Lessons a drug addict can teach you | Lauren Windle | TEDxSurreyUniversity

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  • Lauren Windle took her first line of cocaine when she was eighteen a decision that marked the beginning of her journey into addiction. Now four years clean she shares her story of addiction, recovery and freedom, outlining the 12 steps to recovery through the perspective of her story. Journalist and recovering addict Lauren Windle found freedom from addiction using the in-depth introspection of a 12-step programme. She now helps others do the same. But Lauren believes it’s not just those who have hit rock bottom who need self-reflection and shares the lessons everyone could learn from recovering addicts. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @peggyharris3815
    @peggyharris3815 4 ปีที่แล้ว +462

    15:22 "These things may or may not kill you, but they will stop you from living." That's an important distinction.

    • @courtneytyler7256
      @courtneytyler7256 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Used meth to make sure I was safe, couldnt rightly fall asleep with no assurance. How could I when I'm all too aware. Unfortunately I didn't know what was what was.

    • @peterpoutch574
      @peterpoutch574 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      we die so many ways

    • @almightyalan8942
      @almightyalan8942 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@courtneytyler7256 wow I stopped drinking n smoking for 4 days and I expected life to be an amusement park, u just made me think its gonna take atleast 3 weeks to get back to normal programming, I'm programmed a certain way rn

    • @kaitlinheidt1292
      @kaitlinheidt1292 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      6 month clean on the 19th. It is possible. I'll take another 24 hours.

  • @joshuapotter9575
    @joshuapotter9575 4 ปีที่แล้ว +541

    I just went to my first AA meeting tonight, and I start a rehab recovery programme Thursday, which incorporates the 12 step programme. Terrified but slightly optimistic.

    • @joshuapotter9575
      @joshuapotter9575 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Oh and thank you for the talk. Brilliant (:

    • @killeenstraide1
      @killeenstraide1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Wishing you all the best.

    • @evelynbaron2004
      @evelynbaron2004 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      so many best wishes!

    • @notanotherone1835
      @notanotherone1835 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Good luck ❤

    • @davidcardinal3654
      @davidcardinal3654 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Good luck man. The journey is tough but the human spirit is tougher. You will prevail if you continue to have strength.

  • @sxcme103567
    @sxcme103567 4 ปีที่แล้ว +198

    1 year and 6 months clean

    • @sxcme103567
      @sxcme103567 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Leon Coombes OMG

    • @katrinabb9152
      @katrinabb9152 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Marty Jane I’m dead inside because I can’t get away from it

    • @sxcme103567
      @sxcme103567 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@katrinabb9152 thats a shame :( which is your drug of choice? mine was meth. what helped me was a hospital stay, one month of rehab and the fact that i knew i was breaking my mums heart.

    • @sxcme103567
      @sxcme103567 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Leon Coombes thank you!! I hope to be able to one day say "I'm 30 years clean" you know?

    • @supererikman5331
      @supererikman5331 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It never gets easier, it will be a lifelong battle for you and the cravings will never go away. You have to understand that once you let drugs into your life, you will forever be an addict and will need to be supervised for the rest of your life. Once an addict, always an addict.

  • @candygamingcat3243
    @candygamingcat3243 5 ปีที่แล้ว +238

    Recovery is such a complicated time. I started my recovery journey about 3 years ago but it wasn’t until 6 months ago I awoke from the fog the chemicals had created in mind. You really can’t force someone into it....even if you put them in prison or rehab they can continue to be imprisoned within their own mind (like i was for over two years). Now I’m awaken and look back and think “OMFG I can’t believe I continued to make such poor life decisions without any self awareness”

    • @shephherd
      @shephherd 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      ..... congratulations! That's so great to hear....keep it up :)

    • @imogengardner194
      @imogengardner194 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      waking up is sometimes the hardest bit NEVER underestimate your achievement, NEVER...many don't manage it and you send out such a positive message to other users ( recovering alcoholic; 3+ years )

    • @eequalsmcdonald
      @eequalsmcdonald 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Recovery is forever if you do it correctly.

    • @imogengardner194
      @imogengardner194 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@eequalsmcdonald I believe I am ;) and we are all in recovery ... it's a life journey

    • @trapengineer821
      @trapengineer821 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Candy gaming Cat324 I agree 100%

  • @XxDeadlyAmazingxX
    @XxDeadlyAmazingxX 4 ปีที่แล้ว +130

    3.5 years clean and public speaking all over the country. I love recovery. I hope to be able to speak to bigger crowds!

    • @kevinschindele4829
      @kevinschindele4829 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Did you have to take classes for that? I'd love to get involved in this once I get my sobriety under control.

