Its one thing to be child free, its another thing abandoning a younger sibling or forcing your spouse not to take them in in an emergency situation like this. That's the only instant family the girl has left and she obviously wants to be with him, the spouse is being selfish.
Honestly I'm on OP's side first story, family first, he needs to take care of his sister, wife was being selfish, one thing to agree on no kids but like narrator says, she only has 6 or 7 years left and she's an orphan
OP's right. Take his sister in. It wouldn't matter if she 3 yrs old or 17 yrs old. For now he can focus on their relationship and make sure they both get through their grief. Later on he can find himself a good woman with a heart. His Ex, talk about a selfish, entitled C. I hope her next man treats her like the trash that she is.
I disagree with his analysis of the first story. A child that you love, be it a sister, daughter, or even cousin should always take priority. Marriages come and go, romantic feelings come and go, but a child's childhood and safety should always be priority. The only option for that couple was to go their separate ways. A child you love should always have a safe place with you and if that's a deal breaker for the partner, then so be it. That was absolutely her right to say that was too much for her, and she isn't wrong for feeling that way, but that child deserves to feel safe and happy, which was with OP. That was his hard line and made that clear. It doesn't make the partner a monster or an AH at all. She couldn't do it and he couldn't NOT do it. Sometimes people's lives just divert to separate paths and that's OK.
You think? I think a spouse marries the family, too. His obligations should've been hers, too. As soon as it doesn't want to support your orphaned sister, it's time to replace it.
@shitneyb5562 Compromise is a nice thought, but deal breakers are very valid. You cant have a couple where one person wants to cheat all the time and the other hates cheating, and the compromise is they get to cheat sometimes. OP and his wife had opposing views and there was no compromise to be had. Unless of course you count OP's wife just pretending the sister didn't exist while OP did all the parenting for the next 6 to 7 years as a compromise
@@ArtsyShikigami oh totally, I don't disagree. In a lot of circumstances I'd even disagree with what I said. In this instance, I think they're still sticking to the not having kids thing because they're essentially forced into helping family due to a tragedy, y'know? It would be the same argument if the sister were a decade older, which she isn't, but I hope you know what I'm saying. That's how I approached it, anyway, but I definitely see what you're saying
The analysis I disagree with, for sure. I too can see why both sides might have a point, but I feel like OP didn't really take in the story. OP said he tried to talk to her about it and she shut everything down, so the lack of any attempt at compromise wasn't his fault. He also said that he'd rather have not said 'yes, I'm choosing her over you', but the wife pointedly asked him that.
Listen, it's fine if having a threesome with your partner or poly realationship is not for you. It's completely undestandable. It's another thing to say how much you hate it and gag at it, because that's just disrespectful and rude to all people who enjoy it and find it fine. Also, all the stuff he said about marriage... People divorce, you know. For many different reasons. You can say whatever you want about it, but it's not a contract between companies. It's communication and love between people what's matters. And marrige is not what creates or strengthens it.
@sanicinapanic4264 A relationship is needed in a marriage for it to actually work. If you just make it a contract it will fall apart. It's two people who are becoming a team. That's why marriage doesn't work anymore. People are using it as just a contract. Man wanting a house wife even if the woman works and women who want money and to do whatever they want. Neither work and good people end up hurt. It's lucky to find someone who actually loves their partner.
@@sanicinapanic4264 that's kind of a meaningless statement lol. You can be committed to each other and still fool around with others. Every marriage is it's own contract. Not everyone is the same. ENM and Poly works out for a lot of people and can in fact make marriages stronger and the intimacy more passionate
@@aussiejubes which makes his sister her family too. So in that sense she would be putting her own desires over her family, where as OP is putting his family over his own desires. This is where the conundrum is. It's OK that the ex had a line in the sand but morally(on the surface of it) her stance is less empathetic. It's one thing to decide to not have children out of choice, but this specific situation isn't cut and dry. A tragedy happened, the sister wanted to live with brother for whatever her reasons were.
The guy narrating lost his mind on the first story, there is no leeway when it comes to your baby sister who just lost their dad. If I’m all my little sister has left then it is what it is, there will be plenty of women down the road, and a woman won’t stand by you through this, she wasn’t wife material to begin with. And splitting custody with the uncle (who she didn’t want to stay with) is a dumb idea. If the wife wanted out, fair enough, but OP handled perfectly and made the right decision.
