OMG there is no end to Gabor Mate's brilliance. Every topic I have seen him lecture about, on youtube that is, every word Gabor has spoken confirms and validates my experiences in hospital settings with my differently abled son from birth and my husband's illnesses as they were treated in hospital care. I am grateful that Gabor has the courage to speak about the taboo issues and their connections to our lifestyles. Change seems to take too long. Hopefully, Gabor's candid lectures will speed change in specific areas of life in hospitals and all areas of life in general. The importance of Gabor's courage and diligence in getting positive messages out regarding the development of human psychology and how it relates to health, this information dissemination is dependent upon the courage of the people who work in hospitals. They have a significant role to play in the development of humankind.
Wonderful speech and I agree with all of this, as a Retired Nurse and as a Buddhist who has studied Healing touch, etc., in nursing and metaphysics. I love this talk. I do wish we had Health Care in the USA as good as in Canada. Women in the USA have much stress. My other wish is that all countries can love and respect the teachings of Indigenous people and learn from them, instead of testing animals by putting them under stress or pain. We could have had so much! I see the connection to suicide very clearly, too. Sharing this to help everyone.
Dorothy Simone I have bitten my nails since a very young child. Would you or anyone know how I can address this to stop. What would u recommend. Thank you. X
@@janeyd5280 Hope you find the answer. I'm over 70 years old and I just tried acupuncture for the first time. Maybe that could help? It uses energy centers. You could ask.
The sciences of Ayurveda and Yoga would fully concur with you! Thank goodness that someone who sees with true perception and intelligence is becoming well-known and respected!
GENIUS! I feel so thankful that this channel uploaded this video because it meets my need for reassurance that people are going to have to wake up sooner than later.
"People whose integrity has not been damaged in childhood, who were protected, respected, and treated with honesty by their parents, will be-both in their youth and in adulthood-intelligent, responsive, empathic, and highly sensitive. They will take pleasure in life and will not feel any need to kill or even hurt others or themselves. They will use their power to defend themselves, not to attack others. They will not be able to do otherwise than respect and protect those weaker than themselves, including their children, because this is what they have learned from their own experience. We are still barely conscious of how harmful it is to treat children in a degrading manner. Treating them with respect and recognizing the consequences of their being humiliated are by no means intellectual matters; otherwise, their importance would long since have been generally recognized. Society chooses to disregard the mistreatment of children, judging it to be altogether normal because it is so commonplace. The more we idealize the past and refuse to acknowledge our childhood sufferings, the more we pass them on unconsciously to the next generation. The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body, and although we can repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated, and conceptions confused, and our body tricked with medication. But someday our body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child, who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth. The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her, and supports her. If that person is missing, if the child must risk losing the mother’s love of her substitute in order to feel, then she will repress emotions. Every life and every childhood is filled with frustrations; we cannot imagine it otherwise, for even the best mother cannot satisfy all her child’s wishes and needs. It is not the suffering caused by frustration, however, that leads to emotional illness, but rather the fact that the child is forbidden by the parents to experience and articulate this suffering, the pain felt at being wounded. We don’t yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if parents would respect them and take them seriously as people. The reason why parents mistreat their children has less to do with character and temperament than with the fact that they were mistreated themselves and were not permitted to defend themselves. The claim that mild punishments (slaps or smacks) have no detrimental effect is still widespread because we got this message very early from our parents who had taken it over from their own parents. Unfortunately, the main damage it causes is precisely the broad dissemination of this conviction. The result of which is that each successive generation is subjected to the tragic effects of so called physical “correction.” The knowledge that you were beaten and that this, as your parents tell you, was for your own good may well be retained (although not always), but the suffering caused by the way you were mistreated will remain unconscious and will later prevent you from empathizing with others. This is why battered children grow up to be mothers and fathers who beat their offspring. Many people suffer all their lives from this oppressive feeling of guilt, the sense of not having lived up to their parents’ expectations. This feeling is stronger than any intellectual insight they might have, that it is not a child’s task or duty to satisfy his parents needs. No argument can overcome these guilt feelings, for they have their beginnings in life’s earliest periods, and from that they derive their intensity and obduracy. The abused children are alone with their suffering, not only within the family, but also within themselves. They cannot crate a place in their own soul where they could cry their heart out. The abused child goes on living within those who have survived such torture, a torture that ended with total repression. They live with the darkness of fear, oppression, and threats. When all its attempts to move the adult to heed its story have failed, it resorts to the language of symptoms to make itself heard. Enter addiction, psychosis, criminality. Till now, society has protected the adult and blamed the victim. It has been abetted in its blindness by theories, still in keeping with the pedagogical principles of our great- grandparents, according to which children are viewed as crafty creatures, dominated by wicked drives, who invent stories and attack their innocent parents or desire them sexually. In reality, children tend to blame themselves for their parents’ cruelty and to absolve the parents, whom they invariably love, of all responsibility. It is not true that evil, destructiveness , and perversion inevitably form part of human existence, no matter how often this is maintained. But it is true that we are daily producing more evil and, with it, an ocean of suffering for millions that is absolutely avoidable. When one day the ignorance arising from childhood repression is eliminated and humanity has awakened, an end can be put to this production of evil. It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be very obvious that someone who was allowed to feel free and strong from childhood does not have the need to humiliate another person. Those children who are beaten will in turn give beatings, those who are intimidated will be intimidating, those who are humiliated will impose humiliation, and those whose souls are murdered will murder. Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live in their repressed childhood situation, ignoring the fact that is no longer exists, continuing to fear and avoid dangers that, although once real, have not been real for a long time. Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory in childhood and always originates in the desperate fantasies of a child who is searching for a way out of a hopeless situation. Hitler, Stalin, Mao and other dictators were exposed to severe physical mistreatment in childhood and refused to face up to the fact later. Instead of seeing and feeling what had happened to them, they avenged themselves vicariously by killing millions of people. And millions of others helped them to do so." ~ Alice Miller "Why should society feel responsible only for the education of children, and not for the education of all adults of every age? Many psychiatrists and psychologists refuse to entertain the idea that society as a whole may be lacking in sanity. They hold that the problem of mental health in a society is only that of the number of 'unadjusted' individuals, and not of a possible un-adjustment of the culture itself. The fact that millions of people share the same vices does not make these vices virtues, the fact that they share so many errors does not make the errors to be truths, and the fact that millions of people share the same form of mental pathology does not make these people sane. A society whose principles are acquisition, profit, and property produces a social character oriented around having, and once the dominant pattern is established, nobody wants to be an outsider, or indeed an outcast; in order to avoid this risk everybody adapts to the majority, who have in common only their mutual antagonism. The deepest need of the human being is to overcome our separateness, to leave the prison of our loneliness. The person who gives up his individual self and becomes an automaton, identical with millions of other automatons around him, need not feel alone and anxious any more. But the price he pays, however, is high; it is the loss of his self. Alienation as we find it in modern society is almost total… Man has created a world of man-made things as it never existed before. He has constructed a complicated social machine to administer the technical machine he built. The more powerful and gigantic the forces are which he unleashes, the more powerless he feels himself as a human being. He is owned by his creations, and has lost ownership of himself." ~ Erich Fromm
My mother told me that I had to be induced at labor, she makes a joke that i was comfortable and warm and did't want to come out. This bothered me when she said it. It bothers me now. Today, my theory and great belief is that I was already traumatized by my parents troubled marriage; i'm certain as i have acute hearing and hypervigilant to sounds and smells. I am sensitive and eventually labelled emotional a label given to distract everyone from the truth. Thank you for the talk.