    • @choicegaming3183
      @choicegaming3183 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Congrats

    • @Mark-pp7jy
      @Mark-pp7jy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      If it's meant to be, you will. Just remember that "ego" can be very dangerous.

    • @BriJaynesBCTWP
      @BriJaynesBCTWP 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I am now 5 years clean (this is bri jaynes) I loved speaking and I still do it from time to time. I got involved through meeting other people that speak in the Recovery field and posting my story with others. Ego can ruin your life that is true! I actually ended up opening a peer center but unfortunately our funding isn't great so it's been a struggle but all things come eventually if you continue helping others!

    • @imdilyn
      @imdilyn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@BriJaynesBCTWP *Lol*

  • @imannonymous7707
    @imannonymous7707 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I had a moment of clarity when i turned 42. And in that moment , i looked at my life and realized .
    Our lives can be reduced to a few key decisions The choices we make determine who we become

    • @mrnice7570
      @mrnice7570 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      41 opiate addict here. Experiencing same said revelations

  • @merncat3384
    @merncat3384 2 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    Every ailment she described is what I went through, plus about a dozen more on a constant daily basis..
    I'm 46 years old now and after a huge 14-year addiction I am on day 14 today

    • @matteightytwo
      @matteightytwo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Congratulations! Hope it's still going well

    • @keeganbrown3084
      @keeganbrown3084 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      How are you doing today?

    • @gordonsands
      @gordonsands 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      She had no aliments except her incredibly weak mind

    • @nenkoandreev8509
      @nenkoandreev8509 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hope you are still sober fella!!!

    • @cassidybrewer
      @cassidybrewer ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hope you’re still doing well ❤️🤞

  • @dexterleeventer1302
    @dexterleeventer1302 2 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    I just came from a long term rehabilitation where I stayed for nearly 19 months.. also went through the 12 step program it was so tough yet it was so amazing I had the best time of my life I never want to have over again. God is so good.

  • @Actingthemaggot69
    @Actingthemaggot69 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Struggling at the moment 8 months sober really needed this✌🏼

    • @natashaantonia
      @natashaantonia 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Good job seeking more education about education and putting in the work for your recovery

    • @victortoll9392
      @victortoll9392 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Congrats am sure it hasn't been easy but so worth it am sure

    • @Actingthemaggot69
      @Actingthemaggot69 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@victortoll9392 best thing I’ve ever done for myself

    • @gordonsands
      @gordonsands 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Pathetic

  • @April-rj8lf
    @April-rj8lf 4 ปีที่แล้ว +210

    Drugs = Running away from reality.
    New reality = Running away from drugs.

    • @lplaito
      @lplaito 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      casi, pero no.

    • @karenmexico7357
      @karenmexico7357 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I disagree. Somewhere in the process of working the steps and living the principles of recovery daily, a complete psychic change occurs and we stop running away from ANYTHING.

    • @jarofdirt16
      @jarofdirt16 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yeah, gonna have to disagree here. Running from drugs is only going to lead you right back into the place you were running from. You gotta just want a better way of life, just gotta be sick and tired of being sick and tired. Hope you're still on the right path :)

    • @ericarios3685
      @ericarios3685 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@karenmexico7357 q

    • @GentlemenJack109
      @GentlemenJack109 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Stop assuming people take drugs to run away from reality, it is not always for that reason, some people just like the feeling you get.

  • @malikdavis1124
    @malikdavis1124 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    2 days clean 🥺

    • @gigijax2043
      @gigijax2043 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well done buddy, I'm struggling

    • @herstory1012
      @herstory1012 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You can do it!!!

    • @kitty10141
      @kitty10141 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Watching sobriety videos shows you want it. May we all achieve and maintain sobriety 🙏

    • @zombieman2013
      @zombieman2013 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Way to go 2 days is better than none! How is your recovery going I see that it's been a few months since you posted this?

    • @breyreneea805
      @breyreneea805 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Baby steps.

  • @DiodeMom
    @DiodeMom 5 ปีที่แล้ว +255

    Everyone, regardless of whether they’re an “addict” should do the 12 steps. It’s freeing at any stage of life. It helped me to be a better person.

    • @markforrestsm
      @markforrestsm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      As a supporter of an addict, I've been involved in the 12 step for the last 10 years. It changed and continues to change my life!!

    • @alexkdoyle
      @alexkdoyle 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Leigh Westraad AMEN! I am a recovering addict and I completely agree!

