Hosanna Tilialo I know right!!! I agree on all the items she talked about! It should be criminal how all these companies try to push off all this useless crap on people! They completely take advantage of parents being happy and excited to have a baby.
@@jessicamccabe9101 Right!? Its so sad -.- Not just companies but consumers as well. Although many claim to not be materialistic we forget we are now living in time of being materialistic. My moms very old fashioned so for my son not to have "much" because we just weren't brought up that way was overwhelming. I found myself feeling pressured or bad for not wanting a crib or having a swing set or the "proper" pump. Like this video was my reassurance that I was going to be okay doing things different and no mother or parent should feel bad for feeling some type of way for any reason!
I have a friend who's son hated his crib, every night they would find him sleeping in their dog's bed on the floor. They ended up just buying him his own (took him to the pet store and let him try some out and decided which one he liked best) and putting it in his room. Sleeps through the night no problem now. Lol
if you want a crib, i suggest in investing in the kind that can be tuned into a toddler bed. my brothers bed that he’s had as an infant has lasted four years, still relevant and changed with him. i’m not sure what it’s called but 10/10
In the UK we call them cotbeds. I had them for all of mine. I got the ones which you can change the height, so it’s easier to pick them up. They still fit in them.. eldest is nearly 6. Edit: obviously the 6 year old isn’t in a cot 😂 you lower it, and take the sides off.
A tip I learned from my sister. Use all those extra newborn socks for their hands. The mitts they make come off constantly making it more likely for baby to accidentally scratch themselves. Because socks have that stretchy part, they don't come off as easily. That's what I use my socks for.
I can’t express how much I love listening to woman who can deliver pregnancy/baby related content without talking to the audience like we are their children in a patronising fake baby voice. New subscriber and thumbs up here 👍🏻
So what I'm hearing is SAVE YOUR MONEY!!! Haha just because it's expensive and "cute" doesn't mean you need it! Keep it simple and effective, save your money for when you actually need it.
@@robinluich6626 My daughter has slept in her crib since she out grew this little sleeper thing we have. It sits in bed with us but it doesn't allow her to roll over and it stops us from rolling onto her and it was only about $25
Yes, as a nanny for 25 years, I was tortured by diaper bags on my shoulder, when I could have had a back pack, and then lifting babies in their carrier I would strain my shoulders and be in pain for months and years. I also saw so much wasted money on useless baby products. Great video!
When my son was born I was a bit concerned as to whether or not he had enough things but this video reminds me that he has enough and that I didnt have to go out and get so many unnecessary things for my son.
Buying a stroller is like buying a car. You want it to grow with your kid to at least 3 years. Can you handle it alone? Does it move well? Is it sturdy enough for the terrain you will use? Factor this before picking out a registry. Only thing that doesn't matter is color. Carriers/Car Seats are the next to look and research. If doing a registry, ask for gift cards. Then you can shop for what you need, when you need it. Just came from a shower (ugh) and the first time mom ended up with an explosion of pink newborn to 6 month old clothes. Styles that weren't the parent's personalities. She spent time trying to exchange so much of these items to get things she truly needed.
1. Oh I love my bottle warmer! 2. Tip for the leftover diaper genie refills: open the package, pull it out a little over a foot, cut it, tie a knot on one side, and use them as travel smelly diaper bags!
I love how honest you are about everything! I’m 20 weeks Thursday with our 3rd- a little girl and I’ve been dreading putting her crib up knowing dad will be there to run and take her out the second she makes a squeak! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 thank you for your honesty!!!
expecting mom here! im so glad to see this lol i just want to buy stuff for the experience since its my first time 😭😭😭 but i def dont want to waste money and have things go to waste, so thank you for this!!
As a mom of soon to be 5 little humans everything she said in this video is 100% accurate. Best what not to buy video I have ever seen on youtube ! Good job momma
Exact reason why I bought the convertible cribs for both my kids. Yeah it’s expensive to start, but it’s the crib to toddler bed to full size bed all in one. It’s great that I don’t have to worry about buying a new bed when the next stage starts!
Some of these kind of depend on where you live. I live in NY and had my baby during the winter. We used socks every single day, along with the wipe warmer so he wasn’t cold and screaming. And I also liked snap pajamas more than zipper pajamas because when he was asleep all I had to do was unsnap from the bottom remove his legs while the upper half of his body was still covered, wipe with a warm wipe, put the legs back in the leg sleeves, resnap and I was done.
Lol when it was winter months ago I kept my baby with me in bed because that time I didn’t have a baby monitor but luckily I got a baby monitor and it makes my life easier
Love this! When my friends ask me to look over their baby registry and ask for my essential baby items, I always tell them that every baby is different. My son loves his crib and been in it since he was 1 month, we loved our diaper genie, and couldn't live without a bottle warmer for the first 4 months. I tell new moms to wait before opening all of their baby items or washing all of their clothes.
I agree with my 3rd child I didn’t open all the baby gifts and I still use a diaper genie mines never broke- and the crib is really good in my opinion the bottle warmer is an essential again my opinion
i bought a 6 in 1 crib for $200. She will be using this crib until high school period 🤷🏼♀️ && i really thought some of this stuff was common sense .. like you do not need that to survive with a baby 😂
Agree with so many of these. Especially the bottle warmer. Here's a lifesaver tip: just give your kid cool/room temperature bottles from day one. They will never get used to the warm bottle and therefore won't expect it. The crib I bought worked well for us for a long time, but we did need a mesh bumper like the one shown in the video, too. Our crib was made of iron with a nontoxic finish and the baby never wanted to chew it. Other moms, definitely heed her warning about wooden cribs!
I just wanted to say thank you I've been so very on the fence about purchasing a stroller. Now I feel like I can go with my gut and get the stroller I really want.
Preemie moms/winter baby moms, I would say get the wipe warmer! You can find it cheaper secondhand. The instructions for the munchkin warmer calls for you to pour 1/4 cup of water over the wipes once you fill it, to stop the wipes from drying out. Never really had an issue with dry wipes doing this. Its worth it to me, I saved mine for baby #2, but everyone is different. Also, in the NICU, our son’s nurses took baby temps throughout the day with an old school thermometer, but used it under their armpit. The temps have to be accurate because these fragile babies are usually in an incubator and cant retain body heat. So that is the method we used. I love your video!! So realistic and helpful!! And agreed about the crib! Never needed one and dont plan on buying one for the second baby. Pack n play is a must!
I had a winter baby, and loved my wipe warmer! I also never had any problems with the wipes drying out, because, like you said, you are supposed to put alittle bit of water in the warmer.
I’m so glad I’ve found your video! All the other videos were very basic and didn’t explain why they didn’t like them. I’m due in 4 weeks and I’m freaking out what I need and don’t need 😩 thank you! 🤟🏽💕
Hmmm the crib was an interesting point of view. I bought a toddler conversion crib used for 50 bucks and she has used it from day 1. I skipped the whole bassinet thing as I just saw it as pointless, because we had enough space for a crib in our room. She stayed until about 14 months and now she is in her own room at 17 months. It was an easy transition for us, and she had never tried to escape the crib yet lol but when she does it converts to a toddler bed easily. Only thing I regret is the pack and play. We have used it very little.
Vanessa Mora don’t regret the pack and play even if you used it once. It’s a safe sleeper. I used to let my son sleep in bouncers & his car seat when we traveled & i got lucky it could have killed him! (I was a stupid first time mom I got zero advice)
Omg finally, I’m 20 weeks pregnant with my first baby boy and I’m completing my baby registry. I’ve been watching hours of baby essentials videos and this is the first time I watch the whole video without thinking “this is a bunch of BS” and “is this woman out of her mind telling me is ok to spend $300 on something the baby is going to use for 2 months”. This is the kind of video I want to watch, you just won a follower . ❤
My best advice is to obtain the absolute essentials and save money for items that you need as you go (you will discover what style of clothes work best for your baby, etc). I saw a lot of people regretting a wipe warmer and i didn't think I'd need one but then I realized it would be great for our family and bought one at Target... Turns out to be a fantastic purchase for us. 🍼
Yes, yes and YES TO ALL!!! Expecting my third and I thought I was frugal with the first two...this time, I will be buying even less unnecessary items. Thanks for sharing!
You’ll do great! As long as you take it a day at a time and do everything to keep the baby healthy and safe, (and later on happy within boundaries), then you’re going to be an amazing mom.
Same here a bit anxious about being a first time mum but you just saved me a lot of money. Now I can use your video to convince the hubby about the crib, I just never liked them period. It never even crossed my mind that they could be dangerous as well. Thank you so much for this. All the way from South Africa.
FTM here during quarantine - I’ve been working on paring down my registry to serve as a minimalist shopping list for myself now that the world is turned upside down. I don’t have any expectation of a shower, virtual or otherwise, especially while so many are facing financial hardships. Thank you for making this video because it has been extremely helpful and it’s validating what I’m trying to convince myself of - I don’t need all the fancy gadgets to bring the baby home.
