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- Do you know someone struggling with depression? Are you wondering how to help a depressed friend? Is it your family, close friends or someone you know who has depression? Sometimes, a well-intentioned remark can be misconceived as something hurtful or ignorant, so it’s very important that you know how to be careful with your words. In this video, Psych2Go shares 5 common phrases that people say that could make someone with depression feel worse.
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Hey friends, have you ever dealt with depression or know anyone that has depression and I never know what to say? Yes depression is a very sensitive topic but all of us can relate at one point or another. I hope you guys find this video helpful. Comment below what video you want to see next ⬇️⬇️
Signs someone you know has depression (you probably already made a video on that but if you haven’t it would be really helpful to me)
Yes I got diagnosed in March but I had it for a long time I got help at least
I’m not suicidal anymore ☺️ that’s good.. I try to help anyone who is struggling with depression I make sure there ok
Well I never went to a therapist to be 100% sure, but what I know is that I dealt with abuse and had a suicide attempt and a lot of people told me I'm depressed but I'm not professionally diagnosed so I can't confirm it
My friends say I've had depression I know how you feel but they don't know that everyone is different with depression.
Unsure, thought of self harm
“I’m way worse”
OH THANKS NOW IM LOADS BETTER
s-s-starkid...
Speed Active yes I am part of the Satanic Cult others call “StarKid”
Youre way worse? So do you like.. You know... Have depression?
tbh when people say that it makes me feel WORSE like wtf
Pepper Chan ikr same.
A few additions curtesy of my father:
“Stop being so sad”
“Why can’t you just be happy?”
“Your life could be so much worse”
“Just go make friends”
“Quit complaining”
woah, just hearing this ( in my head because DUH i'm reading this) make me so mad and enraged hahaha...
Ok
Very relatable
Mine says:
"You have no reason to be doing that (self harm)"
"I wish my problems were that childish"
"You have it so good"
"You have it way better than I did"
"That's so insignificant"
"That doesn't matter"
"You have so many things to be happy about"
"You're so sensitive"
"You need to eat," (I'm coming off of an eating disorder and an trying to eat normally. I never understood why my friend hated being called skinny until people started to say that to me. I never realized how impactful that particular "observation" was. It is so discouraging as is driving me back to the disorder)
"You can't stay in your room all day/you never come out of there/why don't you ever go to the other parts of the house, etc."
"Stop feeling sorry for yourself"
"Fine, go throw yourself a pitty party"
"You never do anything to help yourself"
"I know how you feel"
"Everyone is like this at your age"
"I was just like you when I was a kid"
Those last 3 are always lies because I haven't told him or anyone else 90% of my issues because I know those will be the responses. And I don't even know how I feel
I know I have a good life physically and financially and stuff, but not mentally, and no one seems to understandstand that
"I can see that u are gonna finish been like... " insert name of some supose lazy or bad influence person that both know.
Summary
1. You're not trying hard enough
2. It's all in your head
3. There's nothing to be depressed about
4. You seem fine to me
5. I know how you feel
a.k.a. 5 ways how to get rid of a depressed friend
Bingo. Just all around zero support. That’s my family and wife. Horrible selfish people.
@@4NaturesStory Always better to approach with the better of a doubt, imo it’s prob just ignorance and not trying to be selfish. What they lack is empathy and your experience.
The 5 most frequent things that come out my parents mouth
I tell myself all of those
I've been told a lot of these stuff frequently with what I've been dealing with, no wonder why it feels like the only who understands me is myself.
I always talk to myself or my pets because they're the only ones who I really can trust.
Animals don't judge you. They're silent and just listen to your voice. They don't betray or stab you in the back afterwards.
I'm grateful to have them..
The worst thing I've heard... "could be worse" which means they are openly dismissing my issues
You know what the worse? So i start to defend myself when ppl mess with me because i know no one will do it for me, because they don't understand and always thinking that i'm being dramatic. But now people also start thinking that i'm cruel... Should i just let everyone take advantage of me so they will stop blame me?
Chucha que haces aqui?
(yes i also know Spanish)
I dont even understand myself...
“Stop faking!”
“Smile for the picture I said!!”
“Quit seeking for attention”
“Ugh your annoying”
“lol slow poke”
They hurt.
My ex-friends said all of this.
After I told my ex-friends I had depression and anxiety, all of them didn't believe me and said all these stuff they shouldn't be saying. They are now my bullies, they bully me because they're "doing a test to test if I'm actually depressed, if I didn't commit suicide after all that bullying, it means I'm not depressed".
Miamorly that’s sad :(
It hurts
Im not depressed but ppl keep saying mean stuff and they hurt to me. Im sensitive and they would be like, ‘cRyBabY’. My ex - bff who has ‘depression’ is also sensitive and when she says stuff to me and I get mad she would be like, cRyBabY, but when I do something she ignores me. Its SO annoying. When she says stuff to me, its actually mean. When I say stuff to her, she gets mad and when I say sprry she still mad. She never says sorry to me. Im sounding like Im not being understanding and that she’s actually depressed, and I shouldnt be so insensitive, its true (at least in my opinion). I know that when u have depression, they’re like, I cant remember the word, but she is actually very mean to ppl. She doesnt rly understand that ppl around her has feelings too. My mom to.d me abt this, how she is, like that, and I realised. Even her mom is sad by how she doesnt rly care for other ppl. Im not trying to make depression sound like a joke. But I know for a fact that she’s just very very sad. Not depressed. I just have that gut feeling.. Idk.. I know I can be crazy and annoying sometimes, but thats okay. Everyone is like that sometimes. She’s pretty insensitive and never realise her actions. I actually used to like her too, oop-
TruckM¡nh same
“You’re not the only one with depression.”
Edit: This comment is not meant to be hurtful or offensive in any way. I know that this is really hurtful and I was just trying to show one of the things not to say to a person with depression.
Good :
Thank you, made my day.
a man dead in a three foot deep pool is just as dead as a man dead in a ten foot deep pool
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Ikr??? It makes me feel like even more of an asshole
“It’s all in your head”
Yeah that’s the PROBLEM
Ya exactly, as if I'm SEEKING FOR depression? Pffff.
It’s not even all in the brain and even if a person with depression can somehow manage to go along with their daily tasks, it’ll still have lasting effects on the body. Also, with that logic asthma is “all in the lungs”
i mean it is true because depression is a problem with not having enough of the "feel good" chemicals in your brain😂 so yeah it is just "all in your head"
*suddenly recalls Dumbledore talking to Harry Potter about his mental struggle*
Hey its okay to be sad mad or not know how you feel and that's okay it's never your and of course don't know who need to here this but it's okay the cry . . .
Here are some that have been said to me:
"It's all in your head"
"Others have it worse"
"Why are you crying"
"You're not depressed"
*Oh Yeah, now I feel mUUcH beTTeR!*
I finally told a close friend that i had depression... But, she went like "why? Is not like your life is as hard as mine" "i've been trough worst situations? Why are you complaining?" she was making my pain less. I felt really bad 'cause i always listened to her and naver did that!
