Texting games played by a narcissist can be incredibly manipulative and emotionally draining. These individuals often use tactics like gaslighting, manipulation, and withholding information to gain power and control over others. It's important to recognize that engaging in these games only perpetuates their toxic behavior and enables their narcissistic tendencies. Instead, setting clear boundaries, practicing self-care, and focusing on our own well-being becomes crucial when dealing with such individuals. By refusing to participate in their games and prioritizing our own mental and emotional health, we take a powerful step towards breaking free from their manipulative grip. Remember, we deserve healthy and respectful communication, and it's okay to distance ourselves from those who engage in destructive texting games.
No answering, or a purposefully delayed response is manipulation through and through. It creates an addiction in you, a trauma bond. You think about them constantly. Questioning, Worrying, Obsession. You give them all your time and energy. And all the Narc has to do- Nothing!! Thank you Andrew, I hope you are doing well have a nice afternoon. ❤🙏😊
Oh god 🤦 I remember those *years*. So much time wasted I can't ever get back. So much stress waiting up for them to walk through the door. I can't believe I ever had that drama in my life. The things we all put up with before we "Get The Message."
I had this happen to me the last few months and was discarded on Christmas 🎁 Night (2023)! Interesting, I didn't realize it was intentional and could create trauma bonding, but, that does make sense. Thanks for your insight.
I end3d up in a trauma ward for 4 hours, after he did what he did. His eyes! I will never forget it! That happened 6 months ago, and I'm under therapeutic care. Please, if anyone feels something isn't right, run!!!! He is right, they really are boring individuals.
Hope he's long gone and you're healing well. Yes, a Narc will be boring because anyone withholding open communication for a hidden agenda will just try to absorb more info to manipulate. Hidden behind that boring wall to protect their insecurity, I get ill just thinking about Narc Bores I have met.
Andrew is spot on here friends, the moment you receive an “accidental” text like this, run like h*ll, immediately. Please don’t wait. Get out of there and never look back.
I had a one day friend last week. The texts were so long and so quickly sent, there is no way they were real time compositions! I “ love the energy in your photoS” I have ONE photo…lol
The narcissist will leave your messages on read in messenger. No reply. Then after you stop sending them anymore messages, they will accuse you of ignoring them when they decide to message you back.
I was told “ even grocery shopping is fun with you “ at the outset of the relationship. Years later , we were shopping and he was complaining. I asked him about his message years ago and he responded “ I Was Lying “! He said this to my face without even blinking.
Everything these people do is a twisted, self-serving game. And please believe, you are not the first, and you won't be the last. They only get worse over time. Several months after my discard, and finally coming out of the Fog. As we all can agree, everything you say is 100% accurate, Andrew. My ex narc loved to send the same emojis, GIFs, and scripted BS to all of his Supply. Found this out after the fact, and after discovering what narcissism really is, and what the heck had just happened to me. Please hang in there, and believe that it does get better.❤
Narcissists weaponize *all* forms of communication. When I broke up with a Narcissist I realized that she was trying to get me to *argue* (via text) because that's an excellent method to draw the supply back into the #relationshit. ~From *their* perspective *any* communicaiton is better (it's all supply...) -and it has the potential to lead to a #Hoover ~ *which they will have already prepared for.* That's when/why I went #NoContact. ~Thank you, Andrew. 👍
Thank you for this explanation. I WAS drawn back in for a little while and when I spoke THE FACTS- it EXPOSED where her TRUTH LIED. ( Even made reference to "LIED" as HER FALSE NARRATIVE of the "FACTS." Blocked her but 1 text still came through, this is when I BLOCKED her and responded to HER FALSE NARRATIVE. 😔😔😔
I've noticed narcissist friends will text you to invite you to an event that has already started or is almost over. But if they really wanted you there, they would have texted you beforehand and allowed you a chance to make plans
So true, I am thankful it is in the past for me. It was sick how a text from the narc could sway my mind and energy off course. The texts were a big part of the confusion and the pace of the texts....hot=often and engaging to cold=days, up to over a week of nothing and out of no where a short sterile text. It was all a sick game and when he would see me healing or moving on the texts would pick up and he would show "interest" in me and what I have been up to. Made more sense when I found out about his other supplies. Just gross.
@@tinydancer62 I am sorry to hear that. It is unnecessary and destroys sense of reality for people like us. We are above it now. Does not mean it isn't hurtful or confusing still...but I hope you know and feel that you are the prize with a heart that is capable of love and loyalty. We aren't weak minded and the narc won't be messing with us any longer once they know we know they were in it to steal our personality and use it as their own. Just ew! Haha
He cashapped me 5 dollars to reach me. I ignored him for so long. Then, I fell for it again. I even told him I was in love with him. He would leave me voice messages rather than texts. They were always labeled “voice message -my name - and sequence number” then I got one that said “ voice message - new conversation - 46” the lightbulb hit me hard there. He tried to say that the phone randomly assigns names. So it randomly typed in my name? 45 other messages went to “new conversation.” Not me. I was right about so many other things and that was my lightbulb moment. I truly hate him.
I am glad I stopped using cell phones in 2017. Life is much simpler. I do not need anyone controlling where I am at any given moment, manipulating me with their texts, and then using my texts against me.
I actually told my brother that he was never to ever be near me again with his cell phone in his hand. That was a year ago, last May. He had used it against me. I don't carry a cell phone. I hear you.
@@kathleencondit1660 Sadly for me it was my adult son, my only child. We do not really need cell phones. There are plenty of good people around to help me if I need help and those nasty ones do not know that we don't have the cell phone to call for help. I don't see any logic in it to be connected to a phone all the time.
I love snail mail. The iPhone has screwed us royally cuz there's no barriers or filters. All info is intercepted, scanned, weaponized against the empath. High jack 101. So happy to out of the narcissistic relationship. My god what a hell storm. To all the newbies, one step at a time, it does get better and some days are magical and amazing.
Oh my my my ! Absolute truth again. You called it out right in the spot. People please listen to these post. You can save yourself from these narc demons. Stop the madness ! You deserve so much better !
Thank you, Andrew for this excellent video. 3 weeks ago I ended a long-term relationship with a narcissist. Last week, out of the blue, he sent me a generic text to let me know he arrived somewhere "safe and sound".. As Andrew said, it totally disrupted my energy, as I am on the healing path from the trauma of ending this relationship. All of the things that are discussed in this video happened to me during the course of the relationship. He constantly used his smart phone to weaponize me and to triangulate me with his many sources of supply.
tinydancer6949, when I left my narc, I changed my phone number, I got off social media and I moved. I am better off! 👍 HE NEVER FOUND ME. It's been 12.6 years.❤🤜🤛
I blocked a person from all my social media... however, not wanting to change my phone number, the garbage texts still end up in my spam folders. It's still annoying and unsettling. I may still change my number.
@@emilywilson7308 I can, but to be honest, that would be really challenging for me at this point, emotionally speaking. I definitely know that I should, and that it would help me to heal faster.
Going no contact and blocking someone (phone or email), is sometimes difficult because people can call, text or email from a different number or email account. They can use phones or email accounts belonging to family members, friends or work phones/computers to try to bypass the block. It’s impossible to control. The only recourse is to not answer any unknown numbers or email accounts.
texting with a narc is a whole other level of crazy. I literally will not text people/friends unless we are super close and I know it's a healthy relationship. It's never worth it.
Im an only child and have never been on social media. But my narcissistic ex still found ways to consistently abuse me. Mind games and a horrible roller coster ride from hell.
