Top 10 Mind Games Men Play with Single Women - Deborrah Cooper
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- If you think your man doesn't play games, you're dumb. Men of all ages play games with women's minds for myriad reasons...sometimes to test you because they're scared after having been hurt before. But for the most part, they play games with your head and heart for no reason other than they can.
What you have to learn is (1) how to recognize when a game is being run; and (2) how to handle his games with skill so you win.
In this video I break down 10 common relationship mind games men play, sharing with you what their goal is, how most of you respond, and how you SHOULD respond to come out on top.
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"Don't go by what they say--go by what they DO" This right here is the single most valuable piece of advice any woman can receive. When a man's words and actions do NOT align, that's a red flag the size of the state capital.
Right now, I'm in "treat men like shit" mode. I really feel like the only language men understand is BITCH.
+Anjanette Potter nobody told me, I figured it out myself. It's a test to see your levels of intelligence, confidence, boundaries, and tolerance. He also gets an idea how you vlaue him...If he's on a pedestal or not. Some women pass the tests, some fail. Same as any other test situation.
Deborrah Cooper I don't know if I pass or not I typically never stuck around long enough to find out.
+Anjanette Potter hey, thats often exactly how you pass!
Anjanette Potter 😩😩😄😂😂😂😭😭😭
I have destroyed alot of men due to my realness, honesty & assertive attitude but these types of men deserved it.
Exactly!
Great job.
Very true
Exactly. I could care less about their ego. The ones that did me dirty betta be glad I had something to lose and didn't draw any blood.🤣
@PurpleRainBaby Kris10 Same here..We don't want them but they keep bothering us cause they're superficial as hell..If we were 400 pounds with 10 kids they wouldn't be in our faces..but they can stay out of mine. I see most of them as highly unstable mentally and just plain evil and creepy.
Ladies please value yourself more & if they choose to leave let them go, cause trust me their not even worth it. Think & feel like a queen always nothing less.
Life's too short to deal with such bullshit and I'm certainly not the fight fire with fire type. I'll just walk away without warning. For those in the 30s age group, we are TOO old for that shit.
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Sounds like you are me. In my early 40's I don't play those games with men. But I have seen women going crazy over men, sad to watch and sad to listen to. I also stop giving advise, because I realise most women like playing the F games men play.
Exactly! Let it gooo👋👋👋
This one really hits the mark halfway through... Years ago, I met a guy who began critiquing my body and told me he could train me to get sculpted and buffed to perfection... just as he had done for his ex-wife, who ended up with a rockin' hot body, apparently.
"Oh yeah," I replied. "So where is this woman and her rockin' hot body now? Cos it ain't with you!"
This woman is the queen of women empowerment👑
I almost got sick to my stomach when I realized the man I was with exhibited damn near EVERY toxic trait she described in her previous videos. But I put my emotions to the side and got rid of his bum ass. ☺️ It's so liberating to be free and just seeing him hurt is an added bonus.
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That's why it is important to STAND in love. Never fall in love, that way when he start his bullshit, you will be able to walk right da fuck out.
canthydefromyuhself This. Reminds me of the song P Control from Prince:
Pussy got bank in her pockets
Before she got dick in her drawers
If brother didn't have good and plenty of his own
In love pussy never did fall
One of my favorite songs and something to live by, ladies!
To men love = pussy. Control yours and you'll have freedom!!!
Ha Ha!! True Words sis...True Words.
LOL...I take that as a compliment .....
it's time like this I am so happy to be single for now, those mental games were exhausting, who has time for that
Wtf is wrong with the dating scene ? Tired and over it
THE SECOND THEY START PLAYING GAMES, MOVE ON.
All men play games. Like I said in my article on it - even the good men will test you before they put 100% faith in you. It's a part of life. In employment they call it THE PROBATIONARY PERIOD. There is no way around it. If you leave everytime a game is played you will never get anything off the ground. This channel is devoted to educating you on how to discern if the game is one of a good guy to test if he can truly love you 100%, or if the game is that of a knucklehead trying to use you. There is no way around games if you deal with men in any form or fashion. Professionally or socially or romantically - ALL MEN TEST WOMEN USING GAME.