Disagreed Him and his wife agreed no kids so when that changes it should be comminated and talked about and "there will be plenty woman down the road" implies you believe your partner to be replaceable which to be fair they are though you shouldn't think they are I think OP did do his best but they should have had a sit down like the wife dosent have to raise the sister unless an emergancy or something where she has to babysit in which she can pay
@sanicinapanic4264 you do relize priorities change as you get older? and that is okay I just think it's perfectly reasonable for him to be disgusted by his wife wanting to turn away a literal child who's just been orphaned. Her saying it's me of your sister is what makes her an asshole. maybe you don't have the best relationship with your siblings or even have any but he has no obligation to turn away someone who is in need because his wife doesn't want a kid in her vicinity, he's not asking her to give birth to their own child, he's aski g her to not throw a fit when his baby sister needs him more then her. Not like the kid would've called her mom.
Story 1: an eleven years old is not a child you would have to grow in your body then give life to then raise them until their teenage years... But I'm not objective here. I have two little sisters who I cherish more than anything and I would have done the same choice than op whtout even thinking
I don't have any siblings and I don't have kids but if my cousin left her 2 children with no one to take care of them I would take them in a heartbeat. It's family.
It depends on the family. There are plenty of stories here where the siblings hate each other. And where blood ties don't really mean anything. In my opinion the closeness here likely comes more from growing up together in part, and still likely being exposed to each other as siblings. A major tragedy just happened and sister wants to be around someone familiar. We don't know how familiar she is with the uncle, and we don't know what the Ex's views on family are either. What we do know is that on the face of it, it's easier to empathize with OP because he js putting his sister over his own desires, where the Ex is putting her desires over the family she married into. In this situation I don't or can't say ex is an AH, but I find it highly strange that her stance didn't shift at least a little on this subject based on the circumstance. But, that could also be OP leaving details out. We just don't know.
Regular reallysparked narrator: "be nice to the new narrator" New narrator:audibly gags at polyamorous relationships and shits all over anything that isnt exactly within his own closed minded views* Yikes, sparked guys. Super interesting that this is who y'all chose to hire.
I think poly relationships can work but like any relationship they take effort, I was kind of thrown off by the narrator's commentary, yikes indeed. Edit: Also I think OP's handling this well and he and his wife are very mature. Another edit just heard him gag at the end, yikes that was so over the top and gross
I think you’re both wrong because while you are both allowed to have and express your opinions on poly relationships, the narrator is allowed to do the same. He’s allowed to gag and make jokes if the idea of it disgusts him just like you’re allowed to be disgusted by his reaction. If y’all want others to be open minded you need to be too!
Yeah, I dunno, it's not the opinion itself it's the way he expressed it. Honestly as far as polyamory stories go that one was pretty mature and those two seem very level headed, respectful, and cautious about it. Then to have the narrator gagging and talking down to them, I dunno. Rubbed me the wrong way.
2:02 what was he supposed to do? Throw his sister to the system? You read the story, her uncle's couldn't take her in! He did what he had to doz he saved her from more suffering.
Am the narrator here really sucks! A marriage doesnt end your life like you are putting it. Wtf its fine if you have your opinion, BUT nice that other people can life their life how they want to! I didnt expected the story teller to be the a-hole!
What's going on with this channel? This was my favorite reddit story channel but it feels like there's being less and less effort put into it by the day. The main narrator disappears without even explaining, the videos aren't Fullscreen anymore despite everyone begging for it back.. The video has random misedits and random photos appearing and disappearing during it. I feel like whoever is making the vids doesn't even proof watch them before posting. I know we're not entitled to anything, but if you want to build a fanbase and you're gaining money for our views, at least put in minimal effort :(
The other guy said he was getting burnt out and needed help. They alternate videos but, even though this guy is great, he's not mastered editing and narrating and the full screen sucks.
Repeatedly gagging and saying it’s disgusting about not even a poly relationship (poly relationships have equal partners) and more like a shared fwb is so weird. I guess we’ll get a transphobic one if they hire another narrator. You don’t need to make an hour long video everyday, it can even be better to have shorter ones because it’s easier to digest and make time for. Especially since apparently it means you’ll get openly offensive narrators to make it that long.
