I feel like that one wife is so selfish. If you wanted a man then you should have gotten with a man and not make your partner feel like she wasn't enough like wtf.
+lions for scottie she probably loved her partner so much and didn't want her to leave, so she was willing to do this and sacrifice her happiness so her partner would be happy, even if she wasn't.
I’m polyamorous, but it’s VERY clear that the short haired girl isn’t happy in this relationship. Everyone needs to be comfortable for a relationship to work.
I suppose she would have Long hair, she would be more happy. Them both wanted masculine looking man. It would be fair if they both had feminine Looking Long hair. Short hair could be OK for Lesbians, but they have invited hetero guy, so I would advice Long hair. Problem would be solved. She wouldn't feel missed out. I guess they are lying to her, that He is ok how she Looks in short hair. That's problem with honest communication. But why can not they be honest? It's like you have single wife, and she asks: Honey do I like fat? 2 bisexual girls ask you: Do we Look cool? What do you answer? Of course, You look COOL, but How to convey honestly without trouble: You both need to have Long hairs? I can understand, that guy really likes both girls, but I suppose, he may have much more easier to Liking the Long hair one. And it was actually her idea to meet guy.
Just because you disagree doesn't men Dani does. I can't read her mind can you? Also the video creator phrased that with a narrative meant to make it look like Dani is being miss labeled.
I agree the short hair looks like she is 100% lesbian the other one is Bi-sexual she wanted the man. I bet doesn't last how long can she go on accepting it.
What's that supposed to mean, that no one would choose me because I'm not good enough?? well thanks a bunch, can't believe that got 13 likes, people are so mean and nasty... why not keep your horrid opinions to yourself? go to hell.
Royalrosewolf my newphew lives with 3 women .And they all don't have kids and he has kids with his first wife and they help him pay for his child support he says its a gift from god this 3 women and they all work.
@Apollox44 Pollo yup, two women to yell at him, bitch he's a lazy prick doing ...you know, nothing You really think he's living the dream? Give your head a shake bro! No man wants to deal with two women and their relationship issues any more than one woman wants to fetch sandwiches and beer for two men!
Ah yes, because you have the right to tell people in a relationship that it isn’t going to work out. If you don’t personally know them, then why do you care? Mind your business. It’s their job to decide whether it’s going to work out or not.
No, the short hair feels a Little missed out. I suppose she would have Long hair, she would not have to feel or react that way. Them both wanted masculine looking man. It would be fair if they both had feminine Looking Long hair. Short hair could be OK for Lesbians, but they have invited hetero guy, so I would advice Long hair. Problem would be solved. She wouldn't feel missed out. I guess they are lying to her, that He is ok how she Looks in short hair. That's problem with honest communication. But why can not they be honest? It's like you have single wife, and she asks: Honey do I like fat? 2 bisexual girls ask you: Do we Look cool? What do you answer? Of course, You look COOL, but How to convey honestly without trouble: You both need to have Long hairs? I can understand, that guy really likes both girls, but I suppose, he may have much more easier to Liking the Long hair one. And it was actually her idea to meet guy.
That guy is living in a marriage heaven. The lesbian (short hair) is clearly not that satisfied with a man/extra in the mix while the bi is the most happy, she got a child, wife,husband and 3some regularly.
Wait...so they were basically living in an gay marriage until one of the women said I want a man (a masculine man)? Not just a kid, but a man in the relationship. I'm a straight male, but I kinda feel sorry for the second woman. Having the feeling like you can't give your partner something they want because of your sex must really hurt one's ego. -.-
Mm. True. I think it might also feel good that they all have been vocal on their thoughts. Her concerns were heard and the other 2 said they were open to address it
adlerzwei well Melissa is bi, and so she does love both of them, but it does seem like Dani is unhappy and isn't very into men. But the fact that you're concerned because it "hurts one's ego" is just silly, who cares about ego?
I looked into it also but couldn’t find anything that said they had separated. They apparently lost their home a few months ago in wildfires. It also looks like they are in the process of adoption for the children (each woman adopting the other woman’s child).
Is it weird I'm slightly jealous of the parental benefits? I mean my god, being able to have a extra wife help me with breastfeeding and helping me with giving birth sounds like a dream come true.... for me I'm just not sure if I could get over not having a partner all to myself.
+Ashley Casey Read your own comment again, especially that last line. Try to look at what you wrote from an outsider's perspective. Do you see the selfishness in that statement? Do you see how it is like ownership of another human?
+rmcdaniel, I have zero issue with polyamory (I have friends who say it works for them) but I think your statement makes you sound incredibly full of yourself and astoundingly judgemental. If you don't want to be judged for your lifestyle and beliefs when you aren't hurting others what makes it ok for you to do it to others? My husband and I don't feel like we "own" each other and although other people's choices might be different from yours doesn't make them "selfish." If you chose to be in a relationship with multiple people do you think you own multiple people? What a load of self-important bull shit. Get over yourself.
This isn't fair to the lesbian woman. She clearly only agreed to have a man in their relationship to please her partner. And the woman that is bi seems to either be ignoring that her partner isn't happy or is just in denial.
AzzizaNaomi but maybe this discovery was necessary for them and now they can address her needs too. Even though she may be a little hurt in discovering that her original partner isn't completely satisfied with only her affection, maybe she can heal knowing that she has loving and trusting people with who she can discuss meeting her needs and possibly making an addition or some sort of arrangement for just one on one alone time for the women. It's possible for an easy and satisfying solution for all.
To be fair, a mass majority of "normal relationships" have cheating in them, that never gets found out even though some of the cheating does get figured out. Divorces is more than half now. Reality of the matter is, for people relationships is a "game" you need a boyfriend/girlfriend and you need a marriage, even though many should not be in either of them.
The civil rights and suffragettes fought for equality and respect for all people not just one specific groups that’s the difference between the iconic and respected suffragettes and civil right figures such as Martin Luther King JR and Rosa Parks and modern 3rd wave feminists they only wish to further their own man hating viewpoints such as the people who pointlessly protest in the streets of busy cities without a point of why they are doing it
Chris S I know I mean it seems like she doesn't really even like men, but wanted to please Malinda and possibly have a baby of her own. Maybe they should bring in another women.
I think it’s less of bringing someone in as to letting everyone decided for themselves. I think Melissa created a rule for Danni that she needed a man and forced her to be with that man. Instead of being with her man and letting Danni remain gay
see, i have NO problem with this whatsoever. i think it's great. but i also agree that Dani isn't happy and it's very very unlikely that all 3 people can feel equally fulfilled in this kind of arrangement. of course, you could argue the same thing about monogamy too, that both people aren't equally happy.
You've watched 7 minutes of insight into their lives, how could you POSSIBLY make the judgement that she isn't equally fulfilled? Also, why is there a rule that says she SHOULD be equally fulfilled, whatever that means?
i think you're absolutely right that i can't make that judgment based on a 7 minute video! i mean i agree with you there. "fulfilled" is a hard to define term but i believe everyone deserves to be equally fulfilled...even though of course that would only happen in an ideal world, and of course some people are going to end up less satisfied than others. but i think everyone deserves to be equally as happy as the next person, yeah, unless they're a terrible person.
There's always one person who's not getting their needs meet in these kinds of relationships. Malinda is glowing but the other girl not so much. The guys just thinks it's cool he has two women.
@@24KinfO lies. No one is fully satisfied in a mono relationship you get more from a polyamorous relationship than a mono relationship. First understand you don't own anybody secondly you your happiness is your own. Divorce rates are high because people aren't satisfied and think one person is the answer and that's a fairytale. I for one think it's a great thing for them.
wow dani isnt happy and its so obvious.. i feel so bad. i have no problem with people being poly but everyone should be consensual and happy. i feel dani didnt wanna lose her wife so she gave in to what she wanted. i know if my partner came up to me and told me that she wanted a man, that im not enough- i'd really feel upset. i dont feel like thats the right way to bring up that u want to be involved in a poly relationship.. thats kinda hurtful. idk
Aybel 100% correct i felt the same way watching this. To know they were together before john then she wanted a man wouldve definitely hurt dani. i know i would be but we hope theyre all happy and be together for a long time to come.
Witch89 8989 No! I’m these relationships everybody should feel equally as loved! If they don’t then they shouldn’t be in a relationship in the first place
+Ari Rose35 Lol. They're both lesbian/bi, or else they wouldn't have gotten married to EACH OTHER, and then brought a dude in, long term, as opposed to just being a sperm donor. Just because a woman's a bit butch, doesn't mean she can't be genuinely interested in men.
+Ari Rose35 I have to agree. At one point she even said her female partner was "pretty much straight" which means she feels that way, at the very least (though how that can be seen a problematic is a totally different story blah blah) but I got that vibe too.
Who knows? Dani (the "lesbian") might be sexually interested in the guy and respect him as her baby daddy, but she may not be in love with him. Lots of bisexual women (myself included) are not into men romantically.
Seems like the really typical case of a girl having a lesbian phase and growing out of it and the other woman not being able to let her go. I’ve heard Dani moved out of the relationship, you could see it coming from a mile away.
