This is very true. I was opening Christmas gifts for my niece (toys she had received and now wanted to play with) and asked her to go get me a knife out of the kitchen. She was like 8 or maybe older at this point. She tells me that she's not allowed to touch the knives. At which point I told her just to hurry up and get it. She brings it into the room barely pinching the tip of the handle with the blade hanging down. I open the toys and tell her to sit next to me for a minute. I have her open her hand with her palm upward. Then I attempt to show her the proper way to hold a knife so that you don't hurt yourself or the person you're handing it to. She freaked out like no other and I had to abandon my attempt to teach her something that I viewed to be a vital safety lesson. Who in this world will ever avoid a sharp knife, box cutter, or other sharp tool in their life? I wasn't trying to scar her by pretending to cut her hand or anything like that. I was trying to show her something that could prove to be truly vital in her life at some point. The point was safety because if no one ever teaches her how, then when she has no other choice but to use a knife, then her chances of hurting herself increase exponentially. As much as I hate to say this, my sister (her mother) does actually coddle her kids a little bit too much. She views it as shielding them from the bad things in the world. However, by "shielding" them, she's also leaving them unprepared for when they inevitably encounter these things in the real world. She won't be able to protect them from every single thing forever and they should know what to do should the need ever arise and not just get thrown into a panic because the situation is totally foreign to them. I should also clarify that I was only trying to show her HOW to do something, but at no point was I tell her she was ALLOWED to do anything she was told not to do. I was not giving her permission to go play around with sharp objects, the goal was merely to teach her the safe way to do so if she ever had to. Parents overprotect kids in so many ways it's unbelievable. 8 years old may have been a little young for this type of lesson, but she's 10 or 11 now and would probably still throw a fit if I tried the same thing today. That's the point I'm trying to make. If I was able to teach her properly the first time, then she would never have to be afraid about it ever again. Proper knowledge can be the singlemost greatest form of protection you can ever give your children. Exposing them to dangerous situations to give them instructions on how to keep themselves safe in dangerous situations is better than telling a kid to avoid something for the rest of their life at all costs. If my niece were successfully trained on how to handle a blade, she could finally cut the cord and grow up. Lol. Had to end on a joke but I meant every word before that
When my son was 8 he climbed up a tree and wanted me to come up and get him down. I told him "You got up there, you get down" my wife was losing her mind freaking out. He got himself down and now he owns a business cutting trees out of powerlines.
Depending on how high the tree was, that was a bad decision. Letting a child climb a tree is one thing, but when one is asking for help to get down, ignoring his/ her request is, simply put, dangerous and mean
Kids need to learn problem solving skills at some point in their lives, because while their parents will do whatever they can to help the kid, there will come a point where the kid is on their own and the parents cannot help them.
I'm totally agree with you, but I'm doubting about looking for the solution in the internet. You must learn how to Google yourself, but the problem itself was solved by someone else. Does that count??😅 (I want to think it does count)
TED talks are really getting me to realize that people don't see children as children anymore. They're seen as and raised to be robots; able to digest and regurgitate useless facts without asking any questions, expected to be safe 100% of the time, and basically become absolutely perfect, regardless of how much of a tall order that may be. Just let kids be kids. How hard is this to understand?
By now a lot of adults don't know what kids are anymore, because they were in some sense raised in glass bubbles themselves. You've got one generation of over-supervised, freedomless kids grown up to raise another. They can't teach their kids how to be courageous and free because they never knew what that is and have nothing to teach.
This guy is on to something. Every year I had to take chemistry I was always hoping we'd get to blow something up in class. Needless to say I was very disapointed until I lit my chemistry book on fire.
We were allowed to like, boil water and separate water from salt when salt has dissolved in water. Mind you, this was like in the 8th grade, age 14 or something? Jeez.
Being too protected and too safe, leads to fear... Who do you think fears the rain the most... the one who walks in it everyday, or the one that never walked in it? Fear resides, where experience stops.
it wasn't safer back then.it just seemed safer back then cause there wasn't big media coverage of every single bad thing that could happen.the world hasn't changed in terms of danger but it has changed into a more paranoid world.where people freak out of the simplest of things.
Kids are not more aware, they are more exposed - to what the media provides. You worry more over a gun/knife yet you say kids are more brave (intelligent?) - no. I disagree. I do understand where you are coming from, the knowledge and availability of weapons has increased but not the use of patience or safety while holding one - that has decreased. People were less aware and more care-free, because the media wasn't shoving down our throats. Again, the availability has increased - not the delivery of the news. Another example but far from the strongest, the teachers walk around the classroom like hand sanitizer is holstered to their hip, creating fear of germs. I rolled around under homes, in dirt-sometimes worse, used porta-johns, barely ever had the chance to wash my hands when it was time to eat, and bite my nails - I never get sick even though the kids are sick four times a month. When was hand sanitizer put to use for general public, late 90's?
When I was in grade 4 I had a supply teacher named Mr Tunsios. He was a frequent supplier for our school and the kids loved him. One day he asked us "who wants to see me blow up a bomb after school?" Everyone was excited. There was a unanimous yes. He brings a cooler outside filled with dry ice. He dumps it in a plastic nestle disposable water bottle and dumps boiling water in. He seals the bottle. At this moment we are all 20 metres away lying like soldiers on the ground. Then it blows up. The explosion was massive and loud and spectacular. Then he repeated the experiment a bunch of times. It was quite amazing. That is the only thing I remember from elementary school.
I got so scared ngl... We’ve never since something like this before at my old school but we did fun experiments like make ice cream but not explode something!! I wish I did that!
Growing up in a strict household, I never had the chance to do any dangerous things and let me tell you, it isn't fun at all and there are so many things I regret not doing, because I was always in fear I might get punished.
@@firebal6129 haha. You totally owned me. It's not like I'm afraid of talking to my parents about things because I might face punishment or anything... Hahaha.
One of my parents gave me a cigarette when I was ten. It was so traumatizing and terrible I never picked up the habit despite all my friends doing it at some point.
I am seventeen and I fell out of a tree two weeks ago and I was on crutches for a week. Tonight, I super glued my fingers together for the first time. I am a child at heart.
Lauren Gell My project fell apart before school so I stuck some super glue on it. My fingers got stuck together for half the day and the teacher got stuck to the project. Pretty funny day.
This is funny truth about being a kid...I'm in my 40's and I say kids in elementary school today have iPhones and when I was kid I put Elmer's glue on my hands to watch it dry! This is reality of how our world and culture has changed for the worst...
Southern Charm I'm in 7th grade and me and my friends still do that sometimes (doesn't happen often though usually when we accidentally do it but then we put more for the peel)
I've put hot glue on my hand cause my grandmother gifted me a hot glue gun for christmas due to myself making bows. I learned to wait when its not as hot to put it in the palm of my hand. I learned well.
I was walking to school started since 3rd grade when I became 8 years old. It's why I've always had a nack for being outside and exploring and adventuring because even though I lived in a suburb I would always go exploring around my neighborhood and bike around as well. I miss my childhood man
By 4th grade I rode my bike to school and home every day and was home for an hour without my parents every day after school. Tought myself to cook with that time and now I can cook pretty well at 15.
William Fuendeling If I walked to school it would have been a 7 mile march, along a highway of 70mph cars, with no sidewalk. for some reason my parents didnt let me walk to school.
I was pestering my dad one day about what electricity tasted like so he asked me if I wanted to lick a 9 volt battery It tastes like pennies When I told him that His next question was "Why do you know what pennies taste like?" Well...
Being raised in a Mexican household, I never encountered too many limitations when it came to danger. The more hurt you got, the more fun things became.
yeetusthefetus he’s right!! Mexican life is much less sheltered. Peanut allergies are unheard of, people don’t commit suicide at the first disappointment and we are not afraid to touch each other. Believe me, it makes a difference!
It also has to do with where you are from, there weren't any climbing tree's where I lived growing up. I grew up with lot of tall palm trees and cactus and like hell would I want to try to shimmy up either of those, I climbed a lot of walls instead. Some of the issue is apart of location and availability to climbing trees, the rest is sissy parents.
I grew up on a farm surrounded by forest where I was in constant contract with potentially dangerous animals (untamed horses, bulls, venomous snakes, massive snapping turtles...), our favorite play areas were 40 feet up in massive trees or in crevices at the tops of giant stacks of hay bales, and our favorite pastimes included hunting for snakes, jumping out of a willow tree, having mini "wars" where we would create teams and fend off opposing teams with sticks and pine cones as weapons, and running loose through the forest eating wild berries and roots. I'm not dead. Meanwhile, nowadays I see summer camps where kids aren't even allowed to run around a field without an adult trailing them. People seriously need to chill.
Servals Louisiana? where was this? i have to say though that eating random berries without knowing what they are is a mistake. in a survival situation, you should do each of these steps with 30 minutes in between : you should test it unboken against your skin, broken against skin, broken against lips, chew on one then spit it out, then eating only one.
Servals none of those things are bad, except for the stick war thing. I played with sticks in second grade, six years ago. Somebody who was playing hit me in the eye, ripped my cornea open, made me see double, and temporarily blinded me. It hurts. :p
That's called a survivorship bias. Those who ate wrong berries/mushrooms, fell from trees or left blind from explosions will not be able to tell their story on youtube. :) On the other hand I did all those things as well. Stinky water snakes, huge metal dumps with lot's of sharp/spiky things, gunpowder, other explosives - me and my buddies experienced it all. I'm lucky to have all my fingers and eyes.
List: (explained insightfully in video) 1. Walk to school. 2. Climb trees. 3. Burn stuff (not other animals) with a magnifying glass. 4. Create small explosions/chemical reactions. 5. Super glue your fingers together.
Thank you. I was looking for this list because I couldn't be bothered finding my earphones and don't want to disturb the other people in the room. Super gluing your fingers together is SOOOO scary, though. I'm always convinced I'm going to rip my skin off and bleed to death from my fingers...
My dad let me brother and I shoot the air soft guns at targets when we were younger. Before giving them to us he shot us both to show what would happen if we shot each other, him, the dog, or our other siblings. It stung a bit but didn’t cause any damage. What it did do is teach my brother and I to be careful with guns. He and I have been shooting real guns for a few years and know how to use them properly. It was worth it.
For me when I turned like ten my dad pretty much just said to wear safety glasses so I would just go out into my backyard in shorts and a tshirt with my friends and we'd all just shoot eachother with airsoft guns. We'd come in covered in bruises and bumps but it was worth it because it was hella awesome. We all loved it xD
@@Savsshit I would do it with my little brother when he was like 6-8, it'd be the middle of summer and he'd be out their with like 5 layers of clothing and a coat with an entire helmet on so he couldn't feel getting shot 😂
I have done everything on his list, and after a lifetime of higher-than-average danger scenarios - including active duty time in the Marines - I have survived as much or more than almost anyone I know. More important than this man being brilliant, he's legitimately onto something that so many have forgotten, and I love his stab at fear-mongering in the government and media. Jolly good show, Mr. Tulley.
In the United States the government has made Iodine illegal to possess, Yes the ELEMENT Iodine. The lengths that government will go to in order to control the people, frequently amazes me. This reminds me of a really good book, that talks about this, State of Fear, by Michael Crichton.
