Should Christian Women Work Outside of the Home? | With Jennifer Parr
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- Should Christian women work outside of the home? This video is a candid conversation between me and my wife on the subject. We had a great time filming this video and we hope that it gives you some clarity on the subject.
Perhaps you are in a situation where you and your spouse are considering leaving a corporate job or even returning to one. How should Christians process this type of decision? Jennifer and I deal with that specifically in this video.
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TIME STAMPS
00:00 - Start of Video
01:08 - Biblical Perspective of Working Women
02:13 - How Jennifer Managed Work and Home
04:54 - How Jennifer Working Affected the Parr Household
06:45 - How Allen Dealt with Jennifer's Demanding Career
08:24 - Jennifer Discusses Dealing with Conflicting Priorities
12:28 - Jennifer's Transformation from Working to Coming Home
15:58 - Jennifer Describes the Tension of Leaving Her Dream Job
19:42 - Jennifer Shares Her Fears of Being a Stay at Home Mom
24:57 - The Parr Household After Jennifer Came Home
25:42 - Tips on How to Decide if a Spouse Should Come Home
27:38 - Jennifer Shares Wisdom for Working Women
29:56 - Our Final Conclusion
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So excited to share this video with you all today! I love doing videos with my wife and so many of you have been asking to have her on the channel more often. Well, today we share a conversation we had about Christian women working in the home. If you enjoy this video and would like to join my wife for a monthly Bible study, you can learn more at letsequip.com/community. We launched a new community where I do a monthly Bible study for everyone and my wife does one for the women. I hope you enjoy this video and join us in our exciting new online Christian community!
If my husband told me right now to stay home. I will jump on it. Jaja
@Caribbean Ín The House I was told that you have to submit to your husband, so if the husband wants his wife to work, she has to work, BUT if the children and home are neglected as a result, it's the husband's fault.
@Caribbean Ín The House yes I know. But there’s a slight problem. I’m the bread winner 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Great example of a loving and godly couple.
God bless you both
I was telling my husband how I desire so much to be a stay at home wife & mom. We just can’t afford one income yet. But I feel so strongly that it’s my next step in life. I pray it becomes possible for us.
Oh me too. I pray you can re-budget and find a way.
Trust the LORD sister! The LORD has abundantly provided for our family! He will provide for yours ❤️
She responded to not being able to afford it th-cam.com/video/0Ht_Jwm097A/w-d-xo.html
I homeschooled, taught exercise at the Y and could bring my kids with me. Staying home with my kids was top priority for us. Now my kids are grown and I am so grateful we made the sacrifice.
Yes! Any job that allows us to bring our kids with us is perfect. I believe being a mother should be our number one priority.
I currently work in the ER on the days my husband doesn't have to work and I work the nightshift to be available for my kids during the day, but after we buy a house, I would like a job I can do from home.
@@thewifelife007 I taught classes, so I could teach for an hour or so. The kids would use the Y computer room or classes. It’s not always easy to find, but there are jobs like that.
@@thewifelife007 If you’re a nurse, healthcare insurance companies has excellent positions that will allow you to WAH and still be with your kids.
I love that you guys are having this conversation! this is so essential to unpack in long form!
Thanks Rus! Didn’t you do one on this recently?
Yeah I thought yall coordinated this but now that I've listened I see this has been coming for the Parrs for a while. Ok then... speak Lord!
@@thebeatagp 😂😂😂he did actually, I thought of him immediately when I saw the video on the suggestions, then bam!! He is on the comments 😂😂
@@RaeiFlames lol so do I. I’d love to see their input on stay at home dads though!
I did watch your video on this topic. I like the approach you took on this topic. I'm going to see what the Parr 's family have to say about it too.
This is a great and valuable conversation. As an attorney, many people expect me to focus on being a high powered career woman. But i have made choices to be in a position where my family can come first. The schedule is flexible and the maternity leave is top tier. My job knows my boundaries and I know when to say no so my family can come first. For me, it’s not whether or not a wife should work. It’s whether family can still be first. My career doesn’t give me identity, it is the means by which my husband and I can work together and balance work, life, and ministry but always putting the marriage ministry first.
Perfect mindset I wish more women from this culture could understand that. You hit it right on the nail
Couldn’t agree more! It should always be a question for any Christian, man woman, single married, parent or childless. Is this job serving me or am I serving it?! ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for sharing. Is it possible for a 30 year old to go to law school.. work until 36 ..then have children and manage her house and children? I’m debating if I still should become a lawyer. Please advise ;)
@@nataliesal342 anything is possible. But I would examine why you have a desire to be a high powered career woman. Is that God telling you what He has for you, or is that your ego? There’s no judgment in that question. If that’s what God has for you, excellent. But I realized after law school and being an attorney for 5 years nothing is as important as my family. And a lot of us think you can just have a kid when you’re ready. But I’m 32, and after trying for 2 years, I would say putting off trying to build a family for a career,..That’s not what God wants for me. It could be what He wants for you. But it’s a question you should be asking.
Such a great view!
So excited to see you and your BEAUTIFUL wife together on screen! Looking forward to watching this with my girls.
Aw. Thanks my sister! Yes this was great to be able to do together! We look forward to doing more!
Yes she's so beautiful 😍 😭
Yes she is beautiful
Love this.
I love this! As a former career woman and now a stay-at-home wife, I'm struggling about my worth, identity and purpose. My husband explicitly told me that he doesn't prefer me to work full-time again since he's working and I need to focus on managing our home. I have started making art crafts for business but I don't earn as much as I did when I was an employee. And with our society and country's culture where being a housewife or a stay-at-home mother isn't considered a profession, I kinda felt unaccomplished, belittled and insecure. From your insights, God has reminded me to always seek my worth and purpose in Him. My value isn't dependent on what I do, but on what He has done for me. And I need to live according to how He has called me. Thank you so much, Mr. and Mrs. Parr. ✨
I had a similar experience and I agree with believers finding their worth in our obedience to God.
We are superheroes...... especially when we read Bible stories to our kids
@@animekinglovesanime I am not a mom yet. My husband and I are trying though. May the Lord bless us with children whom we could mold into God's love and godly contentment. I can't wait to raise children that would serve God as well. Will you include me in your prayers too? Thank you so much!!
Our society is backwards. Career should be FOR the family… so if you get to be a stay at home mom, you are very blessed. Nobody on their death bed wishes they spent more time in the office… they wish they spent it with their family.
@@gigahorse1475 To each their own.
The Proverbs 31 woman was a wife, who ran several businesses. If a woman is able to parent her children properly and work at the same time, there is nothing wrong with contributing financially to the family by having a job or a business.
As a person that has raised her family and in the empty nest stage, I had a similar path and I don’t regret staying at home and homeschooling one bit. We don’t have much in the way of financial gain due to that decision but God has always provided and done so abundantly!!