And the rest of throuple lies to her, that they are ok with how she Looks. The short hair feels a Little missed out. I suppose she would have Long hair, she would feel much more accepted. Them both wanted masculine looking man. It would be fair if they both had feminine Looking Long hair. Short hair could be OK for Lesbians, but they have invited hetero guy, so I would advice Long hair. Problem would be solved. She wouldn't feel missed out. I guess they are lying to her, that He is ok how she Looks in short hair. That's problem with honest communication. But why can not they be honest? It's like you have single wife, and she asks: Honey do I like fat? 2 bisexual girls ask you: Do we Look cool? What do you answer? Of course, You look COOL, but How to convey honestly without trouble: You both need to have Long hairs? I can understand, that guy really likes both girls, but I suppose, he may have much more easier to Liking the Long hair one. And it was actually her idea to meet guy.
Plenty of men are fine with short haired woman. Some even appreciate and prefer it. You're experiences are not the same as everyones. We all have different preferences.
this is a sick disgusting display and i feel sorry for the kids who will grow up in this warped environment and go into the world not knowing any better
um hi because it's sick and yet another perversion to the constitution of marriage what next marrying animals ever since the whole "gay marriage "thing became legal it's going down hill
carl mosby Stop being old fashioned. Please. Anyway, why would someone want to marry an animal? Ever heard of bestiality? Please learn to use grammar too, that would be nice.
"What's wrong with seeking our own happiness and fulfillment shouldn't we be in a space where were all happy?" Says the one that's left out in the relationship lol
Universally one man, one woman may be the best one.If you want more wives, ask yourself have you special ability to control consequences of doing this.So the same if you want more husbands.choose one.Dont act like animals( no literatures they have)we are human being with literatures.See what is your class in the animal kingdom. Then choose one.
A relationship like that can’t works, there always will be a person that the wife or husband would loves more than the other... i really can’t understand these people.
Christopher Martin see this is the way that everyone should do this. Everyone should deal with it like I’m sure there would be a lot less homophobic people out there if everyone could just look at it like this
Tia Marie oooo stop it! there have been efforts to compare the two, as if to say the Black struggles against racism are the same as the LGBT community against homophobia. However, to make these superficial comparisons is wrong and ignores specific forms of oppression, the systemic racism Black people face and its origins. Marriage equality does not protect a Black gay man from being beaten in the streets, shot to death by a racist police officer, or denied a job because of his name and his skin. Similarly, Black lesbians are not immunized from the racism and sexism that come with being a Black woman. And in contrast, white gay men still have white skin privilege as white men; for example, closeted gay conservative men who, in the halls of power, continue to enact oppressive laws against disenfranchised groups. Gays have a struggle as well and although similar to the civil rights movement, there are also vast difference's....the more you know..........
Tia Marie nothing that you have stated has proven that this movement can be compared to the civil rights movement. Maybe you should do a little bit of research yourself. No one said that gays etc haven't gone through inequalities! Lol it's still not comparable in MANY ways to the civil rights era and/or movement. It's funny how u people latch on to the civil rights movement when its beneficial but won't speak out when a black man is shot with his hands up. ✋ Stop!
Why was this growing up tho. But more " go ask papa " " I did " " then go ask mom " " dadddddd" We had a " if you ask one parents and they say no and you ask someone eles you'll regret it so much "
I cringed when the reporter asked if its harder to be a "lesbian" or a poly person. Like shes clearly bisexual??? What is so hard about acknowledging that people fall in the middle of the spectrum?
i honestly do think she identifies as lesbian. She referred to the other wife havign "two people she's attracted to" and said that the guy was "very fun" but didn't seem to be attracted by him. The other wife is definitely bisexual though
To add to the previous reply, I notice that the husband doesn't sleep in the middle, the other wife does. We wouldnt know for sure but maybe she is more interested in the other wife than the husband.
The thing is what if the family "did not know" that she was a lesbian. So when you tell your family that you have multiple partners they will know that you are also gay.
Tell me something americans, why is it ok for gay people to be together, to do sex change but not polygamy or polyandry? This question is simply to know your perspective not putting any blame.
Good Question.I don't see a reason as to why an adult consensual polyamorous couple(w/a few exceptions) can't legally have the same rights as monogamous couples.
NereideTriton because gay marriage is still practicing monogamy and consists of two people being loyal to each other. This polyamory/polygamy/whatever the fuck weird stuff is an entirely different subject because it's no longer a loyal relationship between two people. You're essentially cheating "with permission," and that doesn't sit well with many people, nor is it the best environment to bring kids into. It makes me cringe so hard.
Marcella A Yea and it was bad that they did that according to the OT itself. Not every verse is telling you what to do...do you think we should also rape our sisters because the bible tells a crazy story of one of David's sons who did that?
Tonya Antony I think kids will be who they will be. Not every child of a drug addict, alcoholic, role model citizen etc., turns out like their parent. 🤷🏽♀️
Jane lane they need positive stability; not just any stability. Traditional marriages have a 50% divorce rate (approx.). Traditional marriages haven’t figured it out either. I say live and let live.
Dormammu I am going to assume you’re talking about societies like Mormon places and Muslim places where they have more than one wife or husband. Yes this is true but only because most of the time (in Muslim cases) they don’t get a say. And in Mormon cases they can’t fight it because it’s a part of their religion. Also the word for this is polygamy not polyamory. These are two different things. They can both work if everyone is consenting of everyone else and they love each other.
just to let you know...dani has started seeing another woman with 'reluctant permission' by melinda...yeah this polyamorous thing is confusing and more than likely not going to work out
What's immoral about polygamy? It's just a relationship with more than two people. My best relationships have been poly ones Given, in this case one partner is clearly unhappy and this is a horrible example of it but still
Your short sided views don’t see the dangers to society and the individuals if we let them do whatever they want because the rules and values were put for a reason and it works
on second thought, it seems like it'd get messy pretty fast. because with two people, you just have one relationship to maintain. but with three people you also have three relationships that need to work, and if just one of these isn't working out then the whole thing is gonna fall apart
+Sophovot Trust, honesty, and love are *supposed* to be the basis of any committed relationship, but the truth is that many "monogamous" relationships are also quite lacking in those regards. There is a reason that the divorce rate is near 50% and that cheating is such a very common thing. It's because most people suck at relationships. The kinds of people that are able to make a polyamorous relationship actually work are, quite honestly, probably the most stable functional loving trusting people around. It's just too sad that so many people aren't capable of even making a single monogamous relationship work.
rmcdaniel423 Yeah, I think because most monogamous relationships don't work, and a poly relationship seems to have triple the chance of failing, the chances of it working are very very slim. maybe like 10%. of course the people who do manage it are pretty amazing, probably.
I am a poly person at heart, and seeing a poly family is like a dream come true for me. The only problem is trying to FIND other poly people in order to bond and connect in such a way. My relationship goal of being happily married to two beautiful, loving men will most likely never happen, especially not where I currently live. What's even more disappointing is that women tend to be bi-sexual more often than men, so finding a man that would be willing to be a part of a poly relationship involving one woman and two men is extremely hard. Most men are conditioned at an early age to believe that women are only interested in monogamy, where as men can sleep around with whomever they want and not be judged for it. It is extremely frustrating that people actually believe this ignorant condition to be a natural, healthy way of life for everyone. Is it natural for a lot of women to want monogamy? Yes. Is it also natural for a lot of women to want poly? Yes. It is natural for any and every human being to want to be happy in their own way. They shouldn't have to conform, unless they are harming others or themselves, or in cases of where one or more of the party is a minor. The fact that we women are shamed, and called "sluts" or "whores" for just wanting to love freely is disgusting, yet when a man is in a relationship with multiple women he is praised? This world is completely sexist and disgusting. Sorry, but I will never be monogamous. Ever. Being with one man, and ONLY one man, for the rest of my life does not, and has never, appealed to me in the slightest. I'd rather not be bored, or end up divorced later in life because our sexual and emotional needs cannot be met just between us alone. I'd also never force a man to give up his own basic, natural sexual instincts just to satisfy me. Humans are sexual creatures, it was not meant for us to stick to one partner for our entire lives. We need change. The only reason why monogamous relationships can, but often do not, last for a very long time is because the couple changes things. Without change, they would not still be together.
+Nyx Kere As a woman it's very likely to be different (I'm 100% sure attracting a woman and a man work differently) but I'll tell you what I do/did as a man maybe it'll help: 1) Attract more than one person towards you 2) attract them enough that they won't mind and will be open to it Attract them first. Someone who doesn't know you won't be open to anything you say. Then throw here and there what you think clearly but sutbly (when she talked about two/three exes that were still into her, and asked me what to do, I said "go with the three of them - do you know what polyamory is?")
