Menopause and Divorce - 66
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- Sure, we’ve all heard about or witnessed divorces during midlife. But how much do you really know about them? Do you know the real cause of divorce during menopause? It might surprise you to discover that there are actually sociologic and physiologic bases for the connection between menopause and divorce. Join me in this video to learn the facts.
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Boy you really hit the nail on the head for my 26 year marriage. In the past 10 months both my husband and I lost our fathers within 3 months of each other. It blew our marriage wide open. I told him it was over, saw an attorney, had all the divorce paperwork filled out. Somehow we made it through and are doing quite well. Grief and menopause are a powerful force for a woman.
It's so helpful to understand why you feel the way you do at various times in your life. And it's so wonderful to know you're normal.
Sharon, I feel you in that my husband's mom whom we helped take care of passed away and then my dad (whom I felt guilt about for moving to a different state to help my new hubby raise his boys) passed 7 months later. We have his ex who (tries to) cause us a lot of turmoil even though she is with someone else and she left him (maybe she was menopausal?) and 4 adult kids between us, my perimenopause, his andro, a job loss, new job, life events, and now looking to move back so i can spend time with my mama since she is aging and to help with our grandbaby. Life is never boring and I tell you, God being that third and central strand in our braided 3 strand marriage is what helps us hold it all together. We are both Christians and sadly both left God out a lot at the end of our previous long-term marriages, but God has brought us through and or bond is unbelievably close. We were very good friends in high school and friendship carries you it seems when other stuff rocks the boat. Glad you and your hubby worked it out.
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My wife is doing this pushing a loving caring man away
Hey man. Going through same. Roller coaster for sure. I know you can't take it personally. Chin up. @derrickmoon3296
You are absolutely correct about how menopause changes the way you view your relationships and its not just your marriage. Almost all of my close relationships went through a thorough evaluation and some of them survived and others did not. This video should be mandatory viewing for any couple going through menopause. In menopause the leeches get pulled off. Thank you so much for what you are doing!
You are so very welcome. I just tell the truth about everything.
Mother nature? no purpose? God the father , we created in His image,,read the Bible . We are valued through out life, as in many cases menopause, craziness - hot flash symptoms are non existent when switched carnivore diet. Love patience ,perseverance,deep relationships into old age.
Sounds like Menopause in the devil. Don’t let the devil win !
Turn to the good Lord instead. With God you can get through anything. He loves you, you just got to be willing to trust in him. You are strong, you got this. 💪🏼🙏🏼💪🏼❤
This video made so much sense. Went through my divorce a few years ago sad to say. I so enjoy your videos. You always seem to feel my pain. Thank you, I’m not alone!
No, my dear, you are not alone. And it's always good when you understand whitings happen the way they do. I love the fact that you share yourself with me.
My wife has all of symptoms and even last year kept telling me that she's experiencing menopausal symptoms and had a partial hysterectomy at the beginning of this year and yes she is putting me and our children through hell with an unfortunate divorce, and yes I am the cause of it all in her mind that is not in reality.
OMG, this is one of your most hilarious videos! I so can relate to everything you discussed. You are awesome!
It makes sense, doesn't it! And, so many women find it a relief that their sentiments have a biologic basis. I am just so glad this helps you.
This was funny & informative! I was married when I was 17 years old and I am still married to the same man. As a young person he always let me be my own person and I am very thankful for that. The human body is a real mystery and very interesting how things work! Thank you so much!😍
I'm glad you enjoyed it, and I'm thrilled that you have a happy marriage.
You are a great teacher, thank you for the wisdom you impart.
You are so very welcome, my dear. I just love giving you this education that you deserve.
This is a one of the most informative video I've found on the subject. It really would be very helpful if you can make some more in-depth videos on the same topic. What to do? What are the signs? Is there any hope? What are the stages? Is this a temporary situation and if so how long this will last? Some real stories. etc. Many marriages or relationships are broken because of this and people are confused not knowing what is really going on or what to do! We really need more guidance and practical information to be able to handle and overcome the situation and if not at least have a better understanding or better prepared for this. Thank you.
