The Food Plan I Follow to Heal Overeating, Increase Energy & Focus
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Energy crashes and "brain fog" are common for people with Childhood PTSD; new pressures seem to be making low energy and poor focus even worse. In this video I teach about a food plan I follow that helped me heal overeating AND dysregulation, and to increase my energy and mental focus.
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So overeating can be the body's way of trying to stimulate the vagus nerve. When we are full, a signal goes to the vagus nerve, stimulating it. This stimulation signals the body to relax. Since CPTSD keeps the body in a constant state of high stress, compulsive eating is a way of self-medicating to calm down.
Wow this makes perfect sense! I was doubting how it could only be self sabotage / a form of automutilation. There HAS to be a pay off, right?
This explanation makes perfect sense!
I’ve been studying the vagus nerve bc of debilitating autoimmune disorder I have, but I hadn’t heard this. It makes a LOT, of sense. I was wondering where you learned this? I ask bc Ive clearly missed some important information. My autoimmune disorder is related to my GI tract, & I definitely can relate to craving refined carbs & sugar… & having trouble controlling myself around them at times. Like now. My soul dog passed away. I’m so dysregulated by the loss, I haven’t been able to pull it together yet. She was all I had. It’s why I’m watching this video. 😏
@@dshepherd107 What a beautiful title, soul dog. I lost mine very suddenly in early 2019.
I just want to give you a supportive hug with what you're currently going through because the loss is painful but also not many people truly understanding the depth of it or worse dismiss it, the grieving can get so lonely sometimes.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🤗❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@dshepherd107 So sorry about your dog. I have 3 and they're my life, so I get it. I can't remember exactly where I read this, it's been a while. But I'm sure you can google. Take care. 🤗
This video and what your talking about makes so much cense ! I am definitely going to be researching more on all of this and educating myself, So tired of the brain fog , feeling sore, sluggish, tired, of cravings and the extra pounds.
Thanks for the info 🙋♀️🇨🇦👍🏼✊🏻
I"m 80 , child of an alcoholic and have struggled with food for the last 70 years... this hit the nail on the head perfectly !
I'm 30 but in a life of constant inescapable misery food was the only source of instant gratification, pleasure and consolation
Same!! in between both of your ages (56) food addiction? Preoccupation? Obsession? Just way too much energy! has been a issue my whole life. Its a daily struggle & so Sick of it. It was the ONLY COMFORT & frankly, love, that I felt in my childhood. No wonder the pull to eat is so strong!
Hope you feel better soon,
@@halam.m531 thank you.. it appears it's a lifelong battle with ups, and downs ...
I have struggled with foods and weight my whole life. I'm 74. I ate what was served or suffered consequences. I ate what I didn't like or want to avoid abuse and to be a good example to my brother the picky eater. Sweets and treats were rare so I binged when we had them. (And to get my share before Dad gobbled them all up. He had food issues, too) . All choices are weaponized. Junk food, carbs, too much sugar, not enough fiber, too much fat, not enough veggies. Aaarrrggghhhh ‼️😱 The nagging voices have never ceased and now they're in my head! Even the various nutrition therapies all eventually become a form of bondage and duress.
Neglect in childhood often might mean not being fed enough or on-time, at least that was my experience. I often think that is the reason I am obsessed with food. I had terrible abuse and neglect of basic needs like love and feeling secure. Sugar is my drug.
That is exactly the case with me too. When I was able to leave home, like Scarlett O'Hara in Gone With the Wind, I vowed "I will never be hungry again!"
Yep. Well drugs and alcohol were “bad” as teens so what was left we could actually get?
Neglected and often only had dinner, no breakfast or lunch.
I relate so very much to what you're saying. Breakfast was typically the meal I would get. Forget anything else. I was so hungry at 7 years old that at one point I put a red Lego in my mouth, and it actually tasted like red jello. It's a wonder I didn't choke on it. Talk about a head trip.
Me too. Not enough food to ever feel full as a child.
When I eat sweets it definitely hits the pleasure centers in my brain. Especially ice cream. And of course, it makes me want to repeat the experience!
Yes! We are just trying to feel good-but it can so easily get out of hand can't it?
-Cara@TeamFairy
Ice cream is my way of self soothing too... it's so efficient 😟
Yes being over weight makes me lazy and mentally foggy. I've been walking 2 milesa day for a few weeks and fasting sugar bread soda and I'm feeling better more energy. .I never thought it possible that.i could feel better I'm 59 and w COVID I have been death obsessed. . It's been awful. But I've decided that look.you are still here... relatively healthy . .you ain't dead yet stop the nonsense. So I've been walking. Just doing it. I hope I continue. Im not ready to die.
Same 😭
Anna, thank you for this much-needed post. Just 6 months ago, I was 255 lbs. I'd gained 80 lbs in the past four years, most of it in 2020. I experienced all the symptoms you discussed. Five months ago, I discovered a Canadian nephrologist with impressive research on hormonal regulation and the basal metabolic rate. I was desperate, went all in, and it changed my life!
