Unc & Ocho give their best advice on how to get over your ex after a difficult breakup | Nightcap
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ธ.ค. 2023
- Shannon Sharpe and Chad "Ochocinco" take a question from their TH-cam chat from someone who's on the mend from a difficult breakup. Unc and Ocho give their best advice for how to deal with heartbreak and keep your life moving forward.
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Shannon says “love will kill you and keep you alive to feel it”. So true. It’ll test your mettle and you learn to love yourself more.
I felt that statement wholeheartedly!
Bars💯💯
He said a mouthful!🤦🏽♀️🤣🤣
Damn! Unc is a modern day philosopher!!!!
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“Love is the only thing that will kill you but keep you alive to feel it” damn I felt that!
Tell that to those who were murdered by their boyfriend or husband. Bet they wished that was the case.
Me too!! That hit different.
I was about to type the SAME THING.Obviosly you beat me to it😅❤💯... was that NOT one of the MOST POWERFUL statements⁉️🔥🎁
Hell of a quote. So try
Whew
Ocho and his facial expressions when Unc drops gems cracks me up every time 😂
Unc drops so many gems on this podcast. This is the best duo right now!
Mary Porter was a gem
Listening to sermons without going to church
Yup. Church of Real Talk.
Yup 😂😂😂
Ocho said the realest thing. “When the situation is no longer convenient and beneficial their true colors come out.” That is hurt people loving others
That pain is something I wish on no one. But if you heal correctly it creates a better you.
Facts.
It's necessary. You will learn what it means to truly be alive.
Indeed. The healing creates a stronger you. Excellent words. Truth.
Big facts 💯
The hardest part for men to accept about relationships is that we can love women unconditionally but they love us only under certain conditions.
I swear to GOD
Fr bro.
Nah
Yes. Men tend to put women on a pedestal, thinking they found a unicorn. She’s “special”. Then they ignore all the red flags, compromise their own standards, don’t listen to what the friends are seeing, and end up getting their heart broken.
it goes both ways men and women only love under certain conditions unconditional love is only for your children
Y’all don’t talk about sports, y’all talk about LIFE 💯 ❤
Well in this segment...lol...they definitely talk sports...just not this time😊
@@daisyhenry332 there are plenty life lessons/values from sports 🤙🏾💯🤞🏾
Wasgood Uce. Afakasi gang 💯 🇼🇸
Very surface level but yeah
Breakups are tough if you're really all in. Trust God, He has something better for you.🙏🏽
There is no doG.
@@petebradtBut there is a higher power. Call him or her what you want, I prefer the great mystery. We aren’t doing this on our own though. How do you exist without faith? Who do you call upon during tough times to navigate your way out of darkness?
The fact that ocho admitted that he has been dumped is so - man, I am so touched
….he said he’s been dating since 1983(he’d have been 5)
Well, he was a cheater, so he made it easy for those women to dump/leave him.
He needed to be dumped for some of those relationships
That's real ?an stuff! It takes great courage, and strength to be vulnerable like that.
I think everyone has or is going through this or is going to go through this.
“Think about EVERYTHING you overcame in your entire life just to get to this point!” So profound. I had a bad day at work today and hearing that really encouraged me.
YOU & MANY OTHERS INCLUDING MYSELF WAS MEANT TO HEAR THAT WORD!!!!!🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯
Exactly!!! Because it really puts things in perspective now doesn't it
Exactly 💯 💯 💯
After my last relationship of 3 years ended 1 1/2 years ago, I went through hell to find myself now I’m starting to hit my stride and I’ve never been so effing happy! Hang in there y’all ! Love ya guys !
Stay up my G
@@chromebomb appreciate it pimp I’m not even in the dating scene at all. Feel Pure rolling with God only right now
@@patrickarthur26yeah bro i’ve been the same, got out of a 3 and abit year relationship and it’s almost been a year now and i’ve just been focusing on myself. Definitely helped watching this video ngl.
