Are You a Highly Sensitive Person? | Kati Morton
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- There are many online tests you can take to find out if you are an HSP or not, and I am sure many of these are helpful and accurate, however, there isn’t a tried and true test or assessment that mental health professionals use. Just wanted to throw that out there. Also, after reading about the HSP, I realized how negatively we view the word “sensitive” when it can actually be a very positive and helpful quality. So just pay attention to how you view that word and how you use it in your life. And if using the term “highly sensitive person” is bothersome to you, feel free to make it your own.. You could call it “highly intuitive person” maybe. Whatever works for you. Oh, and also know that HSP is not the same as Sensory Processing Disorder, some scientists call HSP “Sensory Processing Sensitivity” but know that sensory overload is merely one part of HSP.
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One of my bosses told me it's okay to be sensitive because it means my heart is in it, that was the most valued i have ever felt.
That's honestly really beautiful 🙂
yeah, being sensitive means you give a shit. who wants to employ someone who doesn't care?
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Waow that's amazing, I think that you're very lucky ! It's actually the opposite for me, I try to do my best on focusing on everything so everything is done the best way but because of that I tend to forget things during the day and my boss just repeat me that I don't care or don't listen when I actually care too much than what I can handle and it's so frustrating !
I love your boss
My absolute biggest pet peeve is when a person invalidates someone’s actually valid feelings by calling them “too sensitive”.
I hate that
And oftentimes, those same people who accuse you of being "too sensitive" will themselves respond very negatively to the slightest criticism of their own reactions to things.
It's honestly the worst.
While working on self love and acceptance I noticed I started taking it either as a compliment or a joke... it's like them saying I'm too tall - there's nothing inherently bad about it, they just have to adjust to my height now :)
@@NJ-wb1cz that's a pretty great way of looking at it. Like, "You like bad movies!" Or "your hair is too brown!" Umm, okay.... Sorry, I... guess 🤷♂️
People are always like “damn, you’re so quiet in groups!” Nah fam, I’m just observing y’all
Me when i meet new people
People can always tell when someone is observing them and generally dislike it that's why they say you're "quiet".
Ohhh I love observing people in large groups too!!
Same here
Love this, I'm usually very extroverted in groups and also I'm observing y'all!!!!
"Doesn't like conflict." This is one of my most used phrases
Me too!
It's so incorrect for people to think that sensitive people are weak. It's the opposite. We are strong because we process and digest so much more than others and we are still living in this world
People think that to be strong, you have to hide your emotions. It's harder for HPS to hide emotions. But what they don't understand, is that anger is also something they express well. They can say their opinion, and since they read people well, they know where to push. But they usually will use this ability to do good, because they care about people.
I think being strong is not related to being HPS or not. It's only related to if you're confident or not. People who aren't confident with crying, judge HPS who are confident with crying, or admire it. Crying makes you stronger, I learned that.
I totally agree. It's hard sometimes to take in all the emotions that I'm feeling, but we still go through it and move on with our lives and that's super fascinating.:)
Yes and all most all literary persons are hypersensitive.
The Self-Worth Habit I agree 100 percent!😊
Very true. Lots of admirable traits are seen as weakness though, I think thats just lack of understanding and naiveness. I prefer not to label it as a strength or weakness, much like I don't feel like being a HSP is a gift or curse. If I had the choice I would accept being a HSP and consider it advantageous in many ways BUT it's also often emotionally, mentally, physically exhausting and overwhelming, especially around particular people, in certain situations or environments.
Being a HSP or an empath can make some jobs very difficult or virtually impossible as well as detrimental/damaging personally.
I have found being aware and discovering your a HSP and/or empath makes it 1000% more easy to operate at a moderately tolerable level, especially if we're actively aware act responsibly. As mentioned in the vid personally I often previously felt abnormal especially as a man. Men are generally expected to be more emotionally strong and stable by themselves and society in general. This IMO is partly/generally a stereotype, misconception, and incorrect.
Damn I have rambled enough. If I could offer simple advice to anyone struggling to cope as a HSP and/or empath it would be do research. There is so much information out there. This channel and a few others have helped me tremendously. Reading online or books I'm sure would help a lot I'm sure though would require more effort. Be particularly aware of your limits and set appropriate boundaries and guidelines to protect yourself emotionally/mentally. Don't try to suppress, ignore or be ASHAMED of your emotions/feelings. Be aware, conscious, and process your feelings and emotions. This is actually meditation. I don't like the term "meditation" bc it feels like a voodoo religious practice. IT'S NOT. Meditation IMO isn't act of turning off ur brain and being calm - it's the deliberate act being calm, relaxing, intelligently processing thoughts and feelings. HSP & empaths often do a lot of thinking and contemplating meditation helps to do it much more productively.