    • @pixels2564
      @pixels2564 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Yeah but the religious aspect is unnecessary

    • @HonestJunkie
      @HonestJunkie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@pixels2564 I understand your point, I truly do.
      However the problem with 'religion' isn't the particular belief, ideology or philosophy that defines it. As always, the problem lays with those that follow it, that claim their way is the only way.
      Fortunately, those steps claim no monopoly on philosophies of living, in fact, they make no religious sways at all, spiritual yes, religious no.
      I agree with you 100% ..... the religious aspect is unnecessary, that's why it's not a part of the process, of course some people just can't help themselves ;)

    • @evelynbaron2004
      @evelynbaron2004 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Your comment reminds me of Tom Petty just before the 40th anniversary tour, accepting an award from MusiCares, saying 20 yrs ago I would have been too cynical to accept this … and the speech is widely available. The 12 steps are not rocket science; if your higher power is your favorite tree, it still works: you are powerless and must ask for help; it is your responsibility to look at yourself honestly, not to beat yourself up but, having shared what you learned and let go of a lot, not all of it, because Life is a Long Road, with a doctor or your sponsor, you take responsibility and make peace with your past, meditate when possible and give back to the community. And this way of life is immensely freeing and so scary; I think of myself as a bird in a cage who forgot there was a big world out there where I would find friends and be a friend. For people like Tom who found a safe place as a really abused child in music, the path would be in his words, which way to forgiveness which way to love land which way do I go; it was important that he let those troubled memories go -- it wasn't about the rage and inflicted hurt from his Dad, it was about understanding that this man had his own demons, just let it go, which is why I think so many of his songs were about freedom and flight, up there in the clouds where no-one could hurt you. And he helped 3 generations of people.

  • @quinnpicquelle7315
    @quinnpicquelle7315 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I just got 6 months clean! Never was able to string together more than a couple weeks. I reached a breaking point and just surrendered. Followed direction, shut my mouth for the first few months, and now I’m at 6 months clean and I’m never looking back.

    • @lizlemon5281
      @lizlemon5281 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well done, it's a great feeling, be proud of yourself for breaking free💗

  • @SergioK111
    @SergioK111 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Any addiction is a prison, when I realized this, I changed my life🥳

  • @reconnectwithtrue2924
    @reconnectwithtrue2924 4 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    This was absolutely beautiful. I needed to hear this. Thank you

  • @cphilly2015
    @cphilly2015 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    The way that she delivered her moments of divinity was truly inspiring I'll give this girl all the credit and recognition that she deserves for having the strength and courage to internalize those deeply valued moments hat usually are turning points in someone's life humanity can learn alot from the principles displayed in this video

  • @lalasuncokretic1046
    @lalasuncokretic1046 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ I'm 4 years and 2 months clean and sober.

  • @squidlydodge6415
    @squidlydodge6415 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I'm trying to understand a loved ones addiction. It seems things will never change. I pray for a miracle to get our lives back. So so hard when you love that person so much.

    • @michelangelope830
      @michelangelope830 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am a psychologist and recovering addict can help you for for free with your loved one if you help me back.

    • @michelangelope830
      @michelangelope830 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have been trying to have the discovery of the nature of addiction known for years to end the war on drugs. I would like to help you as a recovering addict and psychologist. Addiction is the psychology of a liar, only liars get hooked and only honesty gets freedom. The tragedy of addiction is children who revenge a childhood hurt, or trauma, against their parents learning from example. I am alone socially ostracised by liars paying the price for being honest.

  • @sarahwilliams1956
    @sarahwilliams1956 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    “We’re not built that way, we can’t deal with this stuff, it’s too BIG to do it on our own” this made me cry. It felt so freeing to feel like it’s okay to ask for help with our personal issues if we need it. We are only human, we are not perfect. We will all make our own mistakes, the most important part is that we realize the reality of what’s going on, and we choose to be better and do something about it. All of you who are struggling, save this video and watch it when you’re beating yourself up the next day after a night of mistakes, make a list of how you can help yourself progress through it, and pat yourself on the back for surviving another day.

  • @calliathompson1501
    @calliathompson1501 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    Congrats girl its ppl like you that keep me going
    3/23/19 to now

    • @itzcawdkarma
      @itzcawdkarma 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      So proud of you

    • @kimwarburton8490
      @kimwarburton8490 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      WOW during that first lockdown too! Im well impressed! Its been hard for me not to lose control of my Me/CFS symptoms at times after 7 yrs XD I got addicted to weed, but off nicotine during the 1st lockdown and still trying to quit XD

    • @almightyalan8942
      @almightyalan8942 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow, and look at ur beautiful babygirl, she would be so proud of you if she knew

    • @icyfreckles1528
      @icyfreckles1528 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yay I’m 3/9/19 keep it up

  • @marthaalavez1537
    @marthaalavez1537 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’ve never related to someone so much…

  • @monteceitomoocher
    @monteceitomoocher 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Stay strong Lauren and well done.

  • @atomnous
    @atomnous 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    What she said about those steps was relatable to my own experience. Although mine wasn't about drug addiction, but the racing dark thoughts triggered by anxiety and depression. At one point, you will feel so powerless to do everything on your own whim anymore and realize that your thoughts can be wrong too. That you can't know everything and admit it.

