Over the years, I've been shocked at how unaware believers are of the dangers of emotional affairs and emotional adultery. Many pastors who have fallen into adultery in recent years began with an emotional affair of the heart. This video is by no means exhaustive but serves as a loud warning to be aware of this danger. Over 10 years ago, I preached a sermon on Emotional Purity, and years later, someone contacted us for counseling, who had experienced one of the situations mentioned in the video. At the time, they couldn’t figure out what was happening, but eventually recognized it for what it was. They said they wished they had received teaching on this beforehand, to avoid being naive.
Same here, James. I didn't understand this very well. But the Holy Spirit didn't let me rest about a situation where the pastor (although trying to be kind to me as a foreign visitor), would text me and email me. At first I thought it was cultural, but even so I never felt too comfortable. Although I do appreciate the kindness he showed. None of the content of the emails was compromising. When I left his country months later, I had noticed his relationship with his wife wasn't good and something in her stare told me she wasn't happy about something. So I immediately linked it to those few emails and the closeness with her husband. I began to pull away and eventually once back home I stopped all communications. Even when he was very loving. I began to feel something was growing there in his heart. We need to be extra careful with this. I know it's hard at times because some of us look at the help and kindness, and we want to reciprocate that.
I always thought in a situation like this, the pastor would have his wife present when having to speak and counsel a female congregant or at least have an older mature female member assist in the counseling. When I needed counseling, the Pastor and his wife did it or the Elder and his wife. I was never left alone with a man in the Church.
Many years ago, I heard a study about the cause of adultery. Every couple said that it started "innocently," but that was the problem. Casual conversation about Jimmy's soccer game, dog Fido going to the vet, or a family vacation is not as innocent as it sounds. When a spouse is not around, there should never be casual conversation with the opposite gender. At work, it should be all business talk about the job, hi and bye.
Oh I think this is far more possible & common than we want to think. Blinded by the desires of the flesh. Praying for folks this is about a Pastors indiscretion it is dangerous in the congregation too & the church at large. I got spooked years ago getting late night inquiries by messenger from from a pastor. I felt an undertone in his words & the late hour of 10-11 pm. I gave short direct response & always included his wife by name in my response and it stopped after a few times. I had felt a strong prick in my spirit & it felt at the time it inappropriate, to this day I think GOD was red flagging it for me. Praise GOD, & I listened not dismissing it because he is well liked etc.. Totally never okay. We are in the flesh until we are glorified DON’T Be Naive! Thank you Brother James! 🙏🏼 🙏🏼🕊🙌🏼🔥
We should protect each other by never finding ourselves alone with the opposite sex for the sake of our brothers and sisters in Christ but foremost for our Lord Jesus.
Maybe better to be born again/born of the Spirit (as Jesus says "you must be" in John 3) because then the law (Sermon on the Mount standard) is written in the heart of a regenerate person (Hebrews 8): the entire purpose of the New Covenant i.e that we be made pure as a child (Matthew 18:3) and live like Jesus (1 Corinthians 11:1) etc etc etc etc. I mean, David saw Bathsheba naked and he reacted like an animal. He had no Holy Spirit indwelling (John 7:39, 14:16-17) and had little power over temptation (UNLIKE those of us who are under the New Covenant with the Holy Spirit indwelling: 1 Corinthians 10:13). DO YOU BELIEVE THAT? DO YOU BELIEVE/TRUST HIM IN GENERAL? DO YOU BELIEVE WHAT'S WRITTEN IN EPHESIANS 3:20? The answer is NOT to veer towards Taliban style customs! The woman is not the problem. There is ONE problem that is at the root of sin and of temptation that is overwhelming and that is being UNREGENERATE i.e still carnal (read Romans 8 regarding that and research "sarx/sarki", the Greek word translated as "flesh" i.e CARNAL, UNREDEEMED nature). A regenerated, pure heart regards lost women (lost souls) with compassion and regenerate women as mothers or as sisters: not as prostitutes or something contagious to be avoided. When that becomes the case, men are indistinguishable from religions like Islam and Roman Catholicism (in some countries). It's a living denial of the resurrection power of the Holy Spirit and a dishonor to the name of CHRIST which *Christians* use!
This is such a wonderful video for the body. Thank you for making it and posting it. I have tried to explain this to others without such a clear execution.
Thank you brother for such a holy spirt guidance on this topic powerful May the lord Jesus continue to but more in your spirit to make more God Bless 🙏❤️
Our church has a rule book, ( I'm blanking its not the right term) pastors can't council women or underaged people 1 on 1. If a pastor is to council ha woman there has to be a third party involved. It can be an elder, another woman, her husband if married. For underaged people a parent has to be present.