Na.Itlitzabete Same, same. Due in 5 weeks and I was going to do a virtual shower, but at this point I just wanna buy what I need & call it a day. People aren’t as reliable as they seem especially during a crisis lol good luck to you!!
This is me too! I have been lucky and gotten some big things for free (crib, bassinet, my nephews old clothes). Trying to be minimal on what I need to purchase because there won’t be a normal shower...I am trying to do a virtual one but we shall see how that goes lol. Good luck to you!
Making a registry as a first time mom was a nightmare. I wish I could’ve done it over knowing what I know now. I also regret not getting the more expensive/high quality items that I truly wanted and not taking my own living circumstances into account when selecting stroller, high chair, etc.
I’m a first time young mom, 8 months pregnant and I did everything right according to this list 😂💗 especially getting a pack and play that comes with a bassinet instead of a crib
Even though I don’t plan on having a baby soon, I love watching baby must haves. This is the first time that I find someone that thinks exactly like I do. It seems like there are “I need everything” people or extremely minimal everything brown people and I just fall somewhere in between. Thank you for the vid I really enjoyed it and your honesty.
Wipe warmer is a definite do not regret for us. Our baby cried every change at the hospital but now she doesn't even fuss. She likes warm wipes on the toosh, and even pees during changes at times because of the warmth 😅
My daughter screamed bloody murder when a cold wipe touched her bum. The warmer was a life saver for us. I didn’t think I would need one and thankfully got a used one from my sister. They may not be useful for all babies, obviously.
YES‼️ the only thing that worked for us was the wipe warmer during night changes bc it made it so easy to change her while she was still asleep! And to keep them wet I added a little water to the bottom.
This is the most honest baby stuff video I' ve watched. I went through almost everything you talk about in the video with my first one. Now pregnant w 2nd and I wanted to refresh my mind a little on what I really need and your video nailed it. (Ended up w the mattress on the floor as well w my 1st one and I would recommended it to anyone)
I can’t even explain how much I love this video! I made/edited my registry as I watched this video. I’m not the women to follow trends and buy every gadget that’s out there. But this is my first baby and it really helped me feel better when it came to what’s REALLY considered essential. Thank you!
I bought the city select lux for our twins, and my husband thought it was too much money... but it's been such a lifesaver for us trying to haul 2 carseats everywhere. We get so much use out of it
Oh my gosh I’m so glad I watched this video - I’m very tight on space and budget and getting a crib would have meant we would have to discard some furniture to make room - I’m totally just getting a pack and play instead!!!!
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve tried to get sponsors from brands I truly like. But no one wants to sponsor me cause I think I’m too honest 😆 and they always have stipulations like “you can’t mention XYZ competitor or their products” and I’m not willing to withhold information or products I think are good just for a sponsor.
Mai Zimmy huge respect! I think no one should hold back from sponsors, absolutely but I feel like you wouldn’t say that a $300 baby lounger or automated swing is an essential, you’d be honest and I really like that!
My baby would cry when being changed with cold wet wipe and I decided to get a wipe warmer and he’s been ok ever since . Best purchase ever ❤️ And for the bottle warmer I would set a timer it so it wouldn’t be too hot. And high chair I bought a stokke trip trap brand wooden one which is easy to clean and you can use it for years. My hooded towels I love actually for baby’s head.
This made me feel so much better about what I have! We kept saying people have had babies for millennia; surely, we don’t need all this junk! We had a lot of pushback on our minimal registry, but I’m glad to have this reassurance we didn’t waste anyone’s money!
I’m 25 weeks pregnant and just set up my crib WITH teething rail covers all the way around AND mesh bumpers!!! I feel really prepared and I’m glad I made the decision to get them from day 1 so that I get optimum use. I can’t Imagine how frustrating your crib situation was! Waking up to a blood curdling scream would scare me to death and having to go in and get their arm or leg out would be so scary in case it got stuck.
I’m due in July, I do NOT want a crib. I took care of my nephews when they were little, I got a LOT of perspective. We will be using a floor bed and basket/bassinet/pack and play. Im super short- 4’10” I struggled so much to safely put the kids in and take them out of the crib. I’m subscribing to the pick my battles mentality.... I agree with a lot of these, based on my nephews. They stayed in onesies and jammies until they grew. No sense in giving myself self a headache over things. I’m taking this nice and easy... also, not doing a changing table. I found we changed the boys mostly on a towel on the floor or a towel on the bed. Why buy one more piece of furniture that I’m gonna have to get rid of later? I’m doing this very practically.
FearnTuckerBentley a floor bed is a very low bed on the floor. It’s has a mattress between the floor and baby. You should look into Montessori floor beds. There’s actually data supporting Montessori education techniques. Also, changing a child on the floor/bed on top of a towel is completely fine and well practiced by the majority of people that I know. There’s no reason to purchase a changing table if it simply won’t be used.
FearnTuckerBentley there is NOTHING abusive about Montessori beds. www.burlapandblue.com/5-benefits-floor-bed-toddlers/. Your statements show how uneducated you are about Montessori. It’s not about letting your child run free and do as they wish. It’s about creating yes spaces that allow children the opportunity be inquisitive, learn problem solving skills, develop self care routines that are age appropriate, feel heard and accomplished and not “caging” your child out of fear or laziness. Montessori parenting requires a lot more release of parental fear, a lot more cultivating independence in your child, and a lot more education to promote in daily life. There are wait lists for Montessori programs for a reason. Children aren’t left free to roam, but allowed to do what interests them developing critical skills through out the task that is cross applicable to other critical tasks that are require for daily living. Young children love to wash clean plates and cups... why not allow that on a water table supporting dexterity and REAL life dish washing skills? My partner and I are not raising a snowflake that won’t be able to survive without round the clock care when they reach college. We are raising a well adjusted human that has their own interests and personality. Offering a low floor bed, that’s SAFE for the child to access and get out of on their own is NOT abuse. Children love sleeping on floor mats (most daycares only have floor mats for nap time) and I’ve witnessed first hand that children will chose a low bed that’s easily accessible to one that is high and out of reach. My nephews chose a Japanese floor futon to sleeping in their toddler beds or twin size bed because it was easier to get in and out of. I don’t know where you got your information on Montessori but, you’re severely misinformed. Also, there are many boundaries in Montessori. Nothing unsafe is allowed, nothing that can harm themselves, anyone else, or property is allowed. There is discipline but it’s needed less when children are taught from the start how to behave and what is appropriate behavior and what isn’t. Respect is earned. Children learn respect by being given respect. Children throw temper tantrums because they lack the vocabulary and problem solving skills to express their needs and desires. We are avoiding that by demonstrating good behavior, problem solving, and through respect. There will still be issues with expression but by allowing children to be curious- they act completely differently than by keeping them caged up like animals. All Montessori activities are over seen by an adult. Children are taught what is and isn’t allowed.
TuckerFearnBentley first of all in the US drop rail cribs have been recalled for at least 8 years (when my first was born) Second please explain how a “floor bed” is abuse? You can’t because it’s not
TuckerFearnBentley also my 18 month old is far too short for a full size single bed. He also has far from outgrown his crib, has never gotten his feet stuck and all of my other children could sleep in cribs turned into toddler beds up until around 4 which I then gave them a twin size bed.
Lol I like how honest she is! Crib works wonderfully for me started from day one til now my son is 8 months old. Buy a crib that can be lowered and changed into toddler bed. The front rail can be changed with open rail when he becomes toddler. :) I agree on the pack and play though. We put the pack and play in the living room for him to play and nap.
I bought a crib instead of bassinet and it’s in our bedroom, he’ll use it till his 5. I think that saves money instead of buying a bassinet and later a crib
That's what I said and then a year later I'm expecting my first in sept 😂😂 life doesn't always go the way you plan its good to be prepared 😂😂😂 but live your young life while you can trust me 😅
Thank you! It is wonderful to hear what stuff I can confidently refuse to buy, unless baby seems to actually need it. I want to do a small pack n' play, and have got a lot of flack about not wanting a crib. A pack n' play can even mean baby feels at home at hotels when we military move.
Thanks so much for this video! As a first time mommy I’m trying to figure out what not to waste my money on.. so now I’m thinking about if I should even get a wipe warmer... and the bottles I want 🙄. But the crib we still definitely buying only bc once my baby gets bigger I won’t have to be buying no bed for them bc it’s a 6 in 1 and not to expensive maybe almost 250$ but I’m so glad my father and law got the crib as a excited first time grandpa!
