How Praise Spoils Children | Salman Asif Siddiqui | بچے تعریف سے کیسے بگڑتے ہیں؟
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- In this video, Salman Asif Siddiqui talks about how praise affects the nafs of children, and suggests some alternatives to it.
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It has become a culture to praise children at home plus school and higher ups at work place. It spoils emaan of our children and causes corruption at institutes. Respect and Dua are the best thing we can do for each other, both are recommended by our Holy Prophet peace be upon him and have long lasting positive impact on someone life and after.
Nafs ka cocecept ap taswuf ky baghair nae samjh sakty Hein nae ap ko parhna chahye lazmi phir Nazar aega nafs ap ko haqeqat mein sofiism concept samjhein
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Jazakallah
Sir you r blessing from Allah Swt.
May Allah Grant you reward in this dunia and life hearaftr.ameen
Thanks Dr shaib
I listened both of you masha Allah Excellent
Stay bless
SubhanAllah very indepth excellently explained so helpful Alhamdulillah.
It's a very deep conversation based on Quran and sunnah. May Allah swt give us courage to reflect upon it. Ameen
Mashallah..oski hamad hy k jis ny ap jesy ahele danish ko hmary liye msmoor frmaya
Zbrdst explanation of tazkia and our society culture
very informative
JazakAllah khairan!
Allah pak hamain samajhny ki tofeeq naseeb farmain ameen
Jazakumullah Allah ap ko mazeed ilam batne ki tofeeq de ameen
JazakAllah Khair for the excellent guide line for tarbiyah
Sochne ke lye achi point de he aap ne.
Jazzakilah khiern
Wow سبحان اللہ may Allah bless you sir. You have guided very well.
Mind blowing ! JazakAllah Khairan Katheeran
Alhamdulillah hi Rabbulalameen.
Tamam tareef tu sirf ALLAH kai lia hai.
أنت جوهر، انت تقوم بعمل رائع.❣️❣️
Excellent... Dua
Jazakillah great explanation
sir ap ye video na bnaty tu bot sy waldain D track ho jaty meri trah Allah ap jaisy ensanon ko slamat rakhy thanks Allah sir zyada sy zyada videos bnaen plzzzzzzzzzzz
Amaizing depth and insight. Thanks Salman for sharing these gems of wisdom with us. Allah pak ismai barkat dain, or humain samajhnay or amal kernay ki taufeeq ata fermayain, aammeen
💕💖 بارک اللہ فیک
You are correct we can do both in life. We do say Alhamdulilla all the time. So, thanking and praising eah other is fine but we need to teach our children to say Alhamdulilla before praising or thanking each other.
Behtreen 👍👍
JazakAllah khayr . You are the beacon of wisdom and spirituality. May Allah always protect you from storms as all of us as human beings weak and need prayers. My duaas for you . You have always been my mentor.
Assalamualaikum WRWB
جزاک اللہ خیر
Jazakillah...❤️🌟
So true, being a teacher myself, teaching previously in Pakistan and now in the UK in early years sector, we do focus on letting child know that they are doing their best rather telling them that thery are the best. Best practice is to praise the child for their effort rather the end result. The moment you as parent or caregiver praise the child, they stop learning and putting effort. Excellent video and rest of your videos are really informative. 👍🏼
Right Sir..it is directly controdict with Mohammad sallallhu 'alaihi wasallam, praise is not a good thing itself..because many people going wrong way with this.
Dear,, Contradict?
Jazak ALLAH sir.
Jazzak Allah 😊 love you Sir ❤️ u r GR8 😍
جزاك الله خير
Excellient.
*Great sir* wow
Subhan Allah
Jazakallah khayr. Very important discussion. The first thing that the tile brought to my mind was how praise could be dangerous when "praise your child" is the maxim of the day.
What I gathered from the talk is there's a difference between تعریف and تشکر or اعتراف, albeit very slight and difficult to tell. Maybe this distinction is the tough task.
Please add to my understanding if I missed something.
Very good point Juzzkullh
Your lectures are full of knowledge and wisdom but you explain them on a philosophical level , if you could explain in a daily life example , as a lay person it would be more easy to understand and implement.
JzakAllah
MashAllah
Mashallah 👍👍
Akhri baat👌
Qasim Ali shah ko ap s sekhna chahye ap mashaallah bht alag insan Hein bordem is interesting lecture I listen first when I confuse about boredem
There is a difference between appreciation and praise. Good work DOES require appreciation and children do need encouragement when they do good things.
Yes sir I have had always this question
Nice Sir
جزاک اللہ سر...
Lekin mujhe esa kiun lagta hai aap zadatar masle batate hain masle k hal nhi aate video me.
Your videos are great help for me and make me do things more patiently.
But still not child centric.
I m indian I wish I could have attended your session with my son.
5:36
Ibn Ka'b bin Malik Al-Ansari narrated from his father, that the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) said:
"Two wolves free among sheep are no more destructive to them than a man's desire for wealth and honor is to his religion."
Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani) - Hasan (Darussalam)
Reference : Jami` at-Tirmidhi 2376
In-book reference : Book 36, Hadith 73
English translation : Vol. 4, Book 10, Hadith 2376
Video khuwa kitni bhi lambi q naa ho jaey.. Bsss concept clear hony chahiyen.. jo waqeii kuchh seekhna - jaan'na chahty hn unky liye yeh sb matter nhi krta 👍
Sir please examples ka through bi sumjaiu
There is a general issues with deeni people that that whatever is bad being done is the problem of people & what ever good is happening is all b/c of Allah ... so where is human efforts or action or existence is still unexplained?
Praise
Sir aik masla Hai psychological
Asalam u alikum
Sir kia ap s zindagi mi ik baar mulaqat ho sakti hai plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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Sir, are you a child psychologist? a child behaviourist? Have you done any research in this field? Science says we should praise children's good actions, and encourage them when they fail, instead of beating them and making them feel like failures. This is needed to increase their confidence, you're telling us to not praise children. This is why most Pakistanis don't have confidence because of this kind of unscientific advice sir. With all due respect.
He is just advising against western form of excess praise where kid becomes bigheaded, expects praise, thinks all his kamalaat are from his ownself...there is no harm in thanking children for their good actions, making dua for em and saying mashallah, look what abilities Allah has blessed you with, etc.
A high level Muslim would hate to be praised to the face, although it is natural to enjoy praise. Like he said, it is like knowing white sugar is bad for you, despite liking the taste.
@@Snailryder OK, so he could have called it "undeserved praise" instead of a clickbaity title like that. AFAIK, most western countries are doing way better than any Muslim country sir as far as bringing up their children. Maybe that's one reason millions of Muslims try every year to enter western countries by hook or crook. Children feed off praise and to say one shouldn't praise them just sounds wrong. Actually a lot of behavioural psychologists say one should ignore bad behaviour and only praise when children engage in good behavior. Undue praise may be uncalled for. I agree. And I don't see this as a "Muslim" vs "non Muslim" children issue, Children are children.
@@AbaseenPodcast Have you watched the full video? Everything is explained fully.
Firstly, it is an erroneous perception that children are brought up better in Western countries...just ask anybody who teaches in a state secondary in the UK or lives in a working class housing estate, where teenagers are unruly, disrespectful and even physically intimidate and attack teachers and neighbours!
Secondly, the reason for migration to Western countries is due to poverty, economic deprivation and mismanagement of resources in their home countries, and perhaps an image from media/Hollywood portraying life in Europe or the US to be luxurious - nothing to do with kids...
Finally, this video is about the Prophetic way of raising children, not Muslim vs Non-Muslim. Children should be given positive feedback in the RIGHT way, which does not create big egos or expectations of constant praise. The Prophet SAW had a beautiful character and loved children, treating them with kindness and compassiom, but also provided us with a balance and a framework so that we do not spoil them in the blindness of unconditional love.
Again, I suggest you listen to the full video then make your judgement...
@@Snailryder I guess the point is that children shouldn't be overly praised to the point that they develop arrogance and start demanding praise for petty things. And when they do something wrong they should be corrected. There were times in the Sunnah of the Prophet (S. A.W) that companions were praised for their actions so they are motivated to do even better. It's just undeserving praise which Islam teaches us to avoid.
is bare main kia khayal hai ke woh kaam jo bacha ghalat karta hai to us ko bataya jaye ke aap ne ghalat kaam kia yeh mujhe aur ALLAH ko pasand nahi aur jab acha kare to bataya jaye ke maschALLAH acha kaam kia ALLAH ko pasand hai aur hamain yaani maa baap ko bhi ??
میرے اندر قوت گناہ تو ہے پر رغبت گناہ نہیں کسی مسلمان کے ایمان کو حب جاہ اور حب مال کو جو خطرہ ہے وہ کہیں زیادہ ہے اس حطرےسے کہ ایک بکرے کو بھوکا بھیڑیے
جزاک الله
يااخي الكريم
Plz 18 sal k larkon men buri adat..ie mobile fon ka ziyada use , ghalt dost..sb koch hobbies ,garding,pets k bawajood bhi boriyt..or apny parents khas tor pr apni walida say boht hi bora salook jo toheen tk barha hoa ho....plz lazim btaen
Sir ap ka pass knowledge bht hai lakin ap bht tough words use karte hain.. make it easy..! Nafs? Tazkiya? Hubbe ja? Yeh normal logoon ko itni gari urdu nai samjh ati
Ur too difficult sir plz little simple level c bohth kia kare
PAKUSTAN MEAN BACHCHOON KO JINSY ZIADTI KA NIDHANA BANAYA
JARAHA HAY ADDS UR TUM BATEAN KARTAY HO ???
Hahaha bolny ki practice theek tra nhi ki.