The biggest mistake they make is the time period they ditched everyone. That gives enough time for folks to reflect & see that - hey I really didn’t miss that person at all & hey I feel less stressed too & hey - I’m not going back 😂 . That’s when boundaries, ignore & go no contact comes into play. They try to come back because they have no friends, burnt out family members & the older they get - the harder it is to get new supply.
Howdy Jess! My Ex-Narc has never contacted me. I am complete no contact. Plus, I ripped her mask off and threw her out. She knows that I know who she is and I don’t think she has the gonads to even attempt it. She is actually scared of me. I may be one of the lucky ones that the narc never comes back too. Good scoop by the way!
Same here. I told him I knew what he was and that was why he hated his father so much....Coz he could see him in himself. I said I don't hate him but I truly pity him and it's a shame he's always going to destroy anyone who loves him. Never heard from him again and doubt I will. I hoped he'd look into himself a little and get help but then learnt they rarely do... 🙄
Mark, I believe my ex is also afraid of me, since I told him I knew who he was, and he saw FIRE in my eyes! I had ENOUGH! It's been over 12 years. Never heard from him again! Funny thing, after I found out he was a narcissist, I wasn't scared! I was pissed off!
My narcissistic girlfriend, after couple of months of no contact, decided to reach me out severally, I was confused whether to attend to her call or not but now I've understood her intentions, there's no way Thanks Jess
It’s been 18 months since I walked away. He Hoover’s back every 4-5 months he’s so predictable. He ran game and he lost! He hates to loose. He’s a very competitive businessman. I took myself off the shelf, out of the toy box and onto “real”, love. Keep wanting what you can’t have man child😂
The title of it rang quite a few bells, in my case , my narc is persistent as she is in need of goods and services. Normally vehicle repair, gardening or a dance partner. I’ve flatly told her I want a soulmate and not to be a convenient option when she is bored or desperate. Great video as usual.
They come back when they feel you have more to offer than the new supply. My nex’s new supply is practically just like him in every aspect, part time job, no vehicle and sticks with him 24/7. The moment I got a substantial raise, bonus, new vehicle, and am overall doing my own thing, I get messages from former mutual friends wanting to know how I’m doing or how I’ve been and if I’ve heard from my ex etc 🙄
I sure as hell DID create a narcissistic injury, and yep-- did it intentionally. I was OUT. I had 2 1/2 years of hardcore healing to do, and in that time, he's circled back around again, despite my ignoring him or pretending I don't even notice him. (He kept coming to my workplace. So. I changed jobs. Thankfully he doesn't have my phone number.) Anyway...he screws up with the latest one, and when that inevitably goes to crap, he comes back around me if he can. I'm never going back.
I did the same on purpose too. I've been NC for 11 months now and he's started driving by my work in the last month. His new supply is selling her house because it's not big enough for him and they're buying one together supposedly (my son said) so why drive by my job...crazy losers
I ended it & he wouldn't go away until he had the chance to end it. I knew that's all he wanted. We remained "friends." Once he had the chance to end it, it was done. Haven't heard from him since. It was one of your videos that gave me the idea!
He was a win at all costs type of a tool. He had a wife, a girlfriend and then their was me, “the dirty little secret”. He’s Hoovered me several times at which he was met with crickets🦗 He really, really wants what he really can’t have. I’m sure the fact he knows I’m with someone else drives him crazy. F the F off while I quietly skip away🙌🏻
My ex Narc cheated on me with another covert Narc, talk about justice. Both toxic users. Anyway she baby trapped him for his money, moved herself in claiming she lost her apt and had nowhere to go even though she had a dozen relatives in town. Anyway he reached out to me throughout the entire 14 year relationship claiming he didn’t love her . I refused to meet him. 14 years later he lost his high paying position and told her she’d have go to work and she left him but only after convincing him to buy her a house on the same street in lieu of child support. There was a lot of toxic behavior between the two. He cheated, she withheld affection, humiliated him in public. I think she was cheating as well, lots of fighting in front of their two children but kept up this facade of a together family in front of people . He did buy the house but wouldn’t put it in her name until his youngest was 18, so he claimed. He was already trying to reach out to me through friends when he was buying her the house. He actually wanted us to be friends, I think because when she saw we were talking she started to want him back and was making sexual advances. At that point I think he wanted us to be friends so that he could seamlessly toggle back and forth. Meanwhile she moved her boyfriend in and my ex had to pay all their bills, I went no contact and dodged a bullet twice. There is so much more disturbing stuff in this story. I knew he was toxic but he is a very gifted covert, she is a more advanced covert and he did learn to hone his skills in the 14 years they were together. They learn from experience and from one another. However the second time around I noticed the red flags starting after the first month and from there it was like an avalanche.
