The 10 biggest turn-offs for men and why men shouldn't fight them!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ส.ค. 2024
- Hey guys! Today we're talking about the 10 biggest turn-offs for men. These will cause the male version of the "ick". All of these are red flags, so keep paying attention/ looking for them so that you can have a healthier and happier dating life. Let me know below what other turn offs I missed!
I'm going to call the big one "denial of peace" men need their quiet time, and if they can't get it, they will want to leave to look for it.
Best comment of them all.
So true
Women violating men boundaries... Tale as old as time.
THIS!! #1 issue!
Most American women aren't worth crossing the street for. No peace and a partner that will bail at the first sign of difficulties is all you will get here. If you have the money go overseas and get you a wife that just wants to take complete care of a man that will love her.
Stupidity, bad manners, and no sense of humor are three big turn-offs for me.
yeah, you can't both be stupid and also give orders. that's kinda like beggars can't be choosers. I'm ok if you're not that smart. all you have to do is be pleasant. it's not rocket science. then we're good to go. be sneaky? oh, then you're not that dumb after all. ejection seat [click] 🚀
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@@mobilemcsmarty1466 \\ Goose, I can't reach the ejection handle.
You met my ex-?
It's rare to meet a woman with a sense of humour
@@EE12CSVT -- Those who haven't been infected by feminism, and live looking to be misogynistly offended, are more likely to appreciate a mature man's humor.
Biggest turnoffs for me are
1. Superficial women
2. Materialistic women
3. Self absorbed women
4. Women that think they are strong and independent and don't need no man
5. Women addicted to social media
6. Women that think they are entitled and privileged
7. Women that think they are boss babes
8. Women with high body counts
9. Women that are combative
10. Women that aren't feminine
Great list!
In other words, about 90% of women...
@@tdrive398 Yup exactly
Bingo, best list award goes to 👏 👏 👏thats 93% of all women
@@tdrive39899.99% of women
A big turn off for me is poor communication and a woman just expecting a man to read her mind.
I approached a woman in a pub after she had been looking at me. She straight up rejected me, then when I turned to walk away. She got angry that I didn't try and "convince her" to have a drink. Apparently "Yes means no, when she wants it to" No chance, I'm way past playing games. I told her "Sorry, I'm not looking for a woman who plays games, if I want games I play my Xbox."
a relation the woman can't adore her man will end sooner rather than later.
I had a woman pull that shit once. I told her "if I have to convince you, you're not worth it." 😂
I don’t blame you! I’ve never played games with a man.
@@thisdyingsoul76yup. It’s either she wants you or she doesn’t. Games are pointless.
Yup. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 5-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here.
Releasing your grip on someone you deeply care about can be a formidable challenge. I found myself in a comparable predicament when my 12-year relationship came to an end. Despite the odds, I couldn't bear to let her slip away. I exhausted every avenue to reunite with her, eventually turning to a spiritual advisor for guidance, whose intervention ultimately facilitated her return.
Incredible! Where did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with her?
Suzanne Ann Walters is the name of an exceptional spiritual counselor renowned for her ability to reunite you with your former partner.
Thank you for this invaluable information; I've just checked her out online. Very impressive indeed!
Try as we might, we cannot impose our feelings on another, no matter how intense. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back in the game. To your benefit, I hear there are an incredible number of women unable to find mates. Learn, or re-learn how to flirt. Spruce up your conversation skills. Dress well. Don't expect instant results, treat it as a game. Cultivate a hobby or two. Select your hunting grounds, I would avoid bars were I you. Finally, be selective, you may have to choose...
Being super into astrology or horoscopes. Makes her instantly intolerable.
Amen brother!
I thought I could put up with it, and she jested it was just fun; but EVERY day, there was something astrolgical.
@@yitzharos god, sounds torturous
As a sagittarius, I agree.
You are literally the ONLY woman that I have heard say the words "A man wants to be wanted for who he is as a person and not for what he can provide." For me myself, this is something I've felt for a very long time but I've literally found ZERO women that have ever just appreciated me for who I am as a person. It's insane. I've always felt so damn alone in thinking this way. Honestly it's insane. Completely bewilders me that you're the only one I've ever heard say this...
Hi guy. As a women I felt like that for a man, I fell hard. I found out I was his side chick of 13 girlfriends he was contacting using different names. I almost married this narcissist, glad I found put what type of person he was and broke my engagement and moved to another state, excommunicated him by changing my cell no. I am single, ready to see what God has for me, someone just for me. I am patiently waiting for my king. Have not been w any other male, just working on self improvement, and living life peacefully. Have an awesome week. Thanks also to Emily.
A good woman doesn't want a man for what he can provide, but she is biologically programmed to want a man who CAN provide. That's your role as a man, so embrace it. If you're not able to provide and you can't get a woman, then fix yourself first.
@@loranndennison3793that made zero sense God does not have a single person picked out for you you need to pursue a man sitting on the sidelines waiting is not gonna do anything
@@dancleary4101it's a figure of speech, she said she's taking it easy until she meets someone nice; relax, my guy
the thing about being stuck in a labyrinth of ideology is to those mentally stuck in the matrix, they can't even see its walls - and yet, it warps and twists reality around them, even down to what kind of thoughts they can think - because that's what ideology is.
1:24 Women rude to service industry workers indicates she is pretentious, better than others
3:05 She flirts with other men to make her man jealous, indicating she is still childish
4:01 Poor hygiene. Women who don't wash their hair but work out.
5:25 Always uses her phone. She is never present.
5:47 Incessant complaints
6:27 Bashes her ex, talks incessantly about her exes
7:24 Smoking it's a habit that is difficult to break, including vaping
7:55 Bad driving. unsafe
8:52 Manipulative. Plays games. Acts as if she's not incessantly on her phone. She chooses not to.
9:41 Selfishness and a lack of effort.
Find someone who loves you and appreciates your love, and if you can't find that, don't give your love to women who are not blood relatives. That's why I left my ex wife. She appreciated nothing and demanded everything.
None of these are gendered vices. Nobody should be like this.
@@matthewcaldwell8100 Nobody said they were, however that wasn't the point of the video.
@@jthomascruz4890 yeah, she literally did
The list with added commentary:
1 rude to service people. Pretentious, judgmental, INCONSIDERATE.
*The way she treats others now is the way she will treat you later.* Men know this will boomerang on them.
2 flirts with other men, to make him jealous -- phony, created drama.
3 Poor hygiene, stinky.
4 always on her phone. Can't make any decisions without consulting her posse. Has a posse.
5 ceaseless complaining. Negative energy.
6 gossip about other men, past men. Too much about her past, can't let it go.
