again (which i recently started doing) I feel like I can search for a partner who is more compatiable with me, but also me with them.
I think the biggest take away a year later, Is basically , Love yourself, no one is going to love yourself as much as you will.
If you can find that self love, forgive yourself and show up for you , everyday.
You will feel a sense of peace that will make every relationship better, but every hardship easier.
@@dominicbadal5680 very inspiring, thanks! :)
I love how emotionally vulnerable and honest both of you are, it's really difficult to be that transparent about the way you view things and feel.
he's such a red flag but at least he's aware of it 😭
Very like omg 😭😭😭
Tbf he is also way more upfront about his issues and after all he edited that video.
They both are.
im generalizing but ppl like him will literally have this conversation then continue with the same behavior
I agree She definitely is
I love how the thumbnail implies it's going to be an angry episode but the video is actually one of the sweetest things I've seen in a very long time
this is one of the most painful things i’ve ever watched, liked and subscribed
Even having taken separate ways, I can see love and consideration in this relationship and made me happy to watch this conversation! It's so hard to talk about many of these things when you are dealing with a breakup, so having this "post mortem" type of discussion seems such a good way to learn from each other. Derek you also showed yourself more authentic and vulnerable, thanks for sharing
I like that you two are so confident talking about these difficult things, and the way that it seems like you have gotten over all this and just enjoy remembering those moments. Amazing. Thank you for sharing the experience with us.
"it's more like...you're so lucky to be with me". I LOVE this girl!!!
Bro that's so toxic...
From man man to man, thank you for being so open about your emotions and vulnerability especially online man, this really takes balls. And the fact that you are so honest with yourself really shows you’re a great person, regardless of what insecurities you might be dealing with
she is cool as hell and looks like an amazing friend
the emotional intensity of this conversation, this video was really very striking and it is beautiful to see the depth of their perspectives and how they deal with their own emotions
She's literally the one that got away because the wasn't at his best and this is so beautiful. The respect and tension that's still there while also both of them knowing they care about themselves and eachother too much to go there again is just *muah*
As a person that has been dumped in truly awful ways I’m always excited to see exes that have a good relationship 😊
If you can talk like this with your ex then that means you did something right.
To me a bad breakup means that there was always a hostile element in the relationship to begin with.
This kind of communication shows that on an emotional level it was a good relationship, even if there were difficulties.
I love the placement of the books. Derek "How To Apologize". His Ex "No more A-holes" 😂😂
she seems so sweet i think she slightly resembles Björk so pretty
TRUEEEE
HONESTLY REAL 😭
yuuuppp BJÖRK
This was so freaking raw. THANK YOU for making this
this is the first vid im seeing on this channel and i genuinely can only say that the communication style of this conversation is something i wish was a way WAY more common thing. direct, and vulnerable, but with a high level of maturity and understanding, as well as the acknowledgement that feelings about past situations and interactions arent an attack on the present character of a person. i LOVE this so much, notis on for the channel for sure.
“the 1” by taylor swift is a BRUTAL song for yall to both feel about each other
Like fuckin OUCH 😭
Like fucking insane tbh. I could not handle that.
i was looking for a comment like this bc "the 1" to describe it is CRAZY
They both are so mature to talk about everything like adults with honesty, it makes it so interesting to watch
bro spawned the unthinkable
forbidden content
Thank you for this video Derek and Lisy. I broke up with a girl almost 4 years ago and what happend to us was very similiar to what happend to you guys the main difference being that we were together 3 years. You just made me realize that I'm a narcist and I still have a lot to work out. I haven't had any rebounds, hookups or girlfriends ever since and even now I stil think of her daily when I feel lonely because she is the only girl I have actually dated. Anyway, again, thank for showing such a vulnerable side of your personal life.
This was such a pleasure to watch even with the small tinge of discomfort that came from reflecting on the past. Thanks you two for being so vulnerable. Also, she’s beautiful. 😍
This is such a brutal watch because it’s very raw. Hoping you guys are doing better.
This is my favorite interview. It was so honest and cute.
The book choices 😭
Hola ;) By Chantal Heide
holy shit dude. a reading break for a sponsorship... is genius, W gateway. and good stuff on getting sponsored! you're making it.
Bro has 2 mil
they way they were communicating and describing their feelings but listening and being mature is omgg i love
she is literally so beautiful
She looks like violet starr
@@Phatal001what the fuck
@@Phatal001 This is outright degenerate
@@Phatal001touch the grass
bro @@Phatal001
Can we appreciate the communication here ♥️ the fact that they can conversate and still have a friendship. Very mature, great job guys!
they literaly are both on the same exact fucking page, while beeing completly different. The humor in this video is so damn mature
Can’t believe I watched the whole thing. I loved this episode and I realized that I have more healing to do. It’s so nice being able to see a more honest, representative picture to a relationship.
This was refreshing to hear two people have an elevated self aware conversation drenched in honesty. Not everyone is capable. You two are beyond your years❤ wish you both love & happiness
this was so healing to watch
I usually hate how TH-camrs do ads but the way you did the better help ad was really good.
Man I loved watching this. It reminded me a lot of the mature people in my life and I’m so grateful. You guys are lovely.
16:48 Her analogy of cheating is spot on. Jealousy might trap people into making them cheat. Intresting
LETS GOOO ANOTHER LIBRARY SHOW VIDEO
i had 'the 1' playing low in the bg while watching this after they said that was the song and damn vibes were vibin (i'm crying)
Broo this video was so good, it was so interesting to watch. I think it’s really cool how Derek just opens up about his flaws. You both sound so mature tbh
The clearance and understanding you bring to each other is touching my heart deeply. You both reveal each others weaknesses and yet they seem to be superficial, cause all that conversation is really about in every second is the willingness to be united and vibrate in the depths of it all. Here now, in love. Thats all that is. If you would take away the story of each other and the label of ex, it would be even more obvious. Only love left
16:33 this story is very real, because it’s someone hiding all their emotions then springing it all over you and the perspective shift is overwhelming, so ofc you can’t be friends immediately
Watching this makes me wonder what my ex would be thinking of me and I wonder if she would be wondering what I think of her as well.
You should hit them up
beautiful conversation, i could relate a lot to what she said in the beginning of being so focused on how her partner felt and trying to be the best partner that she lost herself in the process.
what a mature and genuine interaction that reflected some of their qualms in their past relationships and I hope they find happiness in their future relationships
This really feels like a healing moment for her. I don't know for you.. but what a mature conversation to have. ❤
Him asking if she wants some water and drinking it first, if this was not planned, another sign of self-centeredness haha
I honestly appreciated all the humanity I saw in this video....
omg ur that dating coach from the previous video
@@vict0or I am! ☺️ Hello!
@@vict0or yes I am!
"do you think it´s fair to blame me for that" 🤣 that is the most self-centered gaslighting question i´ve ever heard
can you explain how it is? i thought it sounded like a reasonable question which invited self reflection from derek’s part
@@Momaskehonestly I agree, I feel like it was more trying to probe if she had actually thought it through fully than to shift the blame
On the surface sure but I don’t think he asked it in that type of way at all, just wants to know her thought process
@@nicov6383do you not hear yourself 😭 why would you probe whether she thought her answer out thoroughly if it isn’t in an effort to shift blame? The assumption that she didn’t think her answer out is in itself a shift of blame
@@Momaske Because that comment was probably written by a woman, which basically means, *everyone else is the problem, not me.*
I don’t know why, but watching them feels like watching an 80s film
It's the combination of dialogue and French accent
its giving breakfast club vibes
for me it felt like a very hot, humid sunday
I just mutually broke up with my girlfriend of 4.5 years and this video is extremely therapeutic! good to see you two not mad at eachother, loving this conversation!
11:47 this part killed me- her sense of humour is amazing
not the betterhelp sponsorship :(
bros gotta eat
fr.
probably still in a contract
How else u think he’s gonna put food on the table
@@7sahez another sponsor maybe? the harm this sponsor is gonna do to hundreds of viewers is NOT worth one person's "food"
the chemistry is immaculate bro, i loved it Derek :))
show amazing but I'm starting to think he's the problem
i definitely am
@@ThatLibraryShow real
Girl starting 😂😂😂 he’s always been the red flag he’s just hot 🎉
@@ThatLibraryShowreal
💯. He’s the common denominator.
I love how vulnerable he gets on camera, asks the hard questions and still remains funny and unbothered
she's like "I just really wanted to help you, make you feel better, fix everything, work on us" and then him: "Red flag: you have anxiety" kakajskalka
she’s everything… he’s just ken
She literally called him the main character. Also she went for a guy after a week AND she has nipple piercing. she is not "everything" she is nothing and he is ken. she wishes they were together. don't act like he wasn't the price because he was.
@@aiien8768 What is your issue bro so what if she has nipple piercings? And he hooked up with someone after two weeks which isn't much better.
"Stopped flying private---" Girl is in her bag LOL
At least he is aware of kinda how bad he was in the relationship. Self-awareness is important.
She also recognizes how she wasn't herself in the relationship and enabled him.
That's huge in personal development.
Love that you two didn't work out but are still able to talk and laugh and assess the relationship my ex moved on maybe 3 days after we split and we were together almost 5 years lol all my exes can burn 😭 glad you two have that connection still it wasn't wasted time ❤️🙏
I love how even after breaking up 3 years ago they're laughing together so much. Seems like a healthy breakup that shows you don't need to have any beef with your ex and they clearly are compatible even if that's platonically
It's always the one that you could be so real and honest with that ends up not workoing out beacuse of some odd situation or personal life. Its so bittersweet because you always have good opinions of each other but its just never gonna happen again.
This got me so emotional because me and my ex broke up really bad and I wish we could have had an honest conversation like this. I have a photographic memory so break ups are hard. Just imagining my life in this situation. But this video was healing for me ..... somehow.
I think its so cool how you actually do a lot of self discovery by doing these episodes. You constantly get confronted with your past mistakes and analyse what you did/do wrong. Great opportunity to become a better person from this.
I didn't know the existence of this show but thank you Derek I got addicted to it, your honesty and simplicity talking to the others is an example for me
Bro has no filter on the questions and statements mad respect, “I thought about sleeping with your friends”
she is such an angel and i didn’t expect that but she surprised me with every of her answers
First time watching, and honestly good episode. I like when people can be vulnerable and honest with a hint of accountability!
Watching hard conversations and taboo topics navigated well is so good, I wish everyone was capable of talking like this
Very illuminating. And I don't know either of these people.
She nailed his red flag perfectly. And the fact he never even noticed one for her just proves her point. 29:08 was especially painful. He's still very much in his own head.
Cool video. Unfortunately, my 2 year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me. I still love him so much and can't stop thinking about him. I've tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail. avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just can’t stop thinking about him
It's difficult to let go of someone you love. I was in a similar situation when my 12 year relationship ended. I couldn't just let him go, so I did everything I could to get him back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who assisted me in reuniting with him.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
His name is fatherabulu , and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
@@KellyJackson-j4p fakest plant conversation ever
she’s needs to comeback, she’s such a genuine person
yep. I'd definitely watch more from these two
She is a walking red flag, skinny clothes and braless showing her pierced nipples, he dodged a bullet
Not gonna lie , i really thought Derek would have said "lets give it one more try". Lol Derek has changed so much it's really inspiring.