9:48 “let’s say for instance, that you plan on exposing yourself by riding a bus full of people” That gave me a good laugh. Thank you for these modules, sincerely. I’m excited mixed with dread to start trying exposure therapy
big hint for me: "try to do the opposite, focus outward", I think that's the answer for me. thank you very much, really really appreciate this help. I'll try that.
I think the main crux is this video. It is very important to get off self focus but I think there are not enough tool to get implement it. If we try to get off self focus by focusing on our breath of being aware of present moment then itself our mind goes on our self focus, if we try to focus on other person face I can see my facial expressions on his/her face. This is the point which I want to deal with as I think this is the point whereby we can get rid of our social anxiety.
It's crazy, I've dealt with social anxiety on and off since I was a teenager. The first mentioning of "self focus" instantly resonated with me because this is exactly what I do when I'm starting to feel social anxiety. If I'm in the gym, I worry that people are looking at how I am lifting or what I look like or the actions I perform. Thank you for this series
Can we say this has strong elements of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy as well? Instead of changing our anxious thoughts in social situations, e.g "Everyone can see that I'm anxious", we try to acknowledge that it is just a thought without actively fighting it and changing it like we normally would do in CBT.
You have a bias to CBT. No sound therapist in social anxiety will strictly administer exposure therapy. Cognitive therapy is very important. We all believe one thing or the other that’s not true that’s the cognition, it’s because of those negative biases cognition you’re having to do exposure. That’s why called CBT. There’s no need for competition about which is the best therapy that’s not the purpose of therapy
To say the truth I practiced to keep outward focus on the street/restoratunts/stores for a month. And it works very bad, when you feel anxious it's very hard to keep focus outward, it consumes a lot of energy, focus jumps from outward to inside. I didn't feel any progress after month of doing it
I'm 1 year in cognitive behavioral therapy now and have a really good and empathic therapist. But still im not able to do exposures or give up safety behavior. I just can't get over my fear and start what i learned.
This was great, thanks, I have been researching "social anxiety tricks" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (search on google ) ? Ive heard some super things about it and my work buddy got excellent success with it.
Wow never even realized that I have been using my over ear headphones to avoid talking to people. I always stated that I just liked hearing music while working (which is very true), BUT it's also to deter people from talking to me in the workplace
I feel like I can hide most of my symptoms but I realllllly struggle with crying, my body gets overwhelmed and I'm in tears immediately it's so frustrating and so obvious 😢
I have a question regarding social anxiety and self esteem: Exposing myself to situations where i feel uncomfortable just makes my anxiety and self esteem worse and no matter how much i try to rationalize that i should see it as a learning expierience etc. it doesn't help. edit, forgot the question: what should i do if i can't expose myself to this new situations?
Same. This technique is meant for learning that nothing much actually happens when you expose yourself, but its a problem for me because sometuing bad dies happen every time :(
@@firewolf7108 Yes, it works well for spiders etc. but in social situations bad things can happen. I guess we need to make very small steps or try meds. Sometimes you can only make a good expierence if you take a medication before a certain situation, but benzodiazepines can make you addicted so it should be an exception for therapeutic uses.
@@firewolf7108 Its really not though. It’s to show that bad things can happen and that you should accept that possibility while not fighting your anxiety. And when those bad things happen, it’s usually not as bad as you imagined it.
is it normal if it doesn't work for me? I've tired social exposure therapy before and its made it worse. My extreme social anxiety doesn't go away and I just feel tired and exhausted after, like angry at myself that I couldn't do it. Maybe that's because my anxiety is at the lowest of the low. And I'm also very introverted. But I can work around it. I have family and friends that support.
What do you do in an environment like school where you just know that your social anxiety will lead to bullying? Do I just try to outpace the damage done by the bullying with exposure outside of school?
This can be very challenging if you are not already receiving therapy as exposure techniques are effective when you reach a stage where you are ready to start trying them with guidance from your therapist and especially if your situation is severe. Also, different tools are used for different safety behaviours, and with no guidance from a professional, you may not know what is effective and relevant to your issues.
You should probably try to get professionally diagnosed, but generally from my knowledge I'd say that depression is more like a lack of feeling along with trouble of getting motivated to do anything, you generally feel like nothing is worth trying anymore and maybe also that no one cares about you. Social anxiety on the other hand is more like extreme panic in any situation where there's a chance that people could judge you. In both mental ilnesses your self esteem is rather low. It is possible though to have both of them combined. I'm not 100% whether my explanation would be approved by a professional, but I hope I could help.