You've gotten some good points, but the thing that everyone needs to remember is that you know yourself best, and keep that in mind when thinking about what to buy and what not to buy. I listened to dozens of videos like these before my first was born, and ended up getting frustrated for listening to everyone's advice without taking my own personality into consideration. I bought all the zipper sleepers, and hated them. The zipper would buckle up and look nasty and I thought they were uncomfortable when cuddling with baby. Also, my pumpkin had chubby little legs, and most zippered ones are slightly smaller around on the leg with the zipper so I could barely even zipper them up unless she was swallowed up in one that was way to big for her. Also, if you really think you'll want some cute little outfits and shoes, buy one or two just so you have them on hand should you want them. I was given a diaper genie and absolutely loved it! I used it hard for 2 years, and never had any trouble with it. If your baby is born in the cooler months, just set up your diaper changing station close to a vent, and store your wet wipes on or beside it. We were very happy we went with a crib, especially since we got one that converted to a toddler bed and she ended up hating her pack and play.
2 of mine would ONLY and I mean ONLY sleep in their Infant car seats, so I propped them Inside of the Bassinet... and kept them next to bed... of course this was nearly 20 amd 17 yrs ago.. Everything/every **RULE** has Once again CHANGED. . It was a Life saver.. Esp if the bassinet had the Vibrating motion.. it depicted **a Car ride** which always Puts baby's to sleep... we had tried EVERYTHING up until that point even a ROUND Crib.. again, Nothing worked but that!! Hated hated hated sleeping Flat no matter WHAT I tried to use and wanted to be **Propped** up while sleeping, and would sleep sooo very soundly as opposed to anywhere else I had tried!! It helped to be elevated for breathing etc.. and I believe the **CLOSENESS** Of the Car seat felt Safe and secure to them.. Kinda like being in the Wish these had been made so many years ago!!! Yes I know there has been a RECALL But again, This was Years ago.. My last to use one is Now 10yrs old... Was, HANDS DOWN The Best product EVER, Hands down, in MY opinion!! Congrats to all The New and expecting Mommy's❤
I loved the way you explain about crib situation. I was just laughing. But I totally agree with all the items you mentioned. Mine is 4 months old and I haven't unwrapped my wipes warmer from box.
I bought so many socks because my son had cold feet. I still use the wipe warmer for my one year old because he HATES cold wipes. Bottle warmer was also amazing especially in the winter time my son still loves a nice warm bottle before bedtime. I don’t regret those and that’s it:)
Amber Sue 07 I feel the same lol I always use socks for my son , I use my wipe warmer quite a bit because he hates the cold wipes especially in the night . And I use my bottle warmer religiously and my son is nearly 1.
Amber Sue 07 I dip my wipes in hot water prior to using anyway so my wipe warmers just collected dust And til this day I’ve used a bottle warmer This baby I’m going for a water warmer which keeps the water warm all day at a set temperature so no waiting in the middle of the night
Yes yes yes. I love it. We planned on skipping the crib, (couldn’t afford it anyways)and use a twin mattress on the floor instead. It’s wonderful! It’s a Montessori idea I think.
Same. No crib, just a full grown-up size mattress on the floor. I was breast-feeding as well and managed to do the night feeds lying down, so I could easily lie down next to the baby and then roll off when he had fallen asleep again. Minimal fuss!
Thank you! I'm a first time Mom and so many people look at me like I'm crazy when I say I dont want a crib, and have chosen to go the pack and play route. I was really worried if I was making the right choice. Happy to hear others feel the same way I do about the cribs.
Bai...yes once mine started climbing out, we turned it into a toddler bed, and now it has turned into a full-size bed that she would have till she graduates high school!
I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant with my first. I'm happy to say that after watching this video and your must-haves video, I appear to be on the right track. I had already registered for many of the things you mentioned in the other video, and agree with you on this video as well. Including the crib. Our baby will be sleeping in a bassinet for as long as possible and once she is able to move about, we're going with a Montessori floor bed by Sprout. Cribs just seem like a horrible option all around.
Ashley Abel please be careful with the wipe warmer and make sure to check your wipes before use! Wipe warmers give the wipes a warm moist environment that is perfect for mold growth
I'm a second time mom and everything she listed on this video was on my not to get list this time around as well... FTM mom's over do it due to excitement but honestly I wasted shit load of money buying those products!
I think the crib experience is very different for all parents, so it really depends on your child too. My son has slept in his crib since newborn till now and he is 2yo. He has never tried to climb out of it and he knows his crib is for sleeping only. Therefore, you really can't tell until it happens since every kid is different. Whatever works best for you to keep your sanity and keep your children safe. Oh and there are many affordable cribs that can still be safe too. Choose what is best for you.
FYI for anyone lurking - Crib bumpers (even "breathable" ones-that's not even an industry standard term, so it's meaningless to a consumer) and those rail covers aren't considered safe for a baby sleep environment. If you're going to buy all that stuff with a crib, just use the pack n play instead (like the maker of the video wished she had done). You'll save money, and your child will be safe.
I actually dress my son every day and always have . I don’t stay in my pjs all day so neither does he ! We don’t use shoes (not yet) but socks are an absolute must for us ! So I highly recommend socks for parents who want to dress their babies . We loved our bottle warmer when my son was fresh out of the nicu . It has a timer so you just choose the amount of time you use it for . We use the under the arm thermometer as that’s what is closest to rectum thermometer and what was recommended by my son ! We love our hooded towels and I wish we had more ! We absolutely needed our crib . My son didn’t sleep in the basinet and has slept in his crib from day 1 . Mesh bumpers aren’t safe for infant sleep (neither is crib rail covers) . Our crib also transitions into a bed . Just different opinion! Thanks for sharing yours ! :)
I love this! Nothing is one size fits all. I’ve changed my registry so much and because I had to postpone my shower till after baby, I had everything I needed for baby before he came then the rest of everything on my registry I’ll get at the shower. I haven’t had to buy anything. I have my dream nursery and I change my registry based on how mommyings been going but I swear I have the best registry
I as a baby also slept in my crib day one. My son sleeps in my room we are going to work in that crib after he’s six weeks. And yes those bumpers and mesh stuff is basically illegal in the mom world and super unsafe
Update : hes 9 months and we have just started using shoes as he is starting to walk ! He is in a size 3 and looks adorable in them . We only use them while outside though just so he doesn’t step on anything . So shoes are not needed for newborns but once your child starts walking you will most likely need them !
We were givin out wipe warmer as a babyshower gift and we love iy for our little man..i saw a trick on facebook of putting a tablespoon of water in the bottom before putting the wipes in and ive never had an issue with the wipes drying out
I’m not a parent but I work at a daycare and one I hear a lot is wasting money on diaper changing tables. Most moms do it wherever and going to a certain room each time to do it gets frustrating. My coworker uses a changing mat so she can just do it wherever.
THIS!!! @11:31 I love it! I love this lady. I didn't buy half this stuff. My BG has a bassinet and I certainly water to warm up her bottle (the gifted bottle warmer is horrible. I always miss the mark). She also HATES swaddles and so on a colder night I put socks and a onsie on under her PJs. I just try to keep it simple. It helps me to cope and BG is happy.
I'm due with my 3rd, and this list is so spot on. I never used a crib. Always used a bassinet and then a playpen. I just used regular muslin swaddle blankets because you can use them a variety of ways
@@mrsharadchandra And you're rude. Every mother's preferences are different. So take your nasty comments and keep them to yourself please. They have no place here.
😆 you’re so funny! Everything you talked about is totally true! I’m on my 3rd single baby and I’ve experienced all of those mistakes. I wish I had seen videos like this from the get go. The Montessori “program/ life style” makes so much sense, is basically all the tips you just talked about. Specially the bedding situation. Happy parenting!
Thanks for sharing. It's hard not to get caught up preparing for a newborn, knowing your really unsure in the first place, n being financially restricted. Esp buying cute lil outfits, I'm sure it's exciting and fun, but easily becomes wasted money if shopping for the cuteness of the experience as opposed to what's practically going to be needed. Again, great vid, thanks
Mom of 4 with 5 almost here..I love this video. Going to showers kills me because of all these things they get and dont need...You hit the nail on the head! So true about newborn clothes...My 1 1/2 year old is still in a pack and play and he loves it. At 2 they go in a toddler bed type thing. I literally have normal blankets for swaddling, a basket of essential clothes that I know I'll use, generic diapers / wipes, 2-4 good bottles as needed, bassinet for early on and pack and play for the next step. Thats it! GREAT VIDEO!! I hope new moms watch this and listen!!!!!!!!
I will be having twins in September, they will be having a crib of their own, the nursery is big enough to fit two and because their grandparents (mom and dads parents) are gifting them with their own. I have been looking at a twin pack and play to use in our room when they are new borns so they can be closer to us until they are old enough to sleep in their cribs across from our room. The cribs will be one that converts as they get older to make their grandparents money worth it lol.
I totally agree with you about the crib. I worked in daycare for a number of years and we transitioned infants from cribs to cots at 18 months to prep them for the toddler room. A crib never made sense to me because it's a lot of money invested in a short period of time. We used a pack n play. It was wonderful. We rolled it to whatever room we were in. So nice when you're at home recovering. Also, we could fold the whole thing up and bring it with us on overnight trips. Wherever we were our daughter's sleeping space was familiar. It really took the stress out of traveling with a baby.