Surviving one thing isn't necessarily that noteworthy, but when you survive particularly dangerous circumstances over and over, that would be surviving more than most others. As in I've survived more attempts on my life or dangerous events than just about anyone else I've ever met.
This was a list of things I was forbidden to do as a child. I find it really difficult when faced with any kind of danger and usually feel like my childhood was unfinished. LET YOUR KIDS THESE OR THEY WILL GROW UP SCARED OF LITERALLY EVERYTHING.
I think when he said bomb in a bag he meant the baking soda and vinegar reaction. Put them in a bag close it and it will explode without the possibility of injury.
Just a guess but gonna go out on a LIMB(get it?!) and say you have some type of anxiety,struggle with social relationships and suffer frequently from depression (with or without substance abuse tendencies?!)
OMG I had to pause this video to write this comment I pressed this video in hope of hearing "climb trees" and i was correct. I'm 19. last year i climbed a tree and dicovered that im really good at it and enjoyed it alot. Now I spend a lot of time climbing trees and structures "I even climbed my way up to the roof of my university". And i wish my parents let me climb any tree in my childhood so i could discover my passion that makes up most of my free time and training time, but instead i had to wait 18 years to find this out.
@@omaroliblish Or lineman, or construction worker, or roofer, or fireman/rescue personnel, or outdoor photographer, or pilot? There are a lot of jobs that require climbing and/or a head for heights!
@@mungbean345 why have I never seen the Tree climbing as acceptable for experience for a job. instead eveyone writes first job from highschool we got a junior job as a X. Hard requirements 3-5 years prior documented experience and two diplomas.
@@Zack_Wester I see your point. 🙂 Tree climbing isn't really resume material, but it's one of those things that can show you what skills and traits you have (like enjoying the outdoors, being nimble and coordinated, and being okay with heights) that can be help narrow down what kind of job would really suit you. *Then* you should talk to people in that profession to see if it's really the right one for you, as well as ask them what kind of education/experience is ideal to get you into that career. For some jobs, if the situation is right, an apprenticeship or other on-the-job training might be available if they urgently need someone who is hard working and reliable. If you're really interested and polite, it's amazing how much people will help you get where you want to go!
I remember climbing the massive trees in my grandmother's old backyard and it was a highlight of my childhood. Nothing felt better than being up there, seeing the top of the garage and feeling like a king. It was a little scary, but that's why I did it!
Nice talk! I experimented with all those things when I was a child, excepting super gluing my fingers, that I did later in life. When I became a father I tried to pass those experiences down to my two daughters, in particular, tree climbing, starting a fire without matches, safely handle a sharp knife, a task that my wife doesn't know and keeps on cutting herself, and camping or sleeping outside without a tent. My eldest daughter grew up being very cautious and safe opting for five stars hotels, while my younger one became a professional freestyle skier injuring herself several times and being able to sleep in a tent with 5 degrees Fahrenheit in winter. In any case, it is definitely better to teach your own children how to deal with potential dangers than how to avoid them altogether.
I'm 19 and I realized I didn't even do any of these things minus the battery-licking and that's because they didn't find out fast enough. Here's to hoping I won't be so overbearing if I have children.
Booksarefun666 Wow. I licked airport handle bars as a baby. And... yeah I was fine. I also had e. coli. as a 1.5 year old (bad plane food probably) :). Guess I was lucky.
Booksarefun666 the only things i didnt really do until layer was walk to school and the chemistry. when i was young, i was in a dumb situation where i lived in one town, but was in a different school district. so while the closest elementry school was about half a mile away, i was supposed to go to a school that was 10 miles away. needless to say, i didnt walk that. that hcanged when i moved later on.
Back in the day .. our school did a dropping when we were about 12 years old during summer camp - in groups of 5-8 kids we were blindfolded and driven out in the country at night. We were dropped in random unknown places with no adults and had to find our way back to town. One of my classmates had a lighter and hairspray bottle which would make a huge flamethrower and by lighting the flame , other groups of students were able to find us so we banded together and found our way back. We just thought it was a fun thing to do but I realize now how great it is to learn how to get yourself out of a pickle at an early age.
@@rswow We used to steal hairspray bottles from our mums, then we'd light a big outdoor candle, set the hairspray bottles next to the candle and shoot it with an airrifle. Great fireball, great fun!
*Disclaimer* Always be an active participant in your children experiencing these things. A kid in my neighborhood I grew up with, owned and used a home chemistry set. Burned down his parents house. Thankfully nobody was harmed. But yeah...
Also whh make a bomb im bag when you can make a bittle rocket and send stuff flying in yard mkre easiky and less dangerously. You can experiment with amiut of vinegar and baking soda to see what happens. Or their is also the blowing up balloon from gas of vinegar and baking soda.
Demetrios Mustakas Jr. I have a suggestion, don't "always" be there, but know when you should. Know what could be dangerous, and what not. Give your child the freedom to be alone, free and out of your sight for a while.
Apparently, Thomas Edison burned his garage down with his experiments and got a whipping from his dad. His school teachers couldn't handle him so his mother pulled him out to homeschool him, but she didn't manage to teach him to spell, because all he wanted to do was to experiment with things.
I've had 2 friends that went to the corner of the playground and put spoonfuls of sand in their own mouths and spit it out. Your mother might have a solid point
in preschool, my friend convinced me to eat sand because apparently, it was "yummy." I believed her and ate the sand... the sand beneath the slide in the playground.
How to reduce risk of *real* dangers: 1. Car accidents - he mentions walking more, parents can also reduce risk by learning defensive driving and by never answering their cell phone while driving. (Incidentally, if your child is in the car with you and the cell phone rings, let them answer and relay the message to you. A real life conversation is a lot less risky than a cell phone one, and if it's important, you'll still get the message. Plus, it helps kids learn phone skills.) 2. Familial homicide - most common kind is killing young infants, which is often due to post-partum depression. This can be dealt with, as a new parent, by monitoring your own mood and stress level and asking for help if you need it. For older kids, in addition to parental stress, spousal abuse is another contributor to homicide risk. The best way to reduce the risk is to learn early warning signs of abuse and don't get involved with someone like that. (Hint: you don't want someone who acts like Edward from Twilight or Christian from Fifty Shades of Grey.) If you're already in an abusive relationship, it may not be safe to leave right away, but start making plans to leave as soon as you can do so safely. Even if your partner has never hurt your child, if he (or she) is hurting you, your child is not safe. 3. Abuse - the abuse that is most likely to endanger a child's life is physical abuse. This is mostly caused by parental stress, as well as parents who don't understand child development and have overly high expectations, and parents who lack alternate strategies for discipline. The biggest thing is to *never* shake a baby. If you want to shake your baby, set them down, go to another room, and call a parents' help line or someone supportive. Monitor your own stress level and ask for help if you need it. Also, learn what is typical for kids of various ages. (For example, a 12 month old doesn't do things to annoy or manipulate adults, because they don't yet understand that they can affect an adult's emotions. They just have very little self control and very strong emotions.) And learn about time-out, rewards for good behaviour, how to explain reasons for rules in terms a young child understands, etc, and practice these skills until you master them. 4. Suicide - this is mostly for teenagers, and the vast majority of suicidal teens have depression, so learn the symptoms of depression. Sad mood every day, loss of enjoyment of things they used to like, lack or energy or too much energy, sleeping too much or too little, eating too much or too little (not trying to diet), those are all possible signs. Cultivate a trust with your teen where they can tell you their honest thoughts and feelings without you freaking out or punishing them. And if they are struggling, seek help. Most people with depression will respond to a combination of medication and cognitive-behavioural therapy. 5. Drowning - this is probably the easiest to prevent on the list. Teach your child to swim as early as possible. There are classes which teach 6 month olds to float on their back and 12 month olds to alternate floating and paddling to get to the shore. They also train kids how to swim in clothing, because if a kid falls into water accidentally, they'll probably be fully clothed. Also, if you have a backyard pool, keep it covered in a child-proof cover when not in use, and when it is in use, never leave children swim unsupervised. (Note: a drowning child can't yell for help. Learn the signs that someone is drowning if you ever take your kids swimming without a lifeguard.)
edward from twilight wasn't abusive and neither was Christian grey. pretty sure there are real stories that you can draw from those two not being anywhere near close. But overall really good and detailed post.
+Amanda aka Goldmare What you said follows what I've learned. There's a good video about similar phenomena, search on TH-cam: Ben Goldacre publication bias. Love of money is the root of all evil, big pharma is stinking rich.
Same applies to acrylic paint, as an artist, one of the most satisfying parts of painting is peeling paint off your fingers while waiting for it to dry between layers
The principle of inoculation: Letting the body feel a little sample of the poison, so it will be able to defeat the dosage in a real case of infection. Kids that often play in the dirt are less likely to get infected.
Sone one should get thouse idiots to play Mass effect and studie the Quarians as they littarly failed there immunity system by not exposing it to dirt. (result of living several generation on sterile space ships).
Thanks a lot!!! I can't imagine my childhood without "dangerous things!" It might be so boring, but, thanks to poorness, my parents had no time to disallow me to do what I want.
My parents brought me up right. I am 5 out of 5 for the things I did/was allowed to do. I think I definitely had an advantage over kids now and became a very competent, innovative, and well-rounded person. Thanks, mom and dad, for all the life experience!
It's so funny, because when I was a kid, putting your tongue across the contacts was how we tested the strength of a 9V battery. Nobody I knew had a voltmeter.
Yeah! I have always wondered about those parents putting helmets on their kids before going to the playground. And the playground itself is covered by rubber ground almost everywhere. There is no chance any kid could get hurt but perhaps inhale/consume too much "rubber" instead. That said, I was brought up without any safety nets whatsoever, near a wild forest. Sure, with slightly less luck I would not live today, because me and my siblings really had fun in that forest. But I survived and so did all of my siblings. And we had a great time in that forest and a lot more we explored around or house. Parents today must learn to differ "real-danger" from "whatever-risk". Most of the risks parents hear of almost never happens but on the other hand there are some real dangers parents may overlook (in the mist of everything else they *_think_* is dangerous but is far down the risk-ladder).
yes! They have to make playgrounds MORE SAFE now since parents don't like ANY RISK. Like most of the playgrounds near me are just slides
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@@drcola143 My comment was very much ironic. Sure, when I was a kd I could surely get hurt. But would I get hurt for life? Or even killed? I strongly doubt it. At least not at the playgrounds. However, I also played with my friends in the real forests. And for sure there were some occasions I really could have killed myself by accident. So (ironic on) let's burn down all forests (ironic off).
