"I want to have adult kids one day." I've never heard anyone else express this! I want this too. I can't wait to meet my kids, and get to know who they are as people.
tessa, my mom and i are going through the exact stage you were talking about. the one where we're trying to individuate and learn how i am as an adult and how she is as the mom of an adult. and it's been so hard and i hate to admit that i haven't been doing it that well. i'm so close to my mom, but it has been a tremendous struggle. but to watch this video was beautiful. it reminded me of things i absolutely adore in my mom and the core of why we care about this transition. so thank you! and thank you, tessa's mom. you are absolutely inspiring
Hey girl! I just wanted to chime in and say that I very very recently reached the 'other side' with my mom as well. And let me tell you, it was rough. My mom and I are about as close as you can be (maybe too much so!), and that individuation period had us at each other's throats. There were times when we both weren't sure if there was another side. But honestly, it passes without you really realizing it, and the relationship you have afterward is so, so worth it. Be patient and be willing to forgive each other, you've got this
Tessa, I fucking love this. I want a podcast with you two just talking about life, your childhood, her life before you were a thought in the void of the universe. This was nice.
Recently as I've gotten older and moved away for college, I've realized that my parents are actual people?? I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I think growing up, it's easy to idolize your parents or resent them for being authority or both at the same time - the relationship is complicated and weird because of the specific role you each play in each other's lives. But as the kids get older the relationship changes, and it's emotional because you sort of lose a person and gain a person at the same time? My mom has talked about the same thing regarding feeling like she's lost the "little girl" I used to be, but sort of gained an adult friend. It's so weird. I love this, I love your mom, I love you, I love my mom.
Your mom is so insightful. I loved listening to this conversation. When she was saying you were an easy child, you guys reminded me of Lorelei and Rory.
I loved watching this, it reminds me of the chats that I have with my mum. Pillow talks are always so relaxing and fascinating to watch, you have a real talent for interviewing and keeping interesting conversations going.
It's so much fun to see you Lysa, with your lovely and talented daughter. Lysa could always do anything she put her mind to, she too, is a teriifically talented and beautiful person, both inside and out.
I've thought that for a long time too. Just having kids as adults is what I really look forward to. You can look back on all your experiences when they were a kid and just understand one another and watch a person just be and knowing them when they were growing. Love that I could hear that from you guys. Great stuff. Thanks for pillow talk
This made me so nostalgic! It transported me right back to 9 years ago, seeing your mum in your NYC videos and on your Rome trip. Those videos got me through some shit, man
I adore this. I love the pillow talks and I feel like I need to show my mom this. We are learning our mom and adult child relationship. It is hard and it is really nice to hear that good things come out of the difficult parts.
my mom and I took a similar path of growing distant when I stopped being a kid and then getting very close. I love seeing people with similarly respectful relationships where both people are on equal footing! this warmed my heart, thank you.
Hey y’all, idk whos in these comments right now but I just wanted to say that the last time I watched this video (when it was published), I was sobbing in a public bathroom on my college campus, fresh out of a meeting with a professor where he told me I was going to fail his class and trying to distract myself from teetering on the verge of a mental breakdown. Now I’m on the other side of so much work I’ve done on myself, psyched to go back to school and prove to myself that I am smart and I can do it. It gets better folks ❤️ whatever you’ve got going on, you’ve got this
This reminds me once again how important it is to keep contact with your parents.Even if you fight or disagree a lot, make your peace with them. You never have the second chance to spend time with them. I miss my dad even though we spent a lot of time and I had been blessed to spend his last hours with him. FCK cancer. Love your parents.
I gotta say, this is a phenomenally ingenious idea for convo-type videos. What a fantastic way to get people at ease and willing to just open up and be themselves.
Your mom is super cool. It's so nice to hear from someone older than me who really gets life and validates the journey. Doubly cool to watch a channel like yours, where your experiences and processing are super relatable, and then to see your relationship with a mentor figure. I really enjoyed this. And I second the "childlike view" piece--that's something about your content that has always resonated with me; feels like me. It is just awesome to know there are people like y'all out there.
watching this put you in a whole new light for me! seeing you and your moms relationship and how understanding you are of each other and how you appreciate the bond between you two is just so beautiful, as i am eighteen i’m hoping my mom and i can bond just as strongly. i’d love to see another video of you and your mom, y’all are just so lovely. much love! 💓
This reminded me so much of my relationship with my mother it made me really emotional. Especially your comments about learning about her as a person rather than as just your mother when you became am adult. Thats something I've hugely valued in my 20s and was so sweet to also see between you two.