I wasn't aware of the extent of rampant consumerism in the states. I mean, wipe warmers, jeeze louis you really have a product and a customer for everything there.
For us it was a small luxury we could afford - our newborn absolutely H A T E S being cold ever in any way, and would scream during nighttime diaper changes. We felt bad for our neighbor, who sleeps right on the other side of our wall, so we got it. It’s been great for us.
I agree with everything except the....crib, Wipe warmer, and bottle warmer are great buys if used correctly! 1st - when purchasing a wipe warmer you have to also purchase the ever-fresh replacement pillows, these go at the bottom of your wipe warmer to keep your wipes moist... you soak with water and flip the pad once a week for 3 months then replace. I never had a dry wipe when doing this! Plus I was lucky that my baby did not care if the wipe were warm or cold but I thought it was a good purchase and worked with no issues. 2nd - my bottle warmer was $12, I followed the instructions using the measuring cup that came with the bottle warmer and I had warm breast milk in at least 30secs depending on how much milk I was warming, that’s a fast time if you’re feeding a hungry baby...definitely useful and we took it everywhere, even on vacation. The crib was a good purchase, our baby didn’t go into it until she was 8 months and we always had a bumper installed, so no issues there...we did use a 4-n-1 pack n play until we were ready for her to use her crib....she didn’t start climbing out her crib until she was about 1.5 yo but we just turned it into a toddler bed after that, and we turned it again into a full-size bed now that she’s 3. We plan for her to have a full-size bed until she graduates high school. when it comes to cribs, always buy the 3 n 1, so you can get more use out of it...but I swear by my 4 n 1 pack n play, that’s awesome as well.
Crib... Individual choice. My first son was in a crib because our house was built in 1919 and had an open foundation and wood floors. Meaning, it was too cool at floor level for baby during fall, winter and spring. I agree with if on a budget, tight on space consider a pack and play. Just don't let baby sleep with you. Father rolled over onto Middle-Son and nearly smothered him. Gadgets in general I am not a fan of in the kitchen or baby's room. Wipe warmers are silly starting with wipes are expensive and environmental nightmares for the sake of convenience. Bottle warmers. I had a crock pot my sister borrowed and broke the glass lid. After killing a few bottles in a sauce pot, I filled the crock pot with water, turned on low and keep it on all day. Just put in a bottle whenever I needed it and only had to refill once a day. I'm all for changes, improvements and aides when it comes to our lifestyles. But most of this stuff is just marketing ploys preying on people (mothers) who have this image of what motherhood is suppose to look like. It isn't glamorous but it isn't hair raising either. The smallest person in the house doesn't need all this crap.
This video is ON POINT!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Our Diaper Genie also broke immediately... it’s really a worthless piece of 💩! I immediately wished I would have just used a regular trash can with a lid. 🤦🏼♀️
With my kid second I also just used a pack n play with bassinet. We had a crib the turned into a toddler bed that i had and used for my oldest. And it just ended up being set up and very used because of everything you said. She would get her legs stuck and chew an all of the wood and then would climb out. Pack n play for the win. Never any issues with it. Best thing ever.
New subscriber! I am a new mom & let me tell you, you are SPOT ON on every single one of these products. When my daughter was 3 weeks old we moved to another state so we didn’t have a crib & still don’t 5 months later & people think I’m crazy. There’s a hundred places she can sleep safely. I’m currently going through all of these pointless things & I can’t even give them away🤦🏻♀️
Yes to so much of this. Due in july, second time mom here, Warm bottles aren't even necessary. I never once warmed a bottle with my son. He drank just fine. Wipe warmers do dry out wipes, never needed one even having a winter baby. And so long as your house is decently warm wipes are never "cold" anyway. I used a crib with my son. But this time i got a pack n play with a bassinet attachment. I don't even buy swaddles. I use recieving blankets similar to the hospital kind and swaddle them just like we do in the hospital. I plan on buying a 3 inch pack n play mattress for when we put her in the pack n play itself after she grows out of the bassinet attachment. Can't wait to have my girl :3
Chassity Caraballo good information, thanks! I’m a first time mom (due in July, as well) and trying hard to not over buy. I’d prefer to buy it later if needed rather than have unnecessary clutter around collecting dust. And I’d like to keep things as affordable as possible! Congrats on your second baby 😊
@@ohbrandyjune it can be tempting to overbuy these days. Even me. Especially now that im having my first girl. I want to buy all the unnecessary girly frilly things, canopy for the pack n play, like a thousand bows that she probably won't keep on her head 🤣 it's even easier to do so with your very first baby. I forgot to add, burp cloths are also useless. Because 1.) They are so small it's easy for babies to literally spit up all over you and miss the cloth entirely. 2.) By the time the baby is 2 months and docs reccomend to stop swaddling those recieving blankets become burp cloths. And are much more effective at the job given their size.
Love my bottle Philip warmer, it has 4 setting. There is no way you can over heat the milk if you choose slow setting. Love our wipe warmer, add some water to prevent dry out. Halo sleep sack was the best purchase.
Wonderful advice, I’m pregnant with my 3rd child. Totally agree with everything your saying. My first two kids where so different I had different stuff for both. Ladies save your money and read lots of reviews.
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I'm almost 29 weeks pregnant and have realized SOOOO many unnecessary and expensive things are pushed on moms, so thank you for the honestly 😅😅
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Hosanna Tilialo I know right!!! I agree on all the items she talked about! It should be criminal how all these companies try to push off all this useless crap on people! They completely take advantage of parents being happy and excited to have a baby.
@@jessicamccabe9101 Right!? Its so sad -.- Not just companies but consumers as well. Although many claim to not be materialistic we forget we are now living in time of being materialistic. My moms very old fashioned so for my son not to have "much" because we just weren't brought up that way was overwhelming. I found myself feeling pressured or bad for not wanting a crib or having a swing set or the "proper" pump. Like this video was my reassurance that I was going to be okay doing things different and no mother or parent should feel bad for feeling some type of way for any reason!
I bought my first born like 30 baby bottles before he was even here 😂
Seriously, *taking tips lol
I used socks for my newborn so her feet wouldn’t get cold
I have a friend who's son hated his crib, every night they would find him sleeping in their dog's bed on the floor. They ended up just buying him his own (took him to the pet store and let him try some out and decided which one he liked best) and putting it in his room. Sleeps through the night no problem now. Lol
Shawnee.16 lmao that’s so cute
That’s hilarious!
Hopefully not as a newborn though...
@@jenniferstarlight3173 the baby couldnt pick it out or crawl out of a crib lol
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if you want a crib, i suggest in investing in the kind that can be tuned into a toddler bed. my brothers bed that he’s had as an infant has lasted four years, still relevant and changed with him. i’m not sure what it’s called but 10/10
Totally agree. We got this type of convertible crib from Ikea - quite cheap and it will last a long time.
In the UK we call them cotbeds. I had them for all of mine. I got the ones which you can change the height, so it’s easier to pick them up. They still fit in them.. eldest is nearly 6.
Edit: obviously the 6 year old isn’t in a cot 😂 you lower it, and take the sides off.
my brother and I did it - mine also came with a changing table - love it
@@pebblespop9053 I live in the UK, where can I get this type of cot from?
Mrs Jo Danquah wayfair, Ickle bubba, Argos, Asda, John Lewis.
A tip I learned from my sister. Use all those extra newborn socks for their hands. The mitts they make come off constantly making it more likely for baby to accidentally scratch themselves. Because socks have that stretchy part, they don't come off as easily. That's what I use my socks for.
kaedrian I started doing the same as socks were becoming tight for legs 🤣 n mittens were coming off and my baby was able to remove them so easily..
We did this to our daughter since most mittens fall out 😅 and this hack works really well
I did this too. It totally saved our bacon
True, did the same
I can’t express how much I love listening to woman who can deliver pregnancy/baby related content without talking to the audience like we are their children in a patronising fake baby voice. New subscriber and thumbs up here 👍🏻
So what I'm hearing is SAVE YOUR MONEY!!! Haha just because it's expensive and "cute" doesn't mean you need it! Keep it simple and effective, save your money for when you actually need it.
They grow so fast. Bassinet is used for 4 months.
@@robinluich6626 My daughter has slept in her crib since she out grew this little sleeper thing we have. It sits in bed with us but it doesn't allow her to roll over and it stops us from rolling onto her and it was only about $25
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Yes, as a nanny for 25 years, I was tortured by diaper bags on my shoulder, when I could have had a back pack, and then lifting babies in their carrier I would strain my shoulders and be in pain for months and years. I also saw so much wasted money on useless baby products. Great video!
When my son was born I was a bit concerned as to whether or not he had enough things but this video reminds me that he has enough and that I didnt have to go out and get so many unnecessary things for my son.
