As a blue collar worker, I have found that I am basically invisible, and I have been treated with distain and contempt. I found out that I am a MGTOW before I even knew there was such a thing! In my experience I found that getting involved in my work hobbies and interests was far more rewarding than continuously getting rejected . So in my opinion if modern women want a guy, they are going to have to share the ones that are still willing to play their stupid games.
Seeing the statistics - the number of men vs the number of women that aren't in relationships - it appears women are either sharing a man or are in relationships with other women, or both.
Until she gets bored of you, sucks another guy's d$#k on the couch, get caught, and STILL takes you to divorce court and gets everything from you. Good job ladies, enjoy your boxed wine and collection of cats when you're all 50 years old and single.....
Well, in my opinion if your "win" is that "you get to pay her bills" then it is not that bad. You can also have false accusations, damaged reputation etc. If a girl starts saying about her man that he is for example emotionally abusing her than usually nobody will confront him with it, he may not know for a long time. So why I would even approach woman I don't know? She may look nice and may give the impression of being friendly at first but it doesn't mean that she won't turn my life into a hell.
And she feels entitled enough to bring nothing to the table expect spreading her legs here and then what is usually also an enjoyment. She feels wanted, she feel that power
I’m 49 and taking an extended break. For me, it was the frequent rejection. It comes in various forms (friendzoning, ghosting, getting dumped, being let down gently, etc) but the end result is the same. I finally realized that unless you are “economically attractive,” dating is pointless. If I ever get more successful, I may get back on the horse.
I’m a woman with 4 brothers. I appreciate your videos because I think men get the short end of the stick too often, and they suffer in silence. Your videos shine a light on that and the comment section gives men a forum to express themselves, which I imagine they appreciate.
We do suffer in silence but only until we reach our collective breaking point. And when that breaking point finally comes one of two things usually happens. 1 We either completely give up on society and stop doing the critical jobs that keep society running and just let it fall, OR we f**king snap and turn society into a scene from mad max.
When my cheating ex and many women trying to date damaged goods and heartaches galore and incarceration by a woman's accusations and a failed court system that men created is used against them so why bother my cheating ex manipulated me into going into a mortgage for a home only to leave because the paychecks were going into the mortgage and was not happy anymore I lost 😊her and the home because without the combined paychecks I could not make the payments there more to the story but you get the gist lost her the home I didn't want and my mind and my dignity and life has just spiraled out of control from that point one thing I learned when I was with her many ladies of diverse ages were trying to get my attention when we were together wish I would have played that one but I am a one woman man did the bad boy thing and had five ladies at once on my rebound but that was way to stressful when ones just leaving for home the other pulls in the drive way and they passed each other on the same street and I'm like I think I need to quit this behavior because sooner or later there wood be a cat fight or a big drama scene and I got the stuff out of dating all together in don't go out to bars last time I did I cold see through it all and the behaviors of women and men if they are going to bars they are not worth my time damaged goods and hollow legs so I do my things in life I must say truthfully I'm damaged beyond repair I'm 54 soon to be 55 no children that is what kills me the most my genetics end with me and who the hell cares anyway but that's just a tid bit of my failure to multiply
An accusation of assault or sexual harassment is equivalent to a conviction. Even if he gets the opportunity to tell his side of the story, he won’t be believed. Reputation, career, liberty could all be taken from him. Best to be safe and stay away.
How do you get a sexual harassment charge in public? Thats hr policy not a law. Theres assault but you cant be arrested for saying anything unless its considered a threat.
@@BigTyronieGo to Scotland and find out. In Scotland, a woman can press charges against a man for simply looking a her. Mainly her belief that you looked at her too long or the wrong way.
@@WJSweeney I've seen men on youtube comments in America say the same thing that cops have nearly arrested them because some woman lied and said they were harassing them.
I've lost two jobs due to unfair & false claims. The second time, the higher bosses knew that nothing bad happened, it was all proven to be bogus. 'We just feel it would be better to part ways.'
I’ve literally seen a cop walk into a gym following up on a complaint about a woman accusing a man of looking at her.The cop was a female.She literally told the woman this “Just because someone looks in your general direction,it doesn’t mean they are staring at you” The female cop walked out of the gym and the woman who made the call got enraged because the cop didn’t arrest the man who allegedly looked in her direction.I thought it was hilarious af! LMFAO
This video is spot on! The main reason that men don’t approach anymore is one that most people don’t acknowledge. Men have been listening to all of the harsh criticisms of men from feminists and feminist leaning ideologies. Contrary to popular belief, the vast majority of us want to be respectful. The woman who don’t want to be bothered have been much more vocal than the woman who do. Social media has made it clear to men that in order to be respectful to women, we need to pretend that all woman are invisible unless a woman makes it known that she wants to be seen. Unfortunately for woman, you will need to start approaching or making it blatantly clear that you want to be approached. Good men see women’s safety as paramount. We want women to be safe and feel safe. But, we aren’t mind readers. We don’t know if we should approach until the encounter is over and every male over the age of like 15 has been shot down brutally at least once by a girl that he really liked. For many men, the juice isn’t worth the squeeze. Non traditional woman who want a traditional experience is a paradox to men. Men are genuinely just trying to do what woman have been asking us to do; leave you alone.
This is very accurate. The idea that a woman might feel unsafe in my presence is absolutely mortifying to me. I will do anything to avoid that even if it means not approaching a woman who secretly would like for me to approach her. I don’t want you to be scared of me, I don’t want you to feel unsafe and I don’t want you to feel bothered. So, I keep away and mind my own business.
Every day, everywhere, women see the news of men abusing, raping, and killing women - daily. Oftentimes for their own sick fantasies. And many were respected members of their community - hard workers, husbands, fathers, brothers, friends. Every day, everywhere. So yes, in the back of the womans mind - after maybe being harrassed throughout the day at various levels by men - here comes another guy and what could happen with this one? Many women, like many of you men, are just giving up too. It's not worth the grief and the uncertainty. And gentlemen, you can thank your fellow males who have done this disservice to your sex. Every day, everywhere...
I like to add that the "the fear of being called a creep" on social media isnt the only possible negative consequences. if your in public and your being called out to be a creep, there is a serious chance you will get into a confrontation with another male(s) or employees of an establishment who think you are harassing her. Even before Third Wave feminism became dominant it was already hard, but they really changed it into a mission impossible.
I have seen numerous videos of women claiming they were harassed merely because a guy showed her attention of some sort. Basically, almost anything can be deemed harassment by a woman.
It is really truly sad and I feel bad for this emilyking because she seems like a sincere woman, but basically one of the things modern women are going to really have to come to terms with is that you've been LIED TO your whole lives, that you ain't it, your pussy isn't made of gold, you can't use sex to get anything you want, and you let your personality and character atrophy while your sex appeal just spent the previous 10+ years degrading, and so as a result you are now putting off the same vibe and getting lumped in with all these women men wish to avoid. The woman who made this video is a really sad example. I'd pass just purely on account of her being white, blond and blue eyed, and an American accent. I wouldn't even give her a chance. And because she's older there's not much point to pursuing something when even the fun part is gone, for all I know she's going to rant about feminism or wokeness or some dumb shit, you know women should just be careful of politics in general because I've written off white liberals and white Republicans wholesale. The few smarter women like her are beginning to figure out that men walked away, but sadly not yet totally comprehending we aren't just scared of you or nervous, the problem is all the women around you and those women aren't even worth a hookup. It's why trumptards became a thing, ironically enough their racism is being pretty accurately reflected in the liberal women who are now looking down on and talking shit at foreign women, because our resounding answer is no we don't want you, you're old, you're argumentative, you're used, you're bitter, you're ENTITLED, you're meanspirited, you're hyper materialistic and you have no earthly idea how to be a mother or wife. It would be helpful for me to figure out how not to project western male vibes at this point, as you guys are not made of gold either. Simple shit like, don't wear videogame tshirts, wear a nice cologne, wear decent shoes, the most basic things, have a car, have goals, work on a career, don't be a drunk etc. So meanwhile we're not just worried about the harassment, it's a question of is the risk you accusing someone of "almost being raped" worth it for you. For most of these modern women, the answer is a resounding no, girl you're not worth it. Some of you might be worth it but we take one look at all your shitty friends and realize you may be a shitty person too. When you go on a girl's night out, you'll have some guy notice you, and I am going to look straight down the line at all your entitled woman hating friends and within about five minutes I'm going to notice friend A shit talking her ex, friend B shit talking the waiter, friend A then chiming in with her entitled attitude to the waiter too, friend C then makes some condescending classist comment, like you are not worth it purely on account of your friends. If you are a single lady and your friends all are singles, you may need to ask yourself maybe there's a reason for that.
@@prrsd4046 not sure what you mean, I just got rejected, sometimes told to leave them alone. Getting trapped is something a Chad worries about, they like to keep their options open and sleep with multiple women, and the stupid women, while ignoring me, fall for it everytime! Horrible experience, my attempted dating, I figured if I wasn't succeeding, I wasn't trying hard enough. I figured if I asked out enough women, I would finally get to the one that wouldn't reject me, but it never worked out that way. So much for gender equality, it is very unequal asking a woman out on a date!
@@thomaskalbfus2005 trap, referring to the common methods women use now ex. at gyms when guys look at how they're dressed, bait guys in with conversation only to hang them for their words, etc. Some women get a power trip with this stuff knowing they have low accountability. I should have been more clear in the original reply.
I am 54, never married, no kids, plenty of relationships. I decided that it just isn't worth the risk. Divorce destroys a man financially, and women's expectations today are sky high. It's exhausting. Cancel culture has destroyed flirting. Online dating is a hellscape, and dating at work is professional suicide. It is so much more relaxing just to do my own thing.
My #1 fear of approaching modern women are false allegations of sexual abuse, sued, rejections, post date withrawn of consent, destroying my reputation, possible destroying my career, hot/cold attitudes (reject men with ease but can't handle rejections), fatal attractions, get offended easily, can dish jokes but can't take it, public humiliation, or crucifying me in public opinions. Modern women are strong and independent and do not need men so why would they expect men to help?
Question for modern women: Why do modern women emancipate themselves from men and seek relationships with men? Do you not see your own contradictions? It is like Slaves who free themselves from their Masters and want to be in relationships with their Masters or children who emancipate themselves from their parents still expect their parents to provide and protect them. Why do you expect men to be traditional gentlemen but you refuse to be submissive traditional ladies? Independent mean alone not together! What idiocy?
I am a mother of four grown sons. My two youngest are high functioning Autistic and so they have trouble just communicating with people in general, so to communicate with a pretty female they like would be even more difficult for them. Maybe one day they may try but I doubt it will be any time soon. However, my two oldest sons who are in their early 30s like women and do have female friends but I do not believe they have ever really dated or taken any real interest in a woman romantically, because of what is your biggest number fear. Women really are their worst enemies. So many times I read comments like parents need to raise their boys to be gentnlemen and it sickens me, because it is like it blames the guys for everything. My first thought to such remarks are why don't parents teach their daughters to be ladies ? Second, why should we teach our sons to be gentlemen when that is not your daughters want. My two oldest sons are afraid to be alone with a woman because they are afraid she wil falsely accused them of doing something wrong and get him in trouble that can ruin his life for ever. I worry about them both in that regards, but with my oldest son more so, because he does freelance photography for cosplay and since most are young females that he photographs then he makes sure ALL photo shoots are done in public places and he is never alone. This so sad that he has to do this but better safe than sorry. It is ONE of my biggest fears to have a son of mine falsely accused of something he did not do all because of a woman said he did. I use to tease my sons about not making me a grandma before I was 50 years old, but now I wonder if they will ever get married let alone have children. With the way this world is... They may be better off not doing either. Sigh
@@littlemissy3936 Vetting Think of your partner's needs/wants before yours. They will reciprocate. Be each other helping hands. Be selfless, not selfish. Let actions speak, not words. Lady's pledge Gentleman questions for Lady on 1st date I am a traditional Sigma Gentleman seeking a classic Beta Lady (Little Dragon Maiden, not Brunhilda)* 18-25 years old. 1. Can you prioritize being a homemaker who loves family and kids over being a career woman? 2. Can you be submissive? 3. Can you be respectful? 4. Can you be humble? 5. Can you be feminine, not masculine, and keep up your appearance? 6. Can you turn a house into a home, attempt to mimic restaurant quality dishes at home and clean so I have reasons to come home? You must say yes to all six questions. Gentleman's pledge Lady questions for Gentleman on 1st date I am a traditional Beta Lady (Little Dragon Maiden, not Brunhilda)* 18-25 years old, seeking a classic Sigma Gentleman. 1. Can you be ambitious and prioritize working to provide and protect me and the kids, if there are any? 2. Can you be chivalrous? 3. Can I trust you to follow your lead? 4. Can you not be abusive and controlling? 5. Can you be masculine, not feminine, and keep up your appearance? 6. Can you find reasons and places to take me and the kids (if there any) out? * The name Brunhilda is a girl's name of Scandinavian, Norse origin meaning "armed for battle." You must say yes to all six questions.
@@littlemissy3936 Excerpts for my upcoming third book (trilogy) Delutional Mindset : The Mind On Life by Saelock Xing Bring traditional back • We all spend time thinking of the past. • Reminiscing of the simple life, wishing it would last. • Females are no longer feminine, acting as ladies anymore. • Males are no longer masculine, acting as gentlemen like before. • Because modern women are masculine not feminine is why chivalry is dead. • They do not take accountability for their choices and blame it all on men instead. • Gender roles are lost and forgotten. • Destroy by feminists seeking equality by becoming men. • Mental dating is modern and involves social media and texting. • Physical dating is old fashion and requires face-to-face meeting. • Happiness is an emotion that is very elusive. • Modern women refuse to be submissive. • Modern women are delusional, shameless, and men hater. • They believe bodies count shouldn't matter. • Relationships should be harmonious, not in conflict. • Submission is not slavery because modern women constantly contradict. • Modern women can not find love because they lack trust. • Modern men can not get respect because they lose their logic and rationality due to lust. • Traditional gentlemen are Sigmas curse to settle with ladies that are Betas. • Traditional ladies are Betas destine for hypergamy with Sigmas but never Alphas. • Focus on the present and bring Yin-Yang Relationship back. • For a lasting relationship, never reverse or identical, only a balance of white and black.
It's been three decades but when I was in my twenties and tried to approach women I quickly realized that it was impossible to approach a woman in a large group if you are not part of the group. Also, a common trope was women leading you on, making you feel that you had a chance only to reject you after some time in the most brutal way they could short of screaming. This happened several times and made me very afraid to approach a woman. Some years later in my early thirties several female friends admitted to me that that kind of behaviour was something of a contest between women that gave them the right to brag to their female friends on how many men they had led on and rejected in this manner. I was so disgusted that I decided to never approach a woman again and almost all of the few relationships I had since were initiated by the woman.
Unless you say something you know you should not say like nice tits or does your kitty get wet you aren't going to catch a charge. This is a made up myth by incels to make their lack of romantic interactions with women appear to be coming from a place of competence (avoiding sexual harrasment charges). You have a better chance of getting struck by lightning
Being called a creep. I'm sure you could do a whole episode on the "Are we dating the same guy" fiasco. Men are called abusive for a litany of indiscretions, as small as disagreeing with a woman, but a woman decides she doesn't like the guy she goes on one date with and she can publicly shame him all over the internet and it's considered fine. Women typically don't have the physical strength to commit serious violence on men, (although it happens more than we talk about) so instead they take pleasure in social shaming and reputational damage. They will bully men they don't like to destroy their lives instead. The difference in the forms of abuse is that men are repeatedly told throughout their life not to hit women. Women cheer on each other when it comes to shaming and destroying mens reputations. They'll publish books about it, they'll set up social media pages explicitly for it, and they so rarely see any consequence as a result.
Yup. But, but, but. Men are bigger. So, we need to create laws where multiple tax payer funded armed men show up to commit violence against him with nothing more than an acusation. As if that has not been the norm for centuries with larger families (brothers and cousins). Difference is, brothers and cousins know whether she is crazy.
I get called a creep. Mainly, it seems, because I have been alone my whole life and grew up without people my age being around. Sure I had school, but there's not s lot of social freedom for people in a structured learning environment.
It isn't our responsibility to make sure they are comfortable all of the time. If she's afraid of getting graped in the produce section because of small talk- that's 100% her issue and has nothing to do with you or me.
What you describe is part of "relational Aggression tactics" that women will use, it is about destroying your reputation, isolating you, hurting you emotional and psychologically.
Related to # 2, I have stopped approaching women because they always turn me down cold. A rejection for a date is the equivalent of a woman saying, "I am likely to live 75 years, but you are not worth spending an hour of it with." When the rejection rate is in the 90%+ range, there is a certain point where a man has to stop inflicting emotional scars on himself, before he becomes disfigured.
Same here. I'm 48 years old and have never successfully asked a woman out, and I have asked out more than 200 over the years. I'm socially awkward, and that disgusts women. On top of that, the fastest way to turn off a woman is to be respectable. If you don't have any tattoos, don't use drugs or drink alcohol, take care of your children if you have any, and are educated...forget it. You're revolting to them.
Why waste an hour of your time on a women you don't know and that doesn't like you?. I mean, Is that seriously what you call an emotional scar. You've had a very sheltered life.
@@redstar7292 🤣As someone who was homeless for a while, typically worked two jobs (at one point, three), funded his higher education on his own (did not receive a penny in grants or scholarships) for two different degrees, your comment cracked me up. Thanks for the laugh!
I hear you, @@christophercrawford777 . While I'm not socially awkward, I would still think that someone with a bit of reason would at least think, "Okay, this guy isn't smooth - but maybe he has some other great qualities. Maybe it's worth 30 or 60 minutes of my time to check out."
@@timothyraty1187 Unfortunately, they won't. Social awkwardness repulses women so deeply that nothing can overcome that. Not even if the guy is good looking, wealthy, successful in other aspects of life, etc.
I simply refuse to date. I went through a phase in my late 20's-30's I didn't date for a decade. I am 45, going on 46 now and seeing the mentalities in these women now reminds me not to date, stay single, not to stress myself out.
It’s not temporary for most men who’ve removed themselves from dating, relationships and marriage. Most of your 10 reasons are very accurate but the “it’s not worth it” is the main reason. The common refrain these days from women is “I don’t need no man; I’m a boss babe.” Glad to oblige you ma’am. My bank account is growing at a tremendous rate and, most important, I have peace in my life.
after working with mostly women in my career, I so glad not to come home and deal with another woman's issues, tantrums, and drama -- I'm worn out --- men never work in a career field where women are the dominant group
To be fair to Ms Emily, #1 and #2 are issues that older men are facing most, at least mostly men over 35-40. While the lower numbers in her list do have some effect on us, they really don't matter compared to the top 2. The lower 8 are fears based off society, the top 2 are fears based of lived-experience.
Peace is the main thing. Women undoubtedly bring drama and conflict. And beyond that it is extremely difficult to trust a woman in this day and age, knowing how they are and constantly hearing all the horror stories. As a married or committed man you’re basically just waiting around until the day when she loses feelings for you or does something behind your back. Dealing with that kind of pain and stress is very hard on your state of mind. There seems to be many women out here who just don’t understand or don’t care that decent men want peace. We place respect and peace up on a high level. We want to be respected for who we are and what we bring to the relationship, and we are tired of letting these women into our lives and ruining our peace and disrespecting us.
Women are more trouble than they're worth, they are totally self-absorbed, disgustingly self-entitled and look down their nose at everyone while looking like the local Circus Clown --terrible make-up, bizarre eyebrow shaping--thinking they own the world, sorry : No Thanks.
"Women make it so hard that men conclude that life is just more peaceful and less problematic without women in their life " is my main take-away. Women make it too hard and are hypercritical ( hypocritical) and that repels most men. "It is just not worth it. " Brilliant on your part to say this. This is the number 1 reason. Men give up.
Yeah, she hit the nail on the head. There isn't any deep philosophical reason, no deep seated psychological issue and men aren't 'afraid' or lazy. Very simply, it just isn't worth the trouble. What a man gets for all the mental and financial headache isn't even close to being worth it. When I was married with a stepson I could never get more than a few thousand dollars ahead, no matter how much I worked. I've been divorced for ten years and have hundreds of thousands in assets now. Until I got divorced I had always had a wife or girlfriend. In the ten years I've been divorced I've been on two dates, and on one of them she asked me out and paid for everything. In the last ten years without a wife or girlfriend I'm amazed how peaceful and drama free life is and how much more money I have. I'm in my fifties and to be honest I really don't care if I ever go on another date, let alone have another girlfriend. Marriage is out of the question. There is zero chance I'll ever get married again and risk what I have. Women really screw themselves by making dating and marriage such a headache, because a lot of men realize they're better off without it and just bow out.
@@genxer1 yepp. I'm curious about how long it will take to reallize for women that this doesn't work for them.. I'm kinda really sorry that it has to go this way. Women will become poor if they don't overcome their stupid habits and just F around while they're young.. just fooolish AF
@@genxer1 Hear, hear!! And believe me, many women - at least the smart, introspective ones - feel the same way. Better to be on your own and have that peace of mind and freedom to make choices. We are not all designed for traditional relationships in the classic patriarchal mode - being an outlier is oftentimes the best and safest choice.
I asked a girl out one time and got totally played. She ordered the lobster and a very expensive bottle of wine. She then told me that she needed $100 to pay for the babysitter. Worst date ever.
The top 4 reasons hit the nail on the head. I’m neurodivergent and working through being emotionally/mentally abused, and those are two things that seem to automatically give me a “creepy” air for some reason. Even if they don’t, I’m passed over because “I just can’t see anything with you.” When I ask “but how do you know that” then I get labeled as a creep for asking a logical question. Bottom line, why would I continue to expend effort with a history of zero return?
“I just can’t see anything with you.” that means they're not attracted to you. Now why is is that they're not attracted to you? I'd have to meet you first and get to know you. Ask a brother, or an honest and close friend what they think the reason is.
@@plasmabat718 and if they would say what they mean instead of relying on my skills of interpretation, it wouldn’t be an issue. But it seems that no one either has the ability or will to say what they mean in the context of relationships.
Women are too busy attempting to trick dumb men into being their slaves, that half the men they think are dumb are actually geniuses exposing their broken communication skills. It's sad that this is the common woman found in the developed world.
As a man, why would I risk being accused of sexual harassment for asking a woman out on a date? Why would I risk losing everything I worked for? It's a known fact that only men who the woman does not find attractive are labeled creeps by them if these men approach them. At work, I keep my distance from females. When I'm out and about as in the grocery store, I also keep my distance. Not because I'm scared, but because I don't want the first couple things I mentioned. And lastly, I checked out of the dating pool many years ago because getting cheated on, treated like crap, made homeless, and slapped with child support payments while being deployed working for the Navy has left a bitter taste in my mouth. And I will tell you from experience, you as a man are automatically viewed as a piece of garbage in domestic court. The laws heavily favor women, and there is absolutely no incentive as a man to marry or have children, or even date, either financially, emotionally, or physically.
... laws heavily favor women [who did not sign a prenup]. I advocate prenups as a way to jointly decide what's fair, in advance, instead of the crapshoot faced when courts decide later.
that is why grifters in the manosphere will never understand... this woman... courtney ryan... billy rae... they dont make videos to teach women not to be hoes and entitled but they just regurgitate fresh and fit , rollo tomassi and rich cooper's content and with 0 empathy
I've posted this before. The beef in USA is fortified with testosterone. The oxen get a dose of testosterone injected behind their ears every day. This means that both women and men get male hormones with their daily meat ration. That destroys women. Women get hormonal problems as a result and are masculinized. This disrupts the polarity between man and woman, causing men and women to repel each other. A masculine man will then tend to prefer a feminine woman, for example a vegetarian or an Asian.