I'm laughing so hard I can't breathe, hilarious! I shared this with my husband who didn't find it as funny.
Well, of course not. But it's true. And if you know these statistics and the reason behind them, it can save your marriage.
He's thinking about leaving you....after watching this shrew...hahahaha
Which bit did you find the funniest? When she suggested genital mutilation of the husband? Yeah fucking hilarious.
Thank you for this video! I am thankful for this information which is answering all the questions I have asked myself 🤔
I'm so glad that this education is helping you. It really helps to know you're normal.
Im 33 with a raging libido prob 20 years till menopause and watching this changed my whole perspective on ..... a lot of things. It’s surprisingly empowering on an emotional level.
Learning all this in advance is really the key. I applaud you for being proactive with your health. My dream is for ALL women to get this education in their 20s & 30s.
my wife is 44 wth a dead libido enjoy it now
I love it!!!! Hilarious and informative!!
Really, it doesn't sound like a lack of oxytocin or other midlife changes are triggering these divorces. Lots of women after midlife remain nurturing and happy in their partnerships, because they married good men. Sounds like the real problem is that some women marry lazy man babies who want to be coddled and catered to.
I totally agree. And, we are blessed with grand-loves and the love just keeps on growing.
“Lazy man babies” OMG YES!
It is hard to make a good partner choice the first time especially given how men are raised, and their raging sexual drives, and how women are raised as placating, "SWEET" and Sexy things. What woman at 23 knows herself? How many men want a strong woman who does not daily reinforce her man's primitive cultural need to be dominant and the strong one? In 50 years of working with my clients dreams, I see the dreams crying out to "PAY Attention! " ---choose wisely. Most women don't understand the metaphors in a dream and ignore the proffered insights. Then I see them 20 years later having nightmares of being in prison, or being mis-treated, or lonely, or bored to tears. The signs were there from the beginning in the dreams, then a decade later, she keeps hearing the voice of discontent while awake, then, the divorce in her 40s.
Or. Sometimes the marriage is good and then her perceptions change, in CBT you're taught to put the lie to incorrect thoughts but when perimenopause happens it's all about how the husband is crap.
That was so spot on ! Cracking up at the same time !! Thumbs up 👍
I love it when you laugh and learn at the same time.
I think I LOVE this Lady🧡🖤
Well, this lady loves you, too!
Maybe you two could be roomates? hahaha
Wow. Very informative. I believe you are correct in every point you have made. And although i appreciate your sense of humor. I cannot get over how lightly divorce is taking these days.we are talking about the break up of a family. The break of a lifetime promise. The traumatic experience to everyone in the family and the destruction of the fabric of society itself. Yes there is hormones but there is also our sense of duty to the family and our future generations and also responsibility to civilization.
You are absolutely correct. People don't stick together very well any more.
Hilarious session yet true in some senses. It really resonated with my own life in many aspect. Getting tired of taking care of everybody else; what about my work and life. Fortunately I have a nice husband who in turn supporting me in turn now 👍
You have a good balance. You just have to prioritize.
Loved this!! I had no idea about oxytocin. I sure understand about independence later in life!! Thank you as always Barbie!! You are awesome!
You are so very welcome, my dear. This is one aspect of menopause that most women like!
Thank you so much. This was very insightful and very helpful. Lorraine :)
You are so welcome. It's always good to learn that your situation is "normal."
This is were I’m at currently. I left him and I am now trying to find myself. Thank you for this video.
Well, at least you know that you're normal. Separation and divorce are never easy. But understanding the physiology and psychology behind them is helpful. I'm here to help you.
I love it! Your explanation makes so much sense. OMG thank you!
You are so welcome. I love knowing that this helps you make sense of things.
You are officially my Best Friend!
Hilarious and very true. Loved this video and learning so much from you. Thank you!
It always helps to understand what we feel and behave the ways we do.