Read this classic article (one of the most popular on my blog)
THE HO TEST - HOW AND WHY MEN TEST WOMEN
survivingdating.com/the-ho-test-how-and-why-men-test-womens-values-and-morals
This man got angry because I told him that I am NOT the one for him. He had was gaming. Hell,I wrote the rules in my book. I don't have time for boys. I'M A GROWN ASS WOMAN!!!
@@Debsterism only disagreement i have here is that any guy who does any of this doesn't qualify as a "good guy" lol
@@s.g.1206 Well, that is where you are wrong. You are confusing a good guy who wants to make sure you are good too before he invests in you as a fellow human being with some angelic God created perfect man who does not exist. You want perfection instead of a man with feelings and a heart that can be broken just like yours can. Y'all really and truly don't get it.
Forgetting.... Denying..... Playing stupid.... Stupid ass manipulators....
I started reacting by grabbing him off his high horse and showing him I can be worse than he could ever dream of being.
Most men in marriages seems to play the emotional abuse a lot. Minds try it, and honestly as you say I turn it right back around in him, I don't pussy foot around him,he's not my baby he's a big grown man.
There are always clues in the beginning what they are capable of. It usually consists of testing your boundaries. Most of us overlook it because it’s subtle disrespect and we don’t want to run him off. Once we are emotionally attached then we become more sensitive to his behavior.
If I have to keep checking a man I just started dating, I kick him to the curb immediately.
Most apparently don't identify such behaviors as boundary violations... that's the true issue. So these clues you expect them to get/understand completely go by them. 🤔
I've encountered all these games from black men. I wonder if it should be called the 'black man's game," but then again I have limited to no experiences with other races of men. Though, recently, I spent time with a man of another race, what a breath of fresh air. He was totally focused on me and my conversation and not looking at every ass that passed by him. I really enjoyed his company and will probably meet him again this weekend.
Monikblessed Other guys want to do what they do too. Pimpology and MGTOW are universal and one in the same.
+E Dunlap please stop giving MGTOW trolls credit for game they do NOT have. None of them have pimp skills with women! If they did, they would have a completely different mindset about talking to, interacting with and having women. These guys cant PAY a woman to date them or even give the time of day. They mad! LOLOL
Deborrah Cooper 😁
Monikblessed it's universal. When they sense you're onto their insanity, they play the victim card to garner sympathy and get you to stay on to the roller coaster ride. This is what makes them so sick. They are drama queens at the expense of your emotional and psychological health and they can't stop. Man child syndrome. The really messed up ones aren't even ashamed to treat you poorly in front of others and look like losers because they think they're so great. They will keep implementing the top 10 mind games and pushing the boundaries to act worse and worse until they are completely corrupted, and then blame it was you that messed up their heads to the whole world. The fools just self implode. It's embarrassing how they self destruct and sabotage relationships and then blame women who actually put up with their insanity until there's no remedy and you need to jump off a sinking ship. Either way, if he acts "contradictory", send his ass to the wind, as Ms. Cooper recommends. It's nice to regard oneself highly and live life with dignity and self respect. Why should we feel sorry some people who refuse to treat others with decency. It's not that hard to be decent, so when they resort to games and manipulation, we should value and protect ourselves.
Non black men are definitely less of a headache. Getting them to take you out on a real date isn’t like pulling teeth.
When they stop calling . . . Dump him!! NEXT!!
April B. Ahammer very simple solution
Right. If he doesn't call, you shouldn't call either. Eff 'em.
I’m not chasing no grown ass man.... if he chooses not to call me anymore there is my answer..... I’m not reaching out to him looking desperate
@@WoolyTresses Im sad to hear that they act likd that at 69 smh. A hot.mess. I finally found that golden rule. I dont call or text first ever. Ill return both when i get ready. Never ever chase. Never ever get emotional. Never let them see you upset OR too happy.
