Things You Tell Yourself When You Have Anxiety | Dr Julie Smith
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Hi Julie! I just want to say I really love your videos and find them really helpful. I’ve had a problem at school recently and wondering if you can help. I have always been known as “the girl that never gets in trouble” but I’ve recently gotten in trouble and people keep talking about it. I feel like no one would like me anymore all because of one small problem. I’d really appreciate if you could help.
Love from Australia 🇦🇺❤️
TY
I have anxiety
Thanks again Dr Julie for sharing your knowledge its so appreciated 🙏🤘💕
Thats me
I feel I'm interrupting people when I try to connect with them. I feel I'm not significant enough for them to want to spend time with me.
I experience that too, you are not alone. We are significant to ourselves thats enough.
OMG the last sentence. I say that to myself, too..
same here
Same here
Same here
Thank you you’ve helped me so much without even knowing it
Same 👍
And me xx I feel the same way x
Just bc she said you have it, doesn't mean it's true.
She surely helped me-
Yes same
I didn't know it was anxiety causing these thoughts, I always thought it was depression. This is really helpful, thank you.
See, I’m not so sure at this point. I don’t see how people can live with only one. I feel like anxiety leads to depression if left unmanaged. I do think one can be depressed without anxiety, though.
I agree with both of you!
It is complex. Healing is also not a walk in the park. Had anyone ever told me how much hard work it is to get out of depression, I would have never gotten into it. 🖐🏼😄 But then, who knows…there are interesting spiritual perspectives on depression. That it‘s the last stage before true awakening.
I thought it was low self esteem; for me a result of hyper critical parents. Even at 60, I still never feel enough
Yeah me too
ive heard anxiety and depression can be the other side of the same coin
I started crying. I say these things to myself. Sometimes it gets so overwhelming, I tell myself I’ll be okay and this won’t happen tomorrow, and it does.
I can relate ❤ I want you to know ur not alone❤❤❤❤
Yep same
That the worst part of having anxiety. How much to cope with it doesn't go as we think
I am same...but its okay you will be ok, you can do better when you realise it 🤗🤗
Me too
This is me 100%. Met an older woman the other day. She told me something that her parents told her when she was a kid. “You are better than no one and no one is better than you.” Changed my life. I don’t know why she was drawn to me but I’m so grateful. I spend no more time wondering if people like me or are talking about me.
What I fantastic mantra to say to yourself. The lady who was drawn to you clearly felt a connection and that you're a kind person, remember that.
And you just paid-it-foward by putting in the comment section. Thank you soo much for sharing it with us! 😊
Wow. Parenting done right ❤
“I’m not good at this.” Or “I’m not made for this.” Gets me all the time.
Thank you Dr. Julie!
Trying to overcome your own negativity is the hardest thing
That so true.
“You'll stop caring what people think about you when you realize how seldom they do.” - David Foster Wallace
You must not be a teacher.
@@andrewwhitebaritone5974 🤣 Sadly I am not, though I did consider it at one time.
Reason I say that is teachers, like politicians, police officers, and clergy, really do have people criticizing them constantly.
It's not comforting to know that because, even though they're not thinking about you constantly, when they do think of you, they're planning your demise, and the plans they initiate are in motion, so the negativity actually is perpetual.
@@andrewwhitebaritone5974 that sounds like paranoia, rather than anxiety.
or maybe you just need to move to somewhere nicer?
Thank you! I'm struggling with anxiety at the moment. I'm having a hard time coping and feeling uncomfortable. I wouldn't wish depression or anxiety on anyone. Prayers going up for those out there who struggle with this. God's got this!❤🙂🙏
That’s pretty spot on and also crying by yourself for hours because you think no one likes you but in my case they actually dont
Exactly! I just wish people would understand. Having anxiety feels like I'm in a constant battle and sometimes I'm losing
This is actually me when I get in a bus some girls just start laughing or give me a stare or whisper to each other I’m like they are for sure discussing me
They might and they are doing it on purpose - their tactic is to “attack” you in numbers, as a pack. Don’t pay attention - I know it might be hard to do, trust me they feel your reaction and they gonna keep on doing it. Next time it happens try something new - if you happen to look at them - pretend they are fresh smelly dog poop. Very smelly! And don’t be shy to express that disgust - show them you’re the boss, show them you’re unbothered! Because YOU ARE THE BOSS! you go girl! Never be afraid! 🤗
Same tho
my giftedness helps me with my anxiety in some ways but sometimes makes it worse. I learn differently and all the teachers i have had, especially my 2nd grade teacher who LITERALLY GASLIGHTED ME, view me as disrespectful. and being treated that way messes with my anxiety, which makes me lash out. but i dont really have problems most of the time with thinking people are talking about me because intellectually gifted people have very complex thoughts and a strong sense of justice, and that makes my thoughts on that kind of thing clearer and more realistic, making me think "its just my anxiety, they're very obviously talking about other things." and my strong sense of justice kind of makes me subconsciously deny that anyone can do anything wrong.
