I was thinking for a while why she was so busy all the time. And of course other things that screams narcissism. But now I do know why. I was the last resort. I deserve so much more than that. We all deserve so much more.
Yes. My last two exes were exactly like this. However, they started off hard-core love bombing for four months precisely then what you described, which is devaluing you. Devaluing is putting you on the back burner while they do whatever they want. But, when you decide to walk away from the stove and leave your back burner spot because someone else is putting you on the front burner, they immediately start to chase you ficiously. If you fall for the chase, they put you securely on the front burner... until they get bored again and rotate you to the back burner. Narcissists rotate their sources all over the damn stove. Sometimes, they would forget me in the damn oven 😒 😅 which is worse than the back burner.
Another red flag is when they disappear for weeks and reappear again as their first option is no longer available. In my teens they would also appear with a second girl I didn't know and be surprised if I wasn't so cool with being the third wheel.
Same here. It's been nearly 4 yrs since my ex-narc betrayed me for new supply. It still hurts sometimes and I haven't really dated anyone since (I like the peace & self-protection of being alone). However, the pain has gradually faded away with time and yours will, too. Remember, you are *something* even if he made you feel like nothing. It's a lie we tell ourselves.
@@Wishpool Thank you. I will never date again. I’m almost 55. I have to accept love won’t happen. I hope one day the pain fades. I’m glad it has gradually done so for you.
She burned her bridges with all of my family who want nothing to do with her anymore and now is wondering why doesn’t anyone want to talk to her anymore? How incredibly obtuse!
My narc returned to me following the break up from his new supply, the one he left me for. Obviously he had made a big mistake because I was the love of his life. It was Xmas and he agreed to take me to the carol service, he told me to go get ready, on my return downstairs about 10 minutes later all made up and smiling, he had gone to sleep on the sofa, I could not wake him (actually the act was a masterpiece). Obviously we never went however an hour later he woke, checked his watch, ran upstairs and washed up and said "your not going to like this but I have to go out ". After taking all his Xmas presents (none for me should I add) boxing day he left again. Turns out his new supply was going to the Carol service and staying with her parents Xmas day and he had nothing better to do because her parents hated him. It was devastating but never will I allow myself to be duped again.
The last couple of videos have had some tough truths. This video sheds light on what we how get sucked in to the narcissist’s hold and need to work on. It’s easy to blame the narcissist for our pain, but we played a major in the toxicity of the relationship. I know I definitely have some issues and unhealthy behaviors that I’ve had to face since breaking off a toxic friendship. Facing my role has been the most painful part.
When they tell you- you are their first priority. ..give them something to prove- If they can't, you know the ans-it's just that your Ego mind doesn't want to accept.
Did anyone elses have zero contact with their family? I always thought it odd to not have contact with any of your family, to not have them meet their granddaughter/niece (as we had a child together)
I (almost) always text back within a couple minutes! 😂 I mean I'm on my phone I see a text and feel bad not answering if I already saw and read the incoming text!
Hello we broke up and the next thing I know he got married but he was still coming around and calling texting daily once I found out he was married I cut him off and now he wants us to be friends.
She used me to drive her to a guys house she was screwing..I was told it was a friend and his wife's house..I remember thinking this is weird I've never heard of these new friends..I mean why would a man n wife let her stay at their house..she plastered her new relationship all over fb 3 days after I ended it and she never took pictures of us together..then goes n marries him 4 months later!..like wat kind of person marries in 4 months!?..it woulda been sooner if there wasn't a 3 month waiting period..crazy right guys!? :(
A narc at a workplace I no longer contract with because of their narkiness kept wasting my time over and over so I flaked on her for a job I agreed to do then refused to contract any new jobs. Then I demanded they settle up with final invoices and walked away. They tried to start an argument with me over totally made up reasons because they had nothing else and they couldn’t just pay me and say thanks for all of your hard work like normal people. They also tried to withhold final payment despite having no legal reason to do so, just because it hurt their ego to let me “win” by leaving them before they had a chance to discard me. These loons will break the law to beat you. Gotta treat them how they think you deserve to be treated.
