I know this video is 9 years old and I'm a little late to the party but, God what a powerful message. I'm am currently 4 months sober after a 4.5 year relapse/ bender that literally almost took me out. Everything she said said in this video resonates with me on some level. Thank you for making this content and know that, even 9 years later, the message is still reaching people.
thank you for sharing this. i'm 31 and been struggling with alcohol for almost 20 years...and i just got out of rehab and into an outpatient program. it takes a lot of strength to come out of the shadows. everyone sees this "perfect" person with no idea what is going on behind that same shadow.
I can feel u have been struggling with the same hope u r doing good . I know we might not be as strong as others but somewhere we still are fighters who fight every single day with loneliness depression, sadness of losing someone or even being broken by a person who we loved
This is a great talk because she doesn’t focus long on her story, but on the core of the issue and offers truthful suggestion of where to focus on what a path toward recovery would require. I’ve watched dozens and dozens of tedtalks on this subject (and depression), and this is very direct and intelligently expressed.
My 1st day of not drinking. I'm eating and seeing the light clearer. Been praying for this & Glory be to Jesus these addictions have been lifted. My health will get better cause know who is our maker more & more & Believe in Jesus. Please pray for me? Thanks
Life Changing. Culture shock. I am a recovering addict. The words are profound. Speaks to me in ways I can understand. Can't quit listening and tuning in
Jo Harvey rocks! First and foremost she is talking to youngsters. Who talks to youngsters anymore? Only the tough ones do. Stories are an important part of our lives. From the time we wake up till we go to bed, we are telling stories to ourselves, and to others. Here, she tells how we can make our stories more effective.......
Finding the positive aspects within our own addictive behaviors might sound like "glorifying drug use" to some. Yet Jo Harvey's perspective on separation of guilt and shame allows us to go to that retrospective place, acknowledge our guilt and process for growth.
Yes!!! One of the best talks of addiction..I'm sitting here listening to this to help with my addiction. I don't feel the need to be specific as to what it is because it is still an addiction.
my favorite part was the analogy of sin is missing the mark, I love how she used aweakness learned from self awareness, to one of strength...overall a intelligent, strong from her weaknesses,and ?beautiful with a touch of modesty that i didn't think still existed. ..thank you for sharing :)
You’ve got this. Make a plan and develop some coping mechanisms the best you can. We’ll all be ok if we can fight the good fight using strategy instead of blind willpower.
as someone who doesn’t drink, this helped me understand more about the experience and how to help my friend recover. i have mental disorders and addictive tendencies, and hopefully that experience can help with empathizing more. i will try to learn more, and i wish all of you struggling with addiction or loved ones suffering from addiction the best, and that you’re successful in your journey
Wow she nailed it. I use to cure my grief in a bottle of wine. After losing all my close family members in 5 years I was scared to heal the pain because I knew that ripping the band aids off would hurt more then accepting the pain of my grief.
That is a huge loss. Sometimes it an avoidance and sometimes we need a better support system around us and different tools before we dive in. Wishing you lots of love and grace on your healing journey
@@realfitnesssafari3123 actually i got admitted recently due to colon infection and just out from hospital. Lost 4kg. I decided to stay healthy after these.
You're just Amazing in" Human's compréhension" ! Comes from France 🙏, I honestly, I Hope that you understand what I Said ! Thanks you for doing the GREAT GOOD JOB 👍🏾
▬▬► Hi friends. If yоu or a looved one neеds helр with drugs or alcohol addiccсtioooon CALL ►►► *1-888-966-2616* (Toll-Free) Don't wait until its too late where theеre is life thereеe is hорe рeace and bleeeessings!