According to one TH-camr, the affair lasted 5 years. Did it start in a similar manner? With the age of the woman, it could be a possibility that it started like this. This also happens when daughters have poor relationships with their fathers and they each try to find a "replacement". It's a bit of a Freudian situation which sounds awful, but even Voddie Baucham made a video about it.
0:00 - Introduction 3:56 - Example of how subtle this is... 9:03 - What does the Bible say? 13:00 - Is there a root cause? 15:38 - Vulnerable circumstances 16:23 - Workplace evangelism 17:02 - Women discipling men? 17:59 - What about an age gap? 20:07 - Don't overreact! 21:18 - Is your conscience clear? 22:49 - Where does this all end up? 25:08 - Conclusion
I was in this sin, I confessed to Jesus then a fellow sister in Christ and then my husband. I hate that I did that. My husband is my beloved one flesh…❤️🔥
Thank you for posting this. Honestly, I think setting boundaries are important for the Christian community, even in the things that are part of doing gospel ministries. I live in Las Vegas where people do not have time to get know their neighbor in general and my church encourages members to get to know one another through discipleship groups, bible studies, and events. How do I balance this? There is a season I can go and times I cannot go. I remind myself that I am a man under authority and I have the right to say no. Hopefully this helps anyone and please be wise in your choices.
What stinks is how quickly it can happen. Preface: single, virgin, 30, never married, male. I fall in love quickly, I get attached quickly. One of two things always happens, 1) come out quickly and get rejected because from their perspective I am going too quickly. (The fact is, my emotions always outpace the actual relationship, this is merely an effort to have the relationship keep pace) Once I get rejected, things quickly end up settling down. 2) not wanting to be rejected, I try to play it cool, take it slow, this ends up in heart idolatry, scaring the girl away, and causing untold pain to all parties involved. None of the women I have fallen for have been married.
Thank you so much for this message!! All glory to God for this message. This is exactly how it happens! I'm so thankful for you all sharing this wisdom with us, it is TRULY much needed!! I need this! 🙏
Please pray for me, for wisdom with all my relationships, please I've been very confused lately with one in particular. Please pray for me, I'm not married, and I'm lonely, and it's hard for me to get to church
Thank you for talking about this, naming it ... I'm in such a difficult situation with a co-worker. He is my age and we talked too much. It started almost 2 years ago when I gave him evangelistic material and we talked about faith. He is a good listener and agnistic. But I was the one losing, because our conversations were interesting for him and he likes me and wanted us to be friends but I became feelings for him. I didn' t tell him how I feel, that this is the reason why I distanced myself l, but it's hard for me seeing him everyday at work. I don't know what he would do, if he knew... And I asked myself if I should leave my working place... Maybe the problem is just me, not a big deal and I can get over it... What advise would you give me? What to do, if there is this emotional bond? How can a person break it? Is it possible without leaving the place?
@@Winney67 well then it's not directly relevant to the topic of emotional adultery, but I can see your point. You can tell you're similarly on the verge of getting into an inappropriate relationship and it could be a good idea to stop it early. You don't want to get tied up with a non-believer. Obviously I know nothing about the fellow, there's every possibility he's good and honest -- but there's also a possibility that he's pretending to be a sincere listener and purposely avoiding saying stuff that he knows would offend you, like, "I think the Bible is obviously a bunch of man-made bunk, only the stupid fall for it" even if that was his actual opinion. You should keep an eye open for this subtle kind of manipulation; as a godless man he has nothing to lose from making you like him. Or maybe he's a decent person but you still have a problem. Can you afford to quit your job and find someplace else? I hear it's not so easy these days. I hope you wouldn't have to do that unless there's an actual good opportunity. You need to get over him though, besides praying to God that he'd be converted, for his own benefit. You need to refocus, like by talking to some other people more, or when you're alone then doing some specific bible studies to remind yourself what you prioritise more. See: 2 Corinthians 6:14 🙂
@@akagrace91 Thank you for your advice. I have to correct myself in my last answer: he claims to be gay and started a relationship with a man... Makes it even more confusing because he also shared other things, that make it unsure for me to believe it... I don't want to share everything, but I think it shows the danger: he always told: where is your problem? you shouldn't have a problem having a friendship with me, because you know my attitude. And yes, I know a lot about his attitudes. He does not realize what it can do with a women and I don't want to be the one who tells him... I think it would be unwise. But all in all I just ask myself if it is possible to break an emotional bondage, that was wrongfully build up, without leaving the place, trying to be distant. I think it's a process, to heal...