I’m an HSP. It’s really a gift and a curse. Majority of the time I feel misunderstood by most people.
Me too
Absolutely agree!
Same. I feel like I know things that goes over people's heads or that I tend to over-talk and people just aren't having it.
Still, I feel like a lamb among wolves sometimes. Some have this "look" ya know? Like, 'I'm gonna eat well tonight', kind-of look.
I consider that myself; but only because people told me that in my youth.
Can I ask if you can elaborate a little?
Samee
I feel that way,too. I have empathic tendrncies as well and feel that people fear me!!! In fact I should fear them and not the other way arround.
I am an HSP and an Empath and I feel like I have been "rescuing" people my whole life. Holy Smokes, I am SOOOOOOOO tired.
Med too. 😊❤ But my whole life I forgot to rescue myself 😢
You're right, thank you.
@@candi_z32babyface29 Yes...feel the same. 😢💚 would be nice if we would be at least understood. 💙🤍🍁
Same ...why im here ...I decided to rescue myself 💙 Im an empath as well . Its very draining isnt it ladies 💅 we got this 👊
They usually dont want to be rescued.
HSP's tend to be more compassionate and caring. I know I can't seriously hurt others because my own heart is breaking at the same time just thinking about their pain. Plus you are always left wondering why people can't see things the way you can because we process things so deeply.
This video is really helpful.
So this is why I'm always tired when I'm around people
Maria Johansson you might also be an introvert, or both!
Oh, how I know that feeling of being tired around people. No one seems to understand though...You can watch me in my recent video about other people's annoying habits and HSPs.
IKR!
@ Maria, Right! It's like for every 1 hour I spend with you I need 4 to recover!
I am tired "after people". Like, after work, I don't have energy to live my life :-(
I’m a HSP, if you are too then that’s okay❤️ You are not alone!
I love your channel!
Ty
I like being alone I need to recharge! 😁 whole I'm jokingly serious I know what you are saying so thank you
As an Introvert/Highly Sensitive/Empath, many of the avg "Joes" think that we are too quiet, too weird and too weak.
Too bad for them, cause we are almost always the most loyal of all Humans.
And we are close our Source.😊
Same.
We really are the strongest
Straight up!🙌🏻❤️😊
My loyalty has kept me in some fucked up places when my gut knew better
I think that artistic nature is a common trait of HSP's too. Pondering the world, interested in information, interested in details and the ability to sense things deeply (literally- sensitive) are all traits that artists have.
True!! You can't have genius without a spark of madness
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This comment is so cute
"All feelings are warranted and ok." ....... that's not how my family feels about it
I am so sorry your family isn't understanding :(
@@Katimorton Thanks. I know that they love me and they mean well, but my family is more of the type to bottle up their emotions and keep everything on the inside. I honestly don't know how I came out being an HSP XD
My mom always says "you just think too much"
@@fudgesolo6352 My family also bottled up and kept emotions hidden, and I think that's exactly WHY I'm an HSP: I had to become much better at reading the subtle cues of their emotions, since they were never going to make them obvious.
@@fudgesolo6352 saaaaaaaameeee
I am a HSP introvert/emparh. I am intoned with reading people's negative vibe: the way they stare at me, they way whisper to each other and giggle as they look at me, the rolling of eyes as I speak...the list goes on and on, it use to destroy me. During the Pandemic, I reflected on me. Now, I'm on this Journey to self discovery and I am loving me.
Atta baby!! This is my reason for being here watching this video. Self awareness and eventually recovery
Being an HSP, because we can feel emotional shifts in rooms easily and nearly read others thoughts (even when they are negative), I’ve found myself more sensitive to others judgement. Something that’s really helped me function better is to know that their judgements aren’t validated because they don’t know me or the depth of me therefore their judgement doesn’t need to be internalized. *this doesn’t stand as a substitute for just not being around people that make you feel shitty, take care of yourself!* ❤️
Thank you
I take care of myself by staying at home alone so my senses are not agitated by anyone else
Some people have called me sensitive when I cry after they make me feel bad. I am sensitive and proud because i am intuitive. I am sensitive not a "snowflake" Be proud if you're sensitive and don't let people make you feel bad 😊✨❤
I find it attractive to be sensitive :) .. Stay blessed ^^
I'm a sensitive person, my husband is a sensitive person and our son.......is a *highly sensitive person*
At least I can understand what he's going through and the struggles he faces and will face as he gets older (he's only 8).
My mother, on the other hand, was not sensitive at all and teased me about it all my life, in fact she still does, in fact she complains about how sensitive my son is to me. I started setting boundaries with my toxic mother a few years ago!
@@trinomial-nomenclature My mother was really toxic, I coudn't cry in front of her because it made her feel like she won. So all this emotion build up.. It exploded to her in anger.