@@patrickarthur26Same! I’m actually finally content in my singlesness and I’m truly at peace
Bless 🙌🏾
The chemistry between these two is incredible to never have played together
UNC, your words got me in tears. I just went through a 12 year relationship, he wanted to go a different way, it hurts tremendously but I will get through it hearing your words. 😢
Definitely. It surely hurts but that hurt can be turn into a positive notion. One thing I like to keep in mind is that it's positives within negatives and negatives within positive and you can extract positivity from a negative situation. Just do your part to be a good woman and things will eventually fall in place as it should. I wish you well
Dang 12 years? Stay strong but don’t let this have you thinking negatively about love. Remember God bring and take people out of your life for a reason. Something better may be coming.
Good you probably seen the red flag probably ignored them so you got what you deserve. Y’all broke up after 12 years move on no need to be hurt or sad. That’s sad of pathetic but once again, you seen the red flags.
@@AA-zh9br dang you harsh but you right. 12 years not married that’s a red flag there
Been there done that, but I was the one who called time on it, so I might have transitioned smoother than my ex. I'm 8 years removed, and that seems like a blip on the radar screen of life. Hope your heart heals soon. There's so much to experience in life. One door closes, another opens😊
I was with my wife 13 years and she cheated on me for 1.5 years. I still can’t get over this shit easily. I need to get with Ocho in Miami for a few days. 😂
😂😂😂
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Brother you ok
@@achhkay4229 I am now. Appreciate you. 😂
Brother I wouldn’t wish this on any man, I’m going to pray for you tonight. I’m sorry you went through that, praying that you find a woman who loves, and cherishes you, and who is down right LOYAL.
Pain is inevitable suffering is optional
Tatted on me
Good quote 💯
DAMN
You never been in love, until you 2 have broken up and it feels like youre dying. Cant eat , sleep, everything remind you of that person. You start feeling like you dont even wanna be here. Surround yourself with people you love and keep busy as posssible. Time heals all wounds.
Brother that's obsession. I have been in love and yes it hurts like your heart is in your stomach but I would never let a woman make me feel like I don't want to be here. ALWAYS have a life outside of your spouse.
@AntTurner well that's you. Luckily enough I've been married for 15 years but I had rough breakups before hand.
Not sure I call that love but I get your sentiment.
@@tjofwakanda8027 Yeah maybe it made me too cold lol, congrats on 15 years married though that's a blessing brother 🙏.
@@tjofwakanda8027I get you 1000%. I couldn’t have said it any better. Was married 20 years and it fell apart. Worst feeling I’ve had, take it one day at a time. It gets better with time like you said.
"love is the only thing to kill you, but keep you alive to feel it." Wow. 10/10 comment.
I love how honest and vulnerable Unc and Ocho get on the show. I love this duo
To love someone, it's like a deaf when you break up. It's just the person is still alive.
Ocho stated dating in 1983 as a 5 year old - this man done it all !!!
I still remember my first crush it was around that age. I just didn’t know that feeling. It was love definitely not lust because sex didn’t cross my mind until middle school.
“ I know you didn’t bring me this far to bring me this far”
I needed that .
Well said
Me too! It’s all I’ve been saying. I hope my heart believes it
Chad has seemingly grown up a lot. This was a great conversation for men to hear. Men hurt too, though pain is an opportunity to learn and become stronger. Know what you're looking for in a mate and what you will not ever tolerate again.