It's generally a *whole production* when you attrmpt the most basic communication. It's *always something.* They don't get back to you. They didn't hear the phone ring. Their "battery died." They claim they never got a msg. And they weaponize technical incompetence so keep "forgetting" how to use a phone, or voicemail, or text. You can show them 1000 times, & somehow the same exact problem happens everytime it's something important to you (never to them, naturally. they'll never be inconvenienced). Whatever's gone askew in communication, it always benefits them. When it's smooth, that only indicates they're reaching you for supply. Miraculously, they can use a phone properly. And don't forget if you say NO about a favor, something they want, they dump you. Happened to me 35+ years back. I said no to sham-marrying my sibling's boyfriend to keep him in the u.s. & he could get citizenship. For free, of course. Yeah. No.
They like to triangulate on social media for sure. My ex invited me to 80’s rock group pages (and honestly he’s addicted to being the eternal teenager) I even began denying some invites bc how many dang groups like this does one need to belong to? And I’d get a second and even a third invite. So I joined only to see him flirting with other women! I wasn’t playing that game. This was towards the end and I knew it was coming. I wasn’t going to give him his reaction. I deleted him from my accounts and blocked him. I never unblocked. At some point you have to grow back the spine they tore from you and give them the mental finger, grey rock, and move on. Game playing is a real wake up call for me, and turns my switch right off. Done! 👋🏻 Please love yourself enough to leave.
I blocked him on everything (emails, phone, apps, etc.and he still find ways to reach out. However, i never respond i always block, this is extremely exhausting. I just want to be left alone! Next step is changing my number which i have had for years.
The one narcissist I dealt with always used messenger instead of text, and would have rage fits and then begin deleting line by line what they said. Happened several times toward the end, because they knew it made me react in a defensive way telling them to grow up and get help, and then could also show others that I'm the bad guy, and they did nothing wrong. Double supply.
Actually "responded" rather than "reacted." CONGRATULATED said " NARC" if she "DID"get help and pointed out her "child" was of "age of "majority" ( 18+ ). Further pointed out she MAY have been DISTORTING the "facts," to fit her FALSE NARRATIVE. Text to HER ONLY but PUBLIC text displayed ONLY SUPPORT and then DOUBT as to HER AUTHENTICITY. 😔😔😔
💯 Mine would do this before his nightly trip to the bar to show his friends how bad I was 🤦♀️ or sometimes he would just upset me before he left knowing I’d have a comeback and would hurry up and leave the house.
yep. for real. they also expect you to be glued to the phone, respond to them immediately, & be at their beck and call (literally), while they are at their leisure
Hornet's nest. Perfect description. Just a few text messaged words can injure and devastate. You could write an entire book on this topic. I know all too well what you're speaking about.
Sorry you had to experience the narc abuse. 😔😔😔 I AM believing its why Andrew's channel ( and other(s) channel(s) ) like it are SO IMPORTANT to TODAY'S SOCIETY. Educating about NARCICCISM is the ONLY way to destroy it!!! 🙂 What is "done in the dark" < behind closed doors, etc > , when "brought to the light" < exposed > can/will be CORRECTED!!! 🙂
@suesanders1169 yes, thankyou. We hear the term in mainstream media.. to describe politicians etc. Zero said about narcissism on micro level within family circles. Thank goodness Andrew's Yt channel and others fill the knowledge gap.
This is exactly what they do. They are boring and they pretend to be visiting all places around the world, including Kenya🇰🇪 while they have not even moved away from their village. I totally agree with you one minute with an Narcissist is far too long.
I prefer texting. I know myself well, and I'm not a people person. I hate talking on the phone. My ex narc loved phone calls, and would talk for hours about himself if you'd let him. What I hate about texting is that "they" have access to our private communications. It is an invasion of privacy. Luckily the ex narc doesn't text me. I heard enough insults, put downs, etc., to last a lifetime when with him.
A robot or Mr Spock 🤣🤣🤣. Love your work, Andrew. We know how serious this is, but we all need to laugh at the superficially of the narc at times. God bless you 🎉
Great topic Andrew. When i was with the narcissist texting was stressful for me. If he ever txt me wherever i was didn't matter he expected me to respond quickly. If i took too long he would accuse me of cheating. He would be angry with me and yell at me as soon as I got home. If i txt him sometimes he would respond and sometimes he wouldn't and if i asked him why he didn't answer it was always oh i was sleeping or i was busy, or i forgot to respond. And he would get angry with me for even asking. It was insane and im happy that im out of that relationship. I moved on and i will find someone who is actually a loving person. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words. Stay strong everyone.
Even simple texts. Are we meeting for dinner at 6? No response until 9 that he had a panic attack and was in urgent care. Then no response and once again Im stood up but Im so used to this abuse so I'm used to it. Or how about" I'm working and cant get back to you" and he's blowing me off. I'm not drinking and I got a text of a picture of a cocktail. "Oh so sorry this wasn't meant for you". Yes it was. Thanks tribe for sharing your experiences. I appreciate it so much. I dont feel so alone. Thank you Andrew.
Texting or e-mail provides "In- your- face" evidence. You can measure on a dropping curve, their waning interest to respect or value you. Or you can read it over multiple times to register: "Seriously?! That sounds like a command sans basic respect." 🤨
I love to text😹👽I don’t like talking on cell phones. I have had to force myself to realize that no responses are a message in and of themselves. That’s very tough.🙀Life goes on🥁
Short replies to text, no replies, delayed replies, sterile context, misleading context, inconclusive messages, truncated messages, these and many others are the texting strategies used by my narc brother to avoid/reject/devalue me
I have a child with "my" narcissist. I keep the contact via text by purpose to avoid accusations and gaslighting. And I use grey rock tactics. No emotions. Just plain facts. And I keep communications to a minimum. I'll never give her any more of my resources. She's had more than her share already.
So much great information, Andrew! Generic and boring texts, especially as a pattern, aren’t just red flags 🚩 🚩, they’re a full stop 🛑. You are being played!! Game over. Namaste 🙏😌🦋🪶
Got a few of those 'texts' this week from two narcs that I'm cutting ties with. They hate the silence and no-response of mine. Scissors sharp. Spot on Andrew. Thank you for your continued reveals and guidance. //
The texting game with the narc(for me) was a no gamer/no brainer...That is I was set up (by my Sis) over and over...Me: "Hi Sis, how is ___?(a relative I was concerned about), could you please tell me?" NO ANSWER...then I would become more worried and frazzled...and would text a few more times; finally am confronted(by narc sister): "See how YOU act?"
0:41 'Something called a phonebook' lol, sounds so antiquated now! I've also received a few strange texts, in the past, that didnt seem they were meant for me. But more recently, as mentioned yesterday, despite co-parenting and having to stay in contact with my ex, and I stipulated only to do with matters relating to our child, he has been sending texts describing his regrets, and what hard times he's experiencing right now, trying to make me feel sorry for him. I am thankful that I have wised up, from watching these videos, else I might have fallen into his trap again - it's all a con, a trick, nothing genuine about what he says at all.
Talking of cell phones, apparently there is rumoured to be an emergency alert taking place in the US, maybe worldwide, on the 4th October. Maybe turn off your phones and take your ear buds out that day, just saying!
This!💯. So hurtful and invalidating when they didn't respond or left on read i felt my stomach drop, feeling fight or flight fear, panic. Sickening to think i wasted so much time sitting and starring at my phone waiting, praying for a response. 😢 I just discovered you, thank you for your videos.
I received several texts that were not meant for me as he was busy playing a thrilling (for him) game of texting his new supply then me, his wife 🙄. It was scary as his texts to her were completely not the man I thought I knew.
I remember having a cell phone for the first time. All people wanted to do was text. I really did not like it. I would prefer to talk on the phone hear my loved ones voices. But texting was what everyone was doing. 😢 So that is how including my kids and grandkids and others would communicate. It was sad for me. When the narc/abuse started involving all I knew as a total smear campaign that I was not aware of...I had to ask myself this question" what is going on? Am I walking around with a target on my chest?" I was left alone to figure that one out. It took a few years to figure that all out. It totally traumatized me and finally connecting all of the dots I was left with a very clear picture. Abusers liars narcs....all the same persons. It is sad that they choose to do that to others especially saying it is your fault, God's will etc.
