Overcoming Low Self-Esteem & Depression
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The purpose of this video is to share my struggle with low self-worth and depression throughout my early life and let you know that there are many others out there that face a similar situation. Despite what many people see on the outside, our feelings inside can vary greatly. I hope opening up with my own story may help you with your journey in finding happiness. Drop a comment and let's chat.
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Hi, I'm Richard! I'm a self-acceptance advocate, inspirational speaker, life coach, and game show winner (The Price is Right)! I've had the honor of speaking on the TEDx stage too!
I make weekly videos to inspire and provide my thoughts on tough life questions we all have. My life goal as an entrepreneur is to make a difference in peoples' lives through speaking, coaching, and creating personal development books and digital courses.
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know that feeling. I fake confidence sometimes
At least you can fake it. You've gotta teach me how to do that at least.
Doesn’t feel good faking it. I can feel it in the inside that it’s not me.
I am soon to be 29, but I still strugging with low self esteem. I am not good in making friends and always end up lonely. Always depressed and sad face...
i wanna be your friend ^^
I feel the same most of the time. It's like I'm trying to find my place in life.
I see your picture I think you Beautiful.
To Elizabeth
Hey guys i also made a video about depression, check me out and comment what you think
The inner struggle to find the ability to love yourself is unceasing. Humanity gets confused in this struggle by the dualistic state of mind. This confusion is extremely important for you to understand. The confusion is: if you love yourself, do you then also indulge yourself? Do you then follow the line of least resistance? Do you then rather blame others than honestly look into your lower self? Does self-love mean giving free rein to the aspirations of your lower self and your mask self? Or does the necessity on the path of facing the truth of your lower self, with its subterfuges and deceptions, mean that you have to express and live the self-hate embedded in this aspect of your personality?
This is a very deep and tragic struggle for all of humanity. It is tragic, on the one hand, because to hide from it, to deny it makes it much more painful and prolonged than it needs to be. Yet, on the other hand, this struggle is also beautiful. You begin to experience its beauty when you find your first foothold in true security. Security lies in your first admitting the struggle, becoming aware of it. When you are not aware, you seek the false solution to self-love, which is self-indulgence and blaming others.
You all know on your path how tempting this game appears and how unsatisfactory and constricting it really is. It makes you constantly fluctuate between self-righteous accusations and morbid self-recrimination and guilt. The accusations never deeply convince you, because no matter how accurate some of them might be, you suffer the uncertainty that comes from hiding from yourself. Thus you find it impossible to love and esteem yourself on a conscious level. You swing between conscious hate for yourself and hate for others, and that is truly a very painful state that you need not endure.
Most of you fluctuate between hatred for self and others. It remains for you to find the places in your inner being where you still live in the pseudo-solution of loving yourself by indulging yourself, by blaming others, by excusing and justifying your own lower-self traits and all the more severely heaping accusations on others. Your view of yourself and others is thus always somewhat lopsided; you live in inner turmoil due to your frantic attempt to hide your self-hate from yourself. The more you do this, the more you mistakenly believe that this is the way to attain self-love and self-esteem. The true, guilt-free awareness of other people’s wrongdoing, clearly seen as separate from your own inner wrongdoing, will come when you dispense with the false solution. It will come when you search arduously to attain a truthful balance in facing your lower self honestly and - not in spite of this discovery but because of it - loving and honoring yourself the more.
The tragedy of this pseudo-solution to your self-hate is that as long as you use it, you become further alienated from true self-love and self-esteem. Therefore, if you want to find the real way to love yourself, it is absolutely necessary to ascertain that you lack balance, that you are on the wrong road to finding your true divine eternal values, and that you are trying to eliminate self-hate through false means. The moment you can admit this, you can open your heart and your mind to all your true values. You can begin to give yourself honest recognition without hiding and justifications. Most of all, you can open yourself to the inner inspiration that will guide you to experience how you can acknowledge your lower self without becoming ensnared in self-hate. You will then see clearly that the more you do this, the more you can truly love and respect yourself.