I've just sent this to my mom. I'm in my second year of college and I just absolutely adore the relationship between me and my mom, and you guys have a very similar dynamic. I hope she enjoys it as much as I did!
I never had a good relationship with my mom, and now she's my best friend. So don't give up hope that it won't happen. It might change over the years! And if it doesn't, that's not your fault, either. Sometimes families are dysfunctional because of an unhealthy cycle. Also keep in mind that sometimes we choose our family! In the past, I've had mother figures (no blood relation!) who played an important role in my life. Maybe you can find someone like that in your life, too
you both talk with your eyebrows! and you both have such wisdom and charm! and you have such reassurance in your smiles! you are certainly the type of people anyone is lucky to meet.
I loved that pillow talk! I really enjoy conversations with parents and looking at them (as you said) as people, not care givers. They have so much experience and wisdom. And I think you and your mom have the greatest quality of all: you DO instead of TALK. You are not afraid of challenge. I’m like that too and I love this about myself. Big thumbs up for you guys :)
You’re mom is SUCH A DELIGHT! I gotta go watch her videos now!! This was a great pillow talk. I really enjoyed how chill it was, not to say that pillow talks aren’t chill, but your mom is very soothing.
I LOVE YOUR MOM. I teared up watching this. I’m struggling a lot right now with a variety of things (including... some self-sabotaging habits, rip) but honestly just hearing both of your perspectives about change are really helpful and encouraging. I would love to hear more about your mom’s adventures in moving so much and how that process is, if she’s comfortable talking about it. This video is definitively going into a playlist for future reference. Thank you so much for sharing!
This was such a lovely video. I’ve recently gone through some really hard things w my mom and now we don’t have a relationship... but this made me realize now all I can do is work on myself to give my child a genuine loving childhood and one day have this too.
Tessa, you and your mom remind me so much of me and my mom in terms of close you are and how similar in personality you both are. My Mom and me are pretty close and very similar in term of personality. We are both very loud and friendly people but she's definitely more chill than I am. I found it interesting how you said only as an adult you knew your mom as a more multifaceted person. I feel like I've always known who or what my mom is. I'm really lucky cause even though my mom stayed home with me, she never lost herself in the role of being my mother (which can sometimes happen when your caring for someone else 24/7). She has always said that while she loves being my mom, its not what fulfills her and she took the time to pursue other things (her spirituality, her artistry, and her intellect) while raising me. And because I was home-schooled I got to grow and see her nurture herself. We are really lucky to have such amazing women in our lives and see how they encourage us to grow and be strong.
I really liked what she said about choosing a different way to be. I'm always scared that I'm always just gonna be a product of everything I hate about my parents and about myself. But that about acknowledging the parts of yourself you dislike and choosing something else's really resonated with me
I watched your videos all throughout middle school and the beginning of high school. You and Mike Falzone (who I found through your walk and talk vlog that one time) taught me how to talk like a person and stop struggling to please others. This video brought my mind back to that. Thank you for your positive influence and attitude. Come back to Jacksonville!!!
This is such a lovely and wholesome video and I really admire the relationship you seem to have with your mom :) all the love in the world to you both xx
These videos are so profound for me. You have so many lovely relationships and I long to have theses types of conversations with the people in my life. Sometimes I find myself in one and I am so happy. But it’s hard to orchestrate, sometimes even impossible. But I love seeing these videos. I need more genuine things like this in my life.
this video is so touching ♥️ i’m halfway through college, and my mom is still going through the period of recognizing in my own person living and working away from her. to see that you two reached the other side and are so honest with each other gives me some hope for the future ♥️
YASSS MRS. TESSA'S MOM It's so nice to see her again! I still remember the video from several years ago where you two went to see Santa. I really need to watch her videos!
oh, wow! i love this a lot! i see so much of mine and my mother's relationship reflected in this, especially as someone in her mid-twenties. i actually texted this video to my mother immediately after watching because i feel like she'd really benefit from hearing the bit where your mom discusses finally making a change in her life instead of just talking about it. transitioning away from the child-caregiver relationship and into the two-adults relationship has been really strange but fun and rewarding at the same time. it's like suddenly gaining a new friend, except the friend is really wise and knows you like the back of their hand.