The brain fog, bit**iness, anxiety, and depression have improved tremendously in such a short time. I've lost 50 lbs in just those 5 months if that's any indication of how loud my body was screaming for help. Just a week or so ago, I started walking 10k steps a day, in part, because I had regained energy and motivation. No quick-fix or fast dieting. Just simply grasping how detrimental carb loading and sugar were to my metabolism. My relationship with carbs and sugar also challenged my circadian clock, which threw my hormones more out of sync, which affected -- you guessed it -- my metabolism. And don't get me started on how ravenous I felt every 2 hours after throwing back bagels and pasta.
I now reserve refined carbs and sugar for rare occasions celebrated with family and friends. But, for my physical and mental health, I simply can't store them in my house. It's made all the difference.
Also want to add, I'm just another subbie who has been greatly impacted by your work. Thank you. ❤❤
Edit to add: I'm 48, 5'6, and had to turn to my obese body with all the compassion I could muster up to thank her for carrying me despite all she's been through. She may not look perfect, but she is perfect, and she's literally held me up.
Hi…can you share the name of the nephrologist
So inspiring! Thanks for sharing.
-Cara@TeamFairy
@@evaollie9208 I think she is referring to Dr Jason Fung. He works alot with people who have kidney damage from diabetes. He has youtube videos that are extremely helpful. With his guidance I've lost 35lbs and feel better and have a better relationship with food.
@@evaollie9208 Gotta be Dr. Jason Fung.
Can you please share the name of the Dr you’re referring to?
I am morbidly obese and have been since childhood. As I’ve gotten healthier mentally, I’ve seen it’s obviously a direct result of childhood trauma. I’m resentful there’s a gap in mental health care for this connection (alas, MH is still taboo amongst many). I’m going back to school to hopefully add to the awareness. And I’m also in process of getting physically healthier. Good job mentioning this!
Agreed, I was morbidity obese at the age of 16 (111kgs), had been obese all my life and the main source of comfort and assurance as my parents were unavailable. Lost 49kgs when I was 16 and about to start uni but after some trauma at the age of 26 I started gaining weight again and now at 34 I'm back to 111kgs. I think deep down when others neglect us we find it easier to neglect ourselves than those in loving and affectionate families. It's like there's no witnesses and noone to let down so we can let ourselves go. Going to try and get healthy again but tbh don't know if I'll make the come back. Been an interesting ride. Good luck to you all, it's a mad world out there, spesh for those with no secure attachment to your primary blood family.
Keep in mind there are always ways to get healthier, even if it never involves a huge weight loss. Even small changes can improve your health, and that's something to celebrate!
So many good decisions in one comment! Way to go! 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
you know when I was 13 my mom told me I could stop eating that much and reduce my big belly. 13 years when I was going through puberty and wasn’t even big. That’s cause a lifetime of eating disorders extreme trauma and I cannot understand until this day how could she say something so disgusting to her own daughter?
Cookies: one is too many, and a thousand isnt enough
Laughs in AA
@@somethinggood9267 I'm glad someone got my joke!!
Oh God, yes. Once I start eating sugary things, I literally cannot stop.
Omgosh..so true. I'm 51 years old almost 20 years ago I lost 100 lb by eating cleaner...and still maintaining. It changed my whole life. I feel so much lighter and clear and focused to work on other things within myself. I won't even know where to begin with my journey. All I can say is today I am free-er. For a period of time when I was losing the weight I did turn to alcohol. I then realized what am I doing? I freed myself from that also. I am in a good place. Still always learning and growing. So many negative addictions can leave you so heavy. I'm proud to say today I'm so much lighter ... Making amends with my children cleaning up my home. I have a job That is satisfying and good. It feels good to be there for others in a positive way. Life is good No matter the trials and struggles. I always hope that for others that are struggling within themselves. I wish everyone that has restlessness to find peace, It's a good feeling. 🙂
I was sexually abused when I was a child to cope I turned to food I became overweight I did this so that nobody would find me attractive so I wouldn't get abused like that again my mind basically blocked out the abuse when I was 14 years old I started getting my memory back of the abuse at this point I was a total mess I became anorexic I lost a lot of weight I did this because I had little control of my life I also was suffering from depression and self harm I'm still skinny but I'm not anorexic anymore and I'm no longer self harm
I’m 72 and have been eating with this food plan for 11 years and it has brought me down from 252 lbs to 150, plus I feel young and healthy and so much better emotionally. But I am a compulsive eater/sugar addict/binge eater and need a 12-step program to go along with it (Compulsive Eaters Anonymous). It goes so perfectly with your food program and your educational program. I swear by the daily writing/meditation/prayer.