  • @Baja383
    @Baja383 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I started my IOP program January 13th and have relapsed at least 4 times. Not giving up. Good luck to all you out there.

    • @PurposeandPassion9
      @PurposeandPassion9 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Keep going

    • @AO-co5to
      @AO-co5to ปีที่แล้ว

      hey pal...how did you make out with your IOP program and how are you doing now? I went away to detox and PHP in florida APril 29-May31 and came home without them setting up me in a correct IOP. Its been 30 days and ive relapsed 6 times mb more myself already....not even 12 hours back in NY and got a call my grandfather was dead....and hit financial rock bottom...one good thing however, i now start a small 8 person IOP at a good place this coming Monday 6/27. this is so tough man....it sounds and feels so easy in my head to say "OK this is the last day....again) but i wake up and just crave it. been going to meetings too every night but the crave is real and strong and even stronger when depressed and have had no luck every waking day......i wish you nothing but the best and one day at a time brother.......

  • @NN.Nemo917
    @NN.Nemo917 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thanks for sharing. I'm trying to understand this all after I've found out that my uncle has been an addict for quite a long time.

  • @ClandestineGirl16X
    @ClandestineGirl16X ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Keep pushing. Recovery is possible and beautiful. You are not alone and you are valuable. You are worth it.

  • @SimplyCheryl
    @SimplyCheryl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    6 months clean in 6 days. I had 6 years and relapsed in 2020. So upset at myself. This was an amazing video and watching it when it turned 2022... to new beginnings!

    • @Mark-pp7jy
      @Mark-pp7jy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Getting good at living sober, is no different than being an athlete, or musician. We need to practice a little everyday. After many years of continuous sobriety, why would I stop doing the things that have given me a great life? That would be insanity! My recovery depends on how I move my feet on a daily basis, not what I think or feel. All the best to you Cherry!

    • @Fitzgeraldkinsey
      @Fitzgeraldkinsey 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Keep fighting baby girl,u got this.

    • @Mark-pp7jy
      @Mark-pp7jy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Fitzgeraldkinsey "Fighting" is a recipe for failure. "Surrender" to a different way of living is the key to sobriety. "Go to meetings, clean house, and help others"!

    • @brandyhuffman8672
      @brandyhuffman8672 ปีที่แล้ว

      I was sober from alcohol for 5 year's and released in 2020. Ur not alone, I just found these videos.

    • @Mark-pp7jy
      @Mark-pp7jy ปีที่แล้ว

      @@brandyhuffman8672 The key to sobriety is "Living in the solution, instead of the problem". What are you doing differently this time?

  • @ghendrix2322
    @ghendrix2322 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Love you girl for this🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @AimeeDenise_bct
    @AimeeDenise_bct 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    So much respect 🙌 to you for sharing your story to help others heal. 🦋 It's a true calling. I absolutely found my purpose in telling my story of borderline death ☠️ and life implosion 🤯 to healing my brain and body to get my life back! Much luv! 🕉 You can heal!

  • @LewisColetheboss
    @LewisColetheboss ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Ever single human being we all need some guidance an help at times, God bless Lauren for being honest, God bless everyone 💯🙏🏽

  • @jocelynsingle137
    @jocelynsingle137 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I've been sober for almost 2 years and I'm just trying to find myself and feel whole again. Idk if that will happen but I will keep pushing through.

    • @Craigyboi01
      @Craigyboi01 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I wish you all the best hope I can find the strength because I changed and lost so much that it breaks my heart. 😔

    • @cassidybrewer
      @cassidybrewer ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You will eventually. Everyone’s timeline is different. Keep trying ❤️❤️

    • @TonyRome402
      @TonyRome402 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The 2 year mark is exactly when I considered going back to drinking, because I missed my friends. That very day; I chose myself over my friends and stayed true to myself. I lost my friends, but found myself. I am 8 years sober now and will remain this way until my last breath. Good luck to you. You have just got past the hard part. I believe you will start to understand how easy this can be.

