Lets lift each other up in the comments with a positive affirmation. Here is the part 1 of 6 Things People With Depression Want You to Know th-cam.com/video/A4L0WZ1z1xE/w-d-xo.html
darkness is like a monster if you give in, it will swallow you if you shine a light, it will flee If you don't think anyone loves you, read this comment, because you're stronger than your fears, worthy of love, and deserve happiness as much as anyone!
@@grim.sleeper when I noticed that no one can truly understand me and lost myself in dark, I become friend with darkness. And now, having alone time with darkness is most relaxing thing in my life So dont talk that harsh about darkness, you guys just dont know how tranquill and peacefull it is Or I gone nuts
I think depression is so incredibly powerful not only because of the pain and everything else, but it's so overlooked and constantly misinterpreted. That's what makes it extremely dangerous in my opinion
@Quinn Roberts Then i would assume that you haven't had depression/or depression in a while (with this i dont say that you dont but depression is a very painful thing for most as it makes most people emotionally numb like me and that is not someting fun to deal with)
The thing i hate the most is the question "how or why are u even feeling like this?" or "what's the thing that's making you feel like this?" Well my mom always does that.
1. depression has nothing to do with being weak 0:24 2. it's important to be aware of their common triggers 1:06 3. don't make them feel like they are wrong if they talk about suicide 1:39 4. do not compare sufferings 2:32 5. do not judge their way of coping 3:26 6. give them space 3:51 I hope I could help!
I’ve suffered through depression all my adult life. Some caused by my environment and others by genetics. What has helped me is having a person who listens to me without passing judgement. Having someone to talk to without giving suggestions or advice has helped me most.
The last one happend to me a lot of the time . There was this girl that I met on a group chat and she kept calling me texting me even when I asked her to stop and whenever I asked to leave the call she kept asking for minutes and it was really annoying. She kept pushing me to go on the call even though she wasn’t even doing anything.I had the confidence to tell her to leave me alone for some time and give me space but she still wouldn’t do it. It was really tiring and overwhelming for me and I tried multiple to times to block her and delete her from my contacts but she still managed to message me and then my mum deleted her from my contacts for ever so it is very important to give some one their space if they really do need it because it can overwhelm them and affect their mental health to.
That;s true. If they aren't stopping even when you told them multiple times as kindly as possible it's definitely ok to take more actions and if need completely erase them.
Depression is such a hard thing to go through. Especially because you often feel so alone. I hope that everyone that suffers from depression has a good support system to fall back on. No one should suffer alone ❤️
I'm reminded of a time where a ten year old boy came to me crying worried about dying, as strange sound to my ears but a question my heart knew too well. I told him the truth we all must die in our time and to not rush for we don't get a reset or do over. I said this while battling my own depression and what I've learned from the struggles that far.
I want to share a very touching thing that happened to me just now. Here goes It’s my birthday,and so far it’s going bad. My mom and I don’t have a good relationship at all so she didn’t wish me happy birthday,neither did her boyfriend. My boyfriend was too busy playing his game to make it to me on time so I went to the mall alone to let off steam. Wondering the mall by myself felt lonely,but I ate alone and shopped alone. Towards the end when I was waiting for my bf to pick me up I sat a Cinnabon shop. There were a nice lady sitting there ,she greeted me when I sat down and I glanced over at her to greet her back. I just thought it was casual and she was waiting to get something(turns out she was waiting for her item at the t mobile across the way) she kept asking if I was okay and making conversation with me,it kinda annoyed me how genuinely concerned she was but after a while I just got emotional because my day is really shitty and this nice lady is asking if I’m okay. She even offered to buy me a treat and a drink but I politely declined. It just makes me want to strive to be nice to people more. This lady have no idea how terrible my day is going and I’m not sure if it is written on my face or not but I am hurt ,but it’s people like her that people like me need sometimes. Im trying not to cry as I write this but I am genuinely thankful. Im enjoying this moment before having to return back to the reality that things are shitty for me. However I wish I could thank this woman in a better way. She’s heaven sent.
It might seem counterintuitive, but other people can get a decent insight into our state of mind--better than ourselves sometimes--simply because they can see our face, expressions, posture, etc. It's not like we carry and use mirrors all the time, so we often don't know how we appear to others or what impression we're leaving on them. Maybe she noticed that you weren't having a good day, so she wanted to try to cheer up as best as she could. You already said your day has been terrible and I'm very sorry about that, but I wanted to wish you a happy birthday anyway. Best wishes and here's to a brighter future.
I'm Sorry for whats happening to you. Happy Birthday beautiful🎉 Happy Birthday to you. I hope my wish can wipe your tears. Soon your sadness will fade away. 💛💛💛
"depression doesn't mean you're WEAK" ...fundamentally YES... but it's also IMPORTANT that we acknowledge our own shortcomings in this area... *I AM VERY GUILTY OF THIS* and often just face my "weakness" alone. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ACCEPTING WHAT YOU THINK IS "WEAKNESS" AND ASKING FOR HELP... It could be the only thing that helps, really... *ASK* To quote a stand up Comedian, *2* , who once told me after a show he ended with a group chat about strength and emotion and loss... he said that the fact I came up to him crying afterwards and opened up about how helpful his words were... "This is what I was talking about... It takes so much more strength to bear your emotions without fear" (I'm paraphrasing, this was like 13 years ago) You might be too "weak" to face yourself...but be strong enough to face the world and ask for a helping hand. You might be surprised... --- "triggers" On the one hand, it's important to respect our boundaries about things that upset us (Someone forgot to tell me what happens in the opening of IT... and then saw the abject horror on my face and had to apologize "I'm sorry, I forgot child murder is a trigger for you" ) ...On the other hand, it's also important that we acknowledge that is OUR burden, not society's... It's not up to society to police itself and cater to my own sensibilities... If we censored all fictional media that "triggered" people, you'd never be able to use ANYTHING to present conflict on-stage... Another friend had to ask me to explain why the XMAS episode of Always Sunny in Philadelphia triggered me (the idea of having your dreams dangled right in front of your face and then yanked away as a form of abuse...) On the one hand, I can accept that some people find particularly inappropriate jokes funny... whereas the same joke could upset someone with say, a history of sexual abuse or victimization. I am not personally offended by rape jokes, but other survivors find them quite offensive. Doesn't mean I'm BETTER or "handle the trauma" any better than them (in fact, my trauma made certain sexual activities extraordinarily taxing to my mental state...for the better part of 15 years...) bottom line... EMPATHY... USE IT. --- "don't make them feel like they're wrong" ...I... can't say anything deep and thought provoking to this. Very emotional subject, I don't like it, and I don't think people should do it... call the numbers, folks, PLEASE... I've lost a lover...and two friends... to suicide... PLEASE CALL. The only thing I've found more sobering than the suicidal ideation I've had over the years... IS SURVIVING SOMEONE WHO DID IT... You probably have no idea how painful this is, and that's what you're leaving behind...something even worse than you had. Maybe in some cases, I don't know... I don't want to say that Robin Williams was WRONG, but I wish he were still here... Same for Chester...and so many others. --- "everyone copes differently" ...don't let me cope "my own way" ...I just lock myself in my house and play computer games for 2 days and ignore my friends/family...it's not healthy, but that's PTSD for you. YES, we all cope DIFFERENTLY, and sometimes our most natural "coping mechanisms" are flawed... Once again, this comes back to USING EMPATHY. Give us space, but not too much. Watch us, talk to us, to remind us that we're not alone...and if we try to self-isolate or hide, then maybe it's time to bang on our door with a 6 pack and some green "Hey, let's hang out and watch Zootopia or Spiderverse or something" --- "Give them space" but JUST ENOUGH to not let us forget you exist, of course... When mom died I did legit want to be alone for a few days, Not locked up and gaming the pain away...I actually spent the entirety of the first day just curled up in a full size dog cage cuddling my husky whenever he would lay down with me... but texts and whatnot were nice reminders that my friends and family were both next door neighbors. Dad and kid brother in the house on my right, and two of my oldest friends in the house on my left... and the other two oldest friends came over twice a week. So they were all available and helped provide me an outlet whenever I came over again. We played a few open world games together to help me get my brain working halfway normal, like Conan Exiles and Minecraft... I do still want to be "alone" sometimes, but we're talking about time most of us are alone...getting ready for bed or winding down, just listening to music and either playing an easy game or taking a bath...whatever yaknow? Sometimes it's therapeutic to just put on The Dawes "A Little Bit of Everything" and just cry...
Sometimes i just send people videos like this, because this channel describes my problems so much better than i can do it myself. thank you so much for doing that
When I was struggling with depression, my brother told me that I was not depressed , but I was a fake person who played the rule of a sad boy to draw attention! :-) I will never forgive him. He uttered those heartbreaking words when my depressive mood was in the worst condition ever.
