thank u so much for this! This video was well-made and very helpful in opening up my mind. Public speaking has always been something I’ve struggled with, so I’m gonna try giving exposure therapy a go. ❤
I just read a speech out in class, my voice was very shaky, but I feel less anxious now I've 'exposed' myself 👍🏼 Update: I'm now trying singing lessons, and reading out loud every week in front of family to get used to it, it definitely will help build confidence
@@sahar5955 Yo thanks for asking! I'm in year 11 now, I did another speech a few months ago for English Language, pulled it off really well. I only did in front of a few people though which really helped, I'm glad the teacher allowed me to do that. My biggest thing to up my confidence was practicing a few times a day at either my phone camera or my mum, for like a week before the exam. In general, I always try to say as much as possible, even if it requires waffling, when I put my hand up to say something. My personal 'unique' issue is that I get a very dry throat, and when I begin to speak I get a nagging urge that I need to swallow to replenish the saliva in my mouth... if that makes sense? So basically by getting used to talking for long times with my hand up, I become more comfortable with the thought of the momentary 'awkward silence' as I swallow. Weird isn't it lol. Anyway, hope that helps if you are struggling 😁
heyy sorry to ask but my school is starting soon and I struggle with blushing as a symptom of social anxiety. But there are barely any exposure exercices to do in school. I'm gonna be in grade 9 and we barely get to talk alone in front of the students. I don't know what exposure exercice to do ;( Can you please suggest me at least one or two exposure exercices to do at school? Sorry for asking again and thank you😊
@@Dominic-x7d Hiya, I was in a similar situation a couple of years ago and understand your worries. But hey I'm still alive, and I can assure you that no one was ever bothered by my blushing, shaking, awkwardness and all of that shenanigans. In fact, I eventually realised that most other students felt the same way about public speaking, and that the hellish spotlight I so often dreaded was simply an illusion crafted by my mind due to some fascinating evolutionary features of the human species that are linked to complex tribal social circles. But that's a topic of severe waffle, so I won't dwell on it. To the point, what I would recommend is to take as many opportunities as you can to speak in situations that you think will cause you to blush. Make it almost a competition, how close can you get to the edge of the cliff? Turn "oh no my face is probably going red, this is embarrassing" into "wow I'm getting a mad adrenaline rush right now, I feel so alive". For example if your parents take you swimming, take advantage and be the one that books the session at reception; OR if you are at the shop, talk slightly more than you are comfortable with to the dude at the counter, whether that be a single word all the way up to a 2 minute conversation. With the shop scenario, you might not know what to talk about, here's some ideas: talk about the weather, ask for the price of a product, ask for the location of a product. The reason to do this is to get used to the way that your body feels when you are stressed or anxious, and to somewhat develop control over this initially overwhelming situation. Imagine how easy it would be to do a speech if your body just behaved, right, well instead of fighting your natural response, you can learn to embrace the adrenaline rush it gives you and feel in control regardless of what your body is doing. Now, I don't know how your school operates, but I would assume that there's a chance to speak in class when the teacher asks a question - correct me if I'm wrong - and this is the perfect way to practice as you are in full control of the situation and can plan ahead to step just outside of your comfort zone. Over time, you can build this into a habit, to a point where you perhaps are not as focused on your blushing, and more concentrating on the content of your 'speech'. This is just what has worked for me and I have progressed tremendously over the past year, I even kept a diary of how much I said in class everyday to see my progress, which was very motivating. Of course you do not have to do that, but it really helps to get you into the right mindset. Hope this lecture makes something in your mind click! 🤙
@@Dominic-x7d Hiya, I was in a similar situation a couple of years ago and understand your worries. But hey I'm still alive, and I can assure you that no one was ever bothered by my blushing, shaking, awkwardness and all of that shenanigans. In fact, I eventually realised that most other students felt the same way about public speaking, and that the hellish spotlight I so often dreaded was simply an illusion crafted by my mind due to some fascinating evolutionary features of the human species that are linked to complex tribal social circles. But that's a topic of severe waffle, so I won't dwell on it. To the point, what I would recommend is to take as many opportunities as you can to speak in situations that you think will cause you to blush. Make it almost a competition, how close can you get to the edge of the cliff? Turn "oh no my face is probably going red, this is embarrassing" into "wow I'm getting a mad adrenaline rush right now, I feel so alive". For example if your parents take you swimming, take advantage and be the one that books the session at reception; OR if you are at the shop, talk slightly more than you are comfortable with to the dude at the counter, whether that be a single word all the way up to a 2 minute conversation. With the shop scenario, you might not know what to talk about, here's some ideas: talk about the weather, ask for the price of a product, ask for the location of a product. The reason to do this is to get used to the way that your body feels when you are stressed or anxious, and to somewhat develop control over this initially overwhelming situation. Imagine how easy it would be to do a speech if your body just behaved, right, well instead of fighting your natural response, you can learn to embrace the adrenaline rush it gives you and feel in control regardless of what your body is doing. Now, I don't know how your school operates, but I would assume that there's a chance to speak in class when the teacher asks a question - correct me if I'm wrong - and this is the perfect way to practice as you are in full control the situation and can plan ahead to step just outside of your comfort zone. Over time, you can build this into a habit, to a point where you perhaps are not as focused on your blushing, and more concentrating on the content of your 'speech'. This is just what has worked for me and I have progressed tremendously over the past year, I even kept a diary of how much I said in class everyday to see my progress, which was very motivating. Of course you do not have to go to extremes like me, but it really helps gets you into the mindset. Hope this lecture makes something in your mind click!