So what . Good for you. Not every woman has that luxury 🙄
@Kim that's the struggle. Meeting the financial obligations.
Finances are a struggle and have been for most of my adult life. As I look back I realize that most of the time and still even now I have to get creative with how I can earn some extra money and how I can save extra money. So I tutored other kids I watched other kids I cleaned offices at night after my husband came home. I traded daycare with friends so that I could work a part-time job and my husband took on a lot of extra hours as well. There was definitely an Ebb and flow and there were a few years in there where I did not have to work that much and other years that I had to work more. You just take it one year at a time and then break it down to one day at a time. And every day I still praise the Lord
I've had to give up luxuries in order to stay home and homeschool. We live in an old, small home, have one vehicle, and have cut out things that aren't necessary. It's not easy, but I believe it will be worth it in the end. The Lord is our provider and He will make a way if you feel like you should be home.
@@rh10033 Absolutely. And the rewards will far outweigh all the sacrifices. You will never get to raise your children again And if you’re not doing it somebody else is. Good job!!
This video helps out immensely. My wife and I are 8 weeks pregnant, I know the Lord has called her to be a stay at home mom. I’m really trying not to be stressed out for when the time comes (financially wise). I’m currently in school to be a teacher and working right now as a Resident Substitute Teacher in California. Trusting and knowing that God is our provider above all.
My fiancé and I are engaged to be married and we just got saved! I’d love a video with you and your wife on pre-marriage tips, how to keep God inside of the engagement/marriage, fighting temptations, etc. we already have a child together that is 4 years old, so this walk is brand new for us! Thankful God is making it possible ❤️
Welcome to the family!
They’ve done a couple joint videos on his channel already
@Sophie I’ll have to go look!
Welcome to the family of God sister!
🙂
Welcome to the family! I recommend checking out his bible study videos on the book of Song of Solomon. The series is great and I highly recommend to anyone who wants to start courting or wants to get married. Hope this helps!
Jennifer SKIN IS glowing my love! This was a GREAT video.
@▫️THĘ BEAT by Allen Parr▫️ why lie about who u are
Because she chose not to be a feminist, empowered, career woman and chose to marry in her heart to her hooby fully, and actually be a wife and mother. Married women glow!
@@aramisy.cajigas744 Your comment is actually disrespectful to Allen's wife. She clearly knows how to handle a lot of things and is very intelligent. You do know women can multitask away from just being a wife and mother, right? Your comment is disrespectful to all the work she put in for herself to improve herself/challenge herself FOR herself before, during, and while she has been married. Yes, she is empowered. She is empowered because of HER not because she is married. I'm sure it was all of her wonderful qualities that she already had that attracted her husband to her.
@@lisacox3750 Ego-driven momma, calm down and learn from Mr. Parr's wife how to overcome ego.
It’s called youth. And lotion. Lol.
It feels like this whole video is saying that women should not have visions of their own and lives of their own outside their marriage and their kids. Allen said this video would look at both sides but it felt like Jennifer insinuated that if you are a woman who's thriving at work and you don't feel any "mommy guilt", there's something wrong with you. I think this topic requires voices that come from different ways of life because honestly if you're gonna be a Pastor's wife, you're not really gonna have ambitions of your own outside your husband's ministry cause being a Pastor is a lot of work. His vision becomes your vision. But I am gonna speak and say this, I was raised by a single mom, and she keeps excelling in the work place, my aunt is studying to become a nurse practitioner and her marriage is as strong as a rock, my other aunt is studying to obtain her Masters in Pediatrics. The last one I mentioned lives in Zimbabwe, she's studying so hard and she works so hard so that she can find a job in a Western country and give her family a better life. I think Jennifer should have stressed the importance of Wisdom and being able to find a balance cause I don't believe it's God's desire that every woman stays at home.
Thank you for this!!!! ❤❤❤
I love this comment and I agree!! Being wife to a Pastor is a whole different scenario than your husband not being in ministry. Nevertheless, I also think it’s a cultural thing. I believe you’re African based on your comment on your family member in Zimbabwe; I’m Nigerian. And I’ve observed that African women (at least here in America since that’s where I live) tend to excel in their work while prioritizing their domestic responsibilities. I can personally attest to the fact that my mom worked various schedules as a nurse and my dad traveled a lot, but despite that, my mom always ensured all our needs were met. We had cooked meals everyday, our assignments were done on time, she spent time helping us read, she played with us, like my mom did what any typical “stay at home mom” would do apart from homeschooling us. And since I want to be medical doctor, she told me that no matter how high climb up the ladder in my profession, never neglect the responsibility I have to my family because my family affairs are first before any job. And my dad never wanted to have a stay at home wife either (I asked because of this topic) so it honestly depends. I think as long as your home is in order and God is still being glorified in your home and marriage, then do what suits you. There’s no one size fits all to having a marriage, so there’s none for running a family either.
Read your Bible!! Titus 2:3-5 says women are to be keepers at home. Also, if you are married you are now your husband’s helpmeet. If you don’t have a desire to be your husband’s helpmeet and if you can glorify God being single and serving Him then do so. Our lives are not to be self centered but service to God. Women have been told lies over and over again of finding something outside the home and finding fulfillment outside of it. Gods ways are best and they are perfect!!! I can tell you as a woman who is married and has children I am so fulfilled to be at home serving my husband and children because I do it into the Lord and this is His will. Read proverbs 31. Her husband and her children rise up and call her blessed!!! What woman wouldn’t want to hear that kind of praise coming from the lips of her own husband and children? Let me tell you! You are replaceable in the workforce no matter how much they may praise you at work but you are not replaceable as a wife and a mother.
@@steffa648Once I have children and my children are grown I will go back to work and follow my hopes and dreams, thank you. ❤
@@tracknation7285 So true ! I think having a career is laybe difficult with kids. But a regular job is very possible I think ! Especially knowing that even with a perfect husband he can still lose his job, get ill or even die. So I think a woman should stay self reliant while prioritising her relationships and especially her family. It is possible !
An example of a healthy relationship. Communication, evaluation and honesty. We need more videos like this 👏🏽 Thank you for sharing
I believe when your children are little. You should try to stay home. Because it’s very hard to work outside the home with small children. I was happy to be able to stay home with my children. I understand with the inflation is hard. Just pray about it. God knows our hearts ♥️
I needed this I’ve been struggling with this should I get a job to help my husband because I have a 2 year old🥺
@@liciaann8877 only you and hubby know the answer. If you can afford it. Yes. If not. Part time. Hope you make a good decision for your family. Pray 🙏🏻 about it.
