3 Ways to Beat Social Anxiety!
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I made my uni class watch this today. Future paramedics of the U.K. have now seen this. We had a discussion about it too ♥️
awesome!!
Yay!! I hope they found it interesting and helpful!!! xoxo
Kati Morton they did. We’re going to sit and go through some of your videos in mental health on Thursday 👌🏻♥️
Steven m I've decided to believe that you're trolling, and are not actually *that* stupid.
@@stevenm8970 she said nothing about having this mental health issue? she is just spreading info on helpful tips and vital information about mental health issues to those working in health! Kinda sad that you are trying to make something negative out of an action which could be entirely positive for a whole workforce, as well as those they could come across in there working environment.
Hate having social anxiety, don’t u just wish u could be like that person that can talk to anyone anytime anywhere
Fr bro I just wanna live life giving no fucks what anybody think
I have the same problem, and I wished that I've the ability to not think about what to say each time. Like that I could have the ability to interact with people and always had topics to talk about every time, everywhere, anywhere, but the social anxciety stops it. My goal is to create a social network with people that will accept me for who I am, even if I'm different from others, that I can naturally get back the feeling of acceptance without worrying that I've done something wrong if the social network is falling apart, like other ordinary people have. I've got to live with this problems all the time, I try to fight back against social anxciety. I've came to the conclusion that it's best to not tell about my disorder, in fear that people will leave me behind in that social network I try to build. Living with Autism is like living in a different world from ordinary people without this disorder. It's not an easy task to build a social network with friends that will be "real" friends (like others without autism can get more easily) when you meanwhile have social anxciety. It's hard. Hope someone in this world understands how it feels like to live with social anxciety, which was build up when negative feelings was coming, and they still come. There ordinairy people finds it easy to interact and make friends for ever, it's more of a challenge for those who have autism, it's more difficult for people with this disorder to make friends in a naturally way. (That's my perception on how things are) my social life have been almost totally damaged, it's so damaged that I struggle to interact with people, even when/if I'm trying to build a social network. The social anxciousness destroys the attempts on not giving up, then it gets more and more difficult to build a social network.
The self confidence are mostly sometimes so far down that I don't know what's right or wrong to do in various daily situations in life, that's why it's very important for me to get friends so I can work and fight against social anxciety
HOPE someone out there understands my situation and how it feels to live with this almost every day.
am i the only one that almost starts crying in every social situation
dantskoi _ me too! But only in front of older strangers. If my friends tell me to be impolite for money (yes we are assholes xd) I can do it with ease because I „play a role“ somehow. It’s very weird.
yes :(((
I hate feeling like this. Everyone around me seems to be so confident i dont know how they do it
Because they socialise a lot, thus improve their social skills, thus receive positive feedback, thus become more confident. Positive cycle.
Half the nation is on head meds or sleep aides. Half of marriages end in divorce. They are not nearly as put together as it seems. They just hide it well to avoid the mocking that narcicistic traits would inflict.
@@ryancast3035 that's hilarious!
most people don't have their shit together as much as you might think - most everyone is just pretending to know what they're doing in life.
@@alephnull4044 genetics
When you have anxiety talking to your own family members, that’s when I realized the severity.
😢😢😢
I don’t talk to them
Yes, and they don’t understand either especially because with everyone I can’t make Eye contact or if I do it’s for seconds at a time
Same here.
Me too 😭😭😭
The thing is: I'm so confident in my bedroom. I just feel like I could achieve all my goals, be charismatic and happy. But a soon as I'm outside I can't even walk in peace, if I see any human being
P.S.: thx for the likes ^3 I know it's selfish, but it feels nice to know that there are other people that can relate to this and that I'm not the only one struggling.. I wish y'all the best though. I'm getting better actually :) I don't know if I'm ever going to get rid of all this someday, but better is better
so true and then when u go outside u feel like u cant do anything or achieve anything
I do not like human beings , apart from children as they do not judge the same as adults.
I can relate, my bedroom is like my safe place and I can be the main character, I can be smart, pretty and charismatic but whenever someone else is with me I feel like a side character
omggg ye
@@ng3057 same thought like me as m also struggling wid social anxiety n I hate it like hell
Anxiety sucks makes your life a living hell
At least it keeps us warm in this dang cold weather
Taylor Crosby so true I get so many hot flashes and my face gets so red
Agreed
It doesnt have to. There are certain steps you can take in order to minimise it.
You can fight back and regain control chin up people
My social anxiety kept me away from high school activities and making friends and working with others.
Same
Tobias Perez I only went to school 26 days last year I just couldn’t
Social anxiety+Depression=HELL
Bruh for real, I didn't even wanna go to prom
Nah the people in highschool r the ones who gave me anxiety so I couldn’t do any of those things
I can’t even ask someone “where is the bathroom”, I’m afraid they can’t hear my voice since everyone says they can’t hear me. I’m afraid they’ll ignore me and it’ll feel awkward.
My family makes fun of me cause I can’t speak up for myself but really they don’t understand it’s making it worst and worst. I wish I understood why I am like this :(
My family always force me to talk . They say like its so so so easy. My anxiety is at peak when i'm with my family. I can't speak to people because i always think that i'll make a mistake and they will laugh at me. Also my family makes fun of me. They complain a lot about me. I hope one day they will understand my anxiety. Well i can talk freely with my bffs rather than my familyy. It hurts so much.
Im literally going through the same omg. Ur not alone
You literally described my life word for word.
@Bianka Kamińska they think social anxiety does not exist and I’m too young for that shitt :)
@@cassie6418 I hope you find yourself out and get better, I am doing much better with my social anxiety… although I still have trouble with anxiety itself.
Social anxiety makes you feel trapped. You’re heart feels like it will pound out of your chest whenever you’re in the center of spotlight or are expected to do something... perfectly. Practicing in real life isn’t that easy when you have the choice. Socially anxious people will definitely choose to not put themselves out there, because it makes us uncomfortable. I hope anyone experiencing the same will become confident one day! Keep the faith ❤️
🧐😜😝
Just stop caring what others think, whats the worst that can happen? and, if someone judges you or laughs at you, just laugh at them back
It ruined my life.
@@sharonsettle9079 nahhhh😂😂😂😂no way you let it ruin you ngl i also used to have it throughout high school im 19 now and i gotta say ive gotten wayyy bettter. I just stop thinkin about what everybody else thinks
@@amigomichael3566 I wish it was that easy
I think I have trouble putting myself 'out there'. Its like I don't want to be known. I have projects, goals, and dreams, but can't pursue any of them because my own mind is stopping me. Just the act of posting a comment (even this one) is a hurdle. I often delete them when done. "I dont need to say this.." " Im not saying anything important" " this doesn't add anything interesting to the conversation" "whats the point.." "someone will get hostile towards me (etc)"
I've been careful and quiet all my life. Keep to myself and stay introverted... like a hermit; a Recluse at times. Accepted myself as I am, but now see that this might be something that I need to change in order to chase my dreams. But thats why any of us are here right?
