Your compassion, intelligence and kindness shines through in your voice. You are a good teacher. I'm old enough to be your grandmother and I have a degree in Fine Arts, but every single video of yours has taught me things, and I love to draw and listen to your voice. Thank you for your videos, I appreciate them and you,
Two adages I've always loved: "A clean house is the sign of a misspent life." "A clean desk is the sign of an empty mind " :-) Also, two things I keep in mind when something goes wrong. When I have done many steps but lose it all, if I jump in and start again it sometimes takes half the time to get to the same place because I've worked out the bugs. But if mistakes or issues are cropping up in quick succession, it's a signal that I need to take a break and do something else for a while. Realizing that for myself helps to keep me from extreme frustration and other accompanying negative emotions.
Give yourself the same grace you give to others. You are my absolute favorite artist, I follow you soo closely, you are amazing ‼️ ‼️ I wish you Peace sister girl 😘
Love your gentle commentary while you do the art. It`s very soothing to listen to your voice and the depth of message is amazing and so appreciated that you are willing to "go there" in your vulnerability. Your art and voice are a therapy in themselves.
First, beautiful drawing. Second, I needed to hear this. I am much the same, too much of a perfectionist in some ways. And too easily hurt by criticism. But patience? Oddly (or not?) I have a lot of patience with things (cooking, home improvements, art, even my dog!), but none whatsoever with PEOPLE. Including myself, I just realized. Thanks for talking about it, I think a lot of us feel this way. ❤️
You are a great teacher. Thank you for making the videos, You have inspired me to learn new techniques and create in a different way. 💚🤩🙏🌼for me, patience is related to being in my balance, sitting in stillness and knowing that I am important and loved, as are you. The house chores are something, trying to create and do Swedish Death cleaning at the same time. Life is one big oxymoron. The pain of loss of creative work is real and justified. I love that you create beauty amidst the chaos of expectations. You are brave to share emotions in this forum, but you also have real people watching. You have many real followers, ignore the trolls and npc’s. I find guided meditation is helpful for me to process strong emotion and Qigong for energy balance. So much to learn and see, not enough time…sending you timeless love for anyone who reads this.❤
Thankyou for your wise words,we all need reminders constantly on how to cope better.Being more mindful and compassionate even towards ourselves.Thankyou for sharing yourself with us,your commitment and hard work is greatly appreciated!❤
I used to be pretty hard on myself when I was younger with expectations and patience, I too had anger issues. I learned later for me it was not accepting what was is what produced all that drama. ...always unhappy and wanting to change and control everything. Don't let others opinions get on your nerves, it's just showing their level of awareness and how much they need to learn about themselves and life. Rampant ego is a dangerous thing indeed! My idea of perfection is your already perfect! There is NEVER going to be another you, so love it and relish in it. It all really boils down to love in the final analysis. That's what we really are. You just keep doing you Betsy! I adore your art and your channel. 💞☮
Wow thank you 💕. I agree that it can come down to a desire for control, which in the end may not be very healthy. Thank you so much for your insight 🦋.
I absolutely love your artwork. You are incredibly honest, we are human and must let go of unrealistic expectations of ourselves. We can’t always be perfect. I often feel that I am not good enough on so many levels, however, as I age (67 now), I am learning to let go. I not berate myself for not keeping my home spotless, my mom used to say “in five years is anyone going to care”. She had a very clean home, which is funny. I am not successful many times, but I am ok. I can kind to myself and accept my failures more easily as I age. Thanks for talking about this, hang in there. Drawing is so good for the soul.
I love your channel, you are doing an amazing job! Your creativity is beyond anything I could even imagine and I love learning from you. You and your art are beyond good enough. Please take time for your self care. We will be here for you ♡
Love your doodles and your words. I hope you are ok. It’s really good to talk to people, it helps you process whatever it is in your mind. I will always do these doodles now, I love the feeling they give me, the pride I feel when I’ve completed something and someone else loves it too, and of course the escape time whilst I’m doodling. Thank you. ❤
I find art a very spiritual thing. I love that you brought to us a spiritual message as well as teaching us how you draw. I am finally getting some of the doodles. They’re not like yours and they’re not supposed to be. They are mine, and I am very pleased with what is come out. Your choice of words really explains some of the feelings I have been having. I thank you so much for that. Just in case, there’s anybody that hasn’t got your coloring book, it is worth every penny and more. I bought it not to color, but to use it to trace over to get muscle memory. Thank you for sharing that work with us.
Betsi, I totally understand. I’m a perfectionist and nothing is ever good enough. I’m not sure of the stress of being a TH-cam artist. I’m an unemployed scientist for 5 months today, my hair is falling out, my fingers are peeling, I’m taking antidepressants that are kinda helping. I got as far as pulling card stock out and folding the paper today. That seems ridiculous but it was all I could do today. I haven’t allowed myself to be creative for years… there’s always something I feel that I should do before I am able to just be myself. I haven’t played my guitar in years (there’s other reasons for that) I can’t paint, or use my pastels, sew or make jewelry. I love all my previous creative ideas but I just don’t allow it. You’re right about the toxic thoughts. My house is lacking my attention. I enjoy cooking and baking bread but I look at my sink full of dishes and I’m paralyzed. We are not alone. You are not alone. I wish you and all of us that feel similar feelings a bit of understanding about ourselves. We’re allowed to have bad days, but reach out to others who feel the same and maybe we can help each other. I love your art and you are appreciated, please trust in yourself and us. We are here for you. Keep going ❤
In addition, you helped me to just pull out that card stock today. Thank you! I showed my son your art today and he was so impressed and impressed that I was starting to think about being more myself. It might not have happened today but maybe tomorrow or the next day. You have helped me (us) and that is amazing to me. You help people and that should be your blessing. Remember that we are thankful for your honesty. You said what we feel sometimes and it’s been a blessing to me (us)!!! ❤
Holy cow. I totally understand where you're coming from. A few years ago, I was so stressed out that I noticed a little bald spot on my head the size of a quarter. Over the following months the spot grew and grew to an area the size of my hand. After all the frustration I eventually gave up and decided I was going to shave it all off. And then a few weeks later it started to grow back. All because I literally let it go. It can be so hard to just stop, to just let go. But once you do, everything changes. I hope you're able to find yourself again, so you can make art, and feel whole again. 💙💜💙
@@betsi_jae that really means a lot to me. Thanks. You and I and so many others just need to find a way to feel worthy and know that we aren’t alone. You’re doing great!
*A very interesting share. I really like this video. The content in the video is really engaging. Wishing you a morning full of energy and success! Will always and forever accompany you! 👍👌🤝🙏🔔*
How brave of you to share this insight! Thank you. This past week has been just about the most challenging in the past decade. And I was so frustrated that the only thing I could do was to follow your instructions about the cinnamon roll (?) and it turned out better than I expected. So it's ok that things are crumbling around me because I have paper, pens and colored pencils.....
I'm so sorry. It sounds like you're going through a rough patch yourself. If I could I would make you some tea, serve up some pastries and sit you down at my table so we can draw together. Things can be messed up around us, but a little inner piece can go a long way. I truly wish you the best 💕💙💕
I would bring the orange cranberry scones. Thank you for your kindness. I have since gone on to make gypsum stones with spirals on top. The bad patch seems to have disappeared.@@betsi_jae
You make a really good point 🤔. I am a very restless person. Always seeking more. It can be bad if not kept in check, but certainly with the right mindset it can lead to good things.