7 Smoking. Vaping, heavy drinker, gambling, other vices. Bad habits, lack of self control.
8 bad driving. Aggressive, creates trouble, risky acts; could be a thrill seeker, poor self control again.
9 manipulative. games.
10 selfishness, lack of effort for the relationship.
also:
Doesn't ever shut up.
Needs constant attention. Super needy.
Tests you over and over. Personal problems.
Can't keep "normal secrets," doesn't understand that telling others about your intimate acts, information, is wrong. Reveals things about you to others that is damaging, personal.
Paranoid you are thinking of cheating on her, constantly assuming you are checking out and want to hit on other women.
Demonstration of lack of morals, poor or no values; petty theft, excuses immoral acts, justifies all kinds of bad behavior "She had it coming." "They are rich so stealing isn't wrong."
Delights in the suffering or troubles of others. no sense of humor. Insults others for fun, but can't take it.
There are hundreds of such things.
@@antimatters6283You’re basically describing a narcissist-
They’re definitely a boatload of trouble😢
How she treats her dog and people of lower status in general is how she's gonna treat you in the long term.
I would say a lot of women treat their dog better than they treat their men. 😂
@@thisdyingsoul76 I had a girlfriend who I realized after a while that she was letting her dog alone for the whole weekends to spend time with me. That was kind of a turn off, unfortunately. How would she treat her kids?
@@sbarmiueenl yikes.
When my wife and I first met, my dog was only 6 months old. I made it a point if we were over 3 hours to come home and check on him.
The one time I didn't, I was traveling out of town for work. Had I just gone and did the job and came back, I would have been 4 hours. She tagged along and we went for supper before coming home. Poor pup messed in his crate. At least she helped. She bathed the puppy while I cleaned the crate. 🤣
I look at how they treat pets and children. If they're attentive and caring, that's a good sign. If they're aloof or indifferent, that's a red flag. If they're overbearing or aggressive, that is a NO GO.
@@thisdyingsoul76 This one is a keeper.Hope all is well for you two.👍
A huge turn off for me is a lack of proper communication. Passive aggressiveness, mind games, shit tests, hinting around, and so on are no way to be talking to anyone, let alone your partner. Just be straightforward and have regular adult conversations. You'll be surprised how much more often you'll get what you want.
Exactly!
Mind games. That's a good one.
If she keeps talking about her ex then that's really who she wants to be with
That hits a lil bit too close to home, add no humor to that and you get my ex 😂
Yes
Red flags I watch for are:
1) Arrogant
2) Rude
3) Shallow
4) Materialistic
5) Selfish
6) Dishonest
7) Superficial
Any one of these red flags cause me to say goodbye.
Personality and behavioral choices are the biggest flags for me as well. Have you had the unfortunate experience to date someone who had all those?
@kawh8719 Unfortunately, so. It was about 20 years ago though. Even gave her a second chance after she cheated on me with one of my best friends. After I broke up with her, that's when I started keeping an eye out for those traits as red flags.
You just listed the same thing 7 times my dude
One of the things that turn me off/away from the woman is when she can't stop talking about when she's on the rag. I don't need to hear about it or know about it.
Caked on make up and fillers
Any suggestion that you’re interested in men because of how much money they’re willing to spend on you instantly ends all further conversation.
No compassion/empathy is a huge red flag for me, high "body count" tends to be an indicator of an inability to pair bond and high possibility of sociopathic behavior and lack of compassion.
Tattoos, face piercings, single mom. I am at a point in my life where I no longer desire a woman in my life. And I am doing fine. And happy I am not a young man.
The MGTOW life is awesome.
Yes brothers it is ✌️
I'm with you on the piercing thing and to a lesser extent the tattoos. I know a woman that has a face piercing that I might have asked out by now if it weren't for that face piercing. On the tattoo front... I'd have to really like the girl otherwise to pursue a woman with tattoo(s). I'm not THRILLED about being with a single mom, but... I'm aware that at my age (46) if I want to be with a woman around my age I might be better off with a single mom (I'd kind of like to have a kid- a step kid is better than no kid).
If I were younger, I would tolerate a subtle - not multiple - face piercings. A small artistic tattoo - preferably not visible - OK. At my age, face piercing in an older woman says 'slut'. Tattoos say 'trailer trash'.
@@brass427 face tattoos yes the too words you say; however, I know women with full sleeves, not trailer trash, very financially stable have ever priced what sleeve costs.. I guess not.
I understand that many females will mistreat a male when she realizes she is attracted to him. This is a total turn-off for me.
This this this. We both know what it is, an insecurity and natural behavior, but it's gone off the rails these days.
Seriously. It's like they can't trust that you want them until they prove to themselves a guy is so desperate he will take any abuse. Of course that makes him a simp and he is ick-listed to oblivion. Women are their own worst enemies.
When the woman is attracted to the man or when the man is attracted to the woman? E.g. I know he likes me so I'll mess around a bit. Or I like him so I get petty and jealous.
1. High bodycount (over 6.)
2. Promiscuity (partying, revealing content online.)
3. Male friends.
4. Smoking, drugs, and excessive drinking.
5. Heavily tattooed/pierced.
6. Disrespect.
7. Disloyalty.
8. Badmouthing others.
9. Lying.
10. Bratty rude behaviors.
11. Entitlement.
12. Chaotic personality.
13. Strong feminism or far left.
14. Nagging.
15. Masculine behavior.
The wife hit 6 of the 10...waited until after we married to bring out those behaviors. It's interesting being virtually single while still married.
Yeah, had similar... not good
It is a trap when someone hides those bad things and they wait until you get married to come out. I wish those marriages could be nullified and not considered real marriage because it was a scam!
@@Jules-740yep. This is what ppl dont understand when me fell for it. Our fault is falling for it due to many reasons, but we wouldn't choose them if we would knew. Time to teach our offspring to avoid those traps and spread the word so others wont get in.
That's why you should always investigate the woman before you commit to her. Have one of your female friends go out with her, get her drunk, and then ask her questions pertaining to your relationship. Most women are most honest when they are drunk
No shit
Perfect marriages or relationships aren't real; they're all different. What works for one person might not work for someone else. But I've come to understand that there's always a solution to problems. Five years ago, my wife and I were close to divorcing because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was tough, but we survived.
I really understand why what you're saying matters, and I truly want to find happiness as well. I have someone special in my life, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine living without her; my love for her is deep. I really hope she comes back, and I'm fully committed to making it happen. We've tried different ways, like therapy, to make things right.