Boi Shannon got hurt hurt.. I honestly been through a divorce and the only thing that really hurt me .. was losing my kids.. I honestly wasn’t too hurt by my ex leaving me.. last time I felt real hurt was prob high school Gf type ish.. when u get older as a man?? U should be experienced enough in life to understand certain truths about women to the point where u will NEVER believe in them and also know how to protect urself WHILE being with them.. and the only way is to NEVER truly believe in them.. women live in the MOMENT and in they FEELINGS NOWWW!! which means she can change 2 years from now and another man is entertaining her and making her FEEL a certain way.. smh.. that’s how the GAME really goes.. women HATE being BORED.. and they lose appreciation and love for you the more they have POSSESED and conquered you.. u like a old car that done lost its excitement..smh lot of men egos can’t take this Harsh truth because they think they gone always be SPECIAL to a woman when women really ain’t made the same way men are.. men love for LIFE.. but women love for feelings and security and fun.. smh soon as u done ran all ur plays and she tired of you.. if she still attractive?? Then she will be looking for the next then park to ride.. women are really like Children in a Sense!! Real talk!! U have to accept that and just have ur fun with them and always create distance so she don’t ever get too comfortable with u or see that u done fell for her or need her.. cause then she ain’t gonna really desire u no more.. women like things that they CANT HAVE.. u want to always be that guy.. smh not the lover mfer who worships the ground she walks on.. cause then it’s OVA for you fam.. a conquered MAN is no fun to a woman
Best advice I was ever given,...you can never get ahead trying to get even
05:35 Thank you for sharing UNC. That’s REAL and i felt that. I just turned 38 on November 19th and I spent it alone. I had to destroy the old me and build who I want to be. Everyone aint tryin’ to go where I want to go but I just got promoted at work and have my own store now so I know I’ll be alright in the end if I stay focused and keep working on myself. ✊🏾
I applaud you, young man. Keep putting work. Blessings to you and yours.
Happy belated birthday 🎉
@@jenisereedus thank you
@@loislane1290 thank you
@@HOLLAifYouFEARmebeing alone at 38 is crazy 🤣😭
Heartbreaks and losing a loved one are two of the biggest pains a person can feel. Those are stains that will last forever, but also can give you a new and better live long lens to look at life; a hard lesson learned.
Petition for Unc to be the script/dialogue writer for a tv series or a show. His one liners are absolute bangers
This clip has really helped me a lot. My fiancee broke up with me after 4yrs of me helping raise her 2 small children. I was highly depressed for the fact that I had to move on from her and my relationship with her kids, who I viewed as my own for the past 4 yrs
It takes a real man to step up and be a father figure you will find your forever person
Pray you find happiness
Shouldn’t have wife’d the single mother . Lesson learned
Hope you learned your lesson and stop simping for single mothers.
Sorry bro first of all I was in that same situation except years down this road I was pushed out. The lady remarried and gave her child her new husband’s last name. Like that I was out mama said time for you to move on time to let go. Didn’t want to wanted to she was rite she said you can’t do nothing she moved on and left you. And you did all you can what you were supposed to do you can’t do no more. Six months later it still hurt but I get a phone call from my Ex talking about she needs my help new husband not doing what he supposed to. At that point I had to stay away because I seen what kind of pain and destruction that person can do to me… do not listen to the first comment about step up and raise someone else’s kids… you will never be able to raise those kids because you are not in that house it will never be the same!!!! They will always live in another man’s house another man’s rules. Your deeds and words will mean nothing… mama new man and then you!!!
The thing about Shannon is once he's involved into something, He's highly involved or invested in it.Everything he does, he takes it very seriously so I see why he was bothered by the the whole undisputed break up
Also he's a Cancerian...they don't take change very well ..they like to hold on (like a crab)...
@@daisyhenry332 and emotional lol. I have two cancer daughters and I'm a Taurus so I completely understand how hard it can be to let go or to change something you're accustomed to
@@seanpeacejohn889 Very Emotional...lol
It's what happens when you don't have a father in your life 😮
Dude admitted relationships was never important to him but men are asking advice from him??? Smh
Man, nothing prepares you for heartbreak. I was recently dumped. He told me he was tired of disappointing me. I've been thinking about him a lot lately and wanting to call him. I'm gonna pull an Usher and let it burn, but this got me feelin some kinda way. I keep tellin myself it is what it is, but that don't cover up the pain from realizing it never was what i thought it was. 😞
Emotions can be hard to navigate, give yourself grace. Think about what you would tell your friend in the same situation and follow the advice! Good luck 🙏
Yep life goes on. Not that serious.
