Bipolar Disorder and Relationship Breakups
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- Are people with bipolar disorder more likely to act viciously towards a person after a relationship breakup or after getting rejected? I can only speak as a woman with bipolar 2 disorder, and my answer is, no we are not. In this video, I explain my reasoning and share my personal experience dealing with breakups and bipolar disorder.
The reason people believe that bipolar breakups are bad is that rarely do we hear from the person with bipolar disorder and get their side of the story. Why? When you live with a mental health condition, your truth isn’t given nearly as much weight as what the person without a mental illness is saying. This is not to say that I am not personally at fault for emotionally overreacting in some situations, but it is my defense mechanism as a woman who lives with bipolar disorder. I am learning how to respond instead of reacting with my emotional extremes. A person with or without a bipolar disorder is at risk for acting out in extreme ways when it comes to getting their heart broken. It's a human thing, not a bipolar thing.
As someone who lives with bipolar disorder, how have you dealt with a relationship break up? Do you agree that people with bipolar or any mental health condition are more susceptible to this type of scrutiny? Please share your thoughts or send in a response video to info@healthyplace.com. Thanks! Hannah
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I was in a relationship for 4 years with a woman that was bipolar. She asked me to marry her and then 2 months later said she stopped loving me 2 years prior. This was directly after her inviting a male coworker from the bar she worked at to a concert we went to. She's still in a relationship with him months after we ended ours. I've never been so eviscerated by a person. All I'm left with is pure nausea. Her aura of omnipotence was soul deadening. In her final note left at our apartment, she had the gall to request to be friends if "I" was willing. My mind has been a fog for months since it ended. It is going to be a challenge finding humanity again after this.
Find a humanity with someone who isn't bipolar
Man I can so related to this. Soul crushing
Damn bro
wow!!!! that is so crazy, so similar to the relationship that I just ended.
I was so devastated by the way things ended with my relationship. It brings me peace to know that I'm not alone. I need your comment on a TH-cam video just to find the answers. Thank you so much for leaving this.
Bipolar isn't a pass to be a jerk
I feel you Cristina
Ur absolutely right
how dare you how is anyone being a jerk youre a jerk if you cant understand mental health...jerk
Exactly cause my spouse it’s a butt hole and says anything out of his emotions then the next day act like nothing happened 🤷🏾♀️
💯 💯 💯
I just broke up with my bipolar gf. The emotional and mental abuse that have been put through has been monumental. She has managed to completely destroy me. The next time I date I will bring up mental health issues straight away. Can never date a bipolar person ever again. My advise to others who are not bipolar is to never ever get in a relationship with one. Run the other direction.
Hi! I am sorry to hear that you struggled in your previous relationship and I know that it can be difficult. Your mental health is important as well. However, generalizing all people who live with bipolar as undateable is unfair. I know many people in successful relationships where one partner lives with bipolar disorder. I understand that you were hurt by your ex, but that doesn't make us all bad individuals. Thank you for being honest! -Hannah
@@healthyplace I'm really amazed by your empathic responses. It must be hard reading these sorta messages. Kudos to you on your strength.
I feel yea, can be the nicest person that they ever have in their life then when you call them out on being a jerk they can turn it completely around on you, can mess up your own mental health as well, tried to be understanding to it but just best to run away!
May have Came near to healthy relationship with a woman with bipolar cptsd ,but she got triggered by horror out of control horror ,to say the least ,then went toa therapist and got worse,therapist said It was likely for relationship to end from the therapy used,so yeah,ended with her attacking me,hurting herself while assaulting me,threatened to call the police and say i hurt her .Months on end She'd abuse me..Loud music ,controlling ,and just total insanity .I think under the right conditions things could of been different .Like being poor doesn't help
God bless you. you just added 10 yrs. to your life.
My wife has bipolar and has paranoia badly with some psychotic features. It’s really hard. Feel like my life with her has been a roller coaster ride over the last couple of years. We have been split up five months and now she calls me and says she wants to fix everything. She says she is on her meds again but I don’t see/ hear their affect. I just don’t think I can go back to this struggle again. Relationships are hard enough without mental health issues involved. This is a terrible disorder and my heart goes out to anyone who lives with it. I especially admire the courage of people who are leaning forward to try to help others on videos like this. Peace to everyone dealing with this.
You’re brave. Get a better live and better love for yourself. You can always support them from afar but you deserve better
I can relate. I’m going through it with my partner now and I’m not sure what to do. You showed courage in the relationship but even MORE by leaving. Stay strong. X
@@Startupsandsushi 100%
17 mos. Engaged! Ex has Bi Polar. I learned all i could about the illness. Broke up 12 days ago. on 7th day she contacted me wished me Happy birthday. I responded GM TY Hope you doing well.
Many ups & downs, frustration trying to figure out is it you or your BP doing this. She has NO empathy. When I say BEAUTIFUL can you please answer my text or whatever She says I'm trying.
That's all she does is Try. She never DOES! I treated her like a QUEEN! I allowed to be treated like a Peasant. I wrote down the Pros & cons of our relationship.
WOW!!! She gave very little.
I read only 10% of Bi Polar are successful. I tried to keep us there. She always said You are the one keeping us in the 10% & I Love you for it. She never sees fault in her actions only my reaction!!
Don't think I can do it anymore!! I ❤️ her to death, it was more of a Emotional Intimacy, not so much Physical, that was great!
I'm 66 never had that in all my relationships.
Sounds like you're just defending people with bipolar instead of explaining why they emotionally abuse their partners. What about us? Imagine how hard it is being with someone who will break off the relationship in a matter of seconds then drag it on for days, weeks, and in some cases months at a time. During one of these hiatuses she got drunk and slept with a guy yet she continues to do the same ignore tactic to inflict emotional abuse. Unfortunately this is why our relationship won't make it. I tried communicating my feelings and that doesn't work she doesn't wanna work out anything not until the damage is already. So I do feel sorry for bipolar people I feel even more for a person with a bipolar person cause they very ice cold, selfish, self centered, and cutthroat.
I totally agree that romantic partners of bipolar people deserve a metal of honor, the Purple Heart 💜 !
True and in my case he is violent . But yes he is emotionally abusive and cruel & the most self absorbed person I've ever met.
Yes very traumatic..we love them but the behavior is very disturbing. I guess they are not afraid to grow old alone ...
Aaaaaaaanf I’m back to thinking I’m a monster. Thanks.
@@hollyjay3628 being with a bipolar/bpd person is akin to self flagellation. you may have a disease, but that doesn't mean you're beyond judgment.
the moment you're aware you're bipolar, you have a responsibility of trying to get treatment and whatever you do, DO NOT ENGAGE in amorous relationships, without learning how to deal with the intrusive thoughts and how to control the disease, even if a tiny bit.
bipolars wreck their SOs lives due to not being adults enough and not able to understand that due to your disorder it will be impossible for you to be with someone without causing damage, until you get it figured out.
You have 2 options. 1.Stay and be tortured or 2. Run,rebuild and be happy. Harsh but true!
What if you've learned some things about your last 13 years and thought the risk of being able to "tame the beast" was worth the reward because you truly love them and they dont take you seriously...I got 2 days left on our week long break and I still feel I'm losing her..I'm so nervous
I want to hear you but being positive and optimistic you always feel that you can save the relationship.
yup🏃🏼♀️
Thank you for sharing this. I took your advice this weekend. Partners of bipolar deserve to not be collateral damage. We deserve consistent love too.
That is so harsh...blame the illness not the person
I love how every bi polar video states we are not bad people you just have be patient while we lie cheat manipulate give you the run around tell you we hate you and freak out but we are good natured we mean well lol....and they use it as a crutch in my opinion
My ex has been splitting all day. One minute he loves me and the next minute he hates me. It's exhausting. He accused me of trying to manipulate him. He said that his friends told him that I was trying to manipulate him. He said what I wanted to ask you is what is the worst thing you think you've ever said to me? Like how would I know the answer to that? Only he does.
Imagine how we feel. It is like watching a movie of yourself and not having the controls. Believe it or not often times the control is in the other person. I know for myself, in a relationship, I react instead of responding. Rejection is the biggest trigger for me, anytime it feels like I'm being rejected my disorder takes over. I think there is a lot of shame in how we act and we can't help it. We know you can only apologize so many times before the person has had enough. I expect the rejection often and when the signs present themselves the rejection is felt and BAM reaction. It is difficult to say the leasr.
I think the fact that you refer to us as "bi polar(s)" speaks volumes. I am sure you don't refer to ppl with cancer as "cancers" or diabetics as "diabeteses" jus saying. Sometimes the stigma is so pervasive in an individual that the relationship is doomed before it starts. Your word choice shows a huge lack of understanding. How could it work?
@@jeanninejmaloney yes but can't you learn to control that a little bit? Like learn from your mistakes? I'm not trying to down you I'm just saying like after a while wouldn't you notice the pattern of I'm acting this way and I better learn to have some kind of control over it whether it's with therapy or meds or whatever or this person is going to end up leaving me like the last one did? You say you fear rejection but yet you're the one that's causing it.
@@babyhandgrenade4004 Of course I try to control it 1050%, but if I could it wouldn't be a disorder. Hindsight is 20/20 and every single time I see the pattern, usually after the fact. Sometimes I see it before, but by the time you see it... how can I explain this. So I'm already upset cause of all the BS in my mind and it is causing relationship problems and I'm fighting with my bf= (2 problems). Then my bf is upset (3) and treating me differently(4) ... dig dig dig in my head and I replay my actions (words are hard to remember)(5). I think about what I did (6) and why (7) and how bad I made him feel (8). Now I'm ashamed and embarrassed for what I did(9), which turns into anger, the only emotion loud enough and strong enough to beat all others including shame, sadness, and fear (10). Now I am upset, angry, feeling rejected and have insurmountable problems (10) to disect in my mind surrounding the relationship. This requires complete isolation for me.
Then I need space and cannot give mu energy to the relationship right now. It sucks when people leave for sure, but you have every intention of making it right for thr next one. However, if the person has enough patience and understanding to work with us, wait while we learn and is compassionate then certainly it can work. I hope I explained that well... in the no sleeping cycle of my disorder.