For number 10, when she is in a group, her friends will get jealous that you are hitting on her instead of them. So they try to interfere and pull her away from you. I’ve had women admit this to me, that fights happened between their girlfriends due to who was getting more attention from me (or from other guys that approached). Women are seriously competitive with each other and I find that catty-ness to be a big turn off
I'm SO SURPRISED this "men not approaching anymore" thing is so common, and also a topic growing in popularity. I've been beating myself up for not approaching for years, for my own personal reason: -The loss of confidence from being rejected by the many women I was really into (apparently I'm a pretty good looking guy) -This turned into a strong fear of the risk rejection. Rejection would reinforce that I'm not good enough again. I don't want to feel that again after a number of times already, so I avoid approaching for years even though women still look at me and I may have a chance. - I have a fear of messing up while speaking due to nervousness, which is devastating to think about how cringe it would be to unecessarily freeze or stutter when saying something even though I normally never do that. I would hate myself for a long time for unecessarily messing up, plus cringe forever of it went badly. So I avoid trying when I feel a bit nervous to approach, which is mostly always - I never, ever, want to be mistakenly considered a creepy dude when I am not. So I won't risk attempting to flirt. Never been called a creep, and want to keep it thqt way. One of the main reason I avoid flirting or approaching. (Mind you, I have done this succsessfully in the past) - The risk of a rude rejection, that I've seen or heard other guys go through. I could not handle that level of mistreatment when I am so friendly and caring to people. I don't deserve being pointlessly hurt. So I avoid the risk by not approaching. - and likely some of the other reason's other men have commented, but I'm getting to lazy to type on my tablet like this
This is true a lot of my fear of rejection probably goes back to when I was at school most of the girls there was very nasty especially to guys who they felt the need to ridicule fast forward a few years later I liked a girl who was stunning and probably liked me back and wanted me to approach her but I could never approach her out of fear of being ridiculed or rejected it messed me up
Ironically, what stopped me approaching women was actually approaching (alot) of women. In the last two years, I've been on a bit of a life betterment quest. Dropped from 210 to 160. Running every other day. Hitting the gym. Fixed my facial hair and fashion. Got a nice car. And of course, worked on my approach with women. In 2 years, I've had something like 100 approaches. But zero success. A couple of them went pretty far, only for the women to flake (one of them after literally coming to my place to hook up and others in various ridiculous ways). But that's besides the point. What you wouldn't believe is the absolute disrespect I had to endure during this process; in one case, I was actually banned from a coffee shop for giving a girl I had been talking to for 4 months and who worked there, who was actively inviting me to stay over after work and talk for hours, some get well flowers after she tore her ACL playing soccer. Wild stuff man. The takeaway from all this for me is clear. It doesn't matter how much I improve myself, it'll just never be "enough." Society is broken and women are terrible.
No good deed goes unpunished bro. Comments I hear all the time from chicks (50's/60's) are men are trash and somehow we are the problem. Cue laugh track.
I'm in the 2 category, and that's based on most of the other numbers. Several times I thought I "found the right one" a la 1, but that never panned out. It isn't a matter of simple hurt feelings, dashed pride, or rejection. I can handle those. It's the sheer risk vs. reward. That's where you'll find most men in 2. Due to experience and observation, we've deemed it simply not worth the risk. We're not incels or neckbeards, we're regular men, some of us who can easily get dates, who have come to the conclusion that there is too much risk and not nearly enough to mitigate it, especially the hostility that many women and society has toward men these days. For myself, I will likely never date again, and even if I did I'll likely never get married. Every time I see one of those feminist articles bashing men or berating them for feeling like I do, it further entrenches me. I've been single long enough at this point that it really doesn't bother me anymore. I'm happier than I've ever been in any LTR, and I haven't come across anyone that I trust enough, let alone feel attracted enough to on multiple levels, that has me thinking about it. Not even close. I'm not lonely nor am I bitter. I'm just...going my own way, doing my own thing, happily and single. The problem is that most women, most society, aren't interested in knowing any of this. It's easier for them to misattribute me, call me names, insult me, and blame me, rather than actually listen to me and see what's going on. They don't want to accept that maybe I have a point and that perhaps they should do some introspection. Especially feminists, they go straight to blaming me and my identity. Oh well, honestly I really don't care. I only watched this video out of curiosity to see if you got it right a little bit, which you did.
The main reason I stopped approaching is because most women I have been in relationships with involve having to constantly be “on” meaning I can never rest from being tested or being “ under the microscope” and it’s exhausting. I refuse to stop being myself in a relationship and being myself usually leads to me being dumped.
The reason “it’s not worth it” describes my situation 100%. There is literally zero benefit for me as a man to pursue a woman, date, or marry. I will bleed money constantly on dates, gasoline to drive her around, jewelry, etc etc in exchange for drama, ghosting/divorce and more. Honestly I have thought about just adopting a child so I don’t have to deal with the drama and don’t have to worry about losing the kid in family court. I want kids but don’t want the risk associated with the mom.
i am 40 and i am the same. i have no illusions of ever marrying. how do you think you will live once you are old/retirement? tbh that is the only fear i have. being old and not able to care for myself.
46 years old here too. Started a FWB relation with a 38 year old single mom who is into threesomes with younger women. She is too busy raising her kids to have a relationship, she just wants me for intimacy & adventure, no strings attached. I accomplish things, get satisfied, no gods needed.
when I was like 20, I remember it was scary to approach a girl. But really there was no reason to be scared. Today's young guys have a lot of legit reasons to be scared. So I can understand why so many young guys won't have anything to do with dating😢
When I was dating, I got more and more depressed than I've ever felt. Then I fell in love with someone I met through a friend, dated her for months. Things were looking up. Then things didn't work out, then I was more depressed than ever. I stopped dating, and now my depression is going away pretty rapidly. Fancy that. I have no desire to get back out there, because my life is precious, and I don't want to feel suicidal anymore. Being told by women that they don't want to settle for you... especially someone I felt close to... that'll do it.
After having my heart broken, I am beyond scared to ever open up to someone again. That moment of finding out someone is cheating on you and then being told you don't make her feel wanted after sacrificing so much to see her happy and thriving, is enough for me to never try again. And rather than failing another relationship, I just avoid them altogether now.
yup I work 6 & 7 days a week trying to keep a roof over our head, was by her side when she had open heart surgery . When I was in a bad car wreck she abandoned me.
Never let 1 person determine your happiness for the rest of your life. There are 3-4 billion women out there. To believe that all of them are the exact same and will do you the exact same is nothing short of stupidity. The strongest thing you can do is try again eventually, never trying again is giving up. Now, if you are not religious at all and/or dont like religion, then you can skip the next part I'm about to say: this is exactly what the devil wants for you. He wants you sad, bitter, incapable of love for the rest of your life, etc. Don't let him win. It's a spiritual warfare out here these days, do whatever you can not to lose it.
Thats on you bro. It sucks but youre putting your worth into someone elses opinion. If one of your buddies was saying this crap youd slap him and tell him to wake up, go buy something cool you wanted for a hobby and move on. Its funny when you’re actively living your life that people are attracted to it.
For the women that are genuinely wishing to be approached, I will share this: Most men suck at picking up subtle signals about the opposite sex. I cannot underscore this point enough. I've heard from numerous women who were interested in a guy who would tell me they were flirting with him but he didn't reciprocate the interaction. Or the numerous times someone 3rd hand would tell me after the fact that a woman who I was talking to before was clearly interested in me and they wondered why I didn't pick up on it. Related to a number of the reasons cited in this video (e.g. #3,4,5,6,8), a lot of men will presume that a woman interacting with them as just her being nice or polite, and they miss the subtle hints she was trying to give him that she is actually interested in him. It's 2023 ladies. These days, you will need to be more direct and clear with expressing your interest that a man you like can & should approach you. Like if you are trying to subtly flirt with him, you could say in a joking manner, "Hey, by the way, I'm flirting with you..." That alone will negate most of the reasons for why he would hesitate to take things to the next level with you.
no, its a problem with "hints" ITs a complete waste of time. The only person who knows what your "hints" are or what they mean. Is the person dropping them. Even the person who claims to know if someone was "clearly interested" is merely assuming an intention. If you dropped hints to your spouse or significant other she would be just as clueless even if you have been together for years. Because she has no idea what your hints are or if they mean anything at all. Assuming your "hints" mean anything is just childish, and a way for a woman to escape accountability for being dog shit at communication. in her mind it allows her to blame YOU for not being able to read her mind. i.e escaping accountability. Thats the real reason for hints and "subtle signals"
Being expected to be able to read hints is even worse for people like me (I have Asperger's). It's hard enough for neurotypicals, let alone neurodivergents.
Nowadays women flirt to get attention Which strokes her ego So how am I supposed to know if a girl is interested? Is she is just flirting to play games? Or is she actually interested? As a man who works a regular retail job and interacts with women everyday I’ve noticed that flirting is a big thing now But when a guy approaches They say “I’m focusing on myself and my career” It’s stupid really
I recently spent about 2 months talking to a girl getting to know eachother and having great conversations. All green flags even exchanged a few pictures nothing crazy. We met and had a good 2 hour first date then she ghosted me afterwards. I dont even know what went wrong. This is the kinda of thing that makes it tough to even keep trying.
What went wrong is that while you were talking to her she was fantasizing and building you up in her mind to this amazing unrealistic version of a boyfriend, and when she met you in person, no fault of your own, you didn't measure up to the fantasy she had deluded herself with. Unfortunately that's because so many women are immature in the way they think about men and relationships. They have watched soap operas and movies and started believing the nonsense on the screen is supposed to be reality. You're better off.
@@krisptacocrazy thing soap operas are filled with feminist agendas where they tell the women to leave her man and be “strong independent”! They’re pushing agendas
Good thoughts. Some others that I can attest to: -lack of communication skills: we are so addicted to our technology and the quick messaging that we have lost the art of conversation. It can be hard to hold conversations and so many (men and women alike) come across as being shallow in personality or character or they only can talk about themselves. Holding a deep and efficacious conversation to really get to know each other is lost and then I think some get intimidated about how will things be IF the relationship progresses; can they continue to keep interest. -fear that women are playing games or just looking for titles. Are they investing in a relationship or are they committing to the relationship? Disposable society. -Ladies...men (vast majority of them) do not care for loads of makeup. When we see that, we see a woman that is vain, self-centered, and insecure about herself. We see high potential for toxicity and empty drama!
I read all that. Agree. I’m a carpenter and a plumber. I love my job because I have engagement with a lot of people in person. Not in technology. I’m newly single (40) looking for a wife, but I’m red pulled as fuck. And have been for a long time. I’m at peace with women’s nature now. I understand it. This generation has failed. Have more happy babies… way forward
I am a professional, make a good salary and have been told I am good looking and charismatic. Yet I still struggle with meeting modern dating standards. One mistake such as being too nice, wearing the wrong outfit, texting too often, or not being masculine or confident enough finds one being ghosted. Instant gratification is what everyone wants I guess. That, combined with the fact that 2/3 marriages end in divorce has sadly indicated to me that it is not worth the emotional or financial trauma. Enjoy running the world ladies; hopefully you meet a good mate and don't end up old, childless and alone like so many are destined to do.
@@FlamingCockatiel It's about half, but the higher rate applies to second, third, fourth etc., marriages which have a much higher failure rate. First marriages are about 40% failures. And those who fail, don't learn from that, and so are likely to screw it up again... and again... and again.
Reason #2; I'm 51, was divorced in 2006 so my ex could remarry her True Luv. Dated off and on since then, until about ten years ago, when I realized that the women who I'm attracted to would agree to date me were doing so because they needed me to do something for them, not because they enjoyed my company. Since then, I just don't bother dating any more. I no longer try to keep an attractive appearance, I no longer worry about how someone else considers my image or behavior, I no longer arrange my living spaces to appeal to anyone but me and my needs. In the last couple years, I've had a few different female friends describe me as a "feral man". When I asked them to explain what that means, they told me I would be a good life partner for a woman, but I no longer have any interest in -having- a life partner - I no longer want to share my living spaces, sharing closet space, letting someone else make decoration decisions, share a kitchen, etc. In other words, women just no longer have anything to offer me, that I can't hire if I need it - nursing care, s*x, cleaning, etc. I have my pets as affectionate companions, I have my friends to do stuff with. I don't have to okay my schedule or availability with, I don't have to go to any family or social gatherings for somebody else's benefit, etc. I guess I'm happy being feral. :)
I must agree with all you guys statements. I’ve been divorced a second time time about 15 years now. Much easier to live by yourself. At age 65 I’ve given up hope. Setting my sights on retirement, traveling and enjoying the rest of my life here on earth. One would like female companionship. But the headache are not worth it. Go your own way guys.
On the "being called a creep", factor. Male survivor of sexual abuse by girls here. A big part of my experiences was shame. I was told I was disgusting, that I was vile, even when I was physically unresisting, the onus was always put on me as the one who was doing something wrong, even when I literally stood still and let things happen, since any attempt to defend myself physically or even push someone off was called "dirty." I spent years being genophobic, I was convinced if I brushed a woman's arm I'd be a rapist, I had literal nightmares of being in court charged with sexual assault. I always had a lot of female friends, but that was where it stayed, one friend one described me as "the least sexual man she'd ever met." I wanted a relationship, but had a literal inability to pick up signals that any woman was interested, I needed someone to be straight forward. fortunately, I finally met a very lovely lady who was prepared to be that honest, and we've been happily married for the last 7 years. God knows how I'd have coped with the post me too era, since it seems now every man is being encouraged to feel the way I did. I'm not saying this for sympathy, just to point out firstly, that I suspect experiences like mine are not quite the rarity people think they are (especially in an era which encourages female narcissism and public misandry), and to say that women being honest with guys actually does! pay off. I am pretty sure some of my female friends were interested in me previously, but because they simply sat there and expected me to be the one to take all the risks, things didn't go anywhere at all, and in an era where men can be publically shamed, fired, or even arrested for literally looking at a woman wrong, I'd imagine that dynamic has gotten even worse!
I have a story to share that perfectly sums up my experience so far. (Im 33 year old) I was waiting for my friend near a tram stop. I was glancing towards the tram stop because my friend was using it to meet up. A group comes off the tram with some girls. I was looking for my friend and i didnt even notice them. They walk by me, and one girl from the group shouts loudly at me the folowing sentence: "What the fuck you want from me you fucking nerd!" Now i know how to handle the situation, even back then i just ignored this sentence from her, because thats how men work i gues. if your hurt just suck it up. Anyhow i have been in simmular situations multiple times in my life. Just from glancing in the dirrection of woman. I dont like beeing humiliated publicly specialy from randoms who i dont even know. Why would I approach a women? Just to get humiliated even for glancing in their direction? I would rather try my luck with online dating sites, oh wait... Thats filled with shallow, and material woman. (respect for the exceptions!) So yeah i became a member of MGTOW even before i knew what it was or that it exsisted,. This whole situation causes me to feel depressed at times, because i always wanted a family, with kids. Atleast I have my hobbies...
This was some group of strange girls on the street, why dislike yourself so much and why do they matter? You get nutters, saying weird things on the street all the time, it's a common occurrence. Try finding some kind of social group, or hobby, where you can actually be introduced to women you might like.
@@redstar7292 I tried those. They only work when your good looking enough for their expectations. Im usualy not... Granted in friend groups they are less rude about it, but still if your called ugly or other look based insult 200 times pluss you start to wonder. The funny thing is that i was selected by females to be their secret lover while they had someone or fwb relationships. They did found me attractive enough or something. I declined these because cheating or fwb isnt my world... The other reason im thinking about MGTOW is because of bad relationships. I have been lied to and cheated on. I also knew gold diggers...
when stuff like that happens to me i dont even look at the ''thing'' in front of me then i make a cross with my 2 middle fingers and point it to her saying ''vade retro Samantha'' and i carry on casually
I'm 74. When I was about 21, at an event I asked a girl to dance and she ran off to the toilets! That tends to leave a mark on one. Despite your best efforts in the video, neither you or any very attractive down to even faintly attractive woman will ever understand the horror for a shy man of trying to meet women, exude the necessary charm , have the necessary small talk and the self esteem to carry it through. I still can't do it even after all these years.
It is not that hard. You have interests, some topics are more important to you, some things you are curious about. Being polite and having something to say that is interesting ought to be enough for a normal women so be thankful when you say something that means something to your, if she does not respond, good, she lost out. If she does respond you potentially have an interesting interaction, which with a feminine woman, is very pleasant. I moved out of the US 23 years ago and live where women of all ages tend to be feminine, fit, socially competent, well educated and highly cultured so striking up a conversation with an unknown woman is almost always a pleasant interaction if I have something interesting to say. If there is any mutual interest in a topic it is natural to spend some time talking and exchanging contact information. Women are not afraid of men and are held in high esteem by men because they are almost always pleasant to be around.I have not dated an American women in over 30 years but meet really attractive very feminine women every day, and any age, on the street, in a museum, in a club, at the opera or ballet or just on the a walk in the park.. One of the most common ways of meeting a very attractive women is using my pro grade camera with telephoto lens to take a great photo of her in a relaxed calm state, no forced smile from 50-100 feet away in a park or on the street and show her the image. The reaction to candid un-posed images images that really capture her nature is always positive and I offer to send her the file so it is normal to exchange contact info. Usually I will just approach with something interesting to say about the current location or something of relevance and usually that is the start of an enjoyable conversation and future contacts. But this is a culture where women are valued for their femininity, intelligence and being highly cultured. I never see fat women under 50, in fact I have never seen a fat teen or 20 something. Women enjoy being women and enjoy men who are men. Women tend to be highly educated and often have good careers but always remain feminine. If you take foreign vacations you no doubt noticed the difference if you go to destinations not dominated by US culture. Relax, be yourself, you must have something of an observation that would be of interest to others.
@@stanspb763 Thank you for being so encouraging. Unfortunately, I live and will die in the UK, hot-spot of feminism and misandry, over-weight etc. I think my problem has always been low self-esteem, about which I knew nothing until I was about 40 years old. I simply feel I've never had anything to offer women despite having had a few girlfriends, and during my now ever increasing singleness, those I've met in general have no interest in me, despite my education, solvency and settled and calm nature. For me to sort out, I'm afraid, but the ladies in the UK simply do not make it easy.
I’ve been at my current job for just over a couple of years. Even today, there are only two women I’ve ever spoken to where I work, both of them have been from HR, and I never speak to them unless they speak to me first. This is the world women wanted.
This should have been number one because any woman can ruin a man's life with just a few words and without having to provide any bit of evidence, the court system will automatically side with her
I don’t even look at them anymore. I’m improving my physique and outshining a lot of guys in my area. Some try to play a stupid game like the fix my pants dance or randomly dropping nothing and bending over to get it. I just take my damn glasses off.
I stopped approaching after asking a woman out and she looked at me like I took a dump on her coffee table, and very loudly said, "I'm not going out with you!" There were a lot of people around and a few of them laughed. I decided never again.
Imagine approaching 1000 times and basically get told to 'fuck off' 1000 times..would you still have motivation to approach and pursue? I don't think so
I told my family I’m done dating. My last girlfriend, we were together 3 years. I had strong feelings for her, and she ended up cheating on me. From then on, I couldn’t see myself dating anymore. My family would just say “oh you just haven’t found the one yet.” I try to explain the difference between the girls when they grew up were loyal and actually cared about your feelings to girls now who aren’t loyal and don’t give two shits about your feelings. Not all are like this, but there’s a great amount. Also, another fear is being falsely accused of SA for even associating oneself with a woman. Not worth it at the end of the day.
Why would you even involve your family in your private/dating life in the first place? Your relationship with your family sound extremely unhealthy for both part. You better grow up to be an adult human being!
Buy yourself a beautiful high end silicone companion doll (like I did.). They feel incredibly realistic, are equipped with internal heating systems, internal electronic sensors that allow them to have amazing orgasms, can be equipped with artificial intelligence, etc. You can have an amazing sex life without ANY of the risks of dealing with organic women. You deserve nothing but the very best.
@@andersnielsen6044 That's like a normal conversation to have with your family, and it's generally older relatives who broach the subject. Trust me, no single guy is rubbing his hands together at the thought of burdening his parents with an uncomfortable conversation about his struggles with women. No, parents bring it up even though it has the potential to be a touchy subject because they're actively taking an interest in their kids lives. What's unhealthy is believing that you're such a burden to everyone around you, including your own family, that nobody is going to listen to you talk about your problems unless they're getting financially compensated for it. I pity anyone who feels that way.
These are pretty spot on. At 32, divorced, with a daughter, I've come to the realization that I'm not real interested in dating at the moment. I enjoy the peace I've built since my divorce and that peace is too valuable to risk over any woman that's unwilling to put in effort and show commitment. I just don't feel like wasting another 5 years of my life just to get cheated on the minute things get a little hard.
I think about how many men's lives were wrecked and families ripped apart by thinking they had a wonderful wife they could built a life with. Men are not allowed to be victims of anything in our society.
@DuaLeaD It's a pretty sad reality. Women will cheat, and most people will support them without even checking in on the man. For me, the cherry on top was my ex's best friend, who is married to my former best friend, was friends with me for 14 years and knew me before my ex, and is a serial cheater, said I was ridiculous for fighting for 50/50 custody of my daughter. Hard times really do show you who your friends are.
@DuaLeaD Absolutely. Especially when you consider she has her own issues with her husband taking care of their kid. The easiest friendships I ever had to cut out of my life. But also thankful in that they made me more vigilant in who I allow into my space.
"I just don't feel like wasting another 5 years of my life just to get cheated on the minute things get a little hard." don't men get cheated on when things get a little soft?
You are 100% right about the creep comment. That is the most hurtful thing that a woman can say about a man who has approached her with romantic interest.
#4: nobody likes being rejected. I think that's the main reason. The inconvience is to the one daring to propose and who fears rejection. My advice would be not to go looking in bars and night clubs for a potential love interest. This may sound corny, but why not join a hobby club or something like that, where there are enough women to go and try out your luck. Working (closely) together with people, in my opinion, may lead to more and better options for those seeking a serious relationship. * - if it's a hobby club, at least you'll have the same hobby interest
Nice job seeing it from a male perspective. Very insightful, and I think you nailed the top 10. Like it or not ladies, the feminist movement did tons of damage to dating dynamics. The media and Hollywood really perpetuate this, as they continue to emasculate men in almost every movie and TV show produced in the last 5 years. As someone who’s been around a while, I can assure you this current time is the worst it’s ever been.
The damage is by design. Feminism isn't for equality, in spite of all of the claims. Feminism is about superior rights, but mostly about destroying the family and making women dependent on the state so they'll vote for more marxism.
What fixed it for me, was learning how to spot women who ARE interested in me. There are numerous books out there now, which explain the body language and behaviors to look for, and it's decreased my strike out percentage to almost zero. It takes a while to get used to paying attention to their behavior as opposed to just looking for the woman who looks the best, but in return, I wind up with lots more dates. AND... you don't ask for dates. You ask them to come along with you to someplace fun that you're going to anyway. Either: She says yes, or if she's busy asks for a rain check if she is interested in you, or declines. If she declines, she's likely not interested, but you go anyway, and the next time you see her you tell her what a great time you had, and always make sure you get a picture of yourself with a pretty woman there, even if it's a worker (just make sure that no one can tell that she works there); that provides social proof that you were worth getting to know, by another woman.
@@moemanm1202 Start with Leil Lowndes 'undercover sex signals', then the charisma on command/demand series of videos and/or books, there is so much information out there which guys simply seem refusing to learn, because they can't be bothered to read or watch. Far too many men just want magic pick up lines, which don't really exist. Read and learn. Or stay alone and keep approaching women who either aren't interested, or are already taken. Like anything else, it takes studying the problem, to learn how to overcome it. I did the above, plus took dancing lessons; why? Who do you think is watching all those dancing with the stars shows?? WOMEN. You can learn how to be the charming guy that women want; it doesn't have to be limited to those who are naturally just charming by nature. It CAN be learned.
Spent most of my twenties and early thirties looking for love and relatinships without much success. Over the last few years the realisation finally hit me that it's not meant to be so I learnt to make peace with being single and find acceptance. Nowadays I just focus on myself, work, hobbies and interests. Happily single! 😎
Same here bro. I’m 23 and I’ve no luck. They are never interested back, so I just gave up. I just be living life now, focused more on my hobbies and trying to make other sources of income
@@sithlordshaun_ and as is tradition - I will post a comment about me being under impression I had bad luck, when I was pulling one - two possibly wife material per year ( not all were interested after time but it seems as good luck now after all comments I saw ). That being said, you do a good thing, if unicorn comes, wont be when you expect it and usually via hobby or sth.
Much of it is because women don't really give a signal that they'd like you to approach, so we don't think you're interested. Also, for those who have done online dating, we're used to hundreds of women simply ignoring you or turning you down, so it lowers our confidence and it's very easy to think women out in public will do the exact same.