Man here. Interesting. Being educated on menopause. I think this particular video focuses on just part of the problem. Mood swings and anger and various symptoms make life hell for some women. They don’t just divorce. They change/lose jobs, they fight with friends. It’s just a rough time. Men educated about this can learn to understand somewhat, not over-react, and be supportive. And also encourage women to get treatment!
Exactly! Menopause affects everybody.
Women can also learn that their husbands aren’t their emotional punching bags.
This is true, too.@@StrideOrDie71
@@StrideOrDie71I hope man stands by his wife on her mood swings. Sometimes the man needs to be strong enough to be the bunch bag to repay the wife's contribution in his life. Instead of enjoying her good but ditching her bad. This comment really shows the sad truth about marriage and relationship. Only love the good but not the bad, both woman and man.
My God...you are the first person who agrees with me on this topic...I have seen several divorces at this stage that made me sad because I was sure it was menopause..and yes, it is like being a teenager again..instead of going from childhood to adulthood we go from adulthood to old age....I am sure Death is another transition but this one happens in another dimension that our human bodies are not prevy to....Thanks for getting the info out into the world 💕💃🏻🕺
You are so welcome, my dear.
You are on the button dearest !!❤
You are ever so kind to say this.
The “need for independence” made my mom such a raging lunatic in her late 40s that my dad didn’t want anything to do with her anymore. He had his issues, but mom didn’t help the situation. Now she’s 76, 30 years divorced, never remarried. Only dated one guy 23 years ago and ran him off, too. The feminism runs strong with mom. Now she’s old and lonely and resents her friends and sisters who have managed to keep their marriages together. She even snipes at me, now (I’ve been happily married 23 years). I told myself my menopause wouldn’t be like my mom’s. It isn’t, thank god. My husband is amazing and I tell him this every day.
I am so very happy for you, my dear. Your man is a lucky one.
thank you! We needed this!
You are so very welcome, my dear.
Great video!
Glad you liked it.
Dr Taylor, I listen to you and I can see myself regarding the lack of oxytocin....😒. I have laughed so much when listening to you talking to the guys....spot on!!! Thank you again for such an informative and entertaining video. Have a good day. 😘💐💐
Oh, Maria, I'm so happy to know that this education helps to make sense of things. I like giving the guys a hard time from time to time.
That’s the truth! I love the truth, it’s so freeing! Thanks Doc ❤️
You are so welcome, my dear.
Fyi, there is a LA times article July 19, 2019, that gives a very grim outlook for women who divorce after 50 years old. Maybe some women feel a sense of freedom for a period of time, but then a stark reality sets in of lower standard of living, higher resting rate blood pressure, loneliness, regret, poverty.
Oh, yes, all those things are true, too. It really depends on an individual's sense of independence.
Exactly. And then they hit their 70s and want everyone in the family to come take care of them and revolve their lives around grandma. Menopause is a phase. Women shouldn't throw their life and marriage away over a phase they are going through.
Your amazing. Thanks for your advice.
You are so welcome.
Informative and hilarious. 😁
This is great !!!
OMG! This is hilarious 😂 love it. Im 49 and I am totally relating to this...
I love it when you learn that you're normal.
OMG THIS VIDEO IS THE BEST!!
Well, thank you, my dear. I merely tell you the truth about why divorce is so common at midlife.
OMG this video was SO interesting and made a lot of sense. BTW I just watched your yoga video and was blown away. You are awe inspiring. I know you have arthritis and can't understand how in the world you are able to do those postures. I do yoga every day (only been practicing for two years,) and my wrists always seem to remind me that I have arthritis. I think it would be great if you could do a special video related to yoga ie how you were introduced to it, how many years you've been practicing, how often you do it, do you go to yoga classes, etc.
Well, thank you so much for this.
I will be doing all sorts of videos on yoga as well as other exercises that are best for menopause.
As for my ability to do the yoga postures, I'm just determined. I started doing yoga because of my arthritis. That was 2001. I was told that I would be an invalid in a wheelchair. So, I decided I would not let that happen. So far, it's working.
