Deep breath, soothing music, tapping fingers, journaling, self motivation and positive thinking, working hard at school and my job, loving others and giving them a little glimpse of joy, exercise, talking, therapy, taking breaks, treating myself, living (not serving)!!!!
Thank you, Leah! Many of us have inherited inter-generational trauma and many of us are wounded healers, hoping and praying that we're not impacting yet another generation.
Great talk. Unfortunately, many people don't have access to trauma informed therapists (especially one who has properly done their own work) and often insurance doesn't cover them, so even if someone is more than willing to do the work, the resources are unavailable.
I am first generation American Polish. I am in tears watching this Ted talk. My story is similar about my family, my grandmother, and myself. Thank you so much for sharing your story and educating us on inherited intergenerational trauma.. I too am proud and Polish. ❤🤍
Intergenerational trauma is also the legacy of Aboriginal people around the world, as well as those taken as slaves, and any people who have been systematically targeted as being not worthy.
Mom suffered through korean war then beat us. The _only_ thing that healed me was nature. Human world is too heavy. I only feel safe in the forest. Without trees and wildlife, im pretty sure i wouldve done the deed. Thank you for saving my life, Mother Earth ❤
this was somehow a blessing to me. I kinda feel empowered to deal with that intergenerate trauma and it may be a part of me but still it doesn´t make who I am. I also am affected by this.I grew up without war or hunger. My grandmother, who died being 99 years old, suffered in WWII too, but she was german and so am I. But also it caused intergenerate trauma. I want to add: I deeply am sorry for what my german ancestors did, I really am. The war was bad and she had 2 little children and her husband went missing in the war...I could write a book. When there was fire alarm, she fled with them to a security room for protection. Later she lost home. Sometime she worked on a farm in the mountains being sick of the fire alarm that woke up her and the children in the middle of the night to rush to security. , and to provide for her children to get food, all alone. Later after the war, she, her new husband and my mom(still a little child). fled out of DDR regime leaving behind money and home and wealth and part of the grown up family. here in the south of germany they had to work hard to earn enough money to life and buy furniture starting at point zero, not having much. Funny, my granddad and mother have/had hard time to throw away dead flowers too. I loved how Leah stayed respectful talking about her grandmother without neglecting the trauma.) Thank you Leah and Ted X.
She's not figured out yet that she was a victim of complex trauma herself. She's lost thinking it's trauma she didn't experience... While there is an epigenetic component, she also admits she never saw her parents cry and remembers laughter, so that means only certain emotions were allowed so she didn't feel safe. This girl needs to go learn about complex trauma.
Yeah she has both probably ...wow I can really feel her anxiety throughout the video...and when she talks it sounds like she cant breathe. Hope she finds ways to heal one day
@Inflatable Film This was fantastic. Especially coming into it with the lens of having gotten to see and experience 'Big Sonia' and talk about the experience with you and Todd after the screening. Thank you for sharing your story, Leah! Big hugs to you and Todd from back in the great PNW.
I hate this TedTalk just something about this TedTalk just triggered me it's probably the way the speaker makes trauma sound like it's nothing. 😑😑😑😑😑😒😒😒😒😒😒😒
I sound like this when recounting my trauma... like I’m just rattling off a grocery list in a monotone voice... many people do, for me its a result of coping mechanisms put in place years ago and of being so emotionally overwhelmed at the times you were traumatized, that your emotional responses become numbed and blunted at other times in response.
@@KarmasAbutch I relate to this 100%. I always refer to it as distancing myself from the situation. It was how I handled being treated for non-hodgkins lymphoma.
Deep breath, soothing music, tapping fingers, journaling, self motivation and positive thinking, working hard at school and my job, loving others and giving them a little glimpse of joy, exercise, talking, therapy, taking breaks, treating myself, living (not serving)!!!!
Thank you, Leah! Many of us have inherited inter-generational trauma and many of us are wounded healers, hoping and praying that we're not impacting yet another generation.
Well said, Zina!!
generational trauma does nit exist.
@@brittanyhayes1043weird that you are so confident in your wrong-ness
@@brittanyhayes1043I’m not even sure *why* you would say this…?
@ultravioletpisces3666 Because it dosent exist. You are actually wrong.
I like her voice. Emotionally charged topics like this is easier for me to listen to when the speaker is calm.
but real, very real
@@aunabreslingaming3279 yeah
@@karatecat46 calm, genuine, peaceful.
10:20 "who am I to complain about anything". this. a million times this. this is a part of - if not the main part of - the illness.
It’s life changing when you learn this is your problem!!!!
Great talk. Unfortunately, many people don't have access to trauma informed therapists (especially one who has properly done their own work) and often insurance doesn't cover them, so even if someone is more than willing to do the work, the resources are unavailable.