“It was like I was prepping them for a 5k.” 🤣😂🤣
Buying a stroller is like buying a car. You want it to grow with your kid to at least 3 years. Can you handle it alone? Does it move well? Is it sturdy enough for the terrain you will use? Factor this before picking out a registry. Only thing that doesn't matter is color. Carriers/Car Seats are the next to look and research. If doing a registry, ask for gift cards. Then you can shop for what you need, when you need it. Just came from a shower (ugh) and the first time mom ended up with an explosion of pink newborn to 6 month old clothes. Styles that weren't the parent's personalities. She spent time trying to exchange so much of these items to get things she truly needed.
Yeah.i invested expensive stroller that could hold my baby from infant up to 4 yrs old.lol
1. Oh I love my bottle warmer!
2. Tip for the leftover diaper genie refills: open the package, pull it out a little over a foot, cut it, tie a knot on one side, and use them as travel smelly diaper bags!
Susan McWhirter I LOVE my bottle warmer as well!
I also love my bottle warmer !!
I absolutely 100% agree that the bottle warmer was my go to item. Especially in the middle of the night feedings. Still using it at 18mos
Which bottle warmer did you use? I can’t decide!
I love how honest you are about everything! I’m 20 weeks Thursday with our 3rd- a little girl and I’ve been dreading putting her crib up knowing dad will be there to run and take her out the second she makes a squeak! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 thank you for your honesty!!!
expecting mom here! im so glad to see this lol i just want to buy stuff for the experience since its my first time 😭😭😭 but i def dont want to waste money and have things go to waste, so thank you for this!!
As a mom of soon to be 5 little humans everything she said in this video is 100% accurate. Best what not to buy video I have ever seen on youtube ! Good job momma
Thank you!!! 🙏
5?!? Jesus Christ, woman.
This woman is dangerous as all fuck. Hopefully her kids were removed from her care and placed with someone responsible
Exact reason why I bought the convertible cribs for both my kids. Yeah it’s expensive to start, but it’s the crib to toddler bed to full size bed all in one. It’s great that I don’t have to worry about buying a new bed when the next stage starts!
Some of these kind of depend on where you live. I live in NY and had my baby during the winter. We used socks every single day, along with the wipe warmer so he wasn’t cold and screaming. And I also liked snap pajamas more than zipper pajamas because when he was asleep all I had to do was unsnap from the bottom remove his legs while the upper half of his body was still covered, wipe with a warm wipe, put the legs back in the leg sleeves, resnap and I was done.
They actually make zipper ones that zip from the bottom!
Try a baby sleep gown..the scrunch one not the knotted 😊😊
Lol when it was winter months ago I kept my baby with me in bed because that time I didn’t have a baby monitor but luckily I got a baby monitor and it makes my life easier
Love this! When my friends ask me to look over their baby registry and ask for my essential baby items, I always tell them that every baby is different. My son loves his crib and been in it since he was 1 month, we loved our diaper genie, and couldn't live without a bottle warmer for the first 4 months. I tell new moms to wait before opening all of their baby items or washing all of their clothes.
I agree with my 3rd child I didn’t open all the baby gifts and I still use a diaper genie mines never broke- and the crib is really good in my opinion the bottle warmer is an essential again my opinion
Omg.. finally someone talking about legs getting stuck on the rales of the crib! Couldn’t agree more..
i bought a 6 in 1 crib for $200. She will be using this crib until high school period 🤷🏼♀️ && i really thought some of this stuff was common sense .. like you do not need that to survive with a baby 😂
Allison Boone 😂
Hi Allison can you please share the name and location where you bought your crib from?
Allison Boone haha this made me giggle!
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Agree with so many of these. Especially the bottle warmer. Here's a lifesaver tip: just give your kid cool/room temperature bottles from day one. They will never get used to the warm bottle and therefore won't expect it. The crib I bought worked well for us for a long time, but we did need a mesh bumper like the one shown in the video, too. Our crib was made of iron with a nontoxic finish and the baby never wanted to chew it. Other moms, definitely heed her warning about wooden cribs!
If it involves heavy emotions: marriage, babies, funerals...you can believe that people will try to sell you overpriced and unnecessary items!
I just wanted to say thank you I've been so very on the fence about purchasing a stroller. Now I feel like I can go with my gut and get the stroller I really want.
Preemie moms/winter baby moms, I would say get the wipe warmer! You can find it cheaper secondhand. The instructions for the munchkin warmer calls for you to pour 1/4 cup of water over the wipes once you fill it, to stop the wipes from drying out. Never really had an issue with dry wipes doing this. Its worth it to me, I saved mine for baby #2, but everyone is different.
Also, in the NICU, our son’s nurses took baby temps throughout the day with an old school thermometer, but used it under their armpit. The temps have to be accurate because these fragile babies are usually in an incubator and cant retain body heat. So that is the method we used. I love your video!! So realistic and helpful!!
And agreed about the crib! Never needed one and dont plan on buying one for the second baby. Pack n play is a must!
Very true...totally agree. I wish I got one earlier because I had a preemie baby born during winter. My little guy hated diaper changes.
I had a winter baby, and loved my wipe warmer! I also never had any problems with the wipes drying out, because, like you said, you are supposed to put alittle bit of water in the warmer.
I’m so glad I’ve found your video! All the other videos were very basic and didn’t explain why they didn’t like them. I’m due in 4 weeks and I’m freaking out what I need and don’t need 😩 thank you! 🤟🏽💕
Hmmm the crib was an interesting point of view. I bought a toddler conversion crib used for 50 bucks and she has used it from day 1. I skipped the whole bassinet thing as I just saw it as pointless, because we had enough space for a crib in our room. She stayed until about 14 months and now she is in her own room at 17 months. It was an easy transition for us, and she had never tried to escape the crib yet lol but when she does it converts to a toddler bed easily. Only thing I regret is the pack and play. We have used it very little.
Vanessa Mora don’t regret the pack and play even if you used it once. It’s a safe sleeper. I used to let my son sleep in bouncers & his car seat when we traveled & i got lucky it could have killed him! (I was a stupid first time mom I got zero advice)
My 5 year old still loves her hooded towels from when she was a baby 😂
You literally hit every category on the nail! Perfect First Time Mom registry Advice. I’m pregnant with my 2nd child and agreed with EVERYTHING. Lol 😂
Omg finally, I’m 20 weeks pregnant with my first baby boy and I’m completing my baby registry. I’ve been watching hours of baby essentials videos and this is the first time I watch the whole video without thinking “this is a bunch of BS” and “is this woman out of her mind telling me is ok to spend $300 on something the baby is going to use for 2 months”. This is the kind of video I want to watch, you just won a follower . ❤
My best advice is to obtain the absolute essentials and save money for items that you need as you go (you will discover what style of clothes work best for your baby, etc).
I saw a lot of people regretting a wipe warmer and i didn't think I'd need one but then I realized it would be great for our family and bought one at Target... Turns out to be a fantastic purchase for us. 🍼
Yes, yes and YES TO ALL!!! Expecting my third and I thought I was frugal with the first two...this time, I will be buying even less unnecessary items. Thanks for sharing!
i’m so nervous about being a first time mom and this helped so much! thank you!
Congrats!! Happy to help ☺️
You’ll do great! As long as you take it a day at a time and do everything to keep the baby healthy and safe, (and later on happy within boundaries), then you’re going to be an amazing mom.
Same here a bit anxious about being a first time mum but you just saved me a lot of money. Now I can use your video to convince the hubby about the crib, I just never liked them period. It never even crossed my mind that they could be dangerous as well. Thank you so much for this. All the way from South Africa.
Breathe! You got this no mom is trained! We were or all at one point new.
Labor. Breathe and relax remember to relax your jaw :)
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FTM here during quarantine - I’ve been working on paring down my registry to serve as a minimalist shopping list for myself now that the world is turned upside down. I don’t have any expectation of a shower, virtual or otherwise, especially while so many are facing financial hardships. Thank you for making this video because it has been extremely helpful and it’s validating what I’m trying to convince myself of - I don’t need all the fancy gadgets to bring the baby home.
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Love the crockpot suggestion
Na.Itlitzabete Same, same. Due in 5 weeks and I was going to do a virtual shower, but at this point I just wanna buy what I need & call it a day. People aren’t as reliable as they seem especially during a crisis lol good luck to you!!
This is me too! I have been lucky and gotten some big things for free (crib, bassinet, my nephews old clothes). Trying to be minimal on what I need to purchase because there won’t be a normal shower...I am trying to do a virtual one but we shall see how that goes lol. Good luck to you!
Yep
My large coffee mug has been repurposed as the bottle warmer cup lol.
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Making a registry as a first time mom was a nightmare. I wish I could’ve done it over knowing what I know now. I also regret not getting the more expensive/high quality items that I truly wanted and not taking my own living circumstances into account when selecting stroller, high chair, etc.