OP is 100% in the right. His wife should have been the one to compromise because SHES not having a child, that’s her sister in law who’s parents just died, who’s old enough for the wife to be hands off in raising(not caring for, but RAISING) her if she’s that adamant on not being there for her sister in law enough is a CHILD mourning the death of her parent. There should be no compromise when it comes to this and OP is an amazing brother for taking his sister in. Wife is an AH.
Why should the wife compromise? they both agreed no kids and this changed now I agree the wife is the AH but I don't agree with the logic you use I mean the compromise would be as simple as you don't have to do anything for the sister aside from show basic respect and she would only have to care for the sister in dire emergencies or when there are no other options in which she can be compensated the entire reason OP should compromise is because a agreement was broken even if not of his own involvement and while she may not be the one having a child she has to deal with the consequences of having one
@@sanicinapanic4264 i am saying that ‘taking in his sister’ is not compromise-able. I’m saying that the sister being taken in should not be a compromise, not the wife caring for her. In short, for the wife to expect OP NOT to taje in his sister makes her an AH.
Narrator is a PRUDE!! lol, I'm enjoying the videos, keep up the great work. Also the OP with the gay brother is an absolute asshole and such a godsend for that brother. He's doing everything right ♥️
Euros have never been used in the UK before or after Brexit, Northern Ireland is part of the UK. Maybe the narrator has mixed the symbols for the Pound - £ and the Euro -€ @@Azulakayes
Story 1: Sure, it is a nice notion for marriage and partnerships to be built on communication and compromise, but sometimes there's situations where a hard deal breaking boundary needs to be set. You cant have a partnership where Person A gets to cheat with whoever they want all the time, and Person B is severely opposed to cheating, and the compromise be Person A gets to cheat sometimes. It doesnt work that way. OP has every right to adopt his kid sister and take care of her, and OP's now ex-wife has every right to leave the marriage because she was very clear she didn't want to have/take care of any children. Sometimes things dont work out and life isn't fair.
Agreed but do note OP’s sister was at an age where OP’s wife could have been completely hands off if she wanted. If his sister was a baby around 3 years of age it would definitely be a deal breaker but I personally think she should of put more thought into it as the kid was at an age where she didn’t need to do much.
@darth3911 Yes, the child is 11 years old. OP's wife could've been hands off for more years until the child is of legal age. But 7 years of contributing no emotional or financial assistance to OP's kid sister would breed some kind of resentment in their marriage anyway, no?
Honestly OP of the first story is NTA he could've been more sensible I known, but the wife! Omg as a woman she should understand why she doesn't want to live with said uncle she could sympathize especially with how old the late father was this uncle could be too old to take her in or she's uncomfortable with him... All in all better communication is needed.
For the 1st story, I'd also like to point out that the little sister is 11, so she's not even going to be THAT dependent (like, she is still, but much much less than if she had been 9 or younger)
I think the narrator is missing the point here on the first story. The wife laid down the ultimatum first that she refuses to take care of OP’s kid sister cause she didn’t want a kid. She was not budging, she was refusing to communicate. The wife is the asshole. He simply replied to her ultimatum with his own and she said she refused to budge. Glad they are divorcing.
I don’t think OP was in the wrong at all in the first story. You have to consider the child, what she wants. Family comes first. She’s only 11 years old and just lost her dad with no other parent to turn to than her brother. That is scaring and painful for a child that younge. You have to be absolutely heartless to deny your own blood and family to stay with you after something that tragic. Also the whole “You’re really gonna choose your sister over me?” is NOT the comeback she thought it was. Of course you would, thats your family. Unless they were some horrible person who’s done nothing good for you, family comes first. It wasn’t like this was planned either. These are special circumstances that you can’t exactly plan for unless they knew their dad was going to die while his sister was still little. His wife should have been more understanding of the situation or at least be more kind in separating. It’s not just something that’s between him and his wife, but his little sister too. How would you feel if the closest family to you died, and when you wanted to live with the next closest family you had, they abandoned you while you were only little? That’s an unimaginable type of pain.