I've got land lines, and I talk on the phone. My phone books are skinny. I do have a smart phone, but I don't carry it, and rarely turn it on. I talk to people when I'm with them. I look at them. I use a desk top. Texting often sounds brisk. My computer gets some of those. When I see something I enjoy seeing, I stop and look at it. So, I don't take photos. All in all, I like my head space as free from phones as possible. For many, many years, I had phones ringing constantly for my business. I hear you about not liking text messages. I'm a rebellious dinosaur.
I felt that too. You just get a sense of the change in the way people look at you or talk to you. I was so confused, and thought, they will figure it out that I didn’t do whatever circus that made them act that way.
Oh my God! I can't believe this great smart guy narcdaily put into words what I believed I experienced. I thought the narc I was seeing text me to throw me off emotionally or make me jealousy by intentionally texting me, by saying things that was meant for someone else. For example, he text me telling me: enjoy your day at work today, despite him knowing I was retired. He did it so much that I started to believe he did it intentionally. I also would get bland "good morning" text messages that he could've sent to everyone. I'm glad I didn't get mad I just bantered and had fun when he'd do these things.
I used to have a friend that I was very close to and as I have been watching your channel I have the knowledge that she’s a narcissist person and always has to be right all the time and NEVER wrong. She basically discarded me at her birthday party and literally embarrassed me in front of her family, I did stop talking to her and after some time I messaged her just checking on her seeing how she was doing and I even apologized for not checking on her, just being a genuine friend to her and she basically blew the entire message off saying “oh I been in my own little world as well lately and I like it there I’m glad your in school good luck with that and take care” and I said to myself yes that was the last time I’ll message you again.
My ex narc wont stop stalking me, texting me even though I dont respond. He doesnt like it so he shows up out of the blue and it freaks me out so bad. Need no more abuse from him. He thinks I'll come back but Andrew that ain't never gonna happen.
Tell your ex to expect a visit from the police with a protection from harassment order. It stopped my ex narc dead in his tracks after SEVEN months of hoovering, etc. I haven't heard or seen a peep from him in over 2 months ❤❤And, I have a serious illness, but that didn't stop the piece of garbage from bothering me...until I threatened a police visit. No one deserves this kind of harassment.
I agree with deha5084 start documenting his appearances, texts and whatever else since you went no contact. Put the local police’s phone number in your contacts on your phone and do not hesitate to call them immediately if he shows his narc self again. You don’t need that garbage in your life anymore. We stand strong with you.💪 As Andrew says, You are not alone.
Yessss Andrew. He did not respond when I texted. I stopped texting & calling all together. I've learned whatever he does exit the door. If he's on the phone, leave the room. If he's walking into the room go to sleep until he walks out. I don't care about the narc or what he does. I'm over the narc. tactics
At one time in the relationship, he actually texted me those robotic words you said, "I made it, I am here, everything ok." He would text that everytime he traveled with no emotion. Sometimes would say Love you on the end but who knows who that went to as well as me! Nailed it again, Andrew😊
70-85% of my experience with the narcissist over the course of 13 years consisted of texting games. For an example, he left me on seen at 8pm and i didnt hear from him until 3pm the next day. He told me to “give him some time he has a story to tell me” My anxiety and worrying obsessions to reacted to the nonsense heightened but i stood my ground Because i knew if i were to start asking questions, he would start using my reaction against me as a way to start verbally abusing me and flipping the script. In the process of me waiting he send me a video of him at a bar with someone else and then ghosted me again until 9:30 that same day to say this: “I woke up in a bed with someone I didnt know and we spent the whole day together. Some crazy shit straight out of a movie. We didn’t have sex tho” It took a lot of strength to not react and when i didnt - he tried to get me to react and that when i realized. MY MISERY IS HIS AMUSEMENT HIS AROUSAL. Then i mentally snapped. It’s been over a decade of manipulation texting and communication tactics that really damaged me. Thank you specifying this experience because it truly has been a dark path
I really LOVE 💛 Andrew's channel and knowledge so much. The real life messages. The nature backgrounds and sounds. Everything. Deep. "Weaponizing your emotions via text".
I listened to an incredible talk by Sam Vaknin, (Narcissism Revisited)a brilliant man and the very first to define narcissism and narcissistic abuse. He's amazing. Today he discusses "splitting" demonizing narcissists on these channels and basically trying to come off as perpetual victim and "empath" like we're innocent angels. Extremely helpful because I've always known I was just as screwed up as my narc family, my narc ex husband. Screwed up people fit together like a lock and key. It's easy to split ourselves from the narcissist and be just as cruel as they are.
Empaths are aware of their flaws as well as their virtues. The difference is that we accept our own and other people's shortcomings as part of human nature. I never considered myself "an angel" . Funny statement from him.
@rubyjet9513 Did you listen to his whole presentation this morning? I've always been wary of people that call themselves empath. It's like people that try to tell me they are healers or psychics, sent from god, angels, channelers,some other kind of special person with special gifts. Empath definition-Google "chiefly in science fiction) a person with the paranormal ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual." That's what I'm talking about. That's what he's talking about.
@@texasrefugee7888 Such claims from empaths on various frivolous channels are childish and come from young people who are still in search, but you have to understand that he cannot understand what it means to be an empath as a aware narcissist. He doesn't believe empaths exist, but they do.
@@texasrefugee7888 Some people possess similar paranormal abilities. Empaths are very attuned to other people and the world around them, but you shouldn't believe what everyone says about themselves.
@@rubyjet9513 I think it's p t s d. Children who grew up in these families and walk on egg shells develop extreme sensitivity to emotions and behaviors of their abusers. So do battered people. You read the definition down there it's paranormal. Science fiction. I think professor vankin is the best and he will admit and joke about being a narcissist. Takes one to know one, doesn't it?
Ohhhhhh Jesus… oh. … or do they bombard you with when your response is I don’t know what you are talking about followed by a “listen” and “honey” and a large amount of “I” statements …. This is sooo spot on.
My favorite is when you text them at work or even like once throughout the day they say you’re a lot and change your text habits and then blame you for chasing them so arrogant
🎉🎉🎉🎉 thank you Andrew I appreciate you I moved on for the ex narc and the next ex narc and he could enjoy his life are going to be smiling and laying down and relax and do my things thank you
I try not to giggle Andrew, when you say: One of their 3 smart phones...It is so true! It's not funny going through the deception of this at all. I just giggle because it is so cleverly , truly relatable.
Perhaps unusual, but my ex husband was very averse to technology. He rarely carried a phone, and it was only a very basic one with no internet. It often made him difficult to contact or locate, which was sometimes extremely inconvenient. He also claimed not to understand how to use a computer, in particular when it came to looking for a job. 🙄
Just want to say Andrew, because of you and God as I perceive Him to be, I never feel alone. You are such a blessing to me and all that tune into your channel. Thank you ! I’m happy content and grateful 🗡🌈🥰
Thank you. I’m sure there are SO many people who have something to say on this..Manipulation and control might have been the issues.. blessings and healing to everyone who needs it. 😊
So true Andrew . Thanks for your wisdom 😊 as always very much appreciated . Iv still not left the house in a good while but getting better everyday. Namaste 🙏 your a blessing! GOD BLESS Andrew ! ✌️🏴 ❤
Some how over the last several years I've repeatedly ran into people like this & they were VERY painful & hard lessons. Thank you for this video brother.
@@emilywilson7308 huge huge knowledge I wish I would have learned a long time ago& I hope I can somehow learn to detect them. I have compassion but don't need that hurt and negativity if I can avoid it.