My wife has Bi-polar and we have been togther 9 years. No major fights no real issues. One day she just says Im not in love with you and it wasnt me I am a amazing husband and am what most girls dream about but I just dont want you. Yes this devistated my life but at the same time It was a great 9 years and it will take me years to move past this amazing women.But I dont think I would ever date a bi-polar person again. It is simply too painful.
No fights with a bi polar person... That's a first.
*No major fights.
Facts
@@MJ-hm4it I had not fights at all with my bipolar ex. One day she just had the idea to stop her medication and then "fell out of love" Well, it had been great 6 years. I still don't understand her motives.
Please don’t, there’s a small chance of a person with bipolar disorder staying in a marriage or a relationship and they will leave you and not know why. Please know what you’re getting into when dating someone with this disorder.
If a person with bipolar disorder or any other major psychological condition is stuck in the denial stage, where they refuse to take medication, do not attend therapy regularly, and maintain a stable lifestyle, it will be impossible to even begin a normal dating relationship with that individual, and consequently, there will be no opportunity to form a romantic relationship or even a friendship with that individual. It is as simple as that.
Medication is a joke
They can pour hot water all over you and look you dead in the eye and say what did you do .
EXACTLY!!
Yes
demons
My wife has bipolar 1 and we have two kids together. The kids are both under 10 years old. I don’t know what to do because when she is manic it’s very scary.
Yup just don't go in to relationships with someone with a mental health problem it's a slow rotting away of happiness and soul, someone going to say well that's harsh, well it's harsh for the other partner to deal with all the dysfunctional chaos
My ex had biopolar disorder. A lot of drama with her. It was always about her and I had to do it her way or the highway. After a while I I got tired of it all and took the highway and never looked back
Tim D how have u been since? It gets lonely out there but in sure the peace of mind is nice
Same
Same shape
@ Tim D - Got you brother!!!
For-note: By the way, this bipolar gentlemen gets IT:
th-cam.com/video/MdMSmHYXkds/w-d-xo.html
Great video explaining what is required if you want to be in relationship with a bipolar person.
Unfair but true judgments (where content provider says it's 'UNFAIR' - life is unfair)
Long story alert ahead!!!:
Been there, done that, it was pure 5 years of hell. Verbal, physical, emotional, psychological abuse. Ups & Downs like a roller-coaster where you never win, no stability. Sure there were existing highs but the lows were equally if not more low and traumatic. Drama Drama Drama (all about them and their NEEDS, you don't exist in the grand scheme of it all).
Infidelity due to high sex drive and manic episodes (behind my back while we were dating and throughout even when we were engaged and living together). Now we were engaged and lived together... the closer you get the more insane it gets (she had Narcissism & Borderline co-morbid as well; which was not diagnosed, they often go hand in hand). You end up picking up horrible habits from them (exposure leads to behavioral change to adapt) which leads to the disintegration of relationships outside of your relationship with a bipolar person due to extreme mood swings you get from the crazy things you have to deal with day to day being with a bipolar.
My ex called me over 87 times in one day (this was a regular occurrence), combined with texts upon texts, I had to leave work many times because she was losing her mind and wouldn't let it be (her problems always) and I was the person who was designated to fix it. I had to quit 3 jobs because of her as I would be fired eventually due to her drama (each time I was due to be promoted but her drama led to problems with my performance - self destruct mode due to her insecurities that I would leave her when I moved up).
Cluster B street (look it up), love bombing, idealization/devaluation, intense selfishness, abandonment issues, manipulation, gas-lighting, reverse victim blaming, etc. etc. Many visits from police, EMS, counselling, and to the psych ward... suicide attempts/threats, physical abuse towards me (not to mention mental, emotional, financial, verbal abuse & isolation from others who cared about me).
Point is this, most of the reasons people say not to date bipolar people is because ... sure they have their strong points and loving aspects about them... but weighed out to a person who has NONE of these issues, then I would choose a relationship that has less drama (life is already difficult) and LOVE as you say it does not conquer all, if that were the case the person who is with a bipolar is the most loving of all because they put up with all that shit, they are too blame for allowing one to abuse them out of so called love.
They also tend to destroy your relationships with family, friends or anyone because of abandonment issues, childish... possessiveness and self serving (theft & LIES). Now that all being said, most who dated bipolar people could have chosen a more ideal mate that would have helped the relationship grow, that's what it's all about, pair bonding. Not about walking on eggshells and avoiding landmines, who wants to live under that duress and stress for their whole lives? Not I, and this is after being with a woman for 5 years with bipolar I disorder, it stole years from my life, literally and figuratively (damaged in many ways due to that relationships - too many to list). By the way they abuse those closest to them most, why because it's a shit test to see if you will abandon them, it's mental abuse. Push Pull ( - no stability to build true trust as they always pull the rug from out under you. Non-supportive (fear of abandonment), it's all a show, mine also stole money and hid everything from me (exit plan - as they are used to people leaving - for good reason).
I could have been in a trusting loving relationship with someone WITHOUT those issues, but I did love her despite all the BS (she was gorgeous and full of life, exciting like adrenaline but then became a complete nightmare seconds later sometimes), that is where the saying LOVE IS BLIND is true, don't blind yourself, walk in knowing you are in for a ride and problems. Better yet get a non defective unit. Years of personal growth to regain my confidence, faith and belief in the world (women) and even now I won't do so fully as she's damaged me and although I am way past it all 4/5 years later the scars remain... lesson learned (the HARD WAY). Happy I am no longer dealing with constant police, EMS, psych & Dr. visits, counseling (which was a blame game directed towards me always)... freedom! Cheers!
RP MGTOW
Hey Brother how did you / she manage the first couple days of the breakup... I’m in a four year relationship and just found out my gf is bipolar. The signs have been everywhere but always figured we will work through it. But things got worst and worst and now I need to hit the eject but don’t know how.
My ex-boyfriend was bipolar and extremely emotionally abusive. We just broke up and I am so devastated because I love him and who is as a person but he was so toxic it was exhausting. We broke up less than a week ago and I am really struggling, but I know I cant deal with the abuse.
Emma Elyse Same here, sister!...
If it makes you feel any better, I was dating a very handsome bipolar gentleman. The highs were completely over the top amazing and fun! But then suddenly out of nowhere he would just either have a temper tantrum or he would cousin scream for no apparent reason. He always ghost it me between 7 and 10 days. Again he would just text me out of nowhere or call me out of nowhere and ask to meet up. No explanation for what happened no apology at all. All of a sudden we are in the enjoying the heck out of each other's company for like maybe 5 or 6 days and the pattern would fall right back in 2 where he would either get mad at something that was not worthy of having an argument for he would just withdraw for about 7 to 10 days. The entire time we dated, there was never really anything worthy of having an argument. As a matter of fact, he would tell me many times that I was so sweet to him. He also gave me a key to his apartment, he introduced me to his son, he introduced me to his ex wife, and he gave me a drawer to put some on my clothes in at his apartment. I on the other hand never really talked about seriously moving forward because of all the breakups. The last 2 times he cussed and I believe disrespected me for no reason and so now it's completely over. It can be very, very exhausting!
I hope you’re alright now
@@DominiqueSpeaks I am alright. He texted me this past Friday. But I stayed strong! I did not respond to him and I am staying stronger and stronger every day because we do not deserve to be disrespected like that!
@@Outoftheboxhomeorganizing So proud of you! Stay strong! We really don't deserve that! Hold your head high and look the other way when he says he wants to be a friend. I keep telling myself that if my ex had been a good person Maybe we could have stayed friends but when you don't know who you're getting for the day (the nice one or the depressed one or the mean one), it's just not worth it
My bipolar (1) ex would try to get an emotional response from me whenever she felt bad about herself or feared abandonment. It gave her a sense of control (to make someone else lose control), and it was an opportunity to play the victim. It was the most stressful time of my life considering we have a child.
Sorry
I broke up with a guy who’s bipolar and his reaction was so extreme that I’m really afraid he’s goin to do something really dumb. But he completely cut me out of his life. I just wish he’d understand that I still love him, but I just can’t live with his ups and downs. It’s just too hard to handle for me.
Dated a bipolar girl and I had to break up with her. Couldn’t take the emotional abuse, narcissism and compulsive lying. Notice how she only talks about her feelings/emotions & doesn’t talk about the other person in the relationship even once? There’s your problem. All about them.
This. I had to remind her almost every day to ask me how MY day was. Never asked. We don't deserver this.
Kor roK Yeah it’s like it’s definitely a disorder, there’s no disputing that, but at some point does my mental health mean anything? That’s what they never understand. It’s always about them.
My ex blamed me for focusing too much on my own needs in a relationship. I ended that and got outta there faster than an missile.
@@Startupsandsushi Yeah, it’s like you feel bad, but your mental health matters as well. Not just theirs. I’m glad you got out of that horrible situation.
I can relate to that! Never nu feelings into the equision allways hers
The breakup and "I hate you!" is coming, you just don't know when. You can't live emotionally and mentally well when every night you wonder if this will be the last night you'll be able to hold your significant other and tell them that you love them when tomorrow something might click in their head and they'll hate you, push you away, walk out on you and a week later practically move in or marry someone else with no remorse, emotion or any reason as to why.
That is exactly what happened to me.
Going through the same now
Same thing I am going through. I guess it is better than prolonging the inevitable pain of abandonment later on? Dunno 😢
well said! My girlfriend literally but engaged to someone for hours after I dumped her.
@@IanPryor Damn Ian it's a mindfuck man
Damn man.. I’m sorry this is gonna be a long thread but I’m hurting.. Me and my girl recently broke up a few days ago. From going to best friends,to lovers, to nothing.. From knowing her to middle school (which we are both 27 years old), to becoming what could’ve been the “one”. Proudly introduced her to my friends and family and coworkers. Calling her mine and being proud of it. The first 5.5 months were the happiest a man had in the world. She was considerate, loving, joyful, and the best person I knew. We had the same interests and it was obvious we were meant for each other.
It seemed as the months passed on, she changed. I would sit there at night thinking of why she was yelling at me and screaming at me for literally just sitting there. 🤷🏽♂️ I was tryna understand her and couldn’t see her point. She was the first girl I ever loved so I went out of my way for not only her, but her daughter (6) too. 😔 I loved that little girl like she was my own and still keeping the gift she made me in my room torments me..
