My ex girlfriend ended up pushing me away because I was “too good for her”, cause I had my shit together and she didn’t. If you go on her social media, she’s always happy/her life is amazing. She’s a pretty girl and has thousands of followers but not a single one knows the behind the scenes. I love the girl but that alone showed me how fake social media is.
Connor.. what exactly do you love about this person.. I would make a list and then on the other side list what you don't love starting out with being 2 faced
This is why I’m afraid of relationships. People will leave you just like that despite you loving them more than anything. It always starts of amazing but how can live with the fact that the person you fcking lived the most just walks out. I’d be suicidal and depressed bruh.
@@gm836 tbh man it took a few months, I made some mistakes, I was pretty clingy but it’s also cause my life was going pretty shit and I had nothing to look forward to but her. Did that drive her away, maybe?. But after 2 months I kinda realized that yeah I actually was too good for her. Do I miss her of course but I’m glad it happened and needed it as a kick in the ass
Deleting Social Media was the best decision I have ever made! 🙏 Now I actually love what I create again without feeling the need to compare it to others.
Me too! I feel so happy & pure. Consuming so much of other people & media is TOXIC. None of that stuff acutually matters unless it's a source of income.
It takes too much energy, and generate too much fear to focus on what others have achieved. If you're reading this comment, I hope you could believe in yourself and try to not to focus too much on your insecurities.
Top things that helped me with comparison are: - Understanding that we all have such different lives and circumstances that comparison between you and another person can NEVER be a fair test. - You never truly know someone, so it's impossible for you to actually compare yourself to them. You're comparing your entire self to your outside perception of them. - Everyone's losing the comparison game. The people that make you feel like shit, have people that make them feel like shit. In that sense, we're all equals. - Even if comparison was completely valid, it still doesn't help you in any way at all. So there's no reason to do it. You have full permission to let go of those thoughts for this reason. - Comparison is a habitual way of thinking, and habits can be changed!
I deleted social media (still on TH-cam, obv) since August of last year. And I must say, I went from suicidal ideation with constant comparisons and negative thoughts to mental clarity and positivity. Watching videos like these and the like, has helped tremendously. Social media can be toxic for a vast majority, and if it’s got you down, just delete it and don’t look back. I’m so glad I did.
Delete those social media apps not all but the ones you find yourself constantly using. I removed ig, snapchat, Facebook, tiktok ect. The only app I use now is whatapp so i can communicate with my families. I'm bliss to say tho, that doing this has change my life for the better.. Social media affects your mental health negatively, It really does.
Recognizing your own self-worth exists outside of the opinions of others and striving only to compete with who you were yesterday, answering only to your own inner compass and looking at every imperfect venture as a 'process of elimination rather than a failure to acquire value
HEDONIC TREADMIL ever since i found out about this concept i noticed i've been significantly happier idk why im just less pessimistic, more understanding and accepting
@@ColeHastings yes sir thanks for the videos I found your channel in October after a breakup and man how you’ve inspired me thanks for the bottom of my heart
The best way to stop comparing yourself is to think of people who compare themselves to you and how social media is for clicks and clout a lot of people on instagram are not at all like how they present themselves
"I’ve watched a lot of self-development content, but there’s something truly unique about the way you deliver your message. It’s clear, motivating, and deeply insightful. Keep it up!"
Sometimes parents fault why we compare ourselves to others. After I discover and practice my mind not to compare myself to anyone. I'm more happy, and appreciate every small success i did. Comparing yourself to others is like a poison that slowly kills your personality, you become insecure, frustrated and depressed ... When somebody compares you to others just dont listen to them. I regret I didnt get this mindset during my college years those are depressive years of my life.
This reminds such much of that scene in Soul where Joe finally became a musician playing in a band he always wanted to be in but for odd he didn't feel content nor happy he was asking himself "So now what ?" Which is something I relate to so hard.
Have you ever wondered how back in the early 1900s on up until the late 1900s there were so many advances in science and technology, so many inventions. Perhaps men and women back then weren’t nearly as distracted by what their fellow man or woman was doing, but were zeroed in on the task at hand. It seems like the more we consume ourselves with comparison and what others are doing it only stalls us and further paralyzes us from achieving goals.