No contact best way to brake up give yourself 30 days before any contact again. During these 30 days pump all of your energy into yourself you have been putting a lot of energy into someone else and neglecting your star player you… take yourself self to the finest restaurants. No music put on those new outfits treat yourself shopping 🛍️ get that hair done or cut nice. At the end of the 30 days text only….!!!! But only if you want too if not repeat another 30 or never
I feel on this.
I wanna reach out too but i fight the erge
Time will help. Get therapy if needed💕
Literally me and my girl went our separate ways last night I needed this. 8:19 amen preach ocho
She with me now
@@starfireprincessyou are a cold fool 😂
Start dating other ppl asap life is too
Short
Keep pushing forward and keep busy.
Other girls out there not that serious
I was in a 5 year relationship it ended almost two years ago it still hurts she has a new boyfriend but all you can do is learn from mistakes and move on as long as she's happy
These brothers are deep. Love it! I'm glad grown men can come together and have real conversations again. Been too long. Thank you guys!
YEAH I HAVE TO AGREE WITH YOU!!!
AS A BLACK MAN WE NEED MORE CONVERSATIONS LIKE THIS TO TELL OUR OWN STORIES!!!!
When Unc said when he move on from someone he moves on from the people he met through that person I felt that so much because I’m guilty of that real bad 😂
it's clear shannon has experienced real heartbreak and i commend you for it. people love at different capacities. find someone who knows love the same way you do.
Unc and Ocho know how to help me ease up my anxiety.
Unk is tough. He breaks up with the entire group. 😂😂😂
That’s a essential part of the healing process.
@@jamiecurtis8503it really is. You even have to breakup with their kid or kids also. That’s even worst
😂😂😂 unc say damem all😅
I needed this in one man. God didn’t bring me this far to bring me this far
It's been under 2 years and I'm still recovering from 15 years with a cheating manipulative narcissist. Who discarded me for a younger man. Stay Strong Shannon..we pulling for you. 🙏
I’m going through this now after 10 years. I’m afraid I’ll never get through it. It’s only been a month. I don’t see myself able to move on
@@frankgeary7574 I'm pulling for you. Plz take yourself time to heal. I wish I could take away your hurt. I'm a testament that there will be a new life in the future for you. Unfortunately, you have to go through the mourning stage. Time your time Frank.. you can get through this! God bless 🙏🙏
Ocho so true! When you go through a breakup, you come to learn that you’ve been sleeping with the enemy! Love this podcast ❤
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I have a new level of respect for Unc. For him to admit that getting over the breakup was hard and the hurt he felt took true courage.
You lads are out here doing God's work on this podcast!! Keep blowing up!! 🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯
Respect you ocho! A lot of people would hide their pride and say they broke up w all their exes, but you a real one
Ocho hit it on the head people sho who they really are when its no longer beneficial to them
every episode unc preaches, i love it 💯
This is a real man conversation!!!!
I went through this and I had to realize that she really did not love me and that was her reason for leaving. And like Ocho says after it's over the real truth comes out.
man i wish this video came out a year and a half ago. i got out of a 7-year relationship and i was genuinely a mess - blew up to Zion Williamson proportions and was in a bad space mentally for a while but thank God i had good people by my side to help me get back on the right path.
I’m going through this pain and intense loneliness of someone breaking up with me. I thought she was the one, she made me so happy and I want to thank you two for this. Recently it’s been hard to function normally or enjoy my life and I always thought that “high value” men were immune from getting “dumped”, that they were spared from heartbreak. I had the impression that they never experienced that because of their fame and power and I was always envious of that. Thank you for sharing, it helps
What about the High Value Women! We get dumped too!!!!!!