The first story, I'm not sure why OP even try to find a suggestion when he already give ultimatum to her wife The moment he said "This is what I'm doing and I don't care" he already ruin his marriage beyond repair. No one want that kind of dynamic in marriage OP know what he wanted, just leave. trying to fix this just will hurt everyone
Story 1: OP fucked up when he asked the little sister who she wants to live with before talking to his wife. You're not an individual anymore making unilateral decisions that will affect everyone in big ways potentially sculpting the course of history and relationships. You put up the lil girls hope than made it impossible for you wife to say or do anything else. She shouldnt divorce him because he took a relative in need in; she should divorce him for that. It's a harbinger for much worse to come when life throws more curveballs. At worse he doesn't respect her enough to talk about it even if he knows what he wants or will do (divorce her) but talk first and consider everyone. At best he is tactless as fuck and careless with the emotions and considerations of others (what if the wife felt hostage "I don't want to be the bad guy" and said "okay" then resented and went on to abuse the sister?? She told you she didn't want kids bro... And you agreed! Or what if OP changed his mind because the wife gave some compelling reasoning or highlighted a real obstacle - you just brought up the girl's hopes for nothing). OP should divorce her not because she voiced her stance - but when she did that toxic "You're choosing her over me?!" Self-absorbed, entitled, "Either-Or" instead of "Both-And" - throw her away. That is family, and a vulnerable little girl going through some real tough shit at that- Dafuq ESH in my book. Time and responsibilities could have been worked out between the 3 of them (Uncle, Wife and OP) that it didnt evwn have to blow up in divorce but this was a bomb waiting to go off regardless and OP's tactlessness (or whatever it is) was just the spark.
I feel like you're kind of being ignorant about Aromantic folx and polyamorous relationships. I get it's nit your thing but to talk how you have is kind of messed up
Most people use polygamy as an excuse to cheat and have sex with who they want when they want. That’s not true polygamy but that’s what polygamy is becoming in the modern day.
Yeah S1 I'm childfree but his wife wasn't understanding enough. Some commenters were idiots... Having the sister live with them only a few days a week? Argh garbage advice
@gabrielsfilms2086 what an original saying says and how we use ot today can be very different. There was once a job called a duck fker. If you call someone a duck fker today it has a completely different meaning. I regularly listen to stories from the 1800s, some popular phrases then have a completely different meaning now. Language changes If you can't deal with that then don't hang out on the internet
it saves a ton of time and effort if you use AI voice for the texts. And it don't reduce much quality if done well. You can use different voices for different characters and for comments. There's a lot you can do with AI to save time and effort. PS.: could you consider making chapters of each story on the video's timeline?
Bruh this is one of the few channels not using AI for the narration, you can surely find what you seek in one of the countless robo reddit channels without this one conforming
Its one thing to be child free, its another thing abandoning a younger sibling or forcing your spouse not to take them in in an emergency situation like this. That's the only instant family the girl has left and she obviously wants to be with him, the spouse is being selfish.
"I don't want another guy like you, that's why I am leaving you"
Absolutely savage. I love that OP.
Yessssss!!! I need this on a t shirt along with the saying from some dating reality show, “she stole my problem, not my man.”
Bro, he lost his dad and was about to lose contact with his sister just cause OP’s wife had no sympathy to not only a child but also her own husband??
Honestly I'm on OP's side first story, family first, he needs to take care of his sister, wife was being selfish, one thing to agree on no kids but like narrator says, she only has 6 or 7 years left and she's an orphan
OP's right. Take his sister in. It wouldn't matter if she 3 yrs old or 17 yrs old. For now he can focus on their relationship and make sure they both get through their grief. Later on he can find himself a good woman with a heart. His Ex, talk about a selfish, entitled C. I hope her next man treats her like the trash that she is.
It's not her problem
@@derpy433 THANK YOU
no lol shut up about FaMiLy FiRsT
@@lindah3803 i hope he never finds a wife lol also the way you talk about ops Ex is disgusting she isnt trash lol
We're all allowed to have different opinions I guess but WOW I didn't need someone to indirectly invalidate and gag at my relationship like that😂
Frrrr I’m out here like damn, my man and I love this
Per narrator's instructions: he's a prude.
Wait, so the narrator is against threesomes in marraiges but is okay with a spouse having another partner? Am I understanding that correctly?