I’m a first time young mom, 8 months pregnant and I did everything right according to this list 😂💗 especially getting a pack and play that comes with a bassinet instead of a crib
Even though I don’t plan on having a baby soon, I love watching baby must haves. This is the first time that I find someone that thinks exactly like I do. It seems like there are “I need everything” people or extremely minimal everything brown people and I just fall somewhere in between. Thank you for the vid I really enjoyed it and your honesty.
I am SO with you on the crib! Don’t need one and takes up lots of room. So so true
Wipe warmer is a definite do not regret for us. Our baby cried every change at the hospital but now she doesn't even fuss. She likes warm wipes on the toosh, and even pees during changes at times because of the warmth 😅
The wipe warmer is useful during winter when wipes get super cold. Especially the super moist ones like pampers and water wipes
I guess living in Texas I don’t know that struggle as a mom! But I’m from Minnesota so I can totally see how that would be an issue
My daughter screamed bloody murder when a cold wipe touched her bum. The warmer was a life saver for us. I didn’t think I would need one and thankfully got a used one from my sister. They may not be useful for all babies, obviously.
Actually, water wipes should not go into the warmer as they can grow mold
A K I’ve used them everyday for over a year and that has never happened. May depend on how long you keep them in the warmer though.
The mold depends on the type of wipe warmer too.
YES‼️ the only thing that worked for us was the wipe warmer during night changes bc it made it so easy to change her while she was still asleep! And to keep them wet I added a little water to the bottom.
This is the most honest baby stuff video I' ve watched. I went through almost everything you talk about in the video with my first one. Now pregnant w 2nd and I wanted to refresh my mind a little on what I really need and your video nailed it. (Ended up w the mattress on the floor as well w my 1st one and I would recommended it to anyone)
I can’t even explain how much I love this video! I made/edited my registry as I watched this video. I’m not the women to follow trends and buy every gadget that’s out there. But this is my first baby and it really helped me feel better when it came to what’s REALLY considered essential. Thank you!
I bought the city select lux for our twins, and my husband thought it was too much money... but it's been such a lifesaver for us trying to haul 2 carseats everywhere. We get so much use out of it
Oh my gosh I’m so glad I watched this video - I’m very tight on space and budget and getting a crib would have meant we would have to discard some furniture to make room - I’m totally just getting a pack and play instead!!!!
I have watched so many of these types of videos (first baby due later this year) and this is by far one of the best! So honest! Love it!!!
I loved this video, the first I’ve seen in a long time that doesn’t seem paid for by a brand, very honest and realistic!
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve tried to get sponsors from brands I truly like. But no one wants to sponsor me cause I think I’m too honest 😆 and they always have stipulations like “you can’t mention XYZ competitor or their products” and I’m not willing to withhold information or products I think are good just for a sponsor.
Mai Zimmy huge respect! I think no one should hold back from sponsors, absolutely but I feel like you wouldn’t say that a $300 baby lounger or automated swing is an essential, you’d be honest and I really like that!
My baby would cry when being changed with cold wet wipe and I decided to get a wipe warmer and he’s been ok ever since . Best purchase ever ❤️
And for the bottle warmer I would set a timer it so it wouldn’t be too hot.
And high chair I bought a stokke trip trap brand wooden one which is easy to clean and you can use it for years.
My hooded towels I love actually for baby’s head.
“Your baby is not Jessica’s baby.” Moms named Jessica: 😮
30 weeks along...my baby will be Jessica’s baby 😂😂😂😂😂
BAHAHAHA!
Same 😂
This made me feel so much better about what I have! We kept saying people have had babies for millennia; surely, we don’t need all this junk! We had a lot of pushback on our minimal registry, but I’m glad to have this reassurance we didn’t waste anyone’s money!
Great video! My two cents: a warm wipe didn't startle my terrible sleeper like a regular one did. Wipe warmer was worth it for my kid!
Wipe warmer is good for the winter when you live in Canada you know what I mean during winter
I’m 25 weeks pregnant and just set up my crib WITH teething rail covers all the way around AND mesh bumpers!!! I feel really prepared and I’m glad I made the decision to get them from day 1 so that I get optimum use. I can’t Imagine how frustrating your crib situation was! Waking up to a blood curdling scream would scare me to death and having to go in and get their arm or leg out would be so scary in case it got stuck.
I’m due in July, I do NOT want a crib. I took care of my nephews when they were little, I got a LOT of perspective. We will be using a floor bed and basket/bassinet/pack and play. Im super short- 4’10” I struggled so much to safely put the kids in and take them out of the crib. I’m subscribing to the pick my battles mentality.... I agree with a lot of these, based on my nephews. They stayed in onesies and jammies until they grew. No sense in giving myself self a headache over things. I’m taking this nice and easy... also, not doing a changing table. I found we changed the boys mostly on a towel on the floor or a towel on the bed. Why buy one more piece of furniture that I’m gonna have to get rid of later? I’m doing this very practically.
Hey i'm also due in july😃
FearnTuckerBentley a floor bed is a very low bed on the floor. It’s has a mattress between the floor and baby. You should look into Montessori floor beds. There’s actually data supporting Montessori education techniques. Also, changing a child on the floor/bed on top of a towel is completely fine and well practiced by the majority of people that I know. There’s no reason to purchase a changing table if it simply won’t be used.
FearnTuckerBentley there is NOTHING abusive about Montessori beds. www.burlapandblue.com/5-benefits-floor-bed-toddlers/. Your statements show how uneducated you are about Montessori. It’s not about letting your child run free and do as they wish. It’s about creating yes spaces that allow children the opportunity be inquisitive, learn problem solving skills, develop self care routines that are age appropriate, feel heard and accomplished and not “caging” your child out of fear or laziness. Montessori parenting requires a lot more release of parental fear, a lot more cultivating independence in your child, and a lot more education to promote in daily life. There are wait lists for Montessori programs for a reason. Children aren’t left free to roam, but allowed to do what interests them developing critical skills through out the task that is cross applicable to other critical tasks that are require for daily living. Young children love to wash clean plates and cups... why not allow that on a water table supporting dexterity and REAL life dish washing skills? My partner and I are not raising a snowflake that won’t be able to survive without round the clock care when they reach college. We are raising a well adjusted human that has their own interests and personality. Offering a low floor bed, that’s SAFE for the child to access and get out of on their own is NOT abuse. Children love sleeping on floor mats (most daycares only have floor mats for nap time) and I’ve witnessed first hand that children will chose a low bed that’s easily accessible to one that is high and out of reach. My nephews chose a Japanese floor futon to sleeping in their toddler beds or twin size bed because it was easier to get in and out of. I don’t know where you got your information on Montessori but, you’re severely misinformed. Also, there are many boundaries in Montessori. Nothing unsafe is allowed, nothing that can harm themselves, anyone else, or property is allowed. There is discipline but it’s needed less when children are taught from the start how to behave and what is appropriate behavior and what isn’t. Respect is earned. Children learn respect by being given respect. Children throw temper tantrums because they lack the vocabulary and problem solving skills to express their needs and desires. We are avoiding that by demonstrating good behavior, problem solving, and through respect. There will still be issues with expression but by allowing children to be curious- they act completely differently than by keeping them caged up like animals. All Montessori activities are over seen by an adult. Children are taught what is and isn’t allowed.
TuckerFearnBentley first of all in the US drop rail cribs have been recalled for at least 8 years (when my first was born)
Second please explain how a “floor bed” is abuse? You can’t because it’s not
TuckerFearnBentley also my 18 month old is far too short for a full size single bed. He also has far from outgrown his crib, has never gotten his feet stuck and all of my other children could sleep in cribs turned into toddler beds up until around 4 which I then gave them a twin size bed.
Lol I like how honest she is!
Crib works wonderfully for me started from day one til now my son is 8 months old. Buy a crib that can be lowered and changed into toddler bed. The front rail can be changed with open rail when he becomes toddler. :)
I agree on the pack and play though. We put the pack and play in the living room for him to play and nap.
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I never buy cribs they’re bulky & expensive. Bassinets do it for me!
O Riskii Me too! I have 3 kids now and I never bought a crib for any of them.
What do you do when the baby is too big for a bassinet and too small for a bed? Asking for my sanity
I don't buy crib I got a playpen from the beginning
I bought a crib instead of bassinet and it’s in our bedroom, he’ll use it till his 5. I think that saves money instead of buying a bassinet and later a crib
I bought a crib but it’s a convertible crib that can change with her as she gets older.
I'm 20 and I wont be having kids for another decade but it's never too early to start learning😁
That's what I said and then a year later I'm expecting my first in sept 😂😂 life doesn't always go the way you plan its good to be prepared 😂😂😂 but live your young life while you can trust me 😅
I had my first boy at 20. 1 year before I'd never thought I would have been pregnant lol
I love how blunt you are in your videos. As a first time mom your videos are so creative and helpful!!
Thank you! It is wonderful to hear what stuff I can confidently refuse to buy, unless baby seems to actually need it. I want to do a small pack n' play, and have got a lot of flack about not wanting a crib. A pack n' play can even mean baby feels at home at hotels when we military move.