1. It is usually way more work than in the past. 2. The quality of prospects is lower 3. The family court relentlessly screw men over, sometimes to suicide
I think the biggest problem here is that women assume they know what men want and are so wildly wrong it's almost a form of miracle. Worse, women never cared enough to even consider that men have wants and needs. Ladies. What men want is actually extremely simple: 1) Be generally pleasant to be around. No, men do not want a drama queen, we do not want a "boss bitch" and no, we shouldn't have to "handle you." Life is full of enough bullshit, we do not want you to add more at home. 2) Be reasonably attractive. We're not asking you to be supermodels and in fact, 90% of your makeup and everything else is completely unnecessary, but the problem is that women are more overweight than ever. There's exceptions and some men do like fat women, but the vast majority of us don't. 3) This one is the hardest for modern women to understand. No, we do NOT want a relationship with a woman who has had a bunch of one nights stands. Why? Because if you're going to demand that men treat you like you're special, you better actually be worth treating like you're special.
Next you are going to tell me that men have desires that matter to women and society. Gynocentrism is the religion. Narcissism is the mindset. Men are disposable.
Calling a guy a creep is like calling a woman a 'c*nt'. It is very degrading for both sexes especially if you tell other people about it. What's worse is when he finds out about it from other people like the Human Resources even though she accepted his phone number and said 'thank you' to him with a smile in the first place while they never texted each other nor talked to each other afterwards. What's worse, she never returned his phone number back to him because it truly belongs to him. This guy happened to be me. Women don't know how traumatic and very depressing this can happen to a guy afterwards. I can never do something like that to any woman because she could harm herself physically and especially mentally.
@@ashplv663If you respect a woman you should be respected in return. If any woman disrespects a man by manipulating him on his back, then that woman has deep personal issues and usually it is her bad upbringing by her parents. And yes you are 100% absolutely right, women missed their chance on a genuine guy like myself since 2014. I now have 100% of being politely rejecting women. Boy have the tables turned with power and control over women now that I am not interested in women, I can see how women are sneaky and smarter stalkers than men but I learned their tactics and most of these women stalkers think I am the typical stupid guy who isn't aware of it.
@@WTIV Except the other word has more darker and more deeper consequences that can get a guy fired or put to jail and on top of that having security people stalking you even though he is been innocent throughout. Also petty harassment from her coworker friends by making judgement comments behind his back despite being manipulated by their own female friend.
As a category 2 male, I heartily agree. Been there, done that, risked it all and I have the scars. It is time to gracefully leave the field when I still have a little of my heart and soul left.
8 and 3 are the biggest ones for me. Another one I would say is women not taking dating seriously. I dated a lot in high school and college, and I got the line "I'm not worth your time", or "I'm just looking to have fun", or "You're the kind of guy I'd like to bring home to my parents, which is not what I'm looking for right now." over and over again from girls I dated. It became apparent to me that we just weren't looking for the same things. Eventually I gave up looking in the US and started looking in Asia (which I was familiar with because I had lived there for a year as an exchange student, specifically in Japan) and I found that women my age over there took dating much more seriously. Eventually I married a wonderful Filipina gal at age 23 and we have been happily married for four years now. I'm now 28, and these last few years I have started getting messages from some of the local girls I dated years ago in high school and college asking about me, then reacting with shock and disappointment when I tell them I'm married. I own my own home, all paid off, own my own car, all paid off, I have my own business, and I regularly take my wife on vacations all around the world, in fact just last Christmas we went on a trip to South Korea, Singapore, and Malaysia for a month. I would've been a good catch, any of the women I dated could've had what my wife has, but they were too preoccupied dating losers and so now they're working low paying jobs they hate while my wife and I toast each other on a cruise ship.
Oh no no they weren't "dating losers" they were "finding themselves" now they realize chad isn't interested anymore so they go looking for nice guy backup they all thought they were guaranteed to get only to find they're taken or have gone full RP/MGTOW & are no longer interested.
It sounds to me like they got experiences over the years. And when they saw their partners wouldn't be worth taking home to their parents they remembered the good guys they met in the past. I doubt you were the only guy who got a message. Now about the shock factor I assume they all thought women would be sluts of sorts until they got older and got hit with reality. And about the disappointment well they must have been very arrogant to believe you would't get over them years later. You dodged a bullet with these girls.
I think you chose badly in the US. Great that things worked out in the end, I'm just saying, if you pay attention to the women that aren't worth your time, you'll be able to filter out and get better ones. Either way, that's great that shit turned out for the better anyway.
Every woman is ready to settle down. That statement means not with you. And im not knocking you, whichever one of you glorious bastards said it, but rather illustrating their mindset. If youre a guy who works with his hands, you know mileaukee and dewalt make great cordless tools. Milwaukee is bougie and dewalt is good but just honest, reliable, easy to use tools. Both great things for different reasons but the same purpose. Now imagine going into harbor freight and having to find a cordless impact. Youre going to look quickly and from one option to the next. Youll get disgusted and leave with a “im just looking. Not interested in buying” when the store clerk asks if you’re interested in anything. Thats women evaluating men. Chris Hemsworth and Dwayne Johnson are the desired outcome. The rest are just bargain, second rate tools.
Reason 11; I've recently become a widower. Watching the love of my life, taking her last breath, was devastating. Having spent half of my life, with the woman of my dreams, i honestly couldn't witness a repeat. Goodbye my lover ❤ ❤ ❤ goodbye my friend... X X X
I've only recently come across your channel, and I just want to tell you, as a man, how refreshing it is to hear a woman confronting/discussing the issues that you cover. I'm a 61-year-old man from the UK (on my 2nd marriage). You hit the nail on the head on so many issues. Keep up the good work.
I am an older guy. When I was young I was shy and girls went out of their way to embrace me,I got over it and would talk to women every chance I had. I got friend zoned. As I got older they started acting like I was a creep. So I just don't talk to any of them now.I am better off without them.
Number 2 is spot on in my case; I'm out of the dating game. I've been cheated on, lied to, used for various amounts of reasons (financially, physically, etc.), treated as an object rather than a person, not allowed to have emotions or express my fears, ghosted, and belittled. I know there are still wonderful women out there that have been hurt by men just as badly as I've been hurt by women but I can't keep getting hurt searching for the diamond in the rough. I love myself and have a ton of fun doing things I enjoy doing alone. The only thing that bothers me deep down is not being able to have a child/family but I've started to look into surrogacy and adoption so that's not an entirely dead end road... yet. All these reasons are valid though and I do hope everyone finds what they are looking for.
And here's the problem with this that women don't understand. Let's say women improve this year 20x better. You wouldn't know because you left the game. Once men leave, that's it. They aren't coming back unless something astounding happens. It's too late. That would be like the restaurant you stopped going to because it was disgusting. If they lowered their prices and began serving fabulous food, you'd never know because you don't go there anymore. Women are Bud Lighting themselves. Men are leaving, with no intention of coming back. Certainly a man who has been divorceraped by what he thought was his loving wife would never want to get married again. It's not worth it. And these divoceraped men are going around telling every guy they see about what they went through. This is happening at multiple levels.
@@hikikomori_trader The restaurant was analogy. You get the concept. If you did still go to restaurants, you would avoid the bad ones. I won't eat at a Shoney's. It never ends well. This is like dating in 2023, only the women won't tell you up front they're a Shoney's. They advertise themselves as an amazing pizza joint or BBQ pit. But then you get there and you see runny eggs in the breakfast buffet trough. Another Shoney's...
I am a 57 year old male , whilst working in Nepal last year i got to know a lot of younger women and men. At all times i treated all of them with respect. A french girl who was 27 apparently had the hots for me big time for the 4 weeks i knew her. She told me all this when she left to go home. I asked her why she never said something, her reply was didn't you see me look at you. I told her i would never have hit on her given my age, but all she was a work colleague and i didn't want to come over as a creep.
@@lewisdean22 she would have made her move long before she left if she was genuine. Or went home and bragged to her pals how she messed with an older guy's head. and if you have to work with her again she's waiting to see how you react to the seed she's planted and see if you jump through her hoops to give her validation and ego massage........could be wrong brother. Maybe I'm too cynical. But my gut says "Danger Will Robinson"
@@Tinseltownintherain-zd7ep many thanks for your reply, lucky I won't have to work with her again, it was a one off. But you raised some really interesting points, and I know not all women are like this. ♥️🏴
I'm 41, I remember that before the early 2000s girls used to move away from their groups to give a boy the opportunity to approach her. After some eye contact she looked at you and then moved somewhere else: the bar counter to get a drink, the terrace to smoke a cigarette and so on. Today it's all lost. They don't do anything, they don't even look at you and they don't move an inch away from their groups. That's fine if they don't want to get approached, but if they do that's the worst thing a woman can do for having a chance of being approached (without speaking about the zero consideration they have for the man's effort). I'm not into pubs, clubs, discos and all that crap anymore, but those were the last impressions I got and that are confirmed today by younger people. FFS like 10 years ago I heard a girl saying with pride that when she goes dancing they form a circle with her friends so they can "guard" each other from guys approaching. Needless to say, she wasn't hot at all and she wasn't nice. In her place I'd be glad someone even wanted to approach me.
Men in the USA, Canada, the UK, Germany, Ireland ( there are government sponsored anti' MGTOW TV advertisements) Australia and New Zealand are in a situation where if they get married they immediately lose half their money instantly. If they have children they lose up to 80 %. Why or why would you sign a Contract that's a stacked deck ?
Do not talk bad about prostitutes. Those are the only women who treat you fairly nowadays. Any man who has not figured this out already is pretty dumb. It's much cheaper and better for your (mental) health to only deal with Pros. No disappointment, no false hopes and always a girl you find hot.
That too Hookers are better at what they do and they're better listeners. So the usual modern woman making a whole list of demands and being told her whole damn life her P**** is gold and to just lay there like a fish is in for a rude awakening. Wow just got to emilywking talking about dating hahaha oh no you wish it was some short term thing, there are many of us who are sick and fucking tired of being used for sex or money and so we've dropped out up to ten years or more, it's better, it's happier, it's more peaceful and it is more stable. Men look for stability in relationships. Fuck that. Imagine having to do all this run around just to get used, and she's not even offering stability and inner peace. The last two points this woman made is absolutely right, we take one look at you and make a snap judgment you're not worth it. It's the part that really hurts for older women I bet but it's true, you guys are giving off strong "I grew up calling men creepers" vibes or tiktok instagram girl vibes, or gold digger vibes, and any foreign woman who is looking for a Western guy is making a terrible mistake acting like these people. If you put off "I am also like these entitled modern white women" vibe he's going to walk. They treat a relationship like they're a high end escort who won't shut the fuck up. Understand, I am talking about women who will straight up insult you, you agree with them you need to change that, but because it's also something they hold a double standard about (like "you're right I need to lose weight") they will proceed to argue with you for thirty minutes or an hour after insulting you for your weight why "every weight is normal." I timed it. Imagine the patience you need to listen to some woman insult you and then browbeat you for 30 minutes because you agreed with the point she made that you need improve yourself. THIS is why we all took ourselves out of the dating pool and I think these women are making a terrible mistake in assumptions by looking at us too, you're probably seeing guys that are or should be "socially intelligent" or men who are attractive, or guys that put off a badboy vibe, and we are so sick and fucking tired of modern women and modern non-relationships and being used that we bailed on you entirely. I think women are making some mistakes thinking it's just ugly short fat guys that bailed. No we all bailed on you. So to point 9 and 10, yes, you have to keep in mind how many women he's been run through, and if he got ran through by either one woman he really trusted and adored, or gave multiple women a shot, odds are he already pulled out of dating completely and the only reason he even glanced at you was he thought maybe she's different, picked up on something you didn't even know you do, and got rejected. Men reject women by either not approaching them, or by letting themself coast along in a relationship they know is wrong without ending it themselves. Modern women don't want to take personal accountability so I feel like a ton of them are not getting yeah, it really is you. And if it's me, and not just you, then you're putting off some single like you're taken (there are many reasons guys won't even approach you, either they are former fuckboys who don't want that again, have respect for other men, or see any woman who cheats as a horrible idea so if he's thinking you're not single only fuckboys are going to approach). If you are a foreign born woman, the most likely explanation is he is either still pulled out from dating, or you just did something that reminds him about modern women, or your friend circle is too many modern women with septum piercings, lots of tattoos, "I'm a baddie" IG/tiktok girl attitudes, basically your friend circle is pulling guilt by association. Even if they're not white girls, if they put off strong modern woman vibes, he's not going to even bother approaching you if you come off as being not single, prone to being offended, because you're sending mixed signals, or most importantly because he just made a snap judgment you're probably like the other girls around you.
Regarding assuming someone isn't single, I'd like to add to this. The first time I met a woman who told me her boyfriend was temporary I was floored. It made no sense to me why you would stay with someone knowing it wasn't going to last. That was also a huge turn off. It meant to me, that I'd risk staying with someone who would still be shopping around while we were together. It also explained to me how you see so many videos of guys proposing and women saying no. He was invested and she wasn't and that is heartbreaking to me. Thanks for doing these videos and helping give good men a voice in the modern world of relationships!
I have also watched a video where this lady with almost 1 million subscribers giving advises to women for relationships. She stated "date different men at the same time, keep your options open" half of the comment were ladies approving, the other half were men disapproving....
That's most women. They think you're good for the moment until someone better comes along. They will only stay if they think you are the best guy they can get and keep.
You think that's bad? I had a woman tell me she's married and as I walked away she said "that's temporary, marriage's aren't forever." She literally said this to me. The combined horror and revulsion was overwhelming.
I often wonder that too. women treat men as a luxury. I've never understood why women stay in "temporary" situations and then have the audacity to complain about men being horrible
This is one thing that you're missing, It's when a woman says she wants specific things in a man and she calls it a preference, but when a man does the same exact thing, then why do women call that toxic and then laugh about it
#1 was it for me. I know, generalization is full of pitfalls, but my experience has been completely in this category. I put everything into the relationships I have had but pulled up short of being someone I'm not. All I've gotten was drained bank accounts and another man or men reaping the "benefits." I have yet to meet a woman who brings one damn thing to the table other than some sense of entitlement, assumptions that I should "just know" and this sexist notion that because I'm a man, I'll just somehow find the means to give her everything she wants. Never have I met a woman who gave a damn about what I wanted. Oh, sure, she's all interested and supportive in the beginning, but once they felt that I was committed, I became invisible, my opinions no longer counted for the air they took to express and suddenly, there was nothing I could do right. Oh, yes, I quote; "I love you more than my life itself, unconditionally, deeply, I want and need you, you're my everything, don't touch me!" No. Done. Nothing a woman has to offer is worth the aggravation, pain and betrayal that seems to inevitably wait in the end. Ladies, you made this landscape. Now you don't like it. Well....man up! Support yourself, make your own dreams happen and leave me alone. I've found peace. Peace that comes from no women in my life drumming up drama for the sake of drama. Peace that allows me to shape a life I can enjoy, lets me peel off stressful things and events that sap my energy. I can be a man and not care about the criticism of what kind of man I am because I don't need to please anyone but me. Guys, you want to experience true, unconditional love? Get a dog!
When I was younger I was invisible to women. I didn't meet their standards. Now I'm in my sixties. Never had an STD. Haven't been accused of fathering any illegitimate children. I didn't know it at the time, but women were doing me a favor. I am retired with a healthy income that no one can lay any claims to.
Love is always conditional, and most desired when there is options for the partner. You might think you loved her unconditionally but there were conditions, that you expected her to reciprocate. You were too easy, no challenge for her, which would be established if you were somewhat vague and more careful about expressing it. You seem to have believed in the fairytale sort of love of romance novels so she lost respect for you. She needs to feel she needed you, being more stoic would have caused her to seek your attention and validation. You gain nothing being her girlfriend, which you created that image of yourself. Sure, be steady and dependable, but show less emotion if you wanted her to respect you. Your greatest gift she could give you was respect, and you through out that option by turning to your feminine nature. Being her rock and confidant is not possible when you express it in behavior and words as a girlfriend would. Instead of aligning with her feminine you needed to be the opposite, what she needed and would respect. She might want to be entitled but when it does not serve your relationship, someone has to be the adult, and she would have responded if you set boundaries for her. Those are tests women naturally create to see if they can depend on you. Saying no to inappropriate demands is a sign of true caring and she would have responded. If you did not set boundaries, a female becomes less secure feeling and she will keep testing until you respond in ways she respects, or loses all respect. Women are not softer males, they are a different nature, which makes sense when seeing the larger picture of the purpose of her relationship with is seeking security to raise the next generation. Even if a woman does not want kids, her nature that evolved over millions of years to being the most successful set of traits to have a new generation survive. It is a good thing she tested you, but not a good thing how you assumed declarations of unconditional love when she naturally was seeking tests of your support and security needs. Saying yes to unhelpful demands triggers fear, even notions of flight. Rocks do not yield to emotional tests. Although women in times of highly civilized societies think they do not need men, their inner nature is still programmed from a million years ago and that conflict makes it hard on women and they do not know why they feel insecure when still having external control in modern society. A women who feels protected, responds by true feminine love. Much of that sense of security is her man setting boundaries that appeal to that natural security seeking. She got scared, emotional and insecure when you made such undying love statements as if you sought her love. She already had that love for you but you killed it by being passive and needing her love. You scared her away by not knowing her nature was a test. There are other women out there who will test you also, and success of the bond hinges a lot on whether you respond as a girlfriend or her rock. Masculinity is seen as toxic now but women brains are still wired to respond positively to masculine men.
Video links: 1:10 - Reason #10 - You're (the woman) is in a large group of friends 2:35 - Reason #9 - Looking for signals from a woman 3:15 - Reason #8 - He doesn't want to be labeled as a creep 3:54 - Reason #7 - He is nervous 4:43 - Reason #6 - He assumes you are not single 5:15 - Reason #5 - He feels like you're out of his league (assumes he would receive rejection) 6:07 - Reason #4 - He's afraid he's inconveniencing you (bad timing) 7:23 - Reason #3 - He's worried about scaring you 8:31 - Reason #2 - He has gone his own way ("he's taken himself out of the dating game") 9:37 - Reason #1 - He sees it's not worth it ("progressing to 'level 2') Let me know if there's errors.
The best thing you can do is go bust up that huge gang. Start asking questions. Work group? Half of them pretend to be friends. Some outright dislike others. The one youre interested in you should see what she says about the other girls. If she says “heather wore that shirt because i wore a similar outfit to xyz function and got lots of attention. It doesnt really fit her body type.” This is probably a hotter girl crapping on a less desirable one to signal “im good looking”. This chick is going to be seeking validation from every weiner she sees. Run. In a group of ten, 2 might be acceptable in terms of personality, confidence, submissiveness, etc. Gotta stop being scared of these insecure frikkin creatures. The hotter the more insecure
@@robstr12 It's publicly known now. Msm label it a "right wing extremist movement" and are trying to hijack it. Every guy laughs in derision and scorn for MSM's lack of comprehension ability of the English language.
Great video Emily and thanks for choosing to understand mens' perspective..the only big thing i'd say you're missing is the laws..and men's deep well-founded rational fear of a two-tiered justice system..men now fear getting entangled in any way with women because they are well-informed and know the entire institutional system--police/lawyers/judges/child support/alimony etc is slanted against men and in favor of women at every turn and at every level..relationships these days are extremely risky propositions for men..something goes wrong and they lose everything..it's just not the same situation for women..and so you won't see any change in men's behavior unless some laws start to change
I tried to cheer up a younger co worker for valentines day when I first started to work for the company I am working now. I told her to cheer up and that things would get better and bought her a candy she said she like in the past. Never thought anything about it. I just like to cheer people up. She filed an unwanted sexual advance on me. SO ya .... most of us are like no no more.
2nd comment. It’s less stressful to not even bother with it. There is about 3% of women that would actually engage with you in a meaningful way. The other 97% are just toys in the play box. We are focused on careers, financial independence and no drama. It’s nice coming home and cutting on your music that you love, pouring a drink and cooking a nice dinner for one. Rinse and repeat. We are not lonely….we elect to be alone.
But without children you have no descendants without descendants you break the genealogical line and you lose the only type of immortality would get in this world
@@shahqurbanbaba1873 there are other kinds of immortality but they don't leave any essence of who you were in our which is your genetics. If you become famous like a writer or a a well-regarded film or theater star that will be remembered a few centuries from now in the vein that for example Mozart or Beethoven is remembered then you will have that kind of memory immortality however the only physical immortality we have is in our children because our genetics is passed down from generation to generation. I have found 6 direct ancestors who participated in the American Revolution at any one of them not been born or killed before they had children then I would not be here. The further back in time you go the more impactful are small changes in the past existence in the present. Each of us is here because everything was just right in the further back in time to go the more right it has to be just to make sure that you are here. Go back 30 Generations in one small change could affect the existence of hundreds of thousands of people so existence is quite a precious thing. What we do here now in terms of reproducing or not reproducing impacts who lives in the future. And it is the future that represents our immortality in the physical sense. Spiritual immortality is a totally different topic and involves theology which I'm not going to get involved in here as those are matters of faith except I will say this that the laws of noncontradiction otherwise known as the principle of the excluded middle apply here. I shall not go further into that statement.
@@samadams6487 this isn't dragonballz.. immortality? Do u even hear how insane u sound? I bet u believe in Dragonballs as well. Unreal lmao. Ppl really need to get over themselves. If u wanna chase pussy to have kids and claim it's all about "immortality' fine...but stop spreading bullshit propaganda. U sound like an agent from the Matrix. most ppl are not gonna be famous songwriters and athletes and actors...your whole defense is fallacy
One day I was going for my walk. I walked passed this one woman who started screaming. I asked her was she okay. It was really silly to me. I was in a long term relationship where the woman didn't even come to the hospital to see me. I've given up on dating. So many promises, so many lies. It hurts but I continue on with my life. Just tired of the games. My wife passed away, so called girlfriends have left me. It's okay. Keep pressing on even by myself.
Same, my ex didnt see me when i was injured and almost paralyzed. Another ex took my kids from me. And when i use to date, women would use me for food dates and ghost me. Completely done, and thank god im making the most money ive ever made now so im enjoying life by myself. It is what it is bro.
I was 21 years old back in 1985 and even then when I would "approach women" I'd get accused to things, called a "creep" to my face, and please keep in mind I was a very shy, polite and respectful guy back then!! In fact, most of the relationships I had in those days, the women I ended up with usually took advantage of me and my good nature, and THEN accused me of lying and cheating what it was typically THEM who lied to me and cheated on me often enough!! Women constantly treated me like garbage, even when I did EVERYTHING to please them!! And in the end, NOW, these days I am bitter, cold, rude and point blank honest in how I view women AND relationships, because of the things those women have done to me!! Fortunately for me, in 1998, as my second failed marriage was falling apart, I met an amazing woman who I am still with today!! Her and I became best friends, and still are!! BUT this doesn't change the fact that even today, I find it disturbing how women treat men overall!!! And even my present girlfriend sees this happening to her two sons all the time!!!! The point is, IF my lovely lady wasn't in my life......at 59 years old now, I'd have ZERO REASON to chase after any woman in this day and age!! And the further point is even though I AM actually listed as "Divorce/Single" in my marital status, there are so few women like my sweetheart that could ever replace her, God forbid anything happens between us!!! Another point to make is, what is now known as MGTOW, is something that a lot of us became in the late 1980s, and women have generally gotten worse in their behavior and unrealistic expectations!! And a lot of women, that I have known (dated, befriended, married or worked with) are just NOT "good people" and claim to be innocent when they are the center of all their own problems usually!! And I have been with AND SEEN women who never accept responsibility for their own words, actions, bad behavior and poor judgements, and they run around blaming everybody for the problems THEY CREATE themselves!! And sadly the majority of women ARE like this, but the rare few get lost in the mix....like my lovely lady!!!
Divorced after 30 years of marriage. The new dating world makes no damn sense. #8 and #3 are HUGE, although I can relate to all of them. I haven't completely stopped approaching but am tired of the misinterpreted signals, trying to figure out texting and Snapchat, being used, and all around bullshit.
Similar boat. The women I have been attracted to and spent time with have 4 out of 4 been emotionally unavailable. One still in love with her committed dance partner, one married to a guy in early stages of dementia she is representing as longer stages, one who is completely emotionally unavailable and one who was a narcissist and wanted to play the field. I hear all these complaints about can't find a good guy, and I don't find a line of great gals lining up for a great guy either.