@ yep but at playgrounds built nowadays you can't get a scratch on you no matter how rough you play. The only good playgrounds are ones built quite a while ago
I always let my son figure out a lot of things by himself. Now he's 1,5 years old and because he's been climbing stuff since he was 8 months old, his balance is amazing! Sure, he's fallen a few times, but I was always there to make sure he didn't get seriously hurt. Now he has such a good sense of danger, he barely ever falls :) and he can eat many fruits by himself without choking to death, and he loves exploring everything! I hope he will continue to be such a curious and intelligent boy :)
I used to love experimenting with burning things with a magnifying glass and when I started doing it at the playground at recess, I eventually got in trouble and they said I could never do it again because they were worried I'd start a fire. It's sad how they didn't believe I was sane enough to not start a damn forest fire ( I never did it by trees or things that might start a unwanted fire, I just burned leaves most of the time). Parents and teachers these days are breeding stupidity, ignorance and false fear in kids by their delusional beliefs about how children are. Kids aren't as stupid as people treat them. When you treat a kid like they're stupid, that's when there is real danger of the kid becoming stupid. What a parent says and portrays back to the child about them is what the child grows up believing about him or herself. So as a parent, don't ever believe/ think that your child is stupid or inherently delusional/mistaken, they get all of their mistakes and wrong beliefs from you the parent. "Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by it's ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." - Albert Einstein
lol i only did the super glue thing never climbed a tree or did small explosions or anything bad my mom always doesnt let me do things that arent "safe'' im 13 and always was a goodie two shoes
My parents (my dad especially) encouraged me to do all of these things. I would call myself very succesful nowadays, and much of it is because of them letting me be curious, "investigative" and always trying to learn new things as a child! I approve what this man says!
Reminded me of one time I saw a child picking up a leaf in the park, probably out of curiosity and/or playfulness, as children are, and his mother forbid him to pick up leaves because "they're dirty". Or another example, I've seen so many times when mothers telling their kids to "walk normally" when they wanted to balance on a curb of a walkway in park. I guess they were afraid of kid falling and scratching a bit of skin. FFS dumb mothers, let kids be kids.
Lmao I'm 12 and yesterday I actually just put a leaf that was plucked out of a tree in my phone case (that's clear so you can see the leaf fine) it's still in my case
I grew up in Silicon Valley in the ‘60s. We had a fruitless mulberry (morus alba, male) that my dad had built a platform in, about 10 feet off of the ground. My brothers and I added higher platforms up to 20 feet as the tree grew. Had a rope swing and everything. In the ‘80s I was in Las Vegas, and when my daughter was 6 months old I planted a fruitless mulberry before the Clark County Commission banned them because of pollen issues. I had to rent a jack hammer to hammer out a hole 4’x4’x4’ in solid caliche and amend the soil to put a $5.00 tree in a $100.00 hole. When the tree went in the ground my daughter could wrap her whole hand around the trunk. The tree grew faster than the kids did and it had three platforms up to 16 feet, and a rope swing. They never fell out of the tree. We moved away 20 years ago, bu that tree is still there, and I hope kids are still climbing it.
When I was in primary (elementary) school I walked to and from school every day with my best friend for a year or so as we lived next door to each other and I loved it as we could talk and exercise in the morning before class. We sometimes rode our bikes and scooters to school and as it was downhill I got over my fear of bikes.
lucky you! never walked to school even when my school was literally right there my mom was very "protective" as she passed every fear of hers on to me almost every single one
When I was in Year 1, there was a big pit in the middle of the entire school which had tons of climbable trees. Yeah, it was against the rules but every kid did it. The year before, I could only climb the tree which was the easiest to climb, by Year 1 I was climbing every tree in the pit. And I can thank my friends for that. They encouraged me to face my fears and they gave step-by-step instructions on how to climb the trees. Tree climbing taught me a lot. To trust the people you love, face your fears, how to solve problems and to always use your imagination. I would recommend all parents to let their kids climb trees, or even better climb one themselves. Because in the end, we are all kids in our brains and at heart.
Dude you are so correct!!! We did all those things back in Trinidad without hovering parents. We knew they still loved us. Happy Holidays to you and yours!!💕🎆🎶🤘🏾💫🎈
This is absolutely perfect. We learn from things around us. There are now a lot of young adults walking around afraid of the world because they were psychologically neutered as children. Great Video!
I've learned a lot from this guy...my kids are gonna be burning ants with a magnifying glass at the top of a tree while licking 9 volt batteries. I'm sure child services will understand.
I'm commenting in a video from 2012, in 2016. In a language that isn't even mine. About a subject that isn't even talked about in this video. Well... kind of. I just needed to say that the top five worst fears parents have, according to this video, are kind of made fun of here because they just don't happen that much in USA. But I just couldn't resist the need of saying that those are REALLY important issues here where I live. I live in Venezuela, a dictatorial government no one cares about, apparently. And problems as kidnapping, drugs, homicides and more are our day-to-day issues. I am 15 years old, and I don't know what actual freedom is. Just some months ago I heard how a police man was killed- I heard the gunshots, and feared for my own life as people were running and my dad had to keep driving the car trying to not to look at the cop's dead body-, and I know my parents didn't let me do a lot of things Gever Tulley mentions in this video for my own safety. Our fear was not imposed by the media, it was imposed by our own lives. I'm sorry about the rant, I just couldn't help it.
saradeweasley I'm 17 and just wanted to thank you for giving me a new perspective on life and a new appreciation for the safety that I often take for granted. I wish you luck in your life and that you find safety and happiness.
LookitupTV Thank you for your words and good wishes. Remember that, just because someone is suffering, it doesn't mean that your suffering is not valid. Thanks for reading me and for appreciating your safety. Bless you.
When i was in the elementary, my school's independence day competition is catching catfishes, goose and crabs in the mud, it was sooooo fun although most times we ate the mud. But the gooses are *enormously scary*
When I was 6, I lived in an area filled with very steep hills that were incredibly high. One of my favorite memories back then was building home made vehicles using random things from my garage (surfboards, wheels, etc). I would then ride my creations down those steep hills at high speeds. It was wonderfully fun. I would try the weirdest combinations and I learned how to improve from mistakes and failure, since some of my vehicles didn’t work. I never got hurt doing it. My family and I moved away to the mountains many years later. Now I’m in high school, and I have a huge passion for engineering, specifically electrical engineering. I’m creative with how I approach problems and many people often talk about how “smart” I am. Creating those vehicles really helped sparked more curious and abstract me, and I’m glad that my parents allowed me to be more like a kid back then and not a robot.
Love this! Totally starting a whole list of fun things with my daughter now. I always loved how boy scouts had us learn a little bit of everything and now I want to add these items to the list too. So much fun!
I did basically all of these things as a kid! I've also noticed that letting kids play in the rain is frowned upon more because they could get a cold or make a mess. Kids aren't allowed to learn from mistakes. When I was a kid, I decided to swing from a tree branch and attempt to land on a plastic table sort of thing. My parents told me I would get hurt but I didn't listen, so they just let me do it. The table broke and I just fell traight through it and I had cuts down my legs. My parents didn't freak out, all they said was "well we told you not to do it, didn't we? It's your problem now. Bandaids are in the bathroom drawers" and I fixed it up myself. Because I got hurt, I learned not to do that again. Mistakes are a very effective way for children to learn, especially with mild danger.
+Kamena It's probably not unless you live in a spectacularly shitty area or a third world country, hell, I myself grew up in a third world country but honestly most of the crime happens at night or between gangs, the rest is all blow out of proportion
Crime isn't the issue (the "city" I live in actually has a very low crime rate). it's lack of sidewalks and a tenancy for people to speed that makes it dangerous here. way more likely to be hit by a car than anything else. also impractical because it would take over an hour to walk to any of the schools nearby. if I lived closer to a school and there were sidewalks and crosswalks it would be fine.
+Fin H I never said I had a problem giving them independence, I have an issue with the actual walking to school because it is dangerous here. being responsible for getting ready and on the bus in time I feel has the same effect while being much safer in my area. if you live in a place that allows for it, by all means have your kids walk to school!
I have a friend that as over protective parents and I can’t wait to see what will happen when she moves out of her parents house because I want to see what she does with even the smallest bit of freedom.
Now I see why my uncle exposes to hard work and stuff. Sure, it looks scary, but it's fun and interesting to learn. Learning to commit to things and not be afraid is important for kids and others alike.
Outstanding! These top 5 are the things I did as a child and has made me very strong and aware of how the world operates. It's a good thing what he is talking about.
I once climbed a pine tree to the top (a very _tall_ tree) and when I called down to my mom her reaction (after she saw where I was) she told said she thought to herself "Tell me when your down safely because I don't want to watch." :) It was fun. And I did it later that summer, too. I've also had fun with a magnifying glass (dad gave us a lesson on burning things... that and what black powder does when light outside of a chamber... :)
Lucky you. Whenever I climbed the pine tree outside my house my mom had a fit, yelling at me to get down before I fell. I actually passed by my old house a while ago (hadn't been back on the street for over 15 years) and all the low hanging branches of the tree were cut off. It was really sad.
I climbed trees, had a bunch of magnifying glasses (and learned to make fire with them), tested 9V batteries with my tongue (are they dead or not?), had a chemistry set (and over time, made a lot of different kinds of firecrackers), walked or rode my bike to school (later a motorcycle). I got my PhD in chemistry, worked 31 years in the American pharmaceutical industry, and am working on plant medicines in Peru for the last 2 years, still using that knowledge, and freedom I had to explore.
Watching this in 2019, it's amazing how we took this advice and ran completely the other way. I'm pretty sure parents would have their kids taken away by CPS if they let their kid walk to school alone nowadays.
I've heard of some parents having the police called on them when a neighbor learns they left their 12 and 10 year old kids home alone for a couple hours. There were no burglars, fires, or anyone in danger; they were just home alone probably watching TV or playing video games.
I think he's indirectly speaking about the pussifcation of america. When i was growing up you shot bb guns (or real, small caliber guns if in the country), played with matches, rode your bike without a helmet, and all sorts of other shit that is nearly illegal now. My parents and grandparents did crazier stuff than me yet we all turned out fine. WTF happened? Why are parents so scared for their children now?
Its the same in the UK. They have banned cash on the buses this month. Its just the beginning. If we allow the cashless society agenda, there will be no more gran parents giving a child a dollar to get sweets. There will be no more "keep the change phrases". What would homeless people do? Money is the last bit of freedom we have, and they are coming for it. What we gonna do?
***** Exactly right. News/reports without balanced analysis and contextual interpretation can just as easily obscure reality as reveal it. It is a mystery to me why the questioning/testing/proving methods taught in our primary and secondary science classes are not applied (or at least not applied with the same vigor) to nonscience subjects. Example: Why don't we have grade-school-level classes in which students can explore the existence of god(s) and all supernatural occurrences? We teach our children plenty about risks to their bodies. What about the risks of dangerous, irrational assumptions/presumptions planted in their heads?
***** Its the product of the legal system. Because of the constant lawsuits and burden on insurance, it is the law to have your child in a car seat until the age of 8.
I had a toddler who was oblivious to danger. He climbed to the top of apartment water tanks, rode his small push-cars downhill across 2 streets and into more serious traffic, one heart-in-mouth risk per day. At the end of my rope, I put him on roller skates (to the horror of his grandmother - it was dangerous!)... but after 2 days on roller skates, he became risk-conscious. Mission accomplished!
Right on! I agree with everything he says absolutely. This is how how we build confidence- challenging ourselves on many levels on a daily basis builds self-esteem and confidence.
I will always remember the moment when I was waving to my mother from a tree on the same level (which was 3rd floor). I loved climbing, should do it again...