Oh so sorry to hear about that. Hang in there and know that there's someone who can relate, Yes that person is me and I'm just trying my best, smiling but dying on the inside. Let's breathe/Meditate while we hope to overcome. It's ok even to cry, it's pain afterall.❤
The thing is, everyone at my school keeps joking about 'being depressed.' It feels wrong. If there's someone who is actually suffering from depression, they wont be taken seriously, and it may be too late when they realize. It's horrible. They don't understand how bad depression really is, it's not just being sad. It's a real mental illness, and you can't just 'snap out of it.'
My whole friend group does that and it doesn’t help when they joke about hanging while I’m considering it. I will admit I joke a about it sometimes as my way of venting as no one would want to listen to me.
i'm a prior attempt person who deals with serious mental issues... suicidal ideation.... fantasizing about what relief death can bring w a fear of being judged by my God... for selfishly leaving my kids and family... they'd never understand. WHen YOU said "they can't imagine living the rest of their lives this way" you hit the nail on the head!!!!!! It's exactly what we thiink about... also that others would be better off without us... like we are holding back our family and friends bc they are being bombarded by negativity from us on a totally random pattern. That can ware ppl out and they end up just choosing not to be around you anymore bc you bring down the vibe. Which is just proving our theory of the weakest link. God help us all that are feeling this way! My heart goes out to you all. The only thing that is true to me is that God hates to see us suffer and i cry to Him for comfort and it always comes....that's why I'm still here 43 years now. I figure I'm about half way through this f'd up obstacle course lol. I am very glad i survived my attempt. It was symbolic for me as a believer in the Trinity that I did this on the night of GOOD FRIDAY & woke up in Mission Hospital on EASTER SUNDAY with my dad standing over me. If that's not a sign from up above, I don't know what is. Love you all!!!!!!!
For me depression is like stomping through a garden, stomping on weeds and flowers alike. A turn of phrase evolved from Dr Tracey Marks ( she is also good to listen to). For me I have learnt to think of my depression as a symptom, the underlying cause needs to be found. I would recommend to everyone, depressed or not, to treasure their physical self.( A healthy mind needs a healthy brain which needs a healthy body). And treasure friendship too, although this is very difficult.
I never really feel like I recover fully from the last depression spiral before a new one starts. They just keep compounding. And piling on top of each other. I'm so afraid that by the time I finally heal and move past all this, that I will be too old to enjoy what's left of my life and do something meaningful with it. I wish I could feel what it is like to thrive once in a while.
It's sad for me that I cannot get over my past of being bullied, I am just forced to accept it as a part of my life.... I can not tell anyone too, because whenever I tell them my story, they just said some sentences like "It's normal, your story is not as bad as mine..." or make fun of my story and tell it to the others... Even my family took advantage of my story and always tell me when they're angry that the reason why I was bullied like that is because I am extremely stubborn, miserable, worse day by day and dumb as a horse... Of course, I was hurt and broken mentally, I understand that I am lucky than others, because it is just passive one, and it's not harmful to my physical health, but ....... sometimes, I find out that my situation is not good by any means... I can say that I am an excellent student who always wins the 1st prize at school's competition, I am quite pretty that they sometimes fell jealous with me and some boys like me, I am full of beans and usually enjoy social activities...but everything changes since I was bullied, they all blame on me, they made up bad stories about me, they laughed on me and they did everything that can immerse me in negative sadness and it was obviously awful... They made me feel upset, that I was down in the dumps everyday, cried everyday, hurt my self with scratch and injuries everyday and make me worse everyday... I want to get over it, I read many different motivated stories to be better but I can't. Everyone stands against me, even my fav teacher and my best friend... I cannot trust anyone, I scared of that they will act like they did and hurt me again...I just smile at school like I wasn't affected by these activities, but I did, and I just didn't tell them. I have thought that I am depressed but then I thought that no one who is depressed can think that they are in it... Until now, they still passive bully me, and I still cannot get over it... It is nearly my important competition now, I want to make up my mind to concentrate in my work, but I cannot because every time I think about this, I would lose a day to just cry and hurt myself, then when I keep calm and continually be bullied and then think about it another time... It just time loops... I cannot tell anyone and can just text on this... Can you help me ?
I remember that today in the hall of my high school i just broke emotionally, i screamed, and then i started crying saying that i was done, i couldn't take it anymore and i'm legit crying writing this because i don't even know what i'm doing with my life anymore.
Dang… I don’t even know exactly what to comment about here because of my bad memory, but there’s just something that keeps me from completing goals. Even if I did know what was wrong, I don’t think I would be able to open up to people. 😥
This is so common-sensical but at the same time a lot of people still don’t get it when you explain it to them. I wish everybody would seek this kind of info when they decide to not believe you about your struggles. If you don’t understand it from me then be curious and dig deeper.
The real answer for a person with depression is with someone close enough and knows how you really feel, that you can trust to tell everything and they will listen and not tell others, wish i have that person :(.
I believe it's not depression, but very familiar. No matter where I am and what I do, I'm always thinking to myself very pessimistic, defiant and paranoid, but from outside I am reliable and kind person despite being annoyed sometimes, going against own subconscious beliefs makes me feel stepped on. So I am enemy to myself.
I rarely talk about what is happening in my head, so I keep it secret because everyone gets concerned about it when I talk, so I mainly just talk about my problems to myself, idk if that's healthy but oh well
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In dealing with depression, it helps me to imagine all the extra work that my body and mind need to do, to maintain normal levels of neurotransmitters. It´s like a river that has to carry liters and liters of water and only drops arrive ... then you need to work twice or triple to have normal levels of neurotransmitters that allow your brain to function. All my energy and my desire goes there. I don't blame myself for that.. now, I've just learned to accept the difference that my different beats make. The important thing is to know me, to know what is happening.
From last 3 constant years i feel like I'm depressed ... nothing can cheer me up... my mood swings are getting worse and I'm not being able to communicate with other people......i was an extrovert who loves going out and gathering but my current situation is just opposite of what i was supposed to be.....😓
Keep an eye out for the overachiever, the one who is wildly successful, popular. There was a time when I worked so hard to avoid facing my emotional pain and trauma experiences. People experiencing depression don’t all act and look ‘depressed’.
As someone who has been diagnosed, my friends keep saying I'm depressed and I try saying I understand but if u think so maybe try talking with someone and then they just self diagnose.
i realise my so called 'friends' would use my common triggers as advantage to get what they want, made fun of suicide and never respect my privacy and personal space i started to think it was normal althought it was damaging my mental health. but now ive cut them off and it feels like a few weight have been lifted off my chest. I hope yall get friends that cares about you
Nobody can fully understand without experiencing it themselves. To wake up everyday and doing your best to get better, only to wake up the next morning to see it wasn't enough every single day. To watch helplessly as your friends and family waste time and energy trying to solve your mental paradox. To watch them hurting just because you can't get better. To cry out in silent desperation for a savior that will never arrive, because in your fear you sealed away everything that could draw them to you. To harbor endless hatred for the entire society that birthed you, for their hopeless inability to assist or validate us. As the judgemental fools turn us slowly into heartless monsters. To be born into a world that you were hopeless to ever be mentally compatible with.
For me it's not really "depression", but as i like to call it "my other self" telling me some messed up stuff. I keep telling myself that "life is to be lived and not ended by mental illness", and that usually drags me out of the dark place inside my mind that "my other self" keeps creating, and my way of coping with it is youtube. Also! A lesson to you all! Don't skip breakfast or you'll get a constant "stomach pain" problem. Trust me, i have experienced 6 months of that (and during that time (my other self) appeared inside my mind) That's all, thanks for reading :)
I've suffered through depression in the past, as well as recently, but I feel like I'm already getting myself out of it. Unfortunately, my partner also suffers from depression, and it seems it is only growing for them. I clicked on this video to learn what I can about it, and based on this video it seems that a couple of the things I've been saying or doing to my partner might be harmful to them rather than helpful. I'm glad this video helped me become aware of this, I'd like to work on this. However, I'm still not sure what else I could exactly do for my partner who has been feeling do low lately. I sit with them and listen to them when they finally open up to me, I remind them they are strong, they'll be out of this dark place one day, and that I care about them and will always be there to support them, but that's all I find I can do. I feel horrible because I want to help them more and I don't know how. I never know what to say so I repeat myself or stay silent sometimes and really I feel like I'm not doing enough. Any suggestions on what I can do, guys? I'm desperate for advice...
You are trying your best, I appreciate you for that. What you say, even though it might be a little, its better than nothing. From what you have written here, you say things like "they'll be out of this dark place one day, and that I care about them and will always be there to support them" ; that's a really good thing to say but instead of only saying about futer, maybe also try to say or do something at that exact moment? Since you said "partner" you can also show physical affection like hug them and say comforting words etc. Also if possible find some things they like to do (like hobbies or their favourite music, food, drink, film etc.) and not forcefully but gently make them do it? For example, if your partner's favourite food is pizza give it to them? I know it might seem very small but hopefully it might lift up their mood atleast a little bit? I'm not saying you have to do it these are just some ideas. I'm sry if I said anything wrong I might have not worded it correctly... I really hope you or your partner wn't have to go through this for long.