Makayla, research autism, I'm 72 and recently diagnosed autistic spectrum condition (high functioning) I'm sad my daughter 51 was diagnosed schizophrenic 30yrs ago I now believe she too is on the spectrum. Too late for her she has been swamped with psychiatrict drugs and past 10yrs alcoholic.
Learn all you can. Do what you can do within your limitations. Prayer help lead us on this very changing, unpredictable path. Seek love and moments of joy. And, find ways to know and transform your pain. There is a collective suffering we all share. Knowing your story feels like a connection. We are all connected.
Gabor, I am SUCH a fan. But as a doctorate in mind-body psych, I will say, I completed my degree (and published well in 2000), and the head of the APA retired depressed b/c as he said (in 2000), "Fifty years of rigorous, empirical mind-body research has yielded zero impact on the health care delivery system." So....yeah. Fifty years PLUS. Makes me feel downright indigenous, my gifts to the culture are so un-tapped. THANK you for using your fame to advance the care for our future young...
It is shocking how this video is coming to confirm what my "illiterate" mother and grandmother have always told me close to 50 years ago, that the mother's stress has negative effects on the child during pregnancy and in early childhood.
How I would love to meet this guy, at least hear him talk live while it is still possible. His information and commentary are so relevant, so nutritive to present day society.
Should be required for Drs to watch this. Realize common sense isn't taught in medical school or anywhere, but a person is a whole person, and their life contributes to that whole person. Have a Dr addressing trauma through bodywork and it is amazing.
Hi, Cindy Moore. My name is Cindy too and I agree with you wholeheartedly! I listen to Gabor regularly on TH-cam and I feel I am actually understanding it a little better each time.
That is a very good question! I am working on the principles that are involved in making these changes. I realize that I have been in CPTSD, in-other-words the trauma he is talking about left over from childhood and I am actually making some progress. When I get a little farther along I would be happy to share my secrets. I have my favorite people on TH-cam too, like Thrive After Abuse with Dana Morningstar. It is so nice to meet another true-blue fan, Cindy Moore.
Truly excellent presentation regarding all that we know about trauma and healing that still somehow manages to be almost completely ignored within the realm of modern medicine. Dr. Mate's work is so very enlightening, especially if one is willing to open to one's own vulnerability and to accept the clear reality that in one way or another, either personally or societally, we are ALL impacted by trauma, by intergenerational trauma and by increasing levels of stress. How we support ourselves and each other is key to both our individual and collective health and healing. Thanks for sharing this presentation.
Amen! I"ve been trying to re-parent myself (and my grown children). I want him on my side, with his kind, nurturing, validating, and loving/keep-trying attitude. May God bless him more and more, even if government institutions, main-stream medicine and other highly-politicized groups are slow to do so.
I am so obsessed with Dr. Gabor Mate. He is an absolute genius. His ideas are correct and so precise. I have seen so many of his lectures on TH-cam, it is now time to read his books. xoxoxo Soriah
I believe I've lived a near death experience most of my life because of the extreme torture and abuse I suffered since my birth through the first seventeen years of my life which included multiple familial abusers and multiple incest pregnancies starting at an earlier age than society says is normal. I've never been medicated because of this or hospitalized. I've experienced spiritual support through out of body experiences.
Beatifull to see a Dr that inspired by Jiddu krishnamurti able to look at him self critically and objectively gets close to the essence. Sooner or later we have to deal with our past as little kids. That is we want to grow, compassionate and vulnerable. Then we could become the best parent and stop the bullshit in us that can be generations old. Unfortunately the majority of people stay ignorant and this dance wil go on forever. Choise is yours.
This most excellent presentation has the capacity to be life altering if people are HUMBLE enough to acknowledge their own ignorance, inadequacies, and prejudice. A brilliant presentation.
"There's a whole shi-- ... a whole range of evidence that's being ignored..." ~ I burst into laughter. Beautiful! Not four minutes in, and he's busting the paradigm. I love how he goes off-camera for a while. ~ I've been searching and *searching* tonight for articles, research, interviews (etc.) about the effects of premature birth on the person who was born premature...There's very little. I was born two months early in the late 1950s, and there are both *astounding* strengths to survive, and devastating injury, coexisting in persons born before their natural time. I've watched Dr. Maté's Wisdom of Trauma, and all I can say is...What a gift he is. Now my search lands me here. Settling in to receive. So grateful. Hopeful like I've not felt in a long, long time. (Medically retired somatic therapist who is smitten with the wisdom and heart of this most genuine healer.) ~ Thank you so much for offering this!
We truly live in a blessed era to have access to so much wisdom from anywhere or any time, really. Even though there have been catastrophic information spread through this new networking technology we call the internet, I think the GOOD can wine
4:32 decease and early life experience - physical, emotional, spiritual, psychic health, early aquired disfunction. 6:55 Emotional life, relationship with other people and myself, on set of decease, idiopathic (don´t know cause). separation body, mind and environment. 8:10 - bio/psycho/social perspective.. 19:17 The capacity to "tune out" - a coping mechanism. 38:35 Multigenerational trauma
The fact that LISTENING is not something we do enough of and your comment here about that, inspired me to comment here: I have studied and practiced Vedic Chanting for 20 years. I have also done some teaching of this practice, along with my 40 years + practicing and teaching Yoga. I observed that my students can tune in and listen much better after doing some Vedic Chant practice where they have to listen and repeat sounds that are (to them) pure sound. I wonder if you think this practice of listening would be useful therapeutically for overcoming things like ADHD?
First saw Dr. Mate in Zeitgeist moving forward documentary back in 2013 I think. I remember this, he was instantly able to trigger my brain electrical signals very effectively and in such a powerful thus adaptable way. Found him again on YTube 'accidentally" immediately remembered him and by only listening to his awesome deepest speeches, helped me out by showing me the way dots can be connected activating in me the ability to understand their sense in my Life. Thank U Gabor!