+Nyx Kere Another thing, men do get judged too when they sleep around. What do you think happens among male friends when a guy tries and brags about sleeping around? You think we all go "ooo you're so cool?". No one is impressed by him either. Please do not turn this into a women vs men issue. Like seriously we're tired of hearing your "women's issues" that really aren't women's issues and are just everyone's issues. Gawd. The reason why monogamy doesn't work out rarely anymore is because women get a lot of benefits from divorcing their husbands. The court systems and government are completely on their side. They have all the power. Got bored of your husband? Who cares. Divorce him, take his children away from him, leave him with nothing and then sit there and say "patriarchy hurts men too" when people point out that men commit suicide at 4-6x the rate women do. No. Hateful selfish misandrist women hurt men. Oh but that's right, women controlling our educational institutions have *dictated* you can't be sexist towards men. Right... I forgot about that. Fuck, why did you have to rant on like feminist twat and piss me off. Also, polyamory isn't about constant change. These people plan on being together forever. It's still a static relationship. It's about being in a COMMITTED relationship with more than one person. In a committed relationship with the same two men for 10 years you not going to get bored of them? If you do you feel self-righteous enough to just divorce them, leave them take their children with you because of your female privileges? Better yet, you can just add a 3rd, or a 4th or a 5th... or however many you want. Nah, as a polyamorous male I look to being in a committed relationship with both a man and a woman. I highly recommend NO one be in a relationship with you. You don't sound like you get polyamory well at all. You sound like some bitter teen girl indoctrinated by feminist tropes.
Nexus Clarum You sound like you live in the city. Good for you. As a person who lives in the middle of nowhere in the south, women are treated exactly as I said where I live. Men are praised for shaming and leaving women every single day. The more women they abuse the more popularity they receive from their friends. Granted, this happens with younger men only, from 16 to possibly late 40s, and the elderly men are more respectful. Here's some truth for you -- AMERICA HAS HUNDREDS OF DIFFERENT CULTURES. Caps just because I don't think you'd be able to understand without them. Not every single man in America is a respectful human being, it all depends on where and how they were raised. You would know this if you were even half as intelligent as you're trying to act. You're bitching about "woman problems" being false and unimportant, and yet you yourself are disrespecting and insulting every single woman who has been through a divorce? You are truly a sexist pig. Every woman you've been with may have been materialistic whores, but not every woman gets a divorce just to get half of whatever the man had. Especially not in the country, where we are poor because of low income jobs. When a woman divorces in the country she doesn't give a damn about the money. She divorces because she was being treated poorly, or because their relationship wasn't working out. I'm sorry you've only found greedy whores to be with you, but I can assure you not all of us are like that. Did I say a poly relationship wasn't a commitment? No, I didn't. Poly relationships just aren't commitment in the sense of the whole "one true love" bullshit that people try to force on you. There is no such thing as a one true love. In fact, love doesn't even exist. It is a chemical imbalance that happens in your brain with meeting with either a person of attractiveness, or even just a person who shares a close interest with you. This obviously means you can form "love" with more than one person in your life. A true poly person does NOT force others to stay with them, nor should they be forced to stay with others. If you think you can hold down your partners by force, you are a horrible person. You should never force another human being into a commitment. They have to choose. And being committed does not mean you will FOREVER be committed. As monogamous people divorce out of relationship issues, so do poly people. We are not perfect. Our relationships don't work 100%, all of the time. We are human beings, and as human beings we go through problems with other human beings. This can include your partners. So to force your partners to commit for eternity proves that you are a horrible human being. You are not giving them a say so in their lives. They have to choose to want to be with you. If they fall out of "love" with you, then they deserve the right to leave. I would NEVER force any man to stay with me if he did not want to. If he wants change, and a different woman, I would gladly let him do whatever he wanted and feel no pain because I am not a greedy human like you. I care about people's decisions, and thus expect them to care about mine. I would never be in a relationship with a sexist pig like you who thinks they can force themselves onto others. Also, in case you were wondering, I am a twenty-six year old woman. If you think everyone who wants and believes in poly relationships are children, then you are sorely misinformed.
Nexus Clarum I never said women come first lol someone's a meninist prick. Women don't get the shit kicked out of them like men do, but that is because women naturally are not physically strong. Women have more manipulative mind control over other women, and can hurt someone with words more than any man can. That is why women often times don't get physical in fighting, they'll just yell. And being called a slut is far more demeaning than being called gay. If you are called a slut, you are viewed by men AND women as a slut. The women will not respect you. The men will harass you. You will not be considered girlfriend material, but instead just considered a sex object instead of a human being. If a man is called a faggot the only people he has to deal with is other men. The women will not insult him for being gay. The men alone will. Women have to deal with both sides, men only have to deal with one. Do men get physically harmed more than women? Yes. But not by women, only by their own gender. Only their gender finds homosexuality to be wrong. In the eyes of both genders being a female slut is wrong, and you will never be respected by either sides.
The short haired one who is truly a lesbian is not happy and will eventually leave. The saying two is company three a crowd is so true. The only way this could even have a chance would be with two Bi women not one Bi and a lesbian. This I am sure of.
Who care's the Current year is full %100 gay & SJW Nonsense she will find a girl asap While the men can't find none because of ME TOO Witch hunt Western side is a joke
I have polyamorous parents and it's really normal, it's so weird to see things like this where they're saying it's controversial. But I'm glad they're actually letting them talk about it and inform people
“Pioneers Like in the civil rights movement” No honey. this isn’t Saudi Arabia, people don’t want that. You have the right to marry a same sex partner, you don’t have the right to marry another person because your wife was not good enough for you.
Same as kids with different dad's. My baby's father is the youngest of three, by two other mothers. The stigmatism is there because people choose to be nasty.
true ...the good part is that the would is becoming more aware and tolerance is getting better because of people speaking the truth no matter what the truth is the more it's heard about and the more its knowledge everywhere and the more it's a known part of our world the last problems there will be they spoke about that a little bit and this video too. also if something does happen they have three wonderful people there to guide them and help them stand on their own truth in the end the kids will be stronger and more aware of his or herself because of parents that are more open-minded to different pads no matter what this kid wants to do they'll be supported and loved doing it which is a lot more than most parents can say they give their kids this is the kind of family that won't insist on following societal norms which is fantastic for the exploration of both their children and them to find their authentic self the greatest personal strength come from people who walk their truth and are open-minded and aware and use that personal strength to get through hard times so it's a good thing in the end at least in my opinion
I have three poly parents and I don't get bullied at school at all. I'm in a new school this year though, and only one person from a different school than me knows, because, well, I'm kind of scared to tell other people who I don't know. But ya know I never got bullied about it before and I have a whole grade of students from my old school to back me up if that ever happens, so I'm good
I'm polyamorous with myself, I've got three personalities whom I love very dearly. I realize nobody will even believe me, let alone understand, but it's true.
I'm not polyamorous but I wish you the best with your three lovers... I hope you have the happiest future together, love each other equally, and fight for your rights ❤
We can only really know the true ramifications of this lifestyle once the children grow up and can speak for themselves about how their parent's polyamory effected them, whether negatively or positively.
Because love and acceptance usually ruins kids. Should stick to the 2 person marriage where over 50% get divorced and 35% end up in a nasty court/custody fued...seems like those kids are much better off
It did great for me! My family runs with a lot of learning disabilities do my brother needed more attention but with four parents it wasn't that big of a problem and I didn't feel like I had to fight for attention like most people I see that are like me ( has a sibling with some type of disorder )
that's stupid shit I personally just think that it's harder to find 2 people that not only you love but who also love eachother if all 3 people do love eachother, then there shouldn't be the same problem that the woman in this documentary had
Honestly, I feel as though Dani was pressured into accepting this... Dani clearly indicates that she doesn't feel completely comfortable in this relationship. I don't know how unsatisfied she really is, but it's obvious there are some issues. Melinda just brushes it all off. Of course, they have to appear happy while on tv. I can only wonder how happy they would look without being on camera. *This* is the main issue I have with polyamorous, polygamous, and polyandrous relationships. They can become one-sided very easily. For example, in polygamous and polyandrous relationships, the one man or woman will pick a favorite husband or wife. They may not straight up admit that they have a favorite, they can insist that their marriage is pure and wholesome, but they will certainly prefer certain spouses over others. In a polyamorous relationship, two people can easily become attached to each other while the third becomes distanced (that seems to be the case in the video). These types of relationships also become convenient excuses when one partner in a monogamous relationship wants a third spouse. I've seen enough relationships where one person will start welcoming somebody else into their marriage without the full consent of their spouse. It's often a man who tries to pressure his wife into a polygamous relationship, but I've seen a woman pressure her husband before. With all of this in mind, I do believe that it's possible for 3+ people to be married and all be perfectly happy. However, the issues I've pointed out are worth looking at.
tail feather there are other types of polyamorous relationships though. A lot of poly people will have a primary partner who they might be legally married to, live with, and have kids with, while they have other minor relationships going on. I definitely agree that’s it’s not really practical to try to love each person equally, but not all poly relationships are structured that way.
For the people that are saying they feel "bad" for the kids. Granted, growing up and seeing their parents situation might get confusing for them. But how is it any different then having divorced parents who re-marry, or having parents that cheat? Those kids would then have 4 parents. In this case the children's parents all love one another and have an open stable family unit. Idunno if they are all happy it should be fine
My thoughts exactly, the healthy behavior you display should come 1st to who the partners are. Raising kids that contribute to society and respect others is essential to being a parent in my opinion (I feel like saying "is this "healthy" to expose the kids to this environment" is a small jab at people for threatening the norm they want to maintain). " you're sick...and we accept that, but you ARE gonna quarantine yourself from the kids, right?" Lol, we are all such ass holes to each other. We should have a "Impose my Views Holiday" to make a joke of ourselves.