@@babybear3430 I think a lot of that was worded just fine, thank you so much for taking the time to give me this advice! I appreciate it :) I'll keep this in mind and try it out. I have another couple questions now though, if you don't mind answering them: what if they're lacking the motivation to want to do their hobbies lately? And what type of comforting words would be right to use? I know some words that might seem comforting to people who are normally upset may end up making a depressed person feel worse.
@@wolfcry087 In their current state they have a negative mindset(which ISN'T their fault tho) and they might not feel motivated enough to do their favourite things they used to do in the past. So maybe they can't get themself to do it so you might have to help them a bit...If possible would you mind telling me a few things they like(their interest, hobbies etc.) no need to be descriptive just briefly I think I might be able to tell more that way... Start slowly and make them do very small things, for example; if they like to draw instead of only making him draw you also try to draw something WITH them? And remember to positively interact with them multiple times(but not too much just when you see if them seem down or after a fair amount of time has passes). Compliment them on their drawing( ex: "wow" "woah that looks great" "how did you draw that it looks so good" etc.). Any other interest/hobby remember to compliment themself and try to make them feel good about themself. If they have a favourite song, try to show your interested in it (ex; search for the song in youtube and go and ask them something like "hey... I was watching some random videos in youtube and I found this song, isn't this the song that you listen to? It's really good" not exactly this, the point is to tell them they have a good music taste and you too are interested in it). Comforting words... tel them their strong; their strong for keep going despite what they are going through etc. Acknowledge if they are 'trying to get better' , 'any improvements(even the smallest ones)', tell them you love them, ' its going to be ok', I'll stay with you and help you you can do it, 'your strong', your doing great, (if they are crying)' it's ok, let it out don't hold it in I'm here', I hope these might help... also, not everytime but from time to time give them a hug(not a short one, maybe a 10 second hug). Its scientifically proven hugging and cuddling reduced stress and also will help calm down and its overall a good and effective thing. By the way you too don't stress yourself and don't overthing ok? Your being very helpful to them your a good and caring person. Hope things will get better for you and them soon.
@@babybear3430 Again, this is so helpful and I really appreciate you taking the time to give me these kind words and advice, thank you so much! When it comes to the comforting words, I do say all of those things often so I guess I'm fine there haha. I can gradually try to make my partner try their hobbies put again though. For their hobbies, they like to draw/paint, make jewelry, be crafty overall, as well as play sports, and play with their dogs. I've just realized I'm not sure if there's much of anything beyond that, we've only been together for 9 weeks so I know there's so much more for me to learn about them. Maybe I could also try to ask them things to learn even more about them and show my interest/care? Only if they feel up for talking about it... Also, it's a good thing you reminded me to take care of myself too. I keep forgetting that often lately, and so I'll end up draining myself and dragging myself down overthinking things and feeling like I'm not doing anything useful for my partner. This means a lot to me, more than you might know, thank you.
@@wolfcry087 It seems you know what to say to comfort them, that's really good. To get them to draw I have a small suggestion... ex; you draw something(not fully, half-way like) and then the rest try asking them to draw it? Do this maybe when they look like they have a low mood? And afterwards thank and compliment them so they can feel better about themselves(again... I know this is very small but... hopefully it will help to uplift their mood atleat a tiny bit?... Also maybe draw something and act like you don't know how to draw a particular area and ask them for help? So they will engage in drawing a bit too? Not sure if this will work but, in the past sometimes I felt like drawing but at the same time didn't feel motivated, I felt partially motivated when I watched some youtube compilations of people drawing and I felt like 'I too wanted to draw like that'. For sports... maybe try the same tactic as drawing; show a video compilation of their favourite sport? Or if the sport is like badminton and needs more than one player, slowly and gently ask if they want to play? Or maybe a couple times a month go out with them to play a sport? If you have a dog(or any other pet) take it near them and get them to pet it at least? Pets have this "magical" ability to warmn hearts and petting them might help them? And also there are lot's of cute and funny dog(and other pets) compilations and you can show it to them? I recommend funny videos so hopefully it will make them laugh which is good? Here's a dog video I found if you want; th-cam.com/video/1HygThMLzGs/w-d-xo.html When asking about their interests don't ask a lot at once and also try to ask them about it indirectly. Don't stress yourself or overthink about this, your being really helpful for them but while helping them take care of yourself too.
i’ve been depressed for 6 days and haven’t really talk to anyone. i stayed in my room as if i’m self quarantine. it all happen when one of my classmates change college .
My experience with depression people: Approach the people calmly and when you talk to them start out with some small talk and then it should start into a conversation and go do what they want to do
PEOPLE DON'T WANT TO END THEIR VERY OWN LIFE. THEY WANT TO END THE PAIN ITSELF. SO IT'S BASICIALLY CLICHE. YOU END THE PAIN BY ENDING YOUR LIFE. I once tried this by taking a whole bottle of depression pills and went to bed and woke up the next morning thanking God that I didn't die. God gave me a chance at life and then some. Slowly I am coming out of my depression without meds for a month and a half now, and I feel great. I listen to positive music, classical, gospel, christian, country, positive vibes channels on TH-cam, and reading christian spiritual books, and going to church every day of the week helps me tremendously. I thank God for it, and whatever he can do for me God can do for YOU!
I just drove to a friend's house , was there for 20 minutes and went back home. Before I left, she cried for over 2 hours with a sobbing voice because she was no longer able to cope with her life. She said her depression came back, she was very scared and almost panicked. All of a sudden she told me that she was going now, but didn't want to tell me where she's going. I slowly realized that she was about to commit suicide, so I asked her stupid questions for over 50 minutes and drove to her at life-threatening speed, I was praying that she was not already on the bridge or on the roof. I took her in my arms until she came down and stopped shaking. She laid down in her bad, grabbed my waist, fell to sleep. She whispered "It's better now". I went home, sat down and saw this video as the first TH-cam suggestion. It's 3 a.m. Sry for my bad english
I feel like the possibly depressed me has become the real me, and I don't want to get better, because I don't know who I would be then. It's complicated. I don't want to be depressed but who would I be without it? I don't want to die, but I don't want to live either, and the last few days have really boosted my suicidal thoughts, yet I don't know how to go through with them, or if I even want to.
What do I think of when I hear the word "depression"? It's like thinking you have nothing to live for or like you said "they don't want to suffer like this for the rest of their life"
Welp everyone here is suffering so I guess we all can understand each other...About me, Idk if I'm depressed or not...I feel so, No one around me believes that, I always share some things I feel with my mom...She thinks I'm just sad and talking about suicide is just childish...Actually what happened is, My grandfather passed away a month ago...Only he used to genuinely understand me, I only trusted him...not even my mom, My dad and I were good till his death but after that we started fighting, He's just always looking for faults in me...I'm started to be a bit open minded and talk about how I feel nowadays after my grandpa's death as he always used to tell me to be free and not always keep everything to myself and suffer and now that I'm being a bit free,My dad's thinking I'm talking back even though he also used to tell me to be free and talk to him...We both don't talk much anymore....Ugh,I-I just don't know...
I feel like a horrible person. I started a relationship with someone who has severe depression and it’s been hard. I’be never encountered someone with depression this severe so it’s been difficult to try and understand her. I want her to be ok but I know I can’t do it. I don’t want her to think that I’m selfish or an asshole bc I don’t know how to help her. I think she’ll break up with me soon. I’ve been so emotionally exhausted that I can’t think of what to do in this situation. I’m sure what to do anymore.
My friend always talks about the fact that she got over her depression and I am just not trying. This makes it so much worse also considering the fact I get very sad and angry easily.
I like part one most, but it doesn’t mean I don’t like this part. It just make me thinking a lot, and all I want just avoid thinking. I don’t need friends, I don’t need to become rich, every things I need just a oak tree, in a middle off a plain that avoid traffic noise, and a mp3 with Marron 5, Ed Sheeran, Avicii and The Killers songs...........
Hey, just wanted to thank Psych2Go. I figured out that i may possibly have a mental illness, and i think i will talk about it with my school psychologist this week. Thanks for helping me. :)
I suffer from both depression and a learning disability one makes me do thanks that causes problems and the other makes me want to not exist I can't.ases situations or understand the most basic things and when I finally start to understand one thing I'm unable to understand everything else it's not fair to me it's like I'm stuck in a endless loop I can't get out of it makes me feel like a I'm just a problem that should not exist
Honestly I'm just so tired and empty all the time I have the intelligence, skills and opportunities to make my life better...but I don't want to I just want everything without needing to do anything I want to sleep forever sometimes I don't know what I want day after day after day I'm just can't handle it.