I was there when her grandfather passed away, to all of her family parties and even her own mother and grandma told her, “this one is a good man. Don’t ever let him go.” I was there when she was about to lose her apartment, to her thoughts of suicide.. I hated seeing her like that.. super depressed out of nowhere, and taking it out on me. She was the first girl I loved so it started playing with my mind too thinking that was the one messing up.
She was the best person I knew, and when her switch flipped, she was this cruel, nasty, mean, ugly person to me. I put up with her verbal abuse and once, physical abuse. I forgave her and loved and wanted to move on and start a family with her. I knew she wanted to too, but her mental issues wouldn’t let her be happy or let me love her properly. We would go on road trips together, then she would get bothered by something so little and ruin some of them. She knew she was a lot to handle, and she thanked me for putting up with her.
She recently started pushing not only me away, but her own friends. She got swallowed up in her overthinking of how she wasn’t something. Calling herself POS, a bad mother, and a bad person all around. I just wish her baby daddy never beat her, she didn’t deserve that trauma. I wish her ex’s never cheated on her, so it was hard for her to trust me. I wish she had a good childhood, but unfortunately her dad wasn’t in the picture and her mother didn’t start actually being close to her until age 24 when her daughter was 3.
She tried so hard to change, but she couldn’t. I never once told her she was bipolar, but I spent nights thinking wtf I was doing wrong and all of a sudden, I thought to myself, “what if she’s bipolar?” Now looking at everything, it makes perfect sense. The substance abuse to “numb” herself so she didn’t have to “feel anything.” Calling her and telling her that wasn’t healthy, so she would just get super defensive and tell me that it’s just my fault.. blaming me over and over. I was the most patient one with her and loved her and her daughter. Her daughter is the thing that kills me the most.. I loved her. 😔
I hope she can realize, that she’s not only hurting people around her, but her own self too. I love her so much and this has ruined our relationship of only 8 months. What could’ve been, what should’ve been is no more because of this mental illness. I hope she can find help one day, and be my friend and find happiness again. She broke it off and she took blame too but she thought it would be better to break it off instead of putting each other through that..
I’m hurting super hard because the first girl I fell in love with, didn’t deserve this. She wanted the happily ever after with me and she couldn’t have it.. I hope she finds help because I don’t want her ruining her relationship with her daughter as she gets older. Sorry I just had to pour my heart out TH-cam. I hope people going through this with their significant other has the best of luck. ❤️
Update (05/09/23): I was really upset when I posted this, clearly. How things have changed! I took her back TWICE! 🤮 note to self: NEVER DATE A NARCISSIST AGAIN! We’ve been split now with no contact for over 5 months now and it has been the BEST decision I’ve ever made. Back in school, I’ve lost 45 lbs on my current weight loss journey, and so much happier I can do stuff without a narcissist hovering over me watching my every move. I’m so glad I’m out of that relationship. Narcissistic people won’t change. They’ll leech on you and get whatever they can out of you and drop you like a dead raccoon on the side of the road. Don’t know about bipolar people, but narcissists dgaf about anybody else but themselves. Love yourself people! Do not put up with disrespect! Stay true to yourself and know your worth!
We love them and it's not their fault. But we should love ourselves first and have peace. They never change, might be nice 1 day and mean next day...it's a pattern...better leave
Just got thru the exact same story this week. It’s soul crushing. They can change on you in an instant.
:( I’m bipolar and I’m on the other side. Im hurting because I can’t change. Do you know how hard it is to hurt people and know you didn’t want to do that? I cry regretting the pain I cause and I just can’t. I can’t change. Im very nice and loving but I’m constantly feeling everyone’s out to hurt me, to cheat, I feel ugly I feel not good enough. I feel I let everyone down all the time.
@@faviolacarranza7982 Oh hun, you can do this. Make sure to always take your medication and if it’s not working than don’t give up until to find some that do!
Be very honest with the people around you when your stable and let them know the things you might do and try to prepare them.
You can also train yourself to an extent as well. Learn just not to talk if you have to be around people you care about while you’re in an episode. It will still hurt them but not as much and it’s something they’ll certainly be able to forgive. Get away and do what you need to do to protect your relationships.
And always know that this isn’t your fault. The genuine, sweet person you are most of the time is the REAL you. The other things are the disorder.
I wish you the very best. It’s never going to be easy but you ARE worth it and you are loved! Tell yourself that over and over until you start to believe it. Best wishes 💕
Their on a sinking ship. All they can do is take you down with them. Remember 90% of marriages fail when one person has bi polar.
I recently dated a man who I believe had bipolar based on the symptoms he described and my observations. When we met he was the most charming, empathetic, interesting, creative person. I was totally intoxicated with him. And then it turned one day and he became a different person. He told me he felt a depressive episode coming on out of the blue. He told me they usually last 3-5 days. I tried to be supportive but the next day I accidentally made one little comment that i intended to be kind and supportive but he took it the wrong way, ruminated on it for hours, then went off on me. He was intensely afraid i would reject him and he basically forced me to admit I would leave him and then when I finally broke down and admitted he was scaring me he started insulting my character and acting like he was the one who wanted to leave me. I knew it was the depression talking and my heart was so broken for him but it felt so unhinged I had to leave. Technically he broke up with me during this fit of rage, but it felt like a complete sabotage. He told me other relationships have ended similarly. My heart hurts for him because his regular self was so wonderful.
His "regular self" is split in two. I know it's tempting to see the depressed version of him as a third and unwanted person in the relationship, but it's not. It's him too. Hard to accept at first.
I dated a guy for one month. And noticed that talking to him was like walking on egg shells!! Everything bugged him and was very short tempered. And then suddenly he broke up with me and told me that he’s bipolar and totally disappeared and blocked me everywhere. I just didn’t know what went wrong and cried over him for a whole 2 months
🏃🏼♀️🏃🏼♀️🏃🏼♀️
He did you a favor, albeit cruelly in the way he did it. You dodged a missile.
@@lisaariottiart do you mean RUN ??
Same here. Dated 1 month, monday fine, friday moodswing and cut me out of her life.
I knew not to get involved but I had to try. Kept telling myself she’s never met anybody like me I can win her heart. After 2 years dealing with it’s always about her, drinking, drama, arguing, temper tantrums and constantly walking on eggshells I had enough and gave up. It’s been years since I seen her or talked. I wish her nothing but happiness.
I'm in the same position right now, all i hear is bad things about a relationship with a bipolar. But i only learn from my mistakes i feel like i can make it work.
@@bauxit2942 100% the same boat here. I THOUGHT I could be understanding enough, compassionate enough, forgiving enough, kind enough and thoughtful enough to provide a counter to her instability. I just broke up with her a week ago after nearly 2 years of dating and living together. Its draining if it works and it rarely works. Think about an amicable way out. Youll probably need to seek therapy for yourself after this if you keep coming back when she disrespects you and your relationship. Look after yourself first - hope that she can find her footing but dont make any more sacrifices for someone who wouldnt do the same for you.
I thought I was the only one that dealt with the harsh treatment I was put through. Later to find out she was bi polar made a lot more sense as to why I was always being emotionally abused and being told I was the problem. She twisted my mind. I used to be nonchalant about certain things and outcomes. After her I found myself always apologizing to issues that weren’t my fault. I found myself always feeling anxious if I said the wrong thing I would be blocked. After all the hateful things that I’ve been told, I still would try to be with her because she would explain her emotions when she would come back. She told me she loved me but a lot of the times her actions made me question it. The thing that made me the angriest was that I always had to listen to what she had to say but when I wanted to talk or explain my side I was never able to. It was because she didn’t care what I had to say. It felt like I had to either let her basically control my life or leave her. Though I never left. Though after some time she started to realize she was the problem and towards the end of the relationship she found out she was bi polar and depressed. After knowing this she kind of just told me she couldn’t be with me anymore. That the only way she could get better was to focus on herself. Knowing her she has always came back. But his because she is bi polar doesn’t give her a pass to treat me like shit. I will never let her back into my life. Though I’ve worked with her through so much I still have a place for her in my heart. It’s just one of those scenarios where you being the other partner can’t fix even if you try. I’m on to better things now and I wish her well with her journey. I forgive myself for allowing the mistreatment I took. Though I don’t necessarily respect her. It’s a hard medium bc it’s almost like she made me bipolar after being with her lol. Crazy
I am with you. I can see 99% of last 15 years of myself when I read your story, and this makes me fall into depression. I am still trying to end it.
2:07 "I emotionally react when I've been disrespected or rejected." There in lays the problem. When you are a bipolar person, you are unable to determine if this is external or the bipolar disorder. It's like a person born blind wanting to argue about the nature of rainbows. If you want to actually know what is going on, then see if your anger makes you want to sit down and listen to what your spouse has to say. If your anger says you don't need to do this, then that's the bipolar talking.
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Speaking as a woman whos lived with the diagnosis of bipolar 2 for 30 years, I want to say that knowing you have a mental illness means you are responsible to try to maintain balance and health in your own life, to see a therapist when times get overwhelming and to take medication if recommended.
It's never an excuse for abusive, manipulative behavior or infidelity. You are responsible for your own happiness, that should never be put onto your loved ones.
If more people would adopt this way of being, maybe relationships wouldn't be so difficult or scary for both partners.
thank you
Thank you so much for this. It really helped me regarding my breakup. I needed to hear this today.
Seriously. I also feel like the condition amplifies who you are character wise. Like I’m not abusive, a cheater or a liar…therefore these behaviors don’t come out regardless of if I’m bipolar or not. Sometimes people blame their shitty actions on the condition and not their character.
“It brings something out of you that you can’t control.” NO IT DOESNT. The behavior, the constant break up and make up and love then indifference…love does not bring that out of you. BIPOLAR DOES. This is exactly why people say don’t date someone with bipolar disorder who is not self aware. The use and abuse is real and us NOT LOVE. Manage your illness if you want to love.