Can't believe this, my two favourite people whose teachings have helped me understand and heal my biggest hellish life troubles are "friends" with each other! *Heart melting* and thank you so much.
Great!!!!
-Cara@TeamFairy
overeating is the worst symptom in my life. it is so frustrating to me. thank you for this video.
I went against the grain (no pun intended) during the first year of the pandemic. I lost a very large amount of weight on keto and completely gave up alcohol. I actually loved the isolation and slow pace of life, it was very freeing.
I've fallen off the wagon a couple of times since, totally losing control, binging on carbs and drinking wine almost every night. It's an addiction that is so difficult to manage. I used to think I was just greedy and undisciplined, but there's way more going on.
I have never been able to moderate my intake of food and drink, I'm either all or nothing. And the crappier I feel, the more I binge. I can't even say I enjoy it. It feels very calming to have all these comfort foods in the kitchen, but eating them makes me feel so ill. I shove it all down as if I'm punishing myself.
I'm now back on track and in control again, and boy does it feel good!!
I so relate, thanks for sharing!
-Cara@TeamFairy
Overeating was adaptive for me when I was an anxious, lonely little kid. It helped me to survive and brought me here.
I wouldn't stop eating when I got satiated. I was a thin kid, but that's not how we are supposed to eat. Some of the pleasure of eating was lost.
It was only after a while that too much eating became too much fat.
Now I am getting help of a nutritionist and also treating the effects of trauma. I am learning to listen to my body - to the painful and also to the pleasant sensations.
I think I got in contact with the part of me that stimulates my overeating. It told me it wants to protect me from pain by taking me out of my body. A bit like those people who check their phones whenever something distressing happens to them.
I appreciate my overeating part. It spared me too much pain. It has brought me here.
Thanks for sharing!
-Cara@TeamFairy
This hit me hard. Same.
Oh @@TheFinalBathAmber lots of love and good vibes to you!
@@sharonmorine5407 thanks! And let's keep healing 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
Thank goodness
Clutter is an issue with me as well due to my traumas...
SAME
I’m glad I’m not the only one…
Where is the video about cptsd and clutter?
Yup. Not a hoarder but any flat surface will be covered with stuff. I get very tired and can't make myself do any reorganizing. I never learned to clean properly (what products/devices to use) but the instant lethargy that overcomes me whenever I even think of cleaning up is debilitating.
My mood is stable, my brain fog gone, my joint pain dramatically better and my cravings controlled when I fuel my brain and body on ketones. It's transformed my life and given me a sense of agency in my own life.
Hi Anna. I just finished reading the book "bright line eating " by Susan Pierce Thompson and I'm so excited about this program. I'm a mom with ADHD and cptsd and I love how this program will work even with lack of executive functioning and even during burnout or decision fatigue! I'm already making serious progress. yes I'm losing weight but even better than that I'm not having a panic attack at dinner time every night! I love the focus on integrity and keeping your word to yourself as well as the focus on taking time to nourish. I feel so much better already! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for recommending this program!
I'm so happy for you! I'm bright now too. I've been reaching out to Susan's team about collaboration. Cross your fingers!
I have to say I tried that program and it does work. However every thing inside of me revolted against measuring some thing like salad. I understand the need for boundaries but I just couldn’t take it. There’s another person called Chef AJ who has you eliminate sugar oil fats alcohol. She has a Cooking Channel. I’m going to go back and follow her again because I feel much more peaceful when I’m eating the no sugar and fat but I just cannot stand measuring everything. It just bothers me immensely
You are just a gift, Anna! You touch on everything. Thank you for helping me heal, change my thoughts and change my life. ❤
For me, there's definitely a large component of remembering the creepy attention I attracted when I was younger & thinner which I could deal with in a more healthy way now ❤ Love Theresa
YES!
Yes, tall at 12, my Dad's friends said inappropriate things. I 'hid' to keep safe. No parent advocated for me
@@emocean582 🤗❤ Hi. Yeah, I'm familiar with experiencing little to no protection from my parents & I needed it! I hope you know that You deserved better! I hope You advocate for Yourself often now! ❤ Theresa
Absolutely!
That is so terrible. I am so sorry.
I've been watching your video's for a couple of months. They are very helpful. I tried Bright Line Eating around 2016 and it's the only program I've ever been able to lose weight on. Last year I was happy to see they lowered their prices and I joined the Hub, but I was never able to get myself started. Yesterday I attended SPT's Zoom on the new Boot Camp 2.0 and was motivated to re-activate my membership. I will be doing the Boot Camp. Later that evening I was delighted to find this video and discover that you recommend BLE. This is confirmation to me that I'm on the right path. Thank you.
I love this video. You’re coming across as so articulate, self-aware, and compassionate. You’re coming across as really trying to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and earnestly trying to say what will make a difference to your viewer. Thank you so much for trying so hard and succeeding at this work and the work of being yourself, for us. I love you, Anna.