This was lovely! I’ve been following you Tessa for a very long time (you were so young!) and have seen snips of your cool mom along the way. I can relate to your mom so much. Today’s video reminds me of my relationship with my daughters... that must be why I relate to you AND your mom! I’m older as you can guess but I’ve always felt so proud of you. Now I’m so proud of your mom too! Good stuff!
REALLY enjoyed watching this 💗 you guys are so similar- both of you also have such a calming effect on me personally and you both are so welcoming, thoughtful and genuine. I hope more can be made in the future because it was a really lovely video. 💝
this was so lovely to watch!! i had the weird experience recently of realizing like "oh... my mom is and has always been a person outside of just being Mom™", and it has been so interesting to navigate as i've gotten older!
It’s been so long since we’ve seen your mom! I’m happy to see she’s doing well, seeing her takes me back to when you were modeling in New York and those vlogs
GOD I missed your vlog stuff so much. You've been the best vlogger out there! I'm proud of you but still miss these super hard! (Favorite was definitely "what makes me vulnerable")
YOURE MUM HAS THE EXACT SAME FACE GESTURES AND CONVERSATION INFLECTIONS AS U WHEN SHE TALKS ITS SO AMAZING WOW
I was gonna say the exact same thing. 😄
I WAS JUST THINKING THAT , ITD BE WEIRD IF IT DIDN'T MAKE SO MUCH SENSE
Weird, they must be related huh
ilove you song Perfect tessa violet 🎉🎉🎉
I had no idea your mother was Meryl Streep!
i was about to say just that- i want to watch devil wears prada now
Oh me too
YEP
OH MY GOD I CKMMENETWD THAT AND I DIDNT EVEN SEE THIS
YES SHE REMINDS ME OF MERYL SO MUCH asgdhdjdkldlsjsh
You guys act and talk so similarly!
I came here to say this lol
You two look so alike! It's so cool even the way you speak and move your faces are the same!
Min yes they look alike
Yesss the side grin around 6:14-6:15
"I want to have adult kids one day." I've never heard anyone else express this! I want this too. I can't wait to meet my kids, and get to know who they are as people.
Same!! Except I don't exactly want to go through the kid phase.. just skip to the adult kids.
Now this is the wholesome content I needed to see ♥️
It's like she cloned herself and then birthed her clone...
tessa, my mom and i are going through the exact stage you were talking about. the one where we're trying to individuate and learn how i am as an adult and how she is as the mom of an adult. and it's been so hard and i hate to admit that i haven't been doing it that well. i'm so close to my mom, but it has been a tremendous struggle. but to watch this video was beautiful. it reminded me of things i absolutely adore in my mom and the core of why we care about this transition. so thank you! and thank you, tessa's mom. you are absolutely inspiring
Hey girl! I just wanted to chime in and say that I very very recently reached the 'other side' with my mom as well. And let me tell you, it was rough. My mom and I are about as close as you can be (maybe too much so!), and that individuation period had us at each other's throats. There were times when we both weren't sure if there was another side. But honestly, it passes without you really realizing it, and the relationship you have afterward is so, so worth it. Be patient and be willing to forgive each other, you've got this
hello! this is so so sweet and encouraging! thank you for this!
I'm in that transition as well, but I'm not close to my mom. As a result, it feels we have been in this transition for a long time...
@@YourFriendlyInsuranceAdjuster I'm in the same boat as you, girl. It's difficult.
wowowow. your mom is amazing and seeing what she's like makes YOU MAKE SO MUCH SENSE X
mama violet looks like meryl streep lol i love it
Happy Brooke omg
Ok but why does your mom look like Meryl Streep?!?!?!?!
Right?? I thought the same thing!
EXACTLY!!!
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Andrea Ciardullo I was about to comment this
I literally said this word for word when I opened the video. WHAT THE HECK?!
They are so similar its eerie
Tessa, I fucking love this. I want a podcast with you two just talking about life, your childhood, her life before you were a thought in the void of the universe. This was nice.