Sharing your art and your thoughts are both expressions of vulnerability, and I appreciate and admire your ability to do so. Expressing myself in ways that show vulnerability is one of my biggest challenges. I hope you can find peace of mind and self love ❤
I recently discovered your channel and absolutely love your doodles. Thank you so much for sharing your talent and also being so vulnerable. I have been in therapy for some time now and I also struggle with what my therapist calls "negative self talk". She has explained to me how our brains are wired to be more efficient. So for example... since I was a child whenever I didn't meet the expectations I set for myself my instinct was to self blame. I have this ongoing conversion with myself about how disappointed I am that I failed whatever it is. Many other thoughts come to mind as well. As I got older and and this happened over and over and my response was the same everytime, what actually was happening was the wiring in my brain was looking for the solution, it took the "shortest route" everytime, the learned route, albeit not the best, healthiest route. 50 + years later she's helping me learn how to re-train my brain not to take the known path or route down that dark hole of negative self talk. (I'm sure there is a name for this, I just needed it broken down so I understood it. 😂) Understanding this has made a world of difference in my life. Hopefully I was able to convey a clear explanation so someone else can have hope that they can change this as well. Thank you for allowing this conversation!
Oh my goodness 😮. Everything you said is part of the reason why I don't have social media (I am hard enough on myself without everyone else joining in!) and everything you said is also the reason that I created my first social media account here on you tube to just say thank you to you as you are amazing, insightful and have such a way of expressing yourself that touches people that you have never even met. Your art work is also beautiful, you are very talented. Thank you for sharing and I am glad to be here. ❤😊
I'm so glad you're here as well 😊. I truly do strive to create a welcoming environment. There's too much nastiness out there, and we need to have little safe spaces to really spread out.
I have felt a similar weight like this often. This type of “perfectionism” is why I started using ink instead of pencil for my art. I never finished anything with pencils of any kind because I was constantly erasing my perceived mistakes until I completely ruined the piece I was trying to create. Drawing with ink and painting actually became a way for me to vent and let go of these feelings. At least while I am creating things. Do you feel this way while creating as well?
Yes! That's exactly why I find ink so therapeutic. There's no way back. No mistakes to fix. The ink is unforgiving, but that's because there's nothing to forgive. Everything is exactly the way it's meant to be and there's no need whatsoever to try to fix it. All you can do is add more ink .
Both your artwork and your words are beautiful, amazing, inspirational, and highly motivating. Im so glad to have come across this video and appreciate your time and effort and your candid sharing.
You have an amazing talent...I find your drawings beautiful and it relaxes me to watch you draw and chat with us. Don't worry, we all have off days, or moments. Just know that it is O.K. to not get everything done or done to perfection. I was taught to do a job well if you are going to do it...and I do try, but if it doesn't turn out perfect...I am O.K. with it....at least I tried. You just keep doing what you do ...we love your work!!
Miss Betsy I am a retired Occupational Therapist. Married to a Dr. My family live far away. Many lonely hours. I have a Kumon Marhs centre. Many kiddies have a fear for Maths. Your posts are so relaxing and fills gaps of my lonely hours. I have learnt so much from you. I often let kiddies draw a simple little tangle before starting the class. They love their maths lessons. Your way of using a brush and shading as you go is brilliant. It is Zen in my tangles. Thanks. South Africa.
I love your art work. I love your honesty. I love your willingness to share with us. I love your vulnerability. I love your thoughtfulness. Which is also why I love watching your videos❤️
My favorite saying is, " messy hands=happy mind". 😂. Although, having grown up in an overtly abusive home, I must admit I've never been able to suffer ill behaved children. I even made the conscious decision NOT to have children, for fear that I, too, would be abusive. My anxiety and depression were always the reasons I I started drawing. Actually, art saved my life, quite literally. But this gave me A LOT to think about - not only concerning my own behavior, but others' as well. Thank you so much for opening up and sharing that piece of yourself with us. I love my art teachers so much ♥️♥️♥️
Perfectionists are so hard on themselves, believe me l’m one of them! I love your honesty and vulnerability. Not many people can lay their souls open before the world the way you have and I take my hat off to you. As I listened to you articulate such wisdom and truth I kept saying yes, yes, YES!!! It was as if you were inside my head and put into words the emotions and thoughts that constantly run through my head! You’re so spot on! So very glad I found your channel and subscribed.
Thank you for sharing your art and your humanity. I have been glued to your video's for the past week so I feel so much compassion for you as I watch this video. You are helping me to develop my own style with your wise comments. I appreciate all the work and sharing expressed in your videos as frustrating as the sharing may become. I have much gratitude for finding you.
Oh gosh! I SO hear you. As an A type personality everything has to always be better than you did before or you feel like a failure! I'm happy to let you know though, that, for me at least, as I've gotten older and grey, that competition with myself has decreased. It's wonderful to feel "free" thank you so much for sharing! And the drawing is flipping awesome.
So sorry you had to let go of all that hard work. Most, if not all, of us know those feelings. On the other hand, I heard you in a way I couldn't have if the work was useful. Thank you for this lovely art.
You are amazing. This is Art with therapy. Watching your art come alive while listening to your experiences and values, sharing thoughts and wellbeing advice, this is just what I needed today. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.❤
YOU definitely are not alone. Let that dust accumulate. Nourish your life imperfectly. Invest in your life and well being 1st. Before you know it the grays will come and we want no regrets. During COVID I made it a mission to learn .Thanks to you, Zen Tanglers, Art teachers, junk journalers and line dancers I made it through. Perfection was not necessary. I continue to learn to accept imperfection. It's OK. Thank you for this video! You use a great reminder, erasers. Hope you have more uplifted days than not.
This life on earth can really stress you out, so many things to do. I have found since I retired I’m a happier person. I am not stressed out because i have less to do. I’m loving this life of making art every day, walking the dog and just living this life. I have this muscle in my back that I call my stress muscle, I rarely feel it anymore!
I know what you mean... there's always a spot that carries the stress. For me it's the area around my shoulders. I'm glad you're finding peace in your life now that you're retired.
Your art looks absolutely perfect! I used to spend time in the last 40 years thinking I needed to sell my art. Now, I just want to do it to explore the 2-D space on a page. I think you are a wonderful teacher and a great artist. You are very inspirational! 🥰🥰🥰
Found your channel a couple of weeks ago an I'm soooooo glad I did. I love your drawing technigue an hope to try some of them to my own drawings. Your black an white drawings are so dramatic an alive. I love them. Hope you have a wonderful holiday season with family an friends. Your bringing so much joy to lots of people with your art so don't be so hard on yourself. Peace to you fine lady.
I used one of your videos as a tutorial, used the art work on a coffee table. It looks fabulous. I had the sound turned down though. This evening I decided to watch another and kept the sound on.. I was surprised to hear you express some of my own thoughts and feelings. I think sometimes I just pick up in my spirit something that is happening in my life that I had not heard about or seen. I become anxious. (I have ptsd). Anyway, that's why I decided to try your art, because the movement of the pen is very repetitive and I find that very calming. I find it keeps me in the moment, and that is why I do it... it is therapeutic and satisfying. I don't have the pressure to succeed at it, I just do it because it gives my mind and spirit a rest. Thanks for that.