Thank you so much!
-Cara@TeamFairy
THIS IS THE VIDEO I NEEDED!!!!!!!!!
Definitely i relate. food was restricted at home, so I felt deprived. As adult i over eat sometimes. I cant just eat 2 squares of chocolate from the bar!
Me neither!
-Cara@TeamFairy
Thank you. I mean it. All i needed was to hear this. I’m addicted to sugar to make up for the lack of satisfaction with many areas of my life. You are truly appreciated ❤️ may love and blessings find your way always ❤️✨
Same. I feel such relief in knowing why I do things, its helped me STOP those things finally. Just getting clarity... This will change things for me starting today!
For me, it was partly the CPTSD (like 80% of it) and partly severe depression.
Thanks for this. I've been struggling with my weight forever - I am a total cookie monster so i dont keep anything tempting in the house unless its for a party or something special. It completely sucks to gain weight back you lost... but accepting defeat will definitely make you feel worse than trying again. I will say the combination of diet (standard portions, no snacking, high in veggies/proteins) AND exercise 2-3 times a week is my sweet spot. I found Pilates, yoga and aerial acrobatics enjoyable so i wouldn't dread doing it on a regular basis - you'll never see me take a run/jog lol
ArtisanAlll - I used to feel the same way about jogging/running. But then I tried it as small steady bursts in combo with walking and I got hooked! Little by little I could go longer stretches of slow steady run, and my legs love the feeling afterwards.
Wow! I so relate to your description of your relationship with sugar and flour foods and how they call to you and how you can become preoccupied with just knowing they’re there. I’m exactly the same way. I went low carb and lost 60 pounds in my late 60’s so I know we older folks can lose weight just like younger folks. Also, my A1c was always on the fringe of diabetes and is now well into the normal range. Yes, if I have a bite of sugary, floury foods it sets off a craving for more, more, more! I literally feel awful the next day as though I have an alcoholic hangover. I do tend to binge when I’ve had an emotional disappointment. I’m really working at not giving into that. I love your videos. Thank you. 🙏🏻🥰
Thanks for sharing your experience!
-Cara@TeamFairy
I have always struggled with food. Sugar and flour are still my Devils, some days I fail lol. My best policy… don’t keep it in the house. I’m at a healthier weight now than I have been in over a decade. I do exercise but what’s also been super helpful for me is intermittent fasting. I fast for roughly 18 hours a day and eat over a window of 6 hours. I try to stick with my core foods of lean protein, fruits and vegetables. This being said, if I buy something sugary, I’m STILL bound to eat it ALL🤦🏼♀️ I’m also a recovering alcoholic/addict, sober for years now. But the binge thing (food) is still real for me from time to time. Work in progress ✊🏻
Food prep is has been key to my success as well. If healthy foods are prepared and available, I’m less likely to eat crap. And yes, I have an extensive history of trauma.
I still enjoy meals that include bread and pasta but I limit myself and eat them less frequently. Like I love stuffed shells lol, they are a once a month treat.
I am aged 62 and have struggled all my life with chocolate, cakes and pastries. Added to this the need to buy clutter. Doing the daily practice helps to make better decisions, but oh so easy to see chocolate and consume excessively (especially on my own)! It does provide a temporary calm. I tell myself one last time as a treat, but this has always failed and makes me feel a failure yet again. This despite knowing the bad health consequences. Any foods I crave, including marmite, I do not keep in the home. When I do my local daily am and pm walks I leave my wallet at home, as far too much temptation out there. Thank you for your educational and hopeful programs. I too want to live a long and healthy life. Just recommended your channel to a friend.
Thanks for sharing! Sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
You impeccable timing with your videos. I'm battling food addiction. I had a breakthrough thought yesterday and realized that my behavior around food and high reward food is so much like that of an alcoholic. To top it I have food intolerances and some foods gove me horrible symptoms including blurry eyesight. I believe I have hit my rock bottom now. I don't think I'll make it if I dont kick my addiction as I have eaten myself to obesity
I think over the years I have turned to food for comfort due to all of my past traumas-(Sexual Abuse,Verbal Abuse,Traumatic Brain Injury etc,,).
I came across this channel yesterday & I’ve been bing watching ever since. This channel makes me feel so validated in my experiences. I’ve been so hard on myself, I’m excited to learn more from you. Thank you for the work you do ❤️
Welcome! So glad you found the channel :) -Calista@TeamFairy
This whole video is gold! Great information 👏 I've realized with my struggles with food throughout the years that overeating is 100% an effect of being disregulated. When I am disregulated I mindlessly start eating without realizing until I was full and after, sitting there like did I really just eat all that trash. It's very hard but I try to be more mindful before I go to the fridge. I try to ask myself am I really hungry? 1) Am I hydrated - dehydration equals feeling hungry. 2) Am I really hungry - did I just eat recently. 3) is this food going to nourish my body. Mindfulness has helped so much!
