Brittney Ihrig I promise you as long as you seriously educate the crap out of yourself and expose yourself to everything and just prepare it is not bad! I had my son in October with about a 9-10 hr labor and 30 minutes pushing
Yeah I always thought you wished on a star and a baby would come in your stomach and you could choose what it looked like 😂 I never really thought about how the baby would get out of your stomach
Those were the exact things I was scared of and it went fine... when you're in the moment everything feels like nothing.. I don't know how else to describe it. But I'm pregnant again now and scared again lol but I know I'll be fine
Honestly, by the time you’re ready for the catheter and epidural, you won’t feel it - your contractions will be the only thing you’ll feel. The stitches if you have an epidural you also won’t feel happening it’s only after and they give you a peri bottle to help with pain.
Yes, it’s a period cramp x50. Because period cramps are literally your uterus contracting, exactly what it does during labor. The real difference is in what your uterus is trying to expel, during periods its just trying to expel that thin endometrial lining that comes out as blood but during labor it’s trying to expel a small human 😂
Exactly because my periods are so bad, I become catatonic if I don't have a pain reliever. Can't move my limbs and can't speak for like two hours. Childbirth seems like.... oof, I might actually die lol :/
Or just realize that WHEN YOU ARE READY the pain is just a fraction of your life... 2 pregnancies, yes it was bad.. I don't regret anything. No epidurals for either. No C-sections... natural births..
Of course they are. Physical or mental toughness can come from our experience,time and practice. As women face a lot of societal pressure and discrimination men also face a lot of societal pressure,toxic masculinity,isolation and other hindrance as such which can hurt them and force them to try to be as resilient as possible in the process(not always the case just giving an example)That being said, menstruation,pregnancy and after pregnancy is quite the tough journey for a woman specially cause it's physically painful and mentally exhausting. Of course men also play a major role into this as well. All thru my childbirth I was blessed to have my respective other really help me and care for me so I don't have to go thru it all alone like a lot of single mommies do out there you know and I really appreciate that. I also try to play an active role into my husbands mental and physical health.Men and women both should play active roles into each others lives u kno.That's what helps us grow and make each other's life a lot less difficult. I hope I made sense I was trying to be as accurate as possible.
Never seen a woman building skyscrapers never seen women Parkour never seen a woman diving out plane without a parachute never seen a woman deadlift 500kg never seen a woman do physically demanding job never seen a woman who go through bootcamp as same as men never seen a woman hold breath longer than a man never seen a woman work in oil rig well i can go on
The uterus takes about 6 weeks to go back to it's normal size after delivery of a full term (38-42 week) baby. So, don't feel bad about having a bump for a while after having a baby. Love, a nurse. :)
Firstly, you shouldn't generalize. Secondly, why should they our society has only become so advanced because of specialization. Not everyone can know everything. Furthermore, would it really make a difference if they did? Lastly, in our day and age pregnancy is a choice there are enough options to not have a baby.
Yes. My thoughts exactly. These children are on this earth already..without someone who loves them. Who am i to bring another human being into this world when there are so many without a home and parents. Breaks my heart really
Right? I personally don't think I'll ever be having a spouse for life or have a child with one. Even before this video, adoption is my most preferred method to make a family. Also, overpopulation so....
If you’re pregnant or planning to be, please don’t scare yourself with listening to horror stories. Giving birth is a natural thing, humans and animals have done so since the beginning of life. The things that happened to others might not happen to you, don’t let stories scare you. As a pregnant woman, protect yourself and your mental health by not listening to all the horror stories. It’s very easy to get sucked into the negatives. Take care of yourself, you are on an amazing journey, creating life. Stay healthy beautiful💖
Yes, any woman or girl wanting to get pregnant 🤰 should watch videos like these ones and not ones that sound like horror stories. These ones sound like documentaries but interesting ones that keep you hooked and wanting to see through the end
Yeah you're right to m say that but I think it's important for women to know the risks. If my epidural is not gonna work or that I might fall into a lot of possibilities I'd like to be mentally prepared beforehand....but yes it's doesn't get downright homicidal for all women so it's important to keep that in mind. And I wish you well for your pregnancy ♡
@@nataliawashington872 I must say ur a unique person....I personally wouldn't find such videos interesting since I am pregnant and any of these things might happen to me but I hope I have the strength to endure whatever that comes and have the healthiest birth possible for me and my baby.
Many say: The more kids you have, the easier it is to get pregnant (and) the labor will be easier. The theory is that giving birth is like most physical activities. During the first time, your body is stressed out, confused, and learning what to do. As you do the activity more, your body is like "Oh, I kinda understand now"
lauren if this video is enough to turn someone from wanting to not wanting kids they clearly weren’t that invested in having kids anyway. In comparison to what I’ve had other women tell me about birth, this video is pretty tame. I grew up with tonnes of mums telling me that birth is ‘the single most painful thing I’ll ever go through’ and I’ll ‘feel like I’m dying’, yet that didn’t make me not want kids. In fact, I’m currently pregnant with my second and due to have him in 3 days. The pain/recovery process is worth it if you want kids.
Cool cool Lol yes! Not like actual jello of course but the baby just kind of awkwardly falls out after the head comes out. As soon as the head is out you stop pushing. Everything else comes out on its own. It’s a really strange, but cool experience. And even though it all sounds terrifying it really isn’t that bad, and you forget about all the bad stuff after a while. As long as mom and baby are healthy, it’s a success 👌
@@JD-kp6pt My parents had to try so hard to have a child and then they got me, a big pile of depression who doesn't care about life. Oh and we never got along.
A lot of women who have had major period cramps usually say labor was a lil easier that the ones who didn’t . They said there bad cramps kinda prepared them for it so who knows
I wish women were taught pain management for labor. Just gave birth to my first son- all natural and no meds. Contractions were easy to deal with because I knew breathing techniques and positioning that helped a ton. Pushing was more painful but I just focused in on what my body was telling me to do and gave birth to my baby boy ❤ believe in your body, ladies!
totally agree! they always say labor pain is so painful so I expected way worse kind of pain but having bad dysmennorhea prior the labor pain is same as my dysmennorhea pain just coming in 2-3 min waves studies different breathing techniques in youtube but the one worked for me is inhaling through nose for 4 seconds and slowly exhaling through mouth for 8 second really helped manage the pain and helped me calmed down for me being panicky and screaming just intensifies the pain concentrating on my breathing when contractions comes in waves help me be calm i also walk or in a balance ball just lying down I can feel the pain more Woman are born to do this 💪 i feel so empowered I conquered my fear of delivering my child
The thing that sounds the scariest for me is the tearing. I was with my sis when she was in labor and I think I'll be OK but the thought tearing just terrifies me.
You know, I barely felt the actual tearing when it happened, and I was using no pain relief. Its like if you had an elephant standing on your butt for the last 2 hours. If you got a 1st or second degree tear on the last push, you'd just be so relived it was over. Now afterwards is another story, however. 😆 lots of ice, please.
Susie Unger From comparing my labor and delivery to that of friends, it’s pretty common to tear and it’s not so bad really. I had a second degree tear but the epidural meant I didn’t feel it nor the stitching and nothing feels different down there. Kegel exercises are suggested to help with elasticity and to prevent bad tearing. But also, try not to think about it 🙃 Think positive thoughts about your labor and delivery! All the best
Honestly you really don't feel the tear. I didn't believe it when they said you forget the pain when you're holding you child, but you really do. It's so easy to forget you just gave birth. Yeah the pain is there, don't get me wrong. But you just push through it for that baby. I had 12 stitches myself.
The contractions hurt so bad that you don't feel it. Once the shoulders are through it's smooth sailing. I felt like a friggin superhero after mine. The nurses were trying to get me in a wheelchair and I was like, "my legs still work. I could run a marathon right now!!"
@@ebonyshadow5182 yes! Everything before the shoulders was painful but after the shoulders to me was easy. I'm glad I wasn't the only one who felt like that lol
MultySusoX •Tae Tae• 🎵 Come on up, bring the pain, on yeah. Can't hold me down 'cuz you know I'm a fighter🎵 But seriously, I’m on the same page as you lol. A child free life is better than a life with children.
I am not man bashing by any means, both genders have their own skeletal structures etc that give them different strengths and weaknesses. Women are made for childbirth and can handle that type of pain is all I mean. It is insulting as a women when people dont think it is as excruciating of pain that it is to bring others into the world. Credit where credit is due
"Did they stitch me tighter?" Honey, if you had a male Dr. there is a chance he might have. Not a large chance these days, but still a chance. It's called "the husband stitch" and it's disturbing.
@@puff4664 it does still. Do some google searches and you'll find testimonies of women, nurses, and OBGYN's who have encountered women here in the US who have had this done to them. It's against practice, but ultimately they will practice as they want.
Fun Pregnancy Story: When my mom went into labor the doctor wouldn’t give her the epidural because she was so close to having the baby, when he told her that she went full exorcist and grabbed the doctor and told him she is getting the epidural. Needless to say she got what she wanted.