I suffer with anxiety and depresion (social anxiety ) but i have been diognosed recently still sometimes it's hard but I'm in far more better place then i was in September now since school has started it can all just take my mind amd i may think doing some stupid stuff i still suffer from it and i know my cause of it i would say right now i just feel numb i still don't think that i have a reason to be here yet I'm still alive my brother's definitely don't know how it is even if jokinly mock me just because of my anxiety and depression i don't go outside very well i go for about week and then sit 2 weeks home Still i know that there is a cgance that I'm gonna be back where i was and there is a chance that i won't Alright thx for reading just gave my experience i would say
Other advice: Do not try to make jokes about it. It‘s a serious topic and some jokes might even worsen the situation even if you did it with good intention. And don‘t ask to many questions. If they came to you to talk, they‘ll tell you everything they feel comfortable to share with you.
Thanks, but sad I am french, I can't share this video to family ot coworkers because, they don't understand english. I got depression at the beginning/middle of this year. I still have anxiety most of the time. I am INFJ (Ni Dominant function) and recently I done 2 dreams that I analyse quickly, meaning I have frustration. Last week, in a dream, I saw a small amount of liquid or powder pouring into a fairly large container. A bit like when you put a little detergent in a washing machine. Yesterday's dream, I saw lots of very small turtles that I had to get rid of. I'm frustrated, but luckily I know why. But I am not well, I have more anxiety again and now more frustration. Plus so many other feelings and emotions that I don't know what to do with them, that I'm stuck / immobilized. I don't know what to feel or what to do, lost. And I am lonely. I feel useless talk to my family who never understood me, they don't know what is anxiety and depression. I have no real friends. Useless to talk to coworkers, some don't know what depression and anxiety are really. Only one know psychology, and only one know MBTI/cognitives functions. Some may surely think I am weird. I search a real understanding and real meaningfull connection but I think I will never get it. I think I don't know who I am, I just know I am INFJ, and still wonder if I am not INTJ. Hard to live with Introverted Intuition as dominant function in this world.
@@BlueShinyCrystal Don't worry bro , people are commonly busy , business makes them occupied, so they dont dwell in their own mind. Just sadly being occupied doesnt work for everyone the same way , wish you all the best tho.
@@And-vc3xg hey thanks for that positive comment. It really made my evening better since I got a lot of stuff still to do. I just hope that circumstances are getting better
Oh don't worry just start working on it and do morning walk and last listen Quran will give you peace of mind you can take it from my channel description too "surah Rahman "
Don't tell ur parents until u r sure as heck they will understand If u do before that u are gonna be invalidated said to be dramatic n will get a big emotional filmy family drama convo where u just sit n listen n slowly degrade inside
People mostly compare suffering. They think we are fine because we look fine. Physical health is fine, yes. Thus, they don’t know our brain be like : rotten When you have illness that is INSIDE your body, very less people will understand, especially mental health because they don’t know what is “brain sickness” like Depression, Bipolar and etc People think I’m perfect. I’m smart. Etc I’m appreciated it, but I feel like I have no one else to ask for helping because they think I am totally fine.
Is saying "I had a mental illness too and i got better. You'll get better too I promice! I believe in you. We'll get through this." good or bad? Or I shouldn't compare two different mental illnesses?
For me who has been diagnosed with depression and has those thoughts, I can relate to this a lot. I told my sister how I was feeling once, and her response was, "Why would you want to k*** y*****lf? You are perfect and everyone loves you, your the favourite child". It just made me hurt even more, which is why I relate to, "it doesn't mean you have to tell them your wrong" because saying something like that could hurt someone. Another one about judging their way of coping is when my parents forced me into therapy. I told them multiple times that I don't think it will help me and I was right, but they didn't listen and put me in it anyway. Therapy for others can be a good solution, but not everyone, which is why I like the fact that you included this in the video, because therapy is a good solution for many people, but not all people. Sorry kinda just a vent but I liked how I related to this a lot and how informative it is on real problems with people understanding depression, good job! :]
I dont have a lot of friends cz in corporate culture its mostly about who is earning what, driving which car etc.Anyway, so I have this one friend who is always on about her family issues, her work issues and I listen and listen and listen patiently.I once mentioned to her that my anxiety and depression have gone worse and at times I feel I shouldnt wake up.Die in my sleep and that will be the end of it.Her response : but how do u know if u will go to heaven? Why would u want to go to hell? Who knows what God has planned?'.I really dint know whether to laugh or cry at her response 😅😄. I have gone through abusive childhood, miscarriage, extreme loneliness, depression, panic attacks, emotional abandoning by family,job loss, divorce and when I say I want to die , I should consider options in my afterlife? 😅.I dint reply but I hope that friend never has to support anyone with mental health issues.
Hello! Im pretty big fan of yours. I like the advice you give me then i can help my friends. But i need to ask for help. One of my friends lost his emotions. He can’t feel anything. Well he can feel physical pain but he cant feel emotions. For example i asked him today how are you and he answered: “Idk. I dont feel anything. Not happy not sad not mad.”. Even when people insult him VERY bad it looks like he isnt mad. Even voice didn’t change... Can you please help me? I want my friend the best.
sadly my depression is 10x times worse around goat kidding an its bc goat kids are mostly likely to die young but i love goats, then fact i have hard time getting motivated to do stuff. but when play games with my friends online feel better
@@matchestick ok stop meowing all the time and do the things you are interested in like chasing rats,climbing trees, stealing milk or fish or anything that will make a cat happy but dont ever put the key of your happiness into another person (🐺) pocket. Be a good and happy cat. Good luck.
“Try to understand the blackness, lethargy,hopelessness,and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest, and best things you will ever do.” ― Stephen Fry
Lets lift each other up in the comments with a positive affirmation. Here is the part 1 of 6 Things People With Depression Want You to Know
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Psych2go can you please do a video about Aphesia?
You are beautiful. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
darkness is like a monster
if you give in, it will swallow you
if you shine a light, it will flee
If you don't think anyone loves you, read this comment, because you're stronger than your fears, worthy of love, and deserve happiness as much as anyone!
@kol but I actually am
@@grim.sleeper when I noticed that no one can truly understand me and lost myself in dark, I become friend with darkness. And now, having alone time with darkness is most relaxing thing in my life
So dont talk that harsh about darkness, you guys just dont know how tranquill and peacefull it is
Or I gone nuts
I think depression is so incredibly powerful not only because of the pain and everything else, but it's so overlooked and constantly misinterpreted. That's what makes it extremely dangerous in my opinion
@Quinn Roberts Then i would assume that you haven't had depression/or depression in a while (with this i dont say that you dont but depression is a very painful thing for most as it makes most people emotionally numb like me and that is not someting fun to deal with)
I completely agree!! it needs to be discussed more openly in society. the more we talk about it the more support can be given
Its so powerful that I'm afraid to be happy and I'm in love with my sorrow. Well its not like I was ever meant to be happy any way.
That was what i was about to say but to me its somewhat confusing to listen to a depressed person or try to comfort them.
and sometimes it gets overlooked a lot
The thing i hate the most is the question "how or why are u even feeling like this?" or "what's the thing that's making you feel like this?"
Well my mom always does that.
“oh come on you can get over it”
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Nah she never actually used that sentence
@@jenjohnson9085 I figured but still
"you don't have anything to be depressed about" my mom says this everytime i tell her im depressed or suicidal
@@insanelysquishysquidpaws same and when i try to explain it to her, she's like "we give u everything you just lazy and ungrateful"
1. depression has nothing to do with being weak 0:24
2. it's important to be aware of their common triggers 1:06
3. don't make them feel like they are wrong if they talk about suicide 1:39
4. do not compare sufferings 2:32
5. do not judge their way of coping 3:26
6. give them space 3:51
I hope I could help!
Thank youuuuu 😩😩
thanks, u da goat!
The comment says this was 4 weeks ago
When this was made today
I'm confused-
What do you think of when you think of the word “depression”?
It’s like living in a body that’s fighting to survive with a mind that’s trying to die.
That's my life right there
@@shakurwonders5216 awww no don’t I hope that you will get well soon (if you’re still suffering ) stay strong :D
Amm what I thought it was only me
U just describe a iliness i have in one sentence.
I also have depression, had it sense a kid.
This sentence also works for depression too.
Legit my life
I’ve suffered through depression all my adult life. Some caused by my environment and others by genetics. What has helped me is having a person who listens to me without passing judgement. Having someone to talk to without giving suggestions or advice has helped me most.
Thats really good having someone to listen to you without judgement. That does really help.