Thanks for chiming in with your experience!
-Cara@TeamFairy
OMG fairy! I watched the first few minutes of your video when you describe brain fog and that lack of energy and I swear I feel so incredibly SEEN! It’s such an eye opener, I always thought it was just me, been called lazy a lot, but it is literally like you said: it’s paralysing, like there’s a membrane between myself and the world. I am crying because the realisation that this could come from my trauma and it’s not “me” is freeing and enlightening! And then you’re going to tell us the solution too. Fairy you are literally helping me with these free videos more than I ever felt helped before, you are helping me change my life or rather to get to LIVE again. I’m thankful beyond words. Thank you for existing 💖
First off, Anna, you look fantastic in that green blouse; it’s definitely your color. Second, you helped me tremendously with Bright Line Eating. I followed the link under one of your videos in April 2021, after you mentioned it. I turned out to be a 10 on the scale, which was no surprise to me. I’ve lost 56lbs and am still going, but beyond the weight, the other impacts on my health are the best part. The program is really easy to follow, and there’s nothing to buy except real food. It is truly life changing. Thank you.
Thanks so much for sharing with us- truly inspiring, congratulations!
-Cara@TeamFairy
You are the first person to ever accurately describe my thought process when I see a plate if cookies. Thank you for helping me feel less alone ❤
I'm so glad, thank you for taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
Great analogy with the cookies!! I’m struggling with my nervous eating and I can’t control it!
So glad to listen and stay focused with you.
Good content!
Be safe!
I feel like I’m walking through mud constantly. The effort to get up the motivation to vacuum was more difficult than when I used to run 8km per day.
My grandmother used to live with my uncle and aunt and when I would go visit her a block away from our house, she would sneak me sweets. She said ssshhh , dont tell anyone. I guess my aunt wanted to keep it for herself. For years later I dreamed that I was flying over that house or sneaking in and getting food. I am not supposed to be there but there I am hiding in the house. My grandmom died when I was 8 and I remember feeling she loved me more than any other person on the planet.
Hi! I've actually been doing BLE for 4 year and had sustained a 88 pound weight loss for those years, but hadn't quite gotten rid of the last 10-20 pounds. I started your fears/resentment daily practice two days ago and YES, they totally go hand in hand! I'm so grateful to you Anna and the Crappy Childhood Fairy team! Excited to see this play out long-term!!
This is wonderful to hear! I hope you'll write to me so I can include your experience in the way we share the two programs with others. I'd really like to discuss with SPT, sharing this widely.
Thank you so much Fairy 🧚♂️ I love the way you help people and am seeing in my own life how I am doing much more self care and actually sorting through and getting rid of my clutter and feeling positive about healthy low sugar and low carb diet. You are great xx thank you xx
I'm glad you did this topic. This is definitely something that I've struggled with my whole life. My mom never went shopping and would starve us sometimes as punishment so food and I have a bad relationship. I did a diet recently called Optavia and lost 35 lbs but then I was told something that totally threw me and I gained some of that back through stress eating. The learning to self-regulate is so incredibly hard. I've started acupuncture as well to try to help with that. I feel like trauma causes so many long term issues that are constantly having to be worked on.
I suffer from undereating. I simply cannot eat when feeling dysregulated.
I do too.
I love all your talks and I really relate to this. I used to knumb out, now I tend to skip eating out of some form of control when I’m feeling really anxious and not in my own skin. Then when I eat healthy I feel so calm, and energetic. I’m excited to share your work because it’s so solution oriented!
I have a lot of physical and mental issues so I don't eat regularly and rarely have energy to prepare food so I tended to eat convince food like crackers. I finally realized that eating that way would worsen my problems. I started buying apples. They are just as convenient as crackers. Sometimes I would eat 3 of them dipped in peanut butter for a meal. Then I added baby carrots and hummus. I could pig out all I wanted on those. When I started to feel better I added healthy caned soup and pre made salads. I still have my problems but they are less severe. I love that you emphasis that everyone should find what works for them.
I appreciate hearing from a councilor who has experienced these issues and not just read someone's assumptions out of a book. I developed digestive issues and depression at the same time. I was told that it's common because depressed people are not self aware. It's known that nutritional deficiencies cause mental problems but Drs are told that nutritional deficiencies don't happen in modern society. I came to the conclusion that digestive problems caus nutritional deficiencies and that in turn causes depression.
I work a lot, so I live off baked chicken, butter, guacamole and sheep cheese. It's easy, keeps me sane.