They all broke up, I think people forgot that’s it’s not just more fun and convenient, but also more arguing that over little things. It’s hard enough to date one persons for a long time but imagine 2 people each with their own differing opinions on how you’re doing something slightly wrong in the relationship. I’m not saying it’s impossible but it is way harder emotionally
I could only do this if we had a double king sized bed. im all for closeness and affection and shit but when it time to sleep im like "get the fuck off me"
Why are people judging and giving such strong opinions. We should be happy they chose to share their personal life with the world, and they are still together.
+Abbigail Alvarado-Cruz And promoting free speech, thought, expression of thoughts and not making something that goes against your faith is just as important. However it seems that the vast majority of LGBT in the US seem to be against these things for dissenters, while they enjoy these rights themselve. Hypocrites, they can be, and hypocrites a lot of them are.
This is better than polygamy at least the women don't hate each other's guts.. The guy is happy as hell However someone will always be left out and jelousy will take over this whole "we communicate arrangement"
When dogs and cats can openly consent, use complex forms of communication to construct and express logical and rational thoughts, (i.e. Verbal & written), make informed decisions and have consciousness of self... I see no problem marrying dogs or cats...
Hahahahahahaha! Lots of supporting comments here from the middle class ...I wonder what the comments would've been like if this polyamorous group were muslim!
All these videos show one being left out and uncomfortable with the situation, with the initiator confident there's no problems, avoiding the stress that comes with confronting the original partner.
TYPICALLY the healthiest polyamorous relationships don't work like a 'triangle'- for example, partner A and partner B are dating but each date a separate partner on their own. when there is a 'triangle'-type relationship jealousy breeds as well as unresolved tension. source: practicing poly for 2+ years
my husband and I are new to poly but we share the same girlfriend and that has actually helped us to not be jelouse not every version Will be the same for everyone
You can be practicing poly for 20+ yrs and it wouldn't be a great source if you dated shit people, just saying- I've never had the jealousy issue whatsoever tbh because everyone just asks for more time spending when they start to feel that way
You know what the government should just say f#@& it you know what let's put a bill of marriage up to any number. 5 second later I want to marry my cat. Lol and here we go again.
wow children being raised by a group instead of by one or two people??? how controversial!!! never in human history have we ever done this before!!!
sarcasm right?
Pippin Covington seriously, this shit is not new
I feel like that one wife is so selfish. If you wanted a man then you should have gotten with a man and not make your partner feel like she wasn't enough like wtf.
Rain N Moon tru
Rain N Moon Agree
It's only a matter of time before such opinions would be labeled "polyphobic".
I agree
@@batissta44 Wow, you don't know what a lesbian is do you? Lesbians only like other woman.
I almost wish Dani phoenix (the short haired woman) leaves because she doesn't look satisfied.
i felt so bad for her. its almost obvious thats she's not happy.
yeah, and i don't understand why she's in a relationship w/ a man if she's a lesbian...? i feel really bad for her
+lions for scottie she probably loved her partner so much and didn't want her to leave, so she was willing to do this and sacrifice her happiness so her partner would be happy, even if she wasn't.
guppyluv100 dang
lions for scottie I think she wanted her girlfriend to be happy and she probably also wanted a baby.
I’m polyamorous, but it’s VERY clear that the short haired girl isn’t happy in this relationship. Everyone needs to be comfortable for a relationship to work.
Maybe in this case it’s got nothing to do with the relationship maybe it’s her own relationship with herself that needs work. Spiritually speaking.
ikrrr
@@Leeohlin89 Interesting theory.
I suppose she would have Long hair, she would be more happy.
Them both wanted masculine looking man.
It would be fair if they both had feminine Looking Long hair.
Short hair could be OK for Lesbians, but they have invited hetero guy, so I would advice Long hair.
Problem would be solved.
She wouldn't feel missed out.
I guess they are lying to her, that He is ok how she Looks in short hair.
That's problem with honest communication.
But why can not they be honest?
It's like you have single wife, and she asks:
Honey do I like fat?
2 bisexual girls ask you:
Do we Look cool?
What do you answer?
Of course, You look COOL, but How to convey honestly without trouble:
You both need to have Long hairs?
I can understand, that guy really likes both girls, but I suppose, he may have much more easier to Liking the Long hair one.
And it was actually her idea to meet guy.
@@ediktorek1322 dude I’m kinda bad at reading tones is this a joke or not I’m not agreeing or disagreeing I’m just confused
When your bi-curious partner turns you into a nanny
Nooo😂😂😭
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I thought polyamorous was illegal?
@@lolidva3807 its not illegal. Its just not a legal marriage.
Polygamy is illegal. Polyamoury is not.
The short hair woman seems like she just accepted that so she wouldn't lost her wife
soo many people in this comment section make the same grammatical mistakes.. where are you guys from and why are you all watching this video :D ?
Just because you disagree doesn't men Dani does. I can't read her mind can you? Also the video creator phrased that with a narrative meant to make it look like Dani is being miss labeled.
Right. I thought just the same thing
I agree the short hair looks like she is 100% lesbian the other one is Bi-sexual she wanted the man. I bet doesn't last how long can she go on accepting it.
@@Mike-01234 thats why they no longer together Deni left.
You can obviously see that the short hair girl is not very happy with the relationship.
kt8 Because its not normal....all this shit
kt8 Well' with her hair due like that who could blame her lol!!!
kaldy Rita exactly!
She's not interested in dick. Just pussy. So being in a relationship with a dude was a mistake.
She knows that she is the expandable one in this family and she doesn't have feelings toward the man and she is jealous of him.
Wow, so people out there are in multiple relationships....while I can't even get one?? Okey!
natural selection
Jeromiah Shaw if u dont have standart all will way mote easier for u.
What's that supposed to mean, that no one would choose me because I'm not good enough?? well thanks a bunch, can't believe that got 13 likes, people are so mean and nasty... why not keep your horrid opinions to yourself? go to hell.
Jeromiah Shaw 😆😆😆
Royalrosewolf my newphew lives with 3 women .And they all don't have kids and he has kids with his first wife and they help him pay for his child support he says its a gift from god this 3 women and they all work.
"I can double breastfeed while Melinda is making food and John is... you know... doing whatever it is" LOL 4:36
Wtf
Omg lol
I love it lol
@Apollox44 Pollo yup, two women to yell at him, bitch he's a lazy prick doing ...you know, nothing
You really think he's living the dream? Give your head a shake bro!
No man wants to deal with two women and their relationship issues any more than one woman wants to fetch sandwiches and beer for two men!
i have a feeling she lowkey doesnt want to be in this relationship its just because she loves Melinda thats why she stays
This ain't gonna end up well! I can tell just by the way the short hair lady reacts.
😂😂 murder soon come
Ah yes, because you have the right to tell people in a relationship that it isn’t going to work out. If you don’t personally know them, then why do you care? Mind your business. It’s their job to decide whether it’s going to work out or not.
No, the short hair feels a Little missed out.
I suppose she would have Long hair, she would not have to feel or react that way.
Them both wanted masculine looking man.
It would be fair if they both had feminine Looking Long hair.
Short hair could be OK for Lesbians, but they have invited hetero guy, so I would advice Long hair.
Problem would be solved.
She wouldn't feel missed out.
I guess they are lying to her, that He is ok how she Looks in short hair.
That's problem with honest communication.
But why can not they be honest?
It's like you have single wife, and she asks:
Honey do I like fat?
2 bisexual girls ask you:
Do we Look cool?
What do you answer?
Of course, You look COOL, but How to convey honestly without trouble:
You both need to have Long hairs?
I can understand, that guy really likes both girls, but I suppose, he may have much more easier to Liking the Long hair one.
And it was actually her idea to meet guy.
here I am on the weird side of TH-cam again
***** both, it's weird and new
Yes you are
Yo I get lost over here to sometimes
and it's always Dr fucking Phil that gets me here
Dr. Phil got me here too... lol.
That guy is living in a marriage heaven. The lesbian (short hair) is clearly not that satisfied with a man/extra in the mix while the bi is the most happy, she got a child, wife,husband and 3some regularly.
How do you know? Do you got a crystal ball 🔮 that lets you read minds?
@@24KinfO
You couldn't pay me enough
to share my dishwasher 🤰
or my back door 🚪
@Apollox44 Pollo he's on his computer looking for more wives to join them. The guy is a genius
🤵👰👰👰👰👰👰👰
Why would you think they have threesome when she's gay af🗿
ei kukaan I’m sure he creampies the butch when he’s feeling a little gay.
Wait...so they were basically living in an gay marriage until one of the women said I want a man (a masculine man)? Not just a kid, but a man in the relationship. I'm a straight male, but I kinda feel sorry for the second woman. Having the feeling like you can't give your partner something they want because of your sex must really hurt one's ego. -.-
I feel sorry for the kids
SJW & WESTERNERS Are a joke
Mm. True. I think it might also feel good that they all have been vocal on their thoughts.
Her concerns were heard and the other 2 said they were open to address it
adlerzwei well Melissa is bi, and so she does love both of them, but it does seem like Dani is unhappy and isn't very into men. But the fact that you're concerned because it "hurts one's ego" is just silly, who cares about ego?
theres always one women in a lesbian relationship who starts craving dick after awhile.
Oh god, Dani isn't as happy as Melinda, c'mmon Dani, speak up!
Looked into it for an update and SURPRISE! Looks like they aren't together anymore...
all of them?