I would have done the same trust me. I don’t think you can tell a pregnant woman she’s not gonna get the epidural because if you do she will flip out or at least I would😂
@@kamranhussain7221 idek what "epidural" is, but she went against the doctors advice, just to save herself from some pain. This woman in particular is definitely a wussy.
My pregnancy was totally fine, off course your body changes but if you go with the flow and don’t resist it, then all is fine. You will off course often require rest and many things you used to do will have to be put on hold, but it’s for a good reason! Delivering a baby wasn’t that dramatic in the end. I went roughly 10h without meds and I had complications, so it’s been probably more painful according to the midwives than it would have been if the baby was positioned correctly. But I definitely would do it all over again. We talk only about some hours of your life and if you want, you can get an epidural, which is what I chose after 10h of contractions every 2-3 minutes. It’s intense but it’s definitely doable. The week after birthing is off course very special and you are vulnerable. Things must heal and you are also emotionally very raw. My husband and I were crying all the time because we were so touched by her arrival. Now at 3 months she sleeps already in her own room and is a happy, calm and easy going baby. It really does not at all feel like what people described to me before I had my own daughter. People used to scare me of how tired and exhausted I would be.. well, no, it’s not as tiring as people say if you get some help during the night and have a partner who is supportive. Off course it also depends on the child, but I always say: happy parents, happy baby
"There's milk coming out of your breasts going everywhere, and you have to somehow put it in your child's mouth" that's the funniest thing I've ever heard in my entire LIFE
My mum was 18 when she gave birth to me, they did not even have the option for epidural, all they gave her was laughing gas for the pain, they also had to tear her vagina open coz I got stuck coming out. She is one of the strongest people I know!
Fun fact ladies: Its more natural to give birth squatting, not lying down with feet in the stirrups. Gravity helps birth the baby, pain is lesser and labor is faster. But you can't get an epidural because you *can't stand*. Most underdeveloped countries still give birth like this, which is how people can tolerate having 12 kids without painkillers.
They lied to me all during my birthing classes, telling me I could choose to give birth in whatever position I felt comfortable. When it came time to push, the nurses forced me on my back, even though I told them I was not comfortable that way. That's when the baby's heart rate spiked, and they still chose to force me to stay in that position. It's all about the doctor's comfort in Western medicine, never the patient.
@@spriggy4382 Ugh. That is terrible!! That is one of the reasons we chose a birthing center for our pregnancies (we're lucky enough to have several in our area). I didn't want to have to deal with having to fire my nurses or doctors (which you can do!) or have meds forced on me (I react badly to a lot of medications). A birthing center and CNMs (certified nurse midwives or midwives, depending on the place) follows your wishes as much as they can within reason. I planned two water births but the first I didn't get to do because baby had already pooped in the womb and could have aspirated on the poop if we'd done a water birth. For my second they had the tub filled for me, but I decided I just felt more comfortable strength-wise laying on the bed (on my side for part of it and then on my back with one badass midwife letting me pull myself up with her extended arm). I knew I might be too weak to hold myself up in the tub. Anyway, I wish everyone knew all the choices available to them, even if it's just to tell a nurse or doctor that you want to squat or lay on your side or whatever!
@@NyanHomeschoolGirl17 Not a juvenile question at all! A baby's head can take a bit to push out and at that point, a midwife or doctor already has their hands there waiting or on the baby. With both of my births, one of my midwives gently had their hands pressing against my perineum (the area between the vagina and anus) and also squirting olive oil both to help prevent tearing, so her hands were right there. I was laying down but it's be the same with a woman who was standing or squatting.
Amy Georgopoulos Wow thank you for your reply! I still find birth terrifying but my mom was 21 years older than I am when she had me so maybe I'll get used to the idea eventually. And congratulations on your babas!
Never again disrespect females!! My god all of this is sooo hard and you go through so much pain and you deliver a human being to this world. Nothing but respect for all mums!!
J D Everything is invented or created without asking beforehand. Humans undergo the same process of all material manifestations. Just because you didn’t ask to be here doesn’t mean you don’t belong. Human existence and the creation of such is as moral and respectable as the creation of all other objects in the universe. It’s a beautiful process.
Or... what to expect when expecting? Better to be prepared than to go in unknowing. While not the same, I watched "horror videos" of all the bad things that could go wrong with my elbow and knee surgeries before my surgeries and then I read the paperwork I had that went with them. It was actually helpful cause I knew why my joints were numb/heavy and why I couldn't move my fingers or toes and then I learned of abnormal symptoms so I could get help before it was too late.
I’ve had four and only got an epidural with the first. It’s not as bad as some people say it is. The contractions are like really bad period cramps and then they’re super super intense for the very last few minutes.
Priscilla Martinez congrats! I’ve been doing a lot of reading and making sure I know all my options. That helps a lot! I’m due in 2 weeks and feel way more prepared and not so scared now.
If it’s any comfort to anyone, I think these stories would have scared me to death if this is all I had to go off of before I had kids. I’ve had 3 natural births (1 at a birth center, 2 at home with midwives), pregnant with my 4th, and though it does get painful, the amount of hormones that kick in towards the end when you hold your baby is amazing! Our bodies were made for this! Birth is a beautiful and natural process. I just don’t want any first time mommas to get discouraged or anything by hearing the horror stories. It’s a very empowering experience. You can do it! ❤️
Oh wow Thank you for this...I'm due end of July and I'm watching this super scared of what's about to come cos my tolerance to pain is soo low..your words have really encouraged me that everything will be ok..God bless your heart 🙏🏼❤🥺
@@thandekamasango3095 Being a first time mom is very scary. You're going into uncharted territory. It's usually the unknown that scares us, no matter what the situation is. You'll do fine. Just try to stay optimistic. Be as prepared as you can. I know you can't account for everything, but the more you can prepare for the better. If you want to deliver in a hospital, go there before you go into labor and get to know the labor ward. My hospital let me go tour their ward and fill out forms ahead of time. I'm so glad I did. I can't imagine filling them all out when I went into labor. If you haven't already, make a birth plan and share it with your doctor/midwife. Don't just assume they know. The actual delivery might not go exactly as you want it, but at least there will be something to go off of. One thing that nobody told me that I wish someone did, was that it's OK to be scared. Giving birth is scary and hard work, but it'll be OK. All kinds of emotions and feelings go through you the closer you get to your due date and every one is OK to have. You said you're due the end of July. You're almost there. You'll be fine. Pretty soon, you'll have your baby and this experience wouldn't be unknown anymore. That takes most of the scary or of it, I promise you that. I recommend getting the Epidural. That did help a lot. I fully believe I got to bond better with my baby because I didn't have the pain associated with my baby. Maybe that's just me though, but it did take away the pain. That's for sure. I'm terrified of needles but I'll never regret that one. I didn't see it or feel it. And it didn't have any effect on my baby. I had an older women kind of judge me for getting one saying I drugged the baby. But it doesn't. Sorry it's a long post. Pregnant moms, especially first time moms have a special place in my heart. Probably because I remember being one. Like I said, you'll be just fine. Sending good thoughts your way. Good luck. 👍
@@shota7483 Bless your heart..thank you for taking your time to write this..I'm grateful for every advice I get from women who've already been through it..I know they say every experience is different but just knowing that no matter what it's possible that makes it a little less scary.Love and light to you♥️
@@desireeesther5449 unfortunately my blood pressure was high a few weeks before my due date..I was 38 weeks..doctors decided to induce me..in the end I ended up having to go for an emergency C-section cos nothing was working..I wasn't dilating..all in all as much as it was nothing like I expected,meeting my son made it all worth it.💙 so whatever happens...just pray for a healthy baby and everything will be ok..sending you all the love♥️
Actually women who have painful periods have better labors usually. It’s kind of like your periods are training you for labor so tge worse they are, the better for labor and birth
@@mikilynn471 my mom had a hard time giving birth and she had terrible cramps which would make her faint for days so I think I'll stay single for good...
Me: *doesn't want biological kids because of how painful childbirth is* Me, after watching this video: *will do almost anything to avoid having children*
They need to have someone who did an all natural birth, no epidural what so ever. Also a home birth perspective would have been nice for people considering. And people who had midwives / doulas present
I just had one a few weeks ago no epidural....they even messed up my IV. It was a much better experience than giving birth to my first child, however, my first child I wasnt progressing so i was pumped with pitocin and these women arent lying it makes the labor excruciating which lead to me getting an epidural because i wasnt progressing and the epidural helped me progress. My first pregnancy my water broke and I wasnt having strong contractions, the second pregnancy my water never broke on it's own and my contractions only lasted 30-45 seconds a piece and about a minute apart for the entire duration of my labor. Moral of the story....every labor is different for each woman and with each child, make a birthing plan if you want but dont count on it going as planned and dont assume you'll know you're in labor....I was quite unsure that I was in labor both times.
They should also have someone telling a not so scary story. My mom had me via natural birth, no epidural, and she did great. It was like 3 hours and that's it. Honestly, it's just depends on you and how you prepare for it. I'm pregnant now and I'm studying a lot for it.