Thanks so much for this video! As a first time mommy I’m trying to figure out what not to waste my money on.. so now I’m thinking about if I should even get a wipe warmer... and the bottles I want 🙄. But the crib we still definitely buying only bc once my baby gets bigger I won’t have to be buying no bed for them bc it’s a 6 in 1 and not to expensive maybe almost 250$ but I’m so glad my father and law got the crib as a excited first time grandpa!
You've gotten some good points, but the thing that everyone needs to remember is that you know yourself best, and keep that in mind when thinking about what to buy and what not to buy. I listened to dozens of videos like these before my first was born, and ended up getting frustrated for listening to everyone's advice without taking my own personality into consideration. I bought all the zipper sleepers, and hated them. The zipper would buckle up and look nasty and I thought they were uncomfortable when cuddling with baby. Also, my pumpkin had chubby little legs, and most zippered ones are slightly smaller around on the leg with the zipper so I could barely even zipper them up unless she was swallowed up in one that was way to big for her. Also, if you really think you'll want some cute little outfits and shoes, buy one or two just so you have them on hand should you want them. I was given a diaper genie and absolutely loved it! I used it hard for 2 years, and never had any trouble with it. If your baby is born in the cooler months, just set up your diaper changing station close to a vent, and store your wet wipes on or beside it. We were very happy we went with a crib, especially since we got one that converted to a toddler bed and she ended up hating her pack and play.
I got a bassinet but my daughter preferred a laundry basket with a foam “mattress”
Leslie Dawson This is actually a great idea!
We did the same. Baby grew out of it ridiculously fast so buying a basinet would've been a waste.
Sindy Sol luckily for me I borrowed the bassinet. I think for the last 40 years my family has used the same one. Just pass it to the next baby!!!!!
2 of mine would ONLY and I mean ONLY sleep in their Infant car seats, so I propped them Inside of the Bassinet... and kept them next to bed... of course this was nearly 20 amd 17 yrs ago.. Everything/every **RULE** has Once again CHANGED. . It was a Life saver.. Esp if the bassinet had the Vibrating motion.. it depicted **a Car ride** which always Puts baby's to sleep... we had tried EVERYTHING up until that point even a ROUND Crib.. again, Nothing worked but that!! Hated hated hated sleeping Flat no matter WHAT I tried to use and wanted to be **Propped** up while sleeping, and would sleep sooo very soundly as opposed to anywhere else I had tried!! It helped to be elevated for breathing etc.. and I believe the **CLOSENESS** Of the Car seat felt Safe and secure to them.. Kinda like being in the Wish these had been made so many years ago!!!
Yes I know there has been a RECALL But again, This was Years ago.. My last to use one is Now 10yrs old... Was, HANDS DOWN The Best product EVER, Hands down, in MY opinion!! Congrats to all The New and expecting Mommy's❤
I loved the way you explain about crib situation. I was just laughing. But I totally agree with all the items you mentioned. Mine is 4 months old and I haven't unwrapped my wipes warmer from box.
I bought so many socks because my son had cold feet.
I still use the wipe warmer for my one year old because he HATES cold wipes.
Bottle warmer was also amazing especially in the winter time my son still loves a nice warm bottle before bedtime.
I don’t regret those and that’s it:)
Amber Sue 07 I feel the same lol I always use socks for my son , I use my wipe warmer quite a bit because he hates the cold wipes especially in the night . And I use my bottle warmer religiously and my son is nearly 1.
Amber Sue 07 I dip my wipes in hot water prior to using anyway so my wipe warmers just collected dust
And til this day I’ve used a bottle warmer
This baby I’m going for a water warmer which keeps the water warm all day at a set temperature so no waiting in the middle of the night
Yes yes yes. I love it. We planned on skipping the crib, (couldn’t afford it anyways)and use a twin mattress on the floor instead. It’s wonderful! It’s a Montessori idea I think.
Same. No crib, just a full grown-up size mattress on the floor. I was breast-feeding as well and managed to do the night feeds lying down, so I could easily lie down next to the baby and then roll off when he had fallen asleep again. Minimal fuss!
Thank you! I'm a first time Mom and so many people look at me like I'm crazy when I say I dont want a crib, and have chosen to go the pack and play route. I was really worried if I was making the right choice. Happy to hear others feel the same way I do about the cribs.
A lot of cribs turn to toddler beds so they can get in and out safely. Then turn to twin beds for onto childhood!
Bai...yes once mine started climbing out, we turned it into a toddler bed, and now it has turned into a full-size bed that she would have till she graduates high school!
I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant with my first.
I'm happy to say that after watching this video and your must-haves video, I appear to be on the right track. I had already registered for many of the things you mentioned in the other video, and agree with you on this video as well. Including the crib. Our baby will be sleeping in a bassinet for as long as possible and once she is able to move about, we're going with a Montessori floor bed by Sprout. Cribs just seem like a horrible option all around.
love this video! I’m almost 23 weeks pregnant & this was so helpful. thank you! 💛
Youre a week ahead of me 🥰❤
Holy cow, my twins never had that many issues with the crib. Slept in them from day one until they were 2.
My twins are due in late June, need to start preparing already 😩
I love watching you! I appreciate the no nonsense approach!
Thank you!! And it’s the only way I know to be! Bites me in the ass sometimes working in corporate America lol
Mai Zimmy Lol I know how that can be!
No regrets on the wipe warmer! Especially in the middle of the night when I'd feed baby then change him and he wouldnt wake up from a cold wipe.
Ashley Abel please be careful with the wipe warmer and make sure to check your wipes before use! Wipe warmers give the wipes a warm moist environment that is perfect for mold growth
I use hot water in container put wipes in clean your baby and you're good to go
I'm a second time mom and everything she listed on this video was on my not to get list this time around as well... FTM mom's over do it due to excitement but honestly I wasted shit load of money buying those products!
I think the crib experience is very different for all parents, so it really depends on your child too. My son has slept in his crib since newborn till now and he is 2yo. He has never tried to climb out of it and he knows his crib is for sleeping only. Therefore, you really can't tell until it happens since every kid is different. Whatever works best for you to keep your sanity and keep your children safe. Oh and there are many affordable cribs that can still be safe too. Choose what is best for you.
FYI for anyone lurking - Crib bumpers (even "breathable" ones-that's not even an industry standard term, so it's meaningless to a consumer) and those rail covers aren't considered safe for a baby sleep environment. If you're going to buy all that stuff with a crib, just use the pack n play instead (like the maker of the video wished she had done). You'll save money, and your child will be safe.
And the sheet on baby’s mattress should always be tight with NOTHING in their space. ❤️
I actually dress my son every day and always have . I don’t stay in my pjs all day so neither does he ! We don’t use shoes (not yet) but socks are an absolute must for us ! So I highly recommend socks for parents who want to dress their babies . We loved our bottle warmer when my son was fresh out of the nicu . It has a timer so you just choose the amount of time you use it for . We use the under the arm thermometer as that’s what is closest to rectum thermometer and what was recommended by my son ! We love our hooded towels and I wish we had more ! We absolutely needed our crib . My son didn’t sleep in the basinet and has slept in his crib from day 1 . Mesh bumpers aren’t safe for infant sleep (neither is crib rail covers) . Our crib also transitions into a bed . Just different opinion! Thanks for sharing yours ! :)
We got a crib that transitions to a bed too!
I love this! Nothing is one size fits all. I’ve changed my registry so much and because I had to postpone my shower till after baby, I had everything I needed for baby before he came then the rest of everything on my registry I’ll get at the shower. I haven’t had to buy anything. I have my dream nursery and I change my registry based on how mommyings been going but I swear I have the best registry
I as a baby also slept in my crib day one. My son sleeps in my room we are going to work in that crib after he’s six weeks. And yes those bumpers and mesh stuff is basically illegal in the mom world and super unsafe
Update : hes 9 months and we have just started using shoes as he is starting to walk ! He is in a size 3 and looks adorable in them . We only use them while outside though just so he doesn’t step on anything . So shoes are not needed for newborns but once your child starts walking you will most likely need them !
THIS^^^^ yes! Yes!!! and YESSS!!! 😋
I'm so thankful I learned all this when I was a nanny. 4 babies. I'm ready for my baby to arrive soon.
We were givin out wipe warmer as a babyshower gift and we love iy for our little man..i saw a trick on facebook of putting a tablespoon of water in the bottom before putting the wipes in and ive never had an issue with the wipes drying out
I’m not a parent but I work at a daycare and one I hear a lot is wasting money on diaper changing tables. Most moms do it wherever and going to a certain room each time to do it gets frustrating. My coworker uses a changing mat so she can just do it wherever.
change table is a life saver for me and my baby loves it
Lol yea 2 kids in and I just use whatever’s closest (usually the floor!!)
