we're still quite a way off the Weird pre-save goal, so if you have a spare few seconds (it's totally free!) and wouldn't mind helping an independent artist, please pre-save Weird now! distrokid.com/hyperfollow/shaaba/weird x
@ heyyy, thanks for your support! Apparently there is a way to presave on Apple Music but I can’t seem to figure out how. I promise I’m not trying to avoid Apple Music users. If I hear back from Apple support (or if anybody else knows how and I can learn from that) I’ll be sure to update 🤎
I'm currently working on this "Saving the good things for later"-mentality. Good chocolates will eventually go bad, stickers that are stored in a drawer don't bring me as much joy as the ones I've stuck to something - even if I later don't think it was the best spot after all or I have to throw out the item they are stuck to, good clothes should be worn, not gather dust in the closet. What if the clothes get worn out? The stickers fade & peel off? The chocolates are gone because they've been eaten? The good plates get scratches & break? At least you enjoyed them and they served their purpose. It's difficult to get out of that mindset, but its needed. If you don't enjoy the things now, when is the right time?
In the possible false pregnancy story, I think it's best to not tell the friend she thinks the pregnancy was fake. I think it would be best to talk to her and be supportive, suggesting therapy (for grief if it was real, for whatever was going on if it wasn't) and just reassure her friend that she can be open and talk about anything without fear of judgement or rejection.
I'm still wondering if the feeling to call her out on "lying" is just the human need to be dignified and right - because I can't see how discovering if her pregnancy was fake or real has any value to their lives or relationship with said friend. Even if the friend suffers from mental health issues and delusionals; tryna prove her of lying doesn't help anything, and the road to healing and help doesn't seem to matter if she's lying or not; just that she needs help.
@neilcognito this is a very good point. People are quick to accept the idea of mental health problems resulting in poor behavior, but still retain the attitude that such behavior is still intentional and malicious. I do agree that mental health problems don't excuse poor behavior when it harms others, but in this case, it doesn't really seem that any harm was done if it turns out the friend was never actually pregnant. Yes it hurts to find out someone lied about something big, but if the intent was not for gain or to hold power over another, and the cause may have been due to an actual problem, forgiveness, preferably without any confrontation, seems like the best option.
@@neilcognito I strongly disagree with this. I know what it's like to have a feeling that a friend is lying/hiding something and it absolutely messes with you. And the thing my friend was lying about was something much less serious. You feel horrible for doubting your friend and thinking they would lie to you but you're unable to shake this nagging sense that they're hiding something important. As long as you don't know for sure, you'll always wonder if something else was also a lie, if thing x is another sign they're lying or if it can be logically explained, what the consequences would be/or what it would say about your friend that they lied, you'd also keep worrying if they're okay, etc. Also, if the friend is truly lying, she needs a very different kind of help than a person grieving a miscarriage would! It doesn't feel good to be lied to at all, especially not from someone you used to trust. And if there's a non-malicious reason for it, you can work through it and show compassion, but it will still harm the friendship. It's important to know if you can trust someone and someone who is capable of lying about a miscarriage is capable of lying about other things too.
Shaaba absolutely tickling herself pink over a mispronunciation was the highlight of my day 🤣💜🤣🩷🩵 love you two so much, this is always such a hoot to listen/watch
Genuinely the worst offense of someone telling me that I didn’t need something or I was spending frivolously was my TOP SURGERY. I spent $10,000 on a DOUBLE MASTECTOMY and I was told that I was throwing that money away and it was frivolous, and that I’d regret it. Predictably, I blocked that person, cut them out of my life, and almost 2 years down the line I’m happier than ever before.
One of my closest friends spent ages saving up for their top surgery and their mental health has literally never been better. Good on you for not taking that crap from anybody ❤
I've seen lots of episodes of I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant; if the zygote implanted in the back of the uterus, they are less likely to show a bump. I think the university not wanting a pregnant student is actually more sus.
I’m not from there so maybe I’m wrong, but aren’t there religious universities in the US who might want to keep an unwed pregnant student from attending?
@@mariiii3594 Yeah, you're right, I'm an American, so I should've thought of that, lol. I'm not religious and went to a public state college where denying a pregnant student would probably be illegal because that would be discrimination, but private, religious universities are immune, and I do know a couple of people who went somewhere like that since I went to high school in Houston.
Title IX prohibits discrimination against pregnant students. Any college institution that accepts ANY funding from the federal government must follow title IX. That includes most private schools
and also back leaning/tilting uterus in combo with implanting towards the back can make it even more invisible, I think I remember a post or video about two women who knew they were pregnant & around the same gestation (36+ weeks iirc), one had the typical baby bump, the other didn't look pregnant at all, but both later had their babies
i spent $100 to get a photo taken with my favorite singer where we each made half a heart with our hand. was it just a quick click and go in between a bunch of other fans? yes. does she remember me in the slightest? almost definitely not. is it something that brought me tremendous joy that i do not regret at all? absolutely.
My first thiught about why someone would lie about pregnancy would be a mental health crisis. That sounds to me like something that would require taking time off school, and a situation where a pregnancy scandal might seem less... scandalous.
Frivolous purchase story! I spent $60 of my Christmas gift money on a metal poster of a raccoon holding a roll of toilet paper aloft, saying "YOUR BUTT NAPKINS, MY LIEGE." It is now hanging proudly in my bathroom, right over the toilet paper dispenser. I had to wait and spend Christmas money on it because I had the hardest time justifying it to myself otherwise, even though I've been wanting one for ages. :D Also, I agree with all the other commenters that Shaaba (and Jaime!) laughing was so freaking cute!
Agreed. Title IX prohibits discrimination against pregnant students. Any college institution that accepts ANY funding from the federal government must follow title IX. That includes most private schools
My wild guess at the first OP's friend's pregnancy scenario is: assuming her parents actually went to talk to guidance because she was pregnant, she was probably actually pregnant at one point. But maybe she was R'ed and got pregnant and so had to leave school for that one term but she had an abortion, which is why she was allowed back to school. But then she didn't want to face that whole reality which might have been traumatic for her, and made up the perfect boyfriend and 8 month miscarriage.
I also thought of something along those lines, that she actually was pregnant at the beginning (could be r~ or maybe something like a one night stand) but then was not anymore. Especially if this is taking place in a conservative setting where pregnancy out of wedlock, abortion, etc is looked down on a lot, or even illegal. Maybe Monica was also pressured by her parents who were not happy about the situation, maybe she ended the pregnancy but had no support of or didn’t dare tell anyone anyone if it is not legal where she lives or people would react badly. She might have needed to go to great length to get an abortion if if is restricted where she lives. Even if one takes the steps to end the pregnancy, it can still a very hard process and cause a lot of grief and trauma. There can also be complications to ending a pregnancy, just like with any other medical procedure.
I play DnD, so naturally I'm a dice goblin. About two years ago I have ordered a custom made dice bag that had cost quite a bit of money. No one in my family really got why I would spend money on something like that, and I have the same weird guilt whenever I spend money generally. But the bag still makes me extremely happy everytime I see it. No regrets at all. c:
Me with a glitter palette I got years ago. My parents made fun of me HARD for “wasting my money”, but it’s 4 years later and I still haven’t hit pan on ANY shades despite wearing it every day. Take that! XD
@@ErisIsAnAbomination Damn, that's awesome! Honestly, anything that glitters can't be a waste of money! (said by someone who bought glitter glue despite never needing or using it)
40:20 when I was about 19, I bought myself a painting from a local artist, at the time I was earning very little as well as studying, but I fell in love with the painting and couldn't help but buy it there and then. Slightly frivolous, maybe, but I am in love with it to this day.
Shaaba’s unfiltered full laugh just made my day ❤ To the peach in the last story. It’s not a silly spend if it’s your money and something that helps your mental state. -From a parent who wants their kids to also have financial independence, and a parent who is trans. I get it from both sides.
Hello!!! I am the last story!! Thank you so much for reviewing it. It truly shocked me when I heard my name (all be it, that’s the name I no longer go by lol!) you guys did awesome! ❤
Hi! No, you're NOT the drama! Sounds like your mom has some anxiety, whether that's about transition related stuff, or just about money. For context, I have three kids (all in their 20s) and two are trans. What they do with their money is none of my business, even though I'm broke. And how they treat their dysphoria is REALLY none of my f*ing business! I know you're a little younger than my kids, but like you said, you're old enough to make your own choices. *May your journey go as smoothly and joyfully as possible!
hey man! hope you and your mom could sort that all out and i’m glad that you’ve done what you’ve decided is best for you by buying the packer! also good on you to actually keep up with putting savings into different funds, lord knows i need to get on with that ^^
Hi!!! You are absolutely NOT the drama, but I don’t quite think your mom is either. It sounds to me like she just doesn’t understand how hard it actually is to experience dysphoria and how essential gender-affirming items really are. She’s likely anxious about your money because she doesn’t know how essential packers can be to a trans person’s wellbeing; consider sitting her down and having a chat or sending her some resources on dysphoria if you haven’t already! No matter how well-meaning parents are, there’s always room to learn!
and what name do you go by now? i can relate to this because im featured in Jamie's book as R and while i still have friends who call me R i've since chosen another name: Emil :3 either way i love that my answers made it into the book!! on the topic at hand: you are so Not the Drama at all, i hope your packer makes you feel better, i especially love that you got one because it kind of simulates having something there so you can test that out and see if you would maybe eventually like bottom surgery or not. i hope your mum will be understanding if you end up talking her about this, maybe thats all she needs. good luck and much love to you!!❤
regarding the first story: i can say that folks not showing during their pregnancy happens to all body-types! i have a close friend who would certainly be considered conventionally thin. after thinking she was having severe digestive issues, being told by a doctor that she needed to be treated for a parasite, and multiple negative pregnancy tests - she found out she was pregnant at THIRTY FOUR WEEKS ALONG. turns out her placenta was inverted the whole time, causing her not to show 😳😳
My sister is extreme skinny and she didn't show at all till 9 months pregnant! And even then it was just a little "bump" - looked bloated more then pregnant. But otherwise, having a miscarriage and then going back to school 1 day later? No way! I had 2 kids, and you don't just give birth at 9months and go back to daily chores the next day, especially if it was a miscarriage. Very suspicious
@@moiragores1226 Yeah, sounds to me like she’s trying to keep her mind busy so she doesn’t have to think about it (or maybe even process it). But I don’t know her, of course, so could be wrong.
@sillyfruit1018 Plus, you have some who don’t know they’re pregnant, so don’t eat the right amount for it, etc. this can lead to the baby being malnourished & not showing. Definitely not unheard of to not show.