There was so much knowledge, so many books written on trauma, ADHD, addiction, toxicity of the culture we live in, emotional detachment, and depression. However, it takes an incredibly brilliant mind to connect all these areas of research into the big picture and show how we all are affected by it, "normal people", not just those "faulty" ones of us that should be taken care of in "institutions". Gabor Mate is deservedly becoming one of the few ourstanding characters in the history of psychology to pioneer a series of breakthroughs in our understanding of the deep nature of human mental messups. You are a life-saver, Gabor. Thank you for your gift.
When I was pregnant under an American doctor, I nearly lost my baby. I was transferred to an Eastern European OB/GYN who gave me the type of advice Dr. Mate gives - including resisting the hospital's pressure for a C-section and forced labor - and my baby is now in her 20s and a joy. Mate's advice could mean life over death.
I can also listen to Gabor Mate for 3 days. It was a WOW moment when he spoke about the toxic culture most of us are 'trapped' in... Amazing work, thank you.
People interested in becoming parents should listen to this. It would have changed everything I did (and I thought I did ok back then). It’s something I will pass on to my children when they consider children.
I have learnt only from yhis brilliant compassionate inquiry, he is the teacher of our times. I am grateful i was given an intro.. Engaging in studying everthing i can here im home and happy for yhe 1st time 60 yrs in a few days... Longest journey as an artist. Mother. Disabled... Hard hell yes... But worth everything... Im glad for myself... Thr body sais no... Absolutely. Xx thabk u xx, stress gone xx
I love that Maté puts more store by anecdotal evidence than evidence-based 'science'. I had a stressful childhood. I'm sitting here age 45 in the middle of a very rough early menopause, which began at 42-43. I assumed it was just bad luck; a lottery I didn't win. The more I've researched the subject, the more the evidence suggests that stressed female children tend to reach puberty earlier (before 12). I was 11. Those same girls then have a drastically increased chance of hitting menopause early, or more prematurely (before 45) than others of their age group.
I am flabbergasted about the low level of the questions while I admire the patience you keep and the attention you are paying to them. Just remember the obituary of the family having lost their four sons in battle in Stalingrad, saying 'In stolzer Trauer'. Maybe your audience doesn't want to hear that
I've been following Dr Mate , this is one of the best lectors I have ever heard, it's so the opposite of what we are molded into. This man has the recipe.
We ALL need to be free to ask others, What's going on? I need to be able to ask you for the support that I need!!!! Then set a boundary until we receive it.
Can you just imagine how much fear and insecurities Palestinian babies must feel with all the trauma they and their parents and grandparents have and have had to endure for over 70 years now? ;(
I was thinking along those lines as well, about the children in Syria, Yemen, Afghanistan, Liberia, Iraq, etc. where we-US and ‘allies’-are bombing. I pray for them....and for us😭😭😭😭
People must find a way to spend less time in the workplace and more time with the family. ‘“The machine” doesn’t want that to happen because that breeds autonomy. The overall health, mental, physical, spiritual, is sacrificed to the bottom line. Living below ones means and eating and drinking clean nutrients is almost a dream.
The most obvious policy change that needs to happen regards maternity/paternity leave. Europe has understood this connection at the policy level, giving in some cases years of paid leave to new parents.
Thank you dr. Gabor mate. Your wisdom is truly enlightening and since ive became a mother ive been reading your books and watching your videos on TH-cam. Thank you for sharing so much wisdom.
Not just first nation people... the black community enduring huge psychological trauma. Generationally. That would be a great study...especially with compounding factors such as systemic racism and consequently perceived self value.
So very true. It's astonishing to me just how consistently the African American community--as it pertains to the history and bio-psychi-social ravages and multi-generational impact of slavery and racism--is almost always conspicuously omitted from this equation. And, is rarely discussed, in this context, with the same degree of awareness, insight, and compassion, etc..
So I realize I’m super late to the discussion but has anyone found anywhere that the black community has been discussed by Gabor in these terms? For sure I am able to extrapolate much from his talks that I can apply but is there a lecture where he might discuss the black community specifically?
@@Luvz2Surf I've first heard about intergenerational trauma from African American Studies scholars, so it's definitely out there. This guy's Canadian and their government is insanely hypocritical re: treatment of native populations, so I think he makes a point of mentioning that in particular (but in other talks he does quote African Americans and Canadians). In
@@Luvz2Surf that being said, absolutely, this stuff needs to be mainstream knowledge, not just scholarly articles (BLM has been doing a wonderful job in this regard). The machine of systemic oppression has been hiding in plain sight for enough time
Thank you for speaking against evidence-based medicine. I have also noticed how negative the results can be. It causes medical group-think to be rationalized, and suppresses the urge to deal with the individual patient.
His titles don't matter. It's WHY he is doing what he is doing. There is no life in that "title talk" talk about how you feel when you read what he writes, how do you feel when you hear him talk? Why does it resonnate with you? He meets people's need for honesty that's WHY. The Toxic Culture is going to be a great book right there with "Confessions of An Economic Hitman" "Sex At Dawn" and "The Science and Philosophy of BodyTalk"
your right he meets people;s need for honesty . That seems to be a very rare quality in life today hard to find . I am thankful that this is on youtube.
Re caesarians: I understand that vaginal delivery also ensures child gets a healthy dose of mother's gut bacteria which are essential for lifelong health.
I'm wondering that remedying this naturally might be readily possible but for being in a hygiene obsessed era in general as well as modern culture not promoting devoted time with the new baby. I watched my dog nurse her pups post c-section and she blew my mind with her total care and devotion. She fed them immediately whilst yet having a long scar down her tummy and so drugged up she could barely stand or stay awake. If she needed to go to the toilet she would go and be back in a flash to be with her babies. People want a pup at 6 or 8 weeks? She naturally fed hers, who were just about able to eat solids from 4 weeks, until they were 10 weeks of age. And she cleaned them and loved them and demonstrated a most beautiful natural patience. Pups should be with their mum as long as she can feed and care for them. I have a deep sadness with what may have led to the C-Section being necessary to add, for i was hosting 3 students then who on the second day made a huge issue over my having a dog when she was just 3 weeks pregnant (equivalent to end of 1st trimester in humans). Their religious background (although they demonstrated no evidence of having faith themselves) meant that they had inherited a regard for dogs as "unclean" and created a drama with the organisers of the trip. It was an evening of teacher and organiser and students arguing in French in my house and my dog went into a marked depression for a few days following this. I am sure this was when a pup died inside her ( - for there was an undeveloped pup came out at the c-section) and the last pup to come out didn't make it too. I knew something had happened to her with those hostile visitors. I remember there were a couple of days she seems exhausted and didn't want to come out of her bed and i actually said to a friend at that time that i hoped she had not had a miscarriage. Then i left it. Another 6 weeks and she needed a C-Section. She's such a beautiful girl and was an awesome mum and all the pups are now very healthy young dogs. I love my dog as much as one can possibly love, to the moon and back and beyond and all the way home. And she's sat next to me now and going to give her my attention now.