God knows in your heart you do not trust Him if you make a decision to be obedient off of financial prosperity or need. God promises to provide all we need. So we don't base our obedience on that. Obedience comes at a cost but also a reward. But you should never base a decision on anything other than what God says. If a husband tells his wife to work, God says to obey Him and we have to trust in the Lord. If we stay home knowing we are commanded to and the husband degrees, you need to do that despite what happens financially. But in my case, God has abundantly blessed and provided without college degrees and with my husband making $9 an hour when we had our first child in 2012. And as we have had more children, God has increased us our income and we live in California. You can trust God but most Christians do not and we and others suffer the Earthly consequences.
@@ASmith-jn7kf this is so true ❤️
@@liciaann8877 - Your W-2 paycheck would just be paying the daycare bill so what’s the point? If I were you, I’d babysit 2 kids & charge. Even better is to be a graveyard shift babysitter 6pm - 6am. You feed the kids dinner, put them to bed at 8pm & they’re asleep the entire night. There’s a need for this service.
Coming back to this video to report that I have decided to quit my full time job to be more available to my husband and kids. I am a nurse who does well so its no small decision but I'm believing in my obedience God will take care of us.
And indeed He will take care of you.
Just trust Him.
In 2020 God spoke to me clearly during private prayer and worship.
1)’Give me your doctors uniform’
I saw my entire career flash before me and how I had not been pointing the patients/ staff to Christ. How many had I told that they needed to repent and put their trust in the Lord? I immediately handed over my scrubs to the Lord and I wept.
2)’Will you remain my golden candle?’
3)’You better go and declare yourself a missionary’.
And since then to the glory of God I have been a stay at home mum as well as an Intercessor and a street preacher.
I have even had the great privilege of leading former patients to Christ!!! 🕊
Praaaaaise the Lord!!!
I have also had the privilege of writing and directing a Christian film. 🎥 🍿
I can’t thank God enough for giving me a supportive ( really patient )
and loving husband who works full time and supports what I do.
THANK YOU JESUS!!!!
PS: In the book of revelation 1:20 it explains the meaning of golden candlesticks…In case anyone wants clarification…
“The mystery of the seven stars which thou sawest in my right hand, and the seven golden candlesticks. The seven stars are the angels of the seven churches: and the seven candlesticks which thou sawest are the seven churches.”
Thank you and may God bless you as you pray, listen to His voice and obey. Amen.
As a man, it’s hard when you have to have a two income family to make ends meet. I prayed and prayed for a financial breakthrough so my wife could stay home with our kids but it didn’t work out that way. It definitely makes me feel that I’ve failed by not being able to be the sole provider. But I’m happy for those who can do this.
Aww God sees your heart you’re amazing ♥️
Feel no shame. You're providing for your family. Many men don't. God sees your hard work and love for your family.
Keep praying keep seeking and have faith
You have not failed. Look at the other areas in your life where you provide stability, nurturing, role model and other aspects to your family. Finances is just one way of providing for your family.
You are not a failure
Your wife has a radiance about her.
Christian women can and should work based on their specific situation and circumstances. That's my two cents.
Amen. Every situation and/or marriage is different.
False. Stop conforming to the world.
@@ryanmessano1895 The cost of living keeps rising. Even Walmart prices are getting high and they used to be the low priced leader but that's starting to not be the case anymore! Not every family can afford to live on one income anymore and there aren't that many work-at-home jobs that aren't gimmicks/scams. It is what it is.
I agree.
I agree.
This is too stressful for me. I'm happy to be in school, I just finished my 4th year in med school and will start my residency with Mayo Clinic in a few weeks. I'm honestly really proud of my accomplishments and much happier overall than when I was dating my ex partner who wanted me to drop out and rely on him entirely. If I die alone, so be it. God walks with me always. ♥️
Yes, not everyone is called to be married. If you are single, doing schooling, honoring God, representing Christ, then do it. Sending love and support.
I’m so glad you didn’t drop out for him. A partner should support your aspirations, not discourage them. And it’s not like you had kids to raise, so wanting you to drop out just to rely on him is a bit odd. Congrats on your achievements so far!
Exactly. I am still young and I always want to prepare for the possibility of never being married so I must know how to provide for myself.
I'm 47 years old. I've been married since I was 25. My Dad when I was 18, taught me about being "a keeper at home" like the Bible says too. So before I met my husband this teaching was already ingrained in my mind.
Yeah, thats an excellent show that you got indoctrinated young to casually accept casual s-ism, hun.
Thats why its important to be raised by a God fearing father. I highly regret my life choices, i wonder if i will ever have a settled heart. God bless you
@@slevinchannel7589 i guess being indoctrinated on being gay in this ungodly society is a whole lot better....
@@indriadrayton1132 I mean, youre so hom0phobic that the hate literally quells out of yourself:
You just threw hom$exuality in a discussion that had nothing to do with that and was not talking about it.
THATS how much it bothers you all the time, thats how much it is on youre silly, immature mind: You have to bring it up RANDOMLY and SUDDENLY.
@@slevinchannel7589 whats the difference between what you initially said (in that particular context) and what he/she said.
I love staying home and taking care of my family. I feel this is the role that God has given me.
I feel this is role God gives most women according to the Bible.
You go girl. Do what you need to do for your family 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
Same.
It is definitely a calling
This was so good! I am 61 years old. I left a thriving career at the age of 40 and became a stay at home wife and mom. It was hard to leave my job, but God spoke clearly that this was His purpose for me. I have no regrets! At 61, my husband still works, my children are adults with their own children. I’m so glad this was God’s plan for my family.
Same here! I resigned from a promising career at 32 and became a stay at home mom when we became pregnant with our first child. So thankful to God for leading us in this decision and to my Husband for his support. My Husband was/is on board with me being the keeper of our home and to raise our daughter.
Jesus loves you❤th-cam.com/video/ZsBhvSMQUk4/w-d-xo.html❤
Thanks for sharing.
Wow thank you for sharing!!!
In 2020 God spoke to me clearly during private prayer and worship.
1)’Give me your doctors uniform’
I saw my entire career flash before me and how I had not been pointing the patients/ staff to Christ. How many had I told that they needed to repent and put their trust in the Lord? I immediately handed over my scrubs to the Lord and I wept.
2)’Will you remain my golden candle?’
3)’You better go and declare yourself a missionary’.
And since then to the glory of God I have been a stay at home mum as well as an Intercessor and a street preacher.
I have even had the great privilege of leading former patients to Christ!!! 🕊
Praaaaaise the Lord!!!
I have also had the privilege of writing and directing a Christian film. 🎥 🍿
I can’t thank God enough for giving me a supportive ( really patient )
and loving husband who works full time and supports what I do.
THANK YOU JESUS!!!!
PS: In the book of revelation 1:20 it explains the meaning of golden candlesticks…In case anyone wants clarification…
“The mystery of the seven stars which thou sawest in my right hand, and the seven golden candlesticks. The seven stars are the angels of the seven churches: and the seven candlesticks which thou sawest are the seven churches.”