@@MayaMickaMicak so valid!! medical practice is very unkind/dismissive to general “womb drama” (for lack of a better phrase) - and stuff like this is all the proof! my friend had completely changed her diet, and been given the runaround, until finally her pregnancy showed up in her bloodwork. it’s crazy.
Potentially faking pregnancy story: I love how Jammie was wondering about how the friend couldn't be showing, and didn't consider potentially DMing Mama Dr. Jones for clarification I would do the messy, "is there a way we can support Monica during this time," simply because this could be a warning flag that something is going wrong mentality.
The last story, Shaaba has a good point; being open, supportive, and accepting of your child's transgender journey does not make that journey an easy one for the parent. Feeling guilt over those struggles and wanting to avoid taking focus off the child's emotional journey can lead a parent to repress those feelings, which could then come out in odd ways.
Frivolous purchase: My ex complained about my fairy collection, and his best friend asked him how many fairies did he think add up to the cost of his boat. My ex complained about my book collection, and my best friend asked him how many beers he drank that week. My dad complains about my book collection, but he's worried it'll start a fire.
On the potential fake pregnancy, if you were induced at 8 months, you would be going through they same conditions of giving birth. You would not be going to school the very next day. Also, you would be deeply grieving. I couldn't imagine going to school as if nothing was wrong. Also, at almost a full term dead baby would need a burial.
Exactly, she would be in huge recovery and pain the next day. And the baby would be considered a baby when delivered, so burial or cremation would have happened.
Not necessarily. Assuming from the story this was an unplanned pregnancy, it's possible she would not be grieving. I've seen many stories in the pregnancy subreddits of women praying they lose their unwanted pregnancies or feeling shame for being relieved when they do. It's extremely complex. Additionally, unless you want to have a funeral, or ask to keep the remains, the hospital can cremate with your consent. Given the late term stillbirth, it's likely her baby had a condition that made them incompatible with life. In these cases they often run tests to see what happened, and she might have opted not to take back the remains. That being said, I totally agree that she needs recovery time. Maybe it was better for her mental health to go right back to normal though, or maybe cultural given that the US has not normalized maternity/parental leave and some women there do go right back to work. Baby would also be very small at 8mos, probably about 4lbs, so labour could also have been physically much easier (pushing phase) despite the induction.
@@amanda4313very good points and definitely not everyone is excited to be pregnant or be a parent. There is no indication from the story that Monica was unhappy about the pregnancy though - or at least the OP friend is not aware of it. If could be that the parents are putting a lot of shame, pressure and other negativity on Monica - they informed the university and also wouldn’t want a funeral - and that is having a bad impact on Monica. Or maybe Monica is in grief denial after loosing the baby. Or it could be all made up. None of these options are positive though and it sounds like Monica is going though hard stuff. OP seems like a caring friend who wants Monica to be okay, so I hope they can find a way to reach out.
Shaaba losing her shit over her mispronunciation of "anxious" has got _me_ cracking up, too! I couldn't even understand what she was saying to Jamie about what his Roman name would be, but him losing the plot too is absolutely sending me! 😂❤🤣 I love these two so flipping much 💕💖💞
Most frivolous thing I spent mondey on is probably my custom-made kimono. I lived and worked in Japan for 5 years. I've been wearing kimono (and learning from a professional kimono teacher) for even longer than that. But my contract was ending and I was going to have to leave Japan. I went into a kimono store and ended up buying a kimono for about 2,500$. This means a great deal to me, especially as this kimono is fully custom made to my measurements and only cost me a third of what it's worth because the store owner told me that he wanted to see kimono worn more often in the west. So it was an expensive piece of clothing and I can't wear it very frequently, because it's very formal clothing. So I've hidden how much it costs from my parents because I know they would find it frivolous. To me, this beautiful garment means a lot.
That sounds incredible - a gorgeous, sentimental outfit that's also a work of art that you could likely display instead. Sounds like a wise investment in your joy, IMHO. But I totally get not sharing the true cost with others who might not get it. I hope you get to treasure it and show it off for many years to come
That is not an unreasonable amount for a beautiful, special, custom-made piece of wearable art that means so much to you and you’ll treasure forever. Some people would spend more than that on a TV that means nothing and they’ll replace in a year or two. The people who appreciate things like this will understand, and share in your happiness. The ‘other’ people don’t need to know- don’t give them any chance to take the shine off it for you. It’s ok to lie sometimes 😏
That's a special, sentimental, souvenir of your time immersed in a country & its culture. I bet you feel amazing whenever you have the chance to wear it too!!!
For the last story: I wonder if Rylan's mom grew up with money struggles and that's why she is so critical? Maybe phrasing things in a way that doesn't emphasize price "I got something that makes me really happy" Vs "I know it's pricey, but it makes me happy" would make her more receptive to purchases.
39:38 My seemingly frivolous buy: a 12-pack of almost too small hair scrunchies in wild colors, only half of which I even liked. During the height of the pandemic, when I cut my hair myself, they proved to be really useful with keeping the parts of the hair that I wasn't working on out of the way.
When I was 13 I was getting dressed for a school dance and one of the girls took a photo of me in my bra and put it on her MySpace without my knowledge. Don't take photos of people in states of undress without their consent and definitely don't put the photos online. It feels super creepy, unsafe, and vulnerable.
As a real life grown up™ I spend so much of my money on not fun things like rent, bills, gas, etc, that I have the rule of: if it makes me happy and it won't break the bank, I should get. My most frivolous? Probably my ceramic miniature toilet. I keep in on my desk and it holds my loose change. For the peach post I would say, even if it wasn't for your mental health (which is obviously is) it makes you happy, so NTA. Edit to add: my stomach hurts from laughing with you guys. I haven't done that in a long time and it made my day.
I had a coworker who faked having leukemia, she even shaved her head and eyebrows, we all found out through her boyfriend who came to the hotel fighting with her and told us she fakes illnesses sometimes. And she quit that day never came back, someone seen her in town a couple months later hair grown back and acting "normal" she had told them she had a miraculous recovery
Which I found this extremely disrespectful bc my sister n law almost died twice from leukemia years ago, and this woman knew that from me telling her. So that was pretty F up
I’ve spent 1,000 + on my fish. Two litttle clown fish. I should save the money for other more important things but Ricky and Mickey make me so happy. I love looking at them and I really worry for them when they’re being weird . I genuinely care for them .
You are so valid. It's very hard for some people to wrap their heads around caring for, what they view as "low value" or "replaceable" pets, but as someone with a passion for exotics, I get it. It's not about how much a pet costs to buy, or start up, or maintain, it's about the fact that they matter to you and caring for them brings you joy." Back in the day, my Veterinarian gave me hefty discounts on vet visits for my hamsters, mice and guinea pigs, because she knew I was just some kid who worked at Petco, with a big heart, and even though I didn't make a lot of money, I cared enough about these little critters and giving them a GOOD LIFE, that I actually "bothered" to bring them to the vet when they were sick, even though she had seen far too many people in her time go "It's a $5 mouse, just get another one." I so, so appreciated her doing that for me, but it hurts my heart to hear/know that there are people out there who view living creatures they willingly bring into their care as "disposable" or "replaceable," that their lives are worth less to those people because they are short, or that they don't cost much to buy/keep, or because they can't love you in the same way a dog or cat or bird could. Anyway. Sorry about the tangent, but you are so valid, tell Ricky and Mickey I said hi!
The fake pregnancy story made me think of an ex-friend who told huge lies about themselves basically constantly. They had a fake dad, fake brother, fake boyfriend, fake backstory, everything. Funnily enough that person was also into online roleplay and it's how I met them and eventually two of my closest friends, and this person was pretty decent when they weren't making up shit about themselves all the time. I never thought to question it until one of those close friends told me they found some of the ex-friend's stories sus and I'm glad that my friend did tell me - even if it did cause a lot of pain and anger at the ex-friend in the moment. I think that behavior was a cry for attention from the ex-friend's perspective due to what was probably a personality disorder, but it hurts a lot knowing that they lied to my face for years and I doubt I'll ever forgive them for it tbh.
I bought a very expensive doll. She is something I dreamed about for 5 years and decided one day to start saving for her. Three years in and I have no regrets. I love her but most people freak out for a moment when they find out I spent close to $700 on her.
9:36 secret third option, don't confront her on it at all but try to get her into therapy by saying things like she's acting different since the miscarriage, she seems sad, such like that since something like that needs therapy it covers all bases without damaging the friendship, because either she'll come out an admit the lie to avoid therapy, she'll go to therapy and her therapist will help her through her issue, if it is a lie the therapist may push her to admit the truth
Therapy seems like the best also cause there have been multiple women who have gone to extremes to get attention like this and did the worst by stealing a baby. Not saying this person would, but that it happens.
Even if it is a lie, professional support still sounds like a good option. Making up such an elaborate lie does indicate that something is going on - even if just that the person has issues with the truth. Taking to someone who is not a friend or family, who is not involved, and who needs to keep professional secrecy and professionalism, can be very helpful in any case. Monica knowing that OP cares and wants to support her can also be really helpful. The truth might not come out, but showing someone you care is almost always positive.
@ true, but they have the tracking app so if it doesn't show them ever going to a therapist, even though online exists, the op could just keep telling them their therapist may not be working since they don't seem to be getting better
The "inverted uterus" is actually called a retroverted uterus. The position tips back (at varying degrees) and can be the cause for painful periods that radiate at the spine. An inverted uterus is when it's expelled out of the vagina and a definite emergency room situation. Edit: typos
First comment on a video - can confirm, as one of the people who got a HP tattoo. The regret is very very real. Especially as I've went through an NB realisation/journey.
I think that one’s ability to separate the art from the artist depends on many factors. How old were you when you were introduced to the art & therefore the artist, whether or not you were in a hard place when you were introduced to it & how impactful it was on your on journey, as well as how much time has passed between when you got “hooked” & when the toxic information came out. Using two examples from my life: HP came out in 1997, I was going through a very hard transition period & I escaped into it head first. It was a much needed escape that harmed no one & well before all of the controversy came to light. I won’t buy any new books but I already have the whole series. In addition to the emotional connection to the stories I also have a physical connection to the book set that I have because it’s one of the few gifts that my mom got for me/to make me happy even though she knew that her whole family was going to crap on her for it going against their beliefs. Knowing what I know now about her I wouldn’t choose to start reading the book series if she released it today but I still can’t bring myself to get rid of the books that I already have or to stop reading them. Chick-fil-A however is a place that I’ve never eaten at & because of the all of the controversy around its owner I never will. Therefore it’s easier for me to keep from going there because I’ve never been. Does that speak to your meaning or did I miss it completely?