Recently as I've gotten older and moved away for college, I've realized that my parents are actual people?? I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I think growing up, it's easy to idolize your parents or resent them for being authority or both at the same time - the relationship is complicated and weird because of the specific role you each play in each other's lives. But as the kids get older the relationship changes, and it's emotional because you sort of lose a person and gain a person at the same time? My mom has talked about the same thing regarding feeling like she's lost the "little girl" I used to be, but sort of gained an adult friend. It's so weird. I love this, I love your mom, I love you, I love my mom.
Your mom is so insightful. I loved listening to this conversation. When she was saying you were an easy child, you guys reminded me of Lorelei and Rory.
I loved watching this, it reminds me of the chats that I have with my mum. Pillow talks are always so relaxing and fascinating to watch, you have a real talent for interviewing and keeping interesting conversations going.
It's so much fun to see you Lysa, with your lovely and talented daughter. Lysa could always do anything she put her mind to, she too, is a teriifically talented and beautiful person, both inside and out.
Kim Van Nimwegen oh, Kimba! I just saw this. Although you are the actual queen of getting shite done.
One year later I’ve been following your mom’s Instagram and her posts genuinely make me so happy everyday it makes me wish I couldn’t cook
I've thought that for a long time too. Just having kids as adults is what I really look forward to. You can look back on all your experiences when they were a kid and just understand one another and watch a person just be and knowing them when they were growing. Love that I could hear that from you guys. Great stuff. Thanks for pillow talk
This made me so nostalgic! It transported me right back to 9 years ago, seeing your mum in your NYC videos and on your Rome trip. Those videos got me through some shit, man
Your mom is very sweet and wise just like ya :)
I adore this. I love the pillow talks and I feel like I need to show my mom this. We are learning our mom and adult child relationship. It is hard and it is really nice to hear that good things come out of the difficult parts.
I love the open and genuine communication between the two of you! It’s very refreshing for me to see a healthy mother / daughter relationship
my mom and I took a similar path of growing distant when I stopped being a kid and then getting very close. I love seeing people with similarly respectful relationships where both people are on equal footing! this warmed my heart, thank you.
You two are so inspirational! Especially the part about it being okay for change to take a while really resonated with me at this time
I miss my mom every day. Cherish the time you have with her, hug her often, and always end your time with her by saying "I love you."
Your mom is WONDERFUL. It’s extremely clear that the bond between the two of you is immensely strong. ❤️❤️
this is the kind of relationship i'm trying to have with my mom. i love the way you laugh and discuss life together
Hey y’all, idk whos in these comments right now but I just wanted to say that the last time I watched this video (when it was published), I was sobbing in a public bathroom on my college campus, fresh out of a meeting with a professor where he told me I was going to fail his class and trying to distract myself from teetering on the verge of a mental breakdown. Now I’m on the other side of so much work I’ve done on myself, psyched to go back to school and prove to myself that I am smart and I can do it. It gets better folks ❤️ whatever you’ve got going on, you’ve got this
this was a freaking delight, both aesthetically and emotionally
This reminds me once again how important it is to keep contact with your parents.Even if you fight or disagree a lot, make your peace with them. You never have the second chance to spend time with them. I miss my dad even though we spent a lot of time and I had been blessed to spend his last hours with him. FCK cancer. Love your parents.
I gotta say, this is a phenomenally ingenious idea for convo-type videos. What a fantastic way to get people at ease and willing to just open up and be themselves.
Two amazing well-spoken women who are so very self aware and comfortable in their own skin. Fantastic!
y'all are such beautiful souls. i love it. it's like your souls knew each other in a past life.
There will never be anyone in one's life cooler than one's mum, and yours proves this well. I am happy for your excellent fortune.
Your mom is super cool. It's so nice to hear from someone older than me who really gets life and validates the journey. Doubly cool to watch a channel like yours, where your experiences and processing are super relatable, and then to see your relationship with a mentor figure. I really enjoyed this.
And I second the "childlike view" piece--that's something about your content that has always resonated with me; feels like me. It is just awesome to know there are people like y'all out there.
watching this put you in a whole new light for me! seeing you and your moms relationship and how understanding you are of each other and how you appreciate the bond between you two is just so beautiful, as i am eighteen i’m hoping my mom and i can bond just as strongly. i’d love to see another video of you and your mom, y’all are just so lovely. much love! 💓
Loved this. "you came in with good stuff" is such a lovely phrase
You are both lovely wandering souls. You got your mother's beauty.