@@yulieth_street I'm so sorry to hear that. I'll be here if you need to talk. :)
@@Snakicus123 Thank you so much! Also i was brave enough to look for professional help, thanks to that i feel much much better.
@@yulieth_street I am telling my friend today. I hope she gets what I have to say
@@thegayone1911 i hope that too!
“Quit acting like you’re a victim everyone is struggling with stuff”
Doesn't mean you need to be ignored. Although on the other hand being ignored is better than those fake bitches who all of the sudden act nice because they think you need to be the center of the spot light, because you apparently reached out to the wrong people.
Has anyone said this to you?
Psych2Go Yea ,someone did.
@@Psych2go Yeah, my ex-friends who became my bullies say that a lot.
Also another one “everyone has problems” ok? I’m not saying they’re not......
“Grow up”
“It’s in the past, get over it”
“Why are YOU depressed”
“You have a better life than I do”
“You get everything you want, you don’t have a reason to be depressed”
“I understand”
.... those hurt.
Update: The ‘I understand’ can hurt because it can feel like that person doesn’t understand how you’re actually feeling or what you’re going through. I guess I can’t say anything without people coming after me, guess I shouldn’t have spoken my mind.
I get all of them except “I understand”. I find it comforting when someone says that, like I’m not alone.
Hanna Lebuse
If it is sincere then I would see it as comforting. Other than that, it might sound as if they understand the mental state you’re in even though they really don’t.
Seraphy Wang
Oh alright, yeah I get you.
I sometimes do vent to someone and she says that a lot and I kind of just put myself in her shoes. She doesn’t understand, but I know that she’s just saying it to try to help me feel less alone and honestly that in its self makes me feel a little bit better. I don’t know, that’s how I look at it heh.
Seraphy Wang
Yeah I see the ‘ I understand ‘ as in they don’t understand what how I’m actually feeling :/
I hate the people that can walk up to you while you’re in tears and ask “are you okay?” And if the person in tears says “yes”, they’ll just walk away and leave you alone. Because they feel like just cuz they asked, they’ve done their part and tell themselves that there’s nothing more they could’ve done. They don’t give a crap about how you feel, they just want to tick a box to make themselves feel better. That’s what hurts me the most 💔
I told my depressed friend "I know how you feel" because I didn't want her to feel alone and had been suicidal before (lived through it, thanks to her being around). It really breaks my heart that this was something I shouldn't have said.
mhm same.
I believe that if she's known you so well over time and began to understand this gratitude you've held for her, that saying this actually WOULD be good to help validate her feelings and encourage her toward the same light that you found. Your understanding sounds uplifting and supportive to me.
It's okay, you tried to help
im really sorry u went through that but i think it does kinda make sense for you to say that since u also went through depression
there's nothing wrong with what you said. it doesn't matter or not if you know how anyone feels. it matters how yoiu react to how they feel. some people are gonna be depressed regardless of what you say or do.
i suffer from depression. i often poke fun or criticise this channel for various reasons but this video is right on target. i'm a depressive and even i'll say the wrong thing to other depressives. generally speaking, we all have our own triggers and reactions. none of us are exactly alike. but this video does an excellent job covering some general rules.
in my case, i tell people PRECISELY what i need from them to help me. they aren't outrageous or impossible suggestions. but simple guidlines to follow. but they don't listen. they just keep doing the things that harm me. why don't people listen? i don't get it. i listen to them.
“It’s a phase”
“Your fine”
“Stop being an attetion seeker”
“Stop being so edgy all the time”
“I know how you feel”
No you don’t..... AND NO IM NOT
"you know someone who understand yourself?"
Me: my knife and my blood flow
Atleast people talk to you, and assure you.
“Omg why are you always so emo your not depressed i fixed you once common do it again” she says everytime I open up to her
@@blackcatdraws7251 exactly
"attention seeker" gets me wanting to commit mass murder
I HATE IT.
“stop trying to act like a victim”
“you’re just being selfish”
“you’re just being dramatic”
“how dare you, you have no idea what it’s like”
“you have nothing to worry/be sad about”
“okay?”
huh..... after reflecting of what you said, i came to a conclusion that i no longer have depression. wow won’t you look at that
OML I KNOW RIGHT!! To be fair, there are some people who do fake it, especially over the internet because it's easier to say things there and get away with it. But either way, if anyone says it whether it's real or not I just behave the same towards it and try to be as accepting as I can towards it. Because, if they are faking it theres clearly at least something up with their lives otherwise they wouldnt be wanting that attention so whether they have it or not I try to be as supportive as I can
After reading you comment imma commit watching human centipede
@@Demise6969 what in the name of walluiggi
last one is wut every one says
“ you’re faking it people who have depression don’t express it”. Wait tf up you’re telling me I’m not depressed just because I’m really sad and want to express it what do you want me to do is to smile? First of all there’s two types the people who show it or the ones who hide it I used to hide it but I became more broken that way I would walk away and be alone some times I haven’t been told by a doctor yet tho
People say to me “stop being sad”
“Ugh just smile”
“Just eat healthy you lazy person”
“Stop faking”
And when I smile so they think I’m sad and then when in frowning they say “oh don’t worry he’s laughing and giggling” when I’m not it just so hard
Ikr!! My friends say that to me so much times😔 so I ditched them and now I have better friends👌
Just tell them, “1. I’M NOT FAKING. 2. I’M LITERALLY DEPRESSED, AND YOU’RE MAKING IT WORSE. 3. SHUT UP, LEAVE ME ALONE, OR COMFORT ME IF YOU CARE.”
Jesus. Are you okay man, I would love to talk if you have time. Because I’ve personally been in the position of wanting to kill myself.
Golden Luke eating healthy is important and that’s something you should do. If you have depression and just eat junk food then that’s even more detrimental to your health.
Their not true friends if they treat you like that.
I am extremely thankful they added “I know how you feel”. I’ve realized how hurtful this is because it just makes you feel not special. “Oh... She knows how I feel so she must be feeling the same way I do, why should I worry about such a common problem? It’s something everyone experiences... people shouldn’t worry about me... I should be worrying about them because they matter too” it makes you feel so pathetic that you’re complaining bout your problems when people say this to you. Please to everyone who is reading this, never, NEVER say “I know how you feel”
Things that have been said to me:
“You need to leave the past in the past.”
“Read the Bible.”
“How many times are you going to talk about your rape, it’s like you talk about that everyday.”
“You’re too emotional.”
“You’re crying for nothing.”
“There are others who have it worse.”
“I’m disappointed in you.” (Because someone told my dad that I wanted to commit suicide)
“I need more non depressed friends.”
“You need to go to church.”