The last one happend to me a lot of the time . There was this girl that I met on a group chat and she kept calling me texting me even when I asked her to stop and whenever I asked to leave the call she kept asking for minutes and it was really annoying. She kept pushing me to go on the call even though she wasn’t even doing anything.I had the confidence to tell her to leave me alone for some time and give me space but she still wouldn’t do it. It was really tiring and overwhelming for me and I tried multiple to times to block her and delete her from my contacts but she still managed to message me and then my mum deleted her from my contacts for ever so it is very important to give some one their space if they really do need it because it can overwhelm them and affect their mental health to.
That;s true. If they aren't stopping even when you told them multiple times as kindly as possible it's definitely ok to take more actions and if need completely erase them.
You have such a claming voice also you have helped me a lot with anxiety and stress thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
🙏🏼🤍 thank you, 🥲sending love 🤍🙏🏼
Depression is such a hard thing to go through. Especially because you often feel so alone. I hope that everyone that suffers from depression has a good support system to fall back on. No one should suffer alone ❤️
I'm reminded of a time where a ten year old boy came to me crying worried about dying, as strange sound to my ears but a question my heart knew too well. I told him the truth we all must die in our time and to not rush for we don't get a reset or do over. I said this while battling my own depression and what I've learned from the struggles that far.
I want to share a very touching thing that happened to me just now. Here goes
It’s my birthday,and so far it’s going bad. My mom and I don’t have a good relationship at all so she didn’t wish me happy birthday,neither did her boyfriend. My boyfriend was too busy playing his game to make it to me on time so I went to the mall alone to let off steam. Wondering the mall by myself felt lonely,but I ate alone and shopped alone. Towards the end when I was waiting for my bf to pick me up I sat a Cinnabon shop. There were a nice lady sitting there ,she greeted me when I sat down and I glanced over at her to greet her back. I just thought it was casual and she was waiting to get something(turns out she was waiting for her item at the t mobile across the way) she kept asking if I was okay and making conversation with me,it kinda annoyed me how genuinely concerned she was but after a while I just got emotional because my day is really shitty and this nice lady is asking if I’m okay. She even offered to buy me a treat and a drink but I politely declined. It just makes me want to strive to be nice to people more. This lady have no idea how terrible my day is going and I’m not sure if it is written on my face or not but I am hurt ,but it’s people like her that people like me need sometimes. Im trying not to cry as I write this but I am genuinely thankful. Im enjoying this moment before having to return back to the reality that things are shitty for me. However I wish I could thank this woman in a better way. She’s heaven sent.
It might seem counterintuitive, but other people can get a decent insight into our state of mind--better than ourselves sometimes--simply because they can see our face, expressions, posture, etc. It's not like we carry and use mirrors all the time, so we often don't know how we appear to others or what impression we're leaving on them. Maybe she noticed that you weren't having a good day, so she wanted to try to cheer up as best as she could.
You already said your day has been terrible and I'm very sorry about that, but I wanted to wish you a happy birthday anyway. Best wishes and here's to a brighter future.
It's my birthday too and everything went bad
I'm Sorry for whats happening to you. Happy Birthday beautiful🎉 Happy Birthday to you. I hope my wish can wipe your tears. Soon your sadness will fade away. 💛💛💛
@@Valent_tine Happy Birthday to you 🎉 Sending happiest smile to you 🥳🥳🥳🎂
When things like that happen it renews my faith in humanity, there are ppl out there who care, you are not alone 💗
"depression doesn't mean you're WEAK"
...fundamentally YES... but it's also IMPORTANT that we acknowledge our own shortcomings in this area... *I AM VERY GUILTY OF THIS* and often just face my "weakness" alone.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ACCEPTING WHAT YOU THINK IS "WEAKNESS" AND ASKING FOR HELP...
It could be the only thing that helps, really... *ASK*
To quote a stand up Comedian, *2* , who once told me after a show he ended with a group chat about strength and emotion and loss... he said that the fact I came up to him crying afterwards and opened up about how helpful his words were... "This is what I was talking about... It takes so much more strength to bear your emotions without fear" (I'm paraphrasing, this was like 13 years ago)
You might be too "weak" to face yourself...but be strong enough to face the world and ask for a helping hand. You might be surprised...
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"triggers"
On the one hand, it's important to respect our boundaries about things that upset us (Someone forgot to tell me what happens in the opening of IT... and then saw the abject horror on my face and had to apologize "I'm sorry, I forgot child murder is a trigger for you" ) ...On the other hand, it's also important that we acknowledge that is OUR burden, not society's... It's not up to society to police itself and cater to my own sensibilities... If we censored all fictional media that "triggered" people, you'd never be able to use ANYTHING to present conflict on-stage... Another friend had to ask me to explain why the XMAS episode of Always Sunny in Philadelphia triggered me (the idea of having your dreams dangled right in front of your face and then yanked away as a form of abuse...)
On the one hand, I can accept that some people find particularly inappropriate jokes funny... whereas the same joke could upset someone with say, a history of sexual abuse or victimization. I am not personally offended by rape jokes, but other survivors find them quite offensive. Doesn't mean I'm BETTER or "handle the trauma" any better than them (in fact, my trauma made certain sexual activities extraordinarily taxing to my mental state...for the better part of 15 years...)
bottom line... EMPATHY... USE IT.
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"don't make them feel like they're wrong"
...I... can't say anything deep and thought provoking to this. Very emotional subject, I don't like it, and I don't think people should do it... call the numbers, folks, PLEASE...
I've lost a lover...and two friends... to suicide... PLEASE CALL.
The only thing I've found more sobering than the suicidal ideation I've had over the years... IS SURVIVING SOMEONE WHO DID IT...
You probably have no idea how painful this is, and that's what you're leaving behind...something even worse than you had.
Maybe in some cases, I don't know... I don't want to say that Robin Williams was WRONG, but I wish he were still here... Same for Chester...and so many others.
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"everyone copes differently"
...don't let me cope "my own way" ...I just lock myself in my house and play computer games for 2 days and ignore my friends/family...it's not healthy, but that's PTSD for you.
YES, we all cope DIFFERENTLY, and sometimes our most natural "coping mechanisms" are flawed... Once again, this comes back to USING EMPATHY.
Give us space, but not too much. Watch us, talk to us, to remind us that we're not alone...and if we try to self-isolate or hide, then maybe it's time to bang on our door with a 6 pack and some green "Hey, let's hang out and watch Zootopia or Spiderverse or something"
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"Give them space"
but JUST ENOUGH to not let us forget you exist, of course... When mom died I did legit want to be alone for a few days, Not locked up and gaming the pain away...I actually spent the entirety of the first day just curled up in a full size dog cage cuddling my husky whenever he would lay down with me... but texts and whatnot were nice reminders that my friends and family were both next door neighbors. Dad and kid brother in the house on my right, and two of my oldest friends in the house on my left... and the other two oldest friends came over twice a week. So they were all available and helped provide me an outlet whenever I came over again. We played a few open world games together to help me get my brain working halfway normal, like Conan Exiles and Minecraft...
I do still want to be "alone" sometimes, but we're talking about time most of us are alone...getting ready for bed or winding down, just listening to music and either playing an easy game or taking a bath...whatever yaknow? Sometimes it's therapeutic to just put on The Dawes "A Little Bit of Everything" and just cry...
Sometimes i just send people videos like this, because this channel describes my problems so much better than i can do it myself. thank you so much for doing that
When I was struggling with depression, my brother told me that I was not depressed , but I was a fake person who played the rule of a sad boy to draw attention! :-) I will never forgive him. He uttered those heartbreaking words when my depressive mood was in the worst condition ever.
Oh so sorry to hear about that. Hang in there and know that there's someone who can relate, Yes that person is me and I'm just trying my best, smiling but dying on the inside. Let's breathe/Meditate while we hope to overcome. It's ok even to cry, it's pain afterall.❤
“Depression is being colorblind and constantly told how colorful the world is.” - Atticus.
Your voice is....... everything. Times are hard but listening to your voice is calming🙂.
🥰🙏🏼🙏🏼 thank you ! It warms my heart to hear that 🤍
@@amandasilvera Welcome😄
The thing is, everyone at my school keeps joking about 'being depressed.' It feels wrong. If there's someone who is actually suffering from depression, they wont be taken seriously, and it may be too late when they realize. It's horrible. They don't understand how bad depression really is, it's not just being sad. It's a real mental illness, and you can't just 'snap out of it.'
My whole friend group does that and it doesn’t help when they joke about hanging while I’m considering it. I will admit I joke a about it sometimes as my way of venting as no one would want to listen to me.