I looked into it also but couldn’t find anything that said they had separated. They apparently lost their home a few months ago in wildfires. It also looks like they are in the process of adoption for the children (each woman adopting the other woman’s child).
Elle P wow I knew it, where did you find it tho?
Jediempress oh really? So they still together?
6:17 "No." hahah the ladies response to her female partners fulfillment. And that absent minded face to go with it. HIlarious.
Is it weird I'm slightly jealous of the parental benefits? I mean my god, being able to have a extra wife help me with breastfeeding and helping me with giving birth sounds like a dream come true.... for me I'm just not sure if I could get over not having a partner all to myself.
+Ashley Casey it's not just another woman who help her, it's her girlfriend, she loves her like she loves the husband.
+Ashley Casey Read your own comment again, especially that last line. Try to look at what you wrote from an outsider's perspective. Do you see the selfishness in that statement? Do you see how it is like ownership of another human?
DestinationMan thanks for the specification ;)
+rmcdaniel, I have zero issue with polyamory (I have friends who say it works for them) but I think your statement makes you sound incredibly full of yourself and astoundingly judgemental. If you don't want to be judged for your lifestyle and beliefs when you aren't hurting others what makes it ok for you to do it to others? My husband and I don't feel like we "own" each other and although other people's choices might be different from yours doesn't make them "selfish." If you chose to be in a relationship with multiple people do you think you own multiple people? What a load of self-important bull shit. Get over yourself.
same here,Im to Jealous of my wife I get mad at another man or woman even looks at her!!
This isn't fair to the lesbian woman. She clearly only agreed to have a man in their relationship to please her partner. And the woman that is bi seems to either be ignoring that her partner isn't happy or is just in denial.
AzzizaNaomi but maybe this discovery was necessary for them and now they can address her needs too. Even though she may be a little hurt in discovering that her original partner isn't completely satisfied with only her affection, maybe she can heal knowing that she has loving and trusting people with who she can discuss meeting her needs and possibly making an addition or some sort of arrangement for just one on one alone time for the women. It's possible for an easy and satisfying solution for all.
AzzizaNaomi She selfish and actually control her partner to sacrifice for her desire. The man was benefit one and don't care women.
Children - conception and knowing its best for the child to have a relationship with its father maybe
Its natural for women to want kids tho
I think every multiple relationships are 1 persons idea that the other caves in to to keep their partner. Sad really.
The lesbian is just a third wheel🤭😬
Don't Tell Her That
To be fair, a mass majority of "normal relationships" have cheating in them, that never gets found out even though some of the cheating does get figured out. Divorces is more than half now. Reality of the matter is, for people relationships is a "game" you need a boyfriend/girlfriend and you need a marriage, even though many should not be in either of them.
The man kind of seems like a third wheel to me as well.
the guy is clearly the third wheel, he is their sex toy
Wow comparing her situation to the civil rights movement....
Emma Ferguson white privilege at its finest
The civil rights and suffragettes fought for equality and respect for all people not just one specific groups that’s the difference between the iconic and respected suffragettes and civil right figures such as Martin Luther King JR and Rosa Parks and modern 3rd wave feminists they only wish to further their own man hating viewpoints such as the people who pointlessly protest in the streets of busy cities without a point of why they are doing it
Gays always do that
@@laela6289 it's not privilege anything. It's just plain dumb.
Only white people will do that crap.
Melissa is clearly the one holding this all together. Dani needs her sugar. When she feels hurt enough, she will leave.
Chris S I know I mean it seems like she doesn't really even like men, but wanted to please Malinda and possibly have a baby of her own. Maybe they should bring in another women.
Heather Lorscheider or maybe they shouldn’t be in that kind of relationship🙃
Heather Lorscheider
Agreed but would you like to be in their kind of relationship?
I think it’s less of bringing someone in as to letting everyone decided for themselves. I think Melissa created a rule for Danni that she needed a man and forced her to be with that man. Instead of being with her man and letting Danni remain gay
Iys very hard to saisfy two women at night.
see, i have NO problem with this whatsoever. i think it's great. but i also agree that Dani isn't happy and it's very very unlikely that all 3 people can feel equally fulfilled in this kind of arrangement. of course, you could argue the same thing about monogamy too, that both people aren't equally happy.
You've watched 7 minutes of insight into their lives, how could you POSSIBLY make the judgement that she isn't equally fulfilled? Also, why is there a rule that says she SHOULD be equally fulfilled, whatever that means?
i think you're absolutely right that i can't make that judgment based on a 7 minute video! i mean i agree with you there.
"fulfilled" is a hard to define term but i believe everyone deserves to be equally fulfilled...even though of course that would only happen in an ideal world, and of course some people are going to end up less satisfied than others. but i think everyone deserves to be equally as happy as the next person, yeah, unless they're a terrible person.
onarionaa
There's always one person who's not getting their needs meet in these kinds of relationships. Malinda is glowing but the other girl not so much. The guys just thinks it's cool he has two women.
That's why these relationships are bad
Lol the guy is like,”I’ve hit the jackpot!!!”
I feel like in this kind of relationship there will always be one who is not fully satisfied. And probably hurting inside. It's sad to me.
kattelyn92 it's selfish. Of course envy is going to kick in. The outcome is sometimes murder.
Same goes for a normal two people relationship as well
@@24KinfO lies. No one is fully satisfied in a mono relationship you get more from a polyamorous relationship than a mono relationship. First understand you don't own anybody secondly you your happiness is your own. Divorce rates are high because people aren't satisfied and think one person is the answer and that's a fairytale. I for one think it's a great thing for them.
Communication and honesty is super important!
@Nyarlathotep are you even married? If so how long have you been married?
wow dani isnt happy and its so obvious.. i feel so bad. i have no problem with people being poly but everyone should be consensual and happy. i feel dani didnt wanna lose her wife so she gave in to what she wanted. i know if my partner came up to me and told me that she wanted a man, that im not enough- i'd really feel upset. i dont feel like thats the right way to bring up that u want to be involved in a poly relationship.. thats kinda hurtful. idk
Aybel 100% correct i felt the same way watching this. To know they were together before john then she wanted a man wouldve definitely hurt dani. i know i would be but we hope theyre all happy and be together for a long time to come.
Aybel Portuguese
MJBABYPHAT hy
Aybel i agre
Aybel agree
There always seems to be a "third wheel" in these types of relationships. Looks pretty stupid and sad to me.
It's called making everyone feel special and important. Because they are. I haven't had trouble doing it, and nobody is a third wheel in our dynamic.
Yup, it's unhealthy.
Witch89 8989
No! I’m these relationships everybody should feel equally as loved! If they don’t then they shouldn’t be in a relationship in the first place
@@doughhead9422 That's a completely asinine comment.
People are turning to whatever they think will brig them happiness, but Jesus is honestly who they really need.
The lesbian is going to bounce. No question.
+Ari Rose35 Lol. They're both lesbian/bi, or else they wouldn't have gotten married to EACH OTHER, and then brought a dude in, long term, as opposed to just being a sperm donor. Just because a woman's a bit butch, doesn't mean she can't be genuinely interested in men.
+maybewise She said she was a lesbian herself. Not bi. Lesbian. 5:34
+Ari Rose35 I have to agree. At one point she even said her female partner was "pretty much straight" which means she feels that way, at the very least (though how that can be seen a problematic is a totally different story blah blah) but I got that vibe too.
Who knows? Dani (the "lesbian") might be sexually interested in the guy and respect him as her baby daddy, but she may not be in love with him. Lots of bisexual women (myself included) are not into men romantically.
yea she should
Seems like the really typical case of a girl having a lesbian phase and growing out of it and the other woman not being able to let her go. I’ve heard Dani moved out of the relationship, you could see it coming from a mile away.
Good that she did, Dani deserves better than her
Melinda has crazy eyes. Dani with the short hair seems so sweet and genuine 💛
Lol
And the rest of throuple lies to her, that they are ok with how she Looks.
The short hair feels a Little missed out.
I suppose she would have Long hair, she would feel much more accepted.
Them both wanted masculine looking man.
It would be fair if they both had feminine Looking Long hair.
Short hair could be OK for Lesbians, but they have invited hetero guy, so I would advice Long hair.
Problem would be solved.
She wouldn't feel missed out.
I guess they are lying to her, that He is ok how she Looks in short hair.
That's problem with honest communication.
But why can not they be honest?
It's like you have single wife, and she asks:
Honey do I like fat?
2 bisexual girls ask you:
Do we Look cool?
What do you answer?
Of course, You look COOL, but How to convey honestly without trouble:
You both need to have Long hairs?
I can understand, that guy really likes both girls, but I suppose, he may have much more easier to Liking the Long hair one.
And it was actually her idea to meet guy.
Plenty of men are fine with short haired woman. Some even appreciate and prefer it. You're experiences are not the same as everyones. We all have different preferences.
this is a sick disgusting display and i feel sorry for the kids who will grow up in this warped environment and go into the world not knowing any better
so sick and disgusting that the parents will care and love for their children no matter how they identify
Roan Kelly it doesn't matter what they "identify" as because they're boys so that's what they are but that's not the point
This doesn't affect you, and anyway, they are in a loving trio and will always be there for their son and daughter, so what does it matter to you?
um hi because it's sick and yet another perversion to the constitution of marriage what next marrying animals ever since the whole "gay marriage "thing became legal it's going down hill
carl mosby Stop being old fashioned. Please. Anyway, why would someone want to marry an animal? Ever heard of bestiality? Please learn to use grammar too, that would be nice.