2 Peter 2:9 KJV [9] the Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly out of temptations, and to reserve the unjust unto the day of judgment to be punished: 1 Corinthians 10:13 KJV [13] There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it. 1 John 5:4-5 KJV [4] For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith. [5] Who is he that overcometh the world, but he that believeth that Jesus is the Son of God? Put your trust in the Lord. If there's anything that you should repent of, confess it and trust God is faithful and just to forgive you your sins and cleanse you of all unrighteousness. I pray He gives you wisdom to make the right decisions and that you'll lack nothing in Him.
Hi, @VOLOKOTO. I’m one of the pastors here at I’ll Be Honest/Grace Community Church. I believe this is the sermon you’re looking for: tinysa.com/sermon/69131918460. Thanks.
As a Christian, I don't like the expression "spinning in his grave" but that's what David, Samson and Solomon would be doing if they knew 21st Century believers were thinking of them as "examples". We're not told to imitate ANYONE apart from Jesus. Even Paul (who was a "NEW CREATURE" after conversion (2 Corinthians 5:17) said: "imitate me AS I IMITATE CHRIST" (1 Corinthians 11:1). NOWHERE in the NT are Christians referred to as "sinners". We are referred to as "saints" (sanctified/holy ones) over 40 times, however. We're not Jews living under the Old Covenant. The difference is HUGE and cost Jesus his life. The Cross and Resurrection is no small thing. Prior to Pentecost, when the pressure was on, Peter cowered, hid, panicked and denied He even knew Jesus. After the Resurrection and Pentecost, He was a different person, a "new creature" (2 Corinthians 5:17). He fearlessly stood up in front of thousands and preached Truth and then He travelled around, sharing the Gospel and the Truth of Jesus. He no longer feared death. There is zero comparison between living under the Old Covenant and living with Jesus indwelling (2 Corinthians 13:5). He is the fulfilment of everything. He is God's "last word" (to paraphrase Hebrews 11:1-2) He has given us EVERYTHING they didn't have in the Old Covenant, e.g.: ✅ the full forgiveness of sins ✅ the complete removal of the burden of guilt and shame for past sins ✅ the removal of the effect of past offenses and traumas (Luke 4:18) ✅ no more need for animal sacrifices ✅ full, eternal reconciliation to the Father (Romans 5:1 & 8:38-39) ✅ the full, completed canon of Scripture including Revelation, about the future ✅ the example of Jesus (so we "follow in His footsteps" (1 Peter 2:21) ✅ the examples of Paul, Peter, John and the other disciples (as seen through their letters and in Acts) ✅ the final defeat of death and evil by the cross (Colossians 2:15) ✅ VICTORY: 1 Corinthians 15:57 ✅ the final defeat of Satan: (Acts 26:18, Colossians 1:13 & 2:15, 1 John 3:8) ✅ the final defeat of the power of sin so we are no longer its slaves (John 8:34-36, Romans 6, 1st Corinthians 15:17, 1st John 3:5-10, 5:2-3 & 5:18) ✅The PERMANENT indwelling of the Holy Spirit (John 7:39, 14:16-17, 1 Corinthians 3:16, Corinthians 13:5 etc) ✅The fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) ✅ The Gifts of the Holy Spirit (Romans 12, 1 Corinthians 12 & 14) ✅The Comfort of the Holy Spirit (John 14 thru 16) ✅ the WISDOM of the Holy Spirit ✅ the Holy Spirit as our guide into all Truth and teacher (John 14:26 & 16:13 ✅ Agape Love "shed abroad in our hearts": Romans 5:5, 1 Corinthians 13. ✅The ability to walk after the Spirit instead of the flesh (Galatians 5 & 6) ✅The ability to have fellowship with Christ as mediator between us and God without having to go to the temple and have a priest as mediator (1 Timothy 2:5) ✅Eternal life forever in His presence (promised by Jesus twelve times in John's Gospel alone) And even more... I live in a country in Europe where most people haven't even HEARD the true Gospel. So many countries are the same: in Africa, most of Europe, Asia and Latin America. Don't forget that Jesus says "TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN, MUCH WILL BE REQUIRED" (Luke 12:48).
Very relevant topic brother, thanks for sharing 👍. Question: you mentioned the wife who got pregnant by the younger man outside her marriage, so what do you think they should do with the child? A lot of people are still debating about abortion and they might bring up a case like this
This can also happen to christians with same gender. So my conclusion is, this is not mainly an opposite-gender issue, its deeper. Alll kinds of adultery is spiritual. Its between God and his bride. His will vs the man's will.
James 1:13-14 - "Let no one say when he is tempted, ‘I am being tempted by God,’ for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one. But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire."