To Change.
I may waste my time with this, or might not. But if anyone else reading this is going through this, You're not alone...
i can relate xx
The thing of "write comments and delete when i finished"...i do it too, and sucks.
Wow I felt this😭 I didn't even know I did this
I can relate on spiritual levels.
I can 100% relate especially with the getting in my own way aspect.
It’s crazy to think about how when I was young I didn’t give a shit about what people thought of me and now it’s all I think of I can’t even be in crowded place or my anxiety will kill me
Same
Same...
Hahaha why is the question we all want the answer too!
@@hayley6238 same. This anxiety hit me all of a sudden... Some members of my family even though something bad happened to me or that someone did something to me but no. I don't know exactly why I am like this
Same
My social anxiety has literally taken over my life. I can’t keep a job because of how stressful it becomes when I’m constantly feeling like I’m being judged and made fun of.
I feel you.
I can’t keep a job either, I had a job for 2 weeks and left then another abs left and I would like to have a job but I’m scared that’ll Ill want to quit again
@@hannah7028 so what are you doing?
I feel you. I just keep working through it. If people are judging you at work, hopefully it's constructive criticism
You are not alone
18 year old here currently battling with social anxiety/ depression... it’s so nice to see other people who relate to how I currently feel 🥲
I’m 18 and also have bad anxiety! Twins🦾😏
I’m 13 with social anxiety and it’s getting better. You just have to be out of your comfort zone for a bit and then you’ll get used to it, trust me x
@@crayola5021 noice😔👍
I’m also 18 and I have social anxiety and I guess it’s not as much worse as before since I’m in uni now, and the people in my high school have been cut off now from my life which feels better although I still have trauma 🥲
@@ninadrangon I’m here for you😔
I hate having social anxiety I always think someone is talking about me.
Yep,especially in a school. I am very weird.
Ya me too
I also have my face muscles really weird in school, cant control em, everytime i think someone's watching..
Whenever somebody is laughing I always always thing they’re laughing at me
@@xriixedits5168 That is a classic bro, try to medetate on TH-cam at least now I am not scary a zoom meetings,don't know about in real life yet.
Its so nice to relate to people in the coment section. I dont feel so alone
Dont let that feeling overcome you or you might not want to improve it
ik same
Same, im alone on my class and family
you're not alone. ❤️
@@Kreedo1110 no worries! Ive been workinf hard on it n got better recently. Its simply nice to not feel like the wierdo or like theres no cure to it
I’m just sad my parents don’t understand I have social axiety, they always force me to talk to people, and I always have to be awkward and embarrassed, and every night I can’t stop thinking about the embarrassing times, like I don’t know what to say
Same it sucks I even have social anxiety around my family members and my mom force me to interact and everyone always say “why she so quiet” “why she act so nervous” like no one in my family understands and I can’t even explain to them because I get nervous
The fact that they force us makes it worst and worst. My family makes me call every place they want and literally do any social interactions and then proceed to make fun of me if I don’t. Saying I can’t speak up.
It sucks but now I actually wanted to be forced to go out. Now I can't do anything. Just go for it guys.
I say we numb the pain😔
Hey kindered spirit ! 🙂
I'm 44 with a 4-year-old, today I took her to her second day of school, I had such bad anxiety with all the other mothers I went back home and cried. Pathetic I know. I try and be strong for my daughter, But I just feel so overwhelmed, thank you for this video. xx
im sorry for you
I have been studying social anxiety for 9 years
. 9 years ago, I realized that I wasn't born so strange, and I started looking for the truth.
I felt there were solutions to this problem, but I couldn't find anywhere. And, by the way, then I realized the true cause of my social anxiety.
I practiced everything: raw food, fasting, various diets, such as gluten-free, keto diet, yoga, sports, many books. But I haven't seen any improvements or progress. But this is an invaluable experience that led to the truth.
Now I want to tell you about the results of my research. Social anxiety is an imbalance and lack of yin-yang energy, like all other mental disorders. The reason for this shortage is the leakage of energy. First you have to stop this leak.
To be cured, you need to follow a diet
Because these energies are self-regenerating in a certain period of time
There is no such diet scheme or method in the world for the treatment of mental disorders, I am so excited that I found the truth by studying and practicing, experiencing everything for myself for 9 years. If you follow this diet, the energy body will recover quickly and easily, and you will see progress day by day and your life will change 180 degrees.
I hear you, right there with you
My social anxiety is at its peak when I’m at school, or when it involves my current or former classmates. My social anxiety outside of school is kinda manageable. It’s probably because I’ve built up feelings of unease at school, when I was mocked, excluded and bullied.
I'm the same way with work. When you start snowballing ideas of what could happen it makes the issue seem much greater then it is. I think a big thing is understanding that what your going against and thinking of ways to make the issue seem smaller, you'll go to school sit in class like any other, no one is staring. something I had to learn is that I'm not a special snow flake, no one is looking at me any different then they always do just because I feel anxious that day. Remember that you are in control (:
I truly beleive if you think good thoughts good things will come to you!
didn't rly get bullied but i can relate. school's shit
@Justin Winn Ikr in public or at home I'm able to manage it even though I have bad thoughts, but at school, it's horrible. I literally only participate in one class which is Spanish since it's easy and fun but every other class I'm scared of being judged or being a show off.
This was great, thanks, been searching for "get rid of social anxiety disorder" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (should be on google have a look ) ? Ive heard some decent things about it and my cousin got cool results with it.
Same
I'm 17 and I can't even order something at a cafe.
Edit: I'm almost 21 now and doing a whole lot better. I'm surprised I still get replies to this periodically, but I thought I'd let you guys know that I can order things easily now, I still have social anxiety issues when it comes to more personal interaction like at school but I've come a long way. Something I realized recently is that people usually don't care about you - that might sound harsh, but it's actually helped me out. Do you think less of someone when they do or say something awkward? I'm assuming not. And if there is someone who does that, they're a weird or bad person that you shouldn't want to associate with anyway.
Same bro I'm starting new school on online like 5 minutes later I'm scred what if they don't like me what if i did something worng ughhhh
Is started omgggg
Monika Dreemurr same
Sameeee
same here man, i can barely take my dog for a walk around the block
I always try to imagine the person I would’ve been if I didn’t have social anxiety. That’s always hard.