5 dangerous things I did with my kids and nephews around 7-10, with me usually getting the most injured: 1. Shooting BB guns at each other in the garden. 2. Full contact wrestling. 3. Climbing steep cliffs. 4. Burning fingers on gas burners whilst camping. 5. Running down rocky hills, usually resulting in cut knees and elbows. Just a lot of plasters and antiseptic spray required.
Were I to start with putting children in the education system all over again knowing what I know now, I wouldn't. They would all be home schooled from day one until the system is fixed. Our youth are raised to be scared of every shadow. They can't run, jump, climb trees and more which denies them the life necessary skills they need but they certainly know anxiety.
I am not sure how that the ability to climb trees, at least with bare hands and feet only, is a "necessary life skill". I have not encountered a need for it yet that could not be accomplished with tools. Although maybe I'm biased from that the family never owned a home due to poverty and was always renting and thus the property managers always took care of the trees (to varying degrees of both competency and efficiency.). I was not mollycoddled away from it, rather I was allowed to try it but gave up because I just didn't have the muscle strength and didn't get that you had to keep trying at it over and over every single day in frustration to get the muscle strength, or it didn't interest me enough to pursue it further (Computers were much more interesting.), i.e. to make such repeated efforts.
Physical activities including tree climbing and balance walking on walls of different heights helps a child's body with developing motor skills, strengthens their muscles, teaches risk factors and for a great many it is fun. As you found, it takes time but what's good for us doesn't not evolve in an instant like microwave foods. Computers have their benefits. Computer games has their benefits but children need physical activity. With regard to you giving up, all children do that in their early stages because it is hard but a parent/carer should be there to motivate them and get them to persist instead of just giving up when it gets a bit hard for them. I have four children who were all sent up climbing walls, encouraged to climb trees and more. And now we have Doctors begging parents to let their children out to do these activities because the lack of has seen middle aged diseases appearing in children as young as ten years old such as diabetes, hip replacements from the level of obesity for the child, children's bones breaking too easily due to children not able to strengthen their bodies by the knocks and falls common in childhood. And rickets. Rickets has reappeared from a lack of Vitamin D, best sourced by the sun.
@Wombat & Charlene: The thing is that it depends on what the kid wants. Some want it, I didn't. I did have more interest in climbing rocks, trouble was the rocks had to be driven to and gas money gas money... I don't get diabetes or hip replacements at 10 though because I did not eat a shit load of calories and junkfood and get obese. about 2000 cals per day and I grew up short and skinny not tall and a balloon. Plus I did get up, move around (I liked to play on my own with a movement involved), just didn't climb damn trees much.
@Wombat & Charlene Where do you get the idea I said or think THAT from? What I'm just saying is that there isn't one right way to do things that everyone should follow. I responded to your post because you were suggesting I was somehow done wrong by or made a bad choice simply to pursue what was interesting to me, and it seemed your argument was therefore contradictory. Your original post was suggesting children should be _not actively kept from_ certain things - and now it seems you are suggesting not only that, but that they should be _mandated_ to do things that they might not want to do or they are not interested in. It seems to me you are suggesting that all kids actually _want_ to do these various items you say they are “coddled” from and that is not true any more than saying they don't want to or can't and should be coddled away from them. It's just the flip side and it's still as erroneous. I say don't coddle kids but also don't _make_ them do the stuff that some “coddle” parents would coddle them away from _if they don't want to do it_.
I did every single one of these things growing up and had a blast doing it. Myself and my friends would ride our bikes many many miles away from our home in Dallas, Texas in the late 80s early 90s and never had any issues. As a 4 year old I remember climbing in mulberry trees to eat the berries and now I have friends that won't let their kids eat them after being washed in the sink. This is a great topic for a talk I wish it would go viral.
Thank you for sharing your enlightening TEDx talk on "5 Dangerous Things You Should Let Your Children Do". Your approach of embracing risk and danger in a controlled environment is both unique and eye-opening. Your message challenges conventional wisdom and encourages parents to think differently about their children's development. Your examples of how letting children engage in dangerous activities in a safe environment can foster important life skills, such as problem solving, critical thinking, and resilience, are insightful and inspiring. Your talk is both entertaining and educational, making it enjoyable to watch. Your contribution to the field of child development is invaluable and we appreciate the work you do. Great job!
TLDR: 55 things that normal kids have been doing with or without parental supervision everywhere around the globe except america, because everywhere else doesn't let news outlets govern how they raise their kids.
Liarra Sniffles it’s not news outlets...it’s other parents who notify the authorities that OMG children are playing in a park without their mom, dad, babysitter.
I've done all those... wonder if I did all 50... he should have had more time. I was shooting guns, used a chain saw, drove a tractor and so on from when I was 10. The only time I was actually hurt (near death), was in a car.
We are in our 70s and we so lived ‘ dangerously’ in our youth! And we let our kids ‘ live dangerously ‘ too . Agree with this man 100% I’ll send this to my great-grandson’s parents … although growing up with us - they probably already have a few good ideas anyway ! 😊
I got my daughter a motorcycle when she was six. She learned balance and the hard earned lesson of understanding that you can do things you didnt believe you could. She is now a grown up - she survived the ordeal.
"the most effective way to keep children safe, is to give them a little taste of danger"
well said.
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This is very true. I was opening Christmas gifts for my niece (toys she had received and now wanted to play with) and asked her to go get me a knife out of the kitchen. She was like 8 or maybe older at this point. She tells me that she's not allowed to touch the knives. At which point I told her just to hurry up and get it. She brings it into the room barely pinching the tip of the handle with the blade hanging down. I open the toys and tell her to sit next to me for a minute. I have her open her hand with her palm upward. Then I attempt to show her the proper way to hold a knife so that you don't hurt yourself or the person you're handing it to. She freaked out like no other and I had to abandon my attempt to teach her something that I viewed to be a vital safety lesson. Who in this world will ever avoid a sharp knife, box cutter, or other sharp tool in their life? I wasn't trying to scar her by pretending to cut her hand or anything like that. I was trying to show her something that could prove to be truly vital in her life at some point. The point was safety because if no one ever teaches her how, then when she has no other choice but to use a knife, then her chances of hurting herself increase exponentially. As much as I hate to say this, my sister (her mother) does actually coddle her kids a little bit too much. She views it as shielding them from the bad things in the world. However, by "shielding" them, she's also leaving them unprepared for when they inevitably encounter these things in the real world. She won't be able to protect them from every single thing forever and they should know what to do should the need ever arise and not just get thrown into a panic because the situation is totally foreign to them. I should also clarify that I was only trying to show her HOW to do something, but at no point was I tell her she was ALLOWED to do anything she was told not to do. I was not giving her permission to go play around with sharp objects, the goal was merely to teach her the safe way to do so if she ever had to. Parents overprotect kids in so many ways it's unbelievable. 8 years old may have been a little young for this type of lesson, but she's 10 or 11 now and would probably still throw a fit if I tried the same thing today. That's the point I'm trying to make. If I was able to teach her properly the first time, then she would never have to be afraid about it ever again. Proper knowledge can be the singlemost greatest form of protection you can ever give your children. Exposing them to dangerous situations to give them instructions on how to keep themselves safe in dangerous situations is better than telling a kid to avoid something for the rest of their life at all costs. If my niece were successfully trained on how to handle a blade, she could finally cut the cord and grow up. Lol. Had to end on a joke but I meant every word before that
@@sageneodraconus Well said
Any other old geezers remember Lawn Jarts?
Exactly how vaccine works
When my son was 8 he climbed up a tree and wanted me to come up and get him down. I told him "You got up there, you get down" my wife was losing her mind freaking out. He got himself down and now he owns a business cutting trees out of powerlines.
If this is true, then thats amazing!
How can i not like this comment? Very cool
When I was a kid I was told that a few times. I definitely learned how to get out of problems on my own.
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Depending on how high the tree was, that was a bad decision. Letting a child climb a tree is one thing, but when one is asking for help to get down, ignoring his/ her request is, simply put, dangerous and mean
Problem solving on your own is one of the most important skills anyone can learn, ever.
Reading is pretty important too
Kids need to learn problem solving skills at some point in their lives, because while their parents will do whatever they can to help the kid, there will come a point where the kid is on their own and the parents cannot help them.
I'm totally agree with you, but I'm doubting about looking for the solution in the internet. You must learn how to Google yourself, but the problem itself was solved by someone else. Does that count??😅 (I want to think it does count)
@@Macionik i mean...yeah it counts. Being “tech savvy” or maybe being able to problem solve with a little info
@@elmo7608 well pretty much everyone (99% or whatever) can read in the western world, but problem solving is what will get you a job.
TED talks are really getting me to realize that people don't see children as children anymore. They're seen as and raised to be robots; able to digest and regurgitate useless facts without asking any questions, expected to be safe 100% of the time, and basically become absolutely perfect, regardless of how much of a tall order that may be.
Just let kids be kids. How hard is this to understand?
Yes. I agree so much. So, so much.
@Mia Li Wait, isn't lazy one of the things people say MILLENIALS are? Also, did you say that children are being educated?
By now a lot of adults don't know what kids are anymore, because they were in some sense raised in glass bubbles themselves. You've got one generation of over-supervised, freedomless kids grown up to raise another. They can't teach their kids how to be courageous and free because they never knew what that is and have nothing to teach.
What? I love regurgitating useless facts, although they probably aren’t the same kind of useless facts you’re talking about...
hear hear
This guy is on to something. Every year I had to take chemistry I was always hoping we'd get to blow something up in class. Needless to say I was very disapointed until I lit my chemistry book on fire.
We used to make dry ice bombs on occasion in high school science. Probably not officially sanctioned, but very informative, and fun.
@@Russo-Delenda-Est best I got was methanol in a 5 liter culigan bottle. it was like a rocket haha
One of the last things we did in chemistry was blowing up a trashcan. Honestly, one of my favorite classes and where I excelled.
Did you light it with a magnifying glass.
We were allowed to like, boil water and separate water from salt when salt has dissolved in water.
Mind you, this was like in the 8th grade, age 14 or something?
Jeez.
Dont talk to strangers
you could become friends
The strangers, are the ones I am worried for.
eleora I.S. 😂
You could miss out on seeing some little puppies
*the fear of commitment*
@@goodels2336 or... OR you could hit the candy jackpot in the windowless van that stranger is driving.. I would risk it...
Being too protected and too safe, leads to fear...
Who do you think fears the rain the most... the one who walks in it everyday, or the one that never walked in it?
Fear resides, where experience stops.
Pablo Rages Don't you think we are over protecting our kids? Because in my personal surrounding, I see that parents over protect their kids.
it wasn't safer back then.it just seemed safer back then cause there wasn't big media coverage of every single bad thing that could happen.the world hasn't changed in terms of danger but it has changed into a more paranoid world.where people freak out of the simplest of things.
Awesome. I'm going to quote that. ^and kidnapping isn't as high as most think.
According to statistics, parents do most of the kidnapping. So if you want to be kidnapped, hang around at home all day.