If most of us would be 100% honest with ourselves, we've never met a man who has been worth the trouble they have put us through. MAYBE one--but I sincerely doubt it. (I just added that so I wouldn't be attacked by the "not all" crowd). Eff em: I choose my peace over "a piece" hands down EVERY.
Single.
Time.
My grandmother told me a long time ago that all men are crazy. Her exact words. She instructed us to find a man with the level of crazy that we could tolerate or might even find amusing/endearing. Then go for him.
So I said "is grandfather crazy too?" I was about 8. She never answered, just smiled. Grandfather smiled too. Yeah I know that's how yall had them 13 kids!! Grinning at each other led to other THANGS.
Blademaster Ryutaro I simply cannot respect the opinion of one who uses the term "females". It's disrespectful....way too "Ice Cube-y" for me.
Blademaster Ryutaro anything can be female. I called males "men" as a form of respect.
When they stop contacting me I delete the number. If they text back I say “who is this?”. The end.
The who is this text gets them every time 😅 afterwards l block.
The whole compliment with a dig is very true i had one dude claim he complimented me by saying i have a cute smile with a overbite.... the fuck does that mean and yes i ghosted him
Wow! How rude. 🤦🏽♀️
THIS COMMENT IS SENDING ME YHE WAY YOU WROTE YES I GHOSTED HIM AT THE END LMFAO THEYRE TRYING TO BREAK DOWN YOUR CONFIDENCE CALL HIM A BALD HEADED GHOUL
I wish I had a mom like you growing up
Awwww.
This was a good video and it's all true. I dealt with this all last year with my first bf. There's no point in crying about it now. The best thing to do is to learn from you mistakes and do better for the next. Now, when I see any type of BS, I stop it instantly. No crying and wondering why he did such a thing to me. If he pushes me away, I walk away too and do not look back and that's exactly what I did with my first bf. I especially do not let him back into my life. Blocked his number and accounts on social media.
You are 100% correct! All ages of men play those games including old men.
TIPPI the Vegan Old men are nasty. Ew.
TIPPI the Vegan So true! It's really very sad.
I freaking love it!!! I love the power your instilling in us women.
I get attention from men, but it's unclear to me that it's worth getting involved. They need to make me smaller to make them feel bigger. I don't spend time with people like that.
Me either
Thank you. I just love you. When a woman tells the truth to educate us women, just maybe just maybe men will stop thinking we are stupid.
I want to add this is so needed because I assume many of us have these responses in our minds but fear being seen as mean or angry. That is far from the truth. When you are under attack, claws better come out or you're dead. This is what happens in nature and in society. We need to wake up, stop living to ensure others are comfortable, and live for ourselves 👌
They stop calling.. I go quiet.
That's how it's done PrincessAmanda! Good job! Give em back the same energy they give you. 👍👍
Or try to say "Lets go with the flow" "Lets see what happens" BULLSHIT IM OUT🏃
Wasn't trying to find this video, it found me, and I'm glad it did. This helps remind us not to settle!!
I see games and I run away...
you're right 2017 dating is nothing like 10 years ago!!! its a hot mess out here
I'm really enjoying your content! I love your brutally honest no bullshit attitude, as I get older I am defintely getting better at not putting up with little man baby bullshit games. Dam fuck boys! Neeext!!!
I aint got time for games. Any man who is like that, I'm gone.
i use to be wayyyy too nice when dating but through trial and error i learned to be firmer in my resolve but finding you took me to a new level , now I'm straight up savage XD! Thankyou ❤ i hate wasting my time on something thats going nowhere
Epic video Debby. I experienced these games in my marriage. So even after you get married don't let all your guards down ladies because that's how they test you for domestic abuse
I'm married, and my other half knows I do not fall for games and control, and he's always say I never can keep up with you. Because I'm not a YES woman. But yes men will definitely test you to see how much they can get away with you in a relationship.
Yes, I’ve learned that as a single woman by looking at marriages around me and those stories I’ve read about online. Never lose your standards even in marriage. He still should respect you and honor you, etc.
"You don't go by what men SAY, you go by what men DO." This is _sooo_ key and are such important words to live by. And this entire video was informative _and_ hilarious at the same time, as usual, lol. 😂😂😂
You know how I roll V!