I have read of a female ob/gyn who, when the mother has her baby by C-section, takes a sterile sponge, collects vaginal secretions from the mother and then smears them onto the baby, primarily on the face (as that is where the "good stuff" is transferred to the baby, through the "open" areas - nose, eyes, mouth). Unfortunately I don't remember her name but her instincts are responsible for giving C-section babies the blessings of nature's gift of their mother's gut biome.
@@jennytaylor3324 I didn't hold back there much did i, and it wasn't really quite on topic ;'D. Bless you, thanks! Continuing to love and learn from my dear girls here - i have mum and kept one girl, beautiful terriers who love to explore the world in ways most terriers love to do. Is me feels so lucky to have them in my world. :)
I am deeply moved bt all...all of this. I sent it to all my friends who are parents...with gratitude for I know them all to be hugging and loving people. Said in between the lines: extend all these factors to the shooting epidemic.
Attachment to self is the key! Learning to have the courage to stand up to the negative energy's painful emotions within us, see them and choose to release them.. and you will get your power back! Your soular power..❤ we didn't even know we were missing.🧝♀️🧞♀️🧜♀️🧚♀️
I'm not super educated on a lot of things but I've always felt very strongly about the mind/body relationship and it's mostly been clear to me throughout my life. No doubt there's been times that I've lost that and I have had a couple great traumas that I've been consistently working on about the last five years, but I can say, I'm lucky(?) enough to have a space that is all mine(with work of course) and I spend A LOT of time alone reflecting and self educating and reflecting. (Lol) what I'm saying is if you need help finding YOUR truth, center or higher spirit, intuition, inner voice(whatever you want to call it) be able to comfortably spend some time ALONE. I really believe the answers to our questions or worries or problems are within us. We need to ask ourselves and then LISTEN. WE(ourselves) KNOW. Do not doubt yourself. That's my first line of advice. You got this. I fully believe that.
I also want to say, at least "westernly" we tend to treat our medicine as it's available anytime anywhere and we use it at the first sign of distress.. I believe "medicine" (like I said, mainly western) should be used as a last resort. Let our bodies and our minds sort out what we can(exercise in a way that feels good to you, educate yourself with knowledge and experience, eat what your body likes and makes you feel good, pay attention to your body) but actual medications should be used to almost like *jolt* your body or minds in a way you COULD NOT, with out a doubt, do on it's own. I hope someone understands what I'm saying, as I usually don't use the right words to accurately depict what I'm trying to say. I'm saying, I really believe that a lot more power resides in US to solve more than we think.
Gargling is a really good way to deal with stress. It sooths the Vegus nerve. Brings your vegal tone up. Try it next time you are stressed. Make a Chewbacca noise for a minute or so during your negative thought or emotion, you'll be surprised.
Great talk and all makes so much sense. Thank you! Finally these crucial information are becoming more available to educate ourselves and understand more clearly so we have the possibility to heal from inside out.
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This man speaks to the human heart directly!! His way of being and speaking, heals the person listening to him! A true gift to all of us!
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I listen to his talks every night, for as long as possible, until I fall asleep 😊
He’s one of the real ones
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It makes so much sense. I like the way he explains.
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He is learning me more about myself in each sentence than psychotherapists have in years of therapy.
Gabor Mate has profoundly changed my life. His compassionate genius transcends medicine.
OMG there is no end to Gabor Mate's brilliance. Every topic I have seen him lecture about, on youtube that is, every word Gabor has spoken confirms and validates my experiences in hospital settings with my differently abled son from birth and my husband's illnesses as they were treated in hospital care. I am grateful that Gabor has the courage to speak about the taboo issues and their connections to our lifestyles. Change seems to take too long. Hopefully, Gabor's candid lectures will speed change in specific areas of life in hospitals and all areas of life in general. The importance of Gabor's courage and diligence in getting positive messages out regarding the development of human psychology and how it relates to health, this information dissemination is dependent upon the courage of the people who work in hospitals. They have a significant role to play in the development of humankind.
👍👍👍 LOVE him, his approach and his empathy to all ill patients.
Completely agree.... he is light and love who admits his flaws and works for all of ours.
Look for his documentary, "The Wisdom of Trauma".👍
I hope Matéism becomes an expression in the future
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Wonderful speech and I agree with all of this, as a Retired Nurse and as a Buddhist who has studied Healing touch, etc., in nursing and metaphysics. I love this talk. I do wish we had Health Care in the USA as good as in Canada. Women in the USA have much stress. My other wish is that all countries can love and respect the teachings of Indigenous people and learn from them, instead of testing animals by putting them under stress or pain. We could have had so much! I see the connection to suicide very clearly, too. Sharing this to help everyone.
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Dorothy Simone I have bitten my nails since a very young child. Would you or anyone know how I can address this to stop. What would u recommend. Thank you. X
@@janeyd5280 Hope you find the answer. I'm over 70 years old and I just tried acupuncture for the first time. Maybe that could help? It uses energy centers. You could ask.
@@halvardlundnorway Am only thinking that Buddhism teaches long term cause and effect, so it helps me understand medical situations more clearly.
The sciences of Ayurveda and Yoga would fully concur with you! Thank goodness that someone who sees with true perception and intelligence is becoming well-known and respected!
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GENIUS! I feel so thankful that this channel uploaded this video because it meets my need for reassurance that people are going to have to wake up sooner than later.
This is the real deal.....spread the words....in humble firmness
Love the phrase "humble firmness"! Describes Dr. Mate very well, and how he wants us to propagate the message. Thx.
"People whose integrity has not been damaged in childhood, who were protected, respected, and treated with honesty by their parents, will be-both in their youth and in adulthood-intelligent, responsive, empathic, and highly sensitive. They will take pleasure in life and will not feel any need to kill or even hurt others or themselves. They will use their power to defend themselves, not to attack others. They will not be able to do otherwise than respect and protect those weaker than themselves, including their children, because this is what they have learned from their own experience.
We are still barely conscious of how harmful it is to treat children in a degrading manner. Treating them with respect and recognizing the consequences of their being humiliated are by no means intellectual matters; otherwise, their importance would long since have been generally recognized.
Society chooses to disregard the mistreatment of children, judging it to be altogether normal because it is so commonplace.
The more we idealize the past and refuse to acknowledge our childhood sufferings, the more we pass them on unconsciously to the next generation. The truth about our childhood is stored up in our body, and although we can repress it, we can never alter it. Our intellect can be deceived, our feelings manipulated, and conceptions confused, and our body tricked with medication. But someday our body will present its bill, for it is as incorruptible as a child, who, still whole in spirit, will accept no compromises or excuses, and it will not stop tormenting us until we stop evading the truth.