I started out by going to classes twice a week. I moved to a different country every year, so the yoga that was available to me changed yearly. Then, in 2013, I couldn't find yoga that suited my needs, andI started doing it on my own. Now, I practice yoga for about 20 minutes every day ... all by myself. What you saw in the video is a typical example of what I'll do on any given day, I have no "routine," never know what I'll strung together, and have never done the same sequence or the same postures in the same sequence twice. I just do whatever my body needs each day.
Menopause Taylor Wow. Just wow. Will look forward to your yoga videos. You are awesome 😻
You are the best!!!
And you are the very best! I hope I'm giving you the best education, because you deserve it.
So can we do anything about the loss of oxytocin in the body? Similar to taking estrogen and progesterone?
I believe that staying married is definitely a valid reason to take the risks (if any) associated with taking HRT. I believe in the life long commitment and the sanctity of marriage as given by God but I'm not sure that my beliefs would have been able to overcome the disdain that I had for my husband at that time . I thank God for modern medicine 🙏....Caryl
I agree.
This is amazing, lol. My husband just told me he thinks I’m much more short tempered and you should see the histrionics when I don’t make dinner for them…lol
Well, now you know what's going on.
This is really true. I notice this among so many female friends. I’m with a much younger man so not sure if that changes things. So far, we’ve been fine with me in perimenopause. 🤞
I love it when you get this education and then see what I teach all around you. Of course, I don't love seeing people endure divorce.
And suddenly i understand, it all makes sense..!! I turn 50 tomorrow, i am one year post menopause now and i am totally lost in all the symptoms. I know i have changed, i am so fed up to be misunderstood, i have no desire to explain myself to anyone!! God knows i have delt with all a woman "shall do" in younger years, like most women do!! Thank you for sharing all your knowledge, it for sure is needed..i will forever be grateful, and i feel empowered!
Don't hesitate to schedule a consultation with me at MenopauseTaylor.ME if you want me to tailor everything specifically to YOU.
@@MenopauseTaylor Thank you, maybe i will need that.
@@ingunnwehn2996 I look forward to meeting you and helping you.
This explains a lot 🤔.
It helps to know you're normal, doesn't it!
Your are lovely, entertaining and very educational. Thank you
Wow... wow!!!! Awesome! You just confirmed so much! You have it "spot on" (another weird saying!)Thank you!!
You are so fun♡
isn't it great to discover that things make sense, and that you're not alone? I love helping you.
Absolutely wow!!! You described my life to a T. Moving onwards and upwards.
Isn't it good to understand what's going on? Even though it may not make it better, somehow it makes it easier to manage.
@@MenopauseTaylor
Thank you so much, its so good to know that I am not the only woman in the world in going through all this hormonal Rollercoaster! I wish my husband and my son would watch it and put themselves in my shoes at least for a day!
@@user-xs9835 You should get the Menopause 101 for men webinar from my store at MenopauseTaylor.ME. I'll explain just what they need to know and have them laughing all the while.
You're the best!!!
No, you are! I love making these videos for you.
My kids were out of the nest for one week, then I got my elderly parents. Nothing is every going to be just about me.
Your situation is ver common. I call it "The Sandwich Generation." Both your semi0adult children and your parents lean on you. This education will help you deal with it. Keep watching these videos. They are really going to hit home for you.
I would have guessed all of the above ;-)
That's because you're a smart cookie!
Still very true today... Thank you 🙏🏾
Yes, unfortunately.
BRAVO!!!!! Loved this video!
You make me laugh, Kim.
You are great and so funny,I laughed through the whole video because everything you said is so true .I probably had too much oxytocin all my life …
I love making you laugh while you learn.
In one of Suzann Sommers books she said you could replace oxytocin hormone? Is that not true?
I felt a sense of freedom and confidence and more time for taking a break than child raising younger years
Many women experience this. And why shouldn't you? Childrearing is the most time-consuming but on earth.