I’m a man in love with a woman with bi polar and here I am again crushed at 3am 😞 it’s so hard it’s so draining going through this every so often.. I’ve come a long way and learned a lot about this but I wish we just had a normal relationship. When she is fine and normal 😊 we are great the passion and the fun times day to day are highs but when she goes to be someone else about every 3 to 4 months it’s so hard she breaks up and she’s like another person it’s so hard to figure this out!! One minute she loves you and is so jealous of all other girls and says she loves you and then in the other state she can just say we need to breakup and she can just go days without contact and it seems like it doesn’t even bother her it’s crazy I tell you ( and no she’s not off running around trust me I know) she’s fucked up but god I’ve learned to just go through it ride the storm out till we come back but it hurts so much and it’s so exhausting I just wish we could just stay on!! She’s going to start seeing a psychiatrist I pray this helps so Heres day 1 starting again in hard times for me 😞 this sucks love is hard sometimes
Michael... I am so sorry for what you are going through. I ve been married for 10 years to an undiagnosed man with bipolar. He got his diagnosis recently but refuses to be put on medication. We have 2 small daughters. As much as I educated myself on the subject and no matter how much reading I do.. It is still hell. When he goes away from home for months without contact(90% of the time so he can get away with cheating).. everytime he tells me I made him sick..everytime he asks for a divorce or tells me to get lost and raise our kids by myself and that he doesn't want any responsability anymore.. everytime my daughter askes with tears in her eyes"when is daddy going to come back home".. It is excruciating painful. Right now I feel like I had lost him forever. I wish I could just move on without ever looking back. But being such an emphatic sensitive and loving person myself I feel guilty for even thinking to leave. I pray and ask God everyday. Until now the only answer I got was "wait"..
how long does the bi-polar state last
because my bi-polar gal left me and i wonder if she will come back.......i miss her terribly
I'm going through the exact same thing with my girlfriend of 8 years we have a beautiful little 5 year old girl too last year she said it was time to move on (this has happened almost 1 time every year) but this time I really started to talk to another woman for like 4 months i really started to get feelings for this new woman I was talking to. Then the mother of my child said how big of a mistake she made and will do anything for her family to be back together. She would tell me I will never leave you again So daddy came home were I belong and within 3 months she broke up with me AGAIN!!! She just seen the psychologist last week I'm hoping this helps because I love my family Society is not the way it used to be families used to be able to get through anything I want to spend the rest of my days with her idc how hard she is to handle or whatever my heart belongs to her
Crypto Scorpio forget her ASAP, she will never change, only become worst with time. A relationship with someone bipolar is always doomed, the only thing you can do it’s postpone it, but it will always end the same way.
I feel sorry for the people who have dated someone with bipolar disorder, people with bipolar disorder are capable of love consistency etc but a lot of the times they are not, and can often cause havoc in their relationships. Unfortunately the disorder isn’t curable but it is treatable. A relationship with someone whose bipolar will most likely end as a lot of them aren’t capable of long held relationships due to the nature of the disease. However I would suggest those who are with someone with a bipolar disorder if you are unable to handle it please leave them as your mental health is important as well you are not a bad person for not wanting to be with someone with a mental disorder especially if they are putting you through havoc, suggest to them to get help.
The disorder is curable but you think doctors want that? Most diseases are curable but theres a monopoly out there evil people taking advantage of those who are blind about their conditions so they can get money! Mental illness is curable, people just gotta heal their guts watch what they eat people eat too much garbage nowadays in the name of food, and they don’t even know the link between the gut and the brain which is our second brain
Great advice. I am getting treated for PTSD and trust issues after dealing with a BP ex for only 5 months. Metals of honor should be awarded to romantic partners of people woth BP
Agree
For sure can relate to pulling away and being vulnerable. Its tough to understand for those who dont suffer what to expect in a relationship. Many emotions.
Thank you xo
I was in a relationship with bipolar guy for 3 years... I am still in pain... In one moment they gave you whole world, and in the other nothing.
Just stumbled upon your videos. Good information you provide, and it's unfortunate that people stigmatize such a disorder. I'm a very open-minded, empathetic, compassionate man, however, freshly coming out of a relationship with a girl that has bipolar disorder, I'm definitely not built for such a thing. To go from the best thing ever in her life and wanting to be together as much as possible, requesting reassurances that I would be with her for forever, and so on... To literally overnight, contact from her became halved, she became distant, and she lied to explain her behavior was impossible to grasp and extremely confusing. Her words said it was all ok, but her behavior said otherwise. It just became far too stressful for what it was worth. The worst part was that she denied the change in her behavior and twisted it all around against me like I was being insecure and overthinking things. She made zero efforts to explain her mood changes or anything to help me understand what was happening. By the time she told me she was bipolar it was too late. I was left in the dark. I don't know what type she is, or even how long she's known she's had it, she never opened up. I know she takes medication and has therapy, but she was far too unstable for me.
My ex has bipolar. Dealing with her was mentally exhausting. She treated me like I was her emotional servant. She treated my children like shit. She cheated constantly. Never again.
noise is what makes bipolar worse . if you just find a quite place . and try to spend a 40 to 60 days in it you may keep the symptoms at bay at least for a while.
Well, thanks for the advice wish I could have gone back and tried that out.
WtF?
Thank you so much for sharing your story. My partner and I of 11 years are going through a separation. They say 90% of bipolar relationship fail, that's higher than the divorce rate, it saddens me. I have bipolar disorder and I just found out in July of this year.
Oh thank God Hannah! Someone who knows how I feel.I am 56 years old and was diagnosed with BP 2 last year.I feel emotions so deeply and my depression is debilitating. Ive never had a good relationship in my life as I isolate myself when I feel hurt or rejected.
When people are thoughtless or hurtful towards me they blame me for their behavior because Im the " crazy bipolar girl".
Ive been like this since I was 12 years old and its only now ive been diagnosed. At least I now know why I am like the way I am.
When Im not in a depression I am highly creative,artistic and extremely funny .When depressed I can hardly function.
Hey Kellie I hope you have found someone now.. My bp left me and I tried hard for 6 years to love her..shes 37 and I don't want her to be alone but I fear she will always have a hard time in relationships..
So i was daiting girl of my dream, for 1 year.
i have liked her since we met, but never had the chance to be together. I would say i had a crush on her for 4 years. After 4 years past, one day we started to chat, and boom next thing you know, we are toghether, the begining was wery beautiful, loving i would say. But then few months later she told me she has Bipolar Disorder, she didnt want me to know more about that, so she just explained. Yes she got treated, she still sees Psychiatrist . So we got a lot of fighst because being me i tought i need to be like a man put my feet down as i say and she just puted drama all the time. (Thats what i tought).Then we got to the point when we almost broke up. She told me what she wanted me to be, she said like a friend in bad times, and that i shouldnt take her drama and fights to the head. Me as an emotionall marshmallow, tried to do that. But yesterday we met. She said that im failing to do that, even its been like a week, from that fight. i said i cant change so fast, you know im trying. Then she said im the best thing i have ever happened to her, im supportive, and atractive and so on... but as she sad - sometimes relationship just dont work out. Yesterday she broke up with me... And i really loved her, i was willing to help her in every way if she gave me time, the sadest part is, that i really opened myself to her, and she said she would never leave me. But she did. It really hurts. I really want to see a brighter future but right now i cant. Like dont get me wrong i did everthing she asked, but sometimes as she said “i was a lot” because i showed big love and that was to much for her, she said that she didnt had her space and then i started to give her space, that wasnt enough.... So yeah, i would love to turn back time and try again, but i know that she would leave me eventually. Thank you who read it
I hope you are doing better buddy, I’m kind of in the same boat
Damn that’s just so damn sad
I have been married to a woman with bipolar disorder. For 22 years before our divorce it's not that women that are bipolar are crazy. It's that it's very difficult to understand them. And being in a relationship for so long with a woman that is bipolar does tend to make the relationship more difficult than to be with a woman that is not bipolar.. Even though I was married so long to a woman that was bipolar she left me 4 times during her marriage before we were finally divorced. And then she wanted to come back to me after the divorce. And I took her back, and now 5 years later after that she has left me yet again. So it is hard to understand them which makes the relationship more difficult. And out of all five separations from her by her doing only and not mine because it was always against my will to separate or even divorce every separation end of divorce was my fault only never hers. And I don't understand how a person can be in love with a person and then fall out of love and then being in love and then fall out of love and then being in love and so on and so on. She would say one thing but hope you understood she meant the other, she would tell you she's going to do something but then she would always do the opposite. Too many head games, too much heartbreak, for her even though to this day I'm still in love with her, it's hard extremely hard. Even though you have the disorder it doesn't mean we have to suffer for it..
“even though you have the disorder it doesn’t mean we have to suffer for it”
💯 truer words have never been said
@@Startupsandsushi quit shitting on bipolar people and go to therapy.
The feeling of the euphoria the high manic phase is when they feel love. If she feels you are not adding up to her definition of love she will think you don't love her, and want to leave until you show her the love she expects she will come back, but what likely happened is you did something to trigger a negative response in her mind. Not saying it was your fault but the mental disorder causes them to not believe what anyone says unless they are physically shown that is what is meant in their mind. You can't tell these people you simply love them it just doesn't work they can't feel it the same way you do. That is the best I can describe it. For example if you didn't say the right words they expect or your not showing love in the way they expect. Your basically walking on egg shells with this person trying not to upset them, and trigger that negative response.
@etherealenergy9471 oh I see it's got to be the guy that's always at fault. She has the same behavior towards our 11 year old son. She walks away from him too. It's always about her it's always how she feels it's always no one loves her and she's not just doing it to me she does it now to her new husband. And the other four men she left for. Treated them the same way. But let's make it about the man being at fault right?
@@rickymcdaniel6708 The bottom line is they have a perfect view of love that nobody can add up to it only exists in their mind. They will never be happy no matter who it is. It is her as well it is just a mental illness that sadly there is no cure, and she also suffers because people like you who love her get pushed away.
From a guy here. Great topic I actually searched Bipolar 2 and heartbreak - so thank you for this.
I have just recently been diagnosed as Bipolar 2 from my P-Doc that has treated me for 7 years. For myself, all my life, I have been terrified of rejection so I avoided even going after relationships unless I was drunk. Alcohol made me invincible but also dealt me a brutal blow of depression and anxiety EVERY TIME, regardless I drank for years because it helped me approach women. I quite drinking 7 years ago when my P-Doc put me on medications.
Being heartbroken is horrible and now I understand why (with Bipolar 2) my emotions seem so amplified as compared to others. I've even fallen in love with someone (that doesn't exist) which I dreamed about, I never saw her face, I just dreamed that we were at a picnic and she had her legs draped over my lap and we were madly in love and it was deep and mutual - then I woke up and was completely heart broken. It was just irrational for me to feel that much love for a dreamed up figment of my imagination; as well as purchasing $7,000 in computer and music equipment in 2 months, plus not wanting to be around my family at Christmas as well as not feeling like a part of the family for years (her children from a prior marriage). An absolute maelstrom of emotions.