Now, as you love yourself in the true way, without indulging your lower self and its childish demands, you will find that being firm with yourself is as much an expression of love as is tenderness. If you can be firm with yourself, as opposed to self-destructively and unlovingly devaluing yourself, you can also be tender with yourself. A beautiful balance will emerge clearly: self-discipline, strict honesty with the self, and firmness with the lower self’s desire to act out will create self-honor, tenderness, and deep appreciation for the self. The distortion of this balance is self-indulgence at the expense of others and lacerating self-hate. The distortion is, to begin with, unconscious and needs to be perceived through its indirect manifestations.
Only when you seek and gradually attain the right balance can you be receptive to your own divinity and finally merge with it and find your identity in it. In a meditation of the deepest sort you bestow tender love upon every aspect of your manifestation; every organ that you neglect loving; every attitude, no matter how distorted. Once you face yourself in truth, you can find your underlying divinity. But that is genuinely possible only when you no longer excuse, hide, deny, rationalize, project, and hate others in order not to feel your self-hate.
The self-hate is a prison in which you are truly suffocated and from which you seek a way out. For the longest time in human evolution, the search for a way out of this particular prison has not been made conscious. When you are committed to an intense path like this and follow through consistently, an awareness of self-hate rises to the surface. At first, this growing awareness does not include the knowledge that this inner condition has always prevailed. Nor do you see that you are about to eliminate it by courageously following the path further. Often people believe that the particular orientation of the outer path creates this growing self-hate. Of course it is not really growing; only your awareness is growing, but from the vantage point of the still-imprisoned individual it appears that way. Such a misperception sometimes creates fear of and rage against this path, and you cling to the old “protective” illusion that your painful feelings of self-rejection are caused by something or someone outside. In such instances the old pseudo-solution is still coveted, if only in the form of putting your self-doubts to sleep through a one-sided positive approach.
If this crucial stage on the path is successfully overcome, however, and the temptation to flee it is intelligently recognized for what it is, then the awareness of this particular struggle is already a liberation. But as long as you are under the impression that your lack of freedom is imposed on you by other people or conditions, you struggle in vain and, in fact, you only tighten the chains that bind you.
wow that was a great video . I always struggled with low self esteem although i always have excelled in academics as well as extra curricular , still i suffer from this terrible interpersonal conflict where i contantly compare myself with others. It has negatively effected my professional life Low self confidence and low self esteem and extreme fear of failing in small things has taken a toll on my mental health. Anyways when we see people having same problem it feels like i'm not alone and i'm not abnormal.
Its nice to know that i am not the only one who struggling with this. I believe we all will overcome this
yea!! let's do this.
I used to be the girl with the great body and smart. I was later diagnosed with late stage breast cancer and it turned my world upside down. I’ve gained so much weight and since the doctor took muscle, breast and all, I’ve considered myself a freak. Watching your video was the first step I’ve taken to regain my self esteem. Thank you so much for making it. God bless!
Aww thank you Tina. I think you’re wonderful. Keep your head up and keep moving forward. Rooting for you!
depressed bipolar low selfesstem pray for me
Hey guys i also made a video about depression, check me out and comment what you think
I really almost fail in every exam, my parents get called to school so much, I just feel my parents deserve better. I just want to disappear.
Test scores hardly even reflect intelligence.
Nigtmaredemon Dude, you have no idea. I learned nothing in French, but at home, I'm a damn tech genius. But that doesn't matter, right?
John Joe I’m the same..... my exams are soon and I’m so pressured that I want to jump out my window
Please take the issue to my Christ. He's sure to help you
Hey guys i also made a video about depression, check me out and comment what you think
I'm really only capable of taking this in because I've been so very lucky to have my health return to me recently. A week before my first year at Uni I had a near fatal medical mishap. A misdiagnosis allowed me to lay on a couch for a week with a ruptured appendix with family under the impression that I had pulled a muscle working on the farm. The emergency surgery following left me badly injured and very depressed with absolutely no time to recover or even reflect on how it affected me physically or as a person. I pushed for 3 years with erratic and unhelpful medical treatment while juggling two jobs and commuting to University for CompSci before literally falling apart. Putting my self-worth back together has been challenging but I feel like this really spoke to me. Thanks.