I meant to write "duty" on earth! (I hate automatic spelling corrections!)
Oh I can't wait for the male menopause video. I know my husband is having some symptoms or maybe he was always a grouch and I just woke up thanks to oxycotin. Glad you are well. Prayers for Texas.
In trying to make sense of what's going on in your marriage, it helps to know what's going on biologically. You'll find so much of what I teach you helpful for this.
All so true, true, true! I divorced my overgrown baby husband at menopause and experienced a tremendous energy surge. So relieved to live on my own -- although it was difficult financially I cherish my freedom now!
I'm so happy for you. I know you'll channel your energy into something really wonderful. Isn't it good to know that you're not alone!
This video was awesome. 😀 i am still smiling.
Good! I want you to laugh and learn at the same time.
Hahaha! Although it is kinda serious,I still love your presentation 😄
I try to put a lighthearted spin on weighty issues.
I AM DYING!!!!😂😂😂😂 There are literally tears running down my face! This video is HILARIOUS!!! Dr. Taylor is the auntie everyone wants and needs! Also boy I’m going to have a lot to prepare for as a woman just beginning peri menopause, with two young children that I had later in life. Lord be with those kids and hubby when the poop hits the fan! Ps I died three times over when Menopause Taylor ripped those kids off the Velcro and you can hear them hitting the table!!!! She’s not playing games in this video🤣🤣🤣!
I love it when you laugh and learn at the same time!
This is literally my life right now. My 4 kids are 2 young adults and a middle and high school aged. I've been persistently maintaining my independence, my husband had daily meltdowns and temper tantrums because of it. He's cooled off, but if we get divorced I won't feel a bit of sadness. He can run off and get someone to put up with a tantrum-having 52 year old. Period.
O my word! This was funny! Thank you so much xx
You are very welcome, my dear.
Bang on!!
WOW! This video made me laugh and almost cry as I thought there was something seriously wrong with me. There are so many ugly angles to menopause, but knowledge is power...........I’m so glad I found you Dr Barbie. Thank you
I'm so glad you were able to get the facts and appreciate the humor. Divorce is never a pleasant topic. So, I tried to lighten it up a bit.
I love it when my tutorials reassure you that you're normal!
This video made me laugh so hard!! The part with young married men going from a ripped Ken doll to dumpy old guy- hilarious 🤣 So much of what you talk about makes sense in my life right now!! Love it 💕
My mother went crazy during that Menopause crazy time and then DEMANDED a divorce. I was 13 my brother was 10 and it was HELL. IT WAS PURE HELL. They argued over us like were were a piece of furniture or like a Jeep or something. I am a Millennial. We will remember this crap. We will hold it against you.
You are completely justified in your feelings, Pinky. And I am so sorry you had to endure that mess. Hopefully, you'll use this lesson to prevent the same situation in others' lives.
I always say that the worse part of the divorce falls on the children. In fact, I think the children should get the house and keep their lives intact. And the two parents should have to take turns moving in and out of the house week after week rather than shuffling the kids from one household to the other!
As long as you hold it against your parents, Blaming them for your pain, you will remain an angry adolescent-- even to the day you die. They can not undo any of it. Only you can study them as a journalist might so you understand their immaturities, lack of this or that, and realize you now have a choice to live your own life--moving on. Take a look at books on the Fischer-Hoffman Process. Find a practitioner (Psychologist most likely) OR do it yourself by writing from a journalist's POV (not yours) a biography of each one. Surprises in store, and liberation for you. VERY powerful, surprising method to get you to look at your parents who had formed personalities before you came into the world. You will understand do much more, you will stop trying to get them to act (retroactively) in aways they are and were incompetent to do.
Agree. Sad that she had hormonal things going on and you won’t forgive her.
Thats on you. Keepimg yourself In your own unforgiving prison.
I’m assuming u think u r perfect and u never mess up
Another misconception. None of us r perfect. We hurt others as long as we r alive. Sometimes intentional but most of the time hopefully accidental.