Yes there is for instance hypno birthing! When I went into labor I was able to manage the pain with the breathing, but unfortunately my daughter was positioned incorrectly so at some point it wasn’t really proceeding as it should despite the contractions. At that point I was really happy to get an epidural but next time I would still try it without meds.
Id compare cramps to the pain you feel when you are bloated, but more centralized. You feel sore, and sometimes it feels like those indian burns some meanie would give you in elementary school but in your abdomen and consistent.
I had my daughter when I was 18. Had an emergency c section after 32 hours of labor. I was terrified but honestly I had a great medical team and I was walking 3 to 4 days later without help.
Please don't be! JUST PRAY TO THE VIRGIN MARY THE HOLY MOTHER OF OUR LORD AND SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST TO EASE YOUR LABOR!!! OUR HOLY MOTHER WITH THE ARC ANGEL RUFAEL WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU!!!
Exactly! They say childbirth is beautiful dont sound beautiful 2me Lol! I get periods & dont like them cant imagine childbirth 🤦♀️No thanks! Ill stick 2my fur-babies instead!!!
dimithri94 It‘s made like that, that women forget most of the pain after birth, so they have more children. Also the fact to have your child have siblings is important for a lot of women. Having children is beautiful and that is whats making some women have more than one.
It's a baby! Every experience is different. Embrace it! I'm excited for all of that. What an amazing journey! I'm 5 weeks 4 days and I am learning all about what might happen . Mental preparation for good and bad. Xoxox
I would describe my pregnancy and labor/deliver as miserable but as soon as I saw my baby my first thought was "that was all definately worth it" 💜💜💜💜💜
You'll be okay. I had pancreatitis, which is much more painful according to science. Screaming non stop for three days without sleep. If that were the only way to have children, I'd do it again. You'll be surprised how much you'll love your children.
makemeup313 I’m not where you’re from, but in Aus you actually can’t surrogate unless you’re physically unable to have a baby. You also can’t pay anyone to carry the baby, has to be a family member or friend who volunteers. It’s illegal to do it any other way in aus
oh so you'd rather women be uninformed on what they're getting into? We deserve to know exactly what happens to us if we decide to give birth in order to make an informed decision.
I wish they had other moms on here that had super fun experiences like I did. I feel like people get super scared from horror stories when in reality there are so many awesome stories too!
It’s really not that bad everyone is different but I remember saying I could definitely do it again afterward it’s the 6 week recovery for me that was sooo much worse
I remember giving birth to my son, I squatted on the floor with no pain relief and just gave birth. I blocked everyone out and they let me do my thing. Where I am we are all about natural birth (New Zealand) and highly recommend no medicine. I caught my son myself and immediately brought him up to me to hold, we both got covered in blood but I had a healthy 9 pound 7 son😊
@@user-kw8qs9do6d well the natural position is squatting so if ur talking ab the position then no it makes it much easier as long as someone catches the baby and makes sure the umbilical cord isnt wrapped around their neck
And you should also respect her because now it's scientifically proven that everyone gets their intelligence or the "IQ" from their mothers and also from how they were raised by their mothers.
@@Segen_Bell You didn't ask your mother to give birth to you. That decision wasn't brought up by you. Also you don't get your intelligence by your mothers (?). It's not that black and white.
Don’t be scared. I was 27 and 30 when I gave birth to my boys (3 kg boys) and I got none help with pain at all, it took 4 hours first time and 12 the second time. It wasn’t really that bad, pain yes, but another kind of pain.
Ladies who are scared after watching this video - I’m a 5’1 100 lb narrow-hipped girl and I had four babies naturally. My biggest baby was 8 lbs. Our bodies are incredible - you can do it! 💪🏻
if this one video "cured" you, then your wish for a baby wasn't that strong i guess let me just tell you this: it's all worth it and yes it hurts but you don't have to feel the pain for a long time .. the beautiful baby/child that comes out of it will make you happy for years
@@Jillianclz nope. If you dont want kids then not even a beautiful baby will help you. I already feel tired and like I dont have enough time to do everything I want to do. I will not take out 18 years to raise something that will cry and scream from the moment it is born, till the moment it dies 😅
@@Jillianclz Its a scam the world wants you to have kids so they can be a slave to the system. The baby only stays little for a short time. They will be grown for majority of their life. They will most likely grow up to be depressed, stressed about school, work, and life in general like the rest of us. Its never worth it. Anyone reading this save your kids by not having them to begin with, this earth is not the move. I wish my parents could have read this comment before having me and took it into consideration.
@@Lynn-ip9sh I truly hope one day you seek professional help to help heal the extreme emotions you’ve been experiencing. Your comment is literally very concerning sweetheart, so please reach out to someone, anyone. Life can be full of amazing possibilities babes, please remember that. As someone with mental health struggles, seeking and asking for professional assistance was the BEST thing I’ve ever done.❤️
@Rance Burger I don't want children because I couldn't get through al the pain pregnant women face, especially in labor. And children are also extremely expensive and annoying so yeah, just because it's a natural process doesn't mean it's easy. Try to pop a baby out of your body while shitting yourself, personally I'd rather die than getting pregnant.
The thought of tearing is what gets me🫠 when my mum was having me I tore her so badly that she lost a crap ton of blood and she nearly died (something which she reminds me about daily🤣)
They did that. But it caused women to A)not think the babies were their own child B) caused bonding issues C) women were going insane for some reason D)caused healing issues
I get terrible cramps in my intestine sometimes so much that I get hurt and cold rushes and start to shake because of the pain. If birth is anything like it it will never ever happen for me
I'm one month away from giving birth and I'm just watching all of these videos 😱 but I think it's good to prepare for the worst and hopefully the reality won't be as bad.
The cesarean mom is hilarious. I really love how real these answers are. I had three very different deliveries; two in hospital, one at home, and one induced.
@@CanadianWhatever that sounds so amazing, but I dont get period cramps, so I've never felt abdominal pain, plus I dislike people touching, I'm not sure if that's out of fear, but adoption for me, or a water birth:))
My mom had to have a C-Section [she was sick so giving birth would have been dangerous] and they gave her a shot to numb the pain, and she felt all of it- MY MOTHER IS WONDERFUL I LOVE HER-
Nothing to be scared about, it's a little uncomfortable to move around after giving birth, but it's not super painful! Plus docs give you pain meds, ice packs, water bottle for when you have to pee, and extra numbing spray!
I gave birth a week ago.. you won't feel it when you are tearing, labor pain makes you feel nothing else even when they stitch you, you won't feel it.. it can be uncomfortable to move and poop afterwards but if you followed your doctor's instructions it'll all go in a few days! Hope you have a healthy baby❤
I had a completely drug free vaginal birth, and honestly, tearing isn’t that bad at all. I had a third degree tear, so it took a lot of stitching up after (although once you’ve had a baby, that feels like absolutely nothing). The best way I can describe the pain is that it feels kinda like when someone does that thing where they twist the skin on your arm. Where I’m from it’s called a Chinese burn, but like obviously down below and not on your arm haha. I didn’t even know that I was actually tearing until I got told I needed stitches after, I thought it was just the feeling of my daughter stretching me as she was coming out. Hurt a lot less then I thought it would.
@@sarahhanley5295 I had a 4th degree episiotomy and the only thing that freaked me out was the swelling after lol I thought I was gonna pop my stitches trying to poop. But other than that i was definitely up and moving the next day, and it wasn't that bad for me.
I swear, the more I learn about pregnancies and giving birth, the more I’m sure that I never, ever, ever, EVER want to have children! That’s NOT worth all that unnecessary horrible pain and all these troubles and the chance that I could die!
Everyone is different I never tore and had natural deliveries even if I did have horrible births it’s still 1000% worth it. You can’t explain it it’s amazing
I'm not afraid to ask these questions, I'm afraid to know the answer.
Brittney Ihrig I promise you as long as you seriously educate the crap out of yourself and expose yourself to everything and just prepare it is not bad! I had my son in October with about a 9-10 hr labor and 30 minutes pushing
Brittney Ihrig sane
@@hannahisabel8015 10 hours of the worst pain of your life? No way, Jose!
Brittney Ihrig i love this comment
EXACTLY!
I remember being told as a child that angels give out the baby on the doorstep....i prefer that version of having kids..
Yeah I always thought you wished on a star and a baby would come in your stomach and you could choose what it looked like 😂 I never really thought about how the baby would get out of your stomach
I always thought that once you kiss someone on the lips a baby will randomly come out xD
Pepper Pumkin
Yesss! Same! My mom told me that all the time!!! 😂
I thought babies come out of the pee hole
I prefer that too lol
only thing im scared of is the tearing and feeling the stitches, the epidural, & the catheter
so everything basically. (lmao me too)
Those were the exact things I was scared of and it went fine... when you're in the moment everything feels like nothing.. I don't know how else to describe it. But I'm pregnant again now and scared again lol but I know I'll be fine
Honestly, by the time you’re ready for the catheter and epidural, you won’t feel it - your contractions will be the only thing you’ll feel. The stitches if you have an epidural you also won’t feel happening it’s only after and they give you a peri bottle to help with pain.