I have watched and learned from the message you give as you create. This message has been specially value to me and I know it is something that I will come back to and listen to many, many times. Thank you sharing, this is one life you have reached. I plan to further this message to others.
Thank you for talking about this topic! The start with I wanna let you know you're an awesome Teacher. I've been looking at others and tangled youtubes, but yours made a lot of sense. table I too I'm not a very patient person. And I hope that you know That you're not in that load alone. Take some time for yourself, and enjoy it. Whatever makes you happy spend time doing it ! We need to go easy on ourselves many times we are on worst critics.
You're absolutely right. We can be our worst enemy, making things out to be worse than they really are. In the end, I deleted the work, made myself some tea and went to bed😅. Sometimes a good nap and a new perspective can change everything.
What you were experiencing is anxiety. And it's the kind of anxiety that is troubling because we don't know why we are being anxious. It's different if you are waiting for a surgery, or a job interview or something like that. You KNOW why you are anxious, and you even know it's normal. But when you don't know why, it can manifest itself in feelings of depression. So what you did, talk about and think about it, is actually the "cure". Once you figure out what you are anxious about, you can start to work on it - maybe make it better. But identifying it is half the battle. You identified a lack of patience and even a lack of uncertainty about what you are doing. And I'm guessing now that you figured that out, you are on your way to feeling better. I appreciate the effort5 you pt into sharing your wonderful talents. Thank you.
I always look forward to your videos, for both the beautiful art and your voice-overs. This one was particularly needed and helpful. Thank you so much for sharing. I don't remember where I heard the advice, but I know I've heard it from two different sources - when we're struggling emotionally, we need to step back and think, "if a loved one came to me with this, what would I tell them, what comfort would I give them?" We're most often hardest on ourselves because what's happening to us is so subjective. We need to shift our perspective and treat ourselves as we would a loved one. Now that I've written this, I think I need to spend some time following my own advice.
Miss betsi u have such insight n are inspirational to me. Ive tried to to do draw a few unfinished pieces from watching u, n fr some reason ive come to tears with hearing u chat. Major deppression dosent have patience. Im bed bound with multiple cronic illnesses , n u tube n drawing is all i know. Trying to get back into drawing with a mental block is hard n you have been my inspiration n you simplify how you talk, when u have a hard time in life with your patience ect. Love your work so much,as you make it look so simple to do, n how you seem to get up to get through another day. Many blessings.💖✏🖊
Here I am just thinking I’m going to see a cool drawing to follow along with and ended up hearing a message that I really, REALLY needed to hear . You have no idea how much it helped me right in this moment. Thank you. ❤
Miss Betsy! Thank you so much! I played the video once, I love your beautiful words and am in awe of your stunning artwork 🥰 I replayed your video, using the .25x playback speed. I was able to follow you, and I drew what you drew - but I’ve been experimenting with colour lately. Thank you again enormously, it was such a soul food experience. My wellbeing hormones multiplied many times over 😊 🥰🥰🥰
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us... You have a full supoort from me...all the way from New Zealand. Thank you for your tutorials that Ive learned a lot from your experience and knowledge. Be strong and proud as being a great teacher...and taught lots of people like me out there.... BIg hug..
If you drew the same thing just in different ways I wouldn't even care! I love your drawings. I am someone who cannot draw and I've been following your instructions and making my own doodles! i've been sharing them with my friends and they are all impressed how awesome they look. I am also happy with them even if the lines are not perfect. I don't care! haha
I also get frustrated and impatient with myself as well. I am what they say is a recovering perfectionist because I expect everything I do to be perfect and I set such high expectations for myself that I never can reach it. I think your lines are very smooth, especially compared to mine LOL. But I try and I know that if I practice as much as you have that I would be able to get my lines to be more smooth and less wonkey LOL I struggle with practicing patience as well. I love everything you do. Thank you for sharing, it helps to know that we are not alone in how we feel.
In the spirit of honesty and vulnerability, I reach out with some concern. I spent my whole life saying very much the same sentiments of why can't I just get my life together like everyone one else until I learned the answer was actually I literally couldn't. I found out I had ADHD and it literally saved my life. Not having motivation and not having energy to do things was directly tied to a lack of dopamine in the brain required to do said tasks. Granted, I did choose to get meds, but just learning this about myself gave me the ability to give myself grace over the things I struggled with. Like you said, these things haven't always been talked about, but the ADHD community is getting louder so symptoms can be identified and addressed and I implore you to maybe take a stroll down the rabbit hole to see if maybe you belong here too.
@ashleyd595 I am in my 60s and just found out I had ADHD last year. It will sound strange to many people, I know, but you'll understand - I started to laugh and cry with relief because it meant I wasn't just worthless, I'm wired differently and that shifted my perspective entirely. That doesn't mean I don't get frustrated with myself and life, but now I know where it comes from, I can look for work-arounds instead of sinking into a big pile of hopelessness.
today, Friday, is day 10 of a 40-day free online course initiated by Lisa natoli and the concerns, universal concerns, personal issues et al, have simple, not easy, but ultimately simple and practical applications to undo mindset loops. This is my 8th cycle since July 2021...it is fresh each time. Perhaps you might consider her next offering. The oppressive energy is a pervasive frequency already in the atmosphere, similar to animal instinct before a storm...and there are storms in motion, and more to come. Being empathic, empathetic, makes it challenging to discern what's mine and what's not, esp with regards to familiarity and concern for others wellbeing as well as our own. Arting, music, prayer, journalling, Pilates classes...are a few of the creative expressions ii practice daily...some days less time, sometimes more. Mentoring is perhaps the biggest benefit, along with shares like yours that contribute much to the environment in constructive and meaningful ways. This shall pass...and community mindedness, cooperating with outlets that generate and radiate joy are key.
Wow have finally got onto your doodle art I find you so Amazing and great for myself to follow Thank you for all you show my name is Patricia Foulstone and I try to copy as many as I can again thank you for your Utubing. ❤
I know that you specialty is doodle and forming this abstract patterns but would you consider doing also another genre which is coloring pages for beginners with color pencils? Thanks
Do too make drawing that don’t turn out, how do you deal with it. I do and when it’s in my “book” I get frosted try to make it better, leave it in and move on. Now I practice in a sketch book before I put it in the book. Thanks for sharing.
Certainly practicing on scratch paper with a pencil can help a lot. Before I drew in my journal I used to always just draw on line paper or printer paper. It was low-stress.
Don’t listen to those negative and jealous people! You make wonderful and lovely work When you create you feel high and when you finish you go into a mini depression. I always feel like a failure. So much that I have a repetitive dream where I never succeed in doing what I have to do. Like exams,or solicitations or performing at work. You talk about real important issue’s But you created a lovely work while talking👍I appreciate your efforts🌷🌷🌷
Thank you for producing these videos. Last year I became interested in zentangle drawings but was turned off by the Amway sales slash pyramid atmosphere of the whole thing. It took the enjoyment out of the art. But your videos have reignited my interest and now I am having fun drawing along with you. So thanks again and keep up the great work. P.S. didja hear they found a clay tablet with the Pythagorian theorem on it and it's dated a thousand years before Pythagoras?