You know the person who did #2 is a narc, when multiple 3rd parties are asking you to give them "another chance". A person with integrity doesn't need other people to make excuses for their disregarding you.
❤❤❤❤ yeah the exmark I had hip surgery last year 2021 and the exmark I asked him if he could visit me because I was there for him all that time when he was down but when I needed him the most you know what he say he said that he had covid-19 I'm like he's now I said oh okay now it's excuse excuse that the excuse that excuse so I said to myself you know what these people I'm going to downplay means that when they talk I'll keep walking thank you Jess
Wow! I'm currently on my fourth peddle with Mrs Nancy Williams. She's the best! the expertise of a crypto proficient who work in a registered crypto platform is what you need for making profits.
15 years, then guy use to work with, he came up behind me in store, i would know that head any where. All hugy, swP phone, one month no call. Well I keep moving on, why did i not call, cause the friend of his, use to throw dirt on me upstairs in management. I had a friend up there. So i figure here is a flying monkey, love bombing to butt into my crap. 15 years and there still there, small world.
I just blocked a guy with the same treatment. No calls/texts. No shows. LET THEM GO!!
When you realize that the person in question claiming to be your "friend" was a narcissist, but so was his family. They were flaky af.
I was thinking for a while why she was so busy all the time. And of course other things that screams narcissism. But now I do know why. I was the last resort. I deserve so much more than that. We all deserve so much more.
Yes. My last two exes were exactly like this. However, they started off hard-core love bombing for four months precisely then what you described, which is devaluing you. Devaluing is putting you on the back burner while they do whatever they want. But, when you decide to walk away from the stove and leave your back burner spot because someone else is putting you on the front burner, they immediately start to chase you ficiously. If you fall for the chase, they put you securely on the front burner... until they get bored again and rotate you to the back burner. Narcissists rotate their sources all over the damn stove. Sometimes, they would forget me in the damn oven 😒 😅 which is worse than the back burner.
Another red flag is when they disappear for weeks and reappear again as their first option is no longer available. In my teens they would also appear with a second girl I didn't know and be surprised if I wasn't so cool with being the third wheel.
It’s never gonna stop hurting. I gave him everything and next thing I know, I’m nothing
Same. 12 year marriage to Ghost
Same, I can relate, remember, you deserve better
Same here. It's been nearly 4 yrs since my ex-narc betrayed me for new supply. It still hurts sometimes and I haven't really dated anyone since (I like the peace & self-protection of being alone). However, the pain has gradually faded away with time and yours will, too. Remember, you are *something* even if he made you feel like nothing. It's a lie we tell ourselves.
sue girl and hush
@@Wishpool Thank you. I will never date again. I’m almost 55. I have to accept love won’t happen. I hope one day the pain fades. I’m glad it has gradually done so for you.
She burned her bridges with all of my family who want nothing to do with her anymore and now is wondering why doesn’t anyone want to talk to her anymore? How incredibly obtuse!
My narc returned to me following the break up from his new supply, the one he left me for. Obviously he had made a big mistake because I was the love of his life. It was Xmas and he agreed to take me to the carol service, he told me to go get ready, on my return downstairs about 10 minutes later all made up and smiling, he had gone to sleep on the sofa, I could not wake him (actually the act was a masterpiece). Obviously we never went however an hour later he woke, checked his watch, ran upstairs and washed up and said "your not going to like this but I have to go out ". After taking all his Xmas presents (none for me should I add) boxing day he left again. Turns out his new supply was going to the Carol service and staying with her parents Xmas day and he had nothing better to do because her parents hated him. It was devastating but never will I allow myself to be duped again.
The last couple of videos have had some tough truths. This video sheds light on what we how get sucked in to the narcissist’s hold and need to work on. It’s easy to blame the narcissist for our pain, but we played a major in the toxicity of the relationship. I know I definitely have some issues and unhealthy behaviors that I’ve had to face since breaking off a toxic friendship. Facing my role has been the most painful part.