Deborrah Cooper Lmao. Yep. 😂😂😂
veronicajade20 yes it is all about actions, words don't mean a damn thing. #loveisaverb
After dealing with a specific dude, and watching videos on Narcissism, I am beginning to understand that these types of men you are describing are classic NARCISSISTS/SOCIOPATHS/PSYCHOPATHS! Because REAL men DON'T exhibit these behaviors and play these types of games. That's just my take on this! I'm glad I found your videos!!!
i totally agree. narcissism is rampant in this society its awful
Yep... Or pedophiles... Or beta.... 😒
If marriage is " just a piece of paper ", then why won't you sign " just a piece of paper " ?? Fool.
I normally say “show me yours “ 🤷🏽♀️
Glad I came across this...
my bf has a gambling addiction and it's really bad. He lies a lot to me saying he will stop but he promised me that like 5x now. I'm glad you said just do you and don't be emotional. I need to stop being stupid and thinking he will change. Fuck him. I'm nexting him!
Deborah u speak like me girl I don't take shit from any man. Luv it!
When they start arguments , or try to flirt with other women infront of me, I get rid of them or I'm be sitting in jail, it's not worth it!!!
Exactly..My temper is really bad. They better find somebody else to play with.Sick of men phawking with me.
When they try to flirt with other women, right then go ahead and flirt with other men then bounce 😝
I love playing with these types. I’ll play the game right back and lead them off a cliff. No guilt about it either.
Stop trying to please them be selfish
One guy who used to start off blowing up my phone backed off and and started texting every now and then. He refused to call so I blocked him. Then he put my number in a group text to see if I’d respond. I cursed them all out and caused all his friends to say “remove me from this thread “ lmao 🤣
Shaming is a great tcctic
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Thanks for reminding me of why I don't date anymore. The mind f**k games males play ain't worth it. I'm keeping my sanity.
Phylicia Stevens yess..single and child free for lifeeeeee...id rather travel until i die!!
As far as loseing a man, Ladys you can not lose what you never had
Bam!
Giving away the 'inside' trade secrets to these trifling players.
I JUST found your channel yesterday. One of the best on YT. I'm laughing at this video because, sadly, I recognize these games... NOW! No more games for me. Keep up the sound, logical and practical truth with this channel!
Heyyyyy welcome!!
That dude would always yawn when I was speaking to him..I always wondered what that was about..lol.
Men ask for things they don't want and mad at you if you say yes. Games Games Games.
Your awsome I use to feel bad for being super strong and playing games back but now feel vindicated.😊😊😊😊
Miss Deborrah Cooper. I want to thank you for fine tuning my my red flags warnings about men and relationships. I listen to your commentaries on a daily basis. Sista I'm 41 yrs old, 5 months into singlehood, lost everything now by the mercy of God I relocated from Maryland to Ohio to rebuild my life and I am..I got accepted into Sinclair Community college as a Creative writing major, I have a stable place to lay my head and..I can proudly say I live alone in solitude never again I have to worry about being verbally, emotionally and mentally. He broke my spirit and made me cry often with his words. Everything was always my fault. When I know I'm wrong I am adult enough to admit that I am wrong. I don't do well with a man treating me like a child, slave, an option. He has this poor me attitude!! I can go down the list of how he ripped me apart verbally whenever I walked away from a heated argument calling me childish!! I'd thought I was doing the right thing by removing myself from his aggressiveness. I have to look at the part I played...I allowed this because I didn't want to be alone and men can sense weakness and go in for the kill. Deborrah Cooper there are pieces I'm leaving out and would like to share my experience with you via email if possible. I don't want any woman young or mature to experience what I've experienced.
+Marquesha Martin Glad to hear that you made it out and are now safely tucked away living a new life! Please make sure to have some sessions with a qualified therapist, because completely getting over this, fully healing and releasing guilt and blame is going to require help
+Marquesha Martin Survivingdating@gmail.com is my email
I would assume he is narcisisst or cluster b personality type... Self love and boundaries will help you... You may have PTSD or c-ptsd
At age 34 these tips are so helpful to me.