I hope u come to realize she was going through hard times. If u listened to
This at all u realize it wasn’t her fault ..it was hormonal
You need to forgive them
Bravo.......
My God this makes so much sense! Just when perimenopause started for me we had adopted 2 special needs kids, one of my other kids nearly died in a traumatic near drowning accident, stressful CPS visits because of the accident. I knew peri menopause was starting then, but never put all the hormonal changes into the perspective. Especially the oxytocin. The trauma responses, anxiety, depression, rages, lack of bonding and connection with the new kids, lack of patience with people. It makes so much more sense in hindsight. But I'm still on the precipice of filing for divorce. I'm tired, crushed and worn out from giving and giving for so many years. He just comes home from work and plays video games for hours every night and barely helps with things around the house. I'm too tired to care anymore.
Please consider scheduling a consultation with me at MenopauseTaylor.ME. I do them all online. And your entire family will benefit.
This video makes me very sad not only for women and men in general but for you in particular Menopause Taylor and the great love story that died. I was so hoping that you and George would be together forever after reading your book, Honey I’m Home. What could possibly have gone so terribly wrong that that great love story faded and could not be saved? George sounded like your soul mate, your inspiration, your friend and confident. When vows are exchanged for better or for worse, it is supposed to mean that both individuals commit to just that; the intention to embrace the good times as well as to endure the bad times and to commit to work through each. Too many couples simply give up and feel that it’s not worth the effort to make things better and so they choose to just go their separate ways rather than to work together to rebuild their relationship and to remember the love that brought them together in the first place.
I agree with you completely, Janice. And it was not I who wanted to divorce.
This video suggests that it was the other way around but don’t get me wrong, I am not blaming anyone here! I guess I’m just a romantic at heart and given that our lives on earth seem so short, when true love is found, it is so wonderful to be able to hold onto it and to keep it ‘til death do us part’ as they say. :)
I am so grateful to have found you and your informative tutorials as they have helped me to understand so much more about menopause and aging! It is wonderful how much you care about women and their health in general. I have recommended your videos to all of my friends and family - I am so impressed with your knowledge, sense of humour and the way that you explain everything so well to ensure that everyone ‘gets it’! Even me, finally! I am 58 years young and have been in post menopause for almost 5 years now and it was only after watching you on Angie’s ‘Hot & Flashy’ interview that I discovered you, thank goodness, and am now pursuing HRT! Thank you, thank you, thank you.
@@janicecarolyn9834 My videos are not about me. They are about educating YOU for your menopause.
I felt sad about this too. You kept your videos going without a beat and seemed to bounce back fast. I'm glad you recovered well from what must have been a huge trauma. I don't know if I could have done that, had it happened to me. @@MenopauseTaylor
I have never giggled so much while learning 😂😂🙏😘
That's my goal! I think learning and laughing go very well together.
love this video Dr.! When I left him 2 years ago I was wondering what was wrong with me that I did love him, I was ok with my marriage but I just wanted to be alone!!! free!!! and the first months I was kind of scared because after 14 years of marriage i felt kinda lost..but NOW I realized I just wanted to be independent again! thank you for confirming my suspicions :) and clarifying my thoughts!! :)
Isn't it wonderful to discover that you're normal!
I've lost all empathy and sense of joy. How can we increase oxytocin? Can it be given exogenously? Can you give us a tutorial on this?
You can't replace oxytocin. But, loss of oxytocin does not cause loss of joy. That's due to loss of estrogen.
Loss of oxytocin causes you to lose your compulsion to put yourself last all the time, say "yes" to everything, and let everyone treat you like a doormat.
If you want me to help you personally with any of this, please schedule a consultation with me at MenopauseTaylor.ME.
As a man this made me want to get divorced
I guessed the right answer right off the bat . That's how I lost my fiancée . Of course I wish I can take that back now but I was not in my right mind . Probably still not .
Oh, I beg to disagree. I think you're completely normal. Plus, you're always learning. That makes you both smart and stable in my book.
