So beautiful to see a young woman speaking with such conviction. I'm a 23 year old and my social anxiety is severe, I can't imagine speaking from the heart as she is doing. So in awe of her speaking her truth.
I've done a fair bit of research on the effects of developmental trauma. Your video made me feel so proud of you for creating such a comprehensive and eye opening talk. And you are still young. I didn't start on this track until I was 48. I wish you the absolute best. Much healing, and a future that doesn't have to be compromised by the effects of trauma. Thank you for sharing parts of yourself, and I hope you continue to carry this message to your peer group.
Young lady you just became my official spokeswoman for explaining my thoughts about mental health challenges!! Can you please explore a career in saving lives because I know this Ted talk episode is overwhelming to me!! In a good way? At least I was able to listen to this 8 times in 2 days!! And I still must watch it several more times to make sure I don't have any reason to be scared or shameful about my childhood I started my childhood after age 6 to be the man of the house after my mom and dad divorced my dad placed me as man of the house to protect, feed, assist, coach take care of everything if moma gets sick!! The job became way to big I failed I left my family abandoned without a man of the house when I ran away at age 10 I found a set of RR tracks that led me to a beautiful lake out in the middle of nowhere I had to walk 3.9 miles one way to get there. But it was peaceful! With zero distractions no human beings especially men!! And I would always stop at a little store off of the railroad and get a bag of buttered popcorn for $0.15 and I would feed the fish in the lake until they would almost blow up these big old fish became my best friends because I just wanted friends at age 9 I didn't want to be the man of the house I just wanted to be a friend of somebody's and I got punished a lot for not holding up to my promise of being the man of the house when my father left after having five affairs on my mother !! I remember I would always have to kiss my mom on the cheek every single night no matter where she was in the house because I was afraid somebody was going to take her away from me at any time so I had to cuddle her and make sure she was okay I watched her cry all the time and I would walk over and tell her I was sorry that I made her cry because somebody kept telling me that my mother and father decided not to be together because of me and that was the truth it still is I didn't have the ability to be a man of the house and I let a lot of people down!! Actually my mother cuz she was the only person that was allowed to talk to me or kiss me or tell me that she loved me no one else was allowed to do that!! It causes me a great deal of pain and shame if you want me to tell you I love you I will not do that men of the house do not show vulnerability ever!! So I'm going to stop here because my point was to congratulate this young lady on the stage and tell her she is very special she allowed me to talk about this today thank you!!
I recently was held at gunpoint for the first time. In the moment I felt nothing but confusion because I did nothing for it to lead to that moment, however as time went on I found myself getting angry and I also felt hate developing in my heart because I felt as though I truly didn’t deserve that. I thank God for keeping me, and my anger is no aimed at God but at the individual that held me at gunpoint because it did not feel good at all. I’ve prayed a lot about it , and I’ve revisited my past by playing old video games and watching old movies and shows that I use to watch when I was younger so that I could reconnect with myself. Slowly but surely I’m starting to feel better but I can’t rush this process. I feel as though trauma is like a physical wound, it could possibly be healed but depending on the damage it may not be the same as before , so like every other human has done , you must adapt I guess .But anyways I must move more careful and mind nobody’s business but my own. This situation did very well give me trust issues, but I don’t wanna give up on humanity.
I was so enthralled with the part where she discussed how the trauma could affect the hippocampus, which entails hampering learning and memory. That is the story of my life!
AWESOME to watch. Lovely to see you spreading such a positive attitude on this topic. A topic which is personally very close to my heart. Much respect to you on your presentation. My heart goes out to you and your family and truly wish you all the best on your healing journey. Mental illness touches most at some stage or another in our lives. Sadly some worse than others. The sooner we all see that caring for our brain is just as (if not MORE) important as watching our waist line and brushing our teeth twice daily....THE BETTER and HAPPIER we shall be as a society.
The most important way to overcome past trauma which is usually childhood--to go out and succeed anyway. Something I told my own subscribers this week. As I see this daily as a healthcare provider. People who are destroyed adults because they couldn't outrun a terrible childhood. Too many times this becomes the excuse to give up. The reason someone won't try. "Because this (fill in the blank) happened to me." Now understand I am not discounting terrible childhoods. I had one as well. What I am saying is that the world doesn't care. It is totally indifferent. It may owe you but good luck trying to collect. The only way to collect your due is to go out and seek it, pursue it and take it back from the universe. The stories of great triumph are rarely without great adversity--ever notice that? Most will lie down to bad circumstances. But those who get up and fight back will insure that their story is a great one. Hope this helps someone out there---keep being great---Charles.