If you get an epidural you won’t feel the catheter cause there is numb
Why not do a home birth then you wouldn’t have to worry about that
When did I sign up for being a woman? Tell me? I want a refund.
😂😂😂
I couldve sworn i checked the “boy” box before getting here but ig not
u do realize u dont have to have a baby right?
@@deandradan8922 u do realize it’s a joke right??
@@thatoldoaf you can get rid of it
That c-section lady had no bs, she’s so unapologetically proud and I love it
Lottie She’s just SO real. She’s the best 🤣
I love her!!!
My favorite part of this video 🤣. I am actually about to have my second C-Section and she is 100000000% right!
I thought she was going to have adult children, tbh
Yes! I love it! I’m having a scheduled c section as I had prior gyn surgery. She helped a lot! ❤️
After watching this and hearing all these awful realities, I don't think I will be physically having any children anytime soon.
Right😂 I'mma look into adopting
Thought was just me alone 👀 sis was here at the end talking about how "awesome" it is and I'm just like ...nahh imma pass
Like, I was already leaning toward 'no' but this may have just sealed the deal.
Its not as bad. Fr fr everyones different
The best birth control are pregnancy stories.
The c section person is so entertaining
Ikr!! I could hear her talk for hours 🙌🙌
My favorite part of this whole video!
Agreed! Can we have her in more videos?
Agreed!!!
Mellissa I wish she could have a whole series😂
When you’re not pregnant not even in a relationship and just bored out your mind looking for random things to watch😅
Lol same im 14 and I don't think I even want kids
@@emiliasteilsson7910
Lol same! I’m 18 & Ace. But I just find all this knowledge fascinating 😂
😜we will not have time after marriage so why not now
Seems like I’m gonna die then if it’s worse than period.
Basically the thing every period in your life has been preparing you for but I guess it's a good thing we got epidurals now ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Yes, it’s a period cramp x50. Because period cramps are literally your uterus contracting, exactly what it does during labor. The real difference is in what your uterus is trying to expel, during periods its just trying to expel that thin endometrial lining that comes out as blood but during labor it’s trying to expel a small human 😂
Exactly because my periods are so bad, I become catatonic if I don't have a pain reliever. Can't move my limbs and can't speak for like two hours. Childbirth seems like.... oof, I might actually die lol :/
Well then start saying your goodbyes
I think I did way better with labor because I was used to pretty bad period cramps so it might not be as bad as you might think
I'm not pregnant. I'm not even close to being pregnant. But this made me so nervous lmao, I feel like I have to start preparing for the pain.
or start using one (or two) of the over 10 birth control methods out there.
Same!!!!!
Or just realize that WHEN YOU ARE READY the pain is just a fraction of your life...
2 pregnancies, yes it was bad.. I don't regret anything. No epidurals for either. No C-sections... natural births..
exactly
Currently 15 weeks pregnant and already stressed about giving birth 🙃😂
How to resign from being a woman
I will not give birth...... Neverrrrr
@@Sophia-yr6xm Same 😂
Right
Hahahaaaa
Transition
men out there thinking they’re tough 😐
Most men are.
Right like tf
Of course they are. Physical or mental toughness can come from our experience,time and practice. As women face a lot of societal pressure and discrimination men also face a lot of societal pressure,toxic masculinity,isolation and other hindrance as such which can hurt them and force them to try to be as resilient as possible in the process(not always the case just giving an example)That being said, menstruation,pregnancy and after pregnancy is quite the tough journey for a woman specially cause it's physically painful and mentally exhausting. Of course men also play a major role into this as well. All thru my childbirth I was blessed to have my respective other really help me and care for me so I don't have to go thru it all alone like a lot of single mommies do out there you know and I really appreciate that. I also try to play an active role into my husbands mental and physical health.Men and women both should play active roles into each others lives u kno.That's what helps us grow and make each other's life a lot less difficult. I hope I made sense I was trying to be as accurate as possible.
Never seen a woman building skyscrapers never seen women Parkour never seen a woman diving out plane without a parachute never seen a woman deadlift 500kg never seen a woman do physically demanding job never seen a woman who go through bootcamp as same as men never seen a woman hold breath longer than a man never seen a woman work in oil rig well i can go on
@@JIN-fn9gi thats good for u sweetie
My knees feel weak just hearing "tear" and "stitches" 😵
La La I LITERALLY can’t sit still while watching this video. 😖
I had a visceral gag reflex
Stitches belong in a Shawn Mendes song, not my Vahooha.
the epidural image 🤧
Yesss 😭😭
Please tell me I’m not the only girl that feels nauseous at the idea of ripping. It physically makes me writhe and cringe.
you actually don't even feel the actual ripping, at least i didn't ..and you also can't see it so...
@@Jillianclz but the thought is enough
Bro same and then my stomach feels weird to
You really don't feel it... It just happends.
You have other things on your mind, trust me.
"There's milk flying out of your breasts that you have to feed your child somehow " I can't 😂😂
Sabrina Nseya I loved her responses lol
Yeah she had me laughing so hard🤣😭
Lol yeah, i once spilled milk all over my second child's face because the milk started flowing out 🤣
It's so gross to imagine that :( I'd like to be a man.
I loveee herrr
The uterus takes about 6 weeks to go back to it's normal size after delivery of a full term (38-42 week) baby. So, don't feel bad about having a bump for a while after having a baby.
Love, a nurse. :)
Where was this info when I gave birth! I asked the nurse in recovery... what is happening with my tummy? 😅
why tf does my mom get so surprised when I tell her I don’t want kids then
izzy fergus right?? 😩
The brain USUALLY blocks how much pain you're in so you have more kids to keep the population growing
I was terrified of having kids,waited till I was 30 and it was brutal. I was right 😂
Same
Omg same
It frustrates me how little men know about the female reproductive system.
Melissa c “Childbirth doesn’t hurt that much”
You forfet everything once you see the little angel you brought to the world 😇 it is an amazing feeling you feel like a superhero
Firstly, you shouldn't generalize. Secondly, why should they our society has only become so advanced because of specialization. Not everyone can know everything. Furthermore, would it really make a difference if they did? Lastly, in our day and age pregnancy is a choice there are enough options to not have a baby.
I don’t know anything so who can blame them?
Vice versa.
There’s a lot of kids without homes in orphanages and adoption centres. I think ima give them a lovely home instead
Alyssa Thompson same. This was always my plan lets make the ones that are already here and give them a happy life
that's what I always thought
Yes. My thoughts exactly. These children are on this earth already..without someone who loves them. Who am i to bring another human being into this world when there are so many without a home and parents. Breaks my heart really
Right? I personally don't think I'll ever be having a spouse for life or have a child with one. Even before this video, adoption is my most preferred method to make a family. Also, overpopulation so....
@@KaLa1865_saaaame
If you’re pregnant or planning to be, please don’t scare yourself with listening to horror stories. Giving birth is a natural thing, humans and animals have done so since the beginning of life. The things that happened to others might not happen to you, don’t let stories scare you. As a pregnant woman, protect yourself and your mental health by not listening to all the horror stories. It’s very easy to get sucked into the negatives. Take care of yourself, you are on an amazing journey, creating life. Stay healthy beautiful💖
Thanks, Karen.
Yes, any woman or girl wanting to get pregnant 🤰 should watch videos like these ones and not ones that sound like horror stories. These ones sound like documentaries but interesting ones that keep you hooked and wanting to see through the end
Thank you for the sensible comment!
Yeah you're right to m say that but I think it's important for women to know the risks. If my epidural is not gonna work or that I might fall into a lot of possibilities I'd like to be mentally prepared beforehand....but yes it's doesn't get downright homicidal for all women so it's important to keep that in mind. And I wish you well for your pregnancy ♡
@@nataliawashington872 I must say ur a unique person....I personally wouldn't find such videos interesting since I am pregnant and any of these things might happen to me but I hope I have the strength to endure whatever that comes and have the healthiest birth possible for me and my baby.
Someone please help me understand how my grandmother gave birth to 14 children😭
Oh wow. I've had 4, but wow!
Condom broke
They didn't use protection and didn't really think it was odd.
Many say: The more kids you have, the easier it is to get pregnant (and) the labor will be easier.
The theory is that giving birth is like most physical activities. During the first time, your body is stressed out, confused, and learning what to do. As you do the activity more, your body is like "Oh, I kinda understand now"
You're mother is amazing!!! I hope she has the biggest mother's day possible. My mom had 9 children and we love her so much
I am CRYING I don’t want to go through this but I want a baby 😭
I've had both get a c section so much easier
Donye Keesee
Just adopt 🤷🏽♀️
True
Adoption meh friend
It's a process but it's probably worth it
Well done educating young people about this topic and normalizing these conversations.