He always has weird takes
I disagree with his analysis of the first story. A child that you love, be it a sister, daughter, or even cousin should always take priority. Marriages come and go, romantic feelings come and go, but a child's childhood and safety should always be priority. The only option for that couple was to go their separate ways. A child you love should always have a safe place with you and if that's a deal breaker for the partner, then so be it. That was absolutely her right to say that was too much for her, and she isn't wrong for feeling that way, but that child deserves to feel safe and happy, which was with OP. That was his hard line and made that clear. It doesn't make the partner a monster or an AH at all. She couldn't do it and he couldn't NOT do it. Sometimes people's lives just divert to separate paths and that's OK.
You think? I think a spouse marries the family, too. His obligations should've been hers, too. As soon as it doesn't want to support your orphaned sister, it's time to replace it.
@shitneyb5562 Compromise is a nice thought, but deal breakers are very valid. You cant have a couple where one person wants to cheat all the time and the other hates cheating, and the compromise is they get to cheat sometimes. OP and his wife had opposing views and there was no compromise to be had. Unless of course you count OP's wife just pretending the sister didn't exist while OP did all the parenting for the next 6 to 7 years as a compromise
@@ArtsyShikigami oh totally, I don't disagree. In a lot of circumstances I'd even disagree with what I said. In this instance, I think they're still sticking to the not having kids thing because they're essentially forced into helping family due to a tragedy, y'know? It would be the same argument if the sister were a decade older, which she isn't, but I hope you know what I'm saying. That's how I approached it, anyway, but I definitely see what you're saying
The analysis I disagree with, for sure. I too can see why both sides might have a point, but I feel like OP didn't really take in the story. OP said he tried to talk to her about it and she shut everything down, so the lack of any attempt at compromise wasn't his fault. He also said that he'd rather have not said 'yes, I'm choosing her over you', but the wife pointedly asked him that.
Wow, how old is this narrator? 10? That commentary on story 3 is immature and uncalled for.
Listen, it's fine if having a threesome with your partner or poly realationship is not for you. It's completely undestandable.
It's another thing to say how much you hate it and gag at it, because that's just disrespectful and rude to all people who enjoy it and find it fine.
Also, all the stuff he said about marriage... People divorce, you know. For many different reasons. You can say whatever you want about it, but it's not a contract between companies. It's communication and love between people what's matters. And marrige is not what creates or strengthens it.
Marriage is very well a contract so meh I think you're thinking about a realastionship
@sanicinapanic4264 A relationship is needed in a marriage for it to actually work. If you just make it a contract it will fall apart. It's two people who are becoming a team. That's why marriage doesn't work anymore. People are using it as just a contract. Man wanting a house wife even if the woman works and women who want money and to do whatever they want. Neither work and good people end up hurt. It's lucky to find someone who actually loves their partner.
@@sanicinapanic4264 that's kind of a meaningless statement lol. You can be committed to each other and still fool around with others. Every marriage is it's own contract. Not everyone is the same. ENM and Poly works out for a lot of people and can in fact make marriages stronger and the intimacy more passionate
“You really are choosing your sister over me?” She is a child and he is her brother they are family of course he’ll choose his sister
A wife is family
@@aussiejubes which makes his sister her family too. So in that sense she would be putting her own desires over her family, where as OP is putting his family over his own desires. This is where the conundrum is. It's OK that the ex had a line in the sand but morally(on the surface of it) her stance is less empathetic. It's one thing to decide to not have children out of choice, but this specific situation isn't cut and dry. A tragedy happened, the sister wanted to live with brother for whatever her reasons were.
first story, this is the definition of irreconcilable differences. neither are wrong
The guy narrating lost his mind on the first story, there is no leeway when it comes to your baby sister who just lost their dad. If I’m all my little sister has left then it is what it is, there will be plenty of women down the road, and a woman won’t stand by you through this, she wasn’t wife material to begin with.
And splitting custody with the uncle (who she didn’t want to stay with) is a dumb idea. If the wife wanted out, fair enough, but OP handled perfectly and made the right decision.