The art of not experiencing feelings. A child can experience her feelings only when there is somebody there who accepts her fully, understands her, and supports her. If that person is missing, if the child must risk losing the mother’s love of her substitute in order to feel, then she will repress emotions.
Every life and every childhood is filled with frustrations; we cannot imagine it otherwise, for even the best mother cannot satisfy all her child’s wishes and needs. It is not the suffering caused by frustration, however, that leads to emotional illness, but rather the fact that the child is forbidden by the parents to experience and articulate this suffering, the pain felt at being wounded.
We don’t yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation, if parents would respect them and take them seriously as people.
The reason why parents mistreat their children has less to do with character and temperament than with the fact that they were mistreated themselves and were not permitted to defend themselves.
The claim that mild punishments (slaps or smacks) have no detrimental effect is still widespread because we got this message very early from our parents who had taken it over from their own parents. Unfortunately, the main damage it causes is precisely the broad dissemination of this conviction. The result of which is that each successive generation is subjected to the tragic effects of so called physical “correction.”
The knowledge that you were beaten and that this, as your parents tell you, was for your own good may well be retained (although not always), but the suffering caused by the way you were mistreated will remain unconscious and will later prevent you from empathizing with others. This is why battered children grow up to be mothers and fathers who beat their offspring.
Many people suffer all their lives from this oppressive feeling of guilt, the sense of not having lived up to their parents’ expectations. This feeling is stronger than any intellectual insight they might have, that it is not a child’s task or duty to satisfy his parents needs. No argument can overcome these guilt feelings, for they have their beginnings in life’s earliest periods, and from that they derive their intensity and obduracy.
The abused children are alone with their suffering, not only within the family, but also within themselves. They cannot crate a place in their own soul where they could cry their heart out.
The abused child goes on living within those who have survived such torture, a torture that ended with total repression. They live with the darkness of fear, oppression, and threats. When all its attempts to move the adult to heed its story have failed, it resorts to the language of symptoms to make itself heard. Enter addiction, psychosis, criminality.
Till now, society has protected the adult and blamed the victim. It has been abetted in its blindness by theories, still in keeping with the pedagogical principles of our great- grandparents, according to which children are viewed as crafty creatures, dominated by wicked drives, who invent stories and attack their innocent parents or desire them sexually. In reality, children tend to blame themselves for their parents’ cruelty and to absolve the parents, whom they invariably love, of all responsibility.
It is not true that evil, destructiveness , and perversion inevitably form part of human existence, no matter how often this is maintained. But it is true that we are daily producing more evil and, with it, an ocean of suffering for millions that is absolutely avoidable. When one day the ignorance arising from childhood repression is eliminated and humanity has awakened, an end can be put to this production of evil.
It is very difficult for people to believe the simple fact that every persecutor was once a victim. Yet it should be very obvious that someone who was allowed to feel free and strong from childhood does not have the need to humiliate another person.
Those children who are beaten will in turn give beatings, those who are intimidated will be intimidating, those who are humiliated will impose humiliation, and those whose souls are murdered will murder.
Without realizing that the past is constantly determining their present actions, they avoid learning anything about their history. They continue to live in their repressed childhood situation, ignoring the fact that is no longer exists, continuing to fear and avoid dangers that, although once real, have not been real for a long time.
Sadism is not an infectious disease that strikes a person all of a sudden. It has a long prehistory in childhood and always originates in the desperate fantasies of a child who is searching for a way out of a hopeless situation.
Hitler, Stalin, Mao and other dictators were exposed to severe physical mistreatment in childhood and refused to face up to the fact later. Instead of seeing and feeling what had happened to them, they avenged themselves vicariously by killing millions of people. And millions of others helped them to do so." ~ Alice Miller
"Why should society feel responsible only for the education of children, and not for the education of all adults of every age?
Many psychiatrists and psychologists refuse to entertain the idea that society as a whole may be lacking in sanity. They hold that the problem of mental health in a society is only that of the number of 'unadjusted' individuals, and not of a possible un-adjustment of the culture itself.
The fact that millions of people share the same vices does not make these vices virtues, the fact that they share so many errors does not make the errors to be truths, and the fact that millions of people share the same form of mental pathology does not make these people sane.
A society whose principles are acquisition, profit, and property produces a social character oriented around having, and once the dominant pattern is established, nobody wants to be an outsider, or indeed an outcast; in order to avoid this risk everybody adapts to the majority, who have in common only their mutual antagonism.
The deepest need of the human being is to overcome our separateness, to leave the prison of our loneliness. The person who gives up his individual self and becomes an automaton, identical with millions of other automatons around him, need not feel alone and anxious any more. But the price he pays, however, is high; it is the loss of his self.
Alienation as we find it in modern society is almost total… Man has created a world of man-made things as it never existed before. He has constructed a complicated social machine to administer the technical machine he built. The more powerful and gigantic the forces are which he unleashes, the more powerless he feels himself as a human being. He is owned by his creations, and has lost ownership of himself." ~ Erich Fromm
My mother told me that I had to be induced at labor, she makes a joke that i was comfortable and warm and did't want to come out. This bothered me when she said it. It bothers me now. Today, my theory and great belief is that I was already traumatized by my parents troubled marriage; i'm certain as i have acute hearing and hypervigilant to sounds and smells. I am sensitive and eventually labelled emotional a label given to distract everyone from the truth. Thank you for the talk.
Makayla, research autism, I'm 72 and recently diagnosed autistic spectrum condition (high functioning) I'm sad my daughter 51 was diagnosed schizophrenic 30yrs ago I now believe she too is on the spectrum. Too late for her she has been swamped with psychiatrict drugs and past 10yrs alcoholic.
Learn all you can. Do what you can do within your limitations. Prayer help lead us on this very changing, unpredictable path. Seek love and moments of joy. And, find ways to know and transform your pain. There is a collective suffering we all share. Knowing your story feels like a connection. We are all connected.
Gabor, I am SUCH a fan. But as a doctorate in mind-body psych, I will say, I completed my degree (and published well in 2000), and the head of the APA retired depressed b/c as he said (in 2000), "Fifty years of rigorous, empirical mind-body research has yielded zero impact on the health care delivery system." So....yeah. Fifty years PLUS. Makes me feel downright indigenous, my gifts to the culture are so un-tapped. THANK you for using your fame to advance the care for our future young...
It is shocking how this video is coming to confirm what my "illiterate" mother and grandmother have always told me close to 50 years ago, that the mother's stress has negative effects on the child during pregnancy and in early childhood.
im so glad mate always speaks for the First Nations
How I would love to meet this guy, at least hear him talk live while it is still possible. His information and commentary are so relevant, so nutritive to present day society.