I broke up with a nice guy but it was because wasn’t ready and his poor behavior was constantly hurtful. You definitely gotta do the inner work nothing happens without a cause.
What is "high value" when it comes to life? A person's occupation doesn't make them less than human nor impervious to pain. Your work is what you do NOT who you are!
It’s always tough when going through a breakup. Just don’t stop going through until you come out❣️ Take the “L”… It’s not a loss-you learned a LESSON. Honesty with yourself and others (safe people) is important❤
Rejection is the Lord's protection. Remember that fellas
Right! This goes both ways ladies.
This
Having to reassure a person over and over is a huge red flag!! Reassurance will not fix what's broken in them and will completely drain you and the relationship. Shannon, although this has been painful, God had to remove that burden from your life because He knew you could not repair what only He can repair. Blessings don't always come in pretty packages, but they are always right on time. Continue to pray for peace and healing!! God bless!!
I felt Unc's pain in this one!
Unk dropped that love line and Ocho grabbed his pen 🖊️…. He right all those good ones down
Some breakups are harder than others. The hardest is when you believed you were going to grow old with that person, till death do us part type of feeling. When that type of relationship ends, you think more about mortality, it's full of grief and loss. It really gets in your head. Life feels like it's coming to an end. This most likely isn't true, unless you're really old. Most likely you got decades more to live. A lot of things are still possible. That's what needs to be overcome, see the openness and possibilities. Many other potential partners are out there.
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Ocho going on dates at 5 years old is crazy
😂😂😂. I don't know if he always be telling the truth or stretching it a lil bit.
Hold up if Chad started dating in 1983 he would have been 5 years old c’mon Chad 😂😂😂
He said he was 45-55 years old. Lol 😂
I think he meant to say 93 😂
For me:
Don’t try to act like you don’t love her anymore because you do. Acknowledge your pain, thoughts, regrets whatever you feel. Give yourself time to sort through things. It’s ok to grieve and go through it. Aim to be at peace with your situation and you will heal to be a more complete Man.
Unc being this trueful is DEF helping somebody. Sheesh. Break ups are def tuff. Time, Activity, and PRAYER are the best weapons to overcome. What a GREAT show.
Best way to move on is exactly that, move on. Because no matter what, even if you still want to continue the relationship. Nine times out of 10 that female is not coming back. She already made a decision in her mind, her heart, she already talked to her friends and she already pulled that trigger. Ain't no coming back from that. Don't be spending a bunch of extra money. sending candy, flowers none of that, because that won't help. But If y'all are meant to be she will be back.
Yep, plus they are like monkeys, in that they don’t let go of one branch (relationship) until they have another firmly in hand.
@REAlMIDOFFICIAL1
"But If y'all are meant to be she will be back."
This is my only issue. If you gave everything you had, close the door and do not let them circle back. They (he or she) will do it again, and it will hurt even worse. It's better to use the opportunity for self reflection and improvement. The dumper usually sees no need for change in themselves, and will bring no additional benefits when they try to return. If you take them back, all of your work will have been in vain...
Its not really about the meant to be thing. Women just lose interest. Once they lose interest its game over. Its like a flame. If it stops completely - you can't reignite it. If the woman lost interest so much ti where she had to do the breaking up - its pretty much over. If by any chance you reach out and yall get back together it will be on her terms and ugly and stuff. So then you are better off without her. She will run all over you. Its important for you to do the breaking up before it reaches that point of no return. If a woman had to break up with you - she lost so much interest to where it can't be gained back.
@@erikpuka2627 Preach,
Requires Hercules strength to pull it off , but it defn attainable .
@@reginaldsmith6949truth, ppl do change & people do grow. But if that person still has the same social circle. I promise you they have not changed but most likely whatever toxic trait they had it’s even worse now.