Now here's the real kicker. I hate to even admit this but it's what happened to me so I'm sure it's happened to others. I care for my wife, however I have never been "in love" with her. There were never any butterflies. I never even proposed to her - she just sort of moved in and the next thing I knew we were married - got married in my office with the door shut - no romance at all.
This happened because I cared for her the whole time and in the beginning of the relationship (all the way until now) I didn't want to break her heart. But I am craving real, MUTUAL, emotional love which was never part of this relationship.
Anyway I flip flop all day between wanting to cry, to the knife in the chest of heartbreak all the way to apathy - over and over. At least with apathy I can eat. Add to that the racing thoughts and work is not productive, I can't watch TV; all I can do is dwell on this painful feeling.
Hello Spock. You are brave to share this part of your story. I'm glad you did because I know other people with bipolar disorder who have been in similar circumstances. I'm not going to judge you or tell you your emotions aren't real. What I would say is that bipolar disorder can play with your emotions and coupled with impulsivity issues can create all sorts of problems in our lives. My suggestion is before you make any life altering changes, it might be helpful to sit down with a counselor/therapist to help sort things out. That way, whatever decision you decide to make, it will be made with further clarity. Hannah
Thanks Hanna. Yes I had an appointment with my therapist about it and I agreed as well to not make any big decisions until I was "leveled out". Interestingly when you are going through something like that you don't feel like you're not level, you just feel strong emotion, however it's your brain you have to rely on to tell you if the situation is rational or not. Look at all the things that had happened recently and add this whirlwind love into it and try to be honest with yourself (myself).
It was about a week after I stopped talking to the woman of my affection that I sat and watched my wife sleeping...and I felt so guilty and heartbroken for her. I never told her about any of this. As I watched her I realized just how much she loved me, how much she was always there for me regardless of my moods. She has always supported me and been by my side from lover to caretaker. I realized that no matter what an emotion may tell me that I would never find another woman as devoted to me as my own wife.
I felt so guilty and I was happy about that. I wanted to cherish her and this moment helped me appreciate what I have. I realized that no matter how a relationship starts, whether there are butterflies or not, eventually those "new love" feelings fade and it's 2 people in a companionship with each other. Statistically I believe 1/2 of all marriages end in divorce. I would guess most married couples had those "new love butterflies" at some point; but after a few years the newness of love fades. I realized in that moment that there could not be another woman on the face of this earth that is more suited for me and the obstacles I bring to a relationship. My wife is my rock and would do anything for me. I realized how blessed I am and how much I do cherish her. She is sweet (almost to a fault) and always wants the best for everybody, never has a cross thing to say about anyone - she is truly amazing with an unbelievably huge heart.
The way I feel now...it's like waking up from a month long drunk. Looking back at everything I said and did with absolute dread. I'm embarrassed and disappointed with myself, yet I'm happy I feel this remorse.
The sad truth is that I will most likely experience all this again but I will have something to look back on to help ground me in reality. The key is to not be impulsive. I'd rather impulsively buy a new car that I can't afford than to hurt my wife. I'd rather keep my emotional pain to myself as I am the one that understands most what this bipolar bullshit does to a mind. As much as my wife tries to understand she can't, but she is always there with an open ear and an open heart and would do anything in her power to help me through any situation. I am so lucky to have her...I'm just not sure how lucky she is to have me..
Spock The Vulcan ❤❤❤
OK, you wanted to hear from people who had bipolar girl/boy friends - I had a bipolar girlfriend, she broke up with me, about 9 years later I did a computer search for her and found out she was deceased. Upon further investigation I found out she committed suicide, that is after she killed her 2 year old daughter.
wow. I am so sorry to hear this.
shit
Love between two rational, reasonable, and mostly stable people is love. An emotional RESPONSE to a true offense is understandable.
Mania, insults, rage and spewing venom with clenched teeth against a PERCEIVED slight is psychotic.
What’s NOT FAIR is a mentally unstable spouse expecting to be babied and mothered by the stable spouse while crying “foul” to justifiable impatience from long-suffering PARTNER. Because that’s what marriage is - a PARTNERSHIP.
And before anyone goes BLASTING me for nit having any street cred, I’ve been married to a bipolar for 10 years. My entire family has suffered needlessly, nit just the BP.
Us non-bipolars are the ones carrying the relationship here. The bipolar are the abusive ones, whether they “mean to” or not.
So stop with the victim speak.
I was in a relationship with a guy who had bipolar disorder. We started dating in July 2018, but then I left in August so we did long distance. It was a great start. We really loved each other and we felt like soulmates. We both agreed to do long distance and we made a promise to each other. In November he started acting odd and started accusing me of things like cheating and not appreciating him enough. He was manic at that time. Then a month later, he was diagnosed with BPD. He broke up with me and I thought we were done but he came back and apologized and we got back together. Things were going smoothly, we were perfectly fine in Jan, Feb, and March of this year. This is where things went downhill, in April. He started shutting me out and we talked for a little bit and he said he felt like he was wasting my time, he wasn't good enough for me, and that I deserve better. Then I told him a bunch of positive things and we ended the convo fine. Then he ignored me the rest of April and whole month of May. In beginning of June he texted me saying he was sorry. Then he ignored me again. Then 2 weeks later, he messaged me apologizing again and we started talking about movies and we ended the convo fine again. Then he ignored me again, and then on June 21 which was like yesterday I sent him a serious message saying we really need to talk and we talked and he said he blamed himself for everything and then he broke up with me. I'm really heartbroken. This was just yesterday and I just feel sad and lost. I don't hate him, I wished him the best with someone else but still. Heartbroken is all I feel. I really loved him. And that whole time we were long distant.
Susan Cory So sorry, I can understand your pain since I'm going through same, sister...
I’m a man and I feel so drained and depressed too idk wat to do but my mental health is getting crushed smh
Dated one for about a year I was super supportive and caring and she still ended up cheating on me during her mania phase. RUN
Being bipolar and still dealing with my most recent breakup has been really hard and finding ways to cope has practically been impossible I feel like. I too am in the same shoes when it comes to not being a stalker. I am not that kind of person.
Hi Lucas. Whether you have bipolar disorder or not, breakups are hard. Having bipolar disorder can make them even more challenging to deal with. Talking with a therapist might be helpful. You'd be in a safe environment and able to get all the thoughts out vs. dealing with the thoughts and feelings inside your head. Also know, that this too will pass. Thanks, Hannah
Psilocybin containing mushroom saved my life. it drastically reduced my benzodiazepine withdrawal allowing me to quite illicit pill addiction after three years of heavy daily use before it would had became medically dangerous to quit. it has also helped me to survive depression
Psychedelic’s definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again again but it’s just so hard to source out of there.
I was having bipolar and this constant, unbearable anxiety because of university stress. Not until I came across dr.chris356, a very intelligent mycologist.He saved my life honestly
I'm feeling the same way too. I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety level. I am so glad to be part of this community.
@@Elizabeth-yx2tiwow..you know him too? dr.chris is the best, he's been my go to for anything psychedelics.
Shrooms was the best trip I had. It was an amazing experience.
My sister has a bad case, on meds and on disability for 20 years now. Have met a few of her bipolar friends over the years as well... 1 thing they all have in common. They are absolutely insufferably self-centered. They make everything about themselves, and have never once considered how they make other people feel. Always about how they feel. As long as they are the center of attention and happy is all that matters. They never learned to share, only take, and spending a few hours with them leave you feeling drained and tired. These adult children need constant attention, validation and praise, because if you don't, they will rage on you, and when that doesn't work, they will start to physically harm themselves. If you like those sort of problems then get yourself a woman with bipolar.
I have bipolar disorder and I’m very loyal... I don’t do any of this randomly falling in and out of love stuff people say they experience. I’m usually the one that ends up hurt and played with actually... I have had a couple of stalkerish reactions to a break up before, but I outgrew that as I got older and realized how stupid it was. I don’t think that has anything to do with my disorder though as much as just being immature, because much like Hannah, I have many mentally healthy friends who have done way worse way more often... I guess it is true that our moods can affect our relationships and how we look at our partners, but I tend to see the best in my partner no matter what state I’m in... if anything I view myself differently (more confident when manic, insecure when depressed). I do get very depressed after break ups, can take a long time to get over people... can have self harming impulses, but even if I give in, it’s not to force them to stay. I normally would never admit that to a guy. I have too much pride lol I just blame myself too much for situations even when it’s not my fault... so not all bipolar people take out their moods on their partners... The only thing I can say is I do get a bit sensitive during depression and overanalyze them... but usually I get over it as long as they’ve never broken my trust or been blatantly mean to me before 🤷🏼♀️
If I can take the advice from all the people who like comments, it is that I will never date a bipolar woman again :)
And also most of these relationships that people are in typically last about a year.
@@IanPryor dude I was dating this girl she has BP. She was hopeless romantic and made future plans with me. She constantly demanded attention then one day she said I don't give her space and broke up with me saying she used me for attention and validation. Kept breadcrumbing me after I had to cut all ties wit her. I hope she gets better I still love her but I'm heartbroken and lost now.
@@Andyd9111 Yeah , man I totally understand. These woman/man with BP wreak havoc on the world.
Never date ANYONE with bipolar. You will end up getting a mental disorder from their disorders
I have being together with my wife for 10 years. It sure has not been easy or normal at all. She is bipolar 2 and was diagnosed 3 years ago after we broke up because she cheated on me. After 1.5 years we got back together and now its the first time she has gone stone cold with me, she rejects me, she wants to be alone and meet new friends but want nothing to do with the person that has been there for her and loved her which is me. It is a good thing for her to figure herself out but it really makes me very sad because i love her so much. It is a very hard work to live with someone with bipolar, you have to try to understand the illness otherwise you can become mentally unstable as well. It can really mess up with you. There will be many fights and things can really get nasty in this type of relationship if you are not educated. If your partner is bipolar seek help for yourself and educate yourself as well.
I'm sorry you're going through this. You are an amazing person to stick by her for so long and I am sure it could not have been easy. I cannot say what your wife is feeling right now, but I am in a similar situation with my ex and I can give you my perspective.