22:18 yes we do! I check off almost every box 😅 Excited to learn more and hopefully heal 😊
My mom was a terror at the table. If I didn't want to eat the bowl of soggy cereal, or nasty chicken pot pie which looked like a sea of snot littered with peas and carrots, she would grab a spoon and actually force it into my mouth causing me to gag, then dare me to vomit, threatening to beat me to a bloody pulp. Then when she tired of trying to shove it down my throat she would say, "EAT IT OR WEAR IT!" And then dump the food over my head. Or she would force me to sit at the table staring down some nasty pile of peas (or what ever it was that day) for what felt like eternity. I know I spent at least an hour at the time, possibly longer. Further, between meals we were NOT allowed to even touch the fridge or food in general. A snack was a slice of plain bread. Meanwhile mom would have candy bars, etc.. So surprise! I guess that's where my food issues sprout from. The bright side, when I gave birth to my own babies, I made a conscious point to never treat them in a cruel or abusive way ever. I can't say I have been perfect, or that I have never lost it and done some yelling, but I maintain awareness of my actions and if I feel like I could really blow up I check my temper. I figure I can use the rotten things my mother did to make myself a better mother.
Omg! This video is such a life-changer. Thank you for your effort, it means a lot especially when the majority of us lack opportunity for mental health help.
Started low carb on August 8th 2020, realized I was a slave to carbs through comfort from my CPTSD. Eating low carb freed my addiction to food and allowed me to lose 184 lbs in 1.5 years. I highly suggest this way of eating to those that suffer from food being the only thing that's been there for them when parents should have been!
Take care of yourselves! Love you all.
WOW! !! Amazing accomplishment, thanks for sharing!
-Cara@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy no problem! Enjoy your videos!
Do you eat fruits on this diet ?
@@sofiafantin5280 a very small amount of blueberries occasionally.
This is soooo incredibly helpful. I’ve been following you for a while and I finally feel like there’s a community of people that understand me. Thanks for all you do. I’ve started a course and look forward to more. I’m 40 and ready to take my life back 😊
I'm so glad!
I'm that person with the cookie monologue going on my head! 🥲
Fantastic video 😍
I was over weight since childhood..... 30kg/66lbs over weight by the time I was 18.
Lost & gained multiple times.
Finally lost the weight when I turned 40. I am 58 now.
I think for most the over eating is an avoidance of what we are really feeling and literally stuff the emotions down with food.
When I am disregulated, my initial reaction is to seek out comfort from food, but thankfully, I am well aware of WHY I want to do that, I am now able to stop myself and find something else to do that does not involve food to calm myself down & re-regulate.
I am enjoying your videos, you give very easy, common sense reasons behind our 'stuff' & how to deal with it.
I am going to try your daily routine to help with my many thoughts buzzing around in my head..... 🙏🧡
Clutter and trauma... Can't wait for the in depth video on that topic. One of those things many therapists said the most clueless things about to me. I'm not as bad at housekeeping as I used to be but still living in chaos (can't have anyone over syndrome)
Hello! I just wanted to say that you're the first person to so accurately describe the brain fog state of being (feeling like there is a membrane between you and the world). Thank you so much for that! I thought I was going crazy, and I was having such a hard time describing it to people. I even thought that I might have a brain tumor or something at one point. I'm 27 and I'll be starting schema therapy soon. I hope it'll make me feel less dead inside, it'd be nice to actually live life instead of just kind of hanging in there.
Thank you for your video's! Wishing you the very best! Greetings from the Netherlands.
Resonating with you...
I was sexually abused by a neighbor kid who was just a couple years older than me. I think I was 10 or 11 and he was 12 or 13.. I've blocked it from my mind and have consequently had SO MUCH brain fog. My life has been alternating between turning to food as a way of control and then for comfort. One horrible comment from my father about how I'd "better not eat that icecream... it will make me fat" stuck with me and made me go all out anorexic, which paired along nicely with going to modeling school and isolating myself so I could hids my eating & obsessive exercise habits. I was laughing out loud when Anna mentioned something about 'looking like a model' but it actually is quite sad in reality.
I got married fresh out if high-school to get out of my parents house and still be a "good girl" and then I used food, icecream mostly for comfort and possibly to try to not be as attractive to my then husband. Binge and purge was the new thing then. As soon as my first child was born, I left the false relationship/marriage behind. What a mess!
I still suffer with occasional binge periods and I just remarried after 25 years of being single.
My main goal at this point is to stay regulated so that I don't go into freeze with my current husband and my life in general. I have such a hard time with cognitive executive function, it has made holding a good job that I would otherwise be completely capable of downright impossible. It has made me a victim of limitations instead of a person who succeeds.
I'm 52 now and so sad that so much of my life has been just wasted.
@@Angie247BeersI have a very similar story
@Gigi0606 I'd love to hear, if you want to share
Bessel van der Kolk the body keeps the score talk about trauma, especially sexual trauma and obesity being well evidenced.
