Brené Brown - The Courage to Be Vulnerable
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- Courage is borne out of vulnerability, not strength. This finding of Brené Brown’s research on shame and “wholeheartedness” shook the perfectionist ground beneath her own feet. And now it’s inspiring millions to reconsider the way they live, parent, and lead. (Original Air Date: November 22, 2012)
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Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston, where she holds the Huffington Foundation-Brené Brown Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work. Her books include “The Gifts of Imperfection,” “Daring Greatly,” “Rising Strong,” and most recently, “Braving the Wilderness.”
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Yes and.... some men experience much more shame than just the "don't look weak" thing. Some of us have experienced traumatic body shaming. Some of us had narcissistic parents who instilled shame in us about, well, everything. Compassion Compassion Compassion Compassion Compassion
She’s so insightful and smart, but most importantly she is kind x
I love her, she is so inspiring. Especially i liked the part when she speaks about a man and a woman having done their work and in hard moments allowing their partner to be vulnerable and express their true feelings. It's vital for healthy dynamics in relationships.
I used to think being vulnerable was scary and I still do. But these days now working in the corporate offices, being simply authentic is brave. What I mean by authentic is showing your real self and not always performing.
I can relate to that. I feel like I'm brave for being myself at work. And then I feel shame for that realness because I realize the way corporate puppetry would rather have it. I will not falter though because people seem to like the bravery and I haven't been fired yet.
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I thought it would change my life. I really have struggled and wanted to see the interviewing of brene's natural thought about vulnerability. Really thank s for this video
Her smile is so cool that i cannot help love her, thanks you
Courage is the key it takes you into a new higher level of consciousness
It’s really hurtful to put yourself out there! And sometimes is not worth it at all! It’s just shaming and pointing fingers at you. It’s hard to behave yourself at this situations. It’s devastating to be hurt all the time than sometimes you wish you can’t feel a thing!
Love Brene ! All her books are so wonderful!
@Rene Brown merci merci merci. Your message is heard. I am learning so much even now at 57 and it feels great. Is it what life is about?! I am giving a link to my children so they can hear this and use it at the beginning of their adult journey. We talked and still do but your words resonnate so well in my heart and soul. You are a great teacher, master of vulnerability 💜
Listening to this has made me laugh, cry but I’m very much inspired and encouraged to continue down my road of living life vulnerable in all of its discomfort
Beautiful interview 💕 thanks for sharing this much needed message on living “whole-hearted”
you have inspired me to be vulnerable and let myself be seen so thank you.
Thank you both for a healing conversation. Blessings
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Vulnerability is what it means to be human. We are taught not to be vulnerable bc that's a sign of weakness. But no, it turns out that to be unafraid of vulnerability is actually our greatest strength. Thank you Brene'! 💪💕
I grew up with my father saying to me probably, every day, "Who do you think you are, Miss America?"
She is a goddess of knowledge for me. I go around actively searching for her words on TH-cam as I believe everyone should listen to her research and Ted talk once
A wholehearted person with a high Sense of self worth is who im talking about.
Their voices though ✨
Hope is a function of struggle. Thank you for this.
Very insightful! Thanks for bringing in Brene. I'm a big fan of her. I've already read four of her books. Mabuhay from the Philippines! :D
This brings me such peace. Thanks!
This lady boss is Everything! 🤗
I just love listening ♥ to her! She sounds like a awesome person to be around or to be lucky enough to have as a friend! Or to have as a jelly bean jar friend!
Well - Said.
Thank you a million times!!!
Brene is incredible. Stunning interview.
It's not out failures or successes........ it's just feedback
People are not broken, they work perfectly fine
Love you, for helping us all love each other & our selves, can we ever get enough of you? 🤗
Productivity as self worth is my identity.
So powerful - love me Brene Brown.
Brene u were right, wholeheartedness doesnt go with Broken heartedness so they van never get along and the brokenheartness actually have themselfs Up. Thats when empathy comes in and People naturally go with the instinct that these are traumatized People.
Awesome, pull yourself back from the edge, but keep it to yourself Friends are fantasy.
Imagine being vulnerable in a world that is constantly perpetuating violence.
And a person with high self worth doesnt leave. Something that matterd 10 Tears Ago Still matters today. Exploiters go and change every moment because its the Rush of hurting the person that keeps them going and getting away.
AND my favourite version of Hallelujah... Jeff Buckley 😊💜 really enjoyed and benefited from this conversation 😊💜
What i resonated with what that loving and belonging No matter what situations, conditions etc, is the primärt target an abuser has. As soon as they notice a flick of vulnerability u are straight target. They see u as weak literally and someone to be taken advantage of because u have asked for it pretty much. So No matter how loving, kind, vulnerable, sensitiva and 💯% right u are u Will Always be att fault and stuck in the mix aka trap of an abuser.
