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Denial of Undeniable Menopause - 62
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ส.ค. 2024
- Denial. It’s such a common thing ... especially when it comes to menopause! But isn’t it a shame that women deny the undeniable? And why is it that instead of rejoicing over the fact that we live long enough to even become menopausal, we grieve over becoming menopausal. In this video tutorial, I’ll teach you about the five stages of grieving, and apply them to menopause.
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I never really understood why my friends did not engage in my attempts to talk and share experiences regarding menopause. Now it is all clear. Thank you.
Interesting, isn't it. Now you'll recognize denial of menopause in the majority of women. It's an odd thing, but oh so common.
Dear Spa Critic!! Congratulations! There is a time to fend off those whose welcome curiosity is driven by a very selfish, narcissistic desire to get free help, that blinds them to the inappropriateness and harm they cause you! I live with a career that draws similar responses. My colleague and best friend, Loma K. Flowers, a psychiatrist, responded to my need to figure a way to fend off the curios/needy. She said she uses lines like: "Oh Oh, it sounds like you are4 about to ask a question that makes work. I better tell you that they double or triple in overtime at parties." She is a woman of great charm and this response said with humor seems to bring many people to their senses!
Adding on to my comment yesterday now that I have watched this today, I will amend my statement: Now I believe yesterday should be number one to watch and then this should be number two. Then, the other videos in order. Women need this video to look directly in the mirror type approach first before they can stick with staying in acceptance and not crawling in and out of the other 4 stages of grief. Well, done Menopause Barbie (Dr. Taylor)! Bravo!
You make me laugh, my dear. I have a feeling you're going to be adjusting the "best order list" a lot as you continue to watch these videos in order.
Lol 😂 You crack me up with the dolls head in the sand! I love your sense of humor. When I gave a woman I know your video, she told me “ Let this be our secret “ , I thought that was so strange that she would say that , but, after watching this video, I understand that there are those who are unfortunately in denial. This was a fantastic presentation, I love the way you explain things. I appreciate and thank you for all you do. ❤️Anya
Thank YOU, Anya, for letting me know that this education is really working for you. And the secrecy is really absurd, isn't it!
I couldn’t agree more. I’ve tried to share these videos with a couple friends and I get no where! Oh well, I’ll keep on watching and learning!
The more you learn, the more you'll pity your friends who stay clueless. It will be difficult to watch them stay stuck in the mud, and you'll want so badly to pull them out. But, sometimes you care about someone more than they care about themselves. It's really sad.
I actually tried to share these videos with a friend of mine who is an osteopath. She claims she went through menopause just fine (age 52) and this stuff isn't anything she doesn't already know anyway!
Grrrrrrrr
I've Been out of the loop for a couple of weeks, I'm catching up with your last two videos. Sooooo, interesting was the history of menopause! Knowing we are living so much longer than we "should" be, is huge. I also never realized that there were women that denied their menopause. When one is having hot flashes regularly, it's sort of hard to deny! LOL… However thinking about it, I realize now I have been in the presence of many women who were fighting it tooth and toenail! Lol. So, once again I thank you dear Dr. Barbie, I had to laugh when you said you were a spa expert, and your colleague, a plumber's wife. LOL I love you!
I've missed you, Cindy. I hope you were on a great vacation.
You'll really start recognizing how much denial there is once you know the signs. In fact, it's more common that simple acknowledgement of menopause.
I'm glad you're back, and I love your comments.
Learning, Empowering & Preparing! 🙋♀️
You will be so glad you prepared yourself in advance. I wish all women would do the same.
I think when I found you I wasn't as much in 'denial' as I was uninformed. Here in Cincinnati, you get told these "symptoms" are all "just par for the course!" I can not find properly informed or experienced physicians anywhere around me that have any other attitude. It's a very real issue that is being unacceptably ignored here. One gets the very REAL impression that like 'pregnancy' Menopause is to be viewed as a NATURAL phase for a woman to get through and since it's "natural" it requires no treatment and is to be looked at as an unavoidable, yet NATURALLY progressive condition for females in this age bracket. I think many are choosing to be mentally myopic regarding this stage of life. Signed;
Hoping For Change in Cincinnati!
I think menopause is a grossly neglected topic. There is absolutely NO reason you should feel like you just have to deal with it. Mother Nature intended for you to experience pregnancy. She didn't intend for you to experience menopause.
Do you think it would be the same if men had menopause instead of women?
This is such a good subject! Denial is coupled with desperation! Powerful statement!
That is true across the board! I am a rape survivor and I see it all the time in a support group I used to lead!
I suggested your page to a friend who got mad at me! I really did not expect her too she talks about anything and everything. Except menopause now I know! She has balance issues, and some other issues that have no real diagnosis. I suggested she watch and she got mad. I think its denial because she is a lesbian. She might think lesbians don't get menopause. Except they do!
Sissy Bob! Great name! :)
Yes I know about the 5 stages of grieving.
I personally do not live in denial about most things. As far as menopause I was thrilled initially! I was more shocked at how bad it is than anything else!