Thanks for sharing! I hadn't heard of that. From my studies I knew it was understood that Pythagoras didn't come up with the theorem, but really became its poster child (with the whole religion built around it and such). I'll look it up. 💙🙂💙
You are such a blessing to us all! I wish I could give you a big hug saying everything will be okay because it will. The gospel of today, Luke 9:57-62, might shed some light on the situation. I feel your pain as well as your frustration. Remember, there is nothing perfect in this man made world. There is nothing wrong with that for sure. Ms.Betsi, you are an inspiration to us all, so please never cut yourself short. Many years past there was a child born unto this world. He came as man for one reason to live and die so mankind could live eternally. He performed many miracles, healed the sick, raised the dead, fed the hungry, clothed the poor, comforted the lonely, one good deed after another, He was perfect! For all the good He did in this world He was betrayed, tortured and crucified on the cross, died, and was buried. He rose from the dead, descended into hell after three days ascended into heaven sitting at the right hand of the Father where He will judge the living and the dead. I am talking about the life, death, and Resurrection of Jesus Christ. I am so proud of you Betsi for your courage to bear your soul to the world, you are the greatest my friend. I hope no one takes offense to my words for I speak from love not hatred! I give all the praise and glory to God!
Thank you so much for your kindness 💜🙏🏼. I truly do appreciate your message. We all have our burdens to bear and its important to come to terms with the implications of that.
@betsi_jae You are so right. No one is exempt for a free ride. However, when the load gets too heavy, it is time giving them up to the one who cares! Love what you do and the way you do it, my dear.
If the joy is the journey, and not the destination; if it is the work and not the product, the days seem more satisfying. If we lower our expectations and raise our gratitude, it gets easier. And every now and then when we hit that homerun, enjoy it for a while, and then go back to the routine.
Oh boy, I think your lines, design and thought process is incredible and I aspire to do what you can do. Don’t listen to the others, they are just trying to make themselves feel better. The thing is we are all on a journey and are on different levels. Only compare you to your journey. Not to someone else. Look up to others and learn but don’t compare. Be kind. Would you say to someone else what you say to yourself?
Hey Miss Betsi, I really love this piece, and if you don’t mind I will try it out myself. I know what you mean about being a perfectionist, and how it can make you feel when it doesn’t work out 😥 l loose my temper at myself too…and the results are usually negative, it generally affects the whole day ☹️ One point you made about setting goals, I think I need to try that…especially where my garden is concerned 🙄 As we regularly say here in England…Rome wasn’t built in a day 🙂
Hello again... KK hear just wanted to thank you for your efforts in here... You amaze me lady.... You are an amazing t,alent... So when i watch you and listen its like a learning party and🎉... SO EVERYONE PARTY ON IN HERE WITH MISS BETSI... She. Is. Amazing (Kathy Cramer) KK. KISSED BY KATHY 💋
I would strongly suggest reading the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. I totally relate to your anger /patience issues....after reading his book, I was able to fix the anger issue permanently...well rarely do I get upset! I've always also been a doodler I love watching your art!
I don't know if it helps you to know this, but you are very much appreciated. You are hard work and excellent teaching skills are invaluable to me. You seem like a very kind person and I thank you so much for sharing your art with me. P.S. no matter how many times I try your lovely anemone, I keep screwing it up. Badly. I must try to exercise more patience!!
🦋 thank you so much! There are certainly days when my mental state could stand to be improved and I just have to make the best of it. I'm actually very glad to hear how much you are enjoying the tutorials😊. Patience patience: even if the anemone pattern doesnt click right away, at some point it'll just happen. Sometimes we need to rewire those neural connections and it can take time.
I'm so sorry I completely missed your question. The pen is a refillable watercolor brush pen. I just add around 20-ish drops of india ink and then fill the rest with water. This is an ink wash and craters a very soft shading.
Don’t take life to serious. I laugh at myself when I make a mistake. I change what I can change and know when I can’t change something. Don’t let your high expectation run your life. Keep PEACE WITH YOURSELF!
I struggle with essential tremor in my hands. One of the worst aspects for me is that the finer the movement I'm trying to achieve, the more detailed or precise, the more my hands shake. On a good day, the tremor is virtually undetectable. On bad days, I can barely hold a pencil. I never know whether it's going to be a good day or a bad day.
You live in the most wonderful world perhaps with your eyes closed. Judging , measuring and discarding yourself causes you pain, negates gratitude and eliminates joy. What is most important is your inner world. The inner you creates your outer world. Close your eyes, breathe , slow down and be in your heart. All your ideas of why, perfection, and expectation will melt away. They are your creation. If you dont like them find a new way of being. I enjoy your drawing.
Your compassion, intelligence and kindness shines through in your voice. You are a good teacher. I'm old enough to be your grandmother and I have a degree in Fine Arts, but every single video of yours has taught me things, and I love to draw and listen to your voice. Thank you for your videos, I appreciate them and you,
Wow, thank you! That means so much to me 😊
Two adages I've always loved: "A clean house is the sign of a misspent life." "A clean desk is the sign of an empty mind " :-) Also, two things I keep in mind when something goes wrong. When I have done many steps but lose it all, if I jump in and start again it sometimes takes half the time to get to the same place because I've worked out the bugs. But if mistakes or issues are cropping up in quick succession, it's a signal that I need to take a break and do something else for a while. Realizing that for myself helps to keep me from extreme frustration and other accompanying negative emotions.
I love that! And thank you for the tips. Those actually make a lot of sense. They'll be good to keep in my mental toolbox.💕
To be open and vulnerable takes courage, grace and insight. To create great art while you do it-Wow!
Thank you 💕 thank you. That means a lot to me 😊
Well said 😊
A very wise man said: There's no one in the universe who deserves your compassion more than You.
Sit with that for a moment....
Very true 💕💜💕
Wow! I am going to turn that phrase into an art piece and put it somewhere prominent.
Give yourself the same grace you give to others. You are my absolute favorite artist, I follow you soo closely, you are amazing ‼️ ‼️ I wish you Peace sister girl 😘
Thank you so much 💜💙💜. You're absolutely right. I need to be nice to myself too.
At this point the art was the bonus and the pep talk was what I needed. Trying to patient with my tangles/doodles. Thx Betsy for the chat.
Love your gentle commentary while you do the art. It`s very soothing to listen to your voice and the depth of message is amazing and so appreciated that you are willing to "go there" in your vulnerability. Your art and voice are a therapy in themselves.
Wow thank you so much 💕💜💕
Thank you for sharing your work and your thoughts. Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. I love your reminder to be patient. Yes.
First, beautiful drawing. Second, I needed to hear this. I am much the same, too much of a perfectionist in some ways. And too easily hurt by criticism. But patience? Oddly (or not?) I have a lot of patience with things (cooking, home improvements, art, even my dog!), but none whatsoever with PEOPLE. Including myself, I just realized. Thanks for talking about it, I think a lot of us feel this way. ❤️
We do! It’s okay to feel like that as long as we can pull ourselves out of the funk… you’ve got this! ❤️
You are a great teacher. Thank you for making the videos, You have inspired me to learn new techniques and create in a different way. 💚🤩🙏🌼for me, patience is related to being in my balance, sitting in stillness and knowing that I am important and loved, as are you. The house chores are something, trying to create and do Swedish Death cleaning at the same time. Life is one big oxymoron. The pain of loss of creative work is real and justified. I love that you create beauty amidst the chaos of expectations. You are brave to share emotions in this forum, but you also have real people watching. You have many real followers, ignore the trolls and npc’s. I find guided meditation is helpful for me to process strong emotion and Qigong for energy balance. So much to learn and see, not enough time…sending you timeless love for anyone who reads this.❤
Thankyou for your wise words,we all need reminders constantly on how to cope better.Being more mindful and compassionate even towards ourselves.Thankyou for sharing yourself with us,your commitment and hard work is greatly appreciated!❤
💜😊💜 I'm glad the message resonates with you. It's too easy to be hard on one's self.