Agoraphobication its not that awkward to me
All this did was convince me not to have kids. I never wanted them to begin with and this vid made it worse.
well done scaring a whole generation from having kids
lauren you can’t force people to have children
lauren if this video is enough to turn someone from wanting to not wanting kids they clearly weren’t that invested in having kids anyway.
In comparison to what I’ve had other women tell me about birth, this video is pretty tame. I grew up with tonnes of mums telling me that birth is ‘the single most painful thing I’ll ever go through’ and I’ll ‘feel like I’m dying’, yet that didn’t make me not want kids. In fact, I’m currently pregnant with my second and due to have him in 3 days. The pain/recovery process is worth it if you want kids.
This 11 minute video and q&a was far more educational than having awkward conversations with my mom
This just confirmed that I will be an amazing AUNT
Lmao same
@@anishas4471 I can't even handle the dentist I will not be giving birth!!!!!!!!!
I do wanna be a mom but adopt
For SURE
XD same here
I’m right behind you on that one
The way she described the baby popping out after the head had me DEAAAAD
Hobii it’s so true though! The head is the widest part and once it’s out the rest of the baby just blobs out of there like it’s made of jello 😂
@@jasmineseiger9551 Really? I am 32 weeks and reading all these.
Cool cool Lol yes! Not like actual jello of course but the baby just kind of awkwardly falls out after the head comes out. As soon as the head is out you stop pushing. Everything else comes out on its own. It’s a really strange, but cool experience. And even though it all sounds terrifying it really isn’t that bad, and you forget about all the bad stuff after a while. As long as mom and baby are healthy, it’s a success 👌
BUBRLLRURBBBUR
@@jasmineseiger9551 The way you described it is very funny 😄😄. Yes, you are right. As long as the baby and mom are healthy, everything is fine ❤️
Im so scared of ever giving birth ever lol
Thats why I don't want kids😂
There is nothing moral about giving birth.
Forcing people into existence who never asked to be born
@@JD-kp6pt My parents had to try so hard to have a child and then they got me, a big pile of depression who doesn't care about life. Oh and we never got along.
Clxlxlx Cl then adopt! So many kids would love to have parents
trumpetsandturtles yes thats true!
“after the head gets out ya know the body just shoots out its like bladblamp “👌🏼😂😂
Not always.. sometimes the shoulders get stuck.
Yeah and it can take a longer time to get out for some people.....
my period already feels like someone’s twisting my insides around a razor blade so i’ll pass tnx
Am currently in bed suffering from terrible cramps. So yeah, am good
Lots of women reported lighter and pain-free periods after giving birth.
Zrinka Jelic so?
A lot of women who have had major period cramps usually say labor was a lil easier that the ones who didn’t . They said there bad cramps kinda prepared them for it so who knows
@@kingkiwi6905 That's absolutely true. I didn't even cried or screamed, the doctor was confused lol. Also, my periods are like a breeze now.
Periods are enough, please let the men have the baby
-to mother of nature
YES
I’m so excited about being pregnant though! Not excited about labor though 😂
YES PLZ😭
Lmao I'M SO SORRY BOYS BUT YES PLEASE
YES
this is more like “ answers questions you’re afraid to *know* “
I wish women were taught pain management for labor. Just gave birth to my first son- all natural and no meds. Contractions were easy to deal with because I knew breathing techniques and positioning that helped a ton. Pushing was more painful but I just focused in on what my body was telling me to do and gave birth to my baby boy ❤ believe in your body, ladies!
phew. I dunno why im watching this 37 week pregnant 😬😬 Going back to my hypnobirthing videos 😬
This is what i want to do plus a doula. I heard they help. Im not even pregnant though so maybe one day 😂
Can you share resources (books, trainings, etc) that you found helpful
totally agree!
they always say labor pain is so painful so I expected way worse kind of pain
but having bad dysmennorhea prior
the labor pain is same as my dysmennorhea pain just coming in 2-3 min waves
studies different breathing techniques in youtube but the one worked for me is inhaling through nose for 4 seconds and slowly exhaling through mouth for 8 second really helped manage the pain and helped me calmed down
for me being panicky and screaming just intensifies the pain
concentrating on my breathing when contractions comes in waves help me be calm
i also walk or in a balance ball
just lying down I can feel the pain more
Woman are born to do this 💪
i feel so empowered I conquered my fear of delivering my child
Please share the knowledge ! Where did you learn all that?
Anyone else want a child of their own dna but they don’t want to go through the pain of giving birth?
me, if only that was possible
meee, but I don't have any problem with a adoptee I'm just scared that they wouldn't feel loved or the same
thats why surrogacy is such a big business. Dark business..
Kelly Thai it’s called a surrogate haha
Yea, that's why I want to adopt
Omg the woman who had a c-section was so funny. Loved her humour
Yes so funny...I really loved her
She killed me
@@skoz3342 rip😞💔
Yes I agree🤣❤️
@@st4rmonii bruh 😂😂
I just found out I’m pregnant....I shouldn’t be here 😳
Well then...... good luck with that lmaoo
i pray all turns well 💕
Damn double homicide 🤣🤣
Same I found out in March Lol
congrats! God Bless u! Hope all is well! And God is watching over u and the baby! 💛🙏
The thing that sounds the scariest for me is the tearing. I was with my sis when she was in labor and I think I'll be OK but the thought tearing just terrifies me.
You know, I barely felt the actual tearing when it happened, and I was using no pain relief.
Its like if you had an elephant standing on your butt for the last 2 hours. If you got a 1st or second degree tear on the last push, you'd just be so relived it was over.
Now afterwards is another story, however. 😆 lots of ice, please.
Susie Unger From comparing my labor and delivery to that of friends, it’s pretty common to tear and it’s not so bad really. I had a second degree tear but the epidural meant I didn’t feel it nor the stitching and nothing feels different down there. Kegel exercises are suggested to help with elasticity and to prevent bad tearing. But also, try not to think about it 🙃 Think positive thoughts about your labor and delivery! All the best
Honestly you really don't feel the tear. I didn't believe it when they said you forget the pain when you're holding you child, but you really do. It's so easy to forget you just gave birth. Yeah the pain is there, don't get me wrong. But you just push through it for that baby. I had 12 stitches myself.
The contractions hurt so bad that you don't feel it. Once the shoulders are through it's smooth sailing.
I felt like a friggin superhero after mine. The nurses were trying to get me in a wheelchair and I was like, "my legs still work. I could run a marathon right now!!"
@@ebonyshadow5182 yes! Everything before the shoulders was painful but after the shoulders to me was easy. I'm glad I wasn't the only one who felt like that lol
Me, a woman who has no damn intention of having a baby:
TH-cam: I think you'll love this
Me:
Me: bring it on.
Is that my baby boy tae?
Lol I knew it was just going to reinforce my decision of being childfree😂😂 whole lotta NOPE
MultySusoX •Tae Tae•
🎵 Come on up, bring the pain, on yeah. Can't hold me down 'cuz you know I'm a fighter🎵
But seriously, I’m on the same page as you lol. A child free life is better than a life with children.
Hehehe😂
ARMY 💜💜💜
When men think they're tougher than women....
Only in their dreams
Joseph Yi That is literally the definition of “toughness”, being able to withstand pain.
Joseph Yi depends on who’s fighting
I am not man bashing by any means, both genders have their own skeletal structures etc that give them different strengths and weaknesses. Women are made for childbirth and can handle that type of pain is all I mean.
It is insulting as a women when people dont think it is as excruciating of pain that it is to bring others into the world. Credit where credit is due
we are
When she said “after the head comes out the body shoots out, like woolawolu “....that’s exactly how it is 🤣🤣🤣
XD childbirth is 1 % funny so it seems
"Did they stitch me tighter?" Honey, if you had a male Dr. there is a chance he might have. Not a large chance these days, but still a chance. It's called "the husband stitch" and it's disturbing.
Is that still legal????
Oh definitely! But sadly it does still happen.
That just sounds like they'll have a rough time delivering baby #2
@@puff4664 it does still. Do some google searches and you'll find testimonies of women, nurses, and OBGYN's who have encountered women here in the US who have had this done to them. It's against practice, but ultimately they will practice as they want.
Sorry didn’t mean to go off like that 😂😂😂
Fun Pregnancy Story: When my mom went into labor the doctor wouldn’t give her the epidural because she was so close to having the baby, when he told her that she went full exorcist and grabbed the doctor and told him she is getting the epidural. Needless to say she got what she wanted.
What a queen 🤣👑👑
I would have done the same trust me. I don’t think you can tell a pregnant woman she’s not gonna get the epidural because if you do she will flip out or at least I would😂
My goodness you women are such a bunch of wusses.
@@arpitabrahmachari7649 so getting pain medicine to help with pushing out a watermelon sized baby out of your vagina is seen as being a wussie?
@@kamranhussain7221 idek what "epidural" is, but she went against the doctors advice, just to save herself from some pain. This woman in particular is
definitely a wussy.