All I ever hear from anyone including friends complain of is hot flashes.
I almost wish I had them!
With a severe fracture and tumor they are getting off easy IMO!
I had no idea though in peri menopause I started reading and trying to educate myself but it was such a taboo subject that all I read or heard about is hot flashes! Drives me crazy now!.
Again I never had hot flashes) but with a fracture and parathyroid tumor and all of the sickness that caused I was in shock to find out it was menopause that put me at risk for those things even after a few doctors telling me specifically because me and my hubby both asked.
The doctors said they had nothing at all to do with menopause!
It took me doing my own research and having consultations with an Osteoporosis expert for him to see my tests and labs and to educate me about the parathyroid and fracture and how Estradiol could help me.
Not one of my doctors who I constantly told about how I needed some medical intervention told me or wanted to help except my GYN.
Anyway I observe people in my people I know how denial ends up killing people ,killing relationships, killing health and on and on denial is a killer! It doesn't matter what the subject is and quite frankly I personally think it leads to mental illness and you ca't be mentally healthy if you are in denial about anything! Just my opinion!
Thank you for your hard work on this!
My hubby has very little extra time and spends that time with me. He could have been doing anything but he said lets watch Barbie! I wish I knew about you when I was in peri menopause but I am glad to learn now!
Thanks again!
I always say, "Hot flashes never killed anyone. But heart attacks are the number one killer of menopausal women.
I also tell women that they are not "lucky" if they don't have hot flashes. That's because hot flashes commonly drive women to get help; and in so doing, they discover that menopause is about a lot more than hot flashes.
Very wise words. Always better to know than not to know. I hit my health issues straight on, right away esp when it comes to my hormones. I want something to make me feel better ASAP! lol
You're a no nonsense gal. Be true to yourself. Do it your way!
I feel fortunate that I didn't go through all of those stages or that I didn't know what was happening when it all started. I did, and while it made me a little sad that that part of my body wasn't working anymore the way it used to, I figured I would just ride it out. I wasn't in the type of situation other women have been in where my mother never talked about her menopause journey. She did, and I'd had fleeting conversations with other females in my family, but I also wasn't nearly as informed as I should be and it took me about a year to figure that part out. I'm glad I did!
This is the menopause education that all women deserve. My dream is for all women to get it in their 20s!
@@MenopauseTaylor Agreed! I hope that dream becomes a reality. I wish I'd been more informed when I was younger, but I'm so glad to know what I do now, after binging on dozens of your videos (with hundreds still left to go - haha).
@@CynsCorner Every woman who gets this education wishes she's had it sooner.
Great information Dr. Barbie. Thanks for sharing. Blessings. 🌺
You're always welcome. Thank you for commenting.
Dear Dr Barbie,
Every subject you choose is great! I'm usually not in denial just my head is in books or work so until recently I didn't think about my health at all. Then, after 35th birthday I've started to realize that things are not the same specially when the problem with joints, Hashimoto, tiredness and being unsuccessful to loose weight it became so obvious I've waken up and started to do something about my health.
I knew that menopause will happen eventually but any time I was talking about it with my female friends they would say that it's to early to talk about it because I look younger than I am. Since I'm a nerd I love to be prepared for the future. Your suggestion about a breast checking has opened my eyes. As you might know already I love to learn. Thank you so much! best regards, Jelena
Jelena,
You are so smart to educate yourself about your future health long before you're in the midst of the change. My goal is to educate all women beforehand. It can make such a positive difference for everybody.
I applaud you.
Haha, this is so true! I am in stage 4 right now but well on my way into stage 5 because of you : )
You see? You're normal and you are learning how to use this information to your advantage.
What great stories. I cant help but laugh with you because your laugh is contagious.
I'm glad you can laugh while you learn. I want your menopause to be fun.
Yup...thought I was to young to be approaching menopause back in the day! You are on target with this topic :-). What better way to accept menopause then to watch the expert. Thank you Dr. Barbie :-).
Ah, you're so welcome, my dear.
I don’t understand denying menopause. We all know it’s coming and other than the side effects, I welcome it. The alternative is like MT said, a dirt nap.
I was in denial for a 10years. I came to my Doctor with several symptoms throughout the years and she said Perimenopause. I said no this ain’t gonna happen. You got the wrong person. 🥳🤣. Now I finally admitted it and thanked her for the answer.
You are so very welcome, my dear. Now you are ready to learn how to take control and make the rest of your life the best of your life.
This presentation is so funny and entertaining and true. Menopause happens. Deal with it. Thank you for arming us with menopause knowledge so we can choose our own paths.
You are so very welcome, Diane. This education really is a form of power. I call it "Menopower."
That was fantastic ! Love you
I'm so glad you enjoyed it, my dear Donna.
Very true, Dr. Barbie and in many areas of life...
It makes you stop & think a bit, doesn't it!
As always your making total sense. Wise words indeed, especially about breast checking.
Yep. Its always best to deal with things realistically. The biggest fear is the unknown. And even when you're not happy about something, it's better to deal with it than to be in the dark about it.