I used to be pretty hard on myself when I was younger with expectations and patience, I too had anger issues. I learned later for me it was not accepting what was is what produced all that drama. ...always unhappy and wanting to change and control everything. Don't let others opinions get on your nerves, it's just showing their level of awareness and how much they need to learn about themselves and life. Rampant ego is a dangerous thing indeed! My idea of perfection is your already perfect! There is NEVER going to be another you, so love it and relish in it. It all really boils down to love in the final analysis. That's what we really are. You just keep doing you Betsy! I adore your art and your channel. 💞☮
Wow thank you 💕. I agree that it can come down to a desire for control, which in the end may not be very healthy. Thank you so much for your insight 🦋.
I absolutely love your artwork. You are incredibly honest, we are human and must let go of unrealistic expectations of ourselves. We can’t always be perfect. I often feel that I am not good enough on so many levels, however, as I age (67 now), I am learning to let go. I not berate myself for not keeping my home spotless, my mom used to say “in five years is anyone going to care”. She had a very clean home, which is funny. I am not successful many times, but I am ok. I can kind to myself and accept my failures more easily as I age. Thanks for talking about this, hang in there. Drawing is so good for the soul.
I love your channel, you are doing an amazing job! Your creativity is beyond anything I could even imagine and I love learning from you. You and your art are beyond good enough. Please take time for your self care. We will be here for you ♡
Thank you so much💜💙💜. Sometimes I just need to remind myself that things are okay and that is okay to relax and touch grass😊
Love your doodles and your words. I hope you are ok. It’s really good to talk to people, it helps you process whatever it is in your mind. I will always do these doodles now, I love the feeling they give me, the pride I feel when I’ve completed something and someone else loves it too, and of course the escape time whilst I’m doodling. Thank you. ❤
I find art a very spiritual thing. I love that you brought to us a spiritual message as well as teaching us how you draw. I am finally getting some of the doodles. They’re not like yours and they’re not supposed to be. They are mine, and I am very pleased with what is come out. Your choice of words really explains some of the feelings I have been having. I thank you so much for that. Just in case, there’s anybody that hasn’t got your coloring book, it is worth every penny and more. I bought it not to color, but to use it to trace over to get muscle memory. Thank you for sharing that work with us.
I love this video it is honest and relatable at least for me. I struggle my temper and patience as well. 😊❤
It can be pretty rough. Hopefully with a little mindfulness you n me both can keep things under control💕
Betsi, I totally understand. I’m a perfectionist and nothing is ever good enough. I’m not sure of the stress of being a TH-cam artist. I’m an unemployed scientist for 5 months today, my hair is falling out, my fingers are peeling, I’m taking antidepressants that are kinda helping. I got as far as pulling card stock out and folding the paper today. That seems ridiculous but it was all I could do today. I haven’t allowed myself to be creative for years… there’s always something I feel that I should do before I am able to just be myself. I haven’t played my guitar in years (there’s other reasons for that) I can’t paint, or use my pastels, sew or make jewelry. I love all my previous creative ideas but I just don’t allow it. You’re right about the toxic thoughts. My house is lacking my attention. I enjoy cooking and baking bread but I look at my sink full of dishes and I’m paralyzed.
We are not alone. You are not alone. I wish you and all of us that feel similar feelings a bit of understanding about ourselves. We’re allowed to have bad days, but reach out to others who feel the same and maybe we can help each other.
I love your art and you are appreciated, please trust in yourself and us. We are here for you. Keep going ❤
In addition, you helped me to just pull out that card stock today. Thank you!
I showed my son your art today and he was so impressed and impressed that I was starting to think about being more myself. It might not have happened today but maybe tomorrow or the next day. You have helped me (us) and that is amazing to me. You help people and that should be your blessing. Remember that we are thankful for your honesty. You said what we feel sometimes and it’s been a blessing to me (us)!!! ❤
Holy cow. I totally understand where you're coming from. A few years ago, I was so stressed out that I noticed a little bald spot on my head the size of a quarter. Over the following months the spot grew and grew to an area the size of my hand. After all the frustration I eventually gave up and decided I was going to shave it all off. And then a few weeks later it started to grow back. All because I literally let it go. It can be so hard to just stop, to just let go. But once you do, everything changes. I hope you're able to find yourself again, so you can make art, and feel whole again. 💙💜💙
@@betsi_jae that really means a lot to me. Thanks. You and I and so many others just need to find a way to feel worthy and know that we aren’t alone. You’re doing great!
I also almost shaved my head! But I have a Sampson complex. 🤪
*A very interesting share. I really like this video. The content in the video is really engaging. Wishing you a morning full of energy and success! Will always and forever accompany you! 👍👌🤝🙏🔔*
Thank you very much! 🦋💜🦋
How brave of you to share this insight! Thank you. This past week has been just about the most challenging in the past decade. And I was so frustrated that the only thing I could do was to follow your instructions about the cinnamon roll (?) and it turned out better than I expected. So it's ok that things are crumbling around me because I have paper, pens and colored pencils.....
I'm so sorry. It sounds like you're going through a rough patch yourself. If I could I would make you some tea, serve up some pastries and sit you down at my table so we can draw together. Things can be messed up around us, but a little inner piece can go a long way. I truly wish you the best 💕💙💕
I would bring the orange cranberry scones. Thank you for your kindness. I have since gone on to make gypsum stones with spirals on top. The bad patch seems to have disappeared.@@betsi_jae
perhaps your restless dissatisfaction is the source of your beautiful compositions. They just flow from your fingers. You create such lovely designs.
You make a really good point 🤔. I am a very restless person. Always seeking more. It can be bad if not kept in check, but certainly with the right mindset it can lead to good things.
Sharing your art and your thoughts are both expressions of vulnerability, and I appreciate and admire your ability to do so. Expressing myself in ways that show vulnerability is one of my biggest challenges. I hope you can find peace of mind and self love ❤
Your piece of work is stunning. I love it ❤❤❤ I am new to tangeling . But hooked to it. Hope someday I can come somewhere near your drawing.
Excellent drawing and topic of discussion. Both helpful. I hope you have a much improved week!
I have felt just like that this week. I absolutely love that you shared this and you share your beautiful art. What kind of paper do you use?
Thank you so much! I just use card stock. This one in particular is 67-lb cover stock I got on Amazon. I think the brand is Neenah.
I recently discovered your channel and absolutely love your doodles. Thank you so much for sharing your talent and also being so vulnerable. I have been in therapy for some time now and I also struggle with what my therapist calls "negative self talk". She has explained to me how our brains are wired to be more efficient. So for example... since I was a child whenever I didn't meet the expectations I set for myself my instinct was to self blame. I have this ongoing conversion with myself about how disappointed I am that I failed whatever it is. Many other thoughts come to mind as well. As I got older and and this happened over and over and my response was the same everytime, what actually was happening was the wiring in my brain was looking for the solution, it took the "shortest route" everytime, the learned route, albeit not the best, healthiest route. 50 + years later she's helping me learn how to re-train my brain not to take the known path or route down that dark hole of negative self talk. (I'm sure there is a name for this, I just needed it broken down so I understood it. 😂) Understanding this has made a world of difference in my life. Hopefully I was able to convey a clear explanation so someone else can have hope that they can change this as well. Thank you for allowing this conversation!