Hi Jess! The discard WAS so cruel and so cold! 💧 It hurt so much! 💔 You'd think she would never "come back" for anything, but, she does. Usually this happens when her entourage and all the sycophants she's around can't do something for her. I'm finally learning to tell her NO! NO MORE! Thanks so much, Jess, for this topic! Thank you for being one of my guiding lights through this journey! 💞
A friend of mine who had little formal knowledge of narcissism remarked on a mutual narcissistic 'friend' "He thinks of other people as his own 'territory.'" I thought 'Damn! I'm his territory!' That is, when I trespass upon this 'territory' by not buying into his bullshit he gets very upset even to the extent of raging against the smallest perceived slight. Now I simply consider him a donkey, a donkey I must leave to its own pasture way over the hills somewhere ... and that's how it's gonna be from now.
I have been in that cycle for 7yrs until i got to the final straw but i warned the narc i will reach my limits, obviously he thought because i took him back several times i would again and again but Hell no, blocked delete ignored him and after 4months he tried to initiate contact with my family but to no avail, then went to my friend, crying how big a mistake he made,how sorry he is, how i cannot get ahold of me blah blah blah. Then he started sending me forgiveness emails of which i Do Not and will not respond to.. That was the end of the Rollercoaster ride i was on
+Jess Stanley Praise the LORD Jess Stanley, another reason why narcissists keep chasing when they have a new supply is deathly fearful of being exposed. God bless. Agape love❤
Hi Jess! I’m not sure why?Mine still comes around after the discard. She’s always looking at me or try to near me. But I still get the silent treatment. I’m not sure why go through all that trouble. It just odd.
I am in a painful moment when its been 5 months and she fiund someone else,.i always awaits for her to come back, i havent healed, i kove and care for her, i know its wrong as she is a narcissist and an alcoholic but seems to look past that 😢
I broke up with my ex 14th August after just under 14 yrs ,i suspected he was cheating just a feeling and other clues .he phones crying saying dont give up on us come 6th September hes got a new fb profile saying hes in a new relationship but above it says 1st jan wtf 😮 a wk after that i found out hes put an advertisement up for a new home for his dog due to change of circumstances proberbly to move in with her as before we broke up he said he might move into a new flat,he has a 2 bed house im glad im finally free
I left him sitting in his car with his mouth open in shock! It's MY TURN now...I've been here before with my story. "I WANT MY DADDY" was explained to me by another You Tuber who wrote back to me and led me to the proper article to look into. Wow! My narc had other problems. I'm learning a lot about these monsters!
Sounds like my situation right now. My nEx fell for another person, I tried to work it out but they wouldn't leave the new supply so I finally left. They lasted about 5 weeks of me not answering their texts/emails/calls before they used our cat to reconnect communication with me. Then it was hey, I'm going through this thing that's making me super horny you want to help out an old friend. So I did and here I am almost 5 months later the side piece to my nEx new supply relationship 😂 I'm not proud of it but I can't erase what's been done. If I could go back and not take that phone call, idk I've learned a lot about myself during this experience. In the end I know we're going to finally stop, they're feeling guilty (ironic huh) and I want them to truly feel how their life will be without me, my love and my affection, because their new supply can't fulfill that like I could. If they could I wouldn't be their side piece.
I did the same.. finally 10 months of NC and I feel great. I'll never go back. He's tried but I stay NC and you will too eventually. You'll be happy you did also.
mine would like me to be a side piece too..I have not answered the phone or read any text since 2020 2021 and I moved so when he comes looking for me because he has key..I won't be there anymore and he has no idea where I am..I hope he feels some kind of loss if that day comes..after our intimate relationship..no way I could be friends with him while he is with someone else..I couldn't be friends any more even if he was now after leaving me..
They believe Jesus's innocent blood will save their sins till the end of time and more... Any innocent blood will save their evil sins, over, and next and next.... 😮
They want their cake and eat it too.
The biggest mistake they make is the time period they ditched everyone. That gives enough time for folks to reflect & see that - hey I really didn’t miss that person at all & hey I feel less stressed too & hey - I’m not going back 😂 . That’s when boundaries, ignore & go no contact comes into play. They try to come back because they have no friends, burnt out family members & the older they get - the harder it is to get new supply.
Howdy Jess! My Ex-Narc has never contacted me. I am complete no contact. Plus, I ripped her mask off and threw her out. She knows that I know who she is and I don’t think she has the gonads to even attempt it. She is actually scared of me. I may be one of the lucky ones that the narc never comes back too. Good scoop by the way!