I don't know what your HP tattoo is, but a friend of mine modified hers into a Wicked tattoo and it's awesome! (She had the glasses + lightning bolt. She had it changed to Elphaba's glasses and hid the lightning bolt in a letter from the quote "Everyone deserves a chance to fly.")
Maybe you can add something besides or on the tattoo that would represent your identity, allowing your love for the HP world to have a positive connotation, so you'll know that your love for that world doesn't have to exclude your identity, or that those two things can coexist despite the author's hateful rhetoric. I don't know what else to suggest since I don't think I've been in this situation, but those books are not only hers, they're yours as well, and everyone else's who've experienced them in their own unique ways with different meanings. As soon as the work of art is public, it's no longer the artist's/author's only, it also belongs to every person who engages with it. Besides, you couldn't have know that she's like that back then, no one knew, or maybe she wasn't like that before but changed
For Rylan - I think it might be worth to think about sitting mom down and explain to her how you re-searched to make sure you were buying something of good quality and show it was not a impulse thing Most frivolous thing that brought me joy - A Squishamllow Sticker album and all the packets I needed to complete it - so. much money just for somethng to look cute on my shelf, but it was the first time I actually managed to complete an album like this so it all evens out *u* About Storie 1: I remember my biology teacher explaning that sometimes people can get a hormonal imbalance that creates a faux pregnancy (all the symptoms, but no baby, morning sickness, heartburn, mood swings, periods stop, etc.), maybe that's what happenend to OP's friend?
1:10 also glad i have never got a tattoo related to any of neil gaiman's works. there's arguments to be made about separating the art from the artist but for me at the moment his works are a reminder of what he's done.
@@zenleeparadisethere was a vulture article that came out that apparently does a really good job covering the topic (its behind a pay wall but I've heard there are links to a free version going around). There are also a lot of videos covering the topic. The short version is that multiple women felt coerced into s*xual experiences they weren't comfortable with. And in most of these cases there was some form of power imbalance involved (employer-employee, homeowner-tenant, artist-fan, etc). There are other unsettling details but thats the big picture
There’s this Dutch store (Hema) here in the Netherlands that has A BUNCH of cute Nijntje/Miffy stuff and I’m obsessed. It’s just so fracking cute and it makes me insanely happy. (Look it up, you’ll probably love it too) so my Nijntje collection, together with my earring collection, is probably my most frivolous stuff I spend my money on.
A pregnancy where you don't show is called a cryptic pregnancy. They are rare, but they do happen. As a mum of 2 teenagers with their own pocket/Christmas/ birthday money, it is up to them what they spend their money on. However, they know about saving, and when it's gone, it's gone. They know I don't have the money to buy them everything they want. My favourite thing that I don't need is my irregular choice shoes, I buy them secondhand because they are so expensive.
The most frivolous thing I've ever spent money on is three tiaras that I got for cosplay purposes and have never worn other than to try them on. I haven't made the costumes to go with them, so they are sitting in their boxes in my basement/cellar. Sometimes I pull them out to put them on and feel pretty for a couple minutes.
For Ryland, I also grew up with parents who were extremely money conscious. Once as a teenager I bought a nice pillow for a little over 30 dollars. Until that point I only ever had old used flat pillows. My mom really didn't understand why I would buy something like that for so much, but six months later when she brought it up again I was able to tell her that I didn't regret it at all and it had made my sleep so much better. She looked surprised but treated my monetary decision with more respect after that. It sucks to be in that position, but hopefully you can revisit this at a later time with your mom and talk to her about how much of a difference your purchase made. Hopefully this helps.
I got a tattoo of a couple Studio Ghibli characters (No Face and a soot sprite from Spirited Away, and a kodama from Princess Mononoke) in 2017 during my last year in university. Those are two of my favorite movies and I love the tattoo, but it's definitely something that my family doesn't understand why I would spend money to get it. Most of them aren't against tattoos in general, but can't understand why I would tattoo animated characters on my body when I could get something "more meaningful" or "realistic."
Kodama ARE meaningful! They're some form of spirits of the forest/trees and show it's a healthy environment! Tbf, even if they were 'just' a creation for the film based on nothing more, that's plenty meaningful for lots of people. I'd be excited to meet you and see those tattoos, as I love those movies and those specific characters. Also, seems a wise choice - No Face isn't gonna become a (more?) problematic fave over time! 😅
My mom would love those especially since those are her favorites. I always thought tattoos were a personal choice and if you're comfortable and happy with it that's what matters.
At 8 months pregnant, it’s not really a miscarriage, the friend would have had to go through full labor and there would be a body that would need to be either buried or cremated. I had a friend who had at least 5 fake pregnancies, she did it for attention. She even at one point used makeup to pretend her dad beat her up. She just had a lot of mental problems, but she was an adult so there was nothing we could do besides slowly drift away because she refused to accept any help or change.
yayyy my emotional support podcast!! :) (i'm suspecting i have severe depression and that would get my list of conditions/disorders up to like 27... not doing too well, i needed this.)
35:05 The Spyro the dragon name conversation cracked me up omg you two are delightful and hilarious-thank u for making my time spent of art all that more enjoyable :]]
It may be far fetched, but I think it's possible that Monica got pregnant through a one night stand, or, I hope it's not the case but it could be - through assault. At the beginning she told some people that her boyfriend got her pregnant because it sounded better and she tried to accept it, but then she might have miscarried or had an abortion, and felt too guilty\ashamed to tell anyone what had really happened so she kept acting like she was still pregnant. I know that it still doesn't explain her making up a boyfriend, unless she wasn't pretending for two years to have a boyfriend, and instead lied that she had already been with him for two years to explain the pregnancy. It's still far fetched, but I guess that's the result of watching paradocumentaries as a teen (idk if this genre exists anywhere outside my country, these are like these psuedo-real soap operas where everyone gets pregnant, cheats and turns out to be siblings with strangers lol).
I don’t know how often Shaaba has moments like the one during the last post. But I wish I was friends with her to have these more often. I giggled first at the mispronunciation, then at both of their reactions and the lost it when Shaaba shared why she thought it was so funny because I started that thought process too. 😂😂
Potentially fake pregnant woman has a stillborn (not miscarriage at 8 months, it's the delivery of a dead baby) has either had an induced vaginal birth, or a c-section. Either way, she would most definitely NOT had been to school the next day. Pain of walking around and risk of infection would be too high. I'm sure someone has done it, but I have given birth and I will tell you I couldn't walk normally for a week.
I had a very caring friend in high school who would make up things for attention. Not on a pregnancy level, but she’d go through phases where she fainted at school and was a medical mystery, she had a boyfriend in Germany who was in a well-known band, etc. Eventually we talked to her about it and it turned out she felt like she was always the one caring for others, so she had to do stuff like that to get others to care for her. Not saying that that’s what this friend is doing, but the “she’s usually very caring” argument isn’t necessarily a valid. I kind of wonder if the mystery boyfriend showed up at the same time as the pregnancy (in which case it could be a cover for something like pregnancy after SA, etc.) or if the boyfriend had been a thing for a while and the pregnancy ‘materialised’ once people started questioning his absence. In the last instance, it could be an escalation after she felt backed into a corner about a previous lie (the boyfriend).
The little thing I frivolously spend my money on, but has a lot of meaning to me is a little mouse toy I got at the zoo. She's so adorable, and I carry her everywhere with me. Every time I go somewhere cool I have to stop and take a picture of a mouse somewhere in front of it. She's my little familiar, moral support and one of the most precious things I own. It's been going on for 5 months now, and she brings me a lot of joy (Her name is Hanaa, by the way)
With that first story, Monica being such a good friend actually may be an indicator of why she would lie about something like this. She might be the kind of person who feels so insecure, she needs to people please. I would be very worried about her, and being reassured that her friends love her for HER, not for what she does. But it could all be real. The only thing that sticks out to me, personally, is the boyfriend and Monica not making arrangements to be together when the baby comes. It just seems odd to me that one of them wouldn't plan to move so they could raise their child together? 8 months is a long time. That to me is the biggest flag.
on ridiculous/frivolous things to spend money on, I once bought £15 fancy tupperware that *I* thought was the stupidest thing. I actually sat down on a bench, got a notebook out and worked out the cost-per-use for a year before going back into the shop to buy it. and it's one of the best things I bought. I go to a few conferences every year. I'm also autistic, and as a stress reaction sometimes I can only handle simple food textures (think ARFID, but only when I'm in crisis mode). that £15 fancy tupperware is perfect for making sure I have edible-in-crisis-mode lunch. at conferences, I exclusively eat lunches I could eat in crisis mode (most of the time I need it. the rest of the time, it's better to have it and not need it). so that's 10 or so days a year for (maybe) 8 years and counting that this box has meant I can eat lunch and actually *do* things at the event I've paid to be at. roughly 80 days of running a stall or attending workshops or networking, rather than crying or having a panic attack because I'm running on fumes. sure, be mindful with your spending, but sometimes we need to buy the stupid thing.
34:19 I dunno why, but when you laughed here, Shaaba, I suddenly heard Pat Carroll as Ursula the Sea Witch in my head, and my brain went: "Shaaba is having her best witchy cackle moment, and I am so here for it!" You're both fabulous and funny! :)
It is so true what is "stupid" to spend money is so subjective. I really like Shaabas example. To me it brings the difference between my sisterinlaw and me to mind. We are so incredibly different. I don't always get the things she is willing to spend money on and I know she doesn't always get the way I prioritise. However we don't have to fully understand eachother on that matter as long as we can respect our different preferences. There is a time where it can be reasonable to voice concern... and that is if it impacts the ability to afford basic neccesities like food and struggling to pay your bills. But as long as those things are not a problem, spending on things that makes you happy and comfortable is by no means stupid. Even if it may seem so to others.
34:18 literally love Shaaba’s laugh here. It’s sooo contagious! I was multitasking while listening to the video in the background and couldn’t help but start laughing as well. This channel brings so much joy over the simplest things 💜
The most frivolous purchase I made was right after the pandemic started and we were all in lockdown. I bought a rice cooker. Very specifically, I bought one of those Zojirushi rice cookers - the real fancy ones that you can program when they start and end, they'll keep things warm for hours, and it literally sings to you when it's done. The world was falling down around me and I was spending literally every waking moment either working (I was able to work remote, but since I handled hospital scheduling at the time I was constantly on the phone trying to appease patients or argue with doctors offices about procedural urgency) or trying to keep myself sane, and I decided I'd do something to give myself a bit of joy. People make fun of me for it sometimes, until they taste how damn good that rice is, and then they get it lolol. My mom in particular was amazed at the fact that it turned out perfectly every time. Literally one of the best purchases I have ever made.