OMG , I almost got us into divorce and I am not even at menop yet. I am going through perimenop and it’s terrible ,this new person have emerged under my skin and wants to be alone .😩
You are not unusual in this regard. And it helps to understand why you feel the way you do. Education is very powerful.
OMG! 😂 Exactly!! .thanks for this video
It's good to know why things tend to happen the way they do. It could literally save your marriage.
As a guy I can tell you for sure No guy in there 50s is desperate to get married no way is that true
You got it babe! That's how I feel.
Well, at least you know why. And knowing why things are the way they are helps you realize that you're normal and that you've got me to help you.
For some years now I've notice women wanting divorce at menopause years. I said this is menopause. It's funny because I'm 52 and I started menopause at 40. I had never been married or had children but always wanted to. I notice a feeling of "wokeness" that im tired of people "walking over me". Well at around 42yrs I met my husband ❤. He is my blessing from Jesus. He is very supportive of my journey through menopause. Thank God I've been the opposite of wanting to be "independent". But I understand if women go through it because I notice that's what they say....they want their independence. I pray this will stop.
Glad I found your channel. I can only speak for myself, but I'm tired of everyone's bs and just want to be free and enjoy my life and do the things I want. I'm tired of being responsible for everyone and everything and having nary a breath left to myself. My son is a great kiddo, and I am lucky, but the "man" is boring, acting like her 800 years old and I am honest, I am B O R E D and when he said to me " I'm trying to spend quality time with you," as he is scrolling through his phone, just done. I'm in Peri but knocking on that Meno door LOUDLY! WOOT WOOT! FREEEEDOOMMMMMMMM!!!!!
You make me laugh, my dear.
Go get your divorce...hahaha Free that sad old guy.
😂😂😂 So funny and spot on! Love you❣
I'm so glad this resonated with you!
Tbis video was interesting and hilarious
I'm so glad you found it useful.
I laughed so hard at this video. THANK YOU!! This explains EVERYTHING that's going on right now, seriously!!!
I'm so glad to help you. I think it's important to cover these social issues in our menopause education. I plan to address absolutely everything. Keep watching.
I think they should reopen crime cases onto show Snapped. I believe most of the women were in menopause.
Lol 😂😂😂 you said the same words I say to my hubby - I don’t need you to “fix” anything - just listen ! But seriously after 20 years and many many struggles in our marriage I have found myself telling hubby : My health comes first , the kids come second, and then our marriage ... I no longer work full time so he can go “kill and hunt” while I focus on the kids .... but I’m back in school because I love to learn like you ... the mind is a beautiful thing to waste , esp a female mind! This one made me laugh 😂
Yes, it's sort of funny and also very true. But it's a sign of maturity that you finally stop putting yourself last.
Hi Barbie! I guessed it was B initially:)
That's what most people think. I always want you to have the facts.
It's interesting that the same age group is expierncing the highest divorce rates throughout time. In the 1970's-1980's it was young people who were most likely to divorce. Its those who didn't divorce back in the day, but are only just now getting around to it, maybe not for the first time, either.
Interesting observation!
So true.. done it
Well, it helps to understand what's going on hormonally.
Does hrt help with oxytocin?
No. HRT has nothing to do with oxytocin. We do not have replacement of oxytocin loss.
HI Barbie, I am not post menopause yet and I have had low sex drive for a few years now. I know testosterone dictates this, is this normal? I am 51 and still in perimenopause hopefully coming to the end soon.
Your situation is quite common.
Although textbooks indicate a very precise and sequential loss of hormones - first progesterone, then estrogen and then testosterone - real women don't experience it that way. Sometimes, you have more symptoms of testosterone loss than of estrogen loss.
So, know the facts about what's happening with your hormones, but listen to your body.
Never forget that the one hormone your body NEEDS is estrogen simply because it's the female hormone. And, remember, the end of peri-menopause is the beginning of post-menopause, which will last for the rest of your life.