@@truthseeker5698 I'm one of the pastors here. We are concerned with what Scripture says, not what men's systems might or might not say. If what we teaches aligns with what some call "Calvinism," then it does. If it does not match with what one defines as Calvinism, then it doesn't. Our focus is what the Scripture says, not what men say. Thanks.
@@jeffgccsatx Then you’d agree there is stewardship response ability inferred in the verse cited above. This would debunk Calvinism reformed theology, where that deity has decreed all. WCF 3:1 The authors of this use Bible verses to proof text their claims. Begging the question is a mere surface level response.
@@truthseeker5698 We are not concerned with what the WCF says. There are many different opinions as to what is and isn’t “Calvinism.” I am just telling you where we stand. Thanks.
This video is not in any way an attempt to suggest that "what Lawson did started this way." The script was written years ago, but I never recorded or posted it until now. Yes, recent events with Lawson brought it back to mind, and I felt it was the right time to finish and share it. However, none of the examples in the video are referring to Lawson, as they were from years ago.
@@leenieledejo6849 haha! Sounds a bit prideful, buddy! We acknowledge the gift of other brothers and sisters sometimes by encouraging them through spreading their gifted wisdom summarized in a video like this. Let’s be humble.
The reformed community is the most vulnerable because their always the ones that hate things like Headcoverings, modest clothing, not drinking, not hanging out at bars, , not allowing women to teach women , wanting women home and the list is endless. So of course conversations with married men is a free for all for most but not all.
As a person in the reformed community, who is writing this while wearing my headcovering and my modest dress, after working a long day at home with my 10 children, having never touched alcohol since I was saved at age 19, who has encouraged many older women that they need to be teaching the younger women to be sensible, pure, workers at home, subject to their own husbands, etc..., I think you may have been misinformed about what the reformed community believes.
Paul Washer says he is a reformed Baptist, and maybe the beliefs differ from another's reformed theology, but I have taken issue with the idea that they believe Christians are just relabeled sinners: meaning that they get their past sins washed away, but then pity-excused from God the rest of their life for sins they claim they cannot stop doing. What poison and denial of the power of the Holy Spirit! Jesus said, "If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed." Only those who walk after the flesh and not after the Spirit are slaves to sin. In Christ, we don't excuse sin because "we're only human", and say "we're all sinners. We are now in the Spirit. Saints are not sinners. We overcome evil with good through the grace of God by the Spirit within us.
@@pjkneeOh come on, reformed theology is just Biblical theology. Secondly, please read or listen to anybody like Charles Spurgeon, John Bunyan, Jonathan Edwards, Paul Washer, etc. Everybody condemns worldliness & partaking in the works of evil.
About 16 mins or just before: If a woman is looking solely to her husband for her emotional needs to be met then she is not a Christian by definition i.e she is not a child of God and has no Holy Spirit indwelling (John 1:12-13, chapter 3 & 14:16-17, Romans 8:9). Same with a man looking to his wife to meet his emotional needs. Always best to get to the ROOT of the problem. God is referred to as "FATHER", Jesus as "brother" and "bridegroom". It's a relationship and if it's not THE relationship then it's no relationship.
I do not believe that a pastor should counsel women one on one. The only women that pastor should counsel one on one is his wife if he has one. It is not a pastors job to be counseling women alone.
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Over the years, I've been shocked at how unaware believers are of the dangers of emotional affairs and emotional adultery. Many pastors who have fallen into adultery in recent years began with an emotional affair of the heart. This video is by no means exhaustive but serves as a loud warning to be aware of this danger. Over 10 years ago, I preached a sermon on Emotional Purity, and years later, someone contacted us for counseling, who had experienced one of the situations mentioned in the video. At the time, they couldn’t figure out what was happening, but eventually recognized it for what it was. They said they wished they had received teaching on this beforehand, to avoid being naive.
Same here, James. I didn't understand this very well. But the Holy Spirit didn't let me rest about a situation where the pastor (although trying to be kind to me as a foreign visitor), would text me and email me. At first I thought it was cultural, but even so I never felt too comfortable. Although I do appreciate the kindness he showed. None of the content of the emails was compromising.
When I left his country months later, I had noticed his relationship with his wife wasn't good and something in her stare told me she wasn't happy about something. So I immediately linked it to those few emails and the closeness with her husband. I began to pull away and eventually once back home I stopped all communications. Even when he was very loving. I began to feel something was growing there in his heart. We need to be extra careful with this. I know it's hard at times because some of us look at the help and kindness, and we want to reciprocate that.