Depressed = no motivation, always wanna be alone, always angry because of small mistake, rare to talk Social anxiety = afraid where you have to meet with a lot of people (work/party/school)
I am not trained or licensed, but from my experience there is often a LOT of overlap between depression and social anxiety, they both feed into one another, and many people diagnosed with one are also diagnosed with the other (myself, for instance).
Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of socially anxious people a lot easier ;) Which is why I have two very simple questions: 1. As someone struggling with social anxiety, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with? 2. Regarding your social anxiety, what would you wish for more than anything else? Thanks so much in advance - looking forward to reading your answers!
My social anxiety is getting much better, but I would say my 2 biggest difficulties are eye contact in crowds (when walking in a shopping centre for example) and saying goodbye to people. I would like to feel comfortable around people, especially new people and in crowds.
This deserves far more attention to be honest, it could really help people change their lives. Let's all try to spread this!
I haven't even started exposure therapy yet and your videos are already helping eliminate my social anxiety in a way :) thank you!
Yeah for sure. Just understanding how it works makes you realize how stupid it is. Good luck my man
@@captaincareysstorytimechil7621 thank you, you too
Haha same here
9:48 “let’s say for instance, that you plan on exposing yourself by riding a bus full of people”
That gave me a good laugh. Thank you for these modules, sincerely. I’m excited mixed with dread to start trying exposure therapy
“You can practice outward focus in situations that aren’t anxious. Like a walk at the park”
Me: I’m anxious every time I step out of my house
On the upside you have tons of opportunities to tackle your anxiety you got this 👍
big hint for me: "try to do the opposite, focus outward", I think that's the answer for me. thank you very much, really really appreciate this help. I'll try that.
Has it help. How you make it. Very difficult to focus outward.
I think the main crux is this video. It is very important to get off self focus but I think there are not enough tool to get implement it. If we try to get off self focus by focusing on our breath of being aware of present moment then itself our mind goes on our self focus, if we try to focus on other person face I can see my facial expressions on his/her face. This is the point which I want to deal with as I think this is the point whereby we can get rid of our social anxiety.
Don't even actually started the exposure therapy and alredy healing I could see the changes in the way I am thinking
It's crazy, I've dealt with social anxiety on and off since I was a teenager. The first mentioning of "self focus" instantly resonated with me because this is exactly what I do when I'm starting to feel social anxiety. If I'm in the gym, I worry that people are looking at how I am lifting or what I look like or the actions I perform. Thank you for this series
Thank you so much. Very informative. I plan to watch the other modules.
Can we say this has strong elements of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy as well? Instead of changing our anxious thoughts in social situations, e.g "Everyone can see that I'm anxious", we try to acknowledge that it is just a thought without actively fighting it and changing it like we normally would do in CBT.
You have a bias to CBT. No sound therapist in social anxiety will strictly administer exposure therapy. Cognitive therapy is very important. We all believe one thing or the other that’s not true that’s the cognition, it’s because of those negative biases cognition you’re having to do exposure. That’s why called CBT. There’s no need for competition about which is the best therapy that’s not the purpose of therapy
These are great. Thank you Magnus for sharing! :)
Can’t believe this has so much fewer views than it deserves. This is changing my life.
Thank you 🙏.I am very grateful to you for this huge help.
This was really great!! Really explanatory and helpful! Thank you so much! Please keep up the good work! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
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Helped a lot already! Thank you!
This changes people’s lives. Thank you Mr. Magnus and the sponsor!
Thanks, it was clearer than many many material I read before. Now I have to try :)
I am feeling extremely anxious and negative thoughts coming up when i interact with girls and women.
Thanks dude im going to try this out in school tommorow.
To say the truth I practiced to keep outward focus on the street/restoratunts/stores for a month. And it works very bad, when you feel anxious it's very hard to keep focus outward, it consumes a lot of energy, focus jumps from outward to inside. I didn't feel any progress after month of doing it
Hey how r u doing now,if there any progress from before.....pls reply if u see this...becoz I want to give a try atleast
Thank you so much you might have changed my life I love you
I'm 1 year in cognitive behavioral therapy now and have a really good and empathic therapist. But still im not able to do exposures or give up safety behavior. I just can't get over my fear and start what i learned.
Baby steps. Start as small as possible than work your way up to more, scarier exposures. Take the smallest step you can and work your way up slowly.
