As a fellow foster mom, I think it’s really important to share all aspects of foster care and the system. This moment is raw for you and that’s ok. Take the time, heal and pray. When you’re feeling better and can reflect with a clearer mind, come back and share your take aways.
It's important to share these sides of the system. These social workers don't realize or don't care that they're adding to the pain and suffering that these kids endure while coddling the adults involved.. Sending you so many hugs. God is with you, always. ❤
I 100% agree; the foster care system is also broken here in the US. I've always been so frustrated about how the kids wellbeing is always put last and birth parents are the priority. Our state is one that pushes for reunification no matter the cost to the children and it saddens me. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I'll be praying for both kiddos and you and your family! ❤ hugs.
Wow, Chantel, that is so rough! I totally understand why the system wants to prioritize birth families, but obviously this is not working out for the kids. I'll definitely keep praying for your family, I can only imagine how emotionally draining this whole thing is.
Thank you so much! The situation is so up and down sometimes I think I must be watching somebody else's life, surely this is a joke, how can people in charge really be putting kids through all this?
The insecurity the kids experience is so sad. You experience is very realistic and I would imagine it helps other families in the same situation. You don't do it because it's easy you do it because it's neccissary. God will work through you even if you never witness the good that comes from it.
The case worker sounds very wise. How can they take the kids full time if they can't handle a light visitation schedule? I'm sorry you're going through this back and forth but I'm so so so grateful those children have you to care for them while they go through this.
I think sharing realistic pictures of what foster care looks like is still helpful and not all scaring people away. I still want to foster in the future after watching your videos (we'd be starting to research the options now in our state if I didn't have a surprise pregnancy and am now due in April 🙂). Your videos have made me think even more that the system is so broken and the need for safe, loving families for kids for as long as the government allows them to be there is essential.
I understand and agree, first off. I was looking to find a understanding with the shit show my wife and I have Been living for almost three years. The system is totally broken. Way too many people in play and not much understanding of the reality of the true bonding happening. We have been through much worse, and after 2.5 years and now have our children in respite for a month. The bios have no love for the child but all the control. I'm over the system honestly. I love being a "foster" parent. But OMG! I want to walk away😓
Been in this home for a little while havent been fed daily meals and barely is given my basic needs this woman i live with in particular is an alcoholic who goes out to bars almost everyday spending her money on alcohol but never on needs for the home like a rug a new shower curtain we had the same one for months now its probably been in ther eover two years based on how it looks (molded and rusty looking) food shes cooked twice in the past three weeks and in those weeks we have no food in the home except a bag of chicken wings and potatoes been feeding off that and its really starting to get old and even makes me sick now whenever i mention food to her she ignores me the carpets of the home is gross when you walk around its just sticky and feels wet but it isnt the steps are literally getting black day by day she always seems to have her some food though 🤔 like a whole thing of cup ramen noodles are in her car and bags of chips and drinks and more snacks and little foods in her room even i peeped she gives her real daughter some of her stuff but when i ask “theres chicken downstairs” she has no job because of “cvoid” and “there isnt any good jobs for women” but im even getting one and im 16 while shes in her 40s so that was a very lame excuse idk if i wanna live here anymore im starting to become more and more hungry im loosing weight pretty quickly she waits for government checks to start doing things she splits up MY 200$ clothing voucher between her and her daughter and me like thats totally enough for three people and i think shes gonna do the same thing for my school clothes idk what to do i dont wanna be here anymore but i also dont wanna move outta the city im in my friends are here and people that care about me for once i dont like the system but if i report it they are just gonna send me away again and i dont wanna leave here :(
Real and raw; Debbie downer, I think not. Bless you and your family. I thought I could manage a better message to you, but I found it difficult to share my perspective, to be real and raw. However, I want you to know that your heart and love is conveyed and I am certain those kids have benefited from your families care and love. I pray your family does come to some semblance of normalcy as far as routine and handling the absence of BB very soon❤️
As a fellow foster mom, I think it’s really important to share all aspects of foster care and the system. This moment is raw for you and that’s ok. Take the time, heal and pray. When you’re feeling better and can reflect with a clearer mind, come back and share your take aways.