I think we all should pause for a moment & let what he said in the video sink in ourselves. Claps for you Cole 👏🏼👏🏼 Such absolute NECESSARY knowledge is not always readily shared & hence isn't readily available. Thanks to bring this to light. It was necessary for me to hear this. 💯💫
Much needed video! I've been struggling with comparing myself to others so much lately. These last 8-9 months were the worst for me and all these months you've been a help to grow during the things I was facing. Thankyou cole!❤️
Thank you for this video, this made me feel a lot better. This is why too much social media drains ur energy and puts you on a bad moon. I want to live my life not looking at other people lifes.
I always reflect on this. The fact that where you wanted to be is probably where you are now. Whenever I feel like Im lacking a lot of things I remind myself that
Skeedop, Thanks for another enlightening video. The comparison problem within society is something we definitely needed to solve. Thanks for giving us a solution to this conundrum within ourselves =) Positive Vibes to you, Cole =)
Sometimes TH-cam makes me insecure, I want to keep making videos but sometimes I fear that my content will never be as good as the creators I watch. I don’t have as high a budget and I don’t want to make my editing generic I really want to make videos on what I love but I noticed that only certain topics get attention on TH-cam. God bless the day I found Cole’s channel I swear you are a mind reader because I have been doubting my dreams lately because of comparison and boom you drop this vid. Keep grinding almost to 100k!
Absolutely love the idea of comparing yourself to who you were 2 years ago - hit me like a hammer (in a positive way!) when I realised how astonishing my progress has been during 2 years :o Thanks Cole for this and other excellent videos :)
COLE! What a critical subject to cover. And I think that you have talked about this before but not as in depth. This is something that I have struggled with and still do at times...... "good enough" Am I good enough? It's hard to see my growth at times it's kind of like when you plateau in the weightlifting world. But if you compare your body to 2 years ago and if I compare where I was at 2 years ago I see growth..... but if I compare myself to last week I feel stagnant sometimes
This is very true measuring yourself to other peoples crooked yard stick while you’ll always fall short I tried that for years until I started just doing for myself and improved much more
Thank you for this video I always think about this quote by William Falukner, "Don't bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself."
I like the part where you said to be happy in the present moment and to compare yourself to your past self to see how far you come. I’m trying to enjoy the present moment more. I even invited one of my coworkers to hangout. A year ago I would never have done that.
I realised that I was comparing my growth on TH-cam with yours like "wtf, this Guy makes amazing vídeos and took 3 YEARS to monetize!? I 'll take like 10 YEARS lmao" haha i have a comparison problem
@@Magoverso I will tell you one of my experience. TH-cam's algorithm is matching your views when you just published a video. So if you could continue to share your video for a week, TH-cam will share it to more people. It will take some works to share your videos, using social media, or other ways. But TH-cam will give you more explosoure if you do that.
@@slxsarc.entertainment7906 If your videos are getting 1000 views. At some point TH-cam will decide to promote your channel to more people. It's a strict hierarchy.
one word of warning: it's very likely that you will have setbacks in life (sometimes catastrophic) so don't think every future year of your life is guaranteed to be better than the previous one. How to overcome catastrophe? Now that's a good question
Liked the video the second I clicked on it. Comparing ourselves with others happens automatically in our heads we don't even realize how that kills our mental health Btw keep up with the amazing videos Cole, I can really see that your obsessed with this yt stuff you really put a lot of effort into filming and editing and it really shows in the small details that makes the channel unique 💪
Thank you very much, your videos have changed my perspective in my life ,my goals ,my thinking in a better way🤗 just want to say I appreciate your videos a lot SKIDOP
Sometimes we compare ourselves to people on chapter 20 when we are on chapter 1. We need to realise that the people we compare ourselves with were where we are at today.
I’ve been doing same thing over and over again. Not where i want to be in life. But deff not where I use to be. Seeing others my age doing the same thing winning. Getting noticed. Growing quick. Nothing for me. I compare so easily. Even with family… I never wanna just settle for 9-5 mon-Friday job. Wanna create content. The potential is there just always comparing my life to others even tho I’m not them and their not me…🤦🏽♂️
We all have this mindset...I too had. I was lowkey jealous of my friend's affluence and lost a lot money while trying to get more money in a scam. I have become more wise now..