Let's have another look in 10, 20 years time.
to be fair a lot of 2 person marriges end in 10-20 years. but i guess you are right when you say it is trickier with 3 people involed
LOL @ the total lack of irony from the mono crowd talking about relationships not lasting. hahaha oh my god, do you guys need a mirror?
I think your being way to generous I say 2-3 years.
I think it ten years Dani will have left. I don't even give it five more till she's sick of making Melissa happy.
@@kimberlymason3767 i don't know how long ago she left but she is now living in different city, is an activist and has a lover.
"What's wrong with seeking our own happiness and fulfillment shouldn't we be in a space where were all happy?" Says the one that's left out in the relationship lol
Wuld u do it⁉️
Universally one man, one woman may be the best one.If you want more wives, ask yourself have you special ability to control consequences of doing this.So the same if you want more husbands.choose one.Dont act like animals( no literatures they have)we are human being with literatures.See what is your class in the animal kingdom.
Then choose one.
The man's more into Dani. He touches her more and they make eye contact more🤷🏻
She also looks super uncomfortable
A relationship like that can’t works, there always will be a person that the wife or husband would loves more than the other... i really can’t understand these people.
Yes i also observe the same their. Regards
Dani didn't look happy..she was sitting there and just letting the stuff happen...
I could never live like this...but who am i to judge? God bless them, they seem like a good, decent family.
if everyone was as accepting as you, this world would be so much better
Christopher Martin see this is the way that everyone should do this. Everyone should deal with it like I’m sure there would be a lot less homophobic people out there if everyone could just look at it like this
Jo Blow that’s fine i respect your opinion and they aren’t polygamists they’re poly
I love how you know it’s not for you but you can still recognize and be okay with other people being poly I wish other people had that mindset
Holly Morgan Why should people be accepting of a degenerate lifestyle that gives their children unhealthy views on relationships?
Like the civil rights movement? Lol OK sure keep telling yourself that.
I said the same thing lol
Tia Marie oooo stop it! there have been efforts to compare the two, as if to say the Black struggles against racism are the same as the LGBT community against homophobia. However, to make these superficial comparisons is wrong and ignores specific forms of oppression, the systemic racism Black people face and its origins. Marriage equality does not protect a Black gay man from being beaten in the streets, shot to death by a racist police officer, or denied a job because of his name and his skin. Similarly, Black lesbians are not immunized from the racism and sexism that come with being a Black woman. And in contrast, white gay men still have white skin privilege as white men; for example, closeted gay conservative men who, in the halls of power, continue to enact oppressive laws against disenfranchised groups. Gays have a struggle as well and although similar to the civil rights movement, there are also vast difference's....the more you know..........
Tia Marie nothing that you have stated has proven that this movement can be compared to the civil rights movement. Maybe you should do a little bit of research yourself. No one said that gays etc haven't gone through inequalities! Lol it's still not comparable in MANY ways to the civil rights era and/or movement. It's funny how u people latch on to the civil rights movement when its beneficial but won't speak out when a black man is shot with his hands up. ✋ Stop!
i no rite...
It is A civil rights movement by definition. However, it's not comparable to THE civil rights movement.
Wow this is pretty cool. Like yeah, this should really be accepted. They look pretty happy
You sound awesome wish my wife was like you..
Monogamy or Poly, what does it even matter? As long as there are two consenting adults and one frustrated lesbian, it's fine.
Simon Peters lol
"Go ask your mom"
"She said go ask you dad"
"Well go ask you ma"
"I already did she said go ask moooom"
Ah goals
Why was this growing up tho. But more
" go ask papa "
" I did "
" then go ask mom "
" dadddddd"
We had a " if you ask one parents and they say no and you ask someone eles you'll regret it so much "
They say it takes an entire village to raise a child ;3
Yep, corrupt Hillary will probably mandate polyamory for all Democrats!
exactly
+D Storm, Go play in traffic.
D Storm is a fucking idiot, ignore him.
My 2 parents had no problem raising me. It DOESN'T take a village.
So in other words it's a lesbian couple that wanted babies?
theres always one women in a lesbian relationship who starts craving dick after awhile.
I cringed when the reporter asked if its harder to be a "lesbian" or a poly person. Like shes clearly bisexual??? What is so hard about acknowledging that people fall in the middle of the spectrum?
i honestly do think she identifies as lesbian. She referred to the other wife havign "two people she's attracted to" and said that the guy was "very fun" but didn't seem to be attracted by him. The other wife is definitely bisexual though
To add to the previous reply, I notice that the husband doesn't sleep in the middle, the other wife does. We wouldnt know for sure but maybe she is more interested in the other wife than the husband.
Depends on how you define sexuality. However it is completely irrelevant to this story.
The thing is what if the family "did not know" that she was a lesbian. So when you tell your family that you have multiple partners they will know that you are also gay.
Your reasoning lacks logic.
“It’s not all about sex”
... but it mostly is
Sex may be a lot to do with it but it would be nice to have a relationship like that with two females
They're putting their sexual needs over their children
@@Afmedic85 How do you figure?
Wesley Lewis, how do you figure?
Big cock magic!
"They call it Poly Amory"
You okay dude? Lol
Also the amount of communication and compromising that their relationship has is amazing.
Tell me something americans, why is it ok for gay people to be together, to do sex change but not polygamy or polyandry? This question is simply to know your perspective not putting any blame.
Good Question.I don't see a reason as to why an adult consensual polyamorous couple(w/a few exceptions) can't legally have the same rights as monogamous couples.
NereideTriton they are both wrong. It's all wrong bro. Unbelievable
NereideTriton because gay marriage is still practicing monogamy and consists of two people being loyal to each other. This polyamory/polygamy/whatever the fuck weird stuff is an entirely different subject because it's no longer a loyal relationship between two people. You're essentially cheating "with permission," and that doesn't sit well with many people, nor is it the best environment to bring kids into. It makes me cringe so hard.
Aaron Wright who are you to say what's wrong and what's right? People even dating back to the old testament practiced polyamory
Marcella A Yea and it was bad that they did that according to the OT itself. Not every verse is telling you what to do...do you think we should also rape our sisters because the bible tells a crazy story of one of David's sons who did that?
I have no problem with gay marriage or poly marriages. Ad long as they are consenting adults, who cares?
@hint0122 i agree who cares what they are doing
no one asked the children. It's selfish to have babies in this situation; I think it is child abuse. It is not fair to the child.
Tonya Antony I think kids will be who they will be. Not every child of a drug addict, alcoholic, role model citizen etc., turns out like their parent. 🤷🏽♀️
Jane lane they need positive stability; not just any stability. Traditional marriages have a 50% divorce rate (approx.). Traditional marriages haven’t figured it out either. I say live and let live.
Dormammu I am going to assume you’re talking about societies like Mormon places and Muslim places where they have more than one wife or husband. Yes this is true but only because most of the time (in Muslim cases) they don’t get a say. And in Mormon cases they can’t fight it because it’s a part of their religion. Also the word for this is polygamy not polyamory. These are two different things. They can both work if everyone is consenting of everyone else and they love each other.
just to let you know...dani has started seeing another woman with 'reluctant permission' by melinda...yeah this polyamorous thing is confusing and more than likely not going to work out
Daniel where did you get more information on this family? Do they have social media accounts?
This world gets more and more immoral with each passing day smh
What's immoral about polygamy? It's just a relationship with more than two people. My best relationships have been poly ones
Given, in this case one partner is clearly unhappy and this is a horrible example of it but still
Who else feels bad for Dani? 🙋🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
I don't see the controversy in this. Let people do as they wish.
then you're an idiot
The kids/it being disgusting
Your short sided views don’t see the dangers to society and the individuals if we let them do whatever they want because the rules and values were put for a reason and it works
Injoy your brain while you can .lol
Herb615 because then it affects other people that surround these people
on second thought, it seems like it'd get messy pretty fast. because with two people, you just have one relationship to maintain. but with three people you also have three relationships that need to work, and if just one of these isn't working out then the whole thing is gonna fall apart
+Sophovot but all three of them are truly committed to this task and if they weren't i doubt they would still be together
Salty Pearl Yeah, but even so the relationship doesn't seem very stable, I doubt they're still together but idk
Šimon Aubrecht Trust, honesty and love are the basis of any committed relationship
+Sophovot Trust, honesty, and love are *supposed* to be the basis of any committed relationship, but the truth is that many "monogamous" relationships are also quite
lacking in those regards. There is a reason that the divorce rate is near 50% and that cheating is such a very common thing. It's because most people suck at relationships. The kinds of people that are able to make a polyamorous relationship actually work are, quite honestly, probably the most stable functional loving trusting people around. It's just too sad that so many people aren't capable of even making a single monogamous relationship work.
rmcdaniel423 Yeah, I think because most monogamous relationships don't work, and a poly relationship seems to have triple the chance of failing, the chances of it working are very very slim. maybe like 10%. of course the people who do manage it are pretty amazing, probably.