Always
The moments that made me were moments of struggle.
Tnx for all
Amazing that I thought the same thing when my daughter was born..
Waited for ‘her mom to pick her up’…
When no one came, I realized i was her mom😂
It's crazy synchronistic how she actually sounds like Cameron Diaz who played the princess in Shrek.
I still remember how affected I was by that scene in Shrek. I felt that it really captured just how lonely Shrek was. And just how difficult it was for him to open up to idea that he might be loved.
He did it all. He defeated the dragon and rescued the princess. And yet what kept him from what mattered most was his own worthiness.
On behalf of all men I would like say that the possibly that a woman would understand that feeling is pricless. That we are lonely and that we truly do want connection but we don't know how to feel worthy of it.
But slowly we make our way there and that your patience is greatly appreciated.
True strength is gained through adversity
I greatly appreciate you listening to the two of you today! Blessings upon you and yours thank you for sharing your wisdom and such a light and beautiful way to take in!
Just the word shame makes me want to cry my eyes out.
Hope you've had a good cry since you commented. It's very freeing. Releases the pain.
I consider myself a HOPE PUSHer. Hold On Pain Ends when I Persist Until Something Happens.
Half the time I agree with you but I don’t know what to do with it. I grew up in an abusive environment both in my home and in school. All that trauma is stuck and I have no way out of.
Fascinating discussion. Found it interesting that the discussion felt new and insightful. However, read Romans 5:4.
Your comment intrigued me and I looked it up. Beautiful verse. Thank you.
The guy singing at the end *le piece de resistance*
Is there the transcript of this talk anywhere?
Being sub puts me vulnerable but it's how I'm wired maam
I need u…. Shame has changed me and i dont know how to let it go and be happy again
24:45 - is the best
and 37:45 kids and struggle
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:00 *🌱 Understanding Vulnerability*
- Vulnerability as the essence of meaningful human experience,
- Brené Brown's journey into understanding vulnerability through shame research,
- Differentiating between societal expectations and the reality of vulnerability.
10:35 *🛡️ Embracing Vulnerability*
- Vulnerability as the core of courage and meaningful connection,
- Distinguishing vulnerability from weakness or gullibility,
- Recognizing vulnerability as essential for personal growth and authentic living.
19:11 *👨👩👧👦 Gender Dynamics in Shame*
- Investigating shame, perfectionism, and vulnerability through the lens of gender,
- Observations on how societal expectations shape shame experiences differently for men and women,
- Anecdotal insight into the unique manifestations of shame in men and women.
21:16 *🗣️ Men's Experience of Shame*
- Men experience deep shame when reaching out and telling their stories.
- Gendered messages and expectations heavily influence shame experiences.
- Expectations for men revolve around avoiding any perception of weakness.
26:47 *🧒 Impact of Struggle on Children*
- Struggle is essential for developing hope and resilience in children.
- Parents' desire to shield children from adversity can hinder their growth.
- Acknowledging and supporting children through struggle fosters resilience and self-worth.
38:18 *🌎 Vulnerability in Civic Life*
- Society's avoidance of vulnerability contributes to cultural and political divisions.
- Honest conversations about fear and vulnerability are necessary for progress.
- Cultivating hope through vulnerability can lead to positive societal change.
43:14 *💬 Embracing Vulnerability for Connection*
- Sharing stories fosters connection and reinforces our common humanity.
- Aging can amplify vulnerability but also presents an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.
- Midlife can be a pivotal moment where individuals confront their vulnerabilities and dismantle protective barriers.
46:11 *🌱 Embracing Vulnerability as a Developmental Milestone*
- Midlife often marks a critical juncture where individuals must choose between maintaining protective barriers or embracing vulnerability.
- Gracefully navigating vulnerability requires self-awareness and a willingness to confront fear.
- Recognizing the coexistence of bravery and fear allows for a more authentic and courageous approach to life.
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I'd listen to her read the phone book.
I can't control My vocabulary rebeld all the time🤯🤯🤯courage mad all the time and sad😠😠😠😢😰🤤😢
Fuck... This hits hard.
I'm happily sub vulnerable to ownr
Someone quoted Romans 5:4 but didn't bother to share it.
Romans 5:3
Not only this, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering works perseverance; and perseverance, proven character; and proven character, hope:
and hope doesn't disappoint us, because God's love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us. 5:6 For while we were yet weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly.