Disagreed Him and his wife agreed no kids so when that changes it should be comminated and talked about and "there will be plenty woman down the road" implies you believe your partner to be replaceable which to be fair they are though you shouldn't think they are I think OP did do his best but they should have had a sit down like the wife dosent have to raise the sister unless an emergancy or something where she has to babysit in which she can pay
@sanicinapanic4264 you do relize priorities change as you get older? and that is okay I just think it's perfectly reasonable for him to be disgusted by his wife wanting to turn away a literal child who's just been orphaned. Her saying it's me of your sister is what makes her an asshole.
maybe you don't have the best relationship with your siblings or even have any but he has no obligation to turn away someone who is in need because his wife doesn't want a kid in her vicinity, he's not asking her to give birth to their own child, he's aski g her to not throw a fit when his baby sister needs him more then her. Not like the kid would've called her mom.
Story 1: an eleven years old is not a child you would have to grow in your body then give life to then raise them until their teenage years... But I'm not objective here. I have two little sisters who I cherish more than anything and I would have done the same choice than op whtout even thinking
I don't have any siblings and I don't have kids but if my cousin left her 2 children with no one to take care of them I would take them in a heartbeat. It's family.
It depends on the family. There are plenty of stories here where the siblings hate each other. And where blood ties don't really mean anything. In my opinion the closeness here likely comes more from growing up together in part, and still likely being exposed to each other as siblings. A major tragedy just happened and sister wants to be around someone familiar. We don't know how familiar she is with the uncle, and we don't know what the Ex's views on family are either. What we do know is that on the face of it, it's easier to empathize with OP because he js putting his sister over his own desires, where the Ex is putting her desires over the family she married into. In this situation I don't or can't say ex is an AH, but I find it highly strange that her stance didn't shift at least a little on this subject based on the circumstance. But, that could also be OP leaving details out. We just don't know.
Regular reallysparked narrator: "be nice to the new narrator"
New narrator:audibly gags at polyamorous relationships and shits all over anything that isnt exactly within his own closed minded views*
Yikes, sparked guys. Super interesting that this is who y'all chose to hire.
I think poly relationships can work but like any relationship they take effort, I was kind of thrown off by the narrator's commentary, yikes indeed. Edit: Also I think OP's handling this well and he and his wife are very mature. Another edit just heard him gag at the end, yikes that was so over the top and gross
I think you’re both wrong because while you are both allowed to have and express your opinions on poly relationships, the narrator is allowed to do the same. He’s allowed to gag and make jokes if the idea of it disgusts him just like you’re allowed to be disgusted by his reaction. If y’all want others to be open minded you need to be too!
@@mattmartino9024 it was just very jarring
Yeah, I dunno, it's not the opinion itself it's the way he expressed it. Honestly as far as polyamory stories go that one was pretty mature and those two seem very level headed, respectful, and cautious about it. Then to have the narrator gagging and talking down to them, I dunno. Rubbed me the wrong way.
@@mattmartino9024 I mean, yeah, I Hitler had his opinions too, guess we should just, be open minded to all that Holocaust stuff right?
2:02 what was he supposed to do? Throw his sister to the system? You read the story, her uncle's couldn't take her in! He did what he had to doz he saved her from more suffering.
mmm. don't quite like narrators opinions on the first story or the third story gonna be honest
Same
Am the narrator here really sucks! A marriage doesnt end your life like you are putting it. Wtf its fine if you have your opinion, BUT nice that other people can life their life how they want to! I didnt expected the story teller to be the a-hole!
Why be nice to the narrator when he says things that are completely backwards
What's going on with this channel? This was my favorite reddit story channel but it feels like there's being less and less effort put into it by the day.
The main narrator disappears without even explaining, the videos aren't Fullscreen anymore despite everyone begging for it back.. The video has random misedits and random photos appearing and disappearing during it. I feel like whoever is making the vids doesn't even proof watch them before posting.
I know we're not entitled to anything, but if you want to build a fanbase and you're gaining money for our views, at least put in minimal effort :(
The other guy said he was getting burnt out and needed help. They alternate videos but, even though this guy is great, he's not mastered editing and narrating and the full screen sucks.
"Your family comes first above all! You wanna move in with me? Absolutely not, I ain't putting a roof over a grown man's head" lmaooo
Repeatedly gagging and saying it’s disgusting about not even a poly relationship (poly relationships have equal partners) and more like a shared fwb is so weird. I guess we’ll get a transphobic one if they hire another narrator. You don’t need to make an hour long video everyday, it can even be better to have shorter ones because it’s easier to digest and make time for. Especially since apparently it means you’ll get openly offensive narrators to make it that long.