I started dating my now ex-wife in 2015. Back then the dating scene was getting undesirable. I heard horror stories and was glad I was married. Now that I'm recently divorced in 2023, and "in the game" again, I have little desire for any of the garbage or the game. Yes, I would like a (good) woman who treats me right. But it just doesn't seem worth it to go thorough all of the hoops and hidden landmines just to maybe get faked out again when I find one that supposedly loves me. One day I do hope to find that fabled "good woman", but until then I just want to focus on my relationship with God, getting healing, and improving myself. One day it will happen, God willing, but not today.
@@JoeSmith-gb4ng You would be basing the marriage on luck, not love. The amount you love her does not necessarily equate to the amount she loves you. Women can put up a great act like they love a guy, but as soon as she gets her divorce ducks in a row, she suddenly doesn't love you anymore.
@@protorhinocerator142 You misunderstood my post. I was saying I hope I get lucky in finding a good woman. Like Michael, already been done the marriage road.
I'd love to add onto reason #10. I've tried multiple times to approach a women who was with her group of friends. Each and every time one of her friends usually speaks up with something to say in a rude tone like "she has a boyfriend" ect. Almost as if they're jealous I'm giving their friend attention. So I avoid approaching women in groups or with friends because I dually get shooed away. And If I'm being honest it's incredibly embarrassing when so many people watch the failure happen.
Approaching women in groups when you're by yourself is essentially social suicide. Women already have their guards up when men approach them, so if you approach a group, you are now in a situation in which multiple people are likely to have their guards up, which creates instant tension. A woman's friends then become likely to pull her away because they think they're protecting her. And since many women care more about their friends' opinions as opposed to their own, they'll listen to their friends regardless of how they feel about you. Furthermore, if you make it clear that you're interested in one, the ones you're not interested in take it as an insult to their egos and cope by being rude to you or trying to pull their friend away. No matter how handsome, smooth, or charismatic you might be, the second fact puts you in a position in which the woman's friends might be rude to you and/or pull her away. So you're basically at the mercy of the friends. And ugly friends are pros at this because they're used to pulling their more attractive friend away from men all of the time. The best way to mitigate this is to approach with a wingman to distract the friends and make them think they're the object of interest as well.
If women started approaching guys in public, it would fix everything. Women are not going to be publicly shot down in disrespectful ways, because guys are already traumatized by the times this has happened to them.
When I was a little kid, I saw my uncle get raked over the coals by divorce court, and I got heavily bullied by some girls in my class for being short and weak. When I got older and tried my hand with women, I always got rejected (a couple of times laughed at by the whole school). At this point I see no reason to try anymore, what with family courts holding a loaded gun at every married man's head, not knowing one single virgin over 18(if a woman has left with 1 person other than you it more than doubles your chance for a divorce), and clearly not having the ability to attract anyone who actually would want to raise a family
Good list. RE: #6: It is extremely bad form to reach into another man's fridge without asking for permission first, so unless she is making it *very clear* to him that she is available and wants him to approach, assume she isn't. Females are largely unaware of the levels of absolute chaos and destruction a truly angry male can unleash, but males know full well what can happen because they themselves can go there without much provocation, so it's so much better to just avoid incurring the wrath of another male. #4: Timing. Yep, pretty much. We don't want to approach unless we have a reasonably high confidence level that you can be receptive to even being approached. This is because getting rejected does in fact hurt, and, if we can pick a time where the chances of getting rejected are lower (though it still may happen), then it's better to wait until that time presents itself. #3 Yep. pretty much. If we're scary just because we exist, then we'll just leave you ladies be and go our own way. It's sad an unfortunate, but many of you ladies are doing it to yourselves. #2 Pretty much. See #3. I can think of many other things I'd rather be doing than trying to deal with somebody who doesn't even want me around, so see ya. #1 Pretty much. It's not worth squeezing if you're not going to get much juice, or the juice you do get isn't any good. Any reasonably good guy would think twice before willingly subjecting himself to modern women in general, which is exactly what is happening now. Are there good ladies out there? Yes, but you gotta shovel through a lot of trash to find them, and there aren't enough of them to make it worth doing that for most males.
Got a couple of things to add: 1) I'm in a rather heavily female dominated workplace. Youd think it means plenty of options but nothing is further from the truth. Every single one is spoken for and i would never get in the middle of things. I'd say i could easily rattle off 20+ in my sphere that would interest me but couldn't consider for this reason alone. And that's no-one' fault 2) I'm constantly told I'm what people would look for, and would "make a good husband " but there is next to no interest anyway. It is very confusing to hear you meet a "standard" yet the experience doesn't match. I know I've got my own list of problems and insecurities that need improvements so a lot is my fault. It does feel like just 1 date in about 15 years though is a crippler, especially in your early 30s
I lost everything at the worst possible period around 2008-2010. Losing my job at the time was caused by her BPD behavior. Then because of the timing in the economy I couldn't find another job making what I was. Lost my car, my home, self worth and my savings in an attempt to save it all. Only a couple years ago did I get back on my feet financially. It literally has taken a decade to recover after that relationship. Been told by females that seem to be interested in me that I am a bit standoffish when it comes to being open emotionally or physically. The damage females cause are far more than what they even realize.
I feel your pain, it's taken me 5 years just to feel normal after a horrendous experience. People don't see the psychology abuse us men can receive from women. I'm still many years away from feeling strong enough to consider dating.
No mystery that the event's that precede a woman's exit from a marriage is loss of a job or development of a serious illness physical or mental. They initiate divorce 90% of the time, and it's either for those reasons or they found a better option.
@@funkfarmer7125they initiate divorce because 90% of the times they are not fully into the relationship. They always keep a foot out…you never know… while men when they are in love give everything. Plus they have many reasons for getting married that have nothing to do with love/marriage.
I've given up dating like over 10 years ago, I was also very hurt by my ex-fiancé, no matter how hard I worked for her it was never enough, and she just ended up cheating on me anyway. It's impossible to keep my head above water alone, you need to be roommates or married, I feel like basically dating has dried up and there are just junkies on apps, and people that you will never meet because they long have given up. I hate the chase, I hate mind games, I can't stand jealously, and I can't stand it when I get signs and then find out, she was only fishing for the ask to stroke her own ego as she smiles and walks away happy, and that is very cruel to do to someone. So yeah, I have long given up and just focus on saving and investing. I feel like dating is all on the terms on types of men that I am just not. So, yeah, I have long given up.
'she was only fishing for the ask to stroke her own ego as she smiles and walks away happy' - that's the norm these days. Women go to great lengths to bait me to ask her out, they'll pretend they have certain feelings/attraction, she'll drop very strong hints, and as soon as I ask her out, she ghosts. And women wonder why they're lonely. Yes, because we don't trust you to not waste our time. Don't come on to us if you've no interest.
I'd say this is as spot-on a list as anyone could develop. I, for my part, am sick of being feared simply because I'm a man, sick of paying for every date, and sick of being so harshly judged. The Top 4 cover it for me.
I personally feel most of these points. My biggest hesitancy towards approaching women is how I will adversely impact them (taking up their time, making them uncomfortable, being rejected, etc.) I don’t even pursue women platonically because I don’t want to be judged.
Observations to the video, seen as a single man 1) Group: it's not (just) about fear to approach a group. A group is going to be noisy, getting her attention is very hard. Even worse, in a group you ALWAYS get one of her friends telling her to not let you approach her because . 2) Creep: add the fact that she's always selective. If you are a chad with good game you can approach, pump and dump and abuse her at will. If you aren't a well endowed player, you risk getting the police called on you. 3) Not single: every girl worth taking is always taken unless . If she's not taken, she'll still tell you that she's taken. In the past this used to be a courtship ritual, where the girl is just making herself precious and the male has to insist. Enter 2023: you risk getting in jail for insisting (especially in UK). At a minimum, a video of your pitiful courtship attempts *SHALL* be posted all over social media, receive 2 million views and thousands of shaming comments. 4) Too beautiful to talk with: it's true what you say, but also, in 2023, beautiful girls are "public property". Their DMs are flooded by rappers and NFL players who offer her to fly her over and spend a week-end on their yacht. Even then, a growing number of beautiful girls are monetizing themselves on adult sites. Basically, why bother. You, average blue collar making $80k/y are INVISIBLE to her anyway. 5) Man gone his own way / believe it's not worth any more: the small group of permanent men gone their own way is massively growing. Actually we are moving to other countries, where laws are less hostile and women are not westernized. Men generally just want to create a family yet are portrayed as sick, evil creeps that don't even deserve to exist. Screw that, there are 4.2 billion women in the world and billions of them live in countries more compatible with marriage.
Eddy Murphy did a skit about this in the 80’s. I’m only 31 and even I have seen the Raw bit where the woman from another country turned all westernized. Look it up, it’s definitely on TH-cam.
Almost all 10 apply to me. I haven’t dated anyone in 5 years and I really don’t know if I ever will again. I’d literally have to just happen to find the right woman for me, but she may have to make the first move. It may change in time, but I really feel burned out from past relationships with the wrong women.
@@josephbarnes2681 It's not just you. I don't usually get rejected come to think of it, I have a hard time gauging what I look like but after spending a few months on here listening to this I am realizing women openly flirting with you is probably something pretty rare. I thought it was modern women being modern women. Which btw, meanwhile as they're chasing off and being abusive to other guys, there's another set of us who probably are attractive (I'm guessing? These women I just realized probably make a whole series of assumptions on an attractive guy and no, it's not even about game, it's about perception and what we are after) and we are also tired of it, because it's really alienating and degrading dealing with these fucking people. They'll lie to your face, cheat on you, give you no reason to trust them, and then be bitchy. I think the top 20% of men are also tired of their shit so what these women don't realize is first of all how you treat the guys you see as nerdy or average WILL piss us off (if you see a guy being a dick to a fat girl? You know that icky feeling you get when a man is picking on an insecure woman? Guess what that's exactly how I see you no matter how pretty you are, it makes you ugly as a person) and meanwhile it is really shitty feeling like a woman is looking at you like a sex object. I just wrote that out and read it back and realized no, no this is definitely not the average guy's expereince is it? I think I figured something out today. Anyway so point being, you're also dealing with guys who you do want that are sick and fucking tired of being looked at like a dildo attached to a wallet, and it's alienated and degraded enough of us we're not giving you the time of day. So all that's left in some areas is guys that are cool with being used as warm sex toys because that's literally all you are to them. And I imagine this hurts like fuck and really makes you feel degraded and used but keep in mind that guy probably already had a whole string of women cheat, lie, give him trust issues, not listen to him, even if he is attractive white women have such shitty attitudes that by the time you show up he himself is pretty busted and used. It can happen even with just like 2-5 sex partners, where you're finally so tired of dealing with modern materialistic women, who're just trying to get something out of you, we walked off. I'd point out that yes, as a man it's extremely degrading being used for sex. NO, we don't all like it. The sole men that like this either are so lonely and insecure they'd be cool with being abused, or they're using YOU for meaningless sex and are throwing you away like a used condom next week. It doesn't get pointed out enough we DO know instantly when you are looking at us like you're trying to get sex out of us, and the only guys that go along with it who are not fuckboys are those sadsacks without enough sense of dignity and self respect to walk away and instead keep fucking you because at least he can "try to make it work." Women need to rethink their entire approach to dating and maybe that's what these MRA tards mean by "masculine" is the female strategy around guys they like is absolutely to act like a player and it's a huge turnoff. So in other words what I am saying is that guy you want to say yes and raise your kid? Sorry we resigned, go ask the guy you said no to.
Being called a creep is only part of it. There are times I try to be a nice decent person and out of nowhere the lady will automatically assume I'm just just trying to get in her pants. I want women to know that if a guy is nice to them and/or tries to talk to them, it doesn't mean they're trying to have sex with you. There are guys out here that are just trying to be nice and a decent human being.
I don't approach women because I don't want to be insulted. The last 4 times I spoke to women in the street were because they'd dropped her car keys / her wallet / her credit card and her purse. I only said "Madame, your keys/credit card/wallet/purse..." And I was horribly insulted. It isn't worth speaking to women.
I grew up observing my mother verbally and psychologically abuse my father until he was just a shell of a man. Now, to be truthful, he wasn't a driven or successful person, but we did ok. When he passed away at the age of 52, I felt like he finally escaped. I never wanted anything like that.
Growing up in a country where common courtesy is to not bother people and let them do their own thing, on top of social awkwardness and nervousness around strangers, self-doubt, and overthinking things further hammered home by social media and seeing just how nasty some people can be with standards of men and cancel culture etc. Yeah i have never bothered even trying entering the dating sphere before. This video demonstrates a lot of things going through my head in relation to even trying, so i just choose my own bubble, not really approaching anyone unless it's like a social gathering or event.
I gave up on having a love life once guys started getting "me2'd" for asking for a phone number, being slightly flirtatious, or complimenting the way they look. I was already "on the fence", over all the other bullshit and head games women play with you, but when men started getting "me2'd" for no reason at all, that was it for me. I am 100% never ever, under any circumstances whatsover, going to be in another romantic/sexual relationship. I am very careful that none of my interactions with women can be misconstrued as flirting. If I even think they are flirting with me, I walk away and avoid them in the future. And when they actually straight up hit on me, I make it perfectly clear that I am in a monogamous relationship with PornHub and I have never been happier. It really is, quite honestly, just not worth the time, the money, the hassle, the drama, or the risk. Fuck all of that shit...
@@karmad.twelve6613, Oh, I wouldn't call once or twice a week an addiction. Hell, I wouldn't call once or twice a day an addiction. It only takes five or ten minutes, and then it's back to whatever I was doing before that. It's not like I have ask what it wants to do for dinner, or how it's day went, and it never asks me to take the garbage out, or if it's really necessary for me to smoke weed this weekend, or have a beer for lunch. I find it releases stress and I'm way more tranquil and productive. Not to mention that I have way more money. Yeah, I'm definitely not addicted, but if I'm wrong, I wish all addictions were this beneficial. I'd aquire a few more. As it is, I really need to quit smoking cigarettes. Theyre not beneficial at all...
Robert, I agree with you on all your points and reasons. I might also add that sexually, FOR DECADES NOW, society has made sex ONLY about the woman's orgasm. You're supposed to have all this friggin' "confidence" and "automatically know" what she wants, (you're not supposed to ask, of course) and if you DON'T give her some screaming orgasm you've failed. Women and men have both gotten the message it's about the woman's orgasm and nothing else. Sooo, I've opted out of even trying. Having to wonder and worry, "am I doing this right, am I doing that right...?" Screw that. This is a big reason massage parlors are thriving like never before for regular income men, and high-end 'escorts' for rich/wealthy men.In both cases, you have men that just want to be serviced and would rather pay a monetary price than mental/emotional/psychological, etc.
Putting in the effort and being met with indecision or hot/cold responses was a big problem for me dating after my 20’s. Over time, I found lots of other things to do and pursue that have made me happy. Have not regretted my decision to live a less complicated life.
I think that may be a real indicator of like though, I'm thinking of one situation in specific where I actually saw her as viable, but between her being around friends that came off as picking up Western woman vibes (even though are themselves not Western girls), her hot/cold thing that remind me of drunk people's emotional lability, and coming off with a distinct impression she was taken, I stuck to myself and just kept working on my own spirituality and getting myself staying more substance free. I'm drinking coffee right now so I've been having a hard time of that but at least I don't have any alcohol or nicotine in my system in over a year and you know what? I don't even miss my drunk friends. This is something these women need to discover for themselves, it's not just about loyalty, it sucks saying this because loyalty is so appealing and such a big important part of things for me, but I had to ghost my entire friends group. Far as I know they're all still drinking and hanging around bars or doing their own things. I've lost a lot of weight, gotten more fit, I don't drink, smoke, or eat meat now, and it's probably already opened possibilities that I don't know about. But at the same time I have to ask myself does she smoke, does she drink, does she maintain these absolutely toxic disgusting secular materialist and man hating attitudes etc. I think women need to be either very direct or very consistent, if you're hot and cold odds are he's going to walk away. You're eventually going to come off as a threat or a woman who doesn't know what she wants, or you're going to reinforce some idea he has of you being taken.
Bottom line message to the ladies: If you become a royal P.I.T.A. we will ghost you. Men don’t seek out a woman to make their lives more difficult, complicated, expensive, and miserable - DUH!!!!! 🧐
I have been called creepy, the go to answer for every woman is that she "HAS A BOYFRIEND". I have been laughed at by woman. I have been insulted for even having the audacidy to ask a question to a woman. I spent my whole life making an idiot of my self trying to find just ONE WOMAN on a planet of 8 Billion people. I finally found one women that liked me. She demanded a house, she demanded a wedding, she demanded a child. I paid for it all just for the "PRIVLEDGE" of making a women happy. Then she filed a restraining order to force me out of my house. She lost in court but it cost me a fortune and basically ruined my life.
Dear Emily, I appreciate the effort that you put into making this video. However, in my opinion, you missed the 3 most important reasons that men are no longer approaching women. These 3 reasons go hand in hand, and FAR outweigh all the others: - I MUCH PREFER HAVING THE WOMAN INITIATE: This way there is no confusion, no games, no misread signals, and mutual attraction. Also, when a woman initiates, this shows confidence, assertiveness, and self-assurance on her part. I, personally, have always appreciated having women take the initiative, whether social initiatives or romantic initiatives. When a woman makes the first move, it makes me feel more accepted, appreciated, and more at ease. Not only do I believe that women are better at making the first move, but when a woman initiates, the communication is clear, and the interest is mutual. This helps men because it relieves us of the burden of always having to initiate, of performance pressure, and of the stress of always having to do and say the right things. This helps women too because they get to be in control, and they have more assurance of creating quality relationships and having their needs met. Also, when a woman initiates, she gets to choose the man that she wants to be with, rather than having to wait for a man to approach her and hope that he is a good person. This will boost a woman's confidence and self-esteem. Also, she is in control, so she can't complain; and I get to feel accepted, loved, and appreciated just the way I am. I used to think that I was one of the few men who preferred having the woman make the first move. But nowadays, my understanding is that over 90% of men of all ages, PREFER THAT WOMEN TAKE THE INITIATIVE. Looking back, I find that whenever a woman has initiated contact with me, the friendships (be they romantic or platonic), have been higher quality and longer-lasting. So my exhortation to all the ladies is: Be not afraid; take charge; be strong; be confident; be assertive; be sexual; and UNLEASH YOUR INNER TIGRESS. It will boost your self-esteem and you will find that you will get so much more out of your relations with men. So, Emily, now that you have given 10 reasons why men don't approach women; your next video should be entitled: 10 REASONS WHY WOMEN SHOULD APPROACH MEN. I hope that you will consider this idea. - SEXUAL HARASSMENT POLITICS: This reason alone should be sufficient enough. Sexual harassment allegations, nowadays, run rampant. If a man doesn't initiate contact just right for her, or sometimes if he initiates contact at all, he could be accused of sexual harassment. He could lose his reputation, his job, and even be sued. For this reason, having the woman make the first move is practically considered MANDATORY. I want to tell all young men: Stand your ground; and... Unless she initiates, Don't you reciprocate. - I PREFER BEING SINGLE: I could write an entire essay on the benefits for a man to remain single (and I have). For me, the benefits of being single far outweigh the benefits of being married. Many other men realize that being single means having more time and energy to give to friends, to family, to hobbies, and to God. And this leads to men having healthier, happier lives. What's more, the problems of going through a divorce are MUCH greater than the problems of being single. The blatant truth is that for men, nowadays, the only way to level the field, in the area of male-female relations, is to GET A VASECTOMY and STAY SINGLE. I made this decision many years ago, and I have no regrets. I encourage all men to follow my example. This doesn't mean that I don't enjoy having quality female companionship, or that I am not open to having a steady sweetheart (if the right woman comes along). My heart is open to romance, but I am not anxious. I prefer not to approach women, but let the woman initiate. Nonetheless, I act polite, respectful, friendly, and sociable to all of the ladies. And yes, I still flirt.
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser,i wasnt going to let my marriage of 18years crash
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As a blue collar worker, I have found that I am basically invisible, and I have been treated with distain and contempt.
I found out that I am a MGTOW before I even knew there was such a thing!
In my experience I found that getting involved in my work hobbies and interests was far more rewarding than continuously getting rejected .
So in my opinion if modern women want a guy, they are going to have to share the ones that are still willing to play their stupid games.
Chads and simps still playing the game.
Seeing the statistics - the number of men vs the number of women that aren't in relationships - it appears women are either sharing a man or are in relationships with other women, or both.
Just be more incognito about what you do for work!
@@GunkleJaja no be honest about Ur job why hide who you are they either accept you or they don't no point in hiding what u do for a living
DW, they will share.
Problem is ,,,, if you actually win the girl,,, the prize you actually “win” is “you get to pay her bills”
Black-pilled
So true …. 😂😂🤣
Until she gets bored of you, sucks another guy's d$#k on the couch, get caught, and STILL takes you to divorce court and gets everything from you. Good job ladies, enjoy your boxed wine and collection of cats when you're all 50 years old and single.....
Well, in my opinion if your "win" is that "you get to pay her bills" then it is not that bad. You can also have false accusations, damaged reputation etc. If a girl starts saying about her man that he is for example emotionally abusing her than usually nobody will confront him with it, he may not know for a long time.
So why I would even approach woman I don't know? She may look nice and may give the impression of being friendly at first but it doesn't mean that she won't turn my life into a hell.
And she feels entitled enough to bring nothing to the table expect spreading her legs here and then what is usually also an enjoyment.
She feels wanted, she feel that power
I’m 51, and I am done with dating, never to return. Men are tired of being rejected, lied to, and taken advantage of.
most women are married to their jobs, cats, and herpes
Plus there's always Thailand!!
"Who hurt you?". lol
I’m 49 and taking an extended break. For me, it was the frequent rejection. It comes in various forms (friendzoning, ghosting, getting dumped, being let down gently, etc) but the end result is the same. I finally realized that unless you are “economically attractive,” dating is pointless. If I ever get more successful, I may get back on the horse.
If you can, maybe move to a country where the men and women are shorter. If you can.
I’m a woman with 4 brothers. I appreciate your videos because I think men get the short end of the stick too often, and they suffer in silence. Your videos shine a light on that and the comment section gives men a forum to express themselves, which I imagine they appreciate.
We do suffer in silence but only until we reach our collective breaking point. And when that breaking point finally comes one of two things usually happens. 1 We either completely give up on society and stop doing the critical jobs that keep society running and just let it fall, OR we f**king snap and turn society into a scene from mad max.
@@killman369547 yep im at 1 waiting for 2 to have fun
When my cheating ex and many women trying to date damaged goods and heartaches galore and incarceration by a woman's accusations and a failed court system that men created is used against them so why bother my cheating ex manipulated me into going into a mortgage for a home only to leave because the paychecks were going into the mortgage and was not happy anymore I lost 😊her and the home because without the combined paychecks I could not make the payments there more to the story but you get the gist lost her the home I didn't want and my mind and my dignity and life has just spiraled out of control from that point one thing I learned when I was with her many ladies of diverse ages were trying to get my attention when we were together wish I would have played that one but I am a one woman man did the bad boy thing and had five ladies at once on my rebound but that was way to stressful when ones just leaving for home the other pulls in the drive way and they passed each other on the same street and I'm like I think I need to quit this behavior because sooner or later there wood be a cat fight or a big drama scene and I got the stuff out of dating all together in don't go out to bars last time I did I cold see through it all and the behaviors of women and men if they are going to bars they are not worth my time damaged goods and hollow legs so I do my things in life I must say truthfully I'm damaged beyond repair I'm 54 soon to be 55 no children that is what kills me the most my genetics end with me and who the hell cares anyway but that's just a tid bit of my failure to multiply
It's just become a bitch section.
An accusation of assault or sexual harassment is equivalent to a conviction. Even if he gets the opportunity to tell his side of the story, he won’t be believed. Reputation, career, liberty could all be taken from him. Best to be safe and stay away.
How do you get a sexual harassment charge in public? Thats hr policy not a law. Theres assault but you cant be arrested for saying anything unless its considered a threat.
@@BigTyronieGo to Scotland and find out. In Scotland, a woman can press charges against a man for simply looking a her. Mainly her belief that you looked at her too long or the wrong way.
@@WJSweeney I've seen men on youtube comments in America say the same thing that cops have nearly arrested them because some woman lied and said they were harassing them.
@@BigTyronie It happens
I've lost two jobs due to unfair & false claims. The second time, the higher bosses knew that nothing bad happened, it was all proven to be bogus.
'We just feel it would be better to part ways.'