Shared you and the news that I was in menopause with my girls. I’m the youngest, I was the last to turn 21, but the first to go through this. Still haven’t heard from one of them- denial.
If you ever reorganize your videos- this should be near the front.
I am so glad you're getting this education on menopause! It's what you deserve. It's a shame that most women don't realize how much they need it. And it's also a shame that most women refuse to watch my videos in order, which sabotages their menopause education. But, hopefully, little by little, women will wake up & get empowered.
Love ya barbie menopause I’m laughing. At this. Ur so good.
You are so kind. Thank you for taking advantage of this education and enjoying it so much.
I think my initial feeling was wonder and confusion. I had never met or heard of women entering menopause in their mid thirties. Being told on the same day that I could not be pregnant and that I was menopausal at age 35 were a shock! A lot of thoughts in my head all mixed together; what will happen to my body now? How will life be without kids? What do I know about menopause? Who can I talk to? Was the premature menopause the reason that I could not get pregnant or have I been infertile my whole life? Now at 43 I know that some of these questions will never be answered, but at least I get to have a lot of knowledge on menopause to do my menopause my way💛.
I understand all the feelings and questions you had when you experienced premature menopause. I only wish I had been providing this education back then. I would have helped you through the quandary of it all.
Menopause Taylor Thank you. I have been on Estradot for 3 months and have stopped to take the progresteron Provera for 14 days (30 mg each day) to get a bleeding. I have now taken Provera for 11 days without any bleeding. Is there any "rule" to have long it is supposed to take? I am beginning to feel the positive effects that the estrogen has, because I feel miserable without😨.
Same experience, had menopause diagnosed at 35 too. It is definitely a shock.
Yoo-hoo! LOL. You'll be proud of me when I tell you I have schedule several appointments for the following: Follow-up mammography for previous concerns, Echo for a murmur, and a US for the corodid arteries. It's very liberating! I'm always on top of my health. Prevention is the best medication!
You're truly taking charge of ensuring that the rest of your life is the best of your life. It should feel good. And I'm very proud of you. I love getting to know you.
This is correct !!
And unfortunate!!
This whole menopause thing is horrible . The depression , the sadness . And it doesn't stop . And to think I have to suffer now for the rest of my life .
Stacy,
It doesn't have to be that way. It can actually be the very best time of your life. It all depends on education.
Please let me help you. If you come to my seminar, or get my seminar on DVD, or read my book, or watch these videos in order, you'll learn that there is so much you can do to make everything much better. I really want to turn things around for you. The message is NOT that you have to be miserable for the rest of your life. The message is that you will need to manage your menopause for the rest of your life.
But with this education, you can do a wonderful job. The only alternative is death.
It's just really hard since it's already ruined so much already that I have nothing else to lose anymore . I did look up to buy your book I can't afford that right now but on my next paycheck I'm going to buy it. I lost the love of my life over menopause and I've cried for almost 2 years thinking I will never see him again and why did this happen to me , why did I feel like I was going crazy and push away everything around me ? It's been a hard time for me .
Let's work on this, Stacy. I believe in turning negatives into positives. When things aren't going well in life, find something you can do that would not have been possible if everything had just stayed "fine."
Where do you live? I'm in Houston, where we're heavily in disaster mode after Hurricane Harvey. It's been really tragic. So many enduring such hardship, myself included. But through all the tears, I just keep declaring that something good just has to come of all this. I refuse to believe otherwise.
I promise you that you have a lot to live for and a lot to offer others. Let's figure out how to channel your talents into something wonderful.
Hang tough Stacy & think of all you've come through so far and what that has meant to your loved ones. I too am having a rough go of it, but know that you are being heard, your life matters, and you're worth ALL the effort you can muster, girlfriend! ;-)
Thank You
It's my pleasure!
BRAVA,BRAVISSIMA!
Thank you, my dear.
Almost forgot to mention this....Dermatologist visit as well :-). I have it all covered!
So,... you know everything!
Not hardly. But it sure is fun to keep on learning.
I can safely say I'm not in denial! It fact that when my girl parts were ripped out (ok, skillfully ripped out in a surgically precise way) on May 11 that it was going to happen!
I've accepted it's happening! Next step after surgery follow up is to get a gyno and get bioidentical meds to help....decided that's what I need to go with as I've got Type 2 Diabetes, high blood pressure and some of the herbal and botanicals side effects would be bad for me....
You do have to take all these things into consideration in choosing your management options for menopause. And you already know that's what I do in consultations.
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I kinda feel sad about the whole process. Go figure. Lol
Sad? Oh, please don't feel sad. Be happy that you get to live so long.
So true, ive had fleeting logical thoughts of the loss of fertility but yesterday I felt the loss at the truth that its the end of my reproductive life because menopause is here. Me and my husband of two and a half years have been unsuccessful in conceiving and now its the end if the road. Im not fine with it and i will grieve. But here she is. Okay ovaries lets talk about the vacation you're going to have for the rest of my life.