OP is 100% in the right. His wife should have been the one to compromise because SHES not having a child, that’s her sister in law who’s parents just died, who’s old enough for the wife to be hands off in raising(not caring for, but RAISING) her if she’s that adamant on not being there for her sister in law enough is a CHILD mourning the death of her parent. There should be no compromise when it comes to this and OP is an amazing brother for taking his sister in. Wife is an AH.
Why should the wife compromise? they both agreed no kids and this changed now I agree the wife is the AH but I don't agree with the logic you use I mean the compromise would be as simple as you don't have to do anything for the sister aside from show basic respect and she would only have to care for the sister in dire emergencies or when there are no other options in which she can be compensated the entire reason OP should compromise is because a agreement was broken even if not of his own involvement and while she may not be the one having a child she has to deal with the consequences of having one
@@sanicinapanic4264 i am saying that ‘taking in his sister’ is not compromise-able. I’m saying that the sister being taken in should not be a compromise, not the wife caring for her.
In short, for the wife to expect OP NOT to taje in his sister makes her an AH.
Narrator is a PRUDE!! lol, I'm enjoying the videos, keep up the great work.
Also the OP with the gay brother is an absolute asshole and such a godsend for that brother. He's doing everything right ♥️
Why does the commentator keep saying GAY like that? 😂😂
Story two I am doubtful of as it's supposed to be set in the UK but used euros we don't use euros in the UK.
Maybe the story happened before Brexit or it happened in Northern Ireland 🤷♀️
Euros have never been used in the UK before or after Brexit, Northern Ireland is part of the UK. Maybe the narrator has mixed the symbols for the Pound - £ and the Euro -€ @@Azulakayes
I was so confused I thought I missed something so I reply it. But yeah we don’t use euros in the uk
Story 1: Sure, it is a nice notion for marriage and partnerships to be built on communication and compromise, but sometimes there's situations where a hard deal breaking boundary needs to be set.
You cant have a partnership where Person A gets to cheat with whoever they want all the time, and Person B is severely opposed to cheating, and the compromise be Person A gets to cheat sometimes. It doesnt work that way.
OP has every right to adopt his kid sister and take care of her, and OP's now ex-wife has every right to leave the marriage because she was very clear she didn't want to have/take care of any children. Sometimes things dont work out and life isn't fair.
Agreed but do note OP’s sister was at an age where OP’s wife could have been completely hands off if she wanted.
If his sister was a baby around 3 years of age it would definitely be a deal breaker but I personally think she should of put more thought into it as the kid was at an age where she didn’t need to do much.
@darth3911 Yes, the child is 11 years old. OP's wife could've been hands off for more years until the child is of legal age. But 7 years of contributing no emotional or financial assistance to OP's kid sister would breed some kind of resentment in their marriage anyway, no?
The last story was so beautiful. What an amazing brother.
Honestly OP of the first story is NTA he could've been more sensible I known, but the wife! Omg as a woman she should understand why she doesn't want to live with said uncle she could sympathize especially with how old the late father was this uncle could be too old to take her in or she's uncomfortable with him...
All in all better communication is needed.
Agreed
That guy blew up his entire life over a missed dinner? Some people are just hilariously stupid 🤣
1:15 it’s his sister so yeah
I'd say bye to the wife. This is an unforeseeable special circumstance. I think the wife was being selfish.
For the 1st story, I'd also like to point out that the little sister is 11, so she's not even going to be THAT dependent (like, she is still, but much much less than if she had been 9 or younger)
First story: damn. I don't want kids but if my partner ever came to me wanting to adopt their sibling, I'd gladly accept that.
I think the narrator is missing the point here on the first story. The wife laid down the ultimatum first that she refuses to take care of OP’s kid sister cause she didn’t want a kid. She was not budging, she was refusing to communicate. The wife is the asshole. He simply replied to her ultimatum with his own and she said she refused to budge. Glad they are divorcing.