I’ve literally seen a cop walk into a gym following up on a complaint about a woman accusing a man of looking at her.The cop was a female.She literally told the woman this “Just because someone looks in your general direction,it doesn’t mean they are staring at you” The female cop walked out of the gym and the woman who made the call got enraged because the cop didn’t arrest the man who allegedly looked in her direction.I thought it was hilarious af! LMFAO
that perfectly sums up why
It’s not illegal to stare
@@ShadamAran
This is not simply bad behavior but an abject failure of Gen X parents and as well as the last 25 years of our broken education system.
Modern women act horrible these days, way too self centered, me me me, selfish and entitled.
This video is spot on! The main reason that men don’t approach anymore is one that most people don’t acknowledge. Men have been listening to all of the harsh criticisms of men from feminists and feminist leaning ideologies. Contrary to popular belief, the vast majority of us want to be respectful. The woman who don’t want to be bothered have been much more vocal than the woman who do. Social media has made it clear to men that in order to be respectful to women, we need to pretend that all woman are invisible unless a woman makes it known that she wants to be seen. Unfortunately for woman, you will need to start approaching or making it blatantly clear that you want to be approached. Good men see women’s safety as paramount. We want women to be safe and feel safe. But, we aren’t mind readers. We don’t know if we should approach until the encounter is over and every male over the age of like 15 has been shot down brutally at least once by a girl that he really liked. For many men, the juice isn’t worth the squeeze. Non traditional woman who want a traditional experience is a paradox to men. Men are genuinely just trying to do what woman have been asking us to do; leave you alone.
This is very accurate. The idea that a woman might feel unsafe in my presence is absolutely mortifying to me. I will do anything to avoid that even if it means not approaching a woman who secretly would like for me to approach her. I don’t want you to be scared of me, I don’t want you to feel unsafe and I don’t want you to feel bothered. So, I keep away and mind my own business.
Every day, everywhere, women see the news of men abusing, raping, and killing women - daily. Oftentimes for their own sick fantasies. And many were respected members of their community - hard workers, husbands, fathers, brothers, friends. Every day, everywhere. So yes, in the back of the womans mind - after maybe being harrassed throughout the day at various levels by men - here comes another guy and what could happen with this one? Many women, like many of you men, are just giving up too. It's not worth the grief and the uncertainty. And gentlemen, you can thank your fellow males who have done this disservice to your sex. Every day, everywhere...
I'll say "Amen" to that, brother!
I like to add that the "the fear of being called a creep" on social media isnt the only possible negative consequences. if your in public and your being called out to be a creep, there is a serious chance you will get into a confrontation with another male(s) or employees of an establishment who think you are harassing her. Even before Third Wave feminism became dominant it was already hard, but they really changed it into a mission impossible.
all the brainwashed blue pill cowards
A confrontation with another male, yeah I say bring it.
I have seen numerous videos of women claiming they were harassed merely because a guy showed her attention of some sort. Basically, almost anything can be deemed harassment by a woman.
It's only harassment, if she isn't interested in you though. Funny, how that works.
Sad but true. Some women look to trap guys.
It is really truly sad and I feel bad for this emilyking because she seems like a sincere woman, but basically one of the things modern women are going to really have to come to terms with is that you've been LIED TO your whole lives, that you ain't it, your pussy isn't made of gold, you can't use sex to get anything you want, and you let your personality and character atrophy while your sex appeal just spent the previous 10+ years degrading, and so as a result you are now putting off the same vibe and getting lumped in with all these women men wish to avoid.
The woman who made this video is a really sad example. I'd pass just purely on account of her being white, blond and blue eyed, and an American accent. I wouldn't even give her a chance. And because she's older there's not much point to pursuing something when even the fun part is gone, for all I know she's going to rant about feminism or wokeness or some dumb shit, you know women should just be careful of politics in general because I've written off white liberals and white Republicans wholesale. The few smarter women like her are beginning to figure out that men walked away, but sadly not yet totally comprehending we aren't just scared of you or nervous, the problem is all the women around you and those women aren't even worth a hookup. It's why trumptards became a thing, ironically enough their racism is being pretty accurately reflected in the liberal women who are now looking down on and talking shit at foreign women, because our resounding answer is no we don't want you, you're old, you're argumentative, you're used, you're bitter, you're ENTITLED, you're meanspirited, you're hyper materialistic and you have no earthly idea how to be a mother or wife. It would be helpful for me to figure out how not to project western male vibes at this point, as you guys are not made of gold either. Simple shit like, don't wear videogame tshirts, wear a nice cologne, wear decent shoes, the most basic things, have a car, have goals, work on a career, don't be a drunk etc.
So meanwhile we're not just worried about the harassment, it's a question of is the risk you accusing someone of "almost being raped" worth it for you. For most of these modern women, the answer is a resounding no, girl you're not worth it. Some of you might be worth it but we take one look at all your shitty friends and realize you may be a shitty person too. When you go on a girl's night out, you'll have some guy notice you, and I am going to look straight down the line at all your entitled woman hating friends and within about five minutes I'm going to notice friend A shit talking her ex, friend B shit talking the waiter, friend A then chiming in with her entitled attitude to the waiter too, friend C then makes some condescending classist comment, like you are not worth it purely on account of your friends. If you are a single lady and your friends all are singles, you may need to ask yourself maybe there's a reason for that.
@@prrsd4046 not sure what you mean, I just got rejected, sometimes told to leave them alone. Getting trapped is something a Chad worries about, they like to keep their options open and sleep with multiple women, and the stupid women, while ignoring me, fall for it everytime! Horrible experience, my attempted dating, I figured if I wasn't succeeding, I wasn't trying hard enough. I figured if I asked out enough women, I would finally get to the one that wouldn't reject me, but it never worked out that way. So much for gender equality, it is very unequal asking a woman out on a date!
@@thomaskalbfus2005 trap, referring to the common methods women use now ex. at gyms when guys look at how they're dressed, bait guys in with conversation only to hang them for their words, etc. Some women get a power trip with this stuff knowing they have low accountability.
I should have been more clear in the original reply.
I am 54, never married, no kids, plenty of relationships. I decided that it just isn't worth the risk. Divorce destroys a man financially, and women's expectations today are sky high. It's exhausting.
Cancel culture has destroyed flirting. Online dating is a hellscape, and dating at work is professional suicide. It is so much more relaxing just to do my own thing.
Raisins juice ain't worth the squeeze
Get a passport
Love reading this. I'm 31 and heading towards this direction aswell.
@musicartguy, Not to mention how much drama these narcissists feminists stuck up women are nowadays altogether. MGTOW is freedom.
her capitalistic needs are too high why do fascists never get that part
My #1 fear of approaching modern women are false allegations of sexual abuse, sued, rejections, post date withrawn of consent, destroying my reputation, possible destroying my career, hot/cold attitudes (reject men with ease but can't handle rejections), fatal attractions, get offended easily, can dish jokes but can't take it, public humiliation, or crucifying me in public opinions. Modern women are strong and independent and do not need men so why would they expect men to help?
Question for modern women: Why do modern women emancipate themselves from men and seek relationships with men? Do you not see your own contradictions? It is like Slaves who free themselves from their Masters and want to be in relationships with their Masters or children who emancipate themselves from their parents still expect their parents to provide and protect them. Why do you expect men to be traditional gentlemen but you refuse to be submissive traditional ladies? Independent mean alone not together! What idiocy?
I am a mother of four grown sons. My two youngest are high functioning Autistic and so they have trouble just communicating with people in general, so to communicate with a pretty female they like would be even more difficult for them. Maybe one day they may try but I doubt it will be any time soon. However, my two oldest sons who are in their early 30s like women and do have female friends but I do not believe they have ever really dated or taken any real interest in a woman romantically, because of what is your biggest number fear. Women really are their worst enemies. So many times I read comments like parents need to raise their boys to be gentnlemen and it sickens me, because it is like it blames the guys for everything. My first thought to such remarks are why don't parents teach their daughters to be ladies ? Second, why should we teach our sons to be gentlemen when that is not your daughters want. My two oldest sons are afraid to be alone with a woman because they are afraid she wil falsely accused them of doing something wrong and get him in trouble that can ruin his life for ever. I worry about them both in that regards, but with my oldest son more so, because he does freelance photography for cosplay and since most are young females that he photographs then he makes sure ALL photo shoots are done in public places and he is never alone. This so sad that he has to do this but better safe than sorry. It is ONE of my biggest fears to have a son of mine falsely accused of something he did not do all because of a woman said he did.
I use to tease my sons about not making me a grandma before I was 50 years old, but now I wonder if they will ever get married let alone have children. With the way this world is... They may be better off not doing either. Sigh
@@littlemissy3936
Vetting
Think of your partner's needs/wants before yours. They will reciprocate. Be each other helping hands. Be selfless, not selfish. Let actions speak, not words.
Lady's pledge
Gentleman questions for Lady on 1st date
I am a traditional Sigma Gentleman seeking a classic Beta Lady (Little Dragon Maiden, not Brunhilda)* 18-25 years old.
1. Can you prioritize being a homemaker who loves family and kids over being a career woman?
2. Can you be submissive?
3. Can you be respectful?
4. Can you be humble?
5. Can you be feminine, not masculine, and keep up your appearance?
6. Can you turn a house into a home, attempt to mimic restaurant quality dishes at home and clean so I have reasons to come home?
You must say yes to all six questions.
Gentleman's pledge
Lady questions for Gentleman on 1st date
I am a traditional Beta Lady (Little Dragon Maiden, not Brunhilda)* 18-25 years old, seeking a classic Sigma Gentleman.
1. Can you be ambitious and prioritize working to provide and protect me and the kids, if there are any?
2. Can you be chivalrous?
3. Can I trust you to follow your lead?
4. Can you not be abusive and controlling?
5. Can you be masculine, not feminine, and keep up your appearance?
6. Can you find reasons and places to take me and the kids (if there any) out?
* The name Brunhilda is a girl's name of Scandinavian, Norse origin meaning "armed for battle."
You must say yes to all six questions.
@@littlemissy3936
Excerpts for my upcoming third book (trilogy) Delutional Mindset : The Mind On Life by Saelock Xing
Bring traditional back
• We all spend time thinking of the past.
• Reminiscing of the simple life, wishing it would last.
• Females are no longer feminine, acting as ladies anymore.
• Males are no longer masculine, acting as gentlemen like before.
• Because modern women are masculine not feminine is why chivalry is dead.
• They do not take accountability for their choices and blame it all on men instead.
• Gender roles are lost and forgotten.
• Destroy by feminists seeking equality by becoming men.
• Mental dating is modern and involves social media and texting.
• Physical dating is old fashion and requires face-to-face meeting.
• Happiness is an emotion that is very elusive.
• Modern women refuse to be submissive.
• Modern women are delusional, shameless, and men hater.
• They believe bodies count shouldn't matter.
• Relationships should be harmonious, not in conflict.
• Submission is not slavery because modern women constantly contradict.
• Modern women can not find love because they lack trust.
• Modern men can not get respect because they lose their logic and rationality due to lust.
• Traditional gentlemen are Sigmas curse to settle with ladies that are Betas.
• Traditional ladies are Betas destine for hypergamy with Sigmas but never Alphas.
• Focus on the present and bring Yin-Yang Relationship back.
• For a lasting relationship, never reverse or identical, only a balance of white and black.
It's been three decades but when I was in my twenties and tried to approach women I quickly realized that it was impossible to approach a woman in a large group if you are not part of the group. Also, a common trope was women leading you on, making you feel that you had a chance only to reject you after some time in the most brutal way they could short of screaming. This happened several times and made me very afraid to approach a woman. Some years later in my early thirties several female friends admitted to me that that kind of behaviour was something of a contest between women that gave them the right to brag to their female friends on how many men they had led on and rejected in this manner. I was so disgusted that I decided to never approach a woman again and almost all of the few relationships I had since were initiated by the woman.
Women do love trashing men's ego.
I hope you find a woman to love you brother. Im single to. Hopefully told are being turned around thru women like this in the video.
If anyone, men or women wants to be in a relationship, they should be part of the process of creating that relationship. Here ends the lesson.
Why on earth would I risk a sexual harassment charge just to spend more money ona date for an entitled woman.
You're meant to have the seduction ability to get her to pay for you xd
@@cooledcannon be that as it may it doesnt really have much to do with his point. I understood but thats not really where that was going.
Summarized perfectly
Hear hear!
Unless you say something you know you should not say like nice tits or does your kitty get wet you aren't going to catch a charge. This is a made up myth by incels to make their lack of romantic interactions with women appear to be coming from a place of competence (avoiding sexual harrasment charges). You have a better chance of getting struck by lightning
Being called a creep. I'm sure you could do a whole episode on the "Are we dating the same guy" fiasco.
Men are called abusive for a litany of indiscretions, as small as disagreeing with a woman, but a woman decides she doesn't like the guy she goes on one date with and she can publicly shame him all over the internet and it's considered fine.
Women typically don't have the physical strength to commit serious violence on men, (although it happens more than we talk about) so instead they take pleasure in social shaming and reputational damage.
They will bully men they don't like to destroy their lives instead. The difference in the forms of abuse is that men are repeatedly told throughout their life not to hit women. Women cheer on each other when it comes to shaming and destroying mens reputations. They'll publish books about it, they'll set up social media pages explicitly for it, and they so rarely see any consequence as a result.
Yup. But, but, but. Men are bigger.
So, we need to create laws where multiple tax payer funded armed men show up to commit violence against him with nothing more than an acusation. As if that has not been the norm for centuries with larger families (brothers and cousins).
Difference is, brothers and cousins know whether she is crazy.
I get called a creep. Mainly, it seems, because I have been alone my whole life and grew up without people my age being around. Sure I had school, but there's not s lot of social freedom for people in a structured learning environment.
It isn't our responsibility to make sure they are comfortable all of the time. If she's afraid of getting graped in the produce section because of small talk- that's 100% her issue and has nothing to do with you or me.
Ohhh, it gets worse. I've been called a creep for just not being interested in some women.
What you describe is part of "relational Aggression tactics" that women will use, it is about destroying your reputation, isolating you, hurting you emotional and psychologically.
Related to # 2, I have stopped approaching women because they always turn me down cold. A rejection for a date is the equivalent of a woman saying, "I am likely to live 75 years, but you are not worth spending an hour of it with." When the rejection rate is in the 90%+ range, there is a certain point where a man has to stop inflicting emotional scars on himself, before he becomes disfigured.
Same here. I'm 48 years old and have never successfully asked a woman out, and I have asked out more than 200 over the years. I'm socially awkward, and that disgusts women. On top of that, the fastest way to turn off a woman is to be respectable. If you don't have any tattoos, don't use drugs or drink alcohol, take care of your children if you have any, and are educated...forget it. You're revolting to them.
Why waste an hour of your time on a women you don't know and that doesn't like you?. I mean, Is that seriously what you call an emotional scar. You've had a very sheltered life.
@@redstar7292 🤣As someone who was homeless for a while, typically worked two jobs (at one point, three), funded his higher education on his own (did not receive a penny in grants or scholarships) for two different degrees, your comment cracked me up. Thanks for the laugh!
I hear you, @@christophercrawford777 . While I'm not socially awkward, I would still think that someone with a bit of reason would at least think, "Okay, this guy isn't smooth - but maybe he has some other great qualities. Maybe it's worth 30 or 60 minutes of my time to check out."
@@timothyraty1187 Unfortunately, they won't. Social awkwardness repulses women so deeply that nothing can overcome that. Not even if the guy is good looking, wealthy, successful in other aspects of life, etc.
I simply refuse to date. I went through a phase in my late 20's-30's I didn't date for a decade. I am 45, going on 46 now and seeing the mentalities in these women now reminds me not to date, stay single, not to stress myself out.
It’s not temporary for most men who’ve removed themselves from dating, relationships and marriage. Most of your 10 reasons are very accurate but the “it’s not worth it” is the main reason. The common refrain these days from women is “I don’t need no man; I’m a boss babe.” Glad to oblige you ma’am. My bank account is growing at a tremendous rate and, most important, I have peace in my life.
after working with mostly women in my career, I so glad not to come home and deal with another woman's issues, tantrums, and drama -- I'm worn out --- men never work in a career field where women are the dominant group
To be fair to Ms Emily, #1 and #2 are issues that older men are facing most, at least mostly men over 35-40. While the lower numbers in her list do have some effect on us, they really don't matter compared to the top 2. The lower 8 are fears based off society, the top 2 are fears based of lived-experience.
The money you save really is noticeable. Girlfriends are expensive 😂
Peace is the main thing. Women undoubtedly bring drama and conflict. And beyond that it is extremely difficult to trust a woman in this day and age, knowing how they are and constantly hearing all the horror stories. As a married or committed man you’re basically just waiting around until the day when she loses feelings for you or does something behind your back.
Dealing with that kind of pain and stress is very hard on your state of mind. There seems to be many women out here who just don’t understand or don’t care that decent men want peace. We place respect and peace up on a high level. We want to be respected for who we are and what we bring to the relationship, and we are tired of letting these women into our lives and ruining our peace and disrespecting us.
Women are more trouble than they're worth, they are totally self-absorbed, disgustingly self-entitled and look down their nose at everyone while looking like the local Circus Clown --terrible make-up, bizarre eyebrow shaping--thinking they own the world, sorry : No Thanks.
"Women make it so hard that men conclude that life is just more peaceful and less problematic without women in their life " is my main take-away. Women make it too hard and are hypercritical ( hypocritical) and that repels most men. "It is just not worth it. " Brilliant on your part to say this. This is the number 1 reason. Men give up.
Yeah, she hit the nail on the head. There isn't any deep philosophical reason, no deep seated psychological issue and men aren't 'afraid' or lazy. Very simply, it just isn't worth the trouble. What a man gets for all the mental and financial headache isn't even close to being worth it. When I was married with a stepson I could never get more than a few thousand dollars ahead, no matter how much I worked. I've been divorced for ten years and have hundreds of thousands in assets now. Until I got divorced I had always had a wife or girlfriend. In the ten years I've been divorced I've been on two dates, and on one of them she asked me out and paid for everything. In the last ten years without a wife or girlfriend I'm amazed how peaceful and drama free life is and how much more money I have. I'm in my fifties and to be honest I really don't care if I ever go on another date, let alone have another girlfriend. Marriage is out of the question. There is zero chance I'll ever get married again and risk what I have. Women really screw themselves by making dating and marriage such a headache, because a lot of men realize they're better off without it and just bow out.
@@genxer1 yepp. I'm curious about how long it will take to reallize for women that this doesn't work for them.. I'm kinda really sorry that it has to go this way. Women will become poor if they don't overcome their stupid habits and just F around while they're young.. just fooolish AF
@@genxer1 Hear, hear!! And believe me, many women - at least the smart, introspective ones - feel the same way. Better to be on your own and have that peace of mind and freedom to make choices. We are not all designed for traditional relationships in the classic patriarchal mode - being an outlier is oftentimes the best and safest choice.
correct, a woman will nag you straight into your grave because they are emotionally unstable
I asked a girl out one time and got totally played. She ordered the lobster and a very expensive bottle of wine. She then told me that she needed $100 to pay for the babysitter. Worst date ever.
I did hundreds of approaches between 2008- 2017, and I look back on it as a largely unhappy time of my life
The top 4 reasons hit the nail on the head. I’m neurodivergent and working through being emotionally/mentally abused, and those are two things that seem to automatically give me a “creepy” air for some reason. Even if they don’t, I’m passed over because “I just can’t see anything with you.” When I ask “but how do you know that” then I get labeled as a creep for asking a logical question. Bottom line, why would I continue to expend effort with a history of zero return?
“I just can’t see anything with you.”
that means they're not attracted to you. Now why is is that they're not attracted to you? I'd have to meet you first and get to know you. Ask a brother, or an honest and close friend what they think the reason is.
@@plasmabat718 and if they would say what they mean instead of relying on my skills of interpretation, it wouldn’t be an issue. But it seems that no one either has the ability or will to say what they mean in the context of relationships.
Women are too busy attempting to trick dumb men into being their slaves, that half the men they think are dumb are actually geniuses exposing their broken communication skills. It's sad that this is the common woman found in the developed world.
As a man, why would I risk being accused of sexual harassment for asking a woman out on a date? Why would I risk losing everything I worked for? It's a known fact that only men who the woman does not find attractive are labeled creeps by them if these men approach them. At work, I keep my distance from females. When I'm out and about as in the grocery store, I also keep my distance. Not because I'm scared, but because I don't want the first couple things I mentioned. And lastly, I checked out of the dating pool many years ago because getting cheated on, treated like crap, made homeless, and slapped with child support payments while being deployed working for the Navy has left a bitter taste in my mouth. And I will tell you from experience, you as a man are automatically viewed as a piece of garbage in domestic court. The laws heavily favor women, and there is absolutely no incentive as a man to marry or have children, or even date, either financially, emotionally, or physically.
... laws heavily favor women [who did not sign a prenup]. I advocate prenups as a way to jointly decide what's fair, in advance, instead of the crapshoot faced when courts decide later.
You have a point.
oh shit
that is why grifters in the manosphere will never understand... this woman... courtney ryan... billy rae... they dont make videos to teach women not to be hoes and entitled but they just regurgitate fresh and fit , rollo tomassi and rich cooper's content and with 0 empathy
I've posted this before. The beef in USA is fortified with testosterone. The oxen get a dose of testosterone injected behind their ears every day. This means that both women and men get male hormones with their daily meat ration. That destroys women. Women get hormonal problems as a result and are masculinized. This disrupts the polarity between man and woman, causing men and women to repel each other. A masculine man will then tend to prefer a feminine woman, for example a vegetarian or an Asian.
I never experienced unconditional love until I got a dog.
Nice!! 🤣
😂 nice one.
Sorry about your mother.
@corystarkiller
Thank you.
She passed all of the sudden.
@@davidgleeson1716 Better than having one that's Narcissist, that ruined your life intentionally to hold on to you and control you.
For number 10, when she is in a group, her friends will get jealous that you are hitting on her instead of them. So they try to interfere and pull her away from you. I’ve had women admit this to me, that fights happened between their girlfriends due to who was getting more attention from me (or from other guys that approached). Women are seriously competitive with each other and I find that catty-ness to be a big turn off
the single friends are all lonely and dont want to lose her to a guy
#10.. her circle of hens!
I'm SO SURPRISED this "men not approaching anymore" thing is so common, and also a topic growing in popularity. I've been beating myself up for not approaching for years, for my own personal reason:
-The loss of confidence from being rejected by the many women I was really into (apparently I'm a pretty good looking guy)
-This turned into a strong fear of the risk rejection. Rejection would reinforce that I'm not good enough again. I don't want to feel that again after a number of times already, so I avoid approaching for years even though women still look at me and I may have a chance.
- I have a fear of messing up while speaking due to nervousness, which is devastating to think about how cringe it would be to unecessarily freeze or stutter when saying something even though I normally never do that. I would hate myself for a long time for unecessarily messing up, plus cringe forever of it went badly. So I avoid trying when I feel a bit nervous to approach, which is mostly always
- I never, ever, want to be mistakenly considered a creepy dude when I am not. So I won't risk attempting to flirt. Never been called a creep, and want to keep it thqt way. One of the main reason I avoid flirting or approaching. (Mind you, I have done this succsessfully in the past)
- The risk of a rude rejection, that I've seen or heard other guys go through. I could not handle that level of mistreatment when I am so friendly and caring to people. I don't deserve being pointlessly hurt. So I avoid the risk by not approaching.
- and likely some of the other reason's other men have commented, but I'm getting to lazy to type on my tablet like this
This is true a lot of my fear of rejection probably goes back to when I was at school most of the girls there was very nasty especially to guys who they felt the need to ridicule fast forward a few years later I liked a girl who was stunning and probably liked me back and wanted me to approach her but I could never approach her out of fear of being ridiculed or rejected it messed me up
Women: “Go away you creep, and don’t ever talk to me again.”
Also women: “Why don’t men approach us anymore?”
Ironically, what stopped me approaching women was actually approaching (alot) of women. In the last two years, I've been on a bit of a life betterment quest. Dropped from 210 to 160. Running every other day. Hitting the gym. Fixed my facial hair and fashion. Got a nice car. And of course, worked on my approach with women. In 2 years, I've had something like 100 approaches. But zero success. A couple of them went pretty far, only for the women to flake (one of them after literally coming to my place to hook up and others in various ridiculous ways). But that's besides the point. What you wouldn't believe is the absolute disrespect I had to endure during this process; in one case, I was actually banned from a coffee shop for giving a girl I had been talking to for 4 months and who worked there, who was actively inviting me to stay over after work and talk for hours, some get well flowers after she tore her ACL playing soccer. Wild stuff man. The takeaway from all this for me is clear. It doesn't matter how much I improve myself, it'll just never be "enough." Society is broken and women are terrible.