Thank you and may God bless you as you pray, listen to His voice and obey. Amen.
Never had the support to stay at home, and I really needed to be with my young kids. Unfortunately, I received a lot of judgment from my husband and in-laws. It's SO important to be equally yoked and on one accord with your spouse, and make the decision together. Once my kids were older and I started working a great job, I received more respect from them and could support myself. I wish I could have stayed home without feeling condemned for doing so. Thankfully, I have a really balanced life, and make time for My Savior, church, volunteering, family, and work. I strive to draw closer to Jesus/God everyday. That's the priority.
I hear you. I was condemned too for leaving my career in my 30s to care for the kids. Now that my kids are late teens I am nearly finished studying for a new career. I hope to work, God willing, within a year or 2. I know only then will my husband and others, give me respect. But he professes Christ in front of others.
I know God is taking care of me, and one day will help me in what new path He has in store regardless of husband's thoughts.
@@minnielou1259 I posted a question for Allan and his wife similar. I have a lot of guilt about having to work outside the home instead of being there for my kids. Hope they can make an attempt at helping me. There isn't really anything that covers my predicament.
I am only 16 years old but this helps me plan better and wiser for my future . I didn’t grow up with a father in the home the only father that I had was God “ which is way better “ . But this puts things in to perspective for me so thank you Alan parr and to your wife . So of topic but her skin is gourgous lol god bless ❤️❤️
⏱ 8:28 - “We make time for what we care about.” So true! 👏
Many Christians have unfortunate Bias against Atheist-TH-camrs, not even caring to try them.
This is very sad.
If you wanna be better and not live in an echo-chamber full of nothing but 'youre own people agreeing with you', then try the video 'Creationist kent Hovind Challenges Me, I Respond' from Genetically Modified Sceptic. If that video cant show you how polite and mature he is, then i dont know which can.
That TH-camr has countless christian-fans and i hope you give him a Try.
Oh my! This is an amazing testimony! Jennifer, I feel your heart and your experience. My job became an idol for me, I was very, very good at it, and like Jennifer I too received a lot of affirmation. It ultimately was a mistake to place it above God and my family. I'm so glad Jennifer ultimately did what was best for her relationship with God. Unfortunately for me, my husband died of a major heart attack, and I regret not adjusting sooner. Our children are adults now with families and I have resigned from my job. I now am focusing on my relationship with God and allowing whatever God has for me to do or become I say yes. Ya'll have me in tears. I am so grateful for your ministry. Praise God!!
Oh my! That is devastating. I am so sorry to hear of that. Wow. I can't imagine your pain.
Thank you for sharing your story. I was struggling with going back to work or stay home with my sickly husband. God show me as I was reading your story, the stress my husband would feel if i weren't their with him could trigger another heart attack, I'm not saying that happened to your husband, but my husband talks to no one but me, he never go out, unless it's to the doctor, he has made it quite clear he doesn't do well when I'm out all the time. And my husband also depend on me for his spiritual food. I keep God in his face by sharing with him things God is showing me, that he can see is true. I think God has been showing me it's time for me to retire, but since my husband's health wasn't good, I just wanted to work a little longer. But I think the real reason I want to go out to work is because I want more time to myself doing what I want to do. And if I loss my husband I wouldn't be able to work anymore. I'm 65 and I think I will go ahead and draw my retirement to help pay off the house, and obey God.
Please cover how a husband should submit, treat and support his wife
I second this that will be good one
“Not every good thing that happens to you, comes from God.”
Whew, I felt that in my soul because it tricks you.
I would love to see Jennifer do Women’s ministry when she has the time, I would love to participate with her. I think she has a lot to offer in that, and can be inspirational to a lot of women that are in her situation!!
I don't think they believe in women being in ministry.
OK. What should then be done is any lady that joins the group turns out to be gay? What about accountability if that takes place? The church IS "a a haven for sinners."
She leads the women's bible study in the program Allan parr offers called let's equip.
No 1 Tim. Usurp authority over men is a no no
@@anitafoxworth6564 yes but take that verse in context: it is referring to the TYPE of women that have the mentality of “ my way, or the highway” and refuse to listen to the opinion of others. I know this for a fact because my dad married a woman like that after my mom died and after the divorce he unfortunately was attracted to those type of women.
This is just amazing, she is not just saying words she is telling her story and how God helps her to find back her identity in him instead of work or family 🙏.
I've been a stay-at-home mom now for 22 years. My children are on their way out of our home, so the season is coming to an end. Staying home was not a easy desision to make and sometimes really hard because you get no validation from society. What is the first thing people ask you when you meet? " So, what do you do?" And if you answer "I'm at home with my kids", I've many times found, people think you're a bit dumb. Like you can't do a "real job".
Anaway, looking back I feel extremely privileged, espessialy knowing there are many women out there who would love to stay at home but can't. And with my kids starting to leave my home, I have absolutely no regrets of the sacrifices we made! It was absolutely worth it.
I go through this all the time, especially since I only have one kid and he's in school now. But I really need that break (he's autistic and can really try my patience sometimes). But we're looking into fostering since our adoption plans never went anywhere and we want more kids. I hope I can feel some relief from the external pressure if I'm foster parenting (not that I'm doing it to relieve pressure, it will come with lots of stress of it's own, but I hope that it's an added bonus)
I'm single. I work to support myself, that's it. My purpose is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever.
If a wife is subject to her husband ( who is the head) and my husband does not complain about me working or working too much and I am functioning in the will of God, no man or woman has any right to dictate what I ought to do for my household except my husband. If the head of my household has qualms with me working then I need to address it but if he doesn’t and is okay with it and we are partnering together then I am still functioning within the confines of God. We have to consider economics nowadays if a husband is laid off or life happens ( perishes or gets in an accident) then what? we become homeless because I wanted to stay home? You should seek the face of the Lord and apply wisdoms and discernment. For some it is okay to do so but for some it is not so easy. Great talk and beautiful couple!
Good point. It's so hard to get a job, especially for older people nowadays. So if you don't have much of a work history, then all of a sudden you NEED a job, then good luck. The Lord does provide, but I would think He expects us to put the work in for ourselves first.
Exactly. I know many women myself included that faltered when her husband could not work or left and she had no work history. You have to be WISE. And seek God
YES! This right here. What you do in he home is between your spouse and God. People will have a lot to say. If God tells you to work, stay home, etc. you're balanced, husband is okay with it. You're coming home at a good time, not pulling a bunch of night hours, what's the crime? I'm with you. Use God + Wisdom + Discernment. I think many Christians I've met usually don't use the last two: wisdom and discernment. My mom told me, "Some things don't need prayer. God already told you what to do. You're just not being wise and using discernment." Changed my views on life.
Also want to add you said HUSBAND, not BOYFRIEND. A boyfriend shouldn't dictate a girlfriend to stop working (yes, I had one do this before). He cannot exercise authority. He's not married to her.