I do that too, and it makes me very upset to think of all the things I've missed out on and all the ppl that i could have been friends with :(
My social anxiety is weird😂😂if idk am doing something like my brain isnt aware I'll do it like a pro...but when my brain realises am doing it immediately i shut down and disappear from people's lives...
I sometimes think that but then remember all the things I wouldn’t have learned or music I wouldn’t have heard thanks to Social Anxiety
At the end of the day, tell yourself gently: ‘I love you, you did the best you could today, and even if you didn’t accomplish all you had planned, I love you anyway.
This made me cry 🥲
❤
When did life get so funcking complicated
It has always been that way, friend.
Ikr I can’t even remember the last time I had a good conversation
Right when you realize it.
Makaveli What the fuck are you talking about? I’m quite triggered right now, I’m 13, just newly, I was 11 - 12 when my anxiety started. Don’t fucking say “right when you turn 16” because that’s not true. Yes, I’m salty, and yes, I’m overreacting but do I give a shit? No.
Rosegold Bud nah I had severe social anxiety since I was 10
I want to know how it feels to not have social anxiety
@Hinemoa are u fine right now?
@Hinemoa This is so helpful but also tough to do! It's hard when you have self-hating thoughts :')
Me too
Me too it just sucks
@Hinemoa ugh I love u
I miss my childhood. I was the KING of my world, full of joy. IDK where it all went wrong, now i calculate every single moment before. It's soo overbearing I'm feeling like am a slave to myself.
i fantasise a lot, the only time i have fun is when im in my head. I get scared when meeting people, my self esteem got crushed a few years back and the same phrase "you're boring" just repeats in my mind. I'm only young but i have to take literal shots before talking to people because i get so scared i wont be enough. :/
me too i feel like i can't live my life
What I hate about social anxiety the most, more than how nervous you get talking to people, is that people notice it and they look at you so suspicious as though you were a psycho or something and that's really discouraging.
Ughhh YES
Just happend to me at my new job where i promised myself i would change :/ i feel sad i just wanna cry rn
Lmao i cried writing this shit
@@michellecampa9850 I’m really sorry that you are feeling like that I also feel like that and it’s so exhausting and tiring I wish I didn’t have anxiety I overthink everything I do even the way I walk,but we will get better one day we have to fight back
@@michellecampa9850 don't be discouraged. there are a lot of us out here who are successfully overcoming social anxiety and you can too. you don't have to live like this forever.
“Just talk” are the same people who judge me 😃👍🏻
Exactly
But I just wind up talking to one person hella
Just don't mind them.
@@CaptainMarven27 GURL it isn’t that easy
Fr
ahhh it’s amazing when you feel like everyone around you is constantly judging every little move you make😻👍
Gah, i know right its just so damn amazing to Live with this majestic disorder 😭👍
@@agustina8484 Exactly. We are all so lucky to be blessed with this beautiful disorder.
Just stop caring what others think, whats the worst that can happen? and, if someone judges you or laughs at you, just laugh at them back
@@amigomichael3566 its really not that easy for some of us
@@amigomichael3566 go on somewhere with that comment. I saw you making that reply on a previous comment. It’s not that easy for some of us. It’s an everyday struggle and it’s draining. It’s like each day you want to make a change but you get over your head and start to overthink
i love wasting my youth on being afraid of living my life. so great
Loved it as well 😉
One of my biggest issues with social anxiety is speaking to people in my own age group because I feel like they’re judging me. People older than me don’t bother me nearly as much. I’m always worrying about what I look like to other people when I’m speaking to them. Is my face ugly? My smile?? Yuck
Totally same I can be quite confident with small children and adults but when we are talking about same age group I'm frozen and totally anxious.
Me too! Adults and kids don’t scare me (with exceptions) but talking to people my age or around my age a go silent and want to be invisible
Omg I have found my people ! People my own age are not nice ! I cannot relate to them on any level and they scare me . Anyone older or children I am fine with . Older because a lot of the time , they have gotten over them self’s and they know there is more things to life than what people my own age believe and children because you can literally say anything and they will engage / not care .
@@ng3057 exactly! I thought I was the only one who literally gets along best with people my parents age and little old ladies lol
You know guys, I always felt different around my peer (i was barely acxepted), don't know why, but I'm glad that I am not alone. 🥰🥰
Me at home: I'm gonna talk to everyone in school! I know I can do it!
Me at school:
lollll i can relate.
@@Muhluri me too and i’m getting so sick of it
Same here
HOW TO FIX IT-😭
This is too relatable 😭😭 mood asff😭😭🖐🏼
literally beating anxienty is so pressure inducing. like having anxiety and beating anxiety causes even more anxiety and its like a loop 😭😭😭
So true bro
I can't deal with this shit anymore, I'm 21 and it's ruining my life. I just choked up on a presentation yesterday - but my main concern wasn't the presentation itself, but the weeks spent in anxiety anticipating the presentation and waking up countless nights with my heart pounding
Just thinking about working against my social anxiety makes me super anxious, haha. But thank you for the video! :)
Of course!! I hope some of my tips and tools are helpful! xox
Emma same
You r not alone. I too struggle with social anxiety.
Working against it is scary until you find out there is progress in what you are doing. Think in small steps, especially in the beginning.
What makes me feel anxiety is hearing “hey everyone” at the beginning of a video. Makes me wanna PUKE!
Social anxiety has ruined my life since 3rd grade.
Same. I wish i could rewire my brain..
I’ve been like this for as long as I can remember but the physiological symptoms got way worse after puberty began.
@@leahsmith2078 Interesting that all of us feels that way
same, I never thought I had it because it would always be associated with having loud panic attacks. but tbf if u saw me you might not even know how I was feeling, and it’s been like this for so long
Why is this me, 3rd grade RUINED me
I hate having social anxiety. It’s like I know no one really cares that I’m there but at the same time I feel like everyone does and in a negative way. It’s hard to explain
hey! it’s been a while you wrote this shah, how is it going now?
Just when you mentioned exposure therapy and explained what it basically is, my heart rate went up
Exposure therapy is ignoring our brain and bullying ourselves to do something our brain does not want us to do.
No questioning why it produces those phobic reactions. No self-respect. No self-love.
I have been studying social anxiety for 9 years
. 9 years ago, I realized that I wasn't born so strange, and I started looking for the truth.
I felt there were solutions to this problem, but I couldn't find anywhere. And, by the way, then I realized the true cause of my social anxiety.
I practiced everything: raw food, fasting, various diets, such as gluten-free, keto diet, yoga, sports, many books. But I haven't seen any improvements or progress. But this is an invaluable experience that led to the truth.