I am a poly person at heart, and seeing a poly family is like a dream come true for me. The only problem is trying to FIND other poly people in order to bond and connect in such a way. My relationship goal of being happily married to two beautiful, loving men will most likely never happen, especially not where I currently live. What's even more disappointing is that women tend to be bi-sexual more often than men, so finding a man that would be willing to be a part of a poly relationship involving one woman and two men is extremely hard. Most men are conditioned at an early age to believe that women are only interested in monogamy, where as men can sleep around with whomever they want and not be judged for it. It is extremely frustrating that people actually believe this ignorant condition to be a natural, healthy way of life for everyone. Is it natural for a lot of women to want monogamy? Yes. Is it also natural for a lot of women to want poly? Yes. It is natural for any and every human being to want to be happy in their own way. They shouldn't have to conform, unless they are harming others or themselves, or in cases of where one or more of the party is a minor. The fact that we women are shamed, and called "sluts" or "whores" for just wanting to love freely is disgusting, yet when a man is in a relationship with multiple women he is praised? This world is completely sexist and disgusting. Sorry, but I will never be monogamous. Ever. Being with one man, and ONLY one man, for the rest of my life does not, and has never, appealed to me in the slightest. I'd rather not be bored, or end up divorced later in life because our sexual and emotional needs cannot be met just between us alone. I'd also never force a man to give up his own basic, natural sexual instincts just to satisfy me. Humans are sexual creatures, it was not meant for us to stick to one partner for our entire lives. We need change. The only reason why monogamous relationships can, but often do not, last for a very long time is because the couple changes things. Without change, they would not still be together.
+Nyx Kere As a woman it's very likely to be different (I'm 100% sure attracting a woman and a man work differently) but I'll tell you what I do/did as a man maybe it'll help:
1) Attract more than one person towards you
2) attract them enough that they won't mind and will be open to it
Attract them first. Someone who doesn't know you won't be open to anything you say. Then throw here and there what you think clearly but sutbly (when she talked about two/three exes that were still into her, and asked me what to do, I said "go with the three of them - do you know what polyamory is?")
+Nyx Kere If it's any consolation I'm a bisexual man who is interested in specifically that kind of relationship. We do exist.
+Nyx Kere Another thing, men do get judged too when they sleep around. What do you think happens among male friends when a guy tries and brags about sleeping around? You think we all go "ooo you're so cool?". No one is impressed by him either. Please do not turn this into a women vs men issue. Like seriously we're tired of hearing your "women's issues" that really aren't women's issues and are just everyone's issues. Gawd.
The reason why monogamy doesn't work out rarely anymore is because women get a lot of benefits from divorcing their husbands. The court systems and government are completely on their side. They have all the power. Got bored of your husband? Who cares. Divorce him, take his children away from him, leave him with nothing and then sit there and say "patriarchy hurts men too" when people point out that men commit suicide at 4-6x the rate women do. No. Hateful selfish misandrist women hurt men. Oh but that's right, women controlling our educational institutions have *dictated* you can't be sexist towards men. Right... I forgot about that. Fuck, why did you have to rant on like feminist twat and piss me off.
Also, polyamory isn't about constant change. These people plan on being together forever. It's still a static relationship. It's about being in a COMMITTED relationship with more than one person. In a committed relationship with the same two men for 10 years you not going to get bored of them? If you do you feel self-righteous enough to just divorce them, leave them take their children with you because of your female privileges? Better yet, you can just add a 3rd, or a 4th or a 5th... or however many you want.
Nah, as a polyamorous male I look to being in a committed relationship with both a man and a woman. I highly recommend NO one be in a relationship with you. You don't sound like you get polyamory well at all. You sound like some bitter teen girl indoctrinated by feminist tropes.
Nexus Clarum
You sound like you live in the city. Good for you. As a person who lives in the middle of nowhere in the south, women are treated exactly as I said where I live. Men are praised for shaming and leaving women every single day. The more women they abuse the more popularity they receive from their friends. Granted, this happens with younger men only, from 16 to possibly late 40s, and the elderly men are more respectful. Here's some truth for you -- AMERICA HAS HUNDREDS OF DIFFERENT CULTURES. Caps just because I don't think you'd be able to understand without them. Not every single man in America is a respectful human being, it all depends on where and how they were raised. You would know this if you were even half as intelligent as you're trying to act.
You're bitching about "woman problems" being false and unimportant, and yet you yourself are disrespecting and insulting every single woman who has been through a divorce? You are truly a sexist pig. Every woman you've been with may have been materialistic whores, but not every woman gets a divorce just to get half of whatever the man had. Especially not in the country, where we are poor because of low income jobs. When a woman divorces in the country she doesn't give a damn about the money. She divorces because she was being treated poorly, or because their relationship wasn't working out. I'm sorry you've only found greedy whores to be with you, but I can assure you not all of us are like that.
Did I say a poly relationship wasn't a commitment? No, I didn't. Poly relationships just aren't commitment in the sense of the whole "one true love" bullshit that people try to force on you. There is no such thing as a one true love. In fact, love doesn't even exist. It is a chemical imbalance that happens in your brain with meeting with either a person of attractiveness, or even just a person who shares a close interest with you. This obviously means you can form "love" with more than one person in your life. A true poly person does NOT force others to stay with them, nor should they be forced to stay with others. If you think you can hold down your partners by force, you are a horrible person. You should never force another human being into a commitment. They have to choose. And being committed does not mean you will FOREVER be committed. As monogamous people divorce out of relationship issues, so do poly people. We are not perfect. Our relationships don't work 100%, all of the time. We are human beings, and as human beings we go through problems with other human beings. This can include your partners. So to force your partners to commit for eternity proves that you are a horrible human being. You are not giving them a say so in their lives. They have to choose to want to be with you. If they fall out of "love" with you, then they deserve the right to leave. I would NEVER force any man to stay with me if he did not want to. If he wants change, and a different woman, I would gladly let him do whatever he wanted and feel no pain because I am not a greedy human like you. I care about people's decisions, and thus expect them to care about mine. I would never be in a relationship with a sexist pig like you who thinks they can force themselves onto others. Also, in case you were wondering, I am a twenty-six year old woman. If you think everyone who wants and believes in poly relationships are children, then you are sorely misinformed.
Nexus Clarum
I never said women come first lol someone's a meninist prick. Women don't get the shit kicked out of them like men do, but that is because women naturally are not physically strong. Women have more manipulative mind control over other women, and can hurt someone with words more than any man can. That is why women often times don't get physical in fighting, they'll just yell. And being called a slut is far more demeaning than being called gay. If you are called a slut, you are viewed by men AND women as a slut. The women will not respect you. The men will harass you. You will not be considered girlfriend material, but instead just considered a sex object instead of a human being. If a man is called a faggot the only people he has to deal with is other men. The women will not insult him for being gay. The men alone will. Women have to deal with both sides, men only have to deal with one. Do men get physically harmed more than women? Yes. But not by women, only by their own gender. Only their gender finds homosexuality to be wrong. In the eyes of both genders being a female slut is wrong, and you will never be respected by either sides.
The short haired one who is truly a lesbian is not happy and will eventually leave. The saying two is company three a crowd is so true. The only way this could even have a chance would be with two Bi women not one Bi and a lesbian. This I am sure of.
Who care's the Current year is full %100 gay & SJW Nonsense she will find a girl asap
While the men can't find none because of ME TOO Witch hunt
Western side is a joke
@@joejose8433 That's not what a lesbian is. XD
Original comment was correct The lesbian Deni left them no longer together.
And Ella is her child, so she might take her with her, too. Legally she can do that, I think.
- so, do you call yourselves a couple?
- some call us "a triple"
- lol, more like..."trouple"
At Oussama throuple...... how you gonna try to call em
Out an say it wrong lol
Ugh, this is going to be an issue when it shouldn't be, who cares, let them be.
The guy had a huge smile on his face the whole time hahaha
Yea the guy is on cloud nine. "...at first it was threesomes all the time." etc. etc.
SunnyBigMc
Maybe because he’s happy? He has amazing wifes? And two beautiful children?
Of course he's got two women to please him and possibly a third if they all agree. However he has a pleasant responsibility too.
He's a fucker. He's so oblivious to all of the 'real' shit.
two pussy's for the price of one.
he is one happy man
**lucky
He didn't get rich or ripped by being lucky you skinny nerd
yeah a lot of people do actually, at least the rich part.
The lesbian is not happy.
Yeah I’d love to hook up with two girls at once every night.
I have polyamorous parents and it's really normal, it's so weird to see things like this where they're saying it's controversial. But I'm glad they're actually letting them talk about it and inform people
You’ve been brainwashed, as it’s not normal.
“Pioneers Like in the civil rights movement” No honey. this isn’t Saudi Arabia, people don’t want that. You have the right to marry a same sex partner, you don’t have the right to marry another person because your wife was not good enough for you.
I'm just worried about how the children will be treated when they grow up
Same as kids with different dad's. My baby's father is the youngest of three, by two other mothers. The stigmatism is there because people choose to be nasty.
true ...the good part is that the would is becoming more aware and tolerance is getting better because of people speaking the truth no matter what the truth is the more it's heard about and the more its knowledge everywhere and the more it's a known part of our world the last problems there will be they spoke about that a little bit and this video too. also if something does happen they have three wonderful people there to guide them and help them stand on their own truth in the end the kids will be stronger and more aware of his or herself because of parents that are more open-minded to different pads no matter what this kid wants to do they'll be supported and loved doing it which is a lot more than most parents can say they give their kids this is the kind of family that won't insist on following societal norms which is fantastic for the exploration of both their children and them to find their authentic self the greatest personal strength come from people who walk their truth and are open-minded and aware and use that personal strength to get through hard times so it's a good thing in the end at least in my opinion
They're now adopted.