I think this is something that every woman should consult the LORD about directly. I used to think that all Christian women should be stay at home wives and was prepared to accept that reality for myself (this was partly influenced by what certain well respected pastors had said). However, as I began to seek the LORD for myself He revealed to me that my calling was to have a career and that I would bring Him glory through this particular career. There are many examples of woking women in the Bible, including the Proverbs 31 woman who had a business and Deborah who was a wife and a judge. Each woman should diligently seek the LORD for herself concerning this issue - some are called to be stay at home wives/mums and some are called to have careers. Both are absolutely fine.
Perspective noted and receptive.
Well, I guess it depends on your marital status. If you are married with children, you are called to be at home. Only single women with no supportive father or women who are done raising their children should work outside the home, tbh. And we are also called to submit to our own husbands, as unto the Lord.
@@thewifelife007 May God open your eyes and break you away from the rules humans have added to his words.
@@daisiesandpandas1218 It's in the Bible that wives should submit to their husbands and be keepers at home. When I gave birth to my 1st child, I naturally didn't want to go back to work. I no longer cared about a career. I cared about protecting my son from harm.
@@thewifelife007 I'm a single woman who has both a supportive father and mother. Also, like I mentioned, the Proverbs 31 woman was married with children while also having her own business and buying property with her own money. Also, who says you can't submit to your husband and have a career at the same time?
My wife and I were just listening to your message and we like the fact that you understand each married couple have different situations and to follow God's plan for you. Fortunately, for me I am retired and my wife's corporate office made it permanent for them to work from home. That gave my wife 3 hours of her day back and for me to spend time helping her by cooking, cleaning and just being together more. We do think God has a plan but you have to be patient and understand your needs and his will. I have become a better cook and we also eat better for our health. Thanks Allen and Jennifer for your message and stay safe.
Many Christians have unfortunate Bias against Atheist-TH-camrs, not even caring to try them.
This is very sad.
If you wanna be better and not live in an echo-chamber full of nothing but 'youre own people agreeing with you', then try the video 'Creationist kent Hovind Challenges Me, I Respond' from Genetically Modified Sceptic. If that video cant show you how polite and mature he is, then i dont know which can.
That TH-camr has countless christian-fans and i hope you give him a Try.
God is not mocked, every man will reap what he sows. We are told to trust in the Lord with all our hearts and lean not to our own understanding, in all our ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths. At the end of the day, if you are disobedient there are consequences to that and it doesn't matter what you have felt you have gained. God does not show partiality which is why He gives us all the same commands and you don't have some exemption. If you are comfortable making decisions without consulting the one you say you serve, you don't sound like a servant. You sound like you are in control and deciding what is best. He told the children of Israel not to play the harlot with themselves as they followed after their own hearts. You are no different from them thinking you can make all these decisions against God, being rebellious and yet in perfect peace. That is scary brother.
This is good.
Sometimes parents can groom their sons/daughters to be very ambitious and go getters in society without making them aware of how this can negatively impact their spouses or children
This has lead to severe competition with women and men in the work force and infidelity in marriages.
Ambitions are great when they line up with God’s plan
Well said 👏
I’m going to share your comment on social media. It’s beautifully written. Thank you.
@@xmochix604 appreciate that… all praises to God
Wow!! This is very accurate
I chose to stay home and raise my children, we didn’t have a lot of money but my husband supported that decision for me to stay home. I eventually opened a home daycare to add to our household income and still be able to be home and raise my children until they were teens.
Thats Dope!
God knows everything.
I love my family and I love my job, the Lord called me to be a mental health therapist and I enjoy my work. Is it difficult to do both, absolutely but with a supportive husband and with the Lord at the head, it can be done!
Preach sieter..
How do you know God called you to be a mental health therapist? I want to know my calling. I felt like being a mom was more important than a career when I had my first child, but I am open to know what other people think about Christian mothers working outside the home.
‘Amen’ so true
@@thewifelife007 Consistent daily prayer. Keep talking to God, keep asking about your destiny and guidance. Have faith he will answer. Repentance, thanksgiving and praise. Maybe also include fasting sometimes as well. Get in the word as well. But the importance of prayer is key. Spending time talking to the father, giving your heart to him. Asking him about things but also asking him for spiritual things like a softer heart, etc.
@@jesusisking3722 I study the Bible a lot and the verses about young women says we should be keepers at home. I feel like a lot of people just do what they want to do and they say God called them to do it. A lot of the time, God is calling us to do something that our flesh doesn't want to do.
I was very challenged by this. My mom and dad both worked ~50 hrs a week yet I never felt neglected and I was blessed with parents that loved each other and the Lord.
I guess where I struggle with this video is that I feel a lot of what Jennifer shared can be said about a husband who works a corporate job. I know a mother is naturally more nurturing but why should a woman sacrifice her desire to work and provide but a husband is enabled in his pursuits? I feel like this was more geared towards making sure your identity isn’t in a job but in God and his desires in your life. I would’ve appreciated more insight on why there seems to be more initiative on the wife to be the protector of a family. I know scripture says this and I will take scripture as ultimate authority but I would appreciate to know whether there was more benefit in having Jennifer nurturing the children more than Allen and more insight on why there is more focus on the wife being the keeper of the home.
It’s not about her desire but God’s will.
I like what you type. I feel there is more to this. My husband's home as a child was the opposite and I see the Love of God in his parents home. I guess it depends on each couple what works.Its just really gave the vibe that someone had to give up a dream to help another's dream.Her job could have propelled this show far bc of the connections she have. Well to each their own. They know what is best for them and who are we to say different.
Enabled in his pursuits, maybe, but yet his responsibility is immense-to provide for his family in all areas. Where he gets a reprieve a bit, is the wife taking care of the home and children while he’s out working. He can come home to love and comfort. I see God’s plan as the absolute best.
@@Mary-gc2py Facts and sometimes you can tell that the woman is so uncomfortable bc they want more.
@@Mary-gc2py according to scripture, what is God’s will for a wife? That should be our main concern, regardless of what we think or feel. Titus 2 gives a clear blueprint, and can be fleshed out differently in each marriage since each marriage is unique. But that’s a good starting place.
Family is such an important ministry! Honored to be a full time mother and wife 💖🙌🏾
Praise the Lord. It's a great privilege in doing God's will.
God bless you!!
its not an honour, not everyone wants that, what if his job ends unexpectedly and you have no job experience or qualifications ? its never safe to fully depend on sm1's money
@curlycurls7954 I could work and take care of my family if wanted to. The point is I don't have to nor want to 🤗
All women work . Some women work outside the house. Most work at home as a homemaker. Homemaking is a very difficult job.