Don't always be available I made this mistake. If breaks a day i still go out without him.
Yep, men play mind games on u and it gets to the point that u become like Jean. Grey from X-Men. U develop telekenesis.. because men can make women bonkers sometimes. Therefore we now know why Jean developed also into the dark Phoenix. 👍❤️
you are so right! I started dating after a ten year relationship and I said well shoot, I should of just dealt with my ex since I was familiar with his foolery Cuz the foolery that's out here in these streets....whew! no thank you
LOL a dude tried to neg me once at a bar and I just turned away shocked. Then I turned back and said "do you want to get beaten the f**k up?" He got really quiet really fast 😂
Next time I will just insult them back, it's much better than what I did.
I dont know about "much better" because them getting scared their mouth wrote a check their ass may have to cash if you kung fu him is an awesomely epic vision.
You are the best woman on the internet!!
Wow, thank you. I agree! lol
Every family needs a Auntie Deb..lol
I found this behavior a lot since moved down south. I didn't find it as much when i lived in California. Especially the ghosting and coming back. But im the type when you ghost out you dont come back. Especially 40s and 50s its like when you going to grow up?
No woman should low a ghoster type to come back. He should be dead to her.
I moved from the city to a town and I found the same
I want to marry this woman! Deborrah, you're awesome!
HAHAHA! That's so cute! Thank you.
Every time you say that men want to know if you’re a “worthwhile investment”, you’re co-signing on men playing abusive games with women. I don’t have to pass a test to say no to sex. I don’t have to earn what someone shouldn’t be doing to me anyway.
Men who love you aren’t looking for ways to defile you then dump you.
Ypu obviously do not get my point at all. And saying no to sex at your age does not have ANYTHING to do with it. Say no if it suits you, yes if that works. Whatever makes YOU happy is all that's important.
Deborrah Cooper my age has nothing to do with this. You’re never too old to live Godly.
Anjanette, a "test" does not equate to defiling you. OMG you are doing the most today. What is wrong with you?
Age has a lot to do with what I am talking about. The tests about pussy are usually run on very young women. Every man assumes a woman over the age of 30 has already had sex at least a couple of times, so there is no reason to test her.
I needed this in my 20s for sure.
Meeeeee toooo!!!
I agree with you, but on the flip side, if the man has low values and pushes a women's boundaries, to me that shows me this type of man has no integrity, he can call it testing, but I've not met a gentleman that immorally tests a women, the example you gave of a man pushing his GF to pee on her, then dumps her, I would call that thing (it's not a man) a low life, this guy has no morals to begin with, how can that women even compare herself to a person with no character what so ever . We women need to be one step ahead of these men who have no standards, when you see red flags, run.... The bible tells us in these last days, hearts will wax cold, ppl will be lovers of themselves, disobedient, liars, boasters.......sexual immorality will increase like in the days of Noah in both men and women.... This generation has gone to ruin, trust Jesus, and he will match you with the right person, but don't lower your standards, if you sense something is off, cut them loose, in time you will find someone who is of high value and who knows how to treat a women. Also if a women has wounds/traumas of the past, please get some councelling to address why you might be drawn to these type of men, prayer is powerful too, because God can heal on a deeper level supernaturally.
I am not a religious person, and on this channel are people from all over the world who don't believe in Jesus. Please refrain from pushing your religious agenda in this channel. That works for you, great. Respect those who are different and maintain neutrality in your comments.
Normally I would have deleted this, but decided to use it as a teaching tool instead. Thank you.
@@Debsterism Thank you for your response, I'm only mentioning how messed up this generation is and how it matches scripture. Each and every one of us have an opinion that pushes a belief system, so I'm left scratching my head here. I suppose I need to respect your opinion, it's your channel, that's not a problem.
@@jesusreturning3003 My "Belief System" is that every woman has the right and power to control her own destiny. Without being dictated to by a man, Jesus, God, Buddha, Allah, whothefuckever . No one but herself. I don't believe in that higher power shit - we are our own power high, low and everything in between.