Traumatic experiences has been around for a very long times with the youth of today. Trauma is something that most children don't recognize or realize why these emotional feelings have evolved in there lives. So much hatred and misunderstanding that aren't being address or realized that there is a real serious problem with pur youth of today.
Gentle tapping on back,below neck region helps a lot to rejoin your mind and heart in mental trauma or fright if there is crevasse in your mind and heart pain in your heart disgust in your heart frustration in heart mental blank blackout Please you you you yes you try it out it helped a lot a lot made lot of difference.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I agree with everything except the "there's nothing they can do about it". Very victim mentality, if you went through a trauma then it is your responsibility to heal and be better, you can recover from it. Not saying you can't love them or have understanding but there are steps you can take go overcome these traumas, coming from someone who has them himself
It's extremely invalidating and cruel to dismiss as "victim mentality" the experience of many people who are, in fact, victims. The world isn't all butterflies and sometimes there really is nothing you can do to heal if you don't have the necessary conditions. Rather than blame people for what you think is "victim mentality", you should be more understanding.
Agreed. Gabor Mate and others have done work to expose that myth. It's disappointing more professionals aren't willing to own up to the truth and keep hoping for miracles.
I was touched just by the title because I feel as if trauma, even after years of therapy, leaves scars in us that can be seen once in a while
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So beautiful to see a young woman speaking with such conviction. I'm a 23 year old and my social anxiety is severe, I can't imagine speaking from the heart as she is doing. So in awe of her speaking her truth.
I've done a fair bit of research on the effects of developmental trauma. Your video made me feel so proud of you for creating such a comprehensive and eye opening talk. And you are still young. I didn't start on this track until I was 48. I wish you the absolute best. Much healing, and a future that doesn't have to be compromised by the effects of trauma. Thank you for sharing parts of yourself, and I hope you continue to carry this message to your peer group.
Young lady you just became my official spokeswoman for explaining my thoughts about mental health challenges!! Can you please explore a career in saving lives because I know this Ted talk episode is overwhelming to me!! In a good way? At least I was able to listen to this 8 times in 2 days!! And I still must watch it several more times to make sure I don't have any reason to be scared or shameful about my childhood I started my childhood after age 6 to be the man of the house after my mom and dad divorced my dad placed me as man of the house to protect, feed, assist, coach take care of everything if moma gets sick!! The job became way to big I failed I left my family abandoned without a man of the house when I ran away at age 10 I found a set of RR tracks that led me to a beautiful lake out in the middle of nowhere I had to walk 3.9 miles one way to get there. But it was peaceful! With zero distractions no human beings especially men!! And I would always stop at a little store off of the railroad and get a bag of buttered popcorn for $0.15 and I would feed the fish in the lake until they would almost blow up these big old fish became my best friends because I just wanted friends at age 9 I didn't want to be the man of the house I just wanted to be a friend of somebody's and I got punished a lot for not holding up to my promise of being the man of the house when my father left after having five affairs on my mother !! I remember I would always have to kiss my mom on the cheek every single night no matter where she was in the house because I was afraid somebody was going to take her away from me at any time so I had to cuddle her and make sure she was okay I watched her cry all the time and I would walk over and tell her I was sorry that I made her cry because somebody kept telling me that my mother and father decided not to be together because of me and that was the truth it still is I didn't have the ability to be a man of the house and I let a lot of people down!! Actually my mother cuz she was the only person that was allowed to talk to me or kiss me or tell me that she loved me no one else was allowed to do that!! It causes me a great deal of pain and shame if you want me to tell you I love you I will not do that men of the house do not show vulnerability ever!! So I'm going to stop here because my point was to congratulate this young lady on the stage and tell her she is very special she allowed me to talk about this today thank you!!