What to do if someone mock me when I am doing exposure therapy? How should I respond? I really want to slap him in the face. Is that a good relieving idea?
Consider that person ignorant of the anxiety issues just ignore him and try to bring all the weaknesses that a person has in which field you will find yourself doing well and you have just only one area where you are weak and most important is that you know that you aware of those flaws. When you are aware of your weaknesses you are soon going to overcome them.
What are you, in middle school? Tell that person they're acting like a child and ignore them. It's just not worth paying attention to people who don't care about you. Be more confident in your speech, and don't be afraid to call them out "I saw you had something to say. Do you want to walk to the front and speak for me?"
I don't think you understand the general idea, there's nothing wrong with reciting IF you don't struggle with anxiety/SA. If your goal is to become a better speaker naturally and deal with anxiety than there is no benefit to reciting. Clearly, Magnus doesn't struggle with SA, so reciting just keeps him organized while he teaches. If you struggle with speaking to begin with, you got to do it in a way that elicits anxiety as to face it.
I read the 2016 study, then googled cognitive therapy and found this. Awesome idea the exposure therapy! Exactly what i need :) Thank you Magnus!
thank u so much for this! This video was well-made and very helpful in opening up my mind. Public speaking has always been something I’ve struggled with, so I’m gonna try giving exposure therapy a go. ❤
Thanks Magnus!
I just read a speech out in class, my voice was very shaky, but I feel less anxious now I've 'exposed' myself 👍🏼
Update: I'm now trying singing lessons, and reading out loud every week in front of family to get used to it, it definitely will help build confidence
how things going?
@@sahar5955 Yo thanks for asking! I'm in year 11 now, I did another speech a few months ago for English Language, pulled it off really well. I only did in front of a few people though which really helped, I'm glad the teacher allowed me to do that. My biggest thing to up my confidence was practicing a few times a day at either my phone camera or my mum, for like a week before the exam. In general, I always try to say as much as possible, even if it requires waffling, when I put my hand up to say something. My personal 'unique' issue is that I get a very dry throat, and when I begin to speak I get a nagging urge that I need to swallow to replenish the saliva in my mouth... if that makes sense? So basically by getting used to talking for long times with my hand up, I become more comfortable with the thought of the momentary 'awkward silence' as I swallow. Weird isn't it lol. Anyway, hope that helps if you are struggling 😁
heyy sorry to ask but my school is starting soon and I struggle with blushing as a symptom of social anxiety. But there are barely any exposure exercices to do in school. I'm gonna be in grade 9 and we barely get to talk alone in front of the students. I don't know what exposure exercice to do
;( Can you please suggest me at least one or two exposure exercices to do at school? Sorry for asking again and thank you😊
@@Dominic-x7d Hiya, I was in a similar situation a couple of years ago and understand your worries. But hey I'm still alive, and I can assure you that no one was ever bothered by my blushing, shaking, awkwardness and all of that shenanigans.
In fact, I eventually realised that most other students felt the same way about public speaking, and that the hellish spotlight I so often dreaded was simply an illusion crafted by my mind due to some fascinating evolutionary features of the human species that are linked to complex tribal social circles.
But that's a topic of severe waffle, so I won't dwell on it.
To the point, what I would recommend is to take as many opportunities as you can to speak in situations that you think will cause you to blush.
Make it almost a competition, how close can you get to the edge of the cliff? Turn "oh no my face is probably going red, this is embarrassing" into "wow I'm getting a mad adrenaline rush right now, I feel so alive". For example if your parents take you swimming, take advantage and be the one that books the session at reception; OR if you are at the shop, talk slightly more than you are comfortable with to the dude at the counter, whether that be a single word all the way up to a 2 minute conversation. With the shop scenario, you might not know what to talk about, here's some ideas: talk about the weather, ask for the price of a product, ask for the location of a product.