  • @mishafankhauser8198
    @mishafankhauser8198 4 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    This is so beautiful❤️ I had tears in my eyes.. So relatable.. I had that with hairmasks, if I showerd, and even made time to do hairmasks, I knew I was doing okay 🙏🏻 8 months sober now, doing TED-talks at schools. I wouldn’t been able to get here without inspirations like you! Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️

  • @pendurton3081
    @pendurton3081 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I work at a ministry for homeless men and a couple months ago I started a recovery class on campus and have been looking for material to use in my class, this is perfect and I will definitely be showing this to my class next week I absolutely love it this is a perfect description of the 12 step program

    • @virginiemasai9024
      @virginiemasai9024 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Congrats for trying to make society better and save not only lives but soul

  • @rachiefitz2919
    @rachiefitz2919 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Most amazing and resonating Ted talk iv watched... Thankyou 😘😘😘

  • @kennyd6847
    @kennyd6847 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    thank you for this

  • @welshwitch2024
    @welshwitch2024 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You are truly something. Thank you 🙏 💖

  • @S24312
    @S24312 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I work in detox and rehab and your video will be played for my clients thank you 🙏

  • @matg2067
    @matg2067 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I recently found out someone I love has this addiction. I know zero about opioids, zero about withdrawals, zero how to speak, I know nothing but basics and common sense. I've been trying to research what I can. Anyone with any really great resources, advice, tips etc I would extremely appreciate it. Shout out to everyone here who quit, the mind is one of the most powerful things created each one of you guys gals won congratulations.

    • @111goo
      @111goo 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      As an addict who has been to rehab, relapsed multiple times and battles it currently, there is sooo much I could say but I will try to cover some things I find important. The first thing is understanding how complex addiction is. It changes your brain so much, and truly is such a strong urge it’s equal to the feeling you get when you’re thirsty and want water, or hungry and want food. It becomes almost like something your brain convinces you that you need to survive. It’s also important for you to protect yourself and never contribute to the problem. It can be hard to not wanna just help because you love someone, but also the best thing my family ever did was kick me out after u continuously lied and manipulated them. The only thing you can do is offer direct help such as programs, rehab, etc. And the last and HUGE point. NEVERRR give an addict money. It will go straight to the problem. Offer support with food, even gift cards, maybe offer to pay for some new work clothes when they find a stable job. But NEVER cash. I hope some of this helped.

    • @matteightytwo
      @matteightytwo 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Mat, the bottom line is how much they want to recover. You can't save someone that doesn't want to be saved. Life has to become sufficiently uncomfortable (for them) that they want to do something about it

    • @copgreen8781
      @copgreen8781 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@111goo you are right about Never give an addict money. I had friend who was struggling with addiction, they had moved from one State to stay with me just so that they can try new environment. Everything was good for about one month, then one day someone gave them money and that's the day they went and bought drugs!.

    • @michelangelope830
      @michelangelope830 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I have been trying to have the discovery of the nature of addiction known for years to end the war on drugs. I would like to help you as a recovering addict and psychologist. Addiction is the psychology of a liar, only liars get hooked and only honesty gets freedom. The tragedy of addiction is children who revenge a childhood hurt, or trauma, against their parents learning from example. I am alone socially ostracised by liars paying the price for being honest.

    • @michelangelope830
      @michelangelope830 ปีที่แล้ว

      @WodlWodlwodldnrbfg1 addict is a synonym of liar. Drug addiction is a manifestation of the psychology of a liar. Liars are victims of themselves to conceal the hatred and hurt others. Don’t you know what is being truthful and what is being a liar? I am alone because I am honest and honest people are not popular because the truth is not liked or shared.

  • @pattirodzewich7081
    @pattirodzewich7081 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for your awesome share here 🙏🏻❤️

  • @jasonabrams6644
    @jasonabrams6644 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I'm 6 months clean and sober and loving life

  • @leahswenson7776
    @leahswenson7776 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    this is so true. I am working the steps myself

  • @userqwertyuiopasdfgh
    @userqwertyuiopasdfgh 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    So inspired by Laurens story!

  • @matthewgrimes
    @matthewgrimes 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Explained the steps beautifully. Thank God for CA. 🙏🏻

  • @tyronebull8466
    @tyronebull8466 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    After a while
    you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul
    and you learn love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't always mean security.
    And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't always promises
    and you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and and your eyes ahead with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.
    And you learn to build all your roads on today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.
    After a while you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much
    So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers
    And you learn that you really can endure, that you really are strong and you really do have worth and you learn and you learn
    with every good-bye you learn.
    Author: Veronica A. Shoffstall

  • @markforrestsm
    @markforrestsm 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Great video and respect for Lauren Windle for her share..

  • @imogengardner194
    @imogengardner194 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Waking up is sometimes the hardest bit NEVER underestimate your achievement, NEVER...many don't manage it and you send out such a positive message to other users ( recovering alcoholic; 3+ years ) Freedom through recovery is possible.
    I forget sometimes, it is others that have to remind me that I have achieved something. My biggest mistake has been holding onto and punishing myself with guilt. That traps not only me but those I love. Today I choose not to feel guilty but to offer myself some forgiveness.

  • @danielhartnett4754
    @danielhartnett4754 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    thanks so much very inspired

  • @D87943
    @D87943 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    To all those who struggle with addiction their will always be a bright light at the end of the tunnel.