Kids are not more aware, they are more exposed - to what the media provides. You worry more over a gun/knife yet you say kids are more brave (intelligent?) - no. I disagree. I do understand where you are coming from, the knowledge and availability of weapons has increased but not the use of patience or safety while holding one - that has decreased. People were less aware and more care-free, because the media wasn't shoving down our throats. Again, the availability has increased - not the delivery of the news. Another example but far from the strongest, the teachers walk around the classroom like hand sanitizer is holstered to their hip, creating fear of germs. I rolled around under homes, in dirt-sometimes worse, used porta-johns, barely ever had the chance to wash my hands when it was time to eat, and bite my nails - I never get sick even though the kids are sick four times a month. When was hand sanitizer put to use for general public, late 90's?
oh man, this guy should have gotten the full 18 min.
I love people who find creative ways to break and fix our minds.
Hell they should have given him an hour for all 50 things!
Jack Spirko haha oh my, but then no one would buy his book because they know all 50 things lol! ;)
Jack Spirko These were 5 extra things, not five from the book.
Sleep meditations
Marianna Wescott c
When I was in grade 4 I had a supply teacher named Mr Tunsios. He was a frequent supplier for our school and the kids loved him. One day he asked us "who wants to see me blow up a bomb after school?"
Everyone was excited. There was a unanimous yes.
He brings a cooler outside filled with dry ice. He dumps it in a plastic nestle disposable water bottle and dumps boiling water in. He seals the bottle.
At this moment we are all 20 metres away lying like soldiers on the ground. Then it blows up. The explosion was massive and loud and spectacular.
Then he repeated the experiment a bunch of times. It was quite amazing.
That is the only thing I remember from elementary school.
Wow that is so amazing, it is a great experience for children to learn about explosions and dry ice. 👍👍
We did that at our school and someone called the cops because it was so loud
I got so scared ngl... We’ve never since something like this before at my old school but we did fun experiments like make ice cream but not explode something!! I wish I did that!
imagine a teacher saying that nowadays 😂😂. "who wants to see me set off a bomb after school"
I got worried until I finished reading it
Growing up in a strict household, I never had the chance to do any dangerous things and let me tell you, it isn't fun at all and there are so many things I regret not doing, because I was always in fear I might get punished.
how old are you now??
I am in that household now.
Parents like they stunt their children’s growth
@@jameshall5556 And yet your parents let you be on the internet?!? Someone has there phobias wrong...
@@firebal6129 haha. You totally owned me. It's not like I'm afraid of talking to my parents about things because I might face punishment or anything... Hahaha.
when i was a child, i asked my dad if i could touch the stove. He said do it so I did, burned myself, lesson learned. Proof that this guy is right xD
One of my parents gave me a cigarette when I was ten. It was so traumatizing and terrible I never picked up the habit despite all my friends doing it at some point.
i thought there was a spider on my screen cause of you
NumberSixteen BusShelter I asked my dad if I could stick my dick in the toaster. He said do it. I haven't stuck my dick in any toasters since.
O.O 😂😂
Isak The Baron same here I'm happy my mom let have some cause I have never picked one up
I am seventeen and I fell out of a tree two weeks ago and I was on crutches for a week. Tonight, I super glued my fingers together for the first time. I am a child at heart.
Lauren Gell My project fell apart before school so I stuck some super glue on it. My fingers got stuck together for half the day and the teacher got stuck to the project. Pretty funny day.
This is funny truth about being a kid...I'm in my 40's and I say kids in elementary school today have iPhones and when I was kid I put Elmer's glue on my hands to watch it dry! This is reality of how our world and culture has changed for the worst...
I'm 12 and have accidentally superglued my fingers together, Ima do that now
Southern Charm I'm in 7th grade and me and my friends still do that sometimes (doesn't happen often though usually when we accidentally do it but then we put more for the peel)
I've put hot glue on my hand cause my grandmother gifted me a hot glue gun for christmas due to myself making bows. I learned to wait when its not as hot to put it in the palm of my hand. I learned well.
I get the strangest looks when I tell people my 9 & 6 year olds ride their bikes to school.
I would love a Netherland route.
I was walking to school started since 3rd grade when I became 8 years old. It's why I've always had a nack for being outside and exploring and adventuring because even though I lived in a suburb I would always go exploring around my neighborhood and bike around as well. I miss my childhood man
By 4th grade I rode my bike to school and home every day and was home for an hour without my parents every day after school. Tought myself to cook with that time and now I can cook pretty well at 15.
William Fuendeling If I walked to school it would have been a 7 mile march, along a highway of 70mph cars, with no sidewalk. for some reason my parents didnt let me walk to school.
where i live almost everyone walks or bikes to school
I was pestering my dad one day about what electricity tasted like so he asked me if I wanted to lick a 9 volt battery
It tastes like pennies
When I told him that
His next question was
"Why do you know what pennies taste like?"
Well...
Lmao, who hasnt licked a penny tho
which taste like sweaty balls
@@mohammedalhajeri818 Well how do you know that? Did you lick a basketball? And why would a ball be sweaty?
@mad M haha, maybe you were a more sensible child
thoughts and prayers to every penny out there
*TH-cam recommended*
"Let's hide this video for SEVEN years"
Yeah, why do they do that?
@Gooey Prickles okay then...
Scr3w u utb!!!
you might of have seen another ted talk so youtube was like well he might like this as well
Sven*
Being raised in a Mexican household, I never encountered too many limitations when it came to danger. The more hurt you got, the more fun things became.
That's quite lunatic
sounds like my kind of fun
I love how you have to let everyone know youre mexican
It's all fun and games until someone looses a finger
then it's hilarious
yeetusthefetus he’s right!! Mexican life is much less sheltered. Peanut allergies are unheard of, people don’t commit suicide at the first disappointment and we are not afraid to touch each other. Believe me, it makes a difference!
do parents seriously not let their kids climb trees now?
sadly they dont trust kids intuitien about trees lol or they dont teach it to them anymore
I never learned how to climb a tree because my grandfather was blind and I was scared of getting stuck up there & him not being able to help me down.
celuler22 this is sad. what is wrong with people?!
It also has to do with where you are from, there weren't any climbing tree's where I lived growing up. I grew up with lot of tall palm trees and cactus and like hell would I want to try to shimmy up either of those, I climbed a lot of walls instead. Some of the issue is apart of location and availability to climbing trees, the rest is sissy parents.
The trees in my area have the lower branches cut off to discourage climbing, unfortunately...
I grew up on a farm surrounded by forest where I was in constant contract with potentially dangerous animals (untamed horses, bulls, venomous snakes, massive snapping turtles...), our favorite play areas were 40 feet up in massive trees or in crevices at the tops of giant stacks of hay bales, and our favorite pastimes included hunting for snakes, jumping out of a willow tree, having mini "wars" where we would create teams and fend off opposing teams with sticks and pine cones as weapons, and running loose through the forest eating wild berries and roots. I'm not dead. Meanwhile, nowadays I see summer camps where kids aren't even allowed to run around a field without an adult trailing them. People seriously need to chill.
Servals
Louisiana? where was this?
i have to say though that eating random berries without knowing what they are is a mistake.
in a survival situation, you should do each of these steps with 30 minutes in between :
you should test it unboken against your skin, broken against skin, broken against lips, chew on one then spit it out, then eating only one.
Servals none of those things are bad, except for the stick war thing. I played with sticks in second grade, six years ago. Somebody who was playing hit me in the eye, ripped my cornea open, made me see double, and temporarily blinded me. It hurts. :p
still statistically very unlikely though NoodleNetWorks
Servals damn you had the most perfect childhood ever
That's called a survivorship bias. Those who ate wrong berries/mushrooms, fell from trees or left blind from explosions will not be able to tell their story on youtube. :) On the other hand I did all those things as well. Stinky water snakes, huge metal dumps with lot's of sharp/spiky things, gunpowder, other explosives - me and my buddies experienced it all. I'm lucky to have all my fingers and eyes.
List: (explained insightfully in video)
1. Walk to school.
2. Climb trees.
3. Burn stuff (not other animals) with a magnifying glass.
4. Create small explosions/chemical reactions.
5. Super glue your fingers together.
Thank you. I was looking for this list because I couldn't be bothered finding my earphones and don't want to disturb the other people in the room. Super gluing your fingers together is SOOOO scary, though. I'm always convinced I'm going to rip my skin off and bleed to death from my fingers...
Me and my brother would catch ants on fire
@Michael Haddad élève theres nothing else to do in Nebraska.
What if you live like 30 min drive away?
OHTYCH 100 have fun waking up at 5:00 and walking
My dad let me brother and I shoot the air soft guns at targets when we were younger. Before giving them to us he shot us both to show what would happen if we shot each other, him, the dog, or our other siblings. It stung a bit but didn’t cause any damage. What it did do is teach my brother and I to be careful with guns. He and I have been shooting real guns for a few years and know how to use them properly. It was worth it.
Great father teaching. 👊👊
Indeed, that's a lesson you'll never forget
For me when I turned like ten my dad pretty much just said to wear safety glasses so I would just go out into my backyard in shorts and a tshirt with my friends and we'd all just shoot eachother with airsoft guns. We'd come in covered in bruises and bumps but it was worth it because it was hella awesome. We all loved it xD
Ian Morgan now that my siblings are older we do that too!
@@Savsshit I would do it with my little brother when he was like 6-8, it'd be the middle of summer and he'd be out their with like 5 layers of clothing and a coat with an entire helmet on so he couldn't feel getting shot 😂
I have done everything on his list, and after a lifetime of higher-than-average danger scenarios - including active duty time in the Marines - I have survived as much or more than almost anyone I know.
More important than this man being brilliant, he's legitimately onto something that so many have forgotten, and I love his stab at fear-mongering in the government and media.
Jolly good show, Mr. Tulley.
**puts on monocle and top hat**
I SAY! Jolly good show, old chap!
HAHA!!! Is it a coincidence that I was an active duty Marine and agree with this man.
In the United States the government has made Iodine illegal to possess, Yes the ELEMENT Iodine. The lengths that government will go to in order to control the people, frequently amazes me. This reminds me of a really good book, that talks about this, State of Fear, by Michael Crichton.
How do you survive more than somebody?
Surviving one thing isn't necessarily that noteworthy, but when you survive particularly dangerous circumstances over and over, that would be surviving more than most others. As in I've survived more attempts on my life or dangerous events than just about anyone else I've ever met.
This was a list of things I was forbidden to do as a child. I find it really difficult when faced with any kind of danger and usually feel like my childhood was unfinished. LET YOUR KIDS THESE OR THEY WILL GROW UP SCARED OF LITERALLY EVERYTHING.
Me too. I loved the times when my dad would help me bombs for special occasions.
I think when he said bomb in a bag he meant the baking soda and vinegar reaction. Put them in a bag close it and it will explode without the possibility of injury.
@@knickemz pakistan india
Same so relatable, I didn’t do a single activity he mentioned
Just a guess but gonna go out on a LIMB(get it?!) and say you have some type of anxiety,struggle with social relationships and suffer frequently from depression (with or without substance abuse tendencies?!)
OMG I had to pause this video to write this comment
I pressed this video in hope of hearing "climb trees" and i was correct.
I'm 19. last year i climbed a tree and dicovered that im really good at it and enjoyed it alot. Now I spend a lot of time climbing trees and structures "I even climbed my way up to the roof of my university". And i wish my parents let me climb any tree in my childhood so i could discover my passion that makes up most of my free time and training time, but instead i had to wait 18 years to find this out.