Parting ways with someone you deeply care about is never easy, but in my particular circumstance, I was aided by a spiritual mentor who averted the collapse of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Your guidance is valued. I'll immediately seek her out online. Appreciate it. I'm hopeful that implementing this method will also bring me success; I miss her dearly.
You are Welcome
This is the 3rd time I have seen this exact comment. I think this is a copypaste bot.
Two green flags: Take responsibility for your own choices; Communicate openly.
Taking responsibility, but in a healthy way, is the sign of a keeper.
In my experience women tend to blame themselves for a lot of things, but have the need to deflect that, and do so in unhealthy ways.
Those who don't tend to be openly depressed about it instead, which is also a struggle, but at least one you can face together.
And I suppose a few are actually deluded enough to fully believe it's never them.
But just owning things without stressing about them is rare.
Careful, that might be a dude.
I once had a girlfriend apologize to me for something I can't remember now but it was something sort of serious. And the thing is she looked like she really meant it. I'll never forget that part
Flirting with another guy to make another jealous isn't something you should get over in your 20's...That's something you should have learned in your EARLY teen years.
It's NOT acceptable. In fact, you can even teach the earlier principles of that idea by the time they are 5.
Teasing a guy with infidelity to make him pursue you?
"Oh look at me, i'm not loyal if you don't immediately stop this."
Well, ok then. Go. You can't be disloyal to your man anymore if i'm OUT.
I totally hate smoking and no matter how attractive I find a woman that smokes, I would NEVER consider to approach her with the intention to maybe make her my GF/wife.
Any substance vice is a hard NO for me. Not sitting close to, or kissing an ash tray. Not attempting to be intelligent with a brain on alcohol. Not going to spend my life with a pot head.
I absolutely hate smoking. 🚭
Smoking is disgusting. And substance abuse in general is repulsive. I'm not gonna babysit an alcoholic or a junkie. And I'm not gonna kiss an ashtray.
Absolutely. Yuk.
I have a cousin who is married and they both smoke. In '22 he told me their cigarette budget was a combined $600/month. Sadly, he entered hospice care for lung disease and the wife is still smoking.
Smoking is one of those things where people who have the same habits tend to get along. Smokers are usually fine with other smokers and non-smokers usually aren't. Personally, Smoking is one of my very few dealbreakers. If you smoke, nothing else about you matters for consideration as a potential romantic partner. I would never consider it. Just instantly and completely ruled out. I don't think most men share that view, but a significant number of non-smoker men probably do.
Smoking is my ONLY hard and fast deal-breaker. My first girlfriend smoked (we were 15-16), and I remember promising myself "never again".
As i smoke i dont mind and is positive. Smokers and non smokers dont match and i understand why. Been on both sides.
Tattoos, metal in the face, mouth enlargement procedure, swearing, spitting, pink, blue and green hair, saying 'patriarchy' even once.
or "pronouns" lolo
@@Qingeaton Cheers.
mouth enlargement ? :O
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Narcissistic attitude. For example; always needing to be the center of attention, constantly using pronouns of self such as me, I, mine, etc., frequently blaming other for her shortcomings, getting angry if you have an opinion that is counter hers. If you call her out on this, she will first try to deny it and if that doesn't work, she will try to turn it around on you. It makes one question if she has any regard for anyone else besides herself. Major RED flag.
To me, if I see somebody mistreats people in the service sector, I assume they don't care about other people.
i'd add 7 huge turn-offs for me :
1 - women *expecting you to mind read* instead of saying things straight out
2 - women *unable to come to a date without having 30 confirmations* of the confirmation of the confirmation that the date will happen at the time and day we agreed, i hate this waste of time... It's like if people had no brain and couldn't keep their word for a date 7 days after if not reminded daily... wth.
3 - women *making up scenarios constantly in their head* instead of acknowledging and grasping reality
4 - this one triggers me more and more with the years : women *unable to summarize* !!! "he said... so i said... then he said... and then i thought... so i said...[etc]" OMG can't you just summarize your thoughts and tell me you met your friend and you disagree with him about the weather ??? 🤬
5 - any kind of *plastic surgery* ... bye.
6 - *wonderbras, too much perfume or makeup* , i hate fake, and the lack of subtility and dignity.
7 - and obviously, no trash : selfish, immature, high body count materialistic and superficial 304's, but that's common to any sane man, not sure it's worth mentioning
Wth is a wonder bra? I'ma Google it now
@@maverickeugene3621 maybe i did a mistake in the translation ? it's bras that are padded to fake bigger breasts (and also add a "pushup" effect most of the time). But wonderbras is the name of a brand, the first one that imported this in my country in the 2000's, so in my language we use this brand as the word for it, and i don't find another proper translation.
Please what do you call a 304? (English not my mother language, is it slang ?)
@@jige1225 On a calculator, when you turn it upside down, 304 looks like the word “hoe”, which is a garden tool, but also American slang for “whore”.
@@jige1225 304 h o e they are a lock that can be opened by many keys.
Flirting with other men - it may be to get her man's attention, or it can also just be to feed her ego.
either way, it should get your attention and be followed by "hasta la vista"
This is really a serious problem. It can get you beat up or even killed. If you think there's something better out there, you're free to go.
I hope this doesn't sound cold. I, after all these years, now look as a partner as an investment. The biggest investment probably. What is the return. Is your partner an endless expense who contributes nothing and is just going to bleed your assets dry while constantly saying "yeah but what have you done for me today". Use you head and look at things honestly. This goes for men and women. The contribution doesn't need to be fifty/fifty, but there does have to be a contribution.
Or you could look at it under Covey's rules: Win-Win or No Deal
Let's be honest most women aren't an investment they're a liability.
Women today have become vampiric leeches who will run at the first sight of trouble. They used to line up I need somebody that's going to put money in my pocket. My response to that is "Why don't you get off your ass and get a job princess"? Are you that lazy or entitled? Are you afraid you'll break your $80 manicure?
On that note, a $5,000 handbag. Doesn’t matter who paid for it. Doesn’t matter if there was a 30% discount.
Smoking making kissing gross. There are worse things, but it's a turn off.
A woman's hair, if clean, is a powerful attractant. One woman flirted with me by casually flipping her soft hair in my face. I was smitten and we have stayed married for 30+ years.
I loved the smell of my partners hair after she'd just washed it, so much so that when she passed away from cancer, I kept a bottle of her shampoo in the shower and evry now and then when I was really missing her would use it myself, it was just like she was back in the shower with me, something I miss.
if we are taking things slow and waiting, that means no hook ups on the side with other people.
I've maintained for years that while women mature faster than men early on, they do not mature mentally & emotionally beyond their teenage years, ergo their emotionally charged & silly behaviour. Men, on the other hand, grow up no matter what.
