Me as well. Its like 'okay, that's not a big issue, I can adjust with her' thoughts which neglect any flaws. But would love to know your current status. Hope you're doing good.
This makes so much sense right now. Hopefully my next couple of days won’t be as horrible as today after hearing these as all of these three things rings true for me. The person I am obsessing over isn’t bad but I am becoming miserable more and more and it feels terrible.
good Lord, you hit the nail on the head, this is exactly what I am experiencing especially it’s not the kill. It’s the thrill of the chase and I mean you nailed it however you did not tell us how to stop.
Sometimes it's not about obsess over something that u don't have..... But it's about naturally drawn to Someone, like them even after knwing their flaws.
I've been stuck in limerence with twice in the past five years. My current LO has been bouncing around my head for over a year and a half. Both these men are highly-successful actors. A big part of my obsession with them has been jealousy. They are men my age who came from healthier home lives and had support from their parents. They also had the guts to pursue a career that I was scared away from. They spend their adulthood living their dreams, while I floundered in a nightmare. They are also very gentlemanly and want to bring back codes of honor that men should follow when dating women. They are all the things that no one ever gave me growing up and that I never learned how to give myself. Intellectually I know that these men probably have their own neuroses and flaws, but I still keep feeling like they are perfect, and that being with them meant that I could be healed by them. Shows just how much work I have to do on myself.
I’m not sure this video tells you how to stop obsessing over someone, but, by my experience, she is spot on about the reasons for the obsession. What if you can’t get close enough to see the person’s flaws? I wish I could help by giving some advice myself, but I haven’t figured it out yet.
If you know your reason, you have the solution. Obsession is a symptom, an important information about yourself and a chance to change. What to change depends on the reason of the obsession. If you put the person above everybody else, you need to focus on their imperfections. This will help you, to see them as a human they really are and stop obsessing If it's shadow work, you need to find out what is missing in your life and what this person represents for you and find it on your own. If it's trauma from childhood, you need to work on self love and probably go to therapy. If it's a combination you need an approach that tackels it all, see them as a human not a God, understand what is it that you admire and give it to yourself, try to love yourself and feel that you are worthy of love, a beautiful love from someone else then this person who triggers you so much. I think it was very helpful....more than anything I have every heard in the last 30 years that I suffer from this kind of attachments over and over again
Trauma touch and qualities of the person you are obsessing are interesting points, but even knowing those won't cure limerence ,it is really stubborn thing.
It’s the sex for me - no one has even come close to it. How do you stop obsessing over someone because they’re so amazing in bed? That’s what’s hard - you’ll bypass all their flaws because their love making is unmatched!!!
And especially when there is chemistry and connection and it’s like spiritual. Both ways. Even thou they are bad for you, you might think or the relationship isn’t working, you’d still choose this person over someone nice and better but not that deep connection and no wild chemistry, right🙌
IF YOURE THINKING THAT YOURE NOT HELPING US YOURE ACTUALLYYY HELPINGG MEE ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ THANKKK YOUUU VERY MUCHHH ❤ I just listened the podcast and it was amazing🌷 thank youuuu
At the moment i was obssesed with this girl and i cant help my self thinking about her .. i know to myself that i cannot love her or even respect her .. maybe some of you know what im talking about .. thats why i wonder why im so obsessed with her even in the first place she doesnt deserve my love and loyalty specially my respect ..hope this will help you too
Thank you. I have a boyfriend but i was obsessed with this guy who i don't like romantically but i would always see what they posted n all and at then end i felt like i was doing it wrong for me and my boyfriend. But after watching this video i realised that i was obsessed with him not because i like him but because he is confident, has friends and is selectively social and enjoys life...and i do none of that .
1. Make a list of 5 things you DO NOT like about the person. 2. Stop using their name. 3. Delete all social media connections, pictures and videos of the person. 4. Get new hobbies/interests.