Are you going to be a professional tree trimmer?
@@omaroliblish Or lineman, or construction worker, or roofer, or fireman/rescue personnel, or outdoor photographer, or pilot? There are a lot of jobs that require climbing and/or a head for heights!
@@mungbean345 why have I never seen the Tree climbing as acceptable for experience for a job. instead eveyone writes first job from highschool we got a junior job as a X.
Hard requirements 3-5 years prior documented experience and two diplomas.
@@Zack_Wester I see your point. 🙂 Tree climbing isn't really resume material, but it's one of those things that can show you what skills and traits you have (like enjoying the outdoors, being nimble and coordinated, and being okay with heights) that can be help narrow down what kind of job would really suit you. *Then* you should talk to people in that profession to see if it's really the right one for you, as well as ask them what kind of education/experience is ideal to get you into that career. For some jobs, if the situation is right, an apprenticeship or other on-the-job training might be available if they urgently need someone who is hard working and reliable. If you're really interested and polite, it's amazing how much people will help you get where you want to go!
Happy climbing dude
I remember climbing the massive trees in my grandmother's old backyard and it was a highlight of my childhood. Nothing felt better than being up there, seeing the top of the garage and feeling like a king. It was a little scary, but that's why I did it!
Nice talk! I experimented with all those things when I was a child, excepting super gluing my fingers, that I did later in life.
When I became a father I tried to pass those experiences down to my two daughters, in particular, tree climbing, starting a fire without matches, safely handle a sharp knife, a task that my wife doesn't know and keeps on cutting herself, and camping or sleeping outside without a tent.
My eldest daughter grew up being very cautious and safe opting for five stars hotels, while my younger one became a professional freestyle skier injuring herself several times and being able to sleep in a tent with 5 degrees Fahrenheit in winter.
In any case, it is definitely better to teach your own children how to deal with potential dangers than how to avoid them altogether.
I'm 19 and I realized I didn't even do any of these things minus the battery-licking and that's because they didn't find out fast enough.
Here's to hoping I won't be so overbearing if I have children.
Conspicuous Cultist did you know why those batteries tasted sour?
because someone did it before you
Booksarefun666 Wow. I licked airport handle bars as a baby. And... yeah I was fine. I also had e. coli. as a 1.5 year old (bad plane food probably) :).
Guess I was lucky.
Helen McCoy E Coli can be deadly though, depending on the strain. If it was HB101, no worries, but the dangerous one is to worry.
Trucker1114 1 Nearly died, apparently. Still probably have the hospital records somewhere.
Booksarefun666 the only things i didnt really do until layer was walk to school and the chemistry. when i was young, i was in a dumb situation where i lived in one town, but was in a different school district. so while the closest elementry school was about half a mile away, i was supposed to go to a school that was 10 miles away. needless to say, i didnt walk that. that hcanged when i moved later on.
Back in the day .. our school did a dropping when we were about 12 years old during summer camp - in groups of 5-8 kids we were blindfolded and driven out in the country at night. We were dropped in random unknown places with no adults and had to find our way back to town. One of my classmates had a lighter and hairspray bottle which would make a huge flamethrower and by lighting the flame , other groups of students were able to find us so we banded together and found our way back. We just thought it was a fun thing to do but I realize now how great it is to learn how to get yourself out of a pickle at an early age.
i love doing the hairspray and lighter thing.
That is amazing, I wish more kids had the opportunity to figure out bad situations on their own.
I wonder how many forest fires get started like that.
@@rswow We used to steal hairspray bottles from our mums, then we'd light a big outdoor candle, set the hairspray bottles next to the candle and shoot it with an airrifle. Great fireball, great fun!
this days this would never be allowed
*Disclaimer* Always be an active participant in your children experiencing these things. A kid in my neighborhood I grew up with, owned and used a home chemistry set. Burned down his parents house. Thankfully nobody was harmed. But yeah...
Also whh make a bomb im bag when you can make a bittle rocket and send stuff flying in yard mkre easiky and less dangerously. You can experiment with amiut of vinegar and baking soda to see what happens. Or their is also the blowing up balloon from gas of vinegar and baking soda.
Demetrios Mustakas Jr. I have a suggestion, don't "always" be there, but know when you should. Know what could be dangerous, and what not. Give your child the freedom to be alone, free and out of your sight for a while.
Demetrios Mustakas Jr. My grandma accidently burnt down her parents' farm at the age of 5. Nobody died. Accidents happen^^
My grandpa played with fire under a bed and burned his family’s apartment
Apparently, Thomas Edison burned his garage down with his experiments and got a whipping from his dad. His school teachers couldn't handle him so his mother pulled him out to homeschool him, but she didn't manage to teach him to spell, because all he wanted to do was to experiment with things.
as my mother says, every kid needs to eat their hand full of sand in their childhood
I've had 2 friends that went to the corner of the playground and put spoonfuls of sand in their own mouths and spit it out. Your mother might have a solid point
@@ayyerr they didn't eat it tell them to do it again but eat it
Lol, so they have to eat their hand with the sand...
thats nice...
jk i know what you are going for lol XD.
in preschool, my friend convinced me to eat sand because apparently, it was "yummy." I believed her and ate the sand... the sand beneath the slide in the playground.
No wonder Anakin fell to dark side, he never ate sand.
I am 43 and I just super glued my fingers together yesterday.
LOL
How to reduce risk of *real* dangers:
1. Car accidents - he mentions walking more, parents can also reduce risk by learning defensive driving and by never answering their cell phone while driving. (Incidentally, if your child is in the car with you and the cell phone rings, let them answer and relay the message to you. A real life conversation is a lot less risky than a cell phone one, and if it's important, you'll still get the message. Plus, it helps kids learn phone skills.)
2. Familial homicide - most common kind is killing young infants, which is often due to post-partum depression. This can be dealt with, as a new parent, by monitoring your own mood and stress level and asking for help if you need it. For older kids, in addition to parental stress, spousal abuse is another contributor to homicide risk. The best way to reduce the risk is to learn early warning signs of abuse and don't get involved with someone like that. (Hint: you don't want someone who acts like Edward from Twilight or Christian from Fifty Shades of Grey.) If you're already in an abusive relationship, it may not be safe to leave right away, but start making plans to leave as soon as you can do so safely. Even if your partner has never hurt your child, if he (or she) is hurting you, your child is not safe.
3. Abuse - the abuse that is most likely to endanger a child's life is physical abuse. This is mostly caused by parental stress, as well as parents who don't understand child development and have overly high expectations, and parents who lack alternate strategies for discipline. The biggest thing is to *never* shake a baby. If you want to shake your baby, set them down, go to another room, and call a parents' help line or someone supportive. Monitor your own stress level and ask for help if you need it. Also, learn what is typical for kids of various ages. (For example, a 12 month old doesn't do things to annoy or manipulate adults, because they don't yet understand that they can affect an adult's emotions. They just have very little self control and very strong emotions.) And learn about time-out, rewards for good behaviour, how to explain reasons for rules in terms a young child understands, etc, and practice these skills until you master them.
4. Suicide - this is mostly for teenagers, and the vast majority of suicidal teens have depression, so learn the symptoms of depression. Sad mood every day, loss of enjoyment of things they used to like, lack or energy or too much energy, sleeping too much or too little, eating too much or too little (not trying to diet), those are all possible signs. Cultivate a trust with your teen where they can tell you their honest thoughts and feelings without you freaking out or punishing them. And if they are struggling, seek help. Most people with depression will respond to a combination of medication and cognitive-behavioural therapy.
5. Drowning - this is probably the easiest to prevent on the list. Teach your child to swim as early as possible. There are classes which teach 6 month olds to float on their back and 12 month olds to alternate floating and paddling to get to the shore. They also train kids how to swim in clothing, because if a kid falls into water accidentally, they'll probably be fully clothed. Also, if you have a backyard pool, keep it covered in a child-proof cover when not in use, and when it is in use, never leave children swim unsupervised. (Note: a drowning child can't yell for help. Learn the signs that someone is drowning if you ever take your kids swimming without a lifeguard.)
edward from twilight wasn't abusive and neither was Christian grey. pretty sure there are real stories that you can draw from those two not being anywhere near close. But overall really good and detailed post.
They were creepers, if a person behaved like that in real life there's a good chance they have a body in the trunk of their car.
+Amanda aka Goldmare What you said follows what I've learned. There's a good video about similar phenomena, search on TH-cam: Ben Goldacre publication bias. Love of money is the root of all evil, big pharma is stinking rich.
i dare you to read all that
Ettina Kitten Having common sense, care and love can prevent all of these.
This is a shining example of a TED Talk. I just love the way this guy thinks!
glueing your fingers together is fun, so satisfying to peel it off
SuperPanicked no not glueing, super glueing. It is much harder to separate.
Same applies to acrylic paint, as an artist, one of the most satisfying parts of painting is peeling paint off your fingers while waiting for it to dry between layers
@@Manj_J yes
100% agreed. It's when they are young that they are testing the limits of everything. If they don't learn this now, they won't in the future.
yet sadly for many kids now the first limit they hit and cant get passed is their parents. Why? because parents fear social services
I've said this for years.
When did children suddenly evolve to have legs that were incapable of walking and bicycling to get somewhere?
The principle of inoculation: Letting the body feel a little sample of the poison, so it will be able to defeat the dosage in a real case of infection. Kids that often play in the dirt are less likely to get infected.
Sone one should get thouse idiots to play Mass effect and studie the Quarians as they littarly failed there immunity system by not exposing it to dirt. (result of living several generation on sterile space ships).
ZackWester oh
Isn’t that kinda how vaccines work?
@@stormtorch yes, it's exactly how vaccines work
Thanks a lot!!! I can't imagine my childhood without "dangerous things!" It might be so boring, but, thanks to poorness, my parents had no time to disallow me to do what I want.
I'm forwarding this to my wife right now...
lol
And? Is your child still alive? Or did your wife intervene?
alexander and Redlight
Dont leave us in suspense like that!
What happened?
Redlight Records how's the couch feeling these days?
My parents brought me up right. I am 5 out of 5 for the things I did/was allowed to do. I think I definitely had an advantage over kids now and became a very competent, innovative, and well-rounded person. Thanks, mom and dad, for all the life experience!
People around me make me feel like I don't want to "take care" of my child but this is really reassuring.
Excellent!! Lets allow our children the freedom to explore, understand and learn to respect the world we live in!
It's so funny, because when I was a kid, putting your tongue across the contacts was how we tested the strength of a 9V battery. Nobody I knew had a voltmeter.
David Buchner that doesn’t work..
@@Fifty_eight_0 Yes it does. You may not be able to tell exactly, but you can certainly tell if it's dead or close to dead.
I'm in my 30s and I still do that.
Exactly!
@@Fifty_eight_0 you've obviously never tried it
So Yes. So right. Can't we raise braver kids?
Yeah! I have always wondered about those parents putting helmets on their kids before going to the playground. And the playground itself is covered by rubber ground almost everywhere. There is no chance any kid could get hurt but perhaps inhale/consume too much "rubber" instead.