I display my weakness to owner Brene Brown an prowed to
Kinda off cuff BUT as a guy, honestly i feel like this is why we have cross culturally been the ones to invest the most into "the world's oldest profession" (if you catch my drift)
In essence, upon my own healing and reflection it really ISN'T about the sex. It's just about the fact, which is honestly really sad when you really get the implications, that for guys that go that route it's just that an escort/prostitute/stripper or really even "the other woman" is the only woman in his life that he feels comfortable enough around to actually just open up and be completely vulnerable.
I've never done it myself but I'd be lying if i said that the thought hadn't crossed my mind that I'd be willing to pay just to be able to cry in a woman's lap or that if anyone would seriously just listen or be there that would be all i need
Siempre estoy corajuda y a veces alegre a veces no me entiendo y hago el trabajo ya rápido siempre ando acelerada always courage all the time más all the time anxious depress and alcohol😡😡👶👶🌌🌌
Ma'am Brene Brown is my ideal owner as me a sub I belong vulnerable to ownr Brene Brown
Dr how You always Bad attitude very mad character happy then so Many courage i'm feel descontrol all the tome traumas in the infance🤯🤯🤯🤯👶👶👶
Or they have been shipped somewhere if Still Alive. U Will not see the abuser themselfs and the target together, ever inless its under abuse because a person with high selfworth would never agree to such treatment.
are you going to write on men ?
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Perhaps I'm a bit dense,but at what point does she explain how to be vulnerable?
When she mentions therapy
I don't think she did explain. I think of vulnerability as EXTREME HONESTY with yourself and others you trust to be kind listeners. So you didn't have to really learn HOW to "do it"... it's just the courage to unveil the layers and emotions until you're down to the naked, bare, raw emotions and truth. I sometimes get there by asking myself WHY over and over until I get past my own defenses to the real truth. For example: I want to buy a new shirt. Why? I want to look better Why? Because I am afraid my husband will look elsewhere if I don't. Why? Because he told me he likes me to stay thin and look feminine. Why? Probably because he's scared I'll get fat and expect him to stay attracted anyway. Why? Because I tend to overeat when I'm stressed. Why? Because I'm worried what he/others think of me and food pushes that feeling down. Why? Because I'm deriving my worth from whether he stays with me instead of working on my own self-acceptance and growth. So the truth really is, I want to take better care of my health for my own well-being a new shirt can be a reward to myself for maintaining my exercise plan for a month. Then maybe asking my husband to share his real reasons or fears behind why he asked me to keep up my appearance.
@@ChristianOne different. I'll have to think about that.
The yesterday of your existence and the end the page can talk about the life then the door at the darkness write a book said Edna 👶👶👶👶
A baby is not hardwired in the Sense they say it as if it were perfectly alright to runn över the baby when they did wrong and cant really explain to themselfs why they did.
Can I be in your women's study I'd never display courage to ownr Brene BROWN I D ONLY DISPLAY SUBMISSIVE AN MY VULNERABLE
I think u cant count a person, especially in My case when it came to selfworth, that the exhaustion, perfektionism, judgement etc would have easily been taken away if i wasnt being supressed or heavily opressed alredy, i Belize that People with a high Sense of selfworth becole Essy targeted for People to fick with aswell cuz they need a stronger person to chop down, its super common in narssisstic abuser that these People see it as a thrill under the Chase and empowerment after they suceed so they self gratifythemselfs by the hurts caused in the One with a high selfworth. .. and thats even scarier to me. A person may need that merly to survive the odds.
It gets scarier when narsissits continue this cycle of selfgratification because it van really less to some horrific things done by them in the community, thats how they destroy lives by gossiping as an example, it turns to heavier crimes as sening other People in them Calles Flyinge Monkeys and eventually it van turn to kurser due to everything thats going on so its really a downward, selfgratifying spiral of viciousness against who ever the target may be, in this case the person with a high Sense of selfworth.
They dont really have that to when tonstop or when they are hurting another and thats whats so horrific about it.
And obviously the more there is pressure in the target the One with the high Sense of selfworth, if the pressure becomes overwhelming what DO u think Will happen? They Will crumble. Thats what they do to them once again put shame, gulit blame and then further set the person Up.
Because now the person isnt reliable as they once were.
And when they are att that point they van literally DO anything they like to with the person because now the person is under them, their controll whatever.
acommon a plus..
Keep music quiet..interferes with her message
Very beautiful goddess
I feel uncomfortable all the time
No One prepares u for the vulnerability of parenting.. and its frigthening. How Many patents then abuse their kids? Guess
Dr brene give therapy by internet contact me wait your therapy by phone ok👶👶👶👶👶👶👶👶👶
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