I had a friend in university who (I feel) lied about a lot of things - no proof one way or the other but some things made it seem obvious. It was a big part of the end of our friendship. She told tales about multiple pregnancies' and their end - miscarriage and abortion , she talked about going for cancer treatments, gang fights she'd been a part of back in her hometown, and more. I tried to be supportive though it all, for years until I started clueing in it might be lies, what helped convince me was actually the different tales she would tell different people - expecting that we as the other friends in the group, didn't talk without her. I worry about the possible other situations that could have happened to OP's friend in that story, but you have to find where you draw the line and how to go about dealing with it.
My most recent useless, frivolous purchase kind of went a little sad last year, but it will make me very happy next December. I ordered an ear tunnel with a Christmas wreath motif, just for wearing on Christmas Eve (which is the important date in Germany) to the family celebration at my parents', but it arrived late, a couple days after Christmas. It still made me ridiculously happy that it looks exactly as the picture in the online shop, so I wore it for a day anyway, and then put it away safely for next Christmas. I bet my Mum will get a kick out of it - she's usually wearing a pair of tiny Christmas tree baubles on ear hooks for earrings on Christmas Eve... One thing many people have given me crap over (or tried to) was spending money on hair dye when I was unemployed and dirt poor when my kids were little. Wearing my hair brightly pink and blue did wonders for my mental health and my self esteem in that difficult time - and it wasn't even that expensive. Back then I spent about 12€ for the two pots of dye (sadly, the price has gone up significantly since), and I usually use about half of each pot when I re-dye my hair.
Frivolous Purchases? Oh, boy! I have a few. I am autistic and bipolar, this is somewhat connected to my choices because I become attached to things easily and tend to have bad spending habits. Anyways; I spend money on those little rubber ducks that have different patterns or colors or whatnot. I have at least twenty of them as of now, probably more, and I really love them. My favorite one is this sparkly orange one that squeaks when you squeeze 'em, I call him Jonothan. (I got Jonothan from my neurologist because he realized I liked rubber ducks and found it was a good way to get me to talk to him.) I also spend a bunch of money on plushies. :> Most people think I'm immature for my plushies and ducks, but I don't really care. They make me happy.
I needed that contagious Shaaba laugh!!! I've been dealing with low key drama with the grown ass people with whom I live within a month before I leave. Holding my tongue so I don't pop off. I love a great laugh-till-you-cry moment. Thank you! P.S. pre-ordered "Weird." Love it, and so relatable 😂
When I was in high school MANY many years ago, I was in the school musical. So we all kinda hung around each other from the musical. One of the girls, said she had kidney cancer and was going out of state for a transplant, on the Friday. We all wished her good luck and worried about her and the success of the surgery. However, on the Monday she was back at school, and I was like wtf?? I knew there was no way you get organ transplant over the weekend and be okay on the Monday hahaha. She wasnt that bright. I confronted her, she admitted she lied and for some reason, I had to go to her house and kind of moderate with her parents. It was insane. I cant remember what happened it was too long ago. But yeah... shite like this happens.♥♥ Thankyou. I havent smiled and laughed like that for a very long time. You made me snort and I love you for it.
As someone who got a Harry Potter related tattoo and found out 3 months after about all the shit she-who-must-not-be-named had spewed in the previous years, I felt called out by the start of the video haha Though my middle finger to Volshemort will always be that I was taught about trans people thanks to a Harry Potter metaphor !
@@tana_ani I had stumbled on a video of a young girl (mtf) and was annoyed that they said "oh she liked dresses, that's how we knew she was a girl", because I was a girl and hated dresses. Someone asked me if Hermione needed to wear a pointy hat and a witch's dress to be a witch,. When I said no, they explained that she did it anyway, because it made her feel like a witch, and it helped her be perceived as a witch. I didn't need dresses to feel like a girl and be seen like a girl, but for someone who was AMAB, dresses helped. My tattoo was a twist on the Deathly Hollows anyway, and while I did regret it at first, I now see it as a symbol of all the LBTQ friends I made thanks to HP, of my own bi awakening thanks to these friends, and of the beautiful thinks that can flourish even out of something tainted.
For the last story, first, Shaaba's beautiful laugh sounded like Ursula at the end of Little Mermaid when she gets the trident, and I mean that in the best way, as someone who sounds like I live in gingerbread house when I laugh. I think it might be worth Rylan talking to his mum, and expressing how her anxiety is making him feel bad and insecure. How these things are important to him, and her expressing concern, while from a place of love, is making him feel unsupported. Sometimes we say and do things to our loved ones and we don't realise how hurtful it can be. For example, around the same age, my mum suggested I buy new "cooler" clothes, to help me fit in at a new school. It really hurt my feelings because I liked the way I dressed. So I told my mum this and she apologised, she'd only been concerned because I'd been so badly bullied before, but she realised that she should encourage me to be myself. She also liked the way I dressed, she just knows teens can be mean. So yeah, I think since his mum is so supportive and loving, talking to her shouldn't be a problem. Good luck Rylan!
Frivolous purchases: multiple pluhshie impulse buys, most of them pokemon. I regret none of them. I don't even care i dont have room for them. (I want more, but know I dont need more)
My frivolous purchase is most likely the Knuckles cup topper I got when I saw Sonic 3 with my friend and her kids. I didn’t get the kid’s combo for popcorn or anything; I just wanted the topper itself. It’s now standing with my Mewtwo and Pikmin amiibos. LOL
My most frivolous purchase in recent-ish memory was probably my house-shaped bed frame. It was much more expensive than it’s theoretically “worth” and I regretted the purchase for a bit before I assembled it, but as soon as I actually assembled it and put it in my room I suddenly remembered why I had decided to spend all that money on it. Granted, it was second hand and ended up getting a bit damaged between the time I agreed to buy it and when I actually picked it up, so that still leaves a bit of a sour taste in my mouth because the seller wasn’t even there and didn’t believe me with regards to how damaged it was and while she gave me a small discount she later messaged me saying she felt like I forced her hand. So the whole experience of purchasing it was very unpleasant but the actual bed base still brings me joy.
My “silly” purchases that I love are several of my guitars. I have more than I can realistically need, but I love the stories behind the old ones I have (from previous/original owners) and the modifications I’ve made to the more recently built ones!
Same here, I loved that moment! Thank you for sharing the delightful silliness.😂 And I totally agree that would be a good Roman name for Jamie, especially if he were in the Monty Python version of Rome. I could picture him being introduced by Michael Palin's character with the speech impediment! (Have I just aged myself with an out of touch reference? 😅) Now we need to work out Shaaba's Roman name and then your couple name! 😜
this episode was feeling a little heavy for a while (not in a bad way) especially during the first question, then watching shaaba laughing until she cried over "if you were roman, that would be your name" felt like letting go of a breath i didn't know i was holding 😭
I just recently bought an old Prima Pokemon Yellow guidebook. It was around $35 (not cheap, but not as expensive as this book OFTEN goes for in similar condition). I had a copy as a child but lost it at some point (I've moved a few times) and even though the guide info is all readily available online nowadays the hole in my guidebook collection has made me feel sad for years. My mom actually encouraged me to get the book because "if it will make you happy to have it, it's a good purchase." Every time I've looked at that bookshelf for the past few weeks, I grin. NO REGRETS!
we're still quite a way off the Weird pre-save goal, so if you have a spare few seconds (it's totally free!) and wouldn't mind helping an independent artist, please pre-save Weird now! distrokid.com/hyperfollow/shaaba/weird x
Hey! I would love to pre save your song (it sounds really good btw) but I don’t have Spotify is there any way to do it through Apple Music?
@ heyyy, thanks for your support! Apparently there is a way to presave on Apple Music but I can’t seem to figure out how. I promise I’m not trying to avoid Apple Music users. If I hear back from Apple support (or if anybody else knows how and I can learn from that) I’ll be sure to update 🤎
@shaaba no worries! ❤
popping in the replies to follow along on this solution! i also have apple music :)
I've presaved it, and it's stuck in my head, and I'm dying for it to be realesed soon!! I'm so excited. You have a beautiful voice, shaaba!
Petition for an episode of this podcast where they go over some of the stories that were updated
would LOVE to do this!! please keep reminding me, and feel free to provide any suggestions on how to pick which ones you want to see revisited!
@@shaaba Reminder!! ^^
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This would be fantastic! I'd sign the petition!
It was such a treat to experience Shaaba laughing so hard 🤣💜
glad it brought a smile!
I was confused at first, the i laughed out loud aswell. :D
I watched it twice just to make my day better, then watched it again to figure out what was so funny. I just love Shaaba and Jamie!!!😂❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
in my house, when we laugh way too hard about something we call this "tickling the giggle dick"
I know they both were dying laughing and it brought such warmth to my soul😭🖤
I'm currently working on this "Saving the good things for later"-mentality. Good chocolates will eventually go bad, stickers that are stored in a drawer don't bring me as much joy as the ones I've stuck to something - even if I later don't think it was the best spot after all or I have to throw out the item they are stuck to, good clothes should be worn, not gather dust in the closet. What if the clothes get worn out? The stickers fade & peel off? The chocolates are gone because they've been eaten? The good plates get scratches & break? At least you enjoyed them and they served their purpose. It's difficult to get out of that mindset, but its needed. If you don't enjoy the things now, when is the right time?
In the possible false pregnancy story, I think it's best to not tell the friend she thinks the pregnancy was fake. I think it would be best to talk to her and be supportive, suggesting therapy (for grief if it was real, for whatever was going on if it wasn't) and just reassure her friend that she can be open and talk about anything without fear of judgement or rejection.
I'm still wondering if the feeling to call her out on "lying" is just the human need to be dignified and right - because I can't see how discovering if her pregnancy was fake or real has any value to their lives or relationship with said friend.
Even if the friend suffers from mental health issues and delusionals; tryna prove her of lying doesn't help anything, and the road to healing and help doesn't seem to matter if she's lying or not; just that she needs help.
@neilcognito this is a very good point. People are quick to accept the idea of mental health problems resulting in poor behavior, but still retain the attitude that such behavior is still intentional and malicious. I do agree that mental health problems don't excuse poor behavior when it harms others, but in this case, it doesn't really seem that any harm was done if it turns out the friend was never actually pregnant. Yes it hurts to find out someone lied about something big, but if the intent was not for gain or to hold power over another, and the cause may have been due to an actual problem, forgiveness, preferably without any confrontation, seems like the best option.