Now I want to tell you about the results of my research. Social anxiety is an imbalance and lack of yin-yang energy, like all other mental disorders. The reason for this shortage is the leakage of energy. First you have to stop this leak.
To be cured, you need to follow a diet
Because these energies are self-regenerating in a certain period of time
There is no such diet scheme or method in the world for the treatment of mental disorders, I am so excited that I found the truth by studying and practicing, experiencing everything for myself for 9 years. If you follow this diet, the energy body will recover quickly and easily, and you will see progress day by day and your life will change 180 degrees.
I'm watching this while waiting for my job interview. I feel like I just wanna go home. I've been avoiding job applications because of my anxiety but I am trying to fight it because I need a job. 😞
Update : I got the job 😭😭
Update: Thanks a lot for the positive replies. It's 2023 and I've been working on the same job for more than 3yrs now. It wasn't a smooth road as I have been struggling keeping up with my workmates in my 1st year. I was constantly targeted by my senior co workers to the point of almost quiting many times. But it is always much harder to quit since I have to go through job interviews again. I have come to love my job but not the office work culture. However, I am now looking for any work from home jobs that pays much more. I am thankful that I did not quit right away regardless of how much I suffered because I have learned a lot and I will use those learnings as my tools to step up on my career. I have to, because I need to feed my cats and save more other cats. 😁
For those like me who struggles to deflect what others might think about us due to our complex and unfortunate experiences growing up, it's hard... yes, but it's not impossible to still live normally. In my case I was just thankful I found a reason not to give up even if I want to and that's my cats.
When we find something worth to struggle for we will overcome our own obstacles, even our own selves. Good luck to everyone in all these bad lucks, I hope we can all find inner peace not just success in life. Thank you again. ✌️☺️
민주노 congratulations! You did it! 😊
Congrats
AWW
That’s so cool! Congratulations😄👏🏻
How has your job been?
this make me cry, even though we are in the quarantine , but when I remembered how anxious I'm in social situations I depressed and really wish to get red of it.
Hayah Med i feel u😔😔
girl your not the same one who has it.. i feel you
me too..
Same
me too i don’t want school to start
My anxiety strikes when i have to meet them again constantly ....if its a stranger that i most likely will never see again I can pretty much do anything
😭
Omg same 😭
im the opposite
Facts!
Having social anxiety makes it hard to find a job or want a job
I never thought I was going to be able to overcome my social anxiety, but with exposure i actually did! I used to feel horrible nausea before going to school when I was little, every morning was a struggle. On top of that I was bullied for being so quiet and unsocial. This caused me to constantly miss school days and harm my attendance. Deep down I felt guilty for doing this but staying home was like my safety net because just the thought of having to face people at school was a nightmare. Now with gradual exposure, and CBT therapy I’m able to speak my mind and not worry what others are going to think. if you’re reading this comment and you’re in the same or similar situation, please don’t give up I encourage you to seek help now because nobody deserves to live this way! ❤️
Paola Vanegas I'm so glad to hear you have overcome this ! I'm currently struggling with it, some days I feel like a normal person and can be very social, but other days I can't bear to have a conversation. Are there any tips you may suggest, besides seeking therapy ?(can't afford it atm)
Brenda x thank you! And I suggest trying to make new friends, people who are social and outgoing. They will encourage you to go to parties, events, etc. It’s going to feel uncomfortable at first but remember baby steps! :)
i felt the exact same. Going to school was hell. CBT Therapy is so helpful.
Making new friends is not always possible with anxiety. For me it was not possible. Also going to a party isn't really a baby step. I'm still not comfortable with parties where I only know a few people. I'm also not really a partying kind of guy.
A baby step would be to ask personel in a shop where some product is located. Or ask directions to people on the street. These are steps how I started. It if works then you can raise the bar a little with different, more complicated questions on the street. I asked woman what present to buy for my small niece (I am a men). A lot of woman took the time to help me out. They were focused on the "problem", the question, not on me.
In group therapy we did funny tasks on the street. For example, order some bread with salad on it, and stuff you select from the shop. Then at the end you tell them you forgot your wallet (without saying sorry). Or buy a coffee in a restaurant and accidently drop it on the floor. People are watching, but nothing bad happens. If you're lucky you will get a new coffee for free.
@Brenda x, what plays a role for me is the mood I am in. If I am depressed it is harder to be "social". When you do therapy there is the possibilty to support you by using some anti depressant and anti anxiety pills. It helped me focus solving the problem.
It’s only when I changed my mindset and started accepting anxiety and working with it that I actually began healing. Never give up on yourself, you are a warrior 💪🏼💚
♥️
Thank you
Just tell me how😭
Thank you beautiful
Howw
I'm 30 years old and i just learned that i have SocialAnxiety! I am so relieve that i finally know what is up with me and now i understand why i'm always reacting some type of way when i talk to people or when everyone is looking at me! I can't believe it took me that long, i just thought i was not normal ! Now i'm ready to fight and find some ways to ease things up 🥺
Same 31 here and always wondered what was wrong with me
Come through real strong kings/queens!
My social anxiety is under control, I use music and dance therapy as well as meditation. Another way I control my social anxiety is to focus more on the person/people im meeting instead of myself. ♥️
Making myself get out and do things sometimes makes me feel worse.. My anxiety doesn't last for a bit, it lasts for a long time.. it sticks and I can't shake it off.
This video sounds like it's for ppl with very surface level or mild anxiety. Sometimes I only have issues with my cns, there are no other components and no matter what I rehearse or tell myself, I can't shake the other symptoms.
True. Major SAD is worsen by systematic exposure. It causes more stress. When the brain can’t function, it shuts down. Cognition cannot function when psychological malfunction happens. You just cannot talk yourself out from a panic attack. That’s why I don’t think CBT work for me. Perhaps medication might
Same
@@crisyorke1328 xanax always works but when u don't have it or run out... you're stuck in your own prison and it just makes it 100 times worse
Thank you! SAME! I've worked in customer service ever since I first started working to MAKE myself get out of the house and get "exposure" to social situations but it just seems to get worse. Even with coworkers. I find myself not wanting to even try to talk to people some days because it's just so draining and the anxiety makes me feel sick. Not sure what to do anymore.
I have anxiety of picking up the phone. It's hard cause my current job involves lots of it. Fucking sucks when my heart beats so fast while I'm talking over the phone and I can feel my throat tightening up and I feel even more extra anxious when I feel like the person who I'm talking to notices up. So I always end up saying only a few words, and putting the phone down while my hands are shaking and checking on everyone if they notice. I hate my life
i literally hate notifications it spikes up my anxiety so bad even before i know who it is. try changing ur tone to something more calming, does help a bit
Me too
Me too :(
me too
Me too
I am watching this before starting to work in new place with new people😭😭 wanna go back home
I have been dealing with social anxiety since i was a child. I'm lucky to seek therapy. I know that it's uncomfortable feeling anxious and facing fears, but im studying theatre and was recently in a play. I had to perform in front of an audience. I was nervous, had to take deep breaths, but was also excited. Made me realize you can achieve the impossible, and having self compassion helps. Hope this helps someone! You got this.