Same here. I told him I knew what he was and that was why he hated his father so much....Coz he could see him in himself. I said I don't hate him but I truly pity him and it's a shame he's always going to destroy anyone who loves him. Never heard from him again and doubt I will. I hoped he'd look into himself a little and get help but then learnt they rarely do... 🙄
Mark, I believe my ex is also afraid of me, since I told him I knew who he was, and he saw FIRE in my eyes! I had ENOUGH! It's been over 12 years. Never heard from him again! Funny thing, after I found out he was a narcissist, I wasn't scared! I was pissed off!
You know why your ex never wore underwear? So she could get a better grip on her broom. 🎉
You ARE lucky👏👏👏
It’s just what you think in that she knows that you KNOW who she is & she can’t run her BS on you any longer so congratulations 🥂💝
My narcissistic girlfriend, after couple of months of no contact, decided to reach me out severally, I was confused whether to attend to her call or not but now I've understood her intentions, there's no way
Thanks Jess
They think people are recycled
It’s been 18 months since I walked away. He Hoover’s back every 4-5 months he’s so predictable.
He ran game and he lost! He hates to loose. He’s a very competitive businessman. I took myself off the shelf, out of the toy box and onto “real”, love.
Keep wanting what you can’t have man child😂
They also come back when they hear you've come into money or get a better job with potentially a higher salary....🙄
Yes. Any way they can use us in the future
The title of it rang quite a few bells, in my case , my narc is persistent as she is in need of goods and services. Normally vehicle repair, gardening or a dance partner. I’ve flatly told her I want a soulmate and not to be a convenient option when she is bored or desperate. Great video as usual.
Yes. You need a real authentic person who will not use you
They come back when they feel you have more to offer than the new supply. My nex’s new supply is practically just like him in every aspect, part time job, no vehicle and sticks with him 24/7. The moment I got a substantial raise, bonus, new vehicle, and am overall doing my own thing, I get messages from former mutual friends wanting to know how I’m doing or how I’ve been and if I’ve heard from my ex etc 🙄
I sure as hell DID create a narcissistic injury, and yep-- did it intentionally. I was OUT. I had 2 1/2 years of hardcore healing to do, and in that time, he's circled back around again, despite my ignoring him or pretending I don't even notice him. (He kept coming to my workplace. So. I changed jobs. Thankfully he doesn't have my phone number.)
Anyway...he screws up with the latest one, and when that inevitably goes to crap, he comes back around me if he can.
I'm never going back.
I did the same on purpose too. I've been NC for 11 months now and he's started driving by my work in the last month. His new supply is selling her house because it's not big enough for him and they're buying one together supposedly (my son said) so why drive by my job...crazy losers
I ended it & he wouldn't go away until he had the chance to end it. I knew that's all he wanted. We remained "friends." Once he had the chance to end it, it was done. Haven't heard from him since. It was one of your videos that gave me the idea!
He was a win at all costs type of a tool. He had a wife, a girlfriend and then their was me, “the dirty little secret”. He’s Hoovered me several times at which he was met with crickets🦗 He really, really wants what he really can’t have.
I’m sure the fact he knows I’m with someone else drives him crazy.
F the F off while I quietly skip away🙌🏻
My ex Narc cheated on me with another covert Narc, talk about justice. Both toxic users. Anyway she baby trapped him for his money, moved herself in claiming she lost her apt and had nowhere to go even though she had a dozen relatives in town. Anyway he reached out to me throughout the entire 14 year relationship claiming he didn’t love her . I refused to meet him. 14 years later he lost his high paying position and told her she’d have go to work and she left him but only after convincing him to buy her a house on the same street in lieu of child support. There was a lot of toxic behavior between the two. He cheated, she withheld affection, humiliated him in public. I think she was cheating as well, lots of fighting in front of their two children but kept up this facade of a together family in front of people . He did buy the house but wouldn’t put it in her name until his youngest was 18, so he claimed. He was already trying to reach out to me through friends when he was buying her the house. He actually wanted us to be friends, I think because when she saw we were talking she started to want him back and was making sexual advances. At that point I think he wanted us to be friends so that he could seamlessly toggle back and forth. Meanwhile she moved her boyfriend in and my ex had to pay all their bills, I went no contact and dodged a bullet twice. There is so much more disturbing stuff in this story. I knew he was toxic but he is a very gifted covert, she is a more advanced covert and he did learn to hone his skills in the 14 years they were together. They learn from experience and from one another. However the second time around I noticed the red flags starting after the first month and from there it was like an avalanche.