@@JacobCarlson-uq1my I have learned how to detect them from watching Andrew's videos. The main thing is to listen to your gut. There are plenty of red flags, but we ignore them to our own detriment. I am working on not being a people pleaser. Narcs love that! And we need firm boundaries to respect our own best interests. Self-care is crucial too. There is a lot to learn. Basically, if you have a big heart, you are a target for narcs. We need to learn and protect ourselves!💪🏻💗🌻
Yes! Yes! Yes! To everything. Phones are certainly necessary, but what they have become to the afflicted ones - more than a phone - for all of us is some way not just them. The Quality of our relationship with our phone please understand what Andrew is saying. Thank you Andrew!
Yes! Texting became yet another form of constant validation on my end of course - he would keep track of who said good morning first via text. Once I became tired of that game, I completely stopped the “good morning “ texts which infuriated him & soon after I blocked him completely. Amazing how the 2 simple words of “ good morning “ triggered me into a complete panic attack
❤❤❤ Healthy and Close relationships - in my experience - can talk out those boundaries and support one another in good communication - NOT to weaponize, but to cultivate empathy within the relationship and communication. Having hidden expectations is not healthy as well as no boundaries. This was a fabulous message. Thank you 🙏
@@jennifernewton4637 hi Jennifer 🤗❤️🤗 it’s a good afternoon. Morning was a little rough with pain, but over it now 🥰 - how is your day going? Just want you to know that last evening your feeling better message gave me reason for strong gratitude and prayer reflection.
@@gratefultobehere Hey Chelsea! Haha… my day didn’t start off great… internet wasn’t working AND I had a headache, but both situations have been resolved, so that’s better! Was just watching Salty Cracker’s latest video and it just absolutely cracked me up! 😂😂😂 My dad came in wanting to know what I was laughing at… then he laughed too. Salty NEVER disappoints when delivering the laughs! So I’m doing good now! Gonna go watch some more of those manifestation videos! I BOUGHT a book by Dr. Wayne Dyer and one by Neville Goddard, 🤷♀️ evidently, so far so good on that front! One thing I’m really picking up on is detaching from the outcome of a situation. Sounds good to ME… less stress! Also, make people a priority that make ME a priority. If I do things to show someone I care and they do little or nothing in return, I withdraw my energy and invest it elsewhere. Like Andrew says, I come 1st 2nd and third! 🥇🥈🥉 If I don’t value myself, no one else will! 😁😁😁
Andrew that walking backwards giraffe call narcissist, that's what he used to do, reed my message and never reply, and when I try to give him a taste of his own medicine, Andrew, you know what that means that is so true❤💪🙏🏿🙌👋👋👋👋👋
My ex was so PISSED when I told her to knock off all the annoying teenage like texts. It was so obvious, Her plan blew up in her face because I hate text conversations. I literally will NOT talk about important things in text. She HATED it. i forced the texting to stop in an attempt to force VERBAL communication FACE TO FACE. It backfired. She just stopped listening and communicating. I just dumped her in March.
Great topic 💯 the smart phone wasn’t around in the beginning of marriage it came later every thing you’ve said I can relate to blocking is the best advice 🙏💕
This is so insightful, the ex-narc always played these texting games with me, that is, before I blocked him. Some strange message from nowhere, which I ignored most of the time. Thank you Andrew.
My eyes are twitching right now from being squeezed tight shut during a 50- text barrage this morning. After being hung up on, ( and feeling GRATEFUL that daughter cut me off!!!)I went straight to your channel: AI knew what to do, and sent me to a video you made in Costa Rica a year ago: “ When the Empath has HAD ENOUGH” Creepiness aside, ( they are monitoring our phone calls!) that was a great recommendation . I watched that video twice, as unread texts continued to pile up above. I’m pretty much okay now. Greatest gratitude for your perfect support
If you feel like they’re listening to your phone calls, look at the videos on “monitoring spirits”, I believe that this is connected to the narcissist’s behaviour
Narcissist sister had the nerve to give me texting rules - she told me I can send texts such as: I’m running late or I’m on my way but nothing more. Otherwise I must call…mind you, she rarely answers the phone. It feels like a slap in the face. She’s a rough one.
My narc “still” Husband and me met online. During the relationship he slipped and said he just copied and pasted text to write the ladies there. RED FLAG. So many things got revealed during our relationship but thank God I’m getting out…it’s been lonely 4 Years
I told him I didn't appreciate him texting me ,,rude,,sexting stuff...of course he tried to justify it,,then he was sorry and gave me a pet name,and continued with the sucking up,and random love bombing,,one friend asked when are you going to get engaged,,he laughed and said yea il buy her a lucky bag with a plastic ring,,they will strong you along,,,they don't commit,,Glad I'm out of it there Toxic,,,💡🌳🌻🧘❤️❤️❤️
I had never had a suicidal thought until I dealt with the narcissist whom tried to destroy me.
I'm a newbie here on the path to learning/healing.
Be strong! We're part of this community now.
Lots of love to you🙏🌺💜
I swear they are Non Humans. The evil is incredible. Extremely abusive beings.
Texting games played by a narcissist can be incredibly manipulative and emotionally draining. These individuals often use tactics like gaslighting, manipulation, and withholding information to gain power and control over others. It's important to recognize that engaging in these games only perpetuates their toxic behavior and enables their narcissistic tendencies. Instead, setting clear boundaries, practicing self-care, and focusing on our own well-being becomes crucial when dealing with such individuals. By refusing to participate in their games and prioritizing our own mental and emotional health, we take a powerful step towards breaking free from their manipulative grip. Remember, we deserve healthy and respectful communication, and it's okay to distance ourselves from those who engage in destructive texting games.
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That can be applied to more than texting. ✌️😎💯
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Absolutely TRUE 💯💯 we have value and Worth,✨🧘🌻🌺
It’s also how they initially lovebomb and insert themselves into people’s lives
No answering, or a purposefully delayed response is manipulation through and through. It creates an addiction in you, a trauma bond. You think about them constantly.
Questioning, Worrying, Obsession.
You give them all your time and energy.
And all the Narc has to do- Nothing!!
Thank you Andrew, I hope you are doing well have a nice afternoon.
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So true!
Oh god 🤦 I remember those *years*. So much time wasted I can't ever get back. So much stress waiting up for them to walk through the door. I can't believe I ever had that drama in my life. The things we all put up with before we "Get The Message."
They can do the same thing with email. Block.
I used to do this to someone I liked a lot. It was fear of rejection for me.
I had this happen to me the last few months and was discarded on Christmas 🎁 Night (2023)!
Interesting, I didn't realize it was intentional and could create trauma bonding, but, that does make sense.
Thanks for your insight.
they also shapeshift...they can produce a very friendly stare, but then when you catch them offguard they look at you with sour envy
I end3d up in a trauma ward for 4 hours, after he did what he did. His eyes! I will never forget it! That happened 6 months ago, and I'm under therapeutic care. Please, if anyone feels something isn't right, run!!!!
He is right, they really are boring individuals.
Hope he's long gone and you're healing well. Yes, a Narc will be boring because
anyone withholding open communication for a hidden agenda will just try to absorb more info to manipulate. Hidden behind that boring wall to protect their insecurity, I get ill just thinking about Narc Bores I have met.
God bless you as you navigate through this difficult time.❤
They turn all black lol?
Same with pictures they send. Probably send them out to dozens
Andrew is spot on here friends, the moment you receive an “accidental” text like this, run like h*ll, immediately. Please don’t wait. Get out of there and never look back.
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I had a one day friend last week.
The texts were so long and so quickly sent, there is no way they were real time compositions!
I “ love the energy in your photoS”
I have ONE photo…lol
@@Patricia_Stewart337 sounds quite typical. Glad you were able to know early on, that something was off.