Hey 2016 & I'm laying in my room in the dark wanting to cry & managed to find this video thanks for the confidence pump.
I cannot emphasize enough how I related with this so much. I'm on my 4th year in college right now. I have 2 years left (well, at least) and I'm in the same department as my sister. When I was in my sophomore year, I really felt insecure because people tend to compare me with her. But I am so glad I got over that now because I know that we're on the same team here and not the other way around.
Some days I feel good. But still.. most of the time have bad days. Sometimes I get through them but sometimes I end up hurting/lashing out on the people around me, the people I love. Until now, I feel like I'm always left out. I feel like I'm not good enough. Like I have to work 10x more than others to be happy. I tend to compare myself with them. I always ask myself what's wrong with me and why am I not as positive as others. I know that I'm doing it wrong by comparing myself to them but some days I just can't help it.. I can't find anyway how to explain it and it drives me crazy because I like being in control of my life.
I cried watching your video. Probably because I finally feel like I'm not alone. I'm going to try your advice. Thank you for sharing your story. It means a lot for people like me.
inspiration, I've dealt with low self esteem my entire life, thank you.
This is the first video here in TH-cam that really hits me. It made me cry. Thank you for making this video, it helped me appreciate myself.
I greatly appreciate the fact that you made this video, self esteem is something that can easily be hidden on the outside, but very hard to overcome on the inside, im going to give this a try
+Richard Kuo (Accept Yourself) will do!
Thank You So much Richard You helped me a lot I felt stupid and like I wasn't living up to my family's expectations and you gave me the confidence to work harder Sincerely Thank You
bro , I want to thank you for your video. So much courage coming from you. this video gave me hope.
Such a simple exercise can be so impactful...people often don't realize how much those little negative voices in your head hinder you from living life! Thanks for sharing...I'm looking forward to more :)
P.S. OMG yay for a triathlon!! What an accomplishment!!
we practically share the same story... thank you
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I’m 54 and I’ve never felt confident in myself. I have few friends. I’m married have kids just always felt like a loser.
Even when family and friends say something nice to me I always feel that there just saying something nice just to be nice.
I know of people who are over weight and they just act so full and confident of themselves.
I’m tired of the BS! The world sucks!!
I will be trying this. I have not ever paid attention to my self-esteem, mainly because I thought my self-esteem would not get to me. I WAS WRONG.
Thanks for making this video. I have some self esteem problems that I want to fix right away. I’m 21 and still trying to fix it.
Good luck everyone
I will try this self empowerment technique. I can't bring myself to say "I am beautiful" but I will definitely say "I am smart enough".
This video helped a lot and I did try your challenge 💝 I was able to gain more confidence, which enabled me to ignore the bullies that have been on my back since last year. Thank you for sharing your story!
challenge accepted! for the next 2 weeks I'm going to do this... I hope it works...
+Richard Kuo (Accept Yourself) you know, I tried this for a while and things really only got worse... maybe I didn't do something right. I still struggle with my looks, my weight, all that.. but very shortly after I tried it, I met someone. I met him almost 8 months ago and we've been dating for about 6. he has helped me a lot with my low self esteem but I still don't think highly of myself. but I'm still trying. all of my friends tell me how great I am but when I wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, I don't feel great... when my teacher says I may not graduate because somehow I'm falling behind in math and I'm failing English, I don't feel smart. all my life I've been told I was smart and beautiful but I've never EVER truly felt it...
Thanks, having a tough night. This video helped
love it and you re the greatest guy ever who talks real lord knows how many people are into this xoaching business you re one of the bests
Hey thanx for the video Richard, i don't care any more what people think of me since a time, but still i don't have self esteem, i think its deeper inside of me something wrong.
I think my low self-esteem and depression is getting worse every day I'm tiered of keeping my feelings bottled up inside in school teachers r starting to ask what's wrong with me but there is to much to say... sorry if it seems to of a sad story but its true ....