I envy people who cry, because they process their own feelings well. (I'm also HPS)
I wish I could find someone I wouldbe able to express my emotions freely.
@@thisisntallowed9560 I am extremely sorry for what you had to endure from your mother, bottling up feelings can be extremely painful and I'm not surprised it ended in an explosion of anger towards her.
I feel the need to clarify that just because my husband and I are HSP's doesn't allow me to freely talk about my feelings. Actually it's quite the opposite, he often doesn't want to hear about my "stuff" and quickly gets overwhelmed, so I have to "censor" (in a way) what I say to him.
It's not as peachy as people think it to be, nor what I thought it would have been.
@@trinomial-nomenclature I didn't see things like that. I always had this problem where I talk too much about my problems and feelings with my friends, but I don't cry or express those emotions directly. By 'expressing my emotions' I was more talking about crying, laughing and doing stuff I like without having to hide. I have this need to be understood, and I predict this will cause problems with my futur relashionships, because it already have, but now I'll take a different approach. At least I know people who are with me won't have to censor because I like hearing about people's problems a lot.
What's a highly sensitive person?
It me
I guess me too, the test showed so I got 23! wow
@@ms.alright5956 I got 23 too!
@@fudgesolo6352 Hahaha let's be friends then :D
@@ms.alright5956 Yay! Friendship!
@@fudgesolo6352 sure ^^
Was anyone else super aware of the “we” language she was using?
She always does this.
During high school, I was constantly in my guidance counselor's office talking to him about the abuse my mom was putting me through and I mentioned that my mom constantly complained about me being too sensitive . My guidance counselor told me that I should view my sensitivity as a positive because the world could benefit from more people like me. That's always stuck with me.
Amen! Your guidance counselor sounds like my PsychMD's and even my elementary, middle and HS authorities said this at different eras of my life but it's remained a constant in my reality. I feel blessed actually
Love this!!
I’m an HSP and a hospice nurse. Some days are incredibly tough. I’m learning to not absorb other people’s pain. It’s a challenge.
Hey, I'm a nurse as well (currently not working, as im going to university again for a psychology degree) and was thinking of maybe also going into hospice care, as i really liked an internship there and also liked that you have so much more time to take care of a patients/residents needs compared to a regular hospital- it just feels so much more humane to me.
Now i know, that its different on a personal/ maybe even cultural level, but if you want to share, id love to know how you are dealing with working there long-term and what strategies you have to do cope with the realities of working in a hospice. I love the job, but am a bit scared of it being too much.
@@inesgurtler5749 self care and a support system allows me to continue long term in hospice. I’ve become quite self educated in grief and compassion fatigue. My employer encourages nurses to take time off, they are careful not to overload us with the number of patients we have, which helps tremendously. I find that what is helpful is to tell myself daily,” This is not my pain to carry. I am here to bear witness and to alleviate their pain.”
I am also a nurse, HSP, and an empath. It was through deeper spiritual knowledge of what I came here to do and how, what and when to give to others, that I could be my best for the benefit of others. I chose private duty early in my career to focus on one pt for an agreed commitment of time. This is how I was able to control/balance my energy, stay healthy and renewed. You must find balance in all aspects of your life!
I was a health care worker for the elderly. I had to leave that job cause I couldn't cope. So proud of you being able to do this job 🙂
Aww.
"the problems we face aren't due to our emotions, it's actually due to our judgement of them."
this is such a good explanation, thank you 🙌🏻
My family has many times told me I’m too sensitive. I was never a cry baby but it always felt like gaslighting. It’s a way of dismissing peoples feelings when they seem like too much trouble or they simply don’t care.
Still to this day, evryone I know has always told me I'm being too emotional or sensitive so I tried to hide my emotions which only made things worse. I felt like I couldn't talk to anyone about my feelings because I thought they wouldn't validate them. I always found myself deeply connecting with music and it was hard trying to find anyone as passionate as I was about things like plays or musicals. When I learned about the HSP I was so elated and felt like I was finally understood! I'm still learning how to take better care of myself but learning is the first step!
Wow you sound so much like me. I'm actually happy to hear that.
A HSP here! Being in a busy mall is so draining, it feels like I'm absorbing all the emotions of the people there.
I saw a man in the mall one day and he looked like he was about to cry- and I seriously grabbed him and hugged him and said, “Me too!” And started bawling. Lol.
DeDebby wow sameeee
I've used the Black Tourmaline stone in my pocket after I discovered I do absorb other's energies and I've noticed quite a difference whenever I wear it vs do not since it not only repels negative energies of others keeping it from entering you it pushes away electronic signals, helps lower your stress and anxiety. I do have more energy to me on days I wear it and if I forget I notice it. You could try that.