I have three poly parents and I don't get bullied at school at all. I'm in a new school this year though, and only one person from a different school than me knows, because, well, I'm kind of scared to tell other people who I don't know. But ya know I never got bullied about it before and I have a whole grade of students from my old school to back me up if that ever happens, so I'm good
youR PFP
I'm polyamorous with myself, I've got three personalities whom I love very dearly.
I realize nobody will even believe me, let alone understand, but it's true.
Wow. That's poetic. :)
You meant pathetic?
youre one SPECIAL snowflake.
I'm not polyamorous but I wish you the best with your three lovers... I hope you have the happiest future together, love each other equally, and fight for your rights ❤
l okkkk
I like how all of these interviews make it sound like a boy girl relationship is easy or simple. That's funny.
They are not modern.... they are more backward.... just like in the ancient times ...
We can only really know the true ramifications of this lifestyle once the children grow up and can speak for themselves about how their parent's polyamory effected them, whether negatively or positively.
Because love and acceptance usually ruins kids. Should stick to the 2 person marriage where over 50% get divorced and 35% end up in a nasty court/custody fued...seems like those kids are much better off
It did great for me! My family runs with a lot of learning disabilities do my brother needed more attention but with four parents it wasn't that big of a problem and I didn't feel like I had to fight for attention like most people I see that are like me ( has a sibling with some type of disorder )
Fucking weird & totally unnatural concept.
listen no need to put your biography in the comments
there is always one partner who is frosurated by such relations .. :/
Exactly
that's stupid shit
I personally just think that it's harder to find 2 people that not only you love but who also love eachother
if all 3 people do love eachother, then there shouldn't be the same problem that the woman in this documentary had
not always and the same can be said about traditional monogamous relationships.
Robby Star Such comments should be backed up with evidence, e.g. quotes, references, one's own experiences.
Robby Star yeah usually
I want 2 husband .😭😭😭when i argue with one i go to the orher one. Can someone tell me where i can find this 2 husbands?
Well google them
That other one is me. if you promise not to make me feel Jules 💖
There are many!
I welcome you Sweet heart
I'm sure polygamous share all together and love together and share responsability
"It's not like polygamy...it's weirder!"
I agree with you
The weirder the better normal sucks
My stomach cant handle this right now
Honestly, I feel as though Dani was pressured into accepting this... Dani clearly indicates that she doesn't feel completely comfortable in this relationship. I don't know how unsatisfied she really is, but it's obvious there are some issues. Melinda just brushes it all off. Of course, they have to appear happy while on tv. I can only wonder how happy they would look without being on camera.
*This* is the main issue I have with polyamorous, polygamous, and polyandrous relationships. They can become one-sided very easily. For example, in polygamous and polyandrous relationships, the one man or woman will pick a favorite husband or wife. They may not straight up admit that they have a favorite, they can insist that their marriage is pure and wholesome, but they will certainly prefer certain spouses over others. In a polyamorous relationship, two people can easily become attached to each other while the third becomes distanced (that seems to be the case in the video).
These types of relationships also become convenient excuses when one partner in a monogamous relationship wants a third spouse. I've seen enough relationships where one person will start welcoming somebody else into their marriage without the full consent of their spouse. It's often a man who tries to pressure his wife into a polygamous relationship, but I've seen a woman pressure her husband before.
With all of this in mind, I do believe that it's possible for 3+ people to be married and all be perfectly happy. However, the issues I've pointed out are worth looking at.
Very well said.
tail feather there are other types of polyamorous relationships though. A lot of poly people will have a primary partner who they might be legally married to, live with, and have kids with, while they have other minor relationships going on. I definitely agree that’s it’s not really practical to try to love each person equally, but not all poly relationships are structured that way.
It's kinda sad knowing that one person can feel being left behind.
For the people that are saying they feel "bad" for the kids. Granted, growing up and seeing their parents situation might get confusing for them. But how is it any different then having divorced parents who re-marry, or having parents that cheat? Those kids would then have 4 parents. In this case the children's parents all love one another and have an open stable family unit. Idunno if they are all happy it should be fine
My thoughts exactly, the healthy behavior you display should come 1st to who the partners are. Raising kids that contribute to society and respect others is essential to being a parent in my opinion (I feel like saying "is this "healthy" to expose the kids to this environment" is a small jab at people for threatening the norm they want to maintain). " you're sick...and we accept that, but you ARE gonna quarantine yourself from the kids, right?" Lol, we are all such ass holes to each other. We should have a "Impose my Views Holiday" to make a joke of ourselves.
So, he healed two lesbians? He is a hero.
What wrong with the humans in this earth?
This kind of relationship - yucks🤮
The kids have more people to go to for help I approve
They all broke up, I think people forgot that’s it’s not just more fun and convenient, but also more arguing that over little things. It’s hard enough to date one persons for a long time but imagine 2 people each with their own differing opinions on how you’re doing something slightly wrong in the relationship. I’m not saying it’s impossible but it is way harder emotionally
I could only do this if we had a double king sized bed. im all for closeness and affection and shit but when it time to sleep im like "get the fuck off me"
The guy I absolutely adore is just like you. He needs his space at night but I need mine during the day so things are pretty well balanced.
Why are people judging and giving such strong opinions. We should be happy they chose to share their personal life with the world, and they are still together.
How is the lesbian willing to sleep with a man? I'd never!
@Apollox44 Pollo Oh god...
Her partner is very selfish
Well you aren’t her so..
She was betrayed...lol
Well u maybe getting laid but there are some men who’d puke at the thought of even touching you so I guess it kinda works like that
good for them.
I wish I knew the word polyamory 10 years ago!
food for thought... promoting the LGBT community is a way of controlling the over population problem.
You can't turn gay, so promoting the LGBT community wont change anything... Tabarnack!
+Tabb Arnak not really, because lots of gay women have children via artificial insemination.
+Abbigail Alvarado-Cruz And promoting free speech, thought, expression of thoughts and not making something that goes against your faith is just as important. However it seems that the vast majority of LGBT in the US seem to be against these things for dissenters, while they enjoy these rights themselve. Hypocrites, they can be, and hypocrites a lot of them are.
I can’t believe she really equated this to pioneers during the civil rights movement 😩🙄😑😒like
Usually on Fridays night after clubbing I go home with my two gf and have some fun, oh my two gf is left and right hand.
I don't understand them, how could you share what is supposedly exclusive?
But thus said, I don't condamn them at all.
This is better than polygamy at least the women don't hate each other's guts..
The guy is happy as hell
However someone will always be left out and jelousy will take over this whole "we communicate arrangement"
Ena I. Hasn't happened to my family. You really can't be certain in these things.
Ena I. Hi
I can't wait in 10 years we can marry dogs and cats legally
😂
Dude seriously... That's crazy
When dogs and cats can openly consent, use complex forms of communication to construct and express logical and rational thoughts, (i.e. Verbal & written), make informed decisions and have consciousness of self... I see no problem marrying dogs or cats...
Omg girl with the black hair lives near my grandparents
Okay Dani clearly isn't happy it's literally written on her face! Girl u deserve your share!
Hahahahahahaha! Lots of supporting comments here from the middle class
...I wonder what the comments would've been like if this polyamorous group were muslim!
If it's a consensual, not coerced, relationship, then I see nothing to object to.
indeed, i would be really surprised to see a muslim family where 'wives' are sexually engaged with each other
Sadik Meah Muslim just polygamy, not polyamoury. They are unfair and unequal to women when allow man have wives but woman cannot have 2 husbands
Fuck no! this is sick!
I find this fucked up IMO
All these videos show one being left out and uncomfortable with the situation, with the initiator confident there's no problems, avoiding the stress that comes with confronting the original partner.
I would never do this. I get too jealous😂
John's got a sweet deal going on for himself.
Yes i wish i can have atleast a Girl Friend like ...
I know these guys! They are amazing! Love u guys. I am so happy my mom let me met you!
TYPICALLY the healthiest polyamorous relationships don't work like a 'triangle'- for example, partner A and partner B are dating but each date a separate partner on their own. when there is a 'triangle'-type relationship jealousy breeds as well as unresolved tension.
source: practicing poly for 2+ years
my husband and I are new to poly but we share the same girlfriend and that has actually helped us to not be jelouse not every version Will be the same for everyone
what about all-same-sex triad? is it also "unstable" in your opinion?
You can be practicing poly for 20+ yrs and it wouldn't be a great source if you dated shit people, just saying- I've never had the jealousy issue whatsoever tbh because everyone just asks for more time spending when they start to feel that way
"dated shit people"
My aren't you a wonderful conversationalist.
This is to show you a woman needs a men.
You know what the government should just say f#@& it you know what let's put a bill of marriage up to any number. 5 second later I want to marry my cat. Lol and here we go again.
i wonder if dani would be happier with another girlfriend