Wasted your efforts.
Damn, brother. I feel you. Just worry about you. Relationships are mostly status symbols(empty prizes).
That's insane man. Hope that coffee shop goes bankrupt.
Hopefully those nasty women will end up reaping what they sow...
No good deed goes unpunished bro. Comments I hear all the time from chicks (50's/60's) are men are trash and somehow we are the problem. Cue laugh track.
I'm in the 2 category, and that's based on most of the other numbers. Several times I thought I "found the right one" a la 1, but that never panned out.
It isn't a matter of simple hurt feelings, dashed pride, or rejection. I can handle those. It's the sheer risk vs. reward. That's where you'll find most men in 2. Due to experience and observation, we've deemed it simply not worth the risk. We're not incels or neckbeards, we're regular men, some of us who can easily get dates, who have come to the conclusion that there is too much risk and not nearly enough to mitigate it, especially the hostility that many women and society has toward men these days.
For myself, I will likely never date again, and even if I did I'll likely never get married.
Every time I see one of those feminist articles bashing men or berating them for feeling like I do, it further entrenches me.
I've been single long enough at this point that it really doesn't bother me anymore. I'm happier than I've ever been in any LTR, and I haven't come across anyone that I trust enough, let alone feel attracted enough to on multiple levels, that has me thinking about it. Not even close.
I'm not lonely nor am I bitter. I'm just...going my own way, doing my own thing, happily and single.
The problem is that most women, most society, aren't interested in knowing any of this. It's easier for them to misattribute me, call me names, insult me, and blame me, rather than actually listen to me and see what's going on. They don't want to accept that maybe I have a point and that perhaps they should do some introspection. Especially feminists, they go straight to blaming me and my identity.
Oh well, honestly I really don't care. I only watched this video out of curiosity to see if you got it right a little bit, which you did.
The main reason I stopped approaching is because most women I have been in relationships with involve having to constantly be “on” meaning I can never rest from being tested or being “ under the microscope” and it’s exhausting. I refuse to stop being myself in a relationship and being myself usually leads to me being dumped.
The reason “it’s not worth it” describes my situation 100%. There is literally zero benefit for me as a man to pursue a woman, date, or marry. I will bleed money constantly on dates, gasoline to drive her around, jewelry, etc etc in exchange for drama, ghosting/divorce and more. Honestly I have thought about just adopting a child so I don’t have to deal with the drama and don’t have to worry about losing the kid in family court. I want kids but don’t want the risk associated with the mom.
Get a 🐕
I think adopting as a single man is not possible, maybe i'm mistaken.
That is why surrogate arrangements will become more popular
children need a mother, they are not pets to fulfill your void.
@@macbird-lt8deTell that to women, first.
46 years old male here. I will stay single, I have decided. Peaceful, and I can accomplish things in life with God's grace!😇🙏🥰
and $, i have more i need
never now , I' in your same situation and never felt better but be aware , there is can be a witch behinfd every corner.....jocking
i am 40 and i am the same.
i have no illusions of ever marrying.
how do you think you will live once you are old/retirement? tbh that is the only fear i have. being old and not able to care for myself.
46 years old here too. Started a FWB relation with a 38 year old single mom who is into threesomes with younger women. She is too busy raising her kids to have a relationship, she just wants me for intimacy & adventure, no strings attached. I accomplish things, get satisfied, no gods needed.
when I was like 20, I remember it was scary to approach a girl. But really there was no reason to be scared. Today's young guys have a lot of legit reasons to be scared. So I can understand why so many young guys won't have anything to do with dating😢
When I was dating, I got more and more depressed than I've ever felt. Then I fell in love with someone I met through a friend, dated her for months. Things were looking up. Then things didn't work out, then I was more depressed than ever. I stopped dating, and now my depression is going away pretty rapidly. Fancy that. I have no desire to get back out there, because my life is precious, and I don't want to feel suicidal anymore. Being told by women that they don't want to settle for you... especially someone I felt close to... that'll do it.
After having my heart broken, I am beyond scared to ever open up to someone again. That moment of finding out someone is cheating on you and then being told you don't make her feel wanted after sacrificing so much to see her happy and thriving, is enough for me to never try again. And rather than failing another relationship, I just avoid them altogether now.
yup I work 6 & 7 days a week trying to keep a roof over our head, was by her side when she had open heart surgery . When I was in a bad car wreck she abandoned me.
@@forgotmylogininfo ouch, yeah I hear a lot of that. Sickness and in health, richer or poorer, for better or worse, seems like it only goes 1 way.
Never let 1 person determine your happiness for the rest of your life. There are 3-4 billion women out there. To believe that all of them are the exact same and will do you the exact same is nothing short of stupidity. The strongest thing you can do is try again eventually, never trying again is giving up.
Now, if you are not religious at all and/or dont like religion, then you can skip the next part I'm about to say: this is exactly what the devil wants for you. He wants you sad, bitter, incapable of love for the rest of your life, etc. Don't let him win. It's a spiritual warfare out here these days, do whatever you can not to lose it.
Thats on you bro. It sucks but youre putting your worth into someone elses opinion. If one of your buddies was saying this crap youd slap him and tell him to wake up, go buy something cool you wanted for a hobby and move on. Its funny when you’re actively living your life that people are attracted to it.
@@BigTyronie sometimes things like that can be traumatizing for someone. Also if he actually has friends like that, are they really a friend?
For the women that are genuinely wishing to be approached, I will share this: Most men suck at picking up subtle signals about the opposite sex. I cannot underscore this point enough. I've heard from numerous women who were interested in a guy who would tell me they were flirting with him but he didn't reciprocate the interaction. Or the numerous times someone 3rd hand would tell me after the fact that a woman who I was talking to before was clearly interested in me and they wondered why I didn't pick up on it.
Related to a number of the reasons cited in this video (e.g. #3,4,5,6,8), a lot of men will presume that a woman interacting with them as just her being nice or polite, and they miss the subtle hints she was trying to give him that she is actually interested in him.
It's 2023 ladies. These days, you will need to be more direct and clear with expressing your interest that a man you like can & should approach you. Like if you are trying to subtly flirt with him, you could say in a joking manner, "Hey, by the way, I'm flirting with you..." That alone will negate most of the reasons for why he would hesitate to take things to the next level with you.
I don't know if it's even missing the hints. It's just mixed signals, and mixed signals get downgraded into the least dangerous signal.
no, its a problem with "hints" ITs a complete waste of time. The only person who knows what your "hints" are or what they mean. Is the person dropping them. Even the person who claims to know if someone was "clearly interested" is merely assuming an intention. If you dropped hints to your spouse or significant other she would be just as clueless even if you have been together for years. Because she has no idea what your hints are or if they mean anything at all. Assuming your "hints" mean anything is just childish, and a way for a woman to escape accountability for being dog shit at communication. in her mind it allows her to blame YOU for not being able to read her mind. i.e escaping accountability. Thats the real reason for hints and "subtle signals"
Being expected to be able to read hints is even worse for people like me (I have Asperger's). It's hard enough for neurotypicals, let alone neurodivergents.
My sister once told me “You know, you are breaking hearts all over the place.” I was clueless at picking up the clues.
Nowadays women flirt to get attention
Which strokes her ego
So how am I supposed to know if a girl is interested?
Is she is just flirting to play games?
Or is she actually interested?
As a man who works a regular retail job and interacts with women everyday
I’ve noticed that flirting is a big thing now
But when a guy approaches
They say “I’m focusing on myself and my career”
It’s stupid really
I recently spent about 2 months talking to a girl getting to know eachother and having great conversations. All green flags even exchanged a few pictures nothing crazy. We met and had a good 2 hour first date then she ghosted me afterwards. I dont even know what went wrong. This is the kinda of thing that makes it tough to even keep trying.
What went wrong is that while you were talking to her she was fantasizing and building you up in her mind to this amazing unrealistic version of a boyfriend, and when she met you in person, no fault of your own, you didn't measure up to the fantasy she had deluded herself with. Unfortunately that's because so many women are immature in the way they think about men and relationships. They have watched soap operas and movies and started believing the nonsense on the screen is supposed to be reality.
You're better off.
maybe bear in mind your just talking to them, and you don't know them. It's not anything at that point before you meet actually go out.
@@krisptacocrazy thing soap operas are filled with feminist agendas where they tell the women to leave her man and be “strong independent”! They’re pushing agendas
@@redstar7292 common decency goes a long way. Just say you aren't interested and then do whatever the fuck. Ghosting is toxic without reason.
@@redstar7292 stop defending bad behavior
Good thoughts.
Some others that I can attest to:
-lack of communication skills: we are so addicted to our technology and the quick messaging that we have lost the art of conversation. It can be hard to hold conversations and so many (men and women alike) come across as being shallow in personality or character or they only can talk about themselves. Holding a deep and efficacious conversation to really get to know each other is lost and then I think some get intimidated about how will things be IF the relationship progresses; can they continue to keep interest.
-fear that women are playing games or just looking for titles. Are they investing in a relationship or are they committing to the relationship? Disposable society.
-Ladies...men (vast majority of them) do not care for loads of makeup. When we see that, we see a woman that is vain, self-centered, and insecure about herself. We see high potential for toxicity and empty drama!
I read all that. Agree. I’m a carpenter and a plumber. I love my job because I have engagement with a lot of people in person. Not in technology.
I’m newly single (40) looking for a wife, but I’m red pulled as fuck. And have been for a long time. I’m at peace with women’s nature now. I understand it.
This generation has failed. Have more happy babies… way forward
I am a professional, make a good salary and have been told I am good looking and charismatic. Yet I still struggle with meeting modern dating standards. One mistake such as being too nice, wearing the wrong outfit, texting too often, or not being masculine or confident enough finds one being ghosted. Instant gratification is what everyone wants I guess. That, combined with the fact that 2/3 marriages end in divorce has sadly indicated to me that it is not worth the emotional or financial trauma. Enjoy running the world ladies; hopefully you meet a good mate and don't end up old, childless and alone like so many are destined to do.
Hollywood men can't even crack the code.
The rate is closer to 2/5, still higher than it should be. I think it's individualism showing its bad side.
You mean like THE MAJORITY are destined to do...
@@jasonreed2116 That number goes up to 90% if they are college educated
@@FlamingCockatiel It's about half, but the higher rate applies to second, third, fourth etc., marriages which have a much higher failure rate. First marriages are about 40% failures. And those who fail, don't learn from that, and so are likely to screw it up again... and again... and again.
Reason #2; I'm 51, was divorced in 2006 so my ex could remarry her True Luv. Dated off and on since then, until about ten years ago, when I realized that the women who I'm attracted to would agree to date me were doing so because they needed me to do something for them, not because they enjoyed my company. Since then, I just don't bother dating any more. I no longer try to keep an attractive appearance, I no longer worry about how someone else considers my image or behavior, I no longer arrange my living spaces to appeal to anyone but me and my needs. In the last couple years, I've had a few different female friends describe me as a "feral man". When I asked them to explain what that means, they told me I would be a good life partner for a woman, but I no longer have any interest in -having- a life partner - I no longer want to share my living spaces, sharing closet space, letting someone else make decoration decisions, share a kitchen, etc. In other words, women just no longer have anything to offer me, that I can't hire if I need it - nursing care, s*x, cleaning, etc. I have my pets as affectionate companions, I have my friends to do stuff with. I don't have to okay my schedule or availability with, I don't have to go to any family or social gatherings for somebody else's benefit, etc. I guess I'm happy being feral. :)
Ah agree with the second half of your post. Often I get lonely, but then I remember what it was like to live with women..and i dont feel so lonely lol
Perfect! Yes!
There was a study that concluded that the longer a man stays single, the more he enjoys it.
I must agree with all you guys statements. I’ve been divorced a second time time about 15 years now. Much easier to live by yourself. At age 65 I’ve given up hope. Setting my sights on retirement, traveling and enjoying the rest of my life here on earth. One would like female companionship. But the headache are not worth it. Go your own way guys.
@@brad8868 Right? The liabilities out weigh the benefits!
On the "being called a creep", factor.
Male survivor of sexual abuse by girls here.
A big part of my experiences was shame.
I was told I was disgusting, that I was vile, even when I was physically unresisting, the onus was always put on me as the one who was doing something wrong, even when I literally stood still and let things happen, since any attempt to defend myself physically or even push someone off was called "dirty."
I spent years being genophobic, I was convinced if I brushed a woman's arm I'd be a rapist, I had literal nightmares of being in court charged with sexual assault. I always had a lot of female friends, but that was where it stayed, one friend one described me as "the least sexual man she'd ever met."
I wanted a relationship, but had a literal inability to pick up signals that any woman was interested, I needed someone to be straight forward.
fortunately, I finally met a very lovely lady who was prepared to be that honest, and we've been happily married for the last 7 years. God knows how I'd have coped with the post me too era, since it seems now every man is being encouraged to feel the way I did.
I'm not saying this for sympathy, just to point out firstly, that I suspect experiences like mine are not quite the rarity people think they are (especially in an era which encourages female narcissism and public misandry), and to say that women being honest with guys actually does! pay off.
I am pretty sure some of my female friends were interested in me previously, but because they simply sat there and expected me to be the one to take all the risks, things didn't go anywhere at all, and in an era where men can be publically shamed, fired, or even arrested for literally looking at a woman wrong, I'd imagine that dynamic has gotten even worse!
I have a story to share that perfectly sums up my experience so far. (Im 33 year old)
I was waiting for my friend near a tram stop. I was glancing towards the tram stop because my friend was using it to meet up. A group comes off the tram with some girls. I was looking for my friend and i didnt even notice them. They walk by me, and one girl from the group shouts loudly at me the folowing sentence: "What the fuck you want from me you fucking nerd!"
Now i know how to handle the situation, even back then i just ignored this sentence from her, because thats how men work i gues. if your hurt just suck it up.
Anyhow i have been in simmular situations multiple times in my life. Just from glancing in the dirrection of woman.
I dont like beeing humiliated publicly specialy from randoms who i dont even know. Why would I approach a women? Just to get humiliated even for glancing in their direction? I would rather try my luck with online dating sites, oh wait... Thats filled with shallow, and material woman. (respect for the exceptions!)
So yeah i became a member of MGTOW even before i knew what it was or that it exsisted,.
This whole situation causes me to feel depressed at times, because i always wanted a family, with kids. Atleast I have my hobbies...
This was some group of strange girls on the street, why dislike yourself so much and why do they matter? You get nutters, saying weird things on the street all the time, it's a common occurrence. Try finding some kind of social group, or hobby, where you can actually be introduced to women you might like.
@@redstar7292 I tried those. They only work when your good looking enough for their expectations. Im usualy not... Granted in friend groups they are less rude about it, but still if your called ugly or other look based insult 200 times pluss you start to wonder. The funny thing is that i was selected by females to be their secret lover while they had someone or fwb relationships. They did found me attractive enough or something. I declined these because cheating or fwb isnt my world...
The other reason im thinking about MGTOW is because of bad relationships. I have been lied to and cheated on. I also knew gold diggers...
I don't know you, but I have a feeling that you might be able to find a nice women who has the same or similar hobbies as you.
when stuff like that happens to me i dont even look at the ''thing'' in front of me then i make a cross with my 2 middle fingers and point it to her saying ''vade retro Samantha'' and i carry on casually
@@herlocksholmes9369stop leading people on for the benefit of your kind
I'm 74. When I was about 21, at an event I asked a girl to dance and she ran off to the toilets! That tends to leave a mark on one. Despite your best efforts in the video, neither you or any very attractive down to even faintly attractive woman will ever understand the horror for a shy man of trying to meet women, exude the necessary charm , have the necessary small talk and the self esteem to carry it through. I still can't do it even after all these years.
That’s rough….
I was never popular in school. I remember being laughed at for finally finding the courage to show an interest in a girl.
It is not that hard. You have interests, some topics are more important to you, some things you are curious about. Being polite and having something to say that is interesting ought to be enough for a normal women so be thankful when you say something that means something to your, if she does not respond, good, she lost out. If she does respond you potentially have an interesting interaction, which with a feminine woman, is very pleasant. I moved out of the US 23 years ago and live where women of all ages tend to be feminine, fit, socially competent, well educated and highly cultured so striking up a conversation with an unknown woman is almost always a pleasant interaction if I have something interesting to say. If there is any mutual interest in a topic it is natural to spend some time talking and exchanging contact information. Women are not afraid of men and are held in high esteem by men because they are almost always pleasant to be around.I have not dated an American women in over 30 years but meet really attractive very feminine women every day, and any age, on the street, in a museum, in a club, at the opera or ballet or just on the a walk in the park.. One of the most common ways of meeting a very attractive women is using my pro grade camera with telephoto lens to take a great photo of her in a relaxed calm state, no forced smile from 50-100 feet away in a park or on the street and show her the image. The reaction to candid un-posed images images that really capture her nature is always positive and I offer to send her the file so it is normal to exchange contact info. Usually I will just approach with something interesting to say about the current location or something of relevance and usually that is the start of an enjoyable conversation and future contacts. But this is a culture where women are valued for their femininity, intelligence and being highly cultured. I never see fat women under 50, in fact I have never seen a fat teen or 20 something. Women enjoy being women and enjoy men who are men. Women tend to be highly educated and often have good careers but always remain feminine.
If you take foreign vacations you no doubt noticed the difference if you go to destinations not dominated by US culture. Relax, be yourself, you must have something of an observation that would be of interest to others.
@@stanspb763 Thank you for being so encouraging. Unfortunately, I live and will die in the UK, hot-spot of feminism and misandry, over-weight etc. I think my problem has always been low self-esteem, about which I knew nothing until I was about 40 years old. I simply feel I've never had anything to offer women despite having had a few girlfriends, and during my now ever increasing singleness, those I've met in general have no interest in me, despite my education, solvency and settled and calm nature. For me to sort out, I'm afraid, but the ladies in the UK simply do not make it easy.
@@stanspb763 What country are you describing? Maybe others of us should go there!
You missed a big one, sexual harrassment charges and lawsuits. In my younger days it stopped me a lot. Especially in the workplace.
I’ve been at my current job for just over a couple of years. Even today, there are only two women I’ve ever spoken to where I work, both of them have been from HR, and I never speak to them unless they speak to me first.
This is the world women wanted.
That should be # 1.
This should have been number one because any woman can ruin a man's life with just a few words and without having to provide any bit of evidence, the court system will automatically side with her
I don’t even look at them anymore. I’m improving my physique and outshining a lot of guys in my area. Some try to play a stupid game like the fix my pants dance or randomly dropping nothing and bending over to get it. I just take my damn glasses off.
I stopped approaching after asking a woman out and she looked at me like I took a dump on her coffee table, and very loudly said, "I'm not going out with you!" There were a lot of people around and a few of them laughed. I decided never again.
Imagine approaching 1000 times and basically get told to 'fuck off' 1000 times..would you still have motivation to approach and pursue? I don't think so
I told my family I’m done dating.
My last girlfriend, we were together 3 years. I had strong feelings for her, and she ended up cheating on me.
From then on, I couldn’t see myself dating anymore.
My family would just say “oh you just haven’t found the one yet.”
I try to explain the difference between the girls when they grew up were loyal and actually cared about your feelings to girls now who aren’t loyal and don’t give two shits about your feelings. Not all are like this, but there’s a great amount.
Also, another fear is being falsely accused of SA for even associating oneself with a woman. Not worth it at the end of the day.
Why would you even involve your family in your private/dating life in the first place? Your relationship with your family sound extremely unhealthy for both part. You better grow up to be an adult human being!
Buy yourself a beautiful high end silicone companion doll (like I did.). They feel incredibly realistic, are equipped with internal heating systems, internal electronic sensors that allow them to have amazing orgasms, can be equipped with artificial intelligence, etc. You can have an amazing sex life without ANY of the risks of dealing with organic women. You deserve nothing but the very best.
@@andersnielsen6044 That's like a normal conversation to have with your family, and it's generally older relatives who broach the subject. Trust me, no single guy is rubbing his hands together at the thought of burdening his parents with an uncomfortable conversation about his struggles with women. No, parents bring it up even though it has the potential to be a touchy subject because they're actively taking an interest in their kids lives. What's unhealthy is believing that you're such a burden to everyone around you, including your own family, that nobody is going to listen to you talk about your problems unless they're getting financially compensated for it. I pity anyone who feels that way.
@@nathanstroud2223 I could not disagree more.
You gotta kiss more froggs
These are pretty spot on. At 32, divorced, with a daughter, I've come to the realization that I'm not real interested in dating at the moment. I enjoy the peace I've built since my divorce and that peace is too valuable to risk over any woman that's unwilling to put in effort and show commitment. I just don't feel like wasting another 5 years of my life just to get cheated on the minute things get a little hard.
I think about how many men's lives were wrecked and families ripped apart by thinking they had a wonderful wife they could built a life with.
Men are not allowed to be victims of anything in our society.
@DuaLeaD It's a pretty sad reality. Women will cheat, and most people will support them without even checking in on the man. For me, the cherry on top was my ex's best friend, who is married to my former best friend, was friends with me for 14 years and knew me before my ex, and is a serial cheater, said I was ridiculous for fighting for 50/50 custody of my daughter. Hard times really do show you who your friends are.
@@JeezyInTheHouse That is unreal that a 'friend" would say something like that
@DuaLeaD Absolutely. Especially when you consider she has her own issues with her husband taking care of their kid. The easiest friendships I ever had to cut out of my life. But also thankful in that they made me more vigilant in who I allow into my space.
"I just don't feel like wasting another 5 years of my life just to get cheated on the minute things get a little hard."
don't men get cheated on when things get a little soft?
You are 100% right about the creep comment. That is the most hurtful thing that a woman can say about a man who has approached her with romantic interest.
#4: nobody likes being rejected.
I think that's the main reason. The inconvience is to the one daring to propose and who fears rejection.
My advice would be not to go looking in bars and night clubs for a potential love interest.
This may sound corny, but why not join a hobby club or something like that, where there are enough women to go and try out your luck.
Working (closely) together with people, in my opinion, may lead to more and better options for those seeking a serious relationship.
* - if it's a hobby club, at least you'll have the same hobby interest
Nice job seeing it from a male perspective. Very insightful, and I think you nailed the top 10. Like it or not ladies, the feminist movement did tons of damage to dating dynamics. The media and Hollywood really perpetuate this, as they continue to emasculate men in almost every movie and TV show produced in the last 5 years. As someone who’s been around a while, I can assure you this current time is the worst it’s ever been.
The damage is by design. Feminism isn't for equality, in spite of all of the claims. Feminism is about superior rights, but mostly about destroying the family and making women dependent on the state so they'll vote for more marxism.
What fixed it for me, was learning how to spot women who ARE interested in me. There are numerous books out there now, which explain the body language and behaviors to look for, and it's decreased my strike out percentage to almost zero. It takes a while to get used to paying attention to their behavior as opposed to just looking for the woman who looks the best, but in return, I wind up with lots more dates. AND... you don't ask for dates. You ask them to come along with you to someplace fun that you're going to anyway. Either: She says yes, or if she's busy asks for a rain check if she is interested in you, or declines. If she declines, she's likely not interested, but you go anyway, and the next time you see her you tell her what a great time you had, and always make sure you get a picture of yourself with a pretty woman there, even if it's a worker (just make sure that no one can tell that she works there); that provides social proof that you were worth getting to know, by another woman.
@@d.e.b.b5788what books do you recommend
@@d.e.b.b5788 What book??????
@@moemanm1202 Start with Leil Lowndes 'undercover sex signals', then the charisma on command/demand series of videos and/or books, there is so much information out there which guys simply seem refusing to learn, because they can't be bothered to read or watch. Far too many men just want magic pick up lines, which don't really exist. Read and learn. Or stay alone and keep approaching women who either aren't interested, or are already taken. Like anything else, it takes studying the problem, to learn how to overcome it. I did the above, plus took dancing lessons; why? Who do you think is watching all those dancing with the stars shows?? WOMEN. You can learn how to be the charming guy that women want; it doesn't have to be limited to those who are naturally just charming by nature. It CAN be learned.