Oh me too Steve, I'm from Australia and would absolutely love to be in a room where the magnificent Gabor is talking
Me too guys... Unfortunately, I don't think he's ever coming to Greece...
why/ it is not about him, it is about you.
"I was a workaholic father. My children felt it was their fault. Multi-generational trauma" Jesus..that hit home.
An OG in several Medical specialties. Exemplary physician who truly lives by the Hippocratic Oath. 👏👏👏
Finally a doctor who makes sense.
Should be required for Drs to watch this. Realize common sense isn't taught in medical school or anywhere, but a person is a whole person, and their life contributes to that whole person. Have a Dr addressing trauma through bodywork and it is amazing.
Completely Genius!!!♥️ I’m so Thankful that someone has brought this to public awareness.
Hi, Cindy Moore. My name is Cindy too and I agree with you wholeheartedly! I listen to Gabor regularly on TH-cam and I feel I am actually understanding it a little better each time.
CynthiaSchoenbauer He’s very good. I agree with this Teaching too. My question is how do we put it into our lives.
That is a very good question! I am working on the principles that are involved in making these changes. I realize that I have been in CPTSD, in-other-words the trauma he is talking about left over from childhood and I am actually making some progress. When I get a little farther along I would be happy to share my secrets. I have my favorite people on TH-cam too, like Thrive After Abuse with Dana Morningstar. It is so nice to meet another true-blue fan, Cindy Moore.
CynthiaSchoenbauer Yes please do. Thank you!
Truly excellent presentation regarding all that we know about trauma and healing that still somehow manages to be almost completely ignored within the realm of modern medicine. Dr. Mate's work is so very enlightening, especially if one is willing to open to one's own vulnerability and to accept the clear reality that in one way or another, either personally or societally, we are ALL impacted by trauma, by intergenerational trauma and by increasing levels of stress. How we support ourselves and each other is key to both our individual and collective health and healing. Thanks for sharing this presentation.
Amen! I"ve been trying to re-parent myself (and my grown children). I want him on my side, with his kind, nurturing, validating, and loving/keep-trying attitude. May God bless him more and more, even if government institutions, main-stream medicine and other highly-politicized groups are slow to do so.
I am so obsessed with Dr. Gabor Mate. He is an absolute genius. His ideas are correct and so precise. I have seen so many of his lectures on TH-cam, it is now time to read his books. xoxoxo Soriah
No books simply compassion for the one heart we all are 💖🙏💖
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1:07 “ don’t worry about whether or not you screwed up your kid...you did so don’t worry about it.” So freeing.... helps me listen to the solution. 🙏🏼
I cannot stress enough the importance of what Dr. Maté is doing. Thank you.
I am so so thankful for this beautiful person...I can't stop watching his videos here...he is helping me so much I can't tell you...♥♥♥
I believe I've lived a near death experience most of my life because of the extreme torture and abuse I suffered since my birth through the first seventeen years of my life which included multiple familial abusers and multiple incest pregnancies starting at an earlier age than society says is normal. I've never been medicated because of this or hospitalized. I've experienced spiritual support through out of body experiences.
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Thank you for sharing. My trauma was behind my own spiritual awakening, so I can completely relate. It is a gift.
Beatifull to see a Dr that inspired by Jiddu krishnamurti able to look at him self critically and objectively gets close to the essence. Sooner or later we have to deal with our past as little kids. That is we want to grow, compassionate and vulnerable. Then we could become the best parent and stop the bullshit in us that can be generations old. Unfortunately the majority of people stay ignorant and this dance wil go on forever. Choise is yours.
You have changed my life sir. I will be paying it forward for the rest of my life
It is sacred work bringing children into this world and caring for mothers. ❤
Dr. Maté is a legend in his own right. Internalize his spoken knowledge and wisdom not just listen to it.
This most excellent presentation has the capacity to be life
altering if people are
HUMBLE enough to
acknowledge their own
ignorance, inadequacies, and prejudice. A brilliant presentation.
"There's a whole shi-- ... a whole range of evidence that's being ignored..." ~ I burst into laughter. Beautiful! Not four minutes in, and he's busting the paradigm. I love how he goes off-camera for a while. ~ I've been searching and *searching* tonight for articles, research, interviews (etc.) about the effects of premature birth on the person who was born premature...There's very little. I was born two months early in the late 1950s, and there are both *astounding* strengths to survive, and devastating injury, coexisting in persons born before their natural time. I've watched Dr. Maté's Wisdom of Trauma, and all I can say is...What a gift he is. Now my search lands me here. Settling in to receive. So grateful. Hopeful like I've not felt in a long, long time. (Medically retired somatic therapist who is smitten with the wisdom and heart of this most genuine healer.) ~ Thank you so much for offering this!
We truly live in a blessed era to have access to so much wisdom from anywhere or any time, really. Even though there have been catastrophic information spread through this new networking technology we call the internet, I think the GOOD can wine
4:32 decease and early life experience - physical, emotional, spiritual, psychic health, early aquired disfunction.
6:55 Emotional life, relationship with other people and myself, on set of decease, idiopathic (don´t know cause). separation body, mind and environment.
8:10 - bio/psycho/social perspective..
19:17 The capacity to "tune out" - a coping mechanism.
38:35 Multigenerational trauma
I think this his best speech yet… I am 46 and don’t have children…. but I feel him soooooo much.
This should be taught as medicine 101 in every college before any other medical classes.
Young people are looking to Facebook, Instagram etc for likes and "friends" for their attachment needs ☹️
He's a gift.
There is no doubt about that, June! He has helped me so much with the guidance to know where I am going and what I can believe in.
The fact that LISTENING is not something we do enough of and your comment here about that, inspired me to comment here: I have studied and practiced Vedic Chanting for 20 years. I have also done some teaching of this practice, along with my 40 years + practicing and teaching Yoga. I observed that my students can tune in and listen much better after doing some Vedic Chant practice where they have to listen and repeat sounds that are (to them) pure sound. I wonder if you think this practice of listening would be useful therapeutically for overcoming things like ADHD?
First saw Dr. Mate in Zeitgeist moving forward documentary back in 2013 I think. I remember this, he was instantly able to trigger my brain electrical signals very effectively and in such a powerful thus adaptable way. Found him again on YTube 'accidentally" immediately remembered him and by only listening to his awesome deepest speeches, helped me out by showing me the way dots can be connected activating in me the ability to understand their sense in my Life.
Thank U Gabor!
This makes me feel proud and happy that I insisted on a home birth among other childrearing choices that people called crazy or obsessive at the time.
There was so much knowledge, so many books written on trauma, ADHD, addiction, toxicity of the culture we live in, emotional detachment, and depression. However, it takes an incredibly brilliant mind to connect all these areas of research into the big picture and show how we all are affected by it, "normal people", not just those "faulty" ones of us that should be taken care of in "institutions". Gabor Mate is deservedly becoming one of the few ourstanding characters in the history of psychology to pioneer a series of breakthroughs in our understanding of the deep nature of human mental messups. You are a life-saver, Gabor. Thank you for your gift.