Don't I know it
When they tell you- you are their first priority. ..give them something to prove- If they can't, you know the ans-it's just that your Ego mind doesn't want to accept.
Very good video. You always have to keep accessing the behavior. Look at what the DO and not what they SAY!
OMG Jess you nailed it! Check every single box, folks if you said yes to even one of these, run!!!!!
Thank you Jess ❤
Did anyone elses have zero contact with their family? I always thought it odd to not have contact with any of your family, to not have them meet their granddaughter/niece (as we had a child together)
I (almost) always text back within a couple minutes! 😂 I mean I'm on my phone I see a text and feel bad not answering if I already saw and read the incoming text!
Good word Jess! So true
Hello we broke up and the next thing I know he got married but he was still coming around and calling texting daily once I found out he was married I cut him off and now he wants us to be friends.
She used me to drive her to a guys house she was screwing..I was told it was a friend and his wife's house..I remember thinking this is weird I've never heard of these new friends..I mean why would a man n wife let her stay at their house..she plastered her new relationship all over fb 3 days after I ended it and she never took pictures of us together..then goes n marries him 4 months later!..like wat kind of person marries in 4 months!?..it woulda been sooner if there wasn't a 3 month waiting period..crazy right guys!? :(
That person has something the Narc gold digger WANTS. They are not special it’s pure greed
So so so true to the last!
A narc at a workplace I no longer contract with because of their narkiness kept wasting my time over and over so I flaked on her for a job I agreed to do then refused to contract any new jobs. Then I demanded they settle up with final invoices and walked away. They tried to start an argument with me over totally made up reasons because they had nothing else and they couldn’t just pay me and say thanks for all of your hard work like normal people. They also tried to withhold final payment despite having no legal reason to do so, just because it hurt their ego to let me “win” by leaving them before they had a chance to discard me. These loons will break the law to beat you. Gotta treat them how they think you deserve to be treated.
FACTZ! THANKS!
in fact that is a good sign they could lose the interest in you or at least not searching for supply from you for some time
You know the person who did #2 is a narc, when multiple 3rd parties are asking you to give them "another chance". A person with integrity doesn't need other people to make excuses for their disregarding you.
❤❤❤❤ yeah the exmark I had hip surgery last year 2021 and the exmark I asked him if he could visit me because I was there for him all that time when he was down but when I needed him the most you know what he say he said that he had covid-19 I'm like he's now I said oh okay now it's excuse excuse that the excuse that excuse so I said to myself you know what these people I'm going to downplay means that when they talk I'll keep walking thank you Jess
Are people who retired 6 years ago at 67 get any of these retroactively??
5 people die in the 1 year since I met the Narc
How does this trading stuff work? Am interested but I just don't know how it go about it. I heard people really making it huge trading
Mrs Nancy Williams is the real deal when it come to trading, I'm a living Testimony
Please how do I contact her?
Wow! I'm currently on my fourth peddle with Mrs Nancy Williams. She's the best! the expertise of a crypto proficient who work in a registered crypto platform is what you need for making profits.
Nancy Williams is the key to robust profits. I'm currently on my fourth trade. Started off with a low and now my wallet unbelievable!
Thanks for the recommendation, I'll contact her right away!
Thanks Jess, volume a little low...
Darealdeal
Jess - You have the prettiest eyes. I bet the guys are line up asking you out.
U will be sick and tired of hearing I am sick I am tired if they have something they do not want to do.
They're always sick and tired even when they sleep more than you. They never want to do anything.
Being together over a year is not last resort!
15 years, then guy use to work with, he came up behind me in store, i would know that head any where.
All hugy, swP phone, one month no call.
Well I keep moving on, why did i not call, cause the friend of his, use to throw dirt on me upstairs in management.
I had a friend up there. So i figure here is a flying monkey, love bombing to butt into my crap. 15 years and there still there, small world.
8 for 8
Oh thank Satan. Lmfao.
😂😂😂
She's super entertaining 😄
@exlesoes I love love the ways she breaks it down so that you can understand it!
“I’ve gotta walk my fish!”😂🤣