@@fancypantscat1138 you’re absolutely right. My strong sense of justice has always been a blessing and a curse. I never new I had anxiety and ADHD (possibly being a high functioning autistic girl- as non of those things has been diagnosed as a child, but I’m an adult now and learned how to deal with most situations) just had to learn how to better understand myself as nobody else seemed to get it. But as I said I don’t regret it now!
Look up the word Sonder
"No one likes me"
"People are taking about me"
"People are judging me"
"I am no good at this"
I wish I didn't have this in my mind all the time but I can't do anything 😕 😔
Same since this year 😪 it took a turn hope your better j9w
M2. I'm mostly so cs I grew more like strangers w my mom & we never communicated but she made me feel a miserable about myself 😣
Ik mb its not OK to write here these things but felt like sharing. Is it at you kinda similar?
@@mayanlogos92look it's ok others can say whatever sh*t they wanna say your pretty beautiful and perfect the way you are people are just saying it thinking that you should be "skinny" and when your skinny they will say your " under weight" it's ok just tell them to mind their business or just don't listen they will hurt you but be strong and brave your weak self is taking over you and you should let only your strong side on so don't listen
I feel heard with these words if only my colleagues knew
@@timidbear4204 its ok everything is gonna be fine don't worry I am sure you will be happy you will be very happy look even this shows you being happy➡️ 🗓
Seriously feel this way at work. Coworkers constantly stare at me. We have a small room for people with anxiety to go when overwhelmed, but need a doctor's note to prove the anxiety. Whenever I come out, I feel people staring.
I tell myself these things
ALL
THE
TIME
By this point, it's practically a routine
I hate that so many of us go through the same things
This is me…constantly…literally always…every second of my life…
Same
Me too now it is little or minimum reduced .
not me reading “things to tell yourself when you have anxiety” 💀
OH NO NO NO NOOO
Hahaha same I was confused
Same brooo
HELP 💀😻🤷😁😺🫂☹️😨😍✋😶😎🤨🥰😱👏🐕😌👺💔⁉️🥺🤐👽👅😳🙄😢🔫🙃
OMG LITERALLY ME I was so confused, straight to the comments like did I miss something no one told me about? ❤❤😂
As a person with anxiety, I can confirm this is accurate.
Yep sounds about right.
And it doesn't help me that every time I do anything, my mom goes "people will judge you for that"..😑
Whenever I try to socialize, I am either ignored or I feel like I am interrupting, so yeah... Living the dream
I just realized I have anxiety a week ago. And all these things happen to me and it’s very difficult. And I hope for anyone who struggles with it, finds it easy and good.
@plantopiamedics thank you so much this really helped!
You really captured how it feels, with words and you can just see it on your face. Ty ❤️
Your videos have helped me understand myself. I have been on this self discovery journey and you've helped me throughout it all. Thank you, thank you so much for all that you do. 💚
True. We tend to best ourselves up over things that are only in our minds. Breathe and know you got this
and we still accomplish things anyway 💪💪
When you think it says "things to tell yourself when you have anxiety"
Same dude I was so confused lol
OMG I LITERALLY READ IT LIKE THAT AND THOUGHT IT WAS A JOKE 💀💀💀
that's what I thought
same
exactly what i thought
Scary how accurate this is, thank you Dr. Julie.
“You’re not alone there’s someone behind you”
Took a long time to get over this one... Hang in there 🙏
Idk if this is supposed to be positive...? Damn, it gives me chills for some reason
In the corner of your eye you spot him...
@@thenoobofeasterSarcastic lol
“They’re all judging me” is one of the things I tell myself. When I’m with people I’m scared to eat or put food on my plate because I’m scared of what they’re gonna think
You described me in few seconds.
Yes, i feel like people judge me to the extent that I feel insecure and very less confident
Ok you act that out too good. I'm guessing you've been there and you're helping others come thru. Thank you 🙏❤️
Maybe, but she is a Psychologist and knows how some of us feel without knowing us. It does help though, her videos are very good.