@@destroyraiden ~ Thank you for this. I took a screenshot of your comment so I can try this. I seem to always be surrounded by negative people and it really takes a toll on my well being.
Growing up my mom worked more often than not (she still does), but her days off were most often spent in shopping malls or shopping plazas and I was always with her when she shopped. I always hated it, not because I hated shopping, but rather because I ended up feeling unbearably fatigued. I've been plagued by fatigue my entire life. It has been the bane of my existence.
Everytime Kati says, "Welcome," I feel like Mr. Rogers from Mr. Rogers Neighborhood is smiling at her from Heaven
Muzzey, this comment deserves so many more likes.
@@RoziEREx It's not about the likes. It's all about the love
Muzzey and I love your comment lol
But then says HSP and sounds gangsta
This is the only time I’ve ever wanted to cry from a TH-cam comment
It’s not as easy as Kati says to heal! I wish everyone was as sensitive as me! I keep getting hurt and others don’t care or don’t understand and they keep telling me I need to toughen up! Or I should not intellectualize things! I’m actually becoming even more sensitive as years go by and it makes me feel like an alien and I constantly get hurt by people’s insecurities, insensitivities, ignorance, narcissism, injustice and cruelty! I can’t change things! It’s so helpless! Even knowing why I’m different doesn’t eliminate the suffering! I wish everyone could understand and feel how I feel or I could understand how they think!
I’m an extroverted HSP and when researching with Elaine’s material, I found she was rather uninformed on our type. We do exist. Glad Kati made a point to say so.
Me too! There is so little out there about our type. In solidarity!
Me as well.
@Cymric, Can you recommend reading material, drop links to videos and advise on this theory more?? I'm green to all this
Omg I love everyone in this comment section! Reading all these comments I have never felt so in common with so many people in my life! I feel like I'm reading quotes of myself. I love you all.
Join a meet up group for HSPs. It will change your life.
@Gigi K I totally would, but I'm not on Facebook. I bet there are groups elsewhere though. I never thought to look! lol
@@lornocford6482I've thought about going to meet up groups before but I never knew there was a category for this. I should totally look into that! Thanks!
@@Tiger-Lilly I'm a member of one in the UK, so there's definitely one here.
@@lornocford6482 Thats wonderful! Im in the USA. :)
Me: "I wish I wasn't so sensitive."
Me also: "Although sometimes being highly sensitive can be hard, I'm glad that I can feel and I can relate and help people going through stuff. I'd never change, it makes me who I am.
Laura Knaus I always say I wouldn’t change who I am, and then I’m awake at 1:30 after ruminating for hours and I reconsider. But - I generally always return to the original thought
I actually hate helping people out because they just see it as a weakness and they only wanna use you as a therapist. A lot of people don’t appreciate anything
Anxiety & depression are given as free stuff
Me in a nutshell!
Thanks, this pretty much sums up how I feel about my high sensitivity or I would like to frame it. As Kati said, it's an amazing gift that we have. Our high sensitivity also makes us more empathetic and able to relate to other people.
I am definitely an HSP. It’s crazy listening to this and reading comments. I remember sleeping a lot as a kid. I think it was because of the emotional stress our home growing up
I really like that you say "we" rather than "you" or "they"
i noticed that in the first video I watched by her it was about bipolor and I thought she was really bipolar ,then I got what she meant and its great way of passing the message and making patients feel they r not alone ....great work
I'm an HSP. Had a rough childhood and was told I was too sensive, even as a little girl. Was told I was crazy like my Aunt when I was just 6 years old by my family members.
Dude, SAME!
i was just called shy by some people and sensitive by others so XD
You can threat them to do something very bad to them 🤪😈since if you are able to do great good you can also do great evil (and not knowing what you are capable of).
Kelly Green Same here!
Me too 🙏🏾🙏🏾
This really resonated with me. Ever since I was a child my family has always called me over sensitive, as if there’s something wrong with it. But I’m proud to be an HSP. I know that my sensitivity means that I’m a great listener and very empathetic towards others, because I am always in tune with others’ feelings, sometimes before they even admit it to themselves.
Yes! Be proud of who you are. Of course without to much ego is key. Self love is the most important thing to understand about our own life. Be blessed and strong. You are very much appreciated for being your authentic self. Love and kindness goes a long way.