Really helpful
This was great, thanks, I have been researching "social anxiety tricks" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (search on google ) ? Ive heard some super things about it and my work buddy got excellent success with it.
you deserve millions of subscribers for this.. :)
thank you:)
3.45 very correct example u gave
Wow never even realized that I have been using my over ear headphones to avoid talking to people. I always stated that I just liked hearing music while working (which is very true), BUT it's also to deter people from talking to me in the workplace
I feel like I can hide most of my symptoms but I realllllly struggle with crying, my body gets overwhelmed and I'm in tears immediately it's so frustrating and so obvious 😢
the same happens with me. did it get better? i just need some hope
Vielen Dank
I have a question regarding social anxiety and self esteem: Exposing myself to situations where i feel uncomfortable just makes my anxiety and self esteem worse and no matter how much i try to rationalize that i should see it as a learning expierience etc. it doesn't help.
edit, forgot the question: what should i do if i can't expose myself to this new situations?
Same. This technique is meant for learning that nothing much actually happens when you expose yourself, but its a problem for me because sometuing bad dies happen every time :(
@@firewolf7108 Yes, it works well for spiders etc. but in social situations bad things can happen. I guess we need to make very small steps or try meds. Sometimes you can only make a good expierence if you take a medication before a certain situation, but benzodiazepines can make you addicted so it should be an exception for therapeutic uses.
@@michaelmichaelson6766 Yeah... Good luck in life bro!
@@michaelmichaelson6766 >>bad things can happen
Let them happen or make them happen intentionally that's the exposure therapy.
@@firewolf7108 Its really not though. It’s to show that bad things can happen and that you should accept that possibility while not fighting your anxiety. And when those bad things happen, it’s usually not as bad as you imagined it.
Thank you so much
Very valuable, that you.
Very good content and helpfull as well
Very good
OMG this is so so so helpful thank u :)
Outward focus AKA as mindfulness for those in the US.
is it normal if it doesn't work for me? I've tired social exposure therapy before and its made it worse.
My extreme social anxiety doesn't go away and I just feel tired and exhausted after, like angry at myself that I couldn't do it. Maybe that's because my anxiety is at the lowest of the low. And I'm also very introverted.
But I can work around it. I have family and friends that support.
You criticising yourself for it is bad. Dont feel bad, just accept and continue with tomorrow
@@costamicaco yeah. I went in a rabbit hole when I wrote this. I’m feeling happier today. Thank you for relying though
What do you do in an environment like school where you just know that your social anxiety will lead to bullying? Do I just try to outpace the damage done by the bullying with exposure outside of school?
This can be very challenging if you are not already receiving therapy as exposure techniques are effective when you reach a stage where you are ready to start trying them with guidance from your therapist and especially if your situation is severe. Also, different tools are used for different safety behaviours, and with no guidance from a professional, you may not know what is effective and relevant to your issues.
I really wish I could afford exposure therapy. My anxiety is getting worse
Wish I could retain this information, I genuinely think I’m too far gone at this point.
Hi. What should you do if you are not sure if you are depressed or have social anxiety?
You should probably try to get professionally diagnosed, but generally from my knowledge I'd say that depression is more like a lack of feeling along with trouble of getting motivated to do anything, you generally feel like nothing is worth trying anymore and maybe also that no one cares about you. Social anxiety on the other hand is more like extreme panic in any situation where there's a chance that people could judge you. In both mental ilnesses your self esteem is rather low. It is possible though to have both of them combined. I'm not 100% whether my explanation would be approved by a professional, but I hope I could help.
@@suhae2175 Thanks :)
Depressed = no motivation, always wanna be alone, always angry because of small mistake, rare to talk
Social anxiety = afraid where you have to meet with a lot of people (work/party/school)
I am not trained or licensed, but from my experience there is often a LOT of overlap between depression and social anxiety, they both feed into one another, and many people diagnosed with one are also diagnosed with the other (myself, for instance).
I’m an expert of safety behavior
What about anti depressants can we use them while applying the Exposure therapy ?
Sure you can, why not?
But how do you reality check 🥲
Hi, what worksheet number for this module
Worksheet 3
@@marigatou thanks
Hey everyone, I’m currently trying to find out how one could make the lives of socially anxious people a lot
easier ;)
Which is why I have two very simple questions:
1. As someone struggling with social anxiety, what are the 2 biggest issues you’re dealing with?
2. Regarding your social anxiety, what would you wish for more than anything else?
Thanks so much in advance - looking forward to reading your answers!
My social anxiety is getting much better, but I would say my 2 biggest difficulties are eye contact in crowds (when walking in a shopping centre for example) and saying goodbye to people.
I would like to feel comfortable around people, especially new people and in crowds.
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