I feel so alone. I’ve been struggling with this my whole life and don’t think it’ll ever get better lol
Merōn i feel the same, but trust me your not alone we suffering together😔✊
I feel the same way. I’m only a teen, but still feel anxious. Always keep in mind that you got this! 💪
You are not alone😫😫
righttt :( i wish i could just be normal and have casual conversations without worrying before hand. I wish i was confident bro :/ why i gotta be like this 🙄
You will get better just gotta believe👍🏾
Is it odd/not normal to get anxiety when hearing or talking about anxiety? Because whenever I hear something about anxiety... It gives me anxiety XD
Reyna yes, it is
This is 4 months late, but no I don’t think it’s weird. I tend to do that too, but I can’t exactly explain why.. anyway, that’s not weird
No, I don’t think it is. I’ve seen posts from many people saying just hearing the word makes them nervous.
Same and ||-//
I was literally thinking the same thing right now
I used to be someone with high self esteem, self love, and self confidence. I used to dance, and sing, and perform (badly mostly), and had no problem walking up to a complete stranger and making a fool of myself to make a friendship, go on a date, etc. I had many aquaintances and friends. But I was going through the toughest and most traumatic events in my life.
I remember I became that confident because one day I decided that... I didn't have time to be unhappy. I was loosing my life and my childhood to the horrors going on at home... so I decided that no matter what, I was always gonna be happy and find a reason to be happy and enjoy my life and take every opportunity and live every moment-- because I couldn't bear living for nothing as a vicitim and a pawn to someone elses gain, taught that I had no way out and no where else to go...
Years passed, I eventually fought and won freedom away from that person. But then more trauma, even more severe, hit me a couple months later when I found out another person in my life was just as bad if not worse... both of these persons were my parents.
Now I'm 19. I've lived through more than I can explain. I'm still not free of this person, and hard things have continued to happen, both inside and outside the home. I try and fail everyday to reach a point where I can be independent and get out all on my own, to give myself the life I so badly want to fight for... honestly, I hate my life. I wish I had the hope and strength I had when I was much younger to choose to live and take chances. To fail and succeed... but after too many things, I've lost that thing and now I'm ridden with resentment, severe anxiousness doing things I used to be able to do no problem no matter the scale.
Now I'm struggling to fight up the courage to get my first job, convince someone to take a chance on me, to look at me and see me for the potential I pray I still have, so that i can fund my dreams and make my way to a college degree and a new home i can call my home. And yet I stop myself. I cannot face anyone. I am stupid, and frightened, and traumatized, and alone.
I don't believe any of this was worth it, wherease once there was a time I did. I dont hold trust for relationships or people, where once I absolutely did... I have goals and dreams that can be made tangible, which is something I had very little of before. But most of all, I have fear-- and that's something I always had but never let control the direction and quality of my life.
If you've read my long ass comment, I pray I inspire you to work harder, work smarter, and live happier. I don't know what's going to happen for me or if I'll ever make it past 20. I'm too scared to live but I'm too scared to die. One thing I really pray for is that this isn't my villain backstory lol...
No I'm sure I'll be fine. I don't understand it. But thank you for reading what I needed to express. God bless ❤ I pray I find that something again to make me regain my faith and my drive, and my courage to do more than survive. Goodnight 🖐
I read your full comment and haven’t gone through nearly everything you have but have faced severe anxiety since a kid. But this did inspire me to keep going. Something that helps me out is to think about the future me that is happy and content with themselves, and what exactly is something I can do right now in this moment that future me will appreciate.
@@beatsbyzari7438 thank you, I really appreciate your kind words ❤❤❤ things are much better now-- I had to realize and trust that no matter what I'm going through, there's a solution to every problem and that Gods made a path for us to learn what we need to learn and move on safely from those situations. Which I have done and seen in a way I never thought was possible! It all worked out in a way I couldn't have done on my own 🙏❤ I realize we have struggles so we can experience joy... without one we wouldn't have the other. Thank you again, I hope you are blessed in your life and will be able to live joyfully despite the obstacles you face ❤❤ I absolutely agree, focusing on the goal of our future and making choices now to bring us closer to the person we strive to be is also incredibly important! Thank you 😊❤ have an awesome day
Hii I hope everything has been going better for you 🥺 I read the whole thing and I just want to say I believe in you! Keep fighting for your goals and dreams, I'm sure it is only a matter of time before that fire inside of you ignites and shines. Although I've definitely never gone thru half the things you went through, you are so strong just for fighting your way to freedom and bearing with the hardships right now. Remember that, no matter how long it seems to last, none of this will last forever. All of this is temporary, and you will find the courage and strength to do more than just survive. You got my support :)
This is really inspiring.....i read your whole comment...just know that your not alone in this fight 💪💪
Similar story with me boss. Was very social, got into some shitty experiences, started believing bad facts about life, became down, lost my social, alone, then SAD kicked in. It's been 2 years now, but it's getting better, just got into uni and today, I made a resolution that this shit ends this year, (although I thank God it's lower than when it initially started, but I gotta be confident, social, Uzi again. Gotta stop holding back my social, gotta start working with people. Well, in all this said, alas, I pray the God who put us on this mission gives us the grace to not only overcome this one but each and every road block and mission on our way to our final destination. AMEN.
Not only having social anxiety ruins everything. But most importantly it ruins the trust you've built for yourself. Having no friends, Trouble when speaking publicly, Not approachable to anyone and at the same time not approaching anyone too.
Yeah, It feels easy to watch a TH-cam video and feel good that these few tips might help but in reality we all know right ? That we gonna get fucked when the situation comes right up.
I just wanna be like everyone else and always know what to say. I want to not be scared to talk to people anymore. I sometimes am to self conscious to be my self in front of my bff. I'm way quieter than I am with my family around her. I wish I wasn't shy.
l a v e n d e r w a f f l e s u b s same here😭😭
Same
yesterday I was passing by the field where my old team is training, and I turned my head and pretended not to see them because I was too anxious to greet them, and what’s worse; they noticed
You can get a sense of what to shy to someone just from watching videos and movies that’s actually how a lot of us learn is by listening and watching others
I have such a bad social anexity that whenever any guest or even my family members visit my home I just lock myself and eat a lot a lot of junk food to cure myself.😫😩
Literally my life. I hate family parties. I never go. And I lock myself in my room.
yea same
@@ritzismynamo YESSS
My social anxiety was so bad that EVERYTIME I went inside walmart, sweat would show through my clothes 😁 (and then I wondered why are all these people were looking at me), but I've been able to control it and it's getting better 👌✨
being out in public is always pure hell and has caused problems in my relationship so this really makes me feel not too alone
Why does it feel so impossible to start socialising????Im 19 and running out of time😭
If you have money try VR game.