@charlienelson2002i am seeing this more and more. Getting awakened❤
I have a hard time trusting my instincts. Taught to deny myself from young age.❤
The narcissist will leave your messages on read in messenger. No reply. Then after you stop sending them anymore messages, they will accuse you of ignoring them when they decide to message you back.
I was told “ even grocery shopping is fun with you “ at the outset of the relationship. Years later , we were shopping and he was complaining. I asked him about his message years ago and he responded “ I Was Lying “!
He said this to my face without even blinking.
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Yes! With that smirk. My fed on my discomfort
That’s most men. They lie to get what they want. Nothing new about that and will say anything to keep you around.
I miss those big old phone books.
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We used them as booster seats as kids 😀
I miss the freedom of not having a cell phone.
Such game playing one would think they would tire of it.
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A key trait to avoid in human beings is selfishness. Run 🏃🏾♀️ like the wind.😻😽
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Hey fairyprincess..🌷👍💕🌞
Everything these people do is a twisted, self-serving game. And please believe, you are not the first, and you won't be the last. They only get worse over time. Several months after my discard, and finally coming out of the Fog. As we all can agree, everything you say is 100% accurate, Andrew. My ex narc loved to send the same emojis, GIFs, and scripted BS to all of his Supply. Found this out after the fact, and after discovering what narcissism really is, and what the heck had just happened to me. Please hang in there, and believe that it does get better.❤
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Narcissists weaponize *all* forms of communication. When I broke up with a Narcissist I realized that she was trying to get me to *argue* (via text) because that's an excellent method to draw the supply back into the #relationshit. ~From *their* perspective *any* communicaiton is better (it's all supply...) -and it has the potential to lead to a #Hoover ~ *which they will have already prepared for.* That's when/why I went #NoContact. ~Thank you, Andrew. 👍
Thank you for this explanation. I WAS drawn back in for a little while and when I spoke THE FACTS- it EXPOSED where her TRUTH LIED. ( Even made reference to "LIED" as HER FALSE NARRATIVE of the "FACTS."
Blocked her but 1 text still came through, this is when I BLOCKED her and responded to HER FALSE NARRATIVE. 😔😔😔
Welcome 💯💯💯
I've noticed narcissist friends will text you to invite you to an event that has already started or is almost over. But if they really wanted you there, they would have texted you beforehand and allowed you a chance to make plans
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Hear that!
Probably everyone I’ve ever known.
So true, I am thankful it is in the past for me. It was sick how a text from the narc could sway my mind and energy off course. The texts were a big part of the confusion and the pace of the texts....hot=often and engaging to cold=days, up to over a week of nothing and out of no where a short sterile text. It was all a sick game and when he would see me healing or moving on the texts would pick up and he would show "interest" in me and what I have been up to. Made more sense when I found out about his other supplies. Just gross.
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This happens to me as well.
@@tinydancer62 I am sorry to hear that. It is unnecessary and destroys sense of reality for people like us. We are above it now. Does not mean it isn't hurtful or confusing still...but I hope you know and feel that you are the prize with a heart that is capable of love and loyalty. We aren't weak minded and the narc won't be messing with us any longer once they know we know they were in it to steal our personality and use it as their own. Just ew! Haha
@@gina1280 ❤🙏 Thank you.
They even hit you from fake profiles!
He cashapped me 5 dollars to reach me. I ignored him for so long. Then, I fell for it again. I even told him I was in love with him. He would leave me voice messages rather than texts. They were always labeled “voice message -my name - and sequence number” then I got one that said “ voice message - new conversation - 46” the lightbulb hit me hard there. He tried to say that the phone randomly assigns names. So it randomly typed in my name? 45 other messages went to “new conversation.” Not me. I was right about so many other things and that was my lightbulb moment. I truly hate him.
I am glad I stopped using cell phones in 2017. Life is much simpler. I do not need anyone controlling where I am at any given moment, manipulating me with their texts, and then using my texts against me.
I actually told my brother that he was never to ever be near me again with his cell phone in his hand. That was a year ago, last May. He had used it against me. I don't carry a cell phone. I hear you.
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@@kathleencondit1660 Sadly for me it was my adult son, my only child. We do not really need cell phones. There are plenty of good people around to help me if I need help and those nasty ones do not know that we don't have the cell phone to call for help. I don't see any logic in it to be connected to a phone all the time.
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The “ accidental” text!
You SEE them!
Disrupting our energy in any way is supply for them
I love snail mail. The iPhone has screwed us royally cuz there's no barriers or filters. All info is intercepted, scanned, weaponized against the empath. High jack 101.
So happy to out of the narcissistic relationship. My god what a hell storm.
To all the newbies, one step at a time, it does get better and some days are magical and amazing.
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@@catherinefry49True, android, Gmail, hotmail, yahoo, and of course the original of all evils... AOL. 😂😊❤ LOL
So many times Andrew, thanks so much ❤🙏🏿💪👍👏👏👏
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Oh my my my ! Absolute truth again. You called it out right in the spot. People please listen to these post. You can save yourself from these narc demons. Stop the madness ! You deserve so much better !
Thank you, Andrew for this excellent video.
3 weeks ago I ended a long-term relationship with a narcissist. Last week, out of the blue, he sent me a generic text to let me know he arrived somewhere "safe and sound".. As Andrew said, it totally disrupted my energy, as I am on the healing path from the trauma of ending this relationship.
All of the things that are discussed in this video happened to me during the course of the relationship. He constantly used his smart phone to weaponize me and to triangulate me with his many sources of supply.
tinydancer6949, when I left my narc, I changed my phone number, I got off social media and I moved. I am better off! 👍 HE NEVER FOUND ME. It's been 12.6 years.❤🤜🤛
Thank God you are out! Can you block his number?
I blocked a person from all my social media... however, not wanting to change my phone number, the garbage texts still end up in my spam folders. It's still annoying and unsettling. I may still change my number.
@@emilywilson7308 I can, but to be honest, that would be really challenging for me at this point, emotionally speaking. I definitely know that I should, and that it would help me to heal faster.
Or wven better a picture or a song which really disrupts your energy because its something visual to play you on.
Going no contact and blocking someone (phone or email), is sometimes difficult because people can call, text or email from a different number or email account. They can use phones or email accounts belonging to family members, friends or work phones/computers to try to bypass the block. It’s impossible to control. The only recourse is to not answer any unknown numbers or email accounts.
texting with a narc is a whole other level of crazy. I literally will not text people/friends unless we are super close and I know it's a healthy relationship. It's never worth it.
Im an only child and have never been on social media. But my narcissistic ex still found ways to consistently abuse me. Mind games and a horrible roller coster ride from hell.
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It's generally a *whole production* when you attrmpt the most basic communication. It's *always something.* They don't get back to you. They didn't hear the phone ring. Their "battery died." They claim they never got a msg.
And they weaponize technical incompetence so keep "forgetting" how to use a phone, or voicemail, or text. You can show them 1000 times, & somehow the same exact problem happens everytime it's something important to you (never to them, naturally. they'll never be inconvenienced).
Whatever's gone askew in communication, it always benefits them. When it's smooth, that only indicates they're reaching you for supply. Miraculously, they can use a phone properly.
And don't forget if you say NO about a favor, something they want, they dump you. Happened to me 35+ years back. I said no to sham-marrying my sibling's boyfriend to keep him in the u.s. & he could get citizenship. For free, of course. Yeah. No.
They like to triangulate on social media for sure. My ex invited me to 80’s rock group pages (and honestly he’s addicted to being the eternal teenager) I even began denying some invites bc how many dang groups like this does one need to belong to? And I’d get a second and even a third invite. So I joined only to see him flirting with other women! I wasn’t playing that game. This was towards the end and I knew it was coming. I wasn’t going to give him his reaction. I deleted him from my accounts and blocked him. I never unblocked. At some point you have to grow back the spine they tore from you and give them the mental finger, grey rock, and move on. Game playing is a real wake up call for me, and turns my switch right off. Done! 👋🏻 Please love yourself enough to leave.