I am an HSP and it does me more good than bad! I am highly sensitive to "good" things and get overwhelming happy by the smallest things. Like if I see a pretty bird I can be so deeply moved and excited and I can lighten up those around me with my joy because it reminds others of all the beauty in the small things as well. I am very extroverted and being HSP attracts people to me because I am so sensitive to any stories or feelings people share, like any person's story will just make me feel moved deeply. It helps me to understand others better and to make others feel heard and appreciated. But I take a lot of precautions to preserve my happiness; sad or traumatic stories or movies can ruin my whole day, so I limit the movies I watch and avoid horror / thriller ones all together. I cut people off mid-convo and tell them "don't tell me this story - I can't hear this." like if its too dark I just mentally can't take it! That's why people initially think I would be the best therapist with my extreme empathy until they realize that their trauma will traumatize me lol. I would literally cry more than my clients.
People don’t know they are dealing with a highly sensitive person. I can recall information in a vivid detail. I ask questions and reflect on them so much. I watched a video about highly sensitive people, and Sounds like I have a little of everything but I am strongly in the intellectual highly sensitive person. I have lots of curiosity and sensitive to stimulation. Very intuitive.
As a HSP, I am an outgoing introvert (ambivert).
Cari omg me too I remember EVERYTHING it seems like I can’t let things go
Yet my short term memory is iffy at best. But then again I've suffered a TBI.
One thing that bothers me about the hip and trendy places is that they often don’t use any sound proofing like coffee shops and eatery’s. They’ve gone for industrial and open and that means SO LOUD SO LOUD!!!
This is also a real problem for people with any sort of impaired hearing.
And I don't understand bars with loud music but no dancefloor. You can't have a conversation, but you can't dance either.
Andy Brice that is so true. Why is it so loud w/o a dance floor? There’s a trendy place near me that does that and I don’t eat there because you literally can’t talk to a person standing next to you and with hearing impairments it would be even worse. Establishments should consider their patrons first. If there’s a dance floor I understand loud music, but when it’s just a place for socializing it doesn’t need to be jarringly loud!
and why does there have to be loud music in almost every single shop?? Not every shopper is a teenager...Or most restaurants and pubs, lots of cafes. Why do they turn up the volume and make people who sit next to each other, shout when having a conversation? I never get that...Aren't clubs for that purpose? I've aslo started making videos about HSPs as I'm one myself..Good to see that there are others like me.
I miss when booths were everywhere! Please let it be a trend again soon
I thought I was the only one who noticed this like whyyyyyy?!
Learning to appreciate and even love my sensitivity was truly life changing!!
Thanks for the inspiration, I can do this! I can love my sensitivity & all that goes with it
Being an HSP really helps me, as a school teacher. Sometimes, when a student is upset, others want to immediately comfort them. Just like adults, kids need their space, so I tell others to let them be. They always come around. Conversely, noise really, really bothers me, so being a teacher is a counter-intuitive career choice for me!!!
I am also a teacher, Beth :) And I feel absolutely the same. Sometimes just tired and overwhelmed. But being a teacher just makes my heart happy. Where are you from? Greetings, Melanie
Kati Morton has such kind eyes and the way she expresses herself, her body language, is so welcoming and empathic. She must be an amazing therapist.
Thank you for the amazing videos that you create, they are really well structured, informative, and comforting for people that are looking for information about these topics.
I also wish people would stop seeing being sensitive as a negative thing. We need to value sensitive people more💕. P.S love the shirt Kati
Most people don't notice.
There's also sensitive people and narcissists who use their "sensitivity" to control people.
Elzanie Vorster sensitivity doesn’t just apply to positivity. There’s a lot of sensitive killers, rapists, and many others.
Our culture/society trampled over Hsp’s. I know a guy in his early 30’s who took his life recently. He was an Hsp. He did not deal with any chronic depression. He was what most people viewed as a successful great looking graphic designer with a big ass heart. Surprised and devistated a community around him when it happened
Yes exactly
Kati, you are an amazing gift from God to a hurting world!
I heard this my whole life "Quit being so sensitive!"
Even as a toddler
Me2
I’ve always told people close to me that I’m just highly sensitive but haven’t been able to put it into words and how all the symptoms you’ve stated connect and contribute to my moods/reactions/emotions. I am actually crying because I feel incredibly validated as such a highly sensitive person that I’m gone for words. People can see this and think what on earth is the big deal, but I have been so confused on how I deal with my own emotions and why I feel the way I do for nearly 10 years - it’s been 4 years since I’ve been able to even begin managing it. I read so much into people’s facial reactions, their responses. I also am so, so, so incredibly sensitive to loud noises (restaurants, public places, even a class room, even as little as people’s voices.... I’m so incredibly sensitive to yelling, but more panic inducing sensitive - I feel this is related to trauma, but also definitely would relate to me being sensitive. Am also sensitive to physical touch/feeling as I even get to the point where my skin feels like it’s actually hurting). Recently, I’ve been learning how to deal with “drama” - I had a friend turn on me in the past year and when having a conversation about how that person hurt me, I’ve had to sit there and explain to them that I need 5 minutes to process what they’ve said, to collect my thoughts, and when I’m done thinking I will have my response for them. I’m doing a lot better than how I used to be, but the depth that I look into things is unreal and something I think will stay with me forever.