Tbh most western women are left in an immature state until 35yo or so, people believe they are more mature because they're more obedient compared to men during teenage since they have less testosterone, but that's not a proof of maturity, there are a few hints to guess one's maturity :
1 - Ability to get out of the natural selfishness of kids that should happen between 8 and 12yo, and judge the world and people around with another point of view than oneself.
2 - Ability to stop idolizing their own parents, and acknowledge they aren't perfect, they're just human beings, that should happen at late teenage. Then accept their flaws, and deal with it, that should happen at beginning of adulthood.
3 - Ability to limit their desires and delay the rewards, self control should be taught between 4-7yo. An adult shouldn't let his impulses dictate his behavior, otherwise he become unfaithful, obese or any other problem coming from the lack of self restraint.
Just with the amount of selfish, egocentric, overweight or unfaithful, women there is in western countries, we can see they're pretty much pampered into an eternal child state, by being overprotected, indulged and letting them being entitled, it's encouraged from birth by most parents, telling their child they're special and unique, and acting like if the entire world revolved around her, while they're not and the word doesn't care, but the kids will believe their parents no matter what, and will mature very late in life, most of the time, too late.
There is a segment of the population that never matures emotionally past middle school.
There is also a segment of the female population who does grow up and continues to learn and mature emotionally throughout their lives.
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Tbh most western women are left in an immature state until 35yo or so, people believe they are more mature because they're more obedient compared to men during teenage since they have less testosterone, but that's not a proof of maturity
there are a few hints to guess one's maturity :
1 - Ability to get out of the natural selfishness of kids that should happen between 8 and 12yo, and judge the world and people around with another point of view than oneself.
2 - Ability to stop idolizing their own parents, and acknowledge they aren't perfect, they're just human beings, that should happen at late teenage. Then accept their flaws, and deal with it, that should happen at beginning of adulthood.
3 - Ability to limit their desires and delay the rewards, self control should be taught between 4-7yo. An adult shouldn't let his impulses dictate his behavior, otherwise he become unfaithful, obese or any other problem coming from the lack of self restraint.
No’9 is the big one for me. Manipulative women are a major red flag.
They’re all manipulative, though.
For the first one: Men, as providers and protectors, are naturally in a service industry of sorts to her. If she's like that to waitstaff, she'll be that way to him.
For the second one: If we think for a moment that the person we are supposed to trust the most has us constantly watching our back lest she leave, she was never ours.
For the fifth one: Ladies, you don't like when we complain about anything, so why is it okay for you to do it?
For the sixth one: How you talk about your ex is how we expect you talk about us to others. Doubly so if you talk about your friends the same way you talk about your ex.
For the ninth one: Manipulation is the attempt to supplant someone's will with your own. If you feel you must do that, then we are not compatible.
For the tenth one: We aren't looking for a straight trade of material goods and experiences for physical intimacy. We are providing the proof that we can and will hold up our end of the relationship, and are looking for proof that she will, too. Why women tend to presume that proof is physical intimacy confuses me, as I personally take sex pretty seriously. Unless, of course, it's an easy way to make us think they are as all-in as I am, when it's meaningless to them...
Pretty much everything that has turned me off of a lot of women. The playing games thing is a huge one. For me, it's also passive-aggressive behavior. I have a complete, almost irrational hatred for passive-aggressiveness and I will walk away from a woman who displays it.
A big turn off for me is the lack of a vault, or even the understanding of what a vault is. If she simply cannot STFU and not talk to others about things that should remain between the two of you that is a HUGE red flag and major turn off because it's a direct confirmation she cannot be trusted. I don't care if you have a need to discuss it and get an outside opinion to try and figure out how to deal with it, you need to ask me and if I say NO then you don't talk about it. If I find you've stepped outside my boundaries and shared intimate details with someone I didn't want to have them we're done. To me this is just as bad as cheating on me and I will NOT tolerate it. Part of being in a relationship with someone is the acceptance that some things will simply just stay within the relationship irrespective of how much you want to share them. Period.
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Yup, I agree
My feelings exactly
Agree only to a point. If what you ‘say no’ to her talking about or seeking advice from other people about (btw that ‘I don’t care if you need outside advice to deal with it you ask me first and if I say no you don’t talk about it’ sounds very aggressive and controlling) happens to involve you physically or mentally abusing her in some way then you would be the problem not that she has a red flag. If you were to ask her nicely not to talk about something private or embarrassing which is reasonable for you not to want disclosed and she ignores you and violates your privacy that would be one thing. If you are ordering her not to talk about things she truly needs help with in order to ‘deal with’ you and you give threats of dire consequences if she does so that’s a whole different animal
@@LeashMechanic "Deal with you" means . . . "deal with *you."* Not somebody *else* . . . .
I’m not gonna give leeway on the driving thing because she could be driving our kids around. Learn how to be a safe attentive driver. Other people can die if you aren’t.
A fair while back I was talking to someone who I liked and she was checking her phone a bit but nothing too bad. She mentioned that she liked Italian food and a friend of mine was front of house manager in an Italian restaurant so I took her there. Oh boy it was bad. The first half hour her nose was stuck to the screen and she did not even look at the menu. When the waiter came over to ask if we had decided what she wanted she picked up the menu for all of 30 seconds before going back to her phone. I paid for my drink and left about half an hour after that. She apparently did not even notice I had gone for 3/4 of an hour. Then the next day she tried to give me an ear bashing over it and refused to believe it was an hour, so I sent a screen shot of the receipt and blocked her.
Good. Sadly, I don’t think she’s learned her lesson about that after being ditched only once over that.
No reciprocation
A woman who doesn't know what she actually wants. You know the kind, the ones that always follows the trends and listens to everyone else instead of forming her own opinion.
A woman who doesn't want to lead, but also doesn't want to be lead. Doesn't know where she wants to eat, but shoots down every single suggestion.
...and then says you are too boring to keep her entertained.
💯. The worse...
A women who still has her friends opinions in her head and uses them on you. Us men like a woman who can make a decision. Your friends won't be there forever like your relationship or marriage should be
For my last few relationships, what I saw as a potential red flag after date ONE turned out to be the very thing that caused the end of the relationship about two years later.
Bad breath
The need to announce she is "Drama Free". This tells me that if things get tough for any reason, she is going to bail. Being without drama and the need to announce it, are two different things.
You are absolutely correct...smoking is a huge turn-off.
Completely agree. I dated one girl who smoked when I was around 19. I got really tired of kissing an ashtray goodnight. Disgusting! Never again.
unless you yourself smoke and then it's not.
@@Qingeaton Understandable. One nasty tasting mouth meeting another...ecstacy!