I don’t think OP was in the wrong at all in the first story. You have to consider the child, what she wants. Family comes first. She’s only 11 years old and just lost her dad with no other parent to turn to than her brother. That is scaring and painful for a child that younge. You have to be absolutely heartless to deny your own blood and family to stay with you after something that tragic. Also the whole “You’re really gonna choose your sister over me?” is NOT the comeback she thought it was. Of course you would, thats your family. Unless they were some horrible person who’s done nothing good for you, family comes first. It wasn’t like this was planned either. These are special circumstances that you can’t exactly plan for unless they knew their dad was going to die while his sister was still little. His wife should have been more understanding of the situation or at least be more kind in separating. It’s not just something that’s between him and his wife, but his little sister too. How would you feel if the closest family to you died, and when you wanted to live with the next closest family you had, they abandoned you while you were only little? That’s an unimaginable type of pain.
One of my favorite narrators. However, it's pronounced AMicable.
i love reallysparked no homo you help me stay sane with these stories im tired of playing solo leveling arise with no sound
The first story, I'm not sure why OP even try to find a suggestion when he already give ultimatum to her wife
The moment he said "This is what I'm doing and I don't care" he already ruin his marriage beyond repair.
No one want that kind of dynamic in marriage
OP know what he wanted, just leave. trying to fix this just will hurt everyone
Story 1:
OP fucked up when he asked the little sister who she wants to live with before talking to his wife. You're not an individual anymore making unilateral decisions that will affect everyone in big ways potentially sculpting the course of history and relationships. You put up the lil girls hope than made it impossible for you wife to say or do anything else. She shouldnt divorce him because he took a relative in need in; she should divorce him for that. It's a harbinger for much worse to come when life throws more curveballs.
At worse he doesn't respect her enough to talk about it even if he knows what he wants or will do (divorce her) but talk first and consider everyone.
At best he is tactless as fuck and careless with the emotions and considerations of others (what if the wife felt hostage "I don't want to be the bad guy" and said "okay" then resented and went on to abuse the sister?? She told you she didn't want kids bro... And you agreed!
Or what if OP changed his mind because the wife gave some compelling reasoning or highlighted a real obstacle - you just brought up the girl's hopes for nothing).
OP should divorce her not because she voiced her stance - but when she did that toxic "You're choosing her over me?!" Self-absorbed, entitled, "Either-Or" instead of "Both-And" - throw her away. That is family, and a vulnerable little girl going through some real tough shit at that- Dafuq
ESH in my book.
Time and responsibilities could have been worked out between the 3 of them (Uncle, Wife and OP) that it didnt evwn have to blow up in divorce but this was a bomb waiting to go off regardless and OP's tactlessness (or whatever it is) was just the spark.
I feel like you're kind of being ignorant about Aromantic folx and polyamorous relationships. I get it's nit your thing but to talk how you have is kind of messed up
Most people use polygamy as an excuse to cheat and have sex with who they want when they want.
That’s not true polygamy but that’s what polygamy is becoming in the modern day.
2nd story: what a disgusting dude tbh. Not sure how she got this far into the relationship
the last story made me wish i had a brother man thats not a cat uh i have 1 cat and 2 sisters if you count animals
Yeah S1 I'm childfree but his wife wasn't understanding enough. Some commenters were idiots... Having the sister live with them only a few days a week? Argh garbage advice
Blood is thicker than water....
The ex can suk it!
The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb
@gabrielsfilms2086 yes, but colloquially it refers to family first.
@@ryangooseling the original saying says the opposite but okay
@gabrielsfilms2086 what an original saying says and how we use ot today can be very different.
There was once a job called a duck fker.
If you call someone a duck fker today it has a completely different meaning.
I regularly listen to stories from the 1800s, some popular phrases then have a completely different meaning now.
Language changes
If you can't deal with that then don't hang out on the internet
@@ryangooseling my main point was that placing family as the end all be all is stupid but okay
12:47 ?!
Okay for a sonic game those carts are so slow
I've never heard an argument from people who choose to be childless that doesn't boil down to selfishness.
Hate this narrators opinions
op 1 is a loser
it saves a ton of time and effort if you use AI voice for the texts. And it don't reduce much quality if done well. You can use different voices for different characters and for comments. There's a lot you can do with AI to save time and effort. PS.: could you consider making chapters of each story on the video's timeline?
Bruh this is one of the few channels not using AI for the narration, you can surely find what you seek in one of the countless robo reddit channels without this one conforming
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