That said, I was brought up without any safety nets whatsoever, near a wild forest. Sure, with slightly less luck I would not live today, because me and my siblings really had fun in that forest. But I survived and so did all of my siblings. And we had a great time in that forest and a lot more we explored around or house.
Parents today must learn to differ "real-danger" from "whatever-risk". Most of the risks parents hear of almost never happens but on the other hand there are some real dangers parents may overlook (in the mist of everything else they *_think_* is dangerous but is far down the risk-ladder).
yes! They have to make playgrounds MORE SAFE now since parents don't like ANY RISK. Like most of the playgrounds near me are just slides
@@drcola143 My comment was very much ironic. Sure, when I was a kd I could surely get hurt. But would I get hurt for life? Or even killed? I strongly doubt it. At least not at the playgrounds.
However, I also played with my friends in the real forests. And for sure there were some occasions I really could have killed myself by accident. So (ironic on) let's burn down all forests (ironic off).
@ yep but at playgrounds built nowadays you can't get a scratch on you no matter how rough you play. The only good playgrounds are ones built quite a while ago
@@drcola143 And that is sad, right?
@ yes
I always let my son figure out a lot of things by himself. Now he's 1,5 years old and because he's been climbing stuff since he was 8 months old, his balance is amazing! Sure, he's fallen a few times, but I was always there to make sure he didn't get seriously hurt. Now he has such a good sense of danger, he barely ever falls :) and he can eat many fruits by himself without choking to death, and he loves exploring everything! I hope he will continue to be such a curious and intelligent boy :)
Im curious how he is doing now?
I used to love experimenting with burning things with a magnifying glass and when I started doing it at the playground at recess, I eventually got in trouble and they said I could never do it again because they were worried I'd start a fire. It's sad how they didn't believe I was sane enough to not start a damn forest fire ( I never did it by trees or things that might start a unwanted fire, I just burned leaves most of the time). Parents and teachers these days are breeding stupidity, ignorance and false fear in kids by their delusional beliefs about how children are. Kids aren't as stupid as people treat them. When you treat a kid like they're stupid, that's when there is real danger of the kid becoming stupid. What a parent says and portrays back to the child about them is what the child grows up believing about him or herself. So as a parent, don't ever believe/ think that your child is stupid or inherently delusional/mistaken, they get all of their mistakes and wrong beliefs from you the parent. "Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by it's ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." - Albert Einstein
t h a n k y o u
So ur mad that u didn’t get to burn leaves as a child
Totally agree. The more my mum restrained me from doing stuff the more i wanted to and did it later on
lol i only did the super glue thing never climbed a tree or did small explosions or anything bad my mom always doesnt let me do things that arent "safe'' im 13 and always was a goodie two shoes
Great speech! But it seems that 575 downvoting danger-avoiders probably could not figure out as kids how to unglue their fingers.
"The Most effective way to keep children safe is to give them a little taste of danger." yep! they understand better the possible consequences
My parents (my dad especially) encouraged me to do all of these things. I would call myself very succesful nowadays, and much of it is because of them letting me be curious, "investigative" and always trying to learn new things as a child! I approve what this man says!
Reminded me of one time I saw a child picking up a leaf in the park, probably out of curiosity and/or playfulness, as children are, and his mother forbid him to pick up leaves because "they're dirty".
Or another example, I've seen so many times when mothers telling their kids to "walk normally" when they wanted to balance on a curb of a walkway in park. I guess they were afraid of kid falling and scratching a bit of skin.
FFS dumb mothers, let kids be kids.
TheBookWorm1718 Yeah. Mine would just tell me not to dirty up the house, but outside dirt, grime, pebbles, leaves, all was fair game.
Helen McCoy
Lmao I'm 12 and yesterday I actually just put a leaf that was plucked out of a tree in my phone case (that's clear so you can see the leaf fine) it's still in my case
I still walk on the curb and try to balance on it...I’m 16
@@brettpalmer7700, I'm 39 and still do it on occasion, and when you are in your 30's I am sure you will too.
A much needed talk, thanks a lot!
Greetings from Sweden!
Ye i Sweden too. Hejsan grabben.
Omg I’m from Sweden too!!
Gever: Climb trees
Me: AHHH YEAH READY TO CLI-
*realizes I live in Arizona so it's mostly palm trees*
climb anyway. what do you need branches for lol. I watched a guy in nicaragua climb a coconut tree to get ripe coconuts. Just shimmied right up.
Hey you could always climb mesquites, or cat claw acacias. Seriously, though, I bet there are a lot of mulberry trees that are great for climbing.
@@charlesward8196 or walls
I grew up in Silicon Valley in the ‘60s. We had a fruitless mulberry (morus alba, male) that my dad had built a platform in, about 10 feet off of the ground. My brothers and I added higher platforms up to 20 feet as the tree grew. Had a rope swing and everything. In the ‘80s I was in Las Vegas, and when my daughter was 6 months old I planted a fruitless mulberry before the Clark County Commission banned them because of pollen issues. I had to rent a jack hammer to hammer out a hole 4’x4’x4’ in solid caliche and amend the soil to put a $5.00 tree in a $100.00 hole. When the tree went in the ground my daughter could wrap her whole hand around the trunk. The tree grew faster than the kids did and it had three platforms up to 16 feet, and a rope swing. They never fell out of the tree. We moved away 20 years ago, bu that tree is still there, and I hope kids are still climbing it.
Well then; you better get practicing.
When I was in primary (elementary) school I walked to and from school every day with my best friend for a year or so as we lived next door to each other and I loved it as we could talk and exercise in the morning before class. We sometimes rode our bikes and scooters to school and as it was downhill I got over my fear of bikes.
lucky you! never walked to school even when my school was literally right there my mom was very "protective" as she passed every fear of hers on to me almost every single one
When I was in Year 1, there was a big pit in the middle of the entire school which had tons of climbable trees. Yeah, it was against the rules but every kid did it. The year before, I could only climb the tree which was the easiest to climb, by Year 1 I was climbing every tree in the pit. And I can thank my friends for that. They encouraged me to face my fears and they gave step-by-step instructions on how to climb the trees. Tree climbing taught me a lot. To trust the people you love, face your fears, how to solve problems and to always use your imagination. I would recommend all parents to let their kids climb trees, or even better climb one themselves. Because in the end, we are all kids in our brains and at heart.
never climbed a tree....im 13 lol
I did most of these things on this guy's list and was glad for the problem solving skills it gave me.
Dude you are so correct!!! We did all those things back in Trinidad without hovering parents. We knew they still loved us. Happy Holidays to you and yours!!💕🎆🎶🤘🏾💫🎈
We LOVE this! Children require life skills, not protection! Awesome job!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart. As a father of 2 i cant stand the allmost denigrating way most kids are treated these days.
This is absolutely perfect. We learn from things around us. There are now a lot of young adults walking around afraid of the world because they were psychologically neutered as children. Great Video!
I've learned a lot from this guy...my kids are gonna be burning ants with a magnifying glass at the top of a tree while licking 9 volt batteries. I'm sure child services will understand.
I think they would be unhappy about it, but because of lack of tree climbing skills they would not be able to do much about it...
HeavyMetal lol
Me and my brothers ate and still do eat ants. Its healthy!
Mustanaamiotto I heard they serve fried ants in Chile, maybe go there for your next vacation?
Don’t forget, you NEED to teach them how to make large bombs.
this is how every one should think
I'm commenting in a video from 2012, in 2016. In a language that isn't even mine. About a subject that isn't even talked about in this video. Well... kind of. I just needed to say that the top five worst fears parents have, according to this video, are kind of made fun of here because they just don't happen that much in USA. But I just couldn't resist the need of saying that those are REALLY important issues here where I live. I live in Venezuela, a dictatorial government no one cares about, apparently. And problems as kidnapping, drugs, homicides and more are our day-to-day issues. I am 15 years old, and I don't know what actual freedom is. Just some months ago I heard how a police man was killed- I heard the gunshots, and feared for my own life as people were running and my dad had to keep driving the car trying to not to look at the cop's dead body-, and I know my parents didn't let me do a lot of things Gever Tulley mentions in this video for my own safety. Our fear was not imposed by the media, it was imposed by our own lives.
I'm sorry about the rant, I just couldn't help it.
That good sir is mess up
saradeweasley I'm 17 and just wanted to thank you for giving me a new perspective on life and a new appreciation for the safety that I often take for granted. I wish you luck in your life and that you find safety and happiness.
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saradeweasley me too I live in Brazil
LookitupTV
Thank you for your words and good wishes. Remember that, just because someone is suffering, it doesn't mean that your suffering is not valid. Thanks for reading me and for appreciating your safety. Bless you.
We had a teacher: load and fire, ( a blank), a Revolutionary War-style Musket. We loved it! He won our attention, respect, admiration and wonder.
When i was in the elementary, my school's independence day competition is catching catfishes, goose and crabs in the mud, it was sooooo fun although most times we ate the mud.
But the gooses are *enormously scary*
that must be fun my school never did anything fun it was very very boring tho when i have summer i could spend all day outside so that was fine to me
geese is the plural of goose
My friend wasn't allowed to go in the front yard until he was 10
That is just terrible parenting
Sponge Gar wow that’s awful :/ I hope you can now though.
BLPSWAG lol I ran all over the place when I was 6
@Brandon_37 I'm was allowed to go in the front yard as long as it was only #1 never # 2 (There was that one time) ; /
Whhhaaatttt? When I was 5, my mom let me walk over a mile across town to my best friend's house and walk to school everyday
2012: Not Yet
A bunch of years: Not yet
2019: It's been 7 years and they need our views
lmao
"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger"
**unless it's sodium cyanide**
But what kills you makes you dead. :D
A guy from my city blew up his right arm. His left arm is definitely stronger now
yes dude,
*unless it’s losing a limb*
When I was 6, I lived in an area filled with very steep hills that were incredibly high. One of my favorite memories back then was building home made vehicles using random things from my garage (surfboards, wheels, etc). I would then ride my creations down those steep hills at high speeds. It was wonderfully fun. I would try the weirdest combinations and I learned how to improve from mistakes and failure, since some of my vehicles didn’t work. I never got hurt doing it. My family and I moved away to the mountains many years later.
Now I’m in high school, and I have a huge passion for engineering, specifically electrical engineering. I’m creative with how I approach problems and many people often talk about how “smart” I am. Creating those vehicles really helped sparked more curious and abstract me, and I’m glad that my parents allowed me to be more like a kid back then and not a robot.
Love this! Totally starting a whole list of fun things with my daughter now. I always loved how boy scouts had us learn a little bit of everything and now I want to add these items to the list too. So much fun!
I did basically all of these things as a kid! I've also noticed that letting kids play in the rain is frowned upon more because they could get a cold or make a mess. Kids aren't allowed to learn from mistakes.
When I was a kid, I decided to swing from a tree branch and attempt to land on a plastic table sort of thing. My parents told me I would get hurt but I didn't listen, so they just let me do it. The table broke and I just fell traight through it and I had cuts down my legs. My parents didn't freak out, all they said was "well we told you not to do it, didn't we? It's your problem now. Bandaids are in the bathroom drawers" and I fixed it up myself. Because I got hurt, I learned not to do that again.
Mistakes are a very effective way for children to learn, especially with mild danger.