This reminded me so much of my relationship with my mother it made me really emotional. Especially your comments about learning about her as a person rather than as just your mother when you became am adult. Thats something I've hugely valued in my 20s and was so sweet to also see between you two.
This warmed my heart so much. Your mum is beautiful.
You and your mom have the same laugh at 6:50 it's so cute :)
I've just sent this to my mom. I'm in my second year of college and I just absolutely adore the relationship between me and my mom, and you guys have a very similar dynamic. I hope she enjoys it as much as I did!
This makes me wish I had a good relationship with my mom :(
Same :/
Preach🙌🙌💅
Oof same
I never had a good relationship with my mom, and now she's my best friend. So don't give up hope that it won't happen. It might change over the years! And if it doesn't, that's not your fault, either. Sometimes families are dysfunctional because of an unhealthy cycle. Also keep in mind that sometimes we choose our family! In the past, I've had mother figures (no blood relation!) who played an important role in my life. Maybe you can find someone like that in your life, too
Same here. More so, it makes me wish my mom was kind, so that I could have a good relationship with her. :/
This is literally, beautiful. I wish so much that my relationship with my mother was like this, but of course, I love my mother the way she is!
you both talk with your eyebrows! and you both have such wisdom and charm! and you have such reassurance in your smiles! you are certainly the type of people anyone is lucky to meet.
i love this and the relationship you have with your mom
I loved that pillow talk! I really enjoy conversations with parents and looking at them (as you said) as people, not care givers. They have so much experience and wisdom. And I think you and your mom have the greatest quality of all: you DO instead of TALK. You are not afraid of challenge. I’m like that too and I love this about myself. Big thumbs up for you guys :)
awww this is so cute. i wish i have a comfortable relationship like this with my mom
this is so great I thoroughly enjoyed this. so chill and wholesome
You’re mom is SUCH A DELIGHT! I gotta go watch her videos now!!
This was a great pillow talk. I really enjoyed how chill it was, not to say that pillow talks aren’t chill, but your mom is very soothing.
I LOVE YOUR MOM. I teared up watching this. I’m struggling a lot right now with a variety of things (including... some self-sabotaging habits, rip) but honestly just hearing both of your perspectives about change are really helpful and encouraging. I would love to hear more about your mom’s adventures in moving so much and how that process is, if she’s comfortable talking about it. This video is definitively going into a playlist for future reference. Thank you so much for sharing!
this was such a lovely chat. your vlogs that I love remind me of your mom, which makes sense. this self reflection is so inspiring
This was such a lovely video. I’ve recently gone through some really hard things w my mom and now we don’t have a relationship... but this made me realize now all I can do is work on myself to give my child a genuine loving childhood and one day have this too.
Tessa, you and your mom remind me so much of me and my mom in terms of close you are and how similar in personality you both are. My Mom and me are pretty close and very similar in term of personality. We are both very loud and friendly people but she's definitely more chill than I am.
I found it interesting how you said only as an adult you knew your mom as a more multifaceted person. I feel like I've always known who or what my mom is. I'm really lucky cause even though my mom stayed home with me, she never lost herself in the role of being my mother (which can sometimes happen when your caring for someone else 24/7). She has always said that while she loves being my mom, its not what fulfills her and she took the time to pursue other things (her spirituality, her artistry, and her intellect) while raising me. And because I was home-schooled I got to grow and see her nurture herself.
We are really lucky to have such amazing women in our lives and see how they encourage us to grow and be strong.
I really liked what she said about choosing a different way to be. I'm always scared that I'm always just gonna be a product of everything I hate about my parents and about myself. But that about acknowledging the parts of yourself you dislike and choosing something else's really resonated with me
I watched your videos all throughout middle school and the beginning of high school. You and Mike Falzone (who I found through your walk and talk vlog that one time) taught me how to talk like a person and stop struggling to please others. This video brought my mind back to that. Thank you for your positive influence and attitude. Come back to Jacksonville!!!
2:06 Classic Daughter and Mom gassing eachother up vibe. Hahaha
2:09 the part when your mom said "you're amazing" with this little "sass"...I mean, that exactly is the "sass" you have! Gurllll!