Merely stopping drinking is NOT sobriety. It's living life on the narrowest of balance beams...always teetering on the edge of the precipice, where the slightest nudge will have us falling into relapse. A program...any good program...that allows us to put the fear, anger, guilt, shame, embarrassment, resentments, self-recrimination to rest is what pulls people further away from that edge. Forgiving [themselves] but not forgetting who and what they were in their addiction, esp late stage addiction, is the way off that narrow balance beam. Those SINS Ms. Harvey-Weatherford talks about...and our feelings of guilt and shame about them can often drive us quickly back into active addiction BECAUSE we can't standing feeling that way...but active addiction is us cowering under the blanket of self-delusion and worse...often leads to more events spurring even more accumulated guilt and shame. Developing a way to properly look at these events and put them in their proper place: The beginning of our story...the start of journey of personal change
I agree with everything except the addiction gene. Science does not support that addiction is either genetic or a disease. But the message is refreshing. " Don't ask why the addiction, ask why the pain." ~Dr. Gabor Mate
Disagree, if alcohol gives your brain a huge and 'unusual' dopamine rush and obliterates your prefrontal cortex (logic center, stop signal) too quickly, that is just how your brain biology responds to alcohol. You are more likely to become addicted by just trying to drink normal like your friends do. Every brain is 100% unique in this regard, thus the wide spectrum of AUD sufferers. IMO, much addiction is biology/DNA related and many addiction neuroscientists agree. Gabor over dramatizes Trauma IMO. Trauma and mini-traumas obviously play a part in many people but today, IMO, alcohol is so overused, addiction can happen to the healthiest of people. Alcohol slowly inflames and eventually destroys (diseases) the liver, the brain, the nervous system, the gut ... the entire body.
As for me, I went into a cardiac arrest 11 for minutes, and coma for ten days because of drug use. But thank God for his mercy. Drugs have played the key role in community violence and bringing ruin into people's lives. I sure wish I could tell my story
Attending meetings and engaging in activities to support my recovery from addiction has been essential for me; I've been clean for 2.5 years now. But along the way, I've lost my connection with God. In the early stages of my recovery, I placed my complete trust in a higher power, believing in its guiding force. However, that faith has dwindled, leaving me feeling adrift and struggling to navigate life's challenges. One of the foundational steps in the recovery process emphasizes the importance of acknowledging a power greater than ourselves, one that can restore our sense of clarity and well-being. Another step encourages us to surrender our will and lives to the care of this higher power, as we understand it. I crave this reconnection with God, but I'm uncertain how to reignite it. How can I restore this vital aspect of my journey toward healing and stability?"
choice theory.. I took similar classes and twelve step as well. And choice theory for me helped alot. Stopping the use is one thing, but if you never correct or look at why it started then the consequences of the use become just another reason to use. It's sad but very true.
Agreed. Aa can work for SOME. BUT all it's doing is using a therapy approach of uncovering the underlying issues of using, drinking by using 13 steps & a "sponsor", random stranger off street. I prefer to utilize my Med insurance to do deep rooted personal work like that vs relying on a stranger. Warning to addicts looking to AA/NA for help; I tried it 10 years, I'm only mid 20's- took it very seriously & was abandoned by the "sponsor", the one who is supposed to facilitate the treatment ("steps"). So be careful on where you go for help!
@@shininghawkstar5057 as it says in the big book, sponsors have clay feet...they are human, they struggle and relapse..this is why the reliance is on a high power rather than a sponsor..a sponsor is just a person who guides us and is a link between us and our higher power
Ive been an addict for most of my life. Ive done rehab, detox , years of sobriety but ive relapsed eventually. Spoken to several psychologists , still am. But now im nearly 50 , i feel as powerless as I've ever been. Im so fvcked 😢
You could tell you are going to jimm. I never did drugs, watch this just to live this exciting live you have throgugh you. I am stuck in bad with the painful depression.
That is very powerful and beautiful. Challenging though, part of the premise being facing 'the most difficult'...that may be way too much for most I would imagine. Well done for your courageous journey, however, and very sensitive and deep analyses of addiction and societies attitudes towards it. .
My question for anyone that might know is, if your brain pleasure brain centers are screaming for satisfaction and you don’t turn to an addictive behavior what do you turn to. I have heard that connections with other people are important, but how does an addict make those connections. And how deep do those connections have to be?
Remember, too, that not all compulsions and addictions have negative consequences. One question : What does 'addictive gene' mean ? She summed it up nicely....it's all about how you dress up the truth
I am trying to recover myself I have been drinking since past 11 years and all these times I drank not because that I was happy or sad I just drank that’s called pure addiction I have found my reason now why not to drink, it’s the happiness which we find when we drink that makes us to drink again finding the real happiness will solve the problem
Recovering alcoholic iife was awful but the effects yes we call that benders in uk its an addiction we carry every day were not bad just to find the hppy you again x
We even don't know how our generation rapidly going into Addiction. Students took stimulants in higher rate. Even we don't know what type of things students use...Nail paint removet, thinner, kerosine oil and many more things..
I know this video is 9 years old and I'm a little late to the party but, God what a powerful message. I'm am currently 4 months sober after a 4.5 year relapse/ bender that literally almost took me out. Everything she said said in this video resonates with me on some level. Thank you for making this content and know that, even 9 years later, the message is still reaching people.