The reason to do this is to get used to the way that your body feels when you are stressed or anxious, and to somewhat develop control over this initially overwhelming situation. Imagine how easy it would be to do a speech if your body just behaved, right, well instead of fighting your natural response, you can learn to embrace the adrenaline rush it gives you and feel in control regardless of what your body is doing.
Now, I don't know how your school operates, but I would assume that there's a chance to speak in class when the teacher asks a question - correct me if I'm wrong - and this is the perfect way to practice as you are in full control of the situation and can plan ahead to step just outside of your comfort zone. Over time, you can build this into a habit, to a point where you perhaps are not as focused on your blushing, and more concentrating on the content of your 'speech'.
This is just what has worked for me and I have progressed tremendously over the past year, I even kept a diary of how much I said in class everyday to see my progress, which was very motivating. Of course you do not have to do that, but it really helps to get you into the right mindset.
Hope this lecture makes something in your mind click! 🤙
@@Dominic-x7d Hiya, I was in a similar situation a couple of years ago and understand your worries. But hey I'm still alive, and I can assure you that no one was ever bothered by my blushing, shaking, awkwardness and all of that shenanigans.
In fact, I eventually realised that most other students felt the same way about public speaking, and that the hellish spotlight I so often dreaded was simply an illusion crafted by my mind due to some fascinating evolutionary features of the human species that are linked to complex tribal social circles.
But that's a topic of severe waffle, so I won't dwell on it.
To the point, what I would recommend is to take as many opportunities as you can to speak in situations that you think will cause you to blush.
Make it almost a competition, how close can you get to the edge of the cliff? Turn "oh no my face is probably going red, this is embarrassing" into "wow I'm getting a mad adrenaline rush right now, I feel so alive". For example if your parents take you swimming, take advantage and be the one that books the session at reception; OR if you are at the shop, talk slightly more than you are comfortable with to the dude at the counter, whether that be a single word all the way up to a 2 minute conversation. With the shop scenario, you might not know what to talk about, here's some ideas: talk about the weather, ask for the price of a product, ask for the location of a product.
The reason to do this is to get used to the way that your body feels when you are stressed or anxious, and to somewhat develop control over this initially overwhelming situation. Imagine how easy it would be to do a speech if your body just behaved, right, well instead of fighting your natural response, you can learn to embrace the adrenaline rush it gives you and feel in control regardless of what your body is doing.
Now, I don't know how your school operates, but I would assume that there's a chance to speak in class when the teacher asks a question - correct me if I'm wrong - and this is the perfect way to practice as you are in full control the situation and can plan ahead to step just outside of your comfort zone. Over time, you can build this into a habit, to a point where you perhaps are not as focused on your blushing, and more concentrating on the content of your 'speech'.
This is just what has worked for me and I have progressed tremendously over the past year, I even kept a diary of how much I said in class everyday to see my progress, which was very motivating. Of course you do not have to go to extremes like me, but it really helps gets you into the mindset.
Hope this lecture makes something in your mind click!
Dale Carnegie book ' how to develop self confidence & influence people by public speaking ' is really good
nice!
What to do if someone mock me when I am doing exposure therapy? How should I respond?
I really want to slap him in the face. Is that a good relieving idea?
Consider that person ignorant of the anxiety issues just ignore him and try to bring all the weaknesses that a person has in which field you will find yourself doing well and you have just only one area where you are weak and most important is that you know that you aware of those flaws. When you are aware of your weaknesses you are soon going to overcome them.
What are you, in middle school? Tell that person they're acting like a child and ignore them. It's just not worth paying attention to people who don't care about you. Be more confident in your speech, and don't be afraid to call them out "I saw you had something to say. Do you want to walk to the front and speak for me?"
@@stuffedheart4001 your heart is stuffed with rocks
@@Boogersandunicorns76 Its stuffed because I don't have one
It's fun to hear that reciting is bad thing and observe like this guy exactly does reciting on the video
I don't think the point is that reciting is bad. It's just not as effective for treating public speaking anxiety since it can be a safety behavior.
I don't think you understand the general idea, there's nothing wrong with reciting IF you don't struggle with anxiety/SA. If your goal is to become a better speaker naturally and deal with anxiety than there is no benefit to reciting. Clearly, Magnus doesn't struggle with SA, so reciting just keeps him organized while he teaches. If you struggle with speaking to begin with, you got to do it in a way that elicits anxiety as to face it.