Girls who smoke are hot ❤
It doesnt bother me if she smokes or not, but thats me
If I went out with a woman. And she was flirting with all the other guys, when she turned around, I would be gone.
I have done this exact thing. I went to a party where there was a girl that I had had one date with, and I think the plan was for us to start cementing things, as we were both interested in each other. But at the party she spent the entire time that I was there crawling all over every other guy there - and ignoring me completely. I am baffled to this day about what that was supposed to accomplish. So I left, and at the door she suddenly comes over and it's like "where you going?", and I'm like "bye" - and that was it.
Biggest turn-off, a bitter attitude towards any aspect of life. Angry, fine. What a prolonged negativity and contempt. That's a whole different thing.
If that woman has EVER given it up on the first date (even decades ago) and makes you wait .... RUN AWAY NOW! She's not really interested in you (other than for your money)!
Problem is it’s very hard to get an honest answer if they have.
@@random19911004 true but over time they usually can't help themselves talk about their previous "adventures". Sadly, today the best approach is to probably just assume they have and I bet you would be correct more times than wrong.
@@brucew.willett8196 If you can call inviting a guy over to your room after browsing his tinder pics a "date".
Great solid advice. I've walked away from several relationships when the girl I was seeing met quite a few of those things. In a relationship, the mind can not only be in the "honeymoon" phase. You have to think and look beyond it...Also, I loved the "Energy Vampire" quote. It's a winner😅
SMOKING: first date learned she smoked, I said no second date. She quit while with me and later quit smoking. We dated for 3 years, now married 40 years!
"Kissing a smoker is like licking an ash tray". My mother said this to us long ago...😂
TBH it was so rare a girl wanted to kiss me back in the day, this never stopped me.
Today, if I became single again (I’m not so it’s moot, and wife is not a smoker), it would matter more.
My first long term relationships was with a smoker🚬. Looking back, only logical reason why I ever started dating her was for the sex. I guess I just really needed to loose my V card.
My icks hypocrisy and being feeling like im more of a object of happiness instead of being the reason she is happy.
When a girl has all her coworkers on their insta friend list, but i get one of my coworkers to add me or vice versa im the one being shady.
Going on a vacation but i have to be in every picture to show off to her feed about “look how happy we are” knowing the day prior we just fought and it will bleed into later that evening.
The notorious “do u know how many guys i could have?” Line, men will sleep with anyone, that’s not a challenge nor feat. When a woman/girl drops this line it’s always met with, “fine, i dare you to find one that will put a ring on your finger” worst line they can play imo
The "do you know how many guys I could have" line is a power argument. She's saying that she's more powerful than you and that she's settling for you, or at least that you're not special. That would be a deal breaker for me. "If you value all these guys equally to me, perhaps it would be best for you to find someone who's really special and whom you feel grateful to be with."
Oh yeah, that one drives them nuts. I have a similar one I like. When a girl is calling a guy an i-cel or using "You're just mad because you cant get any" type language, a good comeback is "And you're just bitter because the only thing about you of any value to men is between your legs". So many ladies don't get that a lot of men do not have sky high standards for girls they'll have some bedroom fun with. Guys will sleep with some trashy girls. But for guys with self respect, there's a lot more discrepancy around choosing a girl to commit to and will be hard pressed to not try to claim a good woman if they happen across one. And when a girl is constantly being used like a toy and denied commitment, that says more about her than the men. I think even the trashiest women are to some degree aware of that last point
One of my absolute biggest pet peeves is when someone complains constantly about anything and NEVER tries to offer up any variety of solutions. If you refuse to help, you have no room to bitch all the time.
Exactly!
My wife only sees me as a paycheck she can use. It's never been "our" money, it's always been "hers"
You basically red flagged my wife... she fits every single point you stated.
My ex was the same way
She controlled the money
Time to cut your losses and RUN
Well, fool me once...
The 'we totally need 3,000 dollar new drapes' but you want to buy something new for one of your hobbies 'you just wasted 300 dollars' ?
Change your deposit to an account that she does not have access to and give her an allowance to spend.
I gotta push back on #8 (bad driving). All the others are sufficient grounds for a breakup because they reveal a character flaw or unhealthy habit, but driving is just a skill. How strongly one should consider her driving skills also depends greatly on how long she's had her license and been driving regularly: you shouldn't expect a teenager to be as good a driver as someone who's been driving for 20 years. I'd call it a yellow flag at worst... unless she's unwilling to try to improve, which would be a character flaw, not just a lack of skill.
Bad driving is often a sign of being prone to panicking or being unable to function under pressure.
@@trubrewman it is more often a sign of entitlement, stupidity, carelessness, and/or inability to process information. While driving is a skill, one cannot teach a fish to ride a bicycle for a reason.
The only issue I've EVER had with a woman's driving was how much she tried to do it from her side - the passenger side - of the car.
I quit dating long ago. But one of my big turnoffs was belittling someone’s occupation, avocations, or interests. The biggest one for me was cycling. The moment a woman made a derisive comment about bicycles, cycling or cyclists, I mentally crossed her off. I was never again going to be the perfect man, except for _________________. I knew from experience the woman had just started her mission to take that out of my life.
My favorite is when people claim that guys who play video games are "losers." This is usually said by people who binge Netflix in their spare time or spend hours on social media every day. How is that any better than playing video games?? Yes, it's possible for someone to have a problem with excessive gaming, but it's also possible to do ANYTHING in excess.
@@kylemacdougall8355 Except cycling. It's impossible to cycle too much. 😂
But cyclists can be so annoying on the road. 🚴♀️
@@Jules-740 You were aware when you asked the government for a driver license there were bicycles legally on roadways. Your annoyance is completely a you problem.
@@Cathmoytura I'm just saying...🤣🤣🤣
To build on your point around the service industry, it's not just knowing their is a value hierarchy but also indicates that you are going or could be perceived as lesser than others. How loyal is a mercenary if someone wealthier comes along.
Add #11: Dishonesty. Several of these are spot-on for my ex, but one that Emily left out is simple dishonesty. If she can't be trusted, if her word isn't good, I've learned (painfully) that it's a character trait that doesn't go away or get better. It just gets worse.
Same with cheating. If you ever find that someone wasn't actually single when you got involved with them, don't make the mistake to tell yourself it will be different with you.
Yup went through all ten with an ex. Terrible driver, we went through all four tires on the car and the four spares in less than a year. She kept hitting the curb and popping the tires. Also missed one, gossiping. If I asked her about HER day, I’d get useless gossip about everyone she encountered that day and tell me nothing about what she did all day. I developed a way of parroting back everything she said, but I soon as I repeated it, I’d wipe my mind clean. Fortunately, she never made me repeat twice.