No one is gonna take down anything what they achieve to the grave with them. The only thing they will take is a suit (or dress) and some flowers, so stop comparison and focus babes
Thank you for the amazing content. I was thinking about it today and you just helped me to visualize what's the real problem here and what I have to change in my perspectives. ☺️
I keep subconsciously competing and get insecured when someone i compare myself to gets ahead. I know this is toxic, i want to learn to be at peace with myself regardless of outside sources
How can you stop comparing when we do this naturally as humans. Even without social media we had the term keeping up with the “Jones’s”. It seems we have been doing this for a long time. But it does diminish your own achievements and your own wins.
the most important lesson was having skeedop mindset
Without a doubt!
whats that? :O
@@rossdurden exactly!
No seriously. What's skeedop mindset?
Comparison has made me want to quit following my dreams/goals so many times, even to this day lol
Eat your cereal
@@ColeHastings this made my day 🥣
@@TheTalentlessWriter love you dog
Noooo eat a protein and fat heavy breakfast. So you blood sogar is more stable over the day.😬
Some of life's best lessons are learned at the worst times.
I would argue pretty much all of life's best lessons
Redirect your attention
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@@ColeHastings ☕☕☘️
👏🏽 BIG facts
This makes me hope!
My ex girlfriend ended up pushing me away because I was “too good for her”, cause I had my shit together and she didn’t. If you go on her social media, she’s always happy/her life is amazing. She’s a pretty girl and has thousands of followers but not a single one knows the behind the scenes. I love the girl but that alone showed me how fake social media is.
"How fake social really is"
Ikr..😐mann didnt realize that until I got a little older
Fucked up shit man
Connor.. what exactly do you love about this person.. I would make a list and then on the other side list what you don't love starting out with being 2 faced
This is why I’m afraid of relationships. People will leave you just like that despite you loving them more than anything. It always starts of amazing but how can live with the fact that the person you fcking lived the most just walks out. I’d be suicidal and depressed bruh.
@@gm836 tbh man it took a few months, I made some mistakes, I was pretty clingy but it’s also cause my life was going pretty shit and I had nothing to look forward to but her. Did that drive her away, maybe?. But after 2 months I kinda realized that yeah I actually was too good for her. Do I miss her of course but I’m glad it happened and needed it as a kick in the ass
Deleting Social Media was the best decision I have ever made! 🙏 Now I actually love what I create again without feeling the need to compare it to others.
Beautiful.
Me too! I feel so happy & pure. Consuming so much of other people & media is TOXIC. None of that stuff acutually matters unless it's a source of income.
@@sportyhuntley8914 Yes! Yes! The most important part is about how you feel. I actually am so inspired about this I even made a video about it haha.
@@SFlaidlaw101 your chanel looks good too.
@@samreplete1842 Thank you so much :)
They also haven't been through your trauma's, made your choices, had your parents. So many factors. Just live your life!
Big facts
Can’t live my life when it’s garbage lmao
*”Comparison is the thief of joy”* - Theodore Roosevelt
It takes too much energy, and generate too much fear to focus on what others have achieved.
If you're reading this comment, I hope you could believe in yourself and try to not to focus too much on your insecurities.
I believe in myself and ignote pretty much the insecurities! :D
@@Kalaxian80animations I'm glad (｡•ᴗ-)_
Lol too late
Comparison is one of the biggest problems of our society and the reason why so many people are depressed
The reason of that is because we are being mind condition in our environment circle its like matrix if you cant escape you will suffer.
The best self-improvment channel.
Thank you
Top things that helped me with comparison are:
- Understanding that we all have such different lives and circumstances that comparison between you and another person can NEVER be a fair test.
- You never truly know someone, so it's impossible for you to actually compare yourself to them. You're comparing your entire self to your outside perception of them.
- Everyone's losing the comparison game. The people that make you feel like shit, have people that make them feel like shit. In that sense, we're all equals.