@@neilcognito I strongly disagree with this. I know what it's like to have a feeling that a friend is lying/hiding something and it absolutely messes with you. And the thing my friend was lying about was something much less serious. You feel horrible for doubting your friend and thinking they would lie to you but you're unable to shake this nagging sense that they're hiding something important. As long as you don't know for sure, you'll always wonder if something else was also a lie, if thing x is another sign they're lying or if it can be logically explained, what the consequences would be/or what it would say about your friend that they lied, you'd also keep worrying if they're okay, etc. Also, if the friend is truly lying, she needs a very different kind of help than a person grieving a miscarriage would! It doesn't feel good to be lied to at all, especially not from someone you used to trust. And if there's a non-malicious reason for it, you can work through it and show compassion, but it will still harm the friendship. It's important to know if you can trust someone and someone who is capable of lying about a miscarriage is capable of lying about other things too.
Shaaba absolutely tickling herself pink over a mispronunciation was the highlight of my day 🤣💜🤣🩷🩵 love you two so much, this is always such a hoot to listen/watch
Genuinely the worst offense of someone telling me that I didn’t need something or I was spending frivolously was my TOP SURGERY. I spent $10,000 on a DOUBLE MASTECTOMY and I was told that I was throwing that money away and it was frivolous, and that I’d regret it. Predictably, I blocked that person, cut them out of my life, and almost 2 years down the line I’m happier than ever before.
One of my closest friends spent ages saving up for their top surgery and their mental health has literally never been better. Good on you for not taking that crap from anybody ❤
HELL YEAH!!!
Period. I’m genuinely so glad you were able to access that care and get rid of the hater! Go you!
I've seen lots of episodes of I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant; if the zygote implanted in the back of the uterus, they are less likely to show a bump. I think the university not wanting a pregnant student is actually more sus.
I’m not from there so maybe I’m wrong, but aren’t there religious universities in the US who might want to keep an unwed pregnant student from attending?
@@mariiii3594 Yeah, you're right, I'm an American, so I should've thought of that, lol. I'm not religious and went to a public state college where denying a pregnant student would probably be illegal because that would be discrimination, but private, religious universities are immune, and I do know a couple of people who went somewhere like that since I went to high school in Houston.
Title IX prohibits discrimination against pregnant students. Any college institution that accepts ANY funding from the federal government must follow title IX. That includes most private schools
and also back leaning/tilting uterus in combo with implanting towards the back can make it even more invisible, I think I remember a post or video about two women who knew they were pregnant & around the same gestation (36+ weeks iirc), one had the typical baby bump, the other didn't look pregnant at all, but both later had their babies
i spent $100 to get a photo taken with my favorite singer where we each made half a heart with our hand. was it just a quick click and go in between a bunch of other fans? yes. does she remember me in the slightest? almost definitely not. is it something that brought me tremendous joy that i do not regret at all? absolutely.
My first thiught about why someone would lie about pregnancy would be a mental health crisis. That sounds to me like something that would require taking time off school, and a situation where a pregnancy scandal might seem less... scandalous.
Frivolous purchase story! I spent $60 of my Christmas gift money on a metal poster of a raccoon holding a roll of toilet paper aloft, saying "YOUR BUTT NAPKINS, MY LIEGE." It is now hanging proudly in my bathroom, right over the toilet paper dispenser. I had to wait and spend Christmas money on it because I had the hardest time justifying it to myself otherwise, even though I've been wanting one for ages. :D
Also, I agree with all the other commenters that Shaaba (and Jaime!) laughing was so freaking cute!
I. Need. That. Poster!
@@missnaomi613 They're from an online shop called Displate.
what the heck kind of uni supposedly doesn't let a pregnant woman on campus? that whole story has sirens going off in it.
Agreed. Title IX prohibits discrimination against pregnant students. Any college institution that accepts ANY funding from the federal government must follow title IX. That includes most private schools
Religious ones.
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@@The-Shadows-Lair THIS!!!!
if its non religious/Christian i dont think a collage would do that bc like 18+ ppl are considered adults
My wild guess at the first OP's friend's pregnancy scenario is: assuming her parents actually went to talk to guidance because she was pregnant, she was probably actually pregnant at one point. But maybe she was R'ed and got pregnant and so had to leave school for that one term but she had an abortion, which is why she was allowed back to school. But then she didn't want to face that whole reality which might have been traumatic for her, and made up the perfect boyfriend and 8 month miscarriage.
I also thought of something along those lines, that she actually was pregnant at the beginning (could be r~ or maybe something like a one night stand) but then was not anymore. Especially if this is taking place in a conservative setting where pregnancy out of wedlock, abortion, etc is looked down on a lot, or even illegal. Maybe Monica was also pressured by her parents who were not happy about the situation, maybe she ended the pregnancy but had no support of or didn’t dare tell anyone anyone if it is not legal where she lives or people would react badly. She might have needed to go to great length to get an abortion if if is restricted where she lives. Even if one takes the steps to end the pregnancy, it can still a very hard process and cause a lot of grief and trauma. There can also be complications to ending a pregnancy, just like with any other medical procedure.
I play DnD, so naturally I'm a dice goblin. About two years ago I have ordered a custom made dice bag that had cost quite a bit of money. No one in my family really got why I would spend money on something like that, and I have the same weird guilt whenever I spend money generally. But the bag still makes me extremely happy everytime I see it. No regrets at all. c:
Me with a glitter palette I got years ago. My parents made fun of me HARD for “wasting my money”, but it’s 4 years later and I still haven’t hit pan on ANY shades despite wearing it every day. Take that! XD
@@ErisIsAnAbomination Damn, that's awesome! Honestly, anything that glitters can't be a waste of money! (said by someone who bought glitter glue despite never needing or using it)
40:20 when I was about 19, I bought myself a painting from a local artist, at the time I was earning very little as well as studying, but I fell in love with the painting and couldn't help but buy it there and then. Slightly frivolous, maybe, but I am in love with it to this day.
Shaaba’s unfiltered full laugh just made my day ❤
To the peach in the last story. It’s not a silly spend if it’s your money and something that helps your mental state. -From a parent who wants their kids to also have financial independence, and a parent who is trans. I get it from both sides.
Shaaba's laugh starting at 34:19 made me so happy!! 😂
Hello!!! I am the last story!! Thank you so much for reviewing it. It truly shocked me when I heard my name (all be it, that’s the name I no longer go by lol!) you guys did awesome! ❤
Hi! No, you're NOT the drama! Sounds like your mom has some anxiety, whether that's about transition related stuff, or just about money. For context, I have three kids (all in their 20s) and two are trans. What they do with their money is none of my business, even though I'm broke. And how they treat their dysphoria is REALLY none of my f*ing business! I know you're a little younger than my kids, but like you said, you're old enough to make your own choices. *May your journey go as smoothly and joyfully as possible!
@ thank you! This truly made my day. You are the sweetest
hey man! hope you and your mom could sort that all out and i’m glad that you’ve done what you’ve decided is best for you by buying the packer! also good on you to actually keep up with putting savings into different funds, lord knows i need to get on with that ^^
Hi!!! You are absolutely NOT the drama, but I don’t quite think your mom is either. It sounds to me like she just doesn’t understand how hard it actually is to experience dysphoria and how essential gender-affirming items really are. She’s likely anxious about your money because she doesn’t know how essential packers can be to a trans person’s wellbeing; consider sitting her down and having a chat or sending her some resources on dysphoria if you haven’t already! No matter how well-meaning parents are, there’s always room to learn!
and what name do you go by now? i can relate to this because im featured in Jamie's book as R and while i still have friends who call me R i've since chosen another name: Emil :3 either way i love that my answers made it into the book!! on the topic at hand: you are so Not the Drama at all, i hope your packer makes you feel better, i especially love that you got one because it kind of simulates having something there so you can test that out and see if you would maybe eventually like bottom surgery or not. i hope your mum will be understanding if you end up talking her about this, maybe thats all she needs. good luck and much love to you!!❤
regarding the first story: i can say that folks not showing during their pregnancy happens to all body-types! i have a close friend who would certainly be considered conventionally thin. after thinking she was having severe digestive issues, being told by a doctor that she needed to be treated for a parasite, and multiple negative pregnancy tests - she found out she was pregnant at THIRTY FOUR WEEKS ALONG. turns out her placenta was inverted the whole time, causing her not to show 😳😳
My sister is extreme skinny and she didn't show at all till 9 months pregnant! And even then it was just a little "bump" - looked bloated more then pregnant.
But otherwise, having a miscarriage and then going back to school 1 day later? No way! I had 2 kids, and you don't just give birth at 9months and go back to daily chores the next day, especially if it was a miscarriage. Very suspicious
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Yeah, sounds to me like she’s trying to keep her mind busy so she doesn’t have to think about it (or maybe even process it). But I don’t know her, of course, so could be wrong.
@sillyfruit1018
Plus, you have some who don’t know they’re pregnant, so don’t eat the right amount for it, etc. this can lead to the baby being malnourished & not showing. Definitely not unheard of to not show.
This is my worst fear, especially as someone who has very irregular periods (PCOS) and who doesn't want children at all
@@MayaMickaMicak so valid!! medical practice is very unkind/dismissive to general “womb drama” (for lack of a better phrase) - and stuff like this is all the proof! my friend had completely changed her diet, and been given the runaround, until finally her pregnancy showed up in her bloodwork. it’s crazy.
Potentially faking pregnancy story: I love how Jammie was wondering about how the friend couldn't be showing, and didn't consider potentially DMing Mama Dr. Jones for clarification
I would do the messy, "is there a way we can support Monica during this time," simply because this could be a warning flag that something is going wrong mentality.
The last story, Shaaba has a good point; being open, supportive, and accepting of your child's transgender journey does not make that journey an easy one for the parent. Feeling guilt over those struggles and wanting to avoid taking focus off the child's emotional journey can lead a parent to repress those feelings, which could then come out in odd ways.
Frivolous purchase: My ex complained about my fairy collection, and his best friend asked him how many fairies did he think add up to the cost of his boat. My ex complained about my book collection, and my best friend asked him how many beers he drank that week. My dad complains about my book collection, but he's worried it'll start a fire.
W your friends
On the potential fake pregnancy, if you were induced at 8 months, you would be going through they same conditions of giving birth. You would not be going to school the very next day. Also, you would be deeply grieving. I couldn't imagine going to school as if nothing was wrong. Also, at almost a full term dead baby would need a burial.
Exactly, she would be in huge recovery and pain the next day. And the baby would be considered a baby when delivered, so burial or cremation would have happened.