“Be strong”
This needs to stop and this isn’t ok. Depression is a serious mental illness. Educate yourself before you speak. Don’t say something you’ll regret. Don’t be sorry when it’s too late, a lot of people with depression are suicidal and you don’t want to be the cause of that. Start being helpful instead of making it worse. You all say stuff like this then get all surprised when you hear people killing themselves. Take “13 reasons why” as a prime example. We can do better. To anyone who’s experienced this ignorance, I’m so sorry. I wish you had more helpful and emotionally intelligent people around you.
Thank you!
Oh hell no
"You're not a good enough Christian"
the heck do they think the Bible is gonna do lol
The ‘others got it worse’ is the worst for me its like saying ‘others are having a harder life than you are therefore you shouldn’t be sad’
"You are so lazy"
"Get out of bed already"
"You idiot, you always go to sleep late and complain about being tired, just go to sleep early"
"You never do anything, not even your homework, you just play games and read. Do something already"
"I am so disappointed in you"
"It's just a moment of weakness stop crying"
I am not diagnosed with depression, tho I feel like I am. I always asked my parents to bring me to a therapist but they always refused, saying it's a waste of money and I am just being dramatic.
I just wish someone listened to me, no one ever does. Even if I won't be diagnosed with depression I still would like to get checked and find help to overcome everything life in throwing at me, I really need it.
I have bipolar depression, and I understand what your talking bout. Most times I cant find the will to move in the morning
@@theylovchillin7427 So sorry to hear that...it really is hard to deal with that BS everyday...
It is isnt it, something else that doesnt help is 7/2/20 my gf dumped me because she told me ,"she wasn't ready", and that's obviously a lie so is it me? Am I the problem? And I get angry and then accidentally say something offensive to her, thing back about it and learn to fucking hate myself more of what I just did
@@theylovchillin7427 Damn, I was dumped by my Bf a month ago because we didn't talk much and He said He thought we were a better match, and I just felt like it was my fault all over again...I feel like it's always my fault, like I am the wrong one
@@seraphy2544 exactly. Cant help but think that we are the reason why.
"Smile for once"
"You're so lazy"
"Try harder"
"Other people have it worse"
"Get over it"
And there are alot more.
Lmao you’re probably 9 LMAO
•Shadow かわいいオオカミ• sound exatly what my family says and my ex best friend says to me
@@N4Y3 ow....
@@Lav_ttv dont listen to them! Just stay strong i believe in you 💕
@@N4Y3 2 lmao...you're probably 7 get rekt lol
Idk, but I'm scared that if I ask to someone depressed: " How Are You?" They will be more sad and think I'm stupid or something
@Cecilie Nanna Berg Joergensen thank you for the advice, i think that's really gonna help me ✌🏽❤️ oh and i hope u get over the depression 💞
I have severe depression, and if someone tells me this I will tear up a little. It is because everybody I cross to just says I’m overreacting and seeking attention. The little hellos, how are you or are you okay means a lot to me. The reason I’m even more depressed is because nobody believes me.
@Cecilie Nanna Berg Joergensen I think I would be happy with any of those comments because I just don’t want people to say I’m overreacting or something.
@@PsychoDesigns464 I can agree with you there. After having had depression for the last 5 years, I now joke about it frequently in the Hope's that people will realise and stop saying things like, "wow, you look like your about to kill yourself. Hurry up and do it." Literally 2 months ago, I met somebody who knew instantly I wasnt joking and since then, the people I have been joking about it to for the past 3 years have actually started to figure out I'm not kidding. I dont want attention, I just want help...
as someone who struggles with depression, I 1000% agree with this video, if you know someone who is struggling with depression, just talk to them, let them explain, and I promise they'll feel better even if it's just a tiny bit, you still helped.
"You just need exercise."
-My mother who claimed she suffered from depression and was cured by jogging everyday.
While I know a healthy excercise routine helps with mood problems, I'm pretty sure I need more than that, mom.
my mother said exactly same thing to me before, is like jogging will solve all my mental problem. All she did other than that is try her best to stop me from using any medicine.
I feel you. When I talked to my mother about my social anxiety, she just directed the conversation onto her, she said that she also had it.
She wasn’t diagnosed, and showed absolutely no symptoms of social anxiety whatsoever.
She took me to a therapist and I was diagnosed with it.
She’s very supportive, and she loves me so much, but she still makes every conversation about her.
She also said that it’s so easy to overcome my anxiety, all I need to do is stop thinking about things that worry me. Gee, why didn’t I think of that, mum? It’s not that simple.
@@l-3832 I can relate.
My mom did the same damn thing, she said "It's because you don't go outside enough, and because you haven't been taking your 𝙑𝙄𝙏𝘼𝙈𝙄𝙉𝙎"
Pretty sure that vitamins aren't gonna help me feel again
@@l-3832 my mom understands and she doesnt take me to crowded places unless she really needs too and if we are in a crowded place she would try and distract me from it like showing me the stuff im interested in etc. Nobody really truly understands how its hard to socialize with people without judgung yourself every second-
_"its because of that damn phone"_
_"Just be happy its so easy"_
_"Ugh, stop being dramatic"_
_"stop being edgy!"_
*words hurt*
@@dearloonies omg fr?
@@dearloonies Yeah man I'm always disappointed by events that seem like they'd be fun
@@dearloonies My parents hate how I'm always so negative but like.. *come on. Birthday parties usually suck when it's filled with a bunch of girls who wanna bash you for liking Undertale..*
i heard all of them in my life
*Hang in there*
Most speechless question in the world of judgement,
"Do you want to be a star?"
"No, i just wanted people to like me."
As a person suffering from severe depression, this makes me feel heard, understood and cared for. Thank you. 💜
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help
We are more open in social media like this comment
I already said this once but I'll say it again.
Telling someone with:
-Depression to "just be happy"
-Anxiety to "just stop worrying"
-Self Harm issues to "just stop cutting"
-Insomnia to "just go to sleep"
-Anorexia to "just eat"
-Bulimia to "just keep it in"
-Problems to "just get over with it"
Is like stabbing yourself with a knife saying "just stop bleeding" then you'll magically be healed
*that's not how it works*
Lots of love from a small youtuber💕I hope the coming days fill all the cracks of your heart and you are reminded that you are not alone ,because you are loved 💖🌈
Or rather, telling somebody with a bad injury to stop bleeding.
Or someone who's sore to stop being in pain, or a sick person to just get better
Or telling a dead person to breathe again
@@x_itzliana_x4324 you can't do that-
Well, I have insomnia and that's what my parents say
I hate it when parents say, "it's just a phase" your too young to know what depression is. Well damn if that's the case I been in this "phase" my whole life.
My dad always says my problems are childish, and that they don't matter, they're not worth anything, and that's kind of the thing, I may be a kid, but those are my problems that matter. Those are my big problems that affect my life. They're not small, they're not childish they're just different from yours
Thats why I keep it to myself!
impossible happiness ikr I had depression when I was 8. I’m not self-diagnosing my doctor told us. Childhood depression is a real thing
Luna Everdeen that’s so stupid. I’m sorry your dad’s being such a freaking jerk. Your feelings aren’t childish, they are real! That probably doesn’t help but I just wanna tell you.
