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I experience all these feelings and it's honestly a living hell. It makes me hate myself.
I know the feeling and I hear you truly. You have to take care of yourself right now. Treat yourself to therapy, and meditate. It helps me. I feel the same all the time. Hang in there
Me too
I was that way with my husband of 32 years because I always caught him lying and cheating. It's an awful feeling
I really felt anxious in my previous relationship and thank you for letting me understand that. I really want to work on myself so that Im ready for someone new.
can u tell me how did u work on yourself 😭 i feel so helpless .
@@abcfy8559 I'm not too sure. First i gave myself time to heal. It will be hard after a fresh break up, but you have to get through that. When you feel ready to do something, you can start to ask yourself what your next big plans are. Like: What are your future ambitions? Are you happy with your current career? Who am i and what do i like? I focused on myself and what bad habits i might have to change. It's like a journey to get to know yourself better. On the way i found stuff that i really like. This can be anything from cooking to, knitting or going to the gym. In my case it was working out, feeling more healthy and more content with myself because of that. And when you feel happy with yourself, then you are ready for a new relationship, because you know that you can create your own happiness and aren't dependent on anyone. 😊 I dont know if this helps you but for me it does. Btw. Im still on the journey and working on myself day by day, and taking whatever time i need for it. After all this is a long goal to reach and that's totally ok.
@@abcfy8559 I was gonna ask the same question. It's so unfair to the other person that I'm like this
I’m having all these feelings. My girlfriend of one year has gotten a couple messages from an a guy she dated before. He asked her out to dinner, and she told him that she was seeing me. She told me I’ve nothing to worry about yet I feel turned off by this.
Im sorry you are dealing with that. I understand how that feels. Everything will work out, brother.
IN A RELATIONSHIP WTH A NARCISSIST ONE CAN ALWAYS FEEL ANXIETY STRESS , DRAINING , TIRED BY END IF THE DAY ....DS VIDEO WAS FOR HEALTHY NORMAL RELATIONSHIP
Facts! 👏🏻🙏
I have all these except for the last one. I am never controlling. I just observe and let them be.
So, now u did something to improve?
Me too, except the last one
How to not push people away? I am an anxious attachment and I really want to be more secure in my approach in relationships...
Therapy. I have ADHD and anxious attachment style. Whenever someone reciprocated romantic interests towards me, my brain was on napalm and my fear of abandonment skyrocketed and every single time I've ended up chasing them away. Just after 8 months of therapy I understand myself so much better and my life quality has improved enormously. Before I was a loner and avoided the opposite gender because I was so afraid of getting hurt. Now I can't wait to go on dates again. 😊
@Snowleopard_CH My ex make me more anxious, but I can't move on from the breakup because I believe we can work it out with him, but he seems that he was deeply heart after what happened. And now I can't forgive myself about what I did. Even if I have expressed it to him, he doesn't seem to understand my logic, he is so focus on his viewpoint, which I understand. But we can't work throught this situation and move on if we focus on the mistake and not the action after the mistake.
@Snowleopard_CH Do you have insta to talk there ?
I never had those before. But after narcissist relationship. I developed all those and never again trusted anyone. So i avoided being in a relationship
Same :(
This is true for any type of relationship- just all to different extents that match the relation
And just with that video I now understand my previous partner's behaviour...
This described a non abusive version of my ex... except that everything I did to create connection and true intimacy was always shut down or blocked by such a huge level of inauthenticity.
Turned out he was a diagnosed covert narcissist 🤷♀️
What about scared of being in a relationship
ptsd
I think that might be fearful dissmisive attachment
@@katieandrews602 therapist said the same thing haha
Fearful avoidant or fearful dissmisive attachment
this is exactly what I experienced when I got married. ..arranged marriage. fast forward 15 yrs later I moved out with my kids and living peaceful in my parent's house that was unoccupied for years.
The signs of a stable relationship wouldn't have me questioning them. Their behaviour has me questioning that. The first two points, I was all-in guilty. Then again, CPTSD, myself.
Can anyone give me advices on how to deal with all these right now!?
Okay question... can an anxious attachment style affect more than just romantic relationships? I purchased dr. Amir Lavine's and Rachel Heller's book "Attached" which takes about it in such a manner, but after doing a lot of self reflection, I'm wondering if this is something that could be more invasive in my life?
I have number 1 100% makes more clear. Thanks!
I just shouted Yes! in the first sentence.
Rather anxious of getting close
should people with anxious attachment styles be in relationships? or should you just stay to yourself?
It's difficult
I ask Tyler (a guy I’m talking to who I have feelings for) a lot if I’m controlling and he always says no which is a really big relief at the moment because I know I can be controlling from time to time and I try not to be so any time it feels like I’m being a bit controlling I always ask if I am
I feel stressed because he’s never around. He doesn’t seem like he wants to go anywhere but to his home. He never says he wants to spend time with me. That’s not a relationship and I have no problem voicing my needs but I have a problem with him if he doesn’t try because I am always trying. This makes me want to give up on our relationship. When I’m pouring my heart out, he becomes a sarcastic jackass.
Hmm, I might have type 3. But how do I know if I just like reassurance or if I have some form of anxiety relating to that?
Seriously i have all these. I am married. I want to do something about it
What about emotional abuse?
I wonder if psychologists put diagnosis
I have impulsive uncontrollable rituals, I suspect its ocd but I cant say that until i get diagnosed
The therapist i signed up for only treats anxiety and depression
I'm scrolling through your vids and realising stuff-
Like I know they love me but there always texting other people and I feel like she’s cheating or she just doesn’t love me anymore i hate feeling like this you know
What if i get to close and open up, then get hit because I wasn't like i was before.
ywp i wish i saw that video earlier so my partner wouldnt break up with me because of those behaivours i have
No I don’t have a relationship because I’m not a functional adult
What should I do if my friend is preshring me to date them and are threatening self harm
Definitely do not date them, slow down / stop contact if you have to.
Nobody ever mentions how beautiful you are
I guess this means I'm type 1, 2, and 3. 😞
You in England I have very good friends there! I told you to stay off my site! Not going to ask again! Gangstalker and stalking of Me!