Exactly this my friend lost her little boy at 8 months she was in hospital for a few days after and it was awful
I am so sorry for your friend's loss. I can't imagine such pain.
Not necessarily. Assuming from the story this was an unplanned pregnancy, it's possible she would not be grieving. I've seen many stories in the pregnancy subreddits of women praying they lose their unwanted pregnancies or feeling shame for being relieved when they do. It's extremely complex. Additionally, unless you want to have a funeral, or ask to keep the remains, the hospital can cremate with your consent. Given the late term stillbirth, it's likely her baby had a condition that made them incompatible with life. In these cases they often run tests to see what happened, and she might have opted not to take back the remains.
That being said, I totally agree that she needs recovery time. Maybe it was better for her mental health to go right back to normal though, or maybe cultural given that the US has not normalized maternity/parental leave and some women there do go right back to work. Baby would also be very small at 8mos, probably about 4lbs, so labour could also have been physically much easier (pushing phase) despite the induction.
@@amanda4313very good points and definitely not everyone is excited to be pregnant or be a parent. There is no indication from the story that Monica was unhappy about the pregnancy though - or at least the OP friend is not aware of it. If could be that the parents are putting a lot of shame, pressure and other negativity on Monica - they informed the university and also wouldn’t want a funeral - and that is having a bad impact on Monica. Or maybe Monica is in grief denial after loosing the baby. Or it could be all made up.
None of these options are positive though and it sounds like Monica is going though hard stuff. OP seems like a caring friend who wants Monica to be okay, so I hope they can find a way to reach out.
Shaaba losing her shit over her mispronunciation of "anxious" has got _me_ cracking up, too! I couldn't even understand what she was saying to Jamie about what his Roman name would be, but him losing the plot too is absolutely sending me! 😂❤🤣
I love these two so flipping much
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She said his Roman name would be Lord Anxius. 😂 I can understand why they both were laughing so much. Very relatable. 😅
@armie4172 Ohhhh! Ok! Thanks for clearing it up for me. Makes total sense 😂❤️
Most frivolous thing I spent mondey on is probably my custom-made kimono. I lived and worked in Japan for 5 years. I've been wearing kimono (and learning from a professional kimono teacher) for even longer than that. But my contract was ending and I was going to have to leave Japan. I went into a kimono store and ended up buying a kimono for about 2,500$. This means a great deal to me, especially as this kimono is fully custom made to my measurements and only cost me a third of what it's worth because the store owner told me that he wanted to see kimono worn more often in the west. So it was an expensive piece of clothing and I can't wear it very frequently, because it's very formal clothing. So I've hidden how much it costs from my parents because I know they would find it frivolous. To me, this beautiful garment means a lot.
That sounds incredible - a gorgeous, sentimental outfit that's also a work of art that you could likely display instead. Sounds like a wise investment in your joy, IMHO. But I totally get not sharing the true cost with others who might not get it. I hope you get to treasure it and show it off for many years to come
That is not an unreasonable amount for a beautiful, special, custom-made piece of wearable art that means so much to you and you’ll treasure forever. Some people would spend more than that on a TV that means nothing and they’ll replace in a year or two.
The people who appreciate things like this will understand, and share in your happiness. The ‘other’ people don’t need to know- don’t give them any chance to take the shine off it for you. It’s ok to lie sometimes 😏
That's a special, sentimental, souvenir of your time immersed in a country & its culture. I bet you feel amazing whenever you have the chance to wear it too!!!
For the last story: I wonder if Rylan's mom grew up with money struggles and that's why she is so critical? Maybe phrasing things in a way that doesn't emphasize price "I got something that makes me really happy" Vs "I know it's pricey, but it makes me happy" would make her more receptive to purchases.
39:38 My seemingly frivolous buy: a 12-pack of almost too small hair scrunchies in wild colors, only half of which I even liked. During the height of the pandemic, when I cut my hair myself, they proved to be really useful with keeping the parts of the hair that I wasn't working on out of the way.
this is so cute!
When I was 13 I was getting dressed for a school dance and one of the girls took a photo of me in my bra and put it on her MySpace without my knowledge. Don't take photos of people in states of undress without their consent and definitely don't put the photos online. It feels super creepy, unsafe, and vulnerable.
As a real life grown up™ I spend so much of my money on not fun things like rent, bills, gas, etc, that I have the rule of: if it makes me happy and it won't break the bank, I should get. My most frivolous? Probably my ceramic miniature toilet. I keep in on my desk and it holds my loose change. For the peach post I would say, even if it wasn't for your mental health (which is obviously is) it makes you happy, so NTA.
Edit to add: my stomach hurts from laughing with you guys. I haven't done that in a long time and it made my day.
I had a coworker who faked having leukemia, she even shaved her head and eyebrows, we all found out through her boyfriend who came to the hotel fighting with her and told us she fakes illnesses sometimes. And she quit that day never came back, someone seen her in town a couple months later hair grown back and acting "normal" she had told them she had a miraculous recovery
Which I found this extremely disrespectful bc my sister n law almost died twice from leukemia years ago, and this woman knew that from me telling her. So that was pretty F up
I’ve spent 1,000 + on my fish. Two litttle clown fish. I should save the money for other more important things but Ricky and Mickey make me so happy. I love looking at them and I really worry for them when they’re being weird . I genuinely care for them .
You are so valid. It's very hard for some people to wrap their heads around caring for, what they view as "low value" or "replaceable" pets, but as someone with a passion for exotics, I get it. It's not about how much a pet costs to buy, or start up, or maintain, it's about the fact that they matter to you and caring for them brings you joy."
Back in the day, my Veterinarian gave me hefty discounts on vet visits for my hamsters, mice and guinea pigs, because she knew I was just some kid who worked at Petco, with a big heart, and even though I didn't make a lot of money, I cared enough about these little critters and giving them a GOOD LIFE, that I actually "bothered" to bring them to the vet when they were sick, even though she had seen far too many people in her time go "It's a $5 mouse, just get another one." I so, so appreciated her doing that for me, but it hurts my heart to hear/know that there are people out there who view living creatures they willingly bring into their care as "disposable" or "replaceable," that their lives are worth less to those people because they are short, or that they don't cost much to buy/keep, or because they can't love you in the same way a dog or cat or bird could.
Anyway. Sorry about the tangent, but you are so valid, tell Ricky and Mickey I said hi!
All animals deserve love ❤
Are their names in any way related to doctor who?
The fake pregnancy story made me think of an ex-friend who told huge lies about themselves basically constantly. They had a fake dad, fake brother, fake boyfriend, fake backstory, everything. Funnily enough that person was also into online roleplay and it's how I met them and eventually two of my closest friends, and this person was pretty decent when they weren't making up shit about themselves all the time. I never thought to question it until one of those close friends told me they found some of the ex-friend's stories sus and I'm glad that my friend did tell me - even if it did cause a lot of pain and anger at the ex-friend in the moment.
I think that behavior was a cry for attention from the ex-friend's perspective due to what was probably a personality disorder, but it hurts a lot knowing that they lied to my face for years and I doubt I'll ever forgive them for it tbh.
25:00 i wonder if that meow was an added sound effect or if prawn was just like "yep that's me!!" As soon they heard their name lol
I bought a very expensive doll. She is something I dreamed about for 5 years and decided one day to start saving for her. Three years in and I have no regrets. I love her but most people freak out for a moment when they find out I spent close to $700 on her.
9:36 secret third option, don't confront her on it at all but try to get her into therapy by saying things like she's acting different since the miscarriage, she seems sad, such like that
since something like that needs therapy
it covers all bases without damaging the friendship, because either she'll come out an admit the lie to avoid therapy, she'll go to therapy and her therapist will help her through her issue, if it is a lie the therapist may push her to admit the truth
Therapy seems like the best also cause there have been multiple women who have gone to extremes to get attention like this and did the worst by stealing a baby. Not saying this person would, but that it happens.
Even if it is a lie, professional support still sounds like a good option. Making up such an elaborate lie does indicate that something is going on - even if just that the person has issues with the truth. Taking to someone who is not a friend or family, who is not involved, and who needs to keep professional secrecy and professionalism, can be very helpful in any case.
Monica knowing that OP cares and wants to support her can also be really helpful. The truth might not come out, but showing someone you care is almost always positive.
She could also lie about going to therapy, if she has been lying about everything else.
@ true, but they have the tracking app so if it doesn't show them ever going to a therapist, even though online exists, the op could just keep telling them their therapist may not be working since they don't seem to be getting better
The "inverted uterus" is actually called a retroverted uterus.
The position tips back (at varying degrees) and can be the cause for painful periods that radiate at the spine.
An inverted uterus is when it's expelled out of the vagina and a definite emergency room situation.
Edit: typos
First comment on a video - can confirm, as one of the people who got a HP tattoo. The regret is very very real. Especially as I've went through an NB realisation/journey.
I think that one’s ability to separate the art from the artist depends on many factors. How old were you when you were introduced to the art & therefore the artist, whether or not you were in a hard place when you were introduced to it & how impactful it was on your on journey, as well as how much time has passed between when you got “hooked” & when the toxic information came out.
Using two examples from my life: HP came out in 1997, I was going through a very hard transition period & I escaped into it head first. It was a much needed escape that harmed no one & well before all of the controversy came to light. I won’t buy any new books but I already have the whole series. In addition to the emotional connection to the stories I also have a physical connection to the book set that I have because it’s one of the few gifts that my mom got for me/to make me happy even though she knew that her whole family was going to crap on her for it going against their beliefs. Knowing what I know now about her I wouldn’t choose to start reading the book series if she released it today but I still can’t bring myself to get rid of the books that I already have or to stop reading them. Chick-fil-A however is a place that I’ve never eaten at & because of the all of the controversy around its owner I never will. Therefore it’s easier for me to keep from going there because I’ve never been.
Does that speak to your meaning or did I miss it completely?
I don't know what your HP tattoo is, but a friend of mine modified hers into a Wicked tattoo and it's awesome! (She had the glasses + lightning bolt. She had it changed to Elphaba's glasses and hid the lightning bolt in a letter from the quote "Everyone deserves a chance to fly.")
My first thought was the poor people who potentially got ‘lost prophet’ tattoos before he turned out to be a vile human being
Maybe you can add something besides or on the tattoo that would represent your identity, allowing your love for the HP world to have a positive connotation, so you'll know that your love for that world doesn't have to exclude your identity, or that those two things can coexist despite the author's hateful rhetoric.
I don't know what else to suggest since I don't think I've been in this situation, but those books are not only hers, they're yours as well, and everyone else's who've experienced them in their own unique ways with different meanings.