@@Sariine436 yeah, and also just try socializing on social platforms like discord and voice calls. that way you get used to socializing a little bit and start socializing irl.
It does feel like time is running out :') I'm 20 this year..but hey we are still young if you think about it. Many minutes, hours, days, weeks, months in a year. You can always start, small steps at a time. 💪
Rebecca Baddie what’s that?? How does it help with this disorder
Me too😔
I love that many people are actually trying to deal with this. 😂I’m proud of us all.
i can't speak properly if i am with people. i speak very fluent and well with people i know and when i am alone.
I feel so damn isolated all the time. Like I want to make conversation but everytime I say something I’m like “what if i say this wrong” or “they are so much more confident and social than me” its horrible. i feel like i’m so weird because of it and I just want to be able to talk and not have to think of every scenario that could go wrong in my head
Sameeee😭😭
Same here
Just stop caring what others think, whats the worst that can happen? and, if someone judges you or laughs at you, just laugh at them back
@@amigomichael3566 Haha brother I've told myself that for years. I wish it was as simple as telling yourself something and to think more positively, but I can guarantee, anyone in this comment section can tell you it isn't that easy. Anxiety is like a mountain. You make huge strides in gaining confidence, big leaps in conversations, but one setback and suddenly you don't want to climb that damn mountain. You start walking back down because you lose what you gained in seconds. Brotha I've been to therapy and had conversations with loved ones, and it's an endless obstacle if you actually have anxiety. You always feel set back, saying things like 'what's the worst that can happen' actually lead me to think worse after trying that method repeatedly. I appreciate your comment man and that you're trying to help, but it's not as simple as abc.
@@poly1fg833 no worries man :) im just trying
Okay so my story:
I'm not scared of really talking to people. But when I do, I just feel that they don't really are interested in the stuff that I say and that they would rather not listen to me, because theyre wasting their time. That's why I don't talk that much and exclude myself out of conversations because I think they just see me as the one boring person that is there but not really at the same time. And that's how I'm being treated, like I don't matter, like I'm just an extra. So I rather to stay out of this whole social thing completely and lose myself in my own world (homework, school work, music, books, writing, my family, films and serieses). These things make everything seems like home, like my own little world and I'm happy with that. But I sometimes feel so awkward when I'm in social situations, like I'm doing literally EVERYTHING wrong and that the other people think I'm such a weirdo. But that's the worst thing I can do and I know that. So from now on I'm going to fight my social anxiety and become a better person!!! ❤️
Literally exactly the same for me
YASS GURL I HOPE USING CAPSLOCK CAN HELP YOU, FIGHT THAT SHIT ANXIETY OUT OF YOU, WE CAN DO THIS, REMEMBER WE'RE NOT ALONE, JUST IMAGINE AS IF YOU WERE CONFIDENT, DONT BE AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES AND EMBARASSMENTS
sound great but you need to see a professional like a therapist. You really can't beat anxiety alone. you need someone how knows how the brain works and why it does somethings. and remember it is almost impossible to fully get rid of anxiety but you can almost do it if you're motivated enough.
SPOT ON BRO SPOT ON. I relate so much.
FR i feel like when it try to be careful with what i say i end up being boring and pushed off to the side feeling worthless
I can just feel everybody’s energy and it gets so exhausting and overwhelming
Katie Moreton your such an excellent counsellor. How you show us different things it makes me feel warm inside and I start to relax. Thank you so much Katie
I'm tired of not being able to text someone without having a panic attack when they take 3 minutes to respond.
I relate to that so hard 😓
@@Thanos-tg6hl thanks thanos :)
@@julissadc9227 :))
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I space out and feel like i can't see around me when i'm in a place where I feel anxious. Which in turn makes me a million times MORE anxious ☹
It feels like your head is full of helium or something.
True. It froze the person, and just can’t think and the heart is like stuck in the throat. Can’t even go for an interview. I could however talk about politics, but when the job interview is unrelated to politics, I just can’t. I’m not in my comfort zone.
Especially in class. I start to put the horse blinders on and I get panicky. I have a nervous habit of always tapping my leg or hand in order to try to distract myself, but people tell me to stop because it's annoying. I also feel my chest tightening and it feels like I'm not in my body. It's like my entire body and mind goes numb
Annabel L I feel the same way .. it’s so embarrassing and I swear I can hear my heart racing when it happens
I literally black out. I disassociate completely!! I get sweaty. My hands tremble. Fckn mess over here. I hate it!!
I thought I had social anxiety, then I looked in the comments and knew I was wrong, hope you guys get through what ur going through. Good luck 👊🏽
This video made me feel a lot better, social anxiety is the most draining thing in the world...stay strong all of you!
I’m totally Blind and have Social Anxiety, thing is .. I can’t run away from it due to my worthless eye balls lol but I have just found out today that after 2yrs on a waiting list I have finally got a Guide Dog which I will be meeting on Friday, so looking forward to the next chapter of my Life, going out more, trying to meet new people with my Guide Dog giving me an ice breaker into a conversation. Thanks for the Video, very informative, and by the sounds of your Voice you sound beautiful! Keep the video’s coming, great job x
theblinddrummer2014 how did you type this
@@yesmhm2923 somebody probably helped to write this
@@yesmhm2923 maybe he used talk back feature
@@yourmom7397 no
This is such a wholesome comment
After my severe abuse of my past, I withdrew from society while healing. My therapist didn't challenge that at first, but this is exactly how I rejoined society. I started off simply going to a mall and sitting down and staying there, and my homework was talking about both the people I saw (forcing me to notice them) and my own feelings. Then I had to walk with people, then ask questions in the shops, ask a mall employee directions, various types of engagement. The world didn't end at each step.
Jeffry Brickley I feel ya. I used to be more “outgoing” but then I went through trauma and abuse and then I just couldn’t talk to anyone. Like it was just me myself and I. I’m still heavily socially anxious
@@rosiepettals9645 tiny steps can make a huge difference
muthafukin ava Im going through the same thing rn I jus wanna be myself again
tell me some therapy ways to over it
I literally cried when I clicked on this video.....im trying to accept that I actually need to do stuff for things to get better
This video made me bawl too. I didn't think that I was going to make me cry when I first clicked on it. That was until I completely broke down as soon as it started.