At some point will you be talking about menopausal women in a same sex relationship? Both dealing with the same symptoms has to be rough...OR great because they both understand what the other is going through :-)
Oh, I am so sorry for this tardy reply. The TH-cam comments on my end are supposed to line up all the new ones so that I don’t have to search for them one-video-at-a-time. And most of the time, it works. But occasionally (as in this case), a comment doesn’t appear in the line-up. I apologize profusely for the delay. Every so often, I scan back through old videos to see if there are any I haven’t answered. And, I found this one!
I plan on give=ing you a video entitled: "Homosexuality and Menopause" or "Gay and Gray." And everything you say is absolutely correct!
I'm glad you kinda touched on how to prevent menopausal divorce - albeit a little sarcastically. Most of the video seemed to be glamorizing menopausal divorce.
A discussion of divorce is never pleasant. I wan just trying to lighten the mood about it a bit. No offense intended.
@@MenopauseTaylor well, I don't mean to be too sensitive but I'm a guy potentially facing that reality and I can assure you it's not a fun or funny reality. And, btw, I knew it the answer was D before you said it. I was yelling it out as you were asking the question.
I appreciate your comment, and I know personally how difficult divorce can be. I'm so sorry you're dealing with it.
Men are not all the same. My husband was not selfish during any stage in my menopause, and is not selfish now.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 This was brilliant!!! Well said!😂😂😂 It's the best video I have ever seen!!
Well, I have many others that you'll like, too. Thank you for your kind comment.
I just actually laughed by myself out loud!
I love that you are laughing and learning at the same time!
Loved this video !!!! To funny
I had fun making it. So glad you enjoyed it.
How do you get oxytocin???
You don't. There's no replacement therapy for it. Once it's gone, it's gone. But, look on the bright side. It's YOUR TURN. Once your oxytocin isn't gearing you to think about everyone else first and put your self last, you can focus on the things that YOU want to do. You can do things like take two days to come to my seminar, and leave the guilt behind.
How do you replace oxytocin?
Hugging, kissing, cuddling, and sexual intimacy can all trigger oxytocin production, which can strengthen bonds between adults, too. These effects have led oxytocin to be grouped with the other happy hormones - hormones known to have a positive impact on mood and emotions.May 27, 2020
Wow! Hormones do control so much of behaviour
Yep. In fact, all animals are completely under the control of their hormones. Humans are the only ones who try to ignore what their hormones dictate. (And we're supposed to be the most "intelligent"!)
Seems too simplistic to explain phases and actions in ones life but hormones seems to trump unless we are aware of their impact.
Thank you for replying
You're welcome. I respond to these comments here on TH-cam daily. My goal is to be available to help you.
I'm 42, perimenapausal and single and as much as I'd love to meet someone I can't see how things would work out with the way I am right now 😔
If you manage your peri-menopause successfully, there's no reason you can't have a very successful relationship if you want one.
it's over... get a bunch of cats and become that new catlady...smirk. start wearing weird hats and maybe try a new career? oh but then there is ageism now gone unchecked... So I guess it's you and your kitties... hahaha
Us men need more education on this nightmare called Menopause for both men and women. My real name is Frank and I’m god damn ashamed of the things I’ve said to my wife during this time, had I freaking known some of these things I’ve could’ve been more understanding of my wives symptoms and changes . I love my wife and now we might wind up in divorce. Women us men need more education on this matter, WE NEED TO CALL IT ;”WE ARE IN MENAPAUSE”. Like “ we are pregnant “.
Frank,
This is very commendable. If you want an education on menopause specifically for men, you can get my "Menopause 101 for Men" DVD from my website store. It will give you just enough to understand our menopause, compare with male aging, and know how to be supportive.
@@MenopauseTaylor thanks again, I will look into it . Thanks so much.
OMG , this is all so true, even the part with the male dolls, my husband looked like all three as you showed them in order seriously never laughed so much , almost peed my pants watching that part. HILLARIOUS !!!
I love knowing that this education makes it possible for you to laugh AND learn.