Yep
Wow! This was right on time, God bless you all. I struggle with being home with my children because of the judgment and assumptions but I do feel that this is where God wants me to be. ❤️
I know exactly what you mean. We must do what's best for our family and block out all that outside noise. Keep praying and taking care of your household cus God gone take care of the rest.🙏
@@Jessica-ob9zp Amen
This was just amazing. It felt like Jen was talking to me. I also left the work force 7 years ago to be a stay at home and I've never been happier.
I'm glad that you mentioned that our identity should be found in Christ alone. Well Done guys. 🙂🙂
I so much fought this too and l got to learn that homemaking is a ministry, serving your family is an assignment from God and we have to know that we still have gifts that we can use from home( not easy but with God's guidance,we can). So heartfelt. Please sir please bless us with your wife once in a while 😁
I’m currently pregnant with my first child and I’ve been going back and forth with this topic. My husband has a child from a previous relationship and he pays child support which means that my income is important to our household even now that it’s mostly just the two of us. We both have decent jobs and I work 40 hrs a week, but it isn’t a guarantee that I will be working from home. I’ve always had the desire to stay home with my children and homeschool them but the further along I am in my pregnancy, I see that this idea I’ve had about being a SAHM is becoming more of a fantasy and less of a reality. I’ve talked to my husband about this and I know he doesn’t say it outright but he needs my income even after this baby comes. I loved this video and I will continue to pray and remind myself that my identity is in Christ, always and forever. Many blessings to the Parr family ❤️
Dacee Lee, I know from personal experience that if you trust God and do it His Way, HE will make a way. We have no idea what God will do until we totally (100%) turn everything over to him. I'm praying for you, dear.
I pray God directs your heart to fulfill your purpose. Just remember its not for you to make up for the income loss by the support. That's your husband's job. Even if he has to find another job or side business to make it work. Just continue to pray about it God will give you the desires of your heart if you stay close to Him.
@@AllGoodeGifts Very encouraging; this encouraged me in my situation too
I can relate to you. My husband has 3 other children and pays child support and we have 3 children together. It is difficult but God has provided me with a job I can do from home but it still pulls me away from the kids and my husband is gone at work all day everyday and only has Sundays off. But we are making it work for now. I pray your situation will work out where you can be home with your baby. God bless.
@@crystalrose4296 thank you love. I’ll be praying for you as well I appreciate the encouragement and the understanding. May God continue blessing you and your family.
I'll be honest, I was going to skip this one. However, Jennifer's word to the three types of women (single in my case) really spoke to me (as did the rest of the video). Thanks for your obedience.🙏🙌
I might be wrong but the Bible doesn't say to work at home exclusively. We have to take care of our kids, manage the finances, and cook just like our hubbies. Jesus revealed to me at a very young age, even through a prophet that my calling is to be a doctor and my heart has always been drawn to medicine. The Proverbs 31 woman worked at home and outside home. Scripture doesn't contradict Scripture.
Amen
You're false, and instead of accepting God's word and the biblical plan for marriage you'd rather throw it to the side in your idolatry and say "I know better".
A prophet? Lol. If God had any say in your life he would have just pointed you to titus 2 all along. You wanted to be doctor. That "prophet" lied. You can do whatever you want, who cares? But don't pull God into your life and try to justify it. Again, you can do whatever you want and choose to do what works for your family. But if you want God's ultimate say, it'd be simply quit your job and stay at home. That's it. Titus 2.
@@Xavier-lk4gs Amen brother, this is so true. The more women truly desire to live in "Idolatry" and do what is right in their own eyes, they must realize that there are severe consequences to such actions.
Look at the story of Ruth, if she did not have Boaz as a protector, provider, and then an eventual spouse...
She was protected from poverty, from sexual abuse such as rape, protected from working with men in the field, and even though she worked for a time she knew God's plan and that is to be "Fruitful and multiply" having children is extremely important especially to one's future.
Not having children will result in a fruitless home, an almost seemingly empty home, for children are a blessing of the Lord.
Needless to say, women don't understand in the short term just how many possible dangers they open themselves up to, when they say (I want a career over God's plan).
May God have mercy on us, as a nation.
She’s GLOWING. That’s a man taking care of his wife I see y’all.
I’ve been a stay at home mom and homeschooler for 3 years now. I’ve just recently started getting restless and probably not feeling self worth in what I’m doing, also doubting if what I do for my kids is what they need fully. This video couldn’t have been posted at a better time.
I can relate. Thank you for sharing.
If I May, ‘Blessings’ to you both for your transparency of your marriage and your dedication towards each other. Blessings.
God first, spouse (s) second. Nothing and No one should ‘never’ divide the aforementioned two. Blessings
I would love for the Parr’s to cover how can single women find their purpose? What are the steps? Also another one, when you feel stuck emotionally and spiritually what can you do? This was amazing and hi Mrs. Parr you and hubby are doing God’s work with this ministry and I’m so excited to be apart of it!
Thank you. Im over here like finally someone asked the question i wanted to know
Hon, read your Bible and pray to God. If you are a Believer, the Holy Spirit will lead you and guide you into all truths. Do not lean on any one man or woman before you have consulted your ultimate Guide. A single woman's purpose is no different than a married woman or man. We are all to serve and care for our own bodies and care for others and tend to our relationship with our Heavenly Father. In a married woman's case, she serves her family and herself and the body same thing as a husband. You just serve in a different sector and your singleness is a gift as Paul says as you can have your heart devoted to God, as all married people should as well. But often marriage is a vehicle of distraction, especially if it is a good marriage. A bad marriage can make some run to God.
i dunno if there are "steps" which sound formulaic. i would say that scripture already gives us so much to do in our day to day. i would start by doing those things while praying and fasting that God gives you wisdom in the midst of your obedience to what He had already said.
People tend to stress tooo much on “purpose.” You NEED to continue to seek and nurture your relationship with the Holy Spirit. As you do that He will guide you in All Truth. Your purpose maybe on your job being the Light in the dark places. Don’t stress. Just spend time strengthening your spirit man and cultivating your relationship with Jesus.🙂
@@bobbiharwell you're right. Im a bus driver. I meet so many people that i pray for bc they are so depressed, broken, addicted, and hurting.
You can tell a lot about a man as you listen to his wife and watch her interaction with him. Happy to see Allen’s bride. Surprised your only married for 3’years. I just buried my bride of 27 years and praise God for her impact upon my life, home and ministry. The Lord blessed is with 5 children. Sadly, I buried her Dec. 18th.
It looks like you two have a great future ahead of you. Keep up the good work Allen. Glad to see you guys are bi-vocational. We see the same for most of our marriage.
I believe a Christian woman’s first priority should and must be her home. Husband first, then children. This creates true legacy and provides so many ways to Glorify the Lord.
Thanks sister Parr for your transparency. You loved your job and got affirmation from it. Yet realized that affirmation should come from the Lord and your call to the home - first.