@@e-brown it's not childish. Your dad is prolly just saying that because we prolly grew up like that.
“You’re not trying hard enough”
“It’s all in your head”
“You have no reason to be depressed”
“You seem fine to me”
“I know how you feel”
My parents said every one of those things to my brother when he had been diagnosed with clinical depression
I have a friend who is struggling with depression and thankfully have never said anything like that around them. Nevertheless, this is very helpful.
Thank You
“You have nothing to be sad about”
**Me telling myself that at 3 AM while crying**
Edit 2 months later:I’m way better now and not crying also ty for the unexpected likes lmao
😔
Sameeee
Bro same-
Heh same
it does be like that sometimes
"You're using your depression as a crutch."
"It's just hormones."
"It's because you don't sleep."
"You'll be fine."
"But you have a perfect life."
"You're beautiful, you can't be depressed."
"I understand."
*Shut up*
Why,is this so relatable
Parents and work can sometimes cause depression.. whenever you try to say something abt it
*THEY DON'T F*CKING BELIEVE YOU!!*
@@tstyjejj1087 Be there for them and listen to them. If they're feeling upset about something tell them they can talk to you. If you want to tell them something to help them just try to not disregard their feelings but also try and cheer them up. Like take them for a walk or go shopping with them. Simple things will help them.
@@tstyjejj1087 No problem!
What's wrong with "I understand"
My dad: “you’re such a negative person. Quit being so negative😡”
Me: shit, it’s that easy??!!
Who's here, not because someone else has depression, but because YOU have depression?
Me. 💔🌹
Me
Me....
Me
Me
"Stop overthinking"
"Just stop stressing yourself out"
"Just don't think bad thoughts"
"Stop being lazy"
Gee, why didn't think of that? Like I was choosing this whole time...
Depression its just an illusion in the mind . If u still can think, u can get out of that illusion.
I always tell myself that. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I always do things that made me happy like watching shows and play games, and then regret it afterwards. I dunno how to manage my time between study, chores, and fun. I sometimes wonder if I really am cured.
@@weil46 if only it was an illusion that i could easily disspel
TWIX EVIL illusion? Wtf are you talking about, it messes with neuron connections and strengthens those like punishment etc
@Bekah L. um I hope ur joking...
"People who are suicidal actually commit suicide"
Gee, thanks for invalidating my feelings of hopelessness.
Take my hug man *hugs* Its never to late to tell someone about it........nearly everyone who clicked on this video feels the same in other ways. Committing suicide is not letting youre bad feelings go and be free...... You give pain to others if you commit suicide.... ❤️ Im sorry if I wasted youre time you just need to know that you are a trustworthy, beautiful, thankfull and everything else. ❤️❤️❤️
Wanna talk..?
If somebody ever syas that to me I will be like "Wow, thanks for basically telling me that I should kill myself"
"yeah I know how you're feeling because I also had a bad day" or "you shouldn't be sad because we said you have people who love you" even things that seem sympathetic can feel extra heavy on some days. This is especially true if we get these repeatedly because it ends up feeling like you see that we feel bad but are fed up with hearing about it.
"You've already been depressed and 'overcome' it, don't let it get to you again"
Gee, thanks.
I have to agree with this one. it may seem like the depression is gone, but it's not. it never really goes away. it just fades for a while before rearing it's ugly head to ruin your day. spikes in depression are the worst because they sap your energy and drive to really do anything. some days are definitely better than others though. it helps to have something to help make you smile, ya know? it could be a show, story, song, game, anything really. what matters is that you're still you and still trying, no matter what life seems to want to throw at you. you're stronger than anyone could ever realize honestly.
if I come off as insensitive, please know I'm trying to help how I can. depression is the worst thing ever, and I thought I'd give the motivation I wish people would understand I needed, ya know?
“Why are you sad” freaking hate that sentence
I had a mental Breakdown beetween September and December EVERYONE asked me this and the MORE I said "nothing" so they don't get sad because I'm sad and the MORE they ask me "why are you sad ? You can talk to me you know" I know I can talk to you but I don't want because this won't change ANYTHING
I mean, I guess it's a normal question that gets completely spoiled by the context of being said by someone who ALREADY KNOW YOU'RE SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION. Only then, it becomes a very insensitive question to ask.
@@amkessblue Same man, and when I'm telling this my best friend he's just like " But then I know the Reasons." Cool for You but nothing happens at all.
@@benny.._ EXACTLY BRO OHH THAT'S SOOOO THAT
AmKessBlue IKR
*The world needs this video. Too many people still stigmatize mental and emotional problems.*
Key word: stigmatize
Haha, if I showed my perants this video, they'd take my phone and tell me to never watch "nonsense" like this ever again. I have depression and anxiety and my perants are taking advantage of me as well.
@@miamorly same, when I told my parents they called me ungrateful and dramatic. Yikes thanks for your help mom and dad
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Agreed :)
My older sister has suffered from depression and an eating disorder and it breaks my heart to see her like that. I don’t really know how to help her but I do want to help her. So that’s why I clicked on this video
"I understand how you feel." And "There are people that have it worst than you." Don't make it better at all.
Wait how is the first one bad? The second one is awful though. I hate it when people say that.
@@rosie7640 yeah the second one is bad but I’m a lil confused on the first, Is it because we’re making it about ourselves? I really hope it didn’t come off that way, I just wanna be able to support my friend and do what I can for them :(
50% of my brain: Making sure to never say these things to somebody with depression
Other 50% of my brain: Aggressively trying to remember if I ever said this to somebody with depression
Did you know you only use about 10% of your brain anyway, so it would be more like 5% rather than 50%...
EmilyLikesCrumbs Yeah I’m aware, I was referring to the 50% of the brain that we use, so yeah, 5%
@@emilylikescrumbs2456 that is false
@@emilylikescrumbs2456 shut up that's false
@@emilylikescrumbs2456 i think ypure the only one using 10%
“You’re not trying hard enough.”
Actually... people with depression are probably trying harder to battle an illness/disease that affects there brain, and makes them feel as if they don’t have a place in this world. And they live with that. And they deal with that.
So who’s really the one not trying hard enough?
“It’s all in your head.”
You’re right. It IS in there head. All the fricken time. Making them miserable, and they can’t control it. And you make it worse!!
I’m not depressed, and even if I don’t understand, I will fight for you.
Empathic Pisces ya
This! I'm always told I'm being over dramatic and that my feelings are invalid. It makes me wonder why I try to feel better. If they wanted to help, they would let me vent about why I'm upset and help me feel better instead of putting me down
Sofi Delish I’m sorry this is happening to you. You can vent to me if you’d like.
@@Ryleigh-Anne thanks, it means a lot :)
We're always fighting in our own mind,fighting because we can't deal with our traumas/bad things
“Words hurts more than actions”
-Unknow
"you're depressed? just be happy"
Yeah, i'll grow another arm if i lose one, since it's so easy.
mom: stop faking of being depressed just to avoid meeting your cousins,
dad: *here,drugs*
@@DeezerNutss Same xd I have know idea why.