Spent most of my twenties and early thirties looking for love and relatinships without much success. Over the last few years the realisation finally hit me that it's not meant to be so I learnt to make peace with being single and find acceptance. Nowadays I just focus on myself, work, hobbies and interests. Happily single! 😎
Same here bro. I’m 23 and I’ve no luck. They are never interested back, so I just gave up. I just be living life now, focused more on my hobbies and trying to make other sources of income
@@sithlordshaun_ It's ok. just rent a vagina once in a while if you need to.
@@sithlordshaun_ and as is tradition - I will post a comment about me being under impression I had bad luck, when I was pulling one - two possibly wife material per year ( not all were interested after time but it seems as good luck now after all comments I saw ). That being said, you do a good thing, if unicorn comes, wont be when you expect it and usually via hobby or sth.
Much of it is because women don't really give a signal that they'd like you to approach, so we don't think you're interested. Also, for those who have done online dating, we're used to hundreds of women simply ignoring you or turning you down, so it lowers our confidence and it's very easy to think women out in public will do the exact same.
All of these pretty much sums up to one big statement. "Where have all the good men gone?" Away, like you asked them to.
1. It is usually way more work than in the past.
2. The quality of prospects is lower
3. The family court relentlessly screw men over, sometimes to suicide
I think the biggest problem here is that women assume they know what men want and are so wildly wrong it's almost a form of miracle. Worse, women never cared enough to even consider that men have wants and needs.
Ladies. What men want is actually extremely simple:
1) Be generally pleasant to be around. No, men do not want a drama queen, we do not want a "boss bitch" and no, we shouldn't have to "handle you." Life is full of enough bullshit, we do not want you to add more at home.
2) Be reasonably attractive. We're not asking you to be supermodels and in fact, 90% of your makeup and everything else is completely unnecessary, but the problem is that women are more overweight than ever. There's exceptions and some men do like fat women, but the vast majority of us don't.
3) This one is the hardest for modern women to understand. No, we do NOT want a relationship with a woman who has had a bunch of one nights stands. Why? Because if you're going to demand that men treat you like you're special, you better actually be worth treating like you're special.
Next you are going to tell me that men have desires that matter to women and society. Gynocentrism is the religion. Narcissism is the mindset. Men are disposable.
Calling a guy a creep is like calling a woman a 'c*nt'. It is very degrading for both sexes especially if you tell other people about it. What's worse is when he finds out about it from other people like the Human Resources even though she accepted his phone number and said 'thank you' to him with a smile in the first place while they never texted each other nor talked to each other afterwards. What's worse, she never returned his phone number back to him because it truly belongs to him. This guy happened to be me. Women don't know how traumatic and very depressing this can happen to a guy afterwards. I can never do something like that to any woman because she could harm herself physically and especially mentally.
You sound like a real Gentleman. So many women lost the chance to have a genuine man, like you, in their lives!
@@ashplv663If you respect a woman you should be respected in return. If any woman disrespects a man by manipulating him on his back, then that woman has deep personal issues and usually it is her bad upbringing by her parents. And yes you are 100% absolutely right, women missed their chance on a genuine guy like myself since 2014. I now have 100% of being politely rejecting women. Boy have the tables turned with power and control over women now that I am not interested in women, I can see how women are sneaky and smarter stalkers than men but I learned their tactics and most of these women stalkers think I am the typical stupid guy who isn't aware of it.
If you can spell one and not the other, then the other is the worst word.
@@WTIV Except the other word has more darker and more deeper consequences that can get a guy fired or put to jail and on top of that having security people stalking you even though he is been innocent throughout. Also petty harassment from her coworker friends by making judgement comments behind his back despite being manipulated by their own female friend.
As a category 2 male, I heartily agree. Been there, done that, risked it all and I have the scars. It is time to gracefully leave the field when I still have a little of my heart and soul left.
8 and 3 are the biggest ones for me. Another one I would say is women not taking dating seriously. I dated a lot in high school and college, and I got the line "I'm not worth your time", or "I'm just looking to have fun", or "You're the kind of guy I'd like to bring home to my parents, which is not what I'm looking for right now." over and over again from girls I dated. It became apparent to me that we just weren't looking for the same things. Eventually I gave up looking in the US and started looking in Asia (which I was familiar with because I had lived there for a year as an exchange student, specifically in Japan) and I found that women my age over there took dating much more seriously. Eventually I married a wonderful Filipina gal at age 23 and we have been happily married for four years now. I'm now 28, and these last few years I have started getting messages from some of the local girls I dated years ago in high school and college asking about me, then reacting with shock and disappointment when I tell them I'm married. I own my own home, all paid off, own my own car, all paid off, I have my own business, and I regularly take my wife on vacations all around the world, in fact just last Christmas we went on a trip to South Korea, Singapore, and Malaysia for a month. I would've been a good catch, any of the women I dated could've had what my wife has, but they were too preoccupied dating losers and so now they're working low paying jobs they hate while my wife and I toast each other on a cruise ship.
Oh no no they weren't "dating losers" they were "finding themselves" now they realize chad isn't interested anymore so they go looking for nice guy backup they all thought they were guaranteed to get only to find they're taken or have gone full RP/MGTOW & are no longer interested.
Maybe they wanted exciting, read bad boys when young. Then once up the diff, they want a nice guy wallet.
It sounds to me like they got experiences over the years. And when they saw their partners wouldn't be worth taking home to their parents they remembered the good guys they met in the past. I doubt you were the only guy who got a message. Now about the shock factor I assume they all thought women would be sluts of sorts until they got older and got hit with reality. And about the disappointment well they must have been very arrogant to believe you would't get over them years later. You dodged a bullet with these girls.
I think you chose badly in the US. Great that things worked out in the end, I'm just saying, if you pay attention to the women that aren't worth your time, you'll be able to filter out and get better ones. Either way, that's great that shit turned out for the better anyway.
Every woman is ready to settle down. That statement means not with you. And im not knocking you, whichever one of you glorious bastards said it, but rather illustrating their mindset. If youre a guy who works with his hands, you know mileaukee and dewalt make great cordless tools. Milwaukee is bougie and dewalt is good but just honest, reliable, easy to use tools. Both great things for different reasons but the same purpose. Now imagine going into harbor freight and having to find a cordless impact. Youre going to look quickly and from one option to the next. Youll get disgusted and leave with a “im just looking. Not interested in buying” when the store clerk asks if you’re interested in anything. Thats women evaluating men. Chris Hemsworth and Dwayne Johnson are the desired outcome. The rest are just bargain, second rate tools.
Reason 11; I've recently become a widower. Watching the love of my life, taking her last breath, was devastating.
Having spent half of my life, with the woman of my dreams, i honestly couldn't witness a repeat. Goodbye my lover ❤ ❤ ❤ goodbye my friend... X X X
Sorry for your loss bro
@@garmisra7841 Thank you.
I've only recently come across your channel, and I just want to tell you, as a man, how refreshing it is to hear a woman confronting/discussing the issues that you cover. I'm a 61-year-old man from the UK (on my 2nd marriage). You hit the nail on the head on so many issues. Keep up the good work.
I am an older guy. When I was young I was shy and girls went out of their way to embrace me,I got over it and would talk to women every chance I had. I got friend zoned. As I got older they started acting like I was a creep. So I just don't talk to any of them now.I am better off without them.
Number 2 is spot on in my case; I'm out of the dating game. I've been cheated on, lied to, used for various amounts of reasons (financially, physically, etc.), treated as an object rather than a person, not allowed to have emotions or express my fears, ghosted, and belittled. I know there are still wonderful women out there that have been hurt by men just as badly as I've been hurt by women but I can't keep getting hurt searching for the diamond in the rough. I love myself and have a ton of fun doing things I enjoy doing alone. The only thing that bothers me deep down is not being able to have a child/family but I've started to look into surrogacy and adoption so that's not an entirely dead end road... yet. All these reasons are valid though and I do hope everyone finds what they are looking for.
And here's the problem with this that women don't understand. Let's say women improve this year 20x better. You wouldn't know because you left the game.
Once men leave, that's it. They aren't coming back unless something astounding happens. It's too late.
That would be like the restaurant you stopped going to because it was disgusting. If they lowered their prices and began serving fabulous food, you'd never know because you don't go there anymore.
Women are Bud Lighting themselves. Men are leaving, with no intention of coming back.
Certainly a man who has been divorceraped by what he thought was his loving wife would never want to get married again. It's not worth it.
And these divoceraped men are going around telling every guy they see about what they went through.
This is happening at multiple levels.
@@protorhinocerator142 That restaurant analogy is spot on
@@protorhinocerator142 I don't date anymore, nor do I eat at restaurants these days.
@@hikikomori_trader The restaurant was analogy. You get the concept.
If you did still go to restaurants, you would avoid the bad ones. I won't eat at a Shoney's. It never ends well.
This is like dating in 2023, only the women won't tell you up front they're a Shoney's. They advertise themselves as an amazing pizza joint or BBQ pit. But then you get there and you see runny eggs in the breakfast buffet trough.
Another Shoney's...
Men have left the game, and the game was getting beat down over and over. Men have feelings and women assume they don’t or deserve getting slapped.
I am a 57 year old male , whilst working in Nepal last year i got to know a lot of younger women and men. At all times i treated all of them with respect. A french girl who was 27 apparently had the hots for me big time for the 4 weeks i knew her. She told me all this when she left to go home. I asked her why she never said something, her reply was didn't you see me look at you. I told her i would never have hit on her given my age, but all she was a work colleague and i didn't want to come over as a creep.
"Didn't you see me look at you." Great, once again men are supposed to understand without being informed.
You dodged a bullet brother. She was playing games with you. She would've humiliated you and you would still have to work with her
@@Tinseltownintherain-zd7ep could be correct on that one.♥️🏴
@@lewisdean22 she would have made her move long before she left if she was genuine. Or went home and bragged to her pals how she messed with an older guy's head. and if you have to work with her again she's waiting to see how you react to the seed she's planted and see if you jump through her hoops to give her validation and ego massage........could be wrong brother. Maybe I'm too cynical. But my gut says "Danger Will Robinson"
@@Tinseltownintherain-zd7ep many thanks for your reply, lucky I won't have to work with her again, it was a one off. But you raised some really interesting points, and I know not all women are like this.
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Girls need to realise that a relationship is not a social media app
I'm 41, I remember that before the early 2000s girls used to move away from their groups to give a boy the opportunity to approach her. After some eye contact she looked at you and then moved somewhere else: the bar counter to get a drink, the terrace to smoke a cigarette and so on.
Today it's all lost. They don't do anything, they don't even look at you and they don't move an inch away from their groups. That's fine if they don't want to get approached, but if they do that's the worst thing a woman can do for having a chance of being approached (without speaking about the zero consideration they have for the man's effort). I'm not into pubs, clubs, discos and all that crap anymore, but those were the last impressions I got and that are confirmed today by younger people.
FFS like 10 years ago I heard a girl saying with pride that when she goes dancing they form a circle with her friends so they can "guard" each other from guys approaching.
Needless to say, she wasn't hot at all and she wasn't nice. In her place I'd be glad someone even wanted to approach me.
Men are tired of a relationship that seems to always turn out to be legalized prostitution.
With a hidden balloon payment at the end.
Men in the USA, Canada, the UK, Germany, Ireland ( there are government sponsored anti' MGTOW TV advertisements) Australia and New Zealand are in a situation where if they get married they immediately lose half their money instantly. If they have children they lose up to 80 %.
Why or why would you sign a Contract that's a stacked deck ?
I think the modern Western woman publicly plans her wedding while at the same time privately plans the future divorce.
Do not talk bad about prostitutes. Those are the only women who treat you fairly nowadays. Any man who has not figured this out already is pretty dumb. It's much cheaper and better for your (mental) health to only deal with Pros. No disappointment, no false hopes and always a girl you find hot.
That too
Hookers are better at what they do and they're better listeners. So the usual modern woman making a whole list of demands and being told her whole damn life her P**** is gold and to just lay there like a fish is in for a rude awakening. Wow just got to emilywking talking about dating hahaha oh no you wish it was some short term thing, there are many of us who are sick and fucking tired of being used for sex or money and so we've dropped out up to ten years or more, it's better, it's happier, it's more peaceful and it is more stable. Men look for stability in relationships. Fuck that. Imagine having to do all this run around just to get used, and she's not even offering stability and inner peace.
The last two points this woman made is absolutely right, we take one look at you and make a snap judgment you're not worth it. It's the part that really hurts for older women I bet but it's true, you guys are giving off strong "I grew up calling men creepers" vibes or tiktok instagram girl vibes, or gold digger vibes, and any foreign woman who is looking for a Western guy is making a terrible mistake acting like these people. If you put off "I am also like these entitled modern white women" vibe he's going to walk. They treat a relationship like they're a high end escort who won't shut the fuck up. Understand, I am talking about women who will straight up insult you, you agree with them you need to change that, but because it's also something they hold a double standard about (like "you're right I need to lose weight") they will proceed to argue with you for thirty minutes or an hour after insulting you for your weight why "every weight is normal." I timed it. Imagine the patience you need to listen to some woman insult you and then browbeat you for 30 minutes because you agreed with the point she made that you need improve yourself.
THIS is why we all took ourselves out of the dating pool and I think these women are making a terrible mistake in assumptions by looking at us too, you're probably seeing guys that are or should be "socially intelligent" or men who are attractive, or guys that put off a badboy vibe, and we are so sick and fucking tired of modern women and modern non-relationships and being used that we bailed on you entirely. I think women are making some mistakes thinking it's just ugly short fat guys that bailed. No we all bailed on you.
So to point 9 and 10, yes, you have to keep in mind how many women he's been run through, and if he got ran through by either one woman he really trusted and adored, or gave multiple women a shot, odds are he already pulled out of dating completely and the only reason he even glanced at you was he thought maybe she's different, picked up on something you didn't even know you do, and got rejected. Men reject women by either not approaching them, or by letting themself coast along in a relationship they know is wrong without ending it themselves. Modern women don't want to take personal accountability so I feel like a ton of them are not getting yeah, it really is you. And if it's me, and not just you, then you're putting off some single like you're taken (there are many reasons guys won't even approach you, either they are former fuckboys who don't want that again, have respect for other men, or see any woman who cheats as a horrible idea so if he's thinking you're not single only fuckboys are going to approach).
If you are a foreign born woman, the most likely explanation is he is either still pulled out from dating, or you just did something that reminds him about modern women, or your friend circle is too many modern women with septum piercings, lots of tattoos, "I'm a baddie" IG/tiktok girl attitudes, basically your friend circle is pulling guilt by association. Even if they're not white girls, if they put off strong modern woman vibes, he's not going to even bother approaching you if you come off as being not single, prone to being offended, because you're sending mixed signals, or most importantly because he just made a snap judgment you're probably like the other girls around you.
Regarding assuming someone isn't single, I'd like to add to this. The first time I met a woman who told me her boyfriend was temporary I was floored. It made no sense to me why you would stay with someone knowing it wasn't going to last. That was also a huge turn off. It meant to me, that I'd risk staying with someone who would still be shopping around while we were together. It also explained to me how you see so many videos of guys proposing and women saying no. He was invested and she wasn't and that is heartbreaking to me. Thanks for doing these videos and helping give good men a voice in the modern world of relationships!
I have also watched a video where this lady with almost 1 million subscribers giving advises to women for relationships. She stated "date different men at the same time, keep your options open"
half of the comment were ladies approving, the other half were men disapproving....
That's most women. They think you're good for the moment until someone better comes along. They will only stay if they think you are the best guy they can get and keep.
You think that's bad? I had a woman tell me she's married and as I walked away she said "that's temporary, marriage's aren't forever." She literally said this to me. The combined horror and revulsion was overwhelming.
@@funkfarmer7125 Wow.
I often wonder that too. women treat men as a luxury. I've never understood why women stay in "temporary" situations and then have the audacity to complain about men being horrible
This is one thing that you're missing, It's when a woman says she wants specific things in a man and she calls it a preference, but when a man does the same exact thing, then why do women call that toxic and then laugh about it
I agree with all these points. It's a no win situation. Better to be alone and happy than deal with all the drama and games.
#1 was it for me. I know, generalization is full of pitfalls, but my experience has been completely in this category. I put everything into the relationships I have had but pulled up short of being someone I'm not. All I've gotten was drained bank accounts and another man or men reaping the "benefits." I have yet to meet a woman who brings one damn thing to the table other than some sense of entitlement, assumptions that I should "just know" and this sexist notion that because I'm a man, I'll just somehow find the means to give her everything she wants. Never have I met a woman who gave a damn about what I wanted. Oh, sure, she's all interested and supportive in the beginning, but once they felt that I was committed, I became invisible, my opinions no longer counted for the air they took to express and suddenly, there was nothing I could do right. Oh, yes, I quote; "I love you more than my life itself, unconditionally, deeply, I want and need you, you're my everything, don't touch me!" No. Done. Nothing a woman has to offer is worth the aggravation, pain and betrayal that seems to inevitably wait in the end. Ladies, you made this landscape. Now you don't like it. Well....man up! Support yourself, make your own dreams happen and leave me alone. I've found peace. Peace that comes from no women in my life drumming up drama for the sake of drama. Peace that allows me to shape a life I can enjoy, lets me peel off stressful things and events that sap my energy. I can be a man and not care about the criticism of what kind of man I am because I don't need to please anyone but me. Guys, you want to experience true, unconditional love? Get a dog!
MGTOW 4 me.
When I was younger I was invisible to women. I didn't meet their standards.
Now I'm in my sixties.
Never had an STD. Haven't been accused of fathering any illegitimate children.
I didn't know it at the time, but women were doing me a favor. I am retired with a healthy income that no one can lay any claims to.
Love is always conditional, and most desired when there is options for the partner. You might think you loved her unconditionally but there were conditions, that you expected her to reciprocate. You were too easy, no challenge for her, which would be established if you were somewhat vague and more careful about expressing it. You seem to have believed in the fairytale sort of love of romance novels so she lost respect for you. She needs to feel she needed you, being more stoic would have caused her to seek your attention and validation. You gain nothing being her girlfriend, which you created that image of yourself. Sure, be steady and dependable, but show less emotion if you wanted her to respect you. Your greatest gift she could give you was respect, and you through out that option by turning to your feminine nature. Being her rock and confidant is not possible when you express it in behavior and words as a girlfriend would. Instead of aligning with her feminine you needed to be the opposite, what she needed and would respect.
She might want to be entitled but when it does not serve your relationship, someone has to be the adult, and she would have responded if you set boundaries for her. Those are tests women naturally create to see if they can depend on you. Saying no to inappropriate demands is a sign of true caring and she would have responded. If you did not set boundaries, a female becomes less secure feeling and she will keep testing until you respond in ways she respects, or loses all respect. Women are not softer males, they are a different nature, which makes sense when seeing the larger picture of the purpose of her relationship with is seeking security to raise the next generation. Even if a woman does not want kids, her nature that evolved over millions of years to being the most successful set of traits to have a new generation survive. It is a good thing she tested you, but not a good thing how you assumed declarations of unconditional love when she naturally was seeking tests of your support and security needs. Saying yes to unhelpful demands triggers fear, even notions of flight. Rocks do not yield to emotional tests. Although women in times of highly civilized societies think they do not need men, their inner nature is still programmed from a million years ago and that conflict makes it hard on women and they do not know why they feel insecure when still having external control in modern society. A women who feels protected, responds by true feminine love. Much of that sense of security is her man setting boundaries that appeal to that natural security seeking. She got scared, emotional and insecure when you made such undying love statements as if you sought her love. She already had that love for you but you killed it by being passive and needing her love. You scared her away by not knowing her nature was a test.
There are other women out there who will test you also, and success of the bond hinges a lot on whether you respond as a girlfriend or her rock. Masculinity is seen as toxic now but women brains are still wired to respond positively to masculine men.
Women and children are loved unconditionally.
Men are only loved as long as we can provide resources.
They bring the parts you like.
Video links:
1:10 - Reason #10 - You're (the woman) is in a large group of friends
2:35 - Reason #9 - Looking for signals from a woman
3:15 - Reason #8 - He doesn't want to be labeled as a creep
3:54 - Reason #7 - He is nervous
4:43 - Reason #6 - He assumes you are not single
5:15 - Reason #5 - He feels like you're out of his league (assumes he would receive rejection)
6:07 - Reason #4 - He's afraid he's inconveniencing you (bad timing)
7:23 - Reason #3 - He's worried about scaring you
8:31 - Reason #2 - He has gone his own way ("he's taken himself out of the dating game")
9:37 - Reason #1 - He sees it's not worth it ("progressing to 'level 2')
Let me know if there's errors.
I’m definitely reason number 2. Lol.
yout didn't miss anything, but she missed one: "he just isn't attracted to you, or doesn't like you at all."
The best thing you can do is go bust up that huge gang. Start asking questions. Work group? Half of them pretend to be friends. Some outright dislike others. The one youre interested in you should see what she says about the other girls. If she says “heather wore that shirt because i wore a similar outfit to xyz function and got lots of attention. It doesnt really fit her body type.” This is probably a hotter girl crapping on a less desirable one to signal “im good looking”. This chick is going to be seeking validation from every weiner she sees. Run. In a group of ten, 2 might be acceptable in terms of personality, confidence, submissiveness, etc. Gotta stop being scared of these insecure frikkin creatures. The hotter the more insecure
Its interesting that she knows about mgtow.
@@robstr12
It's publicly known now.
Msm label it a "right wing extremist movement" and are trying to hijack it.
Every guy laughs in derision and scorn for MSM's lack of comprehension ability of the English language.
Great video Emily and thanks for choosing to understand mens' perspective..the only big thing i'd say you're missing is the laws..and men's deep well-founded rational fear of a two-tiered justice system..men now fear getting entangled in any way with women because they are well-informed and know the entire institutional system--police/lawyers/judges/child support/alimony etc is slanted against men and in favor of women at every turn and at every level..relationships these days are extremely risky propositions for men..something goes wrong and they lose everything..it's just not the same situation for women..and so you won't see any change in men's behavior unless some laws start to change
Once again! Hello Ms Emily! Your understanding of men is beyond measure!
I tried to cheer up a younger co worker for valentines day when I first started to work for the company I am working now. I told her to cheer up and that things would get better and bought her a candy she said she like in the past. Never thought anything about it. I just like to cheer people up. She filed an unwanted sexual advance on me. SO ya .... most of us are like no no more.
indeed, and problably she was looking lie shit.
That does not surprise me at all. Before you brought up the sexual harassment I was expecting to see that.
W T F
2nd comment. It’s less stressful to not even bother with it. There is about 3% of women that would actually engage with you in a meaningful way. The other 97% are just toys in the play box. We are focused on careers, financial independence and no drama. It’s nice coming home and cutting on your music that you love, pouring a drink and cooking a nice dinner for one. Rinse and repeat. We are not lonely….we elect to be alone.
But without children you have no descendants without descendants you break the genealogical line and you lose the only type of immortality would get in this world
@@samadams6487a question. is that a theory or a fact my friend. that that is the only immortality🙂
@@shahqurbanbaba1873 there are other kinds of immortality but they don't leave any essence of who you were in our which is your genetics. If you become famous like a writer or a a well-regarded film or theater star that will be remembered a few centuries from now in the vein that for example Mozart or Beethoven is remembered then you will have that kind of memory immortality however the only physical immortality we have is in our children because our genetics is passed down from generation to generation. I have found 6 direct ancestors who participated in the American Revolution at any one of them not been born or killed before they had children then I would not be here. The further back in time you go the more impactful are small changes in the past existence in the present. Each of us is here because everything was just right in the further back in time to go the more right it has to be just to make sure that you are here. Go back 30 Generations in one small change could affect the existence of hundreds of thousands of people so existence is quite a precious thing. What we do here now in terms of reproducing or not reproducing impacts who lives in the future. And it is the future that represents our immortality in the physical sense. Spiritual immortality is a totally different topic and involves theology which I'm not going to get involved in here as those are matters of faith except I will say this that the laws of noncontradiction otherwise known as the principle of the excluded middle apply here. I shall not go further into that statement.
@@samadams6487 this isn't dragonballz.. immortality? Do u even hear how insane u sound? I bet u believe in Dragonballs as well. Unreal lmao. Ppl really need to get over themselves. If u wanna chase pussy to have kids and claim it's all about "immortality' fine...but stop spreading bullshit propaganda. U sound like an agent from the Matrix. most ppl are not gonna be famous songwriters and athletes and actors...your whole defense is fallacy
@@shahqurbanbaba1873 good one.. Avoid us at all cost..we are men's destruction not their salvation.