We dated 10 years and broke up in 2015 or so. He is still very much a part of my life as a friend and support. I love him to death and he is amazing, but two things prevent me from being with him. 1. The break up was excrutiatingly hard. I lost my support, the one person who loves me no matter what and sees me. This is the rejection and I did it, but in my mind he didn't fight for me enough. I don't want to feel that pain again.
2. He deserves better. I hate hurting people I love and am very very much aware of the destructive nature of my disorder. I don't want to hurt him or ruin his life, he needs someone who can make him happy.
I'm not sure if this is how your wife feels, but i have BPD and Bipolar 2 rapid cycling. All the best.
My ex was the same she cheated, I let her go she did it again finally enough is enough once caster is always a cheater period
I must say, you can feel and see your bipolar hostility screaming as you make this video.
Anyone would run. Xanax and meditation…
Was dating a woman with mood personality disorder. We dated for about four months. She said she saw something beautiful in our future. The next week she impulsively broke it off. She said two days later that she sensed I was falling in love with her but she was not in love with me. Just days before this she said she wanted a future together. I’m backed off and not contacting other than to get my things I had left at her house. I moved to the area at her request and a week into it is when all this went down. She went to visit her daughter over that weekend and when she came back, bam! All I know to do is walk away.
Awesome video! Such a great topic! As always, your videos are so real and relatable!!! :))))
Thank you, Julie. Hannah
One thing that hits me right now is that it could take years before the problems gets explained by a diagnose. So neither one knows the reason behind the problems. In my case I only connected the dots after the divorce, and only after observations from other people.
My partner is BP. She's quite emotional. I find it exhausting at times. I love her, and I'm pushing through.
Imani Sankofa run run run run
I'm right there. It's been a little over a year and I'm at the end ---
Do you have an update? Are you still with her?
Hay thanks for the support you show her... sometimes it feels like nobody around us can relate to us and you just showing love and support could very well be the reason she fights to be stable...
From a stranger thank you
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I love my crazy bitch, shes so amazing when shes up, but her patience with my 6 year old and her emotional abuse towards her is a deal breaker. Its so sad , we could of been something special, but im a father first and she deserves better.
My ex was bipolar who only self medicated on marijuana she was the best and worse relationship I ever had. She is so special to me I would do anything for her but I learned I had to let myself understand her illness. We live together but we are broken up have alot of ups & downs
I just walked away from a friend with bipolar type one disorder he refused therapy and medication and was very abusive and so I left the friendship of twenty years omg it's the best thing because I feel free.
Good on you, Allan. I can understand a bipolar person not being responsible and us cutting them slack when in the grip of this terrible illness. But they are responsible to treat their illness at a minimum.
28 years in a relationship and her bipolar has torn us apart . Our son is 13 and when I leave soon he says he doesn’t want to stay with her . It’s been tough on my son , worst part is she has no desire to get help .
I think that as people with this disorder we have a huge grasp on emotions in comparison to others. Although, we lack the control and appropriateness to apply our emotions, our understanding of the feelings and thoughts are unparalleled. This gives us an advantage in understanding other people's emotions and feelings, not to mention the ability to mask our own. We can intentionally upset and hurt our partners or we can love, protect and build up our partners emotionally. The extremes of this ability is frightening to those who date us. Basically, we can love and hurt people like no one else and we do need to recognize that. When you date someone with bipolar disorder they experience the extremes of our disorder... a love sweeter than any other and a rage hotter than hell's fire. While we may feel the exact same way we are experts at hiding our feelings when we are ready, insert cold and distant here, they don't know how we feel. These are jus examples, hope it makes sense.
Hi Jen! I love the way you describe the extremes. Thank you so much for sharing and it definitely makes sense! -Hannah
Hi ! I’m dating a Girl with bipolar and she broke up with me 2 months ago without a valid reason. She is having a tough time as she is sitting for the final exams to become a doctor. So I have given her the time and space thinking that time will heal her let her come back to me. I’m willing to all the sacrifices as I know what she’s suffering. Please tell me, should I wait her to come back or should I contact her first. So grateful if you can give a proper direction to me as I’m dying inside. 🙏🏽
So my gf seems to want to break up with me for no reason every two to three months, the last time she was itching for a fight and when I told her to lose the attitude I got a text off my friend asking was I alright because she updated her status on Facebook to single and removed her photo of the two of us within a few minutes of me telling her to lose the attitude.
She didn't speak to me for a week, and when we met up she just kept saying I was so mad at you, and couldn't see how much hurt she had caused, and wasn't upset at the actual thought of us ending as a couple.
She seems like something is bothering her and I become the punching bag, I could cook her favourite meal and bring her flowers and it would still only end in a fight I had nothing to do with, but her emotions seem to target me when she is going through a low spell.
We recently had another fight over something so minor, except this time she put me in her restricted list on Facebook because all our tagged photos had disappeared off my page, I took a recording of it and confronted her and she lied to my face and said it must have been some glitch with Facebook when it clearly wasn't.
We made up again by me just accepting everything that had happend and letting her off the hook, the next week then again she was telling me she wanted a weeding, a house, holidays etc.
I'm at the stage now where I'm so hollow and empty from the confusion and hurt that I wish she would just break up with me, but I'm also so worn down and emotionally drained that I won't do it because I can't deal with her and because I'm afraid of what she might do to herself if she overreacts.
I think if you enter a relationship with someone with Bipolar, you have to know it's going to take a lot of patience and there no right or wrong way to address it, you have to be a very forgiving person and a resilient person, because just when things are going great, they can get turned right upsidedown in a heartbeat and theres nothing that ever prepares you for that.
The level of VALIDATION gosh 😭💖
My boyfriend has bipolar type 2, and we have been together for a little over a year. During that time he has changed from a social drinker to needing to drink every single day. He becomes verbally abusive and will tell me to just leave him. The thing is, we have zero problems when he's sober. I don't want to break up with him, but he seems to have no intention of changing this habit. I don't know what to do.
Casey Ouellette You need to leave, for your own sake. This is your life on the line. I've been there before, and trust me, the abuse will only get worse over time. It always goes this way... he is charming while sober, and turns into an absolute monster when he drinks. That's not okay, and you shouldn't have to put up with that. You need to love yourself first and foremost, and that means leaving your abuser.
Is he getting help? On medication?
He's self medicating which leads to disaster. I used to drink a ton. Now I'm on meds and I have no desire to drink. Yell him to get help
or adios.
I recorded him being verbally abusive last weekend and sent him the video. We are no longer together.
Casey Ouellette since you said that he does not want to change and does not want to seek help I'm telling you to please leave. I dated a guy for 8 months who has bipolar disorder and I suspect it's type 2 and he became very verbally abusive and very physically violent and I'm telling you it's not going to get better. Please leave.
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My boyfriend of a year just broke up with me. He said he didnt know how to help me anymore. I wish i couldve caught my disorder faster. He says once i get on my feet he'd think about giving us another shot. This sucks. I wish i could just explain what k feel without going crazy.
It can be sustainable if the one with bipolar acknowledges, accepts, and actively tries to manage it AND the other acknowledges, accepts, and has compassion and patience. Communication not personalization.
Wife is undiagnosed I’m convinced, she has all the signs, after 3 years and me being older 50’s her 30’s and pregnant I’m done. This is the most maddening 3 years in my life, she refuses to objectively look at her behavior and at least talk to someone. The stress of another Amazon box on my front porch literally makes me sick, can’t do it anymore, tapping out, don’t care what I lose in a divorce, I’ll at least have my sanity back
You are right - the material is no where near as important as your mental well-being. As long as you have food, water and shelter you can build yourself up again. 🦅
Thanks. I enjoyed your video. Give me hope that one day I can come to terms with my issues.
we're being about 7, 8 months togetger and when we started to date she has been diognosed as bipolar within a couple of weeks and i always stand with her and love her deeply. she has ups and downs and tried to break up with me a couple of time and recently end of April she asked me to take things slow and give her space. actually we met and had a picnic in sunny bright day, she said it's her, not me, she know how she loves me and feel safe with me she also loves me she said but she cant move or proceed with overthinking about us or commitment so she burst into tears and i hugged her. it's been almost a month i didnt see her just this week she celebrated my birthday through whats up and i found courage to write her couple times with short conversations, actually she offered to meet before leaving town to her summer house and give my personal things but when i ask her should we meet today or weekend, let's keep in touch and i'll tell you. i really dont know what to do. i am just hoping and waiting she comes out her mood swing and come into her senses. this is the longest time we been apart.
How was it?
This is not just a female disorder. Bipolar is bipolar. I am a woman who fell head over heals in love with the most empathetic, nurturing man. I sold my house, my truck to move 1200 miles to him...but things got weird. His moods would shift, everything I was doing was wrong. He'd throw mantrums at a spur of the moment. He'd accuse my son of sabotaging his and I relationship...it got so bad the guy and I would have stand offs. Luckily I left him before it escalated. He was not medicated, but diagnosed. He said he was going to get on meds to save our relationship, but he never did. I'm still pulling my life back together after that relationship. It scarred me so deep. Please, if you are clinically diagnosed as Bipolar manic, depressive, or both. Stay on your meds!
Do you think bi polar is similar to bpd.
Both seem to have links to abandonment issues, rage and suicidal ideation.
what is the difference between these mental health conditions.
It must be very hard to diagnose one with out considering the other.
I've been seeing a bipolar woman for almost 3 years and tbh even tho we broke up a lot I still loved her, yes there was things she couldn't let go or stop doing that made it hard at times, but I wouldn't ever say I wish I didn't meet her. Wish it could have worked.
I think you are a sweet person and have a heart of gold, but many people have experienced trauma from an abusive mentally ill person. It's not unreasonable for them to be cautious around someone w bipolar disorder. What assurance would they have that there won't be so many arguments and fights if they move forward with a relationship. I admire you are open about this and want to help others.
Didn't know bipolar people were taken advantage of....in my limited experience of it....my partner has bipolar 1...and she's fierce and scary when she's manic...I see a similar fire and confidence in your eyes....how would someone take advantage of that?
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#1 Stay and remain their #1 target for life, a human punching bag hoping they will get better, it is the hard road to walk because their love for you switchess on and off.