Thank you for this video, I’m overwhelmed that what has literally eaten me alive for years is in this video.
I’m a guy version of them.. and it really sucks among guys 😸 .. you get to hide it to not to be made fun of .. n it triggers anxiety about whether women like it or not n whether they perceive you as weak if you’re sensitive
A. S. B. Thank you! ..it means a lot to me
I don't know if this could help but I love sensitive and vulnerabe guys, I feel a lot more understood by them and I'm not the only woman I know that feels this way. If you have female friends you trust, don't be scared to open up with them! I'm sure they'll be understanding and caring.
I honestly feel like the whole "sensitivity = weakness" thing is something that guys made up on their own and is a standard that they hold themselves to, not women. Sure, there are some girls out there that think men who cry are overly sensitive, but in general the majority of girls that I know all think that sensitive and vulnerable guys are extremely attractive. Girls like to know what guys are feeling and they like to know that they aren't alone, and it makes girls way more comfortable with being expressive with all their own feelings if they know that the guy they're attracted to is comfortable being emotional as well.
I want you to know that because you are sensitive does not make you weak or less of a man. Don't hide yourself because no one should dictate what you feel and how strongly you feel it. You emotions will always be valid do not let anyone else make you think otherwise.
- Sincerely,
A woman who supports men's emotional well being.
Clea Fantini well.. it didn’t just helped.. it made me cry believe it or not lul. i mean, that’s embarrassing but i’ll say it.. i’m 23 n never been in a relationship for a lot of reasons including being sensitive n being guarded cuz of my sensitivity.. n also because i’ve been going through A LOT for as long as I can remember n find it extremely unfair to think of involving someone in a lot of mess n fail at loving them.. i know it’s stupid but way less hurtful. like imagine if i’m so loved by someone... it’ll crush them knowing what I’m dealing with, you know?
But still, who knows tho when n what could happen anyway, right? 😸
Thank you... from the bottom of my heart for your reply, lady. 🥺 it relieves things i fear n feel so anxious about all the time.. it means so much to me and i just wish that there are a lot of you exist.
I love this because a lot of people act like my sensitivity, otherwise known as “wearing my heart on my sleeve,” as a bad thing. And I love it about myself because it makes me different and able to empathize with others.
I’m an HSP- it can be extremely difficult to manage. Thank you for spreading the word 😀
I'm happy to find a video that I relate to on such a deep level. Unfortunately for me, it's usually frowned upon for boys to be sensitive and cry, which caused me to think that I was the problem this entire time, that I was a crybaby who made everyone around him uncomfortable. I'm generally pretty outgoing, but I have a lot of trouble handling confrontation and stress. While I don;'t think I'm an empath, this has really helped me learn more about myself, so thank you!
This video is exactly what I needed!!
Wow thank you so much for making this video. I’ve always called myself “sensitive” I didn’t know that HSP existed, like a title for it. I’m also an empath/intuitive. I usually can feel energy shifts in a room, I can look at someone and tell that there is something wrong with them. I also can pick up on others moods very easily. Something that really bothers me is that I get my feelings hurt over the smallest things like a facial expression for example. Thank you again!
For some reason it takes me a big while to realise that sometimes it's okay to curl up alone and just bawl your eyes out. Thanks a lot for helping me, Kati Morton.
I’m always stressed out, and anxious person, with a bit of social anxiety.. sometimes I get upset cause things aren’t going to change
So today I found out that I'm not just crazy, weird or a crybaby, it's actually a thing. Thank you for that❤️
Sannetje, tell me about it. All my life I've been thinking I'm a weirdo. Now so long ago did I find out that this 'weirdo' has at least a proper term for it. Although, to me what we experience should be the normal thing and other people's actions are weird. But we are the huge minority I'm afraid.
Sannetje me toooo!!! What a relief
I am proud to be hsp. I also have been like this all my life. I suffer from over simulation and I need time to myself.
This video actually made me cry.. thank you. I feel validated after watching this x
Thank you. My parents always made things worse for me when I went into sensory overload. It’s amazing to feel a little more in control by realizing my feelings, emotions, and senses are validated.
Thank you for this video. Being so sensitive has made me feel like such a weak person all my life. It's nice to know that I'm not weak at all, and that I am not alone (:
Thanks kati for making this video, it’s hard being misunderstood, it was my therapist that explained this to me and knowing why I do things has helped me love myself so much more! Xx
I am so glad your therapist helped you understand and love yourself so much more!! Yay!! xoxo
Sometimes I get to be a Highly Sensitive Person !! I have a Very High Autism Spectrum # 1 !! I am a very thankful that I got High Autism Spectrum # 1 because I know people like me are very special !!