I adored all of these mom's but the "wild wild west" sent me she is hilarious
Emlyn Sherwin I want more in depth of her story! She’s hilarious and I’ve never really heard much about c section experiences
My pregnancy was totally fine, off course your body changes but if you go with the flow and don’t resist it, then all is fine. You will off course often require rest and many things you used to do will have to be put on hold, but it’s for a good reason! Delivering a baby wasn’t that dramatic in the end. I went roughly 10h without meds and I had complications, so it’s been probably more painful according to the midwives than it would have been if the baby was positioned correctly. But I definitely would do it all over again. We talk only about some hours of your life and if you want, you can get an epidural, which is what I chose after 10h of contractions every 2-3 minutes. It’s intense but it’s definitely doable. The week after birthing is off course very special and you are vulnerable. Things must heal and you are also emotionally very raw. My husband and I were crying all the time because we were so touched by her arrival. Now at 3 months she sleeps already in her own room and is a happy, calm and easy going baby. It really does not at all feel like what people described to me before I had my own daughter. People used to scare me of how tired and exhausted I would be.. well, no, it’s not as tiring as people say if you get some help during the night and have a partner who is supportive. Off course it also depends on the child, but I always say: happy parents, happy baby
Love your comment ❤ We need more positivity in this important part in our lives 😊
SO WE REALLY COULDN'T HAVE EVOLVED TO JUST LAY EGGS!?!?
Amen!
😂🤣😭
@@Oreoluwa "god" shouldn't of punished all woman kind for the action of someone else whom they had nothing to do with.
But you would have to push the egg out. Don't think that would be easier
😂😂😂😂😂😂
"There's milk coming out of your breasts going everywhere, and you have to somehow put it in your child's mouth" that's the funniest thing I've ever heard in my entire LIFE
She was my favorite 😂😂😂
Me watching this as a 14 year old girl who has never even had a boyfriend: 👁👄👁
You am have good grammar!!
Same xd
@@spazzmania5798 this comment insinuates that 14 year olds don't normally have good grammar.
Don't ever be in a hurry to get a boyfriend. You're really not missing out on much at this stage hahahaha
Don’t worry about having a boyfriend. All boys at this age are stupid 😂 and never feel like you have to rush into dating
My mum was 18 when she gave birth to me, they did not even have the option for epidural, all they gave her was laughing gas for the pain, they also had to tear her vagina open coz I got stuck coming out. She is one of the strongest people I know!
Fun fact ladies: Its more natural to give birth squatting, not lying down with feet in the stirrups. Gravity helps birth the baby, pain is lesser and labor is faster. But you can't get an epidural because you *can't stand*. Most underdeveloped countries still give birth like this, which is how people can tolerate having 12 kids without painkillers.
They lied to me all during my birthing classes, telling me I could choose to give birth in whatever position I felt comfortable. When it came time to push, the nurses forced me on my back, even though I told them I was not comfortable that way. That's when the baby's heart rate spiked, and they still chose to force me to stay in that position. It's all about the doctor's comfort in Western medicine, never the patient.
@@spriggy4382 Ugh. That is terrible!! That is one of the reasons we chose a birthing center for our pregnancies (we're lucky enough to have several in our area). I didn't want to have to deal with having to fire my nurses or doctors (which you can do!) or have meds forced on me (I react badly to a lot of medications). A birthing center and CNMs (certified nurse midwives or midwives, depending on the place) follows your wishes as much as they can within reason. I planned two water births but the first I didn't get to do because baby had already pooped in the womb and could have aspirated on the poop if we'd done a water birth. For my second they had the tub filled for me, but I decided I just felt more comfortable strength-wise laying on the bed (on my side for part of it and then on my back with one badass midwife letting me pull myself up with her extended arm). I knew I might be too weak to hold myself up in the tub. Anyway, I wish everyone knew all the choices available to them, even if it's just to tell a nurse or doctor that you want to squat or lay on your side or whatever!
This may be a very juvenile question but: how do they catch the baby? Babies are so delicate in infancy so do you squat over a pillow or something?
@@NyanHomeschoolGirl17 Not a juvenile question at all! A baby's head can take a bit to push out and at that point, a midwife or doctor already has their hands there waiting or on the baby. With both of my births, one of my midwives gently had their hands pressing against my perineum (the area between the vagina and anus) and also squirting olive oil both to help prevent tearing, so her hands were right there. I was laying down but it's be the same with a woman who was standing or squatting.
Amy Georgopoulos Wow thank you for your reply! I still find birth terrifying but my mom was 21 years older than I am when she had me so maybe I'll get used to the idea eventually. And congratulations on your babas!
Never again disrespect females!! My god all of this is sooo hard and you go through so much pain and you deliver a human being to this world. Nothing but respect for all mums!!
@A M
There is nothing moral about giving birth. Forcing people into existence who never asked to be born. It is hardly something to respect.
J D 😂😂😂😂😂 omg please just shut up
J D Everything is invented or created without asking beforehand. Humans undergo the same process of all material manifestations. Just because you didn’t ask to be here doesn’t mean you don’t belong. Human existence and the creation of such is as moral and respectable as the creation of all other objects in the universe. It’s a beautiful process.
J D ummm how are we supposed to “ask” a fetus, “do you want to be born?” Like 🤦♀️😂😂
@Lily Pie Diy
Why didn't wealthy, extremely good looking, blue/green eyed people like Charlize Theron and Leonardo DiCaprio repr0duce any kids ?
You mean “How to scare yourself before giving birth”😩😆
Or... what to expect when expecting? Better to be prepared than to go in unknowing. While not the same, I watched "horror videos" of all the bad things that could go wrong with my elbow and knee surgeries before my surgeries and then I read the paperwork I had that went with them. It was actually helpful cause I knew why my joints were numb/heavy and why I couldn't move my fingers or toes and then I learned of abnormal symptoms so I could get help before it was too late.
I’ve had four and only got an epidural with the first. It’s not as bad as some people say it is. The contractions are like really bad period cramps and then they’re super super intense for the very last few minutes.
@@katesims8028 you are a heroine we can all look too. My sister scared me into getting epidural , and I'm only 2 months.
Currently 10 weeks pregnant (first time) and im extremely scared 😞
Priscilla Martinez congrats! I’ve been doing a lot of reading and making sure I know all my options. That helps a lot! I’m due in 2 weeks and feel way more prepared and not so scared now.
If it’s any comfort to anyone, I think these stories would have scared me to death if this is all I had to go off of before I had kids. I’ve had 3 natural births (1 at a birth center, 2 at home with midwives), pregnant with my 4th, and though it does get painful, the amount of hormones that kick in towards the end when you hold your baby is amazing! Our bodies were made for this! Birth is a beautiful and natural process. I just don’t want any first time mommas to get discouraged or anything by hearing the horror stories. It’s a very empowering experience. You can do it! ❤️
Oh wow Thank you for this...I'm due end of July and I'm watching this super scared of what's about to come cos my tolerance to pain is soo low..your words have really encouraged me that everything will be ok..God bless your heart 🙏🏼❤🥺
@@thandekamasango3095 Being a first time mom is very scary. You're going into uncharted territory. It's usually the unknown that scares us, no matter what the situation is. You'll do fine. Just try to stay optimistic. Be as prepared as you can. I know you can't account for everything, but the more you can prepare for the better. If you want to deliver in a hospital, go there before you go into labor and get to know the labor ward. My hospital let me go tour their ward and fill out forms ahead of time. I'm so glad I did. I can't imagine filling them all out when I went into labor. If you haven't already, make a birth plan and share it with your doctor/midwife. Don't just assume they know. The actual delivery might not go exactly as you want it, but at least there will be something to go off of. One thing that nobody told me that I wish someone did, was that it's OK to be scared. Giving birth is scary and hard work, but it'll be OK. All kinds of emotions and feelings go through you the closer you get to your due date and every one is OK to have. You said you're due the end of July. You're almost there. You'll be fine. Pretty soon, you'll have your baby and this experience wouldn't be unknown anymore. That takes most of the scary or of it, I promise you that. I recommend getting the Epidural. That did help a lot. I fully believe I got to bond better with my baby because I didn't have the pain associated with my baby. Maybe that's just me though, but it did take away the pain. That's for sure. I'm terrified of needles but I'll never regret that one. I didn't see it or feel it. And it didn't have any effect on my baby. I had an older women kind of judge me for getting one saying I drugged the baby. But it doesn't. Sorry it's a long post. Pregnant moms, especially first time moms have a special place in my heart. Probably because I remember being one. Like I said, you'll be just fine. Sending good thoughts your way. Good luck. 👍
@@shota7483 Bless your heart..thank you for taking your time to write this..I'm grateful for every advice I get from women who've already been through it..I know they say every experience is different but just knowing that no matter what it's possible that makes it a little less scary.Love and light to you♥️
@Thandeka Masango how did it go for you? Am due October also ftm…. Super scared lol
@@desireeesther5449 unfortunately my blood pressure was high a few weeks before my due date..I was 38 weeks..doctors decided to induce me..in the end I ended up having to go for an emergency C-section cos nothing was working..I wasn't dilating..all in all as much as it was nothing like I expected,meeting my son made it all worth it.💙 so whatever happens...just pray for a healthy baby and everything will be ok..sending you all the love♥️
Idk how my mom gave birth to 6 kids .. she didn’t choose the thug life.. the thug life chose her..