I blocked him on everything (emails, phone, apps, etc.and he still find ways to reach out. However, i never respond i always block, this is extremely exhausting. I just want to be left alone! Next step is changing my number which i have had for years.
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Do it!
The one narcissist I dealt with always used messenger instead of text, and would have rage fits and then begin deleting line by line what they said. Happened several times toward the end, because they knew it made me react in a defensive way telling them to grow up and get help, and then could also show others that I'm the bad guy, and they did nothing wrong. Double supply.
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Actually "responded" rather than "reacted." CONGRATULATED said " NARC" if she "DID"get help and pointed out her "child" was of "age of "majority" ( 18+ ).
Further pointed out she MAY have been DISTORTING the "facts," to fit her FALSE NARRATIVE.
Text to HER ONLY but PUBLIC text displayed ONLY SUPPORT and then DOUBT as to HER AUTHENTICITY. 😔😔😔
💯 Mine would do this before his nightly trip to the bar to show his friends how bad I was 🤦♀️ or sometimes he would just upset me before he left knowing I’d have a comeback and would hurry up and leave the house.
@@maryannspicher they don't like when you call them out on their childish behavior, so they have to find a way to stay in control.
@@suesanders1169Well played.
I couldn't believe what came down. They can take great energy, through text, and drained it. All of a sudden...I'm feeling bad!
Texting is a study in Crazy with them
yep. for real.
they also expect you to be glued to the phone, respond to them immediately, & be at their beck and call (literally), while they are at their leisure
anneyoung, You are 100% correct! 💯👍❤️🌷🤜🤛
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Hornet's nest. Perfect description. Just a few text messaged words can injure and devastate. You could write an entire book on this topic. I know all too well what you're speaking about.
Sorry you had to experience the narc abuse. 😔😔😔
I AM believing its why Andrew's channel ( and other(s) channel(s) ) like it are SO IMPORTANT to TODAY'S SOCIETY.
Educating about NARCICCISM is the ONLY way to destroy it!!! 🙂
What is "done in the dark" < behind closed doors, etc > , when "brought to the light" < exposed > can/will be CORRECTED!!! 🙂
@suesanders1169 yes, thankyou. We hear the term in mainstream media.. to describe politicians etc. Zero said about narcissism on micro level within family circles. Thank goodness Andrew's Yt channel and others fill the knowledge gap.
This is exactly what they do. They are boring and they pretend to be visiting all places around the world, including Kenya🇰🇪 while they have not even moved away from their village. I totally agree with you one minute with an Narcissist is far too long.
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I prefer texting. I know myself well, and I'm not a people person. I hate talking on the phone. My ex narc loved phone calls, and would talk for hours about himself if you'd let him. What I hate about texting is that "they" have access to our private communications. It is an invasion of privacy. Luckily the ex narc doesn't text me. I heard enough insults, put downs, etc., to last a lifetime when with him.
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A robot or Mr Spock 🤣🤣🤣.
Love your work, Andrew.
We know how serious this is, but we all need to laugh at the superficially of the narc at times.
God bless you 🎉
this is why i gave up the cel after a few months it was "crazymaking' as all narcs are experts of 'crazymakers'
Great topic Andrew. When i was with the narcissist texting was stressful for me. If he ever txt me wherever i was didn't matter he expected me to respond quickly. If i took too long he would accuse me of cheating. He would be angry with me and yell at me as soon as I got home. If i txt him sometimes he would respond and sometimes he wouldn't and if i asked him why he didn't answer it was always oh i was sleeping or i was busy, or i forgot to respond. And he would get angry with me for even asking. It was insane and im happy that im out of that relationship. I moved on and i will find someone who is actually a loving person. Thank you Andrew for the video and thank you everyone for your kind words. Stay strong everyone.
Wow, your description sounds just like what my wife would do to me. It's like there is a playbook out there that they all read from and use.
You can make your dreams become your reality
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Even simple texts. Are we meeting for dinner at 6? No response until 9 that he had a panic attack and was in urgent care. Then no response and once again Im stood up but Im so used to this abuse so I'm used to it. Or how about" I'm working and cant get back to you" and he's blowing me off.
I'm not drinking and I got a text of a picture of a cocktail. "Oh so sorry this wasn't meant for you". Yes it was. Thanks tribe for sharing your experiences. I appreciate it so much. I dont feel so alone. Thank you Andrew.
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Texting or e-mail provides "In- your- face" evidence. You can measure on a dropping curve, their waning interest to respect or value you. Or you can read it over multiple times to register: "Seriously?! That sounds like a command sans basic respect." 🤨
Be careful! With texting it controls you all the time!🤔😳
I love to text😹👽I don’t like talking on cell phones. I have had to force myself to realize that no responses are a message in and of themselves. That’s very tough.🙀Life goes on🥁
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Everyone is different, and I respect that. 👍😉🤜🤛
Perfect! "No responses are a message in and of themselves"
Short replies to text, no replies, delayed replies, sterile context, misleading context, inconclusive messages, truncated messages, these and many others are the texting strategies used by my narc brother to avoid/reject/devalue me
@@Sereneis Sometimes the diagnosis is: asshole😼😹
I have a child with "my" narcissist. I keep the contact via text by purpose to avoid accusations and gaslighting. And I use grey rock tactics. No emotions. Just plain facts. And I keep communications to a minimum. I'll never give her any more of my resources. She's had more than her share already.
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So much great information, Andrew! Generic and boring texts, especially as a pattern, aren’t just red flags 🚩 🚩, they’re a full stop 🛑. You are being played!! Game over.
Namaste 🙏😌🦋🪶
Namaste 🙏😌🙌
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Got a few of those 'texts' this week from two narcs that I'm cutting ties with. They hate the silence and no-response of mine. Scissors sharp. Spot on Andrew. Thank you for your continued reveals and guidance. //
So true… it’s happened! 🤍🙏🏼
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The texting game with the narc(for me) was a no gamer/no brainer...That is I was set up (by my Sis) over and over...Me: "Hi Sis, how is ___?(a relative I was concerned about), could you please tell me?" NO ANSWER...then I would become more worried and frazzled...and would text a few more times; finally am confronted(by narc sister): "See how YOU act?"
I am learning that my adored brother is a hellish narc manipulator too
0:41 'Something called a phonebook' lol, sounds so antiquated now! I've also received a few strange texts, in the past, that didnt seem they were meant for me. But more recently, as mentioned yesterday, despite co-parenting and having to stay in contact with my ex, and I stipulated only to do with matters relating to our child, he has been sending texts describing his regrets, and what hard times he's experiencing right now, trying to make me feel sorry for him. I am thankful that I have wised up, from watching these videos, else I might have fallen into his trap again - it's all a con, a trick, nothing genuine about what he says at all.
Talking of cell phones, apparently there is rumoured to be an emergency alert taking place in the US, maybe worldwide, on the 4th October. Maybe turn off your phones and take your ear buds out that day, just saying!
I miss them, and newspapers too.
@@TheSeekeroftruth1Right. I also heard that.
This!💯. So hurtful and invalidating when they didn't respond or left on read i felt my stomach drop, feeling fight or flight fear, panic. Sickening to think i wasted so much time sitting and starring at my phone waiting, praying for a response. 😢 I just discovered you, thank you for your videos.
Welcome to the community..🙏💯😌💜
All the puzzles suddenly came together, education is the road to healing!!!