Praying that everyone falls asleep quickly and has a peaceful sleep. Hope you all wake up happy and well rested 🎈🎈🎄🎄🎄🎄
i'm a prior attempt person who deals with serious mental issues... suicidal ideation.... fantasizing about what relief death can bring w a fear of being judged by my God... for selfishly leaving my kids and family... they'd never understand. WHen YOU said "they can't imagine living the rest of their lives this way" you hit the nail on the head!!!!!! It's exactly what we thiink about... also that others would be better off without us... like we are holding back our family and friends bc they are being bombarded by negativity from us on a totally random pattern. That can ware ppl out and they end up just choosing not to be around you anymore bc you bring down the vibe. Which is just proving our theory of the weakest link. God help us all that are feeling this way! My heart goes out to you all. The only thing that is true to me is that God hates to see us suffer and i cry to Him for comfort and it always comes....that's why I'm still here 43 years now. I figure I'm about half way through this f'd up obstacle course lol. I am very glad i survived my attempt. It was symbolic for me as a believer in the Trinity that I did this on the night of GOOD FRIDAY & woke up in Mission Hospital on EASTER SUNDAY with my dad standing over me. If that's not a sign from up above, I don't know what is. Love you all!!!!!!!
“Crying doesn’t mean they are weak, it just means they have been strong for too long”
For me depression is like stomping through a garden, stomping on weeds and flowers alike. A turn of phrase evolved from Dr Tracey Marks ( she is also good to listen to).
For me I have learnt to think of my depression as a symptom, the underlying cause needs to be found.
I would recommend to everyone, depressed or not, to treasure their physical self.( A healthy mind needs a healthy brain which needs a healthy body). And treasure friendship too, although this is very difficult.
I never really feel like I recover fully from the last depression spiral before a new one starts. They just keep compounding. And piling on top of each other.
I'm so afraid that by the time I finally heal and move past all this, that I will be too old to enjoy what's left of my life and do something meaningful with it.
I wish I could feel what it is like to thrive once in a while.
Number 3 hit so hard. I just don’t want to lose my best friend. I’ll follow that advice thank you so much I can not imagine life without him.
It is the same as an earthquake you want to run, you want to get out but it’s the same everywhere you go
It's sad for me that I cannot get over my past of being bullied, I am just forced to accept it as a part of my life.... I can not tell anyone too, because whenever I tell them my story, they just said some sentences like "It's normal, your story is not as bad as mine..." or make fun of my story and tell it to the others... Even my family took advantage of my story and always tell me when they're angry that the reason why I was bullied like that is because I am extremely stubborn, miserable, worse day by day and dumb as a horse... Of course, I was hurt and broken mentally, I understand that I am lucky than others, because it is just passive one, and it's not harmful to my physical health, but ....... sometimes, I find out that my situation is not good by any means... I can say that I am an excellent student who always wins the 1st prize at school's competition, I am quite pretty that they sometimes fell jealous with me and some boys like me, I am full of beans and usually enjoy social activities...but everything changes since I was bullied, they all blame on me, they made up bad stories about me, they laughed on me and they did everything that can immerse me in negative sadness and it was obviously awful... They made me feel upset, that I was down in the dumps everyday, cried everyday, hurt my self with scratch and injuries everyday and make me worse everyday... I want to get over it, I read many different motivated stories to be better but I can't. Everyone stands against me, even my fav teacher and my best friend... I cannot trust anyone, I scared of that they will act like they did and hurt me again...I just smile at school like I wasn't affected by these activities, but I did, and I just didn't tell them. I have thought that I am depressed but then I thought that no one who is depressed can think that they are in it... Until now, they still passive bully me, and I still cannot get over it... It is nearly my important competition now, I want to make up my mind to concentrate in my work, but I cannot because every time I think about this, I would lose a day to just cry and hurt myself, then when I keep calm and continually be bullied and then think about it another time... It just time loops... I cannot tell anyone and can just text on this... Can you help me ?
I remember that today in the hall of my high school i just broke emotionally, i screamed, and then i started crying saying that i was done, i couldn't take it anymore and i'm legit crying writing this because i don't even know what i'm doing with my life anymore.
Man... most of my list is full your videos, keep it up! you're teams research is really helping lives.
~Tucker
So beautifully drawn and so well explained I love your videos❤️
I don’t think I can feel this way much longer.
Dang… I don’t even know exactly what to comment about here because of my bad memory, but there’s just something that keeps me from completing goals. Even if I did know what was wrong, I don’t think I would be able to open up to people. 😥
This is so common-sensical but at the same time a lot of people still don’t get it when you explain it to them. I wish everybody would seek this kind of info when they decide to not believe you about your struggles. If you don’t understand it from me then be curious and dig deeper.
thank you for uploading
The real answer for a person with depression is with someone close enough and knows how you really feel, that you can trust to tell everything and they will listen and not tell others, wish i have that person :(.
actually every single person i know in my life knows and are more close to other people, eh guess im just the odd digit or some
I believe it's not depression, but very familiar. No matter where I am and what I do, I'm always thinking to myself very pessimistic, defiant and paranoid, but from outside I am reliable and kind person despite being annoyed sometimes, going against own subconscious beliefs makes me feel stepped on. So I am enemy to myself.
I rarely talk about what is happening in my head, so I keep it secret because everyone gets concerned about it when I talk, so I mainly just talk about my problems to myself, idk if that's healthy but oh well
In dealing with depression, it helps me to imagine all the extra work that my body and mind need to do, to maintain normal levels of neurotransmitters. It´s like a river that has to carry liters and liters of water and only drops arrive ... then you need to work twice or triple to have normal levels of neurotransmitters that allow your brain to function. All my energy and my desire goes there. I don't blame myself for that.. now, I've just learned to accept the difference that my different beats make. The important thing is to know me, to know what is happening.
From last 3 constant years i feel like I'm depressed ... nothing can cheer me up... my mood swings are getting worse and I'm not being able to communicate with other people......i was an extrovert who loves going out and gathering but my current situation is just opposite of what i was supposed to be.....😓
Keep an eye out for the overachiever, the one who is wildly successful, popular. There was a time when I worked so hard to avoid facing my emotional pain and trauma experiences. People experiencing depression don’t all act and look ‘depressed’.
As someone who has been diagnosed, my friends keep saying I'm depressed and I try saying I understand but if u think so maybe try talking with someone and then they just self diagnose.
I suffer from deppreson and every thing said in the vid is what I do and I'm planning on seeing someone to help
i realise my so called 'friends' would use my common triggers as advantage to get what they want, made fun of suicide and never respect my privacy and personal space
i started to think it was normal althought it was damaging my mental health. but now ive cut them off and it feels like a few weight have been lifted off my chest. I hope yall get friends that cares about you
A few things i wish my mother knew these days...
Nobody can fully understand without experiencing it themselves.
To wake up everyday and doing your best to get better, only to wake up the next morning to see it wasn't enough every single day.
To watch helplessly as your friends and family waste time and energy trying to solve your mental paradox. To watch them hurting just because you can't get better.
To cry out in silent desperation for a savior that will never arrive, because in your fear you sealed away everything that could draw them to you.
To harbor endless hatred for the entire society that birthed you, for their hopeless inability to assist or validate us. As the judgemental fools turn us slowly into heartless monsters.
To be born into a world that you were hopeless to ever be mentally compatible with.
beautiful video very needed
For me it's not really "depression", but as i like to call it "my other self" telling me some messed up stuff. I keep telling myself that "life is to be lived and not ended by mental illness", and that usually drags me out of the dark place inside my mind that "my other self" keeps creating, and my way of coping with it is youtube. Also! A lesson to you all! Don't skip breakfast or you'll get a constant "stomach pain" problem. Trust me, i have experienced 6 months of that (and during that time (my other self) appeared inside my mind) That's all, thanks for reading :)
I've suffered through depression in the past, as well as recently, but I feel like I'm already getting myself out of it. Unfortunately, my partner also suffers from depression, and it seems it is only growing for them. I clicked on this video to learn what I can about it, and based on this video it seems that a couple of the things I've been saying or doing to my partner might be harmful to them rather than helpful. I'm glad this video helped me become aware of this, I'd like to work on this. However, I'm still not sure what else I could exactly do for my partner who has been feeling do low lately. I sit with them and listen to them when they finally open up to me, I remind them they are strong, they'll be out of this dark place one day, and that I care about them and will always be there to support them, but that's all I find I can do. I feel horrible because I want to help them more and I don't know how. I never know what to say so I repeat myself or stay silent sometimes and really I feel like I'm not doing enough. Any suggestions on what I can do, guys? I'm desperate for advice...
You are trying your best, I appreciate you for that. What you say, even though it might be a little, its better than nothing. From what you have written here, you say things like "they'll be out of this dark place one day, and that I care about them and will always be there to support them" ; that's a really good thing to say but instead of only saying about futer, maybe also try to say or do something at that exact moment? Since you said "partner" you can also show physical affection like hug them and say comforting words etc. Also if possible find some things they like to do (like hobbies or their favourite music, food, drink, film etc.) and not forcefully but gently make them do it? For example, if your partner's favourite food is pizza give it to them? I know it might seem very small but hopefully it might lift up their mood atleast a little bit?