It makes sense 💙. The easy solution is to do what we've always done, even if isn't the ideal option.
This piece is stunning. And thank you for being vulnerable and being human, my head was definitely nodding along with your words.
Wow, thank you! 😊 Perfectionism isn't all it's cracked up to be. I'm glad the message resonated with you.
To me, you are such an amazing person and you are such a very patient person. Thank you for sharing 💕
Oh my goodness 😮. Everything you said is part of the reason why I don't have social media (I am hard enough on myself without everyone else joining in!) and everything you said is also the reason that I created my first social media account here on you tube to just say thank you to you as you are amazing, insightful and have such a way of expressing yourself that touches people that you have never even met. Your art work is also beautiful, you are very talented. Thank you for sharing and I am glad to be here. ❤😊
I'm so glad you're here as well 😊. I truly do strive to create a welcoming environment. There's too much nastiness out there, and we need to have little safe spaces to really spread out.
I have felt a similar weight like this often. This type of “perfectionism” is why I started using ink instead of pencil for my art. I never finished anything with pencils of any kind because I was constantly erasing my perceived mistakes until I completely ruined the piece I was trying to create. Drawing with ink and painting actually became a way for me to vent and let go of these feelings. At least while I am creating things. Do you feel this way while creating as well?
Yes! That's exactly why I find ink so therapeutic. There's no way back. No mistakes to fix. The ink is unforgiving, but that's because there's nothing to forgive. Everything is exactly the way it's meant to be and there's no need whatsoever to try to fix it. All you can do is add more ink .
Both your artwork and your words are beautiful, amazing, inspirational, and highly motivating. Im so glad to have come across this video and appreciate your time and effort and your candid sharing.
Thank you so much!
You have an amazing talent...I find your drawings beautiful and it relaxes me to watch you draw and chat with us. Don't worry, we all have off days, or moments. Just know that it is O.K. to not get everything done or done to perfection. I was taught to do a job well if you are going to do it...and I do try, but if it doesn't turn out perfect...I am O.K. with it....at least I tried. You just keep doing what you do ...we love your work!!
Oh thank you! Sometimes that voice inside is the most cruel one, but we have to find ways to quiet it.
Miss Betsy I am a retired Occupational Therapist. Married to a Dr. My family live far away. Many lonely hours. I have a Kumon Marhs centre. Many kiddies have a fear for Maths. Your posts are so relaxing and fills gaps of my lonely hours. I have learnt so much from you. I often let kiddies draw a simple little tangle before starting the class. They love their maths lessons. Your way of using a brush and shading as you go is brilliant. It is Zen in my tangles. Thanks. South Africa.
Thank you so much for the kind message 💙. I'm so glad you are enjoying the drawing sessions. I'm happy to share a little zen whenever I can.
I love your art work. I love your honesty. I love your willingness to share with us. I love your vulnerability. I love your thoughtfulness. Which is also why I love watching your videos❤️
Thank you so much!
Your art is beautiful . 🥰
Oh thank you!
My favorite saying is, " messy hands=happy mind". 😂. Although, having grown up in an overtly abusive home, I must admit I've never been able to suffer ill behaved children. I even made the conscious decision NOT to have children, for fear that I, too, would be abusive. My anxiety and depression were always the reasons I I started drawing. Actually, art saved my life, quite literally. But this gave me A LOT to think about - not only concerning my own behavior, but others' as well. Thank you so much for opening up and sharing that piece of yourself with us. I love my art teachers so much ♥️♥️♥️
Perfectionists are so hard on themselves, believe me l’m one of them! I love your honesty and vulnerability. Not many people can lay their souls open before the world the way you have and I take my hat off to you. As I listened to you articulate such wisdom and truth I kept saying yes, yes, YES!!! It was as if you were inside my head and put into words the emotions and thoughts that constantly run through my head! You’re so spot on! So very glad I found your channel and subscribed.
Thank you for sharing your art and your humanity. I have been glued to your video's for the past week so I feel so much compassion for you as I watch this video. You are helping me to develop my own style with your wise comments. I appreciate all the work and sharing expressed in your videos as frustrating as the sharing may become. I have much gratitude for finding you.
Oh gosh! I SO hear you. As an A type personality everything has to always be better than you did before or you feel like a failure! I'm happy to let you know though, that, for me at least, as I've gotten older and grey, that competition with myself has decreased. It's wonderful to feel "free" thank you so much for sharing! And the drawing is flipping awesome.
Yes! Thank you!💜
Dear Betsy be kind to yourself. Your wonderful drawings and commentary always uplift me. Thank you
So sorry you had to let go of all that hard work. Most, if not all, of us know those feelings. On the other hand, I heard you in a way I couldn't have if the work was useful. Thank you for this lovely art.
I heard you in a way I couldn’t have if the work was useful. Truth.
You are amazing. This is Art with therapy. Watching your art come alive while listening to your experiences and values, sharing thoughts and wellbeing advice, this is just what I needed today. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.❤
Your art and your thoughts are both inspiring! Thank you. Really appreciate your encourage and honesty as well.
You rock Miss Betsi. Not only do I love your doodles but you've got soul. Keep the faith, you got this and you make a difference. ❣
Thank you, I will
Love your drawing Thank you for sharing your process.
So grateful this video popped up last night, just exactly what I needed to hear in this moment!
YOU definitely are not alone. Let that dust accumulate. Nourish your life imperfectly. Invest in your life and well being 1st. Before you know it the grays will come and we want no regrets. During COVID I made it a mission to learn .Thanks to you, Zen Tanglers, Art teachers, junk journalers and line dancers I made it through. Perfection was not necessary. I continue to learn to accept imperfection. It's OK. Thank you for this video! You use a great reminder, erasers. Hope you have more uplifted days than not.
I’ve learned to give myself some grace.
I enjoyed your doodle.
thank you for your insightful words and lovely art. it is so easy to forget to be patient with oneself
I'm new to your channel and find it so inspirational. Listening to you whilst you draw your beautiful designs is so relaxing. Thank you for being you.
This life on earth can really stress you out, so many things to do. I have found since I retired I’m a happier person. I am not stressed out because i have less to do. I’m loving this life of making art every day, walking the dog and just living this life. I have this muscle in my back that I call my stress muscle, I rarely feel it anymore!
I know what you mean... there's always a spot that carries the stress. For me it's the area around my shoulders. I'm glad you're finding peace in your life now that you're retired.
Your art looks absolutely perfect! I used to spend time in the last 40 years thinking I needed to sell my art. Now, I just want to do it to explore the 2-D space on a page. I think you are a wonderful teacher and a great artist. You are very inspirational! 🥰🥰🥰
Found your channel a couple of weeks ago an I'm soooooo glad I did. I love your drawing technigue an hope to try some of them to my own drawings. Your black an white drawings are so dramatic an alive. I love them. Hope you have a wonderful holiday season with family an friends. Your bringing so much joy to lots of people with your art so don't be so hard on yourself. Peace to you fine lady.
I used one of your videos as a tutorial, used the art work on a coffee table. It looks fabulous.
I had the sound turned down though.
This evening I decided to watch another and kept the sound on.. I was surprised to hear you express some of my own thoughts and feelings.