This video is an eye opener , i really appreciate ❤ the genuine valid points to be looked after if we ever get trap into that scenario. Really helpful and so much grateful to hear this. 😅 thank you 🙏
I'm a "beautiful, successful" woman but is currently obsessed with a rough, unorganized avoidant 😂 He was into me at first and then left. Just left haha i think it's my pride taking over, I cant handle being rejected this way, so I became obsessed in winning him back, for what? He's no good for me. 😅
I have a new obsession, over someone I’ve never met. Since watching a music video, I was just utterly captivated by them and I realise it’s pointless and will pass in its own time. Although it was nice at first I feel it’s now all intrusive and I’m not enjoying it anymore.
At 3:03, you said you can get cuddles from anyone. False. Maybe for a beautiful woman like you, but it's not that easy for a normal looking person like myself.
Im in love with a guy who is a charecter in a show nd this is the first time im in love with some show or charecter I want to low my obsession but I also want to think about him all the time❤
Perhaps they feel like their options are limited, maybe if they themselves feel their lives aren't fulfilling. Having meaning & purpose, and taking care of oneself-both internally & healthwise-makes you more likely to believe that your options are abundant and you don't necessarily to chase anyone in particular if you yourself are the prize. Being in a mindset of scarcity means you'd be more likely to cling onto people
"They fart and poop as well", I didn't see that one coming! 😂 But it's so true! ❤️
Fr 😂
Unless they're like the North Korean leader in the interview and doesn't have a butthole cuz they have no use for 1 😂
😂😂😂
that helps 😂😂😂
Why should that be a flaw? 😄
I see his flaws yet obsess over him
How about now? R u over him?
Me as well. Its like 'okay, that's not a big issue, I can adjust with her' thoughts which neglect any flaws. But would love to know your current status. Hope you're doing good.
If you do then you know that there are more people like him that will like you :)
Same😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭help me lord
me too!
This makes so much sense right now. Hopefully my next couple of days won’t be as horrible as today after hearing these as all of these three things rings true for me. The person I am obsessing over isn’t bad but I am becoming miserable more and more and it feels terrible.
I feel u
Hi! Me too😢!!! How are you doing now?😊
Omg I'm in the same boat..
Were you able to get over it? Any tips?
I see them as completely flawed and it makes me more attracted to them
good Lord, you hit the nail on the head, this is exactly what I am experiencing especially it’s not the kill. It’s the thrill of the chase and I mean you nailed it however you did not tell us how to stop.
Sometimes it's not about obsess over something that u don't have..... But it's about naturally drawn to Someone, like them even after knwing their flaws.
I've been stuck in limerence with twice in the past five years. My current LO has been bouncing around my head for over a year and a half. Both these men are highly-successful actors. A big part of my obsession with them has been jealousy. They are men my age who came from healthier home lives and had support from their parents. They also had the guts to pursue a career that I was scared away from. They spend their adulthood living their dreams, while I floundered in a nightmare. They are also very gentlemanly and want to bring back codes of honor that men should follow when dating women. They are all the things that no one ever gave me growing up and that I never learned how to give myself. Intellectually I know that these men probably have their own neuroses and flaws, but I still keep feeling like they are perfect, and that being with them meant that I could be healed by them. Shows just how much work I have to do on myself.
I’m not sure this video tells you how to stop obsessing over someone, but, by my experience, she is spot on about the reasons for the obsession. What if you can’t get close enough to see the person’s flaws? I wish I could help by giving some advice myself, but I haven’t figured it out yet.
If you know your reason, you have the solution. Obsession is a symptom, an important information about yourself and a chance to change. What to change depends on the reason of the obsession.
If you put the person above everybody else, you need to focus on their imperfections. This will help you, to see them as a human they really are and stop obsessing
If it's shadow work, you need to find out what is missing in your life and what this person represents for you and find it on your own.
If it's trauma from childhood, you need to work on self love and probably go to therapy.
If it's a combination you need an approach that tackels it all, see them as a human not a God, understand what is it that you admire and give it to yourself, try to love yourself and feel that you are worthy of love, a beautiful love from someone else then this person who triggers you so much.
I think it was very helpful....more than anything I have every heard in the last 30 years that I suffer from this kind of attachments over and over again
Trauma touch and qualities of the person you are obsessing are interesting points, but even knowing those won't cure limerence ,it is really stubborn thing.
It’s the sex for me - no one has even come close to it. How do you stop obsessing over someone because they’re so amazing in bed? That’s what’s hard - you’ll bypass all their flaws because their love making is unmatched!!!