  • @williambox2463
    @williambox2463 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    It’s fair to say her addiction has had a massive impact on her because she’s making regular speeches about it. All addicts have that in common, they may have stopped taking it but they never stop talking about it to anyone who will listen. One way or another it’s with them there whole life

  • @ambernawrocki
    @ambernawrocki 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Wow did I need this. Thank you so much this hit me right in the feels ❤

  • @Skullflowerz
    @Skullflowerz 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Any speech that ends with the "F" word like that is impressive and amazing.

  • @gigimonrose157
    @gigimonrose157 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Great video. Thankyou for posting.

  • @aaronthembogym
    @aaronthembogym 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much

  • @qossii
    @qossii 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Very Inspiring....Thanx

  • @toxic.forest
    @toxic.forest 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Believe in YOUR SELF.

  • @joshuapoynter5132
    @joshuapoynter5132 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I just wanted to say thank you to the people that stuck by me, especially when I was a mess. Because I didn't know what love was until I became sober. Realizing how much hurt and pain I caused..thank you for showing me patience and dealing with my selfishness

  • @theking1233456
    @theking1233456 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    What an awesome person. Thank you for this

  • @timwoodward9799
    @timwoodward9799 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Hello. I loved watching this. I am an addict in recovery. 20 months as of tomorrow actually. Today at 11:00 a.m. I have an interview with a very upscale inpatient drug rehabilitation center here in the town that I live in. The position is for a overnight residential instructor. I'm wicked nervous. I've been wanting to get into the recovery field for a little while now and nobody will give me the chance nobody will even give me an interview. These folks are giving me the interview. I was up all night long scribbling into my notebook preparing myself for any question they could possibly ask me. And literally sick to my stomach I'm so damn nervous. But.. regardless of the outcome... Life goes on.

  • @DuckingTaylor
    @DuckingTaylor 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I loveeeeee this talk!!!

  • @eldermillennial2677
    @eldermillennial2677 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I’ve bursted into tears right in the middle of “how angry you were after seeing what you wrote “ ...
    Thanks for that. At least I know where I am at .
    The simple realisation of what and how you are feeling is life changing.

  • @ronnieromeo6112
    @ronnieromeo6112 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’ve been in and out of recovery for 30 years I had seven years and just relax it’s hard to get back my insurance does not cover inpatient so I’m gonna have to detox at home and at meetings I need to be honest humble and ask for help thank you. When I was sober by foreigner it was the best years of my life true freedom the truth true freedom right now I do not have that I don’t feel the Holy Spirit or the positive energy in my soul but it will come back because of people like you

  • @Danny-dc9os
    @Danny-dc9os 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    27 days clean from opiods. I feel healthy, if i can stop so can you i promise its worth it!

    • @kitty10141
      @kitty10141 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      5 days behind you, keep it up!! Exercise and chores, especially when you don’t want to.

  • @austinmwatati1268
    @austinmwatati1268 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your life is too precious to accept anything, other than complete freedom...❤

  • @dominiqueryles2922
    @dominiqueryles2922 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Well done. Love this

  • @jessicaisolda196
    @jessicaisolda196 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This by far was one of the best talks I’ve heard & seen. May not have been for anyone else but for where I am in my recovery it definitely was what I needed.

  • @luisitaevangelista8563
    @luisitaevangelista8563 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I find the steps liberating, not just for addiction, but life in general.

    • @Mark-pp7jy
      @Mark-pp7jy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Absolutely!!!

  • @sarahmcintyre6150
    @sarahmcintyre6150 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Wow, my list will be so long! 51 now and still doing the same as at 21. So hard to change but for years I thought my life was hard, now I have an amazing lifestyle but a lot of baggage and I’m the same as when I didn’t have a mattress to sleep on. So much work to be done. Spot on about connection. Desperate for that, I was fine when my girls were young with all the love but now it’s back

  • @KSA-VLOG
    @KSA-VLOG 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Congrats 🙏🏻

  • @masoud1139
    @masoud1139 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks 🙏

  • @lunamorris2091
    @lunamorris2091 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I liked your blog. It is informative too, at the same time. Thanks a lot for your guidance!

  • @deenunyabzness2291
    @deenunyabzness2291 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You're smarts is you're power , thx ted

  • @oliviasflowers4042
    @oliviasflowers4042 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wish u all the best. It's a lovely speach.

  • @bobbyd224
    @bobbyd224 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I was 9 yrs clean… messed up 3 weeks ago and fentanyl stopped my heart for 5 minutes and haven’t done anything since it will always be a battle for me

    • @cassidybrewer
      @cassidybrewer ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hope you’re doing okay, Bobby. Sending love.