Yes *drugs* thanks dad
Hey It’s Okay Hope You Get Better
I'm not sure either of those is a healthy way to deal with it...
I like dad
The 3 main things I've been asked, and I've seen others be asked:
1. "Why can't you just tell yourself that your okay"
2. "Why don't you love me/us and what I/we do for you:
3. "Stop trying to be an attention getter, it really annoys me"
Yep. I could write I don't know how many paragraphs on how much I agree. I've been told this so many times, and it's honestly just really shitty. Especially when the person says "I'm not toxic and i would never expect anything from you.. But you have to do this or your life won't get better." Like, b*tch I know, but it's not that easy and you still can't seem to f*cking understand how hard it is. But sure, you totally know what's best for me..
my friend whos diagnosed with clinical depression belittles her feelings herself because she didnt have it 'as bad as others'.
i keep reminding her its not something she chose to have. that depression doesnt look at her life and judges wether or not she has the right to be depressed. its just there. it runs in her family and she cant change that.
i hope shell acknowledge and accept her mental illnesses one day so she can work with them in her life better.
“stop crying theres no reason to cry”
“ur faking this just stop”
“its bc of that damn phone”
“get more friends”
My Therapist or Doctor: Why are you depressed?
Me: I don't fucking kNOW
Therapist:Have you tried being happy?
Me: ...
Therapist: good point
Me: can't you see with your fucking EYES?
Same tho like bitch I don't know why
My Therapist: let’s talk about cats and politics and agree on everything, bonus, we can rant about how gay we are
Fr like why do you think im here?
"why are you sad there are way worse cases"
thanks now i feel bad because i feel bad
Exactly
Just because people are worse than you doesnt mean your sitaution isn't bad. I hope you get better.
Exactly, you shouldn’t brush off someone’s problems ‘because there are worse problems’
Like that doesn’t mean my problem isn’t there all of a sudden
Also i hate the people who try and one up your problem
@@imogenkemp4626 I was watching someone’s video where they explained why they had to take a break from YT for a while. People were talking about the bad experiences in the comments, and offering support. One person said “Oh man, that’s really bad and is the worst.”
Some other dude tried to invalidate the problem. “There are worse things, it’s not like your arm or leg got cut off or something.” Like, no. As if that gets rid of the problem magically because other people have had it worse.
@@alleniumcos i hate that so much
"We all go through things." or any time they try to compare what you're going through to what they go through or went through.
" you know, you can't really keep holding on to the past"
"in the end, all those issues stems from you"
"if you want happy memories, you have to try harder for it"
""Didn't expect you to be depressed, you look very strong and mature to me"
some times, confiding in your own voices in the head can be better than confiding to people around you.
"why are you crying? stop crying!"
"TRY HARDER"
"u dont have depression, your over reacting"
"are u even trying?!"
"I think I would rather hang out with my other friends."
why is life so hard and hurtful? why cant ppl understand? why cant ppl just listen and realize their stupid ways and words aren't helping and at least try-TRY-to be kind and see whats really going on inside of you. I wish I could just end it all...i mean the hate and disbelief not my life.
WhOoPs, I totally forgot i made this comment-
@@user-ci7vu7eo9w im sorry to hear that- some people dont understand what others are going through.
@@user-ci7vu7eo9w bruh, sounds like those people are begging to get smacked in the face with a chair.
@@Shushkin they do but i get more trouble
@@user-ci7vu7eo9w I wouldn't recommend doing that, but damn is it therapeutic 😆
“Faker”
“Lazy”
“Get over it”
“Smile already”
This hurts me
Me too
do not take them as an offense,just take them as useless oppinions!
like this oppinion!
The "Smile Already" part hits hard for me (but idk if I'm depressed, my dad does the "smile already" part nearly daily because I'm a very serious person)
When I say that I'll die from the co*id 19 because of my weak imunity, people allways tell me that I'm too negative. And also say similar things like you said. Why do people like to accept complete lies, like the afterlife, the "positivity" in the world when we are literally the cruelest species across all the atars ?
What is so negative about the gosh darn truth ?!
@@OrangeDragon04 i don't know either,its unique
“You have so much to be grateful for!”
Thanks. Now I feel guilty and depressed.
"Don't be depressed! I feel you. Always remember that I'm here for you and I will always love you!
“You’re giving up just like *insert person you don’t wanna become like here*.”
“You’ve just gotta get through it. Life happens, suck it up.”
That hurt 🙁
Ooof
@@Dhruv-qw7jf ikr 😅
Btw sorry, I'm just a highly sensitive person 😐
@@SheWhoLoves_ no, no need to be sorry about. I know it probably sounds wrong to say this, but I think we're all here because we know that feeling. Again, no need to be sorry about.
@@Dhruv-qw7jf Thank you 😔😐🙂😊
Everybody says that recent depression because of COVID, but I’ve felt this way for a while.
My mom needs to hear this especially.
My Parents all ways say I wasn’t trying enough..like almost every single day it just make me think that I’m not good enough I don’t get to be existed.
Well my dad keeps on comparing me to my bff because her grades are always better than mine and staff, I started to hate my own bff because of him and I gave up on school....then cuts came in my life and I just can't stop it from happening. I just keep on living like an empty body hoping that parents will get the ability to undertand their children's pain some day......
@@titania3528 if your parents are like that or your dad don't listen to them, for me you are one of the most beautiful and strongest people here on earth. Even if you feel insecure about your grades at school it doesn't matter because the matter is being true to yourself and loving yourself. REMEMBER THAT NO ONE WILL LOVE YOU LIKE JESUS DID, IF YOUR PARENTS CAN'T ACCEPT YOUR GRADES AND YOUR TIRED, THEN TAKE A REST, BUT NEVER GIVE UP I KNOW LIFE IS HARD LIFE IS IS NOT EASY BUT YOU YOURSELF IS THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN GET RID OF THAT THING INSIDE YOUR MIND. PLEASE DON'T CUT IT HURTS ME EVEN THOUGH YOU DON'T KNOW ME BECAUSE MY FRIEND DID THAT WITHOUT US KNOWING IT. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF AND LOVE YOURSELF💜💜💜
@@titania3528 and I just realised that you are an ARMY so hi👋 who is your bias is BTS?
'' Stop feeling sorry for yourself'' is the most hurtful
Joan Rivers made a mistake too until her husband committed suicide in 1987.
Someone told me just that after mocking me and making a call out on me for making a stupid joke.
Oh, yeah. "Stop being so full of self-pity".
yes, this shit hurts so badly and then it makes you think that this feelings aren't real and that you're doing it for attention
@[tea bag] do you know how he is now?
"we just want you to live!"