I hereby nominate you sir, for the Nobel price in medicine AND economics.
Don't mud his work with that two-faced organization
@@tonidjakic why two faced? Please explain.
When I was pregnant under an American doctor, I nearly lost my baby. I was transferred to an Eastern European OB/GYN who gave me the type of advice Dr. Mate gives - including resisting the hospital's pressure for a C-section and forced labor - and my baby is now in her 20s and a joy. Mate's advice could mean life over death.
I can also listen to Gabor Mate for 3 days. It was a WOW moment when he spoke about the toxic culture most of us are 'trapped' in... Amazing work, thank you.
Pure genius and incredible insight
Alcohol and drugs are the bandaids applied to wounds that if left uncovered would destroy them.
Please clarify .....
nicely put
if iIT could be summed up in a pretty little package... I'd slap a bow on this! you worded it perfectly!
nicely put
if iIT could be summed up in a pretty little package... I'd slap a bow on this! you worded it perfectly!
I'm saying this to the bandaid comment- keep it simple
Brilliant
I love this man, I wish him and his family the best.
People interested in becoming parents should listen to this. It would have changed everything I did (and I thought I did ok back then). It’s something I will pass on to my children when they consider children.
This work is a love gift to the world. Thank you.
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I have learnt only from yhis brilliant compassionate inquiry, he is the teacher of our times. I am grateful i was given an intro.. Engaging in studying everthing i can here im home and happy for yhe 1st time 60 yrs in a few days... Longest journey as an artist. Mother. Disabled... Hard hell yes... But worth everything... Im glad for myself... Thr body sais no... Absolutely. Xx thabk u xx, stress gone xx
Enlightened being...Open hearted and A Truth Seeker... The WOUNDED HEALER☆☆☆♡ ◇◇◇
Brilliant! Dr. Mate has given the world something terribly precious - INSIGHT to the psyche!!!
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I love that Maté puts more store by anecdotal evidence than evidence-based 'science'. I had a stressful childhood. I'm sitting here age 45 in the middle of a very rough early menopause, which began at 42-43. I assumed it was just bad luck; a lottery I didn't win. The more I've researched the subject, the more the evidence suggests that stressed female children tend to reach puberty earlier (before 12). I was 11. Those same girls then have a drastically increased chance of hitting menopause early, or more prematurely (before 45) than others of their age group.
I am flabbergasted about the low level of the questions while I admire the patience you keep and the attention you are paying to them. Just remember the obituary of the family having lost their four sons in battle in Stalingrad, saying 'In stolzer Trauer'. Maybe your audience doesn't want to hear that
I've been following Dr Mate , this is one of the best lectors I have ever heard, it's so the opposite of what we are molded into. This man has the recipe.
I love him, I'm so grateful for his intuitions and knowledge
Dr. Gabor Mate deserves a Nobel Prize
you’re a gift Dr. Maté …. thank you for you. i’m so grateful for you and your teachings. no more words to express the gratitude 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
We ALL need to be free to ask others, What's going on? I need to be able to ask you for the support that I need!!!! Then set a boundary until we receive it.
Communication and conflict management need to be taught in elementary and high school.
Can you just imagine how much fear and insecurities Palestinian babies must feel with all the trauma they and their parents and grandparents have and have had to endure for over 70 years now? ;(
Its a tragedy how they are treated ,
I was thinking along those lines as well, about the children in Syria, Yemen, Afghanistan, Liberia, Iraq, etc. where we-US and ‘allies’-are bombing. I pray for them....and for us😭😭😭😭
It's tragic.
People must find a way to spend less time in the workplace and more time with the family. ‘“The machine” doesn’t want that to happen because that breeds autonomy. The overall health, mental, physical, spiritual, is sacrificed to the bottom line. Living below ones means and eating and drinking clean nutrients is almost a dream.
The lady's question at 1:11.53 is where I am at. Gabor is a wonderful human being
The most obvious policy change that needs to happen regards maternity/paternity leave. Europe has understood this connection at the policy level, giving in some cases years of paid leave to new parents.
Absolutely astonishing that America doesn't have it. And also has some of the lowest level of paid holiday time in the western world too.
It is true, maternity/paternity leaves are luxurious in Europe comparing to US. But don't worry we all have war trauma here :D
Confirming relational importance clearly. Thank you
Three fourths of the way through this amazing video Sat Dharam Kaur speaks. I’ve never been interested in any form of yoga until this moment.
Thank you dr. Gabor mate. Your wisdom is truly enlightening and since ive became a mother ive been reading your books and watching your videos on TH-cam. Thank you for sharing so much wisdom.
Not just first nation people... the black community enduring huge psychological trauma. Generationally. That would be a great study...especially with compounding factors such as systemic racism and consequently perceived self value.
So very true. It's astonishing to me just how consistently the African American community--as it pertains to the history and bio-psychi-social ravages and multi-generational impact of slavery and racism--is almost always conspicuously omitted from this equation. And, is rarely discussed, in this context, with the same degree of awareness, insight, and compassion, etc..
yes rohan and add to that 400 years of epigenetics.....grandfather richard
So I realize I’m super late to the discussion but has anyone found anywhere that the black community has been discussed by Gabor in these terms? For sure I am able to extrapolate much from his talks that I can apply but is there a lecture where he might discuss the black community specifically?
@@Luvz2Surf I've first heard about intergenerational trauma from African American Studies scholars, so it's definitely out there. This guy's Canadian and their government is insanely hypocritical re: treatment of native populations, so I think he makes a point of mentioning that in particular (but in other talks he does quote African Americans and Canadians). In
@@Luvz2Surf that being said, absolutely, this stuff needs to be mainstream knowledge, not just scholarly articles (BLM has been doing a wonderful job in this regard). The machine of systemic oppression has been hiding in plain sight for enough time
He's one of the best... amoungst a few of the best. Thank Dr. Gabor Maté.
Thank you for speaking against evidence-based medicine. I have also noticed how negative the results can be. It causes medical group-think to be rationalized, and suppresses the urge to deal with the individual patient.
He is using evidence…it’s just ignored evidence
I wish I had this information when I was expecting my children. Nevertheless, I am grateful to gain this knowledge from this amazing doctor.