One day I was going for my walk. I walked passed this one woman who started screaming. I asked her was she okay. It was really silly to me. I was in a long term relationship where the woman didn't even come to the hospital to see me. I've given up on dating. So many promises, so many lies. It hurts but I continue on with my life. Just tired of the games. My wife passed away, so called girlfriends have left me. It's okay. Keep pressing on even by myself.
Same, my ex didnt see me when i was injured and almost paralyzed. Another ex took my kids from me. And when i use to date, women would use me for food dates and ghost me. Completely done, and thank god im making the most money ive ever made now so im enjoying life by myself. It is what it is bro.
I was 21 years old back in 1985 and even then when I would "approach women" I'd get accused to things, called a "creep" to my face, and please keep in mind I was a very shy, polite and respectful guy back then!! In fact, most of the relationships I had in those days, the women I ended up with usually took advantage of me and my good nature, and THEN accused me of lying and cheating what it was typically THEM who lied to me and cheated on me often enough!!
Women constantly treated me like garbage, even when I did EVERYTHING to please them!! And in the end, NOW, these days I am bitter, cold, rude and point blank honest in how I view women AND relationships, because of the things those women have done to me!!
Fortunately for me, in 1998, as my second failed marriage was falling apart, I met an amazing woman who I am still with today!! Her and I became best friends, and still are!! BUT this doesn't change the fact that even today, I find it disturbing how women treat men overall!!! And even my present girlfriend sees this happening to her two sons all the time!!!!
The point is, IF my lovely lady wasn't in my life......at 59 years old now, I'd have ZERO REASON to chase after any woman in this day and age!! And the further point is even though I AM actually listed as "Divorce/Single" in my marital status, there are so few women like my sweetheart that could ever replace her, God forbid anything happens between us!!!
Another point to make is, what is now known as MGTOW, is something that a lot of us became in the late 1980s, and women have generally gotten worse in their behavior and unrealistic expectations!! And a lot of women, that I have known (dated, befriended, married or worked with) are just NOT "good people" and claim to be innocent when they are the center of all their own problems usually!! And I have been with AND SEEN women who never accept responsibility for their own words, actions, bad behavior and poor judgements, and they run around blaming everybody for the problems THEY CREATE themselves!! And sadly the majority of women ARE like this, but the rare few get lost in the mix....like my lovely lady!!!
Divorced after 30 years of marriage. The new dating world makes no damn sense. #8 and #3 are HUGE, although I can relate to all of them. I haven't completely stopped approaching but am tired of the misinterpreted signals, trying to figure out texting and Snapchat, being used, and all around bullshit.
Similar boat. The women I have been attracted to and spent time with have 4 out of 4 been emotionally unavailable. One still in love with her committed dance partner, one married to a guy in early stages of dementia she is representing as longer stages, one who is completely emotionally unavailable and one who was a narcissist and wanted to play the field. I hear all these complaints about can't find a good guy, and I don't find a line of great gals lining up for a great guy either.
@@TaylorWalston You two don't make this sound promising. Gosh I hope I get lucky some how.
I started dating my now ex-wife in 2015. Back then the dating scene was getting undesirable.
I heard horror stories and was glad I was married.
Now that I'm recently divorced in 2023, and "in the game" again, I have little desire for any of the garbage or the game.
Yes, I would like a (good) woman who treats me right. But it just doesn't seem worth it to go thorough all of the hoops and hidden landmines just to maybe get faked out again when I find one that supposedly loves me.
One day I do hope to find that fabled "good woman", but until then I just want to focus on my relationship with God, getting healing, and improving myself. One day it will happen, God willing, but not today.
@@JoeSmith-gb4ng You would be basing the marriage on luck, not love.
The amount you love her does not necessarily equate to the amount she loves you.
Women can put up a great act like they love a guy, but as soon as she gets her divorce ducks in a row, she suddenly doesn't love you anymore.
@@protorhinocerator142 You misunderstood my post. I was saying I hope I get lucky in finding a good woman. Like Michael, already been done the marriage road.
I'd love to add onto reason #10. I've tried multiple times to approach a women who was with her group of friends. Each and every time one of her friends usually speaks up with something to say in a rude tone like "she has a boyfriend" ect. Almost as if they're jealous I'm giving their friend attention. So I avoid approaching women in groups or with friends because I dually get shooed away. And If I'm being honest it's incredibly embarrassing when so many people watch the failure happen.
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A woman*
Approaching women in groups when you're by yourself is essentially social suicide. Women already have their guards up when men approach them, so if you approach a group, you are now in a situation in which multiple people are likely to have their guards up, which creates instant tension. A woman's friends then become likely to pull her away because they think they're protecting her. And since many women care more about their friends' opinions as opposed to their own, they'll listen to their friends regardless of how they feel about you. Furthermore, if you make it clear that you're interested in one, the ones you're not interested in take it as an insult to their egos and cope by being rude to you or trying to pull their friend away. No matter how handsome, smooth, or charismatic you might be, the second fact puts you in a position in which the woman's friends might be rude to you and/or pull her away. So you're basically at the mercy of the friends. And ugly friends are pros at this because they're used to pulling their more attractive friend away from men all of the time. The best way to mitigate this is to approach with a wingman to distract the friends and make them think they're the object of interest as well.
They ARE jealous
This is rough and absolutely happens.
Creep shaming is the worst. It’s so insulting and it’s like a knife in the heart.
If women started approaching guys in public, it would fix everything. Women are not going to be publicly shot down in disrespectful ways, because guys are already traumatized by the times this has happened to them.
When I was a little kid, I saw my uncle get raked over the coals by divorce court, and I got heavily bullied by some girls in my class for being short and weak. When I got older and tried my hand with women, I always got rejected (a couple of times laughed at by the whole school). At this point I see no reason to try anymore, what with family courts holding a loaded gun at every married man's head, not knowing one single virgin over 18(if a woman has left with 1 person other than you it more than doubles your chance for a divorce), and clearly not having the ability to attract anyone who actually would want to raise a family
Good list.
RE: #6: It is extremely bad form to reach into another man's fridge without asking for permission first, so unless she is making it *very clear* to him that she is available and wants him to approach, assume she isn't. Females are largely unaware of the levels of absolute chaos and destruction a truly angry male can unleash, but males know full well what can happen because they themselves can go there without much provocation, so it's so much better to just avoid incurring the wrath of another male.
#4: Timing. Yep, pretty much. We don't want to approach unless we have a reasonably high confidence level that you can be receptive to even being approached. This is because getting rejected does in fact hurt, and, if we can pick a time where the chances of getting rejected are lower (though it still may happen), then it's better to wait until that time presents itself.
#3 Yep. pretty much. If we're scary just because we exist, then we'll just leave you ladies be and go our own way. It's sad an unfortunate, but many of you ladies are doing it to yourselves.
#2 Pretty much. See #3. I can think of many other things I'd rather be doing than trying to deal with somebody who doesn't even want me around, so see ya.
#1 Pretty much. It's not worth squeezing if you're not going to get much juice, or the juice you do get isn't any good. Any reasonably good guy would think twice before willingly subjecting himself to modern women in general, which is exactly what is happening now. Are there good ladies out there? Yes, but you gotta shovel through a lot of trash to find them, and there aren't enough of them to make it worth doing that for most males.
Your videos are ALWAYS spot on. Every single point was absolutely perfect. I fall into the #1 and #2 categories.
Got a couple of things to add:
1) I'm in a rather heavily female dominated workplace. Youd think it means plenty of options but nothing is further from the truth. Every single one is spoken for and i would never get in the middle of things. I'd say i could easily rattle off 20+ in my sphere that would interest me but couldn't consider for this reason alone. And that's no-one' fault
2) I'm constantly told I'm what people would look for, and would "make a good husband " but there is next to no interest anyway. It is very confusing to hear you meet a "standard" yet the experience doesn't match.
I know I've got my own list of problems and insecurities that need improvements so a lot is my fault. It does feel like just 1 date in about 15 years though is a crippler, especially in your early 30s
I have a sister I can set you up with
I lost everything at the worst possible period around 2008-2010. Losing my job at the time was caused by her BPD behavior. Then because of the timing in the economy I couldn't find another job making what I was. Lost my car, my home, self worth and my savings in an attempt to save it all. Only a couple years ago did I get back on my feet financially. It literally has taken a decade to recover after that relationship. Been told by females that seem to be interested in me that I am a bit standoffish when it comes to being open emotionally or physically. The damage females cause are far more than what they even realize.
I feel your pain, it's taken me 5 years just to feel normal after a horrendous experience. People don't see the psychology abuse us men can receive from women. I'm still many years away from feeling strong enough to consider dating.
No mystery that the event's that precede a woman's exit from a marriage is loss of a job or development of a serious illness physical or mental. They initiate divorce 90% of the time, and it's either for those reasons or they found a better option.
Totally agree.
@@funkfarmer7125they initiate divorce because 90% of the times they are not fully into the relationship. They always keep a foot out…you never know… while men when they are in love give everything. Plus they have many reasons for getting married that have nothing to do with love/marriage.
They realize, and that's their goal. They don't care
I've given up dating like over 10 years ago, I was also very hurt by my ex-fiancé, no matter how hard I worked for her it was never enough, and she just ended up cheating on me anyway. It's impossible to keep my head above water alone, you need to be roommates or married, I feel like basically dating has dried up and there are just junkies on apps, and people that you will never meet because they long have given up. I hate the chase, I hate mind games, I can't stand jealously, and I can't stand it when I get signs and then find out, she was only fishing for the ask to stroke her own ego as she smiles and walks away happy, and that is very cruel to do to someone. So yeah, I have long given up and just focus on saving and investing. I feel like dating is all on the terms on types of men that I am just not. So, yeah, I have long given up.
'she was only fishing for the ask to stroke her own ego as she smiles and walks away happy' - that's the norm these days. Women go to great lengths to bait me to ask her out, they'll pretend they have certain feelings/attraction, she'll drop very strong hints, and as soon as I ask her out, she ghosts. And women wonder why they're lonely. Yes, because we don't trust you to not waste our time. Don't come on to us if you've no interest.
I'd say this is as spot-on a list as anyone could develop. I, for my part, am sick of being feared simply because I'm a man, sick of paying for every date, and sick of being so harshly judged. The Top 4 cover it for me.
I personally feel most of these points. My biggest hesitancy towards approaching women is how I will adversely impact them (taking up their time, making them uncomfortable, being rejected, etc.) I don’t even pursue women platonically because I don’t want to be judged.
Observations to the video, seen as a single man
1) Group: it's not (just) about fear to approach a group. A group is going to be noisy, getting her attention is very hard. Even worse, in a group you ALWAYS get one of her friends telling her to not let you approach her because .
2) Creep: add the fact that she's always selective. If you are a chad with good game you can approach, pump and dump and abuse her at will. If you aren't a well endowed player, you risk getting the police called on you.
3) Not single: every girl worth taking is always taken unless . If she's not taken, she'll still tell you that she's taken. In the past this used to be a courtship ritual, where the girl is just making herself precious and the male has to insist. Enter 2023: you risk getting in jail for insisting (especially in UK). At a minimum, a video of your pitiful courtship attempts *SHALL* be posted all over social media, receive 2 million views and thousands of shaming comments.
4) Too beautiful to talk with: it's true what you say, but also, in 2023, beautiful girls are "public property". Their DMs are flooded by rappers and NFL players who offer her to fly her over and spend a week-end on their yacht. Even then, a growing number of beautiful girls are monetizing themselves on adult sites. Basically, why bother. You, average blue collar making $80k/y are INVISIBLE to her anyway.
5) Man gone his own way / believe it's not worth any more: the small group of permanent men gone their own way is massively growing. Actually we are moving to other countries, where laws are less hostile and women are not westernized. Men generally just want to create a family yet are portrayed as sick, evil creeps that don't even deserve to exist. Screw that, there are 4.2 billion women in the world and billions of them live in countries more compatible with marriage.
Eddy Murphy did a skit about this in the 80’s. I’m only 31 and even I have seen the Raw bit where the woman from another country turned all westernized. Look it up, it’s definitely on TH-cam.
Almost all 10 apply to me. I haven’t dated anyone in 5 years and I really don’t know if I ever will again. I’d literally have to just happen to find the right woman for me, but she may have to make the first move. It may change in time, but I really feel burned out from past relationships with the wrong women.
Burnout definitely hits home. Some days you just don't want to hear another variation of "no."
@@josephbarnes2681 It's not just you. I don't usually get rejected come to think of it, I have a hard time gauging what I look like but after spending a few months on here listening to this I am realizing women openly flirting with you is probably something pretty rare. I thought it was modern women being modern women. Which btw, meanwhile as they're chasing off and being abusive to other guys, there's another set of us who probably are attractive (I'm guessing? These women I just realized probably make a whole series of assumptions on an attractive guy and no, it's not even about game, it's about perception and what we are after) and we are also tired of it, because it's really alienating and degrading dealing with these fucking people. They'll lie to your face, cheat on you, give you no reason to trust them, and then be bitchy. I think the top 20% of men are also tired of their shit so what these women don't realize is first of all how you treat the guys you see as nerdy or average WILL piss us off (if you see a guy being a dick to a fat girl? You know that icky feeling you get when a man is picking on an insecure woman? Guess what that's exactly how I see you no matter how pretty you are, it makes you ugly as a person) and meanwhile it is really shitty feeling like a woman is looking at you like a sex object.
I just wrote that out and read it back and realized no, no this is definitely not the average guy's expereince is it? I think I figured something out today.
Anyway so point being, you're also dealing with guys who you do want that are sick and fucking tired of being looked at like a dildo attached to a wallet, and it's alienated and degraded enough of us we're not giving you the time of day. So all that's left in some areas is guys that are cool with being used as warm sex toys because that's literally all you are to them. And I imagine this hurts like fuck and really makes you feel degraded and used but keep in mind that guy probably already had a whole string of women cheat, lie, give him trust issues, not listen to him, even if he is attractive white women have such shitty attitudes that by the time you show up he himself is pretty busted and used. It can happen even with just like 2-5 sex partners, where you're finally so tired of dealing with modern materialistic women, who're just trying to get something out of you, we walked off.
I'd point out that yes, as a man it's extremely degrading being used for sex. NO, we don't all like it. The sole men that like this either are so lonely and insecure they'd be cool with being abused, or they're using YOU for meaningless sex and are throwing you away like a used condom next week.
It doesn't get pointed out enough we DO know instantly when you are looking at us like you're trying to get sex out of us, and the only guys that go along with it who are not fuckboys are those sadsacks without enough sense of dignity and self respect to walk away and instead keep fucking you because at least he can "try to make it work." Women need to rethink their entire approach to dating and maybe that's what these MRA tards mean by "masculine" is the female strategy around guys they like is absolutely to act like a player and it's a huge turnoff.
So in other words what I am saying is that guy you want to say yes and raise your kid? Sorry we resigned, go ask the guy you said no to.
I hear you brother dealing with them of today is exhausting.
@@pandemicneetbux2110stop cursing its a sin.............
Being called a creep is only part of it. There are times I try to be a nice decent person and out of nowhere the lady will automatically assume I'm just just trying to get in her pants. I want women to know that if a guy is nice to them and/or tries to talk to them, it doesn't mean they're trying to have sex with you. There are guys out here that are just trying to be nice and a decent human being.
I don't approach women because I don't want to be insulted. The last 4 times I spoke to women in the street were because they'd dropped her car keys / her wallet / her credit card and her purse. I only said "Madame, your keys/credit card/wallet/purse..." And I was horribly insulted. It isn't worth speaking to women.
I grew up observing my mother verbally and psychologically abuse my father until he was just a shell of a man. Now, to be truthful, he wasn't a driven or successful person, but we did ok. When he passed away at the age of 52, I felt like he finally escaped. I never wanted anything like that.
I call those guys “beaten dogs”.
I have seen the same thing. I wish I would have had more empathy for my father. He passed away at 50.
"No longer interested in relationships" is a great point
Growing up in a country where common courtesy is to not bother people and let them do their own thing, on top of social awkwardness and nervousness around strangers, self-doubt, and overthinking things further hammered home by social media and seeing just how nasty some people can be with standards of men and cancel culture etc.
Yeah i have never bothered even trying entering the dating sphere before. This video demonstrates a lot of things going through my head in relation to even trying, so i just choose my own bubble, not really approaching anyone unless it's like a social gathering or event.
I gave up on having a love life once guys started getting "me2'd" for asking for a phone number, being slightly flirtatious, or complimenting the way they look.
I was already "on the fence", over all the other bullshit and head games women play with you, but when men started getting "me2'd" for no reason at all, that was it for me.
I am 100% never ever, under any circumstances whatsover, going to be in another romantic/sexual relationship. I am very careful that none of my interactions with women can be misconstrued as flirting. If I even think they are flirting with me, I walk away and avoid them in the future. And when they actually straight up hit on me, I make it perfectly clear that I am in a monogamous relationship with PornHub and I have never been happier.
It really is, quite honestly, just not worth the time, the money, the hassle, the drama, or the risk.
Fuck all of that shit...
OMG. So sad - but I don't really blame you...
Yup, that's about right. I thought I was the only one dude doing that
Prolly not a great idea to express an addiction to pornography at any point. Otherwise, good on ya
@@karmad.twelve6613,
Oh, I wouldn't call once or twice a week an addiction. Hell, I wouldn't call once or twice a day an addiction.
It only takes five or ten minutes, and then it's back to whatever I was doing before that. It's not like I have ask what it wants to do for dinner, or how it's day went, and it never asks me to take the garbage out, or if it's really necessary for me to smoke weed this weekend, or have a beer for lunch.
I find it releases stress and I'm way more tranquil and productive. Not to mention that I have way more money.
Yeah, I'm definitely not addicted, but if I'm wrong, I wish all addictions were this beneficial. I'd aquire a few more. As it is, I really need to quit smoking cigarettes. Theyre not beneficial at all...
Robert, I agree with you on all your points and reasons. I might also add that sexually, FOR DECADES NOW, society has made sex ONLY about the woman's orgasm. You're supposed to have all this friggin' "confidence" and "automatically know" what she wants, (you're not supposed to ask, of course) and if you DON'T give her some screaming orgasm you've failed. Women and men have both gotten the message it's about the woman's orgasm and nothing else. Sooo, I've opted out of even trying. Having to wonder and worry, "am I doing this right, am I doing that right...?" Screw that. This is a big reason massage parlors are thriving like never before for regular income men, and high-end 'escorts' for rich/wealthy men.In both cases, you have men that just want to be serviced and would rather pay a monetary price than mental/emotional/psychological, etc.
Putting in the effort and being met with indecision or hot/cold responses was a big problem for me dating after my 20’s. Over time, I found lots of other things to do and pursue that have made me happy. Have not regretted my decision to live a less complicated life.
I think that may be a real indicator of like though, I'm thinking of one situation in specific where I actually saw her as viable, but between her being around friends that came off as picking up Western woman vibes (even though are themselves not Western girls), her hot/cold thing that remind me of drunk people's emotional lability, and coming off with a distinct impression she was taken, I stuck to myself and just kept working on my own spirituality and getting myself staying more substance free. I'm drinking coffee right now so I've been having a hard time of that but at least I don't have any alcohol or nicotine in my system in over a year and you know what? I don't even miss my drunk friends. This is something these women need to discover for themselves, it's not just about loyalty, it sucks saying this because loyalty is so appealing and such a big important part of things for me, but I had to ghost my entire friends group. Far as I know they're all still drinking and hanging around bars or doing their own things. I've lost a lot of weight, gotten more fit, I don't drink, smoke, or eat meat now, and it's probably already opened possibilities that I don't know about. But at the same time I have to ask myself does she smoke, does she drink, does she maintain these absolutely toxic disgusting secular materialist and man hating attitudes etc.
I think women need to be either very direct or very consistent, if you're hot and cold odds are he's going to walk away. You're eventually going to come off as a threat or a woman who doesn't know what she wants, or you're going to reinforce some idea he has of you being taken.
Bottom line message to the ladies: If you become a royal P.I.T.A. we will ghost you. Men don’t seek out a woman to make their lives more difficult, complicated, expensive, and miserable - DUH!!!!! 🧐
I have been called creepy, the go to answer for every woman is that she "HAS A BOYFRIEND". I have been laughed at by woman. I have been insulted for even having the audacidy to ask a question to a woman. I spent my whole life making an idiot of my self trying to find just ONE WOMAN on a planet of 8 Billion people. I finally found one women that liked me. She demanded a house, she demanded a wedding, she demanded a child. I paid for it all just for the "PRIVLEDGE" of making a women happy. Then she filed a restraining order to force me out of my house. She lost in court but it cost me a fortune and basically ruined my life.
Dear Emily, I appreciate the effort that you put into making this video. However, in my opinion, you missed the 3 most important reasons that men are no longer approaching women. These 3 reasons go hand in hand, and FAR outweigh all the others:
- I MUCH PREFER HAVING THE WOMAN INITIATE: This way there is no confusion, no games, no misread signals, and mutual attraction. Also, when a woman initiates, this shows confidence, assertiveness, and self-assurance on her part. I, personally, have always appreciated having women take the initiative, whether social initiatives or romantic initiatives. When a woman makes the first move, it makes me feel more accepted, appreciated, and more at ease. Not only do I believe that women are better at making the first move, but when a woman initiates, the communication is clear, and the interest is mutual. This helps men because it relieves us of the burden of always having to initiate, of performance pressure, and of the stress of always having to do and say the right things. This helps women too because they get to be in control, and they have more assurance of creating quality relationships and having their needs met. Also, when a woman initiates, she gets to choose the man that she wants to be with, rather than having to wait for a man to approach her and hope that he is a good person. This will boost a woman's confidence and self-esteem. Also, she is in control, so she can't complain; and I get to feel accepted, loved, and appreciated just the way I am.
I used to think that I was one of the few men who preferred having the woman make the first move. But nowadays, my understanding is that over 90% of men of all ages, PREFER THAT WOMEN TAKE THE INITIATIVE. Looking back, I find that whenever a woman has initiated contact with me, the friendships (be they romantic or platonic), have been higher quality and longer-lasting. So my exhortation to all the ladies is: Be not afraid; take charge; be strong; be confident; be assertive; be sexual; and UNLEASH YOUR INNER TIGRESS. It will boost your self-esteem and you will find that you will get so much more out of your relations with men.
So, Emily, now that you have given 10 reasons why men don't approach women; your next video should be entitled: 10 REASONS WHY WOMEN SHOULD APPROACH MEN. I hope that you will consider this idea.
- SEXUAL HARASSMENT POLITICS: This reason alone should be sufficient enough. Sexual harassment allegations, nowadays, run rampant. If a man doesn't initiate contact just right for her, or sometimes if he initiates contact at all, he could be accused of sexual harassment. He could lose his reputation, his job, and even be sued. For this reason, having the woman make the first move is practically considered MANDATORY. I want to tell all young men: Stand your ground; and...
Unless she initiates,
Don't you reciprocate.
- I PREFER BEING SINGLE: I could write an entire essay on the benefits for a man to remain single (and I have). For me, the benefits of being single far outweigh the benefits of being married. Many other men realize that being single means having more time and energy to give to friends, to family, to hobbies, and to God. And this leads to men having healthier, happier lives. What's more, the problems of going through a divorce are MUCH greater than the problems of being single. The blatant truth is that for men, nowadays, the only way to level the field, in the area of male-female relations, is to GET A VASECTOMY and STAY SINGLE. I made this decision many years ago, and I have no regrets. I encourage all men to follow my example. This doesn't mean that I don't enjoy having quality female companionship, or that I am not open to having a steady sweetheart (if the right woman comes along). My heart is open to romance, but I am not anxious. I prefer not to approach women, but let the woman initiate. Nonetheless, I act polite, respectful, friendly, and sociable to all of the ladies. And yes, I still flirt.
Divorce is never the way out, My wife and I have been having issues before I sort out help from a spiritual adviser,i wasnt going to let my marriage of 18years crash
@EmilioYepez7 well not the orthodox way but i was referred by a friend to a spiritual adviser and healer
@EmilioYepez7 her name is *Victoria Lee Hess* ,and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster
you can look her name up online and you will find all you need.
Dude, you have a head injury.....let us know how it goes....
Nothing quite like a contrived solicitation.