The only thing I've ever said was "I'm fine". You can't really tell anyone about it. I 100% understand
Aaliyah Rivera you look like a beautiful woman.
thank you i really needed that...i am going through alot with my self esteem right now
I honestly love this! You're so real... And relatable...
Thank you , you really helped me , thank you so much , you saved my life and my relationships
you seem like a confident, authentic, smart person to me 😊..so i'm sure this method works 😊. Thank you
Thankyou....that's all I can say....thank you so much
great video Richard, your words a inspiring to listen to.
I've been watching a few of your videos and I have to say this is the first one which truly resonated with me. Well done! I really think if you focused on this message and did your best to convey it repeatedly to your audiences or a growing network, you'd find that it was much welcomed. I think a lot of people are just looking at things to focus on daily because we can get so down not realising all we're really doing is living second to second.
I got self-esteem and the next day I got a boyfriend :) Thank you Richard Kuo!
Ok, for the next two weeks every day I am going to tell myself in the mirror that I am beautiful, I am good enough and I am worthy. Don't know if that works but hey, it's free. So nothing to lose :p
I‘m turning 18 in two weeks. I struggled my whole teenage time with low self-esteem and missing out adventures and opportunities because I thought I‘m ugly, fat, dumb and boring. I‘m so sick if all that...
I just want to fully enjoy my life and not cry over my lazy self. Hopefully I can convince myself finally...
Thanks for the tips Richard!
+Richard Kuo (Accept Yourself) :)
loved your video and this confidence pump up that i received from seeing it :) . i'll try the trick with the mirror for the next to weeks and see how my life is going to change.thanks a lot buddy
this made me smile. thank you
This video made me cry. I'm a big snotty mess now. Thanks lol
Thank you so much!
Thank you for this.
thank you Richard you really did help me and I appreciate you
I always try to say thank you whenever i hear compliments but i just can't which causes small arguments coz i keep arguing that i am not as what they think i am. I mean i really have low self-esteem.. its hard for me to think positive coz everyday something happens that stops me from trying to get over it. uggggh!
I hope i can be like you and just get over it!
I miss my old self, i wanna be happy again!
***** Thank you Sir. But uggh i will try :( . Everyday i try but someone always put me down soo yeah *_* ... I never give up, plus its not in my vocabulary so ill try .
***** alright 😭😭 thank you.
2 seconds into the video
Me : -ya, ik- *sobs*
I love this video!!!!!!!!!!!!!! As someone who suffered from depression, I found this video very insightful. How long did it take you to be more confident with yourself?
this is such a great video. such an important message you're putting out there :)
God Bless You!
thanks for the video. it was really good help :)
Thanks for this man.
Half way through I just paused and said "is that why I'm lonely ?"😭 I laughed
My self esteem is so low I cry so much and I'm literally on the edge of committing suicide. I can't do it anymore :/..
I know we don't know each other, I'm a stranger from the other end of the world potentially, but I'm here, I've been there, so have my family I've lost them to it, it does get better, I right now am struggling to understand that myself but it's true, it does get better, cliche I know but our minds are the most powerful weapon we have! The same mind that can put you in a really dark place can lift you up, make you achieve great things but most importantly it allows us to love and be loved!
Hope you are well/alive & better
How older u now
thank u so much it really helped and i really really needed thang omce again thank u so much
this just made me feel better
same here just what I needed to listen
i suffer with depression and i hate myself i don't have any friends and im sad. i just don't care.
I'm sorry u feel this way. Keep fight push thru despite if what u say is true or not. Easy said than down. U can! First were u admitting how u feel on here? Next, find how u can change at least one of the thoughts or feelings.
I always feel this way. I always believe that my self confidence = what achievements/talents/skills i can show off to other people. as mentioned in the video, I always compare myself to other people. In terms of getting girls, I always see the popular, athletic, talkative guys always get the prettiest girls. Im literally none of those.
I wish there's a switch i can flick in my mind to be come confident. But as long as I don't have any achievements in life (becoming rich/good looking/etc) I won't be able to be confident and be content with myself, let alone attracting girls.
Sucks to be in this vicious cycle.