This is such a lovely and wholesome video and I really admire the relationship you seem to have with your mom :) all the love in the world to you both xx
These videos are so profound for me. You have so many lovely relationships and I long to have theses types of conversations with the people in my life. Sometimes I find myself in one and I am so happy. But it’s hard to orchestrate, sometimes even impossible. But I love seeing these videos. I need more genuine things like this in my life.
this video is so touching ♥️ i’m halfway through college, and my mom is still going through the period of recognizing in my own person living and working away from her. to see that you two reached the other side and are so honest with each other gives me some hope for the future ♥️
your mom looks exactly like a mixture of you and meryl streep
This was.. so pure and emotional and lovely
Like mother like daughter.
Both insanely beautiful
YASSS MRS. TESSA'S MOM
It's so nice to see her again! I still remember the video from several years ago where you two went to see Santa. I really need to watch her videos!
you two talk about things and voice your opinions in the same way and I love it
I love the way you look at your mom.
This is FANTASTIC. I have struggled so much with that Beginning Time. It's great to hear it from someone else too. I love this.
This is one of my favorite series on TH-cam. Thanks for sharing!
is so good getting at home after a busy (and stressing) day and having a new tessa video
I still remember Mamakitty from a video years ago when she showed off your Gatomon "plushie" you made overnight once.
1) Be Impeccable With Your Word 2) Don't Take Anything Personally 3) Don't Make Assumptions
4) Always Do Your Best
💕 love this video
You guys are so alike! So lovely you guys have such a bond 💕
You both look and talk the same You both are really the cutest mom and daughter duo😍
Your mom is so cute!! I really enjoyed this pillow talk. I feel inspired to spend more time with my mom!!!
Love your mom and I love you. Y’all are just too precious 💛💖
oh, wow! i love this a lot! i see so much of mine and my mother's relationship reflected in this, especially as someone in her mid-twenties. i actually texted this video to my mother immediately after watching because i feel like she'd really benefit from hearing the bit where your mom discusses finally making a change in her life instead of just talking about it. transitioning away from the child-caregiver relationship and into the two-adults relationship has been really strange but fun and rewarding at the same time. it's like suddenly gaining a new friend, except the friend is really wise and knows you like the back of their hand.
This is so incredibly wholesome.
I love your mom. I love you. LOVE LOVE LOVE.
This was lovely! I’ve been following you Tessa for a very long time (you were so young!) and have seen snips of your cool mom along the way. I can relate to your mom so much. Today’s video reminds me of my relationship with my daughters... that must be why I relate to you AND your mom! I’m older as you can guess but I’ve always felt so proud of you. Now I’m so proud of your mom too! Good stuff!
Cuuute! I can't get over how much you two look alike. It's always so nice to see healthy, amiable relationships between parents and children
REALLY enjoyed watching this 💗 you guys are so similar- both of you also have such a calming effect on me personally and you both are so welcoming, thoughtful and genuine. I hope more can be made in the future because it was a really lovely video. 💝
this was so lovely to watch!! i had the weird experience recently of realizing like "oh... my mom is and has always been a person outside of just being Mom™", and it has been so interesting to navigate as i've gotten older!
It’s been so long since we’ve seen your mom! I’m happy to see she’s doing well, seeing her takes me back to when you were modeling in New York and those vlogs
The part about new cities rly helped me and reassured me that i will be fine when i move to go to uni :)
My mum is my best friend and I wouldn’t want it any other way, this is so wholesome❤️
You guys are the exact same person and ITS INSANE AND ADORABLE
such a philosophical discussion! love it so much, not many people have the opportunity with their guardian
Omg I love you two, very cute and smart.
I could just listen to Tessa talk to people about life forever
That was so motivating and inspiring.
Thank you - you both adorable and smart ladies!
This is such a nice video. It's so candid and real and... just nice.
*watches* Ok, NOW I know where she gets the adorkable speech patterns/mannerisms
You and your mom has such a great relationship! You guys are do cute and I can see that you 2 are very close
Your mom is an amazing person!
also love the bangs at the end!
GOD I missed your vlog stuff so much. You've been the best vlogger out there! I'm proud of you but still miss these super hard! (Favorite was definitely "what makes me vulnerable")
You and your mum are both amazing. ❤️
"this isnt gonna work you know how i am" mood
I went to my mom and told her I was proud of her. Thank you 🌻