#2 leave and never look back
Hello, Hannah! I have a husband who is bipolar. You know, its not the problem that you tell your partner about your complaints, its about your perception about the so called problems. You bipolars feel them at the extrems...for example: if I make a joke about a situation that involves you, its very likely that you feel it very offensive and react with violence, get upset, angry and also revenge. This perception is because of the chemical imbalance in your brain, this is the manifestation of the desease.... Your mind is authomaticaly full of crazy thoughts about that, instead of keep it clear, direct, simple.
And yes, most of the healthy people would not get angry because of the joke, they would laugh, responde with a joke, smile etc. etc. You people have a very sensitive perception and you complicate things so much, wich makes other people lives miserable, becuase of that, you dont succeed to improve your lives, relations, careers, etc....you get stucked in analysing little, unimportant things.
Hello Cabina. In my experience, everyone with bipolar disorder isn't the same. Some experience extreme empathy. Others do not relate to my videos on that at all. As for being able to take a joke, I have a great sense of humor. From your description, I'm assuming your husband does not. I do hope, however, that he doesn't react with violence, anger and revenge against you. That is definitely not healthy. You mentioned, "...makes other peoples' lives miserable". I'm assuming you are referring to yourself. Forget about your husband for a minute. If this is you, why are you still in the relationship? Thanks, Hannah
Regarding my comment about stereotypes of people with bipolar disorder, that we are not all the same: th-cam.com/video/bgiX88EDQjc/w-d-xo.html Hannah
HealthyPlace Mental Health I think it depends more on what type of joke. I’m 16 and I’ve never been diagnosed with anything except ADHD a week ago but I’m actually extremely unstable emotionally. But again about joke I usually have big sense of humour like if someone calls me “Miss Relax” because I tend to be lazy sometimes I’ll just laugh but if someone makes a joke about something I’m passionate about or my insecurities or something that hurts my ego I’ll throw a bit of temper tantrum for sure. I’m not physically violent not even emotionally but definitely there will be some things thrown on the floor
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I would say that in situations like this, compassion is the first thing that you should lean on when you’re dealing with somebody who has any sort of diagnosed or undiagnosed mental illness, but with that being said, unless that mental illness takes away your cognitive faculties, then you are making choices And if you refuse to acknowledge your choices that is lacking accountability, which may be why people would want to pull away from that situation
I am dating a bipolar 1 man and he breaks up with me during manic episodes when he has delusions. It’s such an emotional rollercoaster and it’s happened at least 5 times and he always comes back to me when he’s stable. I do love him with all my heart though.
My husband just did this 2 weeks ago the first time in 7 years he isn't been technically diagnosed or on meds. My question is how long before he comes back. I am praying he will and this will be when I xan get him to seek help.
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Hi Hannah. I’ve been dating someone with bipolar I for several months now. Im 43 and she’s 36. She’s been diagnosed since her mid 20’s. I’m not convinced I have the tools to deal with her mental illness. That being said, I haven’t abandoned all hope for us yet. Some days she just can’t get out of bed. It’ll just come out of nowhere. I’ve only witnessed her depression. She has told me about her mania. She has been upfront about her past. She was hospitalized for 4 months almost a decade ago. She has a 6 year old son who she takes great care of. Financially stable. Beautiful, yet very insecure. My concern is one day she might become violent even though she told me she has never been violent. I have 2 children that live with me and it’s become a real concern however small the chance. I just don’t know if I can get past this. I understand it’s a medical condition and do my very best not to ever make her feel bad about this. I’m very stressed about this
Hi JC! Thank you for sharing this part of your personal life. It is good to remember that stigma persuades us to believe that people with mental illness are violent. I was a nanny for two children for seven years and never had a problem, however, everyone is very different. If this concern is overwhelming then I would definitely reach out to some sort of professional that can speak with the both of you. Statistically people with mental illness are more likely to be the victims of violence rather than the person acting on it, but I would talk with a professional for sure. Thank you. -Hannah
Please be aware that mental torture can be worse. There’s more support available when someone is physically violent. When you are dealing with mental abuse, you’re on your own. Please think carefully about what you want for you and your children (thankfully no children in the picture). I’m having to do the same right now. I know it’s hard but we only get one life. 💫
The girl I fell in love with has bipolar. We met about 2 years ago. I knew from the beginning about her condition so I learned about it what I could throughout it. It never made me change my feelings towards her. I have helped her and been through so much with her. I seriously haven’t loved anyone as much as I have loved her. With manic episodes and all I never once thought about leaving her. So I have 2 young children 5 and 10 from my past relationship. They are well behave and amazing kids and she loved how good of a dad I am and my kids love her so much at times I felt like she gave them more love and attention then their actual mom. She also says loves me but recently she said she hates me because I’m so perfect but can’t be with me anymore because I have kids and doesn’t want to be a step mother ever. We were about to celebrate our 11 month together and the last month it has been a constant battle of me trying to be there for her and her just pushing me away. It’s been about a week since I last saw her. I was about to propose to her in 2 weeks everything was planned out so this really took me by surprise and I just don’t know what to do. She says she only wants to be friends. What should I do? I love her too much to just be friends it would kill me to see her fall for someone else. But I also tend to think there could be hope if I do stay close to her and be a good friend in hard times. I’m having a really hard time right now not talking to her I feel so depressed cause I feel like it is all over. I am giving her the space she asked for so I am being respectful and waiting it out. The more time passes the more I feel like I definitely lost her. I felt like she was my soulmate so I’m just so devastated right now.
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welcome to the roller coaster
Don't worry if she fell in love with someone, that never lasts. They are also hurting inside..people with bipolar will never be happy because they run around in this world not knowing they hurt people...none of them will be happy...we have a chance by moving on
@@maureen9830 True in every relationship the moment the other person triggers a negative response in their mind they will leave that person as well if not leave due to circumstances they will cheat. They are unable to feel love like you do. It would be great to have a cure so people don't suffer like this anymore.
So what happened did you marry her? Did she ever come back to explain herself what happened was something you said or did triggered a negative emotional response? Not saying it is your fault but they can't feel love the same as you do.
I am now having a hard time with my girlfriend with the bipolar. Last night she just went angry after I said something different about our future plan. This morning she erased all her pictures and made a lot of depressive comments on social media. Such a drama happened for many times i cannot even remember over the last six months. I have read books and asked psychologists for tips but it didn't work. She refuses to see a psychologist or take medication. My patience is running out. Both I and my gf are Chinese. After checking your guys shared experience, I presume that all bipolars, no matter the age, gander, where they are, behave the same. Sorry to say that: most often, they are a disaster to the normal people's life.
Walk away now, you may love her (since they love bomb you) but in the end it 99.99999% never ends well. Why not give yourself a chance and save yourself many years you would have lost in a dysfunctional relationship instead in a positive one where you can grow together (without further emotional/psychological baggage from Bipolar GF)? This is from someone who has been there, done that and yes I learned a LOT about people, and myself by being with her. I learned I will never allow myself to be treated like that EVER again. Relationships are about growing and loving together, not drama. Cheers and best of luck!
I am in
how is the current status of ur relationship ?
I was there bro just leave her u wasting ur time
I’m sorry for you’re going through. I have a hard time with my BP husband. Abuse on and off. So heartbroken.
great video! I love your jacket
"I already have someone, but I still choose the second one to be my number one. So, I'm willing to lose everything, but their heart remains unchanged."
I just broke up with someone who I think had bipolar disorder, hence me watching this video and researching the subject. Hanna when you said you draw emotions out of a man was that done to distance yourself for space or to break up? I feel like that was done to me in a way that my ex would be mean to me and occasionally snap at me for small stupid things and even told me that she didn’t need anyone to love her.
Hi! This are definitely possible signs of bipolar disorder and I am sorry to hear that you dealt with the difficulties that come with being untreated. It's important not to blame yourself. We distance and isolate ourselves when we are not feeling well and struggling internally. It is no excuse for being mean to others. Your mental health is important as well. I hope this person gets the help they need to build strong relationships. Thank you for sharing! -Hannah
Surprisingly I had a very good relationship with a Bipolar girl...however it got really bad for her recently and she started pushing me and her friends away...today she said she felt not good for the relationship and said goodbye without anything...
How long does the discard usually last before the bi polar person comes back?
Hey Hannah i need to ask you just going trough a break up with my fiancé bipolar type 2 he just left me took my dog evrutyhing after 4 years together living.... just bc a fight 3 weeks ago .... but I really need to ask if this is only a crisis and will come back o if you having this condition the same after you break up never look back???? plisa need to know I love him and want to be there for him
Hi leria38. I'm sorry you're going through a rough time right now. Breaking up in a relationship is never easy. As for "why" and "will he return," of course, I can't say. The important thing now is to take care of yourself. I'd also add here, and this is my perspective, if someone just walked out on me without a discussion and took my dog and personal belongings, I don't know if I'd take them back so easily or at all. Thanks, Hannah
Bipolar sufferers seem to be REALLY good at blaming those who they abuse and mask it by saying it’s my mental illness and you are hateful for not accepting that all I did to you was because of “it” IS COMPLETELY NAUSEATING AND SELF INDULGING. You must show empathy towards those who rode your storm!!!
My partner is undiagnosed, but every piece of information I educate myself on, points directly to bi polar. When I read peoples comments they reflections of my current life. I’ve been with my partner for 6and half years and the condition has peaked within the last 6 months dramatically. One day I am the love of his life his best friend his everything then the very next day or even within the same day I am the most despised person on the planet. I am genuinely looking for other people living with a partner who has this condition and I am begging for help and support to understand this and how to best get my partner the help he so desperately needs. I will not give up on my partner.
I have been with my highschool sweetheart for 7 years now and she has a pretty extreme case of bi polar. It was great for a whole year we never had a single fight but it just went down hill from there. I love her to bits and have been extremely patient with her and understanding and i put all the hurtful things she says to the side because I know she doesn’t mean it. But recently things have been getting hairy, she won’t get help anymore, she quit working right after i got us into a house and now everything is on me and we have pennies at the end of the month. She is starting to fight me on my religious beliefs, and she no longer wants to have kids at all. Idk where to go with this anymore. We are getting to the age where if we want a family we need to start and we are at the point where we need to put our lives together for the future. As a man i have a natural instinct to want to procreate but with all this recent stuff that has come up i have been thinking about a future and where it’s going and all i see with her is im always going to get shit for going to church, and when i die my bloodline stops with me. Idk what to do idk if its a phase that she’s going through or if I really just don’t have a future with her. Im afraid that if I wait it out it will be too late for me and I wasted all this time. Shits getting vary real and vary stressful and extremely hard to keep my own emotions at bay to not make it worse.