I think sometimes I just pick up in my spirit something that is happening in my life that I had not heard about or seen.
I become anxious. (I have ptsd).
Anyway, that's why I decided to try your art, because the movement of the pen is very repetitive and I find that very calming. I find it keeps me in the moment, and that is why I do it... it is therapeutic and satisfying. I don't have the pressure to succeed at it, I just do it because it gives my mind and spirit a rest.
Thanks for that.
Wow. So much of what you said feels spot on to me. You gave me a lot to think about. Thanks for sharing.
I have watched and learned from the message you give as you create. This message has been specially value to me and I know it is something that I will come back to and listen to many, many times. Thank you sharing, this is one life you have reached. I plan to further this message to others.
Thank you for talking about this topic! The start with I wanna let you know you're an awesome Teacher. I've been looking at others and tangled youtubes, but yours made a lot of sense. table I too I'm not a very patient person. And I hope that you know That you're not in that load alone. Take some time for yourself, and enjoy it. Whatever makes you happy spend time doing it ! We need to go easy on ourselves many times we are on worst critics.
You're absolutely right. We can be our worst enemy, making things out to be worse than they really are. In the end, I deleted the work, made myself some tea and went to bed😅. Sometimes a good nap and a new perspective can change everything.
I appreciate you sharing, I can immensely relate on all levels ❤
What you were experiencing is anxiety. And it's the kind of anxiety that is troubling because we don't know why we are being anxious. It's different if you are waiting for a surgery, or a job interview or something like that. You KNOW why you are anxious, and you even know it's normal. But when you don't know why, it can manifest itself in feelings of depression. So what you did, talk about and think about it, is actually the "cure". Once you figure out what you are anxious about, you can start to work on it - maybe make it better. But identifying it is half the battle. You identified a lack of patience and even a lack of uncertainty about what you are doing. And I'm guessing now that you figured that out, you are on your way to feeling better. I appreciate the effort5 you pt into sharing your wonderful talents. Thank you.
I couldn't agree with you more. I've been learning to appreciate the value of talking. It can make a huge difference.
Beautiful drawing! Beautiful thoughts and expressions. Thank you.
Thank you too 💜
I always look forward to your videos, for both the beautiful art and your voice-overs. This one was particularly needed and helpful. Thank you so much for sharing. I don't remember where I heard the advice, but I know I've heard it from two different sources - when we're struggling emotionally, we need to step back and think, "if a loved one came to me with this, what would I tell them, what comfort would I give them?" We're most often hardest on ourselves because what's happening to us is so subjective. We need to shift our perspective and treat ourselves as we would a loved one. Now that I've written this, I think I need to spend some time following my own advice.
That's good advice for sure. I know I would tell someone else to show a little self compassion if I saw them struggling.
Thank you for this important conversation, alongside your beautiful art.
Thanks for listening😊
Miss betsi u have such insight n are inspirational to me. Ive tried to to do draw a few unfinished pieces from watching u, n fr some reason ive come to tears with hearing u chat. Major deppression dosent have patience. Im bed bound with multiple cronic illnesses , n u tube n drawing is all i know. Trying to get back into drawing with a mental block is hard n you have been my inspiration n you simplify how you talk, when u have a hard time in life with your patience ect. Love your work so much,as you make it look so simple to do, n how you seem to get up to get through another day. Many blessings.💖✏🖊
I’m truly sorry you’re going through such difficulties. I will be here to chat and help distract you whenever I can. You don’t have to be alone.🙏🏽
I'm totally loving the ink wash you put on there!
I'm glad you like it, it's become my favorite way to shade.
Here I am just thinking I’m going to see a cool drawing to follow along with and ended up hearing a message that I really, REALLY needed to hear . You have no idea how much it helped me right in this moment. Thank you. ❤
💙💜💙 I'm so glad the message resonated with you.
Miss Betsy! Thank you so much! I played the video once, I love your beautiful words and am in awe of your stunning artwork 🥰 I replayed your video, using the .25x playback speed. I was able to follow you, and I drew what you drew - but I’ve been experimenting with colour lately. Thank you again enormously, it was such a soul food experience. My wellbeing hormones multiplied many times over 😊 🥰🥰🥰
I'm so glad you're enjoying it 💙💙💙
this amazing, thanx the inspirations.
Appreciate you and love your work. Thank you, we need more humanity in this life 💕 keep going
Thank you, thank you so much! I really appreciate the encouragement 💕
This is beautiful!
Thanks!
Thank you so much 💙. I really appreciate your generosity.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings with us... You have a full supoort from me...all the way from New Zealand. Thank you for your tutorials that Ive learned a lot from your experience and knowledge.
Be strong and proud as being a great teacher...and taught lots of people like me out there.... BIg hug..
You're the best! We all occasionally go through little slumps. Knowing that others care really does make a difference. 💕❤💕
Thanks for sharing
If you drew the same thing just in different ways I wouldn't even care! I love your drawings. I am someone who cannot draw and I've been following your instructions and making my own doodles! i've been sharing them with my friends and they are all impressed how awesome they look. I am also happy with them even if the lines are not perfect. I don't care! haha
That's excellent💙😊💙 and I'm glad you're having fun drawing along.
I also get frustrated and impatient with myself as well. I am what they say is a recovering perfectionist because I expect everything I do to be perfect and I set such high expectations for myself that I never can reach it. I think your lines are very smooth, especially compared to mine LOL. But I try and I know that if I practice as much as you have that I would be able to get my lines to be more smooth and less wonkey LOL I struggle with practicing patience as well. I love everything you do. Thank you for sharing, it helps to know that we are not alone in how we feel.
I'm totally right there with you. It's a struggle but we can get better💙
Amazing once again.
❤ beautiful!
Your art is totally different,very beautiful,wonderful🎉🎉❤❤and best
Thank you so much 😀
In the spirit of honesty and vulnerability, I reach out with some concern. I spent my whole life saying very much the same sentiments of why can't I just get my life together like everyone one else until I learned the answer was actually I literally couldn't. I found out I had ADHD and it literally saved my life. Not having motivation and not having energy to do things was directly tied to a lack of dopamine in the brain required to do said tasks. Granted, I did choose to get meds, but just learning this about myself gave me the ability to give myself grace over the things I struggled with. Like you said, these things haven't always been talked about, but the ADHD community is getting louder so symptoms can be identified and addressed and I implore you to maybe take a stroll down the rabbit hole to see if maybe you belong here too.
@ashleyd595 I am in my 60s and just found out I had ADHD last year. It will sound strange to many people, I know, but you'll understand - I started to laugh and cry with relief because it meant I wasn't just worthless, I'm wired differently and that shifted my perspective entirely. That doesn't mean I don't get frustrated with myself and life, but now I know where it comes from, I can look for work-arounds instead of sinking into a big pile of hopelessness.
You're absolutely right😊. It's a good idea to become educated about our quirks. It may be that there are medical reasons behind it all.
today, Friday, is day 10 of a 40-day free online course initiated by Lisa natoli and the concerns, universal concerns, personal issues et al, have simple, not easy, but ultimately simple and practical applications to undo mindset loops. This is my 8th cycle since July 2021...it is fresh each time. Perhaps you might consider her next offering. The oppressive energy is a pervasive frequency already in the atmosphere, similar to animal instinct before a storm...and there are storms in motion, and more to come. Being empathic, empathetic, makes it challenging to discern what's mine and what's not, esp with regards to familiarity and concern for others wellbeing as well as our own. Arting, music, prayer, journalling, Pilates classes...are a few of the creative expressions ii practice daily...some days less time, sometimes more. Mentoring is perhaps the biggest benefit, along with shares like yours that contribute much to the environment in constructive and meaningful ways. This shall pass...and community mindedness, cooperating with outlets that generate and radiate joy are key.