Who was the name of the evangelist during the welsh revival? Howell Harris?
I always thought in a situation like this, the pastor would have his wife present when having to speak and counsel a female congregant or at least have an older mature female member assist in the counseling.
When I needed counseling, the Pastor and his wife did it or the Elder and his wife. I was never left alone with a man in the Church.
@@jesusisrisen1202 Rees Howells
Willful naïveté.
Sorry, but most women know when a man is interested in them - they know the “mating dance.”
All pastors everywhere need our prayers all the time.
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Many years ago, I heard a study about the cause of adultery. Every couple said that it started "innocently," but that was the problem. Casual conversation about Jimmy's soccer game, dog Fido going to the vet, or a family vacation is not as innocent as it sounds. When a spouse is not around, there should never be casual conversation with the opposite gender. At work, it should be all business talk about the job, hi and bye.
Its so much better being alone!No distractions just Jesus!
Amen
Oh I think this is far more possible & common than we want to think. Blinded by the desires of the flesh. Praying for folks this is about a Pastors indiscretion it is dangerous in the congregation too & the church at large. I got spooked years ago getting late night inquiries by messenger from from a pastor. I felt an undertone in his words & the late hour of 10-11 pm. I gave short direct response & always included his wife by name in my response and it stopped after a few times. I had felt a strong prick in my spirit & it felt at the time it inappropriate, to this day I think GOD was red flagging it for me. Praise GOD, & I listened not dismissing it because he is well liked etc.. Totally never okay. We are in the flesh until we are glorified DON’T Be Naive! Thank you Brother James! 🙏🏼 🙏🏼🕊🙌🏼🔥
We should protect each other by never finding ourselves alone with the opposite sex for the sake of our brothers and sisters in Christ but foremost for our Lord Jesus.
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Maybe better to be born again/born of the Spirit (as Jesus says "you must be" in John 3) because then the law (Sermon on the Mount standard) is written in the heart of a regenerate person (Hebrews 8): the entire purpose of the New Covenant i.e that we be made pure as a child (Matthew 18:3) and live like Jesus (1 Corinthians 11:1) etc etc etc etc.
I mean, David saw Bathsheba naked and he reacted like an animal. He had no Holy Spirit indwelling (John 7:39, 14:16-17) and had little power over temptation (UNLIKE those of us who are under the New Covenant with the Holy Spirit indwelling: 1 Corinthians 10:13).
DO YOU BELIEVE THAT?
DO YOU BELIEVE/TRUST HIM IN GENERAL?
DO YOU BELIEVE WHAT'S WRITTEN IN EPHESIANS 3:20?
The answer is NOT to veer towards Taliban style customs!
The woman is not the problem.
There is ONE problem that is at the root of sin and of temptation that is overwhelming and that is being UNREGENERATE i.e still carnal (read Romans 8 regarding that and research "sarx/sarki", the Greek word translated as "flesh" i.e CARNAL, UNREDEEMED nature).
A regenerated, pure heart regards lost women (lost souls) with compassion and regenerate women as mothers or as sisters: not as prostitutes or something contagious to be avoided.
When that becomes the case, men are indistinguishable from religions like Islam and Roman Catholicism (in some countries).
It's a living denial of the resurrection power of the Holy Spirit and a dishonor to the name of CHRIST which *Christians* use!
This is such a wonderful video for the body. Thank you for making it and posting it. I have tried to explain this to others without such a clear execution.
Thank you brother for such a holy spirt guidance on this topic powerful May the lord Jesus continue to but more in your spirit to make more God Bless 🙏❤️
Our church has a rule book, ( I'm blanking its not the right term) pastors can't council women or underaged people 1 on 1. If a pastor is to council ha woman there has to be a third party involved. It can be an elder, another woman, her husband if married. For underaged people a parent has to be present.
This reminds me of the news about pastor Steve Lawson
According to one TH-camr, the affair lasted 5 years. Did it start in a similar manner? With the age of the woman, it could be a possibility that it started like this.
This also happens when daughters have poor relationships with their fathers and they each try to find a "replacement". It's a bit of a Freudian situation which sounds awful, but even Voddie Baucham made a video about it.
I had the same thought
@@justanotherfollower Hey, what’s the title of the video by Voddie Baucham?
@@justanotherfollower stay clear of gossip my friend
Had the same thought.
Mr.Jennings has always been such a great pastor / teacher.
0:00 - Introduction
3:56 - Example of how subtle this is...
9:03 - What does the Bible say?
13:00 - Is there a root cause?
15:38 - Vulnerable circumstances
16:23 - Workplace evangelism
17:02 - Women discipling men?
17:59 - What about an age gap?