Wow. That's crazy. So many tires!
@@LGDarksteed sadly we had the same type of car, PT Cruiser as her parents, so since her dad put custom wheels and better tires on theirs we bought the tires/wheels to have spares. Never expected to use all of them and buy more in a year. SMMFH!
From my point of view, you only need one green flag: she sees you as a wonder from another plantet and she proves it.
Regarding driving, I have come to believe (strongly) that a fast way to see what a person is really like is to go for a ride with them in their car with them driving. The real person comes out when they get behind the wheel. If someone is a bad driver, that likely reflects a mindset that permeates everything else they do.
100% agree with you on #2. I never liked that game and my thinking was if you flirt with someone
else when we are dating I will interpret that as YOU RATHER BE WITH HIM period no discussion!
And that would be my que to exit!
Anyone being rude to people in the service industry, male or female, is a huge red flag. The flirting with other guys to get my attention should have been outgrown in their tweens, not their twenties. Intentional manipulation is an automatic bounce, they're gone. Selfish is another basic character flaw, they're gone. Life is too short for nonsense.
How she treats her father... I missed this one.. Her Mother took priority in the family hierarchy over the years of the marriage. The ex didn't cut the apron strings...
if a woman delay an answer on purpose without giving a valid reason, i cut coms, straight out. She's living in an imaginary world with delusional plays... i'm out.
Hi there Emily, Agree with your list and the first one my sister was horrible towards Service Staff and I just hated going out to dinner with her and her boyfriend, as if everything wasn't spot on perfect, she would go off the deep end. This even included sending food back, and yet she could not figure out how she was always getting very sick after. She never married and died alone.
I would say the one big thing for me are tattoos. They show that she has poor judgement and is very reactionary not tinking of long term consequences that come with that lifetime decision. To me women are supposed to be beautiful and if you want to destroy your beauty to look like an old sailor, then good luck. I've had real beautiful women with long beautiful hair write me on dating sites and after I go through the photos, if I spot tats, I just respond "Thanks, but you have tattoos, and that is a hard no for me." Some men like them, but I don't think they have thought through the remifications, i.e. going to a corporate event with your spouses that is a black tie... Is he really going to feel comfortable going with her in a sleveless, bare back dress slit up the side if she is covered in tattoos? I really doubt it. The New Tattoo for 2024 & beyond are NO Tattoos... Ladies, you need to wake up to this issue and just stop it really.
Cheers!
I would stay away from a male surgeon (or lawyer) whose arms are covered with tattoos. Now imagine a tattooed judge.
@@jcrnda Yeah well oddly enough, I've seen a lot of female nurses with tattoos and considering tattoos show poor decision making skills, should you let a nurse stick you with a needle?
1. I jump at the opportunity to help others. I helped someone put away a pop-up camper, but when I returned to my gf, she jumped all over me for not being there with her. I ended the relationship that day! She was stressed out, but not independent enough to work by herself.
2. The biggest turn off is the laugh. If they laugh all through dating, then never again after the honeymoon, you feel trapped. This is one emotion that is required for a relationship! If you don't laugh but for show, Hollywood is your next option. We don't like actors!
3. Big turn off are fake nails, eyelashes, flip-flops, designer clothes and bag, fake voice, and the need to show off money. There is nothing more fake than a money pit.
4. It is funny, I am not attracted to what I see, but what I hear. So someone that dresses sexy, tends to be a turn off. Modest dress says they aren't wanting to attract every man in sight. Showing off body parts is a turn off. I work in front of people, so I don't want her to have issues with the public, more than normal.
5. The car she drives is a tell on who she is. A Mini Cooper is a red flag. A sports car is okay. A truck is a green flag. A mini van means run!!!! A Jeep Wrangler means watch out, if she has ever rolled it. The color of the car is a major statement! Run from green, gray, and brown. If she has no car, she could be an opportunist, so run.
6. Grandkids that want to split up the relationship, is a turn off. When you hit 45, this becomes an issue. Those little kids are selfish to the core, and they will try to separate you from your date. It looks harmless, but this turn off has weight.
7. French kissing while she has her false teeth in! I had to gross you out! I have had this problem before, and it is a turn off.
8. Pets with ownership issues are a turn off. I got bit by an ankle biter, and I nearly turned him into a field goal. I am a horse and dog person, so when this tiny dog turned on me, I was shocked!
9. Giving bad examples in a conversation, is a turn off. This shows you can't relate to the subject.
10. Timing! If a woman calls me every time I am in the shower, she isn't going to get a return call. Calling me 20 minutes after I go to bed, is a great way to end a relationship.
11. The Clingy turn off. Only bullies like clingy women. If she is that insecure, she will never make it in the music industry!
I'm sorry but #5 seems quite ridiculous to me, I'd like to know more to potentially get insight on your reasonings and change my mind.
@@brandondeese8073 The car gives you an idea of their character. The Mini Cooper attracts women that like sporty but low cost, this is one step up from a Honda. A Honda is a money pit if you use dealership maintenance. Anything Japanese is a death trap for the aggressive drivers. The minivan says troop hauler, so if she says she has an empty nest, look out! A Mercedes is a large red flag as the cars love the mechanic. If drives a Corvette with a V8, keep her! There is a good chance she knows more than shoes and nails.
Those who look down upon and treat others badly actually hate themselves.
Yup.
My Ten biggest turn offs.
1. Women that smoke.
2. Women whose bodies are covered with tatoos.
3. Women with body piercings anywhere but one hole in each ear for an earring.
3.5. Women with fake bodies - breast enlargement, breast reduction, silicon butts, hair dye and contact lens to change the eye color - if she is a brown eyed brunette - and no paint brush eye lashes.
4. Women that text instead of calling.
5. Women that are rude.
6. Women that flirt.
7. Women that are promiscuous.
8. Women that wear jeans and t-shirts, sweats and hoodies, exercise wear, Lululemon and bike shorts. Women that won’t wear a dress and heels and makeup and nail polish.
9. Women that will not talk over arguments in private if they won’t talk about it in public.
10. Women that don’t like K-pop.
My things to look out for and avoid next time for me.
1) Self Absorbed/ Selfish
2) Entitled.
3) Shallow.
4) Fear of conflict.
5) Lack of accountability.
6) Lack of communication.
Women who are liars and disrespectful, have no sense of humor, and are arrogant and selfish are huge turn offs to me.
Finally, life can be a battle and for this reason I do not want a battle when I get home. I want a woman who brings a great atmosphere to my home
I never dated a woman who smoked more than once. It's like licking an ashtray.