👸well said!👏yes. trauma/father wounds kept me hanging on a tiny bit longer than i should but bc my legs 🦵& mouth stay closed until marriage 💑 i leave w/o creating soul ties. thank u God 😊🙏!
I actually said that response about the threesome and his face was 😮😮😮😮
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I can’t deal with a guy who acts like this. I leave. Oh well.
You are correct. But this video is for women who do not recognize that these behaviors are game, and that she is getting played. If you don't KNOW the behavior is toxic and intolerable and sus as hell, you won't make a move away from him, you'll just shrug and keep going. I want to prevent that.
Deborrah is a gift to women. 👑
need this vid in my life! Debbie got these suckers all figured out!😂😂😂
And Miss Deborrah Cooper...I had to cut off all contact from him altogether social media included. Why should I reopen old wounds? I'm in tears as I type this...I should of guarded my heart more fiercely.
Great video as usual!! I especially like the fact that most of the solutions you would do, I would do: put that ass in the wind!! Life is short and I have only recently discovered that I deserve everything I want. It is all about me!!!!
Wish I knew this 25+ years ago. That whole not contacting you or saying crazy shit to you was my LIFE. One of the dudes that I was SO in love with and treated me like absolute garbage is sniffing around again, now that he’s in his 50s and has run out of women to run game on. Knows I’m married, but under the guise of “we’ve been friends for so long”, was bugging the HELL out of me this time last year when he & his latest BECKY moved to town, wanting to meet for drinks so he could “ask about the town & catch up”. I threw a few tidbits about places to him via text, but he was all vague about what kind of work they would be doing, and acting shady. Just kept wanting to meet, ignoring my repeated responses that I was extremely busy with work & that my husband was ill and I was NOT GOING TO MEET SOME DUDE WITHOUT MY HUSBAND THERE. Finally, I straight ghosted his needy ass. Malignant Narcissists NEED to have someone who thinks they’re great so they can tear them down, over & over again and gaslight them.
You are soo dope. Awesome advice. Too Real
Wish you were my auntie! So many jewels you've dropped here. I'm on alert. Thank you!
I am yo aunty!!!
My favourite channel 💅🏽💅🏽
I need me a swig lol. Ms Deborrah I inspire to be cool, calm and collected just like you. I have some of your traits but I need to take it up a notch. Thanks for your valuable insight.
I like this lady a lot! I wished I heard this advice sooner
New subbie...sista, you had me cthu...you hit 60 out the gate...i love it. I wish I had this 13y yrs ago.. I lost myself trying to keep a relationship. He took every drop of blood in my heart and made soup with it. Dipped and flaunted his new boo in my face. Left me shattered! I could have used your info to save myself out the gate.
It's just a matter of loving yourself more than you would or could EVER love some man. Soooooonnnnnnnn as they start acting stupid, I cut them from the team. And when you believe you are the most important person in the relationship, you never get that attached to them, and certainly never dyctamized. The best dick to me is always the one I haven't had yet.
Also, Ms. Cooper, your skin looks fabulous and it's glowing. Please share what you're using on it?
+Monikblessed I've used Dermalogica products since 2004. Expensive, but worth it because my skin is so sensitive.
Thanks!
if only I'd known all of this 10yrs ago
Mango Magic SAME!
Deb great video as usual✌ I had a dude who obviously had not looked in a mirror in about 20 years try that on me. Dude was a great ego stroke, however I had decided up front, nope! Dude seemed to think that all of the attention would suffice in lieu of him not having a job or teeth??? He tried that bible shit too, but that didn't work either. In any event, dude was putting forth his best effort and when I didn't take the bait dude flipped the fuck out! I was suddenly all kinds of ugly bitches. I especially hate this when it's being done by ugly dudes whose feelings I'm trying not to hurt!!
they really don't know what to do and can't handle it when a woman is flatly immune to their "charms". They feel totally powerless and emasculated.
Good.
Deborrah Cooper this is one of those dick dudes who was totally delusional. He was broke and in an ugly package....