Exactly this 😭
And especially when there is chemistry and connection and it’s like spiritual. Both ways. Even thou they are bad for you, you might think or the relationship isn’t working, you’d still choose this person over someone nice and better but not that deep connection and no wild chemistry, right🙌
delusion
Story of my life
IF YOURE THINKING THAT YOURE NOT HELPING US YOURE ACTUALLYYY HELPINGG MEE ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
THANKKK YOUUU VERY MUCHHH ❤
I just listened the podcast and it was amazing🌷 thank youuuu
At the moment i was obssesed with this girl and i cant help my self thinking about her .. i know to myself that i cannot love her or even respect her .. maybe some of you know what im talking about .. thats why i wonder why im so obsessed with her even in the first place she doesnt deserve my love and loyalty specially my respect ..hope this will help you too
Same here but still love her don't know why!!!!
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Maybe I'm the Person I didn't want to be(Me Simpin😢)
Thank you.
I have a boyfriend but i was obsessed with this guy who i don't like romantically but i would always see what they posted n all and at then end i felt like i was doing it wrong for me and my boyfriend. But after watching this video i realised that i was obsessed with him not because i like him but because he is confident, has friends and is selectively social and enjoys life...and i do none of that .
You saved my life right now
correct because that person has all the bad traits i am afraid to be but i find brave to be and have. so true that's he is my shadow
your talks always make sense
the last point is so on point im crying because is so true in my case
This is so cool that you are a guest on a podcast ❤ very happy for you !! 👏 🎉
straightforward points ideas. Thank you
1. Make a list of 5 things you DO NOT like about the person.
2. Stop using their name.
3. Delete all social media connections, pictures and videos of the person.
4. Get new hobbies/interests.
This video is an eye opener , i really appreciate ❤ the genuine valid points to be looked after if we ever get trap into that scenario. Really helpful and so much grateful to hear this. 😅 thank you 🙏
What can we do if we need a lot of attention from those people were are obsessed with, but can't get it 😢
I'm a "beautiful, successful" woman but is currently obsessed with a rough, unorganized avoidant 😂 He was into me at first and then left. Just left haha i think it's my pride taking over, I cant handle being rejected this way, so I became obsessed in winning him back, for what? He's no good for me. 😅
How are you now
I want to get over it too
please make a podcast episode on this topic🙏🏼
Great information. Thank you!
Yup I found my fathers doppelgänger it touched my trauma I was trying to redue my childhood in hopes it would fix me but I wasn’t aware…
@EYRM9 Thank You for the confirmation as I gave myself to God fully 3 months ago.. 🙏
I have a new obsession, over someone I’ve never met. Since watching a music video, I was just utterly captivated by them and I realise it’s pointless and will pass in its own time. Although it was nice at first I feel it’s now all intrusive and I’m not enjoying it anymore.
I pretend he is doing voodoo on me😂
Man - nail on the head with the second point re the shadow.
At 3:03, you said you can get cuddles from anyone. False. Maybe for a beautiful woman like you, but it's not that easy for a normal looking person like myself.
Im in love with a guy who is a charecter in a show nd this is the first time im in love with some show or charecter I want to low my obsession but I also want to think about him all the time❤
Thanks for this video Francesca
Very good talk. 😎
I finally found what's going on in my life
Thank you i never knew it was like that 😢
Where can I see full video of this podcast?
Love this thankyou❤
thank you for this
Thanks. I hope it will help me.
Great video
oh jebus, it's far simpler than this.
Makes sense!
What if someone just obcesses over any woman they find attractive
Perhaps they feel like their options are limited, maybe if they themselves feel their lives aren't fulfilling.
Having meaning & purpose, and taking care of oneself-both internally & healthwise-makes you more likely to believe that your options are abundant and you don't necessarily to chase anyone in particular if you yourself are the prize. Being in a mindset of scarcity means you'd be more likely to cling onto people
I thought I was the only one
Thanks for that my dear.r u a Christian
All this is true but how are these techniques
I have never farted in front of anyone. I’m just saying 😅
" It's mostly an IMAGINATION "😭 ( And I felt that..... )
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