    • @bobbyd224
      @bobbyd224 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@cassidybrewer ty

    • @doobiehowzer6068
      @doobiehowzer6068 ปีที่แล้ว

      Stay in the fight homie

    • @JasonBrown-dd7dj
      @JasonBrown-dd7dj 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@bobbyd224stay strong your very lucky you ain't brain damaged no more mate life's a gift.

  • @shephherd
    @shephherd 5 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    The 12 step program is a process for emotional catharsis. At the core of any alcoholic/addict, there's some kind of 'pain' and this process tries to help to come to terms with/release it. Once the pain, like a wound is exposed, the healing is faster. Seems to work if one is really diligent and honest about it. Good luck!

    • @eklypised
      @eklypised 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Bhavesh Athawasya my issue is I don’t have any old “pain” issues I just liked to het high...trying to figure out how to make that feeling go away.

    • @shephherd
      @shephherd 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@eklypised ...noted and understand what you said. Depending on how old you are, at what age you started and whether a significant part of your 'achievements and key positive milestones' in life so far were while using, an approach can be developed. Whether you have been fortunate to have a job, family, friends and other activities that give you satisfaction and fulfilment...whether you are able to perform in all these equally well without usage. Whether its possible to think how one may have dealt with certain common life situations and challenges without usage are a few things to consider. If one is unable to function in any of the key areas of life optimally without usage, then that's a sign of dependency. Any substance including alcohol changes the chemistry...if it has been for a majority of ones life, then often it seems impossible to imagine a life without... The duration and approach to 'settle' from the using self and the non using self varies and often not very smooth. It goes back to the question that when we are born and growing up, we are told to keep away... When the first 'experience' happens, when it becomes second nature(more predominant than the primary, 'clean' nature), and when that is the only one we begin to identify with is a something to think about. Many first usage is out of experimenting, one likes the feeling...and the moment there is a negative experience, one wants to move to that state of good feeling. Typically, one is termed as an addict when there's derailment in key areas of life OR inability to maintain the standard of these key areas without using. Is it a matter of getting high once in a while or unable to function without getting high... That is the key question to address. Pain can be camouflaged. Good luck

    • @suzygriffin3597
      @suzygriffin3597 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@shephherd can i ask if u speaking from experience?

    • @shephherd
      @shephherd 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@suzygriffin3597 .....yes.

    • @suzygriffin3597
      @suzygriffin3597 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@shephherd that essay was informative but sooo boring!!!

  • @Enelaist
    @Enelaist 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    so much love

  • @TonyKeepingItClean
    @TonyKeepingItClean 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Well done Lauren. I can totally relate. Thank God eh?

  • @ChelseaChronicles
    @ChelseaChronicles ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I can’t wait to be free again 😞😞

  • @gavincook8166
    @gavincook8166 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I definitely relate

  • @deenunyabzness2291
    @deenunyabzness2291 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank u

  • @emc2928
    @emc2928 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I can relate❤

  • @alistairwalsh1022
    @alistairwalsh1022 5 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    One day at a time.

  • @gavincook8166
    @gavincook8166 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I've done the 12 steps

  • @jasonabrams6644
    @jasonabrams6644 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just got out of inpatient rehab after 4 months now I'm in sober living

  • @simona2m03
    @simona2m03 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    thank you! Now I see that I must help my friend.

    • @Sassy_Alaskan
      @Sassy_Alaskan 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Simona Glavan come find support on Facebook @ No Addict Left Behind.

  • @Sharletpmathew
    @Sharletpmathew ปีที่แล้ว

    Praising God..Wonderfully explained ..God Bless your journey

  • @lukemitchell1975
    @lukemitchell1975 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    ive been on this merry go round for 15yrs, slowley battled each addiction. drink the first was goinfg to kill me and lead me into herion, i was at age 27 i knew i was going to kill myself unlees i made changes. now im 8yrs soba from drink and hard drugs, my life has been so much better since then but im struugling with cannibis feel i just cant completley let go. thank u for your share lauren :)

  • @williamorr9203
    @williamorr9203 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yes they can ,and the answer is they are an example of what not to be, thank you

  • @heathertatum1268
    @heathertatum1268 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just started my residential recovery program at the Veterans hospital today is day 1.. maybe it will work this time!! ❤️

  • @lariipeeters5380
    @lariipeeters5380 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    We got this

  • @chaabraaah5823
    @chaabraaah5823 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Addiction is only a symptom if a bigger problem. I've been on/off drugs for 12 years, finally got my life going. The moment I got purpose in my life, was the moment it all changed for the better. Addiction is only a SYMPTOM

  • @jennamercury7625
    @jennamercury7625 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Everyone working in the field should educate themselves about the process. Its bigger than what they read in books and learn in college; you can only help when you TRULY understand what you are involved with.