" you have everything you need in your life. a home a family, there are poor people out there who are haveing a worst time then you"
" why do you feel dipraased? because you stay in that bed and you keep thinking about your bad thoughts! you keep sleeping and lazying around the whole time and you don't even bother to make yourself feel better! I gived you everything that you needed! I didn't raise you just so you could bring yourself down like this"
"you choosed to feel like this"
That last one though I hat when people say that
My parent always say stuff like that whenever I tell them I'm tired or stress. I also feel uncomfortable to share my problem with my friends , so I choose to keep it all to myself but maybe it just doesn't make anything better. Why does older people think that children these day just faking everything and being edgy like MOM I'm not being immature :(
Pepe who claim they know what you are going through annoy me most. Like, you haven't walked in my shoes, you have no idea what its like to be me so stop assuming you know what's bothering me, if the solution was so simple I would've fixed it myself long ago.
It's kinda true...but it's kinda don't (The last one)...
You see, if somebody bullies you, you could do nothing there and then, right? It's not your fault you're being bullied, so it's okay to feel miserable, it's normal.
And you can do 2 things, one, just let them bully you over and over again, or two, you can stand up for yourself, and let it becomes a motivation to have an epic comeback. I know the second one is hard...VERY HARD, I know I haven't been in your shoes before, but it took me years to stand up for myself, and I'm proud of myself, I'm proud because I'm brave to stand up for myself, and I'll support you no matter what, we're here for you, I'm here for you, so don't be sad...get up, and stand up everyone, I'll be your shied :D
*dipressed
Oof- the " you have nothing to be depressed about" hits home hard. My dad used to say that, since he grew up in a messed up house and i didn't
"it's all in your head." no duh. where else would it be? "you have no reason to be depressed." yea, i know. "just choose to be happy!" if only it were that easy. "you're not trying hard enough." i'm literally doing the best i can!
it aggravates me so much hearing these things and it only exhausts me more. i'm so isolated and guarded and i've convinced myself that it has to be this way. which i know isn't healthy but i'm done begging to be understood or to be treated with patience. it sucks.
"Your too young to have depression"
OH sORrY leT mE juST *turns 80* Is this betTer?
There isn’t an age limit for depression. I can prove that in literally one sentence.
I got depression in 3rd grade. Literally 9 years old. You don’t need to be 18+ to be depressed.
@@wrightcember3879 Well... that's the point.
The younger you have depression, the longer it may stick with you until, y'know.
@@wrightcember3879 were you diagnosed? Were you suicidal or had thoughts? Did you self-harm/thought of it? I can understand a teen getting clinical depression but a 9 year old to me is a bit far fetched. Please educate me :)
BlazoRaptor I don’t think you know how depression fully works..It was moderate until a few months ago where it got severe, and yes I had some suicidal thoughts, but I got better. 9yrs aint too farfetched when you add in stuff like the stress on our generation, the rising rate for bullying, the stress grades put on little children, anxiety, and other disorders kids may have.
*NO YOUR STILL NOT OLD ENOUGH*
To a friend, 13 years ago.
No, it's not because you know "someone" who's in depression that I'm not depressed, implying I'm just faking it. When I told you how I felt that day and you just denied me like that, it hurt me a lot, and to this day, you may have forget, but I didn't.
Your words marked me and I do believe it's because you didn't want to endure the struggle of having a potential depressed friend, and that's fine. We were young and ignorant, I can't blame you for that, but it made me believe that I'm faking my feelings, so I couldn't tell anyone else about this "unspeakable inner struggle". To this day, you don't know that I've been following a therapy to help myself because I'm afraid you wouldn't understand my decision. Yet, when you're in struggle, when you share your worries and fears, I'm here to listen. Because we're friends.
This is exactly what I want to say to one of my friends, because I'm experiencing that situation too :(
Hmm experienced something similar when I told someone I can wake up super introverted sometimes even though I'm usually just normal, and she didn't exactly "believe" me either cuz of the same reason. She had a friend who was introverted, she didn't act like that, etc etc, you get the point.
Although your situation is probably a lit more severe, hope you'll find someone who can accept and weigh these feelings alongside you.
This made me cry a little...it’s like 1:00 am-
I'm sorry that happened to you.
I really dislike when people compare their feelings or just dismiss others merely because they've experienced worse. This has happened to me a few times, luckily It wasn't the worst problem, but it doesn't mean I haven't cried about it. My friend, who was depressed at the time told me something like: " heh, my problems are much worse. "
It made me very sad, I don't think they remember but it's sealed in my mind.
It made me doubt my feelings as well. I'm getting better and I hope all of you and your friends get better in time ^^
I told my friend that too she said it doesn’t mean your depressed :(
"Just take some vitamins, it'll get better immediately"
"You're smiling, so you are a lot better"
"Why are you sad and panicking? If you don't have a reason at this moment, it's fake"
as a friend of multiple people who have clinical depression, the thing that i think helps best is when they trust you (no ones going to trust you immediately, don’t try to force anyone to confide in you), is to always tell them that if they want to vent, they can vent to you at any time and you will always listen. from what i’ve been told, it seems to help a lot.
“ *do you know anyone who is suffering from depression?* “
Me: *My mirror*
Me who can barely look into the mirror, and even when I can, I barely recognize myself: Haha.
Also sorry for you dude, if you want to reach out, I'll be here!
You may or may not be ugly but no one is *THAT* ugly.
Of course I know someone with depression
He... he is me
Lightspeed *I just prooved you wrong*
Meanwhile me holding a knife , Idk not me
“We have another faker on our hands.”
“You’re faking.”
“Smile.”
“You’re fine. You just need sleep.”
*stop.*
Eric Xie I know. It’s embarrassing for them.
Psych k.
@@ericxie2080 just like doctors not believing a patient with a potentially life threatening illness because there are a bunch of fakers... your point is?
I burned myself with my charger
𝗱𝗮𝗻𝗴
I sent the “dont worry be happy” song to a depressed friend of mine...
He replied with thanks
GOODASS ENDING
This is why I don’t tell a lot of people about my depression unless I’m 100% sure they won’t judge me
“You’re not trying hard enough”
-brother
“It’s all in your head”
-dad
“There’s nothing be depressed about”
-mom
“You seem fine to me”
-friends
“I know how you feel”
-anyone who I talk about my problems to
@@dueldu70 Yep.
One slip of the tongue that w it would be worse. how _can_ i deal with people who have depression?
Yeah..but the alternative is that they’ll worry a lot so i rather have them this way
Oh, look it’s the pity party. You people are so week minded, I have been diagnosed with clinical anxiety and Autism but I don’t people to pity me. I want them to treat me like everyone else, I’d rather die than use my anxiety or Autism as excuse not to do something. Yeah there’s things wrong with me, but there’s also things wrong with amputate rock climbers (they exist). I can be just as great as any of them no matter my underlying flaws. So get off your sad seat and learn to cope with your problems instead of crying about them.
dueldu no, I never disagreed that words can be hurtful. All I said is people need to stop using depression as an excuse, it doesn’t help you or anyone else. Like if you over slept because of your depression don’t say to your boss “sorry I overslept because of my depression” say “I’m sorry I overslept” you will live a happier life if you don’t think of it as a chain holding you back, but a pelican pecking at you while you walk.