Nothing wrong.. Wisdom is eternal, so why apologize?
Never late always on time.
@claudiayohanna2797 always in God's time I suppose. I heard the message when I needed to hear it.
thank you for sharing this. i'm 31 and been struggling with alcohol for almost 20 years...and i just got out of rehab and into an outpatient program. it takes a lot of strength to come out of the shadows. everyone sees this "perfect" person with no idea what is going on behind that same shadow.
I hear you. Addiction is not the problem addiction is the result of something that is to painful to deal with anymore
I hope you are doing well❤️
I hope you are doing well.
I can feel u have been struggling with the same hope u r doing good . I know we might not be as strong as others but somewhere we still are fighters who fight every single day with loneliness depression, sadness of losing someone or even being broken by a person who we loved
I'm
This spoke to me more than anything I've ever heard on addiction in all my 56 years. Wonderful talk!
This is a great talk because she doesn’t focus long on her story, but on the core of the issue and offers truthful suggestion of where to focus on what a path toward recovery would require. I’ve watched dozens and dozens of tedtalks on this subject (and depression), and this is very direct and intelligently expressed.
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My 1st day of not drinking. I'm eating and seeing the light clearer. Been praying for this & Glory be to Jesus these addictions have been lifted. My health will get better cause know who is our maker more & more & Believe in Jesus. Please pray for me? Thanks
if you dont mind me asking, are you still sober?
Sent a prayer out there for you! I pray your journey has continued in a positive and prosperous way
Life Changing. Culture shock. I am a recovering addict. The words are profound. Speaks to me in ways I can understand. Can't quit listening and tuning in
This girl didn’t stutter not once! She’s a great speaker.
She was telling my story in a different way I love her ideas and how I can work her program in my life thank you❤
Jo Harvey rocks! First and foremost she is talking to youngsters. Who talks to youngsters anymore? Only the tough ones do. Stories are an important part of our lives. From the time we wake up till we go to bed, we are telling stories to ourselves, and to others. Here, she tells how we can make our stories more effective.......
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Finding the positive aspects within our own addictive behaviors might sound like "glorifying drug use" to some. Yet Jo Harvey's perspective on separation of guilt and shame allows us to go to that retrospective place, acknowledge our guilt and process for growth.
Very true. Well expressed with great wisdom and candid spirit.
I love her talk. I think she is really being vulnerable, yet strong and trying to help people who have a serious problem and want help.
A real and important message about why some win on the way out, and some do not. A vital perspective on treatment as well!
Yes!!! One of the best talks of addiction..I'm sitting here listening to this to help with my addiction.
I don't feel the need to be specific as to what it is because it is still an addiction.
best of luck to you in your struggles hope you are doing okay
Pethaps the best TED talk and message ever.
She is a beautiful and honest woman in recovery. God Bless you for playing it forward. Namaste
She's great. And it's so interesting that the more we understand human psychology, the more it echoes ancient spiritual teachings
This make me feel so seen and understood…
Thank you. This is what not only myself - but many people need to hear. This is knowledge.
I'm so glad it resonated
my favorite part was the analogy of sin is missing the mark, I love how she used aweakness learned from self awareness, to one of strength...overall a intelligent, strong from her weaknesses,and ?beautiful with a touch of modesty that i didn't think still existed. ..thank you for sharing :)
Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability!!! Favorite part:. It's not the event but the way you feel it and tell it!!! Great strategies!!!!
I’m struggling with addiction and this helped me look at myself differently! Thanks
You’ve got this. Make a plan and develop some coping mechanisms the best you can. We’ll all be ok if we can fight the good fight using strategy instead of blind willpower.
This is a unique talk about dealing with addiction we need more people like this hottie
as someone who doesn’t drink, this helped me understand more about the experience and how to help my friend recover. i have mental disorders and addictive tendencies, and hopefully that experience can help with empathizing more. i will try to learn more, and i wish all of you struggling with addiction or loved ones suffering from addiction the best, and that you’re successful in your journey
Thank you for taking the time to understand
Wow she nailed it. I use to cure my grief in a bottle of wine. After losing all my close family members in 5 years I was scared to heal the pain because I knew that ripping the band aids off would hurt more then accepting the pain of my grief.