Great video Kati. I love how you define what anxiety is exactly so we have a clear lens to apply to the rest of the video. Thank you!
Today I was my first day of school, as usual everybody already knew each other and I felt like everybody was watching me, I was there, standing alone like a dog while thinking what other people might think of me. In my new class I knew someone but they ignored me because I never talk, everybody sat down with their friends while I was the only one who was alone, eventually a boy sat down next to me because there were no places left, as the teacher was speaking I felt like my heart was going to explode, my mouth got dry and my throat tightened up, I couldn't even speak, when I needed to say a simple "thanks" my voice was all shaky that you could barely hear me, my eyes got all teary that I was about to cry but I pinched my hand so I could distract myself. When I got home I really felt like heaven, alone in my bed, here with my phone writing down all I want, reading and doing what makes me happy hoping that the day would pass by slowly. Tomorrow I need to go back to school, and here I am, crying myself to sleep and scared of going to school and face like 970 people. I just want a therapist to help me overcome my social anxiety or maybe getting home schooled would be even better but I won't dare to ask. People always say "you're not alone" but I really do feel alone.
Online school seems to work out this year, best outcome of the pandemic lol. Now atleast i don't have to stand up in front of 30 people watching me every recitation/presentation. How about you? Covid answers our prayers for this, like homeschooling v2.0
I have the exact same thing. Whenever I try to speak to someone I can barely get a word out, and when I finally manage to, I just sound extremely weird and raspy. It happens everytime and I can't get over it.
also i love your tbhk pfp ^_^
Your in the same situation as me omg
Exact same thing I’m going through 😭
I can't even get out into my neighborhood without breathing quickly and thinking everyone is looking at me and judging me.
Ive realized when I meet new people or when Im in a social setting, my mind only focuses on how they look at me and trying to figure out what they think about me based on their facial gestures. What really helps me to get through these thoughts is to start focusing on the conversation instead and listen to what they are really saying and ignore my unrealistic thoughts. Its seems impossible at the beginning but you must re-train your brain to do the right thing. at some point I had to quit my job because I just couldn't handle it anymore but now Im preparing for a 2 hours job interview. You all got this!
this comment section is raily helpful nice to have that feeling that your not alone with social anxiety its extremely hard to deal with it especially in a school environment you feel like no one understands you and you just want to go home and cry, reading these comments makes me feel like all of you are my friends
I realized recently that I kept on rejecting invitation to dinners, events etc with a group of "unknown" people to me (strangers). Only thinking of going it just make me feel uncomfortable or maybe ill about it and even restless just on thinking about it. So in the end I would just reject/cancel it.
Posting this comment also took me 5 minutes or more on whether should I write this. I know there maybe no ones going to see this or care about it, I'm very nervous about posting ONE comment :/
I know im 8 months late but Same :/
same girl, my friend had a birthday party and i didnt want to go because i felt like i would be awkward there with her friends
I understand, I posted about my anxiety in a FB group. Someone replied and I got so anxious, I deleted my comment. Then I searched for videos about how to overcome social anxiety.
@@lotusflowerinbloom same man what can we do?
@@lotusflowerinbloom god that happens a LOT to me, like sometimes i will get a "unwanted" response that hurt me or embarrass me and that would make feel so bad and that's just how my anxiety keeps going
My social anxiety always comes formal settings in groups. That group dynamic triggers me like crazy, as I’m so in my head that I can’t think properly and have a difficult time articulating...then guilt/shame kicks in after where I beat myself up for how bad it went. A lot of fun! I have no issues in formal settings 1on 1, as I feel calm no matter who that person is...it’s always that second, third pair of eyes that makes me feel that I’m being judged. As I write this, it does feel kind of silly, but I’ve been dealing with this fear for years, and it seems like no amount of exposure helps. Thx for the video none the less.
Don't feel silly... Cuz this is exactly how I feel. And it's difficult cuz when a new person is added with someone you feel comfortable with it makes it worse cuz you're thinking well this person knows my personality and now i cant be myself and what must my friend be thinking?? I wanna be myself. It just feels impossible in the moment. I'm a musician and its killing me.
YES IM THE EXACT SAME
@@sophe2848 +++
i feel you on the level words can't describe. ily so much for sharing this tho, you made me feel like I'm not alone. I have the same exact thing, except recently 1 on 1 interactions started to become nightmare as well. i feel so trapped, sad, angry at the same time. this shit sucks.
YESS! when i'm talking to 1 person, everything is fine, but if i talk to 2 at the same time, i just completely shut down like i don't want to interrupt them or something :(
I decided to watch the video because of the title.. but I’m impressed about your skills in explaining information in a very organized way. Congratulations! Keep it up and thanks for the video!
Having social anxiety is really hard because you always miss the opportunities to socialize, improve your abilities, shine, get the praise you deserve or even just make yourself happy. Even when all the chances and opportunies are infront of your eyes, you just can not reach them because you feel uncomfortable. You just search for your safe zone, a quiet place that you can calm down. You just want to run away. And the treatment is really hard, especially you can not talk to a therapist. You need to push yourself, yourself. But I really want to get rid of this fucking stressful and sad life. So I will try to get over it, myself. I'm really pushing myself, I just want to cry and I just want my safe zone. But I'm hoping I will make it, and shine through my problems.
I feel I'm stuck in a toxic environment (everyone claims that it is in my head but it obviously isn't) and I'm just emotionally and mentally destroyed by it. I trying to fix my life and someone is always there to attack me.
Same here! What is the term for it actually?
It’s both in all made up in your mind and not at the same time truthfully; only you can’t trick your own mind to believe that so that line of reasoning people use is not helpful.
Same I have no support everyone just tells me to get over it and
i feel you
same. im black in a racist ass town
Anxiety is a hell which burn me everytime
yeah
It takes bravery. I really like how you said fight back! Thank you
I can't even walk properly when some one is watching
One thing I noticed when I’m anxious around people is I start to shiver for some reason. It’s like I feel really cold.
21minute yeah I always feel really cold too but also sweating (but cold if this makes sense?!)
Cold, shaky, and sweaty
when my anxietys at it's worst it feels like ice cold blood flowing through my veins
Elijah L. How I feel right now
@@geheimerwaldninja4748 yeah that's a thing. it's called cold sweat, i also have it when I'm anxious. it's annoying :(
I expose myself all the time and it just gets worse and worse.
hey ,if anyone else trying to find out tips to reduce panic attacks try Tarbetti Fearless Tutor ( search on google ) ? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my partner got amazing success with it.