20:07 - Don't overreact!
21:18 - Is your conscience clear?
22:49 - Where does this all end up?
25:08 - Conclusion
Really good, Brother James. Thanks.
Well said and explained. Thank you.
I was in this sin, I confessed to Jesus then a fellow sister in Christ and then my husband. I hate that I did that. My husband is my beloved one flesh…❤️🔥
Thank you for posting this. Honestly, I think setting boundaries are important for the Christian community, even in the things that are part of doing gospel ministries. I live in Las Vegas where people do not have time to get know their neighbor in general and my church encourages members to get to know one another through discipleship groups, bible studies, and events. How do I balance this? There is a season I can go and times I cannot go. I remind myself that I am a man under authority and I have the right to say no. Hopefully this helps anyone and please be wise in your choices.
Spectacular & always a timely message to GOD’s Glory James! 😇🙏🏼🕊🙌🏼🔥
What stinks is how quickly it can happen.
Preface: single, virgin, 30, never married, male.
I fall in love quickly, I get attached quickly. One of two things always happens,
1) come out quickly and get rejected because from their perspective I am going too quickly. (The fact is, my emotions always outpace the actual relationship, this is merely an effort to have the relationship keep pace) Once I get rejected, things quickly end up settling down.
2) not wanting to be rejected, I try to play it cool, take it slow, this ends up in heart idolatry, scaring the girl away, and causing untold pain to all parties involved.
None of the women I have fallen for have been married.
Excellent video!
Thank you so much for this message!! All glory to God for this message. This is exactly how it happens! I'm so thankful for you all sharing this wisdom with us, it is TRULY much needed!! I need this! 🙏
"Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.” - Matthew 26:41
I could give 100 thumbs up on that. 👏❤️🔥
Hidden PORNOGRAPHY addiction!! 💔Just as damaging!!
This is more widespread than anything
@ it’s the real pandemic!! And insidiously consuming people, marriages, and bleeds out into whole families!!💔
❤🙏 Sounds useful and helpful
Thank you for this
Please pray for me, for wisdom with all my relationships, please I've been very confused lately with one in particular. Please pray for me, I'm not married, and I'm lonely, and it's hard for me to get to church
God bless you. I can relate to the loneliness, but don't compromise on your Christian values. 🙏
Great video, thanks for posting.
Thank you for talking about this, naming it ...
I'm in such a difficult situation with a co-worker. He is my age and we talked too much. It started almost 2 years ago when I gave him evangelistic material and we talked about faith. He is a good listener and agnistic. But I was the one losing, because our conversations were interesting for him and he likes me and wanted us to be friends but I became feelings for him. I didn' t tell him how I feel, that this is the reason why I distanced myself l, but it's hard for me seeing him everyday at work. I don't know what he would do, if he knew... And I asked myself if I should leave my working place... Maybe the problem is just me, not a big deal and I can get over it...
What advise would you give me?
What to do, if there is this emotional bond? How can a person break it?
Is it possible without leaving the place?
You didn't mention if either or both of you are single.
@@akagrace91 both single
@@Winney67 well then it's not directly relevant to the topic of emotional adultery, but I can see your point. You can tell you're similarly on the verge of getting into an inappropriate relationship and it could be a good idea to stop it early. You don't want to get tied up with a non-believer.
Obviously I know nothing about the fellow, there's every possibility he's good and honest -- but there's also a possibility that he's pretending to be a sincere listener and purposely avoiding saying stuff that he knows would offend you, like, "I think the Bible is obviously a bunch of man-made bunk, only the stupid fall for it" even if that was his actual opinion. You should keep an eye open for this subtle kind of manipulation; as a godless man he has nothing to lose from making you like him.
Or maybe he's a decent person but you still have a problem. Can you afford to quit your job and find someplace else? I hear it's not so easy these days. I hope you wouldn't have to do that unless there's an actual good opportunity. You need to get over him though, besides praying to God that he'd be converted, for his own benefit. You need to refocus, like by talking to some other people more, or when you're alone then doing some specific bible studies to remind yourself what you prioritise more.
See: 2 Corinthians 6:14 🙂
@@akagrace91 Thank you for your advice.
I have to correct myself in my last answer: he claims to be gay and started a relationship with a man... Makes it even more confusing because he also shared other things, that make it unsure for me to believe it...
I don't want to share everything, but I think it shows the danger: he always told: where is your problem? you shouldn't have a problem having a friendship with me, because you know my attitude.
And yes, I know a lot about his attitudes. He does not realize what it can do with a women and I don't want to be the one who tells him... I think it would be unwise.