Thank u! Studying with anxiety is really hard especially if u get distracted easily, but u helped me figure out whats wrong with me and how to accept it and cope with it!
I tell myself all of these things, and it's nice to know there's someone out there who understands.
You're beautiful Doc.
The you attracts.
The lessons learned.
Thank Doc. Julie.❤
“People are talking and judging about me”
“No stupid: They don’t care about you that much”
Thank You so much for all the content… You don’t even know me, but you changed my life for the better! Keep up the great work. Love all the way from Portugal 🇵🇹❤️
Thank you so much for this comment Joao. I hope my videos can continue to help. Julie
You act so well ❤
Every time I walked down the street I felt like everyone I passed judged me and if it was more than one person they whisper about me. I had a therapist tell me I was a narcissist because I obviously thought the world revolved around me. It took year to get over that. Love your videos.
I used to think this when I had anxiety and a year after overcoming it, I’ve realised that I was less alone than I thought.
Me: oh wow that's sad that people think that
Also me: realizes I think all of these things
Same but I have mordant severe anxiety severe depression heart rumor risk of adhd eating disorder bipolar physical
@@trud6346 oh my gosh. I hope you'll get better. You're in my prayers
Same
@@trud6346 woah thats alot hope it gets better
I’ve never thought I had anxiety, but I related to literally everything in this video- woah.
On top of being an insightful therapist, you would make a great actress!
The last ones really hit home and I hate that it’s something that just is normal for me sometimes though it’s cool that someone out there actually knows how you think with that type of thing
I experience EVERY ONE 🎯😔 seriously a work in progress I can DEFINITELY relate 💯
Sometimes I go really crazy when my anxiety kicks in
Me too.
I have never felt more relatable in my entire life. It honestly feels so good to know I'm not the only one who deals with this.
@embeihold & @drjulie two shiny sides to the same coin. Thank you both so much for making us feel better about life.
"It will never get better", "I can't be happy in the present moment"
Same . When feel have i suddenly start overthink and i which I'm not good just think about only .
After seeing this I started crying
I thought it said things to say to yourself when you have anxiety and I was confused af
Same
Same
Same x3
(Reply won't show up for me so I can't edit it but the x3 is not supposed to be there)
Same
You give me hope. Thanks for your time ❤
Exactly my thoughts everyday! Thank you so much for helping me recognize my anxiety. You rock Dr Julie!
I didn’t know I had Anxiety, but after I watched this now I know that I have anxiety thank u so much
It’s the human condition
@@livefreeordie5353 ok? I still didn’t know I had anxiety
Same
There is a normal amount of anxiety everyone has like emotions, fear they could fail etc
But when it's too much its chronic anxiety
@@mayanlogos92 ik i have social anxiety!
When this happens to you daily🥲
I have to go thru this at school everyday and honestly I hide from the crowd bc it’s just so annoying and people just can’t leave me alone and I get annoyed but I got to act like I don’t care
It would be so nice if we who feel that way could find a way to support one another.
I am concerned for my mental health after seeing this...
Thank you for making me self aware ❤️
I can relate with “people are judging me”
Story time: I was in 2nd grade and I accidentally spilled chocolate milk all over my pants and I went to the clinic and she gave me sweats that were WAY too big so I had to tie it with a hair tie and while walking in the hallways back to class I see 4th grader girls looking at me whispering and giggling. I went back to class crying bc I couldn’t stop over thinking it. Eventually the teacher saw me crying and I told her what happened :/
I got the “people are talking about me” when I knew my friend group had a sleepover without me.
"just calm down" on loop. I was almost shouting to myself on my mind. And of course that made me feel worse xD
Thanks for this channel. It’s really helping me to identify issues I was unaware of. There’s a saying: Knowing is half the battle
Ma'am you are doing an excellent job in providing the most important thing the youth needs nowadays that is how to cope with physiological problems.
“People are talking about me”
“People are judging me”
“No one likes me”
“I’m no good at this”
I can relate to this :(
Same, your not alone
when you thought it said "things to tell yourself when you have anxiety":
me: uh- what?
Same
i feel like everyone says the "im no good at this" thing WAIT DOES EVERYONE HAVE ANXIETY THEN!? wait- NO
not really everyone
I have a classmate that I completely hate,but one thing I've always appreciated to him is that he'd always believe in himself and that he's the best at everything
umm ？
What a great format and construct of your videos...full of life, movement and colour...but not frantically , just calm and uplifting❤
You are great.