I'm not saying you have to do it these are just some ideas. I'm sry if I said anything wrong I might have not worded it correctly... I really hope you or your partner wn't have to go through this for long.
@@babybear3430 I think a lot of that was worded just fine, thank you so much for taking the time to give me this advice! I appreciate it :)
I'll keep this in mind and try it out.
I have another couple questions now though, if you don't mind answering them: what if they're lacking the motivation to want to do their hobbies lately? And what type of comforting words would be right to use? I know some words that might seem comforting to people who are normally upset may end up making a depressed person feel worse.
@@wolfcry087 In their current state they have a negative mindset(which ISN'T their fault tho) and they might not feel motivated enough to do their favourite things they used to do in the past. So maybe they can't get themself to do it so you might have to help them a bit...If possible would you mind telling me a few things they like(their interest, hobbies etc.) no need to be descriptive just briefly I think I might be able to tell more that way... Start slowly and make them do very small things, for example; if they like to draw instead of only making him draw you also try to draw something WITH them? And remember to positively interact with them multiple times(but not too much just when you see if them seem down or after a fair amount of time has passes). Compliment them on their drawing( ex: "wow" "woah that looks great" "how did you draw that it looks so good" etc.). Any other interest/hobby remember to compliment themself and try to make them feel good about themself.
If they have a favourite song, try to show your interested in it (ex; search for the song in youtube and go and ask them something like "hey... I was watching some random videos in youtube and I found this song, isn't this the song that you listen to? It's really good" not exactly this, the point is to tell them they have a good music taste and you too are interested in it).
Comforting words... tel them their strong; their strong for keep going despite what they are going through etc.
Acknowledge if they are 'trying to get better' , 'any improvements(even the smallest ones)', tell them you love them, ' its going to be ok', I'll stay with you and help you you can do it, 'your strong', your doing great, (if they are crying)' it's ok, let it out don't hold it in I'm here',
I hope these might help... also, not everytime but from time to time give them a hug(not a short one, maybe a 10 second hug). Its scientifically proven hugging and cuddling reduced stress and also will help calm down and its overall a good and effective thing. By the way you too don't stress yourself and don't overthing ok? Your being very helpful to them your a good and caring person. Hope things will get better for you and them soon.
@@babybear3430 Again, this is so helpful and I really appreciate you taking the time to give me these kind words and advice, thank you so much! When it comes to the comforting words, I do say all of those things often so I guess I'm fine there haha. I can gradually try to make my partner try their hobbies put again though. For their hobbies, they like to draw/paint, make jewelry, be crafty overall, as well as play sports, and play with their dogs. I've just realized I'm not sure if there's much of anything beyond that, we've only been together for 9 weeks so I know there's so much more for me to learn about them. Maybe I could also try to ask them things to learn even more about them and show my interest/care? Only if they feel up for talking about it...
Also, it's a good thing you reminded me to take care of myself too. I keep forgetting that often lately, and so I'll end up draining myself and dragging myself down overthinking things and feeling like I'm not doing anything useful for my partner. This means a lot to me, more than you might know, thank you.
@@wolfcry087 It seems you know what to say to comfort them, that's really good. To get them to draw I have a small suggestion... ex; you draw something(not fully, half-way like) and then the rest try asking them to draw it? Do this maybe when they look like they have a low mood? And afterwards thank and compliment them so they can feel better about themselves(again... I know this is very small but... hopefully it will help to uplift their mood atleat a tiny bit?... Also maybe draw something and act like you don't know how to draw a particular area and ask them for help? So they will engage in drawing a bit too? Not sure if this will work but, in the past sometimes I felt like drawing but at the same time didn't feel motivated, I felt partially motivated when I watched some youtube compilations of people drawing and I felt like 'I too wanted to draw like that'.
For sports... maybe try the same tactic as drawing; show a video compilation of their favourite sport? Or if the sport is like badminton and needs more than one player, slowly and gently ask if they want to play? Or maybe a couple times a month go out with them to play a sport?
If you have a dog(or any other pet) take it near them and get them to pet it at least? Pets have this "magical" ability to warmn hearts and petting them might help them? And also there are lot's of cute and funny dog(and other pets) compilations and you can show it to them? I recommend funny videos so hopefully it will make them laugh which is good? Here's a dog video I found if you want; th-cam.com/video/1HygThMLzGs/w-d-xo.html
When asking about their interests don't ask a lot at once and also try to ask them about it indirectly. Don't stress yourself or overthink about this, your being really helpful for them but while helping them take care of yourself too.
i’ve been depressed for 6 days and haven’t really talk to anyone. i stayed in my room as if i’m self quarantine. it all happen when one of my classmates change college .
I don't know if I should share this to a friend, I'm scared of what she could tell me then. I love your work
My experience with depression people:
Approach the people calmly and when you talk to them start out with some small talk and then it should start into a conversation and go do what they want to do
I need to share this to some people in my school and family
Not because they have it but I do and they need to understand this.
PEOPLE DON'T WANT TO END THEIR VERY OWN LIFE.
THEY WANT TO END THE PAIN ITSELF.
SO IT'S BASICIALLY CLICHE.
YOU END THE PAIN BY ENDING YOUR LIFE.
I once tried this by taking a whole bottle of depression pills and went to bed and woke up the
next morning thanking God that I didn't die. God gave me a chance at life and then some.
Slowly I am coming out of my depression without meds for a month and a half now, and I feel great.
I listen to positive music, classical, gospel, christian, country, positive vibes channels on TH-cam, and reading
christian spiritual books, and going to church every day of the week helps me tremendously. I thank God for it, and whatever
he can do for me God can do for YOU!
Am I the only one that watches this channel in 'every' mood??
I just drove to a friend's house , was there for 20 minutes and went back home. Before I left, she cried for over 2 hours with a sobbing voice because she was no longer able to cope with her life.
She said her depression came back, she was very scared and almost panicked. All of a sudden she told me that she was going now, but didn't want to tell me where she's going. I slowly realized that she was about to commit suicide, so I asked her stupid questions for over 50 minutes and drove to her at life-threatening speed, I was praying that she was not already on the bridge or on the roof.
I took her in my arms until she came down and stopped shaking. She laid down in her bad, grabbed my waist, fell to sleep. She whispered "It's better now". I went home, sat down and saw this video as the first TH-cam suggestion. It's 3 a.m.
Sry for my bad english
I feel like the possibly depressed me has become the real me, and I don't want to get better, because I don't know who I would be then. It's complicated. I don't want to be depressed but who would I be without it? I don't want to die, but I don't want to live either, and the last few days have really boosted my suicidal thoughts, yet I don't know how to go through with them, or if I even want to.
Have u ever tried therapy. I know it maybe cliche and all that but some therapists are good
What do I think of when I hear the word "depression"?
It's like thinking you have nothing to live for or like you said "they don't want to suffer like this for the rest of their life"
I feel like sending this to a certain person and I be like: watch this to understand me.
Welp everyone here is suffering so I guess we all can understand each other...About me,
Idk if I'm depressed or not...I feel so, No one around me believes that, I always share some things I feel with my mom...She thinks I'm just sad and talking about suicide is just childish...Actually what happened is, My grandfather passed away a month ago...Only he used to genuinely understand me, I only trusted him...not even my mom, My dad and I were good till his death but after that we started fighting, He's just always looking for faults in me...I'm started to be a bit open minded and talk about how I feel nowadays after my grandpa's death as he always used to tell me to be free and not always keep everything to myself and suffer and now that I'm being a bit free,My dad's thinking I'm talking back even though he also used to tell me to be free and talk to him...We both don't talk much anymore....Ugh,I-I just don't know...
I just stumbled upon a strange phobia today, called anuptaphobia, the fear of being single. It should be worth checking out.
Hi everyone, wish you all the best in this world and success in life. Goodnight and sweet dreams. God bless 🤗☺️😴💤💤
And this is how i discovered that I have depression ✨
Thank you for this video 🙏 My friend has depression, anxiety and su!cidal thoughts. I was struggling to find out how to help her.
Can you give some gifts to her and play just or fo to walk with her will benefit for hher
I feel like a horrible person. I started a relationship with someone who has severe depression and it’s been hard. I’be never encountered someone with depression this severe so it’s been difficult to try and understand her. I want her to be ok but I know I can’t do it. I don’t want her to think that I’m selfish or an asshole bc I don’t know how to help her. I think she’ll break up with me soon. I’ve been so emotionally exhausted that I can’t think of what to do in this situation. I’m sure what to do anymore.
I don't know if it's a form of Depression. But I get really angry if I don't get my space.
My friend always talks about the fact that she got over her depression and I am just not trying. This makes it so much worse also considering the fact I get very sad and angry easily.
Depression is like drowning. Except you can see everyone else around you breathing.
I like part one most, but it doesn’t mean I don’t like this part. It just make me thinking a lot, and all I want just avoid thinking.