Exactly, it seems there is no end to Gsbor's brilliance
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Tears of joy…I have high hopes of solving my small (t) trauma. Hope to make things better in my own family. Love you gabor- your books are amazing
Treating everything with a stress hormone
Sounds logical to me
Great doctor
His titles don't matter. It's WHY he is doing what he is doing. There is no life in that "title talk" talk about how you feel when you read what he writes, how do you feel when you hear him talk? Why does it resonnate with you? He meets people's need for honesty that's WHY. The Toxic Culture is going to be a great book right there with "Confessions of An Economic Hitman" "Sex At Dawn" and "The Science and Philosophy of BodyTalk"
Nathan Navarrete I Completely Agree with You!!!
your right he meets people;s need for honesty . That seems to be a very rare quality in life today hard to find . I am thankful that this is on youtube.
total yes brilliance and honesty
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Dr. Gabor is the only therapist I can believe
Re caesarians: I understand that vaginal delivery also ensures child gets a healthy dose of mother's gut bacteria which are essential for lifelong health.
I'm wondering that remedying this naturally might be readily possible but for being in a hygiene obsessed era in general as well as modern culture not promoting devoted time with the new baby.
I watched my dog nurse her pups post c-section and she blew my mind with her total care and devotion. She fed them immediately whilst yet having a long scar down her tummy and so drugged up she could barely stand or stay awake. If she needed to go to the toilet she would go and be back in a flash to be with her babies. People want a pup at 6 or 8 weeks? She naturally fed hers, who were just about able to eat solids from 4 weeks, until they were 10 weeks of age. And she cleaned them and loved them and demonstrated a most beautiful natural patience. Pups should be with their mum as long as she can feed and care for them.
I have a deep sadness with what may have led to the C-Section being necessary to add, for i was hosting 3 students then who on the second day made a huge issue over my having a dog when she was just 3 weeks pregnant (equivalent to end of 1st trimester in humans). Their religious background (although they demonstrated no evidence of having faith themselves) meant that they had inherited a regard for dogs as "unclean" and created a drama with the organisers of the trip. It was an evening of teacher and organiser and students arguing in French in my house and my dog went into a marked depression for a few days following this. I am sure this was when a pup died inside her ( - for there was an undeveloped pup came out at the c-section) and the last pup to come out didn't make it too. I knew something had happened to her with those hostile visitors. I remember there were a couple of days she seems exhausted and didn't want to come out of her bed and i actually said to a friend at that time that i hoped she had not had a miscarriage. Then i left it. Another 6 weeks and she needed a C-Section. She's such a beautiful girl and was an awesome mum and all the pups are now very healthy young dogs. I love my dog as much as one can possibly love, to the moon and back and beyond and all the way home. And she's sat next to me now and going to give her my attention now.
Marylee Macpherson and MD convenience...
I have read of a female ob/gyn who, when the mother has her baby by C-section, takes a sterile sponge, collects vaginal secretions from the mother and then smears them onto the baby, primarily on the face (as that is where the "good stuff" is transferred to the baby, through the "open" areas - nose, eyes, mouth). Unfortunately I don't remember her name but her instincts are responsible for giving C-section babies the blessings of nature's gift of their mother's gut biome.
@@uyouhaveyou Great comment, mate. Lucky animals to have you.
@@jennytaylor3324 I didn't hold back there much did i, and it wasn't really quite on topic ;'D. Bless you, thanks!
Continuing to love and learn from my dear girls here - i have mum and kept one girl, beautiful terriers who love to explore the world in ways most terriers love to do. Is me feels so lucky to have them in my world. :)
This is the best speech ever this is realistic
How are children going to cop with their future of the trauma of Cov 19
I am deeply moved bt all...all of this. I sent it to all my friends who are parents...with gratitude for I know them all to be hugging and loving people. Said in between the lines: extend all these factors to the shooting epidemic.
Thank you for your knowledge and wonderful energy.
He is amazing
🦋☀🦋❤ Máté Gábor csodálatos ajándék vagy az ezen a bolygón. Minden gondolatod szeretem.
Attachment to self is the key! Learning to have the courage to stand up to the negative energy's painful emotions within us, see them and choose to release them.. and you will get your power back! Your soular power..❤ we didn't even know we were missing.🧝♀️🧞♀️🧜♀️🧚♀️
I'm not super educated on a lot of things but I've always felt very strongly about the mind/body relationship and it's mostly been clear to me throughout my life. No doubt there's been times that I've lost that and I have had a couple great traumas that I've been consistently working on about the last five years, but I can say, I'm lucky(?) enough to have a space that is all mine(with work of course) and I spend A LOT of time alone reflecting and self educating and reflecting. (Lol) what I'm saying is if you need help finding YOUR truth, center or higher spirit, intuition, inner voice(whatever you want to call it) be able to comfortably spend some time ALONE. I really believe the answers to our questions or worries or problems are within us. We need to ask ourselves and then LISTEN. WE(ourselves) KNOW. Do not doubt yourself. That's my first line of advice. You got this. I fully believe that.
I also want to say, at least "westernly" we tend to treat our medicine as it's available anytime anywhere and we use it at the first sign of distress.. I believe "medicine" (like I said, mainly western) should be used as a last resort. Let our bodies and our minds sort out what we can(exercise in a way that feels good to you, educate yourself with knowledge and experience, eat what your body likes and makes you feel good, pay attention to your body) but actual medications should be used to almost like *jolt* your body or minds in a way you COULD NOT, with out a doubt, do on it's own. I hope someone understands what I'm saying, as I usually don't use the right words to accurately depict what I'm trying to say. I'm saying, I really believe that a lot more power resides in US to solve more than we think.
I wish this information would be more learnt ,thank you Dr Gabor,your wisdom and knowledge is inspiring.
So much wisdom! I’m getting my own theraphy through all his talks and books... what a relief is not my fault
Great talk 💖 Thank you for posting!
Thanks for the upload.
Amazing speaker. Thank you for sharing.
Multi-generational trauma 8th chakra pathology. So real and true.
Curious about this for 8th chakra.....
@@theresapelham1918 me too
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Gargling is a really good way to deal with stress. It sooths the Vegus nerve. Brings your vegal tone up. Try it next time you are stressed. Make a Chewbacca noise for a minute or so during your negative thought or emotion, you'll be surprised.
Wow! That's so interesting, thank you for sharing.
I love this kind gentleman very interesting man. (I sometimes wish the introduction part was a bit simpler and shorter but Gabor is worth the wait).
Amazing! It’s so simple if you think about it. It’s common sense
Were was this doctor!? He is a genius of the mind ...
Great talk and all makes so much sense. Thank you! Finally these crucial information are becoming more available to educate ourselves and understand more clearly so we have the possibility to heal from inside out.
Incredible wisdom! So grateful I found him!
Thank You Dr Gabor Mate, su labor es grande, mucha admiracion siento por Usted.
Great dr ..we have exactly the same outlook in the religion of Islam with proofs and evidences..great work Dr
Dear God, what is happening to these children in detention camps?😢😢😢😢🙏🙏
What detention camps?
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And it has gotten even worse under the new administration 😢
Wish i was there would buy every book n get it signed.
Me too!
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