That is a huge loss. Sometimes it an avoidance and sometimes we need a better support system around us and different tools before we dive in. Wishing you lots of love and grace on your healing journey
I just started to stop drinking. Hope i can do it. Motivation talk is very important to listen at the moment
Hey, how did it go
@@realfitnesssafari3123 actually i got admitted recently due to colon infection and just out from hospital. Lost 4kg. I decided to stay healthy after these.
Yay! Finally a comprehensive approach to facing addiction that is sensible. Go, Jo!!
This woman speaks the same language as me. Shes spot on with what she says in my opinion. Thanks for sharing. X
Thank you for sharing my story !
You're just Amazing in" Human's compréhension" ! Comes from France 🙏, I honestly, I Hope that you understand what I Said ! Thanks you for doing the GREAT GOOD JOB 👍🏾
Great message and love how she explains recovery and addiction
Great talk. Apparently she has thrown herself into fitness and self care. Good for her!
This is inspiring in the extreme. So succinct and yet so full of knowledge. Amazing
This is great! She is an awesome speaker and really got out a good message
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This is an appropriate time to draw your hat. A perfectly delivered speech, which is also perfectly thought out on a logical and emotional level.
Jo Harvey , if you are reading this . Thank you
▬▬► Hi friends. If yоu or a looved one neеds helр with drugs or alcohol addiccсtioooon CALL ►►► *1-888-966-2616* (Toll-Free) Don't wait until its too late where theеre is life thereеe is hорe рeace and bleeeessings!
Hello how are you doing?
Wow, is crazy how much I needed this. Thank you so much for posting it
Love hearing the real thing!!!
very well said. I say it too, Look for beauty in the most difficult of situations.
Really clear point of view, I've learned a lot. Thanks! P/D: I'm addicted to the way her voice ends the sentences
Wonderful talk, thank you! Was shared as part of our curriculum in social work!
Merely stopping drinking is NOT sobriety. It's living life on the narrowest of balance beams...always teetering on the edge of the precipice, where the slightest nudge will have us falling into relapse. A program...any good program...that allows us to put the fear, anger, guilt, shame, embarrassment, resentments, self-recrimination to rest is what pulls people further away from that edge. Forgiving [themselves] but not forgetting who and what they were in their addiction, esp late stage addiction, is the way off that narrow balance beam. Those SINS Ms. Harvey-Weatherford talks about...and our feelings of guilt and shame about them can often drive us quickly back into active addiction BECAUSE we can't standing feeling that way...but active addiction is us cowering under the blanket of self-delusion and worse...often leads to more events spurring even more accumulated guilt and shame. Developing a way to properly look at these events and put them in their proper place: The beginning of our story...the start of journey of personal change
I believe that we are our actions and behaviors.
I agree with everything except the addiction gene. Science does not support that addiction is either genetic or a disease. But the message is refreshing. " Don't ask why the addiction, ask why the pain." ~Dr. Gabor Mate
Disagree, if alcohol gives your brain a huge and 'unusual' dopamine rush and obliterates your prefrontal cortex (logic center, stop signal) too quickly, that is just how your brain biology responds to alcohol. You are more likely to become addicted by just trying to drink normal like your friends do. Every brain is 100% unique in this regard, thus the wide spectrum of AUD sufferers. IMO, much addiction is biology/DNA related and many addiction neuroscientists agree. Gabor over dramatizes Trauma IMO. Trauma and mini-traumas obviously play a part in many people but today, IMO, alcohol is so overused, addiction can happen to the healthiest of people. Alcohol slowly inflames and eventually destroys (diseases) the liver, the brain, the nervous system, the gut ... the entire body.
Hello how are you doing?
As for me, I went into a cardiac arrest 11 for minutes, and coma for ten days because of drug use. But thank God for his mercy. Drugs have played the key role in community violence and bringing ruin into people's lives. I sure wish I could tell my story
Incredibly thought-provoking; akin to a book that provokes thought at every turn. "Your Body Your Temple" by Various Authors
I've been vulnerable and I'm a recovering addict. Booze was my drug of choice.
Harv Potts stay strong, you can beat it
One of the best approaches I've seen so far.
Great presentation and impactful message.
This was so brief and so powerful to me.
Wow, what a stunning lady and a good speaker.
That was beyond perfect. Thank you.
Brilliant way to word the truth
Great message about addiction!
+Hayley Davis Yeah. We are all addicted to something blah blah blah
Great presentation my Jo Harvey1
Yes, exactly and thank you for this.
Perspectives! Tysomuch for sharing. ❤
She made valid points.