Thank you!!! 🙏🙏🙏
Welcome 💡💡📚🙏
You ate absolutely right! He text the same message every morning. It was so robotic! I just started saying in return, ok. 💯🔥
I received several texts that were not meant for me as he was busy playing a thrilling (for him) game of texting his new supply then me, his wife 🙄.
It was scary as his texts to her were completely not the man I thought I knew.
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I remember having a cell phone for the first time. All people wanted to do was text. I really did not like it. I would prefer to talk on the phone hear my loved ones voices. But texting was what everyone was doing. 😢 So that is how including my kids and grandkids and others would communicate. It was sad for me. When the narc/abuse started involving all I knew as a total smear campaign that I was not aware of...I had to ask myself this question" what is going on? Am I walking around with a target on my chest?" I was left alone to figure that one out. It took a few years to figure that all out. It totally traumatized me and finally connecting all of the dots I was left with a very clear picture. Abusers liars narcs....all the same persons. It is sad that they choose to do that to others especially saying it is your fault, God's will etc.
Kind of sounds like what I'm dealing with now honestly
I've got land lines, and I talk on the phone. My phone books are skinny. I do have a smart phone, but I don't carry it, and rarely turn it on. I talk to people when I'm with them. I look at them. I use a desk top. Texting often sounds brisk. My computer gets some of those. When I see something I enjoy seeing, I stop and look at it. So, I don't take photos. All in all, I like my head space as free from phones as possible. For many, many years, I had phones ringing constantly for my business. I hear you about not liking text messages. I'm a rebellious dinosaur.
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Me too! I don't like being available 24/7!
I felt that too. You just get a sense of the change in the way people look at you or talk to you. I was so confused, and thought, they will figure it out that I didn’t do whatever circus that made them act that way.
It reminds me of my 1st cell phone. OMG! The FIRST thing my friends said was THAT'S GREAT, NOW WE CAN TEXT!! 🙏🙏🥺 HELP??
Oh my God! I can't believe this great smart guy narcdaily put into words what I believed I experienced. I thought the narc I was seeing text me to throw me off emotionally or make me jealousy by intentionally texting me, by saying things that was meant for someone else. For example, he text me telling me: enjoy your day at work today, despite him knowing I was retired. He did it so much that I started to believe he did it intentionally. I also would get bland "good morning" text messages that he could've sent to everyone. I'm glad I didn't get mad I just bantered and had fun when he'd do these things.
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I used to have a friend that I was very close to and as I have been watching your channel I have the knowledge that she’s a narcissist person and always has to be right all the time and NEVER wrong. She basically discarded me at her birthday party and literally embarrassed me in front of her family, I did stop talking to her and after some time I messaged her just checking on her seeing how she was doing and I even apologized for not checking on her, just being a genuine friend to her and she basically blew the entire message off saying “oh I been in my own little world as well lately and I like it there I’m glad your in school good luck with that and take care” and I said to myself yes that was the last time I’ll message you again.
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Block their number if you can, and go on with your life. ❤
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My ex narc wont stop stalking me, texting me even though I dont respond. He doesnt like it so he shows up out of the blue and it freaks me out so bad. Need no more abuse from him. He thinks I'll come back but Andrew that ain't never gonna happen.
Tell your ex to expect a visit from the police with a protection from harassment order. It stopped my ex narc dead in his tracks after SEVEN months of hoovering, etc. I haven't heard or seen a peep from him in over 2 months ❤❤And, I have a serious illness, but that didn't stop the piece of garbage from bothering me...until I threatened a police visit. No one deserves this kind of harassment.
I agree with deha5084
start documenting his appearances, texts and whatever else since you went no contact.
Put the local police’s phone number in your contacts on your phone and do not hesitate to call them immediately if he shows his narc self again. You don’t need that garbage in your life anymore. We stand strong with you.💪
As Andrew says, You are not alone.
Yessss Andrew. He did not respond when I texted. I stopped texting & calling all together. I've learned whatever he does exit the door. If he's on the phone, leave the room. If he's walking into the room go to sleep until he walks out.
I don't care about the narc or what he does. I'm over the narc. tactics
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At one time in the relationship, he actually texted me those robotic words you said, "I made it, I am here, everything ok." He would text that everytime he traveled with no emotion. Sometimes would say Love you on the end but who knows who that went to as well as me! Nailed it again, Andrew😊
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70-85% of my experience with the narcissist over the course of 13 years consisted of texting games.
For an example, he left me on seen at 8pm and i didnt hear from him until 3pm the next day. He told me to “give him some time he has a story to tell me”
My anxiety and worrying obsessions to reacted to the nonsense heightened but i stood my ground
Because i knew if i were to start asking questions, he would start using my reaction against me as a way to start verbally abusing me and flipping the script.
In the process of me waiting he send me a video of him at a bar with someone else and then ghosted me again until 9:30 that same day to say this:
“I woke up in a bed with someone I didnt know and we spent the whole day together. Some crazy shit straight out of a movie. We didn’t have sex tho”
It took a lot of strength to not react and when i didnt - he tried to get me to react and that when i realized.
MY MISERY IS HIS AMUSEMENT HIS AROUSAL. Then i mentally snapped.
It’s been over a decade of manipulation texting and communication tactics that really damaged me.
Thank you specifying this experience because it truly has been a dark path
I really LOVE 💛 Andrew's channel and knowledge so much. The real life messages. The nature backgrounds and sounds. Everything. Deep. "Weaponizing your emotions via text".
Pay attention to the speech of the Narcissist. If they tell you a bunch of things , it’s the “ last thing” that they are actually really want .
I listened to an incredible talk by Sam Vaknin, (Narcissism Revisited)a brilliant man and the very first to define narcissism and narcissistic abuse. He's amazing. Today he discusses "splitting" demonizing narcissists on these channels and basically trying to come off as perpetual victim and "empath" like we're innocent angels. Extremely helpful because I've always known I was just as screwed up as my narc family, my narc ex husband. Screwed up people fit together like a lock and key. It's easy to split ourselves from the narcissist and be just as cruel as they are.
Empaths are aware of their flaws as well as their virtues. The difference is that we accept our own and other people's shortcomings as part of human nature. I never considered myself "an angel" . Funny statement from him.
@rubyjet9513 Did you listen to his whole presentation this morning? I've always been wary of people that call themselves empath. It's like people that try to tell me they are healers or psychics, sent from god, angels, channelers,some other kind of special person with special gifts.
Empath definition-Google
"chiefly in science fiction) a person with the paranormal ability to apprehend the mental or emotional state of another individual." That's what I'm talking about. That's what he's talking about.
@@texasrefugee7888 Such claims from empaths on various frivolous channels are childish and come from young people who are still in search, but you have to understand that he cannot understand what it means to be an empath as a aware narcissist. He doesn't believe empaths exist, but they do.
@@texasrefugee7888 Some people possess similar paranormal abilities. Empaths are very attuned to other people and the world around them, but you shouldn't believe what everyone says about themselves.
@@rubyjet9513 I think it's p t s d. Children who grew up in these families and walk on egg shells develop extreme sensitivity to emotions and behaviors of their abusers. So do battered people. You read the definition down there it's paranormal. Science fiction. I think professor vankin is the best and he will admit and joke about being a narcissist. Takes one to know one, doesn't it?
Thankyou Andrew your channel is inspiring and keeps teaching me
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Ohhhhhh Jesus… oh. … or do they bombard you with when your response is I don’t know what you are talking about followed by a “listen” and “honey” and a large amount of “I” statements …. This is sooo spot on.
This video was very educational. Thank you as you put into words what really goes on here.
My favorite is when you text them at work or even like once throughout the day they say you’re a lot and change your text habits and then blame you for chasing them so arrogant
🎉🎉🎉🎉 thank you Andrew I appreciate you I moved on for the ex narc and the next ex narc and he could enjoy his life are going to be smiling and laying down and relax and do my things thank you
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I try not to giggle Andrew, when you say: One of their 3 smart phones...It is so true! It's not funny going through the deception of this at all. I just giggle because it is so cleverly , truly relatable.