Guys chek Sean's Cooper work. He has extreme social anxiety for years, he studied it and he has his own The Social and Shyness System with everything you need to overcome it. I really recommend
Stop speaking too much to yourself while you expose urself
Honestly exposure therapy never worked for me
My feelings of anxiety are prolonged and have never lasted “for a little bit”, so its a huge effort to make it through anything social. It is persistent even with constant positive thought replacement. The rest was motivating, thank you.
I'm having post lockdown social anxiety that I never had. It was tough being at the grocery store. This video helped, thanks!
Eyebrows on fleek
I had just got them done that day.. haha!!! xoxo Thanks!! xoxo
I thought I was the one who noticed them!
I noticed too!
This quarantine period made me think and realize how much I missed out on life and wasted some golden opportunities because of this goddarned anxiety. But I don't want to get caught up in the past now! My goal is to make small steps to at least be 1% better than the person I was yesterday. I swear I just want to be better. Wish me luck! 💪
Everything out here is so relatable every single one of I've experienced it but I feel everyone wrote it down just to get me I have this level of social anxiety sometimes I wish I felt nothing at all.
I hear ya brother it's not easy 🙏
Really enjoyed this video! I was able to overcome social anxiety and it feels so great 😁 can’t wait to share my techniques with others as I keep building my channel 💕
I have practical advice that’s worked for me in the past (I’m in a mess recently so might need to repeat it lol):
- Start working out regularly. Seriously, it’s a life changer, however cliche it might sound. Don’t overdo it if you’re a total beginner - go with 3-4 times per week
- Start cold showers every morning. I didn’t believe it, but once I tried it, my mind was super sharp and I was able to focus on the present moment.
- Start meditation/yoga or both. Meditation is a must imo, but yoga also involves a bit of it so you can combine the two
- Start with gradual exposure. Basically, create a list of things to do ( it can be as simple as going to the mall, up to facing your worst fear ever). Then, rank these things. And then you should start doing things that are ranked lower on the list. Once you’re comfortable with that thing, move up until you reach the top. Know that this can take months, so don’t rush it.
- Intermittent fasting worked well for me, but I know it’s not for everyone.
Combine all of these and you’ll see at least some results, I guarantee.
@rosie
@@gportech I know you wrote this a long time ago but thanks
You are lying,you don't have social anxiety,because all you said I did and it didn't work.
@@dhimitri3294 how long did u do it for, habits almost never have instant results
@@_DavyGravy 2 years
I don't get sweaty, and my heart doesn't usually race, but I get fidgety, and my chest gets tight.
My anxiety isn't really in the moment, it's pre and post interaction. Before hand when I know I'm going to have to talk to someone, I get super anxious, and I think about just avoiding it or putting it off. I go over in my head what I'm going to say, and then rehearse it over and over till there is no way I can forget or say the wrong thing. Sometimes I do just abort, and never end up doing the things if that is an option. But if I absolutely must have this interaction, I can usually shove the thoughts away out of necessity.
But afterwards, even if everything went fine, I have anxious thoughts about what happened. I convince myself that I messed up, was annoying, or acted weird. I get embarrassed and angry at myself. After interactions is when things get more Physiological. Racing heart, out of breath, fidgety. Feeling angry at myself for acting "dumb", and wanting to lash out at myself and things around me...Those thoughts last for weeks to months.
It's a horrible cycle, and it never ends.
That's why the advice of, "Just try to do it, and you'll see that everything works out fine." doesn't help me. It doesn't MATTER if it's fine. My brain will convince me that I did SOMETHING wrong.
It's like being stuck in a hole, and I have no clue how to climb out...
I'm in the exact same position as you. After any social interaction (even just talking on the phone) my mind constantly goes over and over what I said trying to find where I messed up. i find it so disheartening when people say to just do it and you will see its not so bad bc in the end i feel it makes my anxiety worse. i feel as if i will never be able to over come this but its nice to know someone else is in this position too xx
Yeah, sometimes I feel like I can't overcome this as well... My mom used to tell me, "I was shy when I was younger, but I got over it the older I got." I would hold on to that idea with hope, but the older I got, it didn't get any better at all. I'm 18 now, and I'm the worst I've ever been. It took me a long time to realize that the reason I'm getting worse is because I'm not just "shy". My mom was just shy, but I have anxiety, and that isn't something that fixes itself.
I do have a little bit of hope left that some day I will find a way to better myself. I know it will take a concentrated effort to get better, but at the moment, I don't know how to go about doing that. I don't know how to take the first step, and I don't think I'm brave enough to. But I do believe life has to get better eventually.
I genuinely hope you can overcome your issues, because it's nothing anyone should have to deal with.
I have the same feeling like yours Olivia for 3 years and I'm only 14 years old,I have depression before but I already cope it
Just remember there’s no such thing as perfect and that goes with conversations, remember focus on your breathing or even touch something your hands your phone something to bring you to the present moment you can’t be anxious or depressed if your present
That’s the reason why because you’re worried of others opinion and views of you fuck that it’s time for you to put yourself first and be the man and be yourself, everyone goes through shit we are all equal. People judge that’s life that’s none of your business what other think of your but what it shows is that your a good person and that’s what matters
Last week I went out with group of friends that i am not confident with yet i did not speak a word for the whole 7 hours and i pray to god that i overcome my social anxiety
Me getting anxiety while you talking about anxiety 😂
I needed this video. My anxiety kicked off BADLY recently. I'm a mess right now but hopefully I'll be able to talk it through with my therapist soon
So glad it was helpful!! I hope your therapist can work through some of these things with you. xoxo
I had a therapist that said once that my world gets smaller when I don't get out there. I definitely see that if I don't push myself, my comfort spots shrink. It got to a point where only my bedroom was "safe". I have a caring husband and loving kids that help me expand my world when it starts to shrink.
You're beautiful
Hope you are doing okay
One year later hope your better I recently got social anxiety.. Fml it's the worst
I get butterflies in my stomach when I get anxious. Worst feeling ever
Yeah kinda painful butterflies not exciting butterflies, I know exactly what you’re talking about
yesss i think ik what you mean, this feeling like you have to vomit but you cant. it makes me wanna go to the toilet even though i dont have to pee idk thia feeling drives me crazy
It's as if my heart will rip itself out of my chest or I will do that myself if I didn't let myself out of the situation
Anxiety is definitely worse than depression in my opinion. I know everyone is different but for me I feel like I'm always more anxious than depressed
Im so relieved to see I’m not the only one suffering.
It’s crazy because I used to be so social . I would talk for hours and hours with no fear . Soon as 5th grade hit I became very mute and closed off from others . I don’t know if it was because I stopped going outside or going around people