Aidan Hitchcock so you’re trying to tell me that my mental illness is somehow better than another, what does that even mean?
"So many others have it much worse"
"Its a bunch of BS"
"Well, that's not my problem"
Edit: from a close family member who thinks psychological issues are all in your head or from laziness
The third one tho...I relate so much 😔 I still have that sad feeling up until now
I know this was a while ago but my family somehow got on the topic of depression and eating disorders (It was really uncomfortable) and my older brother said “I don’t get it depression and anorexia and whatever other crap is all a choice and there’s no other way to explain it. It’s just a choice those people make” 😡
@@neonsoul2756 Bruh, what kind of bullshit is that? You have anorexia and depression from other people, you're tired of constantly being judged and try your best to keep up with their expectations...I don't know what you feel about it, I haven't been in your shoes before, but I know you worked hard...That's my opinion about depression and anorexia...But they come in many ways, so my opinion is just 2% of the actual facts. And sorry if my English is bad
Seems like I have great friends and a great wife. After I told them I'm diagnosed with depression, they said non of this stuff, but: "You are a really strong person, I have a lot of Respect for you", "this doesn't change the fact that you are a very valuable person".... I'm really thankful for them!
3:07 my mom does this all the time to me, Ishe always says, “ you seem much better, you have so much to look forward too!” And, 2:36 supports it
What’s sad is that some people are faking depression and it’s hard to tell those with depression
I literally commented this more or less. In a world where a lot of people fake depression for attention, it can be hard to know if someone actually has is it.
@@imaginativeIdeations Well, I'm not saying that lying is ok, especially not in such a serious matter, but people, who seek attention, they probably don't have enough. So they've got problems worth listening to and caring for.
I'm really not trying to say that faking depression is good, I hate not being sure about somebody actually having depression or just a person who thinks they have or even know they don't have it, but still say they did for attention.
keeprollin, I mean, I’ve known people who are deliberately evil and narcissistic, so that’s not necessarily true. Yes some people who fake it probably do it to rationalise some of their external problems maybe, but there’s a lot of people out there man. There’s good ones and bad ones. Because of how many lives depression has taken, it should never be faked or joked about. So when you come across people who admit that they are bad, and that you can’t judge them, it’s just like, okay maybe you have some serious issues, or maybe you had a rough childhood or something, but that doesn’t mean you get to take advantage of a serious mental health condition.
It also makes some depressed people feel like they're just faking it too when they're really not.
There is no meme Take off your clothes yeah but there are always people out there faking it only a person with depression can tell the diffrence from fake to real some of the fake depressed no, ALL of the fake depressed people are clout chasers and are attention seekers
My mom: “I’ve had clinical depression!”
Also my mom: says everything on the list to me except for “you look fine to me,” she told me I look worse
She’s never been diagnosed, never had to been on antidepressants, and is probably the cause of some of my trauma and most of my depression, anxiety, and low self esteem
Same with me, but my dad is da cause :(, i feel sorry for you
I’m going through depression right now, and at a very young age, I’m 9 and I’m crying every night 😢
Recently realized that just because you are not suicidal anymore, you can still be depressed. Thank you for this channel. You are making a difference. 💗
"it's because of you're being lazy/unproductive"
My dad said that to me when I said I have depression
Tell him this: What's the point of doing anything if nothing matters?
@@lightspeed7312 no, dont say that ! Whit the mental of his mom, this look as « Dramatic » she can say something very thinking , more mature , like :
« Mom, in this time, i’m very sad. I dont feel ok in my life, and i know you’re always here for me, so, you can maybe call a professional ? Please mom, i’m very serious, i’m very don’t feel good :) »
Sorry for my bad english im french
when I told my dad about me being depressed he said I was just bored
@@soupesewqar3855 But nothing matters. Someday everything will die.
That's what my mother in law calls me. Treats me like a asshole cus I cant communicate with that side of the family ... I'm at war with my in laws litterally cus of this illness
summary:
1. You’re not trying hard enough 0:48
2. It’s all in your head 1:31
3. You have nothing to be depressed about 2:25
4. You seem fine to me 3:07
5. I know how you feel 3:31
Recommend watching to learn more 🖤
dude you're the fastest man in the world at this
byua lol thank you
Thnk u
The second one is really offensive 😡😡😡
@@star-boltlover9609 and third one😡😡😡
Thank you for this! I was diagnosed with depression about 4 years ago and though I think I’ve conquered it, my therapist tells me I still do have some remaining feelings. I’m not saying this because I’ve come into contact with issues with these statements- in fact, I have, but it typically made me feel better or sometimes worse, but not usually. Someone telling me that ‘it’s not worth it to be sad’ actually helped me a lot, because it helped me realize that though the entire universe seems to be against me, I can still be happy, leading to where I am now in my life. But I do have quite a bit of friends who are depressed (or I suspect they are) and I can now understand what I can and cannot tell them. I can now understand that people handle situations differently and that I should avoid anything that could possibly be perceived as toxic. Thank you!
My mom has said this stuff and stuff like “just choose to be happy” or “If you do something and feel accomplished it’ll make you feel better” or “You seemed to be feeling better” and it just makes me infuriated and I’ve grown to resent her highly even though I used to have such a strong bond with her, every time I’m around her I just want to go to a different room, and whenever she comes into my room I get annoyed and angry and want her to leave.
I told my dad about my depression and he said, and i quote, "I went through the same thing as you did. But thanks to my sheer will power i was able to overcome it." No reassurance. Nothing. Just another excuse to stroke his control freak ego
Then he's either just toxic or toxic and suppressing his emotions.
Still, I know it can be hard to argue with your parents about having depression and- at least for me- expectations (and of course parents always think they're right too..). I don't know how it is for you, I just know that it sucks. So I wish you the best of luck.
@@jikra Thank you, I appreciate it
@Cøffəə Løaf its a special kind of hurt to open up and be vulnerable to the people who constantly tell you theyre in your corner, only to not be taken seriously and undermined.
Same. I climbed up a rock and started screaming "Aaaaaargh!". A mighty wind arose, thunder struck from a clear sky, my hair grew out and changed it's colour to a bright yellow, a complex halo of gold formed behind my head... And with a final deafening thunder my depression was gone.
-what I hear-
“It’s in your head”
“Just be more active”
“You just need to try harder”
“You’re to young to know what it is”
“You are a minor! You have nothing to be depressed about”
“You’re just lazy”
“Well what caused MY depression is worse so stop faking”
“Well I had to go through way worse stuff”
“I know how you feel”
“It’s just a phase”
“You’re too sensitive”
V.s.