I have been told it is all about acceptance. We need to learn how to accept ourselves when we don't always succeed.
True, Very true 😔
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Wow have finally got onto your doodle art I find you so Amazing and great for myself to follow Thank you for all you show my name is Patricia Foulstone and I try to copy as many as I can again thank you for your Utubing. ❤
This piece of artwork is amazing. Are there few new patterns in there?
Thank you so much 😊. I'm planning on making little tutorials on a few of these doodles. It'll be nice having them in the patterns playlist.
Thanks. Real time please 🙂
I know that you specialty is doodle and forming this abstract patterns but would you consider doing also another genre which is coloring pages for beginners with color pencils? Thanks
Do too make drawing that don’t turn out, how do you deal with it. I do and when it’s in my “book” I get frosted try to make it better, leave it in and move on. Now I practice in a sketch book before I put it in the book. Thanks for sharing.
Certainly practicing on scratch paper with a pencil can help a lot. Before I drew in my journal I used to always just draw on line paper or printer paper. It was low-stress.
Beautiful
Beautiful❤
thank you 💐
Don’t listen to those negative and jealous people! You make wonderful and lovely work
When you create you feel high and when you finish you go into a mini depression. I always feel like a failure. So much that I have a repetitive dream where I never succeed in doing what I have to do. Like exams,or solicitations or performing at work.
You talk about real important issue’s
But you created a lovely work while talking👍I appreciate your efforts🌷🌷🌷
☺️ Thank you. Some weeks are just tough.
Thank you for producing these videos. Last year I became interested in zentangle drawings but was turned off by the Amway sales slash pyramid atmosphere of the whole thing. It took the enjoyment out of the art. But your videos have reignited my interest and now I am having fun drawing along with you. So thanks again and keep up the great work.
P.S. didja hear they found a clay tablet with the Pythagorian theorem on it and it's dated a thousand years before Pythagoras?
Thanks for sharing! I hadn't heard of that. From my studies I knew it was understood that Pythagoras didn't come up with the theorem, but really became its poster child (with the whole religion built around it and such). I'll look it up. 💙🙂💙
You are such a blessing to us all! I wish I could give you a big hug saying everything will be okay because it will. The gospel of today, Luke 9:57-62, might shed some light on the situation. I feel your pain as well as your frustration. Remember, there is nothing perfect in this man made world. There is nothing wrong with that for sure. Ms.Betsi, you are an inspiration to us all, so please never cut yourself short. Many years past there was a child born unto this world. He came as man for one reason to live and die so mankind could live eternally. He performed many miracles, healed the sick, raised the dead, fed the hungry, clothed the poor, comforted the lonely, one good deed after another, He was perfect! For all the good He did in this world He was betrayed, tortured and crucified on the cross, died, and was buried. He rose from the dead, descended into hell after three days ascended into heaven sitting at the right hand of the Father where He will judge the living and the dead. I am talking about the life, death, and Resurrection of Jesus Christ. I am so proud of you Betsi for your courage to bear your soul to the world, you are the greatest my friend. I hope no one takes offense to my words for I speak from love not hatred! I give all the praise and glory to God!
Thank you so much for your kindness 💜🙏🏼. I truly do appreciate your message. We all have our burdens to bear and its important to come to terms with the implications of that.
@betsi_jae You are so right. No one is exempt for a free ride. However, when the load gets too heavy, it is time giving them up to the one who cares! Love what you do and the way you do it, my dear.
If the joy is the journey, and not the destination; if it is the work and not the product, the days seem more satisfying. If we lower our expectations and raise our gratitude, it gets easier. And every now and then when we hit that homerun, enjoy it for a while, and then go back to the routine.
Exactly! I couldn't have said it any better💙
Oh boy, I think your lines, design and thought process is incredible and I aspire to do what you can do. Don’t listen to the others, they are just trying to make themselves feel better. The thing is we are all on a journey and are on different levels. Only compare you to your journey. Not to someone else. Look up to others and learn but don’t compare. Be kind. Would you say to someone else what you say to yourself?
I completely agree. We can be so hard on ourselves.
Hey Miss Betsi, I really love this piece, and if you don’t mind I will try it out myself. I know what you mean about being a perfectionist, and how it can make you feel when it doesn’t work out 😥 l loose my temper at myself too…and the results are usually negative, it generally affects the whole day ☹️ One point you made about setting goals, I think I need to try that…especially where my garden is concerned 🙄 As we regularly say here in England…Rome wasn’t built in a day 🙂
Hello again...
KK hear just wanted to thank you for your efforts in here... You amaze me lady.... You are an amazing t,alent...
So when i watch you and listen its like a learning party and🎉...
SO EVERYONE PARTY ON IN HERE WITH
MISS BETSI... She. Is. Amazing
(Kathy Cramer) KK. KISSED BY KATHY 💋
Wow, thank you. 😊💕
I would strongly suggest reading the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. I totally relate to your anger /patience issues....after reading his book, I was able to fix the anger issue permanently...well rarely do I get upset! I've always also been a doodler I love watching your art!
I'll check it out!
Heard this recently "PATIENCE isn't the ability to wait, but how you react while waiting"
So true 💜
I don't know if it helps you to know this, but you are very much appreciated. You are hard work and excellent teaching skills are invaluable to me. You seem like a very kind person and I thank you so much for sharing your art with me. P.S. no matter how many times I try your lovely anemone, I keep screwing it up. Badly. I must try to exercise more patience!!
🦋 thank you so much! There are certainly days when my mental state could stand to be improved and I just have to make the best of it. I'm actually very glad to hear how much you are enjoying the tutorials😊. Patience patience: even if the anemone pattern doesnt click right away, at some point it'll just happen. Sometimes we need to rewire those neural connections and it can take time.
Beautiful. Can I ask what pen you are using for the shading? It looks like it has a brush on the end. Thank you
I'm so sorry I completely missed your question.
The pen is a refillable watercolor brush pen. I just add around 20-ish drops of india ink and then fill the rest with water. This is an ink wash and craters a very soft shading.
Don’t take life to serious. I laugh at myself when I make a mistake.
I change what I can change and know when I can’t change something.
Don’t let your high expectation run your life.
Keep PEACE WITH YOURSELF!
I struggle with essential tremor in my hands. One of the worst aspects for me is that the finer the movement I'm trying to achieve, the more detailed or precise, the more my hands shake. On a good day, the tremor is virtually undetectable. On bad days, I can barely hold a pencil. I never know whether it's going to be a good day or a bad day.
That sounds awful, and I'm sure that's got to be frustrating. I wish for you lots of good tremor-free days🙏🏼
You live in the most wonderful world perhaps with your eyes closed. Judging , measuring and discarding yourself causes you pain, negates gratitude and eliminates joy. What is most important is your inner world. The inner you creates your outer world. Close your eyes, breathe , slow down and be in your heart. All your ideas of why, perfection, and expectation will melt away. They are your creation. If you dont like them find a new way of being. I enjoy your drawing.
Thank you 🌄