I don’t need friends, I don’t need to become rich, every things I need just a oak tree, in a middle off a plain that avoid traffic noise, and a mp3 with Marron 5, Ed Sheeran, Avicii and The Killers songs...........
when I hear depression I feel pressure on my chest and I get a headache and start tearing up
Hey, just wanted to thank Psych2Go. I figured out that i may possibly have a mental illness, and i think i will talk about it with my school psychologist this week. Thanks for helping me. :)
Every time I here the word depression makes me get flashbacks of well... You know
Rejection is the worst trigger for me
I suffer from both depression and a learning disability one makes me do thanks that causes problems and the other makes me want to not exist I can't.ases situations or understand the most basic things and when I finally start to understand one thing I'm unable to understand everything else it's not fair to me it's like I'm stuck in a endless loop I can't get out of it makes me feel like a I'm just a problem that should not exist
Number 3 is super important….
I wish I could wave a magic wand and banish my deep depression forever.
Honestly I'm just so tired and empty all the time I have the intelligence, skills and opportunities to make my life better...but I don't want to I just want everything without needing to do anything I want to sleep forever sometimes I don't know what I want day after day after day I'm just can't handle it.
Being in the military it sucks that I feel like drinking is the only thing I can use to cope but that's the normal depressed people in uniform ig
I suffer with anxiety and depresion (social anxiety ) but i have been diognosed recently still sometimes it's hard but I'm in far more better place then i was in September now since school has started it can all just take my mind amd i may think doing some stupid stuff i still suffer from it and i know my cause of it i would say right now i just feel numb i still don't think that i have a reason to be here yet I'm still alive my brother's definitely don't know how it is even if jokinly mock me just because of my anxiety and depression i don't go outside very well i go for about week and then sit 2 weeks home
Still i know that there is a cgance that I'm gonna be back where i was and there is a chance that i won't
Alright thx for reading just gave my experience i would say
Theses short lessons really help me through the day and the cartoons make me feel lovable 🥰 is that weird? 🙁
My way of coping is learning something useful from the Internet or playing pokemon
“Depression”
A word, easy to say,
But what you don’t know
Is that when I get out of bed
Depression says
“They better wake up dead”
Other advice: Do not try to make jokes about it. It‘s a serious topic and some jokes might even worsen the situation even if you did it with good intention. And don‘t ask to many questions. If they came to you to talk, they‘ll tell you everything they feel comfortable to share with you.
pls whenever i tell something bad/vent to my besties they always compare, like 👹... Well they don't sometimes, but most of the times they do
Thanks, but sad I am french, I can't share this video to family ot coworkers because, they don't understand english. I got depression at the beginning/middle of this year. I still have anxiety most of the time.
I am INFJ (Ni Dominant function) and recently I done 2 dreams that I analyse quickly, meaning I have frustration.
Last week, in a dream, I saw a small amount of liquid or powder pouring into a fairly large container. A bit like when you put a little detergent in a washing machine.
Yesterday's dream, I saw lots of very small turtles that I had to get rid of.
I'm frustrated, but luckily I know why.
But I am not well, I have more anxiety again and now more frustration. Plus so many other feelings and emotions that I don't know what to do with them, that I'm stuck / immobilized. I don't know what to feel or what to do, lost. And I am lonely.
I feel useless talk to my family who never understood me, they don't know what is anxiety and depression. I have no real friends.
Useless to talk to coworkers, some don't know what depression and anxiety are really. Only one know psychology, and only one know MBTI/cognitives functions.
Some may surely think I am weird.
I search a real understanding and real meaningfull connection but I think I will never get it. I think I don't know who I am, I just know I am INFJ, and still wonder if I am not INTJ.
Hard to live with Introverted Intuition as dominant function in this world.
I’m cringing so hard right now 😩😩🇨🇳🇨🇳
Can't avoid my parents. It's weird but I always ditch when they want to do something with me.
And I have no friends that possibly could maybe give me a hug or something. They are kinda always busy or me just not wanting to get out of my room.
@@BlueShinyCrystal Don't worry bro , people are commonly busy , business makes them occupied, so they dont dwell in their own mind. Just sadly being occupied doesnt work for everyone the same way , wish you all the best tho.
@@And-vc3xg hey thanks for that positive comment. It really made my evening better since I got a lot of stuff still to do. I just hope that circumstances are getting better
@@BlueShinyCrystal :)
When I hear the word 'depression' I think about myself and the fact I wanna talk to my Chaplin about it.
I also have suicide thoughts every morning
Oh don't worry just start working on it and do morning walk and last listen Quran will give you peace of mind you can take it from my channel description too "surah Rahman "
God i wish i could get rid of my depression.
Don't tell ur parents until u r sure as heck they will understand
If u do before that u are gonna be invalidated said to be dramatic n will get a big emotional filmy family drama convo where u just sit n listen n slowly degrade inside
People mostly compare suffering. They think we are fine because we look fine. Physical health is fine, yes. Thus, they don’t know our brain be like : rotten
When you have illness that is INSIDE your body, very less people will understand, especially mental health because they don’t know what is “brain sickness” like Depression, Bipolar and etc
People think I’m perfect. I’m smart. Etc
I’m appreciated it, but I feel like I have no one else to ask for helping because they think I am totally fine.
I dont know if my brother is depressed. He doesnt like to be with relatives but likes to be with his loud friends.
Maybe they did him dirty and were toxic. Have a humble conversation with him and let him speak without interruptions
Calling me out again...
Me relating to a lot of things in this video: *nervous laughter*
Making music too cope got me feeling targeted lol
When you have 1000 suicidal thoughts in one day so you unlock the golden eye bags
Is saying "I had a mental illness too and i got better. You'll get better too I promice! I believe in you. We'll get through this." good or bad?
Or I shouldn't compare two different mental illnesses?
So you are also a delusional psycho like me.😌Hello my madmate😺
For me who has been diagnosed with depression and has those thoughts, I can relate to this a lot. I told my sister how I was feeling once, and her response was, "Why would you want to k*** y*****lf? You are perfect and everyone loves you, your the favourite child". It just made me hurt even more, which is why I relate to, "it doesn't mean you have to tell them your wrong" because saying something like that could hurt someone. Another one about judging their way of coping is when my parents forced me into therapy. I told them multiple times that I don't think it will help me and I was right, but they didn't listen and put me in it anyway. Therapy for others can be a good solution, but not everyone, which is why I like the fact that you included this in the video, because therapy is a good solution for many people, but not all people.
Sorry kinda just a vent but I liked how I related to this a lot and how informative it is on real problems with people understanding depression, good job! :]
I dont have a lot of friends cz in corporate culture its mostly about who is earning what, driving which car etc.Anyway, so I have this one friend who is always on about her family issues, her work issues and I listen and listen and listen patiently.I once mentioned to her that my anxiety and depression have gone worse and at times I feel I shouldnt wake up.Die in my sleep and that will be the end of it.Her response : but how do u know if u will go to heaven? Why would u want to go to hell? Who knows what God has planned?'.I really dint know whether to laugh or cry at her response 😅😄. I have gone through abusive childhood, miscarriage, extreme loneliness, depression, panic attacks, emotional abandoning by family,job loss, divorce and when I say I want to die , I should consider options in my afterlife? 😅.I dint reply but I hope that friend never has to support anyone with mental health issues.
Hello! Im pretty big fan of yours. I like the advice you give me then i can help my friends. But i need to ask for help. One of my friends lost his emotions. He can’t feel anything. Well he can feel physical pain but he cant feel emotions. For example i asked him today how are you and he answered: “Idk. I dont feel anything. Not happy not sad not mad.”. Even when people insult him VERY bad it looks like he isnt mad. Even voice didn’t change... Can you please help me? I want my friend the best.
sadly my depression is 10x times worse around goat kidding an its bc goat kids are mostly likely to die young but i love goats, then fact i have hard time getting motivated to do stuff. but when play games with my friends online feel better
dunno why but my paranoia is fixed by humming a song .>.
Well I am not depressed but my personality is depressing 😞
You're depressing because you are a cat.
Umm...how can I fix it?
@@matchestick ok stop meowing all the time and do the things you are interested in like chasing rats,climbing trees, stealing milk or fish or anything that will make a cat happy but dont ever put the key of your happiness into another person (🐺) pocket.
Be a good and happy cat.
Good luck.
“Try to understand the blackness, lethargy,hopelessness,and loneliness they’re going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who’s depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest, and best things you will ever do.”
― Stephen Fry
Why you gotta make me cry 🥺😭
💔😭this is me rn
You forgot about the part where some of us don't have any friends or family and are faceless in the dark, no one see's us, so no one cares about us.
@@dossox9375 oh lol i meant you dont have to cry over a comment.Just be happy and be yourself.
@@idreamindarknessandsleepto1475 I see you