As soon as the work of art is public, it's no longer the artist's/author's only, it also belongs to every person who engages with it.
Besides, you couldn't have know that she's like that back then, no one knew, or maybe she wasn't like that before but changed
I got a HP tattoo over 10 years ago and I know what you mean, I regret it so much. I’m saving up to remove/cover it.
For Rylan - I think it might be worth to think about sitting mom down and explain to her how you re-searched to make sure you were buying something of good quality and show it was not a impulse thing
Most frivolous thing that brought me joy - A Squishamllow Sticker album and all the packets I needed to complete it - so. much money just for somethng to look cute on my shelf, but it was the first time I actually managed to complete an album like this so it all evens out *u*
About Storie 1: I remember my biology teacher explaning that sometimes people can get a hormonal imbalance that creates a faux pregnancy (all the symptoms, but no baby, morning sickness, heartburn, mood swings, periods stop, etc.), maybe that's what happenend to OP's friend?
Y'all are so adorkable.
the BEST compliment
1:10 also glad i have never got a tattoo related to any of neil gaiman's works. there's arguments to be made about separating the art from the artist but for me at the moment his works are a reminder of what he's done.
What's he done?
@@zenleeparadiseMultiple allegations of sexual assault including an anally raping a woman in front of his son.
@zenleeparadise He's currently being investigated for sexual misconduct, including assalt- 8 women currently have raised allegations
This is new tea for me, oh god. 😰 What did he do?
@@zenleeparadisethere was a vulture article that came out that apparently does a really good job covering the topic (its behind a pay wall but I've heard there are links to a free version going around). There are also a lot of videos covering the topic. The short version is that multiple women felt coerced into s*xual experiences they weren't comfortable with. And in most of these cases there was some form of power imbalance involved (employer-employee, homeowner-tenant, artist-fan, etc). There are other unsettling details but thats the big picture
I love your laugh shaaba. It was great to hear that today.
feel like we all need a laugh today, peach! x
Yay! I love that you kept the intro for the videos with Jamie the same. I love the new intro a lot, but I would have missed this one too.
There’s this Dutch store (Hema) here in the Netherlands that has A BUNCH of cute Nijntje/Miffy stuff and I’m obsessed. It’s just so fracking cute and it makes me insanely happy. (Look it up, you’ll probably love it too) so my Nijntje collection, together with my earring collection, is probably my most frivolous stuff I spend my money on.
Omg I love visiting the NL and wasting all my money on the Miffy items 😅 and their own brand stationary is so cute
Omg I too have purchased way too many nijnte items from Hema 💕🌸💞💝🌸💗💞
A pregnancy where you don't show is called a cryptic pregnancy. They are rare, but they do happen.
As a mum of 2 teenagers with their own pocket/Christmas/ birthday money, it is up to them what they spend their money on. However, they know about saving, and when it's gone, it's gone. They know I don't have the money to buy them everything they want.
My favourite thing that I don't need is my irregular choice shoes, I buy them secondhand because they are so expensive.
I've seen some Irregular Choice merch, relating to my collection, & I don't blame you for getting used, as new is so pricey!!!
The most frivolous thing I've ever spent money on is three tiaras that I got for cosplay purposes and have never worn other than to try them on. I haven't made the costumes to go with them, so they are sitting in their boxes in my basement/cellar. Sometimes I pull them out to put them on and feel pretty for a couple minutes.
I bought a cookbook from 1904 my great grandma used (because hers wasn't there anymore) to recreate her after-war recepies.
For Ryland, I also grew up with parents who were extremely money conscious. Once as a teenager I bought a nice pillow for a little over 30 dollars. Until that point I only ever had old used flat pillows. My mom really didn't understand why I would buy something like that for so much, but six months later when she brought it up again I was able to tell her that I didn't regret it at all and it had made my sleep so much better. She looked surprised but treated my monetary decision with more respect after that. It sucks to be in that position, but hopefully you can revisit this at a later time with your mom and talk to her about how much of a difference your purchase made. Hopefully this helps.
I got a tattoo of a couple Studio Ghibli characters (No Face and a soot sprite from Spirited Away, and a kodama from Princess Mononoke) in 2017 during my last year in university. Those are two of my favorite movies and I love the tattoo, but it's definitely something that my family doesn't understand why I would spend money to get it. Most of them aren't against tattoos in general, but can't understand why I would tattoo animated characters on my body when I could get something "more meaningful" or "realistic."
Kodama ARE meaningful! They're some form of spirits of the forest/trees and show it's a healthy environment!
Tbf, even if they were 'just' a creation for the film based on nothing more, that's plenty meaningful for lots of people.
I'd be excited to meet you and see those tattoos, as I love those movies and those specific characters.
Also, seems a wise choice - No Face isn't gonna become a (more?) problematic fave over time! 😅
My mom would love those especially since those are her favorites.
I always thought tattoos were a personal choice and if you're comfortable and happy with it that's what matters.
Thank you for sharing and not cutting that laugh flash. Shaba's laugh is amazing and contagious! 😄
At 8 months pregnant, it’s not really a miscarriage, the friend would have had to go through full labor and there would be a body that would need to be either buried or cremated. I had a friend who had at least 5 fake pregnancies, she did it for attention. She even at one point used makeup to pretend her dad beat her up. She just had a lot of mental problems, but she was an adult so there was nothing we could do besides slowly drift away because she refused to accept any help or change.
yayyy my emotional support podcast!! :) (i'm suspecting i have severe depression and that would get my list of conditions/disorders up to like 27... not doing too well, i needed this.)
I love both of you but seeing Shabba loose it made me laugh so hard. Thank you both, im SO GLAD you left that part in 😂😂❤❤❤❤
Shaaba’s laugh over lord anxious is so so contagious 😂🤣😂🤣 I can’t, I keep replaying that part and laughing along w her hahaahah
35:05 The Spyro the dragon name conversation cracked me up omg you two are delightful and hilarious-thank u for making my time spent of art all that more enjoyable :]]
It may be far fetched, but I think it's possible that Monica got pregnant through a one night stand, or, I hope it's not the case but it could be - through assault. At the beginning she told some people that her boyfriend got her pregnant because it sounded better and she tried to accept it, but then she might have miscarried or had an abortion, and felt too guilty\ashamed to tell anyone what had really happened so she kept acting like she was still pregnant. I know that it still doesn't explain her making up a boyfriend, unless she wasn't pretending for two years to have a boyfriend, and instead lied that she had already been with him for two years to explain the pregnancy. It's still far fetched, but I guess that's the result of watching paradocumentaries as a teen (idk if this genre exists anywhere outside my country, these are like these psuedo-real soap operas where everyone gets pregnant, cheats and turns out to be siblings with strangers lol).
I don’t know how often Shaaba has moments like the one during the last post. But I wish I was friends with her to have these more often. I giggled first at the mispronunciation, then at both of their reactions and the lost it when Shaaba shared why she thought it was so funny because I started that thought process too. 😂😂
Potentially fake pregnant woman has a stillborn (not miscarriage at 8 months, it's the delivery of a dead baby) has either had an induced vaginal birth, or a c-section. Either way, she would most definitely NOT had been to school the next day. Pain of walking around and risk of infection would be too high. I'm sure someone has done it, but I have given birth and I will tell you I couldn't walk normally for a week.
She's definitely lying.
I had a very caring friend in high school who would make up things for attention. Not on a pregnancy level, but she’d go through phases where she fainted at school and was a medical mystery, she had a boyfriend in Germany who was in a well-known band, etc. Eventually we talked to her about it and it turned out she felt like she was always the one caring for others, so she had to do stuff like that to get others to care for her. Not saying that that’s what this friend is doing, but the “she’s usually very caring” argument isn’t necessarily a valid.
I kind of wonder if the mystery boyfriend showed up at the same time as the pregnancy (in which case it could be a cover for something like pregnancy after SA, etc.) or if the boyfriend had been a thing for a while and the pregnancy ‘materialised’ once people started questioning his absence. In the last instance, it could be an escalation after she felt backed into a corner about a previous lie (the boyfriend).
The little thing I frivolously spend my money on, but has a lot of meaning to me is a little mouse toy I got at the zoo.
She's so adorable, and I carry her everywhere with me. Every time I go somewhere cool I have to stop and take a picture of a mouse somewhere in front of it. She's my little familiar, moral support and one of the most precious things I own. It's been going on for 5 months now, and she brings me a lot of joy
(Her name is Hanaa, by the way)
You two are so lovely. Even when I have a different perspective, I love hearing yours!
super appreciate this, thanks peach x
With that first story, Monica being such a good friend actually may be an indicator of why she would lie about something like this. She might be the kind of person who feels so insecure, she needs to people please. I would be very worried about her, and being reassured that her friends love her for HER, not for what she does.
But it could all be real. The only thing that sticks out to me, personally, is the boyfriend and Monica not making arrangements to be together when the baby comes. It just seems odd to me that one of them wouldn't plan to move so they could raise their child together? 8 months is a long time. That to me is the biggest flag.
on ridiculous/frivolous things to spend money on, I once bought £15 fancy tupperware that *I* thought was the stupidest thing. I actually sat down on a bench, got a notebook out and worked out the cost-per-use for a year before going back into the shop to buy it. and it's one of the best things I bought.
I go to a few conferences every year. I'm also autistic, and as a stress reaction sometimes I can only handle simple food textures (think ARFID, but only when I'm in crisis mode). that £15 fancy tupperware is perfect for making sure I have edible-in-crisis-mode lunch. at conferences, I exclusively eat lunches I could eat in crisis mode (most of the time I need it. the rest of the time, it's better to have it and not need it).
so that's 10 or so days a year for (maybe) 8 years and counting that this box has meant I can eat lunch and actually *do* things at the event I've paid to be at. roughly 80 days of running a stall or attending workshops or networking, rather than crying or having a panic attack because I'm running on fumes.
sure, be mindful with your spending, but sometimes we need to buy the stupid thing.
34:19 I dunno why, but when you laughed here, Shaaba, I suddenly heard Pat Carroll as Ursula the Sea Witch in my head, and my brain went: "Shaaba is having her best witchy cackle moment, and I am so here for it!" You're both fabulous and funny! :)
It is so true what is "stupid" to spend money is so subjective. I really like Shaabas example. To me it brings the difference between my sisterinlaw and me to mind. We are so incredibly different. I don't always get the things she is willing to spend money on and I know she doesn't always get the way I prioritise. However we don't have to fully understand eachother on that matter as long as we can respect our different preferences.