HollywoodHailey 29 my mom gave birth to 10 kids 👀
I love this😂😂😂
Hailey Belk My grandma gave birth to 11...
my mom has given birth to 12 kids :) and she's only 37 years old
@@zackeve9784 ouchh
If my periods send me to the ER.....
Then a pregnancy would send me to my grave....
I think I'll pass on that one....
Yeah you will pass at that one alright 😑😏
Actually women who have painful periods have better labors usually. It’s kind of like your periods are training you for labor so tge worse they are, the better for labor and birth
@@mikilynn471 my mom had a hard time giving birth and she had terrible cramps which would make her faint for days so I think I'll stay single for good...
I think you might have endometriosis...talk to your doctor because they shouldn’t sending you to hospital.
0o0 _ that’s why i said usually it’s better, not everyone is the same.
this isn't for me, I cannot possibly go through this...
Silvícola same
Then don't.
Me too
Ah yes, Adoption, a great option for me. Just take the children that are already need to be loved.
Me: *doesn't want biological kids because of how painful childbirth is*
Me, after watching this video: *will do almost anything to avoid having children*
Amelia Morgan Same and other reasons...idk if I can do it honestly I be crying in fear when seeing it.
@@persephone9307 To be honest, childbirth is my main reason, but I don't think I would be a particularly responsible parent anyway. 😂
What a mood.
Amelia Morgan #AdoptionIsAnOption
@@mashaschmitt That's true. It's something I may think about in the future
"... After the head gets out, the baby just shoots out and I remember seeing it blerplublob"
This had me laughing so hard 😂😂
They need to have someone who did an all natural birth, no epidural what so ever. Also a home birth perspective would have been nice for people considering. And people who had midwives / doulas present
Kyara Nievesbaez that’s all I was thinking. I’m a doula and while I’ve had births like those most of my clients stories sound a lot more positive
MindBodyStreet I’ve had 2 babies both without any epidural or any type of medication and it wasn’t the nightmare most people think it is.
Well, I had one all natural no epidural and I loved it! Birthing is so empowering
Everyone I talk to loves natural birth lol
I just had one a few weeks ago no epidural....they even messed up my IV. It was a much better experience than giving birth to my first child, however, my first child I wasnt progressing so i was pumped with pitocin and these women arent lying it makes the labor excruciating which lead to me getting an epidural because i wasnt progressing and the epidural helped me progress.
My first pregnancy my water broke and I wasnt having strong contractions, the second pregnancy my water never broke on it's own and my contractions only lasted 30-45 seconds a piece and about a minute apart for the entire duration of my labor.
Moral of the story....every labor is different for each woman and with each child, make a birthing plan if you want but dont count on it going as planned and dont assume you'll know you're in labor....I was quite unsure that I was in labor both times.
They should also have someone telling a not so scary story.
My mom had me via natural birth, no epidural, and she did great. It was like 3 hours and that's it.
Honestly, it's just depends on you and how you prepare for it.
I'm pregnant now and I'm studying a lot for it.
Well how did it go?!
How was your birth? I disagree because you can do everything to prepare and like me I had to have an emergency C-section
Yes there is for instance hypno birthing! When I went into labor I was able to manage the pain with the breathing, but unfortunately my daughter was positioned incorrectly so at some point it wasn’t really proceeding as it should despite the contractions. At that point I was really happy to get an epidural but next time I would still try it without meds.
I don't get period cramps so I cant even imagine what labor feels like
I noticed some women and girls say that. How come you don’t get cramps? That’s all I know lol 😭
Me too I don't feel cramps
It’s uncomfortable but not the worse thing in the world.
Id compare cramps to the pain you feel when you are bloated, but more centralized. You feel sore, and sometimes it feels like those indian burns some meanie would give you in elementary school but in your abdomen and consistent.
LeMell From what I have read, some women are lucky and don’t get cramps. I think the statistic was that 33% of women don’t get cramps. Lucky ducks.
why am i watching this i'm a fifteen year old virgin
Morbidly curious, probably 3Am, the TH-cam algorithm.
The list goes on.
Me too😂😂😂
Least your learning 🤷♀️ a lot of people older than u dont understand anything bout pregancy
Self respect comes first
So you can stay a virgin for as long as possible lmao
This was a fantastic birth control ad. Thank you so much!
Well as a pregnant 21year old I’m officially petrified 😅😅🤰🏻
I had my daughter when I was 18. Had an emergency c section after 32 hours of labor. I was terrified but honestly I had a great medical team and I was walking 3 to 4 days later without help.
Please don't be! JUST PRAY TO THE VIRGIN MARY THE HOLY MOTHER OF OUR LORD AND SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST TO EASE YOUR LABOR!!! OUR HOLY MOTHER WITH THE ARC ANGEL RUFAEL WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU!!!
Hey plz don't panic..You're gonna do great..I hope everything goes on ok for you and tour little one.
i’m 21 and 23 weeks pregnant so girl i feel you😩😩😩
Don’t be! Welcome to motherhood ! Best of luck to you ladies
Why am I watching this, I’m literally a child myself-
Same but I have been in a labor room and I'm terrified the way my mom and kinda aunt talked about an epidural like I cringe tbh
Same 😌
It's curiosity child.
I never wanted kids and now it’s confirmed that I really don’t..... so thanks 🙏
Exactly! They say childbirth is beautiful dont sound beautiful 2me Lol! I get periods & dont like them cant imagine childbirth 🤦♀️No thanks! Ill stick 2my fur-babies instead!!!
Same here! I'll have another cat instead❤ And if I ever change my mind I will adopt
Sharvi Khot Same.
Preach. Not worth all of that imo😅
Veera Maria same!!
how have we, as the human race continued to reproduce after all these horror stories??
dimithri94 women:)
Yes and what about it?
SugacoatedMochi and it’s two people that go into it
oxytocin probably and a lot of other hormones
dimithri94 It‘s made like that, that women forget most of the pain after birth, so they have more children. Also the fact to have your child have siblings is important for a lot of women. Having children is beautiful and that is whats making some women have more than one.
It's a baby! Every experience is different. Embrace it! I'm excited for all of that. What an amazing journey! I'm 5 weeks 4 days and I am learning all about what might happen . Mental preparation for good and bad. Xoxox
Congrats! I’m 30 weeks, due on Christmas
I would describe my pregnancy and labor/deliver as miserable but as soon as I saw my baby my first thought was "that was all definately worth it" 💜💜💜💜💜
So if I wasn’t already scared of having children I’m definitely scared now. I wish I was a man this is unfair
You'll be okay. I had pancreatitis, which is much more painful according to science. Screaming non stop for three days without sleep. If that were the only way to have children, I'd do it again. You'll be surprised how much you'll love your children.
you don’t have to have children biologically if you don’t want to! you can adopt, or not have kids at all xx
Surrogate like Kim k
talia b. She can have a Biological child but. Via surrogate
makemeup313 I’m not where you’re from, but in Aus you actually can’t surrogate unless you’re physically unable to have a baby. You also can’t pay anyone to carry the baby, has to be a family member or friend who volunteers. It’s illegal to do it any other way in aus
Alternative title: scaring kids to the point that they don't want to have children
I’ve never wanted kids and this is just cementing that idea into my head 😂😂
Yeah I think I'm just going to adopt....
I never wanted kids, nor even adopt, and this basically just confirmed how I feel about pregnancy. A big fat NO for me.
I got that vibe..glad I quit watching XD
oh so you'd rather women be uninformed on what they're getting into? We deserve to know exactly what happens to us if we decide to give birth in order to make an informed decision.
I want the C-Section mom to create a TH-cam channel. I could listen to her tell all kinds of stories forever. I’m cracking up!!
Yes please
I wish they had other moms on here that had super fun experiences like I did. I feel like people get super scared from horror stories when in reality there are so many awesome stories too!
“Did you poop while giving birth?”
“I pooped mid-air.”
😂😂😂😂
Never having kids. Btw I don’t want kids anyway this just gives more reason
Same😂🙊
Sameee I'm actually really scared
It’s really not that bad everyone is different but I remember saying I could definitely do it again afterward it’s the 6 week recovery for me that was sooo much worse
KillMePls I regret my daughter so much LOL the pain wasn’t worth it!
Same!
I remember giving birth to my son, I squatted on the floor with no pain relief and just gave birth. I blocked everyone out and they let me do my thing. Where I am we are all about natural birth (New Zealand) and highly recommend no medicine. I caught my son myself and immediately brought him up to me to hold, we both got covered in blood but I had a healthy 9 pound 7 son😊
Wow
You are so strong
i feel like that can be quite dangerous.
@@user-kw8qs9do6d well the natural position is squatting so if ur talking ab the position then no it makes it much easier as long as someone catches the baby and makes sure the umbilical cord isnt wrapped around their neck
Omg how..