Hi Jess! The discard WAS so cruel and so cold! 💧 It hurt so much! 💔 You'd think she would never "come back" for anything, but, she does. Usually this happens when her entourage and all the sycophants she's around can't do something for her. I'm finally learning to tell her NO! NO MORE!
Thanks so much, Jess, for this topic! Thank you for being one of my guiding lights through this journey! 💞
A friend of mine who had little formal knowledge of narcissism remarked on a mutual narcissistic 'friend' "He thinks of other people as his own 'territory.'" I thought 'Damn! I'm his territory!' That is, when I trespass upon this 'territory' by not buying into his bullshit he gets very upset even to the extent of raging against the smallest perceived slight. Now I simply consider him a donkey, a donkey I must leave to its own pasture way over the hills somewhere ... and that's how it's gonna be from now.
This is exactly my question today.
I have been in that cycle for 7yrs until i got to the final straw but i warned the narc i will reach my limits, obviously he thought because i took him back several times i would again and again but Hell no, blocked delete ignored him and after 4months he tried to initiate contact with my family but to no avail, then went to my friend, crying how big a mistake he made,how sorry he is, how i cannot get ahold of me blah blah blah. Then he started sending me forgiveness emails of which i Do Not and will not respond to..
That was the end of the Rollercoaster ride i was on
She just described most women.
I'll see, but I don't see him ever trying to come back... 2 1/2 years so far no Narc...
What do you do now? Now that you've defeated such a large enemy? Victory! Now what?
Love your videos Jess. There is no orher like you
+Jess Stanley Praise the LORD Jess Stanley, another reason why narcissists keep chasing when they have a new supply is deathly fearful of being exposed. God bless. Agape love❤
@Jess Stanley Blessings and Much Respect 🌹❤️🦁 Nerc Free Didn't know The disorder was this insane 🦁
Hi Jess! I’m not sure why?Mine still comes around after the discard. She’s always looking at me or try to near me. But I still get the silent treatment. I’m not sure why go through all that trouble. It just odd.
I left after she pulled a knife, enough was enough. I havent heard anything since,she spent time in custody for that .
I am in a painful moment when its been 5 months and she fiund someone else,.i always awaits for her to come back, i havent healed, i kove and care for her, i know its wrong as she is a narcissist and an alcoholic but seems to look past that 😢
Well I don’t think my narc ex gf will be coming back to me.
Restraining orders just waiting to happen
OMG this describes my ex.(to a T)!
I broke up with my ex 14th August after just under 14 yrs ,i suspected he was cheating just a feeling and other clues .he phones crying saying dont give up on us come 6th September hes got a new fb profile saying hes in a new relationship but above it says 1st jan wtf 😮 a wk after that i found out hes put an advertisement up for a new home for his dog due to change of circumstances proberbly to move in with her as before we broke up he said he might move into a new flat,he has a 2 bed house im glad im finally free
Their evil users. Their like little children screaming for attention
I left him sitting in his car with his mouth open in shock! It's MY TURN now...I've been here before with my story. "I WANT MY DADDY" was explained to me by another You Tuber who wrote back to me and led me to the proper article to look into. Wow! My narc had other problems. I'm learning a lot about these monsters!
Attention span of a moth!! 😂
Sounds like my situation right now. My nEx fell for another person, I tried to work it out but they wouldn't leave the new supply so I finally left. They lasted about 5 weeks of me not answering their texts/emails/calls before they used our cat to reconnect communication with me. Then it was hey, I'm going through this thing that's making me super horny you want to help out an old friend.
So I did and here I am almost 5 months later the side piece to my nEx new supply relationship 😂 I'm not proud of it but I can't erase what's been done.
If I could go back and not take that phone call, idk I've learned a lot about myself during this experience. In the end I know we're going to finally stop, they're feeling guilty (ironic huh) and I want them to truly feel how their life will be without me, my love and my affection, because their new supply can't fulfill that like I could. If they could I wouldn't be their side piece.
I did the same.. finally 10 months of NC and I feel great. I'll never go back. He's tried but I stay NC and you will too eventually. You'll be happy you did also.
mine would like me to be a side piece too..I have not answered the phone or read any text since 2020 2021 and I moved so when he comes looking for me because he has key..I won't be there anymore and he has no idea where I am..I hope he feels some kind of loss if that day comes..after our intimate relationship..no way I could be friends with him while he is with someone else..I couldn't be friends any more even if he was now after leaving me..
They believe Jesus's innocent blood will save their sins till the end of time and more... Any innocent blood will save their evil sins, over, and next and next.... 😮