While you all have me in tears but this is phenomenal…the transparency, empathy, humility and wisdom. Unc and Ocho are by far the best and the realest. Blessings 💯🔥✨
Smoking out of a bong 💨🍃 drinking beers and enjoying another Unc & Ocho video, cheers😎🫡 🍻
Unc : I Miss Her
Ocho : Fuck it lets go to king of diamonds
One of the best segments ever on their show.
Great conversation with two brothers expressing their feelings with exiting a relationship. In our black community us black men don't talk about our feelings. Love this podcast . ✊🏿💯
That last minute……. The truth!!!! SOME Women be wanting us to feed their “self esteem” that’s hard. My ex wanted me to be on that 24/7 and it cost us our marriage. That’s a tiring job and emotionally and physically I wasn’t built for that.
My ex WANTED that too despite doing everything else no I wasn't perfect but she WAS so insecure she felt I didn't love her because I didn't tell her shes beautiful every damn minute
😢I want to hug Uncle so bad. I pray he finds his true love
The only person that can unconditionally love is parents to a child. So if you're looking for a perfect soulmate it will never happen. You have to be realistic about the situation
I had this conversation and female friends really believe holding on to everyone even the one they break up with as friends. When you go everyone goes, friends, momma, paw-paw, sister brother cousins, everyone. I am on that track with Unc
Mary Porter was a gem
Love and need this Unc and Ocho keep delivering the best content not just sports for your viewers!!
Cherish every moment with that person, because you don't know when it will end, 3yrs, 10yrs, even 15yrs.
Love to see these two chopping it up. Shannon be dropping gems 💎
i love these relationship vids sandwiched in nba talk, like the previous vid of ocho and shannon talking about exes and heartbreaks. to me now, they're relevant. keep em coming
I’m going through it right now, 7 year relationship and 4 year marriage with kids. It’s tough, but time heals all wounds.
Thats what I call "real talk", you guys are honest,and wise,I needed to hear this.
I respect Shannon so much for his words of wisdom and just being open about his struggles. This man is like a big brother to me.
Big Unc and Unc dropped this perfect time for me. 💜
Sisters are Golden!! Thank you Shannon for the testimony.
This was truly a transparent moment into how men feel and love... thank you
Shannon wisdom is everything that's powerful. Especially when alot of time was invested.
I really understood what Unc said and it made sense. Think reflect and be good with it and move on.
Best conversation hands down
Shannon such a sweetheart. You can tell he got emotional when sharing his truth. God got you Unc and the people riding with you til the wheels fall off ❤️❤️❤️
To hear words like this from individuals of this stature was extremely heart warming. Thank you so much
I love the transparency ❤️
This clip just hit me because I am going through it now. And I am just now starting the healing process 😢
Rewatching this Nightcap episode. Needed some morning encouragement. Thanks Unc & Ocho 🫶🏾😌
Shannon, thanks for the word's of encouragement. 🥰😎
Yep I have been done dirty a few times and trust me I wanted to get back at all off them but as time went on I just wanted to get right with myself cuz you realized that your purpose is bigger than a relationship
Unc is the realest man with a camera in front of him.
Shannon so real and open it’s like a breath of fresh air 💯 thank you brotha for this rip to Kevin Samuels
I heard a preacher said, it only takes a pulse to fall in love, but it takes work to stay in love.The problem is nobody wants to work!
Thank you for sharing your wisdom fellas. 💯
Glad I stumbled upon this Unc & Ocho gracias 🙏🏽
I'm with you Unc. Recent heartbreak. It's tough, but time will do it's thing.
That was great insight and it really helped me. God didn't bring me this far to turn his back on me now. I had to hear that today on 12/9. Thanks Unc & Ocho.
I feel this bro… going through it now but the best thing is to do is give it time.
Recently getting out of a 7 year relationship, I needed to hear this fr. I appreciate yall Unc & Ocho
I seriously love this podcast, the chemistry, the wisdom, & topics you talk about
Wish this conversation was longer as I'm going through a breakup but I appreciate yall✊🏽