It's important to share these sides of the system. These social workers don't realize or don't care that they're adding to the pain and suffering that these kids endure while coddling the adults involved.. Sending you so many hugs. God is with you, always. ❤
I 100% agree; the foster care system is also broken here in the US. I've always been so frustrated about how the kids wellbeing is always put last and birth parents are the priority. Our state is one that pushes for reunification no matter the cost to the children and it saddens me. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I'll be praying for both kiddos and you and your family! ❤ hugs.
Wow, Chantel, that is so rough! I totally understand why the system wants to prioritize birth families, but obviously this is not working out for the kids. I'll definitely keep praying for your family, I can only imagine how emotionally draining this whole thing is.
Thank you so much! The situation is so up and down sometimes I think I must be watching somebody else's life, surely this is a joke, how can people in charge really be putting kids through all this?
The insecurity the kids experience is so sad. You experience is very realistic and I would imagine it helps other families in the same situation. You don't do it because it's easy you do it because it's neccissary. God will work through you even if you never witness the good that comes from it.
Wow I could not be a foster parent. You are a rock star in your dealing with all this.
Praying for you and kids in this journey. So sorry it has been so all over the place
The case worker sounds very wise. How can they take the kids full time if they can't handle a light visitation schedule? I'm sorry you're going through this back and forth but I'm so so so grateful those children have you to care for them while they go through this.
I’m so sorry you’ve all been on such a roller coaster! I know this affects every member of your family and it stinks! Praying!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I think sharing realistic pictures of what foster care looks like is still helpful and not all scaring people away. I still want to foster in the future after watching your videos (we'd be starting to research the options now in our state if I didn't have a surprise pregnancy and am now due in April 🙂). Your videos have made me think even more that the system is so broken and the need for safe, loving families for kids for as long as the government allows them to be there is essential.
You are so right, Esther!
I’m so sorry for you and for your family, praying especially for R2 and BB8. 😔♥️
Praying for those kids🙏🏻
Sending hugs, prayers and love your way! ❤️
I understand and agree, first off. I was looking to find a understanding with the shit show my wife and I have Been living for almost three years. The system is totally broken. Way too many people in play and not much understanding of the reality of the true bonding happening. We have been through much worse, and after 2.5 years and now have our children in respite for a month. The bios have no love for the child but all the control. I'm over the system honestly. I love being a "foster" parent. But OMG! I want to walk away😓
Been in this home for a little while havent been fed daily meals and barely is given my basic needs this woman i live with in particular is an alcoholic who goes out to bars almost everyday spending her money on alcohol but never on needs for the home like a rug a new shower curtain we had the same one for months now its probably been in ther eover two years based on how it looks (molded and rusty looking) food shes cooked twice in the past three weeks and in those weeks we have no food in the home except a bag of chicken wings and potatoes been feeding off that and its really starting to get old and even makes me sick now whenever i mention food to her she ignores me the carpets of the home is gross when you walk around its just sticky and feels wet but it isnt the steps are literally getting black day by day she always seems to have her some food though 🤔 like a whole thing of cup ramen noodles are in her car and bags of chips and drinks and more snacks and little foods in her room even i peeped she gives her real daughter some of her stuff but when i ask “theres chicken downstairs” she has no job because of “cvoid” and “there isnt any good jobs for women” but im even getting one and im 16 while shes in her 40s so that was a very lame excuse idk if i wanna live here anymore im starting to become more and more hungry im loosing weight pretty quickly she waits for government checks to start doing things she splits up MY 200$ clothing voucher between her and her daughter and me like thats totally enough for three people and i think shes gonna do the same thing for my school clothes idk what to do i dont wanna be here anymore but i also dont wanna move outta the city im in my friends are here and people that care about me for once i dont like the system but if i report it they are just gonna send me away again and i dont wanna leave here :(
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Real and raw; Debbie downer, I think not.
Bless you and your family.
I thought I could manage a better message to you, but I found it difficult to share my perspective, to be real and raw. However, I want you to know that your heart and love is conveyed and I am certain those kids have benefited from your families care and love.
I pray your family does come to some semblance of normalcy as far as routine and handling the absence of BB very soon❤️
Thank you!
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