Smart. Short. Accurate... and pleasant to watch. I really enjoy your videos
I had no idea these were anxiety symptoms 💀
Yay, I have anxiety
lol
I already knew this
But I enjoyed the video, I'm just being funny
That "People are judging me/ talking about me is so relatable"
So true, I am diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Anxiety part is so on point
R you okay now?
When this happens to me I tell myself "it's going to be okay" because thanks to you I know I'll get out okay love you and thank you for supporting everyone u can ❤️
The “I’m not good at this” IS ME WITHE EVERYTHING
Getting rid of social media helped me
i have been diagnosed with anxiety and my thoughts include:
“they’re probably laughing about me”
“i can’t wear this or people will think i’m trying to hard / not trying enough”
“they’re probably just friends with me because they feel bad”
etc.
basically just overthinking every little thing😕
youre like giving me therapy through shorts,thank you this helped me into understanding what im feeling,youre awesome thank you :)
I’ve had anxiety for a while now and all of these things have happened to me, I love the orange and pink dress btw. Gorgeous on you!❤
This is so true. I have struggled with anxiety my whole life and always thought I was weird and that there was something wrong with me. Thank you for normalizing anxiety. ❤
Thank you so much! YOu've helped me identify destructive behaviors in myself, but I have managed to quell one of these lines the "I'm not good at this" line. I instead try to tell myself "trust the process" so I see it through and learn from the experience instead of giving up halfway
yess!! this song is such a bop. great video too…i realized how much i’ve been saying these things to myself.
You help me see past myself and my panic attacks! ❤ 😢 I now know I’m going to survive 😂 I enjoy following you and you make a great difference❣️🤗🏖🗣
Where have you been all my life..!! This is so accurate!
I relate to this a lot. Especially the people are talking about me one. I go on WhatsApp and whenever my family members are online at the same time I automatically think they’re taking about me, and it gets quite overwhelming at times.
You are so awesome!! Thank you!! Thank you!!!
Thank you dr julie .
.your content is really helpful for me
Your a good actress also! Your little scenes are very convincing!
Just realized that when I'm suddenly around someone, not necessarily a group of people, I become really conscious that they're eyeing my every move. Never thought of them as "judging" but this makes a lot more sense now...
I just raise my hand 🙋♀️ and and admit to it!
I almost cried because I saw myself years ago. Oh my god, I didnt realized how far better I am now. This self love journey was sooo hard but I am here! Realizing how I am now better with dealing with my inner demons :)
You have helped me see so much I've been missing. Atleast now I know there is a problem
Feels like you can see into my brain. Thank you
Love this doctor - she gives free advice which you would otherwise have to pay during an actual visit
This exactly! I had these thoughts every second of everyday for 25 years until I went on meds and my life changed.
Excellent song choice. I see you have worked very hard on this video. Never worry about what others are saying about you. They are talking to each other not you so it is none of your business what they say to each other. When they are talking to you and are letting you be involved in the conversation that is when you become involved. Never worry about what people gossip ABOUT you pay attention to what they gossip TO you and WHO THEY ARE. Always remember too that when people gossip about others they are probably gossiping about you too. So always be mindful of what you say in response to gossip about other people you dont know who these people are going to tell next since they are brave enough to tell you. You are no one special when it comes to being told gossip about other people. All this includes me as well and if ever you cant wait to dish out gossip about someone look in the mirror and gossip to yourself you may be surprised as to what you have to say about yourself. Thanks for the video. Stay awesome.
Hi,I was diagonosed by my dad with Anxiety and i have suffered it and you helped me understand it more. I know that more people are like me i suffer from all anxiety so i want to thank you for these videos.-Kaede
You are saving my life
Mam you're are helping a lot of people to be aware and think of themselves.
When ever l go through your videos l always have this thought that atleast 95percent of teen are inside this web of depression and we all were thought that it all were because we are in our teen ,why it is completely like that our youth have not only depression but also a long losted happiness that we share, our teens are merely edging by elder about our mentalhealth and more hopefully and happily, l am glad to see you talk about such things to public as a doctor even if you haven't mention teenager, even though a lot thanks.
Thank you 😊
Oh thats sooo true...i had this anxiety that everyone's judging me,hating on me..and it became super uncomfortable to even enter a room full of people...
Yes ty for being someone who accually knows, I've known a lot of counselors and they all exaggerated