Most of the people today are very ignorant and refuse to understand what an Autism person goes through in life !!
It takes a very special person to talk to me in a very special sweet , kind and a very nice way !! Most people I could get along with but there are a few people who would be a pain to get along with !!
No matter who you are there will always be people that will complain about anything !! I used to beat myself up and had a fit with a tantrum temper . If I understood why I was punished because of this or that instead of being beaten with a belt or a slap in the face then I wouldn’t have acted up !! Please talk to people very nicely !! The Bible says that a very sweet , soft answer turns away anger but a harsh answer stirs up anger !! Thank you 🙏 !!
The last part of what you shared got me emotional because I'm so sensitive. Learning to embrace this aspect of myself has been very empowering for me the past few years, even though it's challenging at times. I've started journaling daily a few months ago and your perspective explained why it has been so helpful. Thank you, Kati.
I always loved the ability to read people's feelings and moods, but it does affect me most of the time...
It took me years to be okay with being sensitive and okay with my feelings
Im a HSP! That's why I wear headphones and I take my "chill pills"= B-Complex, Magnesium Glycinate, Ashwagandha; Before I go out in public!
I have just stumbled upon your videos and I love them and am grateful for them. I have a therapist, but you are also helping me. I find myself even taking notes. Thank you!!!
Wow... I suspected that I was an HSP but the one thing I never clicked with was the over stimulation aspect... I have never had a hard time focusing on something so I didn't think this really applied to me but listening to you explain that people with HSP also CARE so deeply about every bit of information that comes our way, it made me realize that that's where so much of the anxiety comes from! I hyper focus on so many things, feeling almost guilty if I can't invest the same depth of emotion into each one and that is sooooo frustrating. But now that I see that it's just an aspect of myself (and not a bad aspect), I feel like I can go easy on myself more. Thanks :)
Love this! I appreciate how it's spelled out so simply and then broken down into manageable tips. Definitely going to watch again.
See, THIS is what I love most about your channel. I had no idea this was even a thing, and this is TOTALLY ME and had I not watched this video I would’ve never known. I like being able to name my conditions because it makes me feel like I can get a better handle on them. Thank you, Kati!
When I was little (5-9 yrs old) my dad was a professor at UCLA and we would often go to the football games. I loved going to the games... up until one of the teams inevitably lost. I’d cry the entire way home because I felt so badly for the losing team. This story just perfectly sums up the person that I am. I’m proud of my sensitivity- I don’t see it as a vulnerability but a strength that many don’t have. It makes me a natural healer/ helper. I just need to maintain strong boundaries because if I don’t, that’s when it becomes a vulnerability.
Totally accurate for me personally too!
Healer here & you can't pour from an empty cup is a famous quote but tbh, it fills my emotional cup up to heal others, do you experience that too?
I needed this - it made me cry. Happy tears. ♡
Thank you, Kati~
It's overwhelming sometimes. Everytime I'm watching a show, and a character shows emotion, I feel it like it's my own. Happiness, sadness, grief (sometimes I'm drawn to cry as the character cries). I have to fight it when there are other people around because they don't get it. But I love it when I'm alone it's like I'm being present with the show/movie :). Also helps me deal with situations with people etc. Feels like esp sometimes.
My mum's been "telling" me that I'm a HSP and though I know I'm very emotional and sensitive, I never really classified myself as one. Now, however, after your video and taking the test you took, I recognise a lot of the traits in myself. When you said HSPs hate conflict something in me clicked. I start to cry at the smallest of (serious) conflicts and really try to avoid being in one. Next to the difficulty that comes with being a HSP though, I'm also very grateful because I feel like I get to enjoy things to a deeper extent. Music moves me a lot and I enjoy good food immensely, which are two great pleasures in life. Thank you for this video Kati 💛
You nailed it. I'm moved now because of how closely I identify with this. I do embrace and celebrate being a highly sensitive person, but it is challenging. Yesterday I immediately felt someone's heavy mindset as soon as I walked into the space. People's depression can overwhelm me, and their mania or hyperness can overwhelm me too. White noise in restaurants are fine, i can read and write there, but two people talking loudly near me, forget it- I have to move. Just today someone called my intuitive. Nobody until now has explained me as well as you just did in this video. thanks it helped a lot!
I sent this video to my therapist because I identified so deeply with everything you described. I think for me the part that might be the most helpful in therapy is exploring how this affected me as a child, and therefore the person I am now. Thanks Kati!