-What I want to hear-
“I’m here for you”
“I’ll try my best to help you”
“Its going to be okay”
“We’ll get through this”
Same
if anybody wants to talk, please tell me, I hope to be someones shoulder to cry on
Maaike Meijer this comment made me cry, you sound so nice 😢 :)
@@creampuffu858 thank uuu, a d please dont cry🙂❤️ theres a lot of good people, that are way better than me.
You never know what someone else is going through until you live it yourself so do NOT ever be crule or rude to anyone with depression or any other things it can really hurt other people and i am saying thus because I have experienced this horrible feeling.
"Do you know anyone who struggles with depression?"
Of course I know him he's me
If you're feeling depressed -
Talk with me. I'LL BE A FRIEND. 😄
"How can strangers be friends?"
-See my name. Best if luck. I'll be a good listener.
"What's your purpose?"
-My purpose is I wanna feel a depressed person is smiling. What can be greater than this?😄
Things people have said to me:
•”You’re not trying hard enough.”
I always do the best that I can, even if I’m exhausted. I hear this over, and over, and over. I guess my best isn’t enough.
• “just stop being so sad and gloomy, people have had it worse than you.”
If I had a choice, I wouldn’t be sad and sensitive. When people say this, I feel even more worse because I feel like I’m being selfish and insensitive.
• “you’re fine. Stop crying like you’re on verge of death.”
Gee, thanks. That sure does make me feel a lot better. Not like I’m gonna contemplate everything and not feel more self-hatred.
• “ People are dying. You just got touched a few times and screamed at. Suck it up.”
I know, I know. I hear this over, and over again. I’m sick of it and I’m sorry.
Etc. { I can’t name them all.}
@Yes I am A R I
You are trying hard enough, love.
It’s okay to feel emotions. Just because other people have it worse doesn’t mean that you’re not going through a hard time.
Who said you only cry when you’re in the verge of death? We have feelings and are allowed to cry without being in the verge of death. Yeah, people are dying but, that doesn’t mean you can’t cry. People have been dying since humanity started. It’s only normal to shed tears because of some troubles we are facing. You are enough, you are perfect just the way you are, you are worth it and worth of your dreams and goals, you aren’t alone..you never were. I believe in you and I care for you despite us being strangers. Stay strong
Bruh bruh Bruh thank you so much! That really means a lot!
@Yes I am A R I
Anytime and I mean it. Also, the comment above me, I’m also wondering. If you’re comfortable answering, we are here to listen.
MrBubblyPaws But Better sexually. It was in the past and they are out of the house and country
Thanks, I'll make sure not to say anything like that to my friend
#3 hits me hard. My parents say you have all this stuff when people out there would kill for what you have.
Don’t you think I know that?
Reading all the comments here make me feel like helping you all even tho I can't..I can't understand what you are going through or feeling like nor I can say don't be sad or be happy or try harder .. I can just give you some encouraging words .. I know you all are trying hard so remember you deserve to be loved !~ You are strong and I believe in you ! I hope everything gets well for you~
:D
Thanks for sharing this because I just got done dealing with someone who said "Happiness is a choice" and I told them about what depression truly is and no saying, cliche,etc won't change that.
My dad says to me:
"Stop being like that"
"You have no reason to be sad, don't be sad"
"You need to get over your anxiety"
"You need to get over it"
My mum is realtivly the same.. I hate it
My mom once told me something along the lines of “You need to get over your anxiety”
@@acherine yeah my mum and dad have said that too. It's horrible because it makes you feel like you're being too sensitive or something and that it's easy to change when it really isn't. Sorry your mum also told you that, that's horrible
GoldieFi yeah it sucks, my mom is really nice though, she just doesn’t exactly understand my anxiety, most of the time she’s pretty understand about it tho
@@acherine my dad is nice but yeah he doesn't get it either. My mum is 50/50. It's just not nice to hear
GoldieFi yeah it sucks to hear ;-;
"Stop faking!" I had to lie to my "friends" that I had faked depression because they didn't believe me.
ポンポンプリン omg
No if you actually struggle with it you would never state that you fake it because you know how real it is
Lil Puxney you can, because you feel belittled and like you’re being selfish and inconsiderate, or in desperate need of attention. Some people you don’t wanna let go of.
@@lilpuxney5546
Social pressure is powerful
You need to tell them to watch this video
the worst is when you try talking to somebody and they dotn care. after a minute they act like you never told them
thats why i cant talk to anyone
To person reading this: Remember that if ur suffering from dipression then it is ok to feel this way, U are loved, if there are down times then remember there is a light called YOU even in the dark. Don't judge urself or change urself for others. U were not born to suffer this, remember that ur hapiness matters most in ur life. Make urself as first priority. I know u can get through this! U don't deserve pain. Don't let past or present things take up ur life's control, it's a small life nd it's beautiful than u can imagine. Live it to the fullest and only u can make it beautiful!
Best of luck for ur future!
I was once told:
"Stop being so sad. You just hate us dont you?"
Wjat the frivk
Wjat the frivk
a ex-friend told me that few days ago :c
Its hurts being said the wrong words....and I also have gone through that type of hurt....I don't know if I had was depression but I was crying and sad continuously for months and I was told that I am being depressed for having everything by my mom and it hurt me like hell.....So, I think the key is to try as much as you can to let go of such comments.....I know its very very very very difficult but letting go of those words can really remove that extra pressure that they left on us by such simple yet hurting words. I hope it helps you and I hope we could help others going through the same.
@@IntrigueWalker thank you..
And then there’s the Gacha life ppl: oH mY gOd I gOt DePrEsSiOn SeE i WaNt To CoMmIt SuIcIdE aNd I cUt
But that’s actually offensive to me since I have depression
For serious. (No, I am not like that, I promise, don’t judge by my pfp 😅) It BOILS MY BLOOD to see that and just- like- I have a good friend who struggles with depression (which is why I’m watching this), and she always talks about how much she HATES that side of the community. It makes me SO MAD to see eight year olds self diagnosing themselves with depression when they see ONE hate comment about how their animation could Improve
Haley Spring You're right, not all Gacha Life users are bad.
Yeah I know not all gacha life people are bad but some of the community
There's this thing called Gachafall going around, and members of it are pretending to be part of the Gacha community. They're the ones that make the cringe, so as to make the community look bad and someday have it taken down.
シJustmeh
Wait
Is fourchan actually following through with their ideas this time???
Because pridefall was fake af
I've lots of positive thoughts and mindset.
In past, I was so overconfident about that. I rarely understood someone who said they're depressed. So I used to said them to be happy whenever they tried to open their hearts to me, like how they're feeling.
I regret that. I really do.
I came to know gradually that even feeling down can't become normal immediately. Everything takes time.
So I'm now trying to learn what to say and what not to say carefully whenever my friends try to unburden to me.
Because I love them and don't want to lose them.
And this channel has been helping me a lot in many ways, mostly in changing my mindset. Thank u so much
A few thing id like to confirm "we always get said harshful things by our own family" and almost all depressions came from the family when u are always ignored and hated throughout anything in your life