At the same time, I understand the challenge for so many families to survive or live on one income. Yet, the Lord blessed this sacrifice. My wife was able to homeschool our 3 older children (age 24-26). I believe their homes and families will be eternally impacted by this sacrifice by my wife.
I believe when God’s people walk by faith, based on a biblical understanding of scripture, He blesses.
Sister Parr’a comments at the 18:09 mark is something every woman of God and every Christian family should understand and appreciate.
When we see how much time and effort it takes to raise children that fear God, using the prescription is Deut. 4, 6 and 11, most of us don’t have enough to fight against the negative and sinful influences of the world.
NOTE: Deut 6 for example:
When you talk, sit, lie down or rise up…
This sounds like 24/7. And can be why there is so much failure in Christian.homes. Statistics show that more than 90% of children raised in “Christian homes” walk away from the things of God, by college.
Deu 6:5 And thou shalt love the LORD thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.
Deu 6:6 And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:
Deu 6:7 And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
Thanks for this video. I pray it’s helpful to many.
You mean christian married women. I dont have a family or kids. My job is to work with under proviledged kids. I have taught for 20 years.
@@misss7758 Yes. Christian married women. Good catch. Though I would add being single there are many things that can be learned from Godly married women. No need to wait for marriage to change thinking and make adjustments.
Thank you Jennifer! I love hearing from wives of successful men.
You have no idea how perfect the timing of this is in my life. I have been praying on this exact topic. Thank you so much Mr. and Mrs. Parr for being so open and honest.
It's good to see you and your wife discussing such a sensitive issue, however, it's okay to work outside the home but you have to be able to have worklife balance. You must be able to leave work at work and not bring it home especially taking it in the bedroom.
Work-life balance is especially important. If you're working that hard for that many hours because you need it in order for the famly to survive. Then fine, but still not preferrable. But if youre doing that by choice when you clearly dont need the money, that is an issue. And that goes for men and women.
This is great! My husband and I just had this conversation last night. I’m in a season where my job ended abruptly, and I’m torn between returning to the workforce or staying home. Thank you Holy Spirit for leading the Parrs to create this video and post it at this time.
This video really touched me--even being in a totally different season/career-type. The Holy Spirit always majorly uses Jennifer to speak to a special part of my soul---and I know that is true for so many other women. Thank you both, so much, for this amazing interview!
Omg this what we are going through now! My husband and I are getting ready to parent 5 children! I have hit that point in my life to where I'm ready to come back home!! Thank you for bringing up this conversation!
I love this so much! As a wife and mother of two young children, I would love to hear you two speak about raising children biblically and how to help young children grow in their faith.
Thank you for sharing this encouraging video. I've been a WAH, homeschooling mom to our 5 kids for 20+ years. As they moving into adulthood I can look back and not regret being home with my kids.
I loved this interview! Hearing from Jennifer was so refreshing. We do need to examine our identity in Christ first while laying aside all of the trappings of the world. I would love to hear more about what that looks like after you’ve dismantled all of the distractions.
I needed to hear this!! Jennifer When you and your husband talked about where do you find your identity, God was using you guys to speak directly to me! I am praying for you ministry, and that you help others as you have helped me. Continue to thrive and let God use you as vessels for his glory. Thank you guys, and I look forward to hearing you guys again.
What a dynamic duo! This has been on my heart and I’m so appreciative of you making this video. Loved hearing Jennifer’s journey. Her honesty is beautiful and so refreshing
All I can say is “To God all the Glory” and praise! I thank God for your obedience to share this word and experience with all of us and I am so thankful for this message because it is an one time word! Confirmation from the Holy Spirit 🎯
This was wonderful! Thanks to your beautiful wife for speaking from the heart on this topic ❤ 🙏 I'm not married, no kids, but it still edified me!
This was absolutely PRICELESS!! Thank you both for sharing. May the Father continue to bless ya'lls marriage and ministry. Thanks again.
S-ist though. Blatantly so.
So grateful to you for your message celebrating housewives snd stay-at-home moms.
So happy to see a husband & wife working together in ministry.
Blessings to the Parr Family.
I’ve never had the option to not work. I would have loved a good husband and been a stay at home mom. But my life didn’t turn out that way. Alone single mom who’s had to work my butt off. Men from my father on down have failed me my whole life. My Father in heaven is the man in my life now.
Awww it's so lovely to see Jennifer on the channel. Can't wait to watch. ❤
This is really good. I am a single Christian woman, and I love this interview and the part she gave each different type of woman an encouraging word.
I feel so blessed to have found a balance between work and motherhood. God directed my path to a career that allows me to work part time so that I have the capacity to "do it all." My husband is happy with our arrangement, my children are healthy and happy. I am so blessed. Of course the daily stressor are still there. But in reality I do have that balance and capacity and am so thankful to Jesus!
Before I got married, I worked as a journalist and a school teacher for a few years. I enjoyed my time. However, always in the back of my mind, I knew that once I got married, I wanted to be a stay home mom and possibly work from home, if needed. I can honestly say, it is the toughest most rewarding job God has designed for us. I love love love investing everything I got into my family now. God bless ladies and enjoy this beautiful honorable role God has given us. (I did also want to emphasize that even church ministry can take up all of your time. Be aware that home is first and then serve in one thing only, at your capacity).
I don’t think this is very applicable in certain parts of the world where the economy is bad and both parties need to work just to put food on the table. Also sending the children to better schools is expensive. Ild love to hear more on how to balance work life as a woman with being a present wife and mother.
I really needed this message. I've been struggling with work/life balance and have actually been discussing this with my husband as current as an hour ago. Great message!!
What a blessing and encouragement! I was like that, all about my job and always said I would not stay home, I thought that was too much work. Until they put my first child on my arms, all those thoughts went away. God has a way of using our children. Never thought I’d be home and homeschooling and loving it! Having my husband’s support is amazing!
I love you guys doing this together!! You are a beautiful couple. This video was so helpful for the married people, especially myself as I am going through this same situation. Good video for singles too, looking to get married and start families!!
Loved this conversation. Thanks for bringing your gorgeous wife on the show to offer some insight that many Christian households face. Blessings always!
This was amazing. Thank you so much for the advice. My wife and I were talking about this situation right when you uploaded this video. Glory to God. God bless you both.
I'm 65 and I always worked outside. I now watch my grandchildren for awhile. I'm not the kind of woman that can be around kids 24/7. They make me crazy. I guess because I was raised as an only child in the middle of no where and there were no kids around me. Even when I was a kid other kids made me nuts. So, for my own mental health I had to be away from my kids for awhile so when I was around them I was not a total nut case. My boys both grew up to be great men and I don't feel like I missed being with them. Also, my husband walked out on me and left me as a single mother with no help from him. So I had to be their everything.