I am first generation American Polish. I am in tears watching this Ted talk. My story is similar about my family, my grandmother, and myself. Thank you so much for sharing your story and educating us on inherited intergenerational trauma.. I too am proud and Polish. ❤🤍
Intergenerational trauma is also the legacy of Aboriginal people around the world, as well as those taken as slaves, and any people who have been systematically targeted as being not worthy.
You di realize generational trauma is fake right?
Mom suffered through korean war then beat us. The _only_ thing that healed me was nature. Human world is too heavy. I only feel safe in the forest. Without trees and wildlife, im pretty sure i wouldve done the deed. Thank you for saving my life, Mother Earth ❤
Sonia is indeed destined for greatness . Great great talk. Inspiring, Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true .
this was somehow a blessing to me. I kinda feel empowered to deal with that intergenerate trauma and it may be a part of me but still it doesn´t make who I am. I also am affected by this.I grew up without war or hunger. My grandmother, who died being 99 years old, suffered in WWII too, but she was german and so am I. But also it caused intergenerate trauma. I want to add: I deeply am sorry for what my german ancestors did, I really am. The war was bad and she had 2 little children and her husband went missing in the war...I could write a book. When there was fire alarm, she fled with them to a security room for protection. Later she lost home. Sometime she worked on a farm in the mountains being sick of the fire alarm that woke up her and the children in the middle of the night to rush to security. , and to provide for her children to get food, all alone.
Later after the war, she, her new husband and my mom(still a little child). fled out of DDR regime leaving behind money and home and wealth and part of the grown up family. here in the south of germany they had to work hard to earn enough money to life and buy furniture starting at point zero, not having much. Funny, my granddad and mother have/had hard time to throw away dead flowers too. I loved how Leah stayed respectful talking about her grandmother without neglecting the trauma.) Thank you Leah and Ted X.
Everything she said is something we all can relate to on some level or another...at least I can. Keeping busy is good. We all are in this together.
well done Leah...so poised and well-delivered. you're a natural!
Thank you so much Todd - I'm just seeing this comment now, sorry for the late reply... Grateful for your support!
She's not figured out yet that she was a victim of complex trauma herself. She's lost thinking it's trauma she didn't experience... While there is an epigenetic component, she also admits she never saw her parents cry and remembers laughter, so that means only certain emotions were allowed so she didn't feel safe.
This girl needs to go learn about complex trauma.
Yeah she has both probably ...wow I can really feel her anxiety throughout the video...and when she talks it sounds like she cant breathe. Hope she finds ways to heal one day
Thank you for this. ❤
As an israeli jewish woman looking for videos to cope with the horrors of october 7th what a surprise the video is on my actual ancestors trauma💔🇮🇱
The audience was soo bland :( they didn’t laugh at any of her jokes. This is a fantastic TED talk!!
I thought the exact same thing
Thank you for sharing your story Leah!
Thank you for watching Monika!
Thank you. This is a wonderful talk.
You are extraordinary Leah. Your talk makes my heart swell.
Thank you Connie!
Good talk.
@Inflatable Film This was fantastic. Especially coming into it with the lens of having gotten to see and experience 'Big Sonia' and talk about the experience with you and Todd after the screening. Thank you for sharing your story, Leah! Big hugs to you and Todd from back in the great PNW.
Great talk, thank you for sharing!
So sad, that people can do such terrible things to other people. upsetting
That’s also a thing I think everyone has trauma from childhood/ ect so we have to acknowledge difference ect
This was one of the best TedTalks I've ever seen. Thank you
The operative Q should be - How does one cope with both????🤦🏼♀️😭
i'm definitely dealing with this right now.. it's not fun
Great video!
Your Trauma is because of all the ways Sonia made you feel not good enough. You were emotionally abused.
The title is misleading. You get to 12 minutes and 49 seconds before she gets into generational trauma.
I believe, we do choose our parents.
❤️❤️❤️
Amen
If you didn't experience the trauma then it should not affect you.
Sounds like The Inqubasitor story
what's that?
I hate this TedTalk just something about this TedTalk just triggered me it's probably the way the speaker makes trauma sound like it's nothing. 😑😑😑😑😑😒😒😒😒😒😒😒
Renee Smith I think it sounds like nothing coming from because she’s healing
watching the documentary "Big Sonia" helped me understand the context for this TED talk.
I sound like this when recounting my trauma... like I’m just rattling off a grocery list in a monotone voice... many people do, for me its a result of coping mechanisms put in place years ago and of being so emotionally overwhelmed at the times you were traumatized, that your emotional responses become numbed and blunted at other times in response.
@@KarmasAbutch I relate to this 100%. I always refer to it as distancing myself from the situation. It was how I handled being treated for non-hodgkins lymphoma.
Coping with trauma doesn't mean to be dramatic. 🙏