I'm enjoying the comments were people are talking about their practical experience dealing with this and overcoming or connection with the root of the problem. I had a patient this weekend that made my head spin he was yelling so loud. He was hallucinating and going through withdrawal. The attitudes of co-workers towards addicts is often disappointing to say the least. While I don't want to take them home, I can't get on a high horse. I just can't find the desire. I think wow you are like this over a substance external to you but how many times have I overeaten, how many times do people shop, gamble, have causal sex, overwork, seek stranger validation, and all for the same reasons. It's no different in the end except how quickly it becomes too negative to ignore and what exact features the destruction takes on. All these outlets impede personal and interpersonal experiences and growth while setting you up for more maladaptations. Oh, I wish that we could change the things the world values so we could get together on the things everyone needs. Consumption is the preferred mode of distraction for us, it's encouraged to the hilt. Be it use of your "disposable income", use of another person to profit or feel good or food.
Glad you final got to a whole video on this one.
Thank you for your thoughtful post. My therapist has mentioned The Body Keeps the Score several times to me!
Being addicted to sugar/carbs in my opinion is a result of having those foods in childhood used to reward you, keep you quiet, given to you when you were good so there's a pleasurable connection to them in the first place. So it starts there.
Totally disagree! I had none of those in childhood! I got addicted in my 20s by eating junk.
OMG bless you, thank you for dissecting this issue‼️I'm stuck in this inertia. And i grabbed at this title because how did you figure out how to explain this. My brain is complete mush.@30:21 - the nail on the head💕
OMG! I have looked for this connection for 30+ years. Thank you, thank you!
My life would be different if I knew this before! I failed out of a major graduate program I worked towards for years, bc I had so much brain fog and memory loss and no one could figure out what happened to me. I always had this problem but just pushed thru… makes me realize how smart I must’ve been! This is exactly me. And when I kept weight off, my mental issues were easier too.
Thanks for sharing, it's so inspiring!
-Cara@TeamFairy
Glad you are on the road back to health. Thank you for all you do! 🙏🏻😊😘
Wow! This explains so much.
A boss of mine talked to her therapist about me, and suggested I get tested for bipolar disorder. I had already been tested and told my boss that. I wish the psychiatrist I was seeing at the time had told me that the energy fluctuations were a result of trauma.
I wish any therapist or doctor I saw had made the connection between my weight and past trauma.
The model we have for medicine of the mind and body often leaves a lot up to how affluent, curious, and intrinsically motivated a clinician is to inform themselves. Yes, there are so many things to learn and no mental health professional can be specialized in all areas but a less profit based system could help. I suggested Bessel van der Kolk in general comments. He was the first clinician I saw take a deeper focus on this. I only heard it mentioned in passing here or there otherwise. Sorry the system failed you as so many others.
Please, PLEASE turn on the captions for deaf and hearing impaired! I’ve been so starved for what you are sharing but have no clue what’s being said since you don’t have the captions turned on. I’m so hungry to heal but dang it- I need to see words to understand what you are sharing.
Captions are working fine when I click on the CC in the top right corner of the video.
Closed Captions are available
-Cara@TeamFairy
Thank you Anna, I am so grateful for this video, I really needed this information after being so triggered lately and overeating to cope, thank you!
The timing on this is insane. Over the past year I gained 25 lbs. I was devastated when I stepped on the scale at the doctor's office. I told myself this would be the year that I take charge of my health/diet. It's so difficult because super carby and fatty foods have been a comfort for me. I keep saying I'm going to work out but I have no energy to do much lately. It's awful. Getting over Covid is making it extra difficult.
Good luck. I'm sure there's a way for you to reach your goals. ☺️
A supportive community goes a long way!
-Cara@TeamFairy
@classical chameleon thank you for the encouragement ♥️
@@KoreaMojo I think so too ☺️ Thank you! ❤️
You’re changing my life!!! Thank you 🙏
Sugar is THE devil and no one can change my mind. I went from having something sweet literally every day to maybe once or twice a week. I'm very intentional about it now.
Congratulations! It's a hard habit to break!
-Cara@TeamFairy
“Eating to calm stress or to fog out” IS emotional eating. Thanks for your video.
so this is basically the foodplan from OA Overeayers Anonymous 12 step program from at least 20 years ago. This plan has also been adjusted to allow for different styles of eating, paleo etc., and the structure and accountability is provided by meetings in person or online.
No, not OA. OA has no official food plan. People choose it themselves. It's more like FA
I've been clean keto and intermittent fast and I feel great . Very little carbs and those are the healthy carbs in my once per day green smoothie.
Wow, you just rang bells in my soul!
I’ve done right line eating and it’s wonderful. This inspired me to go back today. Here we go… I wish you had a group on Facebook or some thing that was crappy, childhood fairy and bright line eating. Thank you so much!