I recently was held at gunpoint for the first time. In the moment I felt nothing but confusion because I did nothing for it to lead to that moment, however as time went on I found myself getting angry and I also felt hate developing in my heart because I felt as though I truly didn’t deserve that. I thank God for keeping me, and my anger is no aimed at God but at the individual that held me at gunpoint because it did not feel good at all. I’ve prayed a lot about it , and I’ve revisited my past by playing old video games and watching old movies and shows that I use to watch when I was younger so that I could reconnect with myself. Slowly but surely I’m starting to feel better but I can’t rush this process. I feel as though trauma is like a physical wound, it could possibly be healed but depending on the damage it may not be the same as before , so like every other human has done , you must adapt I guess .But anyways I must move more careful and mind nobody’s business but my own. This situation did very well give me trust issues, but I don’t wanna give up on humanity.
I was so enthralled with the part where she discussed how the trauma could affect the hippocampus, which entails hampering learning and memory. That is the story of my life!
I’m watching this right now because I ruined something special because of my emotional trauma. It sucks
What an excellent talk form this young woman!!! Sorry you had such a traumatic childhood. Wishing you, your sisters and brother healing.
AWESOME to watch. Lovely to see you spreading such a positive attitude on this topic. A topic which is personally very close to my heart. Much respect to you on your presentation. My heart goes out to you and your family and truly wish you all the best on your healing journey.
Mental illness touches most at some stage or another in our lives. Sadly some worse than others.
The sooner we all see that caring for our brain is just as (if not MORE) important as watching our waist line and brushing our teeth twice daily....THE BETTER and HAPPIER we shall be as a society.
The most important way to overcome past trauma which is usually childhood--to go out and succeed anyway. Something I told my own subscribers this week. As I see this daily as a healthcare provider. People who are destroyed adults because they couldn't outrun a terrible childhood. Too many times this becomes the excuse to give up. The reason someone won't try. "Because this (fill in the blank) happened to me." Now understand I am not discounting terrible childhoods. I had one as well. What I am saying is that the world doesn't care. It is totally indifferent. It may owe you but good luck trying to collect. The only way to collect your due is to go out and seek it, pursue it and take it back from the universe. The stories of great triumph are rarely without great adversity--ever notice that? Most will lie down to bad circumstances. But those who get up and fight back will insure that their story is a great one. Hope this helps someone out there---keep being great---Charles.
Everyone is not a "fighter". There are gentler ways to heal.
Many of us are not as 'strong'...
compassion is required to heal...
Thank you for helping me answer some questions I’ve had as a child. This is a vulnerable and authentic speech.
Traumatic experiences has been around for a very long times with the youth of today. Trauma is something that most children don't recognize or realize why these emotional feelings have evolved in there lives. So much hatred and misunderstanding that aren't being address or realized that there is a real serious problem with pur youth of today.
Amazing for my class today "let's talk" couldn't thank u enough!
Gentle tapping on back,below neck region helps a lot to rejoin your mind and heart in mental trauma or fright if there is crevasse in your mind and heart pain in your heart disgust in your heart frustration in heart mental blank blackout
Please you you you yes you try it out it helped a lot a lot made lot of difference.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Since 12 I will never look at the world the same and that’s led to more trauma.
It’s a blessing to have had incompatible parents divorce.
THIS IS SO GOOD, absolutely nailed so may points concisely!!!
Thank you.............
I can't find the book "living under the room of my own bully" help?
This was excellently done❤
I fell at school & it’s still on my knee
I agree with everything except the "there's nothing they can do about it". Very victim mentality, if you went through a trauma then it is your responsibility to heal and be better, you can recover from it. Not saying you can't love them or have understanding but there are steps you can take go overcome these traumas, coming from someone who has them himself
It's extremely invalidating and cruel to dismiss as "victim mentality" the experience of many people who are, in fact, victims. The world isn't all butterflies and sometimes there really is nothing you can do to heal if you don't have the necessary conditions. Rather than blame people for what you think is "victim mentality", you should be more understanding.
Let's stop talking about trauma and get to preventing it
Both
Thaaaank Youuu! lol
= Healings 2022=
= Me & My biologic mom
A title to make people give up...
I dont even get therapy and I can confirm my trauma is getting worse :)
Why mental hospital tie people up is bad
Demons aren't going to listen to you. They get off on hearing about your pain and suffering and they make it even worse.
Depression is not purely scientific
Oh yes it is.
Elaborate granted my comprehension skills arent the best i admit but like isnt everything scientific depending on how you look at it
Agreed. Gabor Mate and others have done work to expose that myth. It's disappointing more professionals aren't willing to own up to the truth and keep hoping for miracles.