There is a time where it can be reasonable to voice concern... and that is if it impacts the ability to afford basic neccesities like food and struggling to pay your bills. But as long as those things are not a problem, spending on things that makes you happy and comfortable is by no means stupid. Even if it may seem so to others.
Exactly!!! Deal with the essentials, set a budget, & use that for fun stuff!!!
34:18 literally love Shaaba’s laugh here. It’s sooo contagious! I was multitasking while listening to the video in the background and couldn’t help but start laughing as well. This channel brings so much joy over the simplest things 💜
The most frivolous purchase I made was right after the pandemic started and we were all in lockdown.
I bought a rice cooker.
Very specifically, I bought one of those Zojirushi rice cookers - the real fancy ones that you can program when they start and end, they'll keep things warm for hours, and it literally sings to you when it's done. The world was falling down around me and I was spending literally every waking moment either working (I was able to work remote, but since I handled hospital scheduling at the time I was constantly on the phone trying to appease patients or argue with doctors offices about procedural urgency) or trying to keep myself sane, and I decided I'd do something to give myself a bit of joy.
People make fun of me for it sometimes, until they taste how damn good that rice is, and then they get it lolol. My mom in particular was amazed at the fact that it turned out perfectly every time. Literally one of the best purchases I have ever made.
34:16 I’m also in tears 😂
solidarity tears are always welcome 😂
I had a friend in university who (I feel) lied about a lot of things - no proof one way or the other but some things made it seem obvious. It was a big part of the end of our friendship. She told tales about multiple pregnancies' and their end - miscarriage and abortion , she talked about going for cancer treatments, gang fights she'd been a part of back in her hometown, and more. I tried to be supportive though it all, for years until I started clueing in it might be lies, what helped convince me was actually the different tales she would tell different people - expecting that we as the other friends in the group, didn't talk without her. I worry about the possible other situations that could have happened to OP's friend in that story, but you have to find where you draw the line and how to go about dealing with it.
I don't think I've ever heard you laugh so hard in a video before-you have an incredible laugh that was so lovely
WOW what a laugh attack, shaaba!!!! i laughed too despite not really getting what was going on then LOL
Omb Shaaba your laugh is absolutely fantastic! ❤️❤️❤️
My most recent useless, frivolous purchase kind of went a little sad last year, but it will make me very happy next December. I ordered an ear tunnel with a Christmas wreath motif, just for wearing on Christmas Eve (which is the important date in Germany) to the family celebration at my parents', but it arrived late, a couple days after Christmas. It still made me ridiculously happy that it looks exactly as the picture in the online shop, so I wore it for a day anyway, and then put it away safely for next Christmas. I bet my Mum will get a kick out of it - she's usually wearing a pair of tiny Christmas tree baubles on ear hooks for earrings on Christmas Eve...
One thing many people have given me crap over (or tried to) was spending money on hair dye when I was unemployed and dirt poor when my kids were little. Wearing my hair brightly pink and blue did wonders for my mental health and my self esteem in that difficult time - and it wasn't even that expensive. Back then I spent about 12€ for the two pots of dye (sadly, the price has gone up significantly since), and I usually use about half of each pot when I re-dye my hair.
The uncontrollable laugh made me smile so hard ♥️
awkwardly laughing because i cut my hair by flipping it all upside down and just cutting.
Well, now to the important question: How did it all turn out?
Frivolous Purchases?
Oh, boy! I have a few.
I am autistic and bipolar, this is somewhat connected to my choices because I become attached to things easily and tend to have bad spending habits.
Anyways; I spend money on those little rubber ducks that have different patterns or colors or whatnot. I have at least twenty of them as of now, probably more, and I really love them. My favorite one is this sparkly orange one that squeaks when you squeeze 'em, I call him Jonothan. (I got Jonothan from my neurologist because he realized I liked rubber ducks and found it was a good way to get me to talk to him.)
I also spend a bunch of money on plushies. :>
Most people think I'm immature for my plushies and ducks, but I don't really care. They make me happy.
There's a content creator called ellaellaw who has a giant rubber duck statue (sadly not a real rubber duck) called daisy and I'm in love with it
I needed that contagious Shaaba laugh!!! I've been dealing with low key drama with the grown ass people with whom I live within a month before I leave. Holding my tongue so I don't pop off.
I love a great laugh-till-you-cry moment. Thank you!
P.S. pre-ordered "Weird." Love it, and so relatable 😂
Shaaba’s laugh was delightful lol
Hearing a genuine laugh from a wonderful person like Shaaba made my day :)
When I was in high school MANY many years ago, I was in the school musical. So we all kinda hung around each other from the musical. One of the girls, said she had kidney cancer and was going out of state for a transplant, on the Friday. We all wished her good luck and worried about her and the success of the surgery. However, on the Monday she was back at school, and I was like wtf?? I knew there was no way you get organ transplant over the weekend and be okay on the Monday hahaha. She wasnt that bright. I confronted her, she admitted she lied and for some reason, I had to go to her house and kind of moderate with her parents. It was insane. I cant remember what happened it was too long ago. But yeah... shite like this happens.♥♥
Thankyou. I havent smiled and laughed like that for a very long time. You made me snort and I love you for it.
As someone who got a Harry Potter related tattoo and found out 3 months after about all the shit she-who-must-not-be-named had spewed in the previous years, I felt called out by the start of the video haha
Though my middle finger to Volshemort will always be that I was taught about trans people thanks to a Harry Potter metaphor !
What was the HP metaphor?
@@tana_ani I had stumbled on a video of a young girl (mtf) and was annoyed that they said "oh she liked dresses, that's how we knew she was a girl", because I was a girl and hated dresses. Someone asked me if Hermione needed to wear a pointy hat and a witch's dress to be a witch,. When I said no, they explained that she did it anyway, because it made her feel like a witch, and it helped her be perceived as a witch. I didn't need dresses to feel like a girl and be seen like a girl, but for someone who was AMAB, dresses helped.
My tattoo was a twist on the Deathly Hollows anyway, and while I did regret it at first, I now see it as a symbol of all the LBTQ friends I made thanks to HP, of my own bi awakening thanks to these friends, and of the beautiful thinks that can flourish even out of something tainted.
I'd also like to know what metaphor that was!!!
For the last story, first, Shaaba's beautiful laugh sounded like Ursula at the end of Little Mermaid when she gets the trident, and I mean that in the best way, as someone who sounds like I live in gingerbread house when I laugh.
I think it might be worth Rylan talking to his mum, and expressing how her anxiety is making him feel bad and insecure. How these things are important to him, and her expressing concern, while from a place of love, is making him feel unsupported. Sometimes we say and do things to our loved ones and we don't realise how hurtful it can be.
For example, around the same age, my mum suggested I buy new "cooler" clothes, to help me fit in at a new school. It really hurt my feelings because I liked the way I dressed. So I told my mum this and she apologised, she'd only been concerned because I'd been so badly bullied before, but she realised that she should encourage me to be myself. She also liked the way I dressed, she just knows teens can be mean.
So yeah, I think since his mum is so supportive and loving, talking to her shouldn't be a problem. Good luck Rylan!
Seeing the two of you absolutely losing your minds laughing was a great start to the afternoon so thank you for including it!
That laugh attack was absolutely precious! 😂 It made me laugh along, it was heartwarming and genuine, loved it!❣
Shaaba's laugh is so freaking infectious, that made me smile so much to see!! It was all too much for little Mrs Anxieshush. 😆
39:39 anything realated to my special interest like merch. It's expensive but brings me so much happiness
new 1 800 drama episode always makes the day better
shaaba omg u laugh like a pompous queen BUT I MEAN THAT IN THE BEST WAY ANYONE CAN MEAN ANYTHING😭😭 HAD ME IN TEARS GIGGLING TOO /gen
Oh gosh, your laughter at the end made me loose it and start painfully laughing and I needed it so much! Thank you!
Frivolous purchases: multiple pluhshie impulse buys, most of them pokemon. I regret none of them. I don't even care i dont have room for them. (I want more, but know I dont need more)
My frivolous purchase is most likely the Knuckles cup topper I got when I saw Sonic 3 with my friend and her kids. I didn’t get the kid’s combo for popcorn or anything; I just wanted the topper itself. It’s now standing with my Mewtwo and Pikmin amiibos. LOL
My most frivolous purchase in recent-ish memory was probably my house-shaped bed frame. It was much more expensive than it’s theoretically “worth” and I regretted the purchase for a bit before I assembled it, but as soon as I actually assembled it and put it in my room I suddenly remembered why I had decided to spend all that money on it. Granted, it was second hand and ended up getting a bit damaged between the time I agreed to buy it and when I actually picked it up, so that still leaves a bit of a sour taste in my mouth because the seller wasn’t even there and didn’t believe me with regards to how damaged it was and while she gave me a small discount she later messaged me saying she felt like I forced her hand. So the whole experience of purchasing it was very unpleasant but the actual bed base still brings me joy.
Not me cry laughing along with shaaba 😂gosh your laugh is so infectious❤
My “silly” purchases that I love are several of my guitars. I have more than I can realistically need, but I love the stories behind the old ones I have (from previous/original owners) and the modifications I’ve made to the more recently built ones!
Shaaba laughing made me laugh so hard. Contagious!!
so happy to hear this!
Same here, I loved that moment! Thank you for sharing the delightful silliness.😂
And I totally agree that would be a good Roman name for Jamie, especially if he were in the Monty Python version of Rome. I could picture him being introduced by Michael Palin's character with the speech impediment! (Have I just aged myself with an out of touch reference? 😅)
Now we need to work out Shaaba's Roman name and then your couple name! 😜
Shaaba's deranged laughter is giving me life lmaooo
Omg Shaaba has a new song AAAAAAAAA congratulations 🎉
thanks cutie!! x
Shaaba, your uncontrollable laughter made me so happy! 🤣❤️
this episode was feeling a little heavy for a while (not in a bad way) especially during the first question, then watching shaaba laughing until she cried over "if you were roman, that would be your name" felt like letting go of a breath i didn't know i was holding 😭
I just recently bought an old Prima Pokemon Yellow guidebook. It was around $35 (not cheap, but not as expensive as this book OFTEN goes for in similar condition). I had a copy as a child but lost it at some point (I've moved a few times) and even though the guide info is all readily available online nowadays the hole in my guidebook collection has made me feel sad for years. My mom actually encouraged me to get the book because "if it will make you happy to have it, it's a good purchase." Every time I've looked at that bookshelf for the past few weeks, I grin. NO REGRETS!
Shaaba's laugh is so contagious! 🤣
The belly laughs from Shaaba were everything!