This needs alot more views
Really beautifully put. This is so helpful
Great talk its all about perspective!
Guilt vs shame
Wow soo very well said 100 % FACTS THANK YOU 🙏🏼 ALL....
Attending meetings and engaging in activities to support my recovery from addiction has been essential for me; I've been clean for 2.5 years now. But along the way, I've lost my connection with God. In the early stages of my recovery, I placed my complete trust in a higher power, believing in its guiding force. However, that faith has dwindled, leaving me feeling adrift and struggling to navigate life's challenges.
One of the foundational steps in the recovery process emphasizes the importance of acknowledging a power greater than ourselves, one that can restore our sense of clarity and well-being. Another step encourages us to surrender our will and lives to the care of this higher power, as we understand it.
I crave this reconnection with God, but I'm uncertain how to reignite it. How can I restore this vital aspect of my journey toward healing and stability?"
Thank you for sharing your story
Thank you for this great video!
I love this.
choice theory.. I took similar classes and twelve step as well. And choice theory for me helped alot. Stopping the use is one thing, but if you never correct or look at why it started then the consequences of the use become just another reason to use. It's sad but very true.
Agreed. Aa can work for SOME. BUT all it's doing is using a therapy approach of uncovering the underlying issues of using, drinking by using 13 steps & a "sponsor", random stranger off street. I prefer to utilize my Med insurance to do deep rooted personal work like that vs relying on a stranger. Warning to addicts looking to AA/NA for help; I tried it 10 years, I'm only mid 20's- took it very seriously & was abandoned by the "sponsor", the one who is supposed to facilitate the treatment ("steps"). So be careful on where you go for help!
@@shininghawkstar5057 as it says in the big book, sponsors have clay feet...they are human, they struggle and relapse..this is why the reliance is on a high power rather than a sponsor..a sponsor is just a person who guides us and is a link between us and our higher power
The need to correct or look at why it started I order to end it is an excuse to continue if you don’t correct or find out why it started.
i believe you are a product of your own environment but then i agree that you can take yourself away from a bad environment you can still suffer
Beautifully said
5:58, 6:42 so much facts in one video 💯
Ive been an addict for most of my life. Ive done rehab, detox , years of sobriety but ive relapsed eventually. Spoken to several psychologists , still am. But now im nearly 50 , i feel as powerless as I've ever been. Im so fvcked 😢
Keep surrendering to God
wow.....resonates with me....thank you.....
Excellent. Thank you.
You could tell you are going to jimm. I never did drugs, watch this just to live this exciting live you have throgugh you. I am stuck in bad with the painful depression.
That is very powerful and beautiful. Challenging though, part of the premise being facing 'the most difficult'...that may be way too much for most I would imagine. Well done for your courageous journey, however, and very sensitive and deep analyses of addiction and societies attitudes towards it. .
Love-N-Light Blessed Be
Thankyou xx
My question for anyone that might know is, if your brain pleasure brain centers are screaming for satisfaction and you don’t turn to an addictive behavior what do you turn to. I have heard that connections with other people are important, but how does an addict make those connections. And how deep do those connections have to be?
Simple. Stop your brain from screaming at you. Problem solved.
fantastic!
Very brave woman
4:52 exactly right 💯
Wow this woman... Thank You
Remember, too, that not all compulsions and addictions have negative consequences.
One question : What does 'addictive gene' mean ?
She summed it up nicely....it's all about how you dress up the truth
Inspiring.
what an amazing and intellectual woman. so beautiful
This is inspiring!
Great opening comments
Wow she was amazing
Excellent talk
This was amazing!
She said it so well wauw 🙏🏻💜
Wow thank you 💚
help me mum. that was great
I am trying to recover myself I have been drinking since past 11 years and all these times I drank not because that I was happy or sad I just drank that’s called pure addiction I have found my reason now why not to drink, it’s the happiness which we find when we drink that makes us to drink again finding the real happiness will solve the problem
Powerful!!!!!!
That was veery nice and what I needed to hear.
As an alcoholic in recovery, this is excellent
splendid delivery and content
Recovering alcoholic iife was awful but the effects yes we call that benders in uk its an addiction we carry every day were not bad just to find the hppy you again x
nice video for intellectual people to enjoy and learn from.
We even don't know how our generation rapidly going into Addiction.
Students took stimulants in higher rate.
Even we don't know what type of things students use...Nail paint removet, thinner, kerosine oil and many more things..