Ew, ew, ew! 😎
I was dating this woman that I really liked a lot. We had a disagreement about something, and we talked it out and it made me like her even more because she seemed like she was actually capable of admitting she was wrong. A few months later, we got into it even worse, and I asked her a question because it dawned on me she wasn't listening to me when I was telling her something I was passionate about. It was a long distance relationship and I just got a new job that worked remotely, so I could visit and still continue to work. I was so excited about the possibility, but in this argument, it became clear she didn't listen to me as I asked her "What is my job? Like....what do I do?" She had no clue. Not what I did, the company, nothing. I knew her job, co-workers, schedule, who annoyed her at work, who her besties were at work, the one guy always hitting on her. Because I listen to her talk all the time, but it wasn't reciprocated. That didn't end well at all.
Plenty to choose from, but failure to accept responsibility or accountable for their actions, instead, blaming others. Real big turn off.
Another turn off for me, a woman that wants to sleep with me after or even before the first date. Very well could be a possible manipulation tactic.
Thanks for keeping me single and most importantly rich 😂😝☺️❤️
Not showing interest is the biggest one. Even for dating, if they don't ask questions or reply, then men will take the hint and move on. Trust me, I've been shown disinterest for 10 years now 😎 and I've accomplished all my goals because of that.
You are SOOOO RIGHT!, I hadn't event thought about it, but yes, my question about a woman I'd be dating (I'm not), but the MOST important question (even if I did not consciously think about it) would be "does it feel like she would stick with me through good times AND hard times?" And the answer is always a big laugh, since most women would not stick with any man for any length of time at all unless there's a huge money stream going her way, or he's a playboy that many other women are after, so she gets a social boost from dating him. Nowadays is all about what women get from men, which reduces the most important question, the question of loyalty and commitment, to a joke.
EDIT: Bashing their ex-es, indeed, seems to be like a sport for a lot of women. It's like her mind is not in the here and now; all she can do is relieve the past and re-suffer it? And why does she think I'm interested in her ex in the first place?
Smoking too. It used to be a male bad habit; but today it's the other way around. And the worst part is that nicotine and alcohol damage the health of women more than they do the health of men.
Not texting back; this one is practiced by a lot of women even if you are just friends and not dating them at all. You text them about something, and they only reply like 12 hours later. I think this is due to stupid beliefs they get from bad advise on girly magazines about dating and psychology. After a while a woman does this to me I confront her with it, and tell her to stop using that stupid strategy or I will never see her again, and they usually stop.
Hygiene is definitely a big one. If I can know where you are in a dark room without seeing or hearing you, we got problems. And don't think a guy is going down there for a personal conversation if you can't keep hair in your head clean. Smoking, definitely. Cannot stand smokers breath. Thankfully, my wife quit for our son when she found out she was pregnant. And my wife's driving is atrocious. I can say that as a million mile over the road safe driver. I can't be a passenger of my wife's. I'd rather walk. The lack of effort is a new one. My wife has a chronic illness and still tries. No excuses, ladies. So, yeah. I would also add a lady who's too eager to sleep with you right off the bat or says things like "I'm on birth control" or "We don't need protection." My ass. That's Barracks Rat behavior. Straight up Dependapotomous's.
No, I don't like the smell of cigarette smoke or too much perfume.
Tell me your prior profession without telling me. CIF still waiting on you to bring your wooby in.
Yeah. Smoking is gross but not a dealbreaker to me.
Wearing pajamas everywhere.
Out of all things....something this shallow is a line?
@@rhysraine2933 Means she cannot get up in the morning and dress herself. Laziness and puts very little time and energy into herself. I hate this too, my wife will not answer the door at 5 pm because she is not dressed, eats my azz up.
@billypitts6368 then get a divorce and let her go be herself. You act like PJs are the end of the world. If someone wearing pajamas all day is your biggest concern, you have an easy life and need to stfu.
@billypitts6368 must be nice to have something so small and insignificant be the worst problem your have.
Life threatening driving - in the oncoming lane, the wrong side of the road, on a blind curve (because you can see through a hillside?) is a message that you don’t take my life (or your life) seriously.
Good driving is a sign of a competent and capable woman. It's not JUST the driving but other tasks of everyday life. Competent and capable is attractive.
Ya left out option #3, she’s flirting with a guy because she just loves attention from other men. By far the worst.
As to #10, I don’t want a lot of effort nor a little. Just be yourself, if your chill, be chill, can’t we try and see how our default energy meshes? Because that’s what the future will be built on and not some crazy effort. Loving you for you, for the vibe, how our minds click and effortlessly. It should feel right as base ourselves.
Flirting for validation with other men.
Competitive woman. That one who always wants to be in charge of everything, being "the male" of the relationship.
Respect, men need respect. A man will do whatever he has to do within his means to provide his woman the best life possible. We all know the honeymoon stage slowly fades away but love and affection will get us through but getting disrespected will kill even that.
If she communicates to me that she's not interested in dating me?
That's a huge turn off right there.
That's a sign to pay for her coffee and walk away like a boss.
I experienced a couple of these last year, and had to stop talking to her. Even worse is that she never initiated any conversation or checked in once.
She’s got problems she needs to address before any man will date her again
Smoking/vaping, by men or women, tells me that I'm dealing with an addict. I didn't know this when i was younger, but experience has taught me that one should run from any and all addicts.
They'll choose their chemicals over you every time, and they'll say and do anything to get their fix if they have to.
If this is you, fix it. You're not relationship material, either.
When im flipping thru profiles and I spot an attractive woman hugging a big dog or hugging all her dogs, I move on. You know youll always play second Fiddle to a dog
Oh the things I could say about my relationship with my ex wife could give you content for years; I even thought of writing a book.
When it come to how people treat people in the service fields it's not just about position in society, it's also shows a lot about personality. People that are rude to service people are not nice people, it will eventually come around and they will treat you the same.
I texted two different women recently. The first one said that she just does not text at all, so I would have to call her on the phone. Shocker she did not have any personality and I had to carry the phone calls and it got exhausting. She then got mad that I politely told her we are not going to meet because of her lack of interest.
The second woman on tinder was perfectly okay texting me and then when I said to her "I want to take you out for this holiday weekend" she just vanished on me. Yah it was early to ask the questions, but she could of just said "Maybe next weekend when we know each other more?" These games get tiring one after another.
I think many woman are getting dating advice from Tik tok because they are almost like pretending to not care.