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Dating this type 2 bipolar woman in her 30s for 4 or 5 days now. First 2 days was great. Then, completely different person came out. Verbal abuse, no sex, storming out, talks all the time about her failed marriages, lied about how all her exes cheated on her, but court documents show both marriages divorce were filed by the men citing "general indigitaries" (abuse, disrespect). Each lasting less than 2 years. I feel like I am walking on eggshells everytime I'm with her, and she would blame me being "quiet and awkward," and storm out. Everytime she's "spending time with me" she's talking endlessly about how she read every book on type 2 bipolar, and when I suggest perhaps she should consider some estrogen replacement (she's low estrogen) she gets mad, gets triggered. Always blabbers on for 30 to 2 hours and if I say one thing during it, she would get upset and "LET ME FINISH". She's a pretty gal, but I never thought I'd get so turned off by someone's craziness and unwillingness to compromise with such a pretty face. Pretty much everything yall said is true. If I had known she had bipolar and bipolar was like this hell... I would've ... not even bothered. She's made me cry 2 times. And neither times she even bothered to comfort me. Just continued to talk down to me, blame me for not "listening to her" - I've had a panic attack that needed a ER visit. Now when she visits, I really have a hard time to even open my mouth ot wordoo will trigger her and she'll storm out. I really care for her, but she says she's not stable. She's not taking her pills. She says her children comes first, but fails to realize if she doesn't get her situation stabilized, she cannot care for her kids. Very stubborn. I seriously believe her problems would be much improved if she actually addressed her low estrogen situation. It's not just for sexual mood. It's for her heart, her mental, everything... Estrogen affects every aspect of a woman's body and mind. There's nothing you can do to help her. Her previous 2 marriages already said volumes. I want to love and care for her but this is tougher than caring for a crippled. There's no fixing for this kind of mental illness. It's a curse.
My girlfriend has Bipolar, and she broke up with me when she had a major episode. Then she chased me back. Now she is having another one and said she doesn't love me anymore. That's when I realized she was shitty herself earlier afraid of losing me or that she had done something wrong duo to the voices. So I said "my Love, u do love me. U were afraid shirtless of me not being in ur life earlier today", then she paused " omg that's true, I love u, " and cried. Hence whenever a bipolar usually say this type of shit, it is the mania. However, gonna try to make her get a new treatment. After she is stable again then I'll clear her feelings agains to see.
I'm BP 2. I don't really even date anymore as i know what a pos I can be when my moods start running. So i just want to get a few more things done here and will be walking the way of the rope.
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I have given up on dating also. To much stress.
My experience of bipolar individuals is when a disagreement Occurs or when I have a debate on a conversation. The person gets angry and leaves or says I'm being unfair. Thank you it's about should allow different levels.
Stay away or be quiet if you're in the bad mood
I split up with my bi polar gf nine weeks ago I've been blocked on every form of communication and refuses to speak and ignores letters i be had to make contact through a third party to get my stuff from her house after 9 wks she has pretty much labelled me the worst man on the face of the earth but me I'm heart broken and still don't know what I did to deserve this ,I never brought bi polar up in our 2 years together but the way she's done break up is brutal her last words to me were I don't love you just feel sorry for you after I mentioned engagement ..my head and heart are smashed
Hi Stephen. Wow I am really sorry to hear that you are struggling. I know the pain of heartbreak. I am sure it has nothing to do with you, and maybe has to do with her struggling mentally. We withdraw from those we are closest to when we are feeling low, however, I know this doesn't make things better. Your mental health is priority. Please take care of yourself. Thank you for sharing. -Hannah
My bp boyfriend left me without a word.. One day we were planning future together, he messaged me in the evening saying I love you, next day he blocked me everywhere without saying a word. It was so unexpected and traumatic for me because I really love him so much that I got proper emotional breakdown.. We got back together, but I couldn't recover fully from the trauma. Currently apart again and he's not talking to me.. And I had to put myself on meds because of depression and anxiety
same for me :(
They write you off the very first time you leave them and never look back I’ve heard.
Sad seeing my soon to be ex pushing me away and the disorder taking hold,lots of being told we became stranger and lost love bad choices,life leads us on different paths but can see her disorder taking hold over our 8 yrs.sucks
Hello Mike. I understand the pain you feel and am sorry this is happening. One thing I always say is you can't make someone do something they don't want to do. So if she isn't willing to get treatment and/or the relationship isn't working anymore, wouldn't you rather know that? I know that hurts but it allows you to be with someone who feels the same way you do. Hannah
Mike Honcho I was just wondering did you guys ever get back together?
should you keep in contact with someone with biploar who has left you and told you they don't love you anymore or should you not contact them at all because it creates more stress and they pull away more? he is bpd and bipolar
They are like drugs addiction..courage because is hell being with them and hell without them..they destroy you mentally..emotionaly....im living that right now...still asking myself if i was in nightmare or really experienced what hell is...i never though i will be like that..unbelivable coma
@@mouradingoulene1426 I gave up ages ago. He isn't worth it. I took myself to theapy and was diagnosed with PTSD and trauma bonding. Stuck to myself for 15 months and finally have gotten into a new relationship and found happiness. Since seeing a photo of him not long ago I just laughed. He looks unclean and like trash. He looks like death and is now with someone new. Im 100% glad it ended and you will feel this way within time. Takes time but you realise that you are better off without them.
Thank you hana...happy for you ...and wish you the best with your new boyfriend...
Hi, this girl and I are talking, she has BiPo Disorder and she'll talk to me but then all of a sudden I won't get a response for like hours. It's like she ghosts me but she doesn't, if that makes sense? Her friend recently DMED me telling me she (The girl I'm talking to) really likes me but is afraid of relationships and blames her BiPo... anyone know what I should do?
I met this woman once , on the second or third date she jokingly said I’m bipolar. I laughed it off . I came back like a fed cat didn’t really see action yet but in the beginning when we would go to bed I would hear her cry I would ask what’s wrong I never would get a answer. Then as the months went by like the 5th month she wanted a baby I said no because we were still new , she couldn’t understand that she gas lighted me that all I wanted was sex . I stuck around and have seen the worse in her , blaming me , shaming me , guilt tripping me total disrespect. She knew she had a problem because ONE time she told me that she was sorry and that she’ll try to be nice to me . 3 years in ups and downs many break ups . A few times her own sisters would tell me just to leave her one told me that she was bipolar. I held in there I know you might think I’m crazy too right but I did love her because she had a bad childhood and I had a soft heart for her . After the 3 rd year it was down hill many break up and I found myself kissing her ass because of her errors. The last year I was on eggshells around her because the facial expressions she had revealed she wasn’t having it today . I was exhausted in the end she talked shit about my family where they really weren’t close to her at all she would belittle me in front of her family and friends I just had it I walked away 6 months later she’s marrying some guy . You can’t make this stuff up . My final conclusion she is bipolar , narcissistic and has some kind of BPD I use to feel sorry for her but now she has caused so much damage I hate the bitch .
I too hit that 10 yr mark. When wife gets in the cycle all I can do is watch. The more you try to help the more she pulls away and out comes the it’s all you fault and manipulates words to her favor. All it does is leave me speechless or at shocking awe that I can’t respond which then it’s claimed I’m not caring to respond. I’ve been threaten with divorce and was told the only person she loves is herself and the kids NOT me. This blame seems to be all me... quite funnily painful...if I agree then damn if I did and divorce on its way if I argue it’s her then damn if I don’t and it’s never a sorry I’m not well. No win there. Meanwhile as the watcher I suffer through the episodes and she can care less. Kids run around asking for mommy, triggers noise, and off she hides in some corner and then when I try to join she’ll eventually not come home and Here comes the lies and making excuses to protect her with the children . I don’t want the kids to run around saying mommy is ill and mentally unstable... now When she recovers, it’s like all new re-dating and re marrying over and over again, like that movie 50 first dates! Gravy for a day a week maybe a month then boom, one tick and tock the bomb goes off again.
One of the worst pain they can put you. I married a girl who showed so much love respect but never noticed why she wanted me to have location app always. Dated her 11 months than we got married, she married and stand against her family for marriage. After three months of marriage I found that she has alcohol and drug addiction. Oh man I try everything to help, than after few months she diagnosed with bipolar 2. She always blamed for her imaginary world. It’s was one of the most difficult time of my life. I was in love , I never noticed it was her cycle of sickness. I try everything at end she put everything on me and divorce and left the country. After 1 month new guy, such a disappointment. They can’t control their emotions.
17 mos with My Beautiful Love of My Life, My One & Only, Engaged BFF. I learned everything I could about the illness. Ups & downs, breakups, excuses, no emotion/empathy. I can't take anymore!!!
12 days broken up. Yesterday, day 7 of No Contact she text me to wish me Happy birthday. I Thanked her, Hope u doing well! Ex has always been a Side CHICK her words not mine. They left her for their current partners. In a video she made & sent me she said, Mom Loves You (MEN know you got Mom to love you, you must be good) Mom told her He's a Keeper, she told her Mom, Yes but I don't know how to Keep him!! I can't keep giving!!
So if someone asks me, I would say STAY AWAY FROM BI POLAR INDIVIDUALS!!
FOR YOUR OWN SANITY!!!
I FEEL LIKE I NEED COUNSELING!!
ONLY BECAUSE I LOVED
SOMEONE SO DEEPLY!!!
My girlfriend has bipolar and before I knew it she was really moody at times so until I knew that she has bipolar I've always wanted to be there for her and help her but I didn't know how so thank you for sharing this it really helped me
GET OUT OR U WILL NEED A THERAPIST! I DIDNT LISTEN 17 MOS AGO!!
I just dont understand anymore. She isn't diagnosed but it makes to much sense that she has it, and she thinks she had it at one point. We did not speak for about a week and the next few days she was sweet, laughing a lot at all my shitty jokes and was talking so much that it was hard to stop her. Then it all changed she cancelled are meet up and she became cold, mean and completely stoped talking she looked sad and angry. How she changed so quick is crazy, I haven't heard of her since, I ain't even sure what I can do. I love her with all my heart, and that's what's hurts the most... I'll be seeing her tomorrow because we are in the same college class. Hope I can find a way to help get over all this.