But all in all I just ask myself if it is possible to break an emotional bondage, that was wrongfully build up, without leaving the place, trying to be distant. I think it's a process, to heal...
2 Peter 2:9 KJV
[9] the Lord knoweth how to deliver the godly out of temptations, and to reserve the unjust unto the day of judgment to be punished:
1 Corinthians 10:13 KJV
[13] There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
1 John 5:4-5 KJV
[4] For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith. [5] Who is he that overcometh the world, but he that believeth that Jesus is the Son of God?
Put your trust in the Lord. If there's anything that you should repent of, confess it and trust God is faithful and just to forgive you your sins and cleanse you of all unrighteousness. I pray He gives you wisdom to make the right decisions and that you'll lack nothing in Him.
There is reason for ORDER.
How can i find the sermon on the emotional purity?
Thsnk you for the video
Hi, @VOLOKOTO. I’m one of the pastors here at I’ll Be Honest/Grace Community Church. I believe this is the sermon you’re looking for: tinysa.com/sermon/69131918460. Thanks.
As a Christian, I don't like the expression "spinning in his grave" but that's what David, Samson and Solomon would be doing if they knew 21st Century believers were thinking of them as "examples".
We're not told to imitate ANYONE apart from Jesus.
Even Paul (who was a "NEW CREATURE" after conversion (2 Corinthians 5:17) said: "imitate me AS I IMITATE CHRIST" (1 Corinthians 11:1).
NOWHERE in the NT are Christians referred to as "sinners".
We are referred to as "saints" (sanctified/holy ones) over 40 times, however.
We're not Jews living under the Old Covenant. The difference is HUGE and cost Jesus his life. The Cross and Resurrection is no small thing.
Prior to Pentecost, when the pressure was on, Peter cowered, hid, panicked and denied He even knew Jesus.
After the Resurrection and Pentecost, He was a different person, a "new creature" (2 Corinthians 5:17).
He fearlessly stood up in front of thousands and preached Truth and then He travelled around, sharing the Gospel and the Truth of Jesus. He no longer feared death.
There is zero comparison between living under the Old Covenant and living with Jesus indwelling (2 Corinthians 13:5).
He is the fulfilment of everything. He is God's "last word" (to paraphrase Hebrews 11:1-2)
He has given us EVERYTHING they didn't have in the Old Covenant, e.g.:
✅ the full forgiveness of sins
✅ the complete removal of the burden of guilt and shame for past sins
✅ the removal of the effect of past offenses and traumas (Luke 4:18)
✅ no more need for animal sacrifices
✅ full, eternal reconciliation to the Father (Romans 5:1 & 8:38-39)
✅ the full, completed canon of Scripture including Revelation, about the future
✅ the example of Jesus (so we "follow in His footsteps" (1 Peter 2:21)
✅ the examples of Paul, Peter, John and the other disciples (as seen through their letters and in Acts)
✅ the final defeat of death and evil by the cross (Colossians 2:15)
✅ VICTORY: 1 Corinthians 15:57
✅ the final defeat of Satan: (Acts 26:18, Colossians 1:13 & 2:15, 1 John 3:8)
✅ the final defeat of the power of sin so we are no longer its slaves (John 8:34-36, Romans 6, 1st Corinthians 15:17, 1st John 3:5-10, 5:2-3 & 5:18)
✅The PERMANENT indwelling of the Holy Spirit (John 7:39, 14:16-17, 1 Corinthians 3:16, Corinthians 13:5 etc)
✅The fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23)
✅ The Gifts of the Holy Spirit (Romans 12, 1 Corinthians 12 & 14)
✅The Comfort of the Holy Spirit (John 14 thru 16)
✅ the WISDOM of the Holy Spirit
✅ the Holy Spirit as our guide into all Truth and teacher (John 14:26 & 16:13
✅ Agape Love "shed abroad in our hearts": Romans 5:5, 1 Corinthians 13.
✅The ability to walk after the Spirit instead of the flesh (Galatians 5 & 6)
✅The ability to have fellowship with Christ as mediator between us and God without having to go to the temple and have a priest as mediator (1 Timothy 2:5)
✅Eternal life forever in His presence (promised by Jesus twelve times in John's Gospel alone)
And even more...
I live in a country in Europe where most people haven't even HEARD the true Gospel.
So many countries are the same: in Africa, most of Europe, Asia and Latin America.
Don't forget that Jesus says "TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN, MUCH WILL BE REQUIRED" (Luke 12:48).