  • @AmandaBurger-wd4lw
    @AmandaBurger-wd4lw 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thanku honey for this video amen .

  • @michaelgantt969
    @michaelgantt969 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My dad recently passed. He was my best friend. I’m struggling tonight. I’ve been considering using all day. I’m white knuckling it bad.

    • @andrewdabar2230
      @andrewdabar2230 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm so sorry, Michael. The only comfort I can offer is that there is someone out here who genuinely resonates with your situation. The extreme of pain of loss is impossible to escape. I myself have considered joining the dead because sobriety is too overwhelming when you're completely alone. I keep waiting for someone to call or text but my line is silent while my mind is screaming horrible things. I can't sleep. The night terrifies me. I want to believe in God but am struggling with belief in anything other than the fact that sorrow has me by the throat.
      I wanted to encourage you and not talk about myself. So . .. I hope that you've succeeded with resisting the urge. Maybe we will both discover that a clear mind and a clean life is something beautiful and waiting for us on the other side of our darkest nights.

  • @oneonly5696
    @oneonly5696 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    If you help yourself you help your family recover the addiction. A mint to days to become years to have you and keep you. Its way matters. A drug doesn't run you... Drugs affect all even the ones who aren't addicted.

  • @gabrielleple4309
    @gabrielleple4309 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Very powerful. AA isn’t for everyone. But it worked for her. Do whatever it is that will work for YOU! 😊
    Thank you for sharing.

    • @Mark-pp7jy
      @Mark-pp7jy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      AA is for everyone. It's just that most people trying to recover, can't or won't put forth even a fraction of the effort that they put into drinking or using. That was me...until I got rigorously honest with myself. 27 years later, I still make the effort and have a great life to show for it. Thank god for the fellowship!

    • @gordonsands
      @gordonsands 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Mark-pp7jy no mark not everyone thinks replacing one addiction with another is healing

    • @Mark-pp7jy
      @Mark-pp7jy 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@gordonsands Achieving, and the development of sobriety is no different than going to the gym, playing a musical instrument, practicing your golf swing, etc, etc. Ask Michael Jordan, or Wayne Gretzky, or Tiger Woods, or James Taylor, or Capt. Sullenberger how they became so good at their craft. They'll ALL tell you "PRACTICE"!
      What does it say about you to criticize people for seeking to be the best they can be? Ruminate on that for a while.

  • @librawoman4554
    @librawoman4554 5 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Thank you for the post . I understand why now .I need help and will ask for help.

    • @DiodeMom
      @DiodeMom 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Libra Woman just read this comment. I hope you’re doing well, clean and sober and spiritually connected.

    • @Sassy_Alaskan
      @Sassy_Alaskan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Libra Woman come find support on Facebook @ No Addict Left Behind.

    • @librawoman4554
      @librawoman4554 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I just read these comment today. Thank you I've been drug free for 2 years, I've been working out and became very fit and active. I am also very spiritual. A lot had change and I'm happy and I am peaceful.

    • @kimwarburton8490
      @kimwarburton8490 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@librawoman4554 Thanks for sharing, its good to hear success stories, will be starting my journey soon. Getting therapy sorted atm still

    • @librawoman4554
      @librawoman4554 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@DiodeMom sorry for the late response. Yes I'm doing very well. I've no longer interested in drugs. I had helped from above. I understood it was just a journey and lessons. Luckily for me that I had help from my friend and I moved out of the place and ppl that tempted me. Thank you for your concern and prayer. Love 💘

  • @danab333
    @danab333 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Wow our stories are absolutely identical in the beginning...that was crazy hearing u tell my intro to my first addiction n that too was coke. But that's where our stories change

    • @Sassy_Alaskan
      @Sassy_Alaskan 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Dana Begody come share your story on our Facebook page. No Addict Left Behind.

  • @gaynorbishop9749
    @gaynorbishop9749 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this wonderful talk. Going to show this at the Rehab centre to inspire the service users 🥰❤🙏

    • @gordonsands
      @gordonsands 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nobody should be inspired to replace drugs with god...at least it was only their bodies they were killing before..now their brain is shut off lol

  • @eddiecongdon8017
    @eddiecongdon8017 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I tried the steps once but I could not get past the second step because I always said I was the God of my understanding.

    • @NiksKoleva
      @NiksKoleva 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Eddie Congdon the real point of the second step is to admit that you are a human- you make mistakes and you can learn from them and bad things just happen and you can’t control them; also building relationships with other people can heal and make you stronger; opening your heart to a bigger cause or group will help dealing with loneliness

    • @meghanr9639
      @meghanr9639 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If it hasn't worked for you then maybe change your mindset so it can work for you.

  • @GracielaAyala
    @GracielaAyala 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wow i loved it