OMG this is what I needed as well! Thanks :)
I lost almost 8st cutting out sugar and keeping complex carbs to minimum. I got so fixated to eating this way and losing weight that I developed a life threatening eating disorder. Eating is a very sensitive topic and even best meant advice can cause a lot of harm. Even though I've been signed off by my therapist as recovered, I found this video triggering and found myself starting do demonise certain foods again. I know I could have stopped watching when I realised I was feeling this way but for some reason I couldn't. This is not a criticism I'm just sharing my feelings after watching this video.
Yes, it´s a bit dangerous. Restrictions of any kind are triggering for certain people and can lead to or worsen an eating disorder. Maybe you want to check out Marc David and the Institute for the Psychology of Eating. His approach works better for me.
Everything your saying makes so much sense.
Thank you Anna. I've watched so many of your videos & I never stop learning. I tried BL last year, did 2 weeks, felt great, jumped off the wagon again. I know it works, I know it's a meal by meal commitment some days. I am going to do it again. I appreciate your good work, I'm sending you good energy & pray for you to find what you need to stick to your program as well.
Thanks you!
This video is so great at explaining my issues. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much. I just “discovered” you today and have already watched several videos. I freaking LOVE the way you talk about the issues you address. The very first one I watched on how to regulate strong feelings I forwarded to a friend already (besides the help I got from it). Thank you for being so real. I will go from here to sign up for something…
Welcome to the channel. Glad you're enjoying it. - Ashley, Team Fairy
I’m so happy to have found this information! Thank you!
Chips, ice cream, candy, cookies….those are the ones that I cannot have in the house or I will finish them. I definitely have trauma but wondered if food control from my mom which was also done to her played a role as well.
I love you thank you for this kind of information. You give me hope.
Finally!! Beside restrictions I also had an accident.. It sent me so deep into self pity and also my middle age and other issues, all triggered such a binge eating in me... I love that science observed the connection between cptsd and obesity!!!
Anna, thank you. Thank you so much
wow. your videos are soooo helpful. thank you for them!
So very helpful down to earth and the reality of relieving The feelings of guilt
It was really helpful to hear your experiences on this subject 🙏🏻
Many life issues ...Overeating, hoarding, eating disorders, procrastinating, OCD, ect ... are outward manifestations of inner turmoil. Because I can easily go into denial, I've learned to look around me as a tool to see if I'm in distress in addition to checking my feelings. Feelings can lie but your body or environment don't, they will show the truth.
I lost forty pounds on semi-Keto. Gradually I stopped eating bread, potatoes, etc. I did this in response to chronic chest, back, and joint pains. The pain gradually went away. But I got really disregulated because of another 'limerant' relationship and lots of fear and things so, carbs are ruling again. Im glad to see this video. Must try again. So tired. 😢
Great vid!! Really resonates - thanks, A🤗
This hits home ! Someone should use me in a study. Food has been my comfort since childhood. My mother would say : Lori you can only have 6 tacos…. I actually do eat low carb but like you deviated too much during the pandemic and put on 15 pounds . This speaks to me.
I have trauma and also avoid intimacy because it feels threatening to be vulnerable
Thank You so much! You explained this in such a great way. Thank you for sharing your time & energy with us💕
Glad you enjoyed it!
-Cara@TeamFairy
"How many cookies are there? Is anyone going to have more? Can I get away with eating the cookies?" lol, gawd yes! That is SO me. Thank you. I feel seen, called out, and I laughed... I have hope, I'm completing a course called Craving Change all about this subject.
Dear Fairy, you look fantastic in that color! Also thank you for this video. I've been working on my emotional eating for decades. Now it all makes sense
Oh Anna. I so understand you. I live in Italy and need to restrain myself here. Thank you aslo for this video. Lots of love from Italy....
Amazing 👏 thank you. I'm going to check out your diet.
Thank you so much for putting this video together, Anna! Very powerful. And, per usual, just what I needed to hear. I'm so grateful. I took the quiz yesterday--though I wasn't excited about giving my email address just to take the quiz--and scored a 9. And then I watched the 4 Food Freedom videos from Dr. Peirce Thompon this morning on my walk. I'm very persuaded that this is just what I need, so now I'm signing up for the bootcamp you mentioned. It's not cheap, but I can't go on like this. I'm committed to shifting. Thanks a ton, Anna. I really trust you, and I'm confident that this will help. Fingers crossed. Happy New Year! Wishing you and your family and the entire Crappy Childhood Community all the best in 2024!
Thank you for your comment! The bootcamp includes many benefits and we're glad you decided to check it out. Good luck on your healing journey and Happy New Year to you too!
Nika@TeamFairy
Great video. Thank you!!!
I've just reserved the book at the library, I'll have a read & see how I feel about it. Definitely sounds positive.
Thanks for putting this video out
Thanks for watching!
-Cara@TeamFairy
This is a great eye opening video. It seems there are not 3 and 4 "Fs" (fight, flee, freeze, fond), but there are really 5 "Fs" - the fifth one being "feed on food".
For real!
-Cara@TeamFairy