Total waste of money in my opinion. Water resistant pads, soft surface, bingo: change that diaper.
Ikea convertable cribs for the win! My child is still using his (converted to a toddler bed) at 2.5 🥳
that's what I plan on getting for my daughter, I bought 1 for my niece/ goddaughter she's going to be 3 in December still using it.
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THIS!!! @11:31 I love it! I love this lady. I didn't buy half this stuff. My BG has a bassinet and I certainly water to warm up her bottle (the gifted bottle warmer is horrible. I always miss the mark). She also HATES swaddles and so on a colder night I put socks and a onsie on under her PJs.
I just try to keep it simple. It helps me to cope and BG is happy.
I'm due with my 3rd, and this list is so spot on. I never used a crib. Always used a bassinet and then a playpen. I just used regular muslin swaddle blankets because you can use them a variety of ways
I put socks on my newborn almost everyday
I did too, but only on her hands because the little mittens suck, she liked scratching her face and it was really cold here.
Me too!! My girl hated footie pjs! we always had socks on still this day 9 months later
Dayna you’re creep
@@mrsharadchandra And you're rude. Every mother's preferences are different. So take your nasty comments and keep them to yourself please. They have no place here.
Dayna I always put socks as well. She was always very cold, so it helped a lot. But no shoes.
I must say that every item you mentioned in the video, I cannot agree more. And I mean EVERY PRODUCT.
Oh man, if you know that it means you wasted as much money as me!!! 😅
😆 you’re so funny! Everything you talked about is totally true! I’m on my 3rd single baby and I’ve experienced all of those mistakes. I wish I had seen videos like this from the get go. The Montessori “program/ life style” makes so much sense, is basically all the tips you just talked about. Specially the bedding situation. Happy parenting!
Thanks for sharing. It's hard not to get caught up preparing for a newborn, knowing your really unsure in the first place, n being financially restricted. Esp buying cute lil outfits, I'm sure it's exciting and fun, but easily becomes wasted money if shopping for the cuteness of the experience as opposed to what's practically going to be needed. Again, great vid, thanks
Mom of 4 with 5 almost here..I love this video. Going to showers kills me because of all these things they get and dont need...You hit the nail on the head! So true about newborn clothes...My 1 1/2 year old is still in a pack and play and he loves it. At 2 they go in a toddler bed type thing. I literally have normal blankets for swaddling, a basket of essential clothes that I know I'll use, generic diapers / wipes, 2-4 good bottles as needed, bassinet for early on and pack and play for the next step. Thats it! GREAT VIDEO!! I hope new moms watch this and listen!!!!!!!!
I will be having twins in September, they will be having a crib of their own, the nursery is big enough to fit two and because their grandparents (mom and dads parents) are gifting them with their own. I have been looking at a twin pack and play to use in our room when they are new borns so they can be closer to us until they are old enough to sleep in their cribs across from our room. The cribs will be one that converts as they get older to make their grandparents money worth it lol.
I totally agree with you about the crib. I worked in daycare for a number of years and we transitioned infants from cribs to cots at 18 months to prep them for the toddler room. A crib never made sense to me because it's a lot of money invested in a short period of time. We used a pack n play. It was wonderful. We rolled it to whatever room we were in. So nice when you're at home recovering. Also, we could fold the whole thing up and bring it with us on overnight trips. Wherever we were our daughter's sleeping space was familiar. It really took the stress out of traveling with a baby.
I wasn't aware of the extent of rampant consumerism in the states. I mean, wipe warmers, jeeze louis you really have a product and a customer for everything there.
You have no freaking idea... as seen on TV shopping is a large thing here
For us it was a small luxury we could afford - our newborn absolutely H A T E S being cold ever in any way, and would scream during nighttime diaper changes. We felt bad for our neighbor, who sleeps right on the other side of our wall, so we got it. It’s been great for us.
I agree with everything except the....crib, Wipe warmer, and bottle warmer are great buys if used correctly!
1st - when purchasing a wipe warmer you have to also purchase the ever-fresh replacement pillows, these go at the bottom of your wipe warmer to keep your wipes moist... you soak with water and flip the pad once a week for 3 months then replace. I never had a dry wipe when doing this! Plus I was lucky that my baby did not care if the wipe were warm or cold but I thought it was a good purchase and worked with no issues.
2nd - my bottle warmer was $12, I followed the instructions using the measuring cup that came with the bottle warmer and I had warm breast milk in at least 30secs depending on how much milk I was warming, that’s a fast time if you’re feeding a hungry baby...definitely useful and we took it everywhere, even on vacation.
The crib was a good purchase, our baby didn’t go into it until she was 8 months and we always had a bumper installed, so no issues there...we did use a 4-n-1 pack n play until we were ready for her to use her crib....she didn’t start climbing out her crib until she was about 1.5 yo but we just turned it into a toddler bed after that, and we turned it again into a full-size bed now that she’s 3. We plan for her to have a full-size bed until she graduates high school. when it comes to cribs, always buy the 3 n 1, so you can get more use out of it...but I swear by my 4 n 1 pack n play, that’s awesome as well.
Crib... Individual choice. My first son was in a crib because our house was built in 1919 and had an open foundation and wood floors. Meaning, it was too cool at floor level for baby during fall, winter and spring. I agree with if on a budget, tight on space consider a pack and play. Just don't let baby sleep with you. Father rolled over onto Middle-Son and nearly smothered him. Gadgets in general I am not a fan of in the kitchen or baby's room. Wipe warmers are silly starting with wipes are expensive and environmental nightmares for the sake of convenience. Bottle warmers. I had a crock pot my sister borrowed and broke the glass lid. After killing a few bottles in a sauce pot, I filled the crock pot with water, turned on low and keep it on all day. Just put in a bottle whenever I needed it and only had to refill once a day.
I'm all for changes, improvements and aides when it comes to our lifestyles. But most of this stuff is just marketing ploys preying on people (mothers) who have this image of what motherhood is suppose to look like. It isn't glamorous but it isn't hair raising either. The smallest person in the house doesn't need all this crap.
This video is ON POINT!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Our Diaper Genie also broke immediately... it’s really a worthless piece of 💩! I immediately wished I would have just used a regular trash can with a lid. 🤦🏼♀️
Valentina M I use grocery store plastic bags and throw the bag out daily.
Fefe G Same! Cheap (free) just a lot more trips to the trash can, that’s all.
@@smdincognito462 Not very environmental tho...
Rosanna Tomiuk When you are on a strict budget being environmentally conscious isn’t your first thought.
With my kid second I also just used a pack n play with bassinet. We had a crib the turned into a toddler bed that i had and used for my oldest. And it just ended up being set up and very used because of everything you said. She would get her legs stuck and chew an all of the wood and then would climb out. Pack n play for the win. Never any issues with it. Best thing ever.
New subscriber! I am a new mom & let me tell you, you are SPOT ON on every single one of these products. When my daughter was 3 weeks old we moved to another state so we didn’t have a crib & still don’t 5 months later & people think I’m crazy. There’s a hundred places she can sleep safely. I’m currently going through all of these pointless things & I can’t even give them away🤦🏻♀️
Yes to so much of this. Due in july, second time mom here, Warm bottles aren't even necessary. I never once warmed a bottle with my son. He drank just fine. Wipe warmers do dry out wipes, never needed one even having a winter baby. And so long as your house is decently warm wipes are never "cold" anyway. I used a crib with my son. But this time i got a pack n play with a bassinet attachment. I don't even buy swaddles. I use recieving blankets similar to the hospital kind and swaddle them just like we do in the hospital. I plan on buying a 3 inch pack n play mattress for when we put her in the pack n play itself after she grows out of the bassinet attachment. Can't wait to have my girl :3
Chassity Caraballo good information, thanks! I’m a first time mom (due in July, as well) and trying hard to not over buy. I’d prefer to buy it later if needed rather than have unnecessary clutter around collecting dust. And I’d like to keep things as affordable as possible! Congrats on your second baby 😊
@@ohbrandyjune it can be tempting to overbuy these days. Even me. Especially now that im having my first girl. I want to buy all the unnecessary girly frilly things, canopy for the pack n play, like a thousand bows that she probably won't keep on her head 🤣 it's even easier to do so with your very first baby. I forgot to add, burp cloths are also useless. Because 1.) They are so small it's easy for babies to literally spit up all over you and miss the cloth entirely. 2.) By the time the baby is 2 months and docs reccomend to stop swaddling those recieving blankets become burp cloths. And are much more effective at the job given their size.
Yes! Bottle warmers are a total waste!! Those things need an off timer😆
Love my bottle Philip warmer, it has 4 setting. There is no way you can over heat the milk if you choose slow setting. Love our wipe warmer, add some water to prevent dry out. Halo sleep sack was the best purchase.
Wonderful advice, I’m pregnant with my 3rd child. Totally agree with everything your saying. My first two kids where so different I had different stuff for both. Ladies save your money and read lots of reviews.