Hey Andrew! I hope things have changed these 4 months and that you´re feeling more confident. If not, I would like to tell you that I used to think that "only the cool kids gets love" but then when I got older, I realized that is NOT the case. We all deserve love! If you can like somebody, be in love with somebody- i believe you can also be loved back. If you can show others that you care about them - they can care about you. :-) Anyways.. Hope you find love and that you truly let yourself feel it.
You go man!
Nice video :) I also had spectacular older siblings so i know the feeling of not being good enough. For a future topic, maybe motivation? Where did you find the motivation to achieve your goals, to do well when you were in college, to lose weight? Was it something intrinsic or extrinsic that got you motivated?
Low self-esteem,depression,bipolar,and anxiety.Plz Help.😭😭😭😢😢😢
Thank u
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Ill try!
Thanks man!
thanks so much
love the attitude
dun want to die coz of depression..thanx Richard
I'm just trying to forget something but in the process I'm the process I'm getting more tensed because of that and I'm not able to get over that
Can you talk about ptsd?
I get very anxious and scared easily.........I get very nervous when it comes to putting myself out there with other people...I feel intimidated....how do I deal with this negativity?
I am in coledge doing hotel management course 1st year and i am not confident when a teacher asks me something and can't even answer properly and get nervous !The field that I have chosen,a person needs to be super confident and a good personality but I am zero in these things :( :(
My dad passed away on Halloween and I've been very depressed..I'm 11 any really good tips on depression?👼😪
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well the reason why i have low self esteem and depression is bc of my emotionally abusive mum always bringing me down and using my insecurities and weaknesses against me to exploit it.
I Shared this. It really spoke to my heart. I’m not sure if I can make it though.. every day is a severe struggle of not knowing my self worth.. I just need some help..
You can do it Jenice. I'm not saying it's easy, but keep pushing through. Even if you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, I just want to let you know it's there. Trust me, I've been there. Life WILL get better so long as we keep pushing forward. You got this. Feel free to DM me if you need anything. Here for you.
But you know, I can see the good things about myself, but for some reason, I compare myself to others, and I no longer see my good qualities as something that is valuable. I mean, it just seems to be worth less if others have it too.
Great video!
im very depressed but im passing school so im okay lol
God bless you
Thank you!
After high school I died inside. It's my third semester in college and I just feel worthless idk why
I love you this video is amazing
challenge accepted! thanks
hi im suffering from low self esteem plz i need some tips
same I have to go to high school and I'm so nervous and scared...
How do I deal with being short? Because that's not something I can change by working out lol
Don't focus on your height. Control what you can control. Ignore anything else. My man PJ Dixon is a little 3-foot tall fully grown man in a wheelchair. This guy has a heart of gold and so much love/confidence in himself. He's spoken on stages in front of 1000s of people. Point being, don't let your story/insecurities define you. Focus on more important things than just your height. We all have our challenges/insecurities.
I have very low estreem. I feel not beautiful, smart etc.....
i know hat felling. i think im going through low self esstem help meeeeeeee
i would die trying to do that challenge.....😧😦😟
Nice video 👍
It doesnt work man
All Random And More SWEDEN Yes it does.
i’m socially awkward because i have low self esteem and i have low self esteem because i’m socially awkward fml
Haha that was clever (and true). The good news is when you improve one of them, the other will improve too. One step at a time my friend.
Help me get up on self esteem I m depress so bad now need your help
Onephom, how are you?
I read you 'cry for help' regarding your self-esteem and depression. I wanted to know how you're coping and if you have made a start to improve your life? If you're still struggling then I'd like to offer my help/suppoort.
Check out my channel and/or get in touch to discuss things in full confidentiality with me, but first visit my channel and watch some of my vlogs - I know you'll "get something" from them. ;)
Hey man, thats a nice shirt! ;)
Good vid
YO , THE MAN IN ADS SOUNDS LIKE A PHONIE
Maybe school is not the answer for all of us.
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Great video! I just posted a similar one about how to deal with insecurities, as part of my new #EllTalks series. Would love to hear what you think of it! x
Thanks! :)