Smoking is definitely a turn off. If she's perfect but smokes that's a no for me
Also tattoos
Both of the phone things for sure. I was seeing a girl who would respond to other people's snaps right away when she was with me but then would take hours or sometimes even a full day to respond to me. Quickly lost interest in that one
Watching someone reply to every notification they get, but not getting replies for a day, that shits irritating and never worth it. Those people are more interested in social media relationships than real relationships.
I have a long list of red flags and deal-breakers, but here's a random, non-exhaustive list to complement what the video and some comments have already said:
- Women who *can't have a conversation,* or at the very least listen to your thoughts
- Women who *don't ask questions* / *don't show interest* in your person and your life
- Women who *don't have hobbies and passions,* or have shallow interests (we don't need to like the same things, but when your only interests are TikTok and make-up, you're too shallow)
- Women who *never, ever initiate* (I don't want to be the one who always initiates, because it requires effort, and it also tells me that you're not really interested)
- Women with *double standards,* e.g. women who set the bar higher for the man but lower for herself
- Women who *dress immodestly* / revealingly
- Women who *drink alcohol regularly*
- Women who *like to party* and go out to night clubs
Also some icks of mine in particular:
- Excessive make-up
- Tattoos
- Piercings
Turn-offs for me. 1) High body count above 3 (used to be zero). 2) No value, respect, integrity and dignity. 3) Smoker and drinker. 4) Dishonesty and disloyalty. 5) Entitlement and unrealistic BS standards 6) No empathy and compassion. 7) Controlling, manipulating, gaslighting, nagging, etc. 8) Rude, obnoxious, annoying, irritating, etc. I know for fact that 99% of the modern women will never pass the first one.
I pass all of the above 🤷♀️
I also know a lot of high quality women who would also pass.
Wow. I'm fairly sure that I can check all of those. I always felt like a complete loser for being pretty sheltered and growing up very conservative and raised with religion. I just turned 34 yesterday and have been horrified and embarrassed that I've never had sex. Gives me a little hope with your first one; though I'm guessing 99% of guy would find that very weird and be turned off.
The smoking thing for me indicates masculinity. A lot of things that most women don't realize fall into this category though. Swearing, except infrequently. Drinking beer, wearing jeans, saying "bro" or "dude", being loud/obnoxious, resting B face, are just a few off the top of my head. All these traits push the needle out of the feminine. I prefer women who hang onto the "girly" as long as possible.
None of these have anything to do with gender or sex to me, they're just traits that any person may have. Especially putting drinking beer and wearing jeans as something decidedly non-feminine sounds extremely weird. What is a "feminine" drink to you then? And does jeans refer to just jeans or any pants in general? Because in my country drinking beer and wearing jeans is pretty much what _everyone_ does no matter their gender
I love it when women swear (as long as it isn't every other word). The more feminine they are, the more adorable it is.
Feminists, lack of communication, female drama....I'm out!!
The list with added commentary:
1 rude to service people. Pretentious, judgmental, INCONSIDERATE.
The way she treats others now is the way she will treat you later.
2 flirts with other men, to make him jealous -- phony, created drama. 3 Poor hygiene, stinky.
4 always on her phone. Can't make any decisions without consulting her posse.
5 ceaseless complaining. Negative energy.
6 gossip about other men, past men. Too much about her past, can't let it go.
7 Smoking. Vaping, heavy drinker, gambling, other vices. Bad habits, lack of self control.
8 bad driving. Aggressive, creates trouble, risky.
9 manipulative. games.
10 selfishness, lack of effort.
also:
Doesn't ever shut up.
Needs constant attention. Super needy.
Tests you over and over. Personal problems.
Can't keep "normal secrets," doesn't understand that telling others about your intimate acts, information, is wrong. Reveals things about you to others that is damaging, personal.
Paranoid you are thinking of cheating on her, constantly assuming you are checking out and want to hit on other women.
Demonstration of lack of morals, poor or no values; petty theft, excuses immoral acts, justifies all kinds of bad behavior "She had it coming." "They are rich so stealing isn't wrong."
There are hundreds of such things.
I once met a guy and told him that he was worthy of love and that God loved him and he said that nobody had told him that in his entire life, I could see the tears he was holding back
My biggest turn offs are: 1= ugly nails, to include designs, colors I especially hate are: red, black, purple, brown, yellow, orange, gray, blue, green, etc; 2=too much make-up & especially ugly make-up; 3= big boobs, especially fake looking; 4= big butts that do not look natural; 5= stupid hair, ex: more than a natural color hair.; 6= lipstick that looks unnatural, ex: reds, blacks,stupid colors too many to list.. you did mention a few in your vid today. ex: smoking, rude,poor treating of service people. one final is woman who think every they say is funny( when it is NOT).
In other words, if you want to date a clown, you will go to a circus.
Sadly women are taught that these things are attractive possibly by other women never thought that sticking plastic to myself was taking care of myself.
@@janechapman7801 Dear Jane, so cool u answered me. for 33+ yrs, I have a wife who never wears any make-up & I often tell her how much I still love her for it. got her to stop smoking many yrs ago too. 1 super turn off I did not mention was tats. I have seen too many women having them and they all look like $hit. I just do not get anyone wanting them, but especially woman. if my wife would have had one, we would not be married. I hate them that much. I think most guys care less as long as they think they will score. good luck, keep making enjoyable vids.
@@janechapman7801 Jane, oh, I forgot to mention one of the hugest turnoff's, fake enhanced features, EX: lips, boobs, hips, etc. I even knew a girl who made her entry hole smaller to please a guy, how stupid was that. he left her so soon after that too.
@@michaelt.d.blasting8705 I was always tempted to get my itty bitty boobs done but never did; my little sister did at barely 18 and has also got many piercings and some small tattoos and the long fake nails; it's a little hard to believe we were raised by the same conservative, religious parents and went to a private Christian school K-12. Some guys in the comments say no plastic surgery but on the flip side, would they realistically be attracted to a woman who is a 32A/AA?
Here are some for me: tan, tattoo, piercings, breast implants, long bright nails, strong perfume, talks about travel, aggressive driver, generalize about men, openly Democrat, debt (credit card, student loan, mortgage), wants to have sex on first date, asks her man to do lots of work around the house. Strongly agree about dirty hair, smoking (or any drug use), rude to anyone, phone use.
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Hi Emily!
You're pretty much spot on, although smoking cigarettes is not too much of a big deal with me.
I would add these two additional items to your list;
1) A woman with multiple ear piercing, wears multiple necklaces and bracelets at one time and rings on every finger. This is overindulgence and very materialistic to me signaling a big money spender.
2) Tatoos and body piercings and facial, nose and lip piercings.
The appropriate question to this is what doesn't this signal to me?
Any combination of these two points is an Instant hard NO for me.