Very relevant topic brother, thanks for sharing 👍. Question: you mentioned the wife who got pregnant by the younger man outside her marriage, so what do you think they should do with the child? A lot of people are still debating about abortion and they might bring up a case like this
Thou shalt not kill●
Matt Chandler is one that comes to mind
Is it wise for a pastor to counsel a married woman without her husband present?
No
No. The pastor should never be alone, both in person or email vice versa.
No
No, or at least without a third party present and her husband's awareness (if not presence)
Did you mean “without his wife”
Where can I find the story about the evangelist from the Welsh Revival who got deceived??
Amen
Guys, this is your call to run back to your wife and embrace her.
This can also happen to christians with same gender. So my conclusion is, this is not mainly an opposite-gender issue, its deeper. Alll kinds of adultery is spiritual. Its between God and his bride. His will vs the man's will.
Look, it’s all been decreed , nothing anyone can do about. Let’s be honest!!
James 1:13-14 - "Let no one say when he is tempted, ‘I am being tempted by God,’ for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one. But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire."
@@illbehonest very good! You reject reformed Calvinism theologies?!
@@truthseeker5698 I'm one of the pastors here. We are concerned with what Scripture says, not what men's systems might or might not say. If what we teaches aligns with what some call "Calvinism," then it does. If it does not match with what one defines as Calvinism, then it doesn't. Our focus is what the Scripture says, not what men say. Thanks.
@@jeffgccsatx Then you’d agree there is stewardship response ability inferred in the verse cited above.
This would debunk Calvinism reformed theology, where that deity has decreed all.
WCF 3:1 The authors of this use Bible verses to proof text their claims.
Begging the question is a mere surface level response.
@@truthseeker5698 We are not concerned with what the WCF says. There are many different opinions as to what is and isn’t “Calvinism.” I am just telling you where we stand. Thanks.
Wow 😳
Seems like a weird way to assume what Lawson did started this way.
This video is not in any way an attempt to suggest that "what Lawson did started this way." The script was written years ago, but I never recorded or posted it until now. Yes, recent events with Lawson brought it back to mind, and I felt it was the right time to finish and share it. However, none of the examples in the video are referring to Lawson, as they were from years ago.
PLEASE MAKE A FRENCH TRANSLATION,
I want to share it
You don't need one! Read the New Testament (minimum the Gospel of John) and encourage others to read it.
The solution is in there.
@@leenieledejo6849 haha! Sounds a bit prideful, buddy!
We acknowledge the gift of other brothers and sisters sometimes by encouraging them through spreading their gifted wisdom summarized in a video like this.
Let’s be humble.
Whoa! 😮 Uh-oh!
The reformed community is the most vulnerable because their always the ones that hate things like Headcoverings, modest clothing, not drinking, not hanging out at bars, , not allowing women to teach women , wanting women home and the list is endless. So of course conversations with married men is a free for all for most but not all.
As a person in the reformed community, who is writing this while wearing my headcovering and my modest dress, after working a long day at home with my 10 children, having never touched alcohol since I was saved at age 19, who has encouraged many older women that they need to be teaching the younger women to be sensible, pure, workers at home, subject to their own husbands, etc..., I think you may have been misinformed about what the reformed community believes.
Paul Washer says he is a reformed Baptist, and maybe the beliefs differ from another's reformed theology, but I have taken issue with the idea that they believe Christians are just relabeled sinners: meaning that they get their past sins washed away, but then pity-excused from God the rest of their life for sins they claim they cannot stop doing. What poison and denial of the power of the Holy Spirit!
Jesus said, "If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed."
Only those who walk after the flesh and not after the Spirit are slaves to sin.
In Christ, we don't excuse sin because "we're only human", and say "we're all sinners. We are now in the Spirit. Saints are not sinners. We overcome evil with good through the grace of God by the Spirit within us.
@@pjkneeOh come
on, reformed theology is just Biblical theology. Secondly, please read or listen to anybody like Charles Spurgeon, John Bunyan, Jonathan Edwards, Paul Washer, etc. Everybody condemns worldliness & partaking in the works of evil.
You have added traditions of men to the Bible
About 16 mins or just before:
If a woman is looking solely to her husband for her emotional needs to be met then she is not a Christian by definition i.e she is not a child of God and has no Holy Spirit indwelling (John 1:12-13, chapter 3 & 14:16-17, Romans 8:9).
Same with a man looking to his wife to meet his emotional needs.
Always best to get to the ROOT of the problem.
God is referred to as "FATHER", Jesus as "brother" and "bridegroom".
It's a relationship and if it's not THE relationship then it's no relationship.
I do not believe that a pastor should counsel women one on one. The only women that pastor should counsel one on one is his wife if he has one. It is not a pastors job to be counseling women alone.
Amen