Walking to school where I live is extremely dangerous and highly impractical, so I think that one depends on where you live but the rest I agree with.
+Kamena It's probably not unless you live in a spectacularly shitty area or a third world country, hell, I myself grew up in a third world country but honestly most of the crime happens at night or between gangs, the rest is all blow out of proportion
Crime isn't the issue (the "city" I live in actually has a very low crime rate). it's lack of sidewalks and a tenancy for people to speed that makes it dangerous here. way more likely to be hit by a car than anything else. also impractical because it would take over an hour to walk to any of the schools nearby. if I lived closer to a school and there were sidewalks and crosswalks it would be fine.
+Kamena surely you can make your own way to school though. it's not the walking, it's the independence.
+Fin H I never said I had a problem giving them independence, I have an issue with the actual walking to school because it is dangerous here. being responsible for getting ready and on the bus in time I feel has the same effect while being much safer in my area. if you live in a place that allows for it, by all means have your kids walk to school!
Kamena the more dangerous it is the more savvy your kids have to be.
I have a friend that as over protective parents and I can’t wait to see what will happen when she moves out of her parents house because I want to see what she does with even the smallest bit of freedom.
Now I see why my uncle exposes to hard work and stuff.
Sure, it looks scary, but it's fun and interesting to learn.
Learning to commit to things and not be afraid is important for kids and others alike.
Outstanding! These top 5 are the things I did as a child and has made me very strong and aware of how the world operates. It's a good thing what he is talking about.
This is one of the infinitesimally few TED talks worth listening to that hasn't been banned. Nice one.
I once climbed a pine tree to the top (a very _tall_ tree) and when I called down to my mom her reaction (after she saw where I was) she told said she thought to herself "Tell me when your down safely because I don't want to watch." :) It was fun. And I did it later that summer, too. I've also had fun with a magnifying glass (dad gave us a lesson on burning things... that and what black powder does when light outside of a chamber... :)
Lucky you. Whenever I climbed the pine tree outside my house my mom had a fit, yelling at me to get down before I fell.
I actually passed by my old house a while ago (hadn't been back on the street for over 15 years) and all the low hanging branches of the tree were cut off. It was really sad.
I climbed trees, had a bunch of magnifying glasses (and learned to make fire with them), tested 9V batteries with my tongue (are they dead or not?), had a chemistry set (and over time, made a lot of different kinds of firecrackers), walked or rode my bike to school (later a motorcycle). I got my PhD in chemistry, worked 31 years in the American pharmaceutical industry, and am working on plant medicines in Peru for the last 2 years, still using that knowledge, and freedom I had to explore.
wow you are very lucky
This man is so Wise and Fun. Essential advices to raise resourceful, skillful, knowledgeable and vibrant children.
This is more true than ever in 2019.
Watching this in 2019, it's amazing how we took this advice and ran completely the other way. I'm pretty sure parents would have their kids taken away by CPS if they let their kid walk to school alone nowadays.
I've heard of some parents having the police called on them when a neighbor learns they left their 12 and 10 year old kids home alone for a couple hours. There were no burglars, fires, or anyone in danger; they were just home alone probably watching TV or playing video games.
Luckily where I live it's still quite common for kids to bike to school.
He literally outlined my childhood.
Same dude we must have been raised well
Same
I guess i had a good childhood
@@j.t.bumbaday1489 not until you watched chowder
@@Kurosaka since iam german its not on my to do list
I think he's indirectly speaking about the pussifcation of america. When i was growing up you shot bb guns (or real, small caliber guns if in the country), played with matches, rode your bike without a helmet, and all sorts of other shit that is nearly illegal now. My parents and grandparents did crazier stuff than me yet we all turned out fine. WTF happened? Why are parents so scared for their children now?
***** Sounds about right.
Its the same in the UK.
They have banned cash on the buses this month. Its just the beginning.
If we allow the cashless society agenda, there will be no more gran parents giving a child a dollar to get sweets. There will be no more "keep the change phrases". What would homeless people do? Money is the last bit of freedom we have, and they are coming for it. What we gonna do?
Was just about to say this but saw your post. Good job!
***** Exactly right. News/reports without balanced analysis and contextual interpretation can just as easily obscure reality as reveal it. It is a mystery to me why the questioning/testing/proving methods taught in our primary and secondary science classes are not applied (or at least not applied with the same vigor) to nonscience subjects. Example: Why don't we have grade-school-level classes in which students can explore the existence of god(s) and all supernatural occurrences? We teach our children plenty about risks to their bodies. What about the risks of dangerous, irrational assumptions/presumptions planted in their heads?
***** Its the product of the legal system. Because of the constant lawsuits and burden on insurance, it is the law to have your child in a car seat until the age of 8.
I had a toddler who was oblivious to danger. He climbed to the top of apartment water tanks, rode his small push-cars downhill across 2 streets and into more serious traffic, one heart-in-mouth risk per day. At the end of my rope, I put him on roller skates (to the horror of his grandmother - it was dangerous!)... but after 2 days on roller skates, he became risk-conscious. Mission accomplished!
Thank you dad, for allowing and even encouraging me to do all these things as a kid...!
i was lucky enough to attend Brightworks, his school for a couple years. such a smart man
Brilliant, too much health & safety is bad for health & safety !!
when your climbing a tree sure its nerve racking, but it makes you feel alive and it is just so fun
ughhhh never climbed a tree before im 13
I'm a firm believer in encouraging my children to do dangerous things safely! I loved watching this!
Right on! I agree with everything he says absolutely. This is how how we build confidence- challenging ourselves on many levels on a daily basis builds self-esteem and confidence.
I will always remember the moment when I was waving to my mother from a tree on the same level (which was 3rd floor). I loved climbing, should do it again...
5 dangerous things I did with my kids and nephews around 7-10, with me usually getting the most injured:
1. Shooting BB guns at each other in the garden.
2. Full contact wrestling.
3. Climbing steep cliffs.
4. Burning fingers on gas burners whilst camping.
5. Running down rocky hills, usually resulting in cut knees and elbows.
Just a lot of plasters and antiseptic spray required.
Were I to start with putting children in the education system all over again knowing what I know now, I wouldn't. They would all be home schooled from day one until the system is fixed. Our youth are raised to be scared of every shadow. They can't run, jump, climb trees and more which denies them the life necessary skills they need but they certainly know anxiety.
I am not sure how that the ability to climb trees, at least with bare hands and feet only, is a "necessary life skill". I have not encountered a need for it yet that could not be accomplished with tools. Although maybe I'm biased from that the family never owned a home due to poverty and was always renting and thus the property managers always took care of the trees (to varying degrees of both competency and efficiency.). I was not mollycoddled away from it, rather I was allowed to try it but gave up because I just didn't have the muscle strength and didn't get that you had to keep trying at it over and over every single day in frustration to get the muscle strength, or it didn't interest me enough to pursue it further (Computers were much more interesting.), i.e. to make such repeated efforts.
Physical activities including tree climbing and balance walking on walls of different heights helps a child's body with developing motor skills, strengthens their muscles, teaches risk factors and for a great many it is fun. As you found, it takes time but what's good for us doesn't not evolve in an instant like microwave foods.
Computers have their benefits. Computer games has their benefits but children need physical activity.
With regard to you giving up, all children do that in their early stages because it is hard but a parent/carer should be there to motivate them and get them to persist instead of just giving up when it gets a bit hard for them. I have four children who were all sent up climbing walls, encouraged to climb trees and more.
And now we have Doctors begging parents to let their children out to do these activities because the lack of has seen middle aged diseases appearing in children as young as ten years old such as diabetes, hip replacements from the level of obesity for the child, children's bones breaking too easily due to children not able to strengthen their bodies by the knocks and falls common in childhood. And rickets. Rickets has reappeared from a lack of Vitamin D, best sourced by the sun.
@Wombat & Charlene: The thing is that it depends on what the kid wants. Some want it, I didn't. I did have more interest in climbing rocks, trouble was the rocks had to be driven to and gas money gas money...
I don't get diabetes or hip replacements at 10 though because I did not eat a shit load of calories and junkfood and get obese. about 2000 cals per day and I grew up short and skinny not tall and a balloon.
Plus I did get up, move around (I liked to play on my own with a movement involved), just didn't climb damn trees much.
I'm sorry, I didn't realise the world revolves around you.
@Wombat & Charlene Where do you get the idea I said or think THAT from? What I'm just saying is that there isn't one right way to do things that everyone should follow. I responded to your post because you were suggesting I was somehow done wrong by or made a bad choice simply to pursue what was interesting to me, and it seemed your argument was therefore contradictory. Your original post was suggesting children should be _not actively kept from_ certain things - and now it seems you are suggesting not only that, but that they should be _mandated_ to do things that they might not want to do or they are not interested in. It seems to me you are suggesting that all kids actually _want_ to do these various items you say they are “coddled” from and that is not true any more than saying they don't want to or can't and should be coddled away from them. It's just the flip side and it's still as erroneous.
I say don't coddle kids but also don't _make_ them do the stuff that some “coddle” parents would coddle them away from _if they don't want to do it_.
I did every single one of these things growing up and had a blast doing it. Myself and my friends would ride our bikes many many miles away from our home in Dallas, Texas in the late 80s early 90s and never had any issues. As a 4 year old I remember climbing in mulberry trees to eat the berries and now I have friends that won't let their kids eat them after being washed in the sink.
This is a great topic for a talk I wish it would go viral.
Thank you for sharing your enlightening TEDx talk on "5 Dangerous Things You Should Let Your Children Do". Your approach of embracing risk and danger in a controlled environment is both unique and eye-opening. Your message challenges conventional wisdom and encourages parents to think differently about their children's development. Your examples of how letting children engage in dangerous activities in a safe environment can foster important life skills, such as problem solving, critical thinking, and resilience, are insightful and inspiring. Your talk is both entertaining and educational, making it enjoyable to watch. Your contribution to the field of child development is invaluable and we appreciate the work you do. Great job!
This is Brilliant, I always thought this way as well. Now I know I was right, I'm gonna be a great father 😌
TLDR: 55 things that normal kids have been doing with or without parental supervision everywhere around the globe except america, because everywhere else doesn't let news outlets govern how they raise their kids.
depressingly accurate
Liarra Sniffles it’s not news outlets...it’s other parents who notify the authorities that OMG children are playing in a park without their mom, dad, babysitter.
Liarra Sniffles 55 things only some kids in america experience
I've done all those... wonder if I did all 50... he should have had more time. I was shooting guns, used a chain saw, drove a tractor and so on from when I was 10. The only time I was actually hurt (near death), was in a car.
Fette kult, jeg også!! vår generasjon er fullt av gamere
Yeah im 12 and some of my favorite things are cutting down trees with axes and taking my grandpa's tractor for a spin, and I've never gotten hurt
We are in our 70s and we so lived ‘ dangerously’ in our youth! And we let our kids ‘ live dangerously ‘ too . Agree with this man 100% I’ll send this to my great-grandson’s parents … although growing up with us - they probably already have a few good ideas anyway ! 😊
I got my daughter a motorcycle when she was six. She learned balance and the hard earned lesson of understanding that you can do things you didnt believe you could. She is now a grown up - she survived the ordeal.