Bless all these brave courageous moms
Did anyone else think of Zack from the try guys when she mentioned ankylosing spondylitis?
rayan hassan came to the comments specifically for this comment!!!
Omg yass i was looking for this comment
Sure did!
@@jaaypuppy hahahaha
Me!!
Knowing my mom gave birth to 8 KIDS!!! She went through the worst pain, This is why you should respect your mother!!
And you should also respect her because now it's scientifically proven that everyone gets their intelligence or the "IQ" from their mothers and also from how they were raised by their mothers.
100%
what if mine put me up for adoption
no, if she sucks she shouldn't
@@Segen_Bell You didn't ask your mother to give birth to you. That decision wasn't brought up by you. Also you don't get your intelligence by your mothers (?). It's not that black and white.
Almost Everything about pregnancy ESPECIALLY labor scares me and this was a great video but I’m even more scared now
I think ill stick 2being a Fur-mama instead!!!
If it makes you feel any better, it's really not as bad once you're into it. I birthed a 4kg baby par vagina and it went ok
Don’t be scared. I was 27 and 30 when I gave birth to my boys (3 kg boys) and I got none help with pain at all, it took 4 hours first time and 12 the second time. It wasn’t really that bad, pain yes, but another kind of pain.
Ladies who are scared after watching this video - I’m a 5’1 100 lb narrow-hipped girl and I had four babies naturally. My biggest baby was 8 lbs. Our bodies are incredible - you can do it! 💪🏻
Omg I’m 4’11 and pregnant and I’m so nervous bc I’m so tiny!
My mom was in labor for 2 days.... yeah I’m not her favorite child 😂😂
Horse Reddish awwww sorry dude ❤️
My poor mom was in labor for a day... not as bad but still
None of it was your fault
Horse Reddish 😂😂😂
I'm at that age where the mama instincts kick in hard and your body is screaming at you for babies... This video cured me so thank you
ItsKatieHannah You’re in your twenties?
if this one video "cured" you, then your wish for a baby wasn't that strong i guess
let me just tell you this: it's all worth it and yes it hurts but you don't have to feel the pain for a long time .. the beautiful baby/child that comes out of it will make you happy for years
@@Jillianclz nope. If you dont want kids then not even a beautiful baby will help you. I already feel tired and like I dont have enough time to do everything I want to do. I will not take out 18 years to raise something that will cry and scream from the moment it is born, till the moment it dies 😅
@@Jillianclz Its a scam the world wants you to have kids so they can be a slave to the system. The baby only stays little for a short time. They will be grown for majority of their life. They will most likely grow up to be depressed, stressed about school, work, and life in general like the rest of us.
Its never worth it. Anyone reading this save your kids by not having them to begin with, this earth is not the move. I wish my parents could have read this comment before having me and took it into consideration.
@@Lynn-ip9sh
I truly hope one day you seek professional help to help heal the extreme emotions you’ve been experiencing. Your comment is literally very concerning sweetheart, so please reach out to someone, anyone. Life can be full of amazing possibilities babes, please remember that. As someone with mental health struggles, seeking and asking for professional assistance was the BEST thing I’ve ever done.❤️
Mad respect to my mom who had me and my brother naturally without an epidural. Women are amazing ✊🏽
The woman who had the c section has me absolutely crying. Her comments are gold.
Being pregnant watching this: 🙃 why did I click this again?
BUT....why can’t I stop watching 🤨
Me too lol
Damn wish yall the best of luck!!! Whens it duee??
Namita Gogoi July 18th 😊
Same! And I'm 37 weeks!
MEE!
This is why I don’t see how so many people don’t respect and love their mother ....
Depends on their situation with her
Minimal well yes ofc
Minimal
Exactly.
Giving birth doesn't make you a good parent
It's not like the mom has a choice once they decide to keep the baby tho but I get your point
If after watching this you still don’t think mothers are superheroes, something is seriously wrong with you. 😢
Leh and Nonnie True that😤
@Rance Burger I don't want children because I couldn't get through al the pain pregnant women face, especially in labor. And children are also extremely expensive and annoying so yeah, just because it's a natural process doesn't mean it's easy. Try to pop a baby out of your body while shitting yourself, personally I'd rather die than getting pregnant.
Rance Burger just because it’s natural doesn’t mean it’s any less of an accomplishment or hurts any less
Samantha Holmes yeah but it’s not an accomplishment, your body is literally forcing you to do it
natylee knowing why does that make it not an accomplishment?
The thought of tearing is what gets me🫠 when my mum was having me I tore her so badly that she lost a crap ton of blood and she nearly died (something which she reminds me about daily🤣)
The woman who had a C-section is just hilarious! 🤣 'someone put me in a diaper'.
Love these women for just being straight up and real, no embarrassment (as there shouldn’t be!)
Justine Janisse yeah I feel like you can’t be once you’ve gone through that
i’m not pregnant or even close to being it, but i watched the whole thing...
God bless all Moms out there they're our real heros ,
Id be totally fine if they just knocked me out and then when I woke up have the baby 😂 childbirth sounds terrible
That's literally how they used to do it in the 60s...that has its own set of problems imo.
My mom did that with my sister and she woke up In room alone with no baby and no family and she was going crazy she even thought the baby wasn’t hers
My mom was so nocked up from the drugs that she was too tired and couldn't stay awake lmao. She held me for a day
They did that. But it caused women to
A)not think the babies were their own child
B) caused bonding issues
C) women were going insane for some reason
D)caused healing issues
Kitt Fln all those things literally happened to my mom
When she said her insides felt like they were twisted around a razor blade😭
I get terrible cramps in my intestine sometimes so much that I get hurt and cold rushes and start to shake because of the pain. If birth is anything like it it will never ever happen for me
I mean when the babies moving inside it’s pretty intense so imagine giving birth 😩
@@katherinep708 How's ur baby ? , ig u might have given birth ?
I'm one month away from giving birth and I'm just watching all of these videos 😱 but I think it's good to prepare for the worst and hopefully the reality won't be as bad.
Literally the most accurate description ever. I cried so hard and constantly needed to pee LOL
The cesarean mom is hilarious. I really love how real these answers are. I had three very different deliveries; two in hospital, one at home, and one induced.
Was the water one better? I thought of having kids someday but now I'm horrified to.
@@yanavav It was a wonderful experience for both me and baby as he transitioned gently from me, to water, to air. Loved it!
@@CanadianWhatever that sounds so amazing, but I dont get period cramps, so I've never felt abdominal pain, plus I dislike people touching, I'm not sure if that's out of fear, but adoption for me, or a water birth:))
@@CanadianWhatever that’s beautiful
My mom had to have a C-Section [she was sick so giving birth would have been dangerous] and they gave her a shot to numb the pain, and she felt all of it- MY MOTHER IS WONDERFUL I LOVE HER-
"And I realize somewhere in the process someone had put me in a diaper" 😂 this woman is funny without even trying...
It makes me realize that i have to respect and love my mom more than ever (doesn’t mean I don’t before watching this)
Y’all I’m scared now to have a baby.! When they started talking about tearing and ripping and stitches, I lost it! 😳😩😭
Nothing to be scared about, it's a little uncomfortable to move around after giving birth, but it's not super painful! Plus docs give you pain meds, ice packs, water bottle for when you have to pee, and extra numbing spray!
I gave birth a week ago.. you won't feel it when you are tearing, labor pain makes you feel nothing else even when they stitch you, you won't feel it.. it can be uncomfortable to move and poop afterwards but if you followed your doctor's instructions it'll all go in a few days! Hope you have a healthy baby❤
I had a completely drug free vaginal birth, and honestly, tearing isn’t that bad at all. I had a third degree tear, so it took a lot of stitching up after (although once you’ve had a baby, that feels like absolutely nothing). The best way I can describe the pain is that it feels kinda like when someone does that thing where they twist the skin on your arm. Where I’m from it’s called a Chinese burn, but like obviously down below and not on your arm haha. I didn’t even know that I was actually tearing until I got told I needed stitches after, I thought it was just the feeling of my daughter stretching me as she was coming out. Hurt a lot less then I thought it would.
Thank you ladies!!! It helps ease my mind . 🤗😊
@@sarahhanley5295 I had a 4th degree episiotomy and the only thing that freaked me out was the swelling after lol I thought I was gonna pop my stitches trying to poop. But other than that i was definitely up and moving the next day, and it wasn't that bad for me.
I love all of these women. They're all so down to earth and relatable.
I swear, the more I learn about pregnancies and giving birth, the more I’m sure that I never, ever, ever, EVER want to have children! That’s NOT worth all that unnecessary horrible pain and all these troubles and the chance that I could die!
I mean, you can die walking down the street 🤷🏾♀
I can say its 100 percent worth it, I forgot all about the pain as soon as I held her
Kavinya Mupa But that would probably be less painful. 🤷🏻♀️
OK but death is inevitable and natural and you're going to suffer and die whether you like it or not
Everyone is different I never tore and had natural deliveries even if I did have horrible births it’s still 1000% worth it. You can’t explain it it’s amazing