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Perhaps unusual, but my ex husband was very averse to technology. He rarely carried a phone, and it was only a very basic one with no internet. It often made him difficult to contact or locate, which was sometimes extremely inconvenient. He also claimed not to understand how to use a computer, in particular when it came to looking for a job. 🙄
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This was an eye opener. I am very naive when it comes to cell phones. I've always hated cell phones, didn't get my first
one until 2016 lol.
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Just want to say Andrew, because of you and God as I perceive Him to be, I never feel alone. You are such a blessing to me and all that tune into your channel. Thank you ! I’m happy content and grateful 🗡🌈🥰
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Thank you. I’m sure there are SO many people who have something to say on this..Manipulation and control might have been the issues.. blessings and healing to everyone who needs it. 😊
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So true Andrew . Thanks for your wisdom 😊 as always very much appreciated . Iv still not left the house in a good while but getting better everyday. Namaste 🙏 your a blessing! GOD BLESS Andrew ! ✌️🏴 ❤
Some how over the last several years I've repeatedly ran into people like this & they were VERY painful & hard lessons.
Thank you for this video brother.
Narcs are everywhere! It's like the movie, The Invasion of the Body Snatchers!
@@emilywilson7308 huge huge knowledge I wish I would have learned a long time ago& I hope I can somehow learn to detect them.
I have compassion but don't need that hurt and negativity if I can avoid it.
@@JacobCarlson-uq1my I have learned how to detect them from watching Andrew's videos. The main thing is to listen to your gut. There are plenty of red flags, but we ignore them to our own detriment. I am working on not being a people pleaser. Narcs love that! And we need firm boundaries to respect our own best interests.
Self-care is crucial too. There is a lot to learn. Basically, if you have a big heart, you are a target for narcs. We need to learn and protect ourselves!💪🏻💗🌻
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Yes! Yes! Yes! To everything. Phones are certainly necessary, but what they have become to the afflicted ones - more than a phone - for all of us is some way not just them. The Quality of our relationship with our phone please understand what Andrew is saying. Thank you Andrew!
Yes! Texting became yet another form of constant validation on my end of course - he would keep track of who said good morning first via text. Once I became tired of that game, I completely stopped the “good morning “ texts which infuriated him & soon after I blocked him completely. Amazing how the 2 simple words of “ good morning “ triggered me into a complete panic attack
True he text me some puzzles words written oposite so i needed hours to discover their meaning it was at the beginning.After insults and now zero.
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Been there. Got the badge for it . Great video.
There very manipulative with there posts . Like you said . No names are never mentioned in posts etc
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the texting games with the narcissist is so draining 🙄😮💨hi andrew i was busy in the kitchen today cooking rice balls love you sweet man 🤩😚
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Some cowards prefer the text option because they can take their time to plan a false response 😅
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Healthy and Close relationships - in my experience - can talk out those boundaries and support one another in good communication - NOT to weaponize, but to cultivate empathy within the relationship and communication. Having hidden expectations is not healthy as well as no boundaries. This was a fabulous message. Thank you 🙏
Hey Chelsea! How’s your day going so far? 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗
@@jennifernewton4637 hi Jennifer 🤗❤️🤗 it’s a good afternoon. Morning was a little rough with pain, but over it now 🥰 - how is your day going? Just want you to know that last evening your feeling better message gave me reason for strong gratitude and prayer reflection.
@@gratefultobehere Hey Chelsea! Haha… my day didn’t start off great… internet wasn’t working AND I had a headache, but both situations have been resolved, so that’s better! Was just watching Salty Cracker’s latest video and it just absolutely cracked me up! 😂😂😂 My dad came in wanting to know what I was laughing at… then he laughed too. Salty NEVER disappoints when delivering the laughs! So I’m doing good now! Gonna go watch some more of those manifestation videos! I BOUGHT a book by Dr. Wayne Dyer and one by Neville Goddard, 🤷♀️ evidently, so far so good on that front! One thing I’m really picking up on is detaching from the outcome of a situation. Sounds good to ME… less stress! Also, make people a priority that make ME a priority. If I do things to show someone I care and they do little or nothing in return, I withdraw my energy and invest it elsewhere. Like Andrew says, I come 1st 2nd and third! 🥇🥈🥉 If I don’t value myself, no one else will! 😁😁😁
Chelsea, heeyy. I just got home. 🌞🫠👍 Big Hug for you!! 🫠
@jennifernewton4637 Hello Jennifer, hope you have a great weekend! 🌞💕🌷❤️❤️👍
Great message
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Andrew that walking backwards giraffe call narcissist, that's what he used to do, reed my message and never reply, and when I try to give him a taste of his own medicine, Andrew, you know what that means that is so true❤💪🙏🏿🙌👋👋👋👋👋
My ex was so PISSED when I told her to knock off all the annoying teenage like texts. It was so obvious,
Her plan blew up in her face because I hate text conversations. I literally will NOT talk about important things in text. She HATED it.
i forced the texting to stop in an attempt to force VERBAL communication FACE TO FACE.
It backfired. She just stopped listening and communicating. I just dumped her in March.
Great topic 💯 the smart phone wasn’t around in the beginning of marriage it came later every thing you’ve said I can relate to blocking is the best advice 🙏💕
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what's up my brother! Thanks for your daily content, it has greatly reinforced me and built me up for the future! 💪💯
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I found out after being discarded, my ex had a social media profile and was using a false name. So goodness knows what he was up to 🤷♀️🤷♀️
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My ex probably went berserk on texting once I wasn't around. 👍🙏🌞🌞🤜🤛
This is so insightful, the ex-narc always played these texting games with me, that is, before I blocked him. Some strange message from nowhere, which I ignored most of the time. Thank you Andrew.
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I wish I would have found this a long time ago.
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My eyes are twitching right now from being squeezed tight shut during a 50- text barrage this morning.
After being hung up on, ( and feeling GRATEFUL that daughter cut me off!!!)I went straight to your channel:
AI knew what to do, and sent me to a video you made in Costa Rica a year ago:
“ When the Empath has HAD ENOUGH”
Creepiness aside, ( they are monitoring our phone calls!) that was a great recommendation .
I watched that video twice, as unread texts continued to pile up above.
I’m pretty much okay now.
Greatest gratitude for your perfect support
It is hard to be hung up on. Wish you healing.
I'm so sorry you had to endure that abuse😢
If you feel like they’re listening to your phone calls, look at the videos on “monitoring spirits”, I believe that this is connected to the narcissist’s behaviour
Narcissist sister had the nerve to give me texting rules - she told me I can send texts such as: I’m running late or I’m on my way but nothing more. Otherwise I must call…mind you, she rarely answers the phone. It feels like a slap in the face. She’s a rough one.
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My narc “still” Husband and me met online. During the relationship he slipped and said he just copied and pasted text to write the ladies there. RED FLAG. So many things got revealed during our relationship but thank God I’m getting out…it’s been lonely 4 Years
Everything you say is true Andrew! Take care! ❤
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I told him I didn't appreciate him texting me ,,rude,,sexting stuff...of course he tried to justify it,,then he was sorry and gave me a pet name,and continued with the sucking up,and random love bombing,,one friend asked when are you going to get engaged,,he laughed and said yea il buy her a lucky bag with a plastic ring,,they will strong you along,,,they don't commit,,Glad I'm out of it there Toxic,,,💡🌳🌻🧘❤️❤️❤️
FlowerPower, I told mine to take me home if he Wanted to text. 👍💪
Absolutely SPOT ON! I have experienced everything Andrew discussed in this video and then some. Keep up the great work Andrew. 👍👍
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