- Even if comparison was completely valid, it still doesn't help you in any way at all. So there's no reason to do it. You have full permission to let go of those thoughts for this reason.
- Comparison is a habitual way of thinking, and habits can be changed!
love this, thank you.
War
@@audrey5094 Estes sss😅sy😅
I deleted social media (still on TH-cam, obv) since August of last year. And I must say, I went from suicidal ideation with constant comparisons and negative thoughts to mental clarity and positivity. Watching videos like these and the like, has helped tremendously. Social media can be toxic for a vast majority, and if it’s got you down, just delete it and don’t look back. I’m so glad I did.
Staying at home in lockdown and constantly checking social media made me start to hate myself and my achievements. Hopefully i will get out of it.
same boat brother
same
Delete those social media apps not all but the ones you find yourself constantly using. I removed ig, snapchat, Facebook, tiktok ect. The only app I use now is whatapp so i can communicate with my families. I'm bliss to say tho, that doing this has change my life for the better.. Social media affects your mental health negatively, It really does.
It's all a facade, but even still it's hard not to compare. I would suggest deleting those apps or limiting your usage somehow
@@slxsarc.entertainment7906 Thanks for the advice, i should try it .
I find it sad that how our generation is suffering so much from mental problems including my self but I’m glad I found you’re channel
Recognizing your own self-worth exists outside of the opinions of others and striving only to compete with who you were yesterday, answering only to your own inner compass and looking at every imperfect venture as a 'process of elimination rather than a failure to acquire value
For the few people reading this, wishing peace and prosperity on you all 🥷🏾⛩
Good job being first
Thank you brother (｡•ᴗ-)_
Right back at you!
Right back at you!
HEDONIC TREADMIL ever since i found out about this concept i noticed i've been significantly happier idk why im just less pessimistic, more understanding and accepting
I was literally typing Too find ur channel, sitting on the bike at the gym best video to watch
Kill that workout 💪
@@ColeHastings yes sir thanks for the videos I found your channel in October after a breakup and man how you’ve inspired me thanks for the bottom of my heart
Real shit 😂
The best way to stop comparing yourself is to think of people who compare themselves to you and how social media is for clicks and clout a lot of people on instagram are not at all like how they present themselves
I love how transparent and vulnerable you are
"I’ve watched a lot of self-development content, but there’s something truly unique about the way you deliver your message. It’s clear, motivating, and deeply insightful. Keep it up!"
Sometimes parents fault why we compare ourselves to others. After I discover and practice my mind not to compare myself to anyone. I'm more happy, and appreciate every small success i did. Comparing yourself to others is like a poison that slowly kills your personality, you become insecure, frustrated and depressed ... When somebody compares you to others just dont listen to them. I regret I didnt get this mindset during my college years those are depressive years of my life.
This reminds such much of that scene in Soul where Joe finally became a musician playing in a band he always wanted to be in but for odd he didn't feel content nor happy he was asking himself "So now what ?" Which is something I relate to so hard.
Have you ever wondered how back in the early 1900s on up until the late 1900s there were so many advances in science and technology, so many inventions. Perhaps men and women back then weren’t nearly as distracted by what their fellow man or woman was doing, but were zeroed in on the task at hand. It seems like the more we consume ourselves with comparison and what others are doing it only stalls us and further paralyzes us from achieving goals.
I think we all should pause for a moment & let what he said in the video sink in ourselves.
Claps for you Cole 👏🏼👏🏼
Such absolute NECESSARY knowledge is not always readily shared & hence isn't readily available.
Thanks to bring this to light. It was necessary for me to hear this.
💯💫
I don't compare myself to others so much because I accepted that I am different and everyone is unique 👍👍👍👍
I really appreciate that you addressed the concept of skeedop.
I do what I can
*You have to fight through the worst days of your life to get to the best days of your life.*
*I hope you never ever give up. 💯*
Definitely one of my favorites, its always a mindset shift when i watch one of your videos, keep it up man
Thanks man!