I have a hyper sensitive personality disorder and it is really painful because it is frustrating to form any form of any type of relationships I lived in isolation for alot of years
Being an HSP is not a personality disorder. It's about being more human. Keep in mind that we are living a world which being less human is considered as normal. If I weren't an HSP, I would prefer being an HSP that's being human, anormal in this world.
Im an HSP, and found this incredibly insightful. Its presented in a way thats easy to digest. Thanks! ❤️
You’re so nice! Thanks for researching and compiling this info and presenting it in such a digestible way.
You are a wonderful gift to the world. Thank you Kati for all that you do for this community.
100%. Learning to describe when I'm in an elevated emotional state has been very helpful. Dealing with those who constantly try to tell me I should be different than I am is the biggest bugaboo.
I never realized I was an HSP until I watched this video, but it all makes so much sense now... 😳
I just found this channel and you are a bundle of joy and good vibes! I'm a 2nd psychology student so this is additionally useful!
Occupational therapist and HSP here! Learning to embrace it is an ongoing effort but the key to using it as a strength. Old messages creep up naturally but noting that they are old is helpful. Thanks for this awesome video!
This has been the most information and helpful video I have ever seen on this subject. As an HSP myself I cant thank you enough.
Awe I am so glad!! xoxox
Thank you for this video, I finally understand what is going on with myself, it is a big deal for me, so I just truly want to thank you. Everything that you talked about in this video was how I feel and process things on a daily basis and I always knew that I process and very often feel different than other people and was like what is wrong with me, or when you said how HSPs can feel other people's emotions and feel it like those emotions are theirs, it's what has been the most struggling part for me in my life, since I've gone through a lot of stuff (depresion, almost suicide) and I really had enough 😂 so when I am all happy and everything is going well and then for example I just watch one youtube video of a person that I see is sad cause of this and that, after I watch it, I feel exactly what that person does and I also just become sad and depressed all of a sudden for like the next 4 or 5 hours and I'm like "what is going on?!" So one more time, thank you for making this video I finally know what it is that makes me different from others and I can deel with it better since I finally understand what it is 😁
(And sorry if some sentences don't make sence english is not my native language 😂)
You're so close to 1 Million subscribers! All the best! You're amazing ❤️❤️
She has the wonderful ability to turn difficult contents into simple acronyms. A clear explainer and a great help!
Omg I’ve totally been waiting for this!!! Since u read the book 📚
Yay!! xoxo
It has felt like a curse my whole life :(
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Me too, I wish I was a sociopath or whatever the type of person is called who has no empathy for others. At least then I wouldn’t be overwhelmed or intimidated being around people
I understand. I think it comes from our tribal days when if we were kicked out of the tribe, we died.
Thank you so much for this video. I can relate to this. I have always been a sensitive person. When I was a kid I was told that I was too sensitive. As an adult..."don't take it personally". I feel very deeply and can pick up on and take on other's feelings. I like that I am so detailed and have deep feelings but sometimes it's just too much.
I know ive always been a HSP, and people either really like it or get annoyed by it but when i was in highschool for years i had to write about my thoughts in a journal every day as much as possible. i was known as quiet unless someone (anyone) would speak to me or make a connection and most of the time it felt better to put in my headphones and be in my own solitude in class. i think that was one of the best things i did subconsciously
I found out about this book when I bought a different book on managing anxiety. It really resonated with me and helped me understand myself a lot better. Thank you so much for shining light on this so HSP’s can be better understood. 💛
Of course!! So glad you enjoyed the video :) xoxo
Understanding being highly sensitive and what that entials has been life changing for me. I am not crazy, I just feel everything extra deeply. So thankful for the research by Elaine Aron. Thank you for this, and all of your videos, Kati!
You’re an inspiration. The more I watch your videos the more I relate. Thank you!❤️
Great video!!! Thank you for your compassionate support and encouragement!
I've just started reading Elaine's book. This is perfect timing. Thank you Kati!
They all fit me to a T! My parents used to constantly tell me I was to sensitive and I wasn’t the kind of child to tell my parents what I needed. I can’t wait to watch the reparenting video I think it will help a lot. Love your videos Kati
Too often, your videos are the best part of my day. Thank you
My god, I needed this soooo much right now. I am this to a T. Thank you so much for posting this! I cannot even go to the mall or grocery shopping...its too much. I sense everyone's emotions there. Its horrible. I get my feeling hurt big time. Im working on all of this.
You are amazing Kati. I love how your vibe crosses the screen.
I tried so desperately to explain this to my husband and FINALLY I have something to share with him. Thank you❤️❤️❤️
This was a skill I had to learn with my ever-changing mother and from being a mom myself. It’s helpful and sometimes it’s a curse. But I wouldn’t change it❤️
Thank you so much for this video! Your work is amazing! Loving the channel!
you straight up saved my life with your videos. Thank you.