Tracie Hunter Oh NO! Not both!(smh)
+Sherri Solomon I know, right? He was probably the third one of the triad as well....stupid. Broke, ugly and stupid. Damn.
Deborrah Cooper I thought you blocked me.
I’ve met my spirit animal!!!!!! I love me some Ms. Deb baby!!!! I can definitely tell you’re a Leo baby ♌️♌️👑💪🏾 we fight fire with fire 🔥 and our mouths are lethal 💉
Lolol 😃
I was living with my boyfriend. He stopped having sex w/me, he would not spend the night, come home in the morning take a shower & leave. Then he stopped paying his half of the bills. I kicked him out but I never understood bc he begged me 2 let him live w/me
You were his backup plan. Just in case his first choice of woman and free rent fell through, you were there to make sure he was not homeless.
I've heard of these kind of situation before ugh NEVER go 50/50 with any man....he either PAYS all the bill or by GONE!
Dont even let them move in next time. If he aint your husband he needs to find his own spot
That's why I tell them I'm sharing my apartment with roommates that way 1) he can't visit he has to take me out 2) there's no chance of a 50/50 relationship.
That’s why you don’t give any wife benefits to a boyfriend.
this video is gonna have me catch the holy ghost PREACH!!! can the church say AMEN!!! new subscriber.
5:55 am right on time!!! That's how I know your messages are divine. In my honest opinion. Love you and thank you!
People keep telling me that! In this instance I woke up from a dead sleep to upload this video, then I went back to bed. Musta been just for you.
The woman who let the guy urinate on her *smh* her kind is starting to brew. I can't feel sorry for her.
Hi Deb, please do a video on mgtow and incels and how they spend their miserable lives just trying to tear down women, and especially targeting women’s appearances. It‘a becoming a major issue and affecting many women’s lives. How should women conduct themselves with this hate they encounter from men left, right and centre and everywhere they turn.
Yes
She definitely has a video on this. Search "Deborrah Cooper angry mgtow men"
@@tyd8077 When they insult you ask them with a smile "Am I supposed to be offended?". It shuts them up every time
A woman after my own heart
I love your attitude, Miss Deb! I keep on watching your channel. You’re helping me stitch my heart back together. Thank you. ❤️
I'm so glad! Welcome to the channel.
Absolutely love it!! Such motivation to keep it moving when love is no longer being served...for whatever reason.
Thank you so much for all you do. 😻😙☺️🎉🖤🧡
Thank you, such a kind comment. I appreciate the acknowledgement.
I love u Deborrah Cooper !! U r so funny, serious & on point. I'm glad I found ur channel. U r refreshing to me & I enjoy listening to u.
This sounds like narcissistic traits
Not trying to diagnose, just describing behavior to watch for.
@@Debsterism I gotcha 😉
I need you and your advice in my life. I could hug you right now, this is invaluable information.
Hey Jai Star, glad you found your way here, and it's great to meet you. Please be sure to spread the word and tell a friend or two about the Debsterism Channel and what we got going on for women. :)
Ohhhh some short term ex bf of mine went really verbally abusive once in public mind you, it was so bad I thought he would beat me up. Once we left each other he never saw me again. Texted me 3 weeks later as if nothing ever happened. I told the fool to stop contacting me again, writing my message in a way that made him think I might report his lame ass. That's how he left me alone.
He was out of his mind!!
New subbie. I already practice what you say...continue to preach the truth my sista!
I was asked if I was into sleeping with other women etc
I made my POINT CLEAR....
+Debbie B Check. Dat. Ass.
Your a true Leo ♌😂😂😂😂😂😂
Absolutely!
Deborrah Cooper Dealt with a guy Leo just cut his ass off and I'm feeling great!!! I hate the games he chose the wrong one he learned his lesson 😎
Two Leo's is risky business.
Deborrah Cooper I know he was older but damn sure not wiser 😣 less of a headache now
Omg she is, I didn't know that! I'm a leo too, I love this woman so much!!
God I love your personality.
Me too! lolol
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Thank you...I was the lamb lead to slaughter rs. After that experience it’s all about me.
I am so happy I've found you ❤️
I'm happy too🥰