I'm thankful and grateful for finding this channel cause it really guided me to be a better version of myself 😊😊
Hey I've been here since 20k! I'm so happy too see you almost at 100k! Hope you're doing well dude, this was a very insightful video :)
Much needed video! I've been struggling with comparing myself to others so much lately. These last 8-9 months were the worst for me and all these months you've been a help to grow during the things I was facing. Thankyou cole!❤️
Thank you for this video, this made me feel a lot better. This is why too much social media drains ur energy and puts you on a bad moon. I want to live my life not looking at other people lifes.
Wish I could delete social media, but as a photographer, I can’t. Unfortunately, need it to get business….
Dude you are like 8 years younger than me but i learn a lot with your videos. Thanks man. Keepnthe good working.
I swear I think God sends me a Cole hastings video whenever I'm struggling. Thank you brother I appreciate you so much
I always reflect on this. The fact that where you wanted to be is probably where you are now. Whenever I feel like Im lacking a lot of things I remind myself that
Thank you Cole, for showing yourself just the way we everybody are, as vulnerable human beings.....
Skeedop, Thanks for another enlightening video. The comparison problem within society is something we definitely needed to solve. Thanks for giving us a solution to this conundrum within ourselves =) Positive Vibes to you, Cole =)
Great video Cole! Plus, love your editing!
Sometimes TH-cam makes me insecure, I want to keep making videos but sometimes I fear that my content will never be as good as the creators I watch. I don’t have as high a budget and I don’t want to make my editing generic I really want to make videos on what I love but I noticed that only certain topics get attention on TH-cam. God bless the day I found Cole’s channel I swear you are a mind reader because I have been doubting my dreams lately because of comparison and boom you drop this vid. Keep grinding almost to 100k!
Absolutely love the idea of comparing yourself to who you were 2 years ago - hit me like a hammer (in a positive way!) when I realised how astonishing my progress has been during 2 years :o Thanks Cole for this and other excellent videos :)
BRO I JUST WANNA THANK YOU,U TEACH ME A LOT OF GREAT STUFF THAT NOBODY ELSE TEACHES AND U ALWAYS UPLOAD IN THE TIME OF NEED,NOTHING BUT LOVE FOR U BRO
COLE!
What a critical subject to cover. And I think that you have talked about this before but not as in depth. This is something that I have struggled with and still do at times...... "good enough"
Am I good enough?
It's hard to see my growth at times it's kind of like when you plateau in the weightlifting world. But if you compare your body to 2 years ago and if I compare where I was at 2 years ago I see growth..... but if I compare myself to last week I feel stagnant sometimes
Skeedop has been around for a really long time. I'm surprised people haven't heard of it before. It's been life changing for me personally.
Skeedop changes everything.
I'm glad I found your channel.Someone my age Talking about emotions😅💥💯I think there is a lot of value here
Thanks for the help man i watch your videos once in a while you are a really cool guy
Instead of comparing, you should strive to be the best you, you can be, then you know that you have done ur best.
This is very true measuring yourself to other peoples crooked yard stick while you’ll always fall short I tried that for years until I started just doing for myself and improved much more
Thank you for this video I always think about this quote by William Falukner, "Don't bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself."
dude since that skeedop thing ive never been the same person like thank you very much bro youve changed my life
No problem brother ❤
I like the part where you said to be happy in the present moment and to compare yourself to your past self to see how far you come. I’m trying to enjoy the present moment more. I even invited one of my coworkers to hangout. A year ago I would never have done that.
The last part of the message is the realest part I heard
Skeedop, you have really helped me through things, I am trying to get caught up on all your videos bro!
I think skeedop(if I'm spelling it correctly) is the true method to stop over-comparing yourself
It is, can't believe someone figured this out!
I realised that I was comparing my growth on TH-cam with yours like "wtf, this Guy makes amazing vídeos and took 3 YEARS to monetize!? I 'll take like 10 YEARS lmao" haha i have a comparison problem
You will build your audience if you just keep doing it. ⸜₍๑•⌔•๑ ₎⸝
@@TheLibraryOfEmotions true! 👊👊
@@Magoverso I will tell you one of my experience. TH-cam's algorithm is matching your views when you just published a video.
So if you could continue to share your video for a week, TH-cam will share it to more people.
It will take some works to share your videos, using social media, or other ways. But TH-cam will give you more explosoure if you do that.