WOWWWW. I'm single with a teen and got sooo much out of this..placing my worth in my home, money and physical..Eye opening this is the reason why my peace is disturbed. TY
This was so beautifully done. I’m an attorney and feeling the conviction hard to be home with my husband and son. But I will be in prayer!
Wow thank you for sharing!!!
In 2020 God spoke to me clearly during private prayer and worship.
1)’Give me your doctors uniform’
I saw my entire career flash before me and how I had not been pointing the patients/ staff to Christ. How many had I told that they needed to repent and put their trust in the Lord? I immediately handed over my scrubs to the Lord and I wept.
2)’Will you remain my golden candle?’
3)’You better go and declare yourself a missionary’.
And since then to the glory of God I have been a stay at home mum as well as an Intercessor and a street preacher.
I have even had the great privilege of leading former patients to Christ!!! 🕊
Praaaaaise the Lord!!!
I have also had the privilege of writing and directing a Christian film. 🎥 🍿
I can’t thank God enough for giving me a supportive ( really patient )
and loving husband who works full time and supports what I do.
THANK YOU JESUS!!!!
PS: In the book of revelation 1:20 it explains the meaning of golden candlesticks…In case anyone wants clarification…
“The mystery of the seven stars which thou sawest in my right hand, and the seven golden candlesticks. The seven stars are the angels of the seven churches: and the seven candlesticks which thou sawest are the seven churches.”
Thank you and may God bless you as you pray, listen to His voice and obey. Amen.
This is a great discussion! Thank you for being so transparent and sharing your journey with us.
Thank you for doing this video together! It was a delight to listen to your experiences...an encouragement I needed in this season. 💗
Perfect conversation perfect timing. I'm not married nor have kids yet but halfway in a degree that is a time consuming career. I've really been thinking of kids and how my career would possibly interfere with my children's stages where they would need me the most. I'm puzzled at the moment but I know God will plant me where he wants me.
I appreciate this video but I have to say that some reasons for things that make it hard for women to work can also hinder men. In other words women aren’t the only ones that have consider their “capacity”. I know men are suppose to provide but they can’t completely ignore the home. Men are called to love their wives, that requires time. Men are called to rear their children, that requires time. Men are required to follow and grow in the Lord, that also requires time. I think both men and women have to consider their work/balance and responsibilities that go with them.
Bro. Allen and Sis. Jennifer, I really enjoyed this! Thank you! I'm a working mum who is constantly balancing the scales of mum, wife, and working girl life and I pray I continue to hear from God about this. Thanks once again and stay blessed!
Great conversation. This is much needed in today's relationships, balance, wisdom and God centeredness. Beautiful job.
It's a joy to see the humbled heart even if it took time to get there.
This was so beneficial in shedding light on my current situation. I’m a working Mom looking to be make my way back home. I hope my husband and I can come up with a plan on making that happen so that I can fulfill God’s purpose in my life… having the capacity to pour into my marriage and kids.
Thank you both and God bless!
Thank you all so much! I've been wanting to meet your wife, so yay for her being able to join you! ❤ You are so right about the importance of truly knowing our identity apart from what we do. Even as a stay at home mom for 16 years, I have struggled with that at times...you seem to do do do for everyone else...and oftentimes for nothing in return! 🤪 I always check myself and question what would be my motives for having a career when those tempting thoughts creep into my mind... My answers are always for (extra) money and to get accolades/praise. Even though staying home and homeschooling your kids is the most thankless job in our culture, I've never been able to justify the unseen worth behind it compared to my selfish reasons for going back to work. Thank you both for sharing!!
This was so needed in the season I am in and was such an encouragement. Thank you for sharing your journey!
I love that you guys kept it 100% real with how life really plays out. I think it’s great for a woman to work and pursue her dreams but being a wife and mother is number 1. When her kids get older she can always go back to her career like my sister is doing. ❤️
Hey Jessica Miller get ready 4 slavery Esau!
What about couples that can't have kids? You're silly...
@@wefinnasee7067 what does that have to do with my comment?
Thank you so much for the testimony. When she said, that joy should come from God, I started crying as I never cried. I have always been a working wife, and mother. I had to go to the office, and at that time, I was unhappy, because I was missing everything about my kids. Then, I started working from home 100%. no more day care I said. I was happy for a few weeks, but the reality came back. I was home but busy working. Then, I took 2 weeks without working, to see how it would feel. That is when I realized what Jennifer said: I was putting my faith and basing my happiness on something else than God.
Now, I still try to manage working at home (for now), and raising the kids, and homeschooling then, and taking care of my husband and my house. But for sure, we are not perfect. It is important to focus on God and be thankful for what he allows us to do each day. But I agree completely with Jennifer, guarding our home is THE JOB, THE BEST JOB. Now, I am looking forward to being a complete stay-at-home mother (no more too much computer :) ). I like something Voodie Baucham said in one preaching: even if a married woman works, she needs to make sure her job does not prevent her from doing her TRUE JOB God called her for (all those points Jennifer pointed from Titus). Of, course, same for men. their job or business should not prevent them from performing their other JOBs and responsibility that God called them to do for their family. But the society today has made marriage a toxic place, where men are not there, and women are not there. Especially, us women, it seems like we are not there anymore, where we are supposed to be.
Love how authentic these conversations are. Keeps things feeling real and not up for comparison.
This video brang me to tears, I’m so grateful for you guys. This is literally a testimony, praise God!!
This is so inspiring! My desire is to be a stay at home mom, be submissive to my husband and most importantly have Christ be the center of our home! I can’t wait to meet the man God has for me to raise, homeschool, and teach our kids in the things of the Lord!
Authentic ,genuine, honest.. what a blinking awesome interview. Very balanced. More Jennifer please Allen! Your wait for a stunning wife; very humbling. Plus she's rocking the caramel, neutral modest attire. 5 stars!
Many Christians have unfortunate Bias against Atheist-TH-camrs, not even caring to try them.
This is very sad.
If you wanna be better and not live in an echo-chamber full of nothing but 'youre own people agreeing with you', then try the video 'Creationist kent Hovind Challenges Me, I Respond' from Genetically Modified Sceptic. If that video cant show you how polite and mature he is, then i dont know which can.
That TH-camr has countless christian-fans and i hope you give him a Try.
@@slevinchannel7589 atheism is a lie and atheists live in fantasy land; constantly philosophizing. God is real and he loves you beyond your wildest imagination. Just believe in him. Believing in nothing/yourself doesn't make sense and it's very dangerous because none of us has all the answers. It's good and healthy to believe in something outside of yourself that is greater than you; and that thing is God. You're welcome.
I loved hearing from you guys on this ❤️ my husband and I went through the same thing several years ago, where with our growing family, my job just didn’t make sense anymore. Man I mourned my job, I loved it, I was good at it and respected there. But now we are so glad with our slower paced simple family life.