@@TheLibraryOfEmotions Haha thank you imma cop that info
@@slxsarc.entertainment7906 If your videos are getting 1000 views. At some point TH-cam will decide to promote your channel to more people.
It's a strict hierarchy.
Dude you're almost 100k congrats my guy, you deserved it :))
It's crazy how similar my thoughts are to yours! Thanks for your videos. They are helping from time to time!
Skidop. Skeedop. Skeadop.
Skidoosh🐼 Had to add that as Po is also a big inspiration to me.
Amen, brother! I really needed to hear this today. Thank you and keep doing a great job raising awareness of the realities of life.
I needed this. Thank you.
You explained my favorite skeedop of all time!!
Love to hear it.
Skidap?? hauhua I only catch 80 to 90% of the words, but 100% of the message. You are great, man! Greetings from Brazil!
Thanks bro I needed this
SKEEDOP! Love your videos!
4:30 There’s always something from his videos that resonates with me :O love this
one word of warning: it's very likely that you will have setbacks in life (sometimes catastrophic) so don't think every future year of your life is guaranteed to be better than the previous one. How to overcome catastrophe? Now that's a good question
Liked the video the second I clicked on it. Comparing ourselves with others happens automatically in our heads we don't even realize how that kills our mental health
Btw keep up with the amazing videos Cole, I can really see that your obsessed with this yt stuff you really put a lot of effort into filming and editing and it really shows in the small details that makes the channel unique 💪
Thank you, Skeedop
Thank you very much, your videos have changed my perspective in my life ,my goals ,my thinking in a better way🤗 just want to say I appreciate your videos a lot SKIDOP
Yo, that's so true. I've experienced that myself and got depressed a few times. That video is just the thing I needed today, thanks. Skeedop!
Cheers, skeedop!
That part about skeedop really resonated with me on a whole different level. Like fr I almost started tearing up 😢
So glad I found you!! AWESOME channel! 💯
Sometimes we compare ourselves to people on chapter 20 when we are on chapter 1. We need to realise that the people we compare ourselves with were where we are at today.
Sometimes people are in chapter 3, but reading a different book. You have the career, they have family etc.
I’ve been doing same thing over and over again. Not where i want to be in life. But deff not where I use to be. Seeing others my age doing the same thing winning. Getting noticed. Growing quick. Nothing for me. I compare so easily. Even with family…
I never wanna just settle for 9-5 mon-Friday job. Wanna create content. The potential is there just always comparing my life to others even tho I’m not them and their not me…🤦🏽♂️
We all have this mindset...I too had. I was lowkey jealous of my friend's affluence and lost a lot money while trying to get more money in a scam. I have become more wise now..
I honestly needed this video, this is something I am currently struggling with. Thank you Cole!
What he said skeedop, I literally felt like crying
Me and you both
This is gold brother, love watching your videos
No one is gonna take down anything what they achieve to the grave with them. The only thing they will take is a suit (or dress) and some flowers, so stop comparison and focus babes
Skeedop, man! Yes! So glad you've found it, it still isn't as popular as it should be. The world really needs more of it.
So true
Love you man ❤ glad i found your channel
Thank you for the amazing content. I was thinking about it today and you just helped me to visualize what's the real problem here and what I have to change in my perspectives. ☺️
The part about skeedop was really eye opening.
Thank you for this
You need to appreciate what you have.
Thanks for sharing! 👍🏼
wow so true man amazing channel subbed!!
You’re an inspiration to all
You become my favorite youtuber 😊
Only compare yourself to who you was yesterday 🧘🏿♂️
I needed this so much thanks 😪
❤
That skeedop lesson changed my life
What a great inspiration!
you deserve 1 million subscriber
Thank you!
This dude is so underrated
I keep subconsciously competing and get insecured when someone i compare myself to gets ahead. I know this is toxic, i want to learn to be at peace with myself regardless of outside sources
You should be proud of yourself all of you
How can you stop comparing when we do this naturally as humans. Even without social media we had the term keeping up with the “Jones’s”. It seems we have been doing this for a long time. But it does diminish your